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13544189 No.13544189 [Reply] [Original]

>trying to think of the origins of my feelings for oneitis
>realize that love is actually a neurotoxin
>evolution is so rough and inelegant that it doesn't care.
>it gives you a dopamine high to numb you from the destructive processes it's wreaking on your brain.
>like how a mosquito numbs you while draining you and injecting you with poison.
>hijacks your brain to illogically provide for it's host for reasons outside of your own best interest.

this shit is disgusting bro. mgtow are actually enlightened version 2.0 human beings that transcended this.

>> No.13544222

or maybe you woulda been happier with onewhatever and your brain chemicals trying for help you but you too stupid 2 listen

>> No.13544234
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13544234

>>13544189
Every one of your thoughts is caused by brain chemicals, including that one.

>> No.13544271

>>13544222
No I would actually have a horrendous life if I got with her. First of all she has like 3 boyfriends already. And the she has one million guy friends that give her a place to stay for free and do her favors. But the poison doesn't care.

>> No.13544288

>>13544189
The two main solutions for oneitus seems to be either time, lots of it and/or finding someone else to replace it.

Two other side solutions: drugs (easy to overdo and make it worse) and work on yourself until you are happy with you.

Question, what drives you to her and what makes you want to be in a relationship?

>> No.13544326

>>13544234
Yeah but these thoughts were created in the frontal lobe which is more rational as opposed to attraction / love being generated in the more primitive parts.

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>>13544288
>Question, what drives you to her and what makes you want to be in a relationship?

Nothing right now. I just smoked some weed and got into this moment where as I was delving deep into the source of this feeling and then the conscious part of my mind came into awareness of the location of my brain producing this toxin and is temporarily putting it on hold. The vapor is clearing up. I can see now. I fucking had the worst time of my life when I was around her 3 years ago. and then my life had been getting better and better but then there were still traces of this poison there and I fucking invited her back in my life. I don't know why. Just to show how much better I'm doing. Now I'm feeling shit again. Holy fuck. lmao

>> No.13544460

>>13544429
Smoking a bunch of weed while enacting revenge fantasies is going to make you paranoid mane

>> No.13544473

>>13544189
Asexuals are the chosen race

>> No.13544484

>>13544460
What revenge fantasies? I don't have one and I haven't said any. I just said I realized the real nature of what I'm going through. Or I thought I did. I'll check back when I'm sober.

>> No.13544503

>>13544484
Lol it sounds like you invited some hoe back to show her up and it made you sad

>> No.13544558

>>13544503
Yeah it sounds like it cuz I just said that NIGGA.

She literally said that she's with one dude just because she likes his loft. I felt sick for like 3 hours afterward.

>> No.13544573

>>13544429
I've experienced that. Wanting someone without a clear reason, or so it seemed. Therapy has helped clear it up, but it's rough.

Love me some weed too, but make sure you use it to the extent it is moderate use for you. When I didn't take care of what I needed to and smoked tons of weed, I had all the time in the world to think about what went wrong and what could go wrong.

Sometimes I wonder if a lot of oneitis goes back to the "we want what we cannot have" frame of thought many people (myself included) experience. Seems to intensify when others are interested in someone or something that we want.

>> No.13544758

>>13544573
>I've experienced that. Wanting someone without a clear reason, or so it seemed. Therapy has helped clear it up, but it's rough.

On the bright side if you manage to control this emotion with will you can probably master anything.

>Love me some weed too, but make sure you use it to the extent it is moderate use for you. When I didn't take care of what I needed to and smoked tons of weed, I had all the time in the world to think about what went wrong and what could go wrong.

Very true. This is the first time I smoked in a while. Sometimes it's a good tool for processing shit. But I can see how it can get off the rails.

>Sometimes I wonder if a lot of oneitis goes back to the "we want what we cannot have" frame of thought many people (myself included) experience. Seems to intensify when others are interested in someone or something that we want.

Right this girl has many people that want her. But it's like nothing about her is even that good.

>> No.13545447

>>13544758
Hopefully you can identify what it is that causes you to want to go after her.

If you do, then you can work at having a better relationship with that part of your self that causes you to latch onto her.