hey guys im 23 and every now and then i just start crying for no reason

[Anonymous No.51071575]

i have had a pretty traumatic life. it's affecting with my ability to be productive and in turn, affects my ability to make money. how do i stop this? i am not on any meds

[Anonymous No.51071606]

I'm sure arm chair psychologist on /fit/ will be able to help you to deal with life altering trauma.
Get professional help

[Anonymous No.51071615]

>>51071575
start your day with 50 pushups and end it with 50 pushups, if u cant start with 40/30/20 whatever and keep moving the number up.

youll get tired and stop thinking about dumb shit, i started doing that recently myself

[Anonymous No.51071622]

It’s called being a man. You cry when no when will know. Then you die. I’m not joking.

[Anonymous No.51071630]

>>51071575
go see a professional and go through your trauma with them until you are able to move past it. meds are used to suppress the negative thoughts so do not go down that road

[Anonymous No.51071859]

>>51071630
It takes about 8-16 months to find an actual therapist that is willing to take up new patients.
You are lucky if your health care provider covers the cost.
Most of the time you can not work full time and be able to see a therapist at the same time. Schedule won’t fit:
Then you have to be lucky that your therapist is actually competent and is fine with you not taking any medication.
If not you have to find another one and do it all over again

And then it’s not even guaranteed if they help you with your actual trauma

> t. 23yo in the same situation and majorly blackpilled about the whole situation, should have sold my folio

[Anonymous No.51071892]

>>51071575
Same but 38.
>how do i stop this?
You can't.

[Anonymous No.51072043]

>>51071575
Be fit as possible! Learn useful skills and professions. Be humble and diligent. Don't be a hedonist. Never express your frustration to women. Only you can give meaning to your life.
That's all.

[Anonymous No.51072073]

>>51071575
I do that too, i'm 33, i just keep going.

[Anonymous No.51072127]

I have the opposite problem where I never cry, probably bunching it all up and ignoring it

[Anonymous No.51072281]

>>51071575
What do you do currently for a living rn?

[Anonymous No.51072326]

>>51071575
Society is vapid and hollow and internet addiction has most of us "socializing" online. This life is a terrible existence if you fall through the cracks.

[Anonymous No.51072340]

Exercise, routine, friends, treat others decently, take chances and remove yourself skilfully from toxic situations.

[Anonymous No.51072368]

>>51071575
excercise and get a dog. Dogs are amazing.

[Anonymous No.51072418]

>>51071575

No one on here can help you, same boat as I'm 37 and regularly have bouts of anger, and panic attacks - been going through it for about 17 years now almost every day.

Just avoid shit that triggers you, that's really all you can do outside of taking pharmaceuticals.

Exercise is NOT the answer either. I exercise 4 to 7 days a week at the gym and honestly it can exacerbate symptoms.

[Anonymous No.51072473]

>>51071575
You sound depressed pal and yes that shit will f u up making you sleepy and not really wanting to do anything.
I suggest getting therapy if possible, it matter how much you don’t want or feel you don’t want to. It’s ok to ask for help and seek help.
Do some self reflection and find out what could be causing you pain.

[Anonymous No.51072501]

>>51071575
its normal, the food is low quality devoid of nutrients, toxins inside, the water is poisoned, the air is poisoned. Electrosmog, radiation, new technology, rapid change of the environment. Having to wage all day just to be able to pay rent + eat goyslop. imagine not having a breakdown every now and then. I haven't even worked the past year and have a nice life basically and its STILL hard being happy all the time

[Anonymous No.51072597]

>>51071575
OP what you're experiencing is called "tearfulness" and it often accompanies depression. Given that you say you have experienced a lot of trauma, I'd say you probably have co-occurring depression and PTSD (not based off of this one symptom, I'm just taking a guess).
>source: I'm a clinical psychology doctoral candidate
The good news is that you can really improve on this, and you don't need pills. There's advice in this thread about diet and exercise; you should really look into this. However, one other thing that I strongly urge you to consider is called Trauma Release Exercises
>https://archive.4plebs.org/pol/thread/267174265/
This is not talked about by 99.9% of psychologists. However, you may find this to be incredibly beneficial. Please check out that archive link and really consider trying it.
>be sure to look for other archived threads about Trauma Release Exercises or TRE

[Anonymous No.51072694]

I know that feel anon. I really think you have some issues and you might need therapy. Trauma needs to be released. I got rich off my bag of MATIC and I was still depressed. You must face the pain anon. I believe in you.

[Anonymous No.51072800]

>>51071606
professional help will require me to take meds. im not taking meds that give me erectile dysfunction

>>51071615
good advice. im more of a cardio dude but ill take it

>>51071622
does it happen to you too?

>>51071630
>>51071859
i am not taking erectile dysfunction meds

>>51071892
>>51072073
>>51072501
well at least im not the only one. i only drink bottled water btw

>>51072281
student

>>51072597
this is probably the best response here. thank you anon for taking the time. ill seriously consider it (yes i do have depressed and PTSD but i havent gotten it diagnosed due to shame and fear of jewish pills)

[Anonymous No.51072999]

>>51071575
Just imagine do you want to be a crying manchild at 40

Or lift weights, do combat sport, get an easy security job, get a gf, get a place and plow her pussy, maybe even breed her

That's when I realised idgaf about my past, idgaf about people or what they think.

make money, lift weights, disregard normalfags

Hope you make it /b/rother

[Anonymous No.51073033]

>>51072800
Please do consider checking out TRE; you can find other archive links, and there are Youtube videos about it as well.
Also, if you decide to go to a therapist, know this: psychologists cannot prescribe medicine in most states, only psychiatrists can. So if you go to a psychologist, chances are they won't push pills on you. If you decide to go to a psychologist, look for an actual PSYCHOLOGIST - one who has a PhD or a PsyD. Don't just settle for a "counselor."

[Anonymous No.51073126]

>>51072800
I stopped smoking weed and drinking too much alcol and started doing judo, i felt much better but got worse when i had to stop for an injury so maybe try doing a serious sport you really like.

[Anonymous No.51074303]

>>51072999
What if you dont want to be either of those things?

[Anonymous No.51074351]

I'm sorry anon. I really hope you join the bitDAO community and find your salvation.

[Anonymous No.51074688]

>>51072999
>bro just push iron

[Anonymous No.51074792]

>>51071575
Stop drinking and whatever drugs you're taking including weed.
Workout regularly.
Hop on TRT because you're clearly a little bitch that's low on T.
/thread

[Anonymous No.51074811]

>>51071575
no porn
no caffeine
no inhaling with mouth
no sugar, no white flour
social interaction
having a pet dog/ 2 parrots
strategy and action-rpg vidya
reading new things, philosphy
writing a page for the daily journal
drumming, playing guitar, singing karaoke
whistling, improvising, creating new music
scetching common items in different positions
using pictures/ recalling images from memory
drawing emotional faces, shading 3d
empathy, teaching skills
truth, no negativity
water with ice
eggs, oats, nuts
sauerkraut/ pickles
hard cheese/ fish/ liver
onions, olive oil, parsley
potatoes/ brown rice/ beans
carrot/ tough apple after meal
fruits
gelatin jello with grug berry
long warm shower before bed
nettle shampoo, aloes honey body cream
deep pore cleanser/ exfoliating face scrub
herb mint facial mask, coconut conditioner
electric toothbrush, clean tongue and floss
not oily nivea cream on hands and feet
ceraVe's night cream with retinol on face
melatonine, eye cover mask for bedtime
growing mother-in-law's tongue next to bed
30 min meditation with wim hof breathing
no sleeping on belly, chest or face
7.5 hour SLEEP
spreading toes, sun and moon salute
hot to cold shower
single blade shave
sunscreen moisturizer

wallah, you stop being a bitch

[Anonymous No.51075026]

>>51074811
>vidya
no
very nice list though

[Anonymous No.51075041]

>>51072501
>its normal
>the modern world is extremely toxic
pick one.

[Anonymous No.51075056]

Unironically medication and therapy. Also, read "the body keeps the score". You need to accept the fact you are broken and damages, but that doesn't mean you must stay that way. But much like a broken bone, you cannot function right until you heal. There is no escaping this reality. Good luck.

[Anonymous No.51075073]

>>51071575
Read "The Body Keeps the Score"
there are plenty of nonpharmaceutical interventions for trauma. meds are there to put you in a stable state should you need it.

[Anonymous No.51075096]

>>51074303
You don't want kids and a nice wife? Then you're on the wrong path and will naturally be miserable, because that's the endgame of life.

>>51074688
Yes. Stay weak ywnbaw

[Anonymous No.51075135]

Go do the Scientology introductory courses. Give them a fake name and contact info, otherwise they will harass you for life.

That intro course is really good.

[Anonymous No.51075271]

>>51075096
Fuck off back to /pol/. Forcing yourself I to family with kids because "that's the end goal" is exactly why there are so many miserable and unhappy families that perpetuate generational trauma.

[Anonymous No.51075303]

>>51071575
I got some meds that might help

[Anonymous No.51075840]

This probably isnt a great example but just try to hear me out, I don't know how people like Joe Biden, or Teddy Roosevelt keep going to work hard and achieve after such horrible shit happened to them. Bidens wife and kid died in a car wreck. Teddys wife and mom died the same day of illness. Why keep going on?

[Anonymous No.51076062]

>>51071575
your hormones are broken, fix your diet and lift weights

[Anonymous No.51076218]

>>51075271
Okay I'm sure your bing bing wahoo or just being alone/ cope hobbies is much wiser than realising your time on this earth is burnt out and investing your future into your kids and family

So funny how dumb bitter incels think they are smarter than any animal or nature by pretending and coping with bing wahoo at 49 is superior lmao

[Anonymous No.51076240]

>>51072597
TRE are the tits.

[Anonymous No.51076292]

>>51075840
kek
someone had to cover hunter

[Anonymous No.51076972]

>>51076292
If my mom, brother and sister all died traumatically i would probably be a crackhead too.

[Anonymous No.51077108]

>>51071575
Your work is never complete, if you’re not self improving you’re stagnant and stagnation leads to decay. Life is a war, this is just another battle, steel yourself anon.

[Anonymous No.51077263]

>>51071575
It sounds like you’re emotionally mind broken. Many like cases. Too much movie and vidya. Tell me, when you watch some dramatic preview for product you desire, do tears well up in your eyes when the music swells? If so you are emotionally mind broken and half way to being a sissy slave. The only cure is Christ.

[Anonymous No.51077691]

>>51072800
Pharmacist here. Most antidepressants actually do cause erectile dysfunction and there is intense debate as to whether or not this is reversible if you stop the meds. In some people it can be partially reversed. In most, it causes permanent ED. This is widely recognized in Europe where there is less pharma money influence:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/side-effects/201906/post-ssri-sexual-dysfunction-recognized-medical-condition

[Anonymous No.51077757]

>>51071575
That’s ok anon. I hope that you avoid the crippling, unending abyssal hole that consumes you slowly, ebbing away at everything you are or were, until you are emotionally numb to almost everything. Then while pondering your immense regret, you come to realise that you continually self sabotaged every good opportunity in your life, selling yourself short at each turn.

But that’s not for a few years.

[Anonymous No.51077898]

>>51071575
She left me
I'm 33
I was loved
I loved
I know in this dogshit day and age I will never find somebody that I will feel the same love
Often 2, 3 times a day just feel sad
Sometimes tears come out little
Sometime I just think will I ever cry because I'm happy

[Anonymous No.51077899]

>>51072597
Bro I've tried TRE but never got the cathartic shaking to start. For the next week I'll try again everyday because I need it or some meds I'm falling apart

[Anonymous No.51078016]

>>51072800
>student
Did you serve in the military?

[Anonymous No.51078174]

I'm struggling with depression and anxiety. I feel so tired. Damn being lonely sucks

[Anonymous No.51078817]

Time for serious self analysis and therapy. I'm 30, we all have our problems. Even the people you see that are happy on the inside have something eating at them. I wish I had done the work 5 years ago but here we are. Also, try meditation. I use Sam Harris's app and like it. They don't teach you how to actually lead a happy, productive life in school. It's really hard work. Also, limit your 4chan time. The internet filters for the chronically online, sad people. Get out there are try to actually engage in life. It is harder done than said.

[Anonymous No.51079441]

>>51074811
become a doctor

bam
all good

[Anonymous No.51079860]

>>51071575
depression. unironically seek help- i got thrown on wellbutrin and paxil, but then sought ketamine therapy (Intravenous drips), helped a ton. Inb4 we get ppl 'OMG drugs' fuck off, i just turned 24 and if i didnt go this route this time last year i prob wouldnt be here. Anon seek help, ur prime care doc then see a psychatrist- then get ur shit in order slowly, your not going to go from crying to spells to immediately being fine so start slow- start trying to sleep earlier and wake up earlier if ur sleeping into 3pm like i did, slowly change ur eating habits to eating cleaner (one u make the switch ur body will reject gross fast food as it becomes acustomed to nutritious shit), start lifting, your not going to bench 315 out the gate- thats fine and to be expected nothing worth having comes easy and everything that comes easy isnt worth having. If ur self concious go early in the mornings until you get base strength and want to go later. Its a hard process but its worth it. YAGMI hang in there and the assholes in here saying to nut up or dont get help are fucking retards and cunts. hang in there anon you got this

[The Laughing Lad No.51080731]

Anon perhaps you should look into shamanic healing?

Have you heard of Kambo?

This frog will fill you full of courage. You will be brave enough to sob your heart out.

And then you will be brave enough to take on the World.

This frog has no fear Anon, it does not understand the concept of it, and if you do your research sincerely and find a responsible practitioner to treat you it may just heal you.

It worked for me.

[Anonymous No.51080792]

Op is trans now. Don't leave a mess.

[Anonymous No.51081228]

>>51071575
I’m 23, and basically experience something similar. I was abused and neglected as a kid so I’m sure it made me schizoid antisocial or something. I literally have no process for emotion: I’m monotone, expressionless, and can’t relate to anyone on that level. So when weighing anything out in terms of business, I have to factor out any personable interactions because I KNOW that I’m so grating and unlikable that it would only sabotage any chance of success (so that’s why I stick with crypto and e-commerce).
But I do break down sometimes, in a way that scares me afterwards when I rethink it over. It’s like a hair trigger, something so minor (at random) will just set me off in violent bender. I’ll feel like I want to murder someone, but I’ll just end up breaking things or punching objects. Apparently after doing some research, I have the textbook background for basically all serial killers, and I come from a genetic line of criminals along with that. So it’s something I’ll really have to get under control soon before something happens lmao.
But it’s like a cursed age or something, every other 23 year old I know is severely fucked up in one way or another. I’ve found that the best way to cope with any thought of depression is to not believe it exists, if you get that through your mind enough, you’ll start thinking it’s just stupid to be sad for no reason. But then again that’s just me, I’m sure it’s a much deeper issue for better adjusted people.