/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10690652
I can only give you what's worked for me in the past, if someone has something they want to add, I'm good to listen. If you're a guy, its relatively simple. Vet the situation to see if the person is not busy or already socializing. Don't be that fucking weirdo that approaches someone in the middle of their fucking meal. From what I've seen, the best time to approach someone is when they're browsing and being a looky loo, cause they're in exploration mode. Contrary to popular belief don't approach them when they're sitting down, or leaning on something. It means the person is usually cooling down, or is tired. So you're likely to agitate them. Compliment something tangible, like a piece of cosplay that has a lot of detail, and work on it, but you better be genuine about it. Unless you're autistic, complete stranger can tell that you're oozing insincerity because they don't know you, so they're on their guards.

Red Flags:

1. If a person makes an excuse to get away from you "I have to the bathroom/I'm looking for my friend/I'm gonna be late for X", you're done. There's nothing to be gained from here, fuck off. They're not giving you a "I'll see you later", they're giving you a "fuck off"

2. If you smell bad, if you're an unkept filthy mess, if you look like the stereotype of that fatso with the gunt hanging under the brony shirt, don't bother. You're fucking done. You're not doing 1 on 1's spare of the moment. In fact you're doing the opposite, you gravitate negativity. When people see you they're ashamed of their hobby, I've seen it happen all the time. You're the guy that they make excuses for "not everyone into X is like that". Work on yourself to a presentable and at least normal level.

Your only tool to bond with them is that they're interested into the same shit you are, or you're a good looking 10/10 and they want to fuck you. Otherwise, if the engagement goes off into somewhere else you're in unknown territory.