/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10204673

>meet up for coffee with an artsy goth friend
>I'm wearing a casual coord with an AP skirt and cutsew
>friend recently started sewing and is wearing a dress that she made
>dress is short, black and red with sleeves and some armor like metallic details
>kind of a Liz Lisa meets battle witch thing
>sewing looks fine for a noob project
>compliment her, she seems very happy
>take pics for her outside the cafe to show her dress

>get home
>a pic I took for her comes up on fb
>read her post
>"hey everyone my sewing is going well"
>sure is friend
>proud of you
>"and look I managed to make a passable JSK"
>...wait what
>but there were sleeves
>"I was inspired by Last Week Lolita News"
>friend, your dress was red and black
>what the fuck are you doing
>"I'm so proud of my coord, Tyler would love it"
>NO, SHE WOULD NOT
>she would tell you to scrap it and start again
>her post has over 110 likes and normies commenting dumb shit about lolita
>she's telling them all to watch LWLN because "the lolita community is so funny and entertaining"
>mfw

She has three lolita friends she could have asked for help including me. Any of us would have helped her or at least pointed her at Facebook groups or otome no sewing. And why didn't she tell me in person that her dress was meant to be lolita? I just don't understand.

>making friends with a new neighbor
>she really into vintage fashion, dresses very well
>knows the best vintage and thrift shops in town
>an older trans woman, has been transitioning for years
>she's not pretty but physically passes as an average dumpy 40 year old cis auntie
>I only wear super casual lolita or Liz Lisa when I hang out with her
>she's really fun
>lets me have some things from her vintage collection
>after being friends for a few weeks I finally remember to add her on fb
>my fb is full of my OTT lolita coords
>next time we hang out she's very enthusiastic about my clothes
>"anon they're so beautiful I would never have thought to put together pieces like that"
>"and you have friends who dress the same way? anon that's so nice"
>"I love that blue dress you have, where is it from? Is this a separate style? Does it have a name?"
>"I'd love to try dressing like that someday, tell me all about it"
>"I'd love to see your closet sometime"
>pic related is mfw
>give her bland non-answers and change topic asap
>feel shit all day afterwards
>tell myself she looks great in her vintage style but lolita wouldn't flatter her
>she'd have trouble finding things to fit
>she'd be really sad if people said mean things about her
>eventually I stop justifying
>actually I know some people in my comm would be instantly suspicious of her if they clocked her as being trans
>I'd get judged hard for bringing her
>I'm ugly so maybe they'd start thinking I'm trans too
>worst is I had the same suspicious gut reaction to her interest in lolita
>no sensible reason for suspicion
>it's just because she's trans

TL;DR: I'm too transphobic and desperate for my comm's approval to introduce lolita to a curious older trans friend even though said friend isn't creepy or gross