/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I don't know if I'm just getting old and cranky, but my god I'm so sick of Lolita fashion rules and people getting so pissy about them. It's gatekeeping. I know we really don't want to admit it, but posting people's less-than-perfect coords to an imageboard to laugh about them is really shitty. I'm not innocent, I've participated in ita threads, but in the last two or three years I've started to realise how fucking weird and not normal it is.

I've never known anything like it in any other fashion I've dabbled in through the years. I don't post coords online and haven't for a few years because I enjoy what I wear but know that it'd maybe be a field day for someone to post somewhere since they're not always instagram-worthy coords.

Why are we so set in our ways? I've been wearing the fashion for about ten years or so and while I've seen it change a lot, it's still really rigid and I've found myself gravitating towards other styles because I've gotten sick of the formula, and I really never thought I'd say that. I've started wearing a lot of goth/nugoth stuff and I don't know if the standards are just lower or what, but nobody's gonna post you to an anon imageboard and bitch and moan about how the shades of black you're wearing don't match, or if your makeup isn't perfect. Not saying it doesn't have its own brand of gatekeeping, but that's another story I guess.

Sorry, this turned into a bit of "old lolita yells at cloud", but I guess I've needed to vent about it. I'm also not trying to excuse itas who try to make dresses out of bedsheets or order from Milan00, that's like trying to make denim jeans out of polycotton and crying that nobody thinks its a good idea.