/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10201323

I'm mostly straight, but I do often fantasize about having a sexual relationship with a lolita BFF. My ideal girl would be a really pretty and well dressed old school gothic lolita that had my exact same build for the sake of outfit sharing.

ITT: worst shit you've had to deal with from a "fan" or yours, or a story that happened to someone you know

>be fairly popular lolita on the internet, but never went to meets
>decide to check out local comm
>first meet I go to is massive and a few girls recognize me
>one girl freaks the fuck out over me, calling me senpai, saying how I'm her Lolita idol
>flattered at first, but girl ends up not leaving my side the whole meet
>sends me a friend request on Facebook and makes a comment on the community page about how amazing it was to see me
>accept her friend request and see she also made a status about it on her own page, including a link to a YouTube video I did
>freaked out, but dismiss it as an overzealous and awkward girl who probably has no social skills
>fast forward a few months
>girl has been really annoying and won't leave me alone at meets, but nothing yet to suggest she wants to wear my skin
>notice her phone background for the first time
>its a picture of me
>one of my private FB ones, not the nice ones I post publicly on Intagram or Tumblr
>ask why she has that
>she says it's because its such a pretty picture
>tell her that her fangirlism has crossed the line into creeping me out
>she freaks out and says how there's nothing that great about me, anyway
>just got an essay long Facebook message from her about what great of friends we could have been, including how she fantasized about us going to Tokyo together, and how we could have worn each other's lolita

In light of the recent wave of well known Lolitas quitting, I've been thinking a lot about the subject. In almost every instance I've seen of this occurring over my 9 years in the fashion, it is usually someone deciding lolitas are awful and they can't deal with the community, even if the vast majority of attention they get is positive and they don't actually get any severe hate. Often times they also quit the fashion, while simultaneously saying how much they wish they could still wear it and some have said they were "forced" to stop wearing it because of the negativity.

I don't really understand this, if you truly love Lolita, but can't deal with the community, then why not quit the community but still wear it? Unless it was mostly an attention thing? What do you guys think about this phenomenon? Experiences with people doing it?