/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Does anyone have any realistic tips or pointers on dealing with confidence issues in lolita? All of the resources out there I've come across tend to be the redundant "just give no fucks" mentality which is rarely helpful imo
I've worn lolita for half a decade, but a majority of that was spent under my parents roof where I dealt with a lot of physical and emotional abuse mainly regarding my clothing and I've noticed that in this past year a lot of my confidence has really dwindled?
It really just feels like every time I wear lolita, I can hear my parents in the back of my head calling me horrible names and demeaning me, and it's really causing me to fear wearing lolita outside.
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