/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I'm too shy/worried about being creepy to talk with someone one-on-one (even if I have an obvious 'in' like our cosplay matching) actually at the convention, be it on the floor or at panels and meetups.
Instead I usually meet people and make friends in groups, and typically I end up getting a crush on one of the girls (even in non con/fandom scenarios). but then:
>am I moving too fast/aggressive?
>will it make things awkward with the rest of the group?
>what if she taken?
>is she straight, even
>you don't even know her, you just think she's cute and you have a couple of surface-level common interests
>relationship virgin in upper 20s and don't even know HOW to ask someone out
Eventually I find a way to talk myself out of a crush.. maybe they post a hot take or otherwise demonstrate they have bad taste or are obnoxious on Twitter and I tell myself "well I guess it wasn't meant to be! Oh well." and go on just being friends with only a very occasional heartstring tug.
In the end, I'm fine being single but that 10% of the time when I feel alone and lonely does get to me.

someday I will post in threads like >>10126853 dammit