/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Copypasta from feels thread, it's my first major regret apart from my first 'cosplay' and cosplaying a character that is always mistaken for Ciel despite being female and having a very different outfit.

>Doing Magi cosplay
>Friend already cosplays Kougyoku but needs new costume
>"I'm so excited to cosplay with you anon! Let's match costumes!"
>Links her to Kougyoku variants that match the cosplay I ordered (nowhere to get nice asian-style fabrics here and I wouldn't have time to make my own)
>"Okay I just want to see if I can find one in Japan first!"
>Two months before con
>Ask her if she's found anything
>"Nope anon everything here is Idol costumes right now!"
>Reminds her about links to other costumes, including a secondhand one that matches her measurements and an SS that could buy it for her
>"Okay I'll look into it!"
>Two more weeks pass, running out of time
>Gently remind her again
>"Oh well everything's so all over the place for me right now, I haven't decided what I want to do yet!"
>mfw

So basically I'm not sure if she's lying about wanting to cosplay with me or just doesn't want to admit she's broke/disorganized/whatever or what. I don't want to be a bother, but I feel like I'm having to do most of the work in this situation and it's very annoying.

>Doing Magi cosplay
>Friend already cosplays Kougyoku but needs new costume
>"I'm so excited to cosplay with you anon! Let's match costumes!"
>Links her to Kougyoku variants that match the cosplay I ordered (nowhere to get nice asian-style fabrics here and I wouldn't have time to make my own)
>"Okay I just want to see if I can find one in Japan first!"
>Two months before con
>Ask her if she's found anything
>"Nope anon everything here is Idol costumes right now!"
>Reminds her about links to other costumes, including a secondhand one that matches her measurements and an SS that could buy it for her
>"Okay I'll look into it!"
>Two more weeks pass, running out of time
>Gently remind her again
>"Oh well everything's so all over the place for me right now, I haven't decided what I want to do yet!"
>mfw

We discussed this months before the convention but now she's dragging her feet. I just don't understand. Was she lying to me about wanting to cosplay together or is she just really this disorganized? I'm trying to help but at this point I feel simultaneously like I'm putting all the work in and being a bother.