/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10636430
Are you a girl or guy? Hard for me to tell based on your post because this thread has way more moids than usual.

If you're a girl you can get away with going to cons a lot older (up to 30). Older guys are looked down on for being creeps and manchildren. This isn't a problem for you if you're a woman. Now, eventually you will start to show your age appearance-wise which will make you look out of place. But the line for that isn't until 30+, when you hit the wall. Really the main issue will be the generation gap between you and the other con-goers. If you can still talk with and relate with 18-22 year olds then you will be fine. You sound like you're mentally younger than your actual age anyways, due to your lack of significant life experience.

Nothing you listed about your personal life, being behind other people, etc., is not a problem (if you're female), you can work past that easily. Well maybe not easily, but you can catch up with others and et yourself in a better and more fulfilling life situation if you keep working at it. Statistically speaking, women have much better outcomes longterm for mental illnesses like schizophrenia. If you're a man you should just kill yourself though, you're fucked beyond all hope and cons are the least of your worries.

feeling kind of weird. been mentioned on here multiple times, indirectly but still, it is increasing my urge to delete all my social media and become a true lonelita. I never imagined when I found cgl as a teen I would be posted about by someone else some day. I don't really like the idea that I may start to stand out in the lolita community. standing out amongst normies is fine but I really don't want to be known in this community even if its for positive reasons. after 10+ years on this board I am sure I do not want any part of the bullshit that comes with being even vaguely well known amongst lolitas.

pee pee poo poo well at least I'm in a good mood today

>>10635056
>>10635102
Como é a cena brasileira de cosplay e cons atualmente?

Sou um pouco mais velho que média (28 anos), quando eu era adolescente eu tinha uma vergonha alheia gigantesca dos otakus, apesar de que eu já gostava muito de animes, visitava o /a/, etc., desde meus 13. Isso me deixou com uma visão meio negativa desses eventos e do pessoal, queria saber se mudou o perfil ou não, eu tenho até vontade mas fico com o pé atrás.

>>10636479
They type like a girl

>>10636479
>If you're a girl you can get away with going to cons a lot older (up to 30). Older guys are looked down on for being creeps and manchildren.
>if you're a man you should just kill yourself though, you're fucked beyond all hope and cons are the least of your worries.
I'm so glad our society reached gender equality

>early Morning
>My Mom needs me to drive her to work
>She asks me some heavy ass questions on the freeway that i could barely answer
>Drive home down and feel like my day is already ruined

>>10633474
>"The first con after covid is gonna be a bunch of ners suffering anxiety attacks trying to remember how to talk to strangers" edition.
FIFY

being autistic it’s already hard for me to recognize facial features but now people are using apps like faceapp to look younger and even switch genders! I came across this lolita on Instagram that I thought was pretty kawaii judging from her Instagram posts. yk she had everything a soup could ask for cute face and big bobas. I decided to slip into her dm’s to work my magic but from past experiences I knew that before you take it to the next step you gotta facetime. every time I brought up ft she always dodge it coming up with an excuse. I knocked it off as her being shy but as someone who’s used to getting dodge by ppl in league whenever I joined their lobby I held strong. she finally agreed and answered my call. when the click went through and I was going to finally be able to erp after holding on for so long mfer it’s sexy baby. suffering. yeah I get using makeup to cover up some blemishes but picture filters should be a crime. I had to pull up their insta post to finish the erp sesh.

>>10636479
>telling someone with schizophrenia to kill themselves when we have working treatment for it

are you people all actual psychopaths or something?

>>10636573
moids were a mistake and the world would be a better place with less of them

>>10636576
you need to seek religion or something this is not a way to live

>>10636576
word

>>10636556
I hate when people do that, like I dont see driving you as a huge favor but could you just not break my balls? What'd she ask you anyways?

I've been doing my best at uni because I know that a good grade can open up opportunities and I want to make good money so I can spend on my hobbies. Today, I crunched some numbers to see if it is possible for me to get first class honours, and it turns out that it isn't. It's a bit disheartening to know that I won't be able to get first class even if I scored straight As for the next 2 years, but I guess now I'll just have to do my best at maintaining my second upper.

first time fucking around in cgl, holy shit this board looks like a dumpster fire crossroad between r9k and cc

>>10636430
same age, i have gone to a single con in my entire life 8 years ago and it was a really shitty experience and i am way too socially anxious or embarrassed to go to another one because i'm too old for it. it's upsetting seeing so many people already have gotten it out of their system, while i just kinda sat around as an introverted autist
really just seems like there's no point in going anymore

i'm stuck in that same limbo between youth and adult life. i'm a bit ahead of you in the "catching up" part, but it really isn't bringing me happiness, because "adult life" and "catching up" is just a competitive rat race.

>I feel so guilty whenever I spend time or money working towards fun stuff like cosplay
it really depends on how much money you have. the difference between minimum wage and 50k is huge. the difference between 100k and 200k is pretty insignificant

>>10636632
>the difference between 100k and 200k is pretty insignificant
Compared to the gap between 20k and 50k sure, but im making 120k and I can say there's a huge gap between me and 200k

>>10636660
when you're making 120k your hobbies make up less of a percentage of your income. i think if you feel bad about indulging in your hobbies on 10k a month you'll feel bad indulging in it at 20k a month as well
i don't actually know how much cosplay costs though and i am also projecting. i made about 140k last year and i really don't think i would be much happier if i made 280k. it wouldn't open any doors for me, just make me feel slightly less insecure about myself

>>10636671
Should have mentioned im not the poster you replied to, sue me massin

>>10636660
i mean in terms of hobby spending. after a certain income level you can indulge in your hobby since it's not impacting your ability to live or pay bills. but i don't really know how much cosplay costs, so maybe it does still completely break the bank at 10k a month
more money is useful if you're looking to retire early or do something big, but that's really it. so maybe "pretty insignificant" is not the best phrase. but i think that going from 20k to 50k is a huge happiness boost compared to going from 100k to 200k

>>10636672
i figured

I’m having a hard time parting with my pieces in my wardrobe and it’s becoming frustrating. During quarantine I got used to the fashion no longer being a big part of my life anymore or giving attention to my local community. I’ve been able to focus my money into other interests, things I wanted and goals I wanted to achieve so it’s been nice. However, with things going back to somewhat normal in my area meets are happening again, I still intend on wearing the fashion but I’ve found it hard to downsize. I spent so much time and money collecting certain dresses and items to pair perfectly with them without getting the chance to wear them before quarantine. I’ve actually been wanting to move to a different style that is more comfortable and easier to wear for me now but again, I’m having difficulty letting go of these dresses. I’ll even make mock coords to convince myself not to sell them knowing very well I don’t even like the way a dress my currently look on myself or doesn’t suit me, etc. I just put so much pride in the collection I have now that it seems impossible to let it go.

What can I do to help get over this? How can I get rid of this attachment to these clothes?

>>10636430
>>10636632
26 is not too old, get off your asses and go. There are plenty of 20 and 30 somethings at cons, they are the majority of attendees.

>>10636731
maybe think through exactly which feature of the piece you like. for example if you like the pearls on it, only keep your one favorite piece with pearls and sell the rest. if you like a print but not necessarily as a dress, then print a copy of it and put it in a scrapbook or embroider a copy of it and hang it on your wall, then sell the dress. also remember it's ok to feel negative emotions. be sad. it'll pass.

>>10636632
This board is just /r9k/ with frills

>>10636211
Was it Girlyhoot?

I'm feeling really good about leaving lolita and switching to a more casual j-goth style. Nothing against it, but I felt like I didn't look or feel right in it. I even feel happy about selling my pieces to new people. They're going somewhere they'll be worn and loved instead of sitting in the very back of my closet.

>>10636764
How? The man hate?

>>10636619
>What'd she ask you anyways?

A Series of questions one after the other


>Mom: I was looking at jobs at the internet and seems like youre too under paid for your position
Me: And? Do you want me to quit my current company and look for another one
>Mom: I don’t know, why don’t you back to college so you can apply for a bigger title/pay
Me: I don’t have the time to do work and study at the same and its too hard. Not to mention getting into the program is already hard. I dont want to take on student debt
>Mom: Here’s a good idea, why dont you go to college/uni during the day and just work during the night
Me: *disagree quietly while focusing on the road*

Minutes later
>Mom: Your well-off sister decides that in the future she will instead retire in the philippines instead of the USA because its expensive, What about you, do you want to go back to the philippines when you get older
Me: I don’t know! Sure i will if she agrees to take me in

There are a few questions but im too tired of how powerless my personal situation is

Hate these existential crisis causing talks when were in the middle of rush hour traffic at 65mph

>>10636573
If all scrotes killed themselves, the world would be a better place.

>>10636740
Thank you, anon. Reading this already helps a lot and will given me a better outlook on this process.

>>10636632
>first time fucking around in cgl, holy shit this board looks like a dumpster fire crossroad between r9k and cc
What do you expect from a board that's 50/50 genderwise on 4chan. Every moid on this site is a coomer incel and any woman that would come here is severely mentally ill and drinks too much radfem kool-aid. The fact that these threads devolve into embarrassing and childish shit-flinging between incels and femcels is not surprising.

/cgl/ has become a cross between Lipstick Alley and FDS withh a cosplay bent.

>>10636764
Crystal Cafe, or what it used to be, is a better comparison

>>10637140
I think it's just >>10636897

I have these old pants that have been discontinued for many years, but they've got rips and tears. I want to repair them, but I have no idea where to start since I have no clue what material they are. I've tried looking up "ems hiking pants" but all the newer ones are made of different material. And not as good. To make it more difficult, my older ones are made of two different types of material, a soft inner layer and a more durable outer shell with some degree of waterproofing.
Would it be possible for me to identify the material (since I assume photos won't be be of any help) and potentially buy more material to repair the pants properly? Or should I just get some patches and go hobo mode?

>>10637342
>>10637342
That means LSA and FDS shitters have moved here. Bitter women are drowning out the sane ones.

>package arrives from Japan today. Super excited
>get the "you're an adult now, why are you spending so much money on children's stuff" comment from parent
>happiness tainted
It was just some badges and artbooks, nothing "childlike" but all anime is children's media in my mom's eyes and though I really am trying to let it bounce off my shoulders, receiving judgement from one's parent is really sour. Big sad.

>>10637544
What artbooks did you get? Coffee-table-esque stuff like that is about as far from "childlike" as it gets, but I suppose I can spare a miniscule shred of empathy with her over the badges.

>>10637544
Move out already

>>10637616
I'm working on it! Moments like these reignite the fire under my ass to get things moving. I'm mostly at the mercy of time at this point though.

>>10637575
I bought two Fruits Basket artbooks. One is in the 2009 anime artstyle and the other is the reboot Season 2 art style. To be fair, I didn't open the package in front of her so she doesn't know what I bought anyway. Though I can imagine seeing japanese mangos wouldn't really make a difference in her impression lol. I think she just associates anime with another type of cartoon and "cartoon=kids' stuff" so here I am.

>but I suppose I can spare a miniscule shred of empathy with her over the badges.
Unfortunately I agree. If my kid was spending a sizeable amount of money on the equivalent to buttons from Hot Topic with funky looking characters on it, I'd probably raise a brow too.

>whole thread of one shitter from FDS whining about men
I'd bitch but I think I'll save it for next thread, I don't want some bitter fatty-chan instigating a fight with me.

Whenever Moitie releases something new, I keep thinking, damn, that's boring, I'm not buying that. And yet later I find myself buying lots of Moitie...

>>10637701
do tell

>>10637544
>>10637625
That sucks, I hope you get a nice place to decorate.

>>10637802
Thank you, that actually warms my heart.

>>10636733
i always thought the majority was in the 18-24 age group. a lot of my friends regularly went to cons every year nonstop and they kinda just stopped as they got older

>>10637625
>I'm mostly at the mercy of time at this point though.
i plan on trying to move out around 27 or so, but only if i can justify it by finding work away from home

>>10637912
Same. I want to move out before 30, but my future career is really going to be calling the shots on that one. Best of luck to the both of us I suppose!

>having a nice day
>remember casual sex exists
>day ruined

>>10637544
If its your money then its none of her business

Mfkers act like you bought cocaine/meth

>>10634408
you should definitely break up with your SO. If you survive being alone for one month then you have passed the ultimate test of life and you are worthy to continue living and get back with your boyfriend. IF YOU FAIL... it was simply meant to be, you are not strong enough to survive in this universe.