/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw too scared to try cosplaying because I have no frens to go to cons with

>>10124798
Just make some frens!

>tfw you and your bf first met on 4chan when he requested a dakimakura of you

>>10124854
>>10124798
i was wanting to go to AX but I'm in this boat too, feels weird going around a con alone unless you're just shopping

>>10124856
That’s an odd thing to brag about but ok

>>10124856
Are you that Jojo lolita?

Really makes you think

>>10124856
You two actually got together? That's honestly adorable.

>>10124894
Yes

>>10124854
What’s the best way to make cosplaying friends, or at the least just finding a group I can go to a con with?

I ordered a bag and a blouse from lolitadesu during their closing sale. Got a package from them; the bag and the blouse were both listed on the invoice, but just the blouse was in the package. I emailed them about it but haven’t got a response, and I wonder if I will get a response since they’re technically closed now.

I’m really sad because I was more excited about the bag than I was about the blouse

>>10124962
You probably are sol

>>10124962
Cha-cha-cha-chargeback.

>only hang around feels threads now on the off-chance the gullfriend who ghosted me posts so I can see if they're still alive

none of my friends want to go to momo-con with me, they want to go with other people :/

Man I just really love cosplay

>>10124977
I only hang around the feels threads to see whether the new guy I'm dating happens to be posting since I know he browsed this board out of curiosity once I told him about it.

And also to see whether the wanker I met on the feels thread is still pining for a lolita gf. He always is.

>>10125039
>wanker
L O N D O N
Give me a heads up if it goes south with him

The NWT AP boots I got off of fril for $25 arrived.
I thought that they were the Royal Cirque boots, but the seller said that there were no pom pom clips that came with them. But I still bought the cause, hey $25 for AP boots is a steal.
Open the package and there, in a little baggie, were the pom pom clips.
Best feels man.

>>10125041
You know it, bitch. Hope you get your gf sometime soon.

>>10125050
2019's the year, gull. I just fucking know it

>>10125051
May you never find gf

>>10125051
That's the fucking spirit, you pussy destroyer you. Hell to the yes.

>>10125039
Why was he a wanker

How do you guys feel about katiecosplays getting backlash for animal abuse?

>>10124935
Oh my god, we're in the presence of royalty.

>>10124856
>>10124894
>>10124935
How do I become a meme so guys will pursue me?

>>10125078
just bee urself :)

Con I'm going to is coming up in about a month and my friend who I usually do cosplays with is gonna be spending a lot of time with his gf during it

>>10125081
No one likes you go away

>>10125086
Case in point: You have a shitty personality

Maybe if you weren't such a salty cunt, guys would be attracted to you

I blew out the ass of my Wish tights on the week before meetup. Help.

>>10125087
I guess you could say they

GOT STUNG

>>10125096
Lose weight fatass

>>10125055
to make the post sound british

I want a lolita friend but meets are so boring.

>>10125096
That's what you get for buying tights from wish.

Legitimately considering offing myself but idk what to do with my decently large lolita wardrobe. Kinda want to give it away to some anon but I'm too lazy and anhedonic.

>>10125107
Don’t kill yourself

>>10125107
If you live near Opry Mills mall, let's hang out.

>>10125107
Do you want my email? If you need someone to talk to, I’m right here

>>10125096
Those tight Wish your ass was smaller.

>>10125128

>>10125109
Tbh I'm too anhedonic to bother. I'm mainly just daydreaming of doing it and being all melodramatic to try to get it out of my system.

>>10125111
Wish I were anywhere near there, it would be nice to hang out. Would give me an excuse to wear something nice too.

>>10125116
That's a sweet offer, anon. I'm shit at staying in contact with people or I'd say yes. But I really appreciate you offering.

>>10125132
daydreaming about it doesn't get it out of your system, it makes it worse

>>10125132
EU?

>>10125132
I don’t mind if you’re shit at staying in contact lol. I know people who are really bad at that, but I’ve stayed friends with them. You don’t have to do anything with it, but here’s my email anyway if you change your mind

Hoshinodedede@gmail.com

(Btw I’m the Jojo cringe lolita who posted earlier in this thread)

>>10125111
>living in Nashville
I lived there for five years. Too many potholes and bachelorettes.

>>10125077
I really hope she gets real backlash, not online backlash. Like I hope her neighbors find out she was fucking with their dog and call the police.

Also people are threatening to dump tea on her if they see her at a con. I’d kek.

>>10124977
get lost, W. there are multiple reasons why I ghosted you.

>>10125077
>>10125186
Wait, what happened?

>>10125200

>tfw about to try a cosplay again after it fell apart before I went to the con ~4 months ago
>learned from the mistakes but still terrified of it going wrong again
I wish I had more time to work on stuff.

>>10124856
post daki

>>10125186
If Momokun can get away with sexual assault, I'm sure she'll be fine. Fuck those bitches man.

>>10125096
This happened to my friend on day she forgot panty.

>>10125207
I'm more offended at her misusing the word catharsis than scalding a small dog.
When did I become like this?

Whenever I got posted on cgl someone comes and calls me out on shooping. The thing is I don't do anything other than basic color and contrast editing. I'm not sure if I should feel attacked or flattered.

>>10124958
One option is to go to panels/events you'll enjoy, the people you meet there will at the most basic level share that in common with you.

group photoshoot meets are a great opportunity, you don't even have to cosplay. just take nice pics of people and introduce yourself.

it takes a lot of social energy and effort to do anon, but it can have great payoff. my boyfriend and i met another couple that were cosplaying from the same series and we're still close friends almost 4 years later.

i always value quality over quantity. try not to fall into the trap of going for mainstream shit you dont actually enjoy or going the "easy" route through parties. those types of friendships usually fizzle out after a con

>>10125242
Is it face or waist/body shooping they're accusing you of?
Some peoples faces just look kind of uncanny and shooped naturally. It's not very common but it happens. If it's your body maybe it's the result of you corsetting or wearing shapewear, or maybe just having a nice figure and wearing flattering clothes.
Unless you look like one of those blurry shoop nightmares in real life you should probably be flattered.

>>10125207
>>10125077
>Retards actually getting mad over this
It was room temperature tea that she said she threw in the direction of the dogs

>>10125248
>Threw ON him
Whether it was scalding, cold, or tepid, you dont pour bright green liquid on a dog. The dog has nothing to do with her ire other than it barked at her.

>>10125250
Look at her most recent story, she said that it was in the general direction of the dog and it was being noisy. Sure she shouldn't have done it but people are sending her death threats for basically pouring flavored water near a dog

If this was any other animal there would have been no outcry lol

>>10125246
Face. I'm have pretty large eyes and it goes extreme when I do circle lenses and false lashes, so that's probably it. I'm pretty sure I'm not blurry irl lol

>>10125250
>throw cheese at a dog's face
funny and epic
>throw tea at a dog's face
kys you piece of shit you deserve to burn in hell

>Make first order from Innocent World for two dresses
>No response after 3 days, not even in junkmail
>The one dress I really wanted sold out

IDK if I even want to follow up. I got the other dress cause it was on sale but it's not The One.

>Get sax dress
>waiting on it to arrive
>see "sax" shoes for a good price
>color in pictures appears to add up well enough
>dress arrives
>Yes!
>shoes arrive
>No!
>straight blue, significantly darker than the dress
I knew better than to order before I had my dress in hand, but I went and played myself

>>10125284
Even if you had the dress beforehand trying to match sax is always a gamble. Happens to the best of us.

Half the time brands can't even do it right within the same set.

I think my friend is suspicious that I'm going to bang her brother when he turns 18. I'm a straight male, but he has a vagina so it's okay.

It's going to put a lot of strain on our DBZ cosplay group.

>>10125242
Photo editing and filters is shoop though.

>tfw no lolita gf who like whips and chains to get out a nightstick and hurt me real, real bad
It's got me under pressure

>>10125140
>bachelorettes
btw moving to Tennessee

>>10125342
It's not. Fixing color and contrast is a part of photography, you don't just go directly publish RAW format files.

>>10124856
post pics of daki, if it ever existed at any point

that feel when no girlfriend
I'm trying to get fit though, how attractive do I actually need to be to get women starting interactions with me at cons?

>>10125444
why don't you just approach them first?

>>10125328
>Not gay because vagina
>Still a guy
Pick one and only one.

>>10124926
That’s what you think, fuggo.

>>10125454
because women seem to dislike when I start talking to them, regardless of my true intentions. With men of any age, or middle aged+ women, there is a neutral reaction, and seem somewhat friendly by default. but with women my age (late teens to early 20's) they immediately start giving obvious signs that they are uninterested like one word answers or looking at their phones. this is the case even when I genuinely am not trying to hit on them and just want to ask a question.

>>10125128
I laughed way too hard at this

>>10125235
>>10125442
I can’t. Last time I asked about it the artist had ghosted him, so it never got made

>>10125100
?

>>10125363
Tfw me

God the moitie trend is so damn annoying. Those cutsews always went for $50-$70 absolute max on literally every second hand market including lacemarket and now people are suddenly bidding it up to more than double the amount. Fucken trendfags man

>>10124977
I ghosted a girl that I met on here cause we went out to eat and it was very obvious she had an eating disorder.
If you're here I'm sorry but I was so fucking embarrassed.

Why is ghosting so common with people who meet on cgl?

>>10125548
Isn't ghosting more common among women in general?
I don't recall ever hearing about a guy ghosting a girl - they tend to either be blatantly hurtful or take advantage of the girl until she is the one to end contact. Women are much more likely to just cut their losses and retreat.
Both are shitty ways to treat people that can cause backlash in the real world, but in the safety of anonymity it's easier to prioritize yourself - after all, if you can't see a person and don't notice the suffering you've caused you don't have to feel as bad.

>>10125572
Really? Because I’ve experienced the opposite, where I’ve been ghosted mostly by guys

>>10125078
She posted a photo. I think that's all it takes.

>>10125586
To be fair it was a pretty memeworthy photo.

Women are fucking shit lmao
I wish I was gay

>remember a cosplayer I saw two years ago out of nowhere
>can't stop thinking about her
I'm a loser that hasn't spoken to a girl in three years, let alone put my peepee in one. Why do I bother giving them the mental time of day?

>>10125572
I've been ghosted tons of times by dudes. Certainly not a woman thing, not sure where you got that idea.
I dont see ghosting as a immoral thing to do desu. I ghost people who I see no potential in. It's better than straight up telling them sometimes.

>>10125444
unique cosplays. thats the best way to get someone to talk to you. walking up to someone while theyre in cosplay and trying to talk to them on a real level doesnt work, theyre out there to get pics, the slower they move on from talking to you the less pics they get.

>>10125604
Wrong board, incel.

>>10125572
probably because most people want to avoid confrontation. Even if ghosting is a shitty thing to do.

>>10125601
we wish you were too, jsyk

>>10125243
So it's not weird to go to a con by yourself?
Just go to some group events and make friends?

>>10125846
This is such a weird question to me. I'm not ayrt, but every time I am in any other circle the most common advice for meeting people is to go to events where you will have something in common with others in order to meet them. That's why people join clubs, go to the library, attend a festival, etc. Why do you think cons were invented? Because geeks wanted a place to meet up and find more geeks and do things together. It used to be so spread out before the internet so I guess people in this generation are not realizing that's the whole purpose of it.

>>10125853
That actually makes a lot of sense.
Thank you boomer-chan

>>10125627
I got ghosted by a dude after I told him I had a boyfriend. I don't know if he was embarrassed or only wanted to get in my pants.
Nothing of value was lost.

>girl in my cosplay club gives me the EXACT right sewing technique I needed to achieve a particular result on one of my cosplay pieces that took me 2+ weeks of troubleshooting and 5+ different techniques

feels good man

>sit down to style a wig
>realize I didn't bring a single comb or hairbrush with me to college since I either use wax or do the ol' finger comb
>realize I'm going to have to buy/borrow someone's hairbrush

weird feel

>be looking for a simple black headdress for less than $40 for a million years
>nothing on lm, ww, cc, etc
>"well, i'll buy this dress from ww then, i have enough for that + shipping and it'll probably sell before i can wait any longer"
>bought dress, have $30 left in my lolita budget until paycheck next month
>day after the dress ships ww lists a ton of exactly the kind of headdress i was looking for that would've been within my budget if i bought them with the dress
>they'll probably sell before i can get my hands on them in april
why has god abandoned us

>>10125572
I've been ghosted by far more men than women, some that had been supposedly interested in me (it was a mutual thing, I liked them as well), and some that were just friends. I've also had guys ghost me when they get girlfriend, or get interested in a random girl.

I feel so bad everytime this girl I follow on insta uploads. She loves fashion, dresses nicely, has beautiful hair and probably spends a lot of time on her makeup.
But she has the worst FAS I've ever seen. It looks so bad.
I hope she succeeds in her life still.

>>10125586
link?

>>10125604
>I'm a loser that hasn't spoken to a girl in three years
Okay.
>Why do I bother giving them the mental time of day?
But of course, it's still their fault somehow.

>>10125944
FAS?

>>10125948
This was the pic

>>10125846
I would introduce yourself to your closest friendly-looking Facebook group and go with them. Even if the people in it don't mesh well with you, the confidence boost from being part of a unit will be the vehicle to finding people who do.

>>10125953
Foetal Alcohol Syndrome.

Hey VM. My dresses. Hand 'em over.

>>10125846
Whenever I read posts like this, I'm reminded of how much and how quickly I've changed in the past 18 months or so.
You got this. You'll make great friends.

>>10125373
GL with those missing teeth.

>>10125882
Oh yeah, that's the situation where I always get ghosted. I'm not romantically interested in a week so they drop me. It doesn't make me feel bad, but it's pretty pathetic, because i'm sure they do the same thing with every girl they meet.

>>10125107
Ontario?

Where can I go to find a group to go to cons with? I've been trawling through twitter looking to see if anyone is looking but that didn't net me anything. Where do con-goers even hang out when not going to cons? I just want to make friends.

>>10126021
How about just go to a con alone and meet friends. or maybe join some sort of anime club.

>>10126062
I did that last year, going to a con alone feels like going to the movies alone, it's nice but the experience would be better with a group. I'll look into an anime club though, that's a great idea!

Mildly unrelated feels. But overall sad and in pain. A piece of my back tooth cracked off and I can't get over the fact that even though I took care of my teeth well over the years doing everything my dentist told me ... anyway the antidepressants I took over the years killed my teeth anyway . I just feel like quiting lolita and quiting life .

>>10125671
but being fit will help, right? I can compensate from women apparently being able to sense my bad personality, right?

>>10126004
I don't get people like that, are they really just looking for romantic partners? Why act like that when you could be friends with them, because then you could have fun hanging out in the meantime, they might develop interest in you later, and if not they can introduce you to their friends which probably gives you better chances than just being a random

>>10126105
I think a lot of men generally think that if something doesn't happen in the first little while, it won't happen at all. What with the fear of being "friendzoned" and all. Those men are not interested in any form of platonic relationship and see it as a waste of time. I have met many friends like that, they are not bad people, just very delusional. It's very valuable to develop a friendship with someone, and even more so when they eventually develop feelings for you. I've been "friendzoned" many a time, and it's frustrating to an extent, but eventually you get over it and accept friendship.
My current partner was my friend for 2 years before we started dating, now it's been 2 years together. I'm happy she and I were patient.

>>10126119
Here's a story from my life for you
>be man
>decide I'm not going to pursue sexual relationships in favor of platonic ones
>try making friends with women
>meet a few girls I like talking to
>within three interactions they ask me out
>I politely reject them, making clear I don't want a relationship with anyone
>they never speak to me again

>>10126073
That sounds very painful and I'm sorry that's happening to you anon. I hope you feel better and get past this hurdle, please don't give up!

>>10126073
It happens anon! Some people just have weaker teeth, and if it was a wisdom tooth, they are usually weaker too. It also depends on how and what you eat, some things (like ice/hard candy/etc) or actions (like grinding in your sleep) cause that to happen too. Your dentist can help!

>>10125846
>>10126021
We can be friends.
It shouldn't be that hard when other people are looking like me.

>>10125262
I followed up and they actually still had the dress I wanted! That was a nice surprise!

>Get excited to cosplay and come up with a ton of ideas
>Remember I'm shit at making friends because I'm afraid of getting close to people and never have anyone to go with so I'd just end up alone the entire con and don't even bother

Why do I have to be like this

Why can't I just be normal

>>10126159
I know this feel

I had a horrible dream that I went on a roller coaster and for some reason I had to get naked for it so I put my lolita in the back of the roller coaster car. I had two coords in there, but as I was exiting the ride the car wooshed off before I could get my stuff, and none of the ride attendants spoke english/were helpful so I lost like £600 of Lolita.

I know the dream doesn't make sense but I woke up in tears.

>>10126073
teeth were not made to last as long as we expect them to - remember it was the cause of death for most people just a century or two ago. Doesn't sound like there was much else you could do to prevent this, so don't be too sad about it.
>to make you laugh: I cracked half of a front tooth eating jerky

>adds a new friend to meet at con on discord
>Introduce myself in a unique way so I don't come off boring
>gets unfriended instantly
>tfw will never get a friend to meet at con and play table top with

>>10126126
Weird flex bro
>Be me same way
>Want diverse cast of friends with platonic female friendship
>Still no friends

>>10126126
cool roleplay

>>10125039
Lmao I know who this is. Bitter as fuck

>>10125959
Oh my god, I fucking know this girl. Holy shit. What the fuck.

Aren’t most gulls on this thread single

Sad feel, no lolita guest at anime north. All we get is lor and poopy sparkle party.

>>10126189
You probably don't.

>>10126197
>tfw no qt gull bf or gf

>>10126199
I definitely do and seeing her post really brightened my day up, knowing she's stewing in all that salt. God help the poor bastard she's dating

>>10126204
R u a dude?

>>10126208
Yes

>>10126209
nice

>>10126194
Who are you?

>>10125951
>But of course, it's still their fault somehow.
I'm mad at myself for letting it bother me, not at them for existing. That would be ridiculous.

Today I heard my AAtP back-lace-for-corset-lacing rip. Three loops are stretched and look horrible now. I'm not surprised, since I've heard gulls complaining about this for years, but granted this is my first AAtP piece I'm just... Fuck. I have Taobao with better back lacing construction than this. Brand is supposed to be better than this.

Not all is lost though. I can stitch the stretched loops back to their original shape. I'm heavily considering adding real eyelets, but that might be too much work. For now I've removed the corset lacing ribbon, storing it safely should I ever fix this mess.

>>10126194
Hey. I’m sorry about everything that happened.

>>10125262
>>10126147
Happy for you, anon! I hope you like your new dresses.

>>10126175
I hate dreams about losing or damaging burando. I recently dreamt that all my prints turned out to be replicas. The majority of them don’t even have replicas, but I felt paranoid as hell the day after.

>>10126073
I did that in my sleep by clenching my jaw, and the root got infected so it had to be pulled. Teeth problems suck. I'm sorry anon.

>>10126225
Definitely add the eyelets, anon. I have a meta jsk that uses eyelets on the back instead of lace, and it is just godly. I think it will be worth the effort if the dress is one that you wear a lot or really love. Or if you don't want to risk damaging the fabric and what to do something reversible in case you sell the dress: You can put fabric loops in under the lace at the places you plan to thread it to reinforce it and take the pressure off the lace itself, I have a couple of Innocent World dresses with loops on the back and none of those have ripped yet.

>>10126197
I'm not single but that doesn't mean I'm not thirsty as hell
>tfw no lolita gf

>>10126206
Anyone but you sounds like an upgrade, bitter-kun

>>10126136
>>10126140
>>10126179
>>10126285
You all are wonderful wholesome people and I am so thankful to know you exist out there. Thankyou Anons

>>10126126
I feel like you're using that story to prove to me that "women do it too!!!' despite the fact I never said women have never done it. Obviously women have ghosted guys over that, there's 3 billion of us. It's going to happen. I don't know why a lot of dudes on this board get really defensive when they don't need to.

>>10126353
Not him, but you can't blame men for being defensive on /cgl/ when every other post is someone shouting about how all men are big smelly soulless perverts.

>>10126355
Wow gosh I wonder how it feels to have your entire sex denigrated all the time.

>>10126328
I don't think you understand what the term 'bitter' actually means

>>10126356
I wouldn't know because I don't live in your imagination.

>>10126355
then why do you keep coming here if it's just so bad for you?
also you say "every other post is man hating." What world do you live in? >>10126358 Perhaps you need to get out of your imagination.

>>10126277
No, I think you have the wrong person. I knew you for a week and you were really sweet. Wore a cute pink sweatshirt and read Bezerk I think?

>>10125529
At least they'll go back on the market when the trend is over. Then other people can buy them up.

>>10126382
Oh lol. Yeah, that’s me. Berserk’s my favorite manga (other than Jojo, which is probably obvious lol).

>>10125444
I feel ya man. Been doing a lot of self improvement the last year; but I work at cons at can’t cosplay. It’s so difficult to meet girls interested in conventions and cosplay when you’re stuck working and are told not to talk with customers too much outside of making sales.

God I just want a nice con attending gf.

>>10125078
Hit on >tfwnogf posters

>>10126381
>then why do you keep coming here if it's just so bad for you?
Because I enjoy dressing up as characters from Vietnamese zoetropes and discussing the act with like minded individuals.

>>10125545
Anorexia, bluimia or obesity?

>>10126404
>>10126404
ok so then you can admit that every other post isn't man hating and you're just cherry picking.
typically i only see man-hating when someone brings up their gender without needing too. If you ever bring up being a woman on any other board you typically get shit on.
I think a lot of the man-hating is because men on this board thinks they'll get positive attention just for having a dick so they like bringing it up

>>10126355
It’s because they are

>>10126410
>you can admit that every other post isn't man hating and you're just cherry picking
I honestly didn't expect anyone to interpret that sentence totally literally. Do you accuse people who say "it's hot as hell" of being liars because they aren't burning to death?
>men on this board thinks they'll get positive attention just for having a dick so they like bringing it up
I have never seen this happen.
>>10126416
Here is my case being rested.

>>10126420
>case being rested
NYART and i think you're a shit started, but i've gotta admit that's pretty funny.

>>10125101
If you had a lolita friend, meets wouldn't be so boring

>>10126355
All men do in the feels threads do is complain that nobody will have sex with them/"ThAt FeEl WhEn No Gf". That's literally the only conflict men in the 1st world seem to have. The truth is, no women gives a fuck or has an ounce of sympathy for any of you and you all need to shut the fuck up.

Women are fucking shit lmao

>>10126428
You sound mad. Take a deep breath and maybe call it quits from the computer for the night.

>>10126428
>tfw no bf
I'M HERE 4 U GURL HANG IN THERE SISTER
>tfw no gf
OH MY GOD STOP WAVING YOUR DICK AROUND NO ONE CARES

>>10126433
Your not wrong, but male posters always get into incel mode when anybody tries to give them advice and are clearly cross posters.

>>10126432
I'm fine. How about you?

>>10126420
You must be new if you've never seen threads which start with "i'm a guy" or "brolita here"... and sure maybe not literally but you're even implying that man hating convos happen a lot. they don't. Only on this thread, which is mainly populated by trolls and crossboarders anyways.

>>10126353
I was drunk and upset over a family crisis. It was wrong for me to take it out on someone over the internet and derail the thread. I apologize.

I'm terrified for the day I have to try and sell my shit if I ever decide to leave lolita. I was going through my closet today to organize and the amount of things I own I realized it'd take weeks if not months of me taking pics and getting details to list everything. I've been in the fashion for almost 9 years so it's built up slowly but I never really realized how much I really have until today.

Wtf happened and why are so many posts suddenly gone

>tfw do a closet clear out today
>lots of empty space
You know what that means? Time to buy new clothes.

>>10126321
Oh, I hadn't thought of fabric loops even though that's what my Taobao dresses use! Thank you so much for your second opinion anon. Overall I just feel happy that I chose a colourway which has white lacing. That's going to make matching fabrics way easier. Heck, I have tons of white fabric just laying around, unlike white eyelets! Now I'm feeling more motivated to go through with this!

>>10126613
There's a thing on all boards of 4chan(nel) called a janitor and it cleans up all of the off-topic trash. Learn to live with it.

>>10126613
Sad about that as well. They were all mildly related and wholesome as well.

>>10126424
I used to have a lolita friend, we both thought lolita meets were boring. She left lolita for vintage fashion last year though.

>realize my valuable collection of weeb shit will fall in the hands of ignorant relatives if I die too early without having weeblets of my own to inherit it and recognize its actual value
>my prized and deeply cherished Sweet Dreams Rilakkuma plush my s/o gave me for my birthday might end up in a thrift store or forgotten completely

This is the type of anxiety that's going to turn me into a vengeful ghost in Victorian era clothes.

>>10126723
lol, super obsessed with a plush to the point you care this much

>>10126723
The sad part is we all know who you are since you won't shut the fuck up about that dumb bag. At least you'll live a short time because we'll remember the dirty usa girl

Why are Tik Tok cosplayers so cancer?

>>10126759
I think they're hit or miss.

>>10126535
I was packing to move and had the same thought. Realising I had so much also made me put off buying anything new unless it's wishlist tier.

>>10126723
Just go to a notary and make a will. That's what I will do once I finished documenting all my most valuable items.

>>10126723
Just get some >tfwnogf poster to impregnate you and raise them to appreciate everything

>>10125937
A lot of black headdresses pop up on fril and mercari, why didn't you check there? I bought one baby the stars shine bright torchon lace one for 1500 yen a couple days ago.
>>10126759
All cosplayers are cancer :^)
>>10126225
off topic but that cat picture is hilarious. On topic, the myth brand is always better every time must die. The next AP bracelet i buy which breaks on the fifth wear will break me. Brand is just mostly better. anyways, good luck anon, love you.

>>10126759
>Go to con with two friends
>A solid 3 hours per day was spent in the hotel room in cosplay doing Tik Toks
>Not even with each other, just off in their own corner

>>10126996
Are the TTs any good?

>>10126786
based

>tfw I can't find Milky Swan in my preferred cut and colourway anywhere
>this NWOT listing is mocking me with its 6000¥ price
Why ;_;

I thought I was doing really good; I got on anti depressants and anti anxiety meds and was getting back into lolita and everything was great

but then I lost my temper at my ldr partner and fucking exploded and set myself a hundred steps back. I always do this. I always fuck up. It doesn't matter how hard I try or how much effort I try to put into becoming a better person and the person I want to be, it doesn't work. I hate myself. I wish I'd never been born. All I do is cause stress and misery for the people I care about yet somehow I still have friends. I think people are just too nice to kick my ass to the curb when it needs to be, and I should be left there.

I was a mistake and I'm still a mistake that never should have been made.

I hate myself so fucking much.

>>10127058
anon it's okay to get angry.. Don't be sad. It's okay to fuck up sometimes too. We all do.
How long have you been on meds? It took me over a year to find the right one, and the right one took about 6 months to start working well. Be patient with yourself.

>>10124798
happened to me one year, but i looked at the outfit i did and decided to say fuck it. i was anxious as fuck while driving to comicpalooza, but later took a couple breaths and relaxed. went in, had fun. met lots of other cosplayers.
i realized that all my friends may watch and talk about all about mcu/dcu/etc. but really aren't into it.

>>10127058
It's gonna take more than just meds to change your behavior. Have you looked into CBT?

>>10127058
While working on yourself, be thankful for what you do have instead of wishing it all away and wondering why it's there. For whatever reason no one has ever stayed in my life, ever since I was a young child. I often joke about being cursed, but that's really what it feels like. It's depressing in itself, but I stay strong. You can too anon! everyone makes mistakes, what matters is that You ARE working on it. It takes time and effort, and that is what matters.

>>10127015
Yah the titties are great

Hey dude from Walmart from about a week ago. I was returning hair dye. You asked me if I was wearing cosplay
I'll fucking fight you

>>10127100
To most people lolita looks like a costume, don't be so salty over a misunderstanding, geez

>>10127100
I wore an old school tartan btssb jsk for an interview once and some rando thought I was a cosplaying as a Japanese school girl prostitute and asked how much I charged. I was wearing a beret, leggings and a long sleeve thermal underneath my jsk so I was a little confused. I thought I looked pretty normie.

>>10127100
>buying hair dye at walmart

You brought it on yourself.

>>10127139
>wearing lolita to an interview

You also brought it on yourself.

>>10127143
>going to walmart period
FTFY

>>10127058
What everyone else said. Years of meds + therapy and self reflection and I'd say I'm miles better than I used to be, but I still fuck up every few weeks or so. What's changed is my ability to self reflect, to listen to others, to learn how to break down my problems without letting them consume me, and I'm better at managing the spiralling aftermath of catastrophizing mistakes (what you're doing as you panic and beat yourself up). But no one EVER stops messing up from time to time, we are just all working on ourselves at our own pace.

If you have friends then you probably have enough self awareness and make enough effort that it's worth it to them, and I'd guess some probably can empathize on some level, too. Don't give up, just apologize, work with those offering you help and keep moving forward. You can do it!

>>10127148
I wasn’t wearing lolita retard. Read my post again.

>>10127161
Nayrt but you said you were wearing BTSSB chill your ugly tits

>>10127164
you literally just read it up until btssb jsk and prostitute didn’t you, illiterate-chan?

>>10127172
Were you wearing a petticoat?

>>10127179
Nayrt, but why does that matter?

>>10127161
Are you so delusional/stuck in your cgl bubble that you think wearing a leggings, a thermal and beret with an oldschool jsk wouldn’t read as lolita? What did you think you were wearing if not lolita?

>just asked to be the second half of a duo cosplay
Oh shit am I making friends
Good feel desu

>>10127081
secret are:
don't be over 200 lbs
have a waist around 30-32
shower/shave (unless you have people tell you, that you look good with a certain facial growth).
go get cologne that smells actually good (human oils vary between people, take your time to find one that actually works with your natural body order).
hide your power levels. don't over geek. keep calm and smile when speaking to the opposite sex.

i've found multiple lolitas and non-lolitas admit to posting and trolling /cgl/. i've been able to identify some of their non-bait posts

>>10127143
>>10127149
You right

>>10127126
I WANT TO GO OUT WITH HIM
He wasnt a normie I know it

>>10127189
What character are you cosplaying?

>>10127180
Nayrt petticoats make it more lolita than just a sundress

>>10127200
Ozymandias from fate
Friend of mine asked if she could be Nefertari with me

>>10127179
Nope. My outfit looked similar to this.
>>10127182
Tell me how this is lolita? If you weren’t such a larper you would understand that you can wear main pieces and have it not read as lolita.

>>10127222
Dropped pic like a fucking retard

How do I make con-pals as a social-phobic retard?

>>10127241
Join a con or community discord and be involved! I made alot of friends doing that from the Midwest /cgl/scord, you just gotta talk in the server and have a car to get to meetups.

>>10127222
Which JSK were you wearing? I highly doubt Baby has ever released anything that looks remotely like >>10127236

>>10127222
>>10127236
You realize petticoat or not old school tartan jsks look very different from normie slip dresses, right

>>10127236
God, I really dislike modern fashions.

>>10127236
>Showing up to an interview like this
What job were you interviewing for anon?

>>10127236
>>10127267

Ofc I know what btssb oldschool tartan jumpers look like, and they look nothing like this much more mature outfit. What you’re describing is a very typical casual lolita outfit, petti or not, which will read to a normie as a schoolgirl look because it looks exactly like Catholic elementary school uniforms. And to most people an adult wearing a school uniform is an ageplayer or a fetishist, maybe for money.
I’m not saying you didn’t look cute. I’m sure you did. I just have no idea what kind of job you could interview for while dressed like an elementary schoolgirl. (Did you get it?)

>>10127294
umm... I think you're getting confused. I posted >>10127267 and I'm not OP

>>10125959
damn good taste and a lolita? where have you been all my life

>>10126225
hey anon, that shit happened to me to with night at the devil's castle jsk i. it's shitty design but in the end we both know we love aatp too much to quit buying their dumbass shit.

i'm getting it tailored cos in my case, the lace was torn beyond repair in several places. it hurts my soul to have the lace removed, but its for the best :( ....

>>10127139
i have secondhand embarrassment from your fucking autism, unless you were applying to a kids store or disney or some shit, idk why you think you'd look normie. lolita fashion in nearly every degree is the polar opposite

>>10126991
i know some shopping services charge out the ass for mercari and fril because their policies ban ss' and im guessing they need to go through extra measures, what's a good ss for those sites?

Pic related
My con has now metal detectors, backpack search, and drug sniffing dogs.
How do you guys feel about it?
Also if you wear metal cosplay armor you got to strip.

>>10127338
Ask the SS thread dumbass

>>10127351
>if you wear metal cosplay armor you got to strip
L-lewd

>>10127351
What hecking con is that? That is the most strict con security I've seen, not even sports events do that.

>>10124859
I'm going alone if it makes you feel any better. Hopefully me being a drunken piece of shit makes at least 1 person pity me enough to hang around with me

>>10125846
It's not really weird, but going alone can be lonely and there is no guarantee you make friends unfortunately

>>10124854
>Just make some frens!
oh dude why didn't I think of that

>>10127351
>drug sniffing dogs
GET FUCKED, RAVER NORMALFAGS

>got job
>"yay more lolita!"
>have no time for hobbies, dresses sit unworn
>become unhappy and bitter
>got fired
>even more bitter

>>10127474
I'm sorry anon. It will get better

I have an almost irrational hate for a person in my comm, and I know I probably just have salt in my vag but I can’t help it and need to vent.

She’s been making YouTube videos for a little while now (centered on being plus sized) and she admitted in a video that most of the dresses she’s acquired in her closet, are ones that she bought knowing they do not fit her. Some of them she just grew out of over time, which is fine. However, now she’s buying small stuff to act as motivation to lose weight, but that method never works. I can just see a few DDs swaying in her closet throughout her vids, never to be sold or worn.

Idc if she sees this desu, but I hope she knows she’ll feel much better buying stuff she can actually enjoy now and not a nebulous later.

I have a rare /cgl/ related feel. I have TWO! The first one is my year got off to a really bad start because I had tried assisting an old friend in getting his life straight. It ended terribly. I live alone again, and I'm happier. As far as fashion goes, He hated everything I wore, and started ragging on me about how I'm 'looking for attention'. He constantly went on about how people should dress down, and it's silly to wear my clothing around the house. He said people should wear sweatpants or comfy shit around the house. It was hurtful, and I'm happy to be alone without someone ragging on what I wear regularly.

On another related note, I'm going to go hang out with my cute co-worker today!!! He's a bit strange, and he's a good bit older then me. I'm usually not into older guys. We never really spoke much before, but he saw me earlier in the week getting my paycheck. I was dressed all out including a huge fluffy petticoat, syringe necklace, printed thigh highs, and everything. He offered to drive me around to do errands, offered to buy me food, and didn't say one thing about my outfit. He said in a conversation, "Weird is good," so I guess he doesn't mind the way I dress. That's a good feeling. Sorry for the journal post, but 2019 has been rife with bad and good /cgl/-related feel.

>>10127356
Anime Boston has this same system. The lines to get in seamlessly connect to the lines to go through security. It's like an airport.

>>10127058
Every day you have is a chance to change. Not just yourself, or your views on yourself (which are unhealthy), but the world around you, and your worth. Go exercise. Walk. Bike, run in place, whatever you have to do. Until you sweat. It will genuinely help. Then when your metabolism is up, ask yourself what ONE thing you can do that day is, and do it. Just ONE thing a day, and it'll start to help. I have been there, and am kinda there now.

>>10127496
I do the same, and I disagree that it doesn't work as motivation. I invested that money and having the item right there in front of me is a far better reminder when I'm struggling with temptation. I've slowly been getting better at self control. Obviously it can't be said to work for everyone, but I think it's unfair to say that it never works.

You're free to feel how you like/be jealous, but I think that's stupid. It's their money and their belongings now.

>>10127496
I intentionally bought smaller main pieces in the past as motivation, which helped me lose 40 lbs. It does work at times, it just depends on the person.

That being said, it really just sounds like you’re super bitter about a fatty owning your dream dress.

I'm going to NYC next week to see Anastasia again before it closes.
I'm really sad because the last couple of times, I didn't get to go to the lolita stores on Allen. And then the AP store closed and Tokyo Rebel took over.
And now even Tokyo rebel is gone...
At least I've gotten the irl lolita shopping experience elsewhere.. But still...

>>10127351
>drug sniffing dogs
Are you allowed to cuddle them?

>>10127058
Anon are you me? Obviously not but I know that feeling a lot. Also it's ok to get upset and feel shitty. In fact it's more than okay to have a break down. I find that people like us are like volcanoes in that are frustration builds up over time and we are good for a while after. Try and take a step back and realize you're still making an effort for improvement

>>10127590
Professional doggos only get cuddles when they're off duty

I try to stay positive about this, and not give up, but my loneliness is eating me up from the inside.

I started university a year ago, excited to meet new people and make friends. Turns out I didn't mesh with anyone in my class and meeting up people from other majors is extremely difficult. No biggie. I tried to go to cons and lolita meetups and I always talk to people and strike conversations and ask for social media accounts after a while to keep in contact. Yet, I've failed everytime to make friends. I feel like im somehow offputting to the people I'm platonically interested in. I feel like I'm self concsious enough, i'm not loud or obnoxious, i listen and comment and ask questions when people talk to me but I always end up alone in the end.

I know better than to expect instant friendship. That takes time. But when I try and try and nothing comes out of it, and no matter how many people i meet i never match well with anyone, it's hard not to blame myself for it.

>>10126198
Lol lor is more than get at anime Boston.

Was just about to leave for the day, found an obscure wish list item.Fucking score! It's never coming around again, i don't care if it's a bad time for clothes purchasing. I'll almost definitely never see it again.

>>10127677
Are you me?

My con crush just turned legal.

>>10127473
hey man
lolitas get fucked up too

>>10124798
Literally who the fuck cares, people go to cons by themself all the time. What do you think is going to happen? Is someone going to bully you for not having another person next to you 24/7? Of course not, but we'll sure as hell bully you for being this pointlessly insecure.

>>10127882
Me and my friends point out people who are alone and laugh at them and take pictures to post in cringe threads.

>>10127982
You have to be 18 or older to post on this website

I went drinking with my partner tonight (in lolita, since i'm a daily lolita) and we're less than an hour in and i'm being made to feel like an embarrassment for wearing my normal clothing because I have gotten lots of questions from the normies at the bar already. I just really want to go home and cry now.

>>10128000
what kinds of questions, like rude ones?

>>10128000
If you are a daily lolita why aren't you used to this? Stop being so sensitive

>>10128001
They're being normies. Asking me the typical questions. I actually ignore people asking me stupid questions unless it's actually about the fashion itself.
>>10128002
I don't care about the normies. I like wearing this stuff, and the opinions of people i don't know don't bother me. But my partner is telling me i'm embarrassing and said "You know i like being with flashy people in public but i hate how many people talk to you. No one ever approaches me like that" like really condescendingly while we're sitting at a table in the middle of the bar. It was really embarrassing.

>>10128003
Again, why aren't you used to it? Stop being so sensitive.

>>10128005
"why should i be okay with my partner being an asshole to me in public because of my clothing"
nice bait but i don't think it's okay for them to be so aggressive toward me about something i do and wear regularly

>>10128010
This is on your partner, not the people at the bar. He's the one making you upset, not them. Tell him he's being an asshole. If he isn't used to you being a daily lolita at this point, he won't be. Point blank period.

>>10128021
Anon i'm not saying it's on the people at the bar i'm very used to this behavior from people who don't know or understand the fashion i've already said this i meant to imply my partner is making me feel bad but i'm drunk and sad and can't you let me have my one little moment of poorly written release

>>10128010
Get over it you whiny cunt. If this person has such an issue with it they aren't right for you.

>>10128010
>>10128022
dump him, anon

>>10128003
Just bee urself sis :)

Ok so idk if I'm being paranoid but I feel like half the photographers at our jfashion events only post mostly skinnier models than the bigger girls. I don't wanna complain bc they're free and I know the best option is to lose weight and not be a fatass but I feel disheartened when skinny girls in low effort seifukus get more photos than my pretty great coords.

>>10128022
>"You know i like being with flashy people in public but i hate how many people talk to you. No one ever approaches me like that" like really condescendingly
Sounds like he could be jelly of all the attention you're getting. Both in a "oh no, my gf is too popular and will leave me" and "I wish people looked at me" kinda way and he's a salty cunt about it.

>>10128022
>i'm drunk and sad and can't you let me have my one little moment of poorly written release
Oof, please don't be so sad about it, think of good things!

>>10128027
Lose weight fatass. Fat people are not appealing, thus you don't get posted

>>10128027
they may put less effort into their outfit or costume but they also put more effort into their apperance over all by managing not to be a gross fat shit like you

>>10128027
They probably post the prettiest photos and a pretty girl in a shit coord still looks better than an ugly girl in a great one.
Don't take it personally, it just shows their goal is to get clout with the general public rather than appeal to the niche audience of people who look at the clothes instead of the model and can tell trash coords/cosplay from good ones.

You should lose weight for your own well being, not so you can have your pictures posted by randoms.

Cosplay for girls:
>Literaly just don’t be fat

Cosplay for guys:
>Minimum requirement is 6’4” and jacked with six pack abs or else you’ll get laughed at

>>10128024
I would if i could desu but seeing as he literally is the only person i know in at least a 200 mile radius
>>10128026
I really try to be. I like expressing myself through my clothing, since it's really therapeutic. and he knows this too.
>>10128028
I know that he's slightly jealous but the problem is is that he refuses to communicate or reach out to anyone? It's a really long story (tldr he lost all his friends due to his behavior, and i got stuck with it) and now that i am actively reaching out to people (like my comm and several coworkers) to hang out and socialize it's a problem. not because i go out too much, but because he doesn't go out enough. I always feel like it's my problem when i'm socializing and he isn't

>>10128040
you can and will meet more people, don't put up with a partner not supporting you just because you'd be alone otherwise.

If you live together, save up a nest egg and move out as soon as you have enough money for deposit + first and last month's rent.
If you don't, couldn't be easier to break up with them, just call him and say "I'm breaking up with you."
Get involved with your local lolita community, join the penpal or make friends threads we have on here sometimes, go to cons, join your local con facebook groups. Don't put up with his bullshit. You deserve to be with someone who doesn't make you feel like shit.

>>10128040
Anon, he's acting like a child. Do like >>10128024 says and dump his ass.

>>10128041
my local comm isn't my cup of tea and has rubbed me the wrong way desu, but the comm i'm a part of makes me really happy (i mean beyond the fact we're all well dressed for a smaller comm, they're all super wonderful people with huge hearts, and id do anything for our mod because she's an absolute angel) and i have some long distance friends i love a lot who are supportive but i have been saving some to move somewhere with one of them. It's awful though because i know if i want to socialize and feel wanted, i have to spend money, and that's all money i could be saving for moving. and lolita is something that helps with my dysphoria, so i tend to buy a tiny bit more than i should be, so it's been a little slow (But recently i've been trying to sell off pieces i don't wear and using the money from those to get new pieces so it sorta pays for itself at this point, and i'm not throwing away my paychecks). but my friend and i won't be moving until august and it seems so far away right now.

>tfw convinced gf to cosplay as Satania

>>10128044
Just persevere until August, anon!

I was in a similar situation as you and got out of it, my life is so much better than it was with my partner-now-ex from back then. I'm rooting for you!

>>10128045
You're a lucky woman.

>>10128003
>You know i like being with flashy people in public but i hate how many people talk to you. No one ever approaches me like that
That doesn't sound like a criticism of you but of the strangers talking to you.

>>10128081
But I'm a male.

tfw you go to a meet and ask for a lolita to take pics of your coord, but all the pictures come out blurry, taken from awkward angles or cutting part of your legs/head off.
Thanks.

>>10125207
so, am I also an asshole, cause I bark/shout back to dogs

>>10125237
what has that to do with the picture?
(and getting bootleg lego, worst christmas ever, I guess)

>>10127081
from the teachers reaction, this is might be real

>>10128045
shit waifu, I guess

I'm going to my first con ever all alone and I'm scared. I'm mentally ill and have an awful time with socialization, loud noises, strangers touching me, and huge tightly packed crowds. To make shit worse, I have physical problems as well like polyarthritis and standing for too long really takes its toll on me.

I'm a little frail bitch crybaby nerd and I definitely shouldn't be going with all these conditions, especially alone, especially considering I'm poor and shouldn't be wasting money, but I already bought tickets and plane tickets with hard earned money (no refunds).

Scared it'll be all a waste of hope, time, effort and money.

>>10128580
Why did you spend all of that money if you have no one to go with and don't like the atmosphere of a con?

>>10128580
Do everyone else a favor, do not go. You sound like a miserable person and you're going to make people uncomfortable.

>>10127067
I read this as Cock and Ball Torture and thought you were encouraging serious self harm.

>>10128580
>socialization, loud noises, strangers touching me, and huge tightly packed crowds
Dunno how to break it to you, but all that is common at cons.

>>10128580
Boohoo, Grow some nuts

>>10125250
my dog plows into furniture so often that at least once a week, she gets bowl of cereal or a cup of tomato juice dumped all over her, and she just keeps doing it
because dogs aren't all victim-complexy like humans

>>10125207
You have to be a genuine fucking retard to vent your frustrations on the dog and not it's incompetent owners who are the reason it doesn't behave in the first place. I can't stand dogs either, but at least I'm not stupid enough to think that bullying an animal will make it stop and not just escalate the situation to something even more bothersome. At the very least if you're such a mess that you can't help the need to physically confront something when you're annoyed then bother the owners instead for not doing their job properly in the first place.

>>10128580
The first day will probably be a little more overwhelimg because its a new area, but once you get used to the convention layout it should be alot less scary. Generally speaking conventions do tend to have big crowds, but depending on the convention theres areas that sometimes clear up a bit. Id find some safe spots when you get there that you can go back to if stuff gets too overwhelming(like a corner or area that doesn't have anything going on). It usually is pretty loud in the convention center though. You might want to bring something (like a good pair of sound canceling headphones) to block out some of the noise if it does end up being too overwhelming.
Is it a large convention?

This is autistic, but when I read Gothic & Lolita Bible, sometimes I save anything unusual or that I didn't know about before, specifically to keep it in my own mental library, and just in case I later read someone repeat a flagrantly wrong idea about Lolita and/or its history. It's like a stash of "proof".

The crocs were the studio's apparently. But look at it. I have to share this.

>>10127677
I feel this so much. I got lucky in my first year and sat next to the right people in one class and I had friends for the next year. But after that it’s been really hard to make new friends in other classes that I can actually hang out with.

To top it off, my bf just dropped out of uni after 1 semester, so the train and lunch buddy I’ve longed for for years is no more. Alone on campus again.

I mean you’d think dressing differently would help spark people’s interest in striking up a conversation at least

>Bought dream dress at the start of february
>It gets sent by USPS from NY
>Aware that it's going to take some time for it to reach me since I live in Scandinavia but still pretty much hurries home after work every day in hope of it arriving
>Nothing, tracking is stuck on "in transit" for weeks
>Files it as missing on their website
>No updates
>Starting to panic because it cost me $300
>Decides to check it again today
>"March 17, 2019, 3:03 am
Arrived at USPS Regional Facility
NEW YORK NY DISTRIBUTION CENTER
Your item arrived at our USPS facility in NEW YORK NY DISTRIBUTION CENTER on March 17, 2019 at 3:03 am. The item is currently in transit to the destination. "
>ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME

I'm happy the dress isn't lost (yet) BUT ARE YOU SERIOUS IT HASN'T EVEN LEFT NEW YORK?!

>>10128958
I feel you, ugh. Mine got stuck in Russia without moving for a few weeks and it's handmade, and this after waiting forever for it to come out. It's supposed to arrive today and I won't be home so I have to wait another day to get it in person. I'm still stressed about it.

>>10128580
People are only bullying you because they see part of themselves mirrored in your post. Just go. You will probably have a nicer time than you're imagining.

>>10128659
>>10128761
It's complicated. I love the loud music echoing through the halls and crowds cheering, I love watching people having fun and laughing, I love seeing such amazing cosplays in person and all the characters I love just casually walking around, the workshops and mini events look really exciting (jojo pose contest, cosplay skits, drawing, japanese, karaoke, concerts), and being in an atmosphere full of things and people that share similar interests really sounds like something out of this world to me.

but I hate drunk/high people and I absolutely DESPISE the alcohol/weed smell, people pushing and stepping on eachother, snotty brats running around with no parents, harassers/gropers, people who just go to point and laugh, people who think axe spray is a substitute for a shower, people who know the place is crowded and everyone's trying to move but still stand in the middle of nowhere in groups, long ass lines and shitty staff who let friends break through said lines, etcetera.
It's really complicated. I'm excited but then it turns into anxiety.

I spoke to my tall buff friend I can hide behind and he agreed to go with me a few hours of one day, so there's that, I guess.

>>10128845
I should specify, the noises I mind are specific loud irritating noises next to my ear like screeching, speakers on full ear rape bass and no treble (or viceversa), repetitive obnoxious sounds, and stuff like that.
It's the main con in the capital of a small european country.

>>10128993
I don't think they're bullying, they're just being honest... but thank you kind anon.

>when you buy something online and when it gets to you you realize its actually fucking ugly

As a lolita, I feel really, really lonely.
A girl I really like asked me the other day-
"So, when you wear lolita... Is it like putting on a character?"
For some reason this really affected how I see myself when I'm wearing these clothes, it made me feel insecure.
It makes me anxious- what are these irl friends of mine thinking when I wear these clothes? Just how little am I understood? What do I say to this?
I know that it is a common experience, but it feels more like a collective trauma we all share- our self expression being highly sexualized, considered comical, weird, anxiety inducing, a costume, etc.

>>10129139
happened to me x 3 lmao kms
what did you get anon?

>>10129144
>trauma
anon get over yourself. It wasn't even a "is that a costume" question. Some people do feel like they're putting on a character when they're wearing lolita in a way that it makes them more confident and shit.
To normies, you're wearing weird clothes. Time to grow thicker skin if you want to be a lolita desu

>>10129144
>What do I say to this?
Why don't you answer it truthfully and not make a big deal out of it? Getting so insecure is only going to reinforce the idea in normie heads that you're doing something unusual.

>>10129156
why are you criticizing people for posting their feelings in a feels thread?

>>10129148
its ok lad, its hard to tell online, i think its just something you have to get an eye for. als depending on what it is you could try selling it on ebay or something
i got this because my current bag is on its last legs, still gonna use it cus i need a bag and its nice quality

About to get hit with a massive european customs bomb for two of my DDs, give me strength gulls.

Fellow euroanons, what's the worst you've ever been hit by customs with?

>>10129144
I understand where you're coming from and what you mean to say, but if you and this girl both like each other, it's likely she didn't mean to hurt you and just wanted to understand you, even if the question was dumb. Try not to take it as an insult, instead see it as an opportunity to share something you enjoy with someone you like. Many people just genuinely don't know what lolita is and don't even know how to ask what it is without coming off as insensitive or silly, which is fine as long as they don't actually intend to hurt you. So look at it this way and maybe take the time to tell this girl about the fashion and what you love about it.

>>10129144
go wear normie clothes and try your best to blend in and not be noticed since you can't handle a completely innocent question or the mere thought of someone thinking you're weird without feeling like you're "traumatized"

>>10129160
>Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.
Nayrt but it upsets some people to see trauma used in a way that cheapens the meaning of the term. It makes people take actually traumatized people not seriously. Like how people smirk at the word trigger, when it's a real thing you want to avoid at all cost, because retards used to to refer to anything that mildly annoys them.

>>10129162
£200. That's enough to buy at least two additional brand dresses on lace market. After that i have been requesting for my packages to be marked down so i could pay less, but I am scared i'll get rekt whilst doing that. I can't fucking wait to move the the US so i can escape this bullshit.

I thought I was immune from the dreaded boobloaf because I’m an A cup, but I got a Meta dress in the mail today that proved me wrong.

>>10129229
Is your bra padded or push up? Mine causes boob loaf

>finally comfortable with body image
>wears glasses
>can't wear colored contacts
Oh come on now. I stoped being miserable about my looks, now I am miserable about the functions. I just want to start cosplaying already :(

>>10129329
Color contacts typically don't make or break a cosplay, depending on the character, so you're probably fine.

>>10129229
which dress anon?

>>10129329
Why can't you wear glasses over your colored contacts? I can wear sunglasses over my prescription contacts.

I really can't wear cosplay contacts because fuck wearing glasses in public, I look like the biggest nerd.

>>10129144
>Highly sexualized
Found the sissy creep
Lolita is just about looking cute and elegant, it has nothing to do with any weird or gross shit. Try wearing rockabilly if you want people to know you're damaged goods

That fb feel when you give advice to either a gross furry or disastrous Schrodinger's sissy.
You know you just wasted another part of your life you'll never get back, and all you can blame is yourself for your suffering.

>>10129459
>Try wearing rockabilly if you want people to know you're damaged goods
Oof
The realest shit right here.

>>10129459
Anon meant that our self expression via the fashion is highly sexualized by outsiders, which it is, not that the fashion or that wearing it is sexual.

I smelled something bad at con.

Have you ever had con birthday?

I now know why I go on my monthly shopping sprees + a bunch of other forms of suffering. I got diagnosed as bipolar. This is an enormous can of worms I'm not ready to chug....

Hold me anons.

On the other hand I have a nice wardrobe now.

>>10129680
You just need to date some rich guy with a weird kink and then you will have the money.

>>10129742
>>10129680

Thats a dick move don’t do that

>>10129742
I do have the money. But it feels horrible afterwards.

I missed out on a great deal on one of my DDs because of Japonica being slow as fuck. I’m so unbelievably pissed.

>>10125944
>Same poster, few days later
>Looking at a couple selfies I took
>Realize I kinda have a FAS face too. Long septum, thin upper lip, shitty nose, weird head shape.
>All along I had this face and I never realized
I was played by this huge farce called life

>cgl is the gateway into lolita for me
>enjoy browsing here
>some dickhead goes and does terrorism
>as an Australian I'm now blocked from this site
>can only access it via mobile data
Fucks sake. I mean it's reasonable, but christ my most used boards are /vp/ and here. It sucks how because of some dickhead legitimate users are affected. I just want to look at pretty dresses. I don't even know if this is permanent.

>>10129879
sorry anon, that's really stupid
i don't know if you looked into it already but apparently its only " *.4chan.org and not *.4cdn.org so if you got one of those 4chan browsing apps it may work?

Years old solid pieces are not worth $200+ anymore, it’s embarrassing seeing people still try to get that much for them

my mom is my #1 lolita hypeman and it's great. we browse new releases together, she shops around on WW and CC by herself, listens to me gab about dumb comm stuff, and ties my waist ties. we're not rich or anything but she's bought me new releases before because she just wants to see me in it. i'm lucky to have good family.

Why do so many lolitas and jfash people insist that they have fake diseases like myalgic encephalomyelitis, a.k.a. I don’t want to get a job-itis?

>>10129914
Have you never heard of Mary Magdalene...

>>10129949

>falling for bait

I don’t care about basic bitch tastes anyways, more solid burando for me.

>>10129949
I wasn’t talking about MM, my bad. Years old basic solids from BTSSB and AP shouldn’t be going for over $200 is what i meant

>>10129953
Depends on the dress, not whether there's a print or not.

>>10129962
Most old solids aren’t worth full price nearly ten years later, with minor exceptions of rare dresses.

>Live in Europe
>Want to do a nice /k/ cosplay but guns will have that ugly orange tip thing

Plus I might have to bring a replica to a station for them to check if it is indeed non-operational, could cost 40 euros... Fuck sake

>>10129914
agreed anon it's embarrassing as fuck to watch people sell and buy the same old school dresses that ive bought from japan for literally 3-5 times cheaper. Unless it's the rereleased versions or an incredibly rare print no old school dresses should really cost more than 100 dollars. It's a 10-20 year old dress that's probably never been washed why would i want to spend my hard earned money on that. No wonder people are just sticking to buying new because all the older pieces that used to be dirt cheap are the same price if not more expensive just because "it's old uwu"

>agree to do event months ago
>"oh i don't need to start working on that cosplay yet! it's okay!"
>tfw i now have 9 days left to pattern and sew an entire dress bc my lazy ass waited this long

>>10129941
Probably partly for the kawaii sick girl uwu vibes.

>>10129040
Anon everything you listed is normal. No one likes those things, you're not some special sheltered snowflake to think the way you do. That's literally just disliking people with no manners and everyone respectable feels the same way you do about them. Sad truth is that those people can't always be avoided, even outside conventions, so all you can really do is go and see how it goes. Chances are you won't even encounter that much bad behavior, and even if you do, cons are usually big enough for you to just turn around and ignore it until it goes away.

Were looking for these pieces for a looong time.. Popped up some hours ago on Violet Blue & contacted my SS immediately. A few minutes later.. both gone. Man I am salty now, look at these goddamn prices...

>>10129963
>>10129987
No one was talking about decades old dresses.

So, how old is too old to get 200 out of your solid dress?
A dress doesn't have to be rare to ask for 200+, but it does depend on the dress down to an individual level.

>>10130025
Girl..
Violet Blue does intl shipping.

>>10130029
Huh, they do? Rakuten says they don't. It's too late anyway.

>>10130026
>no one was talking about decades old dresses

Except me, I was, literally in my first comment, which is why I said "years old".

>>10130044
Anon pls.
2001 and 2014 are both 'years old'
If you mean decades, just say it that way right off.

>>10130123
you are being pedantic. i'm sorry my vent in the feels thread wasn't hyperspecific enough for you

>>10130126
It was your choice to take this personally.
Soo sorry to have offended you hun

>>10130130
I don't believe you

>>10125254
Yo, same here. If my skin looks blurred or I have prominent eyeliner, I look really uncanny. Don’t worry about it, there will always be critics.

>making friends with a new neighbor
>she really into vintage fashion, dresses very well
>knows the best vintage and thrift shops in town
>an older trans woman, has been transitioning for years
>she's not pretty but physically passes as an average dumpy 40 year old cis auntie
>I only wear super casual lolita or Liz Lisa when I hang out with her
>she's really fun
>lets me have some things from her vintage collection
>after being friends for a few weeks I finally remember to add her on fb
>my fb is full of my OTT lolita coords
>next time we hang out she's very enthusiastic about my clothes
>"anon they're so beautiful I would never have thought to put together pieces like that"
>"and you have friends who dress the same way? anon that's so nice"
>"I love that blue dress you have, where is it from? Is this a separate style? Does it have a name?"
>"I'd love to try dressing like that someday, tell me all about it"
>"I'd love to see your closet sometime"
>pic related is mfw
>give her bland non-answers and change topic asap
>feel shit all day afterwards
>tell myself she looks great in her vintage style but lolita wouldn't flatter her
>she'd have trouble finding things to fit
>she'd be really sad if people said mean things about her
>eventually I stop justifying
>actually I know some people in my comm would be instantly suspicious of her if they clocked her as being trans
>I'd get judged hard for bringing her
>I'm ugly so maybe they'd start thinking I'm trans too
>worst is I had the same suspicious gut reaction to her interest in lolita
>no sensible reason for suspicion
>it's just because she's trans

TL;DR: I'm too transphobic and desperate for my comm's approval to introduce lolita to a curious older trans friend even though said friend isn't creepy or gross

>>10129941
I don’t know but it pisses me off because I am actually sick and I can’t talk to people I’m friends with in this community about it for fear of seeming like these fake “uwu so fragile” LARPers

>>10130179
>I'm ugly so maybe they'd start thinking I'm trans too
That's hilarious and sad and I know exactly what you mean.

I'm gay on top of being unattractive, which I keep hidden. I'm paranoid my friends would feel uncomfortable. They'd think I'm trying to date them when I really just want to be friends. It doesn't occur to me that someone might love me back, so it's easy to not have ulterior motives, I genuinely simply enjoy hanging out.

I've never met another lesbian (or maybe all hide it), so I don't know how people think of them. Do they make you uncomfortable?

>>10130189
What kind of sick? I think a lot of them are genuinely delusional or just depressed, not necessarily larping for likes.

>>10129941
Why would a mentally healthy person not want to get a job?

>>10130202
I have neurological issues and can’t work, can’t drive, etc. I think it’s naive of you to think there isn’t a large group of them that do it for attention.

>>10129941
>myalgic encephalomyelitis
I actually have that, it's hell on earth. If I don't get welfare in the next half couple months I'm literally going homeless and nobody in the bureaucracy knows that shit exist so I don't get certified no matter what my unicorn specialist writes them lmao
If I wasn't to tired to deal with anything I'd probably off myself. Thinking about what my life was like before I got sick is so depressing.

>>10130179
you need to watch more anime

I ordered circle lenses and they entered America on the 15th... haven't gotten an update on tracking since..

Have they been seized?!?
Please ease my mind..

>>10130240
What were they shipped by? I got my lenses seized once, and it said so on the tracking, something like "Held for inspection by Customs". I didn't get in trouble, they just sat in limbo and got reshipped back to the seller. I told the company and they reshipped the package under faster shipping and it went through fine.

>>10130246
Do you live in America

>>10130246
DHL

>>10130250
Yes

>>10130253
Keep checking the tracking diligently. Is there an expected arrival date still? When mine got caught, the expected arrival date disappeared. If yours is stuck, it should tell you.

fuck fellas I have the worst fucking crippling insecurity about this one girl I like, it's legitimately KILLING me. I did the dumb thing and got trashed with her while she only had a beer and ended up baring most of my insecurities about dating and girls (which revolved around me wanting a GF that was into the same hobbies that I was, but that meant that I had to get to know them, and at that point I didn't want to lose them as friends if they thought I was a creep for asking them out)

now i'm not even sure if I can ask to date her since she knows i'm not the confident chad I look and act like but actually a mangle of nerves internally. seriously, I have no issue acting normally around girls but I have literally 0 experience flirting and asking people out KILLS me. people expecting me to be a total chad from my looks and faux confidence is fantastic until I actually have to prove it.

also, good (actually /CGL/ related) feel, I finished a cosplay for an upcoming con, hooray! the technique needed took me a fat 3 weeks to figure out despite looking like nothing, but I got another cosplay in the pipeline because I finished playing a game and I really liked a character from it. Hopefully I'll get it done in time for April's con!

I'm pretty sure my dad forgot my birthday, which is tomorrow. I also think he may be dating other women while still married to my mom. He's not normally a shitty person so I'm concerned but whatever
shrug emoji
>Keep it cgl related
I'm almost done sewing my jsk I guess

>>10130296
How old are you

>see cosplayer in military/police getup
>think to myself "wow, that's really impressive, they nailed the details. wonder what series they're from?"
>look closer
>it's just an actual cop/security officer
at least I've never complimented out loud, I'd probably die of embarrassment

Bohoohoo, I ruined my skin by having daily lesser meals of nothing but candy every afternoon FOR A WEEK and now I've got to cut that crap and wait for my entire face to recover.

I'm a god damn idiot, gulls

>>10126183
Hey Awooplayer#3516 how about you don't start the conversation talking about your dick size and how cool it is living in Japan cause you get to jerk off to random girls in public.

Can puvithel ever use oil in her nasty ass dry hair? The world may never know

But for real, all pictures of her with her frizzy hair does not spark joy for me.

All my recent coords have been very weird and mismatched and I have just had to admit to myself that I like them that way. I didn't get into this fashion to make safe and boring coords, the silhouette and lolita feel is still there so there's no problem. I'm scared to post them to CoF though because I'll get ripped a new one.

>drunk browsing /fit/ threads again
>it's only 1pm

>>10130422
Just don't post them. There's nothing I adore more than mismatched patterns and bright colours, but if people don't want to see it I'm not gonna force it on them. You can always post it on insta, and just not tag it as lolita.

I want to pull off gyaru, but it looks damn hard.
IMO, gyaru looks best on girls with soft, oval-shaped faces, and almond-shaped eyes. On anyone with stronger features, it just looks drag-queen like or ogreish.

>>10130309
19

>>10130123
2001 was almost 20 years ago now

>someone with 'sissy' in their username tries to dm you asking for an 'outfit critique'

>>10130493
Let me guess you’re a ogre?

>>10126183
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Is it wrong to T-pose at thots when you go to con?

>>10125921
Mind elaborating more on your sewing problem just so I can learn for reference?

>>10131133
damn, that's a nostalgic shitpost

>>10126145
I don't think I will make friends this way, will I.
How can I ever get gf If I can't even make friends...

>>10131133
Every time I see this it gives me PTSD flashbacks to when I was 12 and on deviant art posting shitty FMA fanart. I was never this bad but reading this makes me want to travel back in time and slap kid me hard across the face.

>>10131164
this sort of thing always makes me feel so strange because I never acted anything like that. It's almost like I was close to my adult self even as a kid, and I can never tell if that meant I was a mature kid or an immature adult. I guess either way I have always avoided anything that might have portrayed me as "cringy"

>>10131133
I always wonder what happened to that girl

>>10131180
She's a blacked.com regular now.

>>10131133
>tfw you acted like this straight up until 20something.

Good times, don't really regret it, but... I'm so sorry to anyone who I may have driven up the wall.

>>10131133
It was a more innocent time.

There's only 2 more weeks until VM reopens! The wait has been long...

Kinda dorky, but one of my favorite lolitas started talking to me today!

>>10131184
what made you stop? I always thought it was cute.