/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10163716
I started to wear contacts lately and realized that I don't look as white as I think and that my cheek bones are waaaay more pronounced than what I remember. I'm starting to feel self conscious even though I know its retarded.

>have been a lonelita for almost a decade but lately I’ve been thinking about joining a comm

I really dislike drama unless it’s where I can distance myself so I probably won’t, but I wish I would so I could get the chance to see prints I don’t own irl. I’m a sweet but I still appreciate classic and gothic pieces but I never get to see them in person.

>>10163721
Is there any way you can join a comm and just kind of keep yourself as arm's length from most people? More like acquaintances than friends? I don't know what the comms in your area are like, maybe they're too tight knit for that to work, but maybe there's one where everyone hangs out once in a while and it wouldn't be weird just to attend and admire the dresses.

>>10163723
I live in a major city primarily occupied by SJWs that look for drama, so sadly I’m pretty sure even if I actively remain at arms length something will happen. In fact, I think the comm might be known for drama from what I’ve read of it here.

I know of a city in another part of the state that’s a few hours drive that has a way better comm, but I don’t know if it would be weird to attend since I don’t live in the area.

>>10163728
i've attended out of state meets before and it wasn't a problem. just like rsvp to their event maybe dm the host that you're from out of town and wanted to visit for the meet.

>get interview for dopeass non-teaching job in japan, hope it goes well
>already got offer to teach English for good money in japan
>after all expenses plus voluntary retirement saving I would still have like at least $200 minimum monthly pocket money for weekend traveling, jfash, and itabag shit, and I’m a thrifter so that’s a lot for me
>but almost 26
>I don’t have full time career employment (art shit, elusive I know) on my resume since I’ve survived off freelance in college
>might want kids when I get back to the states
>teaching isn’t my career, but I also don’t LOVE sitting doing what I’m best at all day (illustration

To continue being “irresponsible” for a year and work in Japan, or buff up on graphic design programs and portfolio work for career advancement, while saving a year of my biological clock (which may or may not be of use - teaching would tell me once and for all if I have maternal instincts)?

>>10163729
I might. I have a friend in the comm so maybe I could ask her. I just don’t want to be rude.

>show up at FCBD with sister, dressed as Elsa
>kid asks her where Anna is
>"Back at our castle."
>"She's a THOT."
>ofw

>impulse buy tickets for anime expo
>decide this is going to be the real push to lose weight
>started diet, swim on the weekends, do squats at work when possible
>no eating after or before certain windows
>down 7lbs in under a week

I've got a lot to do still, I know its water weight and I'm still fat, but i'm fucking making this work and I feel good. I'm ordering smarter at restuarants and I cut out a majority of junk food (chips, cookies, cheap breakfasts).

If I can lose 20lbs, I'll be happy, but my main goal is 40lbs.

>>10163739
Eh, you can have kids into your 30s with no real added danger or consequences, it's only once you hit late 30s/early 40s that things get dicey.

I would say teach in Japan while doing art on the side but just take a more academic approach to your art. There's no reason you can't do both, really.

>lost over 100+ lbs of weight
>already lower then my goal weight
>smaller then I was in middle school now
>still have a 28-27 inch waist
>starting to get the very bad feeling that I will never slim down to 26-25 inches without hurting myself
>Starting to worry I can never wear some of my dream dresses because of this

feels bad

>>10163739
bruh you're gonna regret it for the rest of your life if you don't take that year in Japan. What's stopping you from working on your portfolio during your year stay during breaks or the weekend? I believe in you thot.

>>10163813
don't starve yourself, just get a corset or some shapewear

>lose a couple of inches off my waist
>still feel like like a complete fatass
>I wasn't even that fat to begin with

>girls don't want my attention even at a social events of people who share my interests
makes me feel like I'm just as bad as guys who try to pick up girls in a grocery store, but I can't think of a better environment.

>>10163739
I don't think you should do it if you're already thinking of returning to the states. Being in Japan for a year isn't a lot of time to form genuine connections and it is work. You're going to have little support and depending where you live $200 won't go as far as you think it will.

>>10163810
I’m just worried about the fertility, mostly. I know lots of women including my mom who had kids in their 30s, and they are healthy, but it’s still more likely to be difficult to conceive then than now.
>>10163814
My japanese teachers say I’ll regret it if I don’t go too, which has pushed me a lot. My plan was to learn current industry standard programs in my free time and come back to the States with a practical portfolio (versus my illustration one), yeah. I made a massive mistake by not just majoring in graphic design so I could have all that already but it’s just so boring...(and I thought the job market was way more oversaturated than it really is)
>>10163834
I don’t know if i will want to return. I’m such a drifter through life that I don’t really have a 5 year plan and never have. I suck. But I have lived there for four months already, doing 9-5 volunteer stuff, and this place I know isn’t the usual Japanese-owned hell hours, so I don’t think it’ll be that hard. It’s also out in the sticks (like my last experience) and the living expenses I’ve been detailed so far are dirt cheap.
If anyone here has lived in rural Japan, can you give your opinion on this breakdown? Like, am I forgetting anything besides my cheap school loans, phone bill, flight, and key money which aren’t included:
Standard visafag salary (250000円/month)
-50000円 rent -27000(?) optional car rental -15000 taxes and insurance -10000 utilities and internet -15000 groceries
Crush my spirits, tell me it’s too good to be true and that I’ll be a poorfag no matter where I go lol

>>10163808
>40 lbs
>AX is 60 days away
anon, the only way to lose that much weight in that short of time is by doing something unhealthy. Don't do that.

>>10163813
some people are just built like refrigerators. sorry about your genetics.

>>10163847
Your "biological clock" isn't gonna run out at 27 or 28. You have plenty of times to have kids. So what if it takes a couple of tries to get pregnant when you're in your early 30s?

>>10163847
>I’m just worried about the fertility, mostly.
Get some eggs frozen, then?

> Partner leaves me after 3 years of living together for a 20 year old cosplayer
> I’m 10 years older than said cosplayer
> She dyes her hair same color as mine and starts wearing the same fashion as me
> It now hurts to wear cute Jfashion, because the dresses now remind me of her and the only person I ever loved and felt happy with for the first time in my life

This is really depressing.

>>10163930
It’s not you anon- shitty men will always be shitty and always fluctuate to something newer and better (in their eyes). Always remember your own self worth and that you are valid and matter. Don’t tie your happiness to a man and stop stalking them both. Block them and be gone.

>>10163876
>28 inch waist
>Fridge body
Nice bait, dismorphia chan

I was just informed that I apparently had my dick sucked when I was passed out after being drunk at a con late last year
I really don't know how to feel

>>10163972
how did you find out? do you know who it was? get tested ASAP

>>10163930
she's desperately trying to be you, which says a lot about how much he's trying to mold her in your image. find yourself someone who isn't trash and move on

>>10163999
Someone brought it up as if I knew and consented, I figured it was a joke but nah. I was told it stopped at a bj but I don't know if it went any further.
Yes, I know who it is but I have no idea how to confront them as I'm really scared of the situation being reversed on me and getting metoo'd. I've seen her multiple times at different cons and she's never mentioned this to me, never brought it up and never changed how she acted around me.

>tested
Looking into getting tested asapt, she doesn't sleep around and isn't sexually active herself (or at least isn't to my knowledge) so I think I might be safe.

>>10164005
>isn’t sexually active
>sucks randos dicks while drunk

Yeah, nah, she is.

>>10163970
You literally cannot tell whether someone has a fridge body from just knowing their waist measurement, but if you think a 28 inch waist is small then you are delusional.

>>10164005
>complaining about getting your dick sucked
Get a load of this faggot

>>10163873
Oh I meant long term goal was 40lbs- I'd like to lose around 20lbs by Anime Expo, but I need to lose around 40-50lbs to be back in a weight I felt healthy and happier at.

>>10164013
Ok ana calm down

>>10164013
They are probably tall or something. 28 in waist is pretty small on tall people.
Proportions are weird.

>Been living with PTSD for years
>Lolita has always been a distraction for me that helps me keep my mind busy with constantly shopping, brainstorming coord ideas, trying on clothes, etc.
>Suddenly dad who's been absent since pre-teen years finds me on facebook and messages me asking to meet
>Immediately get PTSD triggered and fall into an emotional rut that I can't get out of
>This was new year's day, it's almost halfway into the year and I was still in the rut
>Lolita hardly keeps me distracted anymore, can never get the energy to dress up or look for deals or anything
>Missed out on dream dress I've been hunting for about a year while in this state
>Feel like all is hopeless and like the one thing that I actually love has finally been taken away from me and I have nothing to keep my mind from snapping anymore
>Friend gives me LSD saying it'll help
>He watches over me while I trip, has me write feelings down and records some of my monologues
>Go down some weird rabbit hole on youtube and discover music genres that I fall in love with while tripping
>Rediscover my love of lolita
>Realize that I'm putting too much blame on my father for something he couldn't actually protect me from
>Have motivation to go back to school
>Tell this all to my therapist who just kinda nods smiling and tells me that she wishes it was a legal substance because this isn't the first time she's heard of something similar

What the fuck, guys? I've been on a cocktail of PTSD medications my entire life that have varied from being ineffective to just barely working. You're telling me some fuckin squares of paper were what I needed instead? I'm just so happy that I was able to discover this. Like, don't get me wrong it's not like I'm "cured" or don't have things to work on but this was the largest boost I've had emotionally in forever.

It really felt like a lifechanging experience. I probably took too much for a first time because it felt overwhelming at times but maybe that's what I needed.

>>10164068
LSD is the fucking shit, anon. I'm glad it helped you out. Smart of him to watch over you during your first time as well, the way it should be done
>tfw no lolita gf to trip with

>>10164068
Do I need to do LSD?

>>10164072
3 tabs is how many I took. Forgot how much was in each tab. You're supposed to just take 1 to start
and build up when you feel you can take it. But I had someone I trusted with me so felt comfortable with going heavy.

>>10163813
I also have a 27 inch waist anon, I have a more square bodytype, but it's fine for lolita honestly.
I've never struggled too much to fit things and i wear old school. Shapewear is really key and can cut an inch off your waist, get into corseting to modify your body.
I know it might be sad your body isn't perfect but no one is 100 percent happy with their body. I'm really glad you lost all that weight, I bet you look amazing and it must have taken a lot of work.

I went to my first comm meet this weekend and I was super worried and nervous since I was wearing handmade but every one was so nice and I had so much fun <3 I had a really lovely time and I'm excited to go to more meets in the future :')

>>10164068
I should give this a shot. It's about as good as any if the other ideas my therapist or I have come up with to tackle my PTSD when I'm not in his office

>>10164094
Good for you! Normal lolitas are nice in real life. People get scared because of how harsh people are online, but even the people here are just venting. Most are real nice.

>cosplay shit arrives for my first con ever
>realize how fucking horrendously ugly and genetically fucked i really am
>already spent all my money on this shit

nostalgia is making me want to buy the old bodyline prints I used to love, even though I have all the brand I want

>>10163752
ok, I saw a similar post on /toy/

>>10164072
Mushrooms are especially good to use if you're looking to help your depression. there's a lot of research that suggests it also helps with bipolar, bpd, cptsd, anxiety, general/severe depression, and other stuff i'm forgetting

>>10164155
>toy
Ah, I see you too are a woman of culture

Just got my first salary job. Im gonna buy so much burando.

>>10164174
making how much in what area? how much are you going to spend?

I’ve been wanting to find a cute cosplay gf, but I’m starting to wonder if that’ll ever happen. I mean it seems like there are so many gay girls into cosplay, but every time I meet one they already have a gf. A part of me also wonders if I should just give up and date someone normal and boring

>>10164201
Why does it have to be all or nothing though? Maybe you won't date someone who cosplays, but that doesn't mean you have to date a total boring normie. It's entirely possible to date someone who shares your other interests and supports you cosplaying, even if they don't actively participate in it themselves.

>>10163808
Loosing over 2 pounds a week will result you in gaining it all back later anon, don't do it.

I keep flip-flopping on whether I want this gd dress or not. The print looks so gorgeous from a distance, and I’m stunned every time someone posts a coord with it on CoF. But then the rabbits have kinda derpy anatomy if you look closely. Please give me a reason to either definitively love it or definitively hate it.

>>10164214
That's a bunny loaf on the left! It could've been framed better but it's really cute imo. If you like this colorway and can coord it with what you have in your wardrobe, I say go for it.

>>10163728
>I think the comm might be known for drama from what I’ve read of it here
That’s your issue. Take what you read on cgl with a grain of salt. In my experience it’s the individuals who go out of their way to tell you “watch out for X” and “what do you think of Y” that are the real sources of drama. I found myself disliking people before I even had the chance to know them. Once I actually made an effort to know the people in my comm and stopped listening to gossipers and /cgl/ I realized which people I really had to look out for and now I can enjoy my comm and meetups to the fullest, and for being in a “dramatic” comm, I haven’t seen much drama.

>>10164192
36k in south jersey to start off with with a raise after 90 days based on review.
And probably spending mostly on meta.

>>10164224
And probably get a dress every other month or so plus accessories.
I have almost all my dream dresses and will just buy things to catch my eye.
I already have 23 main pieces.

>>10164068
they're currently running experiments on shrooms and their effects on managing depression, so this sounds completely plausible to me. Glad you achieved some clarity, anon.

>>10164106
now this is a feel i can relate to.

>Starting to care about the amount of likes I get
Is this the start of the end lads

>>10164326
I just cant imagine really caring about these kinds of things. Like I assume the people who post their ig likes or followers in their stories and care about those kinds of things are vain and insecure.

>tfw 2Kawaii4Comfort hasn't updated for 514 days

>>10164214
Its derpy, but not as bad as the pic. Il lay it flat and take photos tomorrow anon. I have always kept white rabbits so it spoke to me. Enchantlic enchantillys queen bunny may pique your interest, nicely drawn, a bit more complex. There was a cute phone cover of a bunny chinning an apple on their site a while ago.

>>10164354
>chinning
what?

>>10164326
I never really cared about the number of likes I got, but the more I got the more I had anxiety over if what I was posting was what people wanted to see because it felt like they “expected” something of me once I reached 1300~ likes. Eventually I deleted my socials and it made me feel much better to stop worrying about it.

>>10164201
I'm in the same boat, but if you think about it from a grander scheme; cosplay happens, what, 2-5 weekends a year for most people?

You and I are probably a million times more likely to find a "regular girl" and get her interested in cosplay than to find a "cute cosplay gf" and get them interested in us.

But god damn does it feel shitty seeing all these cute happy couples walking around in cosplay at cons. I think post-con depression means something very different for me than it does for other people.

If a seller hasn't shipped your item, how long do you wait until you start a claim/case and demand a refund?

>>10164370
did you message them about it yet? ask them about it, if they dont reply threaten a case against them. usually i give 2 weeks before filing a claim if they dont update me at all

>>10164370
It depends on the seller. If they have a time range on their listing it’s a dick move to start a claim or ask for a refund. You’ll also probably lose the case if you do that.

>>10164106
makeup! makeup! makeup!

>>10164349
I've just accepted that it will never happen at this point.

>>10164217
Bunny loaf! That’s so cute. I’ll try to re-train my mind to think “bunny loaf” instead of “derpy bunny”.

>>10164354
That’s good. And that would help a lot, thank you so much anon!
And I’m so obsessed with the way Enchantlic Enchantilly draws their bunnies. I picked up the Queen Bunny OP and one of their bunny rings. I’d hoard all their bunny prints and accessories (including the phone case!) if I could.

>>10164005
Are you sure it even happened? Sounds fake

>Unaware of my face whenever I get a picture taken
>Whenever I pose and get a picture of myself back, ends up looking like pic related
How do I become more aware of my face when taking a picture? (Not squinting, learning angles, etc.)

>>10164441
I just refuse to let anyone take pictures of me

>Been wearing pretty much only j-fashion and himekaji for years but always wanted to get into lolita

>Finally get up the courage to order decently priced Baby dress and a nice quality petti

>Not keeping in mind the 10+ pounds I’ve unwillingly gained after being put on a new anti-depressant

>Look in the mirror after lots of saving up and searching only to see too chubby for a sillouhette that looks good

>feelsbadman.jpeg

At least I have a goal to work towards this summer. And I should be getting off the SSRI soon.

>>10164441
Get a tripod, a bluetooth remote, and practice

>>10164005
>>10164018
Assault against males is real and happens more often than you think. I have at least three male friends who it has happened to, one with a teacher, and the other two were preyed upon by a friends drunken mom, waking up with their pants off and her in their room at a sleepover.

Oftentimes they'll try to pass it off as funny or something, to save face as a ~strong man~ but I've been through abuse and I'd be horrified and definitely permanently effected if something happened that defied my bodily autonomy like that. It's a fucking shame that as a society we don't take male victims seriously.

That said, this is the internet and people have been known to lie on here. If I was in anon's place, I'd talk to my friends and let them know I wasn't aware such a thing took place, and to keep an eye out for each other as friends at future cons. If there were witnesses and you were unconsciousness, there's no way it can get flipped that she was somehow victimised. It should be known that she assaulted you. You may be surprised how people will react and support you. The thing about metoo culture is it's opening a dialogue for people of all genders and backgrounds (see terry crews)

>>10164068
>>10164072
>>10164158
Fuck yeah, retrain your neural pathways! Atonement is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. What's the point in holding onto anger and grudges if the other person is oblivious/doesn't care about how they hurt you?

>>10164441
I just slap a kawaii line sticker on my face and call it a day t b h

>>10164475
If you’re too fat to look good in lolita you’re definitely too fat to look good in himekaji.

It sounds dumb, but I really didn’t realize how bad sexual harassment at cons were until I actual wore a sexy cosplay. I know everyone is gonna say it’s my fault for wearing what I wore. But I always thought the harassment was over exaggerated until now.

>>10164520
Kind of the same story here. I've never had any guy harass me or do anything sexist to my face in my life, the only time I've ever been sexually harassed ever was at a con. Two guys back to back groped me as they pushed through the crowd at the rave. I was wearing a sexy cosplay as well.

>>10163847
Unless your job is matching the equivalent of a 401k focus on paying off your school loan before saving for retirement. Make principal payments dammit.
Also, see about buying a car instead of renting, you'll get more value out of it (unless insurance is weird there)

>>10164441
Unironically practice in a mirror

>>10164521
>>10164520
That's fucked up, anons. There's no excuse for intruding another person's space and making them uncomfortable. I'm guessing you don't wear outlandish fashion or make yourself super noticeable outside of cosplay? Cos it's like, if you're a visible female, you attract a certain kindof attention whether it's intentional or not. You essentially are seen as public property. I've worn alt fashion since i was a teen so it's never been a surprise to have people comment, touch me or my clothes, or be otherwise inappropriate in a public setting. At least I'm desensitised to it i spose.

The first time i ever went out clubbing, I was dragged to some shitty normie club with a group of friends. I was wearing a floral sundress, tights and boots so nothing super skimpy or attention-grabbing, and in the space of 5 minutes, whilst alone and waiting for my friends in the bathroom, i had three separate guys touch me as they walked past. One just lightly brushed my cheek with his fingers without saying anything and it was super creepy. But i bet some /r9k/ shitlord who hasn't seen the sun in years is gonna try bait me or something. Sad, that I can't just live my life without some guy feeling he has to try and bring me down.

>>10164520
>>10164521
In my experience cons are worse than daily life when it comes to sexual harassment and just plain antisocial touching. I’ve never done sexy cosplay but at every con I’ve been to I’ve gotten sexual comments or had someone grab my body through my costume or outfit or lift part of it up “to see what’s underneath”. People seem to think that putting on a costume or unusual outfit makes you public property. My husband has never gotten sexual comments but his one costume involves a big hat and every. single. con. someone tries to snatch it off his head.

I get that cons tend to attract sociallly awkward people but there’s really nothing complicated or nuanced about not grabbing complete strangers without permission. I think most of them know exactly what they’re doing and just use “It’s a convention! Lighten up!” as an excuse.

>met a qt a party who is into anime and cosplay
>had fun talking and exchanged numbers
>blew it when texting her because i come on too strong

let me love you, dammit

>>10164224
Nayrt, but that breaks down to 50 cents more an hour than I currently get paid and I just quit my job because they pay me too little. My goal is at least 50k, and even that makes me feel poor.

>>10164519

Just received my first coord and everything fit perfectly and looked cute as heck! I'm so happy! I've adored lolita for years but I was always too scared to try it myself, but this year I promised myself I'd try doing all the things I've always wanted to do so I finally made the plunge. I can't wait to go out and take some cute pictures!

>>10164005
Get tested and tell the clinic what happened. They can document you were a victim of a crime and provide you with additional information for what you should be testing for.

Consider contacting the authorities, but male victims are taken less seriously than female victims. Don't let it deter you, because you at least have someone with authority investigating and even if nothing comes out of it, when she does this again it gives the next victim more backing. You can talk to her, but I don't see the point. She knows what she did was wrong and she still chose to not get your consent. She'll just pretend the situation was different to protect her ass.

>place TB order a week ago
>takes three days for tracking number to even start working
>doesn't update for another three days
>finally updates!
>hasn't even left China yet
>getting returned to sender

I've never had this issue before, every other TB order I've made arrives in less than a week. I have a prop in there which is maybe why it's being sent back, but it's nothing that looks "dangerous" so I can't really imagine. So bummed considering I have a con next week and I'll probably have to scrounge up something older to wear.

>>10164068
Anon, I'm kinda curious about your ptsd if you're comfortable sharing. Only because I'm trying to learn more about it for my SO who suffers from it. Like the event that caused it, why triggers you have, etc.

>>10164623
maybe you should ask your SO instead of a stranger on the internet

I know it's the feels thread but you shouldn't be posting your life story on 4chan

My first ever brand piece, a headbow, snapped in my bag today. The fabric is still holding it together, but it's completely unusable for the rest of my trip. I'm so distraught. My coord plans are ruined. I don't want to buy a fresh bit of epoxy glue to fix it this urgently, or settle for anything less, so my only choice is to wait until I get to my stash at home.

Within my turmoil of feelings I have to admit that this is the most on topic feel I've ever had for a feels thread. Fuck my life.

>brand new to lolita
>post honey cake wtb in facebook group
>girl messages me offering op for 450
>she assures me google wallet is safe to pay through
>i'm an idiot too blinded by excitement to do proper research
>gets scammed
>google wallet support says lol

I'm an idiot and heartbroken.

>>10164681
That sucks. Did you report them to all the Facebook sales groups?

mfw no rich boyfriend to help fund my lolita wardrobe

>>10164691
where is your face though

maybe if you had a face you would get boyfriend

>wear 90% lolita for 8 years
>in formative years
>never developed good taste in other clothes
>use lolita cookie-cutter formula for everything
>want to wear other things
>have no idea if I like a garment or if I like it because someone else does
>nothing seems to suit me

I still want to wear Lolita a lot, but I've made so many attempts to build a small, casual-normie wardrobe and I always end up getting rid of everything apart from absolute basics because it looks so weird on me. Some days I want to just blend in, but it makes me feel like I stand out more than ever.

>>10164098
If you do please research beforehand! Luckily my friend was really into psychedelics before hand so was able to give me the most comforting rundown. He said the most important thing to remember is that you aren't going to die from it, there's no danger of overdose, no matter how fearful you are it'll go away, etc. And having him there made me feel like I was safe. I kinda forgot who he was at some point and got scared but he understood and gave me space to remember he's safe.

>>10164277
Really hoping they find out more about these treatment options.

>>10164623
Not comfortable sharing, sorry.

>>10164681
Fuckin yikes, please report her. I'm sorry this happened to you.

I have a whole lolita closet that I have collected over the years and at this point its like over 40 dresses but I dont really care to wear them
It feels like a waste as they just stay hanged in the closet but I feel like I like collecting them as weird pieces of art

I have a lot of rare pieces and sometimes see people post about them on the dream dress and feel bad that I never wear them

>>10164681
Report the bitch

>>10164768
You could clear out your closet and get some new pieces anon! I know I personally like rotating my wardrobe so i don't get bored with what i'm wearing. what's been making you not wear your dresses anon?

>>10164715
Girl, just pick up a fucking fashion magazine. Most normies can't put together an outfit to save their lives either. There's literally an entire industry based off of having someone with good taste do the hard part for you. Brands will even put out lookbooks so you know how to actually wear that dress you like from Brand X without looking like a total idiot.

>>10164820
>>10164715
You can try one of those TrunkClub/Stitch Fix/ clothing box things, too. Might be a good start.

>ask friend-of-friend if she has the $20 she owes me from the con
>says she doesn't because Domino's fired her, but suggests there are "other ways" she can pay me back
>mfw I'd rather have the $20
Why is this hobby so full of hoes?

>>10164837
If they're giving out favors I'll buy her off you for $30

>>10164837
Ew.

>>10164886
I did not want this thottie on my wiener. She is hot but mad schitzo and will c

>>10164893
>mad schitzo and will c
She got him boys

Crazy schitzo chick if you're reading this I'm super into crazy chicks so feel free to hmu.

>>10164893
>She is hot but mad schitzo and will c
A salute for our fallen comrade.

>>10164681
theres a special level of hell for people that pull this kind of shit. im so sorry for u

>>10164893
>I did not want this thottie on my wiener
Iconic.

>>10164837
Tell it it better be in video games and/or burando.

>>10163716
>Reusing Ladybug from previous year
>Can't find mask in the weeks leading up to con
>Can't find yoyo either, give up because it's not ABSOLUTELY necessary
>Have to make new mask last minute
>New mask is terrible
>Got paint on face
>Get to con
>Realize left Miraculous at home
>Wig was not cooperating
>Ribbons kept falling off
>Lost weight since last time so costume was too big
>Costume startED RIPPING IN A COUPLE PLACES HALFWAY THROUGH THE DAY (not enough to actually notice but if you got close the fabric looked thin in places)
>Saw someone cosplaying what I was planning on cosplaying the next day and cried because theirs looked so much better than mine
It was supposed to be an easy, lazy Friday. I didn't ask for this.

>>10164837
I'd tell her she can pay you in milwaukee's best and canned pinto beans

I need to sell my clothes but I'm a lazy asshole.

>>10165068
Fuck u I'm hungry now

Walked in on my husband in the bathroom wearing my skirt and masturbating then he turned to me and said now you have to help

>>10165106
Yikes. I’d want couples counseling for shit like that, it crosses a boundary.

>>10165106
>now you have to help
Well did you?

>>10165107
>not being comfortable enough with your partner to be able to do things like that
I think you're the one that needs some counseling

>>10165111
Yeah. Not ashamed to say I did

>>10165114
Based

>walking through hotel
>see swimsuit MeMeMe cosplayer
>"Hey, nice!"
>she gives me a look
>mfw I notice she was coming from the hotel pool
>mfw I just creeped on a random teenager with blue hair

>>10164629
Get a plain headband from a Dollar General and put the band in where the broken one was. It takes 3 minutes to fix. How useless can you be. BAKA

I had to cut off somebody I'd been friends with for years a few weeks ago and it's been eating me up. He got blackout drunk at a con party and started trying to start fights with everybody around, harassed every woman in sight, and so on. During the incident I was approached by several people, including an off-duty con staffer, who told me that this was far from the first time he's done something like this and that he was actually banned from attending the con proper and was on a "watchlist" kind of thing with access control. Oh, and it was made pretty clear to me that if he was with me I pretty much wasn't at all welcome in the local con scene.

I managed to drag him out of the con and he spent the 20 minute ride home unleashing the most biting torrent of insults and abuse on me that I've ever experienced outside of a bad relationship, not just general insults but shit he would've had to really have internalized to come up with while so drunk. I know I'm almost certainly in the right to call it quits after that, but it still feels like shit.

>>10165181
Did you try to get an explanation first? What were they like sober?

>manage to get my hands on two limited edition plushies for a cheaper price than expected on March 21st
>super stoked and wait patiently for them to arrive
>April 20th arrives and still no sign but It's fine they're coming from Japan
>check shipping one day to see how it's going
>mfw it was delivered April 3rd
>message parents since It was delivered to their house
>'we haven't gotten any parcels for you anon'
>que
>check tracking again and all the details are there down to the time it was delivered
>wait a few more weeks just in case it was a mess up
>still no parcel as of today
>phone up the Mail carriers and have to open an investigation
>mfw I now have to wait 7-10 working days to see if the interrogated postman remembers where he put my anime plushies

I just wanted cute Naruto plushies gulls....

I'm using this upcoming con to see if I should break up with my bf. I feel very guilty about it, but for some reason at cons he changes SO much in personality and makes the weekend miserable. At one of the last cons we went to my Saturday night ended with me crying in a convention center hallway and going to bed early and in complete quiet. He's promised to change but if this next weekend goes badly I think I'm done. It sounds like such a silly thing to break up over, but cons are the one thing I do for myself and I don't want to spend my best years having an awful time at every single one. I can't go to them without him because I feel guilty and he makes "joking" remarks about me cheating on him, or partying too much, things like that. I feel like I haven't had a good con experience in almost two years. And desu, Colossal's coming up and I don't want to be made to feel like a shitty person for wanting to go swimming or having a couple drinks. I hate it.

>>10165347
You sound pretty done with him already. Why don't you break up beforehand and party this con instead?

>Tickets and hotel rooms
Yeah but whatever. Dump him.

>>10165347
I agree with the other anon. I am older now, but in my prime years I used to have a big group of friends at cons and this shit would go down every con. Cons are exciting social events and everyone's emotions somehow get cranked up to 11.
You are just asking for con drama with this stuff. Be aware of that. Don't be the person in the room who breaks up with their boyfriend midweekend and forces everyone rooming with you to deal with the awkwardness.
If what you are saying is that bad you already have the grounds to break up with him. It doesn't mean he is a monster, you are just not compatible and you shouldn't feel bad finishing it off.

>>10165347
Yeah he sounds shitty I'm not usually one to say break up buuut if he is an asshat at cons but won't let you go do your own thing without him without giving you shit then it doesn't sound worth it to stick around to me.

>>10165370
Yeah, don't break up with him because we say so, but remember we are saying it based on the information you gave us.
If that is really how you feel really think about it.

>stuck in Switzerland with nowhere else to go
is it possible to learn german in a year so i get an apprenticeship ???
>3 year apprenticeship is designed for you to work full time for below living wage
>mfw i wont b able to afford anything for 4plus years
>mfw i will b too old for sweet lolita by then

jwaited two weeks for a callback for a job i interviewed strongly for, got turned down. told i did well but their other two candidates were more experienced

currently in limbo of other job prospects and may end up canceling for paradiso. a couple of friends got in, i didn't and that's ok, though i admit it stung after they told me how sure they were that i would get in too. but my self-esteem both career-wise and privately is mega shot. i'm having trouble staying motivated to eat, though i could stand to lose a few pounds.

my friends and bf are doing their best to cheer me up, but i'm having trouble accepting that im good at anything because the things i am good at don't pay my bills/lolita/cosplays and they don't make me feel better about myself other than my ability to give to others.

>>10165406
This is a weird recommendation, but I was in a similar place last year and I ended up reading the Konmari book. It sounds dumb, but sorting through my life and looking for stuff I really enjoyed, even little things, really helped me get out of my funk. Also plus side it is a pretty much free hobby when you are having money problems and effected how I spend my money afterward.
It doesn't have to be Konmari, but finding someway to examine your life in a systematic way might help. Sorry if I sound hippy dippy, it just really helped me.

>>10165406
This is a weird recommendation, but I was in a similar place last year and I ended up reading the Konmari book. It sounds dumb, but sorting through my life and looking for stuff I really enjoyed, even little things, really helped me get out of my funk. Also plus side it is a pretty much free hobby when you are having money problems and effected how I spent my money afterward. It really helped me consolidate my lolita wardrobe too and make it work better together.
It doesn't have to be Konmari, but finding someway to examine your life in a systematic way might help. Sorry if I sound hippy dippy, it just really helped me.

>>10164681
Man GooglePay is a decent alternative to Paypal. Why do scammers have to ruin this.

>>10165416
No it isnt

>>10165411
thanks, i actually did start doing some tidying up a couple of weeks ago. a free hobby is nice, so i'll take you up on that

>>10165418
Yes it is if you aren't dealing with a scammer. And idk if they changed something in their terms but last year they still had buyer protection too.

>>10164475
your problem is you don't know your measurements and you didn't order accordingly.
make sure you know your underbust, waist, bust, and shoulder measurements in cm. you do not have to lose weight in order to wear lolita. DDs are another story, but 10lbs is not a big deal.

feel free to put that dress off to the side, or sell it, in favor of a main piece you can wear and enjoy! leave yourself at least 5cm below max for every measurement for comfort.

>>10164520
>>10164521
It's not your fault, you would think with the hundreds of signs that they hang around the convention center saying "cosplay =/= consent" people would understand.

I've seen at least 2 or 3 people randomly in public the past 2 years that look and dressed just like android 18. I wanted to ask them if they were cosplaying or just a coincidence but I feel like that would be extremely awkward if they have no idea what i'm talking about.
what do

hi
What do I need to get a /cgl/ gf?

>>10165693
Money.

>>10165698
how much, realistically for what type of girl?

>>10165701
If you want any sort of quality you’d have to have money for $300 dresses regularly(read weekly)

>>10165704
I can do that. will she love me if I will?

>>10165710
My bf buys me all kinds of stuff because it makes him feel good I guess but I draw the line at him buying me lolita. I don’t know why, but it’s important to me that my wardrobe is all bought by myself (and not sullied by man money)

>>10165717
>not sullied by man money
what does this mean exactly?

so was the answer to my question yes or no?

>>10165151
Very cool snapshot of lolita vs cosplayer thinking here

>>10165725
Just get a girl who actually likes you. Be clean, take care of yourself and have a decent personality. Then spoil her on her bdays and holidays. Well... if you want a longterm gf.

Otherwise for short term just throw money at cgl gulls faces and see who takes.

As for >>10165717's response, some gulls prefer to build their wardrobe themselves, carefully selecting and working hard for each piece.

>>10165710
Only if her love language is gift giving.

>>10165731
>Be clean, take care of yourself and have a decent personality.
I like to believe I do, but maybe the last part is wishful thinking.
I'm hoping I could be able to work hard in some quantifiable way to finally get a girlfriend, and earning a surplus of 16k a year doesn't seem hard at all, compared to changing my entire persona... I guess having a girlfriend that pretends to like my personality for money is better than one who genuinely loves a fake personality.

>>10165736
Oof.

Boi. Boi? Boi.
Money doesn't substitute personality. But maybe that's just me. I don't mean be fake, but don't be the crazy guy who screams at pigeons at the train station. Or who thinks it's okay to randomly sniff people. (The bar is pretty low these days.)

Have hobbies, be respectful, treat other people well and don't be a creep or the human equivalent of extra dry toast. Good luck anon!

>>10165730
Any real lolita worth spit-all knows how to fix something as simple as a headbow, a button, replace elastic. Coslolis can gtfo my egl.

>>10165745
>Money doesn't substitute personality.
I know this, but maybe it could make me desirable without having to pretend to be someone else.

I like to think my personality is good enough to have gotten a girlfriend, yet I continue to not have any girls interested in me.
I'm definitely not creepy to girls, if anything I am too apprehensive to try to get their attention.
Maybe I am just the human equivalent of dry toast

>>10165749
Having money to get a woman just starts to sound mail-order-wifey to me.

Just get out there anon! A little bit at a time, slowly work up being around women. Then maybe you'll meet a girl who'd be more than happy to scrape off the crustier parts to get to the goodness that is underneath. She can be the butter to your toast!

Sorry, I'm hungry.

>>10165350
>>10165364
Most what first anon said lol, tickets and hotel has been paid for. Luckily we're rooming by ourselves, so if things go sour we won't cause too much of a disturbance. I've been in awkward room situations and I'm not trying to do that to anyone else. Also another reason why it might happen before Colossal, where we would be with other people.

>>10165370
>>10165373
You guys aren't wrong, I see where you're coming from. My only "real" reason for holding off is that we had a big, heavy discussion recently where we almost broke up, and during that I brought this convention issue up to him. He acknowledged how he's "ruined" cons for me before and promised to be better, and this is the first con since that where he can hopefully put it into practice. I guess I just want to see if he's going to be true to his word, or continue being weird and controlling during this con too. And outside of cons, our relationship is pretty healthy and happy, and I want to take that into consideration. But cosplay is one of my main hobbies, and having someone cause so much stress around it that I never asked for... fucken sucks.

>>10165756
so you are saying I just need to keep doing what I am and it will happen eventually? That's what I had thought, but as I keep trying and get no results I lose hope. It's common to get the claim that looks don't matter for men that much but I wanted to remain hopeful and think that If I got /fit/ I would have no problem... but I guess they were right.
I know I still have lots of time before I'm just too old, but it feels terrible to be missing out now.

>>10165771
Well I mean, how long has it been since you dated? Are you trying to go out and talk to people? Or reach out when there's a friend finder thread here?

You have to take the leap, man. Make some new friends, that could lead to other connections, maybe a date. If you want a gullfriend, meet up with some people here. Can't guarantee if it'll turn into friendship or more, but who knows?

>>10165774
Not that anon, but I've tried all that for 5 year and no luck. :/

>>10165777
Don't give up hope anon. I'm a girl, pretty average in looks, not too fat or skinny or ugly, not a crazy weirdo either, but I never met men that were single and or interested, so it was ~10 years before I finally got another bf after my last relationship. It was pretty depressing, especially when you always hear shit about how easy it is as a woman to get dates, but yeah... eventually it happened. just go out and do stuff that makes you happy and be in situations where you meet people and it will happen eventually.

I commissioned someone for a jewelry price back in right before CNY and haven't seen a single picture of any work being done. I understood there'd be a delay due to CNY but this feels too long. Should I say something? I know I'll I've the chance to see them in person soon but I'm unsure if I'm bring impatient or if they're obscenely slow.

>>10165777
I feel like it's pretty rough out there for singles these days. Short of summoning a wife from another dimension, what can you do? If it's been stressful, step away from it and take time for yourself. I wish you luck as well, don't give up hope.

>>10165774
Never ever.
I'm 20, and I suppose I have been trying for about 6 years, although even as a kid I wanted to get married.
I go out, and I try to talk to women when I get the chance, but I always seem to get a neutral at best reaction, as if (who would have thought) they didn't go where I met them because they were having a hard time fining an average man. It feels really bad contributing to the problem of many women being uncomfortable with how much attention they get

>>10165793
>20
You're not even old enough to drink. You're basically still a kid. Just work on yourself anon. Groom, have interesting hobbies, be invested in bettering yourself, work on making friends and building a social circle. Eat well, enjoy life. Romance is the kind of thing that happens when you're not actively seeking it a lot of the time, and if you're struggling to find a romance it means you have room to grow.

>>10165793
So young...

Butteredtoast anon here, I thought you were like mid-thirties. Dude what's the rush?

As >>10165795 said, just enjoy life, romance will come. It's fun, but there's more to life than dating. Don't stress too much, you'll be alright!

>>10165793
>20
>for 6 years
So you tried dating when you were 14, with other 14 or so years old I presume, with the intention of marriage? I think the issue with people is that they expect to find their one true love like in the movies and that everything will just ‘click’. Finding someone to share happy times with is great, but it’s not like you can’t have fun on your own or that you’ll suddenly have fun if you get into a relationship. You’re only 20 so just focus on building friendly connections and establishing yourself first.

I was doing an inventory of my closet when I realised my iron gate was eaten by moths in several places. I put Cedar chips in my wardrobe so I was absolutely freaking out, how did this happen to me. I was crying and wondering if there was any way I could fix it.

And then I woke up. I've never been so relieved that something was a dream.

>>10165802
I just really long for it, especially while I am still young. I know I am already a bit of an abnormality for my age, and I'm worried it's going to be a problem soon.
I guess most of all I wanted someone to go places with. I had hoped to meet some girls at a con but I know a lot of girls here have enough trouble with too many guys trying to get their attention already.

>>10165818
>So you tried dating when you were 14, with other 14 or so years old I presume, with the intention of marriage?
no, I'm saying that I was never dating, it's just that then I thought "alright, I am capable of sexual attraction now, I am ready to date!" It's no like I was wanting to rush into marriage or something, I was just saying that it wasn't like I had no intention of ever dating before 6-7 years ago.

>>10165830
Well it sounds like you are on the right track.
Not in the "con girls are easy way", but if you like anime or comics going to social events that revolve around that is a good move.
When I was your age I made group of con friends and in the long run a bunch of us paired off. Stuff like that just happens over time.
Just get yourself out there and it will come.
Go to meet ups and stuff at cons too. I met all my friends through /cgl/ meet ups back in the day. Just don't come expecting to find a girlfriend in one of the gulls. Meeting people, even other guys, leads to meeting their friends and eventually that will help you meet the right girl. Plus having other guy friends means they have your back and can help you make a move when you find the right girl.

>>10165833
Everyone looks like shit and acts awkward when they're a teen. I'm 25 and have a successful dating life but didn't start til I was 18. 6 years isn't a lot when you're only 20 years old. Most people don't have the "intention of every dating" before age 14.

>>10165830
Everyone starts dating at different times. When I was a kid some of my friends started dating early at 11-13. I had my first boyfriend my senior year of high school, which isn't too far from your age. Some people start after college. It'll happen.

>>10165818
I started dating at around age 15 and last date was age 17. i'm 23 now.

>it’s not like you can’t have fun on your own

I can't though. Going to con alone is absolutely depressing. I've done it twice and I had never been more miserable in my entire life. Being surrounded by people having fun while you are alone is depressing.

>or that you’ll suddenly have fun if you get into a relationship

I was before

>>10165955
Try to meet people online to meet up with at cons.
Facebook, cosplay forums, discords.

>>10164543
you imply what you need to do to correct it but then say something ignorant&backwards all in the same breath...

>>10165830
I know that feel bro
I still haven't gotten one but I'm on my summer cut and should have real abs soon with a lean body. Do a sexy male cosplay that shows this of and you'll be good to go. At that point whichever gulls want a qt3.14 nerdy cosplay bf that can OHP them on command will come out of the woodwork and swoon for you.
>t. /fit/ multiboarder

>>10165968
>OHP
??? wdym by this?

>>10165983
Overhead press
It's where you lift and object entirely over your head

>>10165983
>>10166020
Related video https://youtu.be/SMCvMNSV6BU

>>10164160
actually, I'm a filthy crossboarding male

>>10165914
>I'm 25 and have a successful dating life but didn't start til I was 18. 6 years isn't a lot when you're only 20 years old. Most people don't have the "intention of every dating" before age 14.
you misunderstand, I'm saying that I only WANTED to date for about the last 6 years, but have yet to get a single one. before the last 6 years, I only had a tentative desire to date, when I started being attracted to girls.
I guess that's too much info, the point is that I have always wanted it for many years, and literally could not have failed any worse for 6 years.
>>10165901
Thank you for your encouragement. Do you
have any advice to avoid my fears of being lumped in with the other creeps, or bothering them?

>>10166108
How many chicks have you actually approached?
What's your bf%?
How many cons have you been to?

>>10165151
How dare you even speak to me?

>>10165730
>>10165748
All jokes aside I didn't properly explain the way my headband broke, or why I can't fix it. I'm on a trip, and all my supplies are at home. It's very fixable, just not right now. I will fix it. I will fix it when I'm in the comfort of my home. Not when I'm on the road and stressing about it. It's worth sacrificing some short term coord plans in order to really properly repair damage at a later date. Thanks for your two cents, anons.

My cosplay friends and I are all in our late twenties (some of them are up to their mid-thirties), and I'm starting to realize how very childish and annoying I find them to be sometimes. At cons (and not infrequently just on average nights out), they run around screaming and doing obnoxious, rude shit like spraying each other with soda or those in couples groping each other very blatantly. I'm not sure when I became No Fun Allowed, but I find all of this kind of behavior embarrassing to be around, and I don't really know what to do because I do love these people and have known them for years, but I maybe don't *like* them very much anymore. Maybe I just got old and boring whoops

Taking my comm to Detective Pikachu

>>10166193
If being old and boring means you don't make out in public good for you.

>>10166108
>>Do you
have any advice to avoid my fears of being lumped in with the other creeps, or bothering them?
Do you cosplay yourself? I think cosplaying of your own volition shows you are not just there to pick up chicks. If you have any hobbies you can talk to them about that is always good. If you like some anime that overlaps with what people like you should be fine.
Not everyone will be as harsh as people are on /cgl/, don't worry.

> Tfw first time seller on LM
> Tfw buyer has paid me, money is safely in my account, item is shipped, with tracking, in transit to their house today.
> Tfw they haven't read my messages, including the one with the tracking number, in days
> Tfw I'm selling more items and want a good review
> Tfw I know I'm probably just being paranoid, but they were great at communicating before this

The middle of the night is the perfect time to sort through my bank accounts, create a new one, and organise my savings.

>The your lolita budget feels too big
>It's calculated and fair
>Still freaking out about spending money

I just checked out /fa/ for the first time.
Absolutely disgusting.

>>10166576
>not going on /fa/ to troll the insecure tryhards
I know I need better hobbies, but it is a great shitshow

>>10166576
First time I decided to visit was like

>Clicked the catalog
>Oh... wtf is this...

I'm now offically one major step closer to becoming a real life version of a hotblooded jet fighter pilot 1980s tough guy

>>10166646
Rad.

>>10166587
>mfw people do the same to /cgl

>>10166646
I'm tired, so I misread that. I thought you said a hotdog jet fighter, and was both excited and weirded out by the idea.

>>10166576
Why is it all about male fashion? Isn’t it supposed to be general fashion board?

>>10166740
Going to any other board and trying to talk about girl stuff ends badly.
Going to /diy/ and talking about DIY projects gets people to say go to /cgl/ (in a nice way from /diy/, at least). Same on /fit/. Same on /fa/.
We are like the girl containment board outside of /soc/.
It sucks.

>>10166745
>>10166740
Going to any other board and trying to talk about girl stuff ends badly.
Going to /diy/ and talking about DIY projects that are considered girl stuff gets people to say go to /cgl/ (in a nice way from /diy/, at least). Same on /fit/. Same on /fa/.
We are like the girl containment board outside of /soc/.
It sucks.

i got a new job and can finally start building my wardrobe soon, guys. it's within walking distance from my house, too! i'm so excited, i can finally live out my lolita dreams

I feel like I just annoy all my lolita friends when I try talking to them. I rarely get responses and I am getting scared they don't want to be around me anymore. I'm not sure what I have done besides be super excited about their coords. I'm not trying to be weird, it just makes me super happy to see them wearing stuff they love! I'm very lonely and don't have many friends in person, so I'm very socially awkward, and I am worried my awkward behavior is scaring off people I like talking to.
It's probably just my anxiety talking but I don't want to lose more friends because I don't know how to calm down.

33 here. You late 20s cosplayers definitely aren't too old yet. Holla at the cons.

>>10166870
>momma why didn’t aunty ever get married?
>well sweetie she spent all her time playing dress up instead

>>10166890
>implying that everyone's aspiration is to get married
Also there are people who are married and cosplay so you just sound like you hate fun.

>>10166746
Agreed. Waiting for the day we get a general craft board and/or a decor board. I think I'd shit my pants happy if we got a decor board, but realistically I don't think we're going to get another board any time soon.

Why are so many jailbait niggas at con?

>>10166890
Adult normies definitely pretend to be people and characters who inspire them in their heads.

>>10166866
I have a friend like this, it's annoying but I like her anyway. Here's how to not scare people off- give them a chance to respond. Do not message someone every day until they respond, it's creepy. If they don't reply after one message, try something more interesting like bring up something that reminds you of them instead of just generic hey what's up

>>10164068
>taking LSD to help PTSD
God I wish that were me

I got weed induced panic attacks and my life completely changed ever since.
Anything that slightly alters my consciousness gives me a panic attack now, I can’t even drink caffeine because as soon as I -feel- it, I get crazy anxiety and panic attacks.

It really sucks because when I smoked weed it was literally the best feeling I’ve ever felt in life.
I never knew how fucking depressed I was until I smoked it.

Now it’s my greatest enemy gulls. ;_;

>>10166950
Have you tried seeing a professional?

>>10166950
I’ve seen doctors and it’s helped some, but not enough to get rid of the panic attacks from me feeling my body Change when taking any substance.
Hell, I get nervous taking 200mg of ibrephroben and I constantly worry about overdosing on vitamin B6 and B12. It’s stupid shit I swear.

but I’m seeing the VA psychiatrist in two weeks, since my PTSD stems from the military (no I don’t watch my comrades blow up or lose a leg, in fact I don’t even like calling this “PTSD” because it sounds like I’m seeking attention but unfortunately I check ‘yes’ on the HSM-5 exam for PTSD or whatever)
Hopefully they don’t write me off (aka, what they’ll probably do) like all the other Veterans but hopefully I’ll get lucky and get some help.

>>10166951
>>10166955
Responded to my own comment because I’m an idiot, sorry anon.

>>10166948
I don't do that, but I also get scared that if I stop trying to interact with them, they will forget about me. I don't usually send "hey what's up" or anything, just usually things that remind me of them, something that happened, or with a question about something. People have lives outside of me, and I don't do much of anything outside of working part time.

>Friend drops me as a friend
>suddenly remembers her being constantly negative about anything I believed in that she didn’t
>realize she was a shit friend and her ex-friends were right about her being a toxic bitch
>realize I now have less that I have to cosplay I didn’t want to do and more money to spend on cosplay I actually want to do
>realize my real friends don’t have to feel awkward at parties I throw anymore

>>10166783
Give me some of that luck, anon. I just quit my job today because I couldn't stand it anymore and I'm having to scale way back on purchases. Doesn't help that my 4 year old phone crapped out and I have to dump my money on that this weekend too.

>>10166940
yeah like have you ever seen those weirdo normie women throwing disney princess weddings

>buy a pair of shoes on LM
>listed as size 37
>listed photo shoes bottom of shoe with number 37
>shoes arrive
>shoes are actually size 42

I don't even understand how this happened.

>>10166866
It's definitely your anxiety talking.

>>10166746
This is why people made crystal café. Not that that lasted...

>>10166738
>tfw my new dream is to be a hotdog jet fighter

>>10167067
What was crystal cafe?

>on tinder
>see someone cosplaying my waifu
>swipes right
god I hope she swipes right too.

>tfw chance to meet gull friend/crush IRL
>super anxious they'd be disappointment or not like me that much in person

I know it's useless to worry about it but I can't stop!

>unpack dress
>Mother says "Oh this one is so YOU! I'm sure it will look great on you" and continues to fawn over it
>out of the about 120 pieces I own, she never said something this positive about anything lolita I've ever worn
>mfw it's the most ita dress I now own

>>10167130
what dress is it?

>>10167061
>some bigfoot anon just got your size 37's and is probably wondering the same thing.

>>10167133
Pic related, I mean it's stunning, well made and I really love it but it's still objectively a mess.

>>10167196
i love it, desu. but i can see where you're coming from, it is a monster.

>flying up for a con to see my boyfriend
>make all the reservations, get the tickets, get all our cosplays together and get super hyped to have a great time
>find out just now that boyfriend has been cheating
>too late to cancel without incurring major fees

Guess I’ll enjoy the con by myself.

>>10167196
I know someone who has that as their dream dress anon. I don't think it's ita is a gorgeous monster

>>10167202
What con is it anon?

Does anyone have any realistic tips or pointers on dealing with confidence issues in lolita? All of the resources out there I've come across tend to be the redundant "just give no fucks" mentality which is rarely helpful imo
I've worn lolita for half a decade, but a majority of that was spent under my parents roof where I dealt with a lot of physical and emotional abuse mainly regarding my clothing and I've noticed that in this past year a lot of my confidence has really dwindled?
It really just feels like every time I wear lolita, I can hear my parents in the back of my head calling me horrible names and demeaning me, and it's really causing me to fear wearing lolita outside.
> sage for blog post

>>10167384
definitely scope out places in lolita where you can feel most comfortable (like a fancy restaurant or cafe)

if you no longer live under your parents roof, its better to not talk to them in general, especially not about your fashion stuff. my mom is the same way; it's shitty to have to conceal that part of you but your safety comes first.

find friends/supportive communities that encourage you to wear lolita so you can replace the negative voices in your head with better ones. good luck anon, it won't be easy but you can do it

>>10167384
>saging feels in a feels thread
but seriously while "just give no fucks" is really the only thing you can do, you're just going to have to start small
i have no idea what your normal routines are, but start with something like get your mail every day in lolita
then groceries or something
find little routine outings you can do like that, you don't have to start with going to work

>>10163716
How easy are cosplay girls? I just wanna smash some pudgy upper middle class chicks w/ personality disorders from lack of parental attention.

>>10164068
This is LSD, and this is serotonin. as you can see they're pretty similar. Lately, I've been extremely into the idea of psychedelics. There are many research chemicals which turn into LSD in the body, that exist in a legal grey area meaning you can buy them online.

Reading material:

https://thethirdwave.co/microdosing/mushrooms/

https://thethirdwave.co/legality-research-chemicals/

>>10166950
Smoke/vape CBD/take CBD edibles. Its seriously miracle brain food for anxiety.

>>10167394
forgot pic

>>10164623
Getting diagnosed with PTSD is tricky. I grew up with a mom that did nothing but fucking scream at me, and as a result I'm a pretty timid/anxious guy. My psychiatrist told me I probably have complex PTSD, and yet, when I took neuropsych testing they told me I actually didn't meat the clinical criteria for PTSD. Which really has me wondering. Its entirely possible unless your/your boyfriend's PTSD has been formally diagnosed its not PTSD but a different mental illness (probably severe anxiety.)

>>10166866
smoke weed. if it makes you anxious, smoke more. Then take a big dose of edibles. The first few times you will have a "bad trip." this is your crappy personality unraveling and healing. your personality is crappy because of anxiety and depression, not because you naturally have a bad persona. just relax and let nature heal your brain

I’ve built up a pretty good following. And while I love cosplaying as just a hobby, it would be cool to earn money on the side. (As I’m pretty okayish financially but I’d like to live comfortably) I know the only real way to earn money is to do lewds. I’m just scared that it’ll follow me into future and I’ll regret it. I plan on starting a business within the nerd community and I don’t want to jeopardize that. But overall, the thought of making even a extra 200 a month would improve a lot for me.

>>10167411
shit you should charge $200 for one photo. the thirsty freaks will pay it

>>10167402
Wtf is this reply

>>10167411
If you are going into business, especially in the community that would view the lewd photos , it's a bad idea.
$200 a month is not worth it. There are other ways to get that money. Maybe buying blind box charms and selling reselling them for people who want a specific character for ita bags. I dunno.
It might not make as much but it can add up.
Plus I have seen a lot of people start selling nudes and they don't sell well, even if they have a following. So, that would feel awful and you could still be fucked for jobs.

>>10166746
/cgl/ is considered the "girl" board because it IS the girl board. It's the only place on 4chan (outside of /soc/ and maybe /co/) that's gotten over the stigma of "there are no girls on the internet", although that's mainly because on here you're expected to be a girl whereas it's the opposite on other boards. It's also why a lot of robots and /v/irgins come here to fish for gfs and ask for relationship advice (like the guy above), because this is where the girls are.
It's just kind of impossible to talk about girl stuff if the people around you don't like it and/or don't get it. Girl stuff is for where girls are in the eyes of boys. And on 4chan, it's here.
Personally (as a guy) I come here to at least semi-understand what girls like. It's the same with lolcow (although I also go there because I'm a drama whore). Might seem a bit creepy, but I do it to try to at least get some new/different opinions from my own. Open up my boundaries.
I say, if you wanna start a colony on /fa/ or /fit/, go for it. The fags there could probably use a woman's touch. But don't expect no pushback (or creeps).
tl;dr to guys, girls belong with other girls, although guys should probably get rid of that stigma they probably won't.

>>10167411
Never settle. If you want to earn money you don't have to do lewds. Plenty of retards will pay money for high quality/4k shots and expanded photo session sets, lewd really isn't necessary. You'd just need to be willing to go through the pain of doing proper photoshoots.

>>10167430
Being on cgl is probably the worst way to come to understand girls because half of the board is men and about another part is just roleplayers and the rest are maybe girls. and they're lolitas, most of us are super retarded, i mean we roleplaying princesses for a hobby

>>10167430
ウアゥイケメンだよw

>>10163728
houston? same, and i left the comms. we could be lonelita friends. a mini comm

>>10167444
>i mean we roleplaying princesses for a hobby
fuck off tranny

>>10163716
I can barely get out bed most days. The last of my finals are this week and I'm failing one class. I wish I didn't get pressured into doing this.
I just want to fast-forward to graduating college and being depressed with a 9-5 job

>>10167485
>mfw these are suppose to be cosplay/lolita related feels
Sorry i'll take it to /adv/
I am looking forward to otakon so that's one positive in my life

I want a weeb gf and everyone talks on here like lesbian weebs are super common, but all the girls I meet are dating dudes. Just want a cute jfash girl i can take on cute dates and couple cosplay with ;w;

>>10167397
complex ptsd and regular old ptsd are two very different animals, anon. a lot of psychs don't even consider it as a diagnosis yet, which may be what happened to you. i know i'm doing A Bad by mentioning reddit but i've been going on r/CPTSD since i've come to terms with my traumatic upbringing and certain specific events and it's done me some good even though i'm not diagnosed (my SO is though)

>>10167494
Your problem is you put the emphasis on aesthetics vs characteristics of a person. Just find a cute girl who likes u and u like and introduce them into the fashion. I s2g some of you act like you've never had a partner before, or are completely autistic in the way you picture a relationship.
My feel? I'm sick of people posting here about getting a "cosplay/jfashion/lolita gf". Like, is that all you guys think it takes for a relationship to last?

>>10167532
>I s2g some of you act like you've never had a partner before, or are completely autistic in the way you picture a relationship.
Where do you think we are?

>>10167542
My point is it's pathetic to act this way. Even if it's their reality they should try to not come off so desperate.

I discussed lolita with my normie friend today. I'm into classic and have been knee deep in this shit for a year now. In today's conversation my friend mentions that "everyone" automatically associates the lolita style and silhouette with children's clothing. I was taken aback. Perhaps she meant more pastel pinks and sweet, but didn't specify. Or have I just been so closed up in the community that I've become desensitized to what we look like in normie eyes? Does she think I look like an oversized toddler?
Distraught feels gulls.

>Inbf4 bait
I just want to dress like a fancy noble lady yet with a knee length skirt.

>>10167459
If it is Houston I would be worried. When I got into lolita in Dallas I was worried it would be drama filled based on /cgl/ and was blown away by how wrong that was when I joined.
Then I met girls from the Houston comm and saw where that came from. I don't think they are more salty than other girls, everyone has some, but they are too socially stupid to not say it in public.
We have thoughts that other people look bad some days but maybe don't say it in a public place thinking the other person won't find out?
That shit is best left to close friends and /cgl/. I am sure there are nice people over there too, it has just been not great every time I ended up talking to people from there.

>>10167411
just pick up a serving/bartending gig in an upper class area; you'd probably be able to make 200 in a night if you're good enough. a lot less of your dignity/reputation at stake

>>10167532
...or maybe someone into jfash is likely to both look good and share my interests? Pull the stick out of your ass.

more of a vent but i fucking hate lolitas who wear gyaru shoes. it makes whatever they're wearing look automatically trashy.

>>10167444
>roleplaying princesses for a hobby
That's just you, anon. The rest of us just like wearing fun clothes.

>>10166746
>>10167430
Listen here little baby. You're gonna get a lot of hurtful and degrading comments, but that ain't what I'm about. Let me just say, you are perfect the way you are. You hear me sugar? PERFECT. Don't ever change. You deserve anything and everything you want. Stay safe for me, baby girl. &gt;mfw thinking of you hurting
Listen here little baby. You're gonna get a lot of hurtful and degrading comments, but that ain't what I'm about. Let me just say, you are perfect the way you are. You hear me sugar? PERFECT. Don't ever change. You deserve anything and everything you want. Stay safe for me, baby girl.

>mfw thinking of you hurting

>>10167570
Thats where you just give them the confused face and stop the conversation. If they don't want to understand they wont understand and thats fine. Why should anyones opinion matter to you.

>>10166950
Get high cbd strains. Cbd counteracts The anxiety.

>>10163818
>>10164084
Thank you for the advice Anons. I honestly never considered getting a corset/shape wear to slim down that 1 inch

sad today because one of my absolute dream Meta pieces (a rare green LP cardigan) just sold on a japanese auction site for $20 and probably some awful scalper took it and I'll never see it again...........

I'm hoping WunderWelt took it and will offer it up for sale eventually... probably marked up to $60 but it's worth it because it means that much to me.

>>10167721
>I'm hoping WunderWelt took it and will offer it up for sale eventually
Wunderwelt does not buy their stock from second hand websites.

Just discovered where the AP cat ears I wanted to grab went. Our italian friend had a good SS

>>10167845
I'm still wondering what her SS is

>>10167845
Can you see who the buyer was and compare it to the ID's of SS we know of?

>>10167532
>Is that all you think a relationship needs to last?
Yes
Besides that whole thing about anons and gulls having comparatively similar personalities, there's also the fact that so many cosplayers have interests much more in line with xboarders than regular women.
It's dumb to fetishise it, but there is a method to the madness

I was super bummed because I missed out on some headwear that would match my coord. I was going back and forth because it would match perfectly, but it wasn't exactly what I wanted. I thought I was screwed for the event I needed it for.
Then the exact headdress I wanted just came up and I snagged it. I was so certain I would have to make due because the event is next month.
I am so happy. It is the crowing glory of the first lolita coordinate I really feel I have put together that is perfect. I am weirdly emotional.

>>10167907
i have the exact opposite situation, i saw a bonnet i needed for a coord at a really good price but actively chose not to buy it for some stupid fucking reason. congratulations on your coord anon

>>10167914
Maybe your perfect item is around the corner. Good luck!

>used to cos a lot when I was younger
>cosfriends all made friends, kind of got left out because I was too socially anxious and shy
>end up eventually dropping cosplay
>finally getting back into anime, miss cosplaying/weebshit and want to get back into it in the future
>have this happy vision of cosplaying with fellow cosplay friends and bonding over anime
>scared if I cosplay I'll sperg out like the past and make no friends

kind of a dumb feel but thanks to whoever that read. My sewing machine's been gathering dust but I'm looking forward to the day I can put it to use for cosplay again.

>>10167921
I believe in you.

>bought a new Fitbit today since my shit garmin died after four months
>pay $129, feel bad because that’s a lot of money when I just recently bought one
>chose a Fitbit over garmin because the garmin has a black interface in the app and dark colors stress me out
>fitbits all white and refreshing and 10x easier to use, everything is so aesthetically pleasing
>use it today to run, since I spent a lot of money on it I want to get the most out of it
>plan on starting swimming three times a week at my gym, running twice a week and then hiking one day a week
>anime expo is coming up soon and I want to look my best in my lolita dresses and when I go swimming at the pool in the fancy hotel I’m staying at

I’m excited and hoping I can stay motivated.
I really want to look my best at anime expo especially since I’ll be table-ing too.

>>10167968
Ganbare! You can do it!

Getting into shape is a hard thing. But getting that habit started is the hardest part.

>pattern calls for 2 7inch zippers for pockets
>find 2 bombass cheap zippers
>the cutouts on the pattern are 6inch

what the fug

>>10167972
Probably meant 7 guy inches

>>10166211
It's very kawaii. They gonna love it.

>>10167207
Late reply but it’s Momocon! It’s my first time going and I’m determined to have a good time. I’m not going to have him ruin it!

>>10168074
I am going to Momo as well.

I just need to find a floor to sleep on for Thursday night.

>>10168084
I wish you the best of luck! Unfortunately I can’t be of assistance. Check the Momocon thread because there might still be some folks with spots. I think there are also a couple of Airbnbs and hotels within walking distance if you’re willing to drop a little more cash.

>try to get magical horoscope
>sells out instantly
>go check fril out of desperation
>only OP in wrong colourways being scalped, no JSK anywhere
Just end me.

>>10167854
She's using Muuh.

>>10167972
You're retarded, learn how to install a zipper.

>>10168136
If it sold out fast enough, pray for an MTO or rerelease.

>>10164768
How about you get a nice camera, take a ton of pictures of the prints, details, do some arrangements, go ham with floordinates and just... Keep the pictures. See if maybe just having extremely nice pictures of your dresses has the same flavor as the dress itself, then just let them go.
Hell, hire someone and get the pictures framed. Make a thing of it.

>>10163716
Bought a ticket about a month and a half ago to visit my gf at the time. We've cut connection last week and i'm still going over there. She doesn't want to see me at all.
We were gonna cos Hanekawa and Araragi.

>>10164520
>I know everyone is gonna say it’s my fault for wearing what I wore.
It's not your fault. You just tried to have fun but people are retarded.

>want to cosplay Diavolo
>should buy wig asap to make sure it arrives in time for con
>but I want to wait for the anime reveal of his appearance so I get the color right
>Con is getting closer and closer, not sure if he'll appear early enough for the wig to arrive
Fugg.

I have an unreasonable disgust/hate toward egirls,costhots and any kind of thot (including the guys that show off their bods all the time, male thots exist too) to the point where i wish bad things on them. Especially Belle Delphine, I hope she'll hang herself soon.
I just really dislike them, they ruin everything good and pure and they taint my hobby.

>>10168249
there is literally nothing wrong with thots (male or female)

>>10168249
Thots wouldn't exist without the faggot omega males that orbit them or give them money. They both need the rope

>>10168248
Color variations are so prevalent in Jojo that "getting the color right" is pretty much inconsequential for any character. Diavolo's most common hair color is hot pink/fuchsia, I'd suggest you go with that if you want to make it easy for yourself.

>>10168146
How is Muuh so good for her? I had a very meh and slow experience

>>10168308
Because she uses them often. Like every other SS, they favor frequent buyers.

late but I hope you had a great Mothers' Day, /cgl/
shoutout to all moms who lurk here

>>10168154
I am definitely hoping hard because this was my face when it happened.

I'm going to a con this weekend and I'm just so excited for it! Last year I was broke and couldn't fit any of my brand so I wore bodyline and my one cosplay didn't really turn out as nice looking as I wanted it to. This year I have two cosplays to choose from that make me feel so cute and I fit my brand again so I have a couple of coords I'm bringing as well. Also I have a job this year so I have money and won't have to cringe at prices and order the cheapest thing when I go out to eat with friends! Being broke and not fitting anything last year really put a damper on things I'm so happy that I'm in a better place this year and can enjoy the con to the fullest!

>>10168380
Based momposter
I love my mom <3

I'm kinda ashamed about being sort of an extreme couponer out of lolita. Extreme is exaggerated but i use coupons so much and take any i can find for what i could need when it comes to food,household items,...
5$ for laundry detergent? Scandalous
300$ for a dress? So reasonable!!

>>10168503
omg im like that too. for literally everything i get sticker shock, but when its like $$$ for a dress i wont bat an eyelash

>>10168151
perhaps anon, I looked it up and you're right

the only issue is that I bought plastic tooth zippers and judging from what I read online, you can't sew through them.

>>10168249
>they ruin everything good and pure and they taint my hobby.
how?

>>10168543
anon grew up learning to be ashamed of her sexuality as a female and seeing others be open and positive gives her secondhand-shame.
she's worried, by mere association, people will eventually look down on her like her mentors look down on openly sexual or revealing displays.

>>10168543
probably because they're just jealous and ugly, and know they will never receive the same amount of attention

>>10168249
I agree desu, but once again it depends on other underlying things, like whether they make their cosplays or not or if they have actual passion for the character.

if it's some retard that buys Zero Two's cosplay after watching the second episode, then yeah they can get fucked.

desu if you buy all your cosplays and don't make anything you shouldn't have a cosplay insta, you're not showing off your skill or anything. you're basically a D-tier model at best

>>10168592
you e-thots all have the same reaction at anyone looking down on you.
Keep telling yourself that to sleep at night, i'm sure your parents must be proud of you

>>10168584
Anon you replied to and it really hits home in a way. I grew in a family who would openly shame me or call me a slut for little things (show too much leg,caught watching porn,...) and would say shit like how you kinda "deserved" to be raped for showing too much skin or dressing flashy, maybe it does stem from there.

>>10168636
Very much agree. Sexy cosplays aren't an issues, but those who only do that and in the process sexualize actual kid characters or rpetend to be "lolis" etc can go fetch themselves a rope along with the betas thirsting for them.

>>10168537
Please literally watch a single video of zipper installation. You just skip stitches over the zipper teeth. You do that on plastic AND metal zippers or else you break your needle. Maybe start with something more simple if you cant figure out how to do something so basic.

>>10168819
I've read/watched at least a dozen tutorials on zipper installation and this is literally the first time I've heard of skipping stitches over zipper teeth. then again, I either installed separating zippers or self-drafted patterns, so I was never forced to actually learn how to skip stitches over zipper teeth

either way, thanks again

>Finally getting main cosplay in next week for the season
>It's been such a fight getting this due to a failed commission and looking for someone else to do it by the skin of my teeth
>Never cut it this close to a con
>Gonna cry over it honestly

>>10168878
I bet you sew right over pins too, you fucking cosplayer.

>Dyed wig darker
>Spent a long time in the dye bath.
>Spend a few hours casually combing it out while on a group chat.
>all said and done, it doesnt look any different

Part of me says redye it, part of me says fuck it. But my back and neck are in lots of pain from hunching over so long. Hopefully sleeping will ease it up.

>>10168965
There's a limited amount of dye a plastic fiber can hold in itself, so redying it most likely won't work because it won't take any more of the color. It's also possible that if it's a subtle change in color it's harder to judge without a direct comparison, so it's always a good idea to take a before picture of the wig (or even cut out some fibers if you can) to then compare how much dye actually attached to it.

>>10169013
Oh I 100% took a before pic and compared it to an after pic, that's how I knew there wasn't a color difference (small cut off is a good idea, thanks) Now that I've slept on it, I've decided I don't care enough to attempt re-"dye"

>>10168895
i make a pointed effort not to, and that's why sewing over zippers sounds like a bad time :^()

>tfw no comm friends except for the short one

>>10169488
short ones are super cute tho

>>10169121
lift your presser foot you absolute buffoon, you moron, you sack of shit.

>>10167921
You can do it anon!

>>10168264
Correct op is just ugly girl or incel

>started watching the new moominvalley show (my first experience w the franchise) and loved it
>started working on that version of snufkin
>finish moominvalley and start the moomin 90s anime
>realize i like that version of snufkin way more
>mfw it's too late to change my mind
i already bought half the stuff for 2019 snufkin and i promised myself i wouldnt make that many new cosplays this year because i have so many ones i barely touch/i don't go to many cons. it's not like i couldn't cos the 90s version sometime later but now i just feel so unmotivated about doing the version i started RIP

>>10168965
Had this problem with a couple wigs of mine. Sometimes they won't absorb any color unless it's near boiling, but if the water's TOO hot the wig is fucked and the fibers will turn to crinkly garbage. I hate dying wigs for this reason

>>10167968
>Not just eating 1200 calories daily no matter what exercise you're doing
Not gonna make it.
Hope you're not eating back the calories the fitbit tells you that you burned.

>>10168584
this is so spot on...

>>10168642
It really sucks that your own family would call you a slut. Both things you mentioned ('showing legs' or watching porn) aren't wrong in any way. Please don't let those bad memories hold you hostage.

Keep this alive. It almost got bumped!

I guess it dies here

>>10178907
>>10179088
are you retarded >>10168968