/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Tfw being an adult SUCKS.
Took full time hours at work now that I'm out of college. So much money for brand. Spending on myself for the first time in ages, feels good to treat myself. But so many hours work means never see friends, nowhere to wear lolita anymore/no time to wear it, too tired to wear it on days off, and yet my wardrobe is expanding at breakneck speed. I need a vacation. Wagecucked again.

Do thotties like cross-players, or is it only retahded fujos?

I contacted a seller about a "nwt" OP they were selling, and found out that typically included components were not included.
I had let the seller know "hey, i'm not going to further pursue this sale because of the lack of included [BLANK] I wish you the best of luck in selling"

I get a message in response from the seller that implies I'm not buying the dress because it's a replica (It literally has the visible paper/neck tags) and how great a deal it is because apparently they bought it at over 400 USD new.

I just wanted to not ghost the seller...

>>10268992
Cosplay girls are hoes for a man in drag.

>>10268987
Life sucks anon, need a hug from a shitty guy?

>>10269130
maleposter fuck off

>>10268997
>because apparently they bought it at over 400 USD new
I hate this bullshit line. I got a dress with a lot of undeclared damage once where the seller tried playing it off because I got a "deal" simce she paid $200 for it. Which was absolute horse shit, because you could still find the original listing price online for $135 or something like that.
>Nwt
>Mising pieces
Report this nonsense

>>10269132
What did I ever do to you?

>>10268992
If you're hot/cute, yes

>>10268987
Weekdays are bad for meetups anyways.

This is why Mana created weekends.

lolita has made me such a better seamstress, and I'm so happy about that. When I did cosplay, you could just stick a bunch of safety pins in something, and as long as it looked recognizable from 15 feet away you could call it a day. I distinctly remember making a seifuku collar out of spandex once lol. lolita has really made me pay attention to the fabric, fit, and finishing of all the pieces I make, and every time I make a new piece, my skills improve so much, and I'm really happy about that ;v;

>>10269264
This is so nice ty for sharing fellow gull <3

>>10268987
Work less, make less money, gain more time, gain more sleep, gain more quality relationship time and gain more opportunities to utilize what you already have instead of working more to afford things you can't use.

Do guys also moan during masturbation?

>Buy lovely OP second hand
>wear it for the first time and of course I put a stain on it
>no biggie, I'll let it soak in oxyclean that will fix it
>soak the stain
>go take a look after 30 min
>the dress has bright red print elements, of course it was bleeding out
>panic
>try scrub the dye stains out, say my prayers and put it in the washing machine with 2 color catcher sheets and oxy clean, can't get worse
>take it out
>dress looks like new, all the stains are gone

All hail color catcher sheets

ouji clothing is so hard to find, should I just become a brolita. would that be easier

>>10269289
that show was really boring

>>10269283
rarely, some more than others I gues, btw u want some fuck?

>>10269283
Why don't you just ask your bf?

>>10269283
no

>>10269296
Anon, I...

>>10269291
Your honestly better off just being an ouji. If you try to become a brolita you might be stuck being a conlolita i'd imagine.

>>10269291

Fanplusfriend will custom make a bunch of stuff, and burando capes generally work on everyone. If you can find a western romantic goth brand there's probably something there that you can use, too. Might not be the burando prince of your dreams but the fashion is doable at least.

h.Naoto and Ozz On have a wider variety of things, including some stretchy items that might work for larger sizing, but they run more towards "harajuku" fashion than properly ouji.

>>10269283
I'm a woman and I don't moan during masturbation, why would you?

>>10269332
>Fanplusfriend
Not a huge fan of their stuff for me since their ouji stuff is more steampunk or military, while I want something more frilly. Something more androgynous than masculine.

>>10269332
>h.Naoto and Ozz On
I love them, and wear a several harajuku style clothes, but the local lolita comm says I need to wear lolita/ouji, no j-fashion :/
I only have one proper ouji coord, and don't want to wear the same thing every time.

I've been slowly losing weight over the past while, so after several months of only having a few handmade/bodyline items, I bid on and won my first brand dress! it arrived yesterday and it's so much nicer quality than anything else I own, even though it's an older and less popular piece. though I do fit it, I know I can fit it better, and that just encourages me to keep working toward my fitness goal. it's a nice feeling.

I hate how quick people are to abandon a series once the series isn't the FOTM. Some people even look down on you if you still like it lmao
It's even more hell for AA artists where you kinda have to gamble with what's going to be or stay popular to sell.

Wish this attitude would end

>>10269358

As someone who stays with fandoms for years, this makes me sad to no end. Fandoms are not meant to be fuckbuddies for a month. They're supposed to be media you love so much that you stay with it for a good chunk of your time.

>>10269283
yes

>>10269370
liar, you do it in complete silence and then spend the afterglow contemplating what you just did

>>10269370
>>10269373
Guys do it in complete silence because they're afraid their mom is gonna hear it and scold them

I want some friends. Please can i has friends imma loser

>>10269377
sure. hop on rizon, channel is #cgl
we are all here waiting for you

>>10269325
Don't worry anon I dont have a gf, dying alone isnt that bad

>>10269283
Depends on what I'm masturbating to

>>10269346
That's so great anon! I'm happy for you and hope it continues going well.

>>10269374
f*males will never understand

>>10269386
>shitty bleached hair
>no makeup
>bad eyebrows
>lazy top
>lame nail polish that doesn't fit
>flabby arms
>nice ring and necklace
1/10 she really needs to apply herself more

>Half asleep me thinks I'm getting the best deal out there for a jsk I've been looking for
>I wake up in the morning and realize the dress I bought was NOT the cut I wanted
>My mistakes aren't the sellers fault, I'll still need to pay for the jsk and resell it

>>10269264
this is so nice. awesome job anon!

>>10269374
Girls don't want to be heard either. Not sure where this myth came from.

>>10269138
oh i already did

I was just so taken aback because it's like, I don't care if it was never worn, a Holy Lantern OP without a neckbow is IMHO,,,, not worth retail

I met someone at uni who likes anime too, but I don’t know if it would be weird or soon to ask if she wants to go to a con with me next month...
I’ve never met another girl with the same interests as me so I don’t want to weird her out or anything, haha.

>>10269274
This, plus you spend less on eating out and have time to properly budget. I'm going part time and can't wait.

Tfw last year was amazing, I bought a nice, 2017 SUV, was able to go to both of the area cons, wasn't having to worry about money.

This year
> Insurance company screwed up and thought they undercharged me so I had to pay out the ass for three months, thankfully got that money back when they realized their error, but still three months that I was living pay check to pay check.
> Hit a deer in my new car, thank fuck I went with the 500$ deductible and have to have full coverage since I'm still paying off the car
> Had to get a new computer since my old one died
> Have to work during every con weekend so won't/wouldn't be able to attend
> The nursing home I work at got sold and after months of telling us everything would be fine, the second we're officially theirs,
> "Lol nope, we're shutting this place down cause we can't make any money."
> Tell us we have until November 21st
> Lol, nope again, we found new homes for all the residents.
> I'll be out of a job next week
> Only silver lining is that since I'm a 'displaced worker' I'm eligible for unemployment and might be able to get money to go back to school or get a certificate to get a better job.
> Still won't have the money to do anything for a while, since I always spend months saving up for cons so I can afford them

>>10268992
I want to crossdress at an upcoming con, but I'm worried people will think I'm a pervert. (No offense, transgenders.)

Does anyone have any mental tricks for getting yourself started into a productive habit? I have a lot of issues taking the initiative by myself if the activity doesn't involve other people, even though I know I'll be better off for doing it. I don't have issues after I develop the discipline/habit, but getting started is awful. This applies especially to solitary activities like music, art and even watching anime.
Without someone to just tell me to do it, or without having the habit already, it's just hard to start. This is a /cgl/ feel because I really want to get going on a cosplay but I'll just sit around for days at a time without working on it then only get around to it during con-crunch.
Anybody have advice for this? Can I pay someone to tell me to get my shit done in a nice way?

I'm wearing in a new pair of shoes for a meetup next month. It hurts so much. Please /cgl/, give me strength!

this will probably make me sound stupid and old but I think it would be fun to have a lolita comm in second life. unfortunately I can’t use blender for shit so I can’t make quality clothes but it would be pretty sweet to have some sort of endorsement from lolita or lolita-adjacent designers like exia and violent seduction, and maybe have some sort of land the group owns for virtual meets. Unfortunately it may just never work because weeding out unsavoury people would be almost impossible since so much of sl’s user base are there for sexual role play and I feel like there wouldn’t even be much interest to begin with. I am fairly new to sl though (1.5 years) so maybe there already is one I haven’t heard about?

so...my SO is pulling away from me because he needs to work on himself. I don't know if he'll come back to us in the future. I want him bad. But, I also don't want to suffer needing affection and love while he can't give those things to me.
Top it all off, my cycle's late and I am obsessively checking for it like it's the tracking info for my DD lmao.
If I'm preg....ooooooh boy.
Anyway, I'm at work in lolita today and it feels great. I feel cute, but my eyes feel so tired and sore from the crying I've been doing the past two days.
Whatever happens, I just want to be strong and healthy and surrounded with love. I want to feel like I'm in the right place. I want to get what I give. More than anything in this earthly life, I want a loving & monogamous partner to grow old with.
Little could be worse than obligation playing into our relationship. That's just a hotbed for insecurity and resentment.
Hope I'm not baking anything in there right now...thinking about not telling him for a long while if it turns out I am. I'm old enough and set up enough to deal with the worst case scenario, but I don't want that for myself. I'd have to sell my wardrobe too because there's no sense in harboring thousands of dollars worth of things when I'll need to account for every penny in the single-mom-scenario.
>inb4 abortive options. That's just not something I'd personally be okay with for me. No judgment on anyone else.
Just venting. Would love your kind thoughts, gulls. kind of wavering between lonely hurt and numb resignation. both suck. hard.

>>10269729
Get an abortion, don't ruin your life raising an unwanted child

>>10269289
They are life savers. Glad it worked out!

Gulls, I just got a new full-time job and I'll be able to afford so much brand now! My old part-time gig was so pitiful that I had about a $20 lolita budget every month. It's a bit of a trade off because I could browse /cgl/ to my heart's content during my part time shifts, and now I'll barely have any time to do so, but it's a sacrifice I am more than willing to make. My dreams of being a daily lolita aren't looking so impossible now.

>>10269753
Aw, congrats! I end up having a lot of spare time at my job, so I browse /cgl/ at work anyway lol.

>>10269729
Get your anxious ass off your seat and research if a pregnancy test will help. They should show results fairly early on. Do you remember when you last had sex? I've heard your hormone levels should be high enough after one to two weeks.

Your answer is pregnancy test, buy one and get an answer instead of making yourself ghost-pregnant in doubt.

>>10269758
>ghost-pregnant
thanks anon. I read that accuracy is reliable 10 days after the deed and it's only been 9 days. Planned to test tomorrow.

>>10269758
>>10269762
It has nothing to do with when you last had sex. You have to wait until you would have missed a period. If you know your period was supposed to start today, and your period is roughly five days in length, then six days from now is when the test will begin to even be accurate, but it's best to wait a week after a missed period.

>>10269783
No, that’s not true. You can be weeks along before a missed period. There are tests that even say you can try them before waiting for your period.

>>10269789
>You can be weeks along before a missed period.

I'm aware.

There are only a couple of at-home pregnancy tests that are designed to be accurate before a missed period, and even then, a lot of them specify that they are less effective the farther from the missed period you are. Unless they specify this, the default ones are only accurate after a missed period.

This is how people end up pregnant and say they got a negative on a pregnancy test.

During my first couple years in the fashion I thought I liked sweet lolita. Now I’m realizing that I like classic and gothic way more. I know I should sell off the pastel-puke sweet stuff that I don’t wear (especially with limited closet space), but I have this really weird complex of “I don’t want to admit I made a mistake.” I’m also paranoid that people on Lacemarket will judge me for selling things that they can see I’ve only had for about a year. I know it’s irrational, and even if somebody does notice the chances of me actually knowing that person are so slim.

>>10269861
bro, no, let me help alleviate these anxieties. no one cares how long you've had something. people change substyles. it's actually celebrated to sell your x style items to begin collecting y style. people will sell something as quickly as it arrives, for solid reasons like wrong shade, doesn't fit properly, etc.
it's okay. sell the things you don't want and fill yourself with the joy of collecting what you actually like. best of luck, anon!!

>>10269861
I'm in the same boat right now. I even sold off stuff that I had bought like a week prior. But please don't feel ashamed to get rid of clothes you don't wear to build another wardrobe, nobody is gonna judge you. And it feels awesome to free yourself of the stuff you don't need, and get more money and space to buy clothes you love.

>haven't been on /cgl/ in months
>wondering if my gullfriend who ghosted me is still browsing these threads
Hope you're doing good, M. Send me a cheeky message to my email again if you're around

>be me, lonely college student trying tinder again after breakup
>one guy and i have a pretty good banter about anime taste and similar interests
>decide to meet, he seems overly enthused when i tell him i also like lolita
>keeps bringing up how young asians look and how i look so "smol"
>he starts asking if i also wear diapers and onesies
wow, at this point i'm ready to go back to dating normies.

>>10269495
Wait until you establish some kind of friendship first

>>10269675
Honestly setting a timer for 5-10 minutes and just starting it can help sometimes. You tell yourself that you only have to work on it for that much time, but sometimes you feel more motivated once you start. If after the timer is up you still feel like not doing it, set the timer again tomorrow. At least you would have started what you wanted to do.

>>10269388
Lol why the fuck are you rating a woman in a meme you incel?

>>10269733
Dont ruin a childs life either, or your SO's life
>>10269909
He's probably lurking here, hi wanker.

>>10269909

Men always sexualize everything they like, so your best bet is to date a normie and train him to tolerate lolita, or to just date girls who aren't degenerates.

>>10269947
A fetus isn't a child, burgerbrain.

>>10269909
>he starts asking if i also wear diapers and onesies
>on a first fucking date

What the fuck is wrong with nerd men

>>10269729
Here's a bit of advice: don't hide stuff from your SO, especially something as important as pregnancy. You might think it's for the best, but I know too many cases where a woman kept her pregnancy hidden from the father, and the guy only found out years later that he has a child. Every time this happens, there is a huge amount of regret from the father who lost all those years of bonding with the child and now feels guilty for not helping the mother and the child throughout the years, and from the child who had to grow up without a father. If I were a guy and got my SO pregnant, I'd be very hurt by her hiding the pregnancy from me, it would feel like a huge breach of trust. Don't decide by yourself what's better for your SO, let him make the choice if he is still important to you. Then again, it is your choice what to do with the possible pregnancy and whom to tell about it. Just consider that he might be very hurt by you hiding it from him, and your possible future child might feel cheated out of having a father once they find out about the situation. Wish you the best of luck, hope everything worksout. Stay strong, anon.

>>10269675
I like to set an alarm on my phone and set an hour black of time for the activity. That way even if I don't think about it I have my Phone telling me to do it.

>>10269753
I'm pleased for you anon! Send me some of your extra luck, as I am also looking for a full time job. I want to get into office work and out of retail. Imagine all the clothes and cons!

>>10269675
I like to set an alarm on my phone and set an hour block of time for the activity. That way even if I don't think about it I have my Phone telling me to do it. Not as good as a person reminding you but a good second best.

>>10269753
I'm pleased for you anon! Send me some of your extra luck, as I am also looking for a full time job. I want to get into office work and out of retail. Imagine all the clothes and cons!

>>10269861
>>1026988l
I wouldn't worry. Like >>10269864 said, some people sell things as soon as they come for various reasons. I've also heard there are girls who buy dresses to wear on social media one day and sell immediately. So many people list on LM every day so it's not worth being self conscious.

A lot of us have switched substyles because what we thought we liked when we first got into the fashion doesn't actually work for us. Some people switch over and over again or wear multiple styles. It's not a mistake to experiment and be in the process of figuring out what works for you. One of the best things about lolita is that there's a large scale secondhand market, it's not abnormal to sell things off and someone else will probably really enjoy them. It's not like you're dumping them in landfill, somewhere out there there's probably a classic lolita who wants to sell her stuff off and wear more sweet. There's no reason to hold onto things that you don't love.

>>10269861
Why do you think that's so common, starting out in sweet and then switching to gothic or classic? I swear that's like every lolita's origin story.

And it's totally fine to sell your pieces, anon. Get that new wardrobe!

>>10269988
I think sweet just attracts a younger crowd in general. Most of the young lolitas who have their parents fund their wardrobes are into sweet for a hot minute because they're into cutesy weeb stuff. Think of say, Pixielocks who had a bunch of AP when she was 16. There's got to be thousands of girls like her, and if they don't drop the fashion like she did it's likely that their tastes just change.

Sweet is arguably the most eye-catching and 'out there' of all the styles, so some lolitas don't feel so comfortable wearing it as they get older. Or just that they picked the most eye-catching substyle when they got into the fashion because it gets the most representation, and later just decided it wasn't for them because it can be hard to pull off.

Gothic and classic on the other hand, can be coordinated in more subdued and normie passing ways so it appeals to lolitas as they get older/need to look more professional/have money to build a daily wardrobe and want stuff that's easier to wear. Of course there are older sweet lolitas for sure, but a lot of people's tastes just change over time.

>>10269988
Trends. The same thing was going on when 2010 era sweet was trendy or when OTT classic was trendy.

>>10269996
This honestly.

I'm 26 and am still a sweet lolita, but I've been styling it in a more classic way and have been leaning towards classic lolita more and more.

I don't care about looks and I still like sweet, but I want some more classic pieces that will be more acceptable to wear when going out with friends and such.

As you get older it's just nice to have more "wearable" items.

>>10269909
The second a man makes any comment on how small I am in a positive or sexual way I dip tf out of there. Half the time they have some kind of weird pedo shit going on. Especially when they say how they "REALLY like my clothes" or if they get really fixated and fascinated about how small my hands are. Girls are just better to date in general desu. You dont have to deal with shit like that.

>>10269757
Thank you! I hope there's at least some downtime at the new job as I don't do well with super fast-paced environments 24/7, but I'll deal with it for the burando, haha.
>>10269981
Thank you anon! Retail is hell, I hope you get out soon. Sending you good job-finding mojo <3

>recently got out of a breakup and started going on dating apps
>80% of girls I've talked to have no passions/goals/hobbies whatsoever aside from "netflix" or "adventure"
>just want a gf to talk about weebshit and cosplay with that actually takes care of herself
>writing anything like "cosplay/anime/manga" in the bio makes me cringe hard because of how absolutely embarassing the fanbases are, and I hate associating with it openly
>normie girls are too boring to spend time with, and on top of that have lofty expectations for no apparent reason

On top of that, I've been lifting (for cosplay mostly) and look like a classic dudebro, so I get a ton of sour grapes shit from nerdy groups (especially guys trying to shit-test me like I'm not a weeb, or girls going "yeah, I don't really LIKE fit guys, I prefer them to be more natural"). It's the oddest thing.

In other news, is anyone else almost autistically critical of their cosplay construction? I've been working with spandex appliques and I've been stretch testing the hell out of the different combos of interfacing/wonder-under/needles/needle tension for several days now. Like, I know I don't NEED to do it since it's not going to stretch that much, I just really want it to be idiot-proof. Or, looking for the finest imperfections when they clearly won't be seen by anyone. It's kind of insane, now that I think about it.

>never wear anything sexy as a teenager
>Mom doesn't get it and always tells me I "dress like a nun"
Jokes on her, now I actually dress like a nun

I work in retail and this upcoming holiday season is going to be a disaster. We're having trouble finding workers in a super tight labor market. Our new hire was fired for testing positive for drugs, another co-worker just shoplifted, and we couldn't hire another person because they didn't agree with our store's philosophy. My manager has asked if they can up my hours to just under full-time and all my weekends are blocked starting the last weekend in October until the second weekend in January. Worse, I'll be on-call. No meetups, no time to dress up then.

>>10270167
>Didn't agree to store philosophy
>Boss obviously fucking you over because he doesn't want to pay for a full time employee, but wants the work of one
>Not hiring a druggee for a retail position
Sounds like a shitty place to work, anon. Not your fault of course, but your boss would have an easier time finding help if they eased up a bit.
And fuck "just under full-time" to keep you from benefits. Hope you get a raise out of this, OP.

>>10270085
Just put your weeb shit in your profile you absolute walnut. It’s the only way you’ll meet someone that shares your interests.

I just sold a pair of socks on LM only for my dog to chew up the package and destroy the socks... I feel bad for the buyer since she really wanted them.

>>10270153
why would your mom want/expect you to dress provocatively??

>>10270196
despite wearing winged eyeliner and jewelry/necklaces every day, my parents confronted me and told me I needed to dress more "femininely" when I was in high school (read: skirts and dresses) even though I was very straight, I dressed like a tomboy. idk boomers are weird

>>10270167
Seriously, your boss is exploiting the hell out of you pulling that "just under full-time" nonsense, and if you don't absolutely need this job and your boss' positive reference for later employment I'd tell him to get fucked if I were you. Say you can't up your hours and if he insists, quit. Really put his feet to the fire. Don't let your job dick you around like this. It's your life, not theirs.

>>10270167
Look, you have the upper hand here if they can't find anyone. Tell them to increase your pay or you won't work the extra hours. What are they going to do? Say no and fire you, and have no one running the store?

>>10270196
She didn't mean far end of the slutty spectrum but I guess she just didn't understand why a teenager wouldn't want to try and flaunt it while they got it. Like the other anon said, boomers are weird.

>>10269988
Personally I left sweet when I realized just because I like the way it looks and like to be surrounded by cute pastel things dosen't mean that it looks good or suits me. I switched to gothic and jewel tones and I look so much less washed out, I also get more genuine compliments and my family all agree that it's more 'me.'
My room on the other hand is a shrine to all things pink and tokidokis.

>>10270222
I think I look better in classic / gothic as well but I’m trying so hard to look good in sweet.. im in denial ..

>>10270226
Why not try classic-sweet or even mix in some more mature cut pieces in cute colors? I've seen some girls style printed AP sweet with simple toned down items to add maturity, as well as classic coords in bright mint/pale pink colorways

>>10270228
>Nayrt, but class-sweet/sweet-classic is fun as fuck. Fun prints, more diverse styling options, it's great.

>>10269729
your period is probably late from the shock and stress of your SO leaving you

>Have an online Lolita friend of about 4 years
>Recently she's become obsessed with her online rep and social media presence
>She had some minor comm drama like a year ago so she gets mentioned on cgl like once every 3 months
>Her entire world collapses when this happens
>I'll message her about something going on in my life or a new release I think she'd like and she blanks my message and rambles on about stale drama

I want my friend back instead of this silly bitch

>>10270027
you're probably cute irl which makes this funny

>>10270085
Dude what do they even mean by the adventure stuff? I've seen that a bunch too and I can honestly never tell.
I've asked a few friends and it seems like they mean they're wistful? A lot of people don't think big picture or project oriented though and I get told I'm just fantasising when I talk about my own.
Best of luck bro

>>10270338
As someone who knows a lot of those types, it usually means they like travelling. Except everyone likes travelling so it makes them sound more special to say "adventure"

>>10270360
>>10270338
I had only a brief foray into this tinder world and I think you both are reading something genuine that actually isn't. these are literal buzzwords at this point that people add because they think they have to. I talked to someone for a bit who even had it on his profile ironically. it's a sad state of affairs when people parrot random shit out of what I assume is despair.
no one knows what to share about themselves because they're worried everything they actually like and do is a deterrent.
Gotta hook folks with a calculated cocktail of interests,
>brunch
>adventure1!11
>weed/hiking
>watching the Office
>muh height
no matter how fake.
I noped out of that after about 32 days. I'm willing to wait while preferring the organic way of meeting someone face-to-face.

After years of being too scared I finally did it. I made myself an appointment to get contacts! I'm tired of my cosplays and coords looking off because I have to wear my glasses or just not wearing them and being blind as a bat. I think the final straw was seeing myself in my coord that I've worked so hard on perfecting for an upcoming brand tea party at a con and just looking so awkward and off because of my glasses clashing with the aesthetic. I'm going to look cute AND be able to see!!

I'm asking here since there has been gulls experienced with facial plastic surgery on here before...

Is it a viable option to go and visit a surgeon or clinic just to have them measure my face? I'm haunted by the suspicion that my eyes are uneven, possibly to the point that one side of my face has grown lower than the other side. There's no sagging involved, but it feels like my left cheek is heavier than my right, therefore pulling my left eye more open.
None of my friends and family say they notice anything, even when I ask them to look very closely. Please don't respond to this post saying I'm just seeing things, because I already hope so too. It would just be nice to have someone as pedantic as a plastic surgeon draw lines on my face, measure carefully and then tell me if I'm right or wrong.

Why not just take a photo and open up photoshop?

>>10270382
Why not just take a photo and open up photoshop?

>>10270187
I just rebooted my acc and did it, and feel a lot better for some weird reason. Thanks m8

>>10270386
I'm lousy at Photoshop and paranoid about angles. A surgeon would be measuring my full 3d face instead of a 2d picture.

>use eBay and mercari (+ shopping service) to buy stuff
>keep noticing eBay sellers with inconsistent photography and vague descriptions
>they’re mercari resellers that scalp all the stuff they buy, and some even put the listings up before the item sells on mercari

Now I know how lolitas feel about the scalpers they have to put up with.

>>10270394
If it helps you at all, anon, my bellybutton isn't in the center of my stomach.

>>10270402
Nobody's symmetrical. Front teeth are often misaligned from the center of the nose. Eyes are often different depths or heights. Smiles are crooked. A literally symmetrical face looks weird to us (try making one in Photoshop).

>>10270412
I know. I was just trying to be silly about a truth.

>>10269729
Early abortion is really not a big deal

>>10270402
>>10270425
Thanks for humouring me Anon. Sadly I'm quite far up my own ass, whining that it's not the same etc. An askew belly button is a mostly intimate detail which would be very fun to know as a friend or a lover. My face and eyes being off is something I have to show everyone I meet and see in every single picture of myself. It really sucks.

>>10270412
I've actually seen pictures of that already, and I get your point. My insecurity lies in the fact that my assynetry is sort of beyond the acceptable level... To myself at least. I feel more and more insane the more I deliberate on this issue that nobody sees but me.

>>10270432
I have a question for you. If you've already asked your friends and family, and they tell you there isn't a difference, what happens if you do see a surgeon and they say the same thing? Would you believe it then? Or are you going to assume that one surgeon wasn't good enough and look for another?

>>10270180
It's gotten worse in last 2-3 years. My ex-coworkers have all gotten out and working in better professional environments.

>>10270212
Need money for burando.

>>10270218
You have a point. I'll talk to my boss tomorrow.

>>10270435
In all honestly I'm expecting a difference, along with a sales pitch suggestion on how a surgeon could cut me up. I don't know if I'd take the offer or just live with the quantified knowledge that my eyes are X mm askew.

If the doctor said I'm fine... I hope that will be the end of it. I'll rest on the hard fact and make myself stop seeing things. It might be a poor example but if someone thinks they're underweight but have a doctor explain that they're not they listen. If I'm wrong I'd like to be proven wrong.

>>10269515
Wow Anon, that is an incredibly stressful year you have had. I hope you are making through without an alcohol or drugs addiction. So sorry.

>>10270538
>It might be a poor example but if someone thinks they're underweight but have a doctor explain that they're not they listen.

That isn't how that goes, generally.

>>10270538
anon, your perception is an issue here.
if you truly respect the advice of doctors, you could be fine. but you may be wrestling with deep insecurities that are stronger and less rational than you think. if the doctor gives you a similar opinion than your loved ones, and you don't feel relief, seek therapy. dysmorphia, and a possible insatiable dissatisfaction with your appearance, is a tough thing to kick.
>see pic related for a sad, sad example

>>10270382
Most people have this kind of facial asymmetry, it’s not a big deal

>>10270398
I'm pretty sure it's all one account, there's one ebay account with 28173628182 lolita, high fashion, accessories, etc listings and all the photos are from fril and mercari

God how I wish this was a nsfw board.

>>10270667
begone, cumbrain.
stop trying to ruin the board.

>>10270670
haven't coomed in a while, but I still fap like daily, trying to stop, but it's hard

How does it make you feel? It makes me lol personally, as a non-lolita "scrote" that's actually interested in the fashion. But mostly because I enjoy seeing people suffering, specially if these people have been bitter to me.

>>10270667
Why bother coming here? There's other boards for you to give yourself death grip over.

>>10269753
Full-time job anon here, my first day was absolute hell and I want to run for the hills, but I'm just telling myself to think of the brand and that it'll almost certainly get better after I get the hang of things, right? Ugh.

>>10270085
>especially guys trying to shit-test me like I'm not a weeb
I know that fucking feel, bro. Around the time I got my brown belt, I noticed a lot of hostility from dudes I used to be cool with. I just want my bros back

>>10270680
>Dick Swaab
Do Americans really name their kids this

>get secondhand IW OP with elastic princess sleeves and some shirring
>No mention of damage, "very good condition"
>The bust and the sleeves are stretched waaaay tf out
Girl! What did you do to the thing?!

>>10270716
It depends on why it was hell. Was it that the workload was unfamiliar and hard to manage because of it? Then yeah, it will probably be fine eventually. Was it that your coworkers are insufferable and the company treats you like shit? Because that won't be changing.

>>10268987
Feels anon. Especially when you work weekends for the extra $$$ but sacrifice those days when meets are held. I don’t envy being a college student though.

>>10270680
If you truly enjoyed the fashion, you would hate things like this, because they directly discourage and drive out women who wear it and demonize men who appreciate it.

Something tells me though you were called a scrote for a reason.

>>10269695
I would join. I played Second Life a ton when I was a kid/teenager and miss having a bunch of friends on there

>>10270756
Yup there was a Dick in my high school.

It's short for Richard.

>>10270769
>demonize men who appreciate it

Good.

>>10270797
why good?

>>10270765
It was definitely an unfamiliar job and they kind of threw me into it without much training, so that's part of it, but I also suspect that I'm just not suited for the type of energy at this job. It's very hectic and fast-paced and all my past jobs have been tricky, sure, but none as chaotic as this. I'm going to give it a month and if I still feel the same way I might have to have a very frank and unpleasant chat with my new manager.

It's honestly been eating me up all day and I don't know how many of these feelings I can attribute to first day anxiety and how much is true gut instinct about what is right for me.

Any advice is welcome, but thanks for listening, gulls.

>>10270802
Because they're creeps

>>10270806
>>10270797
I was more talking about like, people's partners who like the way they dress. According to this movie my husband is a pedophile.

I keep getting depressed and feeling as if I want to quit lolita and wear more normie styles, but these two Finnish lolitas I follow on Instagram keep dragging me back into it every time they post. I love their style so much that it makes me want to stay in the fashion.

>>10270841
Dont quit anon love your hobby

just paid for cats go round to ship to me ! so excited!

I hate going to work. I'm so tired and listless every evening, and on my days off I have to do all my chores. I don't have the energy to wear lolita since I started working. Should I sell my wardrobe to go on a long holiday?
>inb4 work less
I only work 5 days a week, 8 hours per day. I can't afford to work part-time.

God i hate women.

I'm jealous of people who work full time. I hate going to uni so fucking much. I get no satisfaction from it at all and have very little motivation to keep going, but I won't be able to support myself and enjoy lolita without having a well paying job.

>>10270769
some people was nice, some people was total pieces of shit, and some times everyone was a piece of shit for literally no reason other than me being a male

This board has become borderline worthless in the past year or so. /cgl/ seems so overrun by newfags and rps at this point that I’ve lost any sense of community I once had. It’s hard to want to give feedback on the cof threads because of how many shit tier coords you have to sift through now. Maybe I just need to step away for a while because this has become kind of a toxic space for me

How do I get a 12-14 year old gf?

I just want to love a girl who isn't used goods.

>>10270961
get muslim gf, they're usually virgin until marriage, or hardcore christian gf, not the LARPers though, those are turbo roasties

>>10270943
Yeah true. I've also noticed that there's too many scrotes who don't care about cosplay or lolita making worthless threads.

>>10270756
>>10270796
It wasn't always a crude word, either. It was slang for a detective for a while.

>>10270841
What are you depressed over? That it's hard? Or expensive? Or do you not feel like it suits you? I was the latter but I realized I was trying to wear stuff that I liked, but didn't like how it looked on me, and I changed from sweet to gothic. If it's judgment from other people on how you look, I want to say fuck them, but I do know that it can wear you down. I hope you find what makes you happy, anon.

>>10270943
I honestly think someone should make a private messageboard with a small questionnaire you have to fill out to make an account. Maybe add a timestamped photo of a coord of yours. And have all board sections be set such that only members can view them.

>>10270943
fucking weak 2bh, can't handle the banter, kys

>>10271001
That's about what facebook comms are, though. This is an anon message board. That does mean that shitty people can turn up, sure, but what you're proposing is like the exact opposite of the point of this board.

>>10271027
Facebook is tied to people's real names and identities. A messageboard is a nice inbetween because you can have your reasonably anonymous online identity but keep out leerers.
Look at kiwifarms. People are untraceable there as long as they really want to be.

>>10271001
Like a discord group?

>>10271060
kek

>>10270680
stop blaming everyone else for your poor behaviour. are you 12? you're the one suffering.
find a community you can actively participate in, you dolt.
you are not accepted because you don't wear the fashion, you won't just lurk like everyone else who nicely sits in the sidelines, and you put your hypersexual and ignorant 2 cents everywhere.
absolute walnut, I swear.

>>10270920
cry harder, just not here.
>>4chan.org/r9k

>>10271074
>and you put your hypersexual and ignorant 2 cents everywhere
some people is ok with it though, just wish I wouldn't get the hyper hostility I get all the time, I'll keep doing it though, fuck you all

>>10271079
hope you get banned. seek help.

>>10271083
never, because I make my degeneracy lolita related heh

>>10271079
Oh, are you the "bonner" guy?

>>10271099
off course, just doing my community service

I miss HWC. At least she was an actual lolita shitting up the board...

>>10270939
anon are you me? I hate school too and the only thing keeping me going is that I know I'm gonna like it better when I get a job and start making bank
let's cry together ;v;

>tfw no young, insecure middle school gf to show love and affection to and eventually marry
Where do I find one, bros?

>>10271157
get out pedo

>>10270939
>>10271151
I used to be like this and then I got my degree and am working full time. Although I regret not doing more while being a student I like how much money I’m making, but I’m tired all the time. Guess you can’t always have what you want. But I do love being out of the school system so. In the long run better, yes.

>some kids rammed into the back of me at a red light
>Now standing and walking is extremely painful
>Wearing all of my favorite shoes is now is difficult
I curse those empty-headed little shits every night

>>10271060
Discord sucks tho

>>10271079
I get that you see yourself as some kind of magnificent bastard, but at best you come off as a desperate retard who keeps repeating his non-jokes in the hopes that someone else equally retarded will come along and laugh.

I tried to dye my friend's hair for con while she was topless and now her nipples are green. I can't stop screaming.

>>10271352
The dye goes on the hair, friend. Well, at least she has a story to tell if she gets laid

>>10271343
Whats bad about it?

Hey gamers, I feel like I've been venting to my friends way too much recently and I feel like they're getting annoyed with it even though they always say it's fine, so I'm going to come here to vent a bit instead.
I'm asking my cosplay crush out next week and I'm so fucking terrified. Despite this being my first time really asking a girl out, I'm not actually nervous about asking, that's the easy part. I'm just terrified that I cant really fill the role in her life that I want to or that she wants me to. I just want to be able to make her smile and laugh, I want the two of us to have fun together and enjoy each other's presence but I'm so scared that I won't be able to provide that for her. I'm so bad at talking to people it's physically painful. I don't think I've made her genuinely smile or laugh once, on the other hand talking to her makes me so happy it's like nothing even matters. It's so one sided I don't think a relationship can be sustained like that.
I'm not going to give up on asking her, and I think she'll say yes to a first date, I just can't bring myself to believe that I can really support a relationship with her in the long term. I was super optimistic just the other day though, so I guess this is just the natural ups and downs.

>>10271352
>I tried to dye my friend's hair for con while she was topless
well there's your problem

>>10271364
Damn I just got done coaching my kid over the exact same thing. And no don't listen to the "just b urself" garbage, think of the ideal you SHOULD be and then emulate that. It's natural have doubts about being able to support another human being emotionally, and being nervous shows you at least care enough to not want to fuck up. So, take the time to listen to what she needs, actually make the attempt to understand those needs, and your work is cut out from you thereon.

This 54k yen Mary Magdalene coat has been tempting me for a week so I caved and bought it. It's insanely beautiful but my wallet is weeping.

>>10270381
That's great and all, and I'm glad you're doing it for you, but did you try to get cute prescription lenses?
That being said some people (myself included) hate lenses that are too small so I can get what you mean if you thought size was the issue.

>>10271352
Your friend either has a really weird hair follicle or two or you were doing a lot more than just dying their hair

>>10271364
good luck ?

Why are women so bigoted towards pedosexuality?

>Go to first con today
>See all the people cosplaying and having a good time
>Lingering guilt and regret of being too lazy to not get my cosplay done in time
>Go home early cause depressed and bored
I'm the big fucking sad, but I also kind of feel determined. I want to have fun next year.

I hate women but love girls.

What does that make me?

>>10269343
You mean something like this?

>>10271492
A fucking creep

>>10269951
I meant dont have an unwanted child and ruin his life you walnut

It's hard to put earbuds in when you're wearing a bonnet :/ or maybe I'm just retarded and tied it too tight.

>>10271516
Just ignore and report the pedoposters, anon.

>>10271538
Nayrt but I've reported at least 5 of this retard's posts. He needs to be banned.

I almost have as much taobao as brand and I feel guilty

>>10271719
why feel guilty, clothes are clothes

>>10271722
Because of the stigma against taobao clothes. I know I shouldn't care how people think but I still care. I like my clothes but I'm ashamed of them.

>>10271364
Why are you posting SnK spoilers randomly in a feels thread? Yikes

>>10268974
Would someone from here consider getting into an LDR with someone you met online (Discord, IG, other such apps)? Or do those like never work

>>10271741
I was in an LDR for a couple years with a guy I met online. We're now married and still extremely happy six years later.

>>10271741
I’ve been in a couple LDRs (with guys I met in person first) and neither worked, ultimately owing to the distance. I’m not saying it can never work but so think the odds are always gonna be against you

>>10271741
I met my partner in a Discord server. No irl meeting yet due to outside circumstances -- financial and logistic, since in our case we're on exact opposite sides of the world -- but it's coming. Almost 2 years in and very happy.

>>10271743
>>10271747
Frick, I wish I can replicate this happiness. I have so much trouble meeting people in cons or otherwise that online feels like the only real way to do it.

However, these online friendships/relationships always seem to fizzle out after a while. It's hard to stand out when you're easily replaced with another person just like you over the same medium

>>10271747
>my partner
>No irl meeting

lmfao wait until you meet and actually can't stand each other

>>10271492
a pedo

>>10271391
Women have hair (and thus follicles) around their nipples pretty often actually. They just pluck them so you don't know.

>>10268974
I hate girls but love women. What does that make me?

>>10271749
>>10271743 here. It helps that it was in a super niche and close knit community with like-minded artsy weirdos. A surprising number of folks from there have gotten married, actually.
When you find that real connection, you'll know. There's no mistaking it. It draws you together like oil to fire.

>>10271754
Ah, what I'd give to be in a small tight knit community like that. I feel like I once have been in those kinds of places but my social anxieties pushed me far, far away.

I'd love to even have close friends to share music and art and inspiration with, even if it was all platonic and never ended in finding a relationship. Sorry for rambling.

>>10271753
Gay

Told myself I was done with meets, but scrolling through my comm's page I can't help but feel wistful seeing everyone having a good time. I've come to realize that the reason I that I never enjoy myself is more my own doing, not theirs.

I used to be convinced that if I had one friend to spend time with in lolita, I wouldn't need a comm. Now I realize that I'm stilted as fuck and can't hold onto friendships in general, let alone make new ones through lolita.

>>10271749
I'm >>10271747 agreeing with other anon - it's magic. I told my partner in these exact words "I felt something I couldn't explain". I would hope what we have doesn't fizzle, because he is an irreplaceable existence to me and I can only hope he feels the same. And can also only hope that you find that connection one day too whether platonic or romantic.

>>10271750
That's entirely possible. We have SO much chemistry over calls and texting though I know it doesn't always translate to irl since everyone has their quirks that can only be experienced face-to-face. I'm actually most worried about the sexual compatibility - I'm experienced while he's actually a literal kissless virgin, though he's an incredible sexter and I think with some gentle guiding he'll be a phenomenal lover given a few tries to build up stamina. But I am prepared for the possibility there will be something incompatible irl. I'd rather give it a shot than never know.

>>10271763
Is your comm unfriendly?

I always have so much fun at cons, but all I do is wander around and look at cosplayers. I don't even manage to strike up conversations. I have the resources and some of the skills to get into it, but I'm terrible at inserting myself into communities and feel like I'd end up doing the exact same thing but dressed up instead.

>>10271741
I've been with my husband for over 9 years and we met on an MMO (not Wow). Our 3rd wedding anniversary is next month. I just made him a cup of tea in a spooky halloween mug and later today we're putting together Ikea furniture and catching up on laundry. It's hard but I pretty much immediately in love with him, like maybe by the 3rd day of talking. People who say you can't fall in love on the internet can suck my diiiiiickkkkkkkkk

I impulse bought a dress that doesn't fit with my wardrobe. I had a few different ideas for my next purchases, and was eyeing some of my usual classic stuff--but this OP popped up and I fell in love with it immediately.

Should I bite the bullet and get new accessories to match this one dress, or just cut my losses and resell because it doesn't match the rest of my clothes? I feel a bit silly for buying it without spending enough time to consider beforehand.

>>10269729
just let him know you need him by your side asap, good luck

>>10271803
What MMO?

>>10268987
i wanna deep dick you while you wear lolita t: finnish viking dick man

>>10271802
But if you're in cosplay, maybe someone will talk to you first about it.

>>10271828

>>10271828
perkele

My best friend is trying to set me up on a "semi-blinddate" with a classmate of his; Classmate seems kind from what I've heard, but I'm a bit nervous about dating because of my fashion. I wear Liz Lisa style/himekaji/that kind of j-fash, but not daily, and I'm afraid any guy I date will either find it weird or think its some kind of weird age-play thing.
Will I ever find love or am I too dumb about this whole thing?

>>10271755
No worries.
I have a very hard time making close friends as well actually.

>>10271903
>and I'm afraid any guy I date will either find it weird or think its some kind of weird age-play thing.
you never know, he might be into it ;^)
men, generally speaking are very tolerant, he'll consider it as part of your autism and be accepting of it

>>10271912
This, just be prepared to answer a couple of dumb questions.

>>10271912
>>10271915
You're probably right, my friend trying to set us up is also a guy, and whilst he has known me for a while, he literally didn't know what I was hinting on when I told him that the way I dress might scare people off. If classmate is as nice about it as my friend then hopefully it'll go over no problem; idek if I'll like the guy.
Dumb questions is fair enough, but honestly I'd probably be too scared to ever wear the style in front of a future partners parents place.

Another question; how do y'all think one should bring the topic of ones style up to dates? Should I go all out and just wear it the first time we meet, or should it be something you introduce slowly?
I have some weird shame about my style, not even my coworkers know about it, since I have a second IG dedicated to jfash only and they follow my normie account.

>>10271903
Don't overthink it. You date to find out of you suit each other. And your goal is to find a guy who likes you and the stuff you love. Go normal for first date if you're really worried but sound him out on what he thinks of quirky fashions. If you guys hit it off, arrange a second date and tell him you'll show up in toned down j-fash next time.

>>10269171
Have a penis

>>10271389
I have two pairs of glasses similar to this picture, one in black and one in dark red, and I think they look okay with most of my regular/casual coords but I feel like they look really weird with OTT whenever I dress up a little extra for cons/tea parties! I also cosplay too so they of course clash if the characters I cosplay don't wear glasses.

>>10269132
>>10271945
Based

>>10269729
learn how to use condoms, idiot

>>10269171
You're barking up the wrong tree.

Why would you ever want to hug a person from 4chan, male or female?
They're all god awful degenerates

>>10271903
Don't fret. A lot of my lolita friends have normal boyfriends. I don't think it'll be much different with himekaji. It just looks very feminine and girly, not fetishy.

>>10269132
top lmao. is this board the female version of r9k?

>>10272143
Seriously wtf?
Are you too lost here? imho it's all larping trannies like crystal cafe but what do I know.

>>10272177
First day browsing here desu

>>10272180
ah, my assumption was correct, see this thread
>>10259576
Mostly dudes and trannies. I think the only place on 4chan with actual girls are soc and x.

>>10272201
WEW that thread
thanks for the insight anon

>>10272177
You know nothing. Lolita's tend not to self post because cgl is known in the community to be nothing more than evil meanies and all lolita's a supposed to be lovelies who don't go on 4chan. Sorry, but most women who are sane should hate men the same they hate women. It's only fair.

I hate women.

Schopenhauer was absolutely right. Only men blinded by sexual desire think highly of women.

Going to Tokyo in two weeks and I’m so concerned about the aftermath of the typhoon, I still have to find any personal posts with any current details from anyone living there which I’m more interested in instead of getting riled up by the media (checking 2chan when I get home from work)

>>10272289
just depends on where you're going? Hakone is a no go at the moment, I believe their rail line got fucked up majorly. Best to contact your hotel and search the area (Kanji included) you're thinking of going to on twitter to see if anyone has posted pictures of damage etc.

>>10272302
Goddamnit, we were going to visit Hakone (only for a night but I don’t know it’s too late to get a refund) I’ll contact the hotel later and check with them.
Otherwise we’re going to live in central Tokyo, close tom Chiyoda park and just explore the city in general. We were also planning on going to Kyoto for a bit......

>>10272143
This board is /r9k/ with frills

>>10272201
>>10272211
It's mostly cosplayers posting there though. It's already well known that most of the cosplayers on the board are men.

Based mods deleting disgusting male posts.

>>10271903
Easy just wear one of your louder outfits to the first date and if he makes any comment critizing it, stop seeing him immediately. It'll save you lots of time trust me.

>>10269909
dating normies is the wave, honestly. Slowly pulling them into your interests and also supporting theirs is a good way to date. don't date people who like anime a lot or people who seem overly excited about your clothes in general. fuck that. You should always be the weirdo in your relationships.

Not much of a feels but more of a complaint of what I encountered at a recent Artist Alley
>Walking through aisles
>Booth yells "Hey do you wanna buy some shit??" at me.
Don't understand why anyone would think it's okay to do this, but it turned me off even more than the MLP art they were advertising.

>out with friend near central park, not in lolita but wearing brand hoodie
>see someone in a full lolita coord
>try to compliment her on her coord but she has her headphones in and is in full "ignore normies" mode

made me wish i had worn a full coord so we could have had a "same hat" moment :< her jsk was brown and i think it mightve been ap

>>10269909
sounds like a typical white dude who likes asians. why don't you try stopping your self hate and date a fellow asian instead?

>>10272306
Central Tokyo is fine, Kyoto is too. There are traffic issues here and there but it’ll clear up within a couple weeks anyway. But make sure to contact your hakone hotel/check the hotel webpage. You might be lucky enough to squeeze out of the reservation. You should check out Nikko for your overnight trip! Beautiful place

>>10269909
Now thats some fucking historical shit anon thanks, white people will fetishize and fuck anything at this point

>>10272694
>>10272660
Weirdly racist comments

>>10272727
this desu when will r9k just leave

>>10272660
Sadly, he was black.

>>10269729
You could tell him if you really think you are pregnant, honestly I had a fairly similar thing happen to me.

My boyfriend had a pretty rough patch and he said he needed a break to re-think his life because of personal stuff his mother had just died so I gave him space. Until about a week later.
I was pregnant, and told him immediately when I found out. He didn't think I was serious at first and I had to make sure he knew that I wasn't actually lying.

What I didn't tell him at the time is that I was scared to fucking death of being a single mom and being pregnant alone. I didn't want to guilt him into it but I figured look we're both idiots for not wearing a condom, plus he has to know it's his child as well.
We came back together and later told me that me being pregnant was what helped him a lot because I guess it was a motivational thing and that being a father gave him a purpose to buckle down.

Also adoption is a thing, I honestly couldn't fucking think of being a single mom, we were miserable as it was but having each other helps a LOT.

>>10268974
just sent a message to my ex proposing we hatefuck and I can't take it back
mfw

>>10272780
>"all men think with their penis, but we don't"
yeah I see it clearly now

>>10269951
>A fetus isn't a child, burgerbrain.
ok sure

>tfw rewatch kamikaze girls and realise that Ichigo is why I've had a crippling obsession with yankee manga for a long time
>tfw no delinquent gf with a heart of gold
>tfw too frilly and well-behaved to be the delinquent gf

Turning 28 this year and still live with my parents, I deeply regret the degree I studied and feel like I squandered the oppertunties in life I had to be free and happy.

>>10272787
Look thanks for the video, because I'm personally super freaked out by it in an intrigued way, but by the same token you should really, REALLY delete this post before mods see it.

>>10272787
Oh yeah forgot to ask it in my last post but how far along was this pregnancy?

>>10272802
Figure out your own edge gull, I'm sure you can have some fun with it without going full degenerate

>>10272809
What degree? Why are the job prospects either shit or not well paying enough?

>>10272780
What would be the male version of this gif? I can't visualize it at all. What color would his hair be? Would he still have suspenders?

>>10272810
>>10272811
Shit I missed it and now am extremely curious to what the video was

>>10272818
recently aborted fetus that was responsive to touch and was moving its limbs
Pretty awful

>>10272819
Gross. Just nociception, though, if it makes you feel better. Even plants respond to touch.

>tfw move out of my parents house and get my shit together
>start exercising and eating better
>I've lost 6 pounds so far
>mfw I'm finally going to be able to fit into brand and tiny cosplays soon


I'm so fucking happy oh my god

I'm so tired of my family asking me for financial support.

I've made some poor spending choices because of fashion and hobbies and I'm trying to save up money now. And my mom is quick to ridicule me for liking lolita and keeping my figures, but is just as quick to ask me for money to "help my aunt" or "help my sister get her dog fixed".

My sister is married, is living rent free because she's staying in her mother-in-law's house, and has a husband with a good job.I love her to bits but I think she can take care of things on her own.

And my mom made me lend another aunt 1K before and she never paid me back, she legit broke off contact with us and there was nothing I could do about it.

I live on my own and have a stable job and I just want to have 10K saved in the bank dammit. I know it's not a lot, but I want to start with a small goal and feel like I'll never get there because I have to take care of other people too.

>>10273054
You need to learn how to say no and stand up for yourself

>>10273054
10k is a lot to have in a savings account, especially when you're young. Don't listen to whatever bs reddit says.

>>10268974
Just spilled my sewing needles on my carpet floor. Wish me luck cleaning this shit

>>10273118
Oh god goodluck anon

>>10273118
Get a magnet

>>10272780
they said they're going to file a police report on me now

>>10273118
>lost a needle without even realizing it
>found it later in my foot
>can't feel pain so didn't realize this until I'd already bled everywhere on my carpet

>>10273118
I second >>10273142
get one of those big fishing magnets. Its come in handy so often after dropping needles or nails or whatever inside or outside my house.

>>10269909
>>10270027
I'm a dude who likes petite girls and this is pretty much exactly why I virtually never say it. I'm not entirely sure why I like you guys but it's sure as hell not ageplay or diapers or being into actual little girls or any of that shit, that stuff all revolts me.

You guys aren't wrong to have the perception you do, though, I seem to be the only guy on Earth who's into petite girls who ISN'T some kind of pedo. I've had way too many friends over the years that I thought just had similar taste to me and then they busted out the disturbing lolicon doujins or started talking about ageplay fetishes or whatever.

>in a relationship
>all signs point to me being emotionally abused to the point everyone and their mother tells me to get the fuck out
>stay in it because I'm convinced I will never find someone even that close to "perfect" for me because I'm an unlovable sack
What did I mean by this?

>>10273274
Be the one to love yourself and get out of abusive relationships.

>>10273216
it’s a mans instinct to protect their loved ones, generally smaller than them, like babies, so it’s pretty normal

>>10273294
barf

Honestly, I'm feeling pretty bad. I hope my mail comes soon.

>>10273274
Being alone is much better than being abused.

>>10273396
This. And these type of people never get better, if anything things just escalate.

My cousin is currently with a fucking loser who doesn't have a job, got a truck under her name, and is having her make the payments. It baffles me why she stays with him, but I'll admit that she's obese and not the most attractive individual so I think she also has the same "I'll never find someone else" mentality.

But what's the point in even being in a relationship if someone is abusive or is a loser who sponges off of you?

>>10273400
>whats the point
Lonliness can drive you crazy, we are wired for companionship. Also society is built on the assumption that you have a partner. Being alone is a red flag, big time

>>10273274
I was in an emotionally abusive relationship. Trust me, leave them asap. You can't keep living your life for other people. All that will happen is greater sadness and a waste of years. Do it safely if you're living with them. Wait until they are out and have your friend or family help get your shit out. Get to a safe place. Break up over text if needed. Protect yourself. Do not get back together even if they threaten suicide. People who are emotionally abusive are probably emotionally unstable and may seek revenge. Please stay safe. Someone else will love you and the "love" that you're recieving is likely fake to a certain extent. Maybe they love the attention you give them, but they will never love you for yourself. I stayed with my abuser for so long because they convinced me that they were the only person who could love me. It was a lie and theres lots of wonderful people out there who will give you real love. Start living for yourself first.

>>10270758
>not knowing that elastic deteriorates over time and will stretch out even if you aren't a fatty
newfag

>tfw years of walking up and down several steep flights of stairs with a literal 10 pound bag on my back daily has given me hideously thick calves

I doubt there's any way to shrink them too at this point even though I no longer live that way

>>10271763
>funny, i don't remember writing this
are you me?

>>10273442
this is why I live with friends/housemates. I can have companionship when I want it, but then shut the door when I want to be alone.
You don't actually NEED a romantic partner in your live to be happy anon.

>>10273453
>You don't actually NEED a romantic partner in your live to be happy anon.
How many cats do you own

>>10273453
Yes, I also have a roommate and I hang out with friends when possible. And this is enough for me.

But I do see where anon is coming from re people seeing being alone as a red flag.

I am asexual and have never had a boyfriend. A lot of my relatives are convinced that I'm a lesbian who is scared of coming out of the closet and my mother, who I have explained that I am asexual to, assured me that if I want to get a girlfriend it's okay...

I know there are many spectrums of asexuality and unfortunately I don't like physical contact that's intimate, so I don't know if I'll ever find a boyfriend who would be willing to put up with that.

And my relatives ask me if I've gotten a boyfriend all the time. It's definitely a flag to them. Kind of annoying and it's off-putting to go to family gatherings.

>>10273454
What's wrong with being a cat lady? It just goes to show how society memes women into getting into relationships with worthless scrotes just they can make other people happy.

>>10273281
>>10273396
>>10273400
>>10273443
Thanks anons. Right now I am at this point where I need to practice self love. They've stopped putting me down and started trying to include me in things they'd exclude me from, which just gives me panic attacks out of fear that I won't be good enough and they'll hate me again. I don't think they can heal from their abuse, and I don't think it will get better. Theyve just started taking it out on other people instead. Im not sure how I can learn self love but I will try, and hopefully I stop feeling like such an unlovable sack that I stop isolating myself, make irl friends and kick them out.

>>10273455
I used to identify as asexual but now I also think it's a red flag desu. Everyone I've talked to who's asexual was really just too insecure to let people touch/see their naked body or had some other type of issues that made them afraid of intimacy.

Positive feels:
>Be me at Holmat '18
>All the friends I came with are cosplayers or photographers, no fellow lolitas
>Spend most of the con in the hotel room while everyone else is getting drunk while I, an intellectual, (read: fucking moron) prefer weed and was too scared to travel with my stash
>F it go down to the con floor alone in lolita you paid for a badge
>Run into stranger lolitas from the Florida comm
>"Your coord is cute!" "Your coords are cute too!" gushing ensues
>Tbh though they were both very well dressed which I'm not used to at cons
>I let it slip that I smoke somehow and prepare for embarrassment cuz idk before this encounter I assumed most lolitas were pretty conservative when it came to substances. Laugh all you want.
>"Oh? We're about to go to a panel but do you wanna add us so you can come up to our room for a blunt later?"
>shocked and awed but fuckyes.jpeg
>Later on they come through on their promise and invite me up to their room for 420 time
>They give me free edibles and we watch that anime with the skeleton who works in the book store while they kick in
>Sit out on the balcony in our brand and pass the blunt while the resort puts on a surprise (well, surprise to me) fireworks/laser show overlooking the pool area
>good vibes were had

Still my favorite beginning to a beautiful friendship type story to tell. I didn't know lolitas were litty. nb4 "Ew you smoke in your brand" they're my clothes I rarely sell and when I do I disclose that I smoke and cut the price accordingly.

>>10273529
I'm not sure as I don't really have an issue with people seeing my naked body.

I've identified as asexual since I was in my early teens and I'm in my late twenties now.

I suppose it could be something underlying that I am not thinking about, but I'm not sure. I wouldn't mind having a partner or anything like that, I just wouldn't want to have intimate contact with them...

>>10273529
Can insecurity and fear of intimacy lead someone to lose their sex drive entirely? Is it possible to get it back? Because I’m that kind of “asexual” and I hate it and I want to get better.

>>10273557
Asexuality isn't a lack of sex drive, it's a lack of attraction.

>>10273565
>it's tumblr-tier made up shit
fix'd

>>10273565
Okay but can my sex drive just show up when I haven't had one for years? That's what I'm asking

>>10273529
that's just your experience anon.
It's true that sexuality is a spectrum and identity can fluctuate for many people. Be careful not to erase other people who may be strictly and permanently ace just because your self-identification changed.
>>10273551
trust yourself. you're probably right to ID as asexual.

>>10273567
Lack of sex drive is quite common as a symptom of anxiety and stress, which is what it sounds like you're dealing with. Deal with the underlying issues about why you have such insecurities and fears, and I'm guessing it will return.

>>10273482
I didn't think I would ever need to tell someone to have sex as badly as I am telling you right now because Y I K E S.

>>10273530
I also know several lolitas who smoke, including myself. It's legal in so many states and washing machines exist! I don't think many people care desu even girls who don't smoke in the comm and know that I do seem completely unfazed by it.

>>10271492
>A pedo
>Gay
>A creep
>weird

>>10271492
wait til you have to deal with girl's bullshit

I received a new skirt today and I'm so excited to wear it. Sadly I'm sensitive to perfume, and it smelled pretty strongly of the stuff. It's better than BO, but damn... I'm letting it air out on the balcony overnight in a desperate hope it will be good to wear tomorrow. Here's to having nightmares of it being blown into the woods even though it's a windless night!

Newbie question: whats a coord

>>10273628
Coordinate
A combined look of an outfit from blouse jsk(jumperskirt) to matching tights and shoes.

>>10273628
Coordinate aka outfit. Next time ask the stupid questions thread newfag-chan.

>>10273620
Just wash it jfc

>>10273620
Why are some lolitas so afraid of washing their clothes? WASH YOUR CLOTHES.

>>10273648
Yes please for the love of god wash your clothes.

>>10273643
>>10273648
>>10273652
>P-pls no bully
My paranoia got the best of me and I took it inside. Guess I'll wash it tomorrow and wear it on Friday instead...

You only have yourself to blame for not being a part of my panels. All I wanted was a simply apology. That’s it. I can’t pretend you didn’t hurt me, and I won’t act like things are good between us just so you can be a part of what I worked on.

>>10273684
???

>>10273687

Former friend is being salty on fb that I’m doing a panel at an upcoming con without him. Said former friend used to treat me like shit and would go out of his way to put me down. I guess he still expected me to let him help with my panel.

>>10273694
Okay......?

>>10273604
Idk why it surprised me desu. I remember I was in a carpool with some lolitas on the way to a meet when I mentioned feeling like I was the only girl in the comm who smoked they all laughed and said they all smoke. I guess it's just that visual juxtaposition of picturing a beautiful elegantly dressed OTT lolita scraping resin out of a bowl lol.

>>10273704
it’s the feels thread they don’t need to give you an explanation.

>be very into lolita when i was in high school
>followed burando, but never had any money for coords
>have a job now
>no longer into lolita or frilly fashion

hurts a little bit

LDR cosplay gf was convinced by her new ffxiv erp buddies that I'm an emotional abuser so she dumped me. I'm having such a hard time getting over it. Maybe I am an emotional abuser, idk

>>10273704
nayrt but sometimes a fucker just needs to vent, you know? at least it's an appropriate vent for this board.

>>10273823
Anon I’m here for you man, I’m sorry that happened

>>10273823
you can't change the past, but you can learn from it. so even if they're not lying that you have flaws, you have the power to improve. and if they were lying, then you'll be an improved version of something that was already good, so no downside. keep doing you.

>>10273453
an incel wrote this

Hey anons,
What is the best way to get lucky at cons now

Sucks to be into both sweet & gothic bc my closet is packed...

All that planning, all that build up, and I pussied out at the last second. It's like my body has some sort of vendetta agaisnt me and every time I try to be happy it drags me back to the state of anhedonism that I've grown so accustomed to over the years.
The worst part is that I just want to cry about it like the pathetic weakling I am but I can't. I literally haven't cried in several years. It's the feeling of perpetually being on the verge of tears but not being able to let it out. It drives me insane.
I'm such a pathetic, worthless loser.

>>10273954
nope. sorry sweaty. you can keep thinking that though if it makes you feel better about your choices though.

>>10274216
what hurt you anon?

>>10274259
That's actually the worst part anon. There was no traumatic event or mistreatment from my past or anything that caused me to be like this, I've just been like this for as long as I can remember. I have nobody to blame but myself.

And if it wasn't clear from my post I was planning on asking a girl out today, the president of my uni's cosplay club, but I didn't do it because I'm a little bitch who can't open up to people.

>>10274261
Are you the same anon who was whinging about this issue like a year ago when it was obvious that the girl wasn't interested in him?

>>10274261
just be a pussy and ask her out on facebook like everyone else

>>10274270
Nah
>>10274273
Anon nobody does this why would you tell lies on the internet?

>>10272812
Sorry for the late reply anon, I got a law degree and the prospects are both very low and the pay is quite poor for what is required of you.

>>10268987
I hate this so much. I only found out after getting in too deep that part time work is practically nonexistent in my field, so you either work from dawn til dusk every weekday or not at all. On weekends I was too busy with chores and recharging to leave the house so I barely had the chance to wear lolita even if I could afford more of it. After having a burnout I’m now a NEET and have all the time in the world for my hobbies but feel uncomfortable dipping into my savings for burando when I have no steady income. Part time jobs outside my field won’t hire me because I’m overeducated. Send help

>Have eye on something for a while but it's sold out
>Saving up money to buy myself a computer
>Almost saved up budget for computer
>Thing comes back in stock
>Trying my absolute fucking hardest to not purchase the item
Jesus christ, I have such little self-control. But I just know that if I don't buy it now, it'll just appear on secondhand markets later probably at a higher price than what it originally sells for. I'll most likely end up not buying it, but it hurts.

>>10274659
If the thing is less than 5% of what you're saving up for, I say buy it.

I feel like such a bitch right now.

I was going to buy a dress and would have been okay to do so, but now my sister's dog needs surgery and I've been asked to contribute a big sum of money towards the surgery.

I won't be in the red, but I certainly can't buy anything for a while now.

I kind of don't want to give such a large amount but it's expected of me now and it's not like I can say, "no sorry you're dog is on his own."

>>10274934
Say you'll contribute a small part of it as a gift and the rest as a loan because you don't want the dog to die, but it also isn't your responsibility because it isn't your dog.

>>10269909
>using tinder
what a slut

I'm starting to think we're not all going to make it

>>10274641
I live the same way.