/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

The weather is looking nice where I am, now I get to wear coords without covering them with a coat or sweater~

>>10571841
Lucky. March is like a second shitty winter where I am

>>10571841
lucky, it's still cold as balls where I am. not that I could go anywhere until I'm vaxxed anyway thanks to me being a sickly weak little bitch

>>10571841
I live in Texas so it was below freezing a whole week and not really good for going out because of icy sidewalks then 90s the next. I just want consistent seasonal patterns like everyone else so I can justify the amount of secondhand coats and cloaks I bought in summer quarantine last year.

>>10571860
I have a friend in a similar situation. Hang in there, hopefully people get their shit together so you can live your life without risking it anymore

the weather is so nice in cali lately. I can't wait to go to ax at the end of the month

>>10571957
fuck off, soup, of course the weather is nice in cali, that's the only good thing about cali

>>10571957

We don't need you anymore soup, we have bpdcamwhorechan now.

>>10571964
great weather makes everything else better though. for example, the people. californians are so much happier than everyone else in the world. have you ever met a depressed califag? didn't think so
>>10571967
you don't need me but I need (you)'s


damn that was good. I'm so proud of myself for that one.

Should I start going to thrift stores and pawn shops for cheap jewelry, stupid belt buckles, old collared shirts, and rip the sleeves off of a few of my flannels to look like a 1970s era thug? I kinda want to make my own style, but I feel like it might be a little too cringe.

I thought I liked my boobs. Why do they feel bigger all of a sudden? How come all my bras and blouses fit the same, yet I am in discomfort whenever I notice the size of my own chest? Fuck me and my big tits, I hate it here

>>10571967
uwu <3

>>10572024
Send me a picture, I can double check for you.

>>10572024
You on the pill?

>>10571967
No one wants that retard.

>>10572047
uwu

>>10572046
No. I'm on my period right now even. But the big(ger) tit illusion has been going on for more than two weeks. I'm really at a loss.

>>10572051
have you taken a pregnancy test just to be sure about that factor?

>>10572024
maybe you've gained weight?

I miss the early 2010s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cvn23AOdP_M&ab_channel=KyaryPamyuPamyu-Topic

>>10571841
God I wish that were me, the weather here is terrible. I just want to be able to wear a full coord without melting on the pavement. I can't even be a homelita because I'll just sweat all over my clothes and be uncomfortable the whole time. Life is suffering

>>10572052
But bpd-chan I'm on my period RIGHT NOW, shark week hit me hard TODAY. How can I possibly be pregnant if my uterus is throwing out everything a baby needs to survive? I might be dumb and confused, but I refuse to believe my biology is.

>>10572059
Mayhaps... But I haven't noticed any change anywhere except my boobs. We don't have a scale in my house, so I can't check if anything has changed.
>why don't you have a sca-
Roommate has recovered from ED, and I generally don't care. Weight and size has never been an issue for me before.

>>10572051
My gf when I first met her at B cups. In about the span of 4 months she went to an DD/E.

Sometimes they just get bigger.

I'm fairly active in the punk community as well as egl and I stg lolita is the only thing keeping me from cutting my hair into a mullet

>>10572023
YES DO IT ANON! If you're being creative and getting joy out of it, that's what counts. Godspeed

>>10572079
I relate to this so hard, I went from buzz cut to hime cut because of egl...

>>10572078
But I'm 23! I thought I was done with all of this. More importantly I CAN'T AFFORD GROWING OUT OF MY LOLITA WARDROBE holy hell stop this nonsense immediately I'm fear mongering at this point, so much money going down the drain

I've just remembered I can measure myself tomorrow, to see if my actual measurements have changed. For now I will sleep my worries away.

>>10572079
Maybe it's just my cultural background but mullets are fucking disgusting.

Anon who posted about gf claiming she was stupid because I spend 10 hours a day at university.

I tried to make a compromise with her than I would spend every other day studying at home so that she would have company. That was a bad idea.

I actually kept track and she interacts with me on average once every 10 minutes for about 2 minutes at a time, this is semi-reliable data as I started just ignoring her after a while because I was getting really annoyed. She got so bored that she just started shaking my chair back and forth or pressing her boobs into my face for attention when I began to ignore her. Completely destroyed my productivity.

Does anyone have any advice on how I can encourage her to study when we are together so that she's happy and I can get things done? I don't want her to be lonely or upset but fuck I need to study, maths and shit is hard enough for me.

>>10572094
be more dominant and give her rules to follow or some shit so she can leave you alone and still be in a fun headspace? then bang her real good after your study session. just an idea nonny ymmv

>>10572081
Time to take up the mantle of my Manhattan Jewish grandfather who dressed like a cowboy and a mafioso and my punk jock Catholic school boy father who wore the dumbest shit the dress code would allow. Come to think of it, some of their stupid belt buckles were passed down to me. Fuck yeah.

>>10572107
you and your family are based af nonny

>>10572090
Oh no, they totally are. That's why I love them lol. Tbh I guess the look I'm craving is more of a shag than a buzzcut with a rattail, but I digress
>>10572086
Lol does your insta @ start with a M and end with an E? I think you might be in my comm lmaooo

Back when I was 19 I used to feel an inclination to larp as anime characters, pretend to be like them in real life and pick up their habits to be more like them, and it also felt like my vocabulary had some sort of desire to add Japanese words.
But that's long gone. Where did my soul go? I don't feel anything like this anymore.
If I'd combined this with cosplay I'd probably be super popular at conventions.
I've become soulless. I don't know if it could come back if my life changed for the better, or if my soul is gone forever.

>>10572079
i say do it! i’m a tradgoth > sweet lolita and my hair is cut into a shag/mullet i just wear wigs or style it into a sort of hime gyaru inspired bouffant with a headbow etc and make it work, hair grows back anyways you should do something crazy with it at least once in your life.

>>10572115
I believe not anon, but whoever that is I hope she's as happy with her new hime cut as I am. I'm into punk like you and rocked a buzz cut for 6 or 7 years, and then for the last 4 years I've been growing my hair out loooong. Wardrobe hasn't changed though. I miss the versatility and the low maintenance vibe it had though. Do you hate wearing wigs too anon? I'd honestly just have a perma buzz cut and a perfectly maintained hime wig if I didn't hate wigs so much lol. I feel like no matter how high quality of a wig/wig cap I buy they feel like sandpaper.

>>10572116
no offense nonny but that kind of behavior would grate on most people’s nerves even at anime conventions i hope you get your spark back and feel better regardless tho

>>10572120
To many people I think it could be annoying, but I also think it'd give me more of a spark and make me braver to talk to people as well.

I just remember I spent a whole weekend trying to act like Osaka, and I almost stopped carrying my phone for like half a year because of Konata and I also began comparing real life situations to anime because of her

These days I just go to conventions but I don't feel the power of friendship no that was not what I meant to say, but I don't feel the good socialization I may hope someone talks to me but the socialization doesn't feel intense anymore it's like I'm disconnected from things.

At one convention a few years ago I started laughing at something, it may not even have been a deep laugh just a surface laugh, and one person I was walking with said that they hadn't heard me laugh in a long time (not as bad as it sounds because we rarely hung out together anyway) and I just quickly stopped laughing

>>10571831
I am within 10lbs of my weight loss goal, things are opening back up slowly, and Iaam the most financially stable I've ever been

2021 is looking up

>>10572079
i also have a shag which is in the same-ish category and wear OTT sweet. honestly it looks fucking good and the layers are way more youthful and pretty than my old style (aka no layers, just thicc)

>>10572119
I'm not sure if I hate wigs since I was fine cosplaying in them for 10+ hours a day back in high school, but I'm lucky that my current hair (realllllly long and straight) is pretty easy to style so I question whether I'm ready to give that up, haha. Especially since i feel like wigs feel too out there if it makes sense? Like I know I'm wearing a big ass petti in public but wigs are what push it over the edge for me haha

>>10572117
That sounds cute!!! A shag like pic related is kind of the vibe I'm going for, but a little more mullet-ish. I guess if it doesn't work out, I can always cut it into a bob, which is what I've had most of my life anyhow

>>10572094
i didn't read your old post but your gf sounds like she has actual brain damage

>>10572123
you sound autistic

I thought I was having an okay day. Then one tiny thing went wrong and caused me to break down and cry like a baby. And then some good things happened but other little things went wrong and I became uncontrollably sad and began thinking about how both my big brother and my dad passed away and how I really miss them and I am now crying so hard both my nostrils closed completely and I almost started vomiting which happens often if I cry too hard for a long time...

I don't really have any friends or anyone to talk to. I feel super alone. I never really had much good growing up except my few good family members and it feels like almost all of what little I ever had was taken away from me. My job is good and I live in a nice place but none of that feels like it matters when I'm so empty and alone. I know no one here cares much because I'm just some anonymous crybaby but I have no other place to express myself. I thought I was finally out of the phase of grief where I cried myself to sleep and became incapacitated for a whole day, feeling like I want to die, but apparently not. I just miss them so much and it's hard figuring out what to do without them.

I wish my post was about a relatable feeling like buying or missing a dream dress or recieving some lovely item in the mail.

I don’t know why I keep coming back here. Anons just keep having the same arguments and circulating the same bait over and over.

>>10572123
Sperg

>>10572094
get a new one.

>tfw our new trip retard is obviously just soup pretending

>>10572158
It’s too obvious

>>10572162
Him making the feels threads as her definitely is.

>>10572126
Happy happy day, nonny.

>email from AP
>"your item has been shipped!"
>look up tracking number
>"shipping label printed, awaiting item"

where is the lie, AP

My imposter syndrome is seeping into wearing lolita

>>10572147
Same situation here really and to be honest I don’t know what to tell you really, you’ll have to open up to people more and rearrange your mind so that little voice that tells you you’re worthless and have no friends would shut the fuck up, don’t forget that this is not you, you’re a great person but you ruin yourself and you have the power to change that yourself

>>10572163
>>10572158
>>10572162
>him
>her
I don’t have bpd. I don’t even know what bpd is

>>10572024
>I thought I liked my boobs

They are swelling with pride.

>>10572172
How so?

>got 1k from to government for covid relief
>Spent half of it on lolita

Feels so good, not sure what else to blow my money on

>>10572215
People died in the French Revolution for this I hope you’re proud of yourself

>>10572216
They can spend their money however they want. Anything to gain happiness in this hellhole of a time and place

>>10572235
I mean it's basically monopoly money printed by the fed brought into circulation which is going to cause some real terrible long terms consequences. It doesn't really matter how they are going to spend it desu.

>>10572237
>I am very smart . Jpg

I got my dream dress in the mail today. My preferred color, NWT. It isn’t particularly rare, but I felt absolutely elated while opening the package.

I hope everyone finds their dream items soon

>>10572235
I know my remark wasn’t ironic I think Robespierre would’ve liked a Lolita
>Anything to gain happiness in this hellhole of a time and place
Why the negativity anything is what you make of it :)

>>10572202
>I don’t even know what bpd is
let me spoon feed you. bipolar disorder.

it's a form of depression switching between extremely positive and extreme negative feelings. Causes mood shifts and one moment you feel like you can own the world and often end up doing stupid things like buying way more than you can afford out of feeling overly positive about anything (causing you not to think about the issues of spending more than you can miss) which is called mania or hypermania, next moment you might be too depressed to do anything with life, which is just called depression.

>>10572266
don't respond to soup. (bpd isn't bipolar anyway it's borderline)

>>10572216
>Had the government pay for my useless shit while I eat fancy food in the comfort of my own home

My ancestors are smiling down at me, can you say the same thing?

>>10572266
you know what maybe I have bpd after all. whenever I get spoonfed a question I don't know it brings me back to when I was little and how everything was handed to me(happy), but when I have to google something I don't know it reminds me of how I have to do everything myself now(sad).
>>10572269
borderline is bdld, idiot

>>10572285
bpd stands for borderline personality disorder you fuckstick

>>10572285
maybe you're just retarded

>>10572288
bpd stands for (b)i(p)olar (d)isorder, dummy.
>>10572292
doubt I have 813 elo in chess

>>10572292
You can erase the maybe. There is no doubt anymore.

>>10572313
become a suicide statistic

>>10572279
I sure hope they smile at me while I browse this Persian transition forum

I'm super annoyed at the sweet trend. I'm a sweetfag since the original ott sweet days and I loved it when the style wasn't as popular. It's so sickening watching people wear dresses for random clout when just a few years back they were "gross ageplay" and no one wanted them. I loved buying up cheap unwanted pieces and loving them for what they are. I just want instagram lolitas to move on to something else already. Is OTT goth next?

I bet this is how the original old schoolers feel like. I barely see any decent old school for sale anymore either.

>>10572330
yeah that’s exactly how it feels.

I don’t care what anyone’s says soup has big dick energy

I love AP so fucking much. I can’t stop thinking about new releases. I can’t concentrate to anything until Thursdays. How do I stop thinking about AP?

I finally blocked Misako on Insta. I used to really like her but I got tired of seeing her face literally everywhere. Maybe that's just me.

>>10572266
BPD is borderline personality disorder you silly goose! But I have comorbid bipolar 1 disorder (abbreviated BD1 or BD2 depending on the type)

>>10572158
>>10572162
>>10572163
I mean I did post a timestamp with my hand on my dreamy baby room print next to my star rattle necklace. something tells me soup doesn't own any AP, let alone a piece that just sold for 60k yen lol

>>10572158
Hahaha you caught me lol~
It is I, spoop.
With the polar bi and the dick sucking
uwu

>>10572258
Sorry for misreading you, nonny

>>10572403
dbr was like <$150 until the last year and a half, weird flex

>>10572412
yeah, I got it in 2017 for around that much, but if soup had recently decided to larp as a slutty lolita he'd had to have coughed up a lot.

>>10572257
This is such a good feel. I'm happy for you anon

>>10572415
space lollipop is the only redeeming print in that wardrobe desu. dbr in pink is very underwhelming !

>>10572415
bpd-chan we kind of have the same exact pieces and i really don't want people to think i'm you

pls no more

>>10572415
Wtf that looks exactly like my hand this is creepy. All the porpotions and everything like we gotta have same fat percentage and all. Weird.

>>10572415
I'm coming to steal your dreamy baby room and wonder gallery pieces

>>10572425
lol thanks nonny. Space Lollipop is kind of underrated imo, but I think it might have something to do with the fact that the JSK cut was kinda fug and a lot of people dont like/can't fit into OPs. this is only a small section of my wardrobe. I've got a bit over 50 main pieces if I count my extra-casual AP cutsew OPs (not like little witch/MMB cutsew OPs but some older solids).

>>10572426
lmao I wonder how similar our wardrobes are in their entirety

>>10572427
I'm 160 cm and fluctuate around 98-102 lbs wbu nonny?

>>10572429
ganbatte. I have the power of Misako and anime on my side. I've studied my parasols and I know how to use them

>>10572433
i have about 80 with 85% being AP so whatever you have i probably do, at the very least in a different cut/color and vice versa. still tho if somebody starts spreading rumors i'm you please take responsibility

>>10572435
only if you promise to twin with me if/when I'm outed nonny. are you north american?

>>10572433
BPD-chan the more you post the more I wanna be your frien. Do you have a discord you can drop or a throwaway? Let’s be mentally ill hotties together

>>10572438
yeah i live in the USA. when the critical day comes, i vote milky planet or dreamy babby

>>10572433
>I'm 160 cm and fluctuate around 98-102 lbs wbu nonny?
165 and 127 so I'm a bit fatter than you but I have an aggressive pearshape going on so no fat on my upper body kek. Also weirdly feeling >>10572444 - I have never enjoyed /cgl/ tripfags before.

>>10572444
awh thank you nonny omg. sounds like a plan. let's dissociate together sometime >brandslut#1737
if I don't reply soon/today it's because I have a shitload of things I need to do and I'm currently procrastinating by being too high and shitposting here while jamming to my sick tame impala/grimes/purity ring playlist

>>10572450
lol fatter? more like phatter, nice ⊂(￣(ｴ)￣)⊃ ur on the low side of normal bmi anon plz dont think you're fat
I've got a docile pear shape going on I suppose I've always thought my thighs were too big for my body ever since this one methhead girl in 9th grade was like "wooowww bpd-chan, if I didn't see your thighs I'd have thought you were anorexic, but your thighs are really fat" feelsbadman.jpg - and you're sweet nonny, I'd love to chat with you as well :3

>>10572448
I'm a milky planet-less peasant unless AP blesses us with a rerelease. but dreamy babby is my fave so I'm down uwu

My friends say some stuff I've been working on makes me look like one of my favourite villains. I wish I could make a cosplay of him actually.

>>10572147
Feeling alone all the time is the main reason why I collected dolls. I still feel alone, but my dolls are here for me.

>>10572147
>>10572200
>>10572472
I'll be your friend nonnies

>>10572461
>brandslut#1737
Frien request sent!

>>10572477
Don't get doxxed nyan!

>>10572479
nta but weirdly enough, the only bpd friend i ever had turned on me one day and spread my doxx all over the place. i still don't understand why

i would be friends with bpd-chan but if i'm ever friends with someone with bpd again, we need to provide each other collateral in the form or identifying info or something. that way if they spread my dox or do something insane, there's a cold war peace agreement mutually assured destruction type thing going on

>>10572482
That’s just what people with BPD do. Destroy everyone else’s lives even if you treat them well

>>10572479
>>10572482
But like I guess you can still talk to her without giving away too much info about yourself. Idk what would you tell her about she could go and spread around, this is 4chan afterall. I would be cautious with everyone here.

>>10572500
I want some nudes and lewd talk.

>>10572500
this is /cgl/, so something as little as "i know her and she did/said *insert ridiculous thing here*" can make gulls and their friends turn on someone fast. it's even more believable to people if it ends up being a semi-popular lolita because gulls love to hate those kinds of people.

so i guess in this case it's less a risk of dox, and more a risk of being associated with a namefag and possibly having your conversations outed. prime example: that one anon who spilled 10k anon's dirty laundry for literally no reason

>>10572512
Why are women here so toxic?

>>10572520
women in general are toxic. but you're right, /cgl/ is worse. even on lolcow, users are at the very least nice and helpful to each other.

>>10572520
Despite how newfags try and act like this place isn’t bad, it’s still 4chan. Nobody should be surprised that people are toxic and do things like doxx people for no other reason than wanting to. Nobody should be surprised that people will say negative things about someone’s race, weight, call them ugly, etc. Anyone who acts shocked at that here is blatantly a newfag or a snowflake determined to make every corner of the internet their hugbox

>>10572512
Yeah I absolutely get it but why would anybody tell anything identifying for anyone here is my question. No one here should be trusted with info that can cause trouble. Basic internet. She isn't revealing who she is so how stupid one should be to out themselves to her. Do people just really go around here plastering their faces or what? Well maybe on draw thread but otherwise you would get shunned from just associating with /cgl/.

>>10572520
Because a lot of them are legit mentally ill.

>>10572524
You think it's because it's more regulated there? Mods there are pretty good about keeping retarded shit controlled for the most part. Like nitpicking and vendettas. The jannies here are shit at everything they do.

>>10572527
There’s friend threads here, the BST, secret Santa, tons of threads where you associate yourself with posting here. Every lolita does it, but lots of them like to pretend they don’t to virtue signal

>>10572527
the thing is, in a community as small as ours, literally everything is identifying. especially because most of us have social media. if somebody knows like, 5 of the dresses you own in the exact cuts and colors, they can find your social media accounts if they're determined enough.

>>10572529
yes, it's because of the moderating style. infighting and baiting is a bannable offense. you'll find that /ot/, /g/, and /m/ are generally decent places to talk to other women anonymously without having to worry about the constant "i bet ur fat and poor" shit you see on /cgl/

>>10572520
there are other male boards that do the exact same thing, it’s only more obvious here because it’s slow.

>>10572537
There are no male and female boards.

>>10572538
male dominated boards, whatever

>>10572537
i think there's a pointed difference, though. on heavily male boards, you'll notice that the shitposting is just that--meaning, it's a lot less personal and more for a laugh. the things people say on /cgl/ usually aren't for a laugh--they're genuinely to try and make other women feel bad.

>>10572531
But that's exactly what I'm saying. Do people really post identifying info to randos here that don't identify themselves? Dresses, pets, house pics etc. could get you doxxed - even in a ff thread. I'm just wondering are people really this careless here someone would actually do it.

>>10572544
Yes, newfag. See >>10572530

>>10572547
Still, it's a bit different to associate yourself with this place and not post anything worth of interest here than give bpdchan enough info to doxx you. Ff and SS do not compare to sharing enough for doxx with someone who could be fat neckbeard all we know. I'm just saying even though I'm very familiar with those threads it's absolutely next level to risk your safety like that and it's beyond stupid. I don't understand why someone would like to share that kind of info with her.

I will stop now bc not using english for few years have considerably lowered my ability to communicate my points. It's not the first time it happens so I know it's on me. Well I have similar problems with my native language too, I admit.

>>10572123
cant you just pick another anime character to emulate?

>>10572568
That's not the point, it's more that I don't feel it, I didn't have to force myself back then.
There's a possibility that part of it was that I watched one anime at a time back then so I got more absorbed into it whereas now I juggle between many different anime, but I really don't think that's all of it. It extends to my attitude at conventions too. And maybe the point about not laughing, if I think even further back, to like middle school, I displayed my emotions very openly, but now I'm just closed shut and only display bitterness.

I could try to think to the most recent thing I had, which may involve my time as a hardcore brony, I had some enthusiasm then, and somewhat less intensely, Homestuck a bit later. I didn't really larp as a pony but at least I may have felt it and I think I wore something on my hands to emulate hooves at some point too.

>>10572479
wouldn't be the first time lol but thank you for your concern

>>10572482
yeah I don't understand that. I'm sorry you went through such bs nonny. a lot of pwbpd don't have the coping skills to recognize their splitting behaviors and I suppose if they're already prone to such acts of public betrayal it'd be a recipe for disaster. I've only ever really split on romantic partners and my parents, but I've never done anything to publicly humiliate/doxx anyone.

what sort of info would be good collateral comrade

>>10572484
I'm quiet BPD so I pretty much just destroy my life for the most part, and romantic partners lives sometimes (not even always). my friends are safe

i dropped avocado on my pink sugarhearts skirt fml

I really hate GothicLolitaWigs/Rockstar wigs at this point. It's been awhile since I don't buy from them much anymore, but almost every time I do place an order, something is out of stock. I shouldn't have ordered from them again but I wanted a color they had. Usually they refund me instantly after I reply to them. But this time I've been sitting here all day waiting for a refund. I'm so impaitient that I'm about to start a PayPal dispute. PayPal refunds are the easiest thing in the world to do and shouldn't take this long.

I sent Atelier Boz an email 3 weeks ago. They never replied to me and now Carol in BxW is out of stock. I'm pretty upset.

>>10572605
Samefag, but I noticed they also didn't take down the wig from one of thier sites yet either. What the hell.

>>10572572
Try not to stress too much about it, Anon. The more you deliberately try to chase that feeling, the more it will elude you. Leave it be long enough and something will come by to reignite your passion out of nowhere. For me, it was a surprise encounter with a like-minded individual that reignited my autism. For you it could be something similar to that, finding a new show that just clicks, or perhaps rewatching an old favorite you forgot about. Also, don’t worry about your interests suddenly alienating those around you. The people who associate themselves with you are the kind of people who’d associate themselves with you, if that makes any sense.
TL;DR: take it easy and unironically be urself, ya goof.

>>10572707
>uncle iroh
holy fucking based

>>10572258
>Robespierre would've liked a Lolita

The man who cut off the heads of rich people because of their lavish indulgences in all things, including clothing, would have liked a fashion based upon the same Rococo style worn and propagated by those rich people?

>>10572824
He dressed lavish too, he only went full schizo in the last days and starting executing people based on old habits

>>10572845
>Lavish

Robespierre didn't dress lavishly for the time. He dressed as what was expected of a lawyer. By today's standards he is dressed insanely over the top but our standards have fallen so low that people not wearing shirts is semi-acceptable. Lavish of the 18th century would be Louis XVI and his court.

>>10572853
Fair enough but his goal was equality so seeing the commoners dress lavish would probably make him a bit proud at least

>>10572876
Eh, sure.

I've been really intro early fruits magazine style lately and have been wanting to try it, but somehow it seems really difficult even though the outfits look so effortless. Any tips?

>used to be in an abusive relationship, too depressed to wear lolita let alone buy new pieces, barely had the energy to stay alive
>In a loving relationship now and the happiest I've been in years but had to move back to home country with shittier pay and no job security, love for lolita has come back full force but cannot afford to spend much on it
Can't have it all, don't regret a thing but I miss being able to drop $$$ on frills every now and then. Working to get a better career in a few years pray for me nonnies.

>>10572876
that's retarded lol that's like saying lawyers campaigning for the rights of regular people today should wear walmart jeans and a graphic tee to court. spoiler alert, no they shouldn't

>>10572891
best of luck to you nonny. I'll send you good vibes, you deserve happiness and love but also lolita and job security.

and real shit about being too depressed to have any energy at all while in an abusive relationship. the one I got myself into a few years ago was fucking hell and caused me to become agoraphobic. getting out of bed took like all my energy. Dealing with the constant random gaslighting and guilt trips and passive aggressive jabs is a full time fucking job

A few threads ago I posted about wanting to get laser hair removal and some anons gave me advice and I decided to go for it. I just wanted to say thank you to them- I've been receiving treatments for a few months now and I feel like my life and confidence are completely changed. I'm so much more comfortable in my own skin and feel like I want to wear lolita even more because I'm not impeded by weird insecurities anymore.

>>10572888
don't

>>10572935
you were probably the abuser

>>10573040
Why not?

>>10573042
nah, he likely had npd (or even bpd I have no idea but he had some serious issues) and actively isolated me from my family/friends and turned me against them. my parents and friends begged me to leave him bc they saw how he treated me everytime he was around me. the last straw for me was when he sent me a fake lease and told me to pack my stuff and that the moving truck was gonna be there on x date and then called me on x date and was like oh we can't move actually bc they're tenting for termites. I called the complex and asked if they were and they were not and so I caught him in the lie and finally had the aha moment to break up with him. he then came to my house while my parents were gone and literally kidnapped me and then drove around for 3 hours like an absolute psycho and kept threatening to run the car into lakes and shit. at one point he pulled over and told me to GTFO and I gladly scrambled out with my phone and started walking away, fucker ran over and started grabbing my phone from my hand and when that wasn't working just grabbed my wrist and dragged me back into the car to drive around crazily some more and threaten to drive us into some more lakes anytime I threatened/started to call the authorities.

>>10573042
stop interacting with this shit.

>>10573059
Why do npds and bpds attract each other? Have you dealt with other narcissists or was he the only one?

>>10572933
Can’t take your opinion seriously “””””nonny””””

>>10572607
I'm sorry anon! So many brands have shitty customer service. I'll take this as a warning to use an SS with them.

I took a gamble and ordered an OP from Closet Child with severely too-small-for-me listed measurements because I suspected it was mislabeled. It just arrived and it fits perfectly! I'm so happy.

>>10572607
You think that's bad, my SS still hasn't received the Clarissa OP I ordered back in October

>>10572935
Your board presence is very sad. It's almost uncomfortable in how pronounced the sadness is. Like a kicked puppy left out in the rain.

>>10572094
Set boundaries and schedules (alone study time vs gf time) and be consistent with them. They might help but ultimately it sounds like your gf has issues that she needs to deal with herself.

>>10573064
uhmmm I've dated 3 guys who I suspect could have been narcs. so 30%. the guy I mentioned in my last post, that was just a few years ago. Then 2 proto incel pedos who pursued me when I was in middle school.

the most recent narcy guy was extra fucked because he made me think my parents and friends were all out to get me and tried to only let me hang out with his friends/family (whom I didn't even like). would say my friends/family were bad influences and hated me and that I was too good for them and could have "real caring family and friends now" omg ugh hate him. he's doing the exact same shit with his new gf too

>>10573185
awuu?
but yeah please send good vibes that I can get vaxxed asap I'm going fucking nuts from cabin fever. the second I get vaxxed I'm leaving cgl in favor of the real world, where I wish I was rn. I wish I was reading a book in a cafe downtown and sipping a latte or visiting with friends and just vibing. every few weeks I break down for a couple days and uncontrollably sob on an off because it's been a year and I'm fucking losing it man

>>10573262
Bitch shut the fuck up this isn't your blog

>>10573263
uwu -nuzzles-

awoo?

>$1400 more in stimulus
>$300 more per week to unemployment benefits extended through Sept 6th
More free brand for me.

>>10573288
I’m spending my tax return on more burando

>>10573307
Same. Still waiting for AP's MTOs so I can drop a lot of money.

>>10573288
>tfw don’t get a stimmy
>but because you are a responsible adult with an actual job vs shitty retail work

Feels good to be in a STEM field

>>10573325
I’m working a full time tech job, pay all my bills and I still qualify for stimmy. It’s not like I need it at all but don’t go around saying dumb shit anon

>>10573325
>has both

feels good to get free money and also work in a STEM field

>>10573325
Working in retail doesn't immediately mean you're irresponsible. It just means you're likely young and/or poor.

>>10573329
So you make less than me, how does that make me saying any of what I said “dumb shit”?

>>10573332
are you ok?
I’m not doing shitty retail work nor am I lazy.

If you want to lord it over people just because you make lots of money, then go for it i guess but that’s not a great attitude to have. I don’t believe you’re in stem at all with this silly post you made

>>10573325

>Tfw getting paid literally 2x more at my current job than at my last job but still getting the stimmy because my tax returns awkwardly reflect my last job

Oops

>>10573325
Od on your autism pills, stemlord

Stupid feel but I can’t decide if I want a white heart bag or a black one (like the milk ones). My closet is classic and oldschool, so i think either would go

>inb4 get both

I’m looking at the real leather $$$ ones, not the fake leather ones. And i hate having multiple of the same thing even if its a different color

>>10573378
Seethe

>>10573387
Fix my computer monkey, I poured coffee on it

>>10573390
You have to be 18 or older to post on this website

>>10573390
Shut the hell up I'm a high paid high skill programmer, I write the software that makes everything in your life work. I don't expect thanks (which you do kinda owe me but I'll let it slide since you don't know me) but you have no right to ridicule me. Autism is, in short, my superpower. I can hyperfocus on a task and destroy it. You couldn't even fizbuz if you TRIED. So yeah tranny, keep seething, meanwhile I'm stacking more money than a nigga know what to do with.
Don't even bother replying, you'll just look stupider.

>>10573390
>>10573392
>>10573394
Tard fight, place your bets

>>10573380
Like old school sweet? Seems like white would go better with that, though ivory would work better for classic wouldn't it? What color blouses/accessories do you tend to wear? When I looked for my heart bags, I went with white because I have an old school sweet capsule and everything is white lace and white blouses and socks.

>>10573341
Uhhhhh anon. If you're getting the stimulus solely because the IRS doesn't have your new income information, you have to pay the stimulus back on your next return (if you are above the income cap)

>>10573325
>imagine calling everyone who makes under 75k an irresponsible adult
Well that's embarrassing.

>>10573394
NYART but you shut up. You make us autistic programmers look retarded and no one owns you shit for doing your job.

>>10573399
>Tfw I make a decent living wage at a remote job, and am a responsible vaccinated adult, but also still get that stimmy

I have student loan debt though but even a bit of that may get canceled. I am actually bummed because Biden's original plan was to allow people to do community service to cancel up to 10k a year of debt for up to 5 years (I went to a good public uni in my state but still got 40k in debt even with grants and scholarships because room and board in big cities is pricey). I would have loved to have been able to help people and become debt free while doing it but then some Democrats said having to do service to cancel debt was unfair and benefitted privileged people and demanded that 50k get canceled all at once and for nothing in exchange, but then that prompted people to reduce the amount to only 10k, and some people still think it's unfair or not good enough because it only helps those who went to college and others are left without help. Idk why some politicians act like they couldn't just choose to help multiple people at a time and pretend they have to limit or means test everything to the nth degree.

>>10573403
>being this new you can’t spot pasta

>>10573405
Never seen this pasta before, what's it from?

>>10573403
If you knew my git contributions, you'd be kissing my feet. And yeah, you type just like the anon I busted on, so SEETHE

>>10573406
Lurkmoar newfag

>>10573396
yes I have very old school sweet. Picrel is very similar to what I have (actually not sure if thats oldschool sweet?)

I tend to wear white blouses. I have classic vm pieces in light pink too. I think most of my closet is light pink. Only have a few things in brown or black, and those are more gothic-classic

I was thinking to go with black or brown for the bag, but now I may go with white now that I think about it. And white will show up in pictures better

>>10573399

The thing about giving back your stimulus is a myth. Google it.

I'm 22 and my hair is falling off...
I've had beautiful hair my whole life but now my hair is receding and I feel so miserable. I think my hair had been my biggest asset in lolita since my face is nothing remotely cute without it. I do wear wigs but it's not the same in my day to day life...kill me

>>10573427
Have you been to the doctor?

>>10573429
Not yet but since I'm having a mental breakdown about it right now it might be best to ask a doctor if there's a way to treat it. I have ignored and denied my hairloss for over a year now because I didn't want to face the truth...

>>10573405
>pasta means a troll post
retard

>>10573454
It literally does mean that tho..

>>10573454
It do, newfag

>>10573454
Go back to wherever you came from, newfag.

>>10573454
What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I'll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I've been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I'm the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You're fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that's just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little "clever" comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn't, you didn't, and now you're paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You're fucking dead, kiddo.

>>10573454
Seethe tranny

>>10573427
This is weird but have you tried taking prenatal vitamins? They make your hair and skin amazing!!!

>>10573469
Seconding this big time! Also I used to have issues with anemia around my period but prenatal vitamins have extra iron that’s helped with that!

>>10573463
Oh my god lol calm down. Like any of this is even true you probably just made this up. Wow.

>>10573483
you have to be kidding

>>10573486
they're playing along, anon

>no good anime/manga/games out in recent times that had interesting characters or outfits that I actually want to cosplay
>not even any interesting clothing pieces to sew for personal wear
>can feel my sewing skills degrading by the week

Also, my favorite fabric store is only open on weekdays, and I work then. I'm pretty annoyed.

>got fat during the semester
>already flunked out of 2 classes
>fired from job
>have 2 incomplete from last semester
lulz

>>10573422
I think you misunderstood my post?
The myth was that the stimulus was an advanced tax credit that people would have to pay back later, no matter what, like a loan.
What I'm saying is that if someone made 50k in 2019 and 100k in 2020, and hadn't filed thier taxes for 2020 yet, they would falsely be given the $1400 stimulus based on thier 2019 tax filing. Once the IRS sees that person made over the 75k income threshold in 2020, the person would owe at least part of that money back on thier 2021 tax return because they don't actually qualify anymore. Maybe I'm wrong, but I've seen nothing to disprove that. Please link any information that says otherwise because now I'm interested.
It would seem really unfair, because people could just wait to file taxes until after the stimulus is paid out, if they knew thier income disqualified them in 2020.

>>10573563

No the most recent iteration of the bill says that if they base your income off of the 2019 tax filing if you haven't filed 2020 yet, you won't have to give back your stimulus. You're right, it's not fair, but those are the rules.

>>10573567

Also like it's on the first sites which I google which are cnet and cnbc, i mean cnbc is really fucking annoying but I don't think they'll lie on something this basic and meaningful to millions of people.

>>10573567
My bad then. Wish I could be one of these people.

>tfw it’s been over a month and still haven’t gotten my tax refund, and still haven’t gotten my stimmy check

I'm having a hard time deciding how I want to curate my wardrobe. Applying methods that work in normalfag fashion is just taking up space. I mostly wear gothic and old school but have a few sweet prints for when I am in that mood. It's almost like there's too much variety? Like, I have filler pieces in case I need eg. a blue old school style jsk. I'm very hestitant to clean out and sell because there's a lot of newcomers in the fashion, and a lot of oldfags buying "forever dresses".

>feeling my feels because I know I should work towards a more cohesive wardrobe

>>10572888
It's a pretty difficult style to pull off to be honest, I can only think of a couple people who do it well currently. Though a lot of fruits looks may appear thrown together, I think you should be mindful of color balance. That's not to say that everything should be perfectly matched obviously, but it should be balanced. Also, accessorizing is important since there's less of an importance placed on main pieces.

>>10573649
>>10572888
It's a late 1990s variation of what punkrock wardrobe used to be in the early '80s before shit went downhill into uniformizations like everyone wearing mohawk etc. but with more soap and ironing and using the late '90s makeup style and clothing.

I have a shopping addiction that I can’t kick and it’s starting to actually have adverse effects on my life

I'm getting more fit and my dresses are fitting on me better, but my calves are getting even more muscular and my socks are getting all distorted. I can't have shit in this house

>>10573658
that's a huge generalization and not accurate at all

>>10573667

Reject lolita. Embrace Chun Li.

My comm is getting weird and I want to make a backup comm but it's going to be so much drama.

>>10573432
For what it is worth since you are so young it is likely something that can be treated. Don't despair until you have a reason to!

>>10573679
Why do you need to make a new comm? Just hang out with your friends in the comm.

>>10573563
idk man I just think it's fucked my tax refund was lower this year than last year and I think it's because of the stimulus checks.

>>10573761
how is it fucked tho? genuinely not trying to bait/troll/come after you or anything, but isn't it kind of fair game for the gov't to give you less money back after they've been siphoning you free money anyway?

>>10573679
That has happened in my comm before and trust me it isn't worth it. Just go to your comm, make friends with the normal people then start inviting smaller friend groups to go do things. It isn't that dramatic and if you go out with some friends no one has any right to complain.

>>10573432
could be as simple as a thyroid issue or iron deficiency, both of which are totally treatable. I’d go see your doctor!!

>>10573761

Our money was tax free for a few months that's why the tax return is lower anon.

A beggar got me thinking the other day. He went from one person to the next begging for money only to be rejected. And I thought among other things that a request has positive and negative responses. Kinda like how a coin has two sides. If you only get turned down then it's not a request. What is the point of asking for something if there's no chance you're going to get it? It's like playing head or tails with an identical sided coin. So why not take a less futile course of action. It makes sense to me. Nobody likes to act in vain and why play by the rules when the other person doesn't either.
But then I thought, what about unrequited love? Or what about the poor guy who goes from girl to girl asking for sex only to be turned down every time like the beggar? I guess you can't acquire love, but sex is another thing. And that is where I got confused because this train of thought that makes sense comes in conflict with my feelings on rape. The idea of violating someone's being so intimately disturbs me and I think actual rapists deserve death.
Idk what to think. I'd think I'm developing sociopathy but sociopaths have a clear definition of ethics. They just don't hold near as much priority as they do to the normal person. What do you think.

>>10573805
You sound insane but beggars do that because people give them money

>>10573805
How is this cgl related??

>>10573805
Anon, you sound like you need to seek some mental help because I can hardly follow what you’re saying.

Are you saying, why not just take something if you want it instead of asking, because there’s always a chance they will say no? Such as raping people? Wtf?

Well I suppose you can ‘take what you want’. But you will also massively piss people and their family off. and it’s likely to get you abducted and killed if you take it far enough. If you would like to have people pointing proverbial daggers at you, waiting for the chance to cause your downfall and never have a true friend, then yes. Steal, rape, and don’t ask for permission.

>>10573760
>>10573765
So, I've been doing this, for years. It's chat group now. I don't want to make another official group, but even having an informal one will piss people off. And I did try keeping it small, but my friends want to include their friends, I want to add interesting people I meet. It's just gotten big.

>>10573818
How are feels cgl related??

>>10573864
Usually people's feels for this thread are supposed to be cgl related or adjacent. Doesn't work out that way in practice every time but that's the intent. Wanting to rape people cause you can't get your dick wet is not really a cgl related feel unless you want to just say all maleposters/congoers here are incels which is just false.

>>10573877
Why is your lolita wardrobe that different from your normalfag wardrobe in terms of sorting / archiving anon? Obviously EGL is much fancier and more attention-grabbing than even the most lavish normie clothes but it follows the same rules... you buy main pieces that you love and that you can coordinate with the versatile accessories you naturally have.

Dresses / blouses / any clothes or accessories you can't see yourself wearing on the day-to-day? Sell em. You like the idea of them but don't want to wear them. Either commit to keeping them as a collector keeps an art piece, or sell them on to someone who actually wants to live in them.

>>10573805
if you can't see the difference between the poor resorting to theft because they need to survive and men resorting to rape because they're entitled then you don't have the capacity for critical thought

>>10572087
No one cares about my big boobs but my measurements haven't changed. I am truly imagining things. Is this how body dysmorphia starts?

>>10574010
>Resorting to theft because they need to survive

God I hate criminal apologists like you. If you live in a first world country there is no such thing as "survival theft". The government provides you with the means to afford basic accommodation, food to keep you from starving and programs that will help you find employment. Nobody is stealing loaves of bread or fire wood anymore, they're stealing jewelry, expensive tech items and cars so they can pawn them to feed some sort of shitty lifestyle.

I find it very strange how people will empathise with homeless beggars. I think about how many awful acts have led you to a point where not a single person will lend you their couch for a bit, the government won't help you anymore and charities turn you away.

There's a regular beggar near my work who claims he can't work and nobody will take him into their homes because he has a severe infection/condition in his foot and he needs money for food and medicine. Which is partly true, his foot is incredibly fucked but after watching him, he begs until he has enough to buy cigarettes or alcohol. I have never seen him once buy medicine or food. But people see a sob story and cave in.

If you really empathise with the homeless and want to improve their situation, stop giving them things. Give a man a fish blah blah blah.

>>10574050
this just isn't fucking true. you can smell the middle class 30 year old neckbeard who lives at his parent's house through the screen.

>>10572024
You're fat now and I can't be seen in public with you anymore

>>10574050
Still not as bad as rape

>>10574103

>>10574050
What country do you live in that the government does anything for anyone other than itself?

>>10574050
who stole from you anon

>>10574145
I think we know who

>>10574094
I'm 24 and have a mortgage.

>>10574138
Australia. But this pretty much goes for any first world country that isn't America.

>>10574145
I'm saying this with Jewish heritage but definitely the Jews.

>>10574239
ayrt ok based

>Parents always look to me to solve their arguments as a kid
>Grow up fixing all their problems
>Just want to stop the constant fighting
>Into adult
>I gave my parents $10,000 to settle their debts because I wanted to stop their fighting
>It didn't work
>Lashing out at me because my money didn't magically fix it
>Finally come to the (expensive) realization that I'm letting myself get played
I could have bought a lot of fucking brand.

>>10573984
I think you messed up your quote, buddy

>>10573805
They ask because it's a numbers game. It's easier for them to say words to a bunch of people until someone bites, then to do something else. Theor sense of what they are capable of has been skewed so they believe that's all they can do.

Seeing comments from gulls who use every chance they get to talk about their tits and people like restyle-cunt.. I feel pretty okay with how I turned out as a person. I could definitely have gone down a few roads back when I was more insecure, but I did okay.

I want to use my stimulus and tax return to buy brand, but the secondhand market has been dry for like two months and all the new releases bore me.

>>10572330
As someone who has always been into AP sweet, I had loads of stuff from back when it was cheap and now I have loads of instagram followers too. I'm living the sweet life.

>>10574346
Same. My tax return was 1k and I was waiting for a listing for an item I really want that is pricey but not a total DD to maybe show up since it has been popping up a bit so far this year, but nothing. So I used it to buy cute bras and underwear and some nice workout clothes instead since I rarely splurge in that area. Maybe I'll be able to find more pieces I want once I get my stimmy.

>>10574239
Wow congrats on your mortgage you got by growing up upper middle class in a progressive country anon. You don’t actually know anything about the things that go on in other countries do you

>>10574384
>implying he knows what happens in his own fucking country.

Do you ever like have sex and a song pops into you mind and won't leave? Like, *plap* *plap* *plap* THEEEESE FIGHTING WORDS DESERVE EXIIILE! KILLING US! UNBELIEVABLE! INVINCIBLE!

>>10574424
i start thinking about math problems, computer algorithms, and how much i'd rather be napping or doing something else.

>tfw no bf to watch panzer documentaries with while wearing military lolita

>>10574424
I always get bored and then shitty memes pop in my head
>>10574427
Also same

>>10574424

Sometimes I literally start thinking of lolita especially if I'm not into the sex that day, not in a sexual way, just like thinking of closeups of lace and beautiful dresses. My mind has literally turned into a ruffle bimbo.

>>10574424
Yes, definitely. And now that my bf and I have been together 3 years I just start singing them to the beat of the plaps.

Bitch I’m doin it!! I’m sending my resume to places in dallas. I heard there is an active jfash community there. I’m really happy and excited.

I do not know anyone there at all besides maybe 2 people, but fuck it I loved dallas when i visited.

>I’m coming from sf, land of always windy 68 degrees fahrenheit

I am looking forward to having seasons and being able to expand my egl wardrobe!!

Anyway I don’t mind or care about republicans so I’m sure I’ll be fine

>>10574491
Dallas's comm is really inviting. It really isn't that conservative either. If anything it is liberal leaning.
Look forward to meeting you.

>>10574491
wow a lot of us are gulls lol. the dallas comm is pretty great! we have our fair share of itas but there's a lot of experienced, well-dressed lolitas here too. very active and minimal drama. you chose well. see you here!

>>10574503

Pretty sure Tyler is the the Dallas comm based on stories I have seen of her with mutuals so...whether you find it good or bad, take that as you will.

>>10574531
she rarely comes to meets tho. maybe one big one a year, if that. i think she lives outside the city in the boonies

>>10574534
That's what I figured since at least a few people from the Dallas comm just did a meet recently.

She seems like she attends the occasional big event and cons and that's it.

>>10574437
Why are you getting bored during sex? You know that's weird right?

>>10571831
I wonder if bpd-chan got banned or died or got put on a psychiatric hold, she hasn't posted in nearly 2 days.

>>10574546
nta, i knew there'd be a response like that lol. not all women are coomers. i end up doing it every day for my partner's sake, but inevitably i'd rather be doing something else. i just don't love sex. maybe if it were spaced out to be once every few days, i'd like it more.

try talking to other women in your life, esp family members. you'll find some of them will tell you the same exact thing. not uncommon or weird at all, and shaming a woman because she doesn't like having a dick plunged into her every day is retarded

>>10574550
I'm not shaming you, I'm actually shaming your partner. He should be doing things to make sex more fun an interesting for you. The fact that sex for you is just a dick being plunged into your pussy is utterly fucking tragic. There's so much more to sex than that, there's a ton of other physical things you can do and a ton of mental things to keep your mind stimulated. Have you thought of sexual roleplaying? It's like playing pretend when we were kids but better because now you get to fuck your friend. There's so much more to sex than laying down and getting fucked while you think about memes and lolita, that's actually heartbreaking.

The straights are not okay.

>>10574561
sorry anon, i'm just so used to this board being full of pickmeisha woman vs. woman rhetoric that i assumed wrong

>>10574561
>ThE StRaIgHtS aRe NoT OkAy

ah yes because the alphabet soup enjoyers have perfect and amazing kickass sex lives with 0 problems whatsoever.

>>10574550
>doing it every day for my partner's sake

Girl please love yourself and find someone who respects your sex drive.

>>10574578
Nayrt and I'm straight but I don't think gays regularly have sex with their partners while bored and thinking of literally anything else out of obligation on the daily.

Straight people shouldn't either, but it's probably more condoned.

>>10574578
Ayrt, I'm a straight woman and that was mostly a joke, but the only women I know who have told me they just let their partners have their ways with them while they're bored/uninterested were all fellow straight women.

>>10574590
Straight women have fewest orgasms

The findings came from a study of 52,600 people in the US, exploring the "orgasm gap" between the genders and different sexual orientations.

The report in Archives of Sexual Behaviour revealed a "variety of behaviours couples can try to increase orgasm frequency".

These include oral sex and manual stimulation.

The study, by Indiana University, Chapman University and Claremont Graduate University, showed the proportion of people who usually orgasmed was:

65% of heterosexual women
66% of bisexual women
86% of lesbian women
88% of bisexual men
89% of gay men
95% of heterosexual men
The research team said: "The findings, however, indicate that this orgasm gap can be reduced.


"The fact that lesbian women orgasmed more often than heterosexual women indicates that many heterosexual women could experience higher rates of orgasm."

>>10574546
Yes, I'm aware. It's been the main reason my relationships fail. I should probably date someone ace desu.

>>10574550
>i end up doing it every day for my partner's sake, but inevitably i'd rather be doing something else. i just don't love sex. maybe if it were spaced out to be once every few days, i'd like it more.

Okay but the reason women get angry about the orgasm gap isn’t because “women are coomers” (and it’s not being a “coomer” to want to feel pleasure during sex holy shit)

It’s because men RARELY do things in a relationship for “their partners sake”, and there’s very few activities on par with sexual intercourse, so you can’t defend him and say for example “well he watches romance movies with me even though he hates them!” or “he tolerates going shopping with me!”. Would he let you peg him even if he hated it just because it made you feel good? Would he be okay with giving you unreciprocated oral, for months on end, just for your sake?

Women tolerate it because we are told constantly from the onset of puberty that it’s difficult to please us, that our pleasure isn’t the driving force behind having sex, that we are “mental and not physical creatures” so sex isn’t important for us anyway. A woman will tolerate bad sex because she’s been told to value men outside of how they perform in the bedroom, but a man would never do the same for a woman.

>>10574437
Honestly unironically being bored during sex was how I realized I'm attracted to women. Once i dated a girl i was like "THIS is what kissing/sex is supposed to feel like?"

>>10574604
The fact that the stat for bi women is far closer to straight women than lesbians just makes me feel like the stereotypes that they really all just fuck dudes and get into straight relationships are true

>>10574618
I mean, if you use your brain, obviously more bi women will get with men. That doesn’t make them fake bi or something, it just means the pool of men who wanna be with women is vastly bigger than the pool of women who wanna be with women

>>10574619
This. There are a lot of lesbians who refuse to date bi women as well, which leaves bi women very little options of getting into a gay relationship

>>10574550
I can relate but I don't do it everyday and I don't enjoy it. I just do it because I want to be in a relationship.

>>10574622

Fair enough. I guess it is easier to casually fuck men than it is to casually fuck women as well. Most lesbians I know tend to be looking for legit relationships while most men tend to be trying to bang it out and be done with it.

>>10574624
yeah, that's the reason i do it. people can say "just find another partner," but realistically where am i going to find a man who meets all my standards AND tolerates not having sex?

>just be gay
i fucking wish

>>10574618
The “stereotype” might be true but it’s not that they are fake bi, it’s that we live in a society that places a woman’s worth and value on whether or not she can “keep a man”

>>10574619
This is how it is with me. I've dated online before, only women. IRL, I've only dated men, but mainly because they've approached me first and it went from there. It's just because there's a bigger pool of men I suppose. My attraction leans more towards women than it does men as well but I don't really seem to find as many women.

>>10574630
The asexual community is pretty large these days and people are comfortable with discussing how important sex is for them in a relationship. You could find a man where it’s not his high priority. There are low libido men out there.

>>10574488
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wFsIpegzvN0

>>10574638
Never said they were fake bi just that it felt like it aligned with the stereotype they mostly fuck men. And like I said above other anon's points about why it would be that way made sense.

>>10574640
>There are low libido men out there
Nta but that dating pool is much smaller so it's harder to find a man who's a good match in areas other than libido. I can tolerate sex in my current relationship.

>>10574687
sex shouldn’t be something you have to tolerate anon. if this goes on you might start to resent him

>>10574625

I think anon was referring to the fact that lesbians just generally don't like bi women, period. Bi women don't necessarily want casual relationships either, that's a bit of a misconceived stereotype.

>>10574687
Low libido is a myth. It's all socialization.

>>10574703
I didn't mean bi people were just trying to have sex, more that it is easier to end up having sex with a guy when you're bi (especially considering casual hookups and how much more likely they are with men) which leads to it being easier to end up with almost the same orgasm gap as straight women.

>>10574424
>Do you ever like have sex
No, where do you think we are?

>>10574709
How is it a myth that some people desire sex less than others

My bf was saying he's super horny etc. so I gave him head earlier today and then I shaved all over so we could have some special sexy time. Well guess what he's suddenly sick and doesn't want to eat the cat or fuck so he told me to go jerk off. I might as well go looking for a gf at this point bc my hand is more pleasurable than the sex we're having. He was good in the beginning and just became so lazy with keeping it interesting. He does the thing where he lays on top of me and thrusts; it doesn't feel that good at all and I've told him that. I feel like he's just using me to get off now. More and more everyday I just want a loving gf who doesn't see me as a hole

>>10574758
Men are worthless. Buy a vibrator and find yourself a simp

this is a safe space pls stop being misandry. there’s more to guys than their eggplants

>>10574797
shut the fuck up soup, i usually like you but you're in a women's space rn and we can complain about men all we want.

granted this type of discussion that's entirely unrelated to /cgl/ should be moved to lolcow's /ot/ or /g/

I’m so sad. I hate being asexual. I’m going to be considerate of others and never date anyone.

>>10574786
I think about it more and more everyday. It's between a simpbuxx fantasy and wanting a purely lesbian relationship. I love him but I can't help wondering if I would be happier with a woman who I can relate to innately, and understands my emotional/sexual needs. Maybe I can find a girl with a high sex drive that doesn't mind me using discord chumps for money

I'm not even asexual, just not keen about it if I don't know a guy well yet and I keep feeling like I'm unlovable every time I date and men always just want sex.

>>10574837
You're not the problem anon, it's just a compatibility issue. Also I think many men might want sex a lot at the beginning of a relationship and mellow out later. My partner and I fucked every few days when we first got together but then the excitement wore off and now it's only once every few weeks cause we're busy and just enjoying each others' company in other ways. We sometimes even just masturbate mutually when we're horny but don't have the energy levels for sex. Sometimes we look at the same hentai together, sometimes not; it's pretty chill and nice actually.

>>10574813
You could just date another ace person

>>10574841
Once every few weeks? Damn. How long have you all been together?

>>10574879
A little more than a year. It partially has to do with COVID and him having to wait and get tested before we hang out if he travels for work. But also like I said we do mutual masturbation a good bit so it sort of allows us to connect sexually without actually fucking. The sex is nice though too.

>>10574696
Well it's the price that I pay to have the man that I want

>>10574384
Lol. The pure spite.

I did not grow up in a good environment as a kid and got kicked out of home before 18. I lived in a car for months because I had no idea what to do, worked myself into insomnia to afford rent while going to university, dealt with self-harm, agoraphobia, depression and anxiety.

I fucking dragged myself out of everything by sheer fucking will. It's not impossible, it requires people to take responsibility for their condition and work. Which is very possible in any developed country and anyone can do it. People are just lazy, greedy and irresponsible.

>>10574548
none of the above, nonny. I just haven't felt well and I had stuff to do.

>>10574879
Nayrt but I’ve been with my bf 3 years and we have sex like once a month. It kind of sucks because my libido is way higher than his and we had sex every day when we first got together (and I was also sleeping with other people, but he wasn’t, before we made it official) but it petered out over time when I realized it often felt like I was forcing him. He’s perfect in every other way, though. I kind of have the feeling that in order to be a good husband type a man has to have low libido...

>>10574813
plenty of people like to just exclusively cuddle im one of them

>>10574908
Have you put on weight?

>come to talk about feels
>everyones talking about sex

>>10574908
>and I was also sleeping with other people, but he wasn’t, before we made it official
R9K WAS FUCKING RIGHT

>>10574908
you’re probably not attractive to him anymore

i hope everyone here struggling with their relationships and loneliness sees their situations improve. because of my past traumas, i'm to the point where even the idea of cuddling is still too intimate and frightening. any physical intimacy always puts me back into that traumatic memory at least halfway. and now i ended a friendship with someone who turned out to be emotionally abusive, i'm also just too scared and too exhausted to even try to make friends. i wish i could trust people and get closer to my comm members, but i just don't have the heart to get hurt again. i'm going to try to get therapy for everything soon.

>>10574908
>we had sex every day when we first got together (and I was also sleeping with other people
...on the same days that you had sex with him? yeesh

>>10574801
I don’t give a fucking shit, I’m not your fucking soup. I’m just some sweaty fucking autist sitting in a fucking basement shitposting. Go find fucking another soup, are you fucking baka or what?

>tfw it’s been months and the shot posting namefags are still here
this is the real downside of corona

>>10574981
No, not on the same days. I worded it wrong but I was just dating around while deciding who I should get into a relationship with. I’d rushed into relationships before with bad results
>>10574960
I’ve actually gained 5 lb since the holidays, but I’m working on it.

I don't even understand how itas exist...lolita is so fucking easy to coordinate it takes literally 0 brain cells. it makes me so pissed to see people dressed badly in a fashion that has so many clear rules and guidelines, matching sets, and so many examples of good outfits. it really seems to me there is no excuse for dressing badly...like how can these people live being so stupid that they can't match colors or themes? i can't fucking comprehend it.

What's the deal with lesbians? They talk endless shit on the internet, but in real life they're seem terrified of actually competing with men. When they get beat to the punch on talking to a girl they look so depressed and beaten. What's more, I've had a few of them give me this funny look when I try to talk them, kinda like how young boys at attractive women.

>>10574972
this lmao

>>10572279
The money is literally there to spur the economy. It speaks to an even larger failure of the system if you have to spend it on survival.