/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Mine's pretty small like the max amount at a meetup is probably 15 lolitas? But I think everyone is quite nice, although I wish I could see the random members who live far away or always have work conflicts come to a meetup that I attend. I only joined this year (started wearing lolita too) but so far, no one looks eye-blinding horrible. The comm is close enough to another (2 hours away) so we can go to the bigger events of the other one too. We're on the older side (mostly 18+) with college students and working adults. I'd say we're 50/50 sweet and classic lolita with a few gothic.

>>7213744
I know the Leeds comm is pretty active. The north west comms are all fairly active to be honest.

My community is super active but I am getting so annoyed with some of the "leaders" of the community. I can't even complain because someone will say I'm an ungrateful bitch but they have a habit of sticking their hands in everything and everyone's business.

I grow weary of seeing them, I avoid going to big meetups so I don't have to run into them and have to pretend that I like them.

My comm seems pretty good. I only just joined it, but the meets that I've been invited to have been really nice. They're more expensive, too, so I'm thinking there aren't any young kids, which is great. In the last three months or so alone, there have been meets at Disney World (I'm not FL based, but close enough to it), some Chinese ribbon act show at a theatre, and right now there's a group mook order. There are some girls with questionable tastes, but the most active girls, the ones that plan meets that actually go places, are impeccably dressed.

I don't live there any more, but when I did I know the London girls were really active. Leeds is another one I hear mentioned a lot. Manchester is apparently active but full of itas.

Not sure about the rest of the UK. I think the Scottish girls are really active, but I never hear anything about Welsh or Irish comms.

>>7214246
>Irish
>UK
We exist, though! And we're very nice. I'm fairly sure there's a NI comm, as well, but I don't really know anything about it.

>>7214287

I always get confused about the correct terminology on that one, sorry. But I do hear of Irish cons and lolis at cons, just never of the lolis themselves or their comms or anything.

>>7214287

>we're very nice

I'll agree with this! It's a lovely little comm.

>>7214302
Yeah, the con-lolis... generally aren't up to much, since they mostly only wear it at cons and other cosplay events for fun, I guess. But yeah, there is a comm, we're just a bit quiet on the internet!
Actually, while I'm here, anyone know anything about the Italian comms? I might be studying there next year and I thought it'd be a good way to make friends.

>>7214310
Seconding this, we usually keep quiet and we're reasonably close-knit, although not to the point where we're an impenetrable fortress of a group.

We (And I'm talking Republic of Ireland here, just to clarify) range in ages, so it's tricky to get us all together for meetups. You can usually bank on a group of us showing up for the annual Experience Japan Hanami picnic day in April though.
We lean towards people in our twenties and calm girls in their late teens, we dress nicely but nobody really does the print-of-the-month thing so no e-fame for us, we cover pretty much all the basic style groups, and we help each other out as best we can.
>And now y'all know about Ireland

By the way, while I'm replying to you, you probably know who I am by now, ITALY??? What am I gonna do all year?!

>>7214347
I know, I'm almost hoping I don't get to go because I don't want to leave you guys. ;_; We should do all of the things now! You could come visit me, though. That'd be pretty class, Lolita Adventures in Italy.

I'm from NYC which is just... balls. But everyone on CGL already knows about that.
I'm really excited because I'm planning on studying in London or Australia next year, it'll be nice to meet some new girls and have a real comm again!

>be guy
>like lolita fashion
>not for sex reasons
how do i find a comm and kawaii girlfriendo

>>7214458
>find your local comm
>make sure it's not shit
>dress fancy
>???
>PROFIT
Assuming you actually want to dress in the style and not just admire it/bang girls wearing it? Otherwise I'm not really sure what to tell you, lolita comms aren't dating agencies and even if you appreciate the clothing in a non-sexual way, it's a little weird for you to be in a comm and not participating. Not just because you're male, I'd find it kind of odd if a female did the same thing.

>>7214467
i don't know how to dress dandy or where to get it

and even if i did its hot as shit year around to wear it

i dress fairly /fa/ but i dont know if its enough

>>7214475
There is no way in for us.
Join the cabal.

>>7214485
stop being a faggot

My comm is a large city but most people live outside the city or far away. Meets are mostly done in the suburbs. The comm is famous for being ita as fuck and dramallama. Socially the comm is split between brandwhores and ita replicachans.

we have one "brolita" in our comm... Here's some green text for you

>claims to have been an "ero lolita" for three years
>basically wears Punk Rave shit with short ass costume petticoats and platform stilletos
>terrible makeup, shiny ass wig
>nice legs tho
>is apparently like 45 or some shit with a wife
All of this would be tolerable if his personality was...
>brags constantly about how guys check him out then shit their pants when it turns out he's a guy
>brags about what a fantastic photographer is
>takes photos of me and can't even level the background
>brags about how he told a ~professional photographer~ who was taking pictures of him how to do it properly because of his 25 years of experience
>goes on about his wife borrows his shoes/makeup/etc
>literally shows a picture of himself out of trap mode every fucking meetup

>gave me his business card
>~ero lolita~*~photographer~*~cosplayer~*~DJ~*

>it literally says that

>i can't even

He honestly has trap potential but his personality is so self-congratulatory and slightly aspie it drives me nuts.

>>7214678
Oh, I forgot

>opens a facebook page for his like... I don't even know how to describe it
>how some gal circles make little "groups" with titles and all take pictures with themed outfits? Like a "team" almost?

>does that, but with two other painfully ita girls

>invites every. fucking. person. ever. to like his group.
>all they do is take bad pictures in bad outfits and post them.

How's the SF comm? I just recently moved to the Bay Area but I've got a low tolerance for dramu teens.

>>7214678
Got a loud and obnoxious "I'm a trap LOLOLOL" braggart gay in my comm too

>>7214688
It's nice. I haven't met that many teens, actually, at 20 I'm oftentimes the youngest person at a meet. It's a little clique-y, but if you're new everyone is very friendly and will make an effort to talk to you.

I've noticed most UK comms have older members, but rarely ever younger. I have a friend who has been into Lolita for a few years but has just turned 16, and she's so frustrated because she can't find a single Lolita friend who is her age and isn't a beginner.

>>7214688
It's pretty nice. I had to break into it (and am probably still doing so) but if you just start a conversation, most people are very nice.

I think there are a few who are under 20, but the majority of the members I have come across are in their 20s and working with boyfriends.

>>7214226
my god, are you in my comm

>>7214679
oh my god.....im in your comm. i know who you mean.

I want to be more active in my comm, even if it is filled with itas. It'd be nice to find people to hang out with. My two good loli friends seem to have fallen out of love with loli and are selling their wardrobes. But everyone meets up at weekends. Are there any UK comms that don't meet up at weekends?

>>7214679

Fucking link us.

>>7214475
If you dont care enough to bother to dress up, most people will not be amused with your participation.
You can always accidentally compliment a girl on her dress and invite her to a tea place or something at say.. A con or anyplace where you just happen to be that a meetup just happens to be? Idk

>>7214866
if his name starts with K then ya

>>7214875
I'll scan his business card and black out his contact info and etc tomorrow. it's fucking comedy gold...

>>7214869

Whereabouts in the UK are you?

>>7214688
Most of us are cool. Just stay away from Phil, the known creeper who was banned from Baby, and Melissa, the sissy fetish person who threatened to beat up one girl in our comm.

>>7214909
Don't forget Gwen.

>>7214901
yes it does!!! ugh....he's so poorly dressed. it's really cheap looking. i feel the same way about the other two girls in his "group"

>>7214246
The Manchester comm seemed to die after their btb drama, hardly been any meets since then

>>7215321
BTB drama? Don't remember that, what happened?

>>7215321

Is that one girl, I think her name is Mary? still there?

>>7215356
A 'my comm are itas' secret that rustled some petticoats

>>7215363
I don't think so, I know she fell out with some people, think she quit lolita after the secrets about her on btb

My comm's fucking amazing. Hardly any teenagers, but the ones that are there are lovely. Everyone's well dressed.
I'm worried it's gotten so big that it's started to segment off, though.

>>7213783
Typical, I'm Midlands/South

>>7214246

Scotlolis are great and pretty active, though it's the same girls who go every meet.

>>7215265
UGH YES and by looking at his clothes you can tell he paid like $80+ for them from eBay or something.
I don't think I've ever met the other two girls, and it's so unfortunate. The rest of our comm is pretty well dressed... and then HE shows up and blabs about he's been so totes the best erololi for three years.

I'm having trouble keeping my mouth shut. Nowadays when I see him at a meet I just stare at my feet and try not to say something when he starts to brag about how his wife and him can share shoes WANNA SEE A PIC OF ME OUTSIDE OF LOLITA AND LIKE MY FACEBOOK PAGE.

>>7215617
he's so far off from erololi...i dunno where the hell he is. also, im sorry....but...the dudes who couldn't tell he was a guy must have been blind. its pretty obvious with that "tick" sized jaw of his.

it looks like he bought his shoes at a sex shop too. its supposed to be "erotic" not whore.

captcha: chased emobag

The active members of my comm is mostly college aged, and we don't really have many itas, only one I can think of off the top of my head. But lately it seems like the mods of the group don't care about the rest of the community. Like, if there's a meet, they don't care if they're the only ones able to go, or they don't really invite anyone else. I understand they're all friends with each other but the rest of us would like to be included, too.

>>7214475
>dress fairly /fa/

well there's your problem.

>mfw my comm is quasi inexistent

Are they other french lolita here ? We are a great number in Paris yet there are only a meet once in the blue moon and it's always teenagers who makes it. I didn't go to any for the moment due to my job but I would like to do some fancy event. I like the teenage girls of my comm, they are really cute and nice but I would like to do some more grown up meet. The comm is so clique-y when it's come to older lolitas, it's a pain to organize something.
Otherwise everybody is nicely dressed, I guess it's ok. But the only time we can see a lot of lolita is during cons, and I really don't like it.

I would like to do another national meet as someone did two years ago but it's such a pain to organize and two third of people who rsvp don't even show...

>>7215931
gurl a classy prostitute would not be caught dead in what he's wearing :/

a weird kimono top and costume store tutu does not an erololi make.

From the back he looks like a tall ass lady with nice legs, but from the front he looks like a powdery train wreck.

And omg his eyeliner and falsies are always SO FAR FROM HIS EYES I DON'T UNDERSTAND

>>7216349
Now I'm curious to know what he looks like, anons.

>>7215321
Manc comm - prefer to be known as North West Lolis - almost died a death after Mary and Suzy's fall out. Then the secrets. Now kinda getting back to meets, but not regular and only after snarky comments from Carol - "Ohh, this sounds like a good place to have a meet, I wonder who will organise it".

Still itas, still bitches

>>7216381

Oh what happened with that? Mary was fucking insane. Don't want to expand in case it becomes obvious who I am, not sure if she browses here.

>>7215595
What part of midlands? I'm East Midlands during term time, West when I'm on holidays.

>>7216349
oh man. if i could like this comment i would!! he needs to spend some time with drag queens if he doesnt want to look like a train wreck. that or get his supposed wife to help

It seems that the Seattle comm that I am a part of is experiencing some drama. Before that started to take place I feel like we had a pretty good community going.

>>7216448
I'm south in term time and West Midlands on holidays!

>>7216051
Maybe they're just hanging out as friends and don't want 20 other people with them for everything they do?

>>7216444
Mary is pretty low key now.

That community will still have problems because of carol and suzy, Jo tries to stay out of it.

They desperately need to dress better, no improvement at all

>>7216459
Left my email in case you want to chat! Apologies if I don't reply quickly, I'm currently buried under coursework...

>>7216467

What the hell is the point a comm then if it's not about meeting new people and just circlejerking in your group? If they wanted a private meet they can organise it privately themselves. That's what my comm does for closed meets, but for open meets they're generally very welcoming to new people.

Sorry about your comm anon. They don't sound nearly accommodating enough to even consider themselves a comm at this point.

>>7216523

>what the hell is the point of a comm then

>>7214448
Which comm is the non-crazy ita comm? I was planning a trip out to NYC for a few days and it would be lovely to meet the local lolitas, but I don't want to have to sift through mountains of itas for it.

>>7216051

What comm is this?

>>7214287
i'm northern irish and i never knew there was a NI comm, gosh
i've never seen any lolitas at Q-Con or anything, i guess i just need to lurk a bit more, heh

>>7216654
Well, I wouldn't have any idea of how active it is or what they're like or anything, but this their FB group:
facebook/groups/NorthernIrelandLolita/?fref=ts

>>7216662
this is*

>>7216662

>Dat banner
>Dat admin

>so many girls still in their ita pgase after years in the fashion
>bawww about not having enough people to properly represent each substyle for fashion show at city's anime con, but won't allow anyone outside of local comm to participate
>fashion show always awful as a result despite comm claiming it's such a selective process
>enough ignorance among members to make me understand sjws
>obnoxious brand hate
>all tbe special snowflake

I fucking hate my comm

>>7214448
The NYC "comm(s?)" are such a clusterfuck. You'd think in a city like NY with such a large J-fashion following it'd be awesome but alas.

confession:
>I'd be lying if I said I haven't attended certain meet-ups just to see specific famed itas I've only heard of online.

>>7216694
So there isn't at least one decent one? Anybody know of the least shitty comm?

>>7216444
She had a falling out with Suzy about where to eat at a meet, they had a few arguments on facebook. Then there was a few secrets about mary on btb. I doubt she browses here.

>>7216804

I'm not even in her comm (Not even the same country!), I sold something to her once and politely chatted with her a few times, and she used to message me on Facebook asking for advice and complaining about comm drama to me.

>>7216813
I feel bad for her she has such a victim complex and is so awkward it created so much drama around her.

>>7216712
The problem is is there isn't really a comm anymore... nobody wants to hold huge central park meets for a bunch of broke loud newbies when they can just hang out with their friends on their own time.
If anyloli wants to hang out with a fellow friller when they visit NYC, let me know. dropping a throwaway email so you guys can hit me up!

>>7216523
Except it sounds like the only "issue" is that they plan meets that everyone is welcome to, but others are unable to attend, and they do plan private meets, but anon is upset she doesn't get an invite.

>>7216843
How does a new non-ita Lolita meet people and make friends then?

>>7216828

Yeah, I thought she might have something wrong with her.

>>7216843

Was NYC the comm that had an ita comm and a regular comm?

>>7216866

Post on the FB page asking if anybody would like to meet up. Include a picture if you wanna prove you're not ita.

>>7216904
NYC does have two formal comms(one being Simply26's), but they don't do too much. As another anon said, most people prefer private meets.

>>7216451
What kind of drama? I didn't even know WA had a comm! I'm moving there next year for school.

>>7216949
Ugh, it was a whole thing about whether or not to allow kids to a meet. And new "rules"

And some special snowflake ita being posted in the ita thread here and complaining about it on the FB comm page.

>>7217000
Don't forget about people throwing a fit because out of state members were going to be removed.

I'm hopefully going to Edinburgh for uni next year. What are the Scottish comms like?

>>7216908
Ugh... I'm gonna be moving to NYC in a couple years so I'll search both comms and hopefully I won't end up in Simply26's. Since both are inactive I'll have to try what >>7216904 suggests. It would be embarrassing if no one wanted to meet up with me.

>>7217020

Not a ScotLoli, but I've heard nothing but good things. Also, they have some of the best dressers in the UK scene (LovingLolisa, Princess Porcelain.). Fairly sure they're dramaless as well.

>>7216670
>Dat admin
>Wotutu Mummy

Oh man, I've heard of her. Nothing specific, but nothing good.

>16 members
Slow down there, NI.

>>7217074

Peachie and Velveteena are scotloli too, if you're into youtube lolitas.

Pengu's in mine. :|

>>7217000
Could I get some sort of direction where the comm is? I'm a little curious. Not sure if I want t ojoin if there's a bunch of drama, but its still interesting.

> tiny comm
> four people
> spend nights with each other
> get drunk
> laugh at horrible hentai
> vidya


I love my comm.

>>7217446

Mine too. Huh.

>>7217446
I'm sorry for your loss

>>7217463
I want in your comm please

Here's a video for your comm to laugh at: it's called "Lesbians go at it on a pool table college fuckfest" or something. The guy hosting the thing is so fucking pumped. He's looks like a sleezy version of Zyzz.

>>7217477

Sounds glorious.

If you want to know what we're trying to get through, it's 'Darling.' Literally the most redic thing I've ever seen.

The only thing about it you need to know is:

"Hyper-erection mode, activate!"

My comm is slowly dying, with less and less people coming to meets. Now people hardly even show up to meets. I used to whine and complain a lot, but I have decided to take matters into my own hands now. I'm organizing extra meets and I'm having moderate success with it and even some new people have attended. I'm hoping that I can slowly breathe life back into this comm and that it can get active and big again.

>>7218062
I respect you anon. Keep up the good work!

>>7217074
>>7217020
Piping in to say I think this comm is pretty great. No drama, all fun and quite large.

>>7217463
But this sounds pretty cool, too.

>>7217010
yeah... all the girls that left didn't give a fuck but everyone else freaked out

>>7217461
Washington-Seattle Lolitas

>>7218062
Good work anon! My comm is also slowly dying...Too little people want to organize meetups. There were a few girls who used to organize meetups, but they don't wear lolita frequently these days. Many people decide not to attend meetups last minute or they just forget it. It makes it so difficult to organize something. Maybe you can give me some advise?

Even though, my comm is lovely and the regulars are all nice dressed. It's pretty drama free, expect for a few weeaboos. Newbie season has started too, recently.

And there is a lolita in my comm with a awful personality who scares all the newbies and acts like she is our holy lolita queen send by Mana banana sama himself. She steals meetup ideas, plans meets on the same day as other lolitas, gossips about people and she complains the whole day. She is the most 'famous' lolita from my comm, because she is constantly seeking for attention in the media. The worst thing is that everyone new lolita from my area thinks that our comm is full of bitches because of her. They think that you can't show up at a meet before you have a full brand outfit. That's ridiculous! I'm so sick and tired of this.. I don't get why people are okay with it this way. She ruins the reputation of our comm, she is rude and gossips and she isn't even able to dress herself properly.

>>7218254
I'll try to give you some advice, though I only started doing this just now.

Does your comm have a forum or FB? Try suggesting some nice things that you could do for a meet-up, see what interests people. Use this information to then create meets.

Don't be afraid to take matters into your own hands. Just organize a meet-up on FB and invite your friends (or the whole comm). Try to get in touch with everyone, socialize. Profile yourself as an engaging person who wants to host meets. You'll have to put a lot of work into researching what you want to do, making reservations and stuff but it'll be rewarding when they actually come to your meet. You can also start out with having mini-meets with your friends (if you have friends in your local comm) and expand to more people later. If you post pictures on the FB comm or forum, you'll get other people interested if it looks like fun.
When having the meet, also make sure that everyone's included in the talking and activities, so that no one feels lonely or left behind. Keeping everyone happy is hard, but happy people will remember your meet and come back.

For your issue with your "queen", try reaching out to the newbies. Talk to them, be friendly and welcoming. If they start knowing you and appreciating you, your meets will be preferred over the meets of your banana-sama-devotee. I myself have also been trying to attract more new people - they are basically the future of your comm, so you have to get them interested.

Overall, just try to make things fun and interesting. Going to a city and just walking around and having a drink can be boring if it's done every time. Look for a nice museum, a sightseeing tour you can do, bowling or whatever!

I hope this kinda helps, I'm still pretty new to this too!

> Tl;dr just organize meets and invite people, start off with friends and expand your influence.

>>7214803
The Coterie?

>>7214688
>>7214698
>>7214730
>>7215133

Does the sf comm have a fb?or page?

>>7218468
Did you respond to the right person? Because this does not sound like The coterie.

>>7218569
It's just part of my comm name. I'm kind of hesitant to put my actual state out there in case it's not.
Is there another coterie out there that's awful or something?

>>7218468
Hello. Not the person you responded to, but I'm in the Coterie. I was wondering if that was my group.

>>7218468
yeah, thats it. didnt know the girls from there browsed cgl.

>>7218702
also hoping i'm not one of those girls with "questionable taste".

>>7218707
Haha, me too. I personally think most of the people in the group dress pretty well.

>>7218608
What is the coterie???

>>7218710
A secret group of lolita wizards.

>>7218710
It's a local community.

>>7218720
Alabama right?

>>7218710
I think it's another Seattle community.

>>7218733
Yes.

>>7218759
Why are you wearing rings with the silhouette of a glass of coke on them?

>>7218759
Are those Starbucks rings with coffee cups

>>7218762
Uh, it's the state of Alabama? I guess it does kinda look like a glass of coke with 2 straws when it's upside down.

>>7218762
>>7218763
>>7218764
Go figure Alabama would look like sugar drinks.

>>7218759
What's it like to be so close and yet so far from the insanity in Georgia?

>>7218768
Entertaining? Idk. I kinda feel bad that everyone over there keeps getting so stressed out. I'm glad our group isn't like that. It's a lot smaller, though.

It's mostly good, but there's this one girl who joined the group last year who has been so obnoxious ever since she started wearing the fashion. She's very self-absorbed and got into lolita very quickly. Now she's gotten into AP a lot and brags about her expensive purchases constantly, whether it's over Facebook or in person at meets. She never compliments anyone else, just talks about how expensive her outfit is and how many "rares" she has. I find it harder and harder to keep my mouth shut. She dominates conversation at every meetup and makes all the other girls uncomfortable because literally all she talks about is how much money she spends on lolita, how tumblr famous she is (she really isn't), and she makes subtle little jabs at others in the comm implying they have less than her, or less desirable stuff, even if they don't. She obviously thinks of herself as a big deal.

She has now alienated one of the girls I really liked and made her feel like she doesn't even want to come to meetups anymore :( Not sure what to do. The rest of the comm is really nice, even if they aren't the best dressed. I don't even mind having itas in our group because they are all so sweet.

>>7218768
>>7218769
What's this now? I know they have occasional drama but I didn't realise they were, like, in turmoil.

>>7218778
I think it's more like a bunch of smallish personality conflicts.

>>7218775

What comm?

>>7218759
those are ugly :,(

>>7218783
I'm not going to say because the person I'm referring to may or may not browse /cgl/ and our comm is very small.

>>7218708
i havent even been to a meet. i watch from behind my computer screen.

>>7218786

Country?

>>7218788
Forgot to mention that she feels this overwhelming need to give advice to EVERYONE, including people who have been in the fashion for 4+ years longer than her. Every time a noob asks a question she jumps in before anyone else has a chance to say anything. Her information is very biased because she has strong opinions about everything. She also thinks it's necessary for everyone to know her opinions about everything (not just lolita-related stuff), all the time. She is very loud and if someone else is talking and she wants to talk, she will talk over them until they give up.

>>7218775
USA

>>7218788
Forgot to mention that she feels this overwhelming need to give advice to EVERYONE, including people who have been in the fashion for 4+ years longer than her. Every time a noob asks a question she jumps in before anyone else has a chance to say anything. Her information is very biased because she has strong opinions about everything. She also thinks it's necessary for everyone to know her opinions about everything (not just lolita-related stuff), all the time. She is very loud and if someone else is talking and she wants to talk, she will talk over them until they give up.

>>7218775
USA

>>7218733
btw, which of the girls do you guys like best?? as in, are there any catty/rude ones? RR seems nice, she's always gorgeous in photos.

>>7218748
anyone know what is up with the washington coterie?

>>7218792
Yeah, she's gorgeous and also super nice. I don't think anyone's especially catty or rude. You should come to a meet sometime soon. I think we have at least one a month for the next few months.

>>7218839
>I don't think anyone's especially catty or rude.
I guess it's too small for drama, right?
>You should come to a meet sometime soon. I think we have at least one a month for the next few months.
I should be coming to one soon, hopefully.

>>7218839
Not gonna lie, I'd totally bang her. Except I think she's married? (tfw wanting cute girlfriend)

>>7218847
I don't know if I'd go as far as to say it's drama-free, but yeah, pretty drama-lite. Not enough people around for much momentum to get going. I hope you can come!

>>7218854
She is married. Good luck on getting a cute girlfriend.

I'm traveling to the Sydney for the Misako tea party from another state, Anybody I should look out for or just straight up avoid?

>>7219014
I don't really know anon but I'm also attending the high tea from another state. I've met Cmig before she's lovely.

>>7219014
I'm fairly new in the syd comm (I moved from interstate).
I haven't been to many meets because they're always in town and I'm a bit far and I work too much.
But everyone I've met is absolutely lovely.

>>7219014
Martin

>>7219065
Really anon? Why is that?

Is there a hierachy in the Sydney comm?

>>7219071
He's upset a few people by being creepy and doesn't understand what's wrong with his behaviour even though he's been confronted about it. I'm sure he's easy to avoid in a room of 60+ people.

There isn't really a hierarchy. Some members have been around for a while but that doesn't affect anyone's ability to get along.

>>7219085
Thank you for the warning anon. Does he creep on anyone inparticular? I'm sure it will be okay as I'm going with a few girls from my local comm . Any news on how the seating is going to work? Are you going to the high tea anon?

That's really nice to hear actually.

>>7219098
He's obsessed with rabbits/bunnies, Even carries a stuffed rabbit with him. If you have a print with rabbits he will touch you without permission which can be confronting.

>>7219109
That is good to know and i'll keep that in mind with my outfit

>>7219109
Thank you for letting us know anon. I don't wear any rabbit prints but I hope Misako doesn't have any rabbits in her coord!

>>7218847
Did you just post your intro?

>>7219098
Can we call this guy Lenny

>>7218608
what is this group? Why did it go private? Is this why there haven't been any meet ups in the Washington group??

>>7219461
I'm part of the Alabama Coterie. We have a closed group because a bunch of random people joined and never posted anything.

>>7219461
There is no one planning meets for the washington group. There is one for xmas though. I know the washington coterie, you have to be invited by one of the mods to join.

>>7217020

I'm new and thinking about going to the Christmas meet, so I'll report back. I'm only in Scotland for a few weeks, so hopefully I can make it.

>>7219531
what do I have to do to be invited??

>>7219554
I suppose the easiest way is to be friends with one of the mods. Another way is to be noticed by them thru how well you dress or just how fun you are. I don't want to reveal my identity, but are you apart of the seattle washington comm?

>>7219555
I'd like to see the girls that think they're the judges of fun and good looking.

>>7219684
I think it's more about how active you are as a lolita?

>>7219531
Yeah, I was wondering why the Washington lolitas are so inactive, it's like a meetup every 3 months. Nothing is planned for ILD

>>7219705
I think a big part is that most of girls aren't very close to one another? So there isn't much motivation...that's just my guess though. Id plan a meet but im not super sociable so I don't think id make a good host.

>>7219702
Yes! That's a much better way to describe it. The point of the coterie is that they are all friends in and out of lolita. So I think they look for girls that would all be friends regardless of lolita.

>>7219702
>>7219733
I've seen that group show up as a suggested group for me, and that is not what it seems. It's like some girls who seem close, some other girls, and some brand new girls. It's a 30+ person group, that's not a friends group, that's another community.

>>7219517
why the fuck do people from TN join and post in our group though, is it because both are small, or??

>>7219788
Some people go to events in both states. I don't think I've gone to any in TN, but I've gone to Atlanta ones. A lot of the events we do are in North Alabama, so it's not a bad drive. Some of the people are good friends, but I don't know any of the TN girls really well.

>>7219733
What was so bad about the Washington group that made you go to another group? Is it full of weirdos or drama?

>>7220074
oh no! I'm still part of the Washington group. My main complaint would be they rarely host meets. Other than that it's a good group to be a part of.

>>7220089
Why need another group then?

>>7220094(You)
I can't really say. I didn't make the new group. All I know is that they host more meets. I also think there is a little bit of confusion. I'm not part of the new group.

>>7218062
Are you in the KC comm? I just moved here, and it looks dead except for one poor loli.

>>7220094
I think there was an influx of new girls in the Washington Lolitas group and they just posted a lot of stupid shit and that's when the new group was created.

>>7219722
Yeah but... with the lack of meets no one will get close to one another...

Although, I blame the mods for this one because they're all friends so they can just hang out with themselves and never need to make meets.

>>7217489
That sounds like the best thing ever!

Will totally watch, haha. Thank you~!

>>7220308
Uh, one of the mods is responsible for making half the meets that happened in the past year.

>>7220510
Uh, yea....maybe that's part of the problem.

>>7220308
nope, i agree with you on that point.

>>7219014
Is there anyone else who would be best not to mix with? Is there anyone who causes a lot of drama?

>>7220572
Yasmin (Yazzmindi) and itas

>>7220626
xplain

>>7220629
The genius who thinks this is worth $15 and wont stop pimping her terrible etsy store even with advice.

>>7220308
I think it's the other group... If all the active members are making meets there, then they're not making them in the main group.

>>7215611

I'm thinking about joining... (I live in the Highlands.) are the girls who go to most meets ita?

>>7214670
Sounds like Boston or Chicago.

>>7219517
>because a bunch of random people joined and never posted anything.

I only joined because I met a few of the girls at an outside convention, and they ended up inviting me, but I don't think I've posted yet. I like posts in the group, but there's really nothing for me to contribute, and I would hate to be the person to flood it with inane bullshit. I hope the other girls don't think I'm a creep, because the comm is really nice, I'm just shy as fuck.

>>7218775

Milwaukee?

>>7221067
Not that anon, but I highly doubt that we have any tumblr famous people.
>>7213775 is the more accurate description of our comm!

>>7220626
Don't worry, Yasmin can't even afford to go. Remember, this is the woman who thinks $60 is too much for a skirt.

>>7220644
There's only been like one meet so far. Even being in both groups it's still a meet every two months.

>>7220811
Oh, no, not like that. Like a couple men who lived in African countries joined and never said anything, or several random girls from the other side of the country. Not like lurkers. You guys are completely welcome. Are you the adorable chick who was in the blue dress at Hamacon? If you are, I was the one with the balloons.

>>7221390
there's been 2 formal meets and one casual in the coterie alone.

Our comm is eerily…too nice. It weirds me out how "perfect" it is and I'm just waiting for something to blow up.

Almost everybody dresses extremely well outside one "punk" girl and a couple 14 year old weaboos.
Nobody's mean to either.

We have at least one meet up a month and we're having at least three this month.
Apparently there's stuff not posted on the FB comm and girls hang out a lot outside meets as well. One girl invited everybody to the movies and sushi next weekend for her birthday even.

Even when there's problems people just talk it out.
We also always get really high quality photos of our outfits at every meet because one girl is a photographer.

…I don't know what to think.
Did I score the jackpot or something? Or is somebody secretly a mass murderer?

>>7220308
Maybe this is why you don't have friends.
>it's the mods fault I don't have friends because they have friends and don't invite me in to their personal life

There's a girl in our community who has a major stick up her ass. Typical brand whore and holier than thou attitude.
She's not even pretty.

I didn't get to go but apparently she threw a massive hissy fit about gratuity fees at a meet recently and is giving attitude to a newer girl about meet-ups on our FB page.

These people are off-putting. They really ruin meet ups.

>>7221390

Do you really need a meet every weekend?? A meet a month is good enough, make friends if you need to get out more.

>>7221654

This sounds like my comm. What comm is this?

>>7223898
It's a Canadian one.

>>7224504
Isn't that why? You guys are just supposed to be nice.

>>7224504
That explains everything.

Any info on the Ohio comm?

>>7224564
Most of the activity seems to happen up north around the Cleveland area. Meets happen pretty often. No drama or issues. Everyone seems to be pretty nice and welcoming.

>>7221654
if you're in my comm, we've always been like this :V we're really laid back

>>7220558
Any member of the WA-Seattle comm may set up a meet. It's just that only a few seem to have the incentive to organize one.

>>7224534
This stereotype doesn't really apply.

The Canadian cosplay drama is fucking nasty for a good example.
(Also - Mary Jane?)

>>7221654
>even when there's problems people just talk it out
Like ... what kind of problems?

There's always one

>>7226349
I'm gonna vomit

>>7226349
This is always one of those who doesn't even wear the fashion, beyond maybe a few bodyline pieces. And never well either.
>I've been a lolita since before I was born!

>>7226349
:politely taps the mic making sure not to get caught up in her bonnet strings:

>>7226349
L O L this is amazing holy shit. sometimes i wish my comm got people that are this level of wtf for the entertainment value

>>7226479
Went on their profile, didn't want to see a couple smoochy puffy lip kiss picture, that'll give me nightmares.

The more crazy a person is, the more ita they are.

>>7226349

>>7226479
This makes me feel like we got really luck with our comm actually

>>7226349
I think it's kind of cute. Sounds like she clipped it from some public-domain Victorian children's poetry book.

What's the DC comm like? I might end up moving to the Maryland/Virginia in the near future, and I'm curious.

>>7221654
sounds like an awesome horror story to be
>our comm is perfect!
>too perfect...

>>7226594

>>7226349
the saga continues

>>7227766
Ugh she just has to drop her ~novel~ in there.

>>7227766

Ugh, that forced, purple prosy bullshit. She's clearly one of those kids that thought they were a literary genius all through high school and have never gotten over the praise they got from teachers.

>>7226349
>>7227766
ok I had to see what this ~*amaazing*~ loli novelist looks like and found this. She's the one with the hat and alpaca thing (second from left).

>>7227766
>the group's poet
>novel
>"other's"
>what is rhythm?

SOMEBODY PLEASE SHOW US PICTURES OF THIS PRODIGIOUS BARD

>>7227774
It was obviously completely necessary to the conversation
I don't think you should be trivialising the serious piece of literature she has written

>>7227796
Did she write the synopsis? Because that's really difficult to understand.

>>7227766
>Publisher: Acorn Independent Press Ltd
such pressure

>>7226349
Here you go seagulls, enjoy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OBvcfU4Bes

>>7227796
>long sufferable mother
Oh dear lord.

>>7227808
I spat out my cake at the harp oh my GOD

>>7227808
>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OBvcfU4Bes
Nope, can't get through a minute of that.

>>7227796
>dem run-on sentences
How many commas can you fit in one sentence before it deteriorates into incomprehensible babble?
>mfw I'm kind of guilty as that as well, but I don't fancy myself a writer

>>7227808
>>7227796
>>7227789
>>7227766
>>7226349
oh my gOD this chick is fucking hilarious

please, post more, I beg you

>>7227822

>>7227830
oh god my sides

>>7227830
>mundane realities
>sisterhood
oh my fucking god

A few months ago I joined the Chicago community. It seems cliquish to the maximum so far and I feel left out. Does anyone else have the same experience or is it just me?

>>7227766
>especially as it gives me a brief interlude free from worry
I am literally crying tears of laughter. This is fucking amazing and awful, jesus christ ah shit

>>7227862
do you actually, y'know, talk to anyone/go to meetups? i hear this a lot about chitown but doesn't feel that way at all. you have to realize some of these people have known each other for like 5+ years. you can't waltz in and expect people to drop everything and interact with you.

>>7227808
At first I lol'd, but then towards the end (I watched the whole thing) I realized how completely awful this girl is and how I would fucking attack her if I met her IRL and I became sad that there is a lolita community out there having to deal with this girl. I'm so sorry for you Brit lolis. She is a nightmare.

Anyone in the albany/upstate comm here? How is it?

>>7227862

Maybe that's Chicago in general. I never had a true group there, and only two good friends (who don't talk to each other). I've a much better time making friends in Ireland for some reason.

>>7227879
I don't think she's been to a meetup yet other than the one her and her boyf are going to on Sunday (her boyf will be taking photos of us apparently for his portfolio)
UK lolis are generally actually too polite to be rude to her unless she really fucks someone over

>>7227886
chicago used to be full of bitches and brand/attention whores. things are so much quieter now that elerronyar and ellyjay have moved to san francisco.

>>7227899
Which is weird, because it's not like we've got very much drama coming from them? Maybe it's just your comm?

I'm in Texas and my comm is super small and I've never been able to go to a meet for the past year because they constantly cancel or at the last minute change the date/time.
The only active girls in the comm are on the larger side and from the group photos I've seen, not many of them know how to coord.

I'm a bit desperate for loli friends so I'm going to try and join the comm from the next town over because they're a lot more active, but damn my local comm is so embarrassing.

>>7227912
Where in Texas, anon?

>>7227916
San Antonio!

>>7227926
Do you know Wolfie Blackheart? I'm dead serious I'm still fascinated by that person.

The comm in my city is small but they have pretty regular meets... they're all very very very nice girls, but I don't feel like I really fit in because they pretty much all only wear sweet (I only wear classic) and I'm quite a bit older than everyone. I wish there were lolitas around here that I could be fancy and go to galleries and drink wine with!

>>7227926
Oh man, I would definitely try out the DFW comm if I were you, lol. Lots of nice girls who dress well!

>>7227793

>>7227927
Oh god, haha. I didn't personally know her but I think she went to my high school? We had a lot of kids that would change schools weekly so I might be imagining things - I know a lot of the weebs at my school were all "Support Wolfie!" during the whole ordeal. I don't know where she is now though, I feel like I heard she had a baby or something rofl.

>>7227936
Oh really? I didn't know that! Its like 4 hours away from me but I'll keep it in mind.

What Texas comms are you anons in, if any?

>>7227796
>Guinness
>Cider
W-what

>>7227926
Lol, come to Austin! Last meet, everyone in lolita was wearing brand except one superita, but she was nice and most everyone was really cool~

>>7227974
I'll definitely try to go to the next meet-up! I was going to go to the Sailor Moon movie one but didn't plan accordingly so I had to miss out on it!

>>7227910
Or maybe those two individuals want a fresh start and are lying low in the new territory.

>>7227796
>recieiving
>that tiny, cramped layout and stock image photoshopped cover.
>that adorable guinea pig
i need this book.

Been considering checking out my local comm . Requesting kiwifags opinions on the Auckland comm and maybe the recent Hamilton one that's been created?

It's a small group. A good chunk of them are physically in a different part of the state, but I've met most of them before and found them to be nice people. I'm only friends with a few people and we've hung out in regular clothes before. Intl. Lolita Day is here in my part of the world. I think only 4-5 people are going to the meet up and I'm looking forward to meeting some new people and seeing a few old faces.

>>7227862
I know what you mean. I'm only close friends with a few people as well, however, you have to keep in mind that it's a huge group and there are a lot of things that influence this occurrence. There are people living in the suburbs and city - it can be hard for everyone to get together at every meet. You've also got a varying age group: older and more experienced lolitas (and there are also a few old, but not very well dressed ones imo) and some people who just moved in the area or generally new to lolita. The older ones/ones who've been around the scene for a while are more aware of bad PR from the past, so it's kind of not surprising that people tend to stick with those who are closer to them (distance and relationship-wise). We've been trying to address this problem for a while, but it looks like this is what a lot of people still think about whenever the Chicago lolita community is mentioned.

>>7228593
i'm newish to the chicago comm and i can attest to this, it's more than just "cliqueishness." i'm mostly friends with the lolis in the comm that live near me (a bunch of older lolitas), and i can tell from hanging around with them that the old drama (and recent cancerchan drama) caused a lot of problems. the older lolitas in the comm are wary of more starting, so they stick together. however, i've managed to find plenty of friends and people that are genuinely sweet and fun to hang out with in the comm. just make yourself open, talk to everyone at meets, you'll make acquaintances and friends in the comm if you make sure to at least greet everyone at a meet and keep in contact with the people you get along with well, even if it's just a "hey, how's it going" over fb or something.

>>7227808
>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2OBvcfU4Bes
running commentary:
this is so bad,
so horrible
so bad
im done
kill me
omg
kill me
what is this
why is she talking like that
please
why
oh god
oh god
oh god

>>7234299
Bitch looks deranged as fuck, but she has a lovely speaking voice. That's always the kicker with English itas.

>>7234321
it's not even her accent, it's the way in which she's so fat it's like her throats clogged and she's speaking through her nose.
I think it's the wonky eyes that unsettle me.

>>7228042
Hey, we'll be glad to have you. I think there's a meetup planned for the weekend of Ikkicon (off site lunch kind of thing, details coming) but we've got some stuff planned for the new year already, and I'm sure we'll have a Valentine's meet in February. Eek. I'm already thinking about 2014.

>>7221654
What you describe is exactly how my comm is except
>Even when there's problems people just talk it out.
We don't do this.
Everyone is ridiculously nice. Too nice. There's a problem, it's ignored. I absolutely hate the fakeness it creates.
Meetups are ok but the community is a bit clique-y. They are nice to new people (I moved here recently) but I'm not really clicking with any of them. Considering the size of the community, I'm really starting to feel lonely and don't know what to do.

>>7228593
are you me?

>>7227899
detect vendetta-chan

I'm curious to know whether there are separate communities in NYC, and whether the nicer one(s) require a personal invitation. I am new to community culture in the area and all I have found so far is one group on facebook of (mainly) poorly dressed and poorly mannered itas.

Can anyone point me in the right direction if there is a better, or even a broader group on facebook that I'm missing?

>mfw sometimes when I see meetup photos

>>7235914
I've heard there are 2-3 lolita groups in NYC. There's an older bunch, one that is in their mid-20s, and everything else.

>>7235908
Haha, I dunno. Maybe? I'm sure that many other lolitas in the area can relate. It could be a whole lot worse though. I'm just glad that Chigothloli is active. I live too far south to visit Chicago often, so I've been trying to build a lolita community outside of Chicagoland, and although the girls are generally well dressed and cool, we haven't had many opportunities to hang out. Most of us are in college, so it's a little hard for everyone to commit. I really hope that next year that changes and we can be very active - having a meet every month and every once in a while, take trips up to Chicago for larger meets.

>>7235914
The only good groups now are just friends who hang out in lolita together. You pretty much just have to maintain a strong online presence and hope you get invited/can get yourself in with a good group.

What are the German comms like? I'll be in Berlin and then BW next year, and I'm wondering if bringing my frills would be worth it.

>>7235914
Fb com/groups/NYCLolitas/

>>7220776
Nah, not Boston, at least judging by the "meetups in the 'burbs" part. Boston almost always does meetups in the city proper, or Cambridge, which is practically Boston 2.0.

Ergehferkingawd

Some representative from GLB is trying to find reasons to get into my community when she lives in a state 900 miles away. I don't think she understands that this is a region specific group. I'm finding myself talking like a broken record while I'm trying to get her understand that. I really don't care if you've gotten 15 people from a city three hours away to organize an event based on your company. If you don't live in the region, don't join.

I'm going to have a talk with my group because apparently the person I'm talking about was suggested from someone in the group. I don't like GLW and I don't want any other businesses trying to lord over a region specific group unless they're physically in the area and related to lolita.

captcha: suspicion boutcaf

>local comm
Hahaha.

I wish there was any sort of comm here. New Hampshire is too woodsy.

>>7238830
Aw man, really? I was considering moving to NH sometime in the next few years, and I have such a great comm now.

>>7238807

You sound a little crazy.

I met up with a NYC comm once. And proceeded to spill all my spaghetti.

I just want some friends, but don't want to travel to the city or to the Albany area :(

can there be a hudson valley lolita group? hahah.

>>7239273
Shucks, anon. I would've loved hanging in Westchester with fellow lolitas.

Any updates on Houston? As far as I can tell everyone is just sucking up to Anime Matsuri but is their anything else?

In SF there's some people I guess but can anyone tell me about this chick who was apparently bullied or some shit????

I half wish I know of a comm closer to me than SF or Sac, but then I hear the drama stories form comms online and I think maybe it's okay just by myself.

>>7240272
Where do you live anon? If you're in the east bay everyone here has been so much nicer and friendlier than the ones I met from SF

>>7240283
I live a few hours away from both actually, those are just the closet. The town where I live has a decent sized cosplay community that I used to be involved in, but the drama there was too much for me to take.

>>7220747
Not in the slightest, go ahead and join.
It's a pretty big comm but we like to take things calmly so don't expect any drama.

Your thoughts about it?
I love Innocent World and I just can't cet over the fact they used Dakota as a model..... such a disappointment.

is 'coming out' to your comm something that happens often? i would assume you become close enough friends with your comm that they know at some point, but i rarely go to meetups, so it's impossible for anyone to really know. would it be something creepy if you were like "hey girls, i'm gay. yo." ?

and why is it so difficult to be honest about something like this without constantly worrying about being creepy?

chicago comm i guess? again, don't go to meetups.

>>7240327
I don't see why it really matters. If it comes up in conversation drop it in, but a lot of lolitas are at least bi, so don't do anything that could mark you as a special snowflake.

>>7240338
fair enough.
although a friend of mine and i have been thinking up really corny lolita themed pick up lines i'm dying to try.

"are you a pair of RHS? because you make me feel like i'm falling."
"Baby you make the Stars Shine Bright."

oh god nevermind.

>>7240354
"baby I'm gonna make you call out to Mana-sama"
"you frill me"
I like where this is going.

>>7240362
"If I had to choose between you and Mr. Yan..."

oh fuck i ruined it.

>>7240362
"you. me. my place. tea. kamikaze girls."

"I got a sugary carnival waiting for you in my bedroom, and no it's not a replica."

>>7240354
sup gurl, that jsk looks good on you but it'd look better on my floor

>>7240362
Wanna taste my melty cream donuts?

>>7240400
>>7240383
can we, idk, meetup? you can be my honeycake

>>7240403
is that a petti under your OP or are you just happy to see me?

>>7219232
i never posted an intro on the fb, if thats what you meant. sorry for lateness.

>>7217010
Oh man, we had the same issue when our comm cleaned the member list. People freaked out when we said we were going to remove out-of-state people unless they specified that they wanted to stay.

Halifax, send help.

>>7240496
My condolences.

My comm is great for the most part. We used to have a lot of drama, but the main troublemaker stays out of the community now, so it's been great lately. We meet up at least once a month, usually more, which is really nice, and the "core" members are all pretty good friends. I think we can sometimes come off as clique-ish to new people/visitors because we hang out together a lot, but I don't think it's too big of a problem. The core group also dresses really well, though we've recently had an influx of newbies that are pretty ita. Still waiting for some of them to improve...

>>7240496
Too bad there's no ita version of mary poppins. She would go around comms fixing the itas with fun and song, while the rest of the comm, busy with feminism and cash monies gave up on them, not her.

>>7240539
I WISH.

One of you artistic types should make a comic of that!

>>7240415
i think we should be friends, imho.

>>7239255
Tell me something I don't know.

The situation isn't as blown up as I made it in my post. I was just getting really tired of repeating myself to the GLW rep that this is a region specific group, not a general interest group. I talked it over with my community and all who replied to the mass message suspected that she's trying to spam, and there was no point in having someone really far out of state join our meet ups unless they visit often.

>>7240533
Comm?

>>7240689
Don't let her in anon. She can't have her way with everything. Don't let your comm turn into a GLW hugbox like mine did.

>>7218254
mana banana sama

>>7218454
BANANA SAMA IT GOT BETTER

>>7240710
One of the SoCal comms.

any Hawaii comms, specifically maui? I visit family for a week every year or two and last time I was there I was wondering if there were any lolis but i figured they were all on the big island

>>7240715
>glw hugbox

Ew. I think that most members have had previous experience with GLW products, especially since some of them also cosplay off the side, so I'm sure they have their reasons for not having her in. It was weird that the rep brought up Chicago involvement with GLW, but that was way back when Ellejay modeled for them and our comm is fairly far from Chicago.

I'm curious to see how the newcomers are. I've only briefly met some of them in person, but they were in regular clothing. I've never seen them in lolita. Hopefully, we can use the fb page as a forum for critique and suggestions.

>>7240724
Not that I know of. All the Hawaii lolis are on Oahu, not the big island.

>>7240667
yes. we should.

>>7240475
we have around 200 girls and maybe a tenth of them say anything on the main page, and maybe half of -that- even comes to meets or has anything to wear to meets. and for some reason we have a girl in vegas who spams about a vegas new year meet every few months, and another girl in florida who spams about a disneyworld meet every few months. people have tried to gently let them down like "that's kind of far and expensive" and they just reply "well it's not for a year, you have time to save up!!!"
i've been to vegas, it is the last place you want to wear lolita.

>>7241123
OMG, yeah, Vegas girl is pretty annoying. She's pretty sweet in person, but has zero common sense on the internet, apparently.

>>7240327
Why would your sexuality be relevant? My personal viewpoint is that your sexuality is not the business of anyone but you and the person you are/want to date - why else would anyone care?

I'm gay and if some asks then I'll tell them but otherwise it's super irrelevant and quite snowflakey. If there's a girl in your comm that you like and you know she's gay then just drop it in to conversation subtly

>>7241123
>i've been to vegas, it is the last place you want to wear lolita.
Can you tell me why? I'm going to start planning a Vegas trip soon.

>>7241770
well, you may do a ton of walking from place to place, people in casinos are usually drunk and may spill on your clothes, people will almost assuredly confuse you for a prostitute because it's legal there, you'll stick out as a target for muggers and beggars, and depending on the time of year you go, vegas is incredibly hot, and lolita probably wouldn't be the most comfortable.

>>7240720
GO FORTH AND SPREAD THE HOLY LIGHT, MY DISCIPLE.

>>7220178
Nope, I'm not. I hope you find some life in your community, anon!