/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

If I like a girl who's into all these things, how do I make her like me? She seems like a nice person but who knows.

>>7379933
Seriously? She's a person, find out if you have anything in common and go from there, there's no special rules for lolitas.

Does anyone know anything about the lolita comm in DC? I'm very new to lolita I only have one coord lmao but I want to join and meet new people but I know nothing about my comm...

Love my comm, but that's probably because I am half oblivious to drama and really try to be nice and understanding to everyone. We're pretty low key but I love seeing new lolitas at meetups, along with others that don't come very often. I'm always the "late" one, which will have to change soon since I'm hosting a big meetup and also it is the worst thing for others who have to wait.
>the irony since I like being anon on cgl

I'm a bit hesitant about going to a SoCal meet coming up soon. It'll be my first meet, and everyone seems to know each other pretty well. Anyone from SoCal comms (LA based) think it would be better to stay a lone Lolita or is it worth it to try to be a part of these comms?

>>7380699
Which meet are you thinking of going to? The LA comm is really large, so it's actually pretty good to go to a couple of big events so you can meet people. There are so many members that you're pretty much sure to find at least one or two people that you click with and want to hang out with in frills, so I think it would definitely be worth going. I have a lot of friends in that comm, and I think most people are pretty cool.

>>7380050
DC comm is suuuuper chill. No drama, and a very nice group of people. MD and DC comm usually do things together, since most girls like getting in as many meet-ups as possible. I wouldn't be afraid of going to a meet-up, they are really friendly and love to meet new people. =]

>>7380699
It's worth going to meets and meeting people, in my opinion. It's a big community, so some smaller groups are pretty close, but overall people are friendly, and it shouldn't be too difficult to make a few friends.

>>7379926
My comm is full of fucking idiots. Drama drama drama all the time.

I wish to join my local comm. Unfortunately due to myself being influential and famous, I cannot attend their meetups.

What can I do if I'm a famous people who wears lolita fashion? :/

>>7386202
Who are you? I don't see why you can't...

>>7381872
Name and shame

>>7386202
what kind of famous?

infamous?
famous inside the lolita community?
famous in the tumblr community?

>>7380746
Everybody is usually friendly. 2 of the girls in the comm are kind of e-infamous for being itas but everyone is pretty nice in person.

Any Sacramento or Bay area communities? I am positive there are, but I don't know how to find them.

>>7386202
You aren't famous enough that it would be an issue.

Gr8 b8, btw.

So what kind of drama is there in the Chicago community? Any girls in particular that have caused trouble?

Is there a Calgary comm?
If there is, what are they like? Are they newbie friendly?

starting a new comm in my area. so far....its aggravating. extremely aggravating. everyone asks for help but no one wants the truth. should have just stayed solitary.

>>7386306
I came here to ask pretty much the same question. Wow. I know that there is a Sac group (sac egl or something on fb), but I don't know if they're a good comm or not. Are you in the Sac suburbs?

>>7386317
Yeah, there is. facebook dot com slash groups slash 661217243930450
I don't know much about them, but they appear really friendly.

>>7386313
No drama currently.

>>7386306
The bay area has a huge community. There's actually two facebook groups for it, one "EGL" and one "J-fashion" that's a bit more exclusive. The Sacramento community seems younger and more ita tbh, but I don't know that much about their meetups.

What about comms in Ohio?
I live near... Cleveland

I can't say my local group IN is perfect. But it's definitely more drama free now that the creepy Easter Bunny suit wearer is gone. Now we just seem to have this one person trying to start drama. But is too scared to be completely vocal. Just posts shit on behind the bows.

>>7386487
I'm in Stockton, actually, but I'm willing to make the commute to get out of this shithole town.

>>7386827
I figured there was a bay area one! I didn't think of searching facebook for it; I was expecting a message board or a Livejournal like some kind of dinosaur.

>>7387507
>creepy Easter Bunny suit wearer
This sounds like a story.

>>7387918
Ah okay, I understand! But I'm disappointed that you aren't near to me since I'm really scared of entering the Sac comm as a lone newbie.

>>7387507
>easter bunny suit wearer
I saw the photos and that was fucking creepy. what made her think that was okay? I would be so embarassed to be seen with that thing ugh

>>7388353
Aw man, me too Anon! Should email me and maybe we could try to go at the same time or something? That or I usually just wait for Sacanime/Fanime to dress in Lolita and meet people.

>>7388384
That sounds awesome! I left my email too, since I'm heading to dinner and if just in case you wanted to shoot me an email in the meantime. I haven't been to Sacanime in years, so I'm looking forward to attending in lolita in fall!

>>7388353
Hey! I'm from Davis if you want to meet up ^^ I haven't attended any Sac meetings either...

>>7386832
There's Ohio_EGL.

Is there a comm anywhere in Central Cali? All I get is North and South cons, but none for around here.

>>7388443
Hey Davis anon email us!

>>7386317
Calgary a few years ago was known for it's drama.

Both Calgary and Edmonton have Facebook communities though.

>>7380050
It's a facebook group. Just do a search for Metro Lolitas on Facebook and it should come up. I'm not in DC but I live close enough to drive up sometimes. It's quite friendly.

>>7386313

It's all in the past, but pretty well-documented. In a way, it's a shame--the community is so low-key that I'm finding it boring.

>>7386487
>>7388536
>>7388443
I'm also new to the Sac area. I wish I could get Sac lolitas to carpool with me to SF meet-ups but no one is ever interested.

Hey Davis Anon, are you the one that said not to bother with Ciocolat's afternoon tea and said they weren't very good anymore?

I wish the Michigan community was closer to me and not so far away. I have all this burando but I'm too scared to wear it out alone and the one lolita in my area is an otaku ita.

>>7388556
All of that drama killed the community. From what i understand, the current Calgary comm is new and completely devoid of the previous drama-hungry members.

>>7388839
Be happy that the drama is over. Before the group cracked down on it, it was horrible.

>>7389933
Not so much the crack down as Ellejay leaving...

>>7390013
Ellejay was really not the cause of drama, unless you mean because she has a couple vendettachans who spread rumors about her. I'm not close friends with her and don't really enjoy her that much and even I can see it's obvious the "dirt" people have on her is lies or exaggerations. The main drama came from a member who was told to gtfo after physically threatening people, the girl who was faking cancer, and the ita "seamstress" who moved to MI.

>>7389303
First Sac anon here!
I'd be happy to carpool to SF, but I'm terribly intimidated to try. I don't know anything about the SF comm (if they're friendly or whatnot). Why do you want to go to the SF meet-ups (I'm sorry if that's a dumb question)?

>>7390054
The SF comm is pretty nice, I think some lolitas from Sac do go for the larger events (swap meet, cons, etc.). You can also hit up Baby and AP while you are here.

>>7379926
Why does the one in green next to the black chick in the front row look so angry?

>>7390135
So they wouldn't feel that I was barging in? I'm so overly worried about that.

>>7390033
Ellejay has never been entirely to blame. However she did cause the drama singlehandedly this week in Chicago.

>>7390033
>physically threatening people

Oh Jeez who the fuck did that?

>>7390216

Was that really drama or was it just a misunderstanding? Apologies for the question, I'm genuinely out of the loop and I thought it was just "eh, she got overexcited about it" sort of deal when I saw it.

>>7390204
...No? I don't see how you can join a comm/meet without just "barging in" and just showing up. I have been going to meets for over a year now and there are still people that I don't know. I am sure if you just introduce yourself nicely the comm would welcome you.

>>7386313
I just want to join the Chicago community but I can't find it anyway. Can someone clue me in?

>>7379926
>tfw you attended your first ASG sewing meet
>youngest in group by about 20 years
>no more thoughts of trying to join the local lolita comm

old ladies be bitchin'

>>7390371
It's called "Chigothloli" on facebook.

>>7390267
Ah, okay! I'm happy to hear that. So people are generally not super opposed to new comm members? As you can tell, I'm a very nervous person.

>>7390412
Why would they be?
Jesus, put on your big girl panties, stop QQing about your "social anxiety" as you refresh Tumblr 500 times a day, and go outside and meet some loli-chans

Okay, for the people interested in joining a comm, just join their Facebook group and go to a meetup looking your best. A good attitude and willingness to talk about lolita helps you in the long run, especially if you're actually the worst dressed even though you think you're fabulous. If you have anxiety about meeting people, just participate in conversations in the fb group.

My comm is very fun and I enjoy most of the people in the group, although some of us dress not so well but have a nice personality to keep encouragement for improving over time.

If you are a lone lolita, there's the google plus /cgl/ group to chat to other lolitas and network!

Idk if you guys could include this in the OP post next time to prevent less questions and if anyone wants to look for a new comm: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheet/ccc?key=0Anw4aY5HpSLMdFU2UjZjZ0t2Z0I3RXZtemhkSWlMamc&usp=docslist_api

Don't suppose anybody knows about Colorado's comm? I know there was a secret a while back about somebody who moved away, but I'm not sure if there's any other drama, if at all. I'm a bit of a newbie so I'd rather not be eaten alive...

>>7391078
what secret? I never hear anything about CO

>>7391082
This was the one. Obviously I assume whatever drama relating to that is over, but who knows.

>>7390054
Sac area anon here, I want to go to SF meet-ups because I have friends in SF and they have more meet-ups than Sac currently does (I was unable to attend the recent planning meetup and couldn't make it to Sac Anime either; I thought some girls were going to Sac Con but I went and didn't see a single other lolita). Besides, SF lolitas are cool, no need to worry.

>>7390231
Misunderstanding - she got overexcited, and she apologized for it. Please stop trying to make Ellejay drama happen.

>>7391090
Seems like it's about Mint Kismet? Someone is probably jellymad.

>>7390906
Same anon that you replied to. I had no idea that other people used the "big girl panty" phrase, I've always found it funny. Yeah, but I'm going to do that. I just have thin skin is all.

>>7390381
ASG is the fucking best and they have nicer tea parties and events too.
>got to visit the Dupont mansion and gardens
>learned how to make spiderweb sheer fabric
>compare our tailor dummies
>why anon you look so nice i wish my granddaughter wore crinolines like you
>here anon have some gingersnaps

>>7392405
I did have some woman utterly convinced I should date her grandson because he cosplays. Turns out she can't accurately judge the age of anyone under 30 and was trying to set me up with a 15 year old.

I wish my comm would stop spending money on "loliable" stuff. Coordinates would look so much better if they took all that money they spend on stuff that that marginally fits the aesthetic and applied it to a few, solid pieces in colors fitting to their wardrobe. Then maybe I could stop hearing how they're jealous of my shit every fucking meet.

Kinda related to >>7394774 but most people in my comm spend their money on frivolous stuff and then complain about their wardrobes and how little brand they own. It's not really my place to say how people spend their money and I know that people are in different stages of life and have different financial situations but I do hate it when they turn around and make a big deal out of me when I wear something new (ex: 'well aren't you a Miss-Money bags.') It's at the point now where I keep my mouth shut at meets about my wardrobe or my new purchases because it's not worth the hassle even though I tried to be modest about it in the past.

I did on one occasion at a meet up mention how expensive it was to eat out and how I consider each food thing I buy in lolita item terms (ex: buying a takeout meal twice a week, even when there is perfectly good food at home, is the equivalent of a brand necklace) and some of the girls seemed to get it. Hopefully they might start to realize that all the $9 smoothies they have and constant eating out they do really adds up.

>>7379926
The NYC comm is so terrible I quit and went full morigirl/Williamsburg hipster about a year ago and I still get shit talked and accused of random crap by prominent members,some of who don't even live in NYC.

Question,I'm moving to Portland,Oregon next year and I'm thinking of getting back into Lolita becouse I still have a lot of my classic pieces in the back of my wardrobe.is there still a comm over there? The only member I know of was faunkegin but she isn't even all too active anymore.

Where would i find the german lolitas active comm/how is the comm preferably near cologne. My german isnt extremely fluent how hard would it be to be a part of the comm? Are there any english speakers? i saw a few german speakers in the lolita in public post

>>7396079
Yeah, our comm is huge. We have a couple meet ups a month. In the summer it can sometimes get up to one a week. There's lots of great people in the community, but since we are so big we also have a lot of newbies.

>>7396107
That sounds pretty great. I'll start bulking up my wardrobe again then. Are you guys still on lj or is there an fb group now?

>>7396112
We are really active on facebook. The lj exists but is pretty much dead.

Anyone know anything about the Houston TX comm? Thinking about joining but eh too many horror stories.

Anyone else in the AZ comm watching the furpocalypse? Seriously though in what universe would you think wearing a fursuit to a lolita meet would go over well.

>>7390214
fucking Dina, she showed up to a meet a few weeks ago without even telling the mods. i hope she slips up and gets permabanned because she acts like an edgy preteen.

>>7379926
theres national lolita day in disney land, CA
if that interests you too.

>>7396478
you can find a few people there too.

>>7396174
Lol, what happened? Link?

>>7394774
>>7395889
It's nice to know I'm not alone on this boat. I think it's fine to spend on whatever you want but loliables aren't usually going to look as nice. A couple of girls in my comm buy lots of random fandom things, buy takeout and coffees or bakery goods constantly and then wear their hot topic or replica dress and complain about brand bring way too expensive.

>>7396174
seconding deets

>>7396079
>talk poor about a shitty comm
>other members watch you crash and burn though they agree
>move away
>still get e-stalked to an unhealthy degree and used as a scapegoat for shit.

different comm but damn do I know that feel

>>7400018
Dammit, Nia, you were doing so well.

>>7400025
meh, I'm leaving it alone. people can find out for themselves by joining.

>also got an email from a comm member on how she follows my family's blog, talks to my ex and agrees with him, follows all my internet history, and knows EVERYthing about me, and them saying how there is nothing unhealthy about that

was only going to post that greentext part if someone called out my trip.

>>7400036
Jesus Christ, you're a dumb skank aren't ya?

>>7400018
You always talk about how you were bad soooo long ago but you're better now but still no one is nice to you! Yet you continue to talk shit about your old comm to this day. If you ever want to move past this you need to start by leaving 4chan, Nia. Being a whiny ita bitch here will never allow you to grow up.

>>7400036
Have you told everyone about the tumblr you run for retards? Ya know, the shut in one, where you beg for money.

>>7400036
That's creepy as fuck. Said member probably frequents /cgl/ since that's a stereotypically 4chan thing to do. Stalking, harassment, bullying, hating someone but immersing themselves in that person's life.

>>7400018
go away Nia

>>7400080
Don't put it online if you don't want people to stalk you, is that a hard concept?

>>7396174
All I know (which is not much)

>girl organizes tea party meet
>meet is supposedly disguised as opportunity to film for a personal side project
>never mind no thx, decline invite
>find out furry wants to go
>possibly in fursuit? (unconfirmed)
>regardless, is denied invitation to event, would make other girls uncomfortable
>furry runs to AZ furry comm baww discrimination
>"I had no intentions of making anyone uncomfortable!!!"
>"you can't sit with us!!!!!"

I am really opposed to furries in general and am skipping out on anything that has to do with anyone wearing their fursuits and shit, nobody wants that shit in our comm

>>7400087
is showing self restraint a hard concept? it really isn't.

>>7400087
Typical creepy response from a creeper trying to justify their psychotic activities. Do us all a favor and go commit yourself to a mental institution.

>>7400092
Haha I'm glad I'm not the only one who saw she was going to be filming some shit and nope'd out of there. I don't want to be a vehicle towards her thirst for e-fame. But yeah that's basically the gist of it, except before the furry requested to come to the tea meet, he was told (by another furry in the comm) not to wear his fursuit to meets for a variety of good, practical, and impersonal reasons, as well as suggestions such as asking hosts for approval before showing up in suit, or just wearing lolita by itself with no fursuit. Original furry flips his shit, cites mod approval as why he should be able to do it anyway, insists he'd wear lolita over his fursuit (he doesn't currently own any lolita, just fyi), and cries about how we're trying to make him "change his lifestyle". It was at this point that I decided to scope out his very public facebook page and found that he was an active yiffer. Someone else in the comm comes in and addresses the elephant in the room of "furries are disgusting" and now the furry starts saying things like this is just like high school with the popular kids running the school, I didn't know lolita had rules, the furry community wouldn't treat you this way if you wanted to wear lolita or didn't have a suit, etc etc.

And that's about when everyone and their brother decided to hop aboard the drama train, taking turns jabbing this guy until he left (but good riddance, really). Hellobatty secured her nomination for "most unnecessary bitchiness" and several people posted passive-aggressive fb statuses after the dust settled.

Mod that originally added him said she was "very disappointed" in the comm and whined about how she had already talked to him and approved it, completely forgetting that she wasn't elected to her position and therefore has no right to speak for the entire group on such an obviously controversial subject.

>>7386629
I hope it stays that way. Granted, I don't know how long it will last because I heard that ElleJay is coming back to Chicago. I don't recall her causing any trouble (anything major for that matter) while in California (then again, I'm a little out of the loop), so I'm crossing my fingers.

>>7400094
>>7400113

remember that nothing ever leaves the internet.

Don't be naive. If you have a significant online presence, it's common sense to keep things you don't want to remain on record forever to yourself. Don't whine about people being creepers when you enabled them.

>>7400813

I still can't believe that the mods let a furry with obvious porn all over his page into the comm because he said he would be nice.

What's the point of having mods if they let anyone in?

>>7400813
OMG, great narrative, fun to read, I'm impressed. You should report on drama llama events more.

But dang...no fur suits at lolita meet ups. I'd have made that clear as if I were the mod as a condition of his approval to the group in the first place IF I'd even approved him. Lolita comms aren't a free for all OR a democracy. Nor should they be either. No one promised inclusive or 'fair.' It's ok to be a little picky and keep certain group standards. And it's possible to do it graciously and politely too.

>>7400835
>>7400087

its funny that you sound like a rapist trying to justify themselves.

>Don't wear a short skirt if you don't want people to rape you, is that a hard concept?

>Don't be naive. If you have a significant online presence, it's common sense to keep things you don't want to remain on record forever to yourself. Don't whine about people being rapists when you enabled them.

>>7389767
Where are you, anon?

>>7400018
I'm the NYC anon. Nia to be completely honest if you moved to NYC and joined the comm you would get nothing but love and praise for formally running a poc positive blog. The main NYC comm members don't keep up with other comms drama, only whatever fits into their delusions and agenda.
NYC comm is literally the reverse of any other comms where we have mods that don't wear Lolita but will never step off, the prominent members are all from neighboring states and drama is encouraged. The best,nicest and most well dressed members get pushed out or to the side unless they are efamous and there are barely any meetups.

>>7400987
I fucking knew someone was going to say this shit. People harrassing you online is the same as people coming up to you and saying you're wearing ageplay shit. Yes, you can get physical restraining orders, but that doesn't get enforced online.

>Don't wear a short skirt or someone will rape you
is not equal to
>Don't post dumb shit online if you have creepers
What it is equal to is
>Don't post dumb shit online, or someone will rape you
Which no one sane will say.

If you get raped because a stalker found your shit online, people should be on your side. That's when it stops being funny.

>>7401603
ech, sounds horrible.
tbh I only started a POC lolita blog because of my own personal issues with my skintone. and wanted to focus on girls with nice outfits, who also had darker complexions. meh, its gone now. and its around the time that the POC community was feeling self entitled and vicious, so glad I'm no longer a part of that.

and that comm sounds awful. I'd feel so uncomfortable the entire time. even if some of them looked up to me. I was actually friends with some of them before, but after watching their blog posts it just got "ech" and I started removing myself from that part of the community even before shadesoflolita got taken over.

>>7401649
Yeah that's a smart move on your part, I'm glad you didn't turn out to be a raging sjw and instead started to focus on becoming a better Lolita and focus on your hobbies. I feel like removing your old blog and your trip was very mature of you. This is creepy on my part but I think I know who you were friends with and they are the same girls that are destroying this comm.
And you're right uncomfortable is the best way to describe the New York meetups.

>>7401675
are you kidding? she only gave up her trip after being repeatedly told to by anons over the course of multiple threads whenever she appeared. mature, my ass. she just realized she couldn't make a single post with a trip on without derailing the thread.

>>7401603
Sauce on that dress?

Or at least the image source. Google search doesn't turn up anything.

>>7400813
Dang, that kinda reminds me of that fiasco in that one NY (I think?) comm where they let in a sissy fetishist who wanted to be dressed up in other girls' lolita

>>7401603
Please don't lie to Nia and tell her she'll be liked anywhere in the states. Right now you just sound mad about your comm.

>>7401714
It's a really old ap dress , it's up on hello lace but they only have the stock photo of the red colorway.
It's one of my dream dresses though .

>>7401720
Sounds more like SoCal

>>7401729
Shit nigger, I might need to get into sewing.

It looks like something Innocent World would make. I'm impressed.

>>7400813
as far as i read it mods had already talked to "it" about only going to convention related events, and if it wanted to go to anything else they would have to ask permission first. same thing was said on the thread, but by five different people, so i don't really blame it for flouncing or the mods for being pissed off

>>7401729
Man, the picture is like ideal to me.

Speaking about the NYC comm, I should get in contact with some people tomorrow about my plans while I'm there. Trying to see if anyone would be interested in a meetup on Sunday the 16th and if I have the time.

>>7401703
I thought it was because of her ex?

>>7401745

the mods said nothing until a day had passed after the drama had begun, and never did they officially address the comm. It was said in one of the member's private facebook statuses. Even if we did have a furry in the comm it could have been handled much better.

>>7401776
that drama was streached out over 2 days. and we only have 3 mods right? And don't they all have full time jobs? At least i've only noticed the post at night or on weekdays so i just asume.

>>7401751
the recent okemashi doll set is sort of similar? meh

>>7400813
I thought they said they were in middle of a commission?

Not to mention my best fucks are in lolita so I don't care if you're in a 2k fur suit or my 2k dress just don't jizz on my lolita or you're stuck with the clean up costs

>>7400036

You keep talking about this person who is apparently stalking you and your family in your old comm and how you have all these messages and proof from them so why don't you just out them? You don't like them anyway. How in the fuck do you expect anything to be done about the person? The mods would surely ban a drama llama to if they had evidence so why not tell them?

My comm had some drama go down recently but didn't know who was causing it because the girl in question wasn't being called out. The mods couldn't really do anything about it. I see this happen so much on /cgl/ where girls bitch about shitty comms or people but don't actively try help to change it. Mods aren't magical, they're people too.

The fact that you're making it this big ordeal on so many threads makes you look like you're just trying to create unnecessary or false dramu. Name and shame.

>>7389767
Where are you? If you're further up north, there's more of us than it seems. Not everyone is really active on Facebook.

>>7401931
I just know its one of four girls.
(four girls who actively support this hatefest in total)
who are the top girls in the community.
they have a skype group where they talk shit on other members, and about /cgl/, which was put up in the secrets by another member a long while ago.
I wish I could find the secrets, but I'm not sure who it is. I should cap the email maybe. but I thought that since I've moved and haven't been active they would leave me alone.
I've narrowed it down who a few of them are, who I have a photo of. not posting that because then the drama would truely, never end.
despite me moving.

stalking my family online is taking it too far. they did nothing wrong.

>>7402012

So if you don't have solid proof why are you so sure it's one of them? You're really just making bold accusations based on old drama.

>>7402012

And also, if you truly didnt care about drama you wouldn't be telling this on every /cgl/ thread you can work it into so why not show what you have?
You're really just making yourself look bad and grasping at straws.

>>7402082
how many /cgl/ threads have I posted this in?
all I see is this.

>>7402077
because others have allerted me

>>7401755
That's SpringFest weekend, maybe see about a meetup at SpringFest?

>>7402012

The majority of the girls in my comm seem to really want to be e-famous. I don't want to make stupid videos to put on Youtube when we meet up or to try and be in the news, nor do I think I/we "deserve recognition" for wearing frilly clothes. I just want to meet up and have a good time without trying to be in the spotlight all the time.

>>7400819
meh there's been some accusations of her flirting with girls in the socal comms but nothing major
im more concerned with her shitty ego and stuck up attitude. not looking forward to seeing her at meets.

>>7402231
Suggest regular meets and filming meets be separate, maybe? Not everyone wants to be filmed but it shouldn't mean they miss local meets because people are filming stuff. Let the film-chans do their thing but have some no-filming meets too.

>>7402133

You posted in a thread about horror stories and another I forgot.

>>7402135

Aka gossip. Yeah totally seems legit.

>>7379926
Does anyone have experience with Florida communities? I joined a couple Facebook groups but it looks like they're all full of itas..

>>7402613
what part of florida?

>>7401675
>mature
What are you on about? She brings up 'her story' all the fucking time as if we hadn't heard it a million times already.
What would be mature would be if she could see the whole thing mentioned and not fucking comment on it with 'her side'. Then everyone would forget about her.

It's all very well that she drops her trip but she still admits to being herself all the time. Totally rendering the anonymity null and void.

>>7402592
I told this person to give me caps or gtfo, then they got reallybutthurt and whinysaying they'll come after her if he gives me caps. I was like "no, you give me caps, and this bullshit will stop. all it takes." person got really bitchy and defensive and blocked me.

the other two (one of whom was my best friend) who were witnesses of irl /cgl/ like bullshit I haven't bugged for "caps" though. you can't cap that.

anyways.I'm done answering questions here,though I do like to clear some things up.

>>7402752
if someone asks me about it,yeah. I feel its rude to ignore people.

>>7402673
North/central

>>7402767
>if someone asks me about it
People rarely do you, just love to go on about it as soon as something related to you is mentioned.
Also, when people ask questions? Fucking don't respond.

>>7402784
sorry to say there's not many active lolitas. most of them are still learning but actually aren't too terrible.

>>7402784
Central is pretty active and there are some newbies and a few perpetual itas but on the whole the group is pretty cute and there are a lot of meets

>>7396107

I remember when Portland was the Lolita homeland.

Oldfag here.

>>7402976
it went down as soon as fakegin/sdpunk left

>>7402767

You're version of 'clearing things up' is assumptions and victimizing yourself. Thats why people get tired of hearing ~mah story of suffering~ and jump all over you.
You have no proof so you're only spreading rumours; you are what you hate. Congrats.

>>7402767
dumb stupid whore, I'm glad your family is getting stalked. you deserve it

>>7402767

You're making yourself look even more sketch by always bailing on a thread when you get called out by anons. Just saying.

>>7402767
cunt

Anyways, getting thread on topic!
Is the LA comm nice? I'm a complete newbie and I was wondering how they are.

>>7403589
Its very nice! so nice it kind of shocked me. I went there a bit nervous, but everyone introduced themselves to me and I had so much fun argh they're so cool. well dressed too!

>>7403589
It's very large, but pretty much everyone is super chill. Since there are so many people, you should definitely be able to find a few people that you click with.

>>7403611
>>7403598
Thank you!
I've always been super worrisome of joining communities. I'm always afraid of getting involved in drama haha

>>7403152
seriously? not even her but what the fuck, can we not?

jesus christ i am starting to hope that nia-wank will warrant an insta-ban

>>7401729
>>7401737
>>7401751
It's specifically "scalloped lace roll JSK" if you need help finding it on Hellolace. I really want it too...

>>7404100
Thought you were going to leave, Nia.

>>7402784
>>7402906
>>7402958
Another anon, but I've bugged these threads about these comms a few times. Central Florida Lolita Society on Facebook seems pretty okay. There are def some itas, but I stalked their albums, and it seems that most are slowly improving! There are also several recurring cuties, so I think they're a good group if you aren't too far away. I'm not in the actual group yet since I have yet to move down there, but! I've talked to a few, and they seem nice. You could also always start a new comm if you wanted, since North/Central makes it sound like you're in between comms?

Are you planning on moving, or something certain?

>>7404321
nice try but no, just tired of seeing the same old shit

>>7404855

If you weren't Nia you'd just ask for her to be banned for shitting up threads.

>>7405014
I said nia-wank. if nia is included in that then so be it. im tired of it.

>>7405014
the "go away nia"
or "dumb cunt" responses are far more numerous than when she posts herself.
I'd honestly say these people are shitting up the threads more than anything. I hate trip vendettas like this.

Lolita is weird.

>>7405556
I agree but she's also at fault for posting her boring old drama from a century ago in every comm or horror story thread she can.

>>7405566
Honestly, this is the first time I've seen it in a long while.

>>7402231

Are you Boston?

>>7402200
>That's SpringFest weekend, maybe see about a meetup at SpringFest?

It's a no-go right now, unfortunately due to events beyond my control.

I would love to meet some lovely lolitas from the NYC comm, but not this time. :(

>>7396107
How welcome is ouji in the Portland comm?
I've considered joining, but I looked at the Facebook group and found out that a really annoying girl I know recently joined...

>>7407437
I think it's like the SoCal comms.
Anything goes.

Anyone know anything about the Vancouver comm?

>>7407576
ask itaqueen since she's from there

>>7407589
Huh really? I thought mj was the only Vancouver trip

http://youtu.be/ewEBshI8ARE

Man, I can't get over Amani's receding hairline. Besides that, I'm curious as to how the private nyc cgl meet up went.

The private NYCgull meet went great, actually! It was my first time organizing an event that wasn't just for my friends and I'm really happy to say that we had a solid turn out and everyone was very sweet and fun.
And also we gossiped and bitched the whole time so in that sense it was exactly like a cgl meet would be expected to turn out.
(I'm planning on getting another event together some time soon when classes cool down and the temperatures warm up a bit.)

>>7405577
no, that's not a fucking excuse.
the rumors and gossip that she spreads are not only from sources she apparently has never bothered to legitimize until just now, it's directed at a community that she hasn't been part of for *years*. like three or four years. enough is enough, don't try to justify that kind of lust for drama. she doesn't even live there anymore and neither do half of the girls she has beef with which makes it even more inexcusable that she refuses to name her supposed vendetta-chans, instead just claiming that they are the heads of the community. she just wants attention from seagulls because the california lolitas refuse to afford her the privilege.

Does anyone know about the tokyo international comm? Ive been lurking for a while and i want to go to a meet up but im nervous

>>7408434
It's pretty large and a lot of people go in and out of it since so many people are only in the area temporarily, but overall the meets are fun and almost everyone seems to dress really well. And, pretty much everyone is easy-going and fun. I hope you join!

>>7408434
It's your basic collection of odds and ends with the queen bees being snobby elitists who want to do nothing more than sip tea with their pinkies high and gobble down cake and macarons. If you're not that type of lolita you probably won't enjoy it, and will likely get bullied and chased out.

>>7408445
>>7408442
Well i guess theres only one way to find out how ill do... Sadly i only took main pieces so i have to find a few accessories before i have a full cord so i can attend a meet.

>>7408575
dont come if youre not a social butterfly.

>>7402200
Sunday is the "lolita" panel hosted by the mighty princess Rune

>>7408656
is this the best you can do new york?

>>7408699
She's black, so NYC lets her (and her friends) get away with... pretty much anything.

>>7391078
Colorado is awesome, that secret was just some stupid person who likely doesn't even participate in the comm.
Everyone is really nice and friendly and we have meetups around once a month. : 3

>>7408656
That's not Rune in the picture, is it?

>>7408748

Sure isn't.

>>7408748
Ah, you are right, I must have gotten confused because Rune has not said anything about this panel, only this chick.

>>7408759
>3 likes

jeeze. i'm not surprised. i am too white to wear lolita in the new york comm.

>>7379926
ahhh..... there everywhere

>>7405577
Pretty much this.
I see more "HI NIA LOL XD" posts than Nia actually fucking posting.
I'm starting to think that her old comm is more fucking crazy than she is.
and that's saying something.

>>7409035
Me too. I've already been called racist becouse I hate sjws.
Girl hosting panel has admitted to only owning 3 Lolita pieces..from bodyline.

>>7409035
>>7409274
i knew the nyc comm wasnt the best but now ive lost all hope

>>7409292
(sorry pic not related to the shittiness of the comm)

>>7409251

I don't live near her and I can't stand her. You may be tired of seeing that but you're acting just like her by thinking only her old comm doesn't like her. After all her shit I doubt they even care about her anymore just like the SoCal girls didn't want her associated with them.

>>7409251
this pretty much. and it doesn't just apply to Nia.
HI ___ posts are horrible and obnoxious.

>>7409035
I think most of us are lone lolitas, yeah.

>>7405589

I don't think the anon you responded to is Boston since idk if everyone wants to be e-famous? But my god when will that girl finish her photography/filming project? She's been at nearly every meet for the past year but I've only seen a few final products. And worse is her Facebook which is just non-stop SJW shit.

>>7409394
this thread makes me want to be a lone lolita

>>7409421
It generally seems to be a good decision, yeah. I'm lucky in that my comm is great and we all help each other improve, but in most areas it seems like girls just drag each other down, if anything.

>>7409430
yeah. because what happens if you don't like it?
one of my friends joined a comm and got "why did you leave" messages
or what if they're really fucking horrible? you're supposed to let that slide?
no speaking up against it or
>>7396079
>>7400018
>>7403152
this will happen from what I've noticed.

Its just horrifying. I'd rather wear my frills by myself and maybe another frilly friend.

>>7409394
>I think most of us are lone lolitas, yeah.

That's what I've been hearing too even though I'm not a part of the NYC comm, but I'm travelling there in the coming weeks. Wanted to dress up in lolita and go to Ladurée for tea and macarons to meetup, but with all this stink from the NYC comm as of late, that's not viable. It's no fun dressing up in lolita and going alone. It's so random and social awkward like Jennifer Lawrence in yoga pants.

>>7409499
>Ladurée
I think I've passed by here nearly every week and never realized it...

Anyone have info on the San Diego comm? They seem alright from the Facebook page, and I hope to attend either the March museum meet or the Easter meet.

Are the girls generally friendly/welcoming? I'm pretty new to lolita so this would be my first time really wearing it out in public.

I'm a bit torn between comms and being a loner. It's much more pleasant meeting a single lolita than a whole group, but it's difficult to find a lolita in my area and befriend her online. I was hoping Tumblr would help me there, but so far, not much has come from it.

>>7409713
what area are you in?

How's the Seattle comm?

Lots of NYC hate in here. Let me clarify.

Remember not one photo, nor person represents the rest of us a whole. The only thing I see that is the problem with our community is that because there are SOOO many lolitas in New York, and in the Tri-state area that are apart of our comminty, not everyone decides to spend the time to hang out with one another. So what happens is, the girls that have lived here (for example) for 5 years hang out with the same girls they met 5 years ago. Girls that try to join the community and make meets to meet new girls, are going to meet the newer girls (that have lived here for say only a couple of months) Newbs meet newbs. Older residents stay hanging with who they're familiar with. Unless they're feeling friendly/ want to ravish upon new blood then you'll meet them.

Also I have no idea why they chose this bodyline girl to host the Misako panel a couple of weeks ago...so ::shrug::

So seagull lurkers that really want to make new friends, it doesn't hurt to try and post, you'll make great friends. Don't let the other anons get to you

>>7408656
>>7408759
Hahaha fucking Angel. Yeah, she's been wearing lolita -maybe- 6 months, I don't know if even that, and has like 2 skirts, a dress, and a blouse. And she's running the "lolita panel". Honestly I don't know how SpringFest decided who gets a panel and who doesn't. It's gonna be a disaster.

>>7409499
Hit up nycanonloli@gmail.com maybe? The private seagull meet was great and there's supposed to be another one soon.

>>7411896
I'll be sending an email shortly.

>>7411890
Because the people running springfest are just a bunch of weeboos who don't know anything about lolita, so anyone who says "I can run a panel" is taken for their word

>>7409251
no dude, the fact that it's still being brought up at all (by the same person, again and again and again) is bad behavior, it doesn't matter that it's not fresh in your mind. there is no need to bring out the same tired wankfests, we have archives if anyone wants to know about nia's old comm. frankly all I see is a girl who really enjoys spreading nasty rumors over and over again because she knows every time there will be someone on /cgl/ who hasn't heard the whole story and is ready to take her word at face value.
if nia's really ok and her old comm is 'the crazy ones' then explain why it is that she doesn't have any IRL friends or local communities willing to take her in. to me, that seems like a red flag that someone's spewing crazy juice.

>>7412826
holy shit. no one cares.

>>7409697
I love SD, the core group is really well-dressed and generally nice. Since most of us are pretty close friends, I've been told we can come across as kind of clique-y at first, but once you get to know us I like to think we're pretty cool.

We've recently had a pretty big influx of newbies, but other than spamming the page a bit, they're not so bad. At least they seem to be learning pretty fast.

>>7412843
I use to be SD comm. the older girls are so fucking fake it's ridiculous. If your not royalty in the group your ignored.
You never see 90% of the group unless you show up to a meet where there's going to be a "omg" photographer.
they represent lolita horribly with their constant "lets go on lolita bar crawls" as well. In videos they come off as little nose in the air snobs, which is true to who they are.

their nice to your face, then talk mad shit behind your back.

my friend went to her first meet with them after i mistakenly told her to go to it to get her into the fashion more, she returned saying she'd never go to a single meet with those girls again. She could hear them snickering and talking shit about other girls and was ignored completely

>>7412891
This doesn't sound like the SD comm I've met at all. All the girls I've met have been very nice and welcoming. What shit talking?

>>7396157
Wait for Anime Matsuri to blow over. I can assure you a fuck ton of drama will happen. It doesn't help that a select few of the Houston comm are whoring out to the comm and are on powertrips, going on and on about how they're staff, super important, doing soooo much hard work, etc . . .

It's annoying to be totally honest.

>>7412891
Maybe that was the case a few years ago, but it's not like that at all now.

I mean, it sounds like you're just a shit-talker, but if you really thought that was true, then you would be very surprised if you came to a meet now. It's definitely not like that.

>>7412891
Yeeeaahhh... You clearly don't know the comm at all.

>>7412838
correction: normally no one would care if this was like the first time this had happened
instead of every thread where she-who-shall-not-be-named is summoned
i have never seen it not turn into a trainwreck of she-said-he-said

>>7408445

Hi Rosaire!

>>7412891
The fucking grammar grammar in this post.

>>7409399
"That girl" is working on a multi-year project for school. Right now, she's tying up all her work for her senior thesis.
Also, if you don't like what she posts on FB, then defriend or limit the posts you see from her? It's not that hard, anon.

>>7409292
The actual comm is very nice, but you have to be invited to it. It's a lot of private events hosted by drama weary lolitas who are sick of dealing with most of the comm. Itas, dramawhores, and lolitas with piss poor attitudes are pretty much denied access to anything but public events. It's easy to become a part if you dress well enough and look the part. If you don't, you'll find it very hard to be invited to a meet up.

>>7409292
Speaking on NYC comm. Was thinking of going to the 'Ice Breaker' meet...but then saw this. It's really dumb, but bubble tea is so groddy.

>>7413481
How are new lolitas given a chance to show thir chops?

>>7411728
Seconding info on Seattle comm. Does anyone know their opinion about cgl? Will they assume I'm a bitch if I admit going here?

>>7413589
Definitely have seen a few of the cgl goersin the Seattle comm. We have some elitists, but they tend to still be nice. Lots of weebs. But generally, if you are with the right people, I think you're golden. Granted, I have only been a few times and haven't met the whole comm.

>>7413589
No one cares if you're on cgl or read secrets. Overall it's chill, but rarely people organize meets. It'll be especially bad now since everyone is prepping for SakuraCon. Saying we have elitist and that there's a "right group". Is very subjective. If you look at any group that has formed, overall it's just friendships of like-minded people who enjoy each others company. Some groups don't mesh but that's life, everyone is civil at meets so it doesn't matter. In the entire comm, I'd say there's really only one person to avoid like the plague, but she has only showed up to a meet like 2-3 times in the past three or so years so it's really not a concern. Just come and form your own opinion, if someone tells you about drama, just remember there are two sides to every story and I have heard some very warped stories. Meets are always fun, there's a bunch of fun people, no one I know looks down on brand, off brand, or homemade, people are helpful, no one will go out of their way to make you miserable. Just think of the feel of Seattle, it's all the same. Even if someone doesn't like you, they'll still be nice to your face and probably never bring up their issues.

>>7413611
How many people showed up? What did you guys do and talk about? Age range?
I'm 19. I was thinking about waiting until I was 21 when I'd be more mature/taken seriously. Plus I could go to the alcohol events, which is a great way to loosen nerves.

>>7413626
Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to write this all out. I'm feeling a lot better about the whole thing.

>>7413557
Ugh. Is the comm full of kids or what?

>>7413557
They don't even know how to spell "lemonade," wth

>>7413557
>Earl Grey
>4th
>English Breakfast
>nowhere

Confirmed for not even pleb tier taste.

>>7379926
>>fatties and niggers everywhere
>>that notorious ita bitch
Good god, what a bunch.

>>7413365
>>7400025

Hello, callout anons. I'd just like to link you to this.
>>7410289
look how many people find that shit annoying

>>7413896
>look how many people find that shit annoying
You mean trips? Hi (whatever trip this discussion is talking about)

>>7413901
just go to the other thread if you want a more detailed discussion.
turns out, people hate callout anons more than trips themselves.

>>7413557
I thought they weren't going to make bubble tea.

>>7413557
>lemonaide
Probably gross bottled shit that's way too sweet and way to acidic
>>7413862
Love me some PGtips.
Take that black with 1 sugar.

>>7413896
Shut up Rosefaile

>>7413969
>so it's come to this, huh, /cgl/
>rosefaile
>we can't think of better names to call her?
>i mean, not school-yard names, even- just names in general
>welp

>>7413968
>lemonaide
Guaranteed to be C2.

We get lipton over here, owned by the same comany. Is PG loose leaf worth importing? (Canuckistan)

>>7413902
More or less agreed that the anons who hate it are as concerned about the trip taking the bait, or they're trips off trip. Would not be surprised if she-who-(allegedly)-cannot-into-KLK was behind a lot of them.

>>7413969
That name just reminds me of Failita instead of Rosaire. Just use Power Word, it's better than bastardizing her online handle.

>>7413969

>>7414001
Obese gaijin piggu is the best.

>>7414033
Referring to? Hope it's not Failita, she said she lifts.

>>7414039
Rosarie. It's what Tocco of BABY called her and it fits, with busted seems.

>>7381872
NOLA

>>7414042
This is one of the reasons you don't hire foreigners the way they did. They already have a crowd they can cry to. You can't implement jap levels of restriction if she's wired to a crowd. You can't say "You ain't pretty enough to work here", or talk about how the West is a pretty mixed bag of lolitas and not wanting to risk that kind of representation. They were just banking on her popularity with a crowd they really don't know much about.
Shit, if I was them I wouldn't want my product up on tumblr worn by landwhales. Guess what? It actually does hurt their image among their primary base, in Japan. You bet your ass some Japanese girl is going "Fuck that shit" if she sees some obese gaijin piggu in something that they might buy. They're on the "Quality over Quantity" model of business, much more sensitive to PR issues. It's also why they have limited runs. The exclusivity of the brand hinges on rareness, and what kind of free advertisement they get online. You hire some fatass with a tumblr, you can kiss your image goodbye.

>>7413968
No, I was planning on home making it, real lemon juice and real sugar (not that corn syrup shit). It's also cheaper.

>>7414109
oop, nevermind, I found it!

>>7414127
You found the 24's of C2 at Costco?

>>7414109
Also, unofficial invite to CGL to get in for free as helpers. So far I have no one aiding me with this event because I really don't want to ask help from the comm. Most of them are, how you say... can't do basic tasks.

>>7414136
>unofficial invite to CGL
..wat

>>7413481
Are you taking about Victorias comm becouse they literally make all the drama.
Most of us go to public events here and there but were mostly lone Lolita's. The seagull meetups are the closest thing we have to a civilized drama free comm and I wish they were more frequent honestly.

>>7414081
>the way they did
You mean by posting a job advert on their website along with the rest of the adverts they have there? What the fuck is this even.

>>7414148
Yeah, problem is that most of those girls are also in the main comm, so even if I ask there I'm likely to have them respond. From what I've seen they only want a free ride and will somehow find a way to mess up the task of boiling water. It just annoys me that most of the girls who said they wanted this event and love the idea can't afford the 15 dollar ticket

>>7414171
So they didn't screen this bitch properly? Shieeeet.

>>7414177
I don't even know what this event being discussed is... Is there any way to see what's going on without fb?

>>7414177
You marketed it as a newbie event, of course you're going to get mostly ita poorfags.
I'd help but NYC events don't always have the best reputation for going smoothly, and even when they do there's still drama around the organizers.

>>7414205
Wtf?

>>7413557
Coming back to mention the lack of coffee. I think coffee is more refined than fucking fruit juice.
>>7414177
Ugh. I hope you've got an electric kettle, just sayin'.

>>7414218
Same question. I hate Facebook is there any chance of finding out about meetups through a different platform?

>>7414957
People are able to add their own options to the pole (which is where the bubble tea option came from even though I clearly cannot make those). If they really wanted it they would have asked for it. I'm surprised the juice was so popular but it means less work for me. And yes the venue has the electric kettle and other water heaters. I just can't do everything at once by myself.

>>7415085
If there is a kettle, you can ask members to bring the brands they like as a potluck type thing. What's to stop you from having many kinds of tea? Stuff like juice, coffee and soda is much harder to carry the supplies for so I understand a poll for that, but tea? Nah, bring everything!

>>7414042
Are you ever going to learn to spell her name, vendettachan?

>>7414057
NOLA drama? It must just stay between a few people then because the comm seems pretty ok.

>>7415570
it is spelled right.

>>7402242
What does she even do for a living nowadays after getting fired from the bank? I can't imagine being "lead vocalist" for some shitty band with 238 Facebook likes is going to pay the bills.

>>7415085
So no one's going to explain what this is, huh?

>>7416352

>>7414042
>Rosarie
>seems

Try again, dear

>>7416352
Damn, if you're going to argue about something try to make sure your spelling is correct.

>"Rosarie" is not Rosaire
>"seems" vs "seams"

>>7417126
>>7417132
Ok Rosarie.

>>7417134
Oh for god sakes. Can you please be directed to
>>7410274

I don't like Rosaire as much as the next person but if you're going to hate on her at least spell her goddamn name right. The way you spell "Rosarie" always reminds me of rosary and makes me think of the opposite of Rosaire.

Just saying- correct your fucking grammar; seems never equals seams and Rosarie isn't Rosaire.

grammar nitpicking over

>>7417169
rosaire is French for rosary lol

>>7417208
Oh shit. Welp. I feel dumb. Thanks for the new information, though!

>learn something new everyday

>>7407576
eyyo what can i do for you

>>7417134
Congratulations dumbass, you are officially more annoying than Rosaire now.

>>7414057
what drama? Everyone seems really chill.

What annoys me most in the NY comms is that they want to bitch and moan about not having enough events but when someone steps up to actually plan an event they bitch and moan about how shitty it is. Most of all they Bitch and moan about the price. I'm sorry, but you tell me where the fuck you can find a decent venue for 15+ people that will cost less than $25 a person. I've gone to meets where people have meals for $9.95 but throw $9 on the table. Apparently, tax tip and the cost of their sprite and the other 95 cents of their meal are magically Negligible. Lastly, there are some really great people in the NY coms, really friendly and really interesting to be around. But what it takes to be invited to exclusive events isn't worth it most of the time and even more so the public events that get filled within 5 hours. Seagulls seem like the most drama free way to go to meetups and avoid unnecessary drama.

>>7420116
I still do not know what this event being talked around throughout the latter half of this thread is...

Hi! I'm new to comms, but they seem really enjoyable. I am considering maybe checking out a meet in NYC sometime, but I'd like to know:

Is anyone from the Philly comm? I saw their FB page but I'm still hesitant.

Thinking of joining a Toronto comm in a year. How's the crowd and where do you go? Casa Loma? The only thing I know is that there's 2 of them, with some sort of agreement between them.

I live close to Atlanta and it seems like they have really fun events, but I'm kinda turned off by some of the things I see (just a few days ago someone publicly flounced from the comm in a pretty dramatic manner). Does anyone know if it's worth it?