/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw no dick to taste

ah

>tfw i hate the taste of dick

oops

>tfw spread my bf's ass
>I literally split his ass in two
>there is now a crack on his crack and its bleeding
I didn't think this is possible shit what do I do ;_;

>>7646232
oh dear

>>7646232
Lick his bloody ass crack so the saliva can work as an antibacterial and promote healing

>>7646232
Vaseline. Less sitting.

>Source: split my own ass when I was a teenager. There's a permanent scar now.

>mfw this thread

>>7646226
>really nervous that my CDC jsk won't fit
>wished the jsk measurements were more like the ones from DDC
Just thinking of all the binding and shapewear I'll have to use if it doesn't...just. Augh.

>>7646237
I thought of that but hell no

in other cgl news
>tfw when gaining wait
>tfw worried about future lolita/cosplay dresses

I'm bordering skinnyfat/chubby
I used to be really anorexic looking what the hell happened why metabolism why

>make a profile on a dating website
>put some cosplay
He's a fat white guy.

>>7646250
>I been looking for my asuna San from sword art online

>smallish mbok order (~$500) has been stuck in Chicago for ~6 days
>never had an item linger in customs before
>mfw I wanted the dress for this Wednesday and thought I allowed for plenty of time

>boyfriend of a year calls me yesterday
>"sorry anon, I don't think it's working out"
>why.jpg
>tells me I'm too naive and boring, he wants someone more dominant and less twinky and with "more hair on his chest"; I'm too prude and conservative and dress like a movie nerd, excuses excuses
>my soul hurts
>for two days I've only been listening to Celtic Woman and eating frites, constantly feel like bawling my eyes out like a lil bitch
>forever alone because I'm not sexual enough for any man
Fuck this gay earth

>bf and best friend want me to get into rpgs
>last year we tried a game and i was so shit at it, it was embarrassing
>they're trying to get me into it again
>if i do, i'll embarrass myself again
>if i don't, i'll disappoint my bf and best friend

;_;

>>7646260
To make it /cgl/ related:
>finished my Harry Mason cosplay
It's really simple and I'm probably a potato for feeling proud of it, but it's something

>still working on getting a job
>call manager (again) today
>he seems to remember my last name, so it's a step in the right direction

Cosplay-related:
>convention coming up
>was working on stuff in May for it, but nearly the entire month of June I've been slacking off
>fuck
>FUCK

>come up with another character to do
>want to focus my attention on that instead of my current lineup
>try to refrain from becoming one of /those/ cosplayers that never finish anything

I finally found a cat litter my younger cat likes! She's not shitting on the bathroom floor anymore. It seems like such a silly thing to be happy over but I was really getting annoyed having to clean up cat shit from the floor every morning.
I was legit starting to think there was something medically wrong with her but nope, she's just a picky diva about litters.

>tl;dr ex-weeb still weird, bad cosplayer despite trying; hopeless case?

I'm the kind of awkward weirdo that /cgl/ and most people in general dislike, and I don't know if I can change that.

I was one of those weird kids. I got older and became a weeaboo. Got a bit older and didn't give up my interests, but decided to try being more normal.

And, you know... it KIND OF worked. I started making more friends (and more normal friends,) did normalfag things like going to parties, all of that. But even after years and years, I'm still a fucking weirdo. It's like I have this innate weirdness that I can't cover up, and people who dislike that kind of thing avoid me. It's better than it was when I was younger, but I can't socialize like most people can - I just don't have the social skills. I even have a hard time joining social groups of moderately weird people, places where I "should" have an easier time. If I went to a con alone, I'd probably end up alone for most of the time. And not because I'd be too afraid to talk to anyone. I'm a weirdo among weirdos.

I'm also kind of a shitty cosplayer, too. (These things seem to go together for whatever reason. Can't we just be good at something, instead of being generally incompetent human beings?) I'm getting back into cosplay after a hiatus, and while I'm going to put in a lot of effort and try to improve because I really do love it, I don't know how far that'll actually get me. I never seemed to be able to pick up the skills I need to construct a good costume, even with practice. Something about styling even a pretty basic wig, for example, escaped me. I know what I want it to do, but I can't really grasp how to make it do that. I seem hopelessly destined to be mocked on the internet, I guess.

I'm actually a lot less down about this now. I used to legitimately despise myself and was really depressed for a while. But this is coming to mind as I look to get back into cosplay &etc.

Think there's any hope for me?

>tfw working a do-nothing job for 7k/month
>tfw stuck in a far away country full of people I hate
>tfw barely work more than 2 hours a day and then spend the rest of the time fucking around in my phone
>tfw i gotta pay $1500+ every other month to go to conventions
>tfw my steak today was well done and not medium

seriously, my life sucks

>>7646278
Acting classes anon. Ever notice on average all the theater nerds are the most social nerds at school. You learn how to slightly alter the way you present yourself to different people. you don't have to change who you are. It's like how you talk differently to a priest than you would with your friends. You have to learn to hide your power level around people until they know how awesome you are. I am an older anon and I have been a drama nerd, a jock, a musician, a weeaboo, a chef and a D&D dork. I am still all those things I just show different sides to different people. Once you are comfortable being outlandish on a stage in front of 200 people. Talking to a small group and being yourself in a breeze.

>Mom makes plans that involve you
>Doesn't tell you about it
>Blames your not going on you being a "video game addict" and proceeds to mouth off to other family members about what a crazed addict you are

"M-mom, I'm just sitting here at the computer..."

>Starts rallying the family together to try to "help" you

Okay, mom.

>Tfw cosplaying would make you seem even more like a crazy addict

I'm so conflicted...

>>7646291
Hmm. I've been "hiding my power level" in terms of the stuff I'm into for years (unless around people I know are into the same things,) but it's kind of hard to hide a lack of being capable of fitting a certain role, you know? But thanks for the advice. I was in a few acting clubs and plays and things when I was a kid and thought it was a lot of fun. Maybe I should give it another try. Might even help with cosplay.

>>7646289
Fuck you too, anon

>>7646306
Will help with cosplay for sure. There are theater groups all over for adults even in smaller towns. Talk to the people who do the wardrobe. They are usually older ladies who are sewing masters. Spend time with them, go out for coffee and learn their secrets. Once you master these arts even "normal" people will be impressed. "I act in a local play and look at all my amazing costume work" is great convo fodder when meeting new people. "Look at my shitty closet-tier cosplay" makes you seem like a crazy weirdo. Always play to your strengths.

>>7646260
You sound cute anon.

> follow MCM Expo fb group because I clearly hate myself
> fairly cute girl posts pretty average Misty cosplay
> normal sort of comments "nice tits" "wow slut" "this isn't even cosplay" "i hate cosplayers today" etc etc
> whiteknights arrive!
> "fuck the haterzz! well done for cosplaying your original character!"
> mfw

>>7646301
Is there any hobby that she does constantly? If so, ask her what the difference is between it and vidyagaems.

>>7646289
>implying $1500 is anything when you're getting paid $7k a month
>only works 2 hours a day
Wow. Gr8 b8 m8 I give it an 8.

am i always going to date someone thats either abusive or doesnt give a shit? i put in my best effort, but maybe its really just me. even when i try to speak up and say something is wrong, i'm always blamed for something instead, like it's my fault i'm getting this sort of treatment. I try to improve myself and be a good person, i know i don't always get it right but i'd like to think i can learn to and try to make up for my flaws and mistakes. I'm always being bought things i never asked for and told that's their quota for care and affection, that i shouldn't be asking for any further expression of love and simply continue my efforts of always trying to say, do, and be the person that makes them happy. I'm so tired; I never win. I regret not being able to open up to people, but i kind of regret ever opening up to anyone, also. Maybe I should be a mean person, but I don't know if i can even do that. I'm just a really scared person who cares too much, its no wonder i was cheated on before with how exhausting i am.

ugh, this all probably doesn't read right. i suppose i'm just venting. I never thought working all the time would make me feel so alone.

I'm on a family trip to visit relatives, and all of my female relatives are so much more pretty than me, and so effortlessly. I'm mostly used to it, but it's my birthday and I wanted to at least look good today, but I didn't put on makeup and cute clothes today because we were on a long plane flight. Now we're going straight to some family's house instead of stopping by the hotel so I could change. It's so petty and trivial but I just want to look nice for my birthday. I'm tired of being the ugly cousin.

cgl related, I feel like my cosplay days are gonna end as soon as I start college this fall because I'll feel guilty for spending my limited money on anything besides essentials.

>>7646289
aw man

accidentally made my steak well done literally 15 min. ago instead of med rare

i feel for you

>>7646349
Well, could you just not date those guys? Fuck those guys.

>>7646232
That can happen?
No wonder there's always blood on my toilet paper

>>7646356
> Go to restaurant
> Order 17oz. steak for £25, ask for med. rare
> steak is well-done
> think it's just edges and the centre will be fine but nope
> eaten too much to send it back

Lesson learnt. It's a sad feel.

>>7646232
/lgbt/ can help you better than we can.

>>7646352
Fuck. You're the birthday girl. This is YOUR special day. Stop by the hotel and change. Fuck no it's not petty and trivial.

>>7646349
Stop dating assholes. You either attract them like flies on shit or you just have shit luck with finding potential partners.

>work at cute ass japanese goods store, really great place with only 3 other coworkers who are really great too
>one time when shift just ended 3 lolitas walk in
>but.....they were ita, obese, not so great etc
>still excited! because hey, they know what it is and this city doesn't have much of that
>hope for more lolitas (hopefully better dressed) because i explained the fashion to coworkers and they took pictures for stores facebook
>mfw more lolitas came in on my day off
>mfw it just happened again, and it's my day off and i just saw on the like page for us
>mfw they were really well dressed both of those times
>yesterday saw girl with AP bag and cute emerald green skirt walking through the city market (where the store is located, i get a really good view) two minutes before my shift ended
>wait the longest two minutes of my life
>freedom, grab bag, clock out, apron off and fast walk mode engaged
>look around, nothing, ask around, she's gone "up that way" so i go that way because it's beginning to be more of a pride thing so i'm getting kinda determined
>it's a parking lot
>she's gone, gone, gone

am i lolita repellent? I'm a 21 year old girl who looks about 16, I don't think i'm too creepy, well, i don't give the aura irl i suppose....

>Be male into cosplay
>Have lots of other hobbies and cannot into sewing.
>Ex-gf made my last costumes so I could just go to cons and look awesome and show off her amazing work.
Why can't I find seamstresses who want to make costumes that rock. I am willing to pay and am /fit/ so your work will look good. Not looking for a /cgl/-gf just want someone to make me look amazing and let me advertise their work so they can make those fat commission dollars. Seriously I look exactly like Reid from Criminal Minds and all the girls I know who /cgl/ are too busy with their own projects. I make my own props, doing the cello case for Haji from Blood + right now, just need the sweet costume to go with it.
>tfw I'll never be a male cosplay model

>>7646260
> listening to Celtic Woman

I like you anon

>>7646360
>>7646377
I guess my fear with stopping is that i won't be able to do any better, but i probably shouldn't let my lonliness dictate these sorts of choices. i wish more things glorified the idea of being alone so i could sorta....buy into it more

Not cgl related but I gotta tell someone
>convinced middle daughter has some form of ADHD; convinced as fuck I have it (yes I'm getting tested myself)
>go in today and talk with the counselor with my daughter
>tell her basically I need help in how to deal with her mind and how to guide her because I don't want her to grow up regretting her life like I did and I also don't want to treat her like my mother treated me
>MFW she says I'm doing more than most parents she sees and is glad I'm also going to go to therapy

I always feel like I'm doing a shitty job as a parent. (To keep it slightly cgl related, I've been told I'm selfish for dressing in lolita or going to conventions; I need to grow up, even though my kids are never neglected and are fed, bathed and dressed more days than most of my friend's kids) For her to tell me I'm doing something more than most "normal" parents makes me so happy.

Wrong thread dammit I'm stupid, but this just happened:


>coworker goes home sick
>connecting store says they'll help me close
>watch me struggle
>walk off when they see what I'm doing
>running around like a headless chook
>dump my clean dishes on dirty surface
>finally turn around and tell them to take rubbish down
>tell me I don't deserve to be mad that they didn't keep up with the helping bit and I had to tell them to do their job that should've been done hours before
>don't get paid overtime
>stayed back 40 minutes after my scheduled time to do my sides banking
>all talking their language about me
>told me I should've told someone to come to work at 9:30 at night to work til midnight to cover coworker but no mention of "why not ask for help"
>upset that I wasted an hour of Cosplay time after work doing something they said they'd help with
Why do people think watching constitutes helping?
Sage for rage. I really wanted to start my cosplays after work. I have 18 days til I fly out.

>>7646377
Thank you, I thought maybe I was just being selfish for wanting to hold off on seeing family to pretty myself up. I don't get a choice, though, because we had to grab groceries for them on our way and the cold stuff won't last in the car for that long. Oh well though, I guess. Thanks again.

>>7646391
Tell those people to piss off. Most of the awesome parents I know are into things like Magic, D&D, SCA, anime, sports or a million other things they do *with* their kids. A HUGE problem in western society is drawing a line between "kids" and "adults". If your children grow up doing fun activities with people of all types they will be well adjusted, well rounded people. Am not a doctor but make sure the ADHD is really medical and not merely a lack of self-dicipline. Our society move at 100 mph and it is hard to stay focused, but the therepy sounds like a good route. You just don't want to give the defeatist mindset of "I'm diseased and there is nothing I can do to help it".

>tfw sold whimsical vanilla chan jsk in black a while back
>regret it hard
>tfw se it on LM
>do not have funds as I'm saving for a trip to Tokyo

how big is the chance to find the black tiered JSK again?

>>7646391
>I've been told I'm selfish for dressing in lolita or going to conventions

There seems to be some sort of natural brainwashing that affects most people when they have kids. Suddenly they feel that their entire life has to revolve around their children, and that everyone else's lives have to revolve around their children, and that anyone who isn't brainwashed is wrong at best, evil at worst.

>>7646226
my state's lolita comm has a bunch of girls posting sales posts over and over, it kind of pisses me off, we're not the sales page

posting a link is fine but damn get your cosplay shit outta here

Is it looked down on going to a con with the intention of seeking a meaningful relationship with someone? I'm 20 and I have been thinking about the possible relationship paths that I could take. I have never been in any relationships simply because I believed it wouldn't have worked in the long-term and would have been waste of time (I'm moving out of state to transfer to a four year college of my choice; there's almost a guaranteed chance that a long distance relationship will not work). Truth be told, I can see myself getting with someone who is pursuing a career that pays well, but chances are they would be pretty 'normal'. I'd probably end up hiding my powerlevel because there's a good chance we wouldn't have anything in common other than the typical normalfag stuff. I mean despite that, I would be able to live a pretty comfortable life (upper-middle class), and be able to give my kids opportunities that I never had, but I'm starting to think it's not worth it. Just to clarify, it's not my intentions that I want to be with someone simply because they make more money, it's the possibility of a genuine relationship with someone that would result in extra financial stability, but the drawback being that they're just "normal".

>>7646301
My inlaws have a habit of making plans and telling us last minute, just Saturday I was there and before we get ready to leave, my mother in law tells us about a cousin's baby shower that's happening the next day. We couldn't go since I already had plans and no money for a gift. Otherwise they're lovely people, but that bad habit is annoying.

>>7646391
Society has this habit of expecting parents(especially the mother) to drop their hobbies and focus all their energy on their kids, have hobbies their kids are fully involved in, or default "adult" hobbies(you sew? better be kids clothing or household items) fact you're actually trying to help your kid out speaks volumes and you're doing way better then some parents.

>be kissless virgin all my life
>go to university in the UK cause my parents are in love with the status it carries
>one of my flatmates is my ideal type, but seems too popular and sociable too notice me
>develop a crush and always hang around the kitchen late at night so I might bump into him
>shy guy across the hall confesses his love for me one night without even giving me a chance to respond
>have to tell him that "i dont want to date flatmates" excuse
>tfw awkward everyday encounters for rest of year
>eventually the guy im crushing on starts hanging around our flat more (he used to go out a lot and go partying/drinking)
>we hit things off and I cant believe it
>invites me to come drinking/clubbing with him
>at predrinks I drink loads in hopes to impress him (side note: i'd never been drunk before)
>in the club he takes my hand when walking through the crowds
>omgihopehecantseemeblushing.jpeg
>eventually lose the rest of the group
>we kiss when dancing alone and its amazing, feel like I'm finally being feminine for the first time in my life
>we go back to our flat, make out some more in the kitchen and then he puts me to bed
>cant sleep because of excitement/alcohol
>wake up in the morning looking forward to seeing him and possibly talking about what this means
>knock on my door, basically have a heart attack
>its him and he steps inside and closes the door
>"I just wanted to apologise for last night, I don't want you to think that I took advantage of you when you were drunk for the first time. I hope you don't get the wrong idea, but I think its best that we remain just friends "
>afterwards he leaves, my dream of a bf grown last night is gone
>whats worse is the shy guy who confessed to him saw me kissing this guy in the kitchen and called me a shameless liar, which rubbed the salt in the wound.
>cry for pretty much a whole day

>>7646447
Cont.
>days past and eventually I get back to normal
>still like this guy but he doesn't show any signs of interest
>we start hanging out more and I come to think of him as a best friend, but always wishing I could kiss him again
>things start to get more flirty, we play fight and wrestle and a couple of times it was almost like some scene from disney
>fighting over a rubber band as he kept firing it at me. He wrestles me to the ground and straddles his waist over the top of mine. Our eyes met and my breathing almost stopped. His face starts to lower to mine. Omgomgomg, its going to happen again.
>instead he just tickles me for 4 mins almost making me wet myself
>another party coming up, a farewell for a international flatmate
>this is my chance to try again
>buy him and myself a load of drinks at this bar
>the shy guy is there but I dont care if he judges me, I only want to be with this guy
>we both get pretty drunk but we dont make out, rather just stay really close all night
>he starts to feel ill and decides to leave so I go to help him get back fine
>as soon as we're outside and alone, he pulls me into his arms and kisses me
>melt in that spot for a good 5 minutes
>we get a taxi home and make out all night
>we're on his bed when he says "anonette, I want you to know that I've liked you for a really long time, its not just the alcohol talking"
>not even joking thats word for word what he said
>start crying from relief/happiness
>fall asleep cuddling on his bed and in the morning we decide to try things out between us
>everythings amazing between us but it feels like I dont deserve him, he's all I could ever want and need but I cant reciprocate it
>begin to get anxious about him leaving me for someone else
>get depressed when he doesnt talk to me or reply to my texts (its stupid but I couldnt help it)
>he's always so patient with me and tries to help increase my self confidence but that just makes things worse

>>7646449
>eventually he advises me to go to the university counsellor
>have a bunch of therapy sessions, once a week for about 12 weeks
>identify that I have a load of trust issues which come from never having to open up/rely on someone else for my entire life
>all the way through this he supports me, realise how stupid I was for considering breaking up with him
>the relationship gets better and I don't feel anxious/cold anymore
>we did the whole "meet the parents thing" and we all got on really well
>start to think about spending the rest of my life with him
>only issue is that he finished uni now and so we're in a long distance relationship
>sometimes my anxiety comes back a bit cause Im worried the distance will make his feelings towards me change but he's always there for me
>cant wait for the day that we live together and can spend every day together
>tfw everything turned out alright in the end
>feels good man

>>7646447
wow that other guy is a dick. just tell him you're not into him.

>>7646440
If you attend cons with the specific intention of seeking a meaningful relationship or hook up, you're gonna have a bad time.

Enjoy it, meet people, make friends and the girl will come along. You can't just force it.

>>7646456
Er, yeah. That was what I really meant. I'm sleep deprived, so I didn't exactly word everything right.

>>7646468
But yeah, I can relate. I just can't see myself dating normalfags and haven't bothered dating this year cause I move next month for an out of state college as a transfer student. I'll definitely be open to it once I arrive and get settled in. Cons are the way to go.

>>7646441
Fucking this. My mum was really into photography and reading as a teenager and young adult and later gave it all up for me, sold camera equipment etc. But my dad is still allowed to keep his ham radio equipment, which totals to about 6000euroshekels, and that's perfectly fine. But if my mum shows interest for one of the following:
>a romantic relationship (they are divorced and dad already has a gf)
>improving her physical appearance
>having a hobby that isn't pampering her only baby boy (which happens to be me, a 22yo faggot autist who can take care of himself, thank you very much)
>enjoying herself in any way (going out for a coffee, going on vacation) and spending money on something other than me,
everyone in my hometown has a cow and starts saying how she's a selfish, shallow bitch who only looks after herself and not her wee poo' lad out starving in the third world (I do charity work). And I specifically tell her never to send me any money because I make enough.

It's not even men saying this, btw, it's all middle-aged women, so don't pull the sexism card just yet. But yeah, it's dumb as fuck.

>>7646480
i meant riding, not reading. Horseback riding.

How do you usually deal with breakups or just feeling bummed out about things in general, seagulls?

>>7646451
FUCKING CONGRATS ANONETTE, YOU'VE EARNED IT.

>>7646489
Lots of anime.

>applying for jobs
>so far have had more interviews in last two weeks than in the 6 months after i graduated college
>feel guilty for wanting to leave good boss, but job doesn't provide the hours i need to survive and pay off crippling student loans
>really hate interviews, both do and don't want the jobs i've applied for
uuuuggghhh maybe i should just play the lottery.

>>7646248
how old are you? your body's metabolism slows down once you hit your mid-late 20s, as you're no longer growing and don't need as much energy.

I've posted before about falling for my roommate/cosplay friend. We had sex last night. Amazing sex. He's been texting me all day as well asking what time I'll be home and if I wanna go out for dinner and all this stuff. I'm falling hard.

>>7646449
>>7646451

>Guy puts me on the backburner to scope out better pussy
>Doesn't find any goes, back to me
>Feel happy

Whatever floats your boat

>>7646489
crying a lot and watching movies (not those sappy romantic ones, I hate those)

>>7646512
I don't think that's what happened, anon. I think the guy just got embarrassed and wanted to give her room until he could scope out whether she felt the same.

>>7646441
wtf your inlaws suck at planning. have they never heard of invitations with RSVPs?

>>7645517

omg i got it on hold for me
god bless you Martin.

>>7646512
This

all the girls in the UK look like shit, so they go for the best men they can find. men there have no choice. for every 10 acceptably fit guys in the UK there are 4 acceptable girls.

the same reason why in say russia you see supermodel tier girls going for ugly as fuck guys. limited supply of hot guys over there, oversupply of hot girls.

what i hate most about UK girls is their attitude though. loud, unfeminine whores. don't even get me started on girls from scotland/wales

but OP wasn't born in the UK so she's got that going for her.

>ex starts ignoring me and a bunch of our close mutual friends after finding a new gf
>sees ex after a few years of not talking to him at a group meetup
>kind of awks but whatever I'll roll with it
>crazy awks when it's like no time has past and we're able to finish each other's thoughts/sentences and we will literally blurt out shit at the same time
>ex starts to stay in touch with mutual friends more but makes a point to ignore me
>almost hurt but whatever
>friends all talk about how gf is nice but quiet
>tfw ex drops the marriage bomb through a group chat and all of the others are talking about going and shit that could go down during the wedding
>tfw don't want to go, don't know how to tell friends without sounding like a jealous bitch who's not over him

>already told 1 of the friends before that he's made it a point that he doesn't want to keep in touch with me so I definitely don't see him as a friend
>tfw friends still constantly bring up the future wedding and his now fiance

>>7646533
Yeah I think the baby shower one was the worst though(thankfully) My husband and I weren't sent an invitation, but my mother-in-law was. So we weren't under any obligation to go. Other important things like weddings and such she's usually good about telling us. It's the smaller things they try to plan out and tell us, like a day or two before and not see if we actually have any plans first that get annoying. I've gotten into the habit of asking my husband a day or two ahead of the weekend so I know if I need to shift my plans or not.

I actually had to switch the date on my baby shower because apparently like, four of my husband's aunts all wanted to head out to a concert in another state(we're in socal, concert is in las vegas) that's the same day I was planning my baby shower. Thankfully my mother-in-law actually told me early enough I could change the date. Cause I didn't want to force them to choose between the concert and my baby shower.

>listening to kpop song (Love Song by 2PM, go ahead and judge)
>get emotional
>have to turn it off

I'm turning into one of those pessimistic single people and I hate it. I'm 19, and I've never been kissed, or been in a relationship... I feel like a freak. Maybe I'm just meant to be alone. I hope that moving to a larger college city helps. (Gay and currently living in a small town.)

Staying on topic...
>getting fit for life
>Wait, if I get fit.. I can finally cosplay characters from sports anime!
>Fuels motivation

Is there anyone else here willing to be my fit buddy? Just like, exchange emails about workouts and food journals? Or skype?

>>7646571
I want to be someone's fit buddy! I'm somewhat immobile when it comes to exercise due to a condition in my leg, so I'm going to start swimming and see where that takes me. If you'd be fine with someone like that.

>>7646571
> 19 and pessimistic and single
> wants to get fit and cosplay sports animes

I share so many of these feels you posted

>>7646579
I'm totally all right with that! Would you prefer email, or skype?

>>7646581
Well hey, if you're serious about wanting to be fit, we can be fitness buddies! That can help put you on the path to solving one of your problems!

>>7646571
Anon it's totally time to plug in the summer kpop playlist.

>>7646585
I can do either, your choice.

>>7646589
pump it up, anon!

>>7646593
Awesome! I left my skype username in the email field.
>hope I did that right

>beginner lolita searching for a cute dress to start my wardrobe for a few months now
>broke as hell but with upcoming job
>love classic and classic/sweet
>kind of a fatty chan, most dresses which aren't sweet and shirred wont fit my monster boobs
>Find absolutely gorgeous dress i could see myself wearing as my first lolita piece
>it's been professionally modified to fit a slightly large size
>would fit me perfectly with maybe room to spare whilst the actual dress would be tight and create boobloaf
>only $92
>girlfriend sees it and falls in love, telling me i would look adorable in it
>offers to front the payment for me to pay back when my job gets going.
>dither a lot and feels bad about it but she eventually convinces me to go and buy it
>rush back to LM
>Someone already bought it...

I'm going to go and cry.

>>7646451
Congrats, anon!

>>7646411
Anon, I've got one, and am in no rush to sell. PM me if you might want to buy after Tokyo.

>>7646598
> be the other anon from earlier with same feels
> too scared to randomly add someone

so in case you suddenly get another skype request it's scared faggot anon that wants to get fit for sports animes

>>7646625
If you decide you want to, go for it anon!

>>7646541
>tfw i go to a uni where for every 10 pretty girls there is 1 acceptable straight single male
I know where I'm transferring.

>was gonna be on the cover of a cosplay magazine
>magazine fell through
>was going to be featured in a cosplay calendar
>calendar fell through
I could have been cosplay famous :(

>>7646289
I feel you anon. Today my maid had to leave early and didn't even finish dusting my Faberge egg collection, and then the $200 bottle of wine I ordered at lunch tasted more like a 1990 than an 1989 Beaucastel.

>>7646440
Seems to me cons insure you're likely to have similar interests to many of the boys/girls there.

>>7646349
You sound sweet anon, but my guess is you're a doormat and that's why you attract these type of guys. Learn to be more assertive, even if you have to fake it for awhile.

Going home tomorrow from being out of state for a month. Excited to start on cosplay for Metrocon but there is so little time to get everything done.

Also the 6 hour time difference will kind of suck

>first time cosplayer
>sewing and crafting skills are meh-tier
>tfw I'm a perfectionist and am embarrassed of anything that isn't 100% perfect

It doesn't help that the only friends I have that are interested in cosplay have never used a sewing machine in their lives and don't want to learn. They expect me to make all the costumes. hieuhfkrjawkfjlke;r

>>7646743
Dude. Just expect your first cosplay to come out no where near where near as nice as you want it too.

Between now and your next con, get some sewing lessons, buy cheap fabric and practice, make other cosplays.

Eventually you'll gain the skills you need to make the work of art that you want. It's a learning curve, but I promise it's totally worth it!

>>7646755
Oh and if you do take my advice and practice, just grab stuff from the thrift store and make something you'll know you'll toss so you're not afraid to fuck up and try new things!

is this /soc/?

>Not a great cosplayer/ not a terrible one either
>Try to be friendly to everyone at cons
>Don't stand out too much
>Not much for skimpy cosplays
>Still occasionally see my photos here and there's always a couple people saying really terrible nasty things

I don't get it. I just do my own thing and try not to step on any toes. I'm a nobody in this hobby who is even noticing me enough to put my photos here to be trash talked?
It's a little depressing..

>>7646817
No, this is patrick.

>>7646391
Well they ignore the fact also a mother has her needs, desires, hobbies, likes and also her preferred fashion style in this case lolita. People believe a mother if has to buy clothing is mostly for her kids while they have to neglet themselves or if she has some hobbies have to be cooking only for her kids or husband, sewing only stuff for children. Also, society consider weird and childish when a parent plays videogames or does stuff "youngster" does. Seems when you grow up and make a family you have to be a boring person, how awful. If i had a mother or dad into nerdy interests or dressing alternative i would be so proud to having parents like this! And so you have to be proud of yourself to not conform the stereotypes of being a parent.

>tfw want to get the D but can never get any from the guys I flirt with at cons

Any tips? Maybe they're not getting the message.

>>7646879
>Nice costume, wanna fuck?

>>7646868
Yeah exactly, who the fuck want parents whose literal sole interest is their children and don't have any interests or ambition of their own? I think it sets a horrible example. My mom was kind of like that and I didn't really learn much from her, except how to do dishes and laundry. Its hard to talk to her because she has nothing going on in her life.

>>7646489
I go out with my friends, get black-out drunk by 10pm, then stagger home, cry for a few hours and then spend the next few days watching Bleach until the stupidity of the storyline makes me forget I ever had a boyfriend. I also don't drink for a little while after the initial night out. I usually get out of town for a few days and stay with friends elsewhere if I can.

>>7646489
not this anon, but basically >>7646260
instead of Celtic Woman and frites it'd be ice cream and more ice cream, but you get the gist

btw what are frites?

>want to cosplay
>been to lots of cons looking pretty normalfag cause no skills and no good cosplay friends
>tell boyfriend I wanted to start cosplaying forever ago
>he's cool with it, says he'll get some of his friends to help us out and give us some pointers
>yes it's happening finally
>nope stuck with a bunch of middle aged men with no sewing skills who make shit quality armor and turn down every idea I have
>wouldn't even want to go to cons with them because aside from my boyfriend they're all nearing 40 and well over 200lbs of neckbeard.

>>7646889
seriously, I once even asked my mom what her hobbies are
>YOU are!
>but what do you do when you have nothing to do
>Sleep, since I'm tired from being a full-time mother!
>yeah but what do you actually like to do
>I guess I like decorating....

And she actually had to think for a long while for that last one. Makes me feel bad because she used to be so good at writing, now she accepted that it's "just a silly dream" and that "real life is more important".

>>7646919
pretty sure frites are french fries or at least where I come from they are

>>7646919
>>7646944
yeah, they're french fries. There's a friterie in my street so now I can become fat without feeling guilty about it. I guess single life has its pros.

>>7646889

Seriously, my parents were like this and the only thing I got out of it was an eating disorder.

Thanks for not having anything else to live for so you had to ruin my childhood instead, cocksuckers.

I feel so old at 21. To make matters worst, I haven't accomplished anything worthwhile in all of this time.

>>7646985
*worse

It's 9:44 AM, I should probably sleep.

>meet a girl
>shy, never had a bf - the works
>hit it off
>she can't believe someone who's a NEET is also /fit/
>mfw face when i fucked and chucked her
>mfw i saw the look on her face as her first love figuratively spits in her face

the greatest moment of my life

>>7646997
>>>/r9k/

>>7646956
where are you from anon, if I may ask?

>>7646997
..why did you do that..?

>>7647004
Belgium

>>7647011
I had that feeling, dutchfag here

.. now i want to get some frites

>>7647005
who cares i just hope she knows she can do better than some jobless sociopath

>finally decided to be an adult and get first credit card to establish non-existent credit line
>was approved for card I wanted and it'll be coming

But now, I'm mortified of it. I have a good summer job and I've kept my job at university for the past two years so I have a somewhat steady income. I'm just nervous of abusing it, even though I only intend to use it for food, big purchases I absolutely know I'll have the money for and traveling.

In a CGL related quip
>find all sorts of cute things on Taobao to start lolita wardrobe
>want them so bad

>>7647012
I'd share mine if I didn't eat them already!

>>7647021
thanks for the offer at least, cute belgian anon

>>7646250
>been looking for "my asuna"
>my
lel nope

>>7647018
In order to not abuse my credit card, I try to only spend the money I earned the month before. That way you'll always know you can afford your bill when it comes.

>>7647018
Well, you could always just set it so as soon as the charge is made and no longer pending, you pay the charge off. That way you can build up your credit without actually building up debt.

>20, been working full time since 18, 50 hours a week in a metal shop
>Started to really get into cosplay to have events to look forward to.
>Hoped to find a girl at a convention two years ago.
>Lost my focus on a gf and have found myself having more enjoyment just hanging with younger sister and chilling.
>Last convention, older sister and mom start talking about how I need a girlfriend and they're worried about me.
>Realize only part of a relationship I want is the cuddling and hanging out.
>Recently, my focus on the cosplay and not the relationship is giving me more focus and drive to exercise and improve myself.

Is it really weird for me to just disregard something I don't see the time for? Conventions are the one time I get to look cool. Being the cool older brother is fun though.

I'm getting really emotional about Sailor Moon Crystal. I really want to like it but the senshi look like they have downs, especially Usagi. And her face is so blank and uncanny valley, yet she is supposed to be the most emotive. The music sucks so far which makes me even sadder as I love the original music so much, I even listen to it on iTunes sometimes. Nothing will beat or even come close to Uranus and Neptune's theme ever. And the CGI... I don't know if I should watch it or not as I don't want to be disappointed any further. But it could have been so good. At least Mitsuishi is back! And Mamoru looked pretty hunky in the OP, lol.

>>7646480

I really feel bad for your mom... My mother-in-law actually had the same struggle when her children were young, her own mom being the biggest bitch about it even though she was an alcoholic and overall a horrible mother to her. And of course father-in-law did whatever he wanted and left the kids to her. Now when all of his sons have moved on their own she finally got a hold of herself, started giving zero fucks about people's opinions and started pampering herself, traveling, buying nice clothes, all the good stuff. I hope your mother can somehow overcome the stupid expectations and live her life the way she wants.

Broke up with boyfriend today

I got tired of him guilting me into doing shit because of his ~anxiety~ (spoiler: I have diagnosed anxiety and I don't make you fucking pander to me) and fucking me over with my work schedule every time he wanted to hang out because he didn't want to do shit on days he worked, even if he started at 8pm.

He doesn't even care enough to work on it. He'd rather just give up.

I feel verified to talk shit about him if he honestly doesn't care enough to listen to me when I say that I can't drive 2 hours away when he wakes up at 3pm and I work at 4.

I feel so chubby and ugly because I have so pretty friends around me. I sometimes feel that I shouldn't cosplay because I'm not aestethically pleasing enough. I really want to start a proper diet (I work at McD so it's too easy to buy lunch there 'cause it's cheap) and really work out, but I always come up with the shittiest excuses, like not having the time, it being too expensive etc. I just want a huge kick in the butt and get the motivation to work towards my dream body. I just hate that I can never get things done.

>tl;dr generic whine wah wah

My boobs got bigger and now my lolita dresses don't fit as well. I'm so used to having no tits and now I just don't even know how to deal with it. I know that sounds so stupid, but it's really problematic for me! And whenever I try to talk to my friends about how sad and confused I am, they just tell me not to complain because it's improved my figure. I don't want big boobs! I miss my itty bitty titties.

>>7647107
you can still buy lunch there, just start counting your calories. if you really just want to loose weight you don't need to increase the quality of your food, just decrease the calories

>practice for driving test tomorrow
>dad tells me i'm going to fail
>hair is greasy and weighed down even using sulfate free shampoo and acv

cosplay related
>promise myself i can get a used sewing machine if i learn to hand sew
>fuck it up like everything else

i would give anything to be one of those people who are naturally talented. there is absolutely nothing that comes easy to me. i have no talents or skills, and i feel like i have to work 1000x harder just to achieve an average level of proficiency at anything.

>>7646733
this feels like an american psycho reference. anon confirmed for good humor

>>7647115
That's what happens during puberty, underage b&

>>7646260
don't worry, your boyfriend is a faggot. Time to be a strong independant twink who don't need no man.

>>7647125
Then I must be a reeeeeally late bloomer hitting puberty 25 years into my life.

>>7647132
happens when you gain weight or get preggers

>>7647115
it might be birth control- it happened to me too but my boobs shrunk after I stopped taking it

>>7646363
>not cutting the middle open first
pleb.

I like my steak rare or blue rare, med rare is fine but if I see it's med, that shit is going back.

>>7646345
There's not a lot to do here.
I finish everything I have planned for the say by 9, then walk around and talk to people. Only problem is when shit goes down and I get stuck here working for like 20+ hours, but that has happened lik 5 times in 9 months

>>7647136
Can birth control do that suddenly even if it's the same one you've been taking a while? Like suddenly your hormones change or something?

>>7647135
I guess I put on a little weight but not enough that would explain the sudden jump in size. My waist measurement went up only about half an inch, but my chest jumped up from a small B cup to a E cup.

>>7646349
You sound like me but with slightly more dating experience
I'm so sorry...

>>7647145
hmmm sounds like you may have put on more weight than you realize...

>>7646743
Don't let them overload you, anon! Now that some of my friends have seen that i sew and are into cosplay they just throw all of these insane ideas at me for costumes. I try to tell them that i like to take my time and really want to focus on my skills before i take on too many projects. I don't want to disappoint them. I feel you anon.

>>7647154
This. Unless you're pregnant, you probably just gained a lot more weight than you realize. If you're one of those lucky bitches that carries it mostly in the chest/hips area then embrace it. Tons of women would kill for that. I'm a fucking apple and when I gain weight it goes straight around my belly.

I just found out I have a job interview from a place that would pay about 3x as much as I'm making now. I've already started to line up things I would buy, like my first brand dress and nicer wigs and makeup, so I hope it goes well.
In other bad news, my AC is broken and it's hot and humid as fuck in my house.

>>7647171
hopefully your first brand dress isn't Bodyline???

>>7647171
get your ac repaired first! good luck on the interview. remember confidence and eye contact.

>been getting way too lazy with wanting to make cosplay
>Just too tired,
>start dieting
>lose 10 lbs
>"Oh god this is happening"
>Start having more energy/sleeping better
>Cosplays fit better

Also~
>started working on a new cosplay
>finally getting to the point where it's looking like something and not just a pile of fabric on my floor
>tend to usually procrastinate because my focus sucks
>got into my mode to finish this damn costume
>got a little teary eyed seeing it all come together

I think that's what keeps me going tbh..It's going from that pile of fabric to an outfit that always helps push me along. I start feeling more confident if the outfit is coming out how i want it.

>>7647173
No, the interview is for a casino so I thought it was fitting.

>want to go to first meet up next week
>summer is in full swing, it's hot as fuck
> living with my bf, no air conditioning
>NEET, so no need to get dressed ever
>decide to try on my coord today
>put on tights, bloomers and blouse and am instantly soaked in sweat

how the fuck do people survive the summer?

>>7647175
Someone should be coming in tomorrow to fix it. Thanks for wishing me luck, anon! I'll do my best.

>>7647106
Good for you, anon! I love it when people call their bf/gfs out on their shit. He sounds like a selfish, spoiled child.

>>7647223
Thank you, but I just wish he'd be willing to change.
I'm honestly pretty bummed about it, but I think the problems he had were bad enough for a break up

It's just hard for me to get a bf to begin with, too

>be me, 2009
>taking a fitness class at school
>feel awesome, toned, 125 lbs and 66 cm waist, awww yiss
>fast forward to this year
>combination of birth control, overeating, depression, stress, anxiety, laziness etc. means I now weigh almost 140
>5'5" so it really shows. mostly goes to my thighs, can't find pants that fit, life is suffering etc.
>conga line of crazy things happening in my life. feel like crap, lose motivation for everything
>don't feel like cosplaying, drawing, lolita, breathing, don't even have cravings for sweets
>SO talks me out of it
>get tired of feeling ugly, insecure, and gross. start eating more veggies, counting calories, exercising last week
>mfw when I weigh myself today and I'm 128 lbs. (when and where the fuck did all that weight go??)
>mfw when I'm still just a gigantic pile of flab and my waist is 69 cm.
>time to start lifting I guess~

I hope I can keep this up!

>>7647145
You either put on weight or are pregnant most likely

>Worked at coffee shop
>Boss was a jackass
>Got pissed off me for getting chosen for jury duty
>Was on my ass for stupid reasons
>Lets 3 other workers stand around in the kitchen while I take the front by myself
>Finally quit
>Today, run down to the corner store
>Leave phone at home
>Gone for only 30 minutes
>Old boss leaves a text
>"We're doing the tip jar split tomorrow. Please return your uniform."
>Not even 15 minutes later. "No response? Okay, you don't want it."
>Cries because that was an extra $200
>He's being an asshole to me even though I quit

>>7647239
>tfw flabby, 5'6" 143lb.
>66cm waist.

;~; Oh god, I can only imagine dat body if I lost weight. Time to start working out.

>>7647239
It's the initial drop of water weight, which is motivating

Keep pushing anon!

>>7647179
im in tears

>Have a shitload of stuff going wrong in life
>Have no idea how to explain any one thing without spitting out the entire story of my life

> Be me
> Around 13, just entered High School
> Getting strait A's, doing amazing
> Get special academic awards, in ROTC get special awards, asked to make speech at next freshman orientation over all my seniors
> be 14
> Suddenly start getting sick, started slow. Would just miss a week or two.
> Then I would start missing a month.
> Two months.
> Still manage to get A's and B's despite not being in class.
> Get really sick. Strep for three months strait, turns into scarlett fever.
> Brake my foot as well, takes literally half a year to heal.
> Struggling to keep up at this point, completely bedridden.
> Half-way through Sophomore year have to drop out.
> Ok, whatever aside from ROTC I'm not missing out on much, can work at my own pace, etc.
> I can do this!
> Break wrists a little later, takes three months to heal
> Still basically bedridden, doctors visits all over the place
> FINALLY get to see a Immunologist a year later (15) bloodwork comes out borderline
> Have to wait another year just to -maybe- qualify for infusions
> Still sick as fuck, falling really behind, continue to get bad injuries that take a really long time to heal
> Two years of dicking around later, finally qualify to get infusions
> But it gets better! Start getting severe pains in my legs
> Black Friday that year, went with my mom to shop for my neices
> Get up from chair for a sec so my mom can adjust the pad
> Whole body starts shacking uncontrolably, mom basically throws me back into seat
> A few months later and I get horrible spasms daily, especially in my neck, will shake any time I stand up
> Aquire Wheelchair, things get a bit better, go to nueologist thankfully it's just muscle spasms.
(CONT.)

>>7647460

> Now,
> Can barely stand, stay at home almost 24/7 unless I have to go to the doctor, can't really stand to do much else.
> Just staying at home all day on the computer I get horrific bruises on my fingers, arms, legs, and all over my back.
> Starts infusions but in a few months I probably won't be able to do them anymore.
> Get really weird marks forming at the top of my thighs, but they're advancing downward, only have enough fat to do infusions in my thighs and the skin those marks are on is really hard.
> In horrible pain every day, getting up is a struggle, moving is literally awful.
> If anyone touches me I literally flinch away on reflex now because of how bad it is.
> Mom has to help me with homework now, I can't hold the book or write.
> Used to draw, can't really do that anymore
> Used to write, RPed a lot but even writing this is a struggle
> Been on this crap-ass jorney for nearly six years now and still don't have a solid diagnosis.

I guess really all I have to say is
> TFW life is literally completely out of your control now
> Can barely even do the things I like anymore

I just hope whenever I completely lose movement in my limbs they're kind enough to mercy kill me.

>>7647460
How do you keep injuring yourself so badly?
Do you have brittle bones or something?

>>7647460
>>7647465
Jesus, anon. All I can really say is that I'm sorry, and I hope you get a diagnosis or some form of relief soon.

>>7647460
>strait A's
>not river delta A's

>>7647465
>>7647460
Wow anon....

>>7647465
I'm so sorry anon. Sending all good thoughts & vibes your way, I hope you can find out ASAP what's wrong so you can get better and go back to achieving tons of wonderful things!

>>7647482
Not as far as I know, although I do have very thin skin!

>>7647489
>>7647493
>>7647504
>>7647510
Thanks guys, it really means a lot to me.

I spend a lot of time on /cgl/ & I read almost everything, I love the culture of this board so much, your humor is the best! I just want to say I read all the feels threads, and while I can't respond to you all individually, I desperately hope that you can get the help you need for your depression and/or anxiety, that you can lose the weight you've been wanting to and can find your motivation. I hope you can find your dream dress at retail price, even if it's rare! I wish you could get the raise that you want, find that bf/gf and live a better life. I'm really rooting for all of you.
/madoka speech.

>file a change of address with my post office about a month ago
>moved from my apartment back to my parent's house due to my landlord being a dick
>get confirmation of my COA
>waiting for the utility bill from the old place and my credit card bill
>they mysteriously don't come...
>get notification of my cc bill via email, it's due on the 7th
>yet still no bill and my parents haven't touched anything
>friend sent me a gift with tracking in the mail a week ago
>lives only 3 hours away
>asks today if I received it yet
>no...
>checks the tracking
>the tracking shows 'out for delivery' in my area
>but five days later shows it shipped to another state
>and another state today
>still says 'in transit'
>ask friend wtf might be happening
>says it's possible NCOA fraud

>my ex posted my dox to 4chan
>if it's true someone from 4chan could have perjured my address and signature
>I essentially know where they live if the package my friend sent me arrives to the address
>problem is my CDC order is also in transit in the mail and I don't want it to go to whoever this cunt is
>if the perjury is true

I'm fucking freaking out. If it weren't in the middle of the night I'd be frantically making phone calls.

>>7647523
Anon, I'm really sorry you have to go through all of that. I really love the fact that you can stay so optimistic in all of this and keep your chin up. I'm glad that this board's catty antics keep you entertained through everything you have to deal with. I hope that you start receiving proper treatment soon and that your life improves!

>>7646489
watch Hanasaku Iroha for the 20th time

>>7646232
>tfw no gf to literally split my ass
It's certainly a feel that I did not have until now.

I was out getting ice cream with a few of my friends today when a little girl in a princess costume walked by. My friends "aww'd" and said they wished they could still dress up like princesses and have tea parties.

I got so excited then remembered they are normalfags who would look down on me for even knowing what lolita is.

>>7647450
Go right ahead anon, people tell long stories all the time.

>>7647538
>my ex posted my dox to 4chan
>if it's true someone from 4chan could have perjured my address and signature
People can be really shitty. I hope you get the dress anon.

I feel like my best friend of several years is getting bored with me.
I don't really blame her, because I'm not a terribly exciting person to hang out with (all we ever seem to do is watch anime/movies or play video games), but it still really sucks because I have no idea how to fix it.
I try to suggest new things to do and she either says she's uninterested or she responds with one word answers and never answers clearly, and the window of opportunity passes and we can't do the thing I suggested.
It probably doesn't help that I'm an anxious wreck whose paranoia is getting worse every single day, so a lot of this is likely in my head, but I just wish she'd talk to me more and we hung out more.
All our interactions via text last maybe two minutes and I always seem to be the one leading the conversation that she doesn't care about.
She's also made friends with a lot of new people who are absolutely not my type (loud vulgar partiers who make me very uncomfortable) and someone who has personally insulted me on several occasions.
She always goes on about how they're such good friends and they're so funny and they hang out all the time and they're so fun to be around, even though she knows I hate that person and I've expressed that beyond clearly to her.
I feel so fucking shitty for saying it but I wish she'd choose between me and that asshole that I can't bear to be around for even a second.
I don't want to make her pick her friends, it's not my right to do that. But I want my best friend back and how things used to be instead of having to literally avoid hanging out with/talking to her when that other person is around.
It's such a strain on my end of our friendship and I think she's too oblivious to notice that it's hurting me when she talks about them so fucking much.
I'm exhausted and stressed about cosplays I haven't finished and I just need a fucking break. I'm honestly not sure if staying friends with her is worth it and I feel horrible for feeling like that.

I really want to get this off my chest because it has been gnawing away at me for some time now.

A few months ago I purchased a second hand item off of a girl in my comm and she charged me both shipping and PP fees (only after she told me how sellers shouldn't charge PP fees because it's unfair). Turns out shipping cost me twice as much she estimated. I don't want to be a dick about it because she's a well established member whereas I'm not, so I've let it go. She's a nice girl, but it does feel like I was taken advantage.

Also, do sellers assume that their buyers don't check the envelope to see the exact shipping costs?

>>7647005
Women do it all the time, but it's only a bad thing when men do it.
The double standard is real.

>>7647648
This happened to me before as a seller and I felt bad.

I went to the post office to get a shipping estimate for an international parcel, so they told me x amount.
Then, when I actually went to ship the dress it was less than what the last asshole at the post office told me and probably an easy $20 more. The girl I shipped to never said anything though, I assumed she just let it go.

>>7647643
I'm going through the same thing with one of my childhood friends that I've known for 15 years. She would treat my male friend and I like absolute dirt whenever we would travel down to see her after she requested we visit. She would only become excited when our friend would suggest they go off and smoke pot or else she would sulk and say that she would just do homework. I got fed up and I stopped trying to keep our relationship.
As for my other friend who I've known just as long, we both make an equal effort to remain in contact with one another, even if it isn't as often as it was 4 or 5 years ago. The other day he even came into work confessing he'd pop by every Monday to see if I was there. Now that's some fucking real shit right thurr.
Anon, in the end if they don't realize your worth, then fuck 'em. You're worth so much more than what they can give you.

>>7647655
wow, must be hard being a douchebag and being called out on it, huh

>>7647668
the original post is just a /fit/fag playing a ruse

it never happened

>>7647187
A trick I use is that I stick panty liners on the armpit area of my blouse or dress, it soaks up the sweat and keeps my clothes from being damaged.

>meet my best friend two years ago at a con
>we hit it off really well
>end up talking a lot more, introduce her to some anime (madoka, nge, etc)
>we start getting more and more involved in each other's lives
>really enjoy being her friend and talking to her in general
>we have a ton in common, right down to our personality types
>long story short, she goes through a lot of shit over the past year
>her girlfriend cheats and breaks up with her
>attempts suicide
>i have never been so scared before that
>she gets baker acted twice
>she has to drop out of college for the rest of the semester due to that
>has trouble with medication
>has to live with her cunt of a mother in the meantime
>try to help her through all of it
>she constantly feels like shit
>she's really depressed, anxious, etc
>try my best to help her out, make her feel better as best i can
>it kinda helps her sometimes but you can only help so much with depression when it's constantly kicking you down
>despite that we're still as close as ever, get even closer than before
>eventually start getting feelings for her
>really worried that liking her would mess up our relationship
>stay quiet about it for a few months
>still really good friends, we even make jokes about being married
>i eventually tell her and she feels the same way
>we've been together for over 4 months as of now
>everything is great for both of us
>we'll be cosplaying Madoka and Homura at a con in 11 days
>tfw consistently happy for the first time ever

>>7647705
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6BmJE33i2XU

>>7646382
Haven't personally ordered from her yet, but she has pictures of her:

amethyst-angel (dot) com

>Friend of two years has progressively turned into an asshole over the past 6 months
>Complete NEET, only responsibility is paying her rent
>Does cosplay photoshoots and has a following of beta orbiters, gets into drama on her fb page and tumblr regularly.
>Used to be a very caring person, but now she only looks out for number one. Only talks to me to talk about her problems, never once asks about how I'm feeling etc
>When I tried to confide in her about my anxiety her response was to immediately change the subject to a party she was going to
>Cancels on me repeatedly for cosplay photoshoots, last minute meetups and dates with guys she barely knows
>Every discussion I've tried to have with her about our friendship leads to empty promises of change which last about a week
>Things finally came to a head the other weekend when she got into a very public argument with a mutual friend, tried to drag me into it and I walked away
>Since then I've turned off chat for her on fb and skype, I haven't deleted her as we still go to local conventions or group outings and I don't want to make it awkward for others but I'm no longer going to initiate conversation or meet up with her one on one
>That feeling of relief when I no longer have to interact with her or deal with her bullshit, she hasn't attempted to contact me since but I'm kind of relieved.

>>7647720
of her work*

>>7646388
Never let fear of loneliness dictate your SO choices. That can be the biggest mistake you ever make. And there's nothing wrong with being single, it's not like you're suddenly not allowed to do certain things. I honestly believe that the less actively you search for an SO, the better potential partners you find, because they're people you honestly enjoy spending time with and getting to know before going into a relationship with them.

Take your time, there's no rush. There isn't some sort of shortage of single guys or girls, so don't worry about it.

Also:
> tfw want to start/work on cosplay
> Crazy, random work schedule
> Try to get some parts done but keep getting distracted by other things
> All the supplies have been sitting there for weeks now and nothing has been done
> Fuck.

Yay, I contributed something! Now I don't have to sage!

>gf is going to her first con with me
>She gets anxiety attacks very easily in crowded/loud places
>We're going to fucking Oakton, which is full of people
>mfw
I just hope no one tries to touch her, because then she'd probably completely shut down and we'll probably have to leave

> Tfw you feel absolutely terrible but you'd feel even worse due to guilt if you wanted to talk about it with someone
> Tfw you just end up taking whatever emotions you're feeling out on yourself

>started first cosplay that shows a lot of skin
i don't know man. at this point there's no backing out, seeing as it's all paid for now. have i read too many con creeper stories or something? i'm actually getting really anxious about wearing this. it's my favorite character too. rip in peace

>>7647705
Tears of joy, I'm so glad it worked out, I wish you both joy and happiness <3

>>7646301
Normalshits should just drop dead, honestly

>>7647735
Not to be rude, but don't you think going to a smaller con would be better?

>>7647875
Well, it's like the ancient Hawaiians always say

Every wave has to come to the shore at some point

>>7647549
OP might be a chick with a strap on

>tfw no cosplaying gf who will get drunk with me at AX and go around being loud and taking photos with people.

>>7647886
>tfw no lolita gf who has a diaper fetish and shits herself at every comm meeting

>tfw 21
I've constantly cried about how I never got a girlfriend in high school and how I've been a worthless virgin all this time. Literally all of my friends except for myself have had their first kiss already.

My physical appearance has begun to change rapidly. I have a good facial structure, slim build, light skin tone and I'm taking care of my face and hair more than ever. My fashion taste has changed has changed for the better. My current job is teaching me to become more socially capable. I have the funds to afford cosplay, admission to a con, its' events, and the ability to purchase whatever I want. Whether it be a trap cosplay, or a guy's school uniform riddled with leds, everyone seems to like it and I have more female friends than ever. While my confidence isn't there yet and I sometimes break down over stupid things, I feel like I have the ability to undo everything that went against me during my teens.

Maybe I can finally go out and have a girlfriend while shopping for cute dresses together.
>>7646232
Ahahaha, oh wow. Literally tore him a new one.

>>7647624
I really wish there was laws against that sort of thing

>>7647919
Every time I hear that phrase I want to tell someone to go bother their local legislator about it. They're surprisingly likely to reply and if they make an ass of themselves it gives you an opportunity to ruin their careers.

>>7647911
This gives me hope

I've never been able to relate to my male friends as we have nothing in common and I've always felt like maybe female friends were the way to go.
But the last time I tried the female friend thing, she ended up having feelings for me so things did not work out.
So cons are the way to go for meeting new female friends? Cause you make it sound like it's easy!

>tfw I'll never have a gf

>>7647465
So sorry, anon. I wish you all the best.

>tfw uni program is full of girls
>haven't made a single friend

please help

>that one bitch that acts up for attention at cons
>call her out
>I'm the bitch
fuck you guys too.

>>7647888
>tfw no European lolita gf who will post pics of her comm and talk mad shit

>>7647883
Yeah and their moronic philosophies have done so well for them so far eh.

Just kill yourself you selfish cunt.

>Starting 2 months of unpaid holidays tomorrow
>Have enough savings to pay rent and regular expenses throughout, but not much else
>Bf says he wouldn't mind chiping in more than just his usual half for some time
>He'd love for me to be a fulltime housewife, cooking daily and having more time for projects and hobbies
>I'd hate to be a mooch so much though
>Don't know if I should accept offer and focus on improving my skills/closing unfinished projects during summer
>Or stay an ~*independent womyn*~ and make stuff I don't like for sale/do commissions to make up for lack of paychecks

I don't want to feel dependent or in debt to him... We're in great place now, but you can't foresee everything.
But on the other hand it is true that between working full time and housework I barely had time and energy to do my own things, I sometimes even feel like my skills have regressed because of that...

So conflicted...

>>7646263
What kind of rpg?

>>7648028
As the ancient Hawaiians used to say

Don’t bite the head off a piranha or you might get chewed

>tfw all cosplay friends have better cosplay friends than you
>tfw will never group cosplay ever

It's a bad feel

Not /cgl/ but

>Sister breaks up with her boyfriend
>Suddenly goes full-blown STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN AIN'T NEED NO MAN
>Starts talking about how misogynistic everything is.
>Of course she starts attacking video games.
>Doesn't even play video games (except for flappy bird)
>Links me this video
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WA2kHVMak0E
>I tell her I agree on that there needs to be more female protagonists.
>But that I don't think sexualization is a problem since it happens to both genders.
>Also that men are objectified in games, most being nothing but pieces of meat for the player to shoot at in action games with no consequences.
>She absolutely loses her shit.
>My sister now hates me.

Fuck, why does everyone in my family have to be so mentally unstable?

>>7648068
>>But that I don't think sexualization is a problem since it happens to both genders.

...Did you read what you wrote?
To me, that just makes the problem bigger.

>>7648068
Paul Verhoeven against sexualization? That can't be right. That'd be awful hypocritical of my favorite director. Watching.

>>7648074
Ah, wrong Paul Verhoeven. Derp.

>>7648029
It's only for 2 months....if you're pulling your weight in other ways it's hardly mooching

>passing trap/cd
>tfw no qt asian cosplay/lolita gf

It's a simple feel, but man does it cut deep

>>7648072
I interpreted that as "I don't think sexualization is a female-only problem and the sexualization of men shouldn't be excluded from the argument". Anon clearly sees sexualization in video games as a problem, judging by the word choice in the next sentence.

>>7648072

I like my men handsome and women sexy in video games, because they are fantasy.

If I wanted a character with skinny arms and bad skin I would just look in the mirror.

Argh. Got a bad haircut. Ran out of contact lenses and wasn't wearing my glasses so I couldn't see what was going on, and it wasn't the lady who usually does it. The sides and back look okay but the front is fucking awful, looks like a late 90's pop video instead of my usual squarish sideswept fringe. It needs to be double the weight at least. I feel so awful, and I don't have the budget to fix it until a couple weeks from now, and by then I'll already be at my birthday and I'd wanted my hair to settle in by then.

I was planning to wear lolita tomorrow but I think I can switch the dress I'm wearing and wear a hat that I can pin my fringe under so it's not obvious. Beyond that is not going to be a barrel of laughs though.

>>7648079
Seems to me that the sister is pissed because anon was trying to marginalize the statement that women are sexualized by claiming that it's a man's problem too. Well yeah, people realize that, but it doesn't make either less of a problem just because it happens to the other gender.

And no offense, it sounds like the conversation went like that.

>>7648084
Fringe extensions?

By the /k/ube, I found the female version of /r9k/.

>>7648084
>what is a wig
if you're wearing lolita you should probably be wearing wigs anyway anon, very, very few people can pull off natural hair in lolita.

>>7648090
>wigs are necessary in lolita
fuck off

>>7648094
That's not what they meant, calm down.
And I think in the case of Botch Bang, it would be easier to use a wig at this point than risk embarrassment.

>>7648085

Actually, I provided it more as a counterpoint, to drive home the fact that I don't think it is a problem.

I just think people are too touchy about entertainment in general.

Male and females should be allowed to show skin.
They should be able to have ridiculous figures.
I should be able to kill thousands of soldiers without feeling bad.

Because that is the beauty of fiction, it's not real. Could it have a negative impact on our society? Maybe, probably. But that is price I am willing to pay for creative freedom.

>>7648090
Cool. So where do I get a wig by 9am tomorrow

>>7648094
The fact that you got "necessary" out of "probably" means you're hypersensitive and shouldn't be posting on 4chan.

>>7648080
>>7648097
There's nothing wrong with your fantasy, but I'd appreciate it if I had a few more choices that weren't drenched in tits, arse, and beef. I prefer modesty, and I find it a bit more believable if characters were a tad more humble.

>>7648099
Borrow one from a friend?

>>7648097
>Because that is the beauty of fiction, it's not real
Not everyone thinks this way.
People cross fiction into reality all the time--which is why a lot of boys growing up in society think a woman should have a 20 inch waist but DD boobs, or that a man should be 6'0 and look like a roided out jock.
It's a legitimate critique to think something is oversexualized. It's not to say it should be banned or that people should stop doing it, just that it exists and that it can be problematic. Especially concerning body image, which it is.

>>7648103
Only loli friend I know with wigs is 200 miles away

>>7648105
Welp, you're pretty fucked. Unless you just not wear lolita tomorrow. I'm assuming this isn't for a meet up considering the closest lolita lives 200 miles away from you.

>>7648105
Ick. Maybe censor your face and post a photo of the damage? People might be able to help you even out the cut or have better recommendations for hair accessories.
Too bad you probably wouldn't be able to get your hands on some clip-in bangs in time either.

>>7648101
>There's nothing wrong with your fantasy, but I'd appreciate it if I had a few more choices that weren't drenched in tits, arse, and beef. I prefer modesty, and I find it a bit more believable if characters were a tad more humble.

Don't get me wrong, I love both. I love a more grounded game with realistic characters and problems. But I think there is room for both to exist in the world. I just think that what many of the complaining people are doing is borderline promoting censorship.

>>7648108
An end of uni garden party. All the nice outfits I have here are lolita

>>7648114
Do you have a credit card or can you afford to buy a new dress locally? Maybe a family member who can loan you some money? That's what I'd do as opposed to looking unbalanced and goofy in a lolita outfit. Especially around my colleagues.

>>7648117
This. I'd either skip lolita or skip the party.

>>7648113
I'm not that anon but I totally agree with this.

We do have quite a number of games with average looking people in them, and I do feel like most of the people making the argument like to completely ignore that.

Like
>i hate this game, it's oversexualized and unrealistic!! why don't you make realistic games for once
what about all these realistic games?
>i don't care about those, they don't offend me -this- one does!!
but we do make them
>doesn't matter this one is offensive!

And pretty much everyone I've seen, barring a minority, feels as if they should make all games they way they want them.

I also hate the outcry in games specifically when that sort of oversexualization/perfection/fantasy level fakeness exists everywhere else in society, and criminalizing fictional characters is the last thing we need to do. I think that photoshopped real men and women are much more dangerous than game characters that are meant to be fantasy and fake.

I also think that people forget that humans strive for perfection and with games you can create that where you can't so well in real life. They're not meant to be seen or taken as something to strive for like people in magazines. And I wish people would stop acting like they are, and stop acting like they need to get rid of all of them. Creating diversity doesn't mean getting rid of the norm completely, then again, people all have their own damn agenda and can't see past their wants.

>>7648078
Matthew pls responce

>>7648141
My names not Matthew, sorry I think you have me confused

>tfw your ex bfs parents give you a birthday card with a gift card in it as well
>tfw only dating for 3 months/broken up for 4
It was nice(?) just so awkward. He gave it to me at a birthday party with our friends as well...

>thought taobao package was like 10kg
>preparing myself for the worst, paying $200+ for shipping
>found out this morning it's only $80

im so happy, especially since originally I expected $100

>>7648044
Bahaha

>>7648141

Hmm; I have a feeling your talking about me, who are you? I want a cosplay gf too but she doesn't have to be asian

>>7648121
>>7648117
You shits can stop now.

>>7648121
Hey, you got a bad hair cut? Man up and tell the hairstylist to at least make your bangs look presentable. You gave them money, the least they can do is a decent job. I can understand employees not wanting people to harass them, but I also don't think that they should be excused from not doing their job correctly. Be polite, but let them know you're dissatisfied and have them do something about it. It's not too much to ask for.

-Wear your damned glasses when you need to from now on, this isn't elementary school, stop worrying about the big meanies picking on you for using what you need.
-You still have time before your birthday. Buy some fringe before then. Prepare it for that day.

>>7648172
Sorry, left out that the point of that post was to encourage Bad Hair Day anon to own up to situations and take care of them instead of getting used to running around at the last minute trying to hide them.

I know there is probably at least one person like this in these threads... but fuck. Why do I have to be such a poorfag and can't afford all those beautiful dresses ;-;?

Not only that, I also feel so vain for wanting to spend so much money on them. Eh...

>>7648183
Get educated
Get a job
Get a rich bf

>Its been exactly 4months since my ex threw me out
>'Anon, Ive never loved you, I just wanted you for sex. You are good looking but your personality is shit'
>Actually believe that for months

>Realize that he was just trying to hurt me
>Fuck this guy, I deserve better than him
>Start to like myself for once, actually love myself
>Start again with my cosplay projects, nothing makes me as happy as that
>People around me notice how happy i am, getting new friends because of my happiness

>See ex on facebook, only typing about how much he hates his life
>Mfw

It gets better seagulls, just dont ever put your own happiness in someones hands!

I feel like I will be forever a virgin. :s

It's so hard to find a bf. Guys have it so much easier.

>>7648206
Iktf, I'm about to turn 25 in two months ;-;

>>7648210
What's so bad about being 25?

>>7648206
>Guys have it so much easier.

Hey, we have our fair share of problems too.

It is generally expected that guys should make the first move. But being spineless like I am, I always keep women at arms length. Even if they show hints of interest.

Why do we all have the same haircuts in this style?
I really want to cut some hime bangs in, but my hair colour is already the same as a girl in my comm with them, I'll just look like the ugly copycat.

>>7648217
It's not bad, I don't feel much different than when I was turning 21 just that... Out of the two guys I've tried to get neither really wanted to get down and dirty and I'm just like.. oh come on, it's about time I get laid. I thought guys at this age were as horny as teenagers, I think my lady bits are just counting the days until I get some cats.

>>7648259
You must be really really really really really ugly to reach 25 as a virgin female. Like repulsive.

Males have the excuse of shyness since they're expected to approach the girl, but women don't.

>>7647884
>>7646232

no i just tore his asscrack his butthole is intact
he's got a bloody line down his asscrack he's pretty angry about it

>>7648262
Gr8 b8 m8

>>7648259
It's fine, have a look at some statistics, it's not really that rare.

>>7648262
You are raping me.

>>7648276
Strewth, I'm not like constantly thinking about it since I'm busy with work and video games take up the rest of my time but man would it be nice to find someone cool to share my life with. I've been forcing myself to be more active lately, both physically and socially so hopefully something catches on and I meet someone.

>>7646391
ADD and ADHD aren't real medical conditions. Do not give your child drugs to treat it. They will stunt her mental growth.

>>7648262
yeah, women are never shy.

>>7648300
No, you got it wrong. I just meant that shy women have a big advantage over shy men when it comes to dating because they can take the passive role and wait to be approached and have the guy lead the relationship.

That's why I said men have an excuse but women don't.

>>7648282
To add to this.
>friends sister is prescribed ADD/ADHD medication.
>typical college students.
>buy it off her to study/do tests/get stuff done around the house.
>meet coworker prescribed the same medication.
>tell her experiences with it and how awful it made me feel.
>you're actually prescribed it though so I dunno if that's how it feels for you.
>no it is
>friends son prescribed it
>she's talking about how he has tons of this and that problem now that I've felt on it
>thankfully takes him off.

The drugs for it are awful. I couldn't function on them as an adult, I don't know how a kid would be able to. They don't make you any better they just give you the ability to focus obsessively on one thing, and forget about eating.

>>7648309
>>7648282
While I'm sorry those medications didn't work for you, that doesn't mean they don't work for others or that ADD doesn't exist. I hope the person responding to remembers to take advice from a doctor (and of course use their own discretion and talks to their child). I have also used ADD medication and found it unhelpful and the side-effects annoying, but my personal experience can't be generalized to everyone.

>>7648300
Shy women = attractive.

Shy men = sewer waste.

Learn the difference.

It is important to note that /cgl/ imagines under "shy men" - "that cute guy who acts like an anime and not like a super-confident muscular Alpha [so just confident]". "Shy men" = men who hover hand because society taught them that women are superior beings to them and that they are rapist who are raping them by simply looking at them, so you can imagine how afraid they are of what massive emotional damage touching the girls would cause.

>tfw I hate BJ.
Dicks are disgusting (and so are vagoos). Not going to put my mouth anywhere near it.
I dodn't even like touching it with my hand.

>tfw sexually selfish. I don't care if my patner enjoys it or not. I just want that warm and smooth self moving dildo.

>>7646695
Where do you go to University?

>>7648328
then why have a partner?
>mfw i love to give bjs

>>7648321
As you would expect, there's a difference between cute shy and autism shy. If you act like a sperg and are socially awkward, that's not being 'shy', you're just a sperg. Obviously that's not attractive.

>>7648347
They move.

My arms are rather short compared to my torso. It's not easy to fuck myself with a toy.

Real reason is that I can feel romantic inclination, I just don't really like fucking much.

>>7648348
Cute shy only applies to good looking guys who are shy, a minority.

>>7648282
If she's anything like me, trust me, she'll need them.

But ok! I'll trust a completely random anon over the Internet instead of a licensed therapist! That's never failed me before!

>>7648357
Probably. So what?
>people are attracted to attractive people

>>7648366
It all comes down to my point that a 25yo virgin female must be really ugly.

If she was just shy it wouldn't be a problem.

>friend shows me cosplaying
>invites me to a con, says i dont have to dress up or anything
>he does, of course
>think it looks silly
>get to con
>EVERYONE is dressed in costumes
>it's actually pretty cool when it's not just one person
>want to get into it
So, where and when are some cons in the Phoenix, Arizona area?

>>7648348
Shyness and autism are completely separate things, too. Many spergs aren't shy at all, just socially awkward. Shy spergs are more pleasant to be around imo because they have more self-awareness.

>>7648374
Yeah. Most guys aren't going to not bang a girl just because she's shy - there has to be something else going on (like being ugly or crazy), probably.

>>7648328

Man, I hate dicks too but I love my bf. I feel you so much.

>>7648382
I wouldn't bang a shy girl, not because she's shy, but because I'd be worried about how she would feel if someone of the opposite gender wanted to bang.

>>7648374
I'm pretty average really.
I'm from a mexican family, all my cousins already have 1-2 kids and half aren't married while most of their SOs didn't bother staying around. I really forced myself to stay away from relationships until I was in my twenties, I just didn't really want to make stupid mistakes like I had seen my family do. I guess I just got kinda busy for a while and just didn't really care until I realize how much older I am now and I think it's time to try to have a relationship with someone. The last guy I was going out with was extremely shy but he ended up moving away and I wasn't about to follow him.

>tfw you can't get a gf. Not that I haven't had any before, but now that I'm anti-social I can't talk to anyone who doesn't like anime or science/science fiction.
>No job (believe me I tried) for monies to go on a date.
>Can't go to the con I go every year.
>Can't find a sugar momma.

What do?

good god, what a waste of a board.

>>7646349

>Only date assholes
>Wonder why you get treated like shit

Bait or just retard?

Sometimes I really hate living in new york.

>all international parcels always wind up in JFK
>takes fucking forever
>AP dress has been stuck there for the past three days
UGH. It's so congested there.

>>7648420
I know how you feel anon. It's weird because all my boyfriend's figures and anime stuff comes faster than my clothes.

>>7648309
A lot of the ADHD medication is hit or miss. I've started with Ritalin, moved to Concerta, tried Dexedrine for two years, and now I recently started Modafinil, which is working amazingly (treats ADHD, depression, and bipolar all in one).

>>7647558
Well here goes then, fucking story of my life.

>Parents divorced when I was 14
>Had a great relationship with my dad, did stuff together all the time
>Mom always acted like I was a nuisance, still estranged to this day
>Dad got custody of me, and we moved out of state
>Had some great friends in middle school in Texas, had to start all over for high school in New Mexico
>Late bloomer as fuck, only just then do I go through puberty
>Make a total mockery of myself, end up going through all of high school with literally no friends
>Dad had severe MS, it progressed to the point where I had to take care of him every day
>He was bedridden almost all of the time, the only time he ever left the house was to go to church every sunday
>Always insisted on going, even as he got really bad, both he and my mom were extremely religious
>Going to church ended up being one of the only ways we bonded before he passed away
>It happened just after graduation, he had to be in a wheelchair with an oxygen tank because he had severe pneumonia
>Seeing to his affairs and dealing with my mom takes up the entire summer
>Go to college for creative writing, not really smart enough for science, writing is only skill
>Try to make friends, blank slate and all
>Have crippling social anxiety
>Just keep to myself like I had for the last five years
>Say "fuck it" one night and go to a party
>Get blackout drunk and wake up in bed with another man
>Suddenly go through massive identity crisis over whether or not I'm gay
>Eventually decide that I am
>Realize Dad would've hated me if he had known I was gay
>Torn between abandoning church because obvious reasons, or staying and not letting go to some of the last good memories I have of Dad.
>Stop going to church
>Life moves on for over a year, still a social retard with no friends
>Get diagnosed with depression, take an SSRI for a week
>Makes me feel completely emotionally dead, never take it again

>>7648418
Fuck off virgin scum. I can date whoever I want.

>>7648495
>Eventually make friends through Steam, one in particular lets me gush about all of my problems to her and always gives me advice, I take it to heart and she's never been wrong about anything
>Christmastime last year, day before my birthday, and I fall down icy steps and break my ankle
>Classmate helps me into his car, and drives me to the hospital
>He sticks around the entire time to make sure I'm alright, even drives me back home
>Try to talk to him a few times, can't hold any small talk for longer than a minute
>"So Anon, do you play video games?"
>Oh hell yes motherfucker I play video games, start acting like I'm on /v/ and end up having an argument with him over Metroid Other M
>Never realize that I'm suddenly able to talk to a guy
>He's super cute, he ends up hanging out with me even more that day
>Start to get my first real crush
>He helps me all the time with shopping and getting to class, they put a metal heel on my cast but my balance was shit so I still needed a crutch, he got one for me, more stuff like that
>We spend Christmas together watching the marathon of A Christmas Story and almost-cuddling
>He always acts really affectionately, begin to wonder if he reciprocated my feelings at all
>As time went on, was pretty sure he did, but never came out to him about being gay, nor did he ever say anything about it himself
>Eventually ask him if he was interested in me at all
>Worst fucking mistake ever
>He gets angry and flustered and leaves while I spaghetti all over him about how I'm gay
>Call and text him a few times, never get any reply
>A few days later I have my cast taken off finally, kinda sad because we had planned to go together
>Oh well, whatever, just another personal relationship that I've ruined
>Get a drunk call from him at like 1AM
>Can't understand a word he's saying through all the slurring

>>7648501
>As it turns out he was on his way over to my place
>He lets himself in with a key I gave him
>Doesn't even say a word to me before beating me and forcing himself on me
>Weak guy, and my balance was shot from not moving my ankle for months, so I was completely helpless
>Just end up crying myself to sleep on the floor
>The next day I talk to my one online friend about it, she goes off the handle and yells at me over Skype about how I always have some problem I need her help with
>She unfriends me on everything
>Cue month-long heavy drinking fit
>Sober up somewhat, start thinking about what happened
>Rationalize what happened, come to the conclusion that it's mostly not his fault
>Have huge crisis again, wonder if it was all some sort of punishment from God for being gay
>Drink whenever the thought comes up
>Start to think about it less, everything seems to work out until I end up back in public
>Any time I'm near another man I can't stop worrying about whether or not they're going to rape me
>Social anxiety is now through the fucking roof because I flinch and cower away from people when they ask me questions
>Everybody almost certainly thinks I'm retarded
>Con's coming up
>Have absolutely no idea how I'm going to cope with being in a crowd

>>7646571
I recognize those fish and that clock tower! Esther Short Park!

>>7647655
No, I'm pretty sure it's just a bad thing when anyone does it, but especially when they're fucking proud of it.

>>7648328
I feel you, anon. I don't so much hate dicks as I have a hard time just giving BJs in the first place. I have a bad gag reflex and my jaw always gets super sore after even a minute or two, not to mention that my arm muscles are shit so I can't even jack him off properly. I feel bad, because I love him but hate giving him BJs.

>>7648309
>Be me
>Acquire ADHD diagnosis
>Refuse to take meds
Welp, work is hard but I can do it, I just constantly have to set myself reminders.

>>7648418
>gr8 b8 m8 i r8 8/8

>>7648504
You are not at fault at all my friend, the fucker had his own sexual orientation crisis, and wasn't ready for his own self hate. He ended up taking it out on you, and that's not cool at all. Fuck him, you should've sued his ass.

I feel for you, people shouldn't have to go through this shit.

>>7648504
Dude, it's 110% his fault. You should press charges.

>get into somewhat prestigious university after a shitty year
>chosen degree is known for being hard as fuck
>pass around half of my classes with alright grades
>retake exams, most grades pending, definitely going to fail at least a couple of subjects

I don't know whether should feel good or bad, seagulls. I mean, I tried really hard but ended up not getting any real results. I even considered changing degrees.

>>7646997
You're going to be the saddest single person in your life. Still funny though.

>>7647523
I legit teared up, thank you. You `are incredibly sweet and I hope good things start coming your way so you can get a proper diagnosis and treatment. sending e-hugs.

>>7648517
This.

Men are at fault for everything.

>>7646997
>>7647005
>>7648523
Are you fucking shitting me?

>/fit/
>having sex with a girl
>AND dumping her

Here's the real story behind that post:

>anon sees cute girl
>imagines life with her
>girl walks away in the meantime
>anon is depressed
>he posts a fake story about him not being a virgin loser on /cgl/, the board where he goes to talk to girls, so as to feel like he's not total sewer waste

>>7648541
>at the end of the day, he was the one heartbroken

>>7648546
Do virgin men even have hearts?

>>7648536
What the fuck are you talking about...

>>7648549
Don't touch me, you male scum.

>>7648197
I don't understand what facebook is for. Is it supposed to be like a personal blog?

Is it supposed to be like a diary?

Why would anyone care about someone talking about how shitty their life is?

>>7648551
You're the worst kind of person, but you're on 4chan, so you aren't that bad. I wonder what happened to you in life.

>>7646349
We accept the love we think we deserve, Anon.

You deserve so much more, you just haven't learned to see it, and until you do, please, please, remain single. Even if the guy is super hot. It won't work out, because you aren't ready.

*hugs* from a regular /adv/isor

>>7648517
It's been about half a year since it happened, it's too late for that.

>>7648514
I still exacerbated it way more than I should have, it wouldn't have happened if I had even the slightest idea how to talk about sexual stuff.

>>7648568
Even saying "I'm gay", the most plain way you could say something, is not a fucking social crime. It wasn't your fault, keep that shit out of your head.

Anyway, my first time at a con made me even shyer, but I started loosening up the next few times, maybe you'll get out of your shell once you've been around people more often. I'm not saying try to force yourself, but do it in increments. The majority of people aren't as bad as you think.

>>7648321
>>7648348
>>7648357
they exist, it happens

>be 21 virgin
>shy guy, always been all my life
>could have lost it when I was 15 when she so forwardly asked me to fuck
>of course pussy out and back out of every situation once it gets sexual since
>always told I'm cute by cute girls and they tell friends they like me and to talk to them
>don't do anything every time
>always improving appearance, ripped six pack and the likes
>getting hit on by strangers isn't unusual
>friends don't believe I'm a virgin

my life is one huge spaghetti story and guys would kill for the situations I end up in, but I'm working on my shyness problem

>>7647130
In a way I wish, I have a lot of friends who are like that and are super confident, but it pains me to say this - they can be fucking annoying.

They're the worst of the gay man stereotype, loud, obnoxious, talk girly (and I say that as French speaker), listen to different music, are loud, get laid every day almost...
...And in a way I wish I was like that because they really are good people, and they don't give a single fuck what people think of them, and they seem to have fun 24/7 while I sit on my balcony all day and watch Moroccans yelling at women (not that I agree with that, they just tend to do it a lot).

But it's so scary and I'm not that kind of person, I always go think "ohgodpleasedon'thateme" when I try to act like them and I just really want someone to cuddle with and listen to shitty dadmusic, and I thought I had that and now I don't anymore and I'm really sad

I'm so sorry for the blog post, I needed to tell this to someone and calling my parents wasn't exactly optimal as they don't really know my sexual orientation and are Catholic so I'd rather keep it that way.

>TL;DR nothing interesting

>BFF of 7 years started acted like a bitch 2 months ago for no reason (tried to ask her about it, she didn't answer)
>Then said that she'll move out and will ditch the whole lease on me
>Tried to make me sign the lease assignment to my own name while I was under the influence, when confronted her about it answered "how would I know"
>Since the lease renewed itself with her name, she was seeking legal advice and wanted to blow this to the Board instead of finding someone else to replace her
>Out of good heart I found her someone
>I even helped her out moving some of her stuffs, no thanks, no anything, just 2 months of passive agressive bitchiness and condescending attitudes
>told the landlord everything and now he wants me to gtfo because "I'm trouble, he doesn't want to do anything with it"
>mfw she finally moved her fatass away today
>mfw I suddenly lost my cat, she's probably somewhere in the building or god damn knows where
>mfw same thing happened last year, she fell through the balcony and I had to bring her to emergency
Life is so unfair, /cgl/, and now all I can do is weeping on my bed while waiting for the printing shop to print the missing cat poster

>>7648641
That sucks, anon. Do you have any idea why your friend is acting like that? Any changes in her life/circumstances?

>lend money 1,5 month ago to one of my best friends for a bag she wanted to buy because I trust her
>she promised she would pay me back in 3 instalments
>today is the first instalment
>told me she would have to leave early today so she wouldn't be able to pay in the morning
>just see this evening she'll be going to spain
>mfw better pay before you leave

really, it might seem nitpicking, but she's very lax when it comes to promises and money. she pays in the end alright, but she thinks it's a fun game to let me waiting.

I just don't know what I should think of her anymore. the past year she just gets more and more on my nerves with her lax attitude.

>>7648658
She said she was just helding a grudge against me without explaining why.
Things just escalated from there.
Anyways, she jumps from one friend to the next. She was living with a friend for 2 years for free, then we got an apartment together, and now after her sobstory she's moving in with another friend.

>>7648197
Awesome awesome awesome.

>>7648504
I wish I could hug you, Anon. I really do.

>>7648568
>I still exacerbated it way more than I should have
No, Anon. You would never have done that to him had the roles been reversed. You are not at fault.

>>7648548
Doubt it.

>>7646883
as a male I see that to be too forced and sounds like a joke.
>>7646879
anon talk like you are or want to be friends with benefits with the person you want the d from. you should talk to them like your hitting on them before asking for it. hope they aren't in a relation ship but try to get the person to go to your hotel room or where ever your staying. specifically ask if they are bored, are at the con with someone, trying to meet some people, etc. you need to warm up to the person and imply before being blunt when asking for it.

>>7646327
>going to MCM
>see this post
>too scared to post cosplay anywhere
>tfw im a fucking retard

>>7648788
Seriously, the fb group is such a shitfest. It's mostly people posting selfies and such. Idk which one you're going to, but the quality (and percentage) of cosplay at the London one has been steadily declining since they rebranded to London ComicCon and started doing mainstream stuff.

> you normalfags get off my lawn!

>>7648798
Going to manchester luckily then again I have to go to manchester so thats the downside still makes me a massive fucking pussy tho.

>>7648171
Soto

>>7647116
anon I can tell you just a bit of advise. treat your driving like a boring mundane task and get a comfortable it the car as possible.
also anon natural talent is bullshit. let me tell you something anon, people who you think are naturally talented are only talented because they were already gaining experience that complemented their talent wether or not they knew it. anon if you want to get anywhere with a aspiration or hobby you need to find ways to expose your self to it and allocate time to learning more about it.

>>7648636
Anon it's okay, there's nothing wrong with you.
You weren't the guy for him, and really he should have left it at that rather than making it a huge personal attack.
Personally I wish there more Dad-core styled twink kinds about, I know exactly what you're talking about with the stereotypes and I personally prefer a feminine man who is like a bookish English rose or something; prince-like.
I can't be the only one who feels that way so please don't try to fit yourself into some stereotypical box for a quick way to a false feeling.
You'll not feel up to it right now, but try to keep meeting new people prefably in an environment where people might share your hobbies/music tastes.

>>7648104
The problem isn't the fact that games have "Unrealistic standards" because there are always going to be people who are considered more attractive than everyone else. There are always going to be ugly people too. Instead of all the focus being on improving how close the attractive fictitious people are to the real attractive people, how about telling people that it's just not important. Yeah, you're ugly but who gives a shit. You can still be happy.

>>7648313
No, the guy who outlined ADD/ADHD came out and said it was all a scam on his deathbed. He literally made it up so he could prescribe kids medication more easily. Why do you think so many people are diagnosed with it, why the symptoms are so widespread, normal and vague?

>>7648282
ADD and ADHD are learning disabilities. IE a medical condition. what you said anon is like saying autism is not a "real" medical condition. its like you don't know the definition of the word medical condition.
>>7648309
you were probably on the wrong dosage. also ADD and ADHD medication are supposed to help you focus more or less in order to even how focused you are to what you can work with. you were hyper focused because the dosage was too high if it were lowered then you would be feeling less of the effect. this is why they have check ups on medication anon.

>>7648941
source?

>>7648989
Google it and there are thousands of results.

>>7649042
all I'm getting is a book by Dr Richard Saul. also the book its self talks about missdiagnosage of ADD and ADHD medication and he fucked up how DSM works and is supposed to be used and also speaks only about DSM and DSM 2. witch aren't used anymore and we are on DSM 5 now. by the way ADHD was not outlined by a single person and none of which I found saying what you said.

>>7649042
anon I feel like your baiting.

>>7647949
meanwhile I've always felt terrible for having a complete sausagefest for like six years. I actually don't make many friends at cons, it's actually more like I meet people from my old high school and we discover we were into the same things all along. it's funny, because had I been more outgoing back then, we could have all had so much more fun and done this sooner. when I realize this, I learn that I never had anything to be afraid about and that I should have just been myself since the beginning

>>7648548
You, know. At first, I was offended, but I realize I don't feel like I have much of a heart anymore.
>First crush is actually a crazy bitch.
>Tells me she never cared about me and I'm pathetic.
>Get rejected by every other girl I pursue for the rest of high school.
>Start to understand that the logical reasoning is that I, the constant, am the problem.
>Decide that I'll strive to be the best son/brother/friend because I'll never be a boyfriend.
>Start to enjoy life again.

I guess I got rid of my heart a while ago. Part of me wants to be loved though, just for the experience.

>>7649328
I'm a girl and i sorta had the same but i think the secret is really to love yourself first because if you don't do this you cannot be loved. But well i think having great friends and a family is the best thing, you don't need a lover to be really happy in life even if i think i would like to have a true, sincere love. Still not found but maybe this time will come one day and if will never come well, it's life. My heart is only for my friends but i have no heart for a lover still.

>starting to get over crippling anxiety and applying for jobs/starting up college again
>parental units (har har a 19 year old living at home) say that have a surprise for me
>follow them outside
>it's a puppy
>"anon we thought it would help teach you responsibility because you only get out of bed to shower and take your meds"
>stressed because housebreaking and cratetraining and poop scooping and obedience
>stress and anxiety boils over
>have a panic attack in the building when I'm at an interview
I feel like I sound spoiled as all hell because of the puppy, but I'm going back to crying before bed

>>7649620
Maybe you should go see a psychiatrist. I've been taking Xanax right before panic attacks and it really helps.

>A month before AX, I asked around on Facebook if any of my sewing friends could help make a Morgiana dress for me
>A friend volunteered, so I gave them all of my fabric and bought them elastic and thread to put it together
>Super ecstatic because he knows what he's doing
>Tells me to come by his house party to get it fitted
>Get to house party early to get fitted
>He asks if we can do it the next morning, I say cool
>Next morning he's too tired/not feeling well
>"Can you come back later this week?"
>Don't have a car so have to wait a whole week and a half to go over there
>Get there, "Oh anon, you didn't get my Facebook message? I have to be at work in 15 minutes."
>My boyfriend is frustrated as he drove me all the way over
>I say, "Don't worry about it I guess, but can you do me a favor and sew this simple seam for me?"
>"Yeah anon, no problem. I'll have them both ready for you at the Cosplay Meetup in two days."
>"Cool, see ya there!"
>Wait at meetup for 6 hours, he never shows up
>Turns out he had a family emergency and couldn't make it
>I understood, and asked if I could pick it up sometime before the convention (3 days prior)
>He said he wouldn't be at the house for a few days but that one of his housemates could find it for me and I could come over and get it
>Convince my boyfriend to take me over there but need confirmation that the housemates will be there to give it to me
>No response
>Call only housemate I have number for
>"Oh, I'll see what I can find for you, let me call you back in a minute."
>An hour later, no response and neither of them is picking up
>An hour before I'm supposed to be leaving to my friends house to sleep before early flight I see him posting on Facebook
>"HEY, CALL ME."
>He finally responds, only to tell me the costumes have been ruined by cat pee in his absence.
>FML
>I'm out two whole costumes because of this issue

I'M CRYING.

>>7648495
>>7648501
>>7648504
Anon I'm so fucking sorry to hear that you had to go through all that. Please don't blame yourself as rape is never ever the victim's fault.
I suggest you look into getting professional help, like therapy, to help you get over what happened and your social anxiety. Also, depending on the laws of where you're located, it might not be too late to report that fucker.
My heart goes out for you anon. I wish I could help you in some way.

>>7649456
Girl here, I'm in that phase too. Plenty love for my friends and me, but I think I might be ready for a bf at he same time I don't want to walk that road.

>>7650289
Me too, issue is i was rejected a lot or i attract not compatible people so i prefer to not waste too much energies to find a bf.