/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>7655694
I'll start off

>Community size?
Around 100 active members

>online groups?
Two facebook groups, one has older veterans of the fashion in it and the other caters more for special snowflakes types. It's actually harder to join the snowflake comm as the admin doesn't like girls who look better than her.

>Meet-ups?
Most are casual with more expensive planned meets for christmas and easter

>Something I'd change?
I'd love to do a new member meet-up where people interested in the fashion could come along and talk to some of the older girls who'd be willing to help newbies out. I'm in talks with the mods of the group so we might be starting that after the con season or next year

pic unrelated, just a group shot from google

My local cosplay community is planning a flashmob. It's 2014. The song with the most votes is caramelldansen.

>>7657202
Never got the fascination of this middle-school-Swedish-disco-song from 2001

I danced to this I was nine, sure. But still in 2014... really world... Really?

>Arizona
I love how friendly everyone is and I've made some of my best friends through this fashion. The comm makes an effort to plan interesting and fun meetups at least monthly, and a lot of work goes into making our con tea parties welcoming and exciting.

Something I hate... well, I don't really hate it, I've just gotten to a point where I'm sick of seeing the same questions asked over and over even though we have a fairly comprehensive FAQ pinned on the facebook page.

Something that would make things better would be if more people tried their hand at planning meetups. Generally it's the same few girls who organize and host meetups, and while there's nothing wrong with the way they do things, people have suggested unique ideas for stuff we could do that never really came to fruition because no one stepped up to plan it. And I heard that the main couple of girls who used to plan meets are getting kind of burnt out.

We had a drama-chan stirring up shit here for a couple months, but it's died down now. I promise to anyone who was thinking of joining that it's worth your time! Everyone is great and sweet and even if someone rubs you the wrong way for whatever reason, it's a big enough group that it's not hard to just avoid a person.

>>7655694
I was wondering how many meet-ups does your comm organize? Every month or more often? Or are there no regular meet-ups? There are a few girls who organize meet-ups in my comm. Unfortunately meet-ups are often cancelled recently and the 'maybe' culture is annoying. I hope people will decide sooner when they want to attend a meet-up instead of cancelling a day before.

>>7657205
Mfw people think it's japanese

>>7657357
Does people really think that? For real?

Never thought it was that bad...

>>7657224
Agreed! Some of my best friends were meet through the community!
Pretty annoyed with the influx of noob but it's summer what ya gonna do.
As far as the meet thing, not only is it a small handful of people doing the planning, but when someone new trys to plan anything a lot of people won't show up. nothing is worse then waiting at a location for an hour by yourself and no one shows up despite there being 10going and 15maybes on the event page

>>7657202
weebs unite?

I'm from a southeastern comm and I have a mostly-love-but-a-little-hate relationship with it. We have a lot of surprisingly well dressed girls who are fun-loving and like to do out-of-box type meets, but stuff has soured little recently. There is one person that I wish we could just trade with a different comm; she is kind of a shit-stirrer and a control freak. We know she does a lot of shitty things, but hides behind plausible deniability. She has been latching on a lot of newbs lately because other people who have been around a long time are getting tired of her manipulations, so maybe she will start her own comm.

Honestly, I'm starting to think that is what will make things better. (Sorry for the brain vomit.)

Bump

anyone have any meet-up horror stories

The one thing that would make a lot of communities better (but will never happen) would be if newer and younger members would lurk a bit more and actually listen to the advice and guidance of older comm members instead of flouncing when things don't go their way etc.

>>7658246
Not a horror story but I'm so sick of people who rsvp to an event and then don't show up. :(

It's so rude.

>>7658879
That or more than RSVP'd show up... to something like a restaurant or show, where seating is limited.

>>7658879
I hate this so much!

Even worse is when you have a pre-paid event, people give you money for their ticket, then proceed to not go to the event or contact you prior about it and want their money back.

The excuse 9 times out of 10 is 'I didn't have anything to wear'
Bitch, the event page had been up for over a month, you got no excuses.

>>7658879
>>7658892
Any event I do that has a deposit put down in advance (ie: most tea houses require this), I specifically state that it is non-refundable, regardless of the reason you don't show up. I've never had a complaint and I've only had one person flake on me, and it was because she wrote down the wrong date.

>>7658952
I do something similar and have a general terms & condition for the meets I hold.
Anyone have anything similar?

Mine include the usual regarding payments but I do include notes about behaviour, smoking and drinking. We've some young ones who think it's edgy to smoke and get drunk around everyone no matter what the meet is.

>>7658959
We haven't had any issues with anything like that. The girls who do smoke (I can only think of maybe two?) either wait until the meet is over, or are considerate enough to go somewhere away from the others. As far as drinking goes, that only occurs at smaller meets where everyone is of age.

Behaviour is a lot harder to control, but most people are know not to be idiots.

I'm honestly tired of my comm. Every time I go to a meet I try to look nice and well-dressed, but everyone just shows up in casual or takes non-loli friends along. I try to organize interesting meets, but all the other meets are just "lel let's go here and have a drink and take some pics idk". I'm tired of investing time and money into this and I'll probably just become a lone lolita.

I enjoy my comm, everybody is well dressed and lovely people. We're almost like a big family, everybody is so sweet. But recently a new ita joined and started going to meetups, and nobody knows how to deal with her. She never says anything, even when we basically try to force her into the conversation. She dresses awfully and is a sore spot on all our group photos, but when we try to give her tips on where to get nice clothes, she says it's too expensive, even though we all saw that she bought her ita dress for more money than what a nice taobao dress would cost WITH shipping. She's making us all so uncomfortable since she makes no effort to get to know the group. Also, she is the biggest flake ever, and will change her mind at least 5 times about going to an event (not even kidding) before deciding to not go to our limited seating meet on the same day.
What do /cgl/? How do we deal with this situation?

What are the benefits to a comm other than people who share the interest? Do any of you girls actually become good friends outside of dressing in lolita?

>Size
Somewhere around 40 active members
>Meet-ups
Maybe one or two a month
>Something I would change
I like my comm for the most part but... I have only been active for about 4 months, and while I have been a lolita longer, I feel very secluded. I try to engage and talk but its not really reciprocated by many.
I don't know, its weird. I guess they just don't like me.
Also, there are maybe 10~ good lolitas. By good, I mean they dress decently, know what brand is, know the basics, ect. I am not stuck up (I think) but a majority of the others dress like poop. Like a claires tutu and denim jackets and replicas from that ebay shop. I really want to help them, in a positive way but I am scared if I try I will get yelled at for being a brand whore or thinking I am better when I just want to help them enjoy what lolita can really be.

There is also 2 ish people that post about the comm religiously on these threads and sometimes btb that make the whole comm freak out. Since I am new and don't really talk much I am so scared everyone thinks its me. I mean yeah obviously I am here but I don't post shit, I have been put through that kind of stuff before and I wouldn't feel right doing it to someone else, I just like to read about general gossip and the feels threads.
uhg I feel like my comm could be so much, but there are a tiny group holding us back and I can't do anything about it.

>>7659113
Did you even read the thread? Yes, actually because I got into lolita as I was entering college and severing ties with high school frenemies, nearly all my friends now are lolitas or interested in lolita. And we hang out outside of lolita and do fun stuff regularly. It's also wonderful to have people to share juicy gossip and news with, and do GO's and shit. Plus, even though I no longer really stress about being a lone loli, when I was first starting off in the fashion it was very important to me to be with a group of girls because I'm fairly shy and interaction with normalfags made me spaghetti up. I wouldn't trade my comm for all the burando in the world.

My comm is somewhat dead.
They always try to organize meets halfassed, most of the time nobody shows up, even though there are a lot lolitas around here.
And then there's a girl who seems to had some beef with the comm and tries to organize meets on her own now. Problem is her meets are like huge events with way too much happening in one day. At least there a quite a few girls who attend her meets, even though she seems to be not well liked.
It really is confusing and frustrating for me.

I think my comm are leaving me out of things.
It's my fault for being so quiet, I don't want to go to things unless I'm invited.

>>7659252
I am like you.
I just got close to one girl and she invites me to everything, maybe you could try that?

>>7659113
I became really close friends with my comm. There's a few girls in the comm who aren't as close with the most active members, but it's because they're not as active, don't share as many interests, have their own lives and friends. etc.
>>7659252
There's a girl in our comm who has started being left out of things, but it's because she never comes to meetups, never tries to ask what we're doing or talk to anyone on the comm page, etc. Also, if your comm's meetups aren't public to the whole comm, maybe it's not meetups you're missing and rather friends hanging out?

>One of the SoCal comms

>Size
Around 30 regular members that go to events frequently, plus outliers/visitors.

>Meet-ups
Usually two to three times a month, but lately it's been sparse because the people that usually plan events are in a cosplay group together and working on stuff for AX/Comic-Con.

Usually it's stuff like picnics and restaurant or tea house meets. A lot of the core members are friends outside of Lolita, too, so there are often small informal get-togethers as well.

>Something I would change
More meets would be nice, but during the rest of the year things are better. Less picnics/outdoor meetups and more nicer, indoor stuff. I think they tend to organize stuff that are cheap so that as many people as possible can participate, but it would be nice if there was more variety.

Overall, I love my comm. It has some faults, but the main girls/leaders are all really nicely dressed, and are very helpful to newbies. Most new itas don't stay very bad for long because of this, which is nice.

Also, we (meaning core regulars) can come across as clique-ish sometimes because they do stuff together outside of Lolita, but we do our best to be inclusive at big meetups.

>>7659096
Tell it straight to her I'd say, don't baby her. At least show her where and how to get cheap dresses. If she gets butthurt or refuses to listen, kick her out.

>>7655694
Comm size: couple hundred? We're the only comm in a small country so every lolita joins our comm. We're unofficially pretty much devided though, every meetup we at some point split into two groups, one 20 and younger and the other 20+.
Online group: just the fb page. There's an official comm website thing but it's long dead, probably because the joining there is more like a military screening about you, your looks, what you like and dislike, added photos, interest, whatnot.

Meetups: pretty often and varying well.

Something I'd change: we're...too kind. Many members are babying the itas.

I've been to a comm meet once. It supposedly has "300-500" members, so imagine how many are salvageable. I was hoping being a part of a comm would help motivate me and make me look better, but I think I'll just stick to lurking cgl since 80% of the girls look like shit.

My comm is about 50 members, with meets every month or so.

We have a nice variety of expensive, formal meet-ups and cheap/relaxed activities, with meets on average once a month.

Ages range from about 15-30 roughly, members of all sizes and budgets, and for the most part we dress pretty well. No embarrassing itas, there's another comm in the country for that.

We keep a low profile online, just an LJ comm and a Facebook group.

>Something I'd change?
I'd like our dormant members to either come out or step off, I've been a part of the comm since there were five of us and there's still a dozen or so people I've never met.

The other thing I'd change would be he fact that the ita comm has the more easily-searchable name. Fuck those guys, it's the ONE time when being a basic bitch pays off.

My comm is pretty chill. I'm friends with a few of them outside of lolita. We have about 300 members. Only about 30-40 of them are really active.
We are a southern comm so we're really not active in the summer because it gets in the high 90's outside. Which is not good for anyone in layered frills.

Not a whole lot of drama besides a spat here and there. We had one girl causing a ton of trouble but the mods finally grew a back bone and kicked her out.

Reading all these stories of groups that are great except for That One Person is a shame. I wish there was some kind of lolita tradition, where every year people vote to kick one person in the group out, like the Lottery except not random. Maybe you could even have a meet centered around it and pelt the loser with cheap raschel lace accessories and milanoo headbows.

I'm in the Metroplex Lolita group and everyone I've met has been so nice and inviting. I haven't had a chance to go to very many meet ups because I don't have a full wardrobe yet (I'm hoping I'll have one in time for one at the end of August I'm looking forward to). All I really need is a petticoat but by the time I'd have enough money to order one it probably wouldn't get here in time.

I'm really looking forward to getting to know everyone in the comm since so many of them are so sweet. I'm friends with a few of them on facebook but haven't gotten a whole lot of opportunities to hang out with them irl.

But yeah, overall, it's a great comm, there's no drama that I know of either

>>7659252
I feel the same way. I did plan a meetup for my birthday and so far 3 people have said they're attending on facebook and 3 are maybe. I hope It goes well...

>>7658892
>The excuse 9 times out of 10 is 'I didn't have anything to wear'

I hate to play devil's advocate, but with how toxic the online community for lolitas can be, I'd be worried about having the right outfit to wear too. I get nervous before every meet because "oh fuck what if someone takes a picture of me and I get posted in an ita thread?" or "What if everyone in the comm gossips about me afterwards and I get ostracized?"

That being said, paying then flaking, then asking for a refund is a dick move.

>>7660229
If you've really got that much anxiety about what other people think about you, lolita is probably not the best fashion to be involved in. Catty comm members aside, the general public thinks we're all a bunch of fetishists, attentionwhores, and livingdoll lunatics, so being concerned about a bit of gossip is rather silly, imo.

We've had people back out of meets because they were too worried about potential harassment to wear their outfits on public transportation. And honestly, I'd consider THAT a more acceptable excuse than "oh, cgl might pick on me if I don't wear the exact right shoes with this new coord!"

>>7660244
not OP, but in psychologically, people usually care more about fitting in with a group of their peers rather than with society as a whole. I don't think OP is worried about the general public, just the people he/she wants to fit in with. It's like starting a new job and being worried that your coworkers won't like you.

>>7660229
It's not like a crippling anxiety, just a little nagging nervousness in the back of my mind. and I agree with what >>7660255 said about the peer thing

>>7660229
I'm the anon you responded too, It's more that some members are very lazy. We've had new girls who've started this year build up a few outfits around the same dress or basic bodyline co-ords.

The girls who give me these excuses just leave it to the last minute or severely under estimate how much effort goes into a co-ord.
Some do have the mind set that you mentioned though, they assume you have to have the latest release dress.
I don't know if there's much you can do to change their minds

>>7660172
omg

I deleted all my reaction images but just so you know I snorted

>>7655708
Why is there a dude?

>>7660330
Uuuhhhh... brolita? Or maybe a boyfriend? Lolita isn't some "No Boys Allowed" exclusive club.

>>7660330
Once in a while we pick an unsuspecting male and sacrifice their blood to the Lolita gods and sell their organs to black market traders to afford more burando.

Jokes aside, some guys wear lolita too, but not all of them do it well.

>>7660330
Besides brolitas, there is also Ouji fashion, the male "matching" fashion to Lolita (boys and girls can wear this).

>>7660330
He's there to carry bags, make tea, and hold your parasol. Duh.

>>7660209
was that meet planned or something? I've never seen a comm with so many lolis in hats.

>>7660508
I'm not sure. I wasn't in the comm when that meetup happened. I don't believe it was though.

>>7660337
>>7660409
>>7660418
>>7660422
Boys are into this?

>>7660544
Breaking news, some boys like things that don't fit into the male stereotype.

>>7660544
You must be a Republican

>>7660565
>>7660628
Boys shouldn't wear dresses

>>7660668
pls go

>>7659290
I think I'm in this community. I really do wish we could do more inside activities. Especially since the next few months are the hottest of the year.
>tfw your community finally plans a museum meet, and you really want to go. But you already had other plans that day.

>>7660209
this picture had floated around the internet so much. I'm just glad I look alright in it or else I would be pissed.

>>7657356
Every time I see a "Maybe" on the guest list, I automatically assume they mean "No." I've never had a "Maybe" turn into a "Yes."

I think it you put yourself down as "No" on Facebook, it prevents you from seeing any new messages or notifications about an event. This means you won't be notified if the event changes dates or locations. So if the event changes to a time when you'd actually be able to attend, you won't know about it if you already put yourself down as No.

>>7660668
girls shouldn't wear pants

>>7659964
Dutch comm?

>>7660668
The guy in that image isn't even wearing a dress though.

>>7662428
but he has an ugly fucking mustache.

>>7662217
I always put myself as maybe at first because if a meet is planned vaguely in the future I cannot commit as I wont know until sooner. But I do change it to a yes or no when I am certain. But yeah I generally do see other's maybes as a no and dont expect them to come.

>>7660544
Yes? Just cause I'm a guy doesn't mean frills are any less fun.

>Comm in northeastern U.S.

>Community size?
Over 100 members, I think? Hard to say because we get a lot of influx from people in nearby cities. The group is also really fractured and clique-y.

>Meet-ups?
No public meetups anymore. Every once in a while, a random noob will try their hand at making a meetup, and attendance is always dismal. People complain about the lack of quality meetups, but comm mods always respond that it's not their responsibility to host meetups.

>Something I'd change?
My comm has too much of an established system of cliques. Comm mods have severely poor leadership abilities and don't really care. I'd love for the established order of things to get shaken up and changed, but I doubt the mods will give up their roles since they're the founders of the community.

>>7662448
He's in "disguise." It's the guy who does the deerstalker videos. He wears dresses sometimes, but for comedic effect. I was all jazzed to post the most pic related reaction gif but someone beat me to it in another thread >>7660636

>>7660036
Either this is very similar to mine, or the same one.

I really like my comm, I've only been in it since around October and I've become pretty good friends with a good few of them. It sucks that so few people actually come out though, I love the ones who come to meets regularly and most people are very well dressed, far better than I am, but it would be nice to meet the people who sit silently on the FB group.

We actually have very little drama as well, I'm grateful for that when I see the threads that go on about a single comm and all the drama! People are really friendly and tend to combat the "I have nothing to wear" problem by lending things or just re-stating that you don't HAVE to wear lolita to come and hang out with us if you can't that day.

I agree about the easily searchable name though, if I hadn't been snapped up by chance there's a likelihood that I would have ended up finding the other comm..

>>7660172
Executions? They're still legal right?

>>7664943
Yeah hey gurl, we're bros.

>>7664945
Why do I get the feeling I'm witnessing the birth of Effie Trinket?
Every year, every major comm around the world must submit their worst dressed and most weeaboo members for a televised fight to the death.

>>7665519
I would definitely watch that.

I like my community a hell of a lot better when the summerfag age players go back into hiding. A couple days ago a 50 years old woman from my area posted that she wanted to be a "Hello Kitty" lolita (Even though she knows cat ears are looked down on, she might just have to break the rules teehee lol). Then today someone asked the entire comm where she could find little girls Sailor Moon panties.

Luckily the normal year round members are all pretty good.

I'm really sick of members in my comm complaining about having to have a brand item to attend a brand tea party. No, it's not elitist, just shut up.

So I might be moving to San Diego and I'm sort of wonderin what the comm is like there. Fairly active? Any juicy drama? If anyone knows, I'd love to hear.

>>7665867
Active, with two or three meets most months (less right now because of all the cons). Low drama, but can come across as clique-ish because the mods and core members are all friends outside of Lolita. Overall one of the better (if not best) SoCal comms.

>>7665942
That's good to hear. How many members? Decently dressed?

>>7665956
Core group of about 15-20, the majority are well-dressed with some newbies and ita outliers. All four of the mods dress well, but two are definitely better than basically everyone else. Most common style in the comm is classic/borderline sweet.

>>7665976
Ohh that's my favorite style! Well, thanks for all that info. Are you from there, I'm guessing?

>>7665976
I decided to stalk the FB comm photos...

>>7666011
>>7666016
Yup! The comm is private, but the mods are pretty good about approving people quickly. The public page has some pics, too.

>>7659113
I was the lone weeb in my group of friends who still actively watches anime and reads manga, so I was super excited to find some girls who actually stay up to date with new series. In the past, I always had to go to conventions by myself and was super awkward and lonely. Now that I have some girls in my comm to walk around with, I have a buffer against creepers and have tons more fun. That being said, I'm pretty much an active member of the comm.

>>7659252
Are you in the facebook group? All events are automatically inviting everyone in the group so you should get a notification about it. Otherwise, it's just good friends hanging out on the side.

>>7660172
That One Person is the ita who's been into lolita forever but still dresses like shit (but mostly accepted because she is an naive and nice weeb)

>>7659118
your comm sounds like my comm anon

My local comm is super chill, they always welcome new people with open arms and try to get them in touch with the people who live closest to them, building the network.

I've never had to worry about creepers, either, because of this one girl. Someone told me she's autistic or something, but she must be pretty high functioning, and she's one of those people who takes no one's shit. It's like she's turned it into some kind of creepshaming super power, I once heard her joke that she has no spaghetti left to drop. Alpha as fuck.

>>7660544
Newfag detected.

>>7665671
Caps?

>>7657205
>MFW I only heard this song 4 years ago
>MFW I'm an old ass fart

My comm is crazy pro-homo. I don't hate LGBT or anything, I just can't be bothered to help homosexuals fight for their rights by posting about it online. I hate logging in to facebook to check if there are new meet ups or loli events, because LGBT SJW posts are every. fucking. where. Do they not grow tired of it themselves? More than half of my comm are just straight girls anyway it's not like they are lgbt themselves.

>>7659290
>mfw you're in my comm so I better not do any self posts on here.

>>7662417
Sounds like it.

Anyone from the dutch comm noticed there is some weird furry going to the summer meet? I looked at his profile and I see a newbie telling him he could find a princess lolita gf there...

>>7671658
Yes, I noticed. It's a lolita meet, a furry is not allowed I think. Contact the organization or one of the mods? Everyone is more alert after the incident last from last week. They will take this very serious because of that.

>>7671658

I just looked it up. Why does that girl think it's a good idea? I really don't think many lolita's will be comfortable with the idea of a furry attending, especially one one the look out for a gf. There are others on that list that seem really out of place as well. Like that old guy from last year that thinks he's a little boy.

>>7671739
The girl that invited him urged him to wear "dog ouji". Not too mention others are allowed to wear street clothes or other j-fashion styles. I just hope he won't show up.

>>7671739
Mods aren't in charge on deciding who is allowed to go to meets or not, only the organizers are. If he shows up in a fursuit he should be send away.

>>7671739
What happened last time?

In my group?
Less fat itas in replicas who order water and the cheapest appetizer and then undertip.
You know who you are.

>>7671813
I wasn't there, but apparently some guy nobody knew showed up and insulted a transgender comm member multiple times even being asked to stop. Nobody knew who he was since he didn't show with a girl who was there and questions arose why he was there in the first place.

>>7671838
Do you know if he showed up in lolita?

I remember a meet earlier this year where a brolita was incredibly rude to pretty much every one. He was terribly ita and wore cat ears and converse shoes. I want to know if it's the same guy.

>>7671843
Did the cat ear guy wear a blond, a purple/pink splitwig or no wig?

>>7671902

No wig. I know who you are referring to with the other two options, but even though they are embarrassing as well, it wasn't either of them.

>>7671621
What comm is this?

tfw can't post about comm in this thread because comm goes apeshit at any hint of anyone being on cgl

>Community size?
Chicago, so at least 200 people. Probably 50 active members.

>online groups?
Facebook and Livejournal. The Facebook is much more active, and moderated really well.

>Something I'd change?
I would honestly change the amount of effort people put into their coords. Obviously this isn't a problem that I can change, but it really sucks having an ita ruining group shots. I feel like there are a couple people who really succeed at coording well, most people are in the middle where they are hit-or-miss, and then there are the people who are hot messes.

>Something I love?
Ever since the Mods banned CancerChan, the drama has mysteriously disappeared. Rumors have really died down, and there isn't obvious hate between people. It's very nice!

>Community size?
2. No, I'm serious. 2. Me and my girlfriend. I've tried to organize at least SOMETHING but the only takers I get are people who have no idea what lolita is or know what it is and have no intention of ever actually getting into it. It really, really sucks and I fucking hate this podunk hickville. Apparently there used to be one years back but it's pretty much disappeared.

>online groups?
I made a facebook group but it's pretty much empty.

>Meet-ups?
uh

>Something I'd change?
Somebody. Anybody. I don't care if they're the hamplanetiest Hot Topic ita monstrosity, as long as it's another human being.

>Community size?
Around 150 members.

>online groups?
We've using Facebook for a while.

>Meet-ups?
They vary from casual outings from restaurants, the movie theater, gatherings at the home for Valentine's Day and the 4th July. I remember someone made a going away event for a lolita at this nice place for tea and I wished I could have gone. ;_;

>Something I'd change?
We have a rogue lolita in our comm who's been posting secrets about our members and meetups before. Photos from our meetups and of members have been posted on here too. It seems to be coming from the same person and I wished it would stop.

>>7657843
central florida comm?

>>7672363
Are you a midwest comm?

My small comm has gone dormant due mostly to apathy and distance. The leader is very inexperienced but I felt obliged to support the meets until everyone just stopped going. Then I stopped too.

Secretly, I'm glad it's not active anymore because I enjoy being a lone Lolita much more. I attend a couple of larger out-of-town cons and that's enough light Lolita socializing for me.

>>7672199
damn that's sad…

>>7672175
My one pet peeve about Chicago is actually this fake rivalry between our group and Milwaukee. I think most people are joking with the "competition" but some people take it seriously and actually think our comms hate each other. It doesn't help that Chicago is known to be fairly anti-cgl (as in, nobody admits to posting on here even though at least some of us do read it) and MKE has several known posters and at least one namefag.

>>7672443
I totally agree. I feel like Milwaukee really tries to play it up, because most "joke" mentions of it that I've seen have been from Milwaukee girls. It's silly.

And Chicago isn't anti-CGL. We're anti-posting people and talking shit on CGL. We had a lot of problems with specific members stirring shit up on here whenever possible, and it was totally unnecessary.

>Community size?
About 70 only 10 show up to meets

>online groups?
facebook

>Meet-ups?
Maybe 3 a year. In general pretty poorly attended.

>Something I'd change?
I would love to have a more actual lolitas come to meets. In the whole comm there are really only 4 or 5 girls that are recognizably dressed in lolita. The rest are ita or don't even dress in the fashion and most don't seem interseted in improving.

Has anyone ever help better their comm? The mods are both well dressed but they are too nice and let anyone join/ never give con-crit. We even have a guy who has a fetlife full of how he considers lolita his fetish and has offered for girls to come over and take pictures in his dress collection.

>>7672139
Aus comm?

>>7672412
Missouri comm?

>>7673006
That's what I was thinking, but idk if that was what anon was talking about.

>>7673012
If so, I wonder who the rogue lolita is? I'll be moving to the main city in about a month.

>>7672412
>>7673006
>>7673012
>>7673034
It's not Missouri, another state.

Funny Missouri comm has a rogue lolita too? We might be in common with the same problem.

Does the Houston Lolita Community still suck balls?

>>7671739
>incident last week
Deets? I've been thinking about joining the comm and would really appreciate any warnings on potential creeps or drama so I can avoid them better.

>>7673046
I wouldn't doubt it's a common problem. Everyone has their crazies.

It seems to have died down a little as of late, for what it's worth. But who knows.

>>7673683
An unknown guy showed up to a picnic meet and started insulting a member of the comm. The guy is now banned. Most don't usually show up, but with summer and public meets we have temporarily more itas that bring along weird people and the creeps that usually never get invited. The majority of the comm don't want them around but you can't ban them just for being weird.

>>7672199
I'll join in spirit

>>7673683
Don't worry incidents like that are not very common. I've never heard something like this happened before. Like the other anon said, the guy is banned. He will be in a lot trouble if he would show up. Drama is easily to avoid especially when you are new. There isn't much drama, sometimes between young members or it has something to do with the infamous (fallen) 'queen'.

>>7660422
like so
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WeDriLuDqx8

>>7673703
Any idea who was posting comm members?

>>7655708
You guys always look like you are having such fun. I like the photos and videos a lot.

>>7671638
Ahaha, everyone knows we're all super chill about cgl in that comm, including the mods. I wouldn't worry about it.

>>7672443

Honestly, there's no rivalry.

Chicago is better. Milwaukee was a hot goddamn mess for years, filled with itas and/or assholes with the few decent people either keeping quiet or just being independent.

In the last, I'd say 2 years, the Milwaukee lolitas have stepped up with their coords, better meetups, more people joining the community, and gotten control of the idiots. They're a fairly impressive comm now, but it wasn't always like this.

>>7660036

I was searching for this. 99% sure this is my comm.

>>7676577
milwaukee comm = nicest comm
chicago comm = best dressed comm
that shit about the "rivalry" is so true. no rivalry at all really. both are way way better than they've ever been.

but seriously milwaukee is super nice and friendly and have great mods and wonderful attitudes. i love them.

that said, in the chicago comm i wish we followed milwaukee's example and had more fun off-the-cuff cheap meets, like late night pizza or drinks. i also wish the one non-active chicago mod would step down like every other non-active mod did, last time i saw her she made everyone super uncomfortable complaining to other comm members about how the other mods don't like her. made conversation and the meet awkward as fuck. that's exactly how not to mod a comm. she doesn't even do anything besides show up to meets, she never even organizes anything.

>>7672511
Who were the shit stirrers? Are they still in the comm? I want to be apart of the Chicago comm I just don't want to get posted for some stupid flaw in my coord. I'm not the best at coord'ing and the Chicago girls seem well dressed and it's kinda of intimidating.

>>7677396
they don't nitpick, don't worry. the chicago comm is pretty nice. if you have something in your coord you're not sure about you can always talk to someone in the comm, like just ask one of the mods or a well-dressed comm member if it's ok to pick their brain about a coord.

99% of the drama left with cancerchan's ban. the comm is way more fun now, no drama for months. feels good man. the megameet is going to be awesome this year.

come to a meet, we don't bite.

>>7677430
Who's cancerchan? Also I heard one of the prominent members moved to San Fran. I think she owns some sort of shop called rose something idk.

>>7677677
Not that anon, but I'm pretty sure she was a girl who pretended to have cancer for money/pity and basically lied her ass off about it all and other things.

>>7676618
If you think it is, it probably is. We do be mad divils for /cgl/.

>>7673837
Basically it was the girl who had a secret made ofher textwall rant. After she left it's been quiet.

>>7666447
We can be members of almost fun lolita comms together.

>>7677816
Ohio comm

>>7677929

Ohio comm is the best. Not much drama, pleasant meet ups. At least the northern meet ups are good, I've never gone to the southern Ohio meets. Plus, there's only a few weebs, and they're not super prominent.

>>7678035
That is the comm op is talking about not missouri

>>7677781
I posted >>7660036 and while I wouldn't say I'm a mad divil for it, I am here. A lot. Watching.

LEARNING.

>>7673058
answer is yes. always yes.

>>7681021
ditto this
#hlc4death

>>7659964
>>7662417
Do you Dutch lolitas ever have meetups at coffee shops? Or meet ups where you all do truffles from a Smart Shop?

I was thinking how neat it'd be to be in Amsterdam and see a bunch of lolis chilling in Abraxas or some other coffee shop, haha.

Also, I saw a lolita while I was in Amsterdam. She was real cute. I told her I liked her outfit, not sure if she heard or cared.

I can totally see the Dutch lolis being "too nice", though, the Dutch are really sweet as a whole (at least that was my experience).

>>7677396

Members rarely hate on each other for things like coords and style. The few issues that we've had were interpersonal--they didn't get along with a person/personality, just like you'll see in any group.

Chicago has a lot of girls who've been in the fashion for a long, long time, or have a shit-ton of money, or both. We also have a lot of newbies and budget conscious lolitas, and some very active members who make their own stuff and have small lolita shops.

Come to the Megameet in August. We kind of give everyone a free pass at the meet. The regulars showed up dressed to the nines and the newer people try out their first coord and can get a lot of advice and encouragement. Megameets are often gentle and a good way to step in the crowd, IMO.

I'll be there, newchan. Wear a red rose on your lapel, and I'll have a single white hankerchief in my pocket. We will meet and speak of many things.

>>7665671
I'm in your comm. There's been so much shitposting on the group lately.

>>7677396
To answer your question directly, the shit stirrers either moved away or were banned (cancerchan, in addition to lying about having cancer, had been making up drama, telling people "xyz talked shit about you" or "abc prostitutes herself for brand" etc.). Another girl who used to be a problem seems to have matured and has behaved herself. So I don't think you should worry - join us, we have cookies.

>>7683111
Also not to say that all the people who moved away were shit stirrers. Several girls are no longer local but are cool. Two of them attended Anime Midwest.

>>7683368
Yeah, good point. I forgot just how many people moved away in the past few years. We lost a few good lolitas to SF.

>>7683539
>>7683368
The former mod that moved to SF always was involved in drama. She seemed nice but found her way into dramatic situations every time. When she moved away I didn't miss her.

What is the SF community like? I'm going to be moving to Oakland in about 6 months, and would like to know what they're like? Appropriate to be on cgl? Lots of drama?

I was surprised to find the SoCal area really chill during the fashion walk. I'm not from the area but I made friends with some people and got to chat it up with others. I don't know what I was expecting but I liked going. Thanks to SoCal from an outsider!

>>7672402
I had the same thought. I wonder if we are thinking of the same person?

>>7683671
Little to no drama at all. Very friendly. If there ever is any disagreement, it's privately done.

>>7677677
yeah one girl moved to SF and she has an accessory shop. she's nice and comes back to visit sometimes, she came to anime midwest.

anyway if you're new feel free to message a mod, join the comm, and come to the megameet!

>>7655694
This might be a long shot but... any ACTIVE Texas or DFW comms? The ones that I usually find are pretty dead...

>>7683671
No drama, pretty much. There's stuff that goes on behind the scenes, but it's all personal stuff between individuals and never gets brought out into the open- people keep a handle on that shit. There are some lolcows, (we have a sissy that we can't seem to get rid of), but pretty easy to ignore. Other than that people are friendly- although I've heard from people that they find it hard to break into friendgroups because people are already pretty tight. Just don't be shy and talk to people, and you'll have fun.

>>7683561
Haha, she's doing pretty much the same thing here, too.

>>7685144
I'm sorry anon. Thank you for taking her off our hands.

>>7685105
what? the DFW has a meet-up every month and a lot of the them are twice a month. Where the hell are you looking.

>>7660209
I've also been in Metroplex Lolitas for some time now. I've been on several small meets and one very large one. The ladies here are super nice and welcoming to new members. They are loads of fun and I'm glad to be a part of it all. I'm on cloud 9 with my comm.

>>7684442
Who are you thinking of?

>>7685132
I don't know anything about the behind the scenes drama, but I really like the SF community because they are very friendly and welcoming. Don't feel discouraged though if you can't seem to break in at your first meet - at a larger meet it's close to impossible to talk to everyone, so go to a few more and have fun.

As for the lolcows, I stay at a safe distance and watch on with amusement.

>Community size?
Supposedly over a hundred but only half of that ever show to meets

>online groups?
We have a Facebook. Supposedly there's a second ita/crazy shoot off one but I've never found it.

>Meet-ups?
One or two a month and range from "Oh my god this is amazing" to 'what the fuck were you thinking' as far as location goes. There's a lot of pretty places around here but also a lot of terrible hipster cafes that some members insist on going to.

>Something I'd change?
We have a disproportionate amount of lolcows and are in general a little to accepting of bullshit. There's some honestly great girls in the group, but there's also a good dozen or so crazy bitches that must post on EVERYTHING as if they are somehow important beloved members. And, unfortunately, it seems like those are the only people that et noticed online.

>>7685474
This is funny, now I'm wondering which comm it is...

>>7685480
I know right

>>7655708
>>7655694
why are almost all them ugly manfaces?

>>7685560
pro tip- All comm members of any comm are uggos.

can't photoshop real life just yet

Brisbane
Shit
Full of itas
GGscrub peasants

>>7685686
Did you enjoy the ita meet up today?

>Community size?
200 members or more. Only twenty to thirty girls that go to regular and group-advertised meets.

>online groups?
Facebook. There's meant to be one main group, but there's now a "spin-off" created by and filled with itas. There's also a quieter, smaller comm for older or more mature members that's invite only.

>Meet-ups?
Maybe about once a month. Sometimes a little longer. They range in activity and so far this year have looked good, members seem to have fun.

>Something I'd change?
The consistency of meetups, they fluctuate. A regular system of the smaller meets or dinner or bar ones would be nice, with the larger ones happening whenever. Disorganization is the worst part.

>>7685418
Kristina? Considering there are multiple ones it would be obvious which one we are referring to considering people outside of the comm wouldn't know which one hasn't been attending meetups for months and was there for the entire weekend of MetroCon hanging around the Truly Darling booth.

>>7684970
I was thinking of a different good lolita who moved to SF - she's a librarian I think, doesn't own a shop, modeled in the fashion show, is completely drama free and cute as hell.

>>7660172

>>7685289

Just around the web. Is there a LJ I can visit?

>>7686485
just noticed my terrible typo, fuck. My vendetta has been ruined.

>>7686859
This was bad anyways, anon. The hunger games is fucking shit.

>>7686850
check on facebook metroplexlolitas

>>7660172
>>7686485
>>7686862
I don't know, I think we're onto something. we could have a whole thread about this where people tell tales about the weebs in their comm. We have elimination rounds and /cgl/ votes on who the Worst Lolita in the World is.

How is the Melbourne Comm? I'm a lone lolita thinking of joining, but cgl seems to think they are all attention whores?
Are they a good comm or should I continue frilling it up on my own?
Anyone dramawhores I should stay away from?

>>7687123
You might have mistaken them for Sydney... Melb is generally a nice and relaxed bunch. The worst dramawhores in the comm have left or are banned. Meetup regulars are 20+ years old. A lot of them are friends outside of the comm. There are some annoying people but nothing to write home about.

>>7686850
Most all of the main Texas comms are pretty active. DFW (Metroplex) has a lot of meets, Houston (HLC) has quite a few but they don't pick up again until August, San Antonio (SATX) is preparing for San Japan but they usually have a meet every few months. Austin (ATX) have meets once or twice a month.

But I'm guessing most of them don't want to have full outdoor meets because it's hot.

>>7687123
>>7687245
It seems like every Australian comm has a reputation for being attention whores/brandwhores/evil bitches these days without it being even remotely true. Brisbane has people getting ruffled and making "I WAS BULLIED!" videos over lolita not being cosplay. Sydney has people getting angry that there are smaller friends groups within the larger comm. Adelaide has people trying to hide their connection to ODIP any way they can, even if it means pretending it didn't happen. Melbourne has been accused of elitism and snobbery, and "excluding" people from meets. Perth ... just ... well. I actually haven't heard any dirt about Perth beyond "there are lolitas in Perth?!"

>>7686139
I love her. So glad she came to SF- she is just the cutest

>>7687123
Oh man, I wish I could go hang out in Melbourne, there are actually a lot of people I admire in that comm.

But I'm in SF and also afraid of Australia

>>7687393
>afraid of Australia
Just wondering, but why?

>>7687414
Not that anon but probably the fact your continent is evidently a horrorshow of literal bird-eating spiders and deadly snakes
at least that's what we all think.

>>7687426
I've never understood this horror of Australia's "dangerous" animals. The USA has way more dangerous and deadly species than Australia.

Australia has a few spiders and snakes, sure, but they're easily avoided. And you generally have to be spectacularly unlucky or stupid to run into trouble with any of the marine dangers. Meanwhile, the USA has spiders, snakes, multiple species of bears, big cats, gators, lizards that have venomous/toxic bites, sharks and deadly jellyfish on several coasts, and on and on and on.

Is it just the fact that Australian animals are *different* dangerous animals that makes them so scary or something?

>>7687434
Well, the thing is all those things you've described are incredibly rare. I've lived in bear and cat regions and I've never even seen a bear or big cat. Many bears rarely attack people. Gators only really exist in Florida. Our poisonous spiders are very small, which arguably makes them more dangerous, but less horrifying. They are also pretty rare.
But then we go on youtube and see massive spiders, probably 2x or 3x as big as tarantulas, actually INSIDE peoples houses and like catching birds and eating them. That's a whole different thing, we do not have that. Also, pretty much every "world's deadliest ____!" list I've seen lists 20% animals from all other countries, 80% animals from Australia.

>>7687441
Well, my point is that our dangerous species are just as remotely located/rare. I've never seen a redback (pretty much like a black widow) outside of a zoo. Nor a funnelweb, and the area I live in is supposed to be full of 'em because of the soil type we have. No snakes, either, other than little garter snakes. They're all out in the bush-filled areas, much like dangerous snakes in the US are.

YouTube is also stupidly deceptive and spook-filled. Large spiders in houses are huntsmen and they're useless, jittery fuckers. Scary looking, sure, but harmless to humans and easily scared. They eat roaches mostly, don't build webs, and run away if they notice you've seen them.

As for the spider that ate a bird, the stories fail to mention that the bird was sick, got stuck in the web and died, then was eaten by an opportunistic orb weaver (which is also harmless to humans). They don't catch birds as a source of food under normal circumstances. It's like that deer-killing squirrel story. It may have happened once, but it's hardly a regular or "normal" occurrence.

>>7687468
Ive had a run-in with a funnelweb in the bathroom of all places. Redbacks are pretty common in backyards, in my experience. Easy to avoid though. Huntsmen spiders are great though. Like you said, they're pretty harmless and take care of annoying pests for you which is handy when they rise in numbers as it gets warmer.

>>7687468
It doesnt matter if they are harmless. They are larger than average and are in your house. You clearly lived in Australia too much when you are trying to downplay scary ass stuff.

>>7687363
Riji_pon was a Perth lolita. It's a small group and they do casual/relaxed type of meets, so I am not surprise they don't like to put up photos.

>>7687434
>>7687441
>>7687468
>>7687489
>>7687512
This is a dumb argument.

>>7687512
Don't be ignorant. Anon wasn't downplaying anything. They were just explaining the reality of it. I disagree with them on how commonplace the spiders are though but of course experiences will vary. The scary part is getting bitten but that's not likely to happen unless you're an idiot.

>>7687434
Our bears are pretty much just big goofy raccoons, though. They're generally only dangerous if they're protecting cubs.

I'm much more scared of sneaky little venomous things, which we really don't have around here.

>>7687414
Well, what everyone else listed, plus swooping season and the heat

And being upside down, there's another

>>7687363
It seems there are just a few spiteful people from each comm trying to cause drama.

>>7685132
melissa right?

>>7687363
>>7687536
>>7687598

I sometimes wish Australia had something like Rufflecon (okay, bad example since it hasn't happened yet) or even Blythefest for lolita. What we need is a interstate meetup for the Aus comm in general, kind of like the high tea for Misako, only without the Misako. If we had something like that it'd pull together a decent collection of members, be too expensive or too much of a trip for most itas ('cept the ones local to it, I guess) and if photos ended up online it'd showcase our country's better side.

Or, alternatively, something horrible will happen and we'll entertain /cgl/ for a few days.

>>7687550
>>7687489
>>7687468
It's not that people think the bird eating spiders are going to kill them, just that they're giant spiders and really fucking scary looking.
We do have tarantulas but they are kind of like the teddy bears of spiders.
I've lived in regions where we were supposed ot have: bears, big cats, rattlesnacks, water moccasins, brown recluse spiders and black widows.
The only one I ever saw was maybe a brown recluse and I think my dad saw a black widow
But if you get bitten by them you just have to get to the hospital fairly quickly. If you're bitten by a brown recluse and don't realize you were, that's also bad.

>>7687786
This is a brilliant idea and would give lolitas from other states a chance to meet.

>>7685560
Most lolitas are ugly and man faced. It's really a tragedy.

>>7685737
Definitely central florida comm. I know it

>>7687363
I'm in the Melbourne comm. It's pretty good, a lot of use are seagulls as well so in my opinion just join, it's fun.

>>7687673
Yes

This might be a long shot, but are there any Singaporean loli comms?
I know Black Alice used to host tea parties, but I can't seem to find anyone else who does now.
Are there no more SG lolis or are you all in hiding?

>>7687363
Canberra Con is awesome, theres 30 people, 5 people at a meet is considered a lot, there are probably 3 people who regularly turn up to meets, and for the most part everyone gets along.

> Sep we only meet once a month if that
> And the facebook page is pretty much dead
> that and there really isn't much to do around Canberra

>>7687841
I feel like Lolita attracts all the ugly man faced girls. Maybe it's because everyone ignores them because they are ugly, so they wear Lolita to get some kind of attention.

>>7688077
Pretty much. The main reason cgl exists is so the well dressed bunch of the ugly man faces can make themselves feel better by picking at cute chicks' clothes.

>>7688064
They have a facebook I think.

>>7687786
>>7687818

I'm torn between "that could be fun" to "it'll be an absolute disaster".

>>7688076

Poor Canberra, I feel bad for you guys because you're even more off-grid than Perth or Tassie but maybe that's a good thing.

>>7687123
Do it! The main Melbourne comm is pretty chill, and if you speak Chinese there are Chinese lolita cliques on the side that does meet up for coffee and lunch every now and then.

>>7688241
This seems to be a theme... I've heard of other comms with separate Chinese groups. Sydney, NYC... Any others? It's kind of weird. Do the Chinese really not like other people?

>>7688346
Asians like to "stick to their own kind".

>>7687123
I remember some one in the comm made a video as well as a behind the scenes, just the girls talking and mucking around, and it gave a pretty good sense of what the comm is like. Pretty sure she posted it in the group if you want me to find it.

>>7688346
language barrier more like it, they are mostly foreign students who aren't confident in their English skills. They're quite nice and they sometimes watch the locals from afar.

>>7688348
I went to a meetup in the past where there was a Chinese girl who came alone. She just arrived for a study abroad program and her English was not great. She had a hard time following conversations and didn't understand most of the jokes/slang. Aside from me, no one tried to explain anything to her. She hasn't come back to any meetups since then, and I don't blame her if she found a Chinese group where she could actually talk to people instead of sitting by herself in a corner.

>>7688589
I'm really worried about something like this happening to me, actually, I'm studying abroad for a year starting in September and I'd like to join the local community where I am but I'm afraid I won't understand anything and end up friendless.

>>7688348
Chinese here. Guilty of having mostly Asian friends even though we're a minority in my city.

A collectivist culture is one in which people tend to view themselves as members of groups( families, work units, tribes, nations), and usually consider the needs of the group to be more important than the needs of individuals. Most Asian cultures, including China's, tend to be collectivist.

Members of Western society tend to be individualists.

This just popped up on my feed. How true is this?

>>7689357
the fuck

>>7689357
This is the most made-up story I've ever heard but I love it so I'm going to tell myself it's true.

>>7689357
this has to be a joke, please tell me this is a joke, please tell me no group of human beings would do that to someone

>>7689357
Sounds legit.

>>7689357
that is the biggest load of bullshit ive ever read

>>7689357
pls provide link

>>7689450
http://pilgrimkitty.tumblr.com/post/91971011034/whats-the-tea-party-of-shame

>>7689357
That sounds so over-the-top evil I refuse to believe it's true. What are they, some underground sorority?

>>7687245
>>7687883
>>7688241
>>7688362

Thanks guys, I'll give Melbourne comm a go!

What about the UK? What are their comms like?

>>7690110
Scotland's lovely, Wales is non-existent as far as I know, NI is a bit of a mixed bag - there's a comm, but most of the well-dressed girls just seem to meet up separately from that crowd as friends. Then in England, the London lolis are very nice and well-dressed, North-East is mainly tragic as far as I'm aware, Leeds is reportedly great and super friendly, heard mixed things about Bristol and Oxford, not sure about anywhere else.

How does one put the life back into a comm page?

Not even the page owner even posts or bothers to comment anymore and I feel like the only one posting. Then I get torn between wanting to post to keep the group active and not posting cos I look like some crazy.

What things do you do to keep your pages active? Themes? Discussions?

>>7691259
Talk about the latest releases or share your wishlist albums so whenever someone's on the hunt on mbok or y!j, they can tell that person about the deal. Post feeler posts for meetups, like do you want to go to X museum/restaurant/event as a group (lolita related though).

>>7689357
>>7689450
>I write bizarre sci-fi-flavored porn, and other things
Yeah, we can tell.

>Community size?
Over 300 members but only a small amount actually shows up at meets

> Online groups?
Two actually but the second one was made as a joke when another group said we were a bunch of elitists and that from has never been active. Dunno if the shit talking group has any one presence.

> Meet-ups?
There's no real schedule. All of the members organise meets. Sometimes there are invite only meets when there's a birthday. We have the big annuals summer picknick but it's not as popularity as it used to be.

> Something I'd change?
Getting rid of our fallen queen who still desperately clinic onto the little, read none, power she has. First there was the failed kawaii weekend then the failed reap without guests and now she's going around people's backs and inciting them to a teaparty where we'll be filmed for national television. The catch is that there was a post about said tv program but never a follow up post, I'm invited but I know for a fact that another comm member who said she wanted to come never got a message and I won't put it past here to ignore half of the replies on that post and only invites people she likes. I'm just sick and tired of her favoring certain comm members.

>>7691707
Is she really trying to rescue the kawaii weekend by making a private party of it? That's nasty and low. She asked the whole community for the television tea party and then only invites a small group of favorite members. That's even worse for her non existing reputation. Is the national television also sponsoring her event? I might start believe all the rumors.

>>7689357
Yep, I can confirm this didn't happen. For one thing, there is no one comm for WNY. There are two, one for Rochester and the other for Buffalo. Brockport is by Rochester so it's under that comm and they have not been terribly active at all from what I can see. Also, if I'm recalling properly, Brockport is in the middle of fucking nowhere.

>>7691999
Also, forgot to add, everyone in the area would've known. Things get around here fast.

>>7685331
I know, they're so great! I feel so welcome at every meet. They're like the polar opposite of cgl lol

>>7689357
what the frickity frack

>>7692561
Someone should share this with the mods of both of the comms and see what they say, lol

>>7692561
>why does nobody believe this incredibly unbelievable secondhand story with nothing to back it up
Tumblr can fucking implode, seriously

>>7691999
Yeah, this sounds right to me. I don't know of a "western" new york community. Upstate, buffalo, rochester and the two NYC. No "western" ny one, let alone a weirdly elitist one.

>>7691759
They must be sponsoring her. We pay €25 instead of the original €45

>>7692561
>>7689357

Start asking her for details on her mythical 'Western Lolitas of New York'. If she doesn't talk, accuse her of being complicit in letting another 'tea party of shame' happen. She'll either wise up and realize no one believes her shit, or delete it.

>>7692561
Wow, what a bullshit cop-out excuse. I definitely don't believe it now. The police don't always get shit done, but you hardly get "abused and humiliated" when reporting theft and assault.

>>7690129
North West is also tragic, and rife with drama.

>>7690110

Midlands comms seem to be pretty non existing

>>7659113
Frankly one of the only reasons I've been in lolita so long is because I keep meeting good friends. Lots of my closest friends are people I met through lolita, but we just hang out casually now.

>>7664943
Is this a Euro comm? If so I may also be a part of it too.

Any info on how the MD/DC comm is?

>>7691759
1 No, It is a free standing event
2 No, only the people who responded
3 No, only the lolita's that will come to the tea party will be sponsored.

>>7695230
hello queen, welcome to /cgl/ !

seriously, do you wanna know why you are our fallen queen? because all you do is organize big meets (that I do like though), but you are not really a prominent part of our comm anymore. you are barely posting anything lolita related these days, except for the big events with often the media involved. people will think you only do this to get attention and they'll view that as clinging to your old fame. I am grateful for your efforts into making the comm it is now, but to be honest, you're too old and too busy to play any important role in the comm anymore.

I would suggest you make this tea party your last event you organize and focus on your man and child. there are enough other people capable of organizing big events.

no hard feelings, but you're old. the comm needs younger people to keep the group running.

>>7695720
popcorn.gif

Just commenting to say the layout of people in OP's pic is fantastic.

>>7681702
I don't go to many meets so I'm not sure if this has ever happened but I really doubt it. Maybe private meets, with just a few friends? I could see some friends getting together to drink weed tea and eat weed brownies but never an official meet at a coffee shop. Mostly because the smoke has a very strong distinctive smell and nobody wants to get that into their clothing and besides, it may be legal here but being really open about doing weed is considered kind of trashy. I don't think people here would want to associate the lolita comm with it, especially since we have a lot of minors.

I honestly think our stoner/general population ratio is lower than that in other countries where it isn't as legal. I only know one person who does it and it's for legitimate medicinal purposes.

>>7687053
I'm definitely down for this.

>>7695720

Geez. You sound like that one girl in the back of the class jealous of the sexy teacher that commands the respect and attention of everyone, well, not looking at you.

So the dutch lolita queen has to fear getting her place annexed by some powerhungry jealous bitch?

No hard feelings, but you should think about how your younger infantile judgement's gonna keep you running in life.

Maybe if you'll ever grow an actual kind and understanding persona you might be ready to grab her centre of spotlght.

>>7695822
I'm not planning on being in the centre of the spotlight though. neither am I jealous of her. I only want her out of the comm.

>>7695822
>Leyla
>sexy teacher that commands respect and attention
I literally spit out my drink. Oh my god. This is golden. Someone post a picture of her because goodness knows I don't have any saved.

Not that anon and yeah I do think the "ew you're old go away" thing is juvenile as hell and definitely not the reason people don't like her, but I really doubt anyone on the planet is jealous of our "queen". The reason people don't like her is because she's power hungry and thinks she owns the comm (throws a fit when someone organizes a meet without involving her), is desperate for attention (keeps trying to get on tv and inviting the media to teaparties, why would you even do that) and is practically not lolita anymore (and never dressed well, ever) yet still insists on being the leader of the lolita community. She seems to think she IS the Dutch lolita community so everything that involves her must involve us and vice versa. People are annoyed with her because she's a pathetic has-been who sticks her nose in everything, not because we want to be her.

>>7695843
here you go, Anon.

anyone else annoyed at the baby shit investing the Mfashion website?

>>7655694
bump

>>7655694
Could not resist.

>>7695900
Oh god on some of them it reminds me of that guy in Repo

>>7695900
>idgi, they're still in the same formation, no Mr Yan in the backgroud
>click
>OH

>>7695900
You improved at least two of them.

>>7689357
Sounds like Rule of Rose for lolitas.

>>7689357
>>7692561
Did she just make this shit up to use as an anecdote for victim blaming? Also accusing a friend of the victim of lying isn't blaming the victim it's blaming the idiot friend.

It's not even about the fact that it's so bad it can't be true, it's that it's so out there and she purposely shared it to stir up shit.

>>7692561
wait, someone is serious about this? i was sure the first message was some seagull joke!

>>7695900
you missed the girl with glasses! at least give her the mouth.

>>7690129
The North East isn't too bad, there's a well dressed comm and not so well dressed comm, but a bit of drama

>>7690110

Basically agreeing with the other post, Irish lolis exist but nobody knows much about them, Welsh lolis seem to exist but without established comms from what I've heard, Scotland is apparently a really nice comm, there are a few great dressers, a few not so great but I've heard they're a very quiet happy comm.

England is mixed. I'm in Manchester and the comm is absolute hell. Barely anybody can put together and outfit. I've heard London is really nice, but elsewhere you don't hear much of unless there's drama. I've also heard really mixed stuff about Newcastle.

>>7696179
Ah, I must have only heard of the badly-dressed comm, then! Good to know it's not the only comm. There's a similar thing going on in my city, minus the drama.

>>7672199
Being from god awful small town number 30 in South Louisiana I know how you feel. I can't even find people to play RPG's with.

>>7655694
I love my comm. I've made some of the best friends I've ever had in my life.

I've also lost my normalfag friends because they didn't like the fashion. I never wore it around them and barely brought it up but they told me one day that they wouldn't be friends with me anymore if I still wore it in my 30s.

>Community size?
Maybe 30 active members? We have a lot of lurkers, but a main group of about 20-30 that regularly participates in online discussion/attending meetups.

>online groups?
One Facebook group and an inactive LJ.

>Meet-ups?
Pretty casual for the most part, occasional outings to places like the zoo/art museums/historical museums. Thankfully there are a good number of quality tea houses and fancier venues that don't mind frills in the area.

>Something I'd change?
Not much - we have practically zero drama, although the summerfag is strong in us this year - lots of posting unfinished "coords" then baww-ing and making excuses when advice is offered.

>>7695822
Yeah, that ''sexy teacher'' comment just comes off as very weird and forced. Isn't there any other example? I don't think I ever thought of a teacher as sexy or did it make me feel threatened. Why the teacher, why not another girl in the class?

>>7687363
Don't know much about the other state comms but yeah, the Sydney one is... Not terrible but it can be cliquey and hard to join as a new member, especially if you show up looking ita as fuck the first time to an event. There are some lovely girls who are very welcoming to newcomers though.

>>7696188
Irish Lolita here, we do exist indeed! (we're not UK in the republic, but sher we're close enough to the rest of ye geographically!) We like to keep to ourselves for the most part, but we do be meeting up and getting up to divilment fairly regularly.

I've been to one local lolita comm meetup, and it was amazing. Almost all of the ladies were at least decently dressed (except one or two girls) and everyone was so kind. The girls were all a great bunch.

I'm going to my second local meet soon and I'm not sure what to expect. The RSVP list has a ton of horribly dressed people. I'd say 25% in the RSVP list are well/decently-dressed, the rest are new and making "lolita" coords out of normalfag clothes or are horribly ita (think "steampunk lolita").

Obviously I'm really bummed. I was hoping that I'd have an experience like my first meet, but I don't know if that'll be the case this time. I feel awful for thinking this way because I don't want to be a bitch, but part of the fun for lolita for me is to meet other lolitas in my local community.

I wouldn't mind if people just wore the same coord over and over again as long as it looked good, and it'd be understandable if they didn't have much money for multiple coords. As long as the coord looks good, I wouldn't mind.

Sorry this is so long-winded. I guess I just needed to rant to /cgl/ a bit. I wonder how this meetup will go?

>>7699881
I found the Sydney comm really nice when I went to a meetup with them a couple of years ago, but I guess I was just passing through so not particularly concerned about making friends for life or cliques.

>>7702554
SHHHHH, they still think we're like unicorns!

I'm moving to a sort-of big city for starting pharmacy school and I'm hoping I can make it to the big meetup at a botanical gardens for the Japanese festival. I've met a few of the comm members already and they're nice so I'm hoping it's a good comm. There was a swap meet recently and from the photos people looked well-dressed.

I hate my community so much. It's pretty fucking huge, but just really annoying. There are people who are considered the "popular" cosplayers and most of them are part of little groups of friends where they are literally circlejerk each other. One girl and her group of friends are always pretending to be the characters they currently obsess about and the one most popular girl from the group is always making statuses like "went on a date with ______ character today~" and is also always like "i have a collection of ________ and i need it filled. Anyone wanna help me out?" it's really fucking annoying.
There's this other girl and her group of friends (who are also sorta the "top dogs") who are all yaoi, free, dmmd, and other homo shit all over the place, and are always trying to be super gay together at cosplay events.