/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>want to buy kawaii pink and lavender petticoats
>only one or two things in my closet will match
>white is the only versatile colour

Going to buy two petticoats from CP in white, I suppose. ;_;

good feels
>keep getting stronger in da jim
>still losing weight. 15 down, 10 to go
>back into a growth spurt (late bloomer feels, hnng)
bad feels
>my hairline is still receding
>my hips and knees are rekt from growing pains

>get my first credit card about 6 months ago
>use it to pay for groceries, gas, bills, etc
>pay off in full every month
>suddenly get the itch for burando
>overspend a little to fulfill itch, thinking I'd just sell some stuff to make up the difference
>stuff sells for way lower than I expected
>end up not being able to pay it off in full
>borrow money from my mom, still not enough to catch me up all the way but enough that I can use the card again
>now I owe my mom $200
>in addition, I just had $200 of extra fees tacked on to my tuition I wasn't expecting
>slowly mounting credit card debt

This is how is starts. I can't believe how stupid I was, I wish I could take it all back. I'm gonna have to sell off some really coveted pieces of mine if I want to fix this.

>have a boyfriend
>meet another guy who seems to "get me" much more than my boyfriend
This is confusing.

>>7671097
Are you wearing transparent dresses or are you trying to be one of those try-hard "fetish" lolitas who thinks a that cute, pastel petti peeping out from your under hemline will get you more notes on tumblr?

>>7671097
It shouldn't matter what color your petti is unless you're wearing a really thin, light-colored dress and a dark petti.

>>7671255
Not who you were talking to but I feel the lure of the colored Pettis and never intend for anyone but me and my boyfriend to see them. They are pretty just like pretty lingerie is rarely seen by the public. Some of us just like to have things like that under our Lolita, not to ever flash them or anything.

>>7671245
>>7671255
Honestly I don't know. I know it doesn't show, but I just love the pastel colours.
I don't want them to show at all.

repostin

>Selling old costume online
>Post on a GTA cosplay selling page
>Give exact measurements for the costume
>Girl says she'd love to buy it, it's just her size
>Arrange a meeting place, a bit of a subway ride away but whatever, i really want to get rid of the costume
>Girl shows up 30 minutes late
>She's a fucking hamplanet, like 400+ lbs
>Insists on trying on the costume even though it's an XS and she's.. not
>Walk with her to a nearby pizza store so she can try it on
>"Oh um yeah this might be a little too small for me"
>"a little"
>she gives it back to me and speeds her way outta there
>there's a massive fucking rip down the side from her trying to get her fat ass into it

>>7671268
What the fuck, man.

>>7671201
Just stop spending and pay it off a little at a time anon. That's the point of a credit card.

God, she's up to 4,339 Likes and had the audacity to have the secret about her buying Likes removed, as if it's not so fucking obvious

>>7671201
No, what you need to do is just take a second and make a budget of your monthly spending, and see the things that can be taken out. You don't need to sell anything to pay off your credit card, you don't have a deadline or anything, you just need to make sure to budget yourself to pay off what you're comfortable with, within a set of time (say 3-6 months). There's no reason to freak out and sell off a bunch of dresses to pay off the credit card in a month anon.

>Decide to check one of my fave artists on tumblr since I haven't been on for ages
>look and its been replaced by some fanblog
>find out what happens apparently tumblrfags chased them off because they drew rape or some shit.
>fml I really like that artist.

>>7671268
was it PT

>>7671298
bigger than PT

>>7671201
If you want a card for spending, get a debit card. Debit doesn't let you withdraw money you don't have (although most banks will charge you if you overdraw).

I'm kind of a compulsive spender, so having a debit rather than a credit is a lifesaver.

>this shows up on my feed
>"let's mix lolita and cosplay together!"

No, just NO. I actually put time and effort into picking good pieces and coordinating my shit, most of these girls slap on a Milanoo dress with Walmart flats and footless tights and call it "lolita cosplay". KISS MY FAT WHITE ASS! This is a small ass backwards state as it is; lolitas don't need the negative attention drawn to us from 30 year old basement dwellers who grow too attached to their waifu body pillows and who don't know how to act in public.

Just, GOD DAMN this shit infuriates me.

But you bet your sweet ass any itas or shitty cosplay I see, I will dutifully post back here.

>>7671327
>Governor Bacon Health Center
Maybe, just maybe it was not the smartest name for an health center. But it made me giggle.

>>7671332
Oh Christ, I just now noticed that. That's Delaware for you

>>7671327
bit confused, nothing mentioning lolita there, was this posted on your comm I guess?

Nyan-cat though? seriously?

>>7671343
Oh sorry! A few months ago, this was suggested and people were saying "yeah let's cosplay and lolita together!"
Dumb ass me didn't screen shot.

I feel like it is impossible to defeat patriarchy and rape culture due to the inherent misogyny that's in every single woman.

>tfw you drop a full slab of ribs on the floor because you're trying to eat more protein to recover muscles from 3 months of bed rest

Seriously, there's cat hair all over it now. I was really looking forward to those ribs. I dropped 14 lbs and was rewarding myself and I fucking drop them on the floor

>>7671445
Wash and resauce. They're still good, they're still good.

>>7671445
Well good at least you'll lose some weight you hamplanet.

>>7671454
Ok, yeah I'm chubby. But hamplanet is a gross over estimate of my weight. I'm been sick for like a month straight and been on a liquid diet due to my stupid gastroparesis and all wanted was that slab of juicy ribs and I fucking drop them of a floor covered in over 9000 strands of cat hair and dust.

>>7671445
>3 months of bed rest

>>7671497
>been sick for like a month straight

which is it tho
also try eating more nuts and other sources of protein
I mean, I know the ribs probably sounded really great to you but peanuts, cashews, walnuts, and other nuts will also help you recover protein and they'll be easy on your stomach if you're still having appetite issues. I've been there.

>>7671453
This
wash and resauce, anon. Wash and resauce.

>>7671503
I've been sick for three months causing me to spend the majority of my time in bed, but it got even worse in the past month to the point where I would try and eat solid food and I would immediately throw it up. I lost 14 lbs from lack of calories from not wanting to eat and/or throwing up my food.

I want to lose weight because I'm sick of being chubby. I don't have to lose too much,maybe 20lbs. But I have no money to join a gym and I get pains really quickly when excercising. I stretch and try warming up but I still get them. Anemic and my bones aren't as strong as they need to be even with vitamins. I already try to lower foods like soda and chips but it barely makes a difference

>>7671453
>>7671454
Okay, just washed and resauced with some Sweet Baby Ray's. I can't fucking wait eat these omg. No guarantee they'll stay in my stomach for too long. I just want to taste dem ribs. OH LAWDY

>>7671512
Eat lean red meat, salad with low carb dressing and cheeses.

>>7671512
We are one anon except I have also been told that I am not allowed to exercise by doctors due to joint issues...

>>7671520
That's completely disgusting. I hope it doesn't make you sicker.

YO THESE RIBS ARE DOPE AS FUCK.


>>7671529
I have been banned from most exercise except swimming due to my stress test. I fell right on my face on the treadmill and my cardiologist said no intense cardio especially those that require me to stand.

Metrocon is in 8 hours.

Cosplay isn't even close to being done and I have no motivation

>be lolita
>have no lolita friends locally
>'friends' on the internet invite to go out to events with them
>be three hours away

then
>want to get into cosplay
>everyone I know cosplays things from anime and not video games
>bf won't even cosplay with me

or
>be at cons
>try to make friends with lolitas or female coslayers
>they're all territorial bitches who hate other females

>tfw so lonely
>tfw thinking of giving up everything and selling my whole wardrobe

>>7671512
Have you tried strength training, Pilates or something that involves static positions and controlled ranges of motion with your joints? Things like wall press ups, squats, lunges, etc. help build muscle which should help stabilise things for more intense cardio workouts

>>7671616
Are you me? Seriously i am in like exactly the same situation. Where are you from anon?

>>7671631
Of course. I've tried to start doing them. My knees and pain don't start to hurt a lot further in than jogging. It's been a little while and i've eaten better since then so maybe ill try again. thanks

>>7671637
California

In a shitty desert

>>7671557
>mfw when my cosplay for metrocon is done

>Cosplay coming along nicely for con
>Start styling wig
>back is really thin
>hoping the thinning and mild teasing will make it look thicker

Luckily the style of character is a mess of a haircut but damn wish I discovered this sooner; would've ordered a second wig to weft in pieces.

>>7671653
Bitch

But really I'm sorry for the awfulness that will be my cosplay. No sleep.

>>7671443
same

>too black to cosplay any characters i like

>>7671718
>Bitch
True.. though karma seems to have come back and kicked me in the butt. My ride for today bailed so I have to cancel todays cosplay plans and wait to go tomorrow

>>7671616
I drive that far to attend events with a nice Lolita group a few times a year. It's not so bad, really...

>>7671296
I'm still upset over it, I feel so bad and those shitty tumblr twats kept sending her death threats and called her a supporter of rape and everything

>>7671817
I sat and scrolled through the tag. Jfc guys have you seen the shit on fakku. It's not even hardcore....

I glimpsed the image when it came up and didn't think much about it then this happened

>went from 100 lbs down to 90 since summer started because of irregular schedule and forgetting to eat all the time
Guys how do I get my schedule back on track when I'm a NEET I don't wanna lose any weight

>>7671820
That and she posted it under warnings and everything, later on deleted it, apologized, and she still got massive flak for it including more death threats. Tumblr is really fucking disgusting sometimes while pretending they're pure little angels trying to make the world better.

>>7671827
Even after they packed up an left there's still a shitstorm in the tags... Even if I were going on hiatus and came back to see that shit I'd just leave forever.

Glad they're still drawing on their normal blog though. Hope they're not getting rude emails or anything

Still gonna go ahead with all my mogeko cosplay plans haha fuck haters

>>7671827
And it's funny becuase SJW's be all 'we want equality and the world to e a nice place' starts a starts a shitstorm over something so small. Say 'rape apologists should go die'??? Like death isn't something you joke about either

Making the world worse with every post they make

>>7671828
please do mogeko cosplays anon, and yeah I'd be gone forever too if that happened to me. I hope she'll find another platform to connect with fans that isn't filled with SJW, because I really liked that about her.

>>7671830
Exactly, and how in the world does drawing it make anyone a rape apologist? Should everyone just refrain from mentioning it ever again? Because that would ttly solve the issue.

>Birthday a couple of weeks ago
>didn't get anything
>mum said she'd buy me something if I see something
>find some cheapy burando wardrobe fillers
>"hey would you mind buying these for me, they're not too expensive with shipping" (srsly like £50)
>"oh well I didn't expect you to take me up on my offer, you usually don't ask for anything, and besides we don't have any money right now"
>she's been playing and winning bingo a lot recently
>she's been spending money buying e-cig stuff (how many fucking attachments and flavours can u get it looks like a fucking sonic screwdriver)
>constantly buying take-out when she can't be bothered cooking

i feel so dumb, like why do i even expect anything different and i feel like an entitled cunt for whining about it
>am i supposed to be too old to care about birthdays now?

>>7671835
Yeah I have wada planned and even red wada! really excited to do it with my friend.

If people all just stepped back and didnt say anything or didnt tag their rants in the tag it would be pretty good. Too bad tumblr staff wont step in...

>>7671840
>am i supposed to be too old to care about birthdays now?
If you're old enough to post here, yes.

>>7671840
Anon you should just not expect anything on your birthday or any special occasion.

I started doing it since I got a packet of m&ms for my 12th birthday and some money, about $40. From then I just didn't expect anything.

I'm surprised how happy I am when I actually get something HA.

>>7671806
Nooooo, I'm sorry that sucks. I meant bitch in the most lovingly way possible. Do you not have any other friends attending?

>>7671287
How do you "buy" likes?
I think people might be jealous of her success

>>7671300
D-Does it even exist?

>>7671925
Do you not know how to google?
Buying likes is common among cosplayers and other "public figures" like her, i.e. ones that really have no reason to create facebook pages for themselves but need to satisfy their egos.

>have too many interests for my own damn good
>anime, vidya, drawing, collecting figures, collecting art books, want to learn how to sew and make jewelry, learning different languages, a myriad of other shit
>no way do I have enough time, money and energy to support all of this
>inevitably, something gets put on the backburner while I focus on one thing
>feel like shit because of it
>feel like I'm not good at anything

>>7672006
I feel you there anon. I find almost every thing interesting and I'm always one for trying out new things. Although that usually ends up with a house full of things I maybe use once or twice.

>Lone lolita, work lots of hours so I never go to anything
>A lolita lives in the same city as me
>cool beans we meet at the train station for an out of town meet
>I over plan the meeting and nitpick the train time for some fucking reason
>We get there early, head to grab something to eat
>Need to pick up something, nearly make the group late
>At the event, ask for a virgin drink, get alcohol.
>I can't alcohol, drunk as a skunk
>Plant my ass near something bready and drink lots of really virgin drinks trying to calm myself down
>Still drunk for the train ride home
>Doing my best to not act fucking drunk
>End up staring at someone trying to concentrate
>She takes her wig off, probably thinks I'm staring because her hair dye is leaking a bit
>Try to stare else wear, oh no way to drunk to not look ahead
>The fact that I am drunk like a skunk is really noticeable if you talk to me, make stupid comments and conversations
>I think I even talked about D&D for a while why the fuck did I do that
>Get lost walking home, bf has to come find me
Well fucked that up
>Avoid the comm for a while

>Lots of promotions latter, I am the big boss now
>I make my own schedules
>I can go to things now!
>First meet up of I'm going to go to things now mode coming up
>She asks if I want to meet at the train station
why the fuck does she ever want to do anything with me again ever
>Agree, I will not make a fucking ass out of myself this time.
Please wish me luck, I need a friend

What the hell did Maguma do to this thread?

>have internship in costume department
>too lazy to spend so much time doing basic sewing on kids' shitty costumes
>normal places won't hire me
>tfw i just want to work on my own costumes

on the bright side the show is next weekend so I really only have to power through until then. tech week is always the worst

>Modifying vintage square dancer crinoline because it's perfect for lolita
>still hand sewing the broken hem line
>still ripping out the horrifying colored ruffles.

God help me. What the fuck did I sign up for.

>>7672133
Welcome to ' heaping out often has hidden costs and be glad it was a cheap mistake and not an $$ dress that 'just needed a little work'. Not that it isn't doable, mind you..but there's a reason seamstresses charge as they do too.

>>7672136
I don't mind fixing things up is there is some damage because I do have sewing experience, and I admit this petticoat was an adventurous task but if there were bigger problems with say an expensive dress, I would just pay a seamstress to fix it.

>>7672133
You could have bought a brand new Malco Modes, done a 10 minute adaptation and be wearing it right now. They aren't that expensive. I'm not sure why people see virtue in this kind of thing, honestly.

>>7672084
Good luck anon!

>Birthday coming up in a few weeks
>Want to have a lolita brand dress as a gift
>Ask parents what the budget is, but they don't give it
>Show some dresses that I like, but they are to expensive
>Finally get some kind of budget and find a dress within that budget
>Mom says she doesn't want to give me something that's only going to sit in my closet
>tfw I try to build a bigger lolita closet so I can wear it more daily
>tfw I don't know/want anything else for my birthday

All I want is a pretty brand dress, it doesn't even have to be a popular print

>>7672155
>http://www.closetchildonlineshop.com/

This has become my best friend and my worst enemy because I constantly check for new stuff.

>at work
>meet another nerd
>get introduced to larp
>sweet. I can make an oc, rp, and not feel weird about it. I love designing ocs...more so I love drawing fantasy outfits
>neato I can spruce up ma sewing techniques
>eat lunch with larpfriend
>...I forget how to even socialize
>talk too much
>ramble
>fidgit with napkin
>omfgiwannabeyourfriendsohard
She didn't notice thankfully. She's also into cosupuray n animoo.

>at work again
>in a classroom and teacher asks
>"So Bitch Pudding, do you watch anime?"
>ohfuck
>I freeze...I thought I kept my powerlevels low
>"uhh.......yes..."
>"do you cosplay?"
>"..............yas"
>"oh! I do too!"


ITS FINALLY HAPPENING FOR ME! I've been dying for a friend since all of my friends moved.
I just need to remember how to converse with people and remember "you're a poop nose" isn't a proper reply
>I miss my old friends...

>>7672158
Thank you

I'm actually planning to safe up my birthday money to buy a skirt from there

I don't know if this fits in here, but whatever

>be 14, weaboo up the ass and wanted to get into 'lolotia'
>shopping for shoes on ebay, see some really cute ones, super cheap too
>super excited for them, wait for a few weeks and then when they finally come in they're for BJDs
>be a few years later, 19, grown up a bunch since then
>still hate BJDs to this day because of that

>>7671922
I do, but most of them are up already. I'm driving up there tonight with another friend, so at least there's that.

>>7672172
i'm so sorry anon, i've almost made this mistake before... but i'm laughing so hard.

>Saved £3000 for moving and trip to China
>See taobao and asian fashion websites
>so tempted to blow it all clothes

Must not give in to temptationnnnnnnn...

>>7671647
gg Inland Empire

>>7672493
Just think of all the shipping and tax free stuff you can buy when you're in China!

>sell entire wardrobe and give up lolita so boyfriend and i can finally have our own place
>packing up clothing
>open suitcase
>find IW bonnet, one of the first pieces I ever bought, and my favorite wig
>all my old lolita feels come washing over me
>suddenly want to binge on dream dresses and spiral back into frilly obsession

I'm so lonely and nobody likes me, cgl.

>gf says she's going to dye her hair pink instead of getting a wig because she doesn't have enough money for one
>Offer to buy her one because I have more than enough money to
>Refuses to, saying she "needs to do this herself"
>mfw

>want beautiful, full lolita bowl cut bangs
>had them in middle school
>face looked wide as f
>start looking up face shapes
>realize I have heart shaped face
>everyone recommends side cut bangs
>I hate my side cut
>impossible to keep in place
>always parts funny and looks grodey
>accentuates corner of face with no hair growth
>mfw my hair won't work with my face properly

>>7672611
why does nobody like you?
why not find a fun hobby and meet people through it?
>>7672614
been there, weather the storm

>>7672588
Save up over time anon, I know it'll suck to miss out on lolita stuff for a bit, but slowly build up your wardrobe again with your extra money. You'll appreciate your dresses all the more after this too.

>Want to get into cosplay but afraid of my family, cousins, and nonweeaboo friends judging me
>also if I do cosplay, I'm afraid of pics going online and grad schools seeing me in cosplay
>scared that might affect my chances of being accepted into grad school and getting a job
;_;

>>7672651
Just be a boss and hide that shit, that's what I do. My non weeb friends have no clue what I do when I go to cons

>>7671268
LOL that's so fucking unfortunate.
That's why I have people pay me up front first, for retarded bullshit like that. Wow.

>>7671840
I feel you anon, my parents are flakes and have a hard time keeping their word too.
My motto is: Don't expect anything from them, never be disappointed.

>>7672172
>>super excited for them, wait for a few weeks and then when they finally come in they're for BJDs
Lmao. That's awful. Were they higher quality BJD shoes? I can see someone mistaking the high price to mean that they're for real peoples' feet.

Anyway mine isn't a big deal since I guess I'll figure it out eventually, but anyway
>used Japonica a year or so ago
>see something on auction I really want
>decide on Japonica again even though I can't remember how it all works too well
>set max bid at 4900
>pay on paypal that amount + fees
>get outbid
>panic and email them
>set my new max at 7000
>other person on the auction auto bids until they reach their max
>my bidder was highest at 6800
>for no reason that I can explain they bid again and reached my max
>now it's 7000
>but I won it
>get an email
>I assume about customs?
>tfw I don't really understand what they're asking me to pay for and I hope they aren't thinking about charging me another 7000 since I already paid 5100 for the other bid

>>7672660
But here's the thing, my weeb friends upload con pics to Facebook. Also, how do you hide pics that other people have taken of you in cosplay?

>>7672642
With student loans and car payments, though, I'll be much too old for my chosen style by that time.
I came to terms with my leaving lolita quite some time ago. It was just a big sting to find the bonnet and remember what a lovely time I had wearing it.

>>7672689
Politely ask them to remove the photos? Even if you just explain it with "I'm friends with my boss/coworkers and I'd rather them not see this part of my personal life," they will probably understand.

>tfw bought new dress
>planning trip to San Francisco next March
>no monies
>skipped out on con I wanted to go to
>see friends posting pictures, status updates about being at said con
>tfw excited for future but want fun now...

>>7671840
You're not wrong for being disappointed. You were promised something and then she took back her promise.
And you're never too old to enjoy your birthday. You can't expect presents (just like how children should feel grateful for presents, not think that presents are an obligation), but they're always nice. My father threw himself a wonderful birthday for his 60th and he was as excited as a kid on christmas.

>>7672689
Well unless they tag you people aren't gonna know. I've had pictures posted to facebook of me in cosplay that I didn't even know existed and I was looking for them. Really though, at the end of the day, cosplaying doesn't seem to have as bad a rep as it used to and if people are going to judge you negatively for something you enjoy that doesn't hurt anyone then you need to reconsider your friends.

>>7672651
Get a fake/separate fb account.

>>7672706
>at the end of the day, cosplaying doesn't seem to have as bad a rep as it used to
I've got some bad news for you.

>long time in a terrible job
>quit
>new company is awesome
>tfw arriving from a great day at work

>>7672713
I've got some surprisingly good news for you.

>tfw you want to make friends on Tumblr but are too scared and/or they don't respond to your asks
I'd try to make friends IRL instead but I live in the middle of nowhere

>>7672787
Go. Back. To. /adv/. You are utter shit. Also, HoC is making dumb normalfags thing cosplayers are pantsu-on-head retarded I am haffu and I've had coworkers ask me if I'm into that cosplay stuff or animu because of it now and they make fun of it nonstop, when it wasn't even spoken of before.

>>7672857
Reading what you typed, no wonder they think people who watch anime are retards.

>new girl joins comm
>seems nice enough
>after a week or two, true colors start to show
>weaboo as fuck
>Brony for sure, suspected to be furry
>actually diagnosed with Asperger's
>20 years old, but lives at home, and comes to meets with her mom/dad in tow
>harassing comm members over PM about her chosen hobby (MLP)
>staying as far the fuck away from her as I can, haven't added her as friends or spoken more than once

>tfw I have a PM suddenly sitting in my inbox from her out of the blue

I don't want to open it. I don't.

>>7672147
T-Thank you anon

I'm this fag
>>7672673

Can someone give me a rough translation of this message from Japonica? I tried to google translate it but it doesn't make a lot of sense to me.

>>お世話になります。ID" _____"の田島です。深夜の手続き失礼します。代金の支払いはモバペイで発送は可能でしたらレターパックライト360でお願いします。よろしくお願いします。

>>7671810
I normally wouldn't mind the drive but man, they always happen the days I'm working

lately my friends have been meeting up and going to cool places and I wasn't able to join them for different reasons (work, bf, money), and though I'm fully aware it's not anyone's fault that I wasn't present, I can't stop feeling bad about them having a good time without me, like they don't need me there to have fun. I know it's very selfish and I feel like a shitty person but I can't help it. I want my loli friends back. (I'm working on it, it's not just whining, but I needed to vent since I don't want to come off as a bitter bitch to anyone I know)

>admires lolita so much it hurts
>want to buy lots of nice burando but
>super frugal
>needs to save money for uni
>probably wouldn't wear lolita a lot cause I'm really self conscious about my appearance and I don't want people to make fun of me for looking different
>parents would probably not like it
>sad because I visited the SF BtSSB and AP stores and I fell in love
>I was this close to buying the cosmic series OP and I had the money but I can't justify spending so much on a dress
>:(

also

>dress himekaji every single day
>"wow anon you look really fancy today! you look so dressed up. are you trying to impress a boy?"

noooooooo

>>7673002
Eh, don't worry about it too much, there will still be things that you want to buy when you graduate that you can buy then.
I did exactly the same thing as you, I saved every penny from 16 until I was 23.
Would I have enjoyed myself more if I'd just bought some burando mid-uni? Yes.
Did I still desperately need that money when I graduated? Yes?
Could I have found a way to cope if I'd already spent that money? Maybe.
You never know what the future brings. Maybe split your finances with an excel spreadsheet and dedicated 20% as savings for your hobbies alone.

>>7672938
ID __ Tajima. He wants it to be paid via mobapay, and then used letter pack light 360 or something. Thanks.

>>7672084

How did you not notice there was alcohol in your drink and also drink enough to get drunk without knowing?

>>7673071
Ever had stuff with rum? Sometimes you can't taste the alcohol.

>>7673068
Wow my English is bad, I'm sorry. He is ID __, his name is Tajima. He wants to pay using mobapay, and then he wants to it to be shipped via letter pack light 360, and he says please and thank you" basically.
Sorry for my bad English.

>Birthday in August
>make an event for lolita meetup the following Saturday
>not very outgoing in comm
>only 2 other people rsvp'd
>3 maybes
>oh god no one likes me

later on the facebook comm group
>someone suggests a meetup at the place I planned my meet up for
>"u...uh.... I...uh... m..made an event...."
>no response
>okay.jpg

>>7673068
>>7673090
Er, except that's kind of weird considering I already paid a deposit with paypal, so now I have to pay the remaining overbid with mobapay?
I kind of jumped the gun before I saw your posts and emailed back saying to invoice the rest through my paypal. Welp, this is gonna get awkward.

Thanks for your help anyway.

Going to be honest with my feelings here, /cgl/.
I can't handle how terrible this world is. Unlike other people, I can't ignore it when millions of people everywhere are suffering and everyone's first go-to solution for the issue is turning away and ignoring it. I'm tired of everyone ignoring others who really need someone to take action for anything to be fixed, but people are just so afraid of everything that they turn a blind eye and don't do shit other than complain about it. They feel like as long as they put in their pity points for today that's good enough.

I can't handle eating anymore lately. I saw a homeless guy who was bone thin walking his skeleton of a dog and it made me sick to my stomach. How can we just leave people to die like that? I'm getting scrawny and unhealthy, but the thought of eating disgusts me

I'm feeling depressed, I see no point in going through with college (even though I am) because I'm confident that whether or not I have money will make no difference with my happiness. Even if I do get a job it's human nature to keep feeling like shit and wanting what you don't have. I'm not up for working all day everyday when I'm already not even allowed to go anywhere or do anything as it is. Even if I did do something I loved, it would just become boring to me.

Everything is so fucking boring lately. Even cosplay, lolita and other things... Trashy, inconsiderate, selfish people ruin the hobbies that are supposed to be fun for me. I just can't get over how idiotic the people in this world are.

Soon I'm probably going to dress up in one of my favorite coords and just hurl myself off of an 8 floor parking garage we have here. I used to be afraid of the thought of it hurting, but I've reached the point that I really just don't care. This world is so shitty. We're stuck in a loop of things we're "required" to do just to be seen as worthy to our society. None of our lives matter in the long run. There's just no point.

>>7673132
nothing against you, but I always find 'birthday meet ups' awkward. Like do you expect me to give you a gift? Thought did you phase it as a birthday meet up or did it just happened to be your birthday the week before?

>>7673183
You need to get help. Like seriously, it sounds like you have a mental disorder. Talk to a therapist or a psychiatrist.

I've gone through depression so I know how much it hurts and feels like nothing will ever get better, but it does. Get help. Don't be afraid to lean on others if you need it.

Shit happens in the world. If you really feel so strongly about it, then do something. buy that homeless man some food, and food for his dog. Join a volunteer program, volunteer at the soup kitchen. But don't just sit at home on your computer bitching and feeling sorry for yourself and refuse to do anything about it.

>>7673183
If you kill yourself, then you're just as bad as everyone else who ignores the world's problem, turning blind dead eyes to their suffering. Nothing says you have to work a 9 to 5 for someone and live a dull controlled life. Make your own job. Make your own shop or service, your own schedule, your own freedom rather than being chained to a desk all day. And if your dreams change, then change your life, re-invent again to stay fresh. Just keep going for the absurdity of it and the possibility of joy in this fleeting moment, Albert Camus style.

>>7673205
Oh yeah I can understand how a birthday meetup can be kind of awkward. The second meetup I went to was a birthday meetup and it was my first time meeting the birthday girl. I wouldn't expect anyone I didn't know really well to get me anything, even like a card. I'm turning 22 so it's kind of at that point where birthdays are like "okay you get to chose what we have for dinner because it's your birthday! Also, here's a gift card for Amazon, go get yourself something nice"

And yes I did word it as a birthday meetup, do you think it'll make people not want to go?

I want to make lolita friends, not just join my kind of drama-filled local comm.

But despite my efforts nobody really gives a shit. ;~;

>>7673225
again this is just me but unless I super know who you are I avoid all birthday meet ups. Unless it's like a "July birthday meet" where everyone in the community that has a birthday in July will meet up. Again that's just me.

>>7673183
Its called depressive realism anon

>>7673071
>>7673075
it was a good mixed drink and I'm dumb. I'm the kind of lightweight that gets "can't walk so straight" drunk after a single glass of wine...so yeah.
But it tasted really, really good, like fucking liquid candy, would take a sip off and hand off to a friend again.

>>7673183
Wow, are you me? This sounds exactly how I felt over the past two years, (and even now to a less extreme extent).

Since this is anonymous, I'll openly say that I have attempted suicide multiple times (about 3 times technically) and there was a time I had thoughts about killing myself every single day. I basically just slept in my bed all day on the weekends. I didn't have a lot of friends in high school, and I usually ate lunch alone in the music practice rooms (because I was in the school band). My junior year one night I was talking to a friend and I was telling her how I wanted to kill myself because I wasn't sure what I wanted to do in college, and because I felt like there was no point in my life anymore. She was a great friend because she ended up contacting the suicide helpline on my behalf and my school was quite supportive.

I still felt pretty shitty and I actually had to go to two behavioral health hospitals to get my problem under control. Also, I understand EXACTLY how you feel about the homeless person. I visited New York for the first time a few months back for a school trip, and the number of homeless people there was amazing. I actually called the suicide helpline when I was there and I was crying on the phone because I felt really uncomfortable and guilty about it. Though, the guy on the phone told me that there is always help and resources available for those who need it, and as shitty as the world is, there's an equal amount of good things that come from it too.

Anon, please don't kill yourself. From someone who has spent HOURS plotting different suicide attempts, don't do it. The minute you jump off that building you will regret it. Life seems very boring, and it IS when you are surrounded by sad things, shitty people, and old hobbies. That's why people find new interests and different circles to hang out with.

(cont...)

>>7673183
>>7673270
(continued)

Regarding the job/college thing, please find something that your passionate about and discover something exciting that interests you. You will get bored after a while if you're working for the same company or if you're stuck in the same position or routine. You'll realize that there are plenty of opportunities to work for other companies and you always have some freedom if you want to change your career as well.

So, anon. Don't go through with it. If you TRULY wanted to end your life, you would not be sharing your feelings and basically asking for help. You'll regret it so much. I was very lonely for a long time and when I graduated HS two months ago I was astounded at how many people who were in my classes (people who I had occasionally chatted with - not really friends) who had told me that they really liked me and thought I was a great person. Many people think highly of you, anon. If you were to die I'm sure many people would be very upset, even if you don't realize it.

Please schedule an appointment with a therapist or counselor, if you haven't already. If you don't feel like they're helping, try another one. They are a huge help and they will give you resources and will point you in the right direction. If you like, if you need it, I can also give you my e-mail if you need any more help.

Good luck anon. You WILL get through this.

>>7673183
Well shit anon. Do you need someone to talk to? I am sure multiple people in this thread would aim/skype/whatever with you.

Fucking Origin Post is preparing shipment. There are no words for the love/hate feeling this gives me.

>>7671781
if u do a really good job on the costume people who aren't shitty will give no fucks. i know I don't

>tfw I cosplay Asuka from EVA about a month or two ago
>tfw within the last week, 5 of my friends are suddenly cosplaying her too...
>tfw they are all just discovering EVA, too

>driving to a far fabric store for certain colours
>one way is roadwork city, take the freeway instead
>people braking for no reason and causing mass confusion
>failure to comprehend merging just about winds in a 20 car pile up
>lane hoggers going under the limit therefore other lanes slow down to stay in line
>trip for me took an hour longer than it should've
>take the roadwork way home
>took less time

I mean christ I know roads are daunting at high speeds, but for a country with so many clear and simple rules Australia has the worst drivers.

>>7673225
Same as this anon >>7673249
I find birthday meets awkward to attend, because I'm not very close friends with most of the comm, but they seem to invite all 100+ of us anyway

>>7673486
>merging onto freeways

WHY are aussie drivers so incredibly shit at this? get up to speed, pick your gap and get the fuck on. i swear to god those traffic light on-ramps are 100x worse for supposedly helping.

>finally gather my courage
>go to shower
>finally shave "down there" for the first real time
>done it before but sensitive skin and end up bleeding/irritated
>trim
>lather
>shave
>no injuries
>so proud of myself
>barely any hairs sticking out of undies now
>mfw i could cry ;_;
this probably isnt a big deal to most seagulls but i had a horrible time trying to trim down the last couple of times i tried. i feel so much more confident now. when i look in the mirror i dont see the black forest creeping out. too bad no one will see (or not see!) my hairs sticking out since i dont have a pool/go to the beach or have a partner.

>>7673423
This. The few who ARE shitty need to die in a fire. Be brave, play your fave. Don't let haters win.

>>7673564
Not to mention, you'll be clear too if you wear any sort of swimsuit cosplays or bunny suits!

>>7673183
I feel the same way anon. The world has gone to shit despite no apocalypses happening. Lots of people only care for themselves, because that's the way we've been raised. People are no longer open and friendly, but closed off because they don't want to be robbed, or hurt, or taken advantage of. I think we're all guilty or turning the blind eye to things, some more than others. But I want to give you a challenge: try and change your outlook on things, little by little. It's very difficult, I know. Take pretty pictures, pick up a hobby. Speak to people you don't know and learn about them. Do nice things for people. This is all really fucking cliche but maybe if you do those things, you can make a small, small difference in your community. And maybe they'll in turn help someone else. Or speak to someone else. Or just stop being an asshole. I think that people like you are the kind of people we need. Self-aware people. People who can make a difference because they realize what's going on, and are sick of the cattle-style society. Anon, you can make a difference, even if just a microscopic amount. Don't you go anywhere.

>>7673132
I think most birthday meets are awkward because of the gift or card thing and because people feel like they only want to go to a birthday if they really know you well or that the meet is not for the group but for you to have a birthday party with them as a captive audience. Even if it's not like that, people get weird about it and often don't want to go. So,e groups also get weird if a meet is planned without discussing dates, times and places with the group first to plan the best day end the most people can come. Could be several reasons here from what you've said. August is also pretty hot and sticky where I live, I couldn't get my group out in Lolita then even on a bet.

>>7672987
You need to work on your feelings too, anon. It's really hard to keep a healthy friendship when you feel that way about your friends when they are out without you.

>>7673002
>are you trying to impress a boy?
I got that SO MUCH in the beginning. I think it's mostly because I had a quite drastic style change, from really boring jeans + t-shirt and no confidence, to frilly short dresses and actually smiling. They'll get used to it eventually though. Continue with the himekaji and later on it's not hard to build it up to transition to otome and then lolita, and then you won't feel so self-conscious by the time you can actually afford nice brand dresses.

>>7673531
When I find out I will write a book on this shit. I don't see how hard it is to speed UP to 100kms so you in turn are smoothly merging in? It's even been a news report on driving etiquette it's that retarded.

With way myself and two cars I was between with the license plate kissing were equally as pissed as I was.

>>7673576
>Do nice things for people
Yes. I concur with this. I feel the same way most of the time, but sometimes helping others out really makes a difference. Except when they're completely ungrateful and then I want to smack a bitch.

But otherwise, find things to appreciate. Help out the people that aren't just zombies in their own bubble.

Stay off /cgl/ for awhile, even if it's a few days. Sometimes people's cattiness and bitchiness here really grates on me. But after going to a meet or being with friends and more positive things, it really changes my persective a little.

Basically surround yourself with positive things and try not to pay too much mind to the negative ones. Help out where you can.

>Be really close friends with lolita from local comm and see her outside of lolita quite often.
>Think of her as lolita bff
>What if she doesn't feel the same way

>>7673719
One of my lolita friend of years and years present me as her bff. I appreciate her, but every human being (in fact any living thing that moves a lot and produce sound) get on my nerve pretty easily, so I just nod and smile. That being said, she is pretty high on my scale of appreciation.

And here I'm realising that it may not help you at all, but it was just to say that it doesn't matter if she feels the same way, as long as you get along.

> trying to lose some of my landwhale fat!
> ... attempt nr. 208347

I hate it, I hate how I look and how much I eat and I always feel guilty as fuck after binging and can barely get myself to buy clothing because I think I look absolutely disgusting.
But every time I try to lose weight I can't control myself at all, I know how to lose weight but soon after I start I'll start getting urges to binge on some shit again and it always feels like I can't stop myself. And I hate it so much yet I can't get that self control I wish for at all....

>>7673724
Binge on something else ? I use to binge or dry asian noodles, super fatty. Replaces it by carrots and cherry tomatoes, loose weight, tadaaaa.

>>7673725
on*

>>7673725
I try to spend my spare change on other stuff
I notice (for myself at least) that if I have spare money that I always get junk food type stuff

>>7673732
That's why I don't have money on me, just my debit card. Otherwise I'm too tempted buying stuff to eat.

>>7673722
Thank you for your reply anon, I haven't told anyone that she is my bff or presented her in that way...

I understand your point. In all honesty it doesn't really matter but it would be nice to know.

>>7671287
Wait what who are we talking about? I always miss out on the drama!

>>7673209
No, I don't have a mental disorder. My brother is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic, so I watched as he lost himself to his illness over the years. I haven't inherited it though. As one anon said, depressive realism. For one anon who suggested doing community service, I have over five hundred hours and thousands of dollars worth donated into charities. It's not like I do nothing, there's just so much fucked up shit and I can't ignore it like others can.

>>7672821
It's not easy forming relationships on tumblr, but if you keep talking to them normally "hey, you're into this and this? What do you think about this?" instead of OMGZ I WANNA BE FWEINDS BUT UR TOO COOL FER SKOOL, after time the person will start to recognize your username and you can chat back and forth pretty easy.

>>7673308
>>7673576

I'm trying really hard to make a difference, but as soon as I help someone out it always comes back to bite me in the ass. I still keep trying regardless. I think I may just need to be introduced to people who think like me in the least destructive way possible so I don't feel like I'm constantly surrounded by idiots.

Regarding hobbies, I've dedicated hours to many of the hobbies I have. Acting, singing, sewing, cosplay, egl, baton twirling, writing, drawing, tap dancing, waltzing, fire spinning etc. etc. I've tried to find something I'm crazy about and I always do, but it's only the hobby itself. I could love something but then the community would just ruin the feeling of my own enjoyment for me... Does that make sense? I just can't filter out people and their dumbass behavior as well as others. I'm also very bitter. Whenever I've needed help in my life I've just watched others constantly turn in the other direction and after a while it's just pissed me off. I don't even expect others to bat an eye anymore.

But, yeah I'd be down if anyone wants to talk. I like making friends. I'm a pretty peppy, outgoing and optimistic sounding person in spite of my depressive ramble, surprisingly enough. Email is in the field.

>>7673779
I fucking swear I've read this exact post a long time ago.
Have you posted about this before?

>>7672987
ugh pls don't be that girl. work on your feelings and never reveal them to your friends if you don't want them to resent you.
>ex friend the exact same way
>would bitch and moan when we would have fun with her gf and she had family obligations
>YOU GUYS ARE MY ONLY FRIENDS I LIKE BUT YOU KEEP DOING FUN STUFF WITHOUT MEEE
>she chose to move 2 hours away with her mom so she didn't have to get a job
I can't hate the cunt because she introduced me to anime but god damn

>>7673799
I may have posted about the first bit' but not the second bit'. It just grates on me when people jump to "You have something moderately wrong with you?? Obvs a mental disorder." When in reality mental disorders aren't something that light in the slightest. It's pretty much normal for people to consider suicide nowadays, at least I don't know anyone who hasn't at least once. Doesn't mean people immediately have a terrible disorder.

>>7673183
>>7673779

Listen here, you lil shit

Donating money is nice, but in the end, you're still just sitting there doing shit and you don't feel you've accomplished anything.

I left home at 17 and traveled around my country with literally 0 money in my pockets.
Why? Because I was depressed and sick to death of my environment and everyone in it.
Mother fucking hitchhiked everyone and joined a caravan of fucking hippie travelers.
I lived this way for about 3 years. You wanna know what I learned?
That most people are complete shit no matter where you are.

I know the ragged, skinny, hungry people you've seen, and I've traveled with them. Their wounds are usually self-inflicted; ragged and skinny? That dude may very well have had a coke problem, and every dollar we had made panhandling, he spent it on booze, cigs, and drugs instead of gas and food so we could get out of town.

Instead of fucking "finding myself" and dwelling in the shit of humanity, I decided to make a difference to people who actually wanted help.
Traveled to Nicaragua and helped supply and paint a school there. I randomly pick up people off the street and ask where they're headed; I buy them food and sit down with them.
I'm not saying that to fucking brag about what hot shit I am and how enlightened I am, because both aren't true.

Do something worthwhile instead of being a lump who likes the idea.
Because the more I realized that people are shit, I realized that there are tons more that can't help their circumstance, and THOSE are the people I should be helping.
Posting about how we should help people on Tumblr or to get likes on Facebook is once thing, actually doing shit is another.

People always make fun of me for being so happy all the time, saying I'm fucking ignorant of everything going on in the world.
Truth is, I've been unhappy for the longest time and wallowed in the unhappiness of others.
And I will never go back to that, because it's shit.

I wish you happiness, anon.

>>7673820
I know that whatever happens to people is usually self-inflicted, but I don't care really. It's not the individual people, it's just how things are in general that bother me when they could be so much better if people just weren't so greedy. I think you read over my over 500 hours of helping the mentally ill in hospitals, singing to and playing with children in foster homes and other activities. I could go into more but it's not something I'm prideful about, just something I did. My point is I have done things to help. I'm not one of the people that sits and just throws fake pity at issues. I keep mini bags of snacks, deodorant and other things just so I can give them out to homeless people I see. I am doing things to the best of my ability, and honestly I just graduated High School. I'm still pretty young, but I'm doing what I can.
Overall, thank you and I wish you happiness too, anon.

>>7673724
It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. Start a reasonable, nutritious but repetitive diet and try to put your eating on autopilot rather than a pleasure source at least for a while.focus on and reward yourself with non-food items and never shitty food that is bad for you. It's like exercise, have a dilemma on whether to do it today? Just do it EVERY day, then no dilemma. Same with eating healthy. Shit food is bad for you. Healthy food is good for you. Be a little more strict with yourself at first and you'll both get used to it faster and see results sooner. Buy something 1 size too small and hang it on a pretty wall hook. Try it on every week until it fits. Do it again.

>>7673465
fuck off and stop posting this in every feel thread. nge isnt anything fucking new, dont act like your friends are doing it cause of you. also your costume is shit

>>7673938
How can you tell if their costume is shit if there's no pics of it within the thread?

>>7673882
thanks anon, I really needed this even just as a motivation to work even harder, this time I'll finally lose that weight!

>Lack of money due to no one in the area hiring
>Friend really wants me to go to con
>Says she'll let me stay in hotel room for free so it's less money to save
>Mom'll give me the money to go since that's like 100$ less bucks since no hotel room
>Buying ticket and whatnot
>Message friend saying that I can definitely go and what not
>Friend doesn't remember ever offering to let me stay in their room and I can't just ask to stay because muh pride and general dislike of asking people for things
I give up on trying to go to cons until I have my own car and job.

I'm such a fucking loser.
I can't do anything right. I have absolutely no talent. And the worst part is: I always give up. No matter what. I just give up on everything. Relationships, college, sports, art, you name it! The only thing I can't give up on is lolita. Idk the fuck why but this fashion is my fucking escape from reality. It makes me feel safe (I'm a loner loli so I don't ever get into any kind of drama). But, fuck man, I wish I had as much willpower to go on and give my best at things like I do with lolita.

I'm super ambivalent towards my lolita community. Some days I think they're awesome, but in general I think they're a bunch of flakes and wouldn't leave them alone to watch my cat for the weekend.

they complain about $30~40 meets even with three months notice. It's like whatever you just posted about how you were going to order a $200 dress.

>>7674145
What you should be doing is stop using lolita as your scapegoat. Just because you're good at it doesn't mena that you should use that to escape reality.

Everyone wants an escape from reality, and the pull of an escape is strong, but if you allow yourself to become fully absorbed by it, you'll never allow yourself to succeed outside of it. Sure, you'll fuck up at stuff, sure you'll piss people off and you'll make mistakes and people might call you stupid.

Remember this, though: Making mistakes is just a part of living. You'll make mistakes your entire life, you'll mess things up your whole life, and that's just something you'll never be able to run from. Better to make them now, no matter how big of mistakes they are, so that you can learn from them and correct those mistakes rather than make them later on in life and be unable to fix them.

Don't be afraid of making mistakes.

>found through tumblr a fellow Lolita in my area
>excited as fuck
>find no lolita photos of her only cosplay

I'm happy but I hope she is no weeaboo ita or at least she let me help to improve, if necessary

>>7674145
P.S. if you want an escape from reality, I'll be pleased to fuck reality out of you ;)

>have social anxiety and depression that worsened over a couple years
>slowly start talking to friends less and less
>gets to the point where i feel awkward talking to them because I've left off so long
>horrible cycle
>don't even know how to reply to messages most of the time
>start avoiding basically every social network because of unanswered messages (hoping they assume I just never saw because I'm never on)
>haven't hung out with anyone that isn't 20 years older than me in over 6 months
>really miss old friends but terrified to talk to them and unsure of what to say
>trying to build up the courage to pull myself out of this god forsaken hole I've dug

Just now
>gather up bravery to open skype
>appearing offline as per usual
>see old best friend is online
>the one I miss the most
>decide to change display pic first since I hadn't in 6 months
>2 mins later
>deep breaths
>you can do this
>friend is offline now

I'm hoping to try again later at least...

>>7673801
>>7673677
I know it's not ok to feel this way, as I already said. I'm working on it already, I don't want to be a cunt. I'd never say anything like it to my friends.
Thanks for your replies though.

>>7674344
I know this is hard, but please don't avoid. I used to have really bad social anxiety disorder and avoidance too, but the best thing I could have done is push myself through the anxiety. It's going to be really, really scary, but you're going to have to do it if you want to make any sort of progress. If they're your friends and you explain what happened, then they're going to understand. I believe you can do it, anon.

>>7674222
That's nice of you. I don't think I can keep myself from fucking everything up, though.
>>7674274
Yeah, I'll keep that in mind.

>>7674578
When you start allowing yourself to get into a spiral of negative emotions and lack of self-esteem, it continues until you break free from it. You have to realize that there are a lot of things you're good at. If you constantly look at the negatives, it'll seem like there are no positives.

When you break free from a circle of negative emotions, you find yourself relieved. You have to forgive yourself and love yourself, but also expect the most out of yourself. It is the most important thing you can do for you and helps you grow and develop as a human being.

Things aren't as bad as you think they are. Don't let you stop yourself from being a better person.

>Don't let you stop you from being a better you.

>want to cosplay Clare from Claymore
>tfw Chinese with tan skin, relatively dark for an Asian
>tfw platinum blonde looks like shit against my skin
>tfw not fair and beautiful like Clare
>tfw will never be superior Aryan race

hold me cgl.

Sometimes I think about bleaching my skin. I wish I could be light-skinned too. My mom constantly tells me "why were you born with such dark skin, why do you take from your dad, etc." and it doesn't mak me feel any better.

>>7674423
When you said you were working on it, I assumed you meant re-organizing your schedule so you can spend time with your friends, I am sorry I misunderstood.
Good luck in changing yourself, anon!

>>7674958
To have this kind of comment coming from your own mom can be really toxic. Get away if you can, and if you can't, use cosplay to build up your confidence. Go do Clare, choose a wig color that suits you and rock it! You'll feel better about yourself once you see you can look great in that costume independently of your skin tone.

>have a relatively busy school life, rarely have time to sew
>been working on a skirt from an Otome no Sewing book for the last 6 months
>finally get it 75% done
>try it on
>I lost like 3 or 4 inches off my waist since I made the pieces
>it's hanging off me now
>now I need to take it in or add corset lacing
Fuck me. I'm glad I lost some weight but jesus this is gonna take another 6 months

>>7674344
I have these feels of avoidance at times even if i feel better than before and i don't have depression, but i have a "depressed" personality at times. They are hard to overcome these bad feels (i still cannot overcome them totally) but if gradually get more into contact with your closest friends only, it could be better for you!

>some old guy started working with us 3 weeks ago
>he's really slow and kinda an airhead
>super nice and is always happy and stuff
>health inspection yesterday
>old guy had a fucking mess at his station
>try to help him clean up his shit
>Inspector comes and see the mess and puts his department on hold, reports it to the manager
>Manager is mad as fuck and comes to help out
>old guy is scared and asks me if he fucked up big time
>I told him everything was going to be fine
>later in the office Im joking around with the Manager about bullshit
>"old guy seems to have some trouble getting the hang of things man"
>"Oh yeah, its been 3 weeks already, this is his last week here "
>old guy's getting fired

I feel like an ass for telling him everything was going to be okay

> Be at Metrocon
> Boyfriend cosplaying bigger cosplay
> Putting bf into said cosplay
> Dude reaches to head piece
> wtf don't touch my stuff
> He gets offended when I tell him to please do not touch

I don't understand why people don't get that you shouldn't touch other people's cosplay if you haven't asked permission or if the cosplayer hasn't asked for help.

For all I know he wanted to grab the head piece and try it on.

So pissed off that he got mad.

>>7674958
the fact that you like claymore makes me and probably a few others at the con super happy.
Cosplaying > not cosplaying
Do your clare
be my waifu

>Want to cosplay
>"The convention is 8 months away. i have plenty of time to think of a cosplay"
>"The convention is 5 months away. i have plenty of time to think of a cosplay"
>"The convention is 3 months away. i have plenty of time to think of a cosplay"
"The convention is a month away. i have plenty of time to think of a cosplay...right?"
>Fuck it, I won't do a cosplay this year

EVERY TIME

>>7674991
My mom isn't a bad mother, I don't want to antagonize her. Having white skin is just a standard of beauty for east asians. I don't feel particularly threatened when she says it, it just reinforces my insecurities. I have been telling her that it hurts me lately, though.
I don't think there exists a shade of blonde that compliments my skin lol, although I am considering buying a bunch of color samples from Arda so maybe I'll test some out.
Thanks for the encouragement though, anon.

>>7675326
>the fact that you like claymore
Wait is it rare to find Claymore fans? Claymore is the fucking shit.

>been talking to a qt
>he tells me about one of his favorite songs and how he ~lives his life by it~
>he sends me the song saying i might like it
>mfw it's by one of my favorite groups but the message is very concerning

>>7674176
This is unfortunately all too common. They only want to spend $ on their clothes and Lolita things, and cry if a meet is more than $5

>mfw go somewhere nice with Lolita group and half of them order water and the cheapest menu item then don't tip.

>New to Lolita
>Really figuring what styles I like, dislike, etc.
>fall in love with Old School
>feel like I have no one to fangirl about it with

I'm the loser newbie who likes old school and classic.

>have an online bff
>weve helped each other through some pretty tough times
>weve become attached to each other quite firmly despite our small age gap
>bros4life
>be me today
>irl dudefriend cancels our hanging out thing
>mad
>ask her to skype to get my mind off it
>shes out at a movie
>o-okay
>sorry for wanting to go out
>i gotta go out sometimes anonette
>i-i know
>im sorry
>u have other friends
>no i dont (i do, just not as close as her)
>i cant always be there
>i wish you were
>we are dependent on each other (we have talked about this before, its nothing to be proud of though)
>anonette, you really shouldnt be so dependent on me though
>cue my ronery feels
>im sorry bro, im sorry for being so clingy ;_;

>>7676114
Read more, these two styles have actually gained a lot of following and increased popularity compared to a year or two ago.

>wears Red Sonja cosplay
>puts on comfy see-through thong
>flashes crowds with cooch while on stairs
>some asshole comes up and flips my flap
>flashes more people with vibrant vagina
>get him arrested
>proceed to bitch about it on fb
>gets posted on /cgl/
because being sexually assaulted is not enough.

>>7672689
You can have a professional and self facebook. I'm in an internship/training classes and the whole class had to join a fb page and the teacher highly recommended that we have two separate fbs one for professional and one for our friends,family,and hobbies (like the raver in our class that had her profile pic as her topless in a tutu with glow sticks/paint every where....)
>>7672713
>>7672857
I can understand where you are coming from, but I think the hobby may also be viewed differently depending on how you present it as well.
Don't try to hide it like
'oh the community is so shameful and all the members are retards.'

but try to be proud of it; like
'I really enjoy ___ anime because of ___,___,___ (logical and reasonable reasons) and I have a connection to this because of ___ and that why I like to do cosplay which is my personal representation of this character. The work I put in to this includes ___, ___, ___ which shows my dedication to this hobby that I really enjoy.'

>>7675355
I'm trying to think of one for a con that's still a year away but I can't think of any brown, male characters

>>7676123 again
>more shitty feels
>i am that friend that gets jealous of other friends
>hate it
>honestly cant help it
>bro met people on tf2
>theyre all bffs
>she discovers shes in some popular yter's tf2 vid
>dont forget us when ur rich and famous bro
>"i could never leave you guys!"
>w-what about me....
i feel so terrible. i want her to have friends, but i feel like she likes them more than me. its probably a really childish way of thinking, too. but it hurts. shes my bro.
>actually crying over my bullshit feels
>being this stupid
how do i get over this /cgl/

>>7676497
Make some real friends.

>>7676497
It's hard to like clingy friends, anon. When you have one, you feel sorry and guilty, and this turns to annoyance really fast. If you want to keep your friend, you really must work on this, and fast.

>>7676568
assuming this isnt bait, what do you qualify as "real friends", like rl people? im homeschooled (started two grades ago) which is why i dont have friends. i feel like talking to random strangers in public would be creepy.
>>7676587
its more of a mutual thing, we are both "clingy" to each other, me more than her i guess. i guess i can just not talk to her for awhile.

>>7676609
It's not about not talking, it's about showing you have a life beyond her. So she won't be sorry/guilty when she goes out and talks to other people. Being alone is fine, but try to get a life despite that. Hobbies, work, the usual. Try to enjoy it.

>>7676622
shes never reacted like that, it surprised me. i /do/ do other things besides talk to her. jesus, im not that clingy.
>not fuckin yet
i just enjoy talking to her more because shes my best friend

>tfw older now (27) and still attending cons
>only one real friend left to go with

>>7676622
>>7676669
a-also, sorry if it seems like im taking my frustration out on you, anon. thanks for not being an asswipe about this.

>tfw you discover a new, easy trick that will make your sewing process more efficient and time-effective than ever!

>tfw you realise you've been sewing for something like ten years and somehow didn't figure out this one, simple thing ages ago, which means you've been wasting precious time on every single project . . .

>>7677023
Take it as experience learned. It may not have been the most efficient way, but now you're a pro at doing it.

>>7677023
What's your trick anon?

>>7677023
>Seamstresses hate her! Learn this one simple trick to make your sewing process more efficient than ever!
But seriously you're gonna tell us all that but not what the trick is?

>>7672172
did you not check the size?

>>7677193
>>7677246
General feel for when you learn new shit. I mean when you figure out stuff like:

>using towel rolled up instead of tailor's ham
>rolling bodice for closed shoulders to avoid top-stitching, and still have fully-understitched necklines
>creating boning channels with seam allowances
>pinning curved pieces: pin ends together then work inward to prevent the dreaded misaligned edges
>making shirring panels with hidden stitches

That sort of shit.

>about to start on birth control for the first time
>reliable method that i don't have to remember every day
>terrified of pregnancy
>anxiety through the roof
>boyfriend suspects i'll start wanting to have sex less because of fear
>mfw i'm worried he might be right

how do you get over the fear of not using a barrier method? i'm scared. if i had to have an abortion i might be emotionally traumatized even though that's exactly what i'd want to do.

>>7677407
Use a combination of whatever you're using and calender/withdrawal.

>>7672172

>>7677467
are you serious? with the effectiveness of those i might as well just not do anything extra.

you do realize that you need to obsessively keep track of your cycle for almost a whole year before you can effectively use the calendar method? and even then you can still get pregnant? combined with bc it's better obviously but those suggestions are not helpful.

>>7677476
Woah anon, you're really paranoid aren't you.
I'm sorry I didn't realize how bad your anxiety is.
They're not as uneffective as the net might say, but w/e I understand if you don't want to. I've been relying on them for a long time, but I have a very regular cycle and I'm good at tracking.

>>7677407
>>7677467
>>7677476
How does using a calendar with pill make any sense? The calendar method's entire point is determining when the ovulation happens. The hormones prevent ovulation from happening. They also change your mucus to be less penetrable and yada yada, but still.

Anon, I used to have awful pregnancy anxiety too. We'd use condoms with spermicide and then still he'd have to pull out before cumming.
But I've been using nuvaring for 2 years and all those fears are gone. Though we rarely have regular sex with finish inside but when it happens, I feel no reason to panic. It also helped a TON with my menstrual cramps.

>>7677532
I kinda should add - I feel so safe with this method, because you keep it inside and it releases hormones directly to your body, there's no worry of forgetting the dose or losing it. I'm an awful scatterbrain and I'm 100% convinced I'd be pregnant within the few months with the regular pill.

Today I made an online impulse buy which was totally ok, but then I went to the fabric shop and spent literally 5x what I had gone out to spend.
I can't believe this happened, I miscalculated the cost of the stuff and spaghetti'd when she asked how many metres...
I can survive this but I can hardly breathe, money's too tight for this sort of shit.

>>7676221

Pics?

>>7677263
> realising you can do elastic waistbands without having to thread the elastic through

>tfw depressed and suicidal
>no one to turn to
>my friends are innocent and pure, i used to confide in them about my problems but they don't understand and can't support me
>can't tell anyone that I want to cut and die.
>boyfriend will get mad if he knew, he used to get really mad every time he sees a new cut.

I don't want to antagonize my friends/bf. They're all really good people.
I just... feel so alone.

>>7677407
I use Depo and all I do is put a reminder in my phone when my twelve weeks are almost done. If used correctly, you will never get pregnant using most hormonal birth control. If you're really concerned, just use condoms and whatever bc you're starting for a while until you get used to it. My boyfriend and i don't even use condoms except when it's around time to get my shot.

>>7679105
If you feel that you can't turn to your friends or boyfriend then maybe they're not for you. Your friends are meant to be supportive of you, and you should be able to confide in them and turn to them when you're having trouble, especially with something as bad as being depressed and suicidal.

I'd suggest you DO confide in them. If they turn away then you have just learned that you need new friends, but if they really are as good of people as you assume, then they will support you and help you get through the suicidal feelings.

I wish you the best of luck.

>>7673796
Replied to you.

>getting another piercing tomorrow
>might not be healed in time

god i hope this ones fast-healing so i can shove a retainer in it

>>7679742
nasty, if you're worried about it don't turn yourself into swiss cheese

>>7679755

but anon i am not a dairy product whose holes are a byproduct of carbon dioxide formation

don't worry though, you can't see them when i've got the retainers in : ^ )

>on day 4 of a water fast
>stomach is like wtf man
>trying to distract myself with sewing
>trying to find a diet buddy I can talk to about this stuff without being judged
>no one responds to me
I just wanna fit more brand so badly, and look good naked. I don't care what it takes but it'd be easier with someone cheering me on...

>>7671616
There is a reason they call it WARdrobe, you know? You gotta be territorial or you won't survive. Besides your boyfriend should just show some fukken interest in your interests!

>>7671781
Y u understand me so

I'm really into cosplaying and lolita but honestly my true passion lies in BL. I just wanna talk about BL, drown in BL and live a hardcore fujoshi life with my dakimakuras. I however realize that I don't want to speak to other cosplayers about it in case they have bad taste and I don't think most lolitas would appreciate if I wanted to talk about it at a meet.

I wish this dashcon crap would move to a different board. At this point it's like beating a dead horse.

>>7679821
Why on earth were you doing a water fast?

>>7680382
To lose weight?

This is gonna sound so simple but I'm really scared about it: Going to make my first cosplay I've sewed from scratch as opposed to put together from bought/premade items. I'm scared to death I'm going to fuck it up. Luckily it's nothing really complicated but I'm a perfectionist so I want it to look good. On top of that I'm afraid I won't look good in it.

>>7680532
You're just going to destroy your body that way, eat 500 calories below maintenance and stick to it that way you'll also learn good eating habbits not just pack the weight back on when you're done your disasterious "diet"

>>7680532

Yea, that's fucking stupid.

Losing water weight is just dehydrating yourself. Not losing actual weight.

Get off your fat ass and move, then eat less, then move some more.

>>7680762
Water fasting = not eating anything, only drinking water

(I do agree though, it's fucking stupid and not going to do shit)

>>7680786
Well it is landwhale logic of course it's going to be stupid, >>7680532 do what >>7680732 said.

>>7680732
I don't always fast, I do what you said most of the time, but sometimes my metabolism needs a jumpstart to get me out of a plateau.
>>7680762
6_9

>post picture of myself anywhere, feeling okay
>generally lose a follower or two after doing so

It... kind of hurts. I guess it means that seeing my face somehow drew the line and they decided "alright, get out of here" or whatever. Sometimes it's with people I don't really know or talk to, so that's whatever. Sometimes it is with people I did know or talk to and that's what kind of bites.

Kind of discourages me to post more, really.

>>7680858
Assuming you post your selfies on your blog (by your 'losing followers' comment), some people just want to follow blogs for their content.
You could always start another blog and just fill it with selfies.

>>7680837
Starving yourself isn't going to jump start your metabolism. Give yourself a cheat day every once and a while.

Keep fucking up sewing pleather gloves with gussets. Wasted fabric, might not have enough now for belt, gloves and boot covers. Feels bad man... Even made a mock up for my second pair but they still messed up. Motivation slipping and feeling useless. Pic related.

>>7672651
I wear frilly touhou outfits, and I got 96 people working for me. If they find out, eyyy whatever.
Btw I'm a guy

>>7677476
The "calendar method" is not very reliable. There's more to tracking your cycles than just using a calendar. But if you track your basal body temperature and learn to read your cervical mucus you can track when the egg has been released quite effectively. As long as you don't have sex in a time frame that allows for fertilization, you'll be fine.

>>7681252
And by not having sex I mean unprotected sex. I'm not on any kind of birth control and only use condones and haven't gotten pregnant or scared of being so in the nearly 10 years I've been sexually active.

>>7680786

Ah, right. Thought they meant not drinking any water.

Well, either way it's dumb and unsustainable.

Make realistic changes, gradually. Weight loss is about lifestyle change and not just short bursts.

>>7681257
The issue is that it only is a method for the minority of people who have a regular cycle and can accurately measure things like mucus and temp (which is really a fluctuation of 1 degree). The timeframe for fertilization can be most of the month for some people, making it unrealistic.

>>7680000
I-I'm this way too dear anon. I love my beautiful BL by artists such as Hayakawa Nojiko, Nakamura Asumiko, and Basso...but I feel like no one reads them. I'm not really a fan of tumblr-tier fujo stuff and many of the girls who are seem to be batshit crazy.

>>7673183
No, your life doesn't matter and you probably don't even have free will. Life's a rollercoaster; there's no point jumping off halfway through because you're not enjoying it, just go along for the ride.
>it's human nature to keep feeling like shit and wanting what you don't have
Then keep going after what you don't have. You might be able to look back on the journey and say you enjoyed it even if you don't get what you want.

>>7673724
Fat people are addicted to food; you need to get off it slowly. If you're eating a diet that has less calories in it than you burn then you're losing weight. And eating at a 200 calorie deficit doesn't require a massive amount of willpower like cutting shit out of your diet completely does.

I always seem to bite off more than I can chew when it comes to cosplays and it makes me so frustrated. Every upcoming con I'm constantly productive, working bit by bit, then something ends up messed up/not working out and I cant finish it on time. This has happened multiple times and I wanna pull my hair out, even though I know it's not big of a deal it's only a costume.

>>7673839
Life's always been shit for the majority of people. The time we live in is actually the happiest, healthiest period in human history and you should be thankful for it. The violence and degradation of our fellow man is inescapable. It's human nature. We're violent creatures that make ourselves happy through struggle and hurting others. You can either make yourself really unhappy by bemoaning that or you can accept it. There's no pleasure without pain. If no one suffered, no one would be happy either. You only have the liberty to cosplay, wear lolita, and be depressed in an enlightened way because there are skeletal homeless men strung out on coke and little kids getting bombed to bits in shithole countries.

I'm so fucking lonely. The only people who hit on me are fat fucking neckbeards, and I won't lower my standards because I'm thin and attractive. I just happen to be nerdy. Everyone else is normal and married, and I'm stuck looking for an attractive nerd.
>I'm going to die single because I wear lolita. Fuck.

>>7673183
You're probably going to get a lot of people being shitty to you, because this is /cgl/ and this is 4chan and people here act like they think it's cool to not care about something and like it's a bad thing to want to help people if they don't live up to truly idiotic standards.

But please know that there's at least one person out there who cares about you, whose heart is hurting because of your suffering but feels just a little bit better that you care enough to be suffering. One person who wants you to stay alive. I was in a similar place for a while, despairing at how terrible the world is. And I won't lie, it can be terrible. But there are great parts of it. I won't be condescending and expect you to just believe me like that... but there are things out here that will show you, if you stick around, that this world is worth living in. You're living proof yourself. You care enough to be deeply, tragically affected.

Your pain? Matters. Just like the pain of others that haunts you. And there are people who hurt to see your own pain. There's even one here, on fucking 4chan's cosplay board, where I'm sure people will mock the shit out of this post but I don't care because there is a person who is deeply hurting. And you know what? If I was here at the right time, and saw this post, and decided to write this reply, I'm probably not the only one who cares.

Please stay with us, anon.

I don't pretend to have the solution to all of your problems. But I do have an idea that could help you even just a little bit and others too. Be the one to be directly, hands-on involved in helping people. Get a degree, not for the money, but to go into a field where you can help people. Or be that person who makes extra food every night and goes to feed people who are hungry. That starving man you saw with his dog? That's who you can help! Think about their suffering. Then think that, even if you can't fix the world, you can help save lives. That's huge.

Please live, anon.

>>7673183
>>7673270

Your bleeding hearts are going to kill you.

When you realize it's you vs. the world, you may feel less guilt. You shouldn't feel bad because you have food to eat, a roof over your head, a good family, or anything else. Realistically speaking, not everyone can make it- I was one of those people who grew up piss poor, with no real education, no family, no health care- but I'm doing fine now. Yeah, I went through some terrible things and I became a sex worker at one point, but now I'm happy where I am, and I'm doing fine. Not everyone makes it, though, which is sad but it can't be helped. There are just too many people, and some of them get left behind when they can't make it themselves.

Be aware that you may be luckier than others, and be gracious, but never feel guilty because of it. Life isn't fair, and there's nothing you can do about it.

Study Buddhism, it may help you out a lot.

>>7673308

FUCKING THIS FOREVER. That and China Post tracking numbers that never get updated. UGH.

I don't think most cosplayers or Lolitas would appreciate it either, it's unrelated to either topic. Why not find other fujoshits online and sperge with them over it? Can't find any? Start a group for it.

>>7681671
Is for >>7680000
Dammit!

>>7681588
Don't blame it on Lolita, it's probably your over-emphasis on nerdiness and you being pretty judgmental. Unless you aren't perhaps quite as attractive as you think you are...

>>7681690
Not being judgmental, I'm just not physically attracted to chubby dudes, and chubby dudes seem to be real attracted to me. I'm also older, and live in a less than metropolitan area, so the men in my dating pool is already limited. I think if I moved to a larger area I'd probably have an easier chance of meeting someone. Is is that wrong to want to share hobbies with a partner? Not lolita, but nerdy hobbies in general. I am attractive though, I'm very certain that's not part of the problem.

>>7680000
You must be enjoying this seasons anime

Why is /cgl/ so fucking vicious and catty?
Not even /v/ follows z lister ecelebs and their ensuing drama like this board does.
I mean, seriously.

>buy jewelry for SJ tea party coordinate, kinda last minute because I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to find shoes for this coord in time (I did, they're great)
>make purchase on Etsy on the 7th
>AFTER the purchase, shop note is displayed saying shop is out of town for a trade show and that orders wouldn't be processed before the 10th
>look for that message on the front page of the shop so I can kick myself for not paying attention, but it's not there wtf
>mfw the stuff is made to order (1-2 day processing time)
>mfw this stuff is perfect and I'd been looking for the right accessories for days
>email them "wat do"
>"we can make everything on the 10th and you can pay an extra $3 for 3-day shipping, you'll have your stuff in time"
>PRAISE JESUS
>shipping label printed on the 9th, super happy about them doing it a day ahead of time
>...label hasn't been updated since then
>mfw we leave early Thursday morning

>>7681726
>implying nerdy hobbies turn men off

If you're attractive and thin, you must have some pretty noticeable negative qualities. A visible power-level isn't one of them.

>>7681726
I'm usually turning men down pretty regularly (I get weekly date offers), not the other way around, so I don't think it's something about me that is turning men off. I just haven't found anyone that I'm attracted to, and it's just really fucking frustrating. Maybe I'm just picky. So many people in my age group have no life goals or are in dead end careers...

>>7673796
sorry to hear about this. I'm not advice anon, but I wanted to add my 2 cents. I think the main thing that's lacking is that you don't have a set goal. It's difficult in itself to find one and I know that my friends get really upset from thinking about it, but sitting down and making yourself a list of short term, medium term and long term goals really helps.

and then making a plan of what you need to do in order to achieve these goals!

for example, I dunno how old you are or what job/education level you are at (maybe i missed this in your previous posts) but say, you could get a degree in social work perhaps? if you're old enough, alternate entry schemes are possible, or private colleges. I'm not sure where you live either, but here in Australia that is definitely possible. Then, you could definitely help your community. I think that you're never too old to go back to uni tbh, so perhaps consider a law degree, which definitely helps with stuff like social justice?

Maybe even save up for a bit and travel to see the world for a little while, that too may help with goals and is one in itself.

>>7681926
Well if chubby, nerdy neckbeards are regularly asking you out, something about you must be signaling them or making them think you are at their level, they just don't usually pop out of the woodwork. A thin, beautiful nerdy Lolita should have quite an intimidation factor for them, actually...so something else is obviously in play here.

>>7682069
I'm talking about online, lol, so not in person. Fuck I hate online dating. Meeting people is hard when you're out of college. Everyone at my workplace is either a woman or 60yrs old. I don't frequent cons, maybe I should start going to cons...
>why am I talking about this on 4chan

>>7682081
>online dating
That's rich, now seriously where do you hang out that these guys are approaching you so much?
Starbucks?
Your campus if you're still in schooling?
Your local hobby shop? I spend a lot of time in mine actually whenever the latest Gunpla shipment gets in.
Games workshop maybe?

>>7682098
Are you fucking kidding me? Even bottom of the barrel girls get like 10 messages daily from people on online dating sites.

>>7682098
Uh, no, I'm talking about someone messaging me via a dating website asking me out on a date. Half the time it's someone ten years older than me, someone ten years younger than me, neckbeard etc. Or if they do look like they might be interesting, they're into drugs or some other bullshit. It's frustrating. I don't read comics or play many video games, so I don't hang out at those type of shops. My hobbies are more into the history and literature varieties of nerdom.
I got harassed in person by some crass twenty somethings at the park last week, so I guess that counts, but that's also pretty normal since I run to keep in shape and I was wearing spandex. I'm not sure what you're looking for me to say?

>>7682126
Every time I log in I get bombarded, and half of the message are barely English or stuff like "You're hot" or "Goddess", or dumbasses asking me to cheat with them on their wives. Fucking knuckledraggers, man. Even if they're good looking, it's so incredibly off putting and half the time messaging with people ends up feeling more like sexual harassment than getting to know you. I have no idea what it's like for me, but online dating sucks as a female.
>>7682149
Find a new hobby you like where you mix with guys. Go hang out at the book store. Things like that.

>>7682126
Every time I log in I get bombarded, and half of the message are barely English or stuff like "You're hot" or "Goddess", or dumbasses asking me to cheat with them on their wives. Fucking knuckledraggers, man. Even if they're good looking, it's so incredibly off putting and half the time messaging with people ends up feeling more like sexual harassment than getting to know you. I have no idea what it's like for men, but online dating sucks as a female.
>>7682149
Find a new hobby you like where you mix with guys. Go hang out at the book store. Things like that.

>>7682173
Yeah, I get stuff like that too. It's really discouraging, and it makes me feel like a piece of meat. I don't have a lot of contact with people my age that are men due to my work, so, it's hard meeting people. I wish I'd dated more people in college, rather than just focusing on my coursework and hiding behind friends because of social anxiety.
>fuck I hate being shy

>>7672101
Absolutely nothing. I'm not a janitor and you guys are idiots. Meanwhile. Feeeeeeeeeels

>>7682126
lol true bottom barrel girls get maybe 2 a week
speaking from experience

>>7682193
B..but, anon, did you meet someone? Give me hope.
>please

>>7682205
Nope

>>7682205
Just message them yourself. It's what the majority of people on dating websites do.

>>7682209
>I'm sorry
We can be single together.

>>7682214
Yeah, I need to stop being chicken shit and start doing this. I guess I've kind of gotten apathetic about the whole thing, I should try a little harder.

>>7682250
My profile was pretty popular on okcupid, after a day I got over 100 messages, but after checking out the messages I decided to pay 10 dollars for a paid account and started browsing male profiles anonymously(I hate when they see that I visited their profiles and then think I'm all over them and keep spamming me)

Didn't take long to find someone I liked.

>tfw my grandma is fairly conservative and racist
>mom used to always chide me about my behavior around her
>kind of always felt uncomfortable around family due that

>As I get older I realize my family is actually pretty wacky and fucked up in that secret conservative white people way
>Which is awesome because now I'm no longer the only weirdo in my family

>Grandma totally accepts my cosplaying and lolita
>Loves to see my new dresses and always goes on about how beautiful they are
>doesn't care when I dress sexy, like a hobo, like a sperglord, etc

>We got in a discussion about weed tonight
>Ended up telling her I'm a pretty big stoner due to insomnia and anxiety (plus I just really enjoy it)
>She was really curious and thought my Volcano was cool
>"Well isn't that something!"

my grandma is awesome fuck yeah
pic related, our shared favorite animal

>>7682126
Oh, my mistake.
I forget where I am sometimes.
Yeah, you're right.

>>7682149
Well sweetheart there's a reason Beta's, ugly spergs, and a general childish nature are the stereotypes of your hobbies, and it isn't because that shit is sexy.

I can't relate to getting guys hitting on me, but I can say I share your experience at least somewhat.
There's no way to say I'm handsome without sounding cocky, but I am, and my interests aren't in line with hours, but the demographics are.
So I know where you're coming from in terms of trying to find people who aren't obnoxious dildo's who are into your hobbies and interests.
I've yet to meet a girl into the same stuff I am that's cool.
He'll, I really only know two guys who just share my interests and personality, while different enough to remain engaging.
IRL.
Online I've been lucky and met a group of 20 ~6/7 years ago that shares my interests and present engaging conversation on anything.
Still leave the text skype idle everyday in the background.

I don't really have a point to what I'm posting, so don't ask me.
I'm just bored and rambling at the moment on this shithole of a site.

>>7682303
>Wel sweetheart

>>7682301
That's awesome, anon! I wish we could smoke together and wear lolita.

>>7682311
Ugh, I would love to. Wearing prints while smoking a nice sativa is so fun, the prints blow your fucking mind.

>>7682310
Offended?
Those are the first two words and you missed an L you dumb cunt.
Read the post.

>>7682303
It's fucking depressing how many people that share similar interests of mine are either obese or completely socially awkward/autistic. I mean, I'm shy, but these people... Or, cat men. I get so many crazy men who are like, reverse cat ladies. Just, why? I hate getting old. This sucks. I'm comfortable being single, and I have been for several years. But, it would be nice to have someone to come home to.

I recently tried going on a date with a guy who was very nice and not so attractive, but it was just soo uncomfortable because there was no attraction at all. All I want is a semi-attractive guy who is well read and won't be ashamed to be seen in public while wearing lolita. Is that really too much to ask for?!

Yeah, now I'm just bitching.

>>7682303
It's fucking depressing how many people that share similar interests of mine are either obese or completely socially awkward/autistic. I mean, I'm shy, but these people... Or, cat men. I get so many crazy men who are like, reverse cat ladies. Just, why? I hate getting old. This sucks. I'm comfortable being single, and I have been for several years. But, it would be nice to have someone to come home to.

I recently tried going on a date with a guy who was very nice and not so attractive, but it was just soo uncomfortable because there was no attraction at all. All I want is a semi-attractive guy who is well read and won't be ashamed to be seen in public with me while I'm wearing lolita. Is that really too much to ask for?!

Yeah, now I'm just bitching.

>like a girl
>we get along really well
>thinking about asking her out
>find out she's much more experienced than me and already lived with someone in the past
>feel like an idiot for thinking she'd consider someone like me who never even had a gf

>>7682324
lol woah chill out, rude.

>>7682360
oh my fucking God
which dog breed is that??

>>7682384
I believe those are chow chow puppies.

>>7682384
i'd say chow chow puppies, they can be mean little bastards. people use them for fighting.

>>7682384
Chow chow. They grow up to be assholes if you don't train them well, but damn they're so adorable.

more puppies because puppies

>>7682360
I love you too Anon.

>>7682353
Quit beating yourself up, the only one who can do anything for yourself is ultimately you.
There's nothing wrong with catharsis.
It's not like you're naming people or trying to get /b/ to shit on an ex, you're venting on /cgl/.

That being said, I feel your pain.
It's hard for me to sift through the fedoras to find the bros.
As for females, I ain't interested. The only women I attract think I'm pretty.
I know there's a female perspective, just like there's a male perspective, and that it's different enough to naturally provide separate angles for the same topic, but fuck are these bitches straight up bitches.
I just don't want to have to carry the conversation, I don't care if you find my rambling interesting.
Or if you're hot.
If it physically hurts to talk to you, you aren't worth talking to.

If you want my advice, you don't, you shouldn't settle for someone unattractive.
I'm not saying you should pine solely for ottermode perfection, but you seriously shouldn't force yourself into potentially fucking someone that repulses you.
Think about fucking a neckbeard for a second, like a legit neckbeard.
If you can't get horny at the thought of fucking them

Still, you're obviously worse off.
I mean for one I'm pretty sure I'm around 7 years younger than you.

>>7682405
my favorite kind of dog, Landseer Newfoundland

>>7682355
just ask her out. otherwise you'll regret it.

>tfw this dashcon bullshit brought all the faggots from the other boards here and shitting up the place

>>7682407
yeah, I hate fat chicks and butterfaces too

>>7682595
Isn't there a dating site like Buttercup in FedoraLand yet? There should be...

>>7682597
>fedoraland
>Buttercup
Nigga, that's fedorable.

>>7682597
I don't know, why don't you find out for me hambone

>>7682595
Hah, try Butterhead.

A lot of it is presentation too.
A good wardrobe and knowing how to frame your entire body properly can do wonders for anything from skeleton sperg to neckbear sperg.

A huge problem is that these motherfuckers never took the effort to try to dress more than graphic tee + cargo shorts.

God forbid you try to get a form fitting shirt and pair of pants, I mean even a skinny fat looks good if the clothes are.

But that's really a guy thing, from my perspective I can at least say that for a while I wasn't aware of just how much your clothing affects you.
Not necessarily like other guys, or even women you pass in public care or are judging or something, maybe a little.
But rather it's just human nature for clothing to be a reflection of your self image.
I mean, think about.
The body is the canvas clothing is painted upon.

To disregard how you look to yourself is to have apathy towards your physical form in this world.

Eh, I'm getting preachy now about clothes.
What am I doing with my life.

>>7681926
>dead end careers
I never got this about woman tbh, why does it matter what profession a man does?

>>7682661
Most women want children, which puts them out of the workforce for a time. You need a husband with a solid job to be able to support you and your children. Most people utilize dual incomes, but the better job a man has the more stable a family (and vice versa for men looking for marriageable women). It's not just a thing that women do. Men look at that too. It just happens to be slightly more important for women since they're the ones who get shoved out of the workforce due to giving birth, and the U.S. has no regulations enforcing paid maternity leave.

>>7682353
>won't be ashamed to be seen in public with me while I'm wearing lolita.

I never met a guy or had a friend that wasn't socially awkward or beta that wouldn't be ashamed. Most people don't care you having such a hobby but strolling through the streets like it's carnival is not something normal men would find attractive.

>>7682695
Unless they like attention. Think about it: If her boyfriend is seen walking around with her while she's in full lolita, then he'll get a lot of attention for it because she'll stand out. So all she needs to do is find an attractive normal guy that loves attention.

Problem solved.

>>7682661
>tfw when you known women in non-dead end careers exist, but hard to find one in dating

>>7682661
The current economy
Maternity leave
Wanting to be provided for if you have to raise the kid
Alamony
There's a lot of reasons.
Some reasonable, some full of shit.
The easiest answer is for you to imagine being a girl married to a McDonalds employee.
Part of it is avarice and wanting more money, part of it is that this person hasn't applied themselves or lived up to their potential.

That isn't even considering the personality.

I'm sure a good boyfriend would be worth overlooking his financial status if you truly care for them. But then is that love, or complacency?

>>7682675
Wait what?
That's bullshit man. How is someone supposed to work when they're third trimester-early newborn?

>>7682661
I'm not saying it's the sole motivator I look for in a guy, personality and chemistry come way first, but it's definitely a factor in my decision to stay with this person long-term or not. They may not even be in the best job at the moment, but if they're visibly working towards success, that's attractive. Like others said even though I place a lot of importance on my independence, if I'm with a guy long term and we decide to have kids, he's the one who's gonna be supporting us for a period of time since I'll probably get fucked over by my job.

>>7682738
>The easiest answer is for you to imagine being a girl married to a McDonalds employee.

no one likes to work at mcdonalds, isn't it a sign of taking responsibility?
Besides isn't there a whole underclass of people that need to work shitty jobs just to survive and don't have the intelectual capability to rise up?

>>7682173
>I have no idea what it's like for men, but online dating sucks as a female.

It's basically the exact opposite. You never get a message from anyone. Maybe a gay dude once in a while

>>7682799
You've got me, I just lurk /cgl/ because the board dwellers intrigue me.
Also I don't have a vaj, so I never learned how to play dress up and I'm envious of the girls here who can just into fashion and presentation the same way I can into repairing things and instillations.

Don't let me put words In their mouth though.
I agree, and I think the closest answer is just a resounding
>It depends.

>>7682173
Online dating as a female is pretty easy. You get all of these messages with minimal effort. You do need to ignore all the stupid, but it is far better than what men have to go through. A friend of mine who did online dating got a lot of stories of men who feel so discouraged with the outcomes of reaching out to girls online. Some guys have low self esteem on top of that.

>>7681129
Gloves are one of the hardest things to sew. You can do it! I believe in you!

>>7673719
I know that feel, even if for me it's not lolita-related.
>be shy and introverted as fuck
>all my friends are people who approached me first, all extroverts
>have very small group of people who I consider my bffs5eva and spend as much time with as I can without going nuts
>slowly start to realize they all have tons of friends besides me who they spend much more time with and are probably closer to
>o-okay

>>7682324
Different anon but your post was painful to read. Are you on a phone and too lazy to proofread?

>>7682661

Working a dead end job points out a character flaw.

They are either too lazy to move up, too dumb, or just don't care at all. None of which are a good character trait for attracting a mate.

>>7682738
>That's bullshit man. How is someone supposed to work when they're third trimester-early newborn?

Why should they pay you when you chose to have a child and they are getting no work from you?

>>7682980
Anonymous 07/14/14(Mon)10:49:20 No.7682980▶
>>7682738 #
>That's bullshit man. How is someone supposed to work when they're third trimester-early newborn?

>Why should they pay you when you chose to have a child and they are getting no work from you?

Yeah, women should be strong, like O-lan

>>7682708
your advice is shit, as always

>>7682996
>O-lan

Man, way to make an obscure reference.

Honestly though, company pays you for work. You are not doing work, why should they pay you.

I am genuinely curious for the argument.

>>7683133
Are you also against paid vacation time?

>>7683133
In my country women are still paid 5-10% less than men for the exact same workload so IMO they owe us that much. I just feel bad for women who don't want children and get the short end of the stick.

>>7683245

Meh, I am neutral on that.

I would rather get paid more normally and not get paid vacation though.

>>7683279
What country are you talking about?

>"pay me for not working because according to this sketchy survey I'm getting paid less than men hurr hurr"

>>7683503
dat obvious baiting

>>7682311
>>7682313
another anon, but I wish I could join as well. there's always talk of lolitas also being stoners, but there's never any sort of... meetup.

>tfw currently making cosplay to enter in otakon's hall contest
>never entered a competition before but it seems like a fun thing to do
>even though I don't care about winning I'm terrified of making a complete fool of myself in front of the judges
>guess my best is all I can do...

Not exactly a feel, but related to one of the first posts of this thread...
Would putting burando on a credit card be a bad idea? I currently have one credit card with a $500 limit and $360 on it. I'm paying it off slowly to the tune of about $50-$30 per month.

I was thinking about getting another credit card and putting maybe $300 worth on it and again, slowly paying it off.

I know I'd be OK and able to afford it, plus it'd be great for my credit rating, but the idea of being in debt for brand just kind of seems weird to me.

>tfw i want frills but don't want to take hundreds out of my "real money" to get some

New thread:
>>7684828

>>7684019
As long as you can afford it and not abuse having 2 credit cards, go for it. The issue is when you are maxing out your cards but you only can make min payments. Or if you go into the cycle of getting a credit card to pay off a credit card.

>>7677407
You'll want to use a barrier method for the first month, but beyond that you should be fine. The only person I've ever known who has had birth control fail on her? Conceived during her ovulation period (your most fertile time of month) on the first month of taking the pill. If you're not a dumbass like her since she didn't read the instructions, you'll be fine.