/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>have to buy dog collar for cosplay
>feel like autismo even looking for one

>disappointed in my sewing skills
>want to practice, but really broke, so anything i sew will have to be a final, finished product
>know i can't make anything good like that
>girlfriend offers to let me use her sewing machine + spare fabric she has to learn how to sew better

Feels good, man.

also

>feel like shit because a ton of characters i want to cosplay are being cosplayed by people i know who fit the characters a lot better than i do
>be sad for a bit
>find a ton of characters with similar skin tones to mine

I actually have confidence for once. Wow.

>>7740500
Dat sewing feel.

I want a costume for Katsucon that I can't sem to find anywhere to buy, and nobody I can find will take it as a commission even though it's pretty simple, so I'm going to try to do it myself. I just hope I can make it look presentable.

>>7740587
I believe in you!~ Here's hoping you'll have it done by Katsucon!

I've been thinking of things to make in time for FanExpo, but I probably won't go, so it gives me a little time to actually practice so that I can make Emerald's costume from RWBY.

On another note, I'm going to buy a shit-ton of craft foam soon (since it's cheap) and work on a Jaune cosplay.

I'm excited but terrified to work with craft foam! I've always been better at props than sewing, but I'm still really worried when working with new things.

>tfw brand doesn't send dress overseas
>tfw private shopping services are on hiatus until a couple of days after dress is released
>tfw other shopping services don't work those hours and weekend dress is released

>>7740483
>,need to replace some lace trim on a skirt
>Look everywhere online for the right look and style
>find some kind of okay stuff at the fabric store
>$9.99/yard
>fuck that shit
>go home, discouraged
>continue search online
>there it is
>the perfect lace
>pre-ruffled, double sided, elastic white lace, exactly what I'm looking for
>only $2.59/yard
>oh god yes
>listing only has 2 yards available
>I need 5 yards
>contact seller desperately to see if they have any more
>"Oh yeah sure, here, let me make you a private listing"
>mfw

It was a grand total of about $16. fuck yes I'm so happy.

>>7740614
I have the same feels.
Good luck anon

>had to see girlfriend to the airport
>shes flying local airline and is still in the closet due to family issues
>can't even kiss her goodbye because family friend of hers turns out to be on the same flight.

Its been a long day, sorry this isn't /cgl/ related

Lately, a guy my age has been visiting my house a lot. I think he is a friend of two of my roommates, but those two have been secluding themselves back in their room for a few months so I don't know all of the details. Basically he's taken to staying out with the rest of us, particularly me. He seems like a nice enough guy I guess, but he somehow makes me really uncomfortable. I mean, I've only known him for a few days and he's treating me like we're bffs and I'm certainly not friendly enough to warrant this kind of behavior.

He has almost nothing in common with me/us. We're all gamers and animetards when he "kind of" knows what DBZ is. He is constantly telling us about his need for a job and money. And today was the real kicker - he came over and started asking me and another roommate if we could cosign on a loan for him??

>mfw he may be starting a job where I work soon
>mfw I can't deal with him for whatever reason
>mfw it's probably a completely irrational distrust but just.... SOMETHING about him rubs me the wrong way

For better feels, I got a 1/2 off everything coupon for a makeup store online. Which is great, because all of my makeup's 'bout to hit the expiration date.

>>7741166
Trust your instincts anon. If something irks you about him, you are probably right.
I knew someone who gave me that feeling and honestly things would've probably ended up badly if I weren't lucky.

>>7741166
Ugh I know that feel. When someone thinks you're way better friends than you actually are, you have nothing in common and you don't really enjoy spending time with them but they keep wanting to see you... If you're getting those feelings trust your instincts and try to keep your distance (by ignoring them or something).

>disgusting flat chest
>stretch marks on my ass
I just want to wear a swimsuit ;_;

>>7741294
Anon, wear that swimsuit and wear it proudly.
I believe in you.

>>7741294
Don't worry about a flat chest, a lot of people either don't care or prefer small chests. And as for the stretch marks, have you tried wearing a sarong with it? They're stylish and can hide stuff like that.

>>7741294
How old are you anon? I know when I hit my growth spurt and started to fill out I got stretch marks on my butt, too (and at the time I had no idea what stretch marks looked like so I thought I had a disease tbh). But they actually disappeared after a few years! Just try to maintain your body weight (or lose, just don't gain anymore) and they should go away in time. Or you could buy creams for stretch marks if you want results a bit more quickly!

And as for your flat chest, that can be cute too! Think of all of the bikini types that will flatter you more. I personally really love ruffled bikini tops, for example, but my bust is too big for them to suit me well. I bet they'd look way cute on you though.

>>7741304
But its looks really sad anon, specially when you're in a sea of titty monsters

>>7741307
I never really thought about that, my idea was to just wear shorts at all times no matter what. I suppose those are easy to find in the beach? Thanks!

>tfw pancake chest
>tfw when also pancake ass
My butt is practically concave.

>>7741294
Ruffles, anon. Rufflechest and rufflebutt swimsuits are great.

>>7741313
I'll turn 19 soon, but I've had them since I was like, 12? I don't go to the beach often so I'll probably leave the creams for later if they don't seem to go away.

>>7741316
I haven't bought my swimsuit yet and I was really confused of what to wear, this is really helpful. I just hope I don't chicken out and actually wear it, but thank you all.

>>7741314
If you're that worried about your chest and you want it to look bigger, you can always get a padded or push up bikini top. Also be sure to use the scoop and swoop method to really fill out your tops (which is actually the proper way to wear bras and should work with padded bikinis too)
>http://bustyresources.wikia.com/wiki/Scoop_and_swoop
and imho sarongs are more feminine than shorts and look a bit more natural at a swimming area. Shorts can be cute and sporty though, so deending on what look you're going for.

Be sure to wear lots of sun screen at the beach and keep reapplying it throughout the day! I put it on once at my first time at the beach last summer and burnt to a crisp; I couldn't move for a week. I was only out for 3 hours but the ocean and salty air really wears off your sunscreen.

Good luck and have fun Anon!

>>7741314
I bet it looks really cute tho, there's absolutely nothing wrong with a flat chest. And anyone who tells you that isn't a person you want in your life anyway, embrace your body to it's fullest extent.
Be excellent little anon

>>7741313
Squats actually helped get rid off my stretch marks on my ass

>tfw interested in circle lenses
>tfw farsighted with astigmatism in one eye

Some feels.

>past two days trying to stay at 800cal
>easier than expected when I have some fucking discipline
>binge-eating disorder, bitch please you dun own me
>going to have to start drinking protein after I finish cutting
>not looking forward to it
>tfw french vanilla whey will never be better than the rich chocolate flavour
>why did I buy this

>I might get a 90 on my latest precalc exam
>will actually be surprise if I don't
>bf says he'll treat me to anything I want if I do
>anything
>even a night having sex in front of other people at the local sex club
>excited because he'd always reject it whenever I bring it up
>day later he retracts sex club thing
>tfw can't think of anything else I want
>tfw I'm considering going alone

>tried on full tracksuit!Nonon cosplay
>goddamn I look good
>tfw I actually look like a littler girl
>mah ego
>mfw

>>7741426
Either me and my friends are just vanilla as fuck or seagulls have the strangest fetishes.

>>7741457
It's just exhibitionism, anon. One of the most vanilla of all weird fetishes.

>>7741457
I wtfed a bit too, especially since it's a reward for pre-calc which I took in like high school?
I don't really give a shit what she does but it's pretty funny how she said it so flippantly.

>>7741426
have fun at the club anon! Something similar happened to me but in reverse
>bf applying for grad school, promise we can do anything he wants if he gets in to hs top choice
>he gets in
>"what do you want bf-kun?"
>"anal"
>.... anything but that pls
So try not to be too hard on your guy, maybe have him take you out to a nice dinner or go to a spa together and have a couples massage?

>>7741426

>tfw bf and I are sexually compatible to a t
>I don't need to bribe him or have him 'reward' me for arbitrary shit
>feelsgood.jpg

>Trying to diet.
>Start pretty normal at first (less sweets, lean meats, small portions, more veggies).
>Suddenly, brain goes into overdrive?
>Feels like I'm eating less every day.
>Today I had 3 bites of a sandwich and felt like purging right there.
>Had eggs and a pancake for dinner, feel like shit for having another "sweet" this month.
>Losing a lot but it doesn't feel...right.
The worst part is my dad made fun of me for wanting to diet in the first place, but he used to make fun of me for eating a lot too.
>feelsbadman
And it's related to /cgl/ because I want to get fit for burando. I just want to suck less.

>>7741486
This is happening to me too so I have to force food down my throat to lose fat cause I don't want to lose any muscle.

>temp agency contacts me and says they have a perfect job for me
>it's /cgl/ related and amazing, I'm excited
>Interview today, lasts 2 hours
>HR manager tells me the temp service sent over 30 other people
>they have to get through all the interviews before calling people for second interview
>the job seemed perfect
>wallowing in the aftermath thinking about how i could have done better
>I just suck at interviews
>don't know if she was being honest when she said i did well
>don't know if I will get a second interview
>may still be unemployed but I'm in limbo
>temp service didn't really care about getting me a job
>they'll still charge me $50 out of my first pay for their 'services' if I do

>>7741486
I fell into this rut too, even when I'd hit my target weight I just couldn't go back to a healthy level of eating to maintain it and kept dropping.

Now I've managed to ease myself back into it by having more cooked meals, but exercising more to compensate for any guilt. Also having sugarless sweets as a snack so I feel less guilty about the few sweet things I do eat. I'm doing more cooking, eating and physical activity so I think it's balancing out.

>>7741494
Bodies are weird. Fuck the vestigial system yo.

>>7741522
You could also eat sweet healthy things when you get a craving for sweets and not have to feel bad about it, like sweet potatoes, sweet plantains, dried fruit etc

>>7741426
Any type of whey that isn't like Double Chocolate or Mocha is super shit tier.

My bro convinced me to buy this cookies and cream crap and jesus fuck can't believe I bought 2 tubs of that shit cause it was on sale

>>7741475
What's... wrong with anal? I'm a female and I actually enjoy anal.

Go slow and use a literal butt load of lube. You might be surprised.

>>7741477
That is a good feel, anon. Let's share this good feel together

>>7741611
>literal butt load

>>7741470
It's the hardest math class in our uni. Our dick math head is known to make the tests intentionally harder if the average is too high, so precalc here has a high failure rate. My bf, friend, and I all failed our first try. I know at least half of my first class failed.

>>7741475
Thanks, anon-chan. Yeah, I'm not too mad at him because I know he doesn't want to see naked old man penis (I don't either, but it's still a bummer.) We actually considered a couples massage! But we're poor college students with capable massaging hands, so...

>>7741592
My bf had chocolate, and some guy on the internet reviewed all the flavours and said french vanilla was creamy and delicious. Should have sticked with chocolate!

Why are seagulls just terrible awful ogres in real life?

I've met 6 people from /cgl/

one looked like they were literally going to blow their brains out on the spot, completely depressed, didnt try to pose for photos at all, droopy shoulders, didnt say much of anything but "y-yeah" when I asked if she was from /cgl/ since I saw her on here the previous day

3 were morbidly obese and lols0r4ndumbbb tumblrites
>mfw they were unironically talking about Dr. Who and supernatural

one was fairly attractive, but a gigantic bitch with an ego the size of a battleship

last one was very sweet and I enjoyed talking to her

i dont understand how you are all so rude and annoying in real life, little girls who never grew up past their embarassing highschool phases

this is reallly random but this is the second time this has happened.
my bf keeps splitting his asscrack in two
like, he's already got a split down his ass like everyone else, but if he moves too much or I play with his butt there will be a big bloody line down his asscrack and I'm wondering what the hell is going on and how does this even happen

in other news

>tfw sims4 threads are allowed
>/cgl/ related videogame threads are always deleted even if the game IS about japanese fashion itself or we talk about making cosplays in-game
>tfw want female friends
>female friend threads aren't allowed
>everyone at /soc/ just wants to sex eachother, I just want a cosplay buddy

>>7741698
used to happen to me a lot, he just has thin skin on his ass and is easy to get butthurt

it will go away with time I guess, that's what happened to me, just have to be patient

also
>females wanting anything but casual sex
top shelf laff

>wants to cosplay as a guy character
>hates when girls do fem cosplays
>hates when girls dress as guys (it just doesn't look right to me)

>>7741698
Haha I remember you posting that before

>>7741698
>my bf keeps splitting his asscrack in two
Have you asked him about it? Maybe he doesn't know it's there?
>tfw want female friends
>female friend threads aren't allowed
if you want you can add me on skype, dropped my username in the email field.

>>7741714
it happened again I really don't know whats up

he was really pissed at me for posting it to /cgl/ but I thought it was too damn funny

>Ordered my first binder
>It arrived today
>Way too small

I feel kinda silly for being so disappointed, but I was so excited about it. Thankfully the company I ordered it from has an excellent exchange policy, and it shouldn't take too long to get a new one.

>>7741611
>literal butt load
Huehuehuehue

>>7741698
It's a rash, kinda like what babies get. It just means his skin is sensitive and he may be sweating too much. I suggest he starts washing more carefully, and getting some baby powder to dry out a little bit better down there.
>This may lead to some interesting sexual fetishes.

>tell girl her cosplay is cute as fuck
>says the same thing to me
>ask if shed like to hang out sometime later in the con and watch something in the anime room
>she agrees enthusiastically and gives me her number
>we text a little bit
>somehow age comes up
>shes 15
>mfw i just gave my number to a 15 year old with daddy issues

>>7741758
>move to cool new city
>get an awesome new job
>not even 8 hours a day, worked 7 hours tuesday for no reason
>make $40k+ per year
>I can finally buy things
>I've never been able to buy things
>get lunch catered from delicious local places every day
>all sorts of free treats and perks
>work is buying a pinball machine so we can all play pinball against each other
>can work from home if I want to
>not micromanaged, can do whatever I want
Dreams can come true

>>7741787
>watch something in the anime room
Is this a euphemism?

>tfw I sometimes get paranoid that people will talk about me on here.
>If I stand up for myself then more shitposting would happen.

Is it bad I sometimes check the archive to make sure my name doesn't come up here? I think I'm overly paranoid.

>>7741835
No one typically posts names.

Don't bring it up, don't start shit and you'll be fine.

If you feel people are talking about, they probably have a good reason. So either change it or grow some thicker skin.

>>7741834
fortunately, no

>>7741840
I probably deserved it. I do need to grow a thicker skin though. I'll get over it in time I guess.

>frequent CGL B/S/T threads
>saw items I wanted
>Email seller and pay for item
>Seller says they will go to ship it and give me a tracking number
>Not hear back for a week, send email
>No response for another week, send another email
>Finally get really frustrated, begin Paypal Dispute
>Still no fucking answer and almost another fucking week later

I'm about to escalate the claim because even though I didn't put much money on the line, it's money I could use to buy something else. I don't want to name and shame either but the temptation is there.

>>7741927
You sure you didn't just get scammed, anon? There was a scammer outed in one of the previous B/S/T threads. They openly admitted to scamming and were actually successful in doing so and virtually no fucks were given, so I'd imagine they'd just keep going.

>>7741935
If it's about the AaTP dress scandal a thread or two back, then no, it wasn't that dress.

I might've been and if I have, you bet I'm filing for PayPal to escalate the claim. I may just name and shame honestly.

>>7741942
What thread was it in? Link to archive?
I'm curious.

>>7741942
Please do so you can help the rest of us in case they come back.

>>7741960
https://archive.rebeccablacktech.com/cgl/thread/S7651344#p7685835

It was in this one

>>7741964
Of course! I've never had issues with a /cgl/ purchase until now.

>>7741470
I know I thought she was in high school when she said precalc exam. I took that course when i was 15?

>tfw want to cosplay cute animu characters but I'm 6'5" bearded giant and live in a small town in the middle of nowhere

>Boyfriend accidentally broke a thread on favourite lolita dress which holds the waist tie.
>Upset but it was an accident.

I just went to the first meet in my new comm (I moved).

70% of the girls in my comm are tumblr snowflake cancer.
Some are *genderqueer/transtrenders/whathaveyou*, some make their entire personality about their sexual orientation ("btw I'm pansexual... oh did you know that I'm pansexual? Did I ever tell you about how I found out I'm pansexual? Today I got up from my pansexual bed to eat some pansexual breakfast and put on my pansexual clothes...pansexual" ), but the thing that pisses me off the most is how they all were "diagnosed" with a million different mental disorders and whinge about muh ishooos and muh problums throughout the day. The transtrenders are these four teens, two are chubby and two are just kinda plain. They won't shut up about hormones and sexism and gender roles.
Oh and there's also a kebablita who dresses like shit but gets asspats on the hours because of muh PoC.

The other 30% either don't show or stay for half an hour during each meet and then go. I can't blame them, but I would like to talk to some of them more than that and the bridge trolls are chasing them away.

Jesus bloody Christ, keep your shit within the walls of your therapist's office and/or house.

>>7741997
I have never seen that picture used in a more relevant way
10/10 for image selection

>>7741997
You poor anon
I just want to give you a big hug and tell you everything's going to be OK

>>7741992
This reminds me, the first time I asked my boyfriend to help me fit a JSK that had corset lacing in the back he just grabbed the ends of both ribbons and YANKED really hard. Cause you totally lace up an expensive dress the same way you lace up a cheap shoe!!! I was so upset but couldn't yell at him because he didn't know any better.

>>7742013
omfg my bf just did this to me when I asked him to help me tie the back of one of my btssb jsks

like wtf man turn down

>Site at work at is making a change on the corporate level.
>cut down to 30 hours a week from 40.
>that's okay, I start school back up in the fall anyways, better check on my classes to make sure my schedule doesn't clash with work.
>Well shit, disqualified for financial assistance for something that happened 2 years ago
>can't afford school material without this aid.specially now that i'll be losing 10 hours at work for who knows how long.
>had dinner out with dad tonight, he says he can cover my books and stuff while i get the financial assistance appealed.
>have to go make an appointment with a psych i saw a few years back when i was going through some issues.
>need to get him to sign off to try and appeal for financial aid.
>paranoid about even making an appointment
>don't want that i ever saw a shrink to ever get out there.
I'm better now, and even back then half of what i did during my appointments with the doc was talk about hiking and fishing. I was never really in that bad of shape, but only thing i can use as an excuse to try and appeal why i fucked up a couple years back in classes, and why I won't fuck up the same way again.
Also, was going to use just a bit of that aid money to help finance some minor cosplay.
But since i'm losing hours at work, i just need all the money i can get for school. feels bad.

>first time on birth control
>placebo week
>get period
>flow not as bad
>cramps are manageable instead of debilitating
>holy shit this is so much better than my periods before
>why did i never do this before
but then
>get really irritated and stressed
>snap at people and freak out about little things
>act like a total bitch
>realize i'm being a cunt and feel guilty for being a jerk to friends
>don't feel bad about chewing out one dumb cunt though

>package still in customs after 2 weeks
>worried it might never leave
>freak out about that too

does estrogen just make you crazy? at least it works well, no babies and i don't have to remember to take a pill every day.

>>7742116
the mood swings should stop in about 2-3 months.

>>7741314
Padded bikini top and swim shorts! They make short/tight ones that make your butt look really nice.

>>7742116

If you're on Nuvaring, whatever you do don't skip a period even if your doctor says you can. Do NOT leave that shit in for a whole month. It won't do anything to you as far as side effects but you will spot like a motherfucker for the entire month.

And yeah your hormones will level out after about three months.

>>7742116
Yeah birth control can really fuck up your moods. And for me, it's completely kills my libido which is such a bummer because my boyfriend is always wanting to bone.

>>7741385
>tfw nearsighted (can't see clearly more than 4" from face) and really bad astygmatism in both eyes

Those fuckin' bad eyesight feels, anon. We will never wear colored lenses for less than $200 per pair.

Plus
>no regular contacts either
>glasses with cosplay all day erry day

>>7741475
>anal

FUCK. THAT. Why are boys so obsessed with doing anal? My boyfriend insisted on trying it so many times.

I have digestive issues and get the runs really often, so my rear end has its share of discomfort. I don't need that.

>>7741765
I went out and got some, and some baby wipes for makeup cleanup/face cleanup
also to help get rid of the sweat.

my boyfriend has no problem getting pads for me but he was bright red when I went to check out.

he's doing a lot better and his ass smells like lavender.
thanks anon.

>>7741975
>precalc

I took that class when I was a senior. Maybe my school is just retarded with our math courses? but that's considered college prep.

>>7742017
>>7742013
My BF knows that my dresses are precious to me and he needs to be gentle with them, what kind of monsters are you dating?

He won't even move a dress of mine unless I tell him it's okay. He knows how much they mean to me and how upset I'd be if something happened to them.

It's like... if I accidentally pop a button, it was a silly mistake, but if he does it, holy shit why were you touching my dress in the first place you know I don't like that. I feel like a bitch, but it keeps him from accidentally messing them up.

>>7742143
yikes. Yeah I don't understand the obsession with anal. a boyfriend I had in high school was super obsessed with the idea of putting it in my pooper but had no idea how to prepare for it and didn't really realize you had to prep for it. He would keep trying to put it in dry and THAT'S NOT HOW ANAL WORKS CHRISTIAN FUCK OFF.
My boyfriend now knows what he's doing but prefers normal vaginal sex thankfully. He says the friction in anal is weird. And I'm totally okay with not doing butt stuff.

>>7742143
Lol I say if a guy wants to put it in your butt, you should be able to put it in his butt first.

>>7742143
It hurts, it's demeaning, it gives women zero pleasure in most cases and shows how submissive she is for agreeing to such a thing.

That's why boys are so obsessed.

>>7742159
something something oppression something patriarchy

>>7742120
damn ok, i'll keep on it.

>>7742136
i'm on the patch but yeah thanks. i'm glad i didn't skip my period this time.

>>7742137
thankfully my libido is still pretty high on bc, it was high before too. i'm lucky in that respect i guess. bf is about on par with me.

>>7742155
My boyfriend want to have sex with my in my lolita.

uh how about no

>>7742116
Give it some time to kick in, anon. I got on the shot and I felt like complete fucking shit for two months, but now a year later I haven't had my period at all and I feel great. It's just your body needing to adjust to the different hormone levels.

>>7742137
Are you me? I don't ever want to have sex and my boyfriend wants to every fucking day. We just had sex like a week ago, and starting three days ago he was bugging me again. God damn it, leave me alone.

>>7742157
Kicker : My boyfriend likes receiving anal. He really wants to do it with a strapon which I'm down for because then I don't need to do much and he can have a good time, but for the longest time he wanted to try giving it to me. i humored him once and it was so fucking uncomfortable, and it was only a finger.

>>7742161
What's the brand name? I was thinking about switching because of the libido issue. I used to be like a rabbit and now I'm just "meh" because of it.

>>7742160
>it's all lies, anal is best thing ever, all girls love it and every single one of them cums from it. there is also NO feeling of dominance over the girl when you put it in the pooper, its all lies
>not demeaning at all, that's totes not 100% why men don't do prostate exam
>nope, its all feminazis

this thread is now about buttstuff.

>>7742166
ortho evra. it's pretty decent, but i have bad heartburn and headaches sometimes, and my tits hurt like hell the first two weeks but that's better now. at least it sticks really well. i heard the generic's adhesive sucks.

it does leave a sticky lint ring around it though and it doesn't come off easily. i have to pull my patch off in the shower and the lint ring still stays. it's easy to apply and use and i only have to remember it once a week, and its really effective. i had tons of sex after my first week starting it and everything's good.

>>7742159
>>7742174
Errr as a female I find anal sex to be very pleasurable. You have a lot of nerve endings back there.

I've cum from anal stimulation alone.

>>7742181
>as a male

Well, for the record, female poopers and male poopers are actually biologically different.

>>7742181
Me too, and I'm the one saying men like it because it's demeaning. The fact that me and a few other women like it doesn't change the reality that 1- most women don't and 2- men want the pooper because it means the girl is willing to go through pain for the sole purpose of pleasing him.

>>7742178
My sister is on a patch for her ADHD medication, so I get the lint ring thing and how hard they are to get off.

I might have to talk o my gyno about it, I'm due back soon anyway.

>>7741294
Go topless

>>7742181
My boyfriend used to bugger me up the shitter, til one day he went too hard and I yelled "DANGIT BOBBY" which made him go soft. Been staying away from my arsehole ever since, says he can't stop imagining shagging Hank Hill.

>>7741698
>>7741701
>>7741765
Its most likely caused by salt abrasion. I used to work the line at a restaurant and sweat bullets and it would go right down into your crack as its the path of least resistance. Shit fucking sucks.

>>7741385
>tee ef double u

>>7741426
>Exhibitionists

>>7742199
Different anon but holy shit this sounds awful
You have all my condolences. I hope your butt is better now.

>>7742193
I wish this was a thing that women could just do.

Not even being all feminazi bullshit, but like. I have less tits than a lot of nasty fat guys I see without shirts on. Why the fuck can't I go topless. Bras are fucking hot.

>tfw self-image and eating disorder issues for as long as i can remember
>tfw trying my best to be healthy
>hate everything about how i look
>abandon cosplays because i'm convinced i'll look fat as shit and hideous in all photos
>get stressed about even being seen in costumes at cons
>only hobby i really enjoy, tho
>convinced boyfriend wishes he could be fucking anyone else and wish he'd just leave already
>happens in every relationship
>tfw i ruin everything nice in my life because i hate myself so much

I wish talking to therapists helped at all, but it just makes me feel worse, and I don't have health care, so no anti-depressants. I almost want to just stop eating again so I can die without it being a sudden suicide that would upset my mom and brother.

Sorry, just needed to vent a little. Have a happier feel.
>Dragon Con soon
>stoked to get drunk with awesome people

>>7742240
Try to stay calm and channel all of your energy into new things. And try to find a cheap psychiatrist who can help you. You may qualify for some assistance at certain clinics. You've had multiple relationships; clearly there is something desirable about you, and your partners choose you for a reason, so try to keep that in mind and stop making comparisons. I hope you'll be okay, anon.

>>7742240
It would probably hurt them more knowing you starved yourself to death, though.

Anon, I'm 100% positive you look way nicer than you think you do, and I guess you probably know that you do too. I wish there was a magic "better" button for you. Hang in there.

>>7741653
Anon, you hit the nail on the head. I've said it before and I've said it again: /cgl/ is /r9k/ for girls. /cgl/ just gets shit on less because girls get special treatment when they're mentally ill or socially inept.

>>7742116
try taking the pill before you go to bed. It really helped with my mood swings

>>7742260
They don't get special treatment, people just excuse it with "oh those silly women and their hysteria". Which is even worse to be honest.

>>7742278
Nah, they do get special treatment. That's just part of the special treatment. There are others; for instance, most men will put up with (or reward, even) crazy behavior if the girl is hot and they think it's going to get them laid or in a relationship.

The only real difference between /cgl/ and /r9k/ is that guys actually get held accountable for their bullshit when they're losers or awful to be around socially.

>>7742285
No it isn't. It's offensive to be brushed off and have any extreme feelings you might have filed under, "oh she's just on the rag/crazy, women amirite?" It's not special treatment that men care more about getting their dicks wet than being treated right, mostly because they view women as dispensable once sex has been obtained. I'd much rather be treated like a person with valid emotions that I'm in control of, even if it means being called an asshole or a loser, than be treated like I'm incapable of rational thought and should be lucky to be tolerated long enough to satisfy a man. How about instead of just calling girls crazy, you do try calling them out on it when they're acting terrible. Be the change you want to see and all that, jesus.

>>7742322
If those weird girls were "treated right" they'd all be depressed because they wouldn't have friends or boyfriends.

And by depressed I mean suicidal and not in the "I'm gonna OD on aspirin" way.

This isn't /cgl/-related.

I've been sick and absolutely miserable all week with the flu, and my boyfriend asked me if I wanted to get dinner last night.
Today, three hours after he finished work (and should have been leaving) I asked whether he was still coming.
>nah I have a headache
>totally tomorrow though!

He's only coming up tomorrow to see his friends' shitty band, though. The band that I've already told him that I'm too sick to go see.
>You know, not at the very last second, because I'm not an ass.


I'm just.. I don't even want to go out and get dinner or anything. I just really wanted to see him. I bought a couple of tubs of Ben and Jerry's (expensive as fuck and kind of a 'treat' in Australia.) and shit so that we could just cuddle and watch films.

The disappointing part isn't that I won't get to see him. It's realizing just how little he cares about me.

>>7742335
Oh, right. And he's going to throw the biggest bitchfit when I REALLY don't go to see them.

>>7742332
I said the men are the ones not being treated right, lrn2read. They care more about bagging a hot girl than being with someone emotionally balanced because hot trim is apparently more important than healthy relationships to the men you're referring to. But whatever, by all means, continue stereotyping people into insane women and sex-crazed dudes.

>>7742349
That's not what I'm trying to do.

All I'm saying is that it's silly when you say women don't get special treatment when they actually do. If that treatment allows them to live happier lives than a guy who acts the same way, how is it not special treatment?

>>7742285
>special treatment is being treated like you're a retard
you heard it here first, folks

>>7742349
Also acknowledge that women contribute to the problem.
>acts like a mad cunt
>sorry babe, just my silly gurl whoremones, teehee
>ah, I understand

stop that shit

>>7742353
And I'm telling you that being told called crazy or laughed off instead of being held accountable for our actions does not make us happier, at least not some of us. It's frustrating and patronizing. Real life anecdotal example, I was involved in an incident once where I needed to make a police report with my boyfriend. The officers pretty much told me to stay quiet and just smiled and nodded at anything I had to add while solely addressing my boyfriend when I was the person they should have been getting their key information from just because I was upset at the time, while my boyfriend, also upset, was rightfully that way and I was just "hysterical" (they actually said that). That is not special treatment. It's belittling.

>>7742357
Yes, women who do that should stop doing that, I absolutely agree. Saying "but you do it tooooo" is not helpful. And, depending on the situation, there is a difference between a girl recognizing she's being a bitch due to pms and apologizing for it and a man simply claiming she's gotta be on her period because "wow what a cunt" instead of taking any responsibility for whatever the problem might be (if she's upset with him) or asking what's wrong.

>>7742359
That's very insignificant when you compare it to the special treatment you get as a woman.

>>7742364
Free drinks a couple nights week and maybe some dudes offering to pay for dinner in return for the possibility of sew. Who needs to be recognized as a functioning human being when I've got all these sexy parts in the way and babies to make eventually? Man, I've got is made.

This is so off topic, let's stop.

>>7742368
*sex, not sew, hurr

>the oppression olympics, hosted on /cgl/
I agree with the point that there are two gross extremes going on on /r9k/ and /cgl/. The argument does nothing more than confirm it. Both are fucking stupid and annoying ~equally~

>>7742364
how about you piss off back to wizardchan, lad?
Cry into your fleshlight during those cold lonely nights, not here. Not our fault you're an autistic edgefag.

>making some chests for a skit, find a decent tutorial online
>am pretty good with woodwork so I have a go
>1/4 of measurements aren't added
>the hardest part of it isn't listed

...I'm usually understanding of a couple of details missed out but what if I was green at woodwork? How could I follow it. I've tried to replicate the shape the same but I'm getting mm out and it's frustrating as all hell. May have to reach out to the one person I didn't want to rely on for this.

BACK ON FUCKING TOPIC, YOU IRRITATING FUCKS, GOT DAMN

>won't have time to complete a costume I said I'd have for next con
>ordered cosplay from ebay for the first time
>tfw it doesn't look like complete shit

>>7742368
You're being ridiculous.

>/cgl/ is /r9k/ for girls. /cgl/ just gets shit on less because girls get special treatment when they're mentally ill or socially inept.
I agree with this 100%.
It's not just about "getting free" drinks, it's about society acknowledging that you have some value.

Mentally ill or socially inept boys and girls reach their pre-teens years basically the same, but after that it's very different for them.
The girls start getting special treatment because society values them for their reproductive ability. I'm not saying they're going to be as popular as normal girls, but eventually they're going to get a boyfriend and a generic job.

The mentally ill or socially inept boy will get worse and worse because society sees no value in him. They'll end up completely alone and unemployed or with the worst and most dangerous jobs you can find.

Now tell me how it's just about "getting free drinks".

Also see >>7742375
This is the treatment men percieved as defective get. People just want to kick them down.

>always wanted to cosplay sylveon since seeing it in game
Being a dude who can't sew really sucks. I love it's design, but it would come off really creepy I imagine. Shit sucks even if they are 90% male in game.

>>7742382
This spiraled out of control. It's not a competition, and both sexes get treated like shit at times. All I was saying is that it's bullshit to call being treated like you're incompetent "special treatment". People in general need to be better about not calling names or rejecting others based on emotional responses instead of accepting that people with mental or social issues need help. Period. Taking someone's example of how being told she's "crazy" in a serious situation just for being a woman and responding with "but your special treatment" is again not helpful, but none of this conversation is, honestly. And the way people treat each other on 4chan is absolutely not the real world.

I feel like such an idiot for giving my (ex) another chance. I /knew/ he would cheat on me. I pretty much only took him back cause he was threatening suicide but ayyyyyy at least ain't gotta put up with it anymore.
I don't know if it's good feels for not having to deal with it anymore or if it's sad for being so stupid and taking him back (again)
but I guess more good feels is that I ain't gotta spend my money on visiting him and I can do more towards getting a job I'll actually like. >Burando here I come.

I feel like such an idiot for giving my (ex) another chance. I /knew/ he would cheat on me. I pretty much only took him back cause he was threatening suicide but ayyyyyy at least ain't gotta put up with it anymore.
I don't know if it's good feels for not having to deal with it anymore or if it's sad for being so stupid and taking him back (again)
but I guess more good feels is that I ain't gotta spend my money on visiting him and I can do more towards getting a job I'll actually like.

>Burando here I come.

>>7742401
Oh no, don't feel too bad. It's a lot of pressure to be told someone's going to end their life based on your choices, and he's a shithead for doing that to you. I'm glad you're out, and you should be, too!

>>7742396
I'd argue that getting "poor you. Women are really hopeless" treatment is better than "nobody gives a shit about you, why don't you kill yourself?" treatment.

>>7742406
(I reposted the post cause I failed the greentext, lol)
Yeah I'm glad that it happened in a way, cause at least I wouldn't have had to deal with the guilt of doing it myself. It's funny though, he's incredibly racist and the girl is mixed race. What a desperate asshole.

Good feels for me this week actually, but finding a job is still a pain, wonder If I shouldn't take more studies.
On the bright side the girl I'm dating admitted she wanted to try being tied up, which is perfect because I love doing that.

>>7742322
But most women don't have emotions that they're in control of. Can you blame people for expecting stereotypical behavior when the stereotype is, well, generally valid? I personally will give women the benefit of the doubt on this, but only if I've known them long enough to verify they're not your run-of-the-mill histrionic.

>>7742354
I would love to get treated like a retard in everyday life if that's what you want to call the way women are treated. You basically (and sometimes literally) get away with murder compared to the accountability men have.

>>7742359
You probably were in an altered state of mind according to their judgment. When I was in a biking accident with a car and broke my hand, I screamed many things, not all pretty, to the face of the woman who cut me off even in the presence of the police, and they simply made sure I didn't actually hit her with my good hand. Were I unarmed I think I wouldn't have gotten off scot-free as I did.

>>7741787
You can simply cut off all contact, or you could keep it platonic until she becomes of age. I'd do the latter.

>>7741991
Terraformars Asimov, Fate/Zero Rider, Sergeant Armstrong, etc etc etc

>>7741787
Dirty old man how old are you?

>>7742163
Buy/have him buy something economic and then do it.

>>7742194
kek

Bought first brand dress from a seller on fb with only positive feedback. Agreed last week to invoice and pay before weekend, says she will ship it Monday. Paid, heard nothing all week messaged her yesterday she saw message but no reply.
>tfw just want to know it's in the mail but unsure if messaging again seems psychochany

>>7742335
Take a deep breath. Close your eyes. Clear your mind. Read again what you typed. Do you really believe all that?

>tfw all seagulls are sluts

>>7742542
Oh, yeah. This isn't the first time he's done it.

Anyway, the whole thing turned into him telling me that it's all my fault for not 'pushing' him hard enough and trying to convince him to come up, because he really wanted to, and he knew that I wanted him to, but he wanted me to prove that.

>When he first said he wasn't going to come up the disappointment hit my already sick and sad self like a sack of bricks.
>I just said "Okay. I'm going to go watch movies in bed, then." and went to go watch movies in bed.
>He texts me "Come back on Skype."
>I do.
>He had said something after I logged off, I forget.
>I replied.
>Went "Aw shit! He sent that ages ago. I really don't want to bring it up again because he'll get all upset."
>He tells me that "It was a 'I said I don't want to go but if she tips it in the 'do go' direction I will. thing." < Direct quote.
>I just say "Yeah. It's too late now I guess. What's up?"
>"I was thinking of coming up again but you fuckin blew it again." < Direct quote.
>This is where he tells me that I should have tried harde rto convince him after he said 'no.'
>The way that you blew me off like that was really rude and made it seem like you didn't give a single fuck, which was very hurtful. It felt like nothing I said would change that.

And then he blocked me on all platforms.

He did something similar for a while where he'd drop me off at home and make a move on me, then just push me away mid-kiss or whatever and say "I'm going home now!", get dressed and head to his car before getting all shitty and saying "Well, this will be a lesson learned for you!" because I wouldn't force myself on him. I thought I stopped that shit, though.

>>7742549
>A girl enjoy sex
>She's a slut !

>>7742568
Why are you dating a baby

>>7742584
That's what I'm wondering right now.

>>7742568
I think your boyfriend has mental issues or thinks somehow...this works for him socially? You said he was coming up to see his friend's band, do they ever hear about shit like this and go "whaaat?"

>>7742571

>being a white knight beta

Enjoy being a cuckold the rest of your life

>>7742591
I don't know if he does it to anybody else. I know that he'd have driven up at the drop of a hat if these friends' had asked, though.

>>7742594
I don't know if you're serious, but I do enjoy sex, so I'm not in position to judge other females who enjoy sex as well.

There's a difference between liking sex, and being a huge slut / whore that do all sort of retarded things to grab attention.

>>7742597

>i fuck strangers at cons and lap up their cum
>i'm not a slut!

Haha.

>>7742599
Okay, now THIS, is a different matter.

>>7742597
Am I a slut if I attend con orgies and have had 6 guys at once gangbang me?

>>7742608

Yes.

That's still hot though

>>7742608
And this is why /cgl/ can't have nice orgy threads kids just think that's life for everyone

>>7742608
Are you thinking of someone ?

And yes.

that feeling of incoherent rage when people post shit like this:

>>7742596
I feel like if you date someone long enough they're friends find out at a chunk of how they are with you. I feel like if they heard even one of those stories they'd be like "that shit's weird, why did you do that?" to him. ESPECIALLY the sex one. "So she was DTF and you feigned interest for...no reason? And then you got mad she didn't force her frilly ass on you?"

If he does shit like this with you on the regular I'm surprised no one's tried to correct him.

Either way, I think you need to talk about this shit with him. Worst case scenario he's being really manipulative with you. Best case, it's unintentional or he has a really WEIRD chip on his shoulder.

>>7742625
>their**
>disinterest**
Shit, it's too early for this

I know this isn't /adv or cgl related, but I'd like an opinion on a matter because it's fucking with my mood lately.
It's a short version, but a bunch of months ago I saw a nice friend of mine, we know each other since a while, we slept together, it was cool and comfy. But since then, another bunch of months she isn't answering my texts, or in a very evasive way.

Do you think I should just drop her and forget it, or go in frontal and ask for a clear answer for what's this about even though It might damage our relation ?

>>7742608
Why do you care how many guys she fucked ?
Man up.

>>7742568
He's fucking kawaii and you're retarded for not leaving him yet

>>7742658
Why do I care how many guys I've fucked? I don't get it.

>>7742680
This is getting complicated.

>>7742510
While I know what you mean by unarmed, I couldn't help but picture you as Jamie Lannister with his hand cut off [but just a little higher so half the lower arm is missing]

>>7742690
I think I was channeling Nui for a moment.
(Goddamnit, Swype)

>>7741294
Sukumizu. Covers more butt than a regular onepiece and practically made for flat chests, plus they are cute.

>mfw I have stretchmarks everywhere but stopped caring because most people have them anyway

>I'm working on a cosplay
>Aw yeah nice, we'll go together next year !

Having only one worthwhile con in my country is the worst shit.
Just how many time do you attend a con each years ?

Just started a new job and the person training me let me put in days off for a con immediately.

>That sweet feel of relief

>I work part-time
>decent pay (upwards 10,30e/h), but not that many hours
>bf is jobless
>he still earns more money than I do (unemployment funds)

It shouldn't bother me since we live together and thus his earnings go towards my living too, but goddammit. It's a bit unfair imo, I work my ass off while he sits on his ass playing league every day and he still earns more than me. I feel so fucking useless.

>>7742622
at least they're starting with brand instead of milanoo or the same 3 prints every newbie buys from bodyline.
the lolita at heart bullshit is really annoying, though

>>7742176
as the original "my bf wants butt stuff" anon I'm so sorry.
I'm also sorry to all the other girls that have to put up with this too, like seriously, you think saying no once would get them to back off.
>mfw bf suddenly stuck his finger up my butt during sex last week without asking me
>PUT THAT SHIT BACK WHERE IT CAME FROM OR SO HELP ME

To make it cgl related, I'm really happy rn because I bought Sugary Carnival! It was the dress that got me into lolita, I'm really excited to start coording it.

> tfw one of your gijinka designs got posted in the gijinka thread

good feel

>Gained a lot of weight bc of university and other life stuff.
>Recently reached 51 pounds lost.
>That amazing feeling when I can start cosplaying again because I didn't feel comfortable before.

>>7742285
>The only real difference between /cgl/ and /r9k/ is that guys actually get held accountable for their bullshit when they're losers or awful to be around socially.

Because no one ever calls out anyone else on /cgl/, EVER.

>>7741426
Maybe you wouldn't binge eat if you weren't doing a starvation diet. Pump it up to 1200 and eat high protein and fiber foods. Otherwise you'll just stay like that.

>>7742847
I was seeing a guy for a short time who was SUPER into butt stuff. Due to medical reasons, butt stuff would probably put me in the hospital, but it didn't stop him from licking my asshole (which reminds me more of getting prepped for a colonoscopy than anything arousing) and constantly bringing up how he wanted to put it in my butt. He was into being on the receiving end as well but he bled on my hand when I fisted him and pegging ended up being way too weird for me... not used to thrusting as a girl. We were completely sexually incompatible.

On the /cgl/ front, I'm dying to receive a lacefront wig in time for Dragoncon but I have no idea if it'll show up in time so I don't know if I should bother getting together the rest of the costume, bleh.

>>7742148
>tfw I made an anon's bf's butt nicer
I'll put it on my resume.
Also, babywipes are the most useful things in the entire world. We always have a box around to wipe off dirt, makeup, paint, butts, etc. Highly recommended- especially for anyone with IBS

>love working out
>have CFS
>can't work out
>skinny-fat
>cellulite everywhere

>love working out
>have CFS
>can't work out
>skinnyfat
>cellulite everywhere

>>7742975
>especially for anyone with IBS
I-I'll have to buy some

>>7742973
You fisted a guy's asshole. I don't know what to feel.

>Buy petticoat from lacemarket
>Only meant to hold me out until my classical puppets petti arrives
>Sit for almost a week without any communication. Don't even know if it's shipped yet.
>"H-hey seller? May I have a tracking number if you have one?"
>"Thanks for reminding me! I forgot to ship your package!"
>Ships it a few days later with 2 day shipping
>Glad she didn't ask me to pay for the extra
>2 days later/aka today: "No such address. Sending back to sender"
>mfw

I have called the post office and they thankfully haven't sent the truck to send it back out yet and they're looking for it for me. I hope they find it because if it gets sent back, I will not repay for shipping, or anything if she asks especially when SHE messed up my address on the package. If that's the case I will be requesting a refund, at least partial refund even though I doubt she'll give me one. Probably going to leave bad feedback which does make me feel bad since I'll be the first to give her any feedback, but a bad seller is a bad seller

>>7743012
I dropped my pic

Managed to get the CCS staff, book with cards, and necklace for 75 including shipping. I was so worried throughout the payment and shipping process that I was going to get ripped off. The person even put batteries in the staff too so I could test it out to make sure it was in working condition when it arrived. I know it's just the 2004 one but I've been searching so hard for one that wasn't 150+ for a while that I was almost about to give up.

>break up with bf
>sad
>talk to guy that i've become out of touch with
>cuter than bf
>willing to dress up with me for meets
>everything turned out ok

>>7743016
> tfw you find the book for 5 at Goodwill
> has all he cards and in good condiion
> i have no face now
> it is in the clow

>buy dress
>deadline for when I need the coord quickly approaching
>order rest of coord while dress is still in transit
>pic related
>stock photo shows light pink with white details
>proceed with purchasing accessories accordingly
>dress arrives
>dark fucking pink
>white so off-white it's practically tan
>bought noticeably lighter pink detailed accessories
>and the whitest whites you know
>both the pink and off-white of the dress are like two shades darker than the colors of the accessories I bought
>literally nothing will fucking match with the dress
>will have the darkest shades centered in the middle and then way too light accessories scattered all around, none will match
Wat do

>>7742975
>>7743000
Babywipes: also a godsend when prepping for a colonoscopy. People say Taco Bell makes their butthole burn... those people have not had colonoscopies.

>>7743042
Become an hero or put up with it, I'm sure one of the two will be the correct answer

>>7743053
You guys don't use bidets? And not some shitty thing attached to your toilet.

>>7743042
You really don't have another pink/white dress?

Or you could just rush off to Michaels and craft some quick accessories

>>7743060
There's a bidet in our bathroom but it's basically a tiny sink. In fact my parents told me it was a child sink when I was little. Fuck my parents.

>>7743002
Hey, he asked me to. Still one of the weirdest sexual experiences of my life (next to the pegging).

>>7743020
Ah nice! It's even better when you see how much all the books are going for on ebay now.

>>7742751
Or just get a swimsuit from a sporting goods store, the kind competitive swimmers use

>>7742751
Sukumizu are great, they cover the body, fit the bust and guys love'em as much as anything relieving. its a win-win.

on the subject of swimming
>tfw going to public pools in texas
If you have a problem with crowds or your body, a populated public pool in the summer is not the best place for you. Everyone is butt-to-front crowded I had more dicks rubbing on my ass than a navy admiral

>>7742847
congrats on SC anon, it's worth the wait and the money, I promise

>>7743152
Where's a good place to buy a quality sukumizu for a reasonable price? I've tried looking on eBay already, but the quality there seems sketchy.

>>7742658
>stop shaming whores
>MAN UP
>you're not a MAN if you don't excuse whorish behavior

Uh, no, you don't get to determine that, sorry. If anything, "manning up" involves avoiding the kind of girls who get fucking gangbanged, lol.

>>7742938
Well, by "held accountable" I meant "suffer actual consequences." /r9k/ guys are generally foreveralone faggots who are rightfully ignored by society. /cgl/ girls get to play dressup makebelieve princess games and still get loads of attention from guys and are not really considered social pariahs, just sort of weird.

>>7743165
I've bought some one from Cosmates before, but it was a little tight around the hips. (Mind you I'm pear shaped) But, other than that it was perfectly fine for what I paid for it. If you can use taobao, there are also plenty of stores that sell them.

http://item.taobao.com/item.htm?spm=a1z10.1.w4004-4712815977.2.7OaSqY&id=17215606994
I bought one for my friend from this store and it fit her perfectly and looked just like the photos.

http://item.taobao.com/item.htm?spm=a1z10.1.w4004-7244936858.2.txPDKU&id=40337409450
This is also another store that I've found selling Sukumizu. But there are tons out there on taobao.

>17 and unemployed
>cosplay and lolita are the biggest drain on my budget, especially lolita
>too busy with school/trying to get into colleges to get steady job
>close group of friends falling apart
>sibling despises me and can't wait for me to move out
>parents see me as a burden
>cosplay and lolita are how i drown my sorrows
>can't even afford to do that anymore
>college is my only escape
>seriously considering killing myself

>>7742208
Grow some hair on your chest.

>>7743279
Get a rich boyfriend to pay for it. How hard could it really be?

>>7743254

/r9k/ gets ignored because they're either extremely bitter or never leave the house, or both. If you never interact with women or can't hide your contempt for them no shit you won't get laid.

>>7743279
>close group of friends falling apart
You'll make more in college.
>sibling despises me and can't wait for me to move out
Siblings can be shitheads, it happens.
>can't afford cosplay/lolita, wants to kill self as a result
Seriously? They're both luxury hobbies. Being a broke teen sucks and all but this shouldn't be a dealbreaker for y'know, being alive. Stick it out.

>>7743311
Oh, I don't disagree that your typical /r9k/ guy deserves everything they get. All I'm saying is that girls from /cgl/ are equally dysfunctional but suffer less for it.

>>7743316
ah, i guess i worded it kinda bad. i've been depressed for years, this isn't a new thing coming as a result of being broke. i'm just tired of being a burden on my family as a result of my mental health. cosplay and lolita were my escape, my way of forgetting about everything for a while to pour myself into constructing a costume or coord. thanks anyway, though. i suppose i could try to focus on other things to distract myself with until i get a steady job.
>>7743307
yeah, not really an option right now, but thanks for the suggestion.

>>7743338
How about being a seamstress?

>>7743338
>not an option

Why not? Are you ugly?

>>7742568
You know that this is not what real relationships are supposed to be like, right? I don't mean the fact that it's a ldr, either. My first boyfriend and I were in a ldr for 2 years, and he acted like this quite often. It's total bullshit.
"You blew it because I initiated something and you didn't act 100% interested" is totally manipulative and fucked up. You don't need to be dating a literal manchild. Dump his ass and maybe he'll learn that he can't treat other people like that, and hopefully you'll learn that you don't deserve to be treated like that either.

>>7742568
This is some abusive manipulation shit. Don't put up with that.

>>7743279
you might not want to mention your age

>>7743338
>i suppose i could try to focus on other things to distract myself with until i get a steady job

That's good. I lost a work contract this year and was unemployed for a while, but I found it was a good time to catch up on video games, books, things I already owned, that sort of thing, as well as reading manga or watching torrented stuff. Lots of cheap ways to keep yourself occupied out there.

My sister told me the other day that she wished that I had died when I was in a car accident last year, because then I wouldn't live here anymore. (The accident was really minor, I was T-boned and my car was 'totaled', but nobody was hurt and we could both drive away from it). She keeps saying she wishes I was gone and she wishes I would just move out already, even though I can't afford to do that, and my parents don't mind me living here because I help out with household chores and babysitting and shit.

What is with that?

I was born first, and I don't fucking like you, but I don't go around saying I wish mom had miscarried you, fuck.

My dad DID slap the shit out of her for saying that, though.

Anon I love you, I've been looking for one of these that'd fit me for ages.

>>7742654
She's probably worried that you think more of the sleeping together than just sex.

Or she's unsure of her feelings about it, and the two of you.

Either way, you need to decide how you feel about it and then talk to her to get things straightened out. There is a chance it's not related to either of the above two answers (as you gave us limited information).

Also, please take this question to /adv/ next time.

Sage for off topic

>>7743381
Start sabotaging her life in creative ways that can't be traced back to you. Become a ninja, unseen but ever present and watchful, waiting for the perfect time to strike.
Break into her room and rearrange her sock drawer, start moving her bed an inch each day, stuff like that. She'll begin to fear you in due time.

>>7743392
this stupid faggot is back

fuck off back to /adv/

>>7743393
Also I'm 20 and she's 10, which makes me really pathetic for letting it get to me, but how did she turn into such a fucking cunt? Holy shit.

My 12 year old sister is the same way, but she hasn't wished death upon me.

She's intelligent enough to know what she was saying, too, it wasn't like, "Oh you little kids not knowing the consequences of your words!"

I wish I COULD move out, but there are no jobs around here other than the shitty kind that I already have.

>been interested in lolita for a few years
>can never do it
>I'm so fucking cheap and I have no interest in owning brand items just because they're brand
>would rather just buy loliable items or make things myself, besides the few dream dresses I've seen
>Imitations/fakes don't bother me at all
>know I would never be considered a "real" or "proper" lolita because of that
>I'll just keep looking at the fashion and enjoying it from afar, not worth the shit I know I would get

>>7743398
Sock the cunt in the fookin gabber/slap her shit
Or go ninja warfare like described above

>>7743398
Why do your little sisters hate you so much?

>>7743399
Roll your own, laff @ those who can't, profit

>>7743398
Sounds like a sociopath tbh

>>7742654
>Do you think I should just drop her
I think she has already dropped you. If someone's ignoring you, then they probably don't want to talk to you (not rocket science). Unless you have evidence she's in a downward depressive spiral or something, just forget about her and move on.

>>7743405
Because when I'm babysitter I actually make them do the chores that mom and dad leave for them, which mom and dad don't even do.

I was raised with an iron fist, and they're spoiled pieces of shit. If I didn't do my chores or talked back, I got slapped, spanked, beat, grounded, etc. They just... get "meh"d at. Nobody gives a shit.

So I'm big bad sissy who makes them clean the cat box or put away the dishes every once in a while. I can't really think of anything else besides that my sisters both really like my dresses and I won't just.... give them to them.

>>7743381
>>7743398
What the fuck is wrong with your little sis?? I have a big sister and our age gap is the same gap as yours and I couldn't ever imagine saying something like that to her, no matter how mad I was. At least your parents slapped the shit out of her, but seriously what the fuck.

>You're right, I mad.

>>7743405
Because she's accomplished nothing with her life and has failed as her job as a big sister role model.

Her sisters are probably utter disgusted with her and fear they'll turn out like her

>>7743441
Will people ever stop posting that bitch

>>7743479
that's how I feel about my older brother

I understand her little sisters' feels

>>7743482
>>7743479

I'm 20, hold a full time job, pay my own bills and pay a small amount of rent to my parents, own my own car, and have a decent social life, don't smoke or drink or do drugs.

I help out around the house doing chores, and try to make sure that those two shitlords do too.

I sure am a useless piece of shit and a horrible role model.

>>7743417
> older sibling feels
Seriously though, don't stand for that shit. Love them, but don't give an inch because these brats will take a mile. I think what's important is to be stable. In the sense that the limits will always be the limits. Don't go full rage-mode when they do little shitty things that children do, but slap them on the wrist each and every time they do it.

>>7743491
I don't ever go rage mode on them (I save that for my boyfriend when I rant about it later) but I do turn off the TV, the internet, take away whatever they're doing until they finish their chores. If they won't they sit with nothing. They fucking hate it, but instead of just getting up and doing the chores (which take literally 5 minutes) they'll sit and throw a tantrum like they're toddlers. Screaming and stomping and crying, the whole nine yards.

>>7742359

Were you crying or something?

Maybe some more positive sibling feels?

>Little step sister just started high school yesterday
>life's been hard for her since her dad walked out on all of us three days before Christmas
>she calls me to come pick her up from school late
>can tell something happened
>she's crying her eyes out in the car
>tells me she walked into her home room class before the bell rang
>teacher yelled at her that she's not allowed in the classroom early
>she had no idea about this rule and tells him we just moved from another state and had no way of knowing
>"that's too bad. It's a write up, no excuses."
>she gets detention on her first day of school
>she's very shy and a good student, never had detention and she's devastated

I sent an email to her teacher, assistant principal, and principal. I couldn't go in today because of work, but if I don't get an apology before the weekend is out, I'm marching straight into that school Monday morning.

>bout to kick some ass for my baby sister

>>7743519
Thats a fucking stupid rule in the first place.

At my school as long as the classroom was unlocked, you could go into the room in the morning. Some people showed up almost a whole hour before school started. I hope you can work everything out for her.

>>7743522
FOR FUCKING REAL. WHAT THE HELL KIND OF RULE IS THAT?!

God, I'm just so pissed. And she's not the type to be disruptive. She probably would have just read a book.

I know I have to deal with this directly and graciously, but I'll be damned if I don't want to make a scene. I have a very slow fuse, but if you fuck with my siblings...let's see if these bastards can do 90.

Thank god I have a weekend to chill about it so I can act like a reasonable adult.

>>7743498
Instead of just turning off their devices, give them an ultimatum. 'Please put away the dishes. Get it done before I get back in an hour.' It gives them more freedom, which preteens dig.

That or do it with them. Make it into a game, if you can. 'Who do you think is faster at folding shirts?'

>>7743533
I have 4 other younger siblings and I take care of 2 other children who are almost like my siblings. I honestly would be just as raging pissed as you.

Give'em hell on Monday, because who the fuck does that teacher think she is?

>>7743519
Teacher power trip much? Dear sweet Jesus. "That's too bad." God, I hate that fake sympathy shit teachers will pull. I hope you mentally punch him in the face.

>>7743538
>>7743542
Male teacher, and a coach. Another reason why coaches have such shitty reputations as teachers.

I'll be damned if I moved out of my apartment, back home with my family, to help create a stable living environment for my siblings and Coach Tiny Dick is going to shit all over the shred of comfort they are feeling. Just no. Hell no.

Wow I feel a lot better for ranting. Thanks, seagulls.

>>7742877
I'm happy for your feels. But only because I accidentally checked your dubs.

Ughhh you guys are going to think I'm lame or really young but here goes...

I grew up in a pretty conservative household, but my parents are still pretty awesome. And since they're conservative, my dad occasionally talks about how porn is bad, etc etc.

I'm at home, since it's summer and school is out. So, I accidentally found cosplay porn on the family computer...like you know how google chrome gives you suggestions?? So then I checked the history (I know, I shouldn't have...) and there's tons of links to cosplay and lolita porn (not underage stuff, though) and like Felicia Day feet pictures (I guess because we've been watching The Guild...?). Anyway I feel pretty uncomfortable since I'm a cosplayer and a lolita...

I know it sounds lame, but it feels a little like betrayal because he's so adamant about how porn is bad. And since I was raised pretty conservative, I have a knee jerk reaction to it. And it's not even just regular porn, it's porn about my hobby! It makes me kind of mad, tbh. Urgghhhh.

>>7743591
Maybe he was making sure you weren't in any of that dirty pornography, anon.

But, I'd honestly say something.

"Uhhh dad what the hecky is this."

>>7743591

>>7743597
Hell no. If she brings it up, he will say she was looking at it because it's her hobbies.

>>7743597
>>7743598
But it's also like, could he seriously not use incognito or delete his history? It takes like ten seconds and it won't make you look like a hypocrite

>>7743591
daddy want to fuck his daughter

>>7743591
daddy wants to fuck his little girl

>>7743604
oh just tell her that it's her fault because he wanted to look up her hobbies and found all this porn and how terrible she is for being in such a hobby

>>7743519
Continuing sibling feels,
>Have older sister, shit parents/broken family
>her dad left when i was too young to remember him, but she remembered him promising to spend christmas with her and then ditching her forever for some whore then got arrested.
>mentally scars her for life, she never said the word "love" again until I tricked her into saying it in chinese
>Big sister was my only positive role model regardless and I thought she the coolest person ever.
>She acted so tough and proud of herself and me when we spent time together.
>only now do I realize she was a dorky quiet girl with glasses, only one friend that she didn't even see that often
>she spent most of her time in her room watching anime and dressing up and studying but she never left the house
>she got me into her dumb shows when we hung out and I still love them just because of the nostalgia
>she goes off to college while im still in middle school, im alone with bitch mother and her scum husband.
>I thought being a quiet dork with glasses with no friends, privacy issues, and being incapable of saying "I love you" was normal.
>entire middle school and majority high school experience is lonely abyss of depression
>I begin to realize I turned out just like my older sister
>I was too young to realize what she was going through, I should have been a better sibling

>she finally got her first bf when she turned 23
>they've been married now for almost 3 years

I just gotta wait 3 years to meet my true love

>>7743605

It could be worse. My dad once used my brother's torrent program to download his porn.

It explains a lot about who we are I think.

>>7742116
>does estrogen just make you crazy?

men have been saying this since "human existence" was a thing

Not really /cgl/ related but I've got a lot going on right now.. or maybe it just feels that way. Just turned 18 and although my mom has never really handed me anything/ helped with high school or college, I feel like she just dropped me off the face of the planet. My 18th birthday was complete shit as in I pretty much stayed home and cried. Soon after my mom and older brother have done nothing but tell me that I need a job, to get out of the house, and to stop eating.
>tfw I'm only 140 lbs at 5'7" and was actually once happy with my weight.
>tfw I spend every other day power cleaning my house like an expensive maid.
I have only ever paid for what I need/want on my own through money I get from art commissions. I wish my mom would just be happy I'm not a party girl like my sister who got to go to California for her 18th birthday.. Why am I the hated twin..

>>7743636

Yes, we were born with the knowledge of estrogen and all its effects on the body. Everyone knew the existence of hormones that could not be processed without advanced techniques and duh, women be cray because of hormones!111111

How stupid are you?

>>7743626
Holy shit, anon. This sounds like a set-up for a drama.

I want to see this happen now.
Dammit.

>>7743642
Or demon possession. It could always be demons.

>>7743642
do you literally have fucking autism

>person makes an obvious outlandish claim
>little girl takes it at face value and gets offended

it's like I'm really on tumblr!
please write an editorial piece about how I committed textual assault on all women

>>7743637
I am sorry, anon. I too have that shitty-mother feel. All I can say is, find a group of people (preferably dorks because they will be grateful just to have friends) that make you feel needed.

If your parents and siblings ignore you, then you don't need them. They are still your relatives, so you can always fall back on them, but if they don't act like family then there's no point in suffering with it.

Find people, more than one too it has to be a small group or make a group using other rejects, people who are alone can be amazing individuals but that's because they developed those good qualities instead of social skills.

So you have to target the loners, make them your friends, and you will have a group of people that won't take you for granted.

>meet a girl from /cgl/ at a con
>she is a gigantic bitch and nitpicks everybodies costume even though they are 12
>mfw

/cgl/ really is /r9k/ 2.0: female edition

>>7743016
>dat feel when you used to own an official Clow Card Book when you were 12, and then your mum sold it at a carboot sale without your permission, probably for about £5

>tfw too many dresses I want are being released all at once and I can't afford any of them right now
usually I'm pretty picky so I'll have enough money laying around to buy whenever something I really like comes along, but goddamn those Maleficent, Funeral Procession, and Union Jack dresses are going to haunt me

>>7743661
You can buy the official ones for like $20 on ebay, anon

>>7743661
God, anon. I am so sorry.
Parents who don't respect their children's property are the fucking worst. I don't care if your child is 5 or 25, if something is theirs just don't fuck with it. Period.

>>7743649

You misunderstood my sarcasm. Please stop taking your birth control.

>>7743664
yeah they're going to haunt my nightmares. Talk about fugly.

>>7743679
look, it you

>has sixth Sailor Moon artbook
>packed it up for move
>box is now lost in the abyss of fiance's parents basement
>saw a booth peddling it for over $400
>fuck.

I now have some kind of inkling on how my dad felt when he lost a good chunk of his comic book collection due to shitty storage in the 70s.

> tfw everyone seems to have shitty family/parents
> tfw your own while not perfect is pretty fucking great

Sometimes it just makes me feel really awkward when everyone seems to relate on terrible things their parents did or something, and you just sit there and feel like you aren't allowed to talk about how yours are pretty nice. Like it's not a negative feel or anything it's more just.. awkwardness.
not really related to posts in this thread but mostly in general btw

>>7743591
There comes a time in a boy's life when his daughter becomes hot.

Fuck

https://boards.4chan.org/r9k/thread/12907408/

>>7743754
>caring about what r9k thinks
It's a containment board for a reason, don't bring that noise here.

>>7743754
it's like all the bait posted on here recently concentrated in a single thread

>>7743637
>I spend every other day power cleaning my house
This sounds 100x more impressive if you are familiar with fitness lingo

>>7743754
So..?
Filters out the shit boyfriends you wouldn't want anyway.

>>7743766
>filters out
They're all anonymous

>>7743770
Wait, I'm retarded, ignore this post

>>7743754
>mfw half of them said that they wouldnt mind

ugh those misogynistic shitlord probably would only do it to fetishize us with their 'lolita fever'

>be language teacher
>crush on new student who is my age
>found out he's married, plus he is my student, so I just got over it
>during awkward dialog practice in class, finds out he got divorced last week
>Still, my student, I wasn't even thinking about it
>until he starts to chat me up today during movie session
>coworker who is his friend since high school says this student had always thought I was cute
>he has now added me on Facebook
>idle talk
>"hey, anon, there's a Japanese festival tomorrow, your coworker told me you like those. Would you like go with me?"
>I said I was going with another teacher friend, but he could come along
>It's not a date, yeah, but god, I'm nervous.
>I have no idea what I'll do if he makes a move.
>I have no idea to wear.
>I never had no what to wear before.
>I don't even know what kind of help I need.

>>7743830
>dating a guy who just got divorced

this sounds a good idea that has zero drawbacks
you should go for it and then report back how it went

>>7743833
Do you think it could be that bad? He is such a kind person, and he is dealing with it so well, I don't know. It has been an awfully short time though, I guess...

>>7743840
>he is dealing with it so well
so he doesnt seem to mind his life is being ripped apart?

that seems about right, the person you loved more than anything in the world is no longer somebody you can bear to spend the rest of your life with, emotional status = uncaring rock

sounds perfect for you, girl
grade A dating material right there
I'm sure you will eventually come to terms with being the backup plan for when his marriage went to shit

>>7743844
>his life is being ripped apart?
depending on the situation perhaps he already "moved on" from his ex wife a long time ago. People can move on from relationships pretty fast if they've emotionally distanced themselves before the breakup
not that the situation is ideal by any means but perhaps it wasn't too detrimental a situation for him

>>7743754
>doesn't know how to link to specific boards and threads
you are truly from /r9k/

>>7743844
(In my interpretation) he married too young and out of naivety, it's not that shocking that it went to ruin, is it? They didn't have children or anything either, not too much of a life that was torn apart.

But you make more sense than my kissless virgin self would like to admit. I will ward him off for a while until I get a better sense of what's going on in his head.

>>7743840
The fact of the matter is, you'll be helping someone who is essentially a complete stranger deal with a major life event and it's going to have a major impact on how he recovers and moves on with his life. Whether you're directly involved in his recovery or he just uses you as a distraction while he deals with it on his own, your relationship will be partly (if not largely) defined by this divorce and if you're not ready for any of those consequences you may just want to stay friends and not let it go any further than that until he's adjusted to single life again and can date you without applying any of the preconceptions and standards he had about his last serious relationship to you. Sounds like he's trying to use you as a rebound and it's sending up major red flags for me.

Also, you don't necessarily have to wear anything special to the festival, if you had more time I'd say get a cute yukata or something but maybe you can do that next year.

>>7743848
well damn, if he was able to just emotionally kill her after getting married, it sounds like he is a rational adult that doesn't make gigantic life changing decisions lightly!

>>7743852
why not date another virgin instead of somebody who has already been fucking married?

>>7743857
Who the fuck wants to date an adult virgin man?

At least that man is experienced and can guide her.

>>7743865
oh, I almost forgot about hypergamy for a second, and that virgin men are lower than mange infected dogs starving to death on the side of the road

I'll check my privilege with the spiked flog now, forgive me

>>7743855
I honestly had no plans to help anyone through anything. I just wanted someone to go out with and do stuff with? But I guess he will be on an entirely different page. About the clothes, I wouldn't wear a yukata. I'm just worried about sending the wrong message with whatever I might wear. Since he told this guy thought I was cute, I thought my clothes had something to do with it.

>>7743857
To be honest, i just don't know many guys at all except for students, specially single ones (most of the ones around me are my friends' own boyfriends who I just remove from any contact list when they break-up). I would actually like to date a virgin, it would take so much of the pressure of.

>>7743872
where do you even live where you don't know guys your own age?

are you teaching english in japan where everybody is too timid to come out of the shadows?

>>7743874
No, I'm teaching English in my home country in South America. I'm just quite sheltered and not very social.

>>7743876
>south america
dont lose your head over this situation

: ^ )
^
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>>7743872
You had no plans to, but you're right. He's going to be on a very different page than you and I'm having a hard time imagining any scenario in which this works out well for you.
Don't worry about sending the wrong message with your clothing either, wear what makes you comfortable. His misinterpretation of your intentions based on your clothing is not your fault and not your responsibility.

>>7743608
>>7743752

>>7743884
>His misinterpretation of your intentions based on your clothing is not your fault and not your responsibility.

well you could also not be a bitch and just tell him up front that he is friendzoned, instead of leaving him to try and piece together the puzzle over a month

I've lost about 10kg since last December (from 65 to 55) and yet I still feel as fat as I did back then. I feel like I don't kike any different either when clothed, and it's probably my fault due to wearing baggy clothes and so many layers all the time. I just want to feel cute and happy in my own body, I know that I will regret this when I'm older. I already feel old at 21 as it is.

>>7743890
>I feel like I don't *look* any different either when clothed

That was a strange autocorrect

>>7743890
>I feel like I don't kike any different either when clothed

>>7743830
Wow, I saw all the other posts and was going to stick up for you as someone who's very happily dating a divorced man. I assumed like, 6 months to a year recently divorced but a week, wow.
I'd distance myself, he's rebounding hard and you don't end to be in the middle of that. Stay friends for a while, if he's still into you sometime down the road, it might be worth it then but now is just craziness.

>>7743872
You could always just go to enjoy it and see what happens. It's not like he's going to pop out a wedding ring. It sounds like it was something you were looking forward to, why not have fun?

>>7743899
We can't assume though. Maybe he was "married" and just got divorced but that doesn't mean he and his wife were actually together.

>>7743901
>We can't assume though.
We can assume
and we would probably be right, too.

>>7743899
There's the question of, did the divorce come through a week ago, or did they make the decision to divorce a week ago?

>>7743605
>>7743635

Old people are bad at technology. News at 11

I need to get laid so badly, I haven't had sex for a year and it was really bad. I haven't had good sex for well over two years. After going on the pill (my period is really irregular normally), I have been hornier than ever and I know that I'm not going to have sex any time soon because I never meet anyone new and I wouldn't be comfortable just hooking up with someone for the hell of it. How do you single girls cope when it gets this bad? I have a vibrator but it hurts to be honest. Sorry to be so off-topic.

>>7743899
>>7743887
To tell him off wouldn't make sense yet, he hasn't even made any intentions clear. But I decided I'll tell him we can't have anything because it would be unprofessional of me, and could make a really awkward situation in the future. I suppose this could either end it or buy me more time until he figures himself out. What do you guys think?


>>7743906
Pertinent question. The decision happened a week ago. He moved to his new apartment today. Coworker commented it wasn't a surprise, which sounds "good", but I can't be sure. He didn't give details, and I didn't ask, I was afraid to sound too interested.

For now, I think I've fixed it. I got a bigger group to come along, including his friends, so it definitely won't be a date. I hope this wasn't a bad move because I can't really uninvite people.

>>7743916
Date guys from 4chan. How could this go wrong?

>>7743916
>haven't had sex for a year
try 19 years

>>7743920
>he hasn't even made any intentions clear
>You're cute, want to go to a festival together?
yeah man he is the master of subtlety, his intentions are masked with layer upon layer of obfuscation and intrigue

>>7743920
No need to freak out about this. He's probably not going to do anything other than be friendly. Your friend is there, it's not a formal date, and he just got divorced. Calm down, and enjoy it!

>>7743916
Man up and sever your genitals.

>>7743930
>He's probably not going to do anything other than be friendly.
>"You're cute"

>he just got divorced
>He's probably not going to do anything other than be friendly.
>just got divorced
>not going to do anything other than be friendly

oh, to be so hopelessly naive

>>7743930
I want to listen to you, but >>7743935 and >>7743923 are freaking me out.

>>7743936
no it will probably be great

he said you were cute, and asked you out to a festival, and he is going to show up to like 10 people going as a group

and he is GOING THROUGH a divorce, so that means he is totally good to start playing the field with any female he knows, especially those related to him in a professional manner, like a teacher or a coworker!

he sounds like a real stand up guy, you better snatch him up before somebody else does

>>7743936
It's a big group of people, and he knows that. He's probably not going to make a move on you right in the middle of all of your friends. I think you should stop worrying about it. If he does, you can tell him whatever you think. But don't be preoccupied by it.

Besides, think about the possibilities.

>He's totally skeezy, wants to get with you right after the divorce
>His marriage has been rocky for a long time/they were separated etc, and now that it's resolved he's taking a chance
>He wanted to wait longer, but sprung at this opportunity
etc

tldr; you don't need to come up with a full plan of what to do. If you're constantly worried about what he is/isn't going to do, then you aren't going to enjoy it. You know him better than anyone here, so you can judge his actions and respond how you feel is best.

>>7743940
I'm done. I'm out. Thanks, anon. Better safe than sorry.

>one day I'll find a uncomplicated guy
>I hope

>>7743946
>rejecting a guy based on anonymous opinions on the internet

>>7743916
OkCupid.
Found a guy to go out with and then bone regularly after within a week of me having it up, it's super easy if you're a girl, ultra easymode if you're a girl willing to put out.

>>7742777
But you're contributing to society, even in a small way, while he actively brings it down.

Frankly I don't know how you can put up with being with him.

>>7743953
this
the guy sounds completely genuine and not trying to use you for a quick fuck at all

he sounds like it would be great to lose your virginity to a guy who has gotten divorce papers literally days ago

there are no bad things that could possibly come from this

he will love you
he will stay with you
he will provide for you
and none of what I just said is untrue

i mean they are practically already divorced, its not like they could work it out and get back together like what happens sometimes

sounds pretty solid that somebody your age got married, and divorced, and you are a virgin who has never been in a relationship

you seem well equipped enough to accurately judge his character, what with never being in a relationship before to bias you, and he has literally zero reason to try and get pussy as an ego boost when the world is kicking him down

>>7743960
>going to a festival = fucking
I want /r9k/ to go

>>7743961
>"You're cute, do you want to go to a festival together?"

sounds completely platonic with absolutely zero intentions of it progressing past non-sexual friendship

i mean he is probably gay anyway, he isnt even attracted to women, that's why he is getting a divorce!

>>7743960
>he will provide for me
>I'M A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN UNTIL I DECIDE THAT I WANT A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF ME AND IF YOU DON'T YOU'RE A LOSER AND SHOULD MAN UP

>>7743953
I don't know anymore. Relationships scare me a lot. I started this thread excited about the opportunity, but what anons voiced are absolutely legitimate points. I'm not very good with expectations.

>>7743960
>he will love you
>he will stay with you
>he will provide for you
>and none of what I just said is untrue
Except, wow there. Not even I'm autistic enough to expect any of that.\

>I just want a guy to walk down the street hand in hand sharing an ice-cream with.

>>7743971
>I just want a guy to walk down the street hand in hand sharing an ice-cream with.

>tfw you will never find a woman you dont have to put up an act with
>tfw you will never have a wife that you love, and who loves you back
>tfw you will never grow old with the love of your life

>>7743971
This sort of relationship tends to end up bad for the person in a weaker position.

If he actually likes you he will be willing to wait until he has everything sorted out.

>>7743971
>>7743943

Go and have fun. Do what you feel comfortable with. I don't know why everyone is acting like this means you're absolutely going to be in a relationship. It's not even a first date. Just go to the festival and enjoy it.

>>7743971
If it makes any difference, my sister is going through a divorce

after the guy moved out, he started clubbing, drinking heavily, hooking up with random women, and generally acting like a stereotypical college douchelord

obviously he didnt care about the women he was having sex with, and the women also didnt care about the guy they were having sex with

he doesnt actually care about you, just your ability to get him off. if you similarly dont give a shit about yourself, then go for it

if you respect yourself and your virginity, I would abstain from being random whore #9 on his quest to fuck through a mountain of pussy after getting divorced

this is buying a red corvette level of obviousness

>>7743982
Nothing she's said so far has indicated that he just wants to fug. I really don't see the point of discouraging her from enjoying the festival. If it does turn out that that's what he wants, it's going to become obvious fairly quickly.

>>7743982
Uh, yeah. I've been a virgin for this long, I'm not having sex with any guy who isn't my boyfriend. That is not even on the table. Is this what everyone in this thread assumed?

>>7743978
>>7743977
You guys sound reasonable. Yes, it's just a group date, and it might not even go anywhere.
Supposing it does, though - is it bad to bring up his recent divorce as a reason to wait a while until he sorts himself out? Because that would be honest, I'm not sure it would be rude/hurtful.

>>7743987
well she did good by inviting some of her friends to keep a buffer

>>7743988
It would totally be a reasonable thing to say, but do you really think he's going to come onto you at the festival? It's very public, and the first date sort of event he's ever asked you to.

>>7743830
I'm curious, you're a language teacher? Are you teaching English to foreigners? Japanese? I don't understand this situation unless you are a foreigner living in a country you didn't grow up in, or he is a foreigner coming to a country he doesn't speak the language in.

>>7743993
I don't think he'll say anything either, but I would just like to know. The divorce is a more honest answer than the "unprofessional" excuse I had in mind, but I'm afraid it could be bad to bring it up. Is it really not rude?

>>7743996
m8 he is trying to date his fucking teacher while getting a divorce

rude is too kind for what he is attempting

>>7743916

Fuck off, you could literally walk down the street and tell men you wanted to fuck and one would agree.

>>7743994
I'm an English teacher in a non-English speaking country. I'm born in this country, and so is he.

>>7743890
I read a blog last month about this woman that completely changed her style on the prompting of her new husband. It was actually a really positive experience for her and she credited switching out of neutral- and dark-toned baggy clothing into brighter, form-fitting clothing. She said she had a massive confidence boost and while it was a bit more work to figure out how to coordinate things and purchase outfits that actually fit, she was just glowing.

Before getting too depressed, basically, try to change up your look.

>>7743998
>I wouldn't be comfortable just hooking up with someone

>>7744009
Fuck off, you could literally walk down the street and tell men you wanted to date and one would agree.

>>7743996
I wouldn't play the unprofessional card. Once that's out there it's a monster to try to bring back in. Is it actually considered unprofessional? I know in many western countries teacher/student relationships are officially HIGHLY UNPROFESSIONAL but unofficially do happen sometimes, while in Japan they're much more open and accepting about it. I don't know anything about that culture in Latin America though.

>>7744011
The other thing with professional is that it isn't a delay, but rather a total shut down of the relationship.

>>7744011
It could mess up the teacher/student relationship, and that would be pretty unprofessional. Also, I doubt my boss would be too thrilled to hear about it. But socially speaking, nobody would care.

>>7744022
Well, okay, here's a question then: how long is he going to be in your class? It would obviously be a really bad idea, regardless of any other reasons, to date him or even be friends with him while he's in your class, for fear of accusations of favoritism. I wouldn't even maintain a relationship beyond having him on FB until he's out of your class.

>>7744031
He'll be my student for another year yet. Accusations of favoritism don't worry me, because it's an adult class and the method doesn't really allow that. What could be messed up is that he could then expect favor towards him, or simply disregard my authority in the classroom. Students get really lazy when they date teachers, I've seen it happen in another school.

>>7744041
why dont you just date somebody your own age and experience? and not some guy in your class that is trying to get with you as a form of revenge at his soon-to-be-not wife

>>7744044
I've mentioned this before:
I don't really have a social life outside of my job. I only have girl friends from school, and barely know guys outside of work (coworkers or students).

>>7744047
try to meet people at cons or find a hobby then

picking up divorcees in a class is fucking single mother tier of trashiness

I think this thread is autosaging, can anyone start a new thread? I have something I'd like to post.

>>7743410
You serious? It's a kid throwing tantrums. My brother used to say worse shit when he was 10 and now that he grew up he hates himself for it and obviously doesn't do it anymore.
Seriously, stop talking out of your ass.

>>7744065
There's not a lot worse than that.

>>7744055
It is autosaging but we're only on the second page. /cgl/ is a slow board, this will be up for a while. If you really want a new thread though, why not make it yourself?

>>7744054
I don't go to cons at all. I enjoy concerts, and sometimes I'm approached by guys when I go, but they're usually terribly obnoxious hipsters (I don't get how come I like that kind of music either). All my other hobbies are more popular with females. I don't know what else I could try, specially when I don't really enjoy going out at all.

Just fucking kill me
>Convention coming up next month
>Check the facebook event set up by friend for the hotel today
>There's someone invited who wasn't originally in the room
>I'm not comfortable with this girl in any way shape or form
>text friend who's hosting the room "hey I'm not comfortable with that girl you added what do?"
>"Oh no I knew it was gonna be a problem, I knew you didn't like her, I'll take care of it anon."
>What a great feel to have such great friends
>9 hours later, "I'm sorry anon, I can't just tell her she can't stay with us, she has no where else to stay!"
>You realize that means that me, and the two people riding with me, probably won't be going...?
>"You should try to find somewhere else to stay if you're not comfortable with her"
>All the hotels I would've been willing to stay in are sold out....why didn't you ask the people in your room if they were comfortable with rooming with someone before you invited them
>"I didn't think it would be a problem"
>Bullshit, she knows I have problems with this girl
She's trying to make it right now but I'm still pretty mad. I really hate it when people aren't conscious of the feelings of the people they're rooming with. This is what happens when I don't book my own rooms

>>7744074
This might not be relevent but what's so objectionable about this girl that you won't share a room with her for three days, even if you have friends of your own there to act as a buffer?

>>7744074
Just find a guy and sleep with him. I do that every con I go to, to save money on hotel bills.

>>7744095
There's a prerequisite though : You need to be huge whore to do that.

>>7744444
Wow, judgey much? Sorry guys don't like you enough to let you stay in their hotel rooms

>>7744447
>To save money I sleep with peoples
>I am PERFECTLY sane !
Not to me.

>>7744450
not all of us are as hung up about sex as you, prude

or as fat

>>7744454
I have enough money to sleep where I want and bring back who I want If I feel like it.
Don't find excuses because your vagina and morals are a mess.

>>7744458
I have money too but why would I spend it when I can find a cute boy to let me stay with him for free?

morals? wow you're really hung up about this kind of thing, virgin much?

>>7744465
No just healthy relationships.
Now begone, bag of aids.

>that feel when you only come to /cgl/ for lolita only and absolutely loathe the obsessive weeb shit
>that feel when no boyfriend when want bf

> "I have a chronic mental illness and it's all your fault!"

Thanks, mother. On the plus side, I was upset so I decided to browse LM to cheer myself up, and ended up snagging a skirt from my wishlist in the UK at a reasonable price. I feel much better now. And since I'm not at uni this month, I can just use the money I normally would've spent on my travelcard to pay for it, so I'm not even losing money. Yay!

>>7744578
Haha you can't have a healthy relationship if you're afraid of sex honey. are you mad that your boyfriend wants me instead of you?

>>7744628
>Afraid of sex
That's what sluts like you actually believe.

>>7744672
what's funny about this is that almost every guy I've been with at a con has had a girlfriend at the time

guess I know who you must be, sorry you couldnt keep him interested

>>7744675
>Projecting

>>7744680
>meme arrows because I'm too mad to come up with a proper response
and this is why I'll always get your guy, I'm more interesting :)

>>7744684
>meme arrows
>Use greentext
Slut who need a fuckbuddie to sleep at night, against someone in a stable relationship.
Ho yeah, totally more interesting.

>>7744687
boring girl who needs to be in a relationship to feel fulfilled. I don't need a man to define me, so I get to have fun with whoever I want. guys seem to like me more than uptight girls like you you know :)

>>7743754
I don't see anymore the thread... they have deleted it because it was a pile of bullshit i believe.

>>7743922
Yes, infact. Being a kissless virgin is suffering at times.

>>7742969
Uhh, I binge eat when I don't restrict myself. Don't always assume "starvation diets (cutting)" are bad, they're not even long term things anyway.