/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>on period
>used heaviest type of tampon they had
>put in 3 minutes ago
>still bleeding heavily
>have work in an hour
shit

>>7798963
Pad + tampon combo? Usually works for me. You can also inform your boss upfront that you'll be needing more bathroom breaks today.

>meet a nice dude
>super cute
>start to hit it off
>he's qt
>he cosplays
>tfw somebody to live my dream of couple cosplaying with

>tfw birthday is coming up
>tfw parents hint at buying me this
>tfw can finally watch anime and browse /cgl/ without feeling guilty for sitting around

>>7798989
Just start running.
Ellipticals a shit.

>>7798969
This. If your boss is a douchey man, just say, "Well, I could just bleed through my pants then." and he'll relent because of disgust.

>>7798969
yeah, using that combo too. I'm just ultra worried since I'm going to a pool in two days and if the heaviest tampon isn't doing it then I'm screwed

>tfw going to a con last-minute
>no cosplay planned
>have to make choice between going in normal clothes or wearing old cosplay that hurts a little to wear

I'll probably wear the old cosplay and suffer for my art.

>>7798994
Your flow will have hopefully petered out enough by then, anon. If you want to help things along, I suggest fapping. The contractions of your vaginal muscles will slough off your uterine lining faster.

Gross story incoming:
>be on period
>be insanely horny
>pull up some porn and get out my vibe
>cum once, not enough, decide to keep going
>end up cumming about 8-10 times
>feel awesome, sorta sleepy, but want to clean up before nap
>get up without panties on to wash up
>"plop"
>plop???
>look down
>two giant bloody, meaty globs have just fallen out of my vagina
>the stain is still on my carpet
>thank god I'm replacing it with hardwood

>>7799005
Period orgasms are the best, but yes, that was properly disgusting. Thank you.

I've also masturbated to try and speed things along. Seems to at least help with cramps.

>>7798822
>inb4 someone craws about it being ot
It kinda is related...since my financial future will affect my hobbies.
>be two years ago
>get my undergrad degree
>no debts
>parents immediately pressure me to enroll in either law school or grad school
>tell them what I actually want
>and that is to just work for a year, work on my weight, and get my shit together
>they guilt me about how I'll never get a good job without a master's degree
>take the LSAT
>study my ass off
>anxiety after I take the test
>cancel the score
>parents pressure me more
>guess I'm going to grad school...

>be last year
>get accepted into grad program
>two year program
>sign my life away with loans for the first time
>faculty insists everyone write a thesis even though there is a test option
>no idea what I want to study since I'm being manipulated into going
>pick some random topic
>anxiety/depression plus one shitty advisor later and I'm basically a whole semester behind
>with still no thesis
>depression for forever
>find out since enrollment is so bad my college is actually shutting down the program
>it won't exist after spring
>insist on test option instead of thesis
>department chair basically tells me I'll have to bust ass in order to graduate
>even though it's really fucking unfair that they're canceling the program when I could have taken another year to lighten the load
>feel like I can't quit now because I have 20k in loans already

If I had known all that I wouldn't have gone back. Especially if I had known they're closing the fucking program. I guess if all fails I can transfer, and since it's a state school the credits should be okay but still..
This is the worst decision I have made in my life, so far.

>exercising, losing weight
>think "maybe I'll be able to show off my tummy in cosplay"
>tummy doesn't get flat, just lumpy and thick from muscle
>can't safely lose any more weight

And so my cosplays will continue to hide the stomach.

>have dermatillomania
>constantly picking my face, arms, everything
>con soon
>look like absolute shit

>>7799005
>meaty globs

christ your period sounds like a miscarriage anon

>>7799014
honestly I have it, and no one has ever said anything about it to me? At least to my picked, scarred up face.

>>7799014
>>7799019
I think I might have this, but it's because my acne does legitimately bother me and even with antibiotics it has never improved.
I pick my face, back, and upper arms It looks like I have huge freckles on my arms and back from all the squeezing. I just get a lot of satisfaction from seeing all the gross ooze burst out. Especially when it shoots onto the mirror.

> first AA table at con
> didn't do well but made friends
> negative fun monies
> its ok cuz internship offered me job, right?
> wrong. So very very wrong.
> going to take 5 months to maybe get hired
> student loans aren't going through
> think "well at least I still have mom and dad if worst comes to worst"
> mom lost job
>mfw I went from Amazing Successful Anon to That Weeb who has nothing going for them now

Fuck today.
I need a hot dad to hold me.

>>7799017
it was just the first day and I was miserable from cramping so.. apparently my uh "enthusiastic discharge" let's call it was the majority of what needed to be expelled, and my period was only a couple days long.

female bodies are gross, man. so gross.

>>7799023
Yup me too. It's satisfying.

>Mail out thing
>Thing gets returned in it's original box labeled 'unclaimed.'
>Email the buyer twice asking for address confirmation
>They never respond
>They never leave any negative feedback
>I just get to keep the item and the money
>Did he died?

>>7799005
>>7799007
Holy crap, other people know the glory of the period orgasm? It seriously is the only thing that stops my cramps.

Thank goodness I have a SO who is willing to have sex while I'm on the rag.

>>7799028
Yeah, pretty nasty. At least we're gorgeous, right?

>>7799026
Maybe if you get poor enough you can get government aid though. Especially if you're still considered a dependent and your parents are losing their jobs.

>>7799028
Oh my god I do not miss having periods. Nope. Nopenopenope.

>>7799038
Hell yeah. Fine-ass nasty bitches reporting in.

>>7799040
>skip periods for months at a time
>tbpw my aunt moves in for a month because of moving, and it starts again

>tfw I think I developed body dysmorphic disorder from browsing 4chan
I wish I were joking. I think over the years a lot of the vile shit I heard people say about bodies really got to me.

>>7799056
>What is thin skin

>Have shitty minimum wage cook job for 4 years
>Treated like dirt and harassed constantly
>Keep it because I need the money and because it helps fund my hobby, even if I have to save up.
>Get offered severely better paying office job
>Fuck yes, can finally afford better shit.
>Go interview, they tell me I start next week
>Quit my old job and tell my boss to eat a dick.
>Start new job, its great.
>Things go smooth for about 2 weeks
>"Anon, there is a mandatory meeting in the meeting room today"
>ok
>Apparently the company "hired too many people" so they let 20 or so of us go
>Fuck
>Apply everywhere
>Everywhere within 4 hours of here
>living on unemployment
>It's been over a year and a half
>I haven't even worn lolita in my free time since being let go
>Can't go back to crap job because I quit
>Can't afford to move elsewhere to find work because of lack of funds.
>Can't afford shit anymore
>Had to start selling my dresses online to have enough money to get by.
>Still no jobs in site
>Fuck
Thanks College

>>7799056
It's pushed me in completely the opposite way. Hearing
>Fuck I just had a period baby oh well I'ma go put makeup on and be kawaii~<3
makes me that much less self conscious about myself.

4Chan has helped me embrace that I am normal, far more than any Tumblr ~*acceptance*~ thing ever has.

Everybody poops, anon.

>>7799081
Oh bodily functions aren't my damage in the least. I know mentally (barring my self-esteem) and lifestyle wise I'm probably pretty average.

It's mainly talk about weight/skin/hair. Because now I know I'm objectively below average in all of it, and I don't know how to go back to when I deluded myself into thinking it was okay.

>>7799090
>Because now I know I'm objectively below average
It's really, really hard to judge your own appearance, so you should assume you're wrong. Even if you are below average, then acting (sincerely, not in the attention whore validation kind of way) as if you were average or above average will make you seem that way.

>It's mainly talk about weight/skin/hair.
Do you see how much work these bitches put into their skin, hair, makeup, and weight? If you care that much, take the crazy steps some ladies go through. Learn to do your makeup up good, set a realistic weight goal and have a friend with you to stop you from going anorexic, get your hair professionally done.

If you do all that shit, regardless of how you look now, you will look at the very least average.

>go back to when I deluded myself into thinking it was okay.
There is very little, physically, about yourself that you can control completely. The best thing you can do is rock it the best way that you can. Your face shape *has* to be okay, because apart from what you can do with makeup, you're stuck with it. Your body type *has* to be okay, because regardless of how much weight you lose, your bone structure will not change.
Never use this as an excuse for not taking care of yourself, but you have to eventually acknowledge that you're going to have to make the best with what you've got.

Sage for making me give a pep talk on 4chan. I just can't stand fine ladies who can't see how gorgeous they are.

>>7799100
>act normal and you'll feel normal
Point taken.
>makeup
It only goes so far. People think I do my full face o slap bretty good, cause I mean I had to learn how to disguise my acne at a young age. I went to a dermatologist and got medication but it's pretty much genetic acne since it made no real difference. My mom got diagnosed with cystic acne.

Unfortunately, right now I can't do much foundation wise because it's so humid that I sweat it off. Even then I've felt cakey lately because I require a decent layer of it for proper coverage.
I have a crazy skin care regimen, but I also obsessively pick at my face if my acne hurts or if I'm stressed/anxious (I know this does me no good).

The reason I bring up skin is because I don't know what it's like to go a day without acne.
I know makeup can fix a lot, but it upsets me that I can never truly go without makeup without someone thinking I look sick, tired, or agitated.
>set a realistic weight goal
I had bariatric surgery last year after multiple years of losing 40 and gaining back 50.
I lost a good amount of weight and kept it off, but my fupa isn't going away and it looks like I'll need a tummy tuck. It hurts a lot....
I already compulsively exercise and check my weight everyday.
>hair
It doesn't grow well, it's thin, and greases very easily.
>regardless you're stuck with what you got
Yeah....it's just hard coping sometimes.
I'm not saying that on a -good- day when I've done myself up and got dressed that I never feel good, but I just feel so...idk...processed?
Is this how other people tend to feel if they don't have natural beauty too?

>>7799019
Well, it's not like anyone other than my mom says anything about it to me either, but it still feels shitty to have a scarred face instead of a nice, smooth, blemish free one. Even if people aren't rude enough to say anything about my imperfections, I still know they're there. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but man disorders are some shitty business.
Oh well, I'll just do my best not to worsen it before the con and use a shitton of makeup. We're in this together, fellow seagulls with dermatillomania. ;_;
>>7799023
Yeah, sounds like you have it, at least if you're almost... obsessed with it and can't stop long-term.

>>7799139
x-tillomanias suck. I have trich and no eyelashes. It's hard to be kawaii like that. I also can't stop picking at my KP, but I don't know if that counts as trich or derm since it involves the skin and the hair. Either way, I hate it. I've been trying so hard to stop, and I've managed to let my eyebrows grow in to an acceptable thickness, but I just relapsed and pulled out most of my lashes yesterday. I don't know what to do. I just want to be able to put on mascara and have long beautiful eyelashes.

>>7799137
>Is this how other people tend to feel if they don't have natural beauty too?

A lot of people feel this way about themselves, beauty or not, anon.

>>7799139
Have you tried using a moisturizer with zinc oxide in it? It won't do anything for your dermatillomania but it will help reduce scarring and make your skin heal faster.

I'm sorry if this sounds ignorant, I really don't know that much about your condition, but would it help if you have something else to manipulate besides your skin? Or could you manipulate your skin in a healthier way? Like perhaps putting a squishy toy on your keychain or using a powdered tissue to wipe your face instead of picking? (Pic related)

>>7799137
Jumping in to comment about "feeling processed".

Do and do and continue to do whatever crazy routine until it becomes a totally mechanical habit. Only in the last year have I passed the point of being able to feel the 6 layers of shit on my skin.

The processed feeling literally just takes time and dedication to make it go away. Coming from someone who hated touching lotion or even just wearing a tiny bit of chapstick, it took me about 4 years to become numb to the feeling and actually wear a full face of makeup on a daily basis.

It's annoying, but it 100% can be done.

>>7799221
Is that what those are used for? I bought them on accident and have no idea what to do with them kek.

>>7799248
Just to take the shine off your nose, you use them instead of carrying around a powder compact.

>go to lolita store in nice coord
>super excited to meet everyone and shop at first lolita store
>so excited that I leave my car unlocked and forget to change into my lolita shoes
>wearing old beatup sneakers with my coord and it takes me a half an hour to realize it
>everyone is giving me the stink eye when they look at my feet
>bf even notices it
>feel the need to apologize for my shoes
>an exciting outing is now just sadness


>pic related was everyone's face when they saw my shoes

>>7799257
I feel like I've read this story hundreds of times already, or is accidentally wearing beat up shoes to the lolita store common?

>>7799261
no this is my first time telling it that I remember.
it might be common since lolita shoes are uncomfortable as hell and wearing sneakers for comfort and switching out to nicer shoes for photos/other lolitas is the best way to go

>>7799261
>>7799257
>pleb wearing sneackers anytime in their life
>lel

>>7799268
>wearing hell shoes at all moments of the day and trying to drive in RHS
good luck with that

>>7799269
>What are foldable, soft ballerina pumps that you can just slip in your bag in case of incomfortable shoes/driving/broken heel

>>7799271
original anon, they were orthopedic shoes. I do need them. flats really screw up my feet, heels even moreso

>>7799221
Oh, I've tried distracting myself with stuff and manipulating other things, but not using a powdered tissue or applying a moisturizer with zinc oxide as far as I can remember. I'll try that, thank you! And don't worry, you came off as very helpful and kind.

>>7799279
That, I can understand (even if sneackers aren't exactly what's best for your feet, but if you have them with insoles, that makes sense).

>>7799267
oh well

>>7799306
guess you were right, that was also me.
the feels are still with me

>>7799248
>>7799251
Don't use them too much, though! If you're super oily and rely on these things to mattify your skin you'll just make it worse. Emergencies only.

>playing Dynasty Warriors
>so many manly men I want to Cosplay
>start planning out Lu Bu in my head
>remember I am a short, dumpy female
>get sad and stop planning

Every time.

> sell bag on lm
> "anon, where are you gonna ship out?"
> tell her monday, everything's cool
> send package out on monday, see she's already messaged me early in the day, "where's my tracking no?"
> Kind of irks me but whatever, I send it to her
> 2 days later, get another message "can I have my tracking please??"
> mfw
> send it to her again, it's been almost 24 hours and she still hasn't read either one of the three messages

It's just a minor thing, but this is stressing me out. Her messages have also gotten progressively more demanding.

not /cgl/ related but I'm going to use this as a confession thread to vent my creepiness.

I keep stealing my roommates underwear and using it to masturbate. He and I are fucking, but we only do it a few times a week so I get really horny a lot. It makes me feel really gross and creepy but the smell is so good and really gets me off. I feel like I need to stop doing this but it's too good, I can't.

>>7799525
Are you a qt?

>share something funny I heard with senpai
>senpai says a mere "lol"
>pretty sure he found the least interesting/funny thing ever

I-I just want to share everything with you senpai. Because you're the first person I think of all the time, in every occasion.

>>7799530
I think so? I've been told I am atleast. Why, are you going to fap to the thought of this or something?

>>7799537
No because I don't know what you look like. And that's not really my thing anyway. Just curious.

>>7799525
don't shit where you sleep

>>7799546
>don't shit where you sleep
It's my house though, he pays less than half of the rent.

>>7799540
Okay, I was just joking anyways, internet is difficult to read jokes.

>>7799572
>joking

You're silly, girls get off to guys getting off to them. You don't have to lie m8.

>>7799421

Just wondering if she is actually able to get any of the messages? Especially since she keeps asking for the tracking number. Maybe try to contact her via a different channel?

>>7798963
>>7798994
>>7799005
>>7799007
>>7799017
>>7799028

Feels related:
>Be male
>Haven't had a girlfriend since sophomore year of high school, so haven't really had to cooperate with periods much
>Get on 4chan one day
>Go to /cgl/ because I'm debating joining my university's cosplay "club"
>Go to feels thread because "What kind of feels does /cgl/ have?
>See women talking about periods
>Bloody globs
>Rivers of red
>Tampon Trucking
>Pad puddles
>Masturbating and Menstruating
>Cramping and Cosplaying
>Rethinking my entire viewpoint of females

I was contemplating letting myself open up to girls again
But...
I just...
I don't know anymore
Someone please comfort these feels of mine

>>7799607
>not having seen the /cgl/ horror caps

Anon pls
Girls are gross anyway, you should only come here for qts and/or bitch drama if you're a faggot like me.

>>7799607
Periods fucking suck bro. Don't judge, it's a natural thing that is fucking horrible. We don't want periods just as much as you don't want to deal with them. Even so, I'm sure you can find a girl who will be conservative enough to never talk to you about it.

>>7799575
Not random guys for me though.

I have a friend who asked me to pay for a Baby bag and she promised she would pay me back. it has been months now and I only have 1/3 back. she keeps coming with excuses and shit. no more friends after this.

>>7799623
>having friends in the first place

why

>>7799607
Girls poop and fart too.

Just so you know.

>>7799627
No they don't.

>>7799631
Even the pretty one anon.
Even your TV crush. She even had diarrhea.
Even qt K-pop idoru.

>>7799636
Pretty girls can't poop, my friend told me.

And Hillary Duff did not, quit lying.

>impling idols don't have their butts sewn shut

>>7799609
>Coming here for the qts
Sorry anon, as much as I think a lot of the girls here are qt, I'm not really here to hook up. There's no real way to actually contact people individually anyways.

>or bitch drama if you're a faggot like me
>faggot
>me
I was only a faggot in a past life

>>7799612
Well I mean, NEVER talking about it is kind of weird. I would think that like a quick "yo, I'm on my period, nasty shit's happening, be warned" would be nice. And also I'm totally down for talking about intimate/personal stuff like that...just not...bloody globs level of personal

>>7799636
Sometimes, when I'm REALLY feeling like an asshole, I'll tell my brother girls poop. That's how I know you're just being an asshole. Because girls don't actually poop.

>>7799607
lol wut
you don't wanna hear about our lovely shedding uterus? and the blood and mucus and the pain?
You know it's natural right? like pooping and peeing, tho blood have a tendency of getting everywhere..

>>7799648
>implying anyone wants any of you after this shit

I mean the other qts you girls like to bitch about.

>>7798970
It won't work, anon. He'll just leave you like everyone else.

>>7799649
>Natural
Demons aren't natural

>tfw just bought my first dress

>>7798970
dont fuck this up and spaghetti, Im rooting for you anon.

>>7799007
>>7799005
nothing compared to anal
blackout from pleasure, just like in my ero mangos

I bet none of you doushe, not feeling like shit when he asks "whats this?" and its a blood clot on his dick

>>7799652
You mean we all get mean on our period? I think you would get mean too if you were in pain for a week.

I think I understand why people are selfish. Caring about others really takes too much out of you and you forget to or deny caring about yourself. And at the same time, I don't want to be completely lonely and friendless. How do I do it? How do I become a good friend?

>>7799648
I poop five times a day when on my period, how's that for not pooping dude?

>>7799076
Awww anon no, if you were my friend I'd let you borrow my lolita

>>7799658
No
I was referring to the periods themselves as Demons
Demons aren't people so I can't refer to girls as demons

>>7799660
I've diarrhea during my periods. And pimples. And cramps.
And I recently noticed that I was moody. The PMS jokes hold some thruth, though I cannot pinpoint if you're moody because of hormons or feeling like crap for a few days because of bleeding + cramps + diarrhea.

Good feels
>go to meetup
>all went than expected
>girls want to go buy booze
>I chime in that I want to, as well
>"but anon, aren't you underage?"
>think I'm not older than 18
>I'm in my 20's
>flattered to heaven

Bad feels
>win my dream dress on LM
>excited because I have a payment coming in at the end of the week
>buyer is late with payment
>panic and message seller
>seller is super cool about it
>when buyer finally contacts me, they only send half of the intended payment
>panic and take out 100$ from the money my husband gave me for savings
>pay off dress
>PHEW
>husband asks where the 100$ went
>lie and say I spent it on traveling to the meet
>feel bad to this moment

I'm going to replenish the money 2-fold in the coming weeks, but I seriously feel like a cunt, as I rightfully should.
I've never taken money out before and I feel guilty as hell.
Shit.

>>7799137
Honestly, (from someone who's actually diagnosed with severe BDD), that sounds like regular low self esteem instead of BDD unless you're also skipping work/dropping out of school and isolating yourself because you feel too ugly to go out, spending around literally 10 hours a day stressing about your appearance, etc.

>>7799664
Well I agree that periods are demons

>Finally got a job
>It's a shit paying job selling participations in a raffle
>BUT HEY IT'S A JOB. TODAY IS MY FIRST DAY AND I ALREADY MADE 11 $
>NOW I CAN AFFORD LOLITA AND COSPLAY AAAA

>>7799607
>tfw boyfriend has absolutely zero qualms with any of my bodily functions
>tfw he has even offered to finger me while I'm on my period because he read somewhere that it helps relieve cramps
I still prefer to keep all this stuff to myself and don't enjoy sex on my period but it's so great knowing that this guy is completely 100% unfazed by the fact that I'm a regular pooping bleeding human being and not a perfect fairy princess doll. Especially since I'm his first girlfriend ever. His parents done raised him good.

>>7799607
>not fucking a girl while she's on the rag

It's messy but I remember being on top with my ex and putting her legs up in the air and going in as far as I could, I had to put my hand over her mouth to stop her from alerting anybody within a 3 mile radius

>>7799689
>I'm his first girlfriend ever

And now you know why he's so 'perfect'.

>>7799680
I know that feel, anon.

>tfw I only want to fug when on rags.

Why is nature so fucked up.

What is the female to male ratio on cgl, like 12:1 or something?

>>7799588
I've considered it, but she can message me just fine on lm, so I'm not sure. I'll try emailing her tomorrow if it doesn't work out.

>>7799698
I'll fug you on the rag :3

>>7799699
>males
>on /cgl/

>>7799705
h-hi

>>7799705
>implying I'm not here for the drama

I cosplay but I don't really post about it. Loli is cool as fuck though and I like seeing women in the dresses.

>>7799710
>tfw you will never live in a society where everyone dresses in lolita

>>7799699

12:1 sounds close enough (see >>7782120)

>>7799711
It hurts everyday anon. It'd make a welcome change to what the women usually wear where I live.

>tfw no loli gf

>>7799705
Those 2 are pretty qt.
Even with the ridiculous stache.

>>7799712
I figured that a lot of guys would lurk and attend meetups, trying to find a weeb gf.
I feel like most of the posting is done by girls though.

>>7799071
>what is enforcing a mentality that everyone who isn't thin and fit is disgusting and is shit on in the cosplay community

>>7799722
Not necessarily disgusting. And theres plenty of people with chubby/thick/etc fetishes.

And that's because most fatties don't know how to dress.

>tfw trying to make some kind of Monzaemon costume
>tfw Australian
The heat would kill me if I wore a full suit, plus I wanna show my face. At the moment it's looking like a bare (not a deliberate pun) arms and legs thing, but I'm worried it'll look dorky.

>>7799676
Why did you have to lie about the money?

>>7799137
I disagree with >>7799680 in that it's only BDD if you're a complete shut-in, but it does sound like you're pretty normal, and just have low self-esteem.

>>7799726
just get a bf/gf really, they give esteem boosts

>>7799730
How anon, how?

I'm not even ugly just boring to girls.

>>7799730
How am I supposed to find a partner, exactly, when my self-esteem issues are so crippling that I can barely interact with people?

>>7799730
I'm always stroking my BF ego even if it's BS and blowing little accomplishments out of proportion.
But it makes him happy, so be it.

>>7799734
i'll b ur partner :3

>>7799734
hey bb let's barely interact together ~

>>7799318
Use the unpowdered (less powdered) side to absorb oil and then lightly dab the powder just where you need it. I love them but they take a while to master.

You can also get the unpowdered oil absorbing tissues.

>>7799735

mine does this and it makes me really uncomfortable, I'm not used to being praised so much over so little

>>7799725
Why would you cosplay a mascot character if you want to show your face?

>>7799731
No boys even close to me on here
>tfw I think most shitposters and the like here are qt

>>7799767
What do you mean no boys even close to you? In terms of boringness?

>>7799767
Are you in some no-name eur country or something?

>>7799755
So I can... talk to people?
It wouldn't be for a con or anything, there's just a birthday party coming up that Monzemon fits the theme for.
See shitty sketch attached

>>7799139
That's what make up is for. Or just stop comparing yourself to other people.

>>7799689
This is probably more because he's a giant hornball since first gf, and less bc he has good parents

>>7799731
>>7799734

if youre a girl, its pretty basic at least according to my ex, just be open with guys without sounding sarcastic, guys get shy too, unsure if they are being hit on or made fun of, shy couples are the best since thier friends from both sides egg them on. great social experience for all. Dont try to hide your tastes from him or it will bite you in the butt eventually if you do hook up. Offer to met them later to hang out (dont jump the gun,if know what I mean, get to know the guy more first)

if youre a guy, get in shape, HYGIENE, cosplay a husbando from a series you like, dont be a spaz and be fangirl bait without being a fan of the source material or you will be eaten alive (in a bad way). If youre looking for flings then dont bother it will only end bad for both of you. again, ask if they want to go met up later at XXXXX as a polite way of asking if they are interested in knowing you better, dont expect or assume anything.Dont compliment unless you mean it, be honest.

Im a natural flirt at cons since I like to see people happy about what they accomplished making the last few weeks (especially the Tomokos, best fembros to hang with) Its mostly me being drunk off the con if that makes sense, but in short just let loose your inhibitions,step out of your bubble.

>only look okay when at neutral face or small smile at most
>decide to cosplay over the top comedy character because ????
>surprise surprise i look like a 1/10 ugly bitch with downs syndrome in all of my in-character pictures
>only pictures that don't make my want to claw my eyes out are stoic shots that look like shit anyway because they're so ooc

being ugly fucking sucks

>>7799803
pics plz?
its probably just you not liking how it turned out

>>7799803
Masks are your friend.

>>7799799
>guys get shy too, unsure if they are being hit on or made fun of
This is me pretty much, because of my shitty earlier youth.

I'm in shape, mind my hygiene but I don't really go to any cons because there's barely any here and I'd have no one to go with. I just enjoy this board. Also have the problem of living in Belgium and there's a lot of French people and I don't like speaking French and suck at it and they're rude as hell.

>>7799803
iktf
People always comment on how good I look with a neutral/resting face, but smiling fucks everything up.
No nice photos ever, unless I'm looking like I'm having a terrible time.

>>7799693
?

>>7799776
Nah we only have sex every few days at most. And like I said I don't enjoy getting physical during my period, which lasts a full week, so no sex then either. He's fine with it and respects my boundaries. The offer to finger me was a one-time thing.
I guess part of it is that he has an older sister who was apparently quite vocal about her menstruation woes so he never got stuck with the idea that girls are static little dolls who only go to the bathroom to powder their noses and gossip. She's actually made me look better by comparison so I'm pretty thankful to her.

>sup /cgl/ let me tell you about my relationship

>>7799809
Move up north, anon! Most Dutch people I know (including qt grills) think Flemish accents are adorable.

>>7799821
I can't just move, I'm still studying. I also have this habit of picking up accents wherever I go, I'd be speaking like them within a week.

>>7799799
"just be open" is not always as basic as it sounds. I know this is pretty simple stuff for most people, but y'know. At least I can make friends sometimes.

>>7799824
> I also have this habit of picking up accents wherever I go
Teach me your ways
I have a non-accent that people seem to interpret as an accent, but can't place it (because it isn't an accent)
I'd love to pick up an accent so I could at least have one

>>7799829
I just do it to comfort the people I'm talking to I think.

I've got like 4 different English accents just ready to use because I talk to people on the internet all day.

When I went to England it was awkward because I didn't know how anything worked but I still spoke like the people there.

>>7799806
fuuuuuck no, it took me ages to get the courage to post them on my -5 follower tumblr, the thought of self-posting on /cgl/ makes me want to die

>>7799807
sticking to characters that don't look stupid frowning or neutral has worked for me, haven't found a character I'm dying to cosplay with a mask yet. I just wish someone had pulled me aside and said "hey anon, I know you hate how you look when smiling, maybe this character isn't for you" instead of "ohhh anon, you're being silly! i'm sure you'll look great!"

>>7799848
>girls
>ever being direct

>>7799825
true true, I forgot to mention that having a wingman helps give you the extra push when you might stutter or flustered

>>7799770
in scandinavia, I don't ever see boys here from around sweden, everyone's from the us or canada

>>7799882
i am boy from sweden ja i am be ur bf ja

>>7799882
There's lots of Swedes on 4chan. Try /int/.

I saw this picture today and finally realized that I've had enough.

I stepped on the scale out of curiosity at my parents house when I went to see them last weekend, and I saw my highest weight: 149 lb.
Cue anger and bitterness.

I've been sighing over pictures of cute girls with skinny legs and have been longing to do adorable anime girl cosplays. I just *barely* fit into my brand dresses, and I just want to wear something that doesn't make me feel like an overstuffed sausage at the end of the day.
I want to feel comfortable.

I'M FUCKING DONE BEING THIS BIG AND FEELING SHITTY ABOUT IT.

I want to post in /fit/, but that's kind of a fucking joke.
However, I need someone with good advice about dieting and working out. I really don't want to gain muscle. I just want to be skinny.
Exercising can tone, so maybe I should run? Bike?
I'd rather not go to/pay for a gym.

I did the 500 Calorie Diet [or was it the ABC Diet?] for about 3 weeks some time ago, and I was shedding pounds like fucking crazy! Plus, I felt super good after I got over the overwhelming craving for sweets. That was the hardest part.

So many mixed messages saying "that's a fucking stupid diet, anon" and stuff like that.

Welp. I'll admit I'm ignorant. I just need some enlightening.

Calling all lurking /fit/izens: halp!

>>7799889
>I want to post in /fit/

Why in the world do you want to post with a bunch of beta manlets?

>>7799886
If only

>>7799888
Might lurk around a bit there

>>7799774
Makeup can only do so much

>tfw someone (pretty sure actually autistic) asked me to make his Sonic OC into a sprite for him
>tfw I'm probably going to do it

I must be a glutton for punishment.

>>7799889
If you're not terrified of Reddit, /r/fitness and its related communities are really great for tips, learning and support.

I was in the same boat as you, hovering at 150lbs at 5'3" and through discipline and hard work I've worked down to 128lbs and working on losing 5lbs more. I know you can do it!

>>7799889
how tall are you?

> get to know everyone in comm
> find out that they're all actually wonderful people
> love dressing up with them
> Hell yes, motherfuckers, let's do this again soon
> manager at work breaks his shoulder
> another gets into dirtbike wreck
> coworker has burger grinder fall on him
> other coworker had baby
> It's myself and four other people left
> M-maybe I can dress up and be pretty again in a couple weeks...
> Four months later, still no break from work Hell

I just want to be frilly again, guys.

>>7799889
The ABC diet is actually "anorexia lite" and isn't healthy in the least. If you want something filling but also in a similar vein, try the keto diet. It gives you more room for calories and by eating less carbs/sugar your body actually feels incredible.

>>7799889
/fit/ is a joke. Go anywhere but there.
>>7799908
post the oc pls
>>7799916
;-;

>>7799889
Don't post to /fit/. Lurk, if anything. I once posted a pic of myself and got over forty replies, most of which were "pls be in london." Grills just don't do well there.

I lost thirty lbs in the past year. I know how you're feeling. It's overwhelming at first, so try little changes initially.

First, cut down on soda, and if you drink coffee/tea, sugar it very little or not at all. Don't drink your calories. I drink my coffee black, and have soda once or twice a month.

Start walking, or swimming if you have somewhere to do it. When you're comfortable, do intervals of walking and jogging. I started with two minutes of jogging followed by three minutes of walking.

You might not want to count calories again, but it honestly does help. Calorie tracker apps are pretty awesome. I used one called Calorie Count and ate at a 500 calorie deficit for a while.

When you weigh yourself, do it naked, and at the same time every day.

Oh, and I know you don't want to build muscle, but if your legs are built and your arms aren't, you'll look a bit unbalanced. I'd do high reps with small weight to give yourself just enough muscle to look balanced.

Hope I helped.

>>7799334
Why not Dong Zhuo?

>>7799889
Check out Neila Rey's website if you haven't already anon

>>7799925
I don't have it saved yet, he showed me on a screen share during a skype call. It's yellow with red spikes.

>>7799899
>but that's kind of a fucking joke
^^^^^

>>7799915
5'4 // 163cm

>>7799932
L O N D O N
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posting there as girl is the same here as a guy honestly.

>>7799959
>still trying to spoiler
/v/ pls

>>7799889
You want some muscle. Muscle burns more calories than fat, which means having muscle makes it easier to lose weight / keep weight off. It's hard for women to build the kind of bulk that most people think of when they think "muscle" so don't be afraid of weights!

Walking is an easy way to get started (assuming you live in a hood which is safe to walk around by yourself). I love running and find it the best way to maintain my weight, along with sensible eating. C25K.com has some good plans and info for running beginners. You want to build your mileage gradually to avoid injury.

Eat sensibly (mostly fruits / veggies / lean meats). Some people have the willpower to handle "treat" days, some people don't (like me). Figure out what works best for you. Food tracking is helpful because a lot of people don't realize how much they really eat, and because having to write shit down will sometimes be the guilt-trip you need to put down the brownie!

Stretching is important too. There's lots of yoga videos on YouTube that you can check out for free, although a few classes to get started is also a good idea. Stretching will give your muscles a lean look and help with stress, etc.

Check your local library for support materials: they should have books on exercise, nutrition and all the other stuff you need to succeed.

Be patient! Long-term weight loss takes time and effort to build new habits, but it's worth building that solid base for a lifetime of good health and hotness. You can do it!!

>>7799919
I dunno.. I made a lot of progress on the ABC diet when I tried it.
Maybe if I doubled the calorie max, it wouldn't be so bad?

>>7799932
You have! Thank you!

>>7799959
Yeah, I know. That's why I stay away.

>>7799982
Thanks!
I'm trying to stay positive, and your advice seems solid!
I'll do my best.

Thanks /cgl/ + /fit/!

>just read the news
>woman got decapitated 5 minutes away from where i live
>freaking out a little bit
>went to the supermarket
>man outside wouldnt leave me alone
>followed me around the shop
>i just want to be left alone

/cgl/ related
>auction for cute skirt
>auction for markers
>would like both
>cant afford both
>;_;

>>7800011
Life in Bongistan is hard.

>>7799940
That's more effort to smash my face up; grow warts and gain like 300kgs.

I'll just get fitter and Cosplay one of the more dressed girls/girly looking guys

>>7800011
why do you even live alone anon?

>>7800011
Is that the thing that's happened in the UK?

>>7800019
I never said I did.

>>7800022
Yeah.

>>7799680
It's complicated, anon.

See there are days when I wish I didn't have to leave the house. I cry a lot before I have to go out in public.
But it's either face the music, or don't go to work, don't go to class, and don't socialize. Then I won't have money, a future, or even the occasional friend to separate me from complete misery. I force myself to do shit out of necessity, because to not isn't an option and I don't have a support system.
>>7799730
Meh, I've had boyfriends before and I still felt the same way about myself.
One of my most recent exs shitposted me to r9k and he bashed my tits, my body, and basically everything about me. It destroys you hearing that shit come from someone you used to care about.

He later took it back and said "Well I was just mad I didn't mean it," but it's too late. The damage is there.

>>7800023
>living in London

I'm sorry anon

>tfw "delivery may take up to 5 weeks"
>tfw I move out in 3.5 weeks

>>7799889
Read the fucking /fit/ sticky. Jesus christ

>>7800185
same!
I'm moving out of my parent's so I'll probably just pick it up next time I'm home to visit, but still.

>>7799959
>posting anywhere else on 4chan as a girl is the same as posting on /cgl/ as a guy honestly
Fixed that for you. Fortunately on most boards you don't need to reveal your sex to participate in the discussion but goddamn if there's even the slightest hint that you don't have a penis...

>>7800233
/soc/ is an absolute cesspit, I'd rank it even lower than /b/

>>7800227
I'm moving to another flat in the same city so I'll have to talk to the agency/new tenants/postal service if it doesn't arrive on time. Terrifying stuff.

>>7800245
Yikes. Good luck with that. I'm not sure how your postal service is where you live, but I think if you contact them, they can redirect it to your current address when they receive it.

>>7800003

Ana Boot Camp

Ana is short for anorexia

you lost weight because you were emulating anorexia, starving yourself is not good for you

what happened when you stopped? you put the weight right back on

>>7799663
Thank you anon <3

>>7799809
>rude as hell
The Flemish are just as bad, don't you dare think otherwise. When I talk in French they give me the stink eye and refuse to respond to me unless I speak English or shit Dutch, and then they look down on me for my accent/language skills. It has become so bad that I usher my boyfriend to do the talking when we're visiting his family in Flanders, and I only say simple sentences that I can't fuck up.

>lost my first mbok auction
>feels bad

It wasn't expensive or rare, but it still hurts...

>>7800294
You're right, I hate Flemish people too because they're racist and elitist scumbags, I shouldn't have singled you Walloons (is that even the English term) out like that. Flemish people have also started to adopt this mentality that when you're in Flanders you must speak Flemish or they're rude to you, or just ignore you.

Sorry for your experiences, I'm just really bitter and lonely right now.

>>7800294
Oh and your Moroccans are worse than our Moroccans.

>4 weeks in at new school
>"Hey, anon, are you coming to anon 2's on Sunday?"
>"Huh who what"
>"Anon 2 didn't invite you? Nevermind"
>feel like a loser the rest of the day

>"Hey, anon, are you coming on Saturday?"
>don't know what they're talking about, but pretend I do because I don't want to feel as shitty as I did last time
>"Uhh, maybe."
>"Okay"
>tfw no one ever invites you to anything
I don't really get it. It feels like I'm making friends, but at the same time I'm constantly being ignored or left out. I'm considering joining a club or something so I can get closer to people, but I don't even know if it's worth it. Sorry for the whine, I just don't really have a place to vent other than in these threads.

>>7800299
I know that feel
>tfw outbidded by 200 yen on a liz lisa dress I've wanted for a while

>>7800299
Were you bidding independently or did you use a SS?

>>7800498
Hey it's okay anon. I have no friends outside of the Internet anymore.

>>7800498
I think this is a case of you trying to reach out to too many people without nourishing the relationships you already have. You can be friendly with a lot of people without being close friends with them. If you want to get invited to things, then you have to make people have you at the forefront of their minds. Water your relationships. Quality over quantity

>>7800592
SS. How can you bid independently?

>>7800683
By living in Japan.

>>7800690
Okay then. That's what I thought.

>>7799144
Ahh yeah, I know a close friend in my cosplay comm with trich and I feel for her so bad. Thank god wigs exist, but wearing them 24/7 sounds like a hassle, same with fake lashes... That definitely doesn't sound any more fun than dermatillomania. Hugs ;_;

>>7800690
Mbok (and Japanese auctions in general) can be such a bitch, even if you live in Japan.

>>7800623
Is there a way to do this without appearing too clingy or needy?

>>7800704
Just don't be too obvious about it. Simply start talking to them more, ask to hang out with them every once in a while, and maybe slip in a few hints like "Man, hanging out with you is great, we really should talk/hang out more!" and so on. As long as you don't literally just tell them that you just need some close friends, you'll be fine.

>>7800749
Thanks, anon. I'll try that.

I'm a pretty quiet and shy person, far from a leader, and enjoy being in the back of a group, or there at least. But because of this, the people I want to be around don't really notice me and tend to leave me out of any events off campus. Even when I try and be a more vocal member of the group I'm in, I usually don't get engaged by people outside of the group.

since getting fit and fixing up my appearence, i'm really getting questioned by people around me when I say I don't have many friends or a girlfriend. Not to say I don't want either of the two, I just find it really hard to find either. the above issue for the former, the lack of truely attractive people for the later.

Self confidence, personal power, and passive leadership is the biggest turn on I can think of, and it just seems like not a lot of people have it, and those 5% of people that do are mostly lesbians or not gay.

>Go to con party Saturday night at FanExpo last weekend
>Big double room party but everyone it hanging in the larger room
>Talking up this super cute Lolita girl all night
>Super drunk
>Not spilling my spaghetti for once(thank you Alcohol)
>She offers to give me a blowjob in the empty room
>I accept
>Go into other room
>She pulls my pants down
>Forgot I was still wearing my boner hiding apparatus
>She sees it and freaks the fuck out
>Runs into the other room screaming and telling other people
>Shit! Shit! Shit!
>This scrawny ass Shinji cosplayer looks in the room and sees it too as I'm pulling my pants up,
>Run out door of empty room so more people don't see me
>Run to my room
>Cry myself to sleep

Feels bad man, picture related, picture very related.

>>7800806
>boner hiding apparatus

Please explain this in greater detail. Were you in a bodysuit or something?

>>7800822
A tampon put into my anus with the string tied around my penis, it keeps it from sticking up.

>>7800831

were you drunk when you thought that was a good idea, bought the tampon and equipped it too?

>>7800831
There... have got to be ways to keep your dick from sticking up that doesn't involve tampons or your butt. Where did you even get this idea? I refuse to believe it wasn't fetish motivated.

>>7800837
No, I wore it around the con too in case I saw any hot cosplay chicks I didn't want anyone to see me popping a boner.

>>7800839
it's the cheapest way to do it.

>>7800846
There are limits to cheapness, dear anon. Or there should be, especially in this case.

>>7800831
you had me going until this part

>>7800799
You just being an introvert man
Above all, don't do a mental checklist to see if someone is fit to become your gf, because then you'll just be constantly disappointed by how badly the fantasy you pictured is rendered in reality. Just ask yourself "Can she make me happy?" and "Am I attracted to her?" (not "Is she pretty", but "Is she decent").
If you can only make friends with scared losers, use the relations they themselves have. If you still can't find anyone, internet is good enough for friends

>>7799655
congrats anon! good luck in the world of coordinating!

>>7799705
gret to know bdsm has been around since the good old days.
>tfw that is the first thing that pops into my lewd mind

>>7799889
If you lost a lot of weight within 3 weeks, most of it was probably food/water weight. Crash diets like the "ABC Diet" are terrible because starving yourself burns more muscle than fat and aren't effective in the long run.

Take it from someone who actually has anorexia and once got down to a BMI in the 12's, your metabolism turns to shit (along with a whole lot of health issues) and you pile on the weight real quickly if you try to go back to eating a normal amount, most of which goes to your stomach. I gained almost 15lb in my first month of trying to eat 2000ish calories a day although I got more active.

Simple 1200ish calorie diet with cardio and strength training here and there is best. You won't turn into a bodybuilder out of nowhere.

>Used to weigh 220 lbs
>About 160lbs now
>About 30lbs to go until I reach my goal
>Have upper arms that wobble to and fro if I make the slightest movement
>They seem to be the same size as when I was a heavy breathing meat balloon

How in the fuck do I get nice toned arms? I work out about 6 days a week and yet I still have these disgusting upper arms. It's embarrassing and I'm too self conscious to even go out without covering them.

Not me, but they look like picture related despite dropping all this weight, elbow boob and all. I just want nice arms.

>>7801129
Some of this may be genetic - upper arm fat is tough to get rid of. For reference, I'm 5' 6" and 108lbs and my arms still jiggle more than I'd like. I have a flat stomach and wear a 0 or 2 in jeans but my arm fat is extremely stubborn.

>new blouses came today!
>carefully unbutton the first to try it on
>button fucking comes off in my hand
>well it's just the 4th button down and I wear mostly JSKs it's okay
>try it on, really cute, flattering fit
>EXTRA carefully take it off to avoid another button disaster
>another fucking button comes off, this time the 2nd from the top
>mfw

damn it infanta. gonna have to resew all dem buttons.

>needs to lose weight
>needs to save money
>tfw not sure I see the point of living if I can't eat or shop

fuck that, I'm keeping the shopping.

My 17 year old cat is dying. I've got to take my mind off things.

>>7801151
I received a dress from Baby yesterday and the button came off when I was taking off the waist tie. At least it didn't rip the fabric.

>>7801151
I resew a lot of buttons on my brand dresses, especially the waist tie buttons. I think Bodyline so far has the best button stitching.

>tfw I ask dad to buy bread for sandwiches
>never does
>ham is always stocked in the fridge anyway
>throws money at me to buy food at school instead
>mfw

I'm going to use that money to buy groceries from now on..

>>7801225
>>7801151

Thank goodness you guys caught the buttons and they didn't fall into that dimension inhabited by half of all the Barbie shoes and half of earrings ever made.

>>7801214
Whew. Same here. The blouse is chiffon too so I'm happy that none of the fabric is damaged, at least.

>>7801225
This is true in my experience, too. The fastenings (buttons, zippers, etc) on brand give me a heart attack sometime because they feel so delicate, which is odd considering the amazing construction. Meanwhile Bodyline stuff is built like a fuckin brick wall.

>>7801241
The blouse has really cute buttons too, so I'm happy I didn't lose either of the fallen ones either. They're gold with raised gold bows surrounded by pale pink enamel.

>>7799710
Don't use loli because seems it means the other "lolita" and not the fashion. But well i'd like to see everyone dressed in lolita, even the super old women and men in aristocrat/ouji fashion. So, not anymore shit dressed people on the streets, unless even with these styles fuck up and they end to look ita.
>>7799036
I'm virgin but i would feel so disgusted to do sex with a partner when i'm on my period. Instead i don't have issues if i have to "fap" but i dont use fingers of course.

>>7800299
I tend to lose my mbok or yahoo auctions lately, the only one i won is a Toy Parade AP cutsew.
>w-well at least it's always qt burando shit.
>>7801204
Aww, i'm sorry anon. It's awful when a pet is dying or dead, i experimented lots of times.

>people in con community i cannot stand because they had relations with ex-husband
>people still bring them up and talk about them because they are 'popular' or 'famous'
>loathing increasing incredible amounts
>started cutting off people who are mutual friends because it hurts so much
>consider going to a con where many of these girls will be at and attacking them
>too pussy
>sit in room alone and cry
>no friends because i am afraid of being backstabbed by everyone
>isolating myself because i feel such shame between being cheated on and such angry at girls involved
>can't ever enjoy a con for fear of running in to them
>on medication for neurotic problems
>want to die every day

feels horrible

I've been into lolita fashion for less than a year and today I saw my first loli walking in the halls of my uni. I was very excited but then I became disappointed. It was really underwhelming. I guess I expected my first encounter with a loli to be beautiful, thin, and perfectly coordinated. She was average, overweight, and needed some improvement. I think CGL might have ruined me.

Tell me some more gross shit that girls do. It's pretty funny from what I've read so far.

>>7801316
May I ask what school you go to, anon? I wear lolita to class fairly often. I kind of want to make sure it's not me. :X

>>7801008
Am I an introvert though? I really enjoy being around people, and I'm not really antisocial. I'm just quiet. I absolutly hate being alone or wasting my time on the internet most of the time.

I never really made a checklist, and my definition of pretty is all over the place, from average to 'perfect', really depends on the person. I just knocked off my feet by outgoing confidence or shyness. instant urge to either seek shelter from life in the confident person or make the shy person smile. Feel like I'd be forcing a relationship if either of these aren't the catalyst of it. Or at least I feel like that part of me could hamper an ongoing relationship if I were to enter one.

>>7801312
Similar situation here. Lived with a guy for 5 years and he cheated on me multiple times but mainly with one girl. They're now having a kid.

I don't want to be with him anymore, but at the same time it hurts very much and still affects me despite being nearly 2 years since I left him and even longer since I stopped loving him. I just want to erase it from my mind completely. Contemplate suicide daily as well.

It's hard, anon. Especially hard to find new friends when half of you wants to try to better yourself and be strong and the other half is irritable, irrational, scared, and has one foot out the friendship door at all times.

I'm a stupid, stupid person and despite being lactose intolerant, I keep eating dairy products without lactose pills. I had a bowl of ice cream this morning and I feel like I'm fucking dying right now.

>>7801346
Anon, look at it this way: now you're that much wiser and you have this whole new slate to start anew with. You could meet the man of your dreams now, who won't cheat on you and make you feel like a load of shite.
Unless you had a child with the man, you just dodged a massive bullet, that's grand!

Thank god I have a record low sex drive and was raised in a Catholic family where any mention of premarital sex gave my mother hives. I used to be with this rather skeevy fellow for a few years until I found out he cheated. His reasoning was "well, you wouldn't give me any" and he hadn't felt a bit of remorse for it, and had I not left him I wouldn't have met my dear husband.

>Delayed in getting into cosplay to begin with
>Even more delayed in trying to do anything with prop-making or wig-styling
>Can't use sewing machine because it scares me. There's a lot of crap to potentially break on one machine.
>Doomed to forever alter clothes found by thrifting, while hand sewing everything else.
>will never achieve more difficult glamorous designs.

>>7801364
Can't you buy lactose-free ice cream? My husband used to have the same problem and I started buying him that after I got sick of him Dutch-ovening me in his sleep for the thousandth time each night.

Here is a list of my current exes:
>egotistical ass
>codependent manipulative psycho
>emotionless robot
>violent alcoholic
>rapist
>awkward beta

Here is my current dating situation:
>finally meet sincere, cute, decent guy with similar values and interests
>date for a few weeks
>dokidoki.jpg
>stop hearing from him after a while
>"I don't think this is working out"
>mfw the only decent guys i ever meet are never interested in me romantically.

He didn't even have a good reason for breaking things off, just said it didn't "feel right." What's wrong with me, anons?

Every time I see my ex post it's physically painful. Even after all the horrible things she's said to me I still want to believe that the person I knew and loved three years ago is still hidden away in there somewhere, despite me fucking everything up and making her the person she is now.

I'm glad she's getting into lolita now but I wish she didn't hate me. There's a lot I want to talk to her about and things to share. Now the only time she talks to me is when she wants money or things from when we were together. In the last few months, I've become a much more positive person, but every time I've spoken to her she drags me right down back into the negativity.

>>7801261
Newfag.

>>7801383
You're ugly.

>>7798822
>Friend's now ex-bf cheated on her claiming his depression got in the way of his logic.
>She's still friends with him but I refuse to extend that hand again. I'm still civil but that's it. She lost like 10 lbs from the breakup and she was already super fit/trim so it just ate all her muscle away.
>She just told me today that if I'm not nicer to him it'll strain our friendship.
>My bf never liked him to begin with. We were both just nice to him because he was dating her and made her happy.
>Also he likes shitty country music, lives in the boonies etc.

>Alright bye have fun being FWB with a guy who cheated on you after 5 years. I'm sure you can trust him over me.

>>7801589
also to keep it /CGL/ related...

It sucks because my bf and I took her to PAX Prime just this past weekend and she had so much fun she wants to go back next year. She's never cosplayed before until this year because she saw me doing it and thought it'd be fun.

>throat starts hurting all of a sudden
>ear aches
>one tonsil is swollen as fuck

God damn it, the only thing I hate more than sore throats is vomiting. I've gone like 8 months without getting sick and now I've got something or other.

Give me strength, /cgl/, I close tonight at work and I'm going to the amusement park on Saturday.

>>7801335
Shiet shy extrovert isn't something that common in men, I didn't think about it. And yes, if you tell yourself "I want her to be X, X and X" that's doing a checklist.
How would you know about the kind of people that'd make good a relationship with you? She could be a shy person that makes you feel confident, or a powerful and confident one that makes you stay shy and unadequate. It can also be rather hard on some couples if one is very shy and the other is the center of attention, as their friends and relatives will have a very different opinion of them

Not to say shy should go with shy and brave with brave, but looking for what you lack in the other person is a bit too simplistic to find a good partner

>>7801129
Is your workout routine asupposed to affect that region of your arms specifically?

>>7801019

Thankyou so much!

>>7801764

Lots of water, tea and medicine for you anon. I used to get these symptoms all the time and I know how unbearable it can be. I do hope you get well soon.

>>7801772
>mfw I'm a pleb and don't like tea
>or honey
>and cough medicine/drops make me gag

I'm such a fucking baby. I wish it was a cold so I could treat my sore throat with decongestants, but my nose seems fine. I'll have to suck it up and gorge myself on milk tea and honey.

Maybe I can convince my coworker to cover for me if it gets any worse.

>>7801335

wow, you're almost me

Although I'm perfectly content alone, being with the right people for the right amount of time definitely enhances my happiness.

>tfw moved to a new country with bf and have no friends in this city
I don't even know when to even begin, it's not like I have people who were stuck with me 8 hours a day like in college

>Innocent World has already released 3 coats
>One is a cape that would look awful on me and I don't fit the other ones because my bust is too big

Why, many jackets/coats in the last years at size L had a 100cm bust which would be perfect.
I-i just want a nice coat ;_;

>tfw moved to a new country with bf and have no friends or social life here
I don't even know where to start, it's not like meeting people in college where they were stuck with me for 8 hours a day anyway. Sitting at home alone with my laptop gets old fast, man

>>7801389
Give her her money/stuff back.
GTFO of her life.

From your post I assume you are the one responsible for the break up. Be a man, and accept she hates your guts now and don't want to have anything nice to do with you anymore, and that you deserve it.

>tfw thinking my 40 yo mom is immature for dressing like a pinup
>tfw when she calls loli "fetish gear"
>tfw I realize I'm trying to compete with her and losing

>>7801818
40 is too old for pinup. That's gross.

>>7801812

What country is it, anon? Maybe we can find you a seagull friend.

I'm in the same situation except I haven't even moved. I have low self-esteem, uni is awkward and my comm scares me. At least I have a pet dog to comfort me.

>>7801812
Do you speak the language ? If yes, you should totally try to pick up some activities. I don't know, sport, ikebana, knitting, really anything. You'll make friend really fastly.
If you moved for school, check out the clubs at your uni. Smile and strike up conversation with everyone, people actually enjoy it in most countries.

>>7801820
>40 is too old for pinup. That's gross.

I wish.

What's criminal is that she looks maybe mid-to-late 20s, I've come to believe that she's entirely composed of moisturizer at this point.

>>7801823
I'm on the west coast of Canada. I've been trying to keep up with the local con scene but they're so much bigger here than back home so it's a tad overwhelming. Plus I'm terrified of coming across as a desperate creeper when talking to people. Pet dogs are great for low self esteem, especially when you've got a really affectionate one.
>>7801833
I' m trying to find the right kind of club for me, back in the old country I worked 60 hours a week to make ends meet so didn't really have time for hobbies and stuff. Part of the problem is getting used to having free time. I guess I have the perfect excuse to try out lots of new things.

>>7801846
Yep, definitly go out a lot and try as much things as you can, don't indulge yourself and stay at home or it'll become harder and harder. Pick up an hobby, you don't have to be serious about it, just try everything you want to, since you have the time to do so.

>>7801765
I wouldn't say shy extrovertion in males is rare, I'd say its often masked. I know where I want to stand, and being a guy, I'm usually forced out of that position and into one of confidence to the point of overcompensation. Causes a lot of internal issues, mostly blind anger at everything and everyone, when I'm forced to keep up the mask to be liked by people. I hate everyone related and attached to any false interpritation of myself, even if I'm the one who misleads them.

As a fit young white guy, I'm expected to be somebody I'm not. And it's honestly really stressful. It just so happens that life's tasks are a million times easier with the mask.

I'm not really looking for a relationship now. I feel that I'm in a really unstable part of my life and I don't want to fuck around and hurt anybody, myself or others. My moods and desires really shift drasticly, and I feel like if my partner couldn't adapt with me, I'd end up really hurting them. The shifts are predictable, and usually easy to track, but I've had friends say that I'm too much to deal with and somewhat stressful to be around because of how different I act in different moods.

>>7801853
Thanks for the encouragement anon! My biggest fear is becoming one of those girls who essentially lives through their bf to the point of utter dependence, and it's terrifying how easy that seems from here

>>7801859
Do try and avoid that, he might put up with it but 10 to 1 he'll feel like shit

>>7801859
You're welcome. I was in the same boat as you as few monthes ago, though all by myself, and I was that close to slip back into depression because of the loneliness. Don't shut yourself in anon, be brave and everything will go well.

>>7801820
If she's fit and looks good and feels good for her what's gross about it?

How many seagulls post that they are over weight or feel disgusted with their looks but dress up anyway?

>>7800011
>>7800000
time to allahu akbar

>tfw gyno prescribed me the pill without break so that my menstrual cycle stops bc of hormon problems

I FUCKING LOVEEEEE YOU

>>7801335
Introverts are not necessarily antisocial or loners. It just means that being around people drains your batteries, and you need some off time to regenerate. It does sound like you have self-confidence issues though, regardless
> source: heavy introvert

>>7801383
maybe you should get to know the guys you meet first before starting up a relationship with them.

judging from your list of exes, did you even bother to get to know them? or did you just meet the guy and started a relationship with him right away?

>>7801820
No fun allowed when you're over 30!

>>7801813
>be a man
anon could be girl

>>7801909
just because you have a pussy doesnt mean you have to be a pussy

>>7801904
With any luck we'll rethink that policy when we hit that age.

>>7801857
Hello Dexter Morgan

>>7801884
It's a legit concern when your government allows snackbars into your country and tells you to like them or else

>Lolitas who play the violin, viola, cello, flute, basoon, or piano.

You are the best. Just letting you know.

>over-buying materials you might not even use
>because nobody carries them locally
>and it's slightly less of a pain in the ass than praying it all stays in stock, paying $8 to ship again, and waiting 1-2 weeks for it to arrive if you need more or a different color.

>have a dust mask lying around because my father has a big shed full of wood and stuff
>also have some spare table cloth lying around
>have stupid idea
>decide to put table cloth around the dust mask to see how it goes
>it actually looks alright with the way the flower placement goes
>still too stupid to wear and don't want to throw it out because it's sorta funny

>>7799889
>BEING THIS BIG
you not big, you are just fat

>>7801846
I'm west coast too, Anon! Though I'm on Vancouver Island. From the sounds of it you're somewhere on the mainland?

>>7802036
>you not big, you are just fat

you're either ESL or downright retarded

>>7802004
>tfw I know a 5' geeky qt that plays viola but is more socially retarded than my cat

I just wanna hang out.

>>7799889

>>7800212 This
>>7802036 and this

>>7802061 We are talking about a 5'4" girl who's 150lbs right? Because that is a hamsteroid.

>>7802097

>>7756259

>>7802087

>Not wanting to hang with the best

The social retardation is only a minor detail. Get to it buddy.

>>7802110
+10lbs m8

That chick is already skinny fat.

>>7801901
Clearly you don't have much relationship experience or you would know that it's often impossible to truly get to know someone until you've been with them for a while. People put on a good face when dating. I'm not an idiot; I ended things with most of them -because- I realized what they were actually like.

>formal event coming up
>bf wants to come
>bf does not own a suit
>bf is too poorfag to hire a suit
>bf wants to wear an oversized thrift store suit
I don't want to force him to hire a suit, but fuck, I don't want him to look like shit

>>7802191
I am so familiar with that feel.
>going to formal event
>went out of my way to get appropriate normalfag dress since even a really plain black IW jsk wouldn't be appropriate
>boyfriend wants to go in jeans, purple dress shirt and ratty old hiking shoes
>boyfriend NO
>"okay then I will ask my dad to borrow one of his suits"
>boyfriend is both much taller and much thinner than his father
He ended up going for the jeans and dress shirt combination and sticking out like a sore thumb. Fortunately we had to leave early for unrelated reasons.

I've tried taking him shopping for more appropriate formal attire but it's difficult to find anything in his size. He also has a very frugal attitude because he grew up poor, so as long as his shoes still have the soles mostly attached he does not see a reason to buy another pair. If only his size wasn't such a complication I'd just buy him a set of decent formal clothes for this birthday and say the shop doesn't allow returns.

Not really cgl-related, but I need to get this off my chest somehow

>friend starts talking to me about her possible eating disorder for support since she knows I have a history of having troubling eating habits myself
>gives her a lot of great advice and support, but starts going down the same path again as well
>not because I want to lose weight or anything, I just don't feel like eating
>been going on for a few weeks
>haven't told anyone and no one has noticed anything
>having mixed feelings about the whole thing

>>7800498
I'd invite you to things anon.

>>7801776
>not liking tea
how is that even possible have you only had shitty tea

>>7801894
So jelly anon.

>>7802191
Maybe get it for him? Or split the cost?

>>7802213
Hugs anon, I know the feel. It's been 10 years for me.

>>7802174
top kek.
maybe you should grow up kid.

>>7802249
It's really frustrating, because I can tell that my body wants the nutrients mainly because I'm so tired of the time and my already unstable mental state isn't exactly on it's top when I'm like this
But I'm so used to not eating by now that eating more than maybe a few sandwiches causes me great stress or makes me feel sick...
Sorry, it feels like I'm whining but I don't know where else to dump these thoughts anonymously

>>7801383
eh, "not feeling right" IS a legitimate reason. Sometimes after kissing someone you know that they aren't the person you want to spend the rest of your life with (or even a small fraction of your life). At least he isn't stringing you along or anything

>want to cosplay Sailor Moon
>tfw short legs
>tfw look terrible in most shades of blonde

Literally the only character I wish to do, I'm otherwise happy in my lolita.

>>7802311
I sometimes wish there were a /cgl/ ED support group, I see so many anons talk about their problems on here.

>>7802385
It would probably help me a lot. I am great at helping friends handle their eating problems, but I can't follow my own advice for shit.
And since I have friends that either have suffered from ED or just don't understand the whole thing without getting insulted themselves in one way or the other I don't really know where to turn. Getting help from strangers within the same hobby would honestly probably be a great support in it's own way!

I'm just absolutely tired of the body support/shaming tornado and the class warfare in cosplay/egl that has stirred up in the last five years. Everyone went from pretty easygoing and open to anything, to being an unapproachable crazy bitch in a costume that's gotta be pretty at every moment. Everyone's a celebrity now and literally it's driving everything good in the hobby out of existence. I hear tens of thousands of stories of those who get forced out because they did nothing wrong, they just "don't belong." Even those doing their thing for over 20 years are no longer to enjoy themselves.

>tfw you're a worthless piece of shit

I have no idea what I'm going to do with my life fuck

>>7802418
Make yourself happy anon

>>7801383
>mfw Im everything her exs were balled into one and once they find out its too late
kek

>>7802446
You...you should probably work on that

>>7802446
I think I'm the girl version of you.

Wanna get coffee?

>>7802209
Most suit places do tailor. There are also places around for taller guys, in the US there's Big and Tall, don't know where you are though.

>>7801871
>>7801904
Pinup is inherently sexy and usually somewhat revealing. It's not appropriate for a 40-year-old woman to be wearing around daily.

>>7802237
No, I've had all types of really nice teas because my boyfriend fucking loves it. He forces me to drink it when I feel really sick, but I just don't like it. I don't know exactly what it is, it might just be that I'm a god damn child and if it's not coated in sugar I don't want to drink it. Raspberry milk tea with honey is what I can bear because it's sweet and creamy instead of watery and... whatever tea is.

Most of what I drink is soda or apple juice with the occasional bottle of water because I spend obscene amounts of time at my restaurant job and the tap water tastes like ass, and we get yelled at for taking bottles of water.

>>7802493
sure, we can try to tsee who rapes who first using manipulation

>>7802057
Yeah, in and around the general Vancouver area.

>>7802325
Yeah, I respect his feelings and everything and I still want to be friends with him, but it still sucks to be rejected by someone who is clearly a good guy.

>>7802310
How, exactly, is my "growing up" a solution to other people being awful human beings? Please explain.

>not ugly, but not attractive enough to actually be worth noticing
>all my hobbies are obscure shit that everyone thinks is weird
>last gf left me with crippling trust issues
>all my female friends are super conservative
It's depressing, I haven't left the house in weeks.

>most amazing girl I've ever met
>I tried talking with her all the time
>she doesn't actually mind talking with me, but we have nothing in common so we never really became friends
>she's super into cosplay
>all anime stuff
>I don't watch anime or even have any idea what she's talking about
Why is it that I can never even be friends with the people I like the most? She's best friends with my ex though, so maybe its for the best.

>>7802504
Like dressing up as pedophile bait is okay to do daily?

>>7803197
Welcome to /cgl/ cosplay is a great hobby and to dress lolita is the most fabulous thing; but there are rules:
>don't be ita
>don't be fat
>don't be well adjusted
>don't be over 25
> and don't ever have fun bitches

>>7802504
Dita Von Teese turns 42 this month

>>7803197
>Ero

> Friend is looking to do some commissions to pass the time.
> Posts a price check thread with examples of her work.
> Some user hops in and starts accusing her of tracing and art theft.
> Refuse to believe it - after all, why would my friend trace? She's a great artist!
> My friend starts having panic attacks and is too upset to defend herself.
> I step in and try to talk the person down.
> Other people post and, well, yep she traced. She just distorted the sizes and changed a few things to make it less obvious.
> Feel like an idiot for defending what's now clearly copied artwork.
> Feel betrayed because she didn't have the decency to tell me not to say anything.
> Mfw she jumped ship and now acts like nothing even happened.

>Be me
>Ex friend would make a wonderful lolcow
>Typical tumblrite
>gender fluid pansexual (very obvious this is for attention)
>bad taste in clothes
>what is makeup
>An evil part of me wants to create a glorious lolcow for us all
>All I need to do is send her an anon or two telling her that she would be sosososoo cute as a lolita
>She would probably go for it because attentionwhore
fuck I'm a cunt but I would honestly do it if my girlfriend didn't see her enough that she would be annoyed by her talk of bodyline purchases.
cgl has really corrupted me

If you don't want people to steal your cosplay ideas, don't post them online.

Because people will find them interesting enough to do it themselves.

Mainly me. And I kind of feel bad that I will do a better version than they ever will.

>>7802504
>Once you turn 40, you immediately lose all sex appeal and desires, regardless of what you look like!

Okay then.

>>7803800
How can you even "steal" a cosplay idea? It's not your character design in the first place.

>>7801320
Give birth