/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8540705
HOW TO NOT GET DELETED

>Keep it /cgl/ related
>Do not respond to shitposters

>trying to be more active on twitter
>chat with lolita friends
>follow brand blogs
>retweet cute photos
>SUDDENLY!
>get new follower on twitter for first time in ages
>excited! new lolita friend!
>check their profile
>nothing but a link to tumblr
>ok, let's go
>cosplays lolita
>fictionkin
>incarnation of somethingsomething naruto somethingsomething yugioh
>wtf is fiction kin?
>spend next hour reading about this lunacy
>quietly block the account

>come to /cgl/
>non-directly disclose the fact that I'm a male in one of my on-topic and totally relatable seagull posts
>get accused of being a creeper and a rapist because of my gender by different women
>told to go back to /r9k/
>the irony is forever lost on them
>mfw

>>8540753
Tbh I would do the same for the sake of spite, after years of being a grill on 4chan

>>8540753
Uh, people on here do that on purpose. It's pretty much a joke flipped version of how we get treated on other boards. Do you really think we'd be able to live out in the real world if we acted that way towards dudes in reality? Cosplay isn't a hobby for sulking neets, and neither is lolita.

>>8540757
But for every person irrationally hating women there's almost always whiteknights irrationally defending them as well.

No such thing happens here for guys so you'll never know what it's truly like.

>>8540753
This same shitposting is the reason why the last feels thread was deleted.
Don't take the bait, gulls.

>>8540812
What's that gif from? It looks really familiar.

>>8540822
No idea, sorry. I saved it after seeing someone use it here I think

>>8540822
Galaxy Angel

>>8540847
>>8540812
loving that gif!
gotta check it out

>>8540801
Dude, I feel you. When can guys get some white knights like girls do? Everything is skewed so that girls never get screwed over. Only the guys get screwed over.

>>8540753
>talked to one of my friends who lurks r9k
>he confirmed you were from r9k
Why even lie about it?

>dress on Yahoo auctions
>want
>finally get paycheck
>bid
>someone else is bidding too even though it's like the 2nd time it's been relisted
>no pls
>go to bank to deposit paycheck
>bank is closed
>can only bid with what is currently in my account
>measly amount
>will never win auction
>mfw

>>8540739
>wtf is fictionkin
be glad that you have lived in blissful ignorance for this long, anon. The existence of fictionkin is a cruel reminder of how messed up people really are.

>>8541079
direct deposit, anon.

>>8541079

Seconding >>8541092, y'all need direct deposit in your life.

>tfw I was never told you were going to get your paycheck delayed by two weeks
>tfw when we asked the secretary would just give us really fucking vague answers
>so never get the first paycheck on the 15th
>just got paycheck July 30th
>budgeted for basically twice the amount, savings included, and now i'm getting bit in the ass for it

Life.

Including that feel because I may or may not have budgeted lolita into my first paycheck eheheh....

>>8541081
I had heard of otherkin and kind of rolled my eyes. But this. People need to get fucking therapy and medication, dude.

>>8541105
I feel like this is a way for people to not be themselves. I get that. Part of the reason I like j-fashion is because I get to transform into looking like someone different. It's not a fictional character, but, I totally get how someone would get caught up in something like that.

>>8541116
I think the part that bothers me is the fact that they really think that this is their ~*~soul~*~ or whatever. RP away. I can get behind that in terms of escapism. But actually thinking that you can embody the true "self" of a fictional character is fucked up, and really means that person needs help beyond just fun pretend-y times.

The person I mentioned above in re: twitter following is also apparently a survivor of child abuse, and only followed me to bitch that it's called lolita fashion (because that's triggering). Someone with that much trauma clearly needs psychiatric help that they are not getting.

>>8541092
>>8541098
I've tried, my workplace doesn't offer it and when I asked they seemed pretty pissed.

>have dumb dream of streaming console games on twitch while in cosplay
>really think I have potential on at least a moderate crowd that will watch
>save for a month for the el gato game capture card
>right about time to order it on amazon
>Jnig announces doing twitch
>pull up a recording of her stream
>click random part in the middle
>donations being thrown at her like nothing
>one guy apparently donated $500
>realize I'm beat competition wise
>feel like all my potential viewers are going to watch her instead.
>she streams every night no way to get around
>feel as my dream is dead
>feel like a waste of money

Do you think Jessica is taking over the twitch community? It felt like like it while watching, even so do you think any cosplayer has potential to still get good views while she is on? I assume most men are in love with her.

>>8541344
Check the bottom of any games stream list and you see literally countless girls trying to get all that donation money but only have like 1-2 viewers.

You're far from the first to think you could do it and jnig is certainly not the only thing that would halt your plans.

>>8541344
>I assume most men are in love with her
A few guys I know personally "like" her on facebook and do not know a single thing about cosplay, anime, or whatever

She will have viewers regardless

Sadly, as >>8541399 points out, there are plenty of people doing the exact same thing
If you want to get a large viewer base you have to really attention whore yourself
Otherwise you can appeal to a smaller, core group of people but only if you're actually very interesting to listen to and watch

> friend does bretty gud cosplays
> uploads her latest to tublr
> armor set, very nice
> using tag viewer to see tags
> notice someone tagged it with #kin and #me
> let friend know
> friend tells misguided tublr user that tagging someone else's picture as if it's yourself is fucking creepy
> misguided tublr user bawws to just as misguided otherkin friends
> friend recieves threats and inbox stupidity galore

I hate kids on Tumblr, /cgl/. I hate them so much.

>>8541628
Tagviewer is amazing and a curse at the same time. I've found cute comments, and people claiming that my coords are totally what x character would wear for y event. Fucking. Creepy.

>>8541628
That's bullshit. Only tag shit as "me" if it's actually you. Say #thisissome or something similar if you want to show that it's something you identify with but isn't actually you.

>>8541628
Your friend made the mistake of kicking the hornet's nest by contacting the weirdo. Should've just complained about it with close friends and then left it alone.

Mostly cosplay related I guess.

>lose twenty pounds
>feeling really good about my body
>not a 10/10 but slightly chubby still but I know how to dress myself so it works out
>decide to dress up for a concert I got tickets to for my birthday
>slightly revealing outfit from a music video but doesn't look terrible-- accents my legs mostly which are probably my best asset
>makeup looks hella bomb
>post a picture on Facebook
>brother (who I took with me) starts being a brat
>whatevs decide to meet with him at the seats
>get some nice compliments and some weird looks
>decide to check Facebook
>some nice comments but really influential people start commenting mean things
>man hands
>thank god this is the most revealing costume you will ever do
>slutty
>these are industry professionals in the comic world
>all confidence gone
>delete post
>"how does it feel to have a photo Facebook removes?"
>feel sick to my stomach
>end up bawling the whole concert and leave early
>feel fatter than I did 20 pounds ago

>>8541695
If you don't feel too horrible after that, post a picture (you can edit your face out) and I'll give you an honest opinion. I doubt it's as bad as some people made it out to be if you initially felt good about it.

>>8541695
Where on fb did you post the picture that influential comic people were commenting on it?

>>8541038
how did your friend confirm that they're the same person?

>>8541695
Sounds like a load of bullshit. As if comic professionals would care about some random cosplayer in a music video costume.

/cgl/ has made me want to cosplay, but all the characters I really want to do I don't have the skill or body type for. Should I just do something popular or cosplay what I want even though it'd be inaccurate?

>>8541830
Do something popular/easy and work your way up to the skill level you need to be at. You'll feel worse in a poorly-made costume of your favourite character than a good costume of one you're a bit eh about, and then when you reach the skill level needed, you'll feel fantastic.

>order some dresses (jfash, not lolita)
>dresses are too big
>return them
>order smaller size
>most fit, but one of them is too small now
>now have to return that too
>it takes them forever to refund me (it's a fairly reputable online shop so I know they'll do it, but it takes them a million fucking years to process the order, a problem they don't seem to have when receiving payment)
>having melanoma removed from my face which is gonna come up to about €300 and no money on my debit because I had to pay for both orders

Fuck.

>Bonus round: The smallest dress (of the ones that aren't too small) is too long because I'm a fucking leprechaun.
>everything is always too long and fits awkwardly because of my stumpy height

I just wanna look kawaii, is that too much to ask?

>>8541706
Sorry, I was tired-- probably should have clarified that bit. Here's the kicker. One of them is my mom's boyfriend. The others I met through him, so it was all on my personal.

>>8541695
are you the fatty with man hands who selfposts on the regular here?

>>8542067
Nope. There must be two of us. Haven't self posted for something like two or three years, and those were in the suggestion threads.

>>8542071
There's a fat ginger on here who loves shoehorning her face into every single post on /cgl/

>>8540739
>Fictionkin, also known as Mediakin and Otakukin and rarely Otakin are members of the otherkin community whose identity as otherkin stems from something generally considered fictional: specific characters, invented species, or fictional worlds. An otherkin identifying as Legolas from Tolkien's Lord of the Rings would qualify as Fictionkin, as would someone claiming to be an Ecthros from Madeline L'Engle's works, even if that specific Ecthros was never mentioned in the books.

...

>>8541344
If you want to get anywhere you either have to be already well known, willing to completely degrade yourself for money, actually be good at games or be entertaining to watch

>Feel pretty
>Be Lolita
>Prepare awesome coord, best makeup, ask concrit before event in several groups to make sure it works and is the best way possible
>Get coord, look awesome in the mirror
>All photos are horrible, all my bad angles show, smile and look awkward, feel terrible
>I love the fashion but I feel I don't make it good enough

I don't know what to do

>>8541344
>BE GOOD AT GAMES

train everyday, become the best, study the fucking game

>>8542560
It's not even that really, what works is if you actually like the game and know the shit because of that

>>8542554
I feel this. Related current feel:

>tfw really unphotogenic
>tfw always looking 30 pounds fatter and 10 times uglier in photos
>ftw the only photos of myself are carefully angled selfies picked out of literally 40+ photos.
>tfw trying to post coords but always getting self-conscious about pictures and giving up

I don't understand. I don't think I'm that great-looking, but I don't feel THAT ugly. I'm actually terrified of going to events where I know I will be photographed because of it.

>>8542554
feel this so hard
>feel pretty
>my hair looks nice and fluffy today
>gotta take that passport photo
>see picture
>hair looks limp and sad
>nose taking up half of my face
>teeny tiny thin lips
>eyes look so big they're about to pop out
>I look like a swamp donkey

I hate that every photographer seems to take pictures from above which is my absolute worst angle; it makes my nose and eyes bigger and mouth smaller.

>going through cosplay tag
>see pic of aurora spinning
>bf speaks up
Her skirt is completely wrong
>what
>watch "I know you" and compare
look, it's obviously a circle skirt and that's not what Aurora wears, besides she forgot the bloomers, no petticoat

I don't know when he turned into such a nicpick, but I'm so proud.

>>8540705
>lost job
>no student loans will be left over
>cosplay on hold
>lolita on hold
>friends always get enough loans to spend at least 2k on anything they want
Why do bad things happen to bad people? I was really excited to get into cosplay and lolita was making me so happy. Having to go to college with nothing to enjoy or look forward to and being away from home is making me upset

Right now I still have a paypal bill of $288 I need to pay off with my $0. I could sell pottery if I had cones for my kiln but none of those either

>>8540771
This

>>8540871
>Only the guys get screwed over.
Kek

>>8543378
keep him

>>8543415

This is such a common feel, when it shouldn't be.

You guys need to learn to budget, having literally zero in savings is a ridiculously poor idea.

>>8543415
>have a shit min wage P/T job
>barely make enough for bills
>couldn't do a new cosplay this year
>or buy any lolita
>college grad, 2 years out
>been continuously deferring loans when the come for money
>don't know how long I can get away with not paying the loans due to income
>apply at 15 different schools this summer
>not one fucking interview
>have a stellar resume & letters of rec
>cunt I graduated with gets a job
>same subject (art), my desired grade lvl
>she's a shit artist and a shittier teacher
>she complained to me about her students hating her during our student teaching
>how come this bitch gets a job and I don't
>cry over it

Her cosplays are garbage and I'm so salty over her getting a job that I want to post them in the bag cosplay thread. I feel stupid for doing this major I should have went for something that would make me money, not make me happy.

>>8543441
I didn't have the job for that long. There wasn't a chance to save anything substantial

Mostly just excited that I had some money to do stuff after being broke for so long. Always made sure I have at least $200 left over from paycheck for emergencies, but I had to dedicate it to gas money after losing the job. Then I made the mistake of listening to my fucking friend "oh anon just pay it off with your loans if your in a rough spot"

I have improved so much in both cosplay and lolita, I feel so proud of myself.
>going to have professional photoshoot done
I've always been too nervous to ever do it because I've never been confident enough

This may get me a little negativity on here, but I have nobody to talk to and I'm so anxious that it's setting off my lupus and I'm getting all rashy.

So I submitted a photoset about a week ago to one of those softcore cosplay sites that sometimes get talked about on here. I've done sets for them before, but it's been awhile. A friend of mine took the photos for my set, and he bought a new umbrella and flash just for the set. I didn't ask him to do my photos, but my husband did without really talking to me first (I don't like involving friends in business). I got the message today that my set was rejected even though they loved my costume and everything that was my end of things, but they did not like the photography. My friend is a great photographer and honestly a lot better than most other photographers they use seem to be, so I'm guessing it's more a style issue (he was more portrait, which isn't quite the same as pinup). Now I need to tell him that the set was rejected and they recommend I use a different photographer, but the reason I haven't shot with anybody I don't know in years is because I have terrible anxiety. I was just crying a bit over this because I feel so overwhelmed with this and a lot of personal stuff I'm going through. My sister tried to commit suicide a couple of days ago, my other sister was in a mental health institution (by her own will, she got scared when she realized she's been having hallucinations), my cousin died from an overdose, I'm trying to go to school, and work and deal with my lupus and my family and if it wasn't so illogical and stupid I'd hurt myself just to be in the hospital and away from everything for awhile. My husband just got on disability after finally getting a lawyer to help him, since months of trying to get things taken care of on his own after he got injured at work and subsequently fired haven't been working out, and Jesus fucking Christ just everything stop.

>>8543455

Yea, stop listening to that friend ever

>Was fine up until two days ago, depression just took over and emotionally hit the fan due to family issues
>Thought it would be over soon but figured I just needed to isolate myself for a bit
>told bf I wasn't feeling well, was gonna be gone for a little bit till I felt better. Didn't want to bother him with my moody self.
>didn't even bother telling me he hoped I felt better or asked what was even wrong. He just responded with "alright, later"
>just feel like I want to disappear, feel so alone.
>On the whim remove everyone I know
>break up with bf, delete skype
>only keep two people whom I do trust and care for.


I don't know what came over me, but I feel it's for the best. It hurts so bad but I'm strong enough I can do this.

>Lost the pounds I was wanting to lose, about to order my first lolita dress, been a lurker for so long and been wanting to get into the fashion for so long.

>>8543479
I wouldn't feel too bad about telling your friend about what the people said. He has no reason to be mad at you because you didn't do anything wrong

>>8543484
Yeah I really shouldn't have and just listened to my gut, but the only thing it was telling me at the moment was
>ya fucked up
>ya fucked up anon
>just fucked it right up

>>8543492
I'm not really worried he'll be mad at me, but I hate seeing people I like be disappointed, sad, upset, or to feel at all inadequate or frustrated. I hate being an instrument in making somebody else feel bad. I also don't really want to reshoot with somebody I don't really know, but I would like the money to reinvest into more cosplay and my savings. I miss being able to cosplay like I used to.

>>8543517
Just make it clear that you don't feel the same way as them and it was probably just not the style they wanted. Just because its not what they were looking for doesn't mean its bad.

Try to be encouraging. He'll be let down at first, but this could be a good chance for him to learn and try new things when doing shoots

> walking around con in cosplay
> two grills run up to me all excited and hug me
> talk for a bit
> after a while we part and go our own ways


Tfw I'm to shy to even even ask for any of thier numbers/Facebooks. They both seemed legitimately interested too

>rack up thousands of dollars in credit card debt on massive bipolar spending binges
>forced to sell some of my lolita wardrobe just to afford gas
>sell this gorgeous dress i really love
>see buyer post about it on Rufflechat
>she's super happy because it was her ultimate dream dress and now she has it and loves it

Made my entire day.

>>8542615
>Trump
>Massan
>Amaz

Sorry if I misspelled theirnames. To lazy to check.
These dudes are always in the top lists for hearthstone, and that's because they're truly the best.
Watchers look for that, at least the smart ones.

>>8543456
Any advice on poses and how to not look derpy in photos?
>my current nightmare

My boyfriend literally just got fired from his job. We both bring in a modest amount of money and pretty much live paycheck to paycheck. I have no family and his mom and dad are pretty much even more poor than us. I'm just in full panic mode right now I have no idea what to do. I know it's extremely selfish but I'm bummed I'll have to start spending the money that I finally had saved up for a new wardrobe/cosplay (not that it was even very much).

>tfw you tell yourself you're finally going to have flattering clothes that aren't handmedowns
>tfw you start getting excited about your interests again
>tfw it's all down the pooper now

I know it's petty and childish of me but I'm so disappointed I never spoil myself or treat myself to beautiful things and now when I actually try it just all gets ripped away and I have to be a responsible adult yet again.

>>8543613
Most con girls are like that, even if not interested. It was better to not ask.
Only ask if you have a long talk and everyone really had a great time, and is clear you have common interests. Is easier to ask for Facebook due to fandom reasons.

>have trouble saving for anything because shopping addict
>bf suggests saving together (on separate accounts) for our plans to go to tokyo, setting the date for next year
>this might be a perfect motivation to keep my shopping in control

it's still expensive and on a short notice, but I hope it will motivate me even more. I just really want to go back to Tokyo and all the lolita boutiques and show my bf around

>>8543954
>trump massan and amaz
>the best at hearthstone

You clearly know little of the competitive scene.

>>8542554
>>8542622
>>8542662
>look really cute in mirror
>look like Oblivion character in mirror selfies
why

>>8544141
Donald Trump plays hearthstone? Since when?

>>8543954

Trump. Amaz. MaSsan. Hafu. Long ago, the four Asians streamed together in harmony. Then, everything changed when the F O R S E N B O Y S attacked. Only Reynad, master of all four, could stop them, but when Twitch needed him most, he was too salty. But my brother and I found the new Avatar, a salty streamer named Kripp

>high-fived my crush today

It's the little things.

>>8543491
You may have wanted to tell him you were depressed first...

>>8543491
If you were able to break up with him so easily, it's probably for the best. Take care of yourself, anon.

> be me
> turning 22
> wearing sweet and classic Lolita
> graduating college with good job offer
> writing last internship report
> decide to do a bit of Lolita closet cleaning
> end up taking almost all sweet pieces out of closet and bawling my eyes out

I'm not feeling so well in pastel pink, AP and gingham anymore. I looked at my most-loved sweet pieces (Telephone skirt and Fantasic dolly) and honestly cannot reach a decision.
I really wanted to get more sweet pieces in the future (like Honey Cake and Cinema Doll) but I can't see it happening anymore...
Any good posts/experiences about style switching ?

>>8544441
I got rid of all of my super-sweet/"fancy" pieces in favor of more toned down/otome style things, including some dream dresses.

It was really hard, but you have to let it go if it doesn't suit you or your lifestyle anymore. Imagine how happy you will be with dresses that you not only love to look at, but that you love to *wear*. Clothing is meant to be worn, and you should feel pretty and comfortable in it.

>>8544304
You go Anon. Maybe one day that high five will evolve into a booty slap.

>>8541695

What the fuck is wrong with people? Its one thing to be a salty anon, but why do people think its okay to do that with their name attached to it...? I'm sorry anon, I'm sure you didn't look too bad at all. Especially if you are confident enough to go out in it.

>>8544462
>>8544304
maybe you'll even get to high five his penis

>>8543972

Dump him

>Small comm
>Drama starting to take over due to different opinions and bad social skills in frills
>Most people just stay in the middle
>Attitudes becoming more aggresive
>Given that the comm pretends to be drama-free, people tell shit in their faces, not really helping or anything, just increasing the hate
>Drama ppl becoming clingy over clueless-ppl
>wtf

>>8544500
or his boottie

>>8544626
at the same time

>>8541695
Fuck them. Seriously people say 4chaners are assholes but I've seen worse ignorant asswipes on facebook. You should be proud of losing those 20 lbs. Not just anyone can loose weight and you just keep doing you and don't let others get you down. Cheer up anon!

>>8541695

And here, youtube, is why attaching your google plus account doesn't solve the fucking youtube comment section.

I'm so sorry that happened to you anon. That really fucking sucks. Congrats on the weight loss - don't let them get you down.

>>8541695
anon you have absolutely no reason to keep those people in your life, even if it's just on facebook. who cares if they're "industry professionals", you are absolutely in the right to delete them and make sure they have no access to any part of your personal life, and i beg you to do so. that behavior, besides just being shitty and bullying, is obviously highly unprofessional. anyone else in your situation would understand. i'm sure you looked great, anon. don't let some dickbag old guys make you doubt that.

>>8543378
Marry him

>>8544802
>Not just anyone can loose weight
u wot m8? Of course anyone and everyone can lose weight. Most people are just lazy af and claim genetics to make themselves feel better about their slovenly habits.

>>8544451
adding to this anon, imagine how happy you will be making whoever buys them off you.

do not sell all at once. see how you feel after the first one or two go, and gradually replace them with whatever is more your style now. don't quit cold turkey or do a 180, take your time.

>>8543491

>I'm feeling sad and alone
>Let me push away everybody who can help and not tell them how I'm feeling

That's the A-line straight to feeling worse and eventual suicide, go readd them and tell your boyfriend how you're feeling, dummy.

>>8544604

Why is this always /cgl/'s answer for everything.

"Oh, well, I'm having problems with X, and my boyfriend said - "

" Boyfriend? Dump him. "

It's like a female version of /r9k/ almost, hates relationships.

>>8544989
Unrealistically high standards and expectations.

Pretty much exactly like /r9k/

>>8543972
>>8544604
>>8544989
>>8544998

>>8544989
it's /fit/'s answer to relationship problems too.

most groups want to protect their own. it's not about gender, more about keeping members away from perceived threats. in feels and advice threads most boards tend to recommend anons cut out bad influences: friends, family, jobs, and SOs.

unless the anon in question has admitted to doing something really stupid, people are likely to assume that anon just needs to get away from a bad situation. because 4channers in general distrust outsiders.

>>8545050
>getting fired from your job means you are a threat and a bad influence

well more proof that women just care about money I guess

>>8544989
Because it's a meme at this point and nothing more. That's like taking LONDON seriously.

>>8544989
Most people are not saying it seriously though, so there's that.

>>8545072
>threat and a bad influence

Well, normal people don't just get fired.

He had to have done something wrong

>Went to first con a few months back, only for one day
>Had a great time
>Going to another con this winter, getting a room, full weekend
>Going to cosplay for the first time
>Excited/Scared

I'm worried that I will be too scared to put it on and go the whole weekend without wearing my cosplay.

Also, I am going by myself. I'm less worried about that, but it would be nice to meet some people to talk to. I am not good at meeting people generally.

>>8545072
Well he'd take the money she saved is the implication. A threat to her hard earned money, not her life.
Also people will always sad breakup because they only have the bad information, not what keeps the couple together in the long run.

>>8542662

My knees are always fucked up at cons from kneeling to take pictures of cosplayers shorter than me (since mostly girls) and wanting to take a shot from either face level or slightly below (if they don't show too much chin that way), I always figured it looks better somehow

>>8545192
This, and sometimes some people really do post things that make you wonder why they're still together. "oh my boyfriend doesn't have a job and when I get home he expects me to clean and make dinner even though I work/am a student and he isn't" Which to be fair are some indications that you shouldn't stay with that person for too long.

I'm having trouble learning to sew, it's really embarrassing. I've always made my own costumes, but they always have to be tailored/ corrected by the seamstresses i work with at the theater. i feel like other, more talented individuals learn much faster than at my snails pace. Reapeatedly fucking up a cross-stitch over and over and over. they're so sweet to help, but i feel it's a little patronizing. "aww isn't that cute, the soccer guy tried to make a coat" or "what did you fuck up THIS time" (not mean, just cheeky teasing)
at my rate, i will never do anything complex or impressive because suck. im not one to accept limitations and that puts so much pressure on anyone.
>>8545162
Are you going alone? I think it takes a lot of gusto to venture out in costume alone for your first time, feel proud. i repeatedly take deep breaths throughout the day to relax my muscles, face, and generally not be the anxious guy i am. it helps, the goal is relaxation and fun, i try not to forget it. it is....40% effective? i'd say? made up numbers?

>>8545151
>normal people don't get fired

are we living in the same economy? Oh wait of course we're not. You're living in the women's economy where mountains upon mountains of quotas, affirmative action and potential "sexism" lawsuits mean you never have to deal with any risk of losing your job no matter how crappy or lazy you are.

>>8545162
>I'm worried that I will be too scared to put it on and go the whole weekend without wearing my cosplay.
every friend of mine who has debated bringing their cosplay (or jfash) stuff, only to decide not to, has regretted not bringing or wearing it. just shia, anon.

especially if you want to meet people.

>>8541079
You might want to get an account with a service that just authorizes an amount on your credit card

>chronic illness
>massive anxiety and PTSD shit
>minimum wage job
>lots of bills and debt
>30 years old
>been working shit jobs since age 16, can never land a real one
>no family
>wouldn't want to rely on anyone anyway
>want to lolita
>barely surviving, can't afford a hobby
>forever on the outside looking in

>>8544451
>>8544889
You are right, anons ! I've put up some pieces tonight on LM (various accessories and main pieces I've never worn) and two friends already messaged me beyond excited : I apparently had the socks matching one's dream dress all along, and the other's dream blouse !

> has boyfriend, I'm kind of the jealous type, guess I'm just insecure
> Getting way better at dealing with my jealousy, feels good man
> Getting happier the more I start not feeling jealous over small things
> Got a job, can start taking him on dates again soon
> Planned couple cosplays

Good feels all the way anons I hope you'll have some too soon enough

>boyfriend unhappy at current job
>absolutely not liveable hours, I'm paying rent entirely on min wage to help him
>applies to places, nothing
>friend recommends him for an awesome job
>lands it
>is making at the very least five times what he was at his previous job
>can finally afford to go to cons out of state and get a new car and plan elaborate outfits for us we couldn't do before

Feels good man

>tfw family emergency happens
>rush home without much planning
>only bring too-big jeans and old t-shirts because they were clean and easy to pack
>figure I can go shopping for something nicer if it becomes necessary
>emergency's urgency wanes
>start copping flack from dad for not being feminine enough due to clothes brought on trip
>criticism about weird hobbies is next
>criticism about job follows (even though they're letting me do telecommute via laptop so I can be here with my family)
>criticism continues into recent weight gain/loss cycle resulting from chronic illnesses
>borderline obese young brother in the same room
>no one says a damned thing to him about his overflowing gut or lack of exercise
>"anon, maybe you should try doing a few laps up and down the stairs each morning. I bet that'll work than all those pills you're on."
>tfw you want to leave, but can't because the situation is still unstable

... I always remember why I moved cross-country any time I stay here longer than a week. Jesus Christ.

>>8545509
You're a woman, you have to be pretty marriage material. Your brother is a boy, the world is his oyster.
Sorry your parents are asses.

>>8545534
It's really only my dad. My mom's the one who's unwell, and she's often not around for his criticism. And honestly? It only grates because my younger brother never seems to be subject to any of it.

On top of the slovenly appearance (he has a beard that resembles a fat badger), he is a total dickbag. He yelled at our sick mother when she asked him to bring her a goddamn cushion to sit on at the table. He has raised his voice to her for similarly stupid reasons in the past few weeks. He argues with everything I say, purely to argue (I could say "the sky sure is blue today", and he'd launch into a condescending speech about how that's only our PERCEPTION because of the wavelengths of light hitting our atmosphere). And just in general is unpleasant and surly.

But if I bring any of this up and try to get my dad to talk to him about how he's acting? I'm being a drama queen and should just relax. He doesn't know any better. He's just worried. etc. etc. etc.

If I weren't worried about my mom, I'd be on my way home by now.

>>8545266
>Are you going alone?
Yes

>I think it takes a lot of gusto to venture out in costume alone for your first time, feel proud.
Well, we'll see if I do. I'll try

>>8545509

man that reminds me of my adolescence vs. my brother's

>for some reason I always got really fucking hungry at 1 am in the morning
>would go down and get a snack
>mom starts worrying that I'm going to get fat
>starts hiding all the food away from me
>resort to eating bread, canned beans, whatever the fuck was in the fridge
>constantly criticized about my weight despite being ~110 at the time
>luckily somehow I managed to lose 10 lb by the end of adolescence idek how
>cue my brother coming into adolescence
>he would constantly eat all the canned food at night
>it became a joke in our family that the 'roomba' would sweep up the cupboard every night
>and no one did a damned thing about it

Fuck parents' double standards between boys and girls.

>got a job at chipotle to help with school a while back
>love the job but it's kind of physically draining
>been mostly eating chipotle for dinner because it's free
>got my y!ja order today
>almost everything is a little tight
>VM skirt barely fits over my ass and doesn't have room for a petti
>must have gained weight

I'm so bummed. I don't even get anything super bad at work, I just get vegetable salads everyday. I guess I'm going to have to lose weight.

Does anyone have tips for losing weight while working most days? I don't have a lot of time to exercise and I'm always really hungry after work. I probably only have to lose 5 pounds.

>>8545564

Wait, your parents cared about you.

They gave up on life by the time your brother came around.

How am I supposed to feel bad for you? They should have let you turn into a total fatass, you ungrateful cunt.

>>8545564
>Fuck parents' double standards between boys and girls.
Same, my parents were more relaxed with my younger brother as well. I bet there's some older/younger sibling dynamics mixed in it too though.

I want to do dance covers but i feel too old and should hide my inner weeb

>>8545564
Are you American?

>>8545534
>omg da patriarchy im so oppressed
>women actually believe this

>>8545588

I appreciate most of what they did for me.

But I still have issues with them. Like all children.

One day if I have kids I'll probably appreciate them much more, I'll give you that.

I also found out a better way to lose weight and not starve myself. It's fascinating and it's called exercise.

>>8545594

There probably was. My brother also did slightly better than me at school, so I have a bit of a complex about that as well, even though we're really cool as siblings.

It's okay though. I have my own job now. My parents and I are coming to terms and it seems that everything will be all right for now. It's just a memory from the past I still get pretty annoyed about, for better or for worse.

>>8545608
Asian American, but yeah, within the 50 states of murrica.

>>8545534
Sounds like my Uncle, sorry for your lost
You should totally get into a piss match with him though. Like act like him to his face. Guys like that never let up unless someone gives them a bit of their own medicine

>>8545580
calculate your TDEE.

subtract 500 from that.

count your calories as you eat (MyFitnessPal is a good site/app) and stop eating every day once you reach your TDEE-500.

>>8545639
That Asian American feel, holy shit.

>bawwww anon why can't you just marry rich white man

>Get photos back from cosplay photoshoot
>Cosplay looks nice, wig looks nice, poses look nice
>Everything looks nice
>Except my godawful man-face that seems to be in full fledged
>HaveIAlwaysBeenThisUgly.jpg

Pic related, mfw sorting through all the photos.

>>8545691
Are you implying you all dont want to marry a rich man?

just a little while ago you were all telling someone to dump their boyfriend because he lost his job and was now apparently a "threat".

>>8545371
kek

>>8545708
some people aren't photogenic.

some photogs can't shoot faces.

most people aren't ugly, so one of the above cases is more likely.

girls that do not understand that lolita meetups are for lolita. why show up if youre not wearing the fashion? i understand maybe once as a beginner but if this is said constantly why do you continue to come. its like having a teacher conference and having the lady that bags your groceries come in

>>8545672
Counting calories really helps. I started doing this again after gaining weight. I was surprised at some of the food I was eating every day. It was full of more calories, fat, and salt than I thought.

You can lose weight simply by counting calories. You just have to be honest, you may need to physically portion some things out until you get accustomed to correct portion sizes, and you have to be pretty consistent with tracking it.

>>8545719
You who? Where are you getting this shit, anon?

>Job is mentally draining
>Commute to said job is physically draining (at least 1 mile walk every day because public transit here is shit and driving is out of the question)
>Hardly any time off
>Pay is fantastic
>More money to buy more brand

I may be miserable but at least I can be miserable and look cute.

>>8545371
I'm female and I got fired.
Pretty sure this is bait.. 9/10

>>8545436
I used to be like you, anon, but I finally got a slightly better job, now I can kind of afford lolita at least. I'm sure you'll get something better, but I know that feels like forever from now, and you might be right.. I'm still on the look out for a real career even tho it seems impossible. Which sucks cause my looks are gonna fade before I finally get a job where I could just buy a dress + entire coord at least once a month.

>>8545754
Even the worst players can still lose on easy mode.

You must have been far and beyond anyones usual idea of awful.

>>8545436
>chronic illness
>massive anxiety and PTSD shit
SSI if you don't have it already?

>>8545753
1 mile walk is nothing. Like, that's about 15 minutes at a medium to brisk walk.

>Went to otakuthon this week end
>cosplayed knog wenge from ping pong and handa seishu from barakamon
> i got like 20 people who recongnized/ took pictures the whole weekend
>feels like shit because no one knew who I was cosplaying

>>8545826
>> i got like 20 people who recongnized/ took pictures the whole weekend
>>feels like shit because no one knew who I was cosplaying
>20 people
>no one knew
anon, you should be glad it wasn't 4-5 or so or even less
>(everything i cosplay)

>tfw two top tier dream dresses happen to arrive on the same day
>fuck yeah

they're hanging on my closet doors now side by side, and i can't stop staring because they're beautiful.

>>8545821
Maybe it's hot as balls where she is

>>8545833
yeah but I mean it's sad that there's so few people out there not knowing these animes while those are fucking good. but you know I should had assumed that I was cosplaying "underground stuff".

>>8545805
Or just unlucky. Last thread there was a girl who got canned because her work needed to downsize and she as the junior employee was first to go

>>8545867

Sounds like my school district 8 years ago. All untenured teachers were 'let go' to try to rein in the budget.

One of my HS teachers told the entire class how relieved she was she worked just enough years to get tenure. So it wasn't really about how well one taught, it was how well they could sit on their ass until they got that sweet, sweet tenure.

And people wonder why I have trust issues with the American school system.

>>8545819
Nah man. It is almost impossible to get SSI. If it isn't an outward and obvious disability, they'll decide you can work 20hrs a week despite being unable to function.

>>8545266
Honestly, if you're having that much trouble, what I'd do is take something you seem to be having trouble with (eg. cross stitch)and just keep doing it over and over until you get it right, and never give up if it's something you truly want to do.

>>8541344
unlike what >>8541399 said all the girls on that list are either straight up ugly or average looking. Most girls who think theyre way above average really dont realize theyre actually not. You basically have to look like a VS model with huge tits to get attention of men on twitch.
seagulls can argue that it's not but THIS is why theyre not successful

You at least a have to be a 9/10, jnig, or a celebrity to get good views and men willing to donate.
this is assuming you are not top rank at the game youre playing

>thought Dream Marine was 'meh' tier upon release
>saw beautiful coords with DM months later
>DM in white becomes new dream dress
>way past MTO period
>lost three auctions for DM in white
>auctions for DM dwindling on Japanese market
>I regret everything

>Young and broke, can't afford many conventions
>Youth and good skin are fleeting
>All the young characters I want to cosplay are slipping out from underneath me without reason or money to cosplay them
>tfw

>>8545880

But, there is basically no way to judge whether a teacher is 'good' or 'bad'

Give a teacher a class full of ghetto trash and they will look bad. Give them a room full of first generation asians and you look like a genius.

>birthday coming up
>working super hard on custom made accessories to match my outfit
>a few friends are gonna go
>one girl I really want to go hasn't responded
>she missed my birthday last year too
>at least my other friend is excited about lolita
>still really bummed about the flakey girl
I got a bunch of maybes and other people I invited just straight up ignoring the invitation, perhaps cause I haven't seen them in awhile..

I don't want this to ruin my mood before my birthday but if only three other people show up I'm gonna feel like a jackass.

>>8545906
anon, I'm just saying, because...
>massive anxiety
>still managed to get SSI
granted I had some other disability issues too, and was professionally diagnosed with anxiety and the other issues, but the anxiety was a major player.

>>8546037
wear sunscreen

>>8545906
You know, I keep seeing all these seagulls complaining about PTSD, but what have the lot of ye gone through to get PTSD in the first place? Surely they can't just diagnose anyone with it?

>>8546373
I only went to therapy for six months but my therapist told me I did have symptoms of it but that there possibly other things going on. She couldn't fully diagnosed me because I got mental health through a school and I guess they can't fully diagnose unless they have their doctrine but at that point they've graduated I think, I left right as she graduated and another was going to replace her but my life got too hectic with two jobs and I never made time to go back.

I've had sexual and physical abuse growing up from both my parents and other kids I went to school with. My childhood was quite the nightmare, and on top of that I was a Jehovah's Witness in a hick town in the south, so there was a lot of cult/ritualistic type stuff going on that also fucked with my head a bit.

>>8540705
>sells a dream dress
>sad to see it go
>literally an hour after sending the invoice
>top tier dream dress pops up

The lolita gods have smiled upon me today

>>8546379
Ahh okay, that makes sense then.
Sorry, I just sometimes hear people complain about PTSD and 70% of the time it always ends up being a self-diagnosis and their only traumatic experience is always having been 'bullied' in primary school.

>>8546379
>I've had sexual and physical abuse growing up from both my parents and other kids I went to school with. My childhood was quite the nightmare, and on top of that I was a Jehovah's Witness in a hick town in the south, so there was a lot of cult/ritualistic type stuff going on that also fucked with my head a bit.

>tfw iktf

for me it was Independant Fundamental Baptists, different set of abusers, and a dose of paranoid psychosis in the family.

i was literally hallucinating demons in my house as a child, good times.

>>8546399
yeah that shit triggers the hell out of me.

>ba dum tssh

>>8545826
(saw you as seishu anon, tried to get your picture, but I had to catch my bus back home)
Same feeling, but only 3 people with mine on the Sunday.

>>8546399
I mean, some people do get it from really minor shit? I was really upset when I asked this guy I went out with what the worst thing to happen to him was, and all he could come up with was "pissing his pants once in second grade" like what the hell? you have PTSD and tried to commit suicide and that's the most you've had to put up with? I'm sure he was really bothered as all it takes for some people is to be removed from whatever silly comfort bubble they live in. Like, you always get a rude welcoming to the real world. You always eventually have that moment of "oh shit... so bad stuff is gonna happen to me and there's no way to keep it from happening sometimes?" not always the case, but eventually something will happen, completely out of your control and it sends you into shock. Some people seem to not be mentally strong enough to take something like that and go "Oh, so when that happens I should do this to cope" and instead they break. Hence, doing crazy shit.

sorry for the babble.

>>8546400
Oh man, when I was about 10 or 11 - my mom moved me and her (I'm an only child and she had me most during childhood) into this fucking single wide trailer that had a gas stove. She'd always turn the gas on and then light it. (DON'T DO THAT!) So this goes on for awhile and then I start getting crazy nosebleeds. Sometimes in the middle of church. And so begins the "what the fuck is going on with your child" shit.

It went on for awhile and I got a kick out of it because it got me attention, people felt bad for me and my mom felt like a retard and like she was gonna lose another kid instead of the usual "WHY ARENT YOU INTERESTED IN THE BIBLE? DONT YOU WANNA LIVE IN PARADISE WITH ME ANON??"

Religion is some scary shit.

>>8546399
Yeah. This is part of the issue. It diminishes the seriousness of real, diagnosed mental illnesses.

>>8546373
Not that anon, but mine is diagnosed from traumatic childhood. Child abuse actually accounts for more PTSD cases than combat vets. That being said, I tried applying for disability when I was too sick to leave the house and despite having a regular therapist that had sliding scale fees to back up my diagnosis, I was told it wasn't real enough to warrant even temporary help to get me to normal functioning adult. Things are better now but it took time and luck. U.S. Govt is fucked

>>8546400
I'm this anon and I really feel that. Paranoia and group brainwashing can really fuck a kid up. I left my hick town for good and my mental health is ten times better now.
>>8546535

>>8542554
Me so hard. Then I end up deleting the photos and burying myself in my blanket for several days.

> getting school ID taken today
> smiles really big
> eyes full of hope and optimism!
> gets ID printed
> looks at photo
> bitch face
> why
> mfw

>>8541628
I need a link on that shit stat, I love watching fictionkin shit the bed.

>>8544604
>>8544989
>>8544998
>>8545035
>>8545072
>>8545151
>>8545192
>>8545371
>>8545719
stop replying to yourself you immense fucking faggot, it's embarrassing to watch you have to take your own bait

>>8544882
I think it was supposed to be more like "not just anyone has the willpower/discipline to just lose weight". Obviously everyone can lose weight but it takes discipline.

>tfw asperger/autism communities are full of people that don't see any issues with themselves or are oblivious to things that are extremely obvious even for autism standards.
>tfw "neurotypicals" is a word they use seriously
>tfw no place to talk to other more level headed people with high functioning autism

I know I'm not alone in this and honestly at this point I just want to create a community for those into jfash or general japanese weeb shit to talk to while being able to discuss things about autism that affect our lives without sounding like a goddamn cult.

Mostly towards those into these things because that way you generally get more of a close knit group of people rather then "Hey I'm a 54 year old dad and I just heard I have autism".

>>8546797
literally 4chan and 'normies'

>>8546566
u wot

>>8540705
Whenever I see a creep thread like the "photographers you hate" and stuff like that, I remember all the creepy shit I did at cons.

>Mfw wincing remembering all the times I dropped spaghetti, or acted ridiculously creepy when looked at in hindsight.

y god.

Baby Lolita, I am so nervous. In the last minute in my first y!j Lolita dress. Came here to post that so I can pay off some time while I wait for the final seconds.

>>8546419
Awww, did I pulled seishuu good enough? :^) thanks for letting me know tho, yet there was another cosplaying seishuu, did he was holding a huge brush or a small one?

>wearing lolita at home
>ripping some nasty smelling farts
>petticoat holding them in to a degree
>sit down a little too violently
>suddenly a waft of ungodly awful gas hits my face

i am never eating cauliflower again

>>8547124
Seriously anytime I try to eat more vegetables it's not worth it

>>8545972
Also, have an actual personality, not "look at meeee look at how cute/sexy I ammmmm!" It's funny, my friend and I were talking about female streamers, and I told him I hated watching them because they're just boobies, so I tried to prove myself wrong and I couldn't.

captcha: Select all pictures of commercial lorres
I think I liked the food ones better.

>>8547178
Hafu and Eloise.
Or are we still excluding "top rank at the game". Honestly most streamers are top rank at a game and that's why people watch them.

Getting into cosplay has made me hate my looks. I've always been a bit self-conscious but I never outright hated my appearance until now.
I wonder if this hobby is unhealthy for me and if I should just stop before I develop disordered eating habits etc...

>just moved into small apartment
>unpacking and getting rid of shit
>still no room to start working on cosplay
>technically getting paid to go to a convention
At least the con is a tiny first time comic con in a public library. On the other hand I'll be there as a vendor with my boss so I kinda wanna go all out with a new costume.

Why is it so hard to find a bf to cosplay with. I just want cute couple cosplays.

>>8546373
Recently started getting a lot of violent flashbacks and anxiety attacks, and I've been going through a very deep depression. I went back to therapy and at first I was rediagnosed with MDD and GAD, but later my therapist decided my symptoms and history more line up with PTSD.
For me, it was the result of a violent childhood, a lot of shitty relationships in high school, being sexual assaulted, and an ex of mine who was constantly threatening to come after me and kill me for the better part last year. She said it was "chronic adversity", basically too much upsetting shit happening for a long period of time. I haven't really dealt with the emotions I should have felt during any of it, I just kind of numbed up and kept going.

>>8546566

Apply yourself.

>new members attend a meet
>one girl mentions her first dress bought from Milanoo
>eyes meet with friend "oh that's nice"
>regardless she is really sweet and plays video games
>we all click so well we hang out for another few hours
>tell same girl about secondhand sales sites
>everyone exchanges numbers and go on our way

>few weeks later, girl texts me asking about link to secondhand website
>asking how to bid/buy it now
>a bit later she excitedly tells me she bought a dress she loves and sends me a pic
>helped secure a new member for comm, helped her find a dress she loves, made a new friend also into gaming
>feels good

>>8547252
Cosplay, lolita and the amount of time I spend on /cgl/ has really affected my body image. I was fine before! But now I'm too fat for everything it seems. Not only that but its pretty impossible to get rid of my ribcage size. Even losing weight isn't going to stop that and I still won't look tiny.

I feel like I set up impossible goals for myself but whatever right, die trying I guess.

>have ungodly painful periods for years
>go on birth control to stop the cramps and be a functional human
>BC works wonders, I am no longer in pain and there is no visible weight gain despite several months have already gone by
>except

It's been several months since I started, and I went to try on a dress I bought several weeks ago in order to test the coord for a meetup. It fits everywhere save for my fucking boobs. I have grown yet another cup size (so I'm now a 30G) and my two favourite unshirred dresses are now too small for my chest, despite the minimizing bra. I am so fucking angry because I feel like weight loss isn't going to cut it (I odn't have that much to lose anyway) and I'll have to stop taking the BC, which will take me back to a pain (and anxiety about not being able to do things because of being in pain) I certainly don't miss.

I just wish I could give my breast tissue away.

>>8547670
Oh shit, of all the women to get bigger boobs from BC, it always happens to the ones that don't want or need it.

I need to get this appeal in for school since my grades were released, but Monday I had work and today apparently something happened that made them shut down for the day (I get text alerts for this stuff, it happens every once in awhile). The deadline is the 14th and I'm getting antsy. I really need that grant money to afford to go to school.

>>8547670
have you tried a binder?

>>8547698
I'll admit I haven't, but I am not that confident on how it could solve the problem. For starters, my country barely has options for "boobwear" (to the sake of context, it's like stores have heard only recently of the existence of D-E cups and are now promotioning them like SOMETHING FROM THE FUTURE GUYS), so there's the struggle of online ordering and figuring out a size that won't suffocate me. On top of that, my breast tissue is pretty...dense? firm? It doesn't take well to compression, not because it hurts but because of the texture. I can only imagine that if I were to get a binder, I'd look like I was wearing a weird vest under my clothing that made my ribcage look awkwardly wide compared to my shoulders and waist.

Now for the cherry on top, I just had to hear my sister (and father) disregard lolita as a costume and something that's laughable once again, and then her getting mad at me when I told her that was insulting. I already know I'm an oversensitive kid, but it still made me cry. And then she used that to imply I was guilt tripping her and that I couldn't handle criticism. Of course I can't when it comes from the people I love the most.

Sorry for the vent guys.

>just getting into lolita
>first package on the way
>have bottom braces
>they're not a problem, hardly noticeable
>get top braces put on today
>holy fuck I look worse than pic related
Now I won't even want to wear the clothes when they come. I won't feel like a real loli at all.

>>8547828
just dont smile anon

>>8546797
>high functioning autist into jfash/lolita and weeb shit
>feels the same about wanting to talk to more level headed high functioning autists
a-anon, if you created a community... i might join

>>8547828
you do not have to open your mouth to be lolita

>>8547670
Get a Mirena

>>8547870
Most gynos over here refuse to put IUDs on women that have never been pregnant. Plus, the problem would still be there since Mirena is based in progestin, and a copper one would worsen the cramps which is the polar opposite of my wishes.

>>8547828
Sometimes braces can be cute. Coord it with big events, and practice your smile in the mirror and with selfies.

>>8547912
>Sometimes braces can be cute
Yeah, not these ones. I'd post but I already feel like shit and I don't need /cgl/ to push me over the edge.

>>8546797
Not only aspie/autist people think they dont have any issue with themselves, but many other personality disordered people or say "sorry to be an ass but muh autism/bipolar/BPD" and so on, it's like they dont see there is a problem with them at all. And i say this from a fellow aspie lolita that always surronded by people with some disorder and i'm guilty to be like them in the past. But... it's interesting to be jfash comm with aspie/autistic people, i would like to join.
>>8546399
Kek, true story. And they drag their pity party with them saying "muh suffering". There are people that suffer more and they go on with their life instead of being patted in the shoulder for their "issues".

>>8547915
Have your orthodontist put pastel bands on for you next visit, they can still be cute for sure.

>>8541344
>Jnig
wow, i just masturbated to her stream, thanks for pointing it out to me

>>8547923
>pastel bands
My orthodonist doesn't offer those. Just solid, ugly primary colors.

I sometimes post on /cgl/ so I can feel like I've talked with a woman.

>>8547935
Get silver/grey. Whatever you do, don't get white or clear. I tried clear for the first few months, and mine always got discoloured before my next appointment, and shit was fucking awful.

>>8547866
What platform do you think would work best? Just a generic forum?

>>8547919
Yeah it's rather victim complex-y though I can't blame some because I know some were raised to think that having something like that should mean they can't do shit.
But god damn does it get annoying when you see people post things like "Like omg I don't understand why anyone would want to celebrate a birthday I mean like I have autism I don't get happy about celebrating myself"

>>8547883
Localised progesterone is way different from the mini pill/other progesterone only contraception, and it's known to be pretty good for endo and non specified issues with heavy, painful periods that don't obviously have a structural or hormonal imbalance, but if you have PCOS obviously it won't balance your hormones. One of my friends systematically worked her way through everything for her heavy, painful periods and finally got one put in by a private gynae (they're not funded here unless you've tried everything and get anaemia with periods, although you don't need to try an implant and don't need to have had babies) and after the first couple of months where it was uncomfortable and she had spotting, absolutely loves it because she only gets light periods, has no cramps, and doesn't have crazy hormonal mood swings or massive boobs like she did with the combined pill (went from 28F to 28J)

>>8547938
Jokes on you were all actually guys

>>8547982
Or worse, they complain to every person they interact and they feel entitled to have what they need, like a little petty child saying "that toy is mine not yours"!Victim complex and passive aggressive is the worst thing. I knew a friend that claimed she had a shit life than me and she is entitled to do what she want cause muh feels bad.
And these people also when you ask for some help they ignore you and saying they have it worse.

This kind of ranting is probably not really welcome here but

>Work hard all year in 2014 to have pic related body
>Cosplay Shimakaze
>Get called too fat
>This year
>Haven't been able to get skinnier
>Want to cosplay Archer Illya anyway

Con is in 3 weeks and even though I was looking forward to it I'm thinking about not cosplaying. I know /cgl/ has very different opinions on what is fat and when you should or shouldn't cosplay, but I was looking forward to this con and now my insecurities are ruining it.

>>8548055
have you even -seen- Ilya's body in kaleid liner? you will be fine. if people call you fat then they might be just jealous?

>>8548055
Looks like they were right

>>8548055
Your body isn't linear enough to be a convincing little girl.

That isn't necessarily a bad thing.

>>8541628
It's a thing to tagged images as me, it's the new gpoy. I'm not saying it's right, but it's what the world of tumblr is up to.

>>8548066
That's such a fucking creepy and gross character design

>>8548066
OT but is there an actual story aside from the brown loli making out with her?

>>8548134
In the first season there kinda was. The brown loli was introduced first ep of season 2 with a complete asspull of a plotline, and ever since it's been terrible in my opinion. The second part of the second season is airing now and it's just yuri, no plot. The pic anon replied with was from a very short fanservice OVA and it didn't have any appearance in the show.

>>8548128
You're creepy and gross

>>8548068
>>8548155
That's not very kawaii of you, anon.

>>8548066
ilya's a kid though she's got babby pudge.

>>8548161
You're not very kawaii

>girl I like lets me know I'm not her type

But then why does she always talk about the things that make me not her type?
Why would she even bring that up in casual conversation?
I haven't been hitting on her because I know she has a bf.

>buy new OP
>waist and bust have more then enough room to fit
>arms tight as fuck
OK now I have fat arms. Never new I needed to be insecure about this but there's a first time for everything I guess.

>>8548901
I had that with a meta OP, bust and waist a tad too big, arms super tight. and I have a tiny frame, so sometimes it's just really weird construction

>>8547912
Yeah deco them with rhinestones, bitch

>>8548913
Mine is meta too. I feel a little better now haha.

>been working out super hard for cosplay
>took iron fit class
>stress of con and family issues cause me to eat a lot
>gained 2 lbs
>I hope it's muscle

>>8548949
It's better to focus on measurements and how you look if you're trying to get muscle, not weight.

>>8548891
She sounds like a game player, even if you get a chance with her you probably shouldn't take it.

>>8548970
I'm not so sure if she's playing around like that. She's a quirky/geeky girl with a long distance bf. I like to think she's trying to reaffirm that she doesn't like me that way so she doesn't end up hurting her current bf. I am most likely reading too much into things.

>>8548999
probably just making sure you're not getting the wrong idea
It's cool that you've not been hitting on her but she obviously really likes you as a friend and so keeps dropping those hints
Just jokingly say something back about how she's not your type either

>three days to finish a cosplay
>havent started
>at least its piss easy and will take me max a day to make

i want my motivation to return

This is /cgl/ related because it's a primarily lolita and otome store.

My boyfriend is super proud and supportive of my work and decided to share it with all of his female facebook friends, so now they all love it and want to buy pieces.
Except that 90% of them he's fucked in the past.

I'm okay with most of them who I know to be lovely girls, but one in particular is a shameless, boundary-less slut who regularly tries to flirt with him and tried to sleep with him last time that he was in her state.
The first thing she said when he showed her was "Omggg, idk if these will fit me because my boobs are just too big, lol. ;o"

>I want to spit in her dress.

>>8549109
I get the feeling if she didn't want me to get the wrong idea, she'd talk more about how happy she is with her bf and less about my abs (they are mentioned at least once or twice a week) and how she's not really into muscular guys (she's said this maybe 3 times).

I really want to be with her, I just don't want her bf getting hurt (don't know the guy, just wouldn't like it if it happened to me).

Thing is, if she would be willing to break off the relationship so we could be together without any overlap, I've got minimal guarantee that she wouldn't do the same to me should an even better guy come along.
So I damned either way really.

>>8548124
Yeah it's a thing on txt posts or stuff but not on actual pics of other users

>>8549226
I know this is hard but maybe talk to her less
she's making you feel bad
If I was trying to make sure someone didn't get the wrong idea I'd talk about how they're not right for me. I've done the whole 'I'm so happy with my relationship' thing before and the guy who was trying to come onto me didn't take the obvious hint and was essentially like 'I don't care, let me take you on a date instead'. So..... yeah I get where she's coming from, maybe just take some time apart.

>>8549159
Why is your boyfriend such a whore though?

>>8549226
>I really want to be with her, I just don't want her bf getting hurt
then stop being thirsty and back off? why are you still following her around like a lost puppy if you don't want him getting hurt?
>oh I don't want her bf getting hurt but if it happens, it happens lol idc at least I got laid
is what you meant to say

>>8549226
YOU sound like the thirsty one. She's obviously giving you the hint that she's taken because you keep coming on to her. I've had to deal with guys like that and it's so awkward. She's dating someone. If you like her as a friend, stay her friend and drop the "whaaa I wanna be with her I hope she breaks up with her boyfriend but I'll blame her for being willing to do it for anyone even though I'm pushing the issue" faggotry. The fact that you're even willing to try and push that idea when you're the one who's on her dick is laughable. If you're only talking to her because you like her, do her a favor and back off. Stop being so self centered, dude.

>need to shop for loliable accessories and make sure they come quickly in time for traveling on Labor Day
>lol no forever 21 in my area
>lol no H&M in my area
>closest both stores would be is over 3 hours away

Fuck this town really.

>>8547915
Braces are one of those things that no one else ever pays any attention to. You might think they look awful but the odds are that all everyone else thinks is "oh, she has braces" and that's it.
Plus, you can smile with your mouth closed in pictures if it bothers you. Don't let your braces ruin your pretty dresses, anon.

Trying to save up money for a con which led to stealing little things which led to getting caught and feeling like a total idiot and shitbag. Really don't know what came over me, I'm a goodie-two-shoes to the point where others use to get annoyed with me. I guess I'm glad I got caught because the guilt was terrible, but I literally haven't even eaten anything since and all I've been doing is looking up how to keep it off my record instead of sleeping. I find myself wishing for a peaceful death instead of ripping my hair out over it and literally wasting away from the stress of court but I deserve it. My thoughts are so overly dramatic but I've never done something like this and just constantly feel like puking.

>>8543972
That's not petty Anon. I'd be upset too.

>>8549569
what punishment are you facing?

a lot of justice systems seem to feel satisfied when the criminal is humbled and remorseful, so your dramatic feelings might help your case.

>>8549576
Nothing as of yet, court is next week and I have to request representation. It's my first offense of literally anything and it looks like I may get a deferment along with other things, but It makes me nervous that I have to use a public defender because they may not try their hardest to keep it off my record because of their case load.

>>8545588
You're an idiot

>>8545867
This is me right now.

Can't buy the material I need for next project because the business is failing and they've just not paid me. Time is falling away until the event I need it for and I'm starting to panic already.

>>8547143
Don't eat root vegetables and you'll be fine. Leafy veggies clear out your system. Or like celery, peppers, cucumber, etc. No more than regular farts there.

>>8549631
I've had this discussion on /ck/ before and even leafy veggies make me fart uncontrollably. Just eating carrots will make me fart. I probably just have IBS.

>>8548134
Stuff actually happens in the manga

In drei awwwwww shit it's going down
You will wish for those calm, carefree days

>>8549569
Curious, what did you steal and why? You obviously feel really guilty about it.

>>8549159
You bf is a manwhore, sorry to tell you.

>rooming with friend in dorm, don't have a third so university automatically places us with third roommate
>look through new roommate's Facebook after she requests I add her because my friend told her I was a cosplayer too
>entire profile is just tumblr and shittiest-tier crossplaying cosplay
>have literally had next to no contact with her but she keeps acting like we're best friends
>I have to live in a dorm room with her for six months, can't move because housing is shit
>mfw

>>8549654
Clothing. That's why I feel so guilty. It was something small for me and a friend and I could have just saved up a little longer. Thanks for talking with me, it helps to tell someone.

I'm about to start my first year of college and I'm so nervous.

I've been told I sound like an old man in that I always trail off mid-sentence and abandon my thoughts halfway through. I always find it extremely difficult to remember words because my mind races all the time and I can't concentrate on what I'm saying so I use 'like' and such all the time. I'm scared people will think I'm stupid. I was having an argument with my cousin the other day over Skype and he basically told me 'sure, you sound normal on IM but I know for a fact your English is shite irl so don't act smart when you can't put together two sentences' and it really hit close to home.

My calves are also scarred from childhood trichotillomania and I'm really self-conscious about them. I lie to everyone and make up excuses as to why I have them because 'I used to pull out my leg hair' doesn't sound the least bit glamorous and it's really embarrassing. I usually say I had some kind of a pox as a child and leave it at that but no matter what I do the scarring's still there.

And to make this /cgl/ related, I had my picture taken with the comm the other day and I looked like ass. I can't delete it obviously, so I'm just forced to look at it. I asked my bf if I really look like that irl and he said yes, though he doesn't understand what I'm asking and even when I show him different pics where I look completely different he just tells me I look pretty in each one and 'of course you look like that, it's a picture of you, isn't it?' Jesus...

All in all I'm a massive bowl of spaghetti and I'm scared my normie mask will slip off on my first day.

>>8549663
Ah sure she can't be that bad, can she? Unless she's a militant SJW I don't think you should judge pre-emptively.

>>8549692
Not being articulate doesn't mean you're dumb, it just means you're not articulate.
Sit in any college lecture and you'll notice that very few of your classmates can actually put a coherent thought together without having to resort to examples hoping everyone else just "gets it".

My advice for now is to talk a bit less and a bit slower. Say fewer words but make those words mean more, and focus on the message you want to say now instead of thinking about what you want to say next. One thing at a time.

>>8549663
TEACH HER, ANON.

After hours of struggling putting in a collar on a inverted corner for this jacket I am sewing it finally went in perfectly with no problems, it lays flat and looks amazing.

Feels great. Especially since the last time I attempted something similar to this on another costume it didnt work and I ended up scrapping the costume out of frustration.

I had the funds to spent on dream dresses for months, not one showed up. Then I need to spent an arm and leg on a new pair of glasses, of course my dream dresses showed up twice. I'm bitter, but at least I can see better now.

>>8549692
Relating to this, this is exactly how I felt before my first year of uni.
Don't worry, I can barely put together a sentence as well and basically have zero control over the words that come out of my mouth, but I still managed to make friends. They seem to think I'm funny in a "haha, you're such a WEIRDO" way, which is better than nothing, I guess. As long as your essays and exams are alright, no one will think you're stupid.

Also, focal length and the fact that you always see your own face mirrored really affect your perception of yourself in photographs, you probably don't look that terrible.

>>8549679
Yeah, that was a stupid thing to do, but it won't be the end of the world. If you have a clean record and are truly repentant, you might be able to get off easy. Public defenders are not that bad, just make sure you talk to your lawyer to discuss your case in detail. They get paid for it, after all.

>>8549786
I feel you, collars are the worst

>>8549692
I really, really sympathize with you. I get a lot of grief for not speaking clearly.

Speak more slowly and clearly and think about what you are going to say. I'm assuming English isn't your native language. Don't worry about it. Most people are kind and understanding. If people are rude about it, that's on them.

Many colleges make you take a public speaking class as part of the basic education for a degree, so that may also help you learn how to feel more comfortable when you speak.

The racing thoughts... have you considered talking to a doctor about it? I get the sense that you may be a little anxious.

Your skin is none of anyone's business. If someone asks a person why they have scars, that's just rude. I have some scars on my face, and when random strangers ask me about them, I turn it right back on them, "Why do you ask?" (I wouldn't react the same to close friends/people who know me.) If you feel that you must give an answer, I'd just say something like, "It's something that happened when I was a kid, I don't like to talk about it."

>>8549953
>I'm assuming English isn't your native language
Why do you assume that? ;_; it is

>>8549966
>'sure, you sound normal on IM but I know for a fact your English is shite irl

Sorry Anon, my mistake. You wrote,
> 'sure, you sound normal on IM but I know for a fact your English is shite irl...
Which led me to believe English wasn't your native language.

>>8549980
oh haha I thought it was even worse than I imagined

But yeah, I'm a native speaker, though I was raised bilingual.

>>8549986
Deleted the post cause of weird double-quoted format. Sorry. I'm a mess today. :(

>getting back into cosplay again
>watch con videos to get even more excited
>See cosplayers with their friends in videos having fun
>"aaaaw aawww"
>realizes I have no friends that cosplay because I had to get rid of my old ones because they treated me negatively
>tried posting on forums if there is any cosplayers in my state and maybe want to be friends
>50+ views on my post but 0 replies
>Guess I'm going to cosplay alone.

>>8550035
It is ok anon. Chances are once you get into your costume and go to a con you can start connecting with other cosplayers in your area. When I started cosplaying I didnt have any cosplay friends and made them all at events.

So I'm in the dilemma of needing to find something to study for pretty last minute (long story that doesn't matter) and absolutely nothing appeals to me. Every bachelor sounds so god awfully boring and I just can't muster up even the slightest bit of "hey this might be fun!"

I know the obvious thing to look at is something that resonates with your hobbies, which in my case would be drawing and art in general but those degrees are pretty worthless and all I draw is anime shit anyway.

Would love to take a year off so I can try to basically discover what I really want with the rest of my life but I already feel old (20) and watching other people graduate and find jobs at 23 makes me feel like shit.

>>8549464
I haven't been pushy with her. I have not hinted at wanting to be in relationship to her at all.
Nice projection on the second point though.
>>8549496
I haven't told her I like her anymore than as a friend. I specifically said I haven't been coming on to her. I have not been putting pressure on her at all.

We started off as classmates, then became friends, I found myself fancying her but kept it quiet because I didn't want to mess with her relationship. Now she's dropping hints that she's interested, but isn't outright saying anything, presumably because she likes what she has going with her current bf.

I don't know why yall are attacking me for wishing things could be different. It's not like I'm actually doing anything.

>>8550251
i couldn't start college till 24 due to bullshit in my life, being broke, and having no support. you might feel a bit old, but starting later means you will be more mature, get along better with professors, and waste less time.

also the job market is still shit for new grads so there is no point in rushing. you could also check out a trade or vocational school if you are more interested in a job than studying.

>>8549679
I've gotten caught doing worse. I do fear too though that they didn't actually clear it from my record after I followed through with their terms because I still get "due to your background we're not going to hire you" a lot when looking for a job. Shit follows you for life don't do it again.

i'm a bad person.

>2013
>see qt3.14 in self post thread on /cgl/
>ask for tumblr
>find out they're 4 years younger
>live approx 9 hours apart
>actually visit that city occasionally
>so cute tho
>also admire cosplay so fucking hard
>start pming intermittently
>occasionally drunken message jokes about getting together
>start crushing hard
>ABORT FRIENDSHIP
>drift apart, not really close anyway
>months later reconnect
>"anon, you're actually the first girl i've ever had a crush on..."
>heart seriously explodes
>started dating someone anyway, so stop talking again
>2014
>go to con
>see them
>run the fuck away
>after con, get message: "anon, i was looking for you..."
>heart explodes
>find out they hang out with my ex (from 3 years ago) now
>be pissed
>wonder how they met
>2015
>haven't spoken in over a year
>be in committed relationship for 1 year anyway
>sometimes check their fb/tumblr/instagram for cosplay updates
>fuck, they're getting cuter...
>check fb today
>pics implying kissing someone else
>serious heart pain
>bf says he wants to move to the city old crush is from...
>always wanted to move there anyway
>serious plans to go in 2016
>stupidly nervous

Obviously I love my boyfriend and would never cheat on him, but I feel horrible that I have emotional reactions like jealousy over someone I never even dated or have spoken to in real life. I would also like to speak to my old crush again, but I feel like it's unfair to my boyfriend. Oh well. I just am afraid of how I'll feel/react if I see this person when we move.

>>8549692
I'm not a really warm and open person (being an autist doesn't help) and I like my personal space, which she doesn't seem to understand. I don't message even my closest friends as much as she messages me asking about what I do, my cosplay, our room, etc. I get being excited but she's apparently ignoring my friend (roommate #2) and only talking to me.

>>8549770
Ironically, her makeup and wigs are what truly take even her bought costumes to bad cosplay thread-tier, and makeup/hair is what I study.
>tfw I'm sure taking a baby cosplayer under their wing is somebody here's dream
>but it just isn't my dream

>>8550288
Thanks for the helpful talk anon, I really needed it. It's just that seeing people only slightly older then you being so accomplished in life (or at least seemingly so) can get really grating. Especially since I don't really know what I want or what I can.

>no meets planned in comm
>decide it would be nice to have one while the summer is still on
>post on comm page to see if anyones interested
>very little response
>seen by everyone
>not sure if I should create an event and see what happens, or let it go
>welp

Keeping it a secret for a couple more months, I'm not telling family or friends until the shower. My husband and I are pregnant and we just found out its a girl! We're thrilled!

>tfw no experienced lolita senpai with massive burando wardrobe who'll let me try on/borrow their clothes
I've never had but always wanted an older sister.

>tfw no ouji pals
>forever the redheaded bastard of the lolita world

>tfw will never be a Sakizo illustration

>>8540705
>con is coming up
>super excited
>dad had sudden small operation on his back
>might be cancer
>itsallgood.png
>only my stepdad
>mom went to see cancer specialist yesterday
>runs in the family
>trying to stay positive
>sold one of my dream dresses
> ultimate dream dress pops up
>I don't know if I'm crying because of the dress, my stepdad, or my mom

She's strong and will pull through
>she's really excited for my con for me
>listens to me talk about con for a month before it even happens
>puts up with my cosplay antics

>Never got into cosplay but always seemed like a fun thing to do
>Am very well off financially
>Don't even know where to start
>Laziness gets in the way sometimes

Honestly, cosplaying seems fun and shit. I just want to dress up in cool armor or costumes like in my VIDYA JAMES but I'm not sure where to even start or begin. If it helps, I'm a male at Jersey.

>tfw I need to vent about a million and one issues going on in my life, including too many issues with my comm but im afraid thell know its me posting
>depressed as fuck and feel hella lonely
>nothing with friendships has been working out for me,worse yet with relationships hemce i have noone to vent with
>how to make new friends and meet new people when you live in a shit hole??

>want to buy fabric from Amerikkka
>horrible currency r8

>>8543415
>paypal bill of 288
you wanna trade for my 1800$?
I still have a job and im good with saving my money but wow i wish i never did this to myself.

>tfw your boyfriends friends are the 'cosplay is for fun' group
>they keep asking for advice only to shoot it down because its too expensive~I'm only going to wear this like once~can I borrow something of yours instead?

>go out in lolita
>a little stressed because of the extra attention but I like my outfit and feel good
>several guys say gross sexual things
>one guy gropes me
>whole day ruined

It's really frustrating when I have almost 0 skin showing and I still get sexual things yelled at me. Even though I got a lot of nice compliments I still felt like shit by the end of the day.

>>8550595
I'm at $627
why did I open a credit line for lolita? This was an awful decision.

>>8550251
I'm starting university this year and I'm 23.
There's a mandatory army service here so most people start their studies when they're 20-21 and seem to be better off for it. I just needed the extra 2 years to decide what I wanted to study and in the meanwhile I got a good job experience and saved up so I won't need to work while I study and can afford having a nice apartment instead of shitty dorms.

About choosing what you want to study I'd suggest going to a open day if your college of choice has one, you can ask people who are actually students how they feel about each subject and if there may be things that are more interesting IRL then on paper.

>>8550321
Can you not be friends without the jealousy feelings? :(
Also I'm jealous. I'd be terrified of contracting anyone from cgl, much less developing a friendship with them.

>>8550466
You just want her for her clothes

>>8550605

Israel? Because I only know of two countries who do 1-2 year long mandatory service and Singapore doesn't require girls to do it.

>>8543415
>>8550595
>>8550601

How about y'all take my $2500

> be newbie seamstress/cosplayer
> oldest child
> little sister hates "lame nerd shit"
>desperately wants a big sister type to help get me into things, but no idea how to even find that
> no cosplay friends
> foreveralone.jpg

>>8550611
You got me.
Though my army service was just basically a 9-5 office job with no benefits and 90$ a month (world media never seems to mention that we get paid in peanuts for our mandatory service).

Either way, glad that's all behind me. I never have to wear that terrible uniform again and can have money for lolita!

>>8550618
I feel you, I was at $2000 earlier this year but I paid most of it off with Pell grant money..Then I spent more and now I want to die.

I'm starting to realize I have a very serious problem with binge eating and that I need professional help but I don't know how to ask for it. I'm afraid that no matter where I go people will only be like "well just stop eating" but I've tried and I can't. It's not that simple. Like an alcohlic addicted to alcohol I am addicted to food. I don't know what to do anymore and I hate myself for it.

>>8550606
I wouldn't be scared of contacting anyone from /cgl/. I've actually made 4 friends/acquaintances here: the cosplayer I mentioned, a lolita, a plushie addict, and a girl who was just sharing her plastic surgery experience with me. All of them were quite normal, not creepy, and drama free.

But that is kind of funny, because months after we met, I was saying how we met on /cgl/, and they said they rarely go on here, so they kind of doubt that they self posted and linked their tumblr. (But I do wish they were reading this right now... pls respond) Honestly, I was kind of in a weird place back then, and all I was doing was following someone with my boring ass tumblr. I would sometimes reblog their cosplay pics with thirsty tags, I guess, and since they clearly followed everyone that followed them, they saw and would sometimes reply. They also started reblogging my selfies and stuff. I feel so nostalgic thinking about those times, weirdly.

And I'm sure it'd just be some one sided weird thing. They're turning 21 this year, and I'm 24 -- I think that's kind of awkward, too. And they're way out of my league in every sense possible. There are at least a dozen people hitting on them on every single little picture they post of themselves, and a lot of these people are other semi-popular to popular cosplayers. Part of me seriously regrets not pursing it, because what did I have to lose back then? As far as I know, they haven't dated anyone at all since we've met despite all the beautiful people hitting on them.

My friend thinks she's a better lolita than I am because she's been in it longer than I have.

I did my research and improved drastically due to cgl and blogs and tutorials and asking for coord help.

She's really upset because I'm always purchasing lolita and she never has the money. But I have a job and live at home, so I can afford all my lolita.

She hasn't improved at all since she started, she rewears the same coord to multiple meets in a row. I feel really bad because I feel that I'm better than her. She's borderline ita and she's always saying 'Anon, I've been a lolita longer than you, I know what I'm doing'

She wears bjd tights often with coords. But I'm too nervous to say anything to her, I don't want to hurt her feelings.

>>8550719
That's so sad :( I'm sorry things turned out that way, anon. I kind of want to ask for a selfie or link to your Tumblrs so I can see how cute you are, but I understand that would be weird.

Regardless, I hope you can rekindle your friendship.

>university student
>went to otakuthon like every year
>my student loan is at 3600$
>couldn't cancel otakuthon since our room was under my name and all my cosplays were ready
>after the weekend found out that my credit card is loaded (2000$)
>earn like 900$/month
>will take a long time to pay back all this shit
>Tfw I have my Bigbang ticket already bought
>don't want to miss them for some fucking loans
>I cukked for the next year and a half with no money for being able to at peace with financial problem
feels

>>8550809
>I cukked

wat

>>8550823
I'm fucked *

>>8550809
>tfw you make 900 a week after years of min wage on a paid internship
It ain't the top but it sure feels good

>>8550809
>boy kpop
gayyy

>>8549226
she said you're not her type, I really don't know where you're going with this any more

>>8550363
you're both pregnant? Wow, congrats anon, didn't think it was possible!

>>8551000
>Because women always mean what they say

She gave me her number without me asking for it after saying I wasn't her type.

>>8551028
you're reaching now, and I'm sorry if this sounds blunt but I think you're believing what you want to believe.
Try clearing yourself of her. It's not good to be in that situation

>>8551028
We get it, you're a thirsty fuckboi. If you need to search this hard and make this many excuses, and imply this much about her behavior ("woman never mean what they say, she's obviously into me~ why would she give her number to me if she didn't want to be with me, what is wanting to make friends, validate my desire to be with her even though I clearly see she's unavailable and would be the first faggot spouting off about bitches and whores if I was in her bf's shoes despite her having little to do with this thirst.") maybe she actually isn't into you. She's better off, you sound like a shitty person anyway.

>>8550605
>>8550251
Same. I'm 22 and I'm just starting college this year as well (I'm the anon with the speech anxiety).

I had attended college before, right after graduating from secondary and getting my leaving cert over with. I'd picked a shitty major and as soon as we went to the orientation class I knew that it was gonna be a travesty because the lecturers were terrible, couldn't teach for shit and only pushed their books onto us and promised us a better grade if we bought them (is that even legal?). And it was a language degree to boot, what an absolute joke.

Then I met a few lovely people, one of whom I've been dating for 3 years and the other two
are my best friends. They convinced me to hold it off until I figure things out; one of the girls had been trying every year for 3 years before she got into the college she wanted. Now she's top of her class.
>>8550611
Finland and Greece have mandatory conscription as well, albeit optional for women, iirc.

>>8543972
I'm sorry to hear your spending money now has to go to boring bills. Your boyfriend can collect unemployment though, right? Has he started looking for another job? I had to cover my boyfriend's part of the bills for a while and it was pretty hard. He was active in his job search though and one day landed a job at a great place with wonderful people. If anything, I'm sure you could qualify for food stamps or help with the heating/utilities.

>>8545151
>mfw sister wants to get fired from fast food job of 5+ years so she can collect unemployment
>doesn't look for any jobs outside the food industry
>won't take my advice about applying for easy jobs on campus
She's definitely not a normal person.

>>8550282
How is saying you're not her type "dropping hints that she's interested"???

>>8551028
>why would my friend give me her number unless she wants to fuck???

You are really pathetic.

>comm rarely has meets, most are organised when I have work
>finally one I can go to
>long-distance bf has that weekend off work, asks me to go visit him
>ask him to visit me so I can go to this meet, but his car's getting fixed and he'd be sat around all of one day whilst I'm at the meet, or have to come with me and be bored and make everyone awkward
>haven't seen him in 2-3 months

I've already decided I'll go see him because he's more important to me, but it makes me sad. I'm too new to the comm to organise meets myself.

>>8551068
>>8551185
>been friends for years
>only just now gives me her number

You guys sure do love strawmen and wild assumptions.

>Creeper took a photo under my skirt during event
>Posted online without asking first
>Took it down after asking many times

is over now... but feeling sick.

How do you avid this things, cgl?

>>8551331
Why don't you message the mods? give them a date, so they can help you organize.

good communication is everything

>>8550600
Men don't care, as long as they're somewhat-positive you're female, they'll do gross shit.
Anyway, sorry to hear that, anon.

>>8551361
And you're still pathetic. Everyone in this thread has already told you the truth. Continue being a pathetic manchild and living in your anime fantasy land where she leaves her boyfriend for someone she's not interested in lmao

Answering questions in the Help thread and getting a bunch of THANKYOU ANON THIS WAS JUST WHAT I WAS LOOKING FOR replies.
>Come my children, I will see you through these dark times

I totally get why they do it, but my nearest con has a super strict weapons policy, and my best costume is military-themed, and is a character with an iconic weapon. Except I have to ruin it with big fuck-off orange tip, and because the rules are so strict, I can't even make something removable that I can take off for pictures.

>>8551719
Do a separate photoshoot off convention-grounds?

>>8550600
Stop imagining things fatty.

Just got a bunch of angry texts from a friend of mine about how she lost her phone and that if I want to invite her to things I need to talk to her at least 2-4 weeks in advance even though she's spontaneously invited me over for lots of things in the past, including a three hour road trip once. I'm sure she's pissed cause she lost her phone but I'm not sure why she's taking it out on me.

Either way, looks like my birthday is ruined this year. That's what I get for trying to have friends.

>>8551973
Anon, if she can't remember or make time for your birthday, she doesn't sound like a good friend at all.

>>8550713
I kinda feel your feels, anon. I had a time when I wanted to be skinny so bad even though I was already underweight. In the evening I would be so angry and frustrated and hate myself for eating more than planned during the day, but when I was actually hungry I had this 'fuck it all' mentality.
I'm out of it now and got used to eating less but I'm still not content with my body. If anything, don't be too hard on yourself. Food is a necessity, alcohol isn't, so at least your craving for food isn't on that scale of bad.

>>8551491
Have watchfull friends around you all the time, and maybe wear 'censor pants' if your cosplay allows it. Report him to the convention staff too; taking creeper shots is probably one of the things most likely to get you kicked out next to harassment.

>>8552287
I know. None of my friends are good friends, though. I'm gonna be 28 and I have no real friends. Guess I'll just dress up and go out and do things by myself cause there's no point in trying to be friends with people.

>tfw mbok's orders are backed up and skirt is in line to be shipped
>jsk from overseas finally dispatched
>tfw big meetups next weekend

Also, my BL shoes are seeing some wear - the front edge of the soles are peeling.

I'm trying not to freak, but I hate the waiting game for packages. I should put together backup coords in case they don't arrive by Friday, but I really don't want to. I don't have a lot of main pieces to work with that is warm-weather friendly. I know it's not a big deal and that other lolitas feel this way, but I feel like it's almost a faux pas to wear the same piece to meets. Maybe it has a lot to do with how the influx of frequent print releases making the fashion seem more like a collector's hobby. It also makes me feel bad for being such a basic bitch when it comes to lolita. I remember advising someone here for accepting that it's ok to be one, and for the most part, I do follow my own advice (I mean, better than that a hot Milano* mess), but I hate that when I attend huge meets and cons, there's an unspoken pressure to go all out (because when else are you going to stick a train engine on your head?).

On another set of feels: as small as my wardrobe have gotten, I've finally come to love the pieces I own because they actually fit my style preferences, size, and skin tone. I just wish I had kept some of my pastel sweet lolita items because there's a very young lolita in my comm who is itching to get started and she loves sweet lolita and would pull it off way better than me. I feel bad for her knowing that almost everyone in our comm have graduated high school and she'll have no one close to her age to talk about lolita and high school life with. Hopefully that will change once the local con comes around. I don't mind if people feel somewhat separated from the group of active participants (and we're used to it being a spread out comm), as long as every member is able to make at least one friend.

>i have some good friends
>but most of are far away from me
>i don't go out much
>all i need is someone that loves lolita, want to lifestyle lolita with me and hanging out drinking tea, making picnics and so on
>and that won't dump me or making excuses to not go out cause bf doesn't want/too much work or study
>tfw these people aren't in my place
>feel really bad man
Also i'm almost 25 and finding someone like this is hard considering most of them have partners, jobs or other to not spend in lifestyle lolita or hobbies too much, at least for some times a month i'm ok.
>>8552555
I know that feel, anon. I have some good friends but i don't feel that much attached or close. break up with a person that i thought to be my friend but fucked me up really bad that i don't feel to get back. The best thing is to do stuff for yourself and even lolita. I'm a lone wolf i admit but a real best friend is awesome.

>>8552886
Aw. I want to be your irl lifestyle lolita friend, granted, even if I do live nearby and want to do dainty lady-like stuff, I am living the second job life and it's not so great for doing meets nor my health.

>tfw making money at the expense of messing up circadian rhythm
>have to work nights
>too tired during the day to work out
>IBS getting worse due to change of eating habits
>partially shirred jsks feeling tighter than normal

I hate not looking plus sized, but feeling it when I wear lolita.

>>8550927
>not liking based bigbang

Nigga are you the king of autism and only listen to pure girls groups?>>8550926
Fuck. What's your field?

>>8552916
Thank you anon!
>IBS
I know that feel!I can't stand most of the elasticated skirts or too tight stuff that dig on my waist/hips. I'm passing a bit of shit moment now, trying to concentrate to study and continue with life and preparing myself for another job (helping kids with foreign languages). I have also chronic fatigue, i sleep in weird hours too. Planning to get into a more ladylike lifestyle is really hard at times, but i want to do it for my happiness. Wish we would be near each other! I'm in Europe sadly.

>>8549569
I used to knowingly use fake coupons from /b/ and stole a nail polish and some 5 hour energy shots from Walmart a couple years ago. I never did so anywhere else because I figured Walmart had enough in their budget to lose <$10 twice a month. I never got caught probably because I looked like a good two shoes and it was Walmart.

Anyway, my point is I'm still very ashamed of what I did and I'm grateful I never got caught. It sounds like you learned your lesson and I hope everything works out for you. Even if it stays on your record I feel it could be explained. Not like you held the store up at gun point and emptied the register.