/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>8989556
>wants "wifey material"
>wants an instafuck

Guy sounds bipolar.

>friend throws cosplay wedding
>I'm the only one in our crew not invited because it's couples-only

Now have this in all 3 colorways. So pretty happy about completing that because I really like this print and luckily it doesn't go for much. Now to look out for the other cut being sold for good prices.

>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who play the violin, viola, cello, flute, clarinet, bassoon, concert whistle, uilleann pipes, oboe, piano, keyboard, harp, sax, trumpet, trombone, banjo, kazoo, ukulele, drums, djembe, guitar, erhu, accordion, concertina, xylophone, euphonium, glass harp, french horn, ocarina, hammered dulcimer, wine glasses, or jew's harp
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can fulfil the role of an orchestral concert percussionist by playing instruments like the triangle, chimes, and cymbals
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who sing in falsetto, vibrato, or tremolo
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can read musical notation or can conduct an orchestra
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can sing in constructed languages like Hymmnos
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can DJ or use sound synthesis programs
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can write the scripts or songs for musical theatre or may be participants themselves in it's showing
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who may not be able to play music for any variety of reasons but I'm sure have good music taste anyway
>mfw lolitas and cosplayers who can dance
>mfw woodsmen who play the concertina

I just wanted to let you all know that you're the absolute worst. I hate you with every fiber of my being and wish you didn't exist.

>>8989661
I'm a very musical lolita when there's a TacoBell near the con.

>>8989556
>I dunno, man. you're kinda doughy and moist

>>8989700
topkek

>i just got a job
>a week and a half working there im unsatisfied and tired of working there
>i get paid 7.75 an hour and i cant afford lolita, cosplay and funding for my business
>wanna quit and work at hooters

>>8989700
What is with /cgl/ and farts? I've seen more fart jokes on this board than anywhere else on 4chan, except for maybe /co/.

When did lolitas get so gassy?

Everything reminds me of my exbf. I broke up with him for a bunch of pretty serious reasons, but we were still so compatible when we were just hanging out together. I know I'm romanticizing in my mind how happy we always were, but I can't stop.
It's taking over my life and brain and now it's even eating into my lolita hobbies
>see cute new taobao kitty release
>omg exbf would love this
>oh wait he's gone
>finally get dream dress
>was going to use it in a disney-themed couple coord from our favorite movie
>was going to go to disneyland lolita day together
>now I'm only ever going to wear it to some dirty mall alone
>am I ever going to meet someone who supports me wearing and buying lolita fashion as much as he did
>am I ever going to meet someone who loves all the same cute lighthearted stuff that I do
It's been 4 months and I'm half thirsty for a lolita gf, half praying every night that he'll change.
Sorry for emotionally vomiting on this board, I know I'm being a pussy, but I'm just so depressed lately and even my one joy in life, lolita, is turning on me.

>>8989957
one day anon you're gonna meet someone who supports your hobbies and loves you in and out of lolita, don't waste your time and energy thinking about someone who you obviously left for a good reason. you're better on your own!

>>8989800
because it's not prim and proper
girls just wanna have fun, y'know?

>>8989800
Your mentral image of us lolitas does not mesh with reality. We are weamen, women are gross, frilly farts are hilarious.

>>8989661
I am so confused by what you're saying.

>>8989977

you must be new or not lurk these threads, or you'd get the reference

>>8989645
Who the actual fuck does a couples only wedding we
I'd turn up wearing two cosplays of one ship

>>8989661

>You stayed up and beat me to the new feels thread just so you could do this post this again and ruin my nice streak

Is this it? Have I found my personal vendetta? Rude music-anon? You STILL didn't include throat singing anon. This is absurd and rude!

Also /cgl/ feel

>Have deep set eyes
>Decide I might have more room for makeup if I remove and trim down some of my bushy brows
>Plucking them is so annoying and slow
>Also get a huge zit on the side of my nose
>ALSO realize I ran out of mascara and blush halfway through testing new makeup on my face
>I cannot into lipstick and look like a drag queen in gothic lolita

Traded in a expensive cream for a couple of samples and sheet masks. I really didn't want to since I wanted to decant it and trade it for some other stuff. The person I did the trade with, lowballed me but we come out with an agreement.

She gets her cream and said that it was only 1/4 filled (which it wasn't). I said that I have yet used it and IDK what happened. I based it off on what I paid last time and how much the last person said was used.

Her trade comes in and one of the samples spills all over the envelope. It's basically unusable. I told her that I got her trade and thanked her. She messaged me saying that she was still unsatisfied, could have gotten it BNIB for the same price (not when I checked) and asked for a $10 refund. She basically wants $10 for a $45 cream.

I told her that I needed to see the pictures first and I will be more than happy to return some masks and the empty decant since I didn't want them to begin with.

I'm still waiting on pics from her. Did I do the right thing?

>lolita friends keep posting constant memes from Bernie's Dank Meme Stash
>they keep posting about how Bernie has a chance against Hillary
>suddenly they stop
>now the same lolita friends who supported Bernie are supporting Trump

Jfc, are people this stupid? Do they know that Trump dislikes Japan? If tariffs are imposed against Japan, we pay more for lolita in the US.

>>8990263
you're being too kind anon

>>8990271
Why would you go from supproting Bernie to Trump? That's a huge jump. Unless they are so gullible they just follow whoever seems cool.

>>8990263
You're being taken advantage of.

>>8990284
I jokingly talk about voting for trump since hillary is going to win the nomination

Maybe theyre joking? maybe....

>>8990115
Or Music-anon has included so many instruments to jerk off every musical lolita that its barely comprehensible.
Music-anon is so fucking annoying, this is coming from a chorus-lolita.
Fucking every goddamn thread shes gotta say the same motherfucking thing.
We get the point ok, you like Music Lolita, thanks I appreciate it.
Now gtfo of my thread.

>>8990284
>>8990286
As a Trump supporter I can say this was expected and I'm pretty happy it's actually true.
Basically alot of Bernie voters aren't so into party politics that they'd vote for Hillary simply because they are running on the same platform.
So as a result they will most likely go for a second pick based on how against the establishment they are (Trump).
I have no ball park figure on the percentage of his voters that don't play party politics, but it's been very frequently discussed these past couple of months.

>>8990284
Policies and mannerisms aside, Trump and Sanders are both vehemently "Anti-Establishment", as far as this current election is concerned. As in, both call for drastic change, some way or another,and both claim to be out of the corporate pocket, in their own ways.

Clinton is basically the complete opposite, in that aspect. (Plus, Superdelegate buggery meant Sanders would be steamrolled by Clinton from the start without extreme popular support, Clinton was basically pre-determined to be the nomination by the party itself, there wasn't really a "choice") I'd wager their decision wasn't fueled by policy or anything outside of a desire to have the "least corrupt" candidate ouy of the choices available.

>>8990311
>As a Trump supporter

Why would you hate yourself enough to support that?

If you guys get this fucking thread deleted 30 posts in I swear to god

>>8990325
Because I'd rather not let the media dictate who I vote for with bold faced lies.

>>8990334
I agree the media has awful and respectful. Trump is telling it like it is. I don't care if he lies, it makes me feel good.

I mean I want to see an America again where the father is the breadwinner earning lots of money at work and the mother is at home raising kids. Lolitas should aspire for that future. Trump will make America great again.

>>8990336
>>/r9k/

>>8990323

I mean, it's one thing to be anti-establishment, but it reeks of 'going with the cool kids.' Because while both of them are anti-establishment and generally run by their own funding, they have vastly different views and boast vastly different experiences. If you even analyse dermis deep you'd find they have pretty fucking big differences.

Unless you're so vehemently against the quota you'd vote for anybody against the quota, really I don't think people who switch sides like that have any clue what they're talking about. But I guess that goes in general for politics.

>>8990325
I honestly don't want to get political. but you're supporting trump because the media doesn't like him and you want to feel all anti-establishment?

>>8990288
>my thread

>>8990352
I don't really care so much for anything "Anti-Establishment" since it seems like a distraction from real issues, but I do like his immigration policy and the fact that having a president like him can go a long way in the country not devolving into a hive of unproductive cry babies living off the system.
Also being a single issue voter because the media deliberately lied to you about him is still a pretty valid reason.

I made a secret about someone on my facebook because I was bored and did not think she'd get butthurt about it (wasn't even saying smth bad just pointed out that she was being a hypocrite about /cgl/). Turns out she and other friends did, my bad, I don't even have a problem with the girl lol.

>>8990350
That's it exactly, though. The ones who switch from Sanders to Trump are people who are so fed up with the status quo that they want change for the sake of change. Single-Issue voters might find common ground, too. Clinton is arm-in-arm with Wall St., and that doesn't sit nicely with many folks.
This is offtopic as fuck, though.


Feels:
>tfw I'm about to leave for the Navy and if deployed, won't be able to pursue any of my hobbies for weeks to months on end
I like frilly clothes, big guns and boats, what can I say?

>>8990365

>immigration policy includes building a wall next to Mexico

Honey let me fucking tell you as someone whose ancestors built a fucking wall that does not fucking work.

>>8990371
this one?

>>8990375
I don't think you understand.
The wall is a bonus, not the objective.

>>8990371
>>8990381
If it makes you feel better, I personally think they were big buttbabies about it. Oh boohoo someone read something that I posted online and made a connection with another conflicting post that I made OMG STALKER SO CREEPY
May you be damned to the deepest circles of hell anon for breaking the holy pact of everlasting friendship that you made when you friended someone on fucking Facebook

I have completely lost interest in making cosplay. Usually I have fun with it and I can shit out a cosplay in a week. And it usually helps with my depression. But right now, my depression is in full-swing and I can't convince to care or to do ANYTHING.

>tfw the con is in 20 days and nothing is done
>tfw you can't force yourself out of bed to actually work on shit
>tfw con stress dreams but still no motivation

I'm just so frustrated. I know getting things done will help how I'm feeling a lot but I can't get my brain working. What do you guys do to get yourself motivated? Any movies or music you put on in the background that seems to help?

>>8990424
Hey anon, do you have friends who you go with or who are making their own cosplays? I find that nothing motivates me more than talking to my friends about their progress.

Buuut it sounds like you may need some professional help to manage your depression. Hope you have a fun time at your con regardless of the state of your cosplay!

Do you ever just mute people on lolita FB groups because you get tired of them making up bullshit excuses for not going to meetups? It's all unsolicited too - this happens every single time an event gets posted onto the group page. No one cares.

>>8989794
If you're okay showing off your tiddies to gross men and can make more money then do it beyotch. Those bills don't pay themselves.

>>8990403
Oh thank you, I agree that they were getting way too riled up about it. She's also been adding some people randomly that never even talked to her (a few being out-of-state friends of mine) so it's like, when you're adding a bunch of people you don't know personally, you can't expect them to treat you nicely. However that wasn't the point of my secret, but she shouldn't treat facebook as some kind of sacred page.

>sell some brand accessories to a girl for a pretty good price
>few weeks later
>she's selling them and asking more than retail and four times the price
Ok have fun with that

>>8990468

I saw a girl in my comm make the lamest/fucking weirdest excuse ever

She said she would go and then the night before "Ohhhh sorry I drank tea late at night and couldn't sleep from the caffeine" or something. It wasn't like you drank a coffee or something, also why make such a bad decision. I didn't care that she didn't come but jesus christ just saw you aren't feeling well or something

Also would love to hear other excuses people have heard

>>8989800
Gotta do something to stop my petti from deflating

>>8990424
This is what stitch 'n bitches are for.

>>8990796
I don't mind when people cancel on the event page EXCEPT when they do it at the last minute and end up not paying for a place that someone else now has to pay for... Thankfully my comm started charging people in advance. People can be so goddamn rude and would make the comm leaders pocket the cost.

Also tea can have quite a bit of caffeine depending on what kind you get. I drink either coffee or English breakfast tea to keep myself alert throughout the day.

>>8990424
Have you considered therapy or medication for your depression? You know it's there already, but have you taken steps to try treating it?

This isn't just a matter of motivation, or even a matter of self-discipline. If you're depressed and having trouble getting out of bed, you need to seek help for more than just your cosplay hobby, anon.

Hope you start feeling better soon, regardless of what steps you choose to take.

>5'10".
>66cm waist. This is good for jfashion!
>95cm bust, This is bad for jfashion.

All I want are cute cardigans and blouses, jesus christ. How do actual fatties do it?

>>8990984
Shirring and stretched out knits. Though as a fellow 5'10-er, I wonder how you're more bothered by width than length.

>>8991005
If you're tall, greater width means an even shorter bodice. Bust height on lolita items is fairly small to begin with (which is why people use the buttons trick with IW to make things fit better even if they're of average height), but adding a greater bust to the measurement means that you've got less space to work with.

TL;DR: Height sucks and shortens bodices, but so do boobs.

>>8990372
>frilly clothes, big guns and boats
Anon are you me? We have the same damn hobbies. I'm going chair force national guard though so I guess replace boats with planes.

>>8990796
I once drank a cup of this chai I got at night and didn't realize it had caffeine until too late. I was up til the sun rose, it was horrible.

>post new cosplay picture
> >250 likes
>only 3 comments

why
why

dammit my dream dress is on lace market, a limited taobao release and i don't really have a ton of money to throw around... besides, my parents give me shit for spending my own money on expensive dresses which is understandable, but i'm an adult who doesn't live with them. i get financial support for like health insurance. if I make my money with a job I should be able to spend it on garbage, and if i hate it lesson learned and it'll resell

>>8991038
This is probably bad, indulgent advice, but: if it's your dream dress, a good price, and you can afford it, buy it and promise yourself not to buy dresses unless you absolutely know you plan to own it in the future (no "this is cute and a good deal!" sort of thing).

If it's not really a dream piece/not a good price, that's good for you since you won't regret waiting for it to come up again.

My advice is probably shit, but it's because I regret missing out opportunities to buy dream dresses. I had spent the money on "bargain" dresses and then when my dream dresses came up, I HAD the money but felt guilty. If I could redo it a little better, I would've brought my dream dresses (since I haven't seen them again for such good prices). If I could redo it perfectly, I wouldn't have wasted my money on dresses I just "liked" when I was low on cash and would've reserved it for good stuff.

I recently did a lemonade cleanse to get my diet back on track, but I'm falling back into old eating disorder habits (skipping meals sometimes all day, purging, obsessive thoughts) alarmingly rapidly. I really hate this, but after years of eating and being a healthy weight, if a little chubby at times, it feels so natural and easy and right to go back to restricting. I'm ten pounds lighter than I was a month ago, and I don't want to stop any time soon. I just keep thinking of how good I'm going to look in cosplay and lolita, especially lolita. But I know all of this is wrong and don't know what to do. I've never relapsed this hard.

>>8990372
>>8991028
Same feels for me. I'm a lolita getting enrolled in the navy pretty soon.

>>8991005
>>8991009
Lolita is probably the most accommodating, honestly. I'm looking more at larme/creepy cute/otome stuff, which I don't mind being a bit short, but the busts often max out at like 80cm flat.

>grown ass man
>square face
>hairy
>6'0 beefcake
>will never be able to do qt trap cosplays

It hurts /cgl/

>hate when people with the wrong skin color cosplay something
>feel ashamed that my first cosplay is gonna be like this

Why couldnt I just be a light skinned beaner, I just HAD to be tan.

My mom and my little brother are light skinned, my mom and I are short but my dad and brother are tall

I really got the short end of the stick huh?

I bought some new boots recently and they are giving me a blister in the same place on each foot. The one on the right foot isn't too bad but the one on the left hurts sooo much and is a lot bigger. They're military boots that I bought because I keep tearing up those women's fashion boots and I thought they'd be more durable plus I needed some military boots anyways because I'm going to a weekend long airsoft game with my boyfriend in a few weeks. I'm trying to break them in so that maybe this will stop happening so my feet won't hurt during the game but fuuuck it hurts. I should just stop wearing them for a little while and let my feet heal shouldn't I? But I'm also scared that it'll just happen again. I just want to be able to wear boots daily without tearing up my feet god damn it!

and for my cgl related fee:
>summer break starts next week
>summer means I get to work lots
>working lots means more money
>more money means more brand
awwww yiss maybe that cute sailor dress will still be in stock on Meta's website when I get my first paycheck! Pic related. I need it in khaki but am too damn broke right now and am too attached to all my dresses to sell any for it.

>>8991124
i feel you anon, i'm pale but when i tan i turn gold instead of brown so it doesn't really work.

just do what i do and adjust the colors in your cosplay, wig and fabrics, to look better with your skin. i usually have to make mine darker because bright colors look awful against my skin and wash me out to hell and back.

>going to con with friend
>has a stupid af boyfriend don't even know why they're still together
>friend and I are rooming with other people at hotel
>no more room left in hotel room
>her boyfriend decides he wants to go
>if he goes then I can't afford to go because he'll be getting his own hotel room and take her with him
>if he goes he'll suck up all the fun by causing constant drama
>friend doesn't just straight up say 'hey, I already made plans and we don't have room for you and these people are already counting on me to go'
>annoyed with friend for being so fucking passive
>annoyed with her boyfriend for being a drama queen

>>8991135
im going as sebastian from black butler so Ill still look nice but its just the principle of it

I feel like a dirty hypocrite

>>8989858
> just get a gym membership or something honestly.
Exactly the way I met him.

>>8990941
>>8990434
Thank you guys for the well-wishes! I do actually take medication and I see a counselor but lately it's just been a lot worse. Not really sure why. My next appointment is next week and I'm honestly just trying to pull through. Usually cosplay keeps my brain occupied but yeah. It's just not doing me good right now.

But yeah I took >>8990434 and >>8990932 's advice and messaged a friend or two that had been talking about doing a cosplay-day with me so I've made some progress there. Thanks for the tip and I hope progress combined with some social interaction will lighten my mood!

>when someone you know makes a cosplay tinychat but no one's ever in there

>>8991151
Now you know why it's difficult and you learned, though, yeah? It's easier to criticize without actually having to find a character with your skin color if you're some shade of brown.

to contribute
>in a cosplay comm
>one girl and I are friendquaintances, she's chill
>I try to hang out with her outside of cosplay meets since we live nearby and I'm trying to find girl friends to do shit like shop and get our nails done
>"Yeah totally anon!"
>but actual attempts to plan a day are either ignored or last minute cancellations
>I'm chill though, don't mind, befriend other comm members who are down to hang out outside of meets
>suddenly she becomes a pariah and is kicked out
>posts "Hey anyone want to see Zootopia with me?"
>all her friends were cosplay comm members, so only a couple of likes and no actual requests after half a day
>it's embarrassing, honestly
>feel pity, offer to go with her- haven't seen it anyway
>"Sure! I'll hit you up!"
>but then no follow-up

I feel ridiculous for even pity-offering. Be lonely.

>>8991061
Fight it. Take care of yourself.

>>8991138
I think you need to give it to your friend straight. She needs to know that if she rooms with her bf, then you won't be there on top of the other people in the room because of prices and that she will be the one to tell them that, not you. Her boyfriend is being an asshole, just be mean back.

>>8991061
Shit Anon. Are you me? I'm relapsing hard right now too. Do you work out at all? Lately I've gotten into the gym and it's easier to convince myself to intake calories if I'm consistently burning them. Using a calorie counting app helps me force myself into getting meals. And it reminds me that I'm eating to get /fit/. Imb not sure if it will help your intrusive thoughts, but it dulled mine down a little.

In any case, like the other anon said, please keep fighting. You are strong just by knowing it's a problem, which means you can beat it.

>>8990131
I have deep-set eyes. Be careful, anon, I recently tried wearing more eye makeup and looked like a ghoul in my photos. Keep it light colored and on the lid to have a nice look
>>8990119
They should do a half and half cosplay of a popular ship like people do half and half sewn together sports jerseys

>little sister is a lonelita
>want her to make lolita friends
>"no, oniichan. i just fly solo."

How do I help her help herself?

>bidding on mbok
>ask SS to bid in minimum amounts so that my max bid isn't reached
>SS does the exact opposite of what I ask and throws the full amount up
>I was the only bidder
>nigga why
You asked for the maximum I was willing to pay and I gave it. Don't double the starting price for no fucking reason then message me asking for more if I happen to get outbid. This is the second time this has happened to me. Is this a common practice?

>>8991038
Buy it and sell something else.

>>8989971
Is farting fun?

>>8991348
let her fly solo, she sounds kakoii

>>8991372

No SS is going to micromanage your bids, friend. If you were the only bidder, you got the item at the starting price, right?

>>8990384
>ship all the umma grants away
>America is now empty. The ponys and bunny snow have their country back.

>>8991398
My mistake, it was YJA and I did end up paying the max bid. The very first SS I used was courteous enough to bid just the minimum amount at a time, but they sort of faded out of existence and I assumed every other SS would do the same.

>>8991394
But why be lolita without loli-pals?

>>8991423
Because if /cgl/ has taught me anything, it's that I need to assume every other Lolita in existence wants to rip my face off and wear it while pretending to be me. I really don't want to deal with that, and your sister is smart to not want to deal with that either.

>>8991425
Well.... My sister is still pretty ita, and I was hoping some bigger lols would help her ass.

>>8991426
They will tear her apart. Hasn't this place taught you anything? Lolita's are ruthless bitches by nature.

>>8991138
I'm worried this will be my near future, as one of the 'other roomies'
I don't know, we'll be meeting with my friend's friend whom I do not know and her protective boyfriend.
Any word on what clue ins I should be looking for to avoid drama?

>>8991381
Go away, you fetishist.

>>8991429
How do I save her? Do I need to learn how to lolita? Can I send her to lolita school?

>>8991434
Slap her upside the head with your genitals and direct her to somewhere that has actually decent advice for lolita. I wouldn't send her here because she too will turn into a sour cunt the moment the page loads, but find a blog with good pointers.

>>8991372
was this CT?

>>8991421

Check the auction to see if there was reserve or BIN price set, as you shouldn't be paying that much otherwise.

>have a REALLY shitty last two years
>no cosplay, barely any new anime in this time period, feel too much like subhuman garbage to enjoy anything for long
>last con I staffed I felt like a third wheel to my whole department
>digestive problems I thought were my shitty diet don't go away when I start eating better
>AX coming up and I'm meeting friends for the first time, muster the guts to cosplay again regardless of how I look because fuck it, I want to have fun
>pick up a needle and thread for the first time in almost two years to start on something easy, only for hand pain to suddenly be a thing

At least I lost four inches off my waist I guess...

>>8991458
Are you me? I can't art anymore to save my life.

I've been extra sad because my dad went to prison in 2010. He may get out in 2021 if he's still alive.

>really like this guy who goes to local cons
>waifu him in my head
>add him on Fb
>find out he promiscuous af

Why do the hot guys just want hoes?

>decides to take a lot of distance from an old friend because I can't handle the way she treats me anymore
>apparently it was the catalyst the lolita comm and other old friends in common had been waiting for because they were fed up as well
>girl is basically about to get thrown out of the comm because of her attitude
>old friends are considering having an intervention about that girl's narcissistic behaviour
>she believes everything is my fault and is now trying to trash me in other cities' comms.
>mfw all I wanted was to finally feel good about myself without a so-called friend bringing me down

>A cosplayer I know posts a sayatme link on her personal twitter and bumps it for like thousand times begging for more anonymous comments on her
>Well I guess I could leave a comment if she really wants it so bad
>I've been really annoyed by the fact she complains so much on her twitter like "I'm too fat, I'll never cosplay again", "I'm so ugly there's no point of me cosplaying" and also non-cosplay related stuff like complaining about how she don't have friends (which is not true, she just traveled to meet her friends)
>Even after me being annoyed I don't want to be rude even on a anon comment so I leave really nice comment in my opinion. Something like "I really like your cosplays and you seem really nice person. But I feel like complaining a lot and it's complaining on a twitter is not a best way to make yourself feel better. If you really feel bad you should ask for help from a professional or from your friends. I hope your ok."
>Her friends see this comment and start to rage about how someone was mean to her
>What?? I wasn't mean?
>Her frends leave comments like "what's your problem, just unfollow her instead of trying to change her!!! She can write what she wants, go away!!!"
>The person I left the comment starts to complain even ten times more and tweets that "i'm so sorry for being a burden", "This comment proves everyone hates me", "I can't even sleep after that mean anon"
>I'm confused but leave another anon comment telling that I just tried to give advice about looking for help and that I've been depressed myself when I was younger and that's why I think professional help is important if you actually have issues
>That changes nothing, they're just mad that I don't leave her alone.
>mfw your too tired to care anymore, i'll just let her be miserable if that's what she wants... What a waste of my time.

>>8990288
Did you actually read the post tho, it's a reference to music anon sarcastically

>>8991061
It's ok to relapse. But you gotta want the change. Ok pros of the situation, you lose weight and feel better about how u look. But there are probably a lot more cons. Maybe contact a group therapy session near you, something like 1 or 2 times a week?

>>8991377
I totally would but I'm kinda new. I'm making some staple pieces like plain color jsks etc myself, but this is a cool print. I think I'm gonna have to pass until I'm more invested in the fashion.

>>8991537
Anyone who complains about being fat or ugly on a social media with their real name/pictures just wants fucking attention. They want people to say "noo u r so pretty"
Just tell em to fuck off.

>>8991583
In all honesty, no. I'm so used to her shitting up each thread as soon as i see "mfw lolitas who music"
I scroll past.
I went back to read it and got a chuckle, so I take back some of my saltiness.

>>8991348
Don't immediately assume she needs help.
>>8991394
It's a fashion, making friends or joining a comm isn't necessary to be able to wear the clothes. She can wear it on her own if she wants.
>>8991425
>>8991429
There are plenty of sources online with tons of information about the fashion, for beginners and otherwise. Give her links to http://thelolitaguidebook.tumblr.com/ and F Yeah Lolita's beginner guides and leave her be. She doesn't need a lolita senpai to be better at the fashion, she can learn how to lolita on her own. Other than that, you can suggest she joins the local comm (if there is one) but if she prefers to be on her own, leave her to it.

>>8991691
Crap, meant to quote >>8991423 >>8991426 and >>8991434

>>8990375
It works for Mexico, They decided to build one between them and Guatemala and it keeps them out just fine.

>>8991425
Cgl is a pretty shitty place to learn about the Lolita community, part of why most girls hate it. Girls who are actually willing to go out and interact are more outgoing and nicer than the cgl crowd. Only a very small handful of cringey people attend meets, in my experience- and I mean unbearable personalities. If your comm leader is smart they'll kick them out though. The megabitch lolitas stay at home hiding behind anonymity, or they try to join and their drama mongering is quickly rooted out.

>>8991473
I think the issue is why you're attracted to a man who is a hoe.

>>8991723
A man who tills earth to prepare for a garden? Mmm

>little sister comes out to our mom, is immediately told she's a disappointment and that she's too pretty to be a nasty bulldyke
>meanwhile she likes to put me on a pedestal as her only successful child because I've moved out, have a job, and routinely churn out attractive costumes
>now I have a secret ace in the hole that will burn her self-absorbed pride and bullshit to the ground the next time she tries to boast about me
>it's me
>I am the ace in the hole

Technically the aro bi in the hole, but that pun was too good to pass up

>>8991782
Carlossss
Though it wouldn't surprise me if someone so intolerant of gay people doesn't even believe that aromatic/asexuality is a thing and she'll tell you you just haven't found the right man for you yet or whatever.

Slightly related but not really
>bf is kind of a socially awkward dweeb (which I find adorable but YMMV)
>because of this, his parents had invested all their grandbabby hopes in his older sister
>his older sister is super gay and hates children
>when bf and I started dating, they shifted all their hopes and dreams onto me with like 10x the intensity
>"soooo when are you and [bf] planning to start a family, Anon?"
>nice to meet you too

I do want kids at some point but for now my priorities lay with glorious burando. At least when you get tired of brand you can sell it

>>8991797

With my mom there's no "straight and the gays" there's only straight and people with psychological disorders. She thinks all gay men got diddled by their daddies when they were kids, and that all gay women are deranged for not wanting to have sex with men. She honest to god thinks that women turn into lesbians after menopause because they don't have female hormones any more and that makes them not want to have sex with men.

She also believes in extradimensional skinwalkers and thinks aliens built the pyramids though. This woman is a surgeon. I don't trust her to stock a refrigerator.

>>8991825
Oh yikes. I'm sorry about your nutty mom, anon.

>>8991782
>>8991797
I'm with you both with these family feels. My mom's somewhat similar in some ways:
>accepted my brother's transgender identity fairly quickly, becomes involved in parents of trans kids groups and talks about issues, so proud of her queer kid
>meanwhile rejects me identifying as bisexual as "that's not a real thing" and rolls her eyes and changes the subject any time bisexuality is mentioned
>puts all of her expectations for grandchildren on me despite me having said consistently from a young age that I don't want kids
>after 10+ years, a few months ago she told me she may have a new perspective about bisexuality and she also seems to have stopped talking about me having kids thank god
>HOWEVER long term boyfriends parents don't know about my sexuality (would try to split us up or possibly disown him if they found out) and frequently ask when we'll be having kids

Some things can surprise you and change, others are endless frustration. Good luck to you both, especially you with your skinwalker alien madre.

>>8991537
lol who?

>>8991462
>art
That's gone stagnant for me too, which is great for projects I can't seem to get going. I can't seem to get any writing out either and I feel super guilty for splurging on two new books to read. I think it's been almost a decade since I actually picked up a book, much less finished one.

>>8991588
You can't just want the end result, everyone wants the end results. You have to want the struggle just as much.