/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

My friend just moved to Atlanta, where all the weeaboo and con shit is.

I wish I could afford to go. But the crime rate is so high, I'd probably get raped immediately.

>>9314672
very few neighborhoods in ATL are bad, the rest are gentrified to shit, making all the poor people move in near and in the section 8 housing, which is coincidentally the bad areas.
You should definitely try for Dragoncon, it's a unique experience.

Last thread got axed because that r9kanon came in talking about raping people, I'd be willing to bet.

>>9314672

As a person that lives in the metro-ATL area, and owns a rental property in ATL proper..

Atlanta is like every other big city in America, you have the bad areas, you have the good areas.

In terms of large cities, it's probably the cheapest big city to live in a decent area.

Most people don't live within Atlanta proper though. There are plenty of really nice suburbs that surround Atlanta.

I love the con scene here though, three big cons a year. Momocon, Dragoncon, AWA.

>>9314812

Compared to philly how cheap would it be to live in at atlanta, like in a place simaler to center city because i really want to live in an apartment in the city.

>>9314797

Whats dragoncon like?

>>9314797
I cursed someone with salt, but that alone hopefully didn't have anything to do with it. My feel right now is nostalgia over Koakuma Ageha threads. I got really lazy though, and there's no way I'd put that much effort into my appearance again. I think I'm in a rut. I use to love doing my hair, nails, and makeup. I still fix my hair even laying around the house everyday, but my makeup and nails have gone by the wayside. I only wear menhera/yamikawaii now, and I think I need to step up my game again. How I went from gyaru to menhera/yamikawaii? I don't really know.

>>9314797
I cursed someone with salt, but that alone hopefully didn't have anything to do with it. My feel right now is nostalgia over Koakuma Ageha scans. I got really lazy though, and there's no way I'd put that much effort into my appearance again. I think I'm in a rut. I use to love doing my hair, nails, and makeup. I still fix my hair even laying around the house everyday, but my makeup and nails have gone by the wayside. I only wear menhera/yamikawaii now, and I think I need to step up my game again. How I went from gyaru to menhera/yamikawaii? I don't really know.

I forgot to add in the part about the 5 years of 'poorfag' style that went in-between the gyaru to yamikawaii/menhera transition.

My understanding is that some of you have severe autism. How would I best approach you if you cosplay and I'd like to take a picture with you? I've only ever been to a single con before, most cosplayers were social enough but a few touhou ones barely made a sound.

Basically, how do I not scare autists at cons?

>>9314854
I don't think that counts as a 'feel' anon.

Plus, it's far too late to get a good response. The skeleton crew and international peeps are the only anons online right now.

Also, there may be a good reason they didn't make a sound, and I'm laughing.

>>9314861
Hey, it felt bad feeling like I forced some socially awkward cosplayer to communicate with another human being.

Feels bad being a yuro at work, didn't think about the timezones and shit.

>>9314641
My FWB and I started to get serious and planned to go to a con together, just before christmas she started getting distant about it and told me she wants to get back with her abusive (physical and mental) ex.

We split from it all and don't really talk, he's still the same but she can't leave him.

Feel used.

>>9314854

Not for autistic people but more as a person with extreme stuttering problems it really helps if your being patient as every second i speak is literally a workout. You dont know how lucky you are

>>9314867
I was hoping that you were making a clever joke; that's why I laughed. The majority of Touhou Project cosplayers are crossdressers. They are men. There aren't a lot of women playing bullet hell games featuring little girls that kick ass for some reason.

>>9314833
I'm going for my first time this year, so this is all stuff I've read, researched, and gathered over the past 2-3 years.

>45k~ attendance
>adult oriented, 4-5 day convention
>notorious night life
>adult oriented
>not big on the whole SJW stuff (yet)
>biggest con asides from NYCC who are actually dress code nazis and hate props and fun

It's the biggest one you'll find on the east coast, it's as big as Ohayocon + ACEN combined.
If you are a partygoing person, this is definitely the convention to hit up. If you aren't, you should still go. There's just so much to do.

>>9314870
It's pretty difficult when they literally don't speak at all. Am I supposed to speak my native language or assume that they are one of the few English cosplayers?

>>9314871
Uh yeah, most of the pictures I snapped were with crossdressers. One of them was most likely under 12 and cosplayed Tewi.

>>9314883
I don't think you understand exactly what I am saying. It's because they are a man that they are not speaking at all. It isn't because they are 'shy'. There's a lot of people who will not speak when dressed as the opposite sex because it breaks the illusion.
>>9314881
I think it's important to point out that Dragoncon is not strictly an anime convention in the way that Ohayocon and ACEN cater to.

>>9314833

Depends on what you're okay with, you can find really luxurious nice, 1bedrooms for under 2k in the city center. You can also find other really nice living situations for under 1k/month if you look enough and are okay with roommates. Atlanta as a whole is definitely cheaper than Philly.

>>9314881
What this guy said.

I'm a pretty boring dude, I don't drink/party at all really, but Dragoncon is the best. It has such a great atmosphere. Cosplay is out of this world.

It spans across like 5 hotels, (3 of which are directly connected), 24/7 from Thursday night to Monday 6PM.

>>9314885
Yeah not many anime related panels at Dragoncon. Plenty of mainstream stuff, (DBZ, Naruto, etc..) but aside from that it can be a bit scattered.

Dragoncon is where you get a lot more joke cosplays than most cons, but also a lot of western media/video games. There are still a lot of anime cosplayers, but they just make up a really small % comparatively to an anime convention.

>>9314833
I'm not familiar with Philly's rent situation, but it really just depends on where you want to live in Atlanta.

If you go with bigger apartment complexes and "nicer" areas, they're typically over $1k. I lived in Westside for a few years and paid out the ass for a 1 bedroom (like $1300-$1400, it was a brand new complex). I also lived in Vinings and paid a little under $1k. I'm picky af about apartments though. A friend of mine also finds good deals on CL though, and she typically lives near EAV.

>Moved to dream city
>Foreigner life, bretty cool at first
>Soon get sick of only having normie friends--literally the only thing we have in common is that we are expats
>Kinda sorta make some online friends but they're all 3+ hours away by bus or train
>Desperately want to meet up in my own damn city but the comm is inactive and riddled with cosplayers/various "alt fashion" disasters

I didn't think I'd miss home but I miss being a part of a cute, fun comm. Being kawaii alone is suffering.

>>9314908
I feel this. All my expat friends are big guys with no sense of style. I met this nice girl who seemed interested in dressing in lolita with me and then she referred to it as cosplay. I still go out in lolita on my own, but it would be nice to have cute girl friends to hang out with (and maybe go to metal bars with me because I'd like that too).

>>9314921
4u

Going to be more off-topic, sorry about that. Stress has been building up and I just want a place to vent.

>Living postgrad life
>Working commission jobs from home
>Constant stress since can't figure out how to separate relaxation from work since it's all in the same space
>Probably depressed as shit since I never leave home
>Can't get full-time since shit at marketing myself and no reliable transportation near me
>Feel like my skills are deteriorating since commission work isn't challenging and too burnt out from school and work to push myself while trying to pay off student loans
>Parents in home country want me to visit them and relax
>Feel like the decision to go or stay is going to be a turning point in my life
I can think of positives of going: cheaper living quality, more accessible places/transportation, could probably even find artists I look up to online and actually take their physical classes, go sightseeing, and gain some life experience (home country is in east asia so there would be a bigger fashion/art/craft/hobby scene that I'm more comfortable with). At the same time, going feels like I'm running away with tail between my legs and can't grow up and be independent; there's a fear that I'll stagnate and be "stuck" there even though I'm not as familiar with the language and culture. And all the positives are overwhelmingly optimistic considering I could possibly be still stuck in the house and doing commission work except in a different country (or what if I somehow become worse). I don't know what to do and I feel lost and stuck in all options.

Sorry for the tl;dr

>tfw pic related are destroying cons and cosplayers credibility
Seriously tho because of girls like that cons are full of normies thinking cosplay is a fetish.
Literally attention whores have destroy the only single thing we live for giving cosplayers a bad name. When will this trend end. As a neckbeard I feel sad that future otakus/cosplayers won't experience the golden age that it once were.

>>9314931
That's just plain disturbing. She's a pretty girl which makes it worse. She don't need to be doing that.

>>9314936
>tfw she is actually a hardcore porn actress who enjoys anime
Don't waste your tears mah friend, she is already lost to the dark side.

>be at con
>balls are sweaty
>need to visit a man about a horse (have to pee)
>sees man bathroom sign
>walks in
>see a bunch of girls dressed as man
>makes eye contact
>walk out
>sees man bathroom sign
>pokes head in and out again
>sees above the man's signs a weird third human sign looked like the ayys have visited
>though it was a Co ed bathroom like in college
>head in and out again those girls don't look normal, looks like hrt or whatever hormone has messed them up
>sees an old man outside also confused
>finally realise it was a transgender bathroom hahaha
>mfw super akward
Feel bad for them because none of them look passable

>>9314931
>muh golden age
you sound insufferable

>>9314961
>Dat prejudgment of character
I'm not I am just passionate, and want people feel the wonders that I have once felt. Like people forcing they kids to play old consoles.

>>9314871
My impression was that there aren't a lot of Touhou fans playing bullet hell games, either.

>>9314970
>no one is this embarassing

>>9314929
>And all the positives are overwhelmingly optimistic considering I could possibly be still stuck in the house and doing commission work except in a different country (or what if I somehow become worse).
At least your living costs would be cheaper and you'd (maybe) have to waste less time cooking for yourself since your family would be making a lot of the meals.

>>9314641
Kneesocks a best
All others a shit

>>9314797
>>9314812
Thanks, guys.

Now if only I could afford to move.

>>9314949
>a transgender bathroom

That's a thing over there?

Tfw make my first cosplay completely from scratch. It looks decent, but since it's not professional standards I'm afraid to be seen in it.
I wish I could magically get gud and pass by the "shitty, but learning" phase.

>>9315130
you will be okay. people, if they recognize your character, will be excited to see you. you will have a reason to talk to others. if you see someone with a similar but better cosplay, you can (WITHOUT SOUNDING LIKE YOU PITY YOURSELF) hit them up for tips.

at the convention, no one cares if you do not look perfect. just, if you post pics online, there is a very slim chance you may be nitpicked. i have very mediocre cosplay skills, have still had my pic taken by fans, and have never ended up in a thread here.

>Went to Japan over the New Year holiday with a huge group of friends
>The only thing I REALLY wanted to do was go shopping (especially closet child, brand stores, axes femme, etc)
>Only got about 45 minutes on one day to do any shopping.
The trip was amazing and I had a great time, but I was super disappointed that the one thing I wanted to do didn't happen. Guess I'll have to go back!

>>9315129
They always dedicate a pair of bathrooms to non-binary people.

Cons have a lot of Tumblr kids, after all.

I was looking at hentai today and my nose started bleeding. I felt so anime!

my taobao shipping fees are so fucking much i don't know wether to cry and give them my money or cancel it and hope they refund me and return the items. i'm so torn.
it's just so fucking expensive it's not even worth it at this point, whats the point in buying the same pairs of shoes for 30 bucks instead of 80 if youre going to pay 50 bucks of shipping for them anyways?

the shipping is going to be 90-270$, not quite sure yet so i think i might just let it go, unless i man up and just tell myself that's it worth it. i make some of my own cosplays but i want to buy some too to have nice, more intricate characters to dress up as, but this shipping fee is fucking me up the ass and idk, 200 dollars is a lot for me, even though it's only 2 weeks of work at most.. ehh

>too weeb to be normie
>too normie to be weeb
How do i find the right middle? I know the "secret", be yourself, be genuine, but i want to get into interactions and activities from both worlds.

>>9315380
Should have calculated shipping before committing to buy. Get it over with and just remember this lesson for next time. Not worth being blacklisted because you were retarded with your money.

>>9315383
Don't be a poser, just watch some stuff from the latest season and enjoy whatever the fuck you want to enjoy.

>get elbowed in the boob during tea
>comm president sees me clutching my chest
>thinks I'm having a heart attack
>makes a huge fucking scene
>everybody staring

>mfw I'm forced to sheepishly admit what actually happened

>>9315380
It's 90-270$ to ship a single pair of shoes? Or is the consolidation price that's killing you? If your buying a bunch of things then that's not an unrealistic shipping price. When I add together the cost of items I've shipped over the past year domestically from different sellers/orders, the shipping amount already comes to just shy of 120$. It may not be unrealistic. Good international shipping like EMS is already 20 dollars for just a single 1-2 pound package.

>>9315393
But now you are remembering this with smile?
>>9315365
Stay hydrated.
>>9315130
Try walking in it at home for a hour. It's not only about looks.
>>9314929
You should visit parents and take a break off work. If you can get some experience or connections - go for it!

>>9315388

i did, and it didnt come out at 230. i can commit to 100$, but it's still a good chunk of money. i don't think ill order from taobao anymore though, i've learned that even if shit is more expensive on mainstream sites it's still worth more simply due to free shipping and no fees.

but you're right, learned my lesson, it's just a bummer is all

>>9315422

nvm i feel so dumb now, they just confused me because there was two different prices listed. it only ended up being 92 dollars (which is still a pretty penny but still a lot better).
i'm a bit new to shopping services. haha i feel embarrassed oh well, i'm on anon at least

>want new camera lens for next con
>decide to sell some shit to pay for half the price
>buyer wins my auction on ebay last friday for $900
>contacted him twice after the auction was over
>no response
>4 days later he still hasn't paid up
What the fuck are you doing nigga just give me my money so we can end this already. Fuck.

>>9315296
>non binery
When will that trant end
Most girls used to be cute until they got binary brain wash
>tfw every girl you meet at con wants to rape you with a strap on

>>9314931
>implying that the 'golden age' of cosplay existed

>>9315457
Sorry to tell you newfag that you have miss it.

>Year after year, friends are constantly talking about how much fun they are having, chatting up girls at cons, being "Alpha", all of that jazz
>I've literally never been given sound advice on how to talk to girls beyond ice breakers and cheesy jokes

I literally do not know what kind of things to say when I want to make it clear I'm flirting and want to push things to the next level. I'm not talking about very close intimate friendships, because I know how to behave when I see a girl as good friend material. I just do not know what to say when I want to make it obvious that I'm interested in fling/sexual shit here and now. It's not even a matter of confidence, which makes it worse. Just pure lack of understanding.

>>9315458
I've been going to cons for over a decade. The great-to-shitty ratio hasn't changed, as far as I can tell.

>wearing lolita to Opry Mills Mall
>get on the carousel for bf to take pictures
>mfw some old bitch screams "That's for children!"

>>9315482
Creepy af

>>9315530
>opry mills mall
Ayyyy Tennessee fag here
That mall is almost 100% shit and ghetto now as with the rest of tenesee

>>9315454
I'm in literally the exact same situation right now. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and let Friday slide by, because pay day. I finally opened an unpaid items case because it's been almost a week now and I just want my $400 even if I have to relist. Jfc if you don't have the money to buy something, don't bid.

>>9315458
newfag those aren't even all cosplayers, how tf does that support your argument?

>>9315596
Third TN-fag here!

I work at that mall. There are some shady characters, but overall I don't think it's bad. Then again, I lived in Memphis until last year, so I'm used to things being waayyyy more ghetto.

Bummed because tumblr seems to have decided that Sucy from LWA is Canon POC, so that ruins all my plans of cosplaying her. Even though I love the character, it's not worth the side glances or callouts I'll get for 'whitefacing' or something.

>>9315612
Don't be a goof. You can cosplay any character you want, as long as you don't wear blackface.

>>9315612
if you gave up that easily, you didn't really want to in the first place.

>>9315458
>being this new
honey no

>>9315607
Fourth TN fag reporting in. Although I managed to escape 7 years ago so I don't count anymore. I can confirm some ghetto ass shit though.

I stopped coming to cgl for awhile because it was really just getting to me and overwhelming me. I have no idea why because I'm not particularly thin skinned, I've lurked other 4chan boards long before cgl. I've never posted myself anywhere (like CoF, etc) so I've never been re-posted here and had my fee fees hurt.

I am pretty internet addicted and I started lurking cgl way too much and I think I was too invested. I dunno, anyone else feel like this or am I just a triggered autist

>still dont really come here except for the occasional check in once in awhile

>>9315458
Actually it kind of sucked. Pixyteri and Kipi threads spammed the board daily, most pictures were nothing but hall shots in low lighting, and tripfags argued with one another whilst simultaneously jacking each other off on the regular. There's also the fact you could never actually get a good thread going because it was only a matter of time until the /b/ raided the board leading to a mass deletion of everything.

Stop making it sound so awesome. There was nothing golden about it except maybe when /b/ shared their golden shower collection.

>>9315041
this

>>9315656
Same honestly. I think I come here every blue moon when I'm particularly bored.
>developed a great friend group who are into cosplay
>support and help find resources for each other
>get to tea on shit people with each other

That's basically what I used /cgl/ for.... and I've also just decided that cosplay isn't super important to me anymore either. I'm not super about getting photographed or getting every detail right. I just do it for fun and put as much effort as I feel like putting in now instead of feeling a need to impress at meet ups or making this like a job.

>Car just broke down in a snow storm while driving
>Managed to pull off to a side street before it died because my fucking alternator
>going to take 2 hours before any one can be here to get me
>fuck it turn on my ipod and do some hand sewing on my cosplay I happen to have with me

Fuck everything right now. Im glad I got my external battery for my phone with me.

>>9315701
Stay warm, sewing-anon.

>>9315041
>mfw the new PSG announcement was just a shitty art show and not a new season

Thanks to the last thread I want to write a "coming of age" style novel about a group of friends who grow up together and apart over the span of a few years through an anime convention from 2006-7 until 2012-13.

I want to really make it authentic, what are some absolute necessities to capture the mid-2000's weaboo mood?
I'm talking music, phrases, beliefs, cosplay, etc. I remember a lot of it, but I know i'm missing alot.

>>9315716
The cat-eared girl who meows at the cute guys, and hisses at the uncute ones.

>>9315725

Jesus.

>>9315716
The person who always wore their Hot Topic Naruto forehead protector religiously to class everyday.

>>9315703
God damn it, you and everyone else on my fucking Facebook.
Gainax said the maid cafe was the FIRST STEP.

>>9315716
Aww this sounds so cute. Free hugs signs, "smexy", maybe vocaloid music...

>>9315716

The rise of Homestuck fits in there nicely.

>>9315612
>Sucy from LWA is Canon POC
I'm confused

>>9315716
Fucking caramel dansen

>>9315703
Thank you anon I have been.

I lucked out and a nice person stopped and gave me a lift to a near by bar. And my pick up should be here soon.

on the plus side, got a good chunk of hand sewing done.

>>9315716
Hare Hare Yukai dance
The Game
Dance Dance Revolution
Free Hugs signs
eye eye eye i'm a little butterfly
Yu-Gi-Oh Abridged, Dragonball Abridged
Naruto, Bleach at their heights or popularity
Crunchyroll doing a pivot from the biggest illegal fansub streaming site to the biggest legal licensed streaming site to the advent of simulcasts. It mirrored Tokyopop's rise in manga 5 years earlier.
Youtube before Pewdiepie
Fansubs on youtube and google video
Decline of video rooms in conventions first from bittorrent, then from streaming sites
Rise of Homestuck, MLP, other non-anime content
EVERYONE carries around a Nintendo DS with Pokemon or Mario Kart
Ace Attorney's OBJECTION
Gurren Lagann everywhere
CARD GAMES ON MOTORCYCLES
Lucky Star dance. In fact, moe in general. Moeshit anime was pretty much everywhere in mid to late 2000s
Most phone cameras sucked compared even to basic point and shoot digital cameras. Also, no front cameras so NO SELFIE CULTURE YET

>>9315612
>>9315734
She's filipino, it's canon.
Lotte is from finland by the way.

>>9315763
This gave me some fucking nostalgia feels right in the kokoro

>>9315764
huh

>>9315763
>>9315738
>>9315732
>>9315728

Fuck this is great. Thank you guys.

Also now i'll have Caramel dansen stuck in my head all week, fuck you.

>>9315764
Okay, so she's Filipino. Cool. I hope she lets some slang slip out if she ever gets cutely flustered.
>>9315612
Why reduce her identity to "brown" and erase her cultural heritage with the racist term "person of color"?

>>9315716
Chatroom roleplay.

>>9315716
The shift of social media platforms, from LJ to tumblr, etc

>>9315775
Habbo Hotel
Second Life getting talked up as some great new internet economy based entirely around virtual Etsy and renting virtual land where people just decorated their own Playstation Home-ish hovels
Wikipedia before entrenched PC cliques
Cybersex being a common word

Nobody can buy a Nintendo Wii for years
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IH2w2l1JTs4
Kaz Hirai's $599 US DOLLARS. Remember Ridge Racer? RIIIIDGE RACER! Giant ENEMY CRAB

Inuyasha at its peak.
Chobits still a popular sexified cosplay.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fx4agyqIIbs
>10 years. 30 views.

>tfw you would love to write/perform some lolita inspired songs with underlying dark themes based on your experiences
>tfw you'd probably get called a Melanie Martinez ripoff

Should I go for it, gulls, or is it pointless?

>>9315612
She's pale as fuck though.

Did Amazon always have this much weeaboo stuff? I'm becoming a shopaholic, and it's spooky.

>>9315800
Do it!

Okay gulls, I've gotten about a page written so far.
I'm framing it in the present (2014) and the flashbacks will be across three different conventions in 2006, 2008, and 2012.

I feel like that's enough to kind of show how radically things change. Any more suggestions?

>>9315818
>framing it in the present (2014)
that is 3 years ago. for reference, you consider the 2 years between 2006 and 2008 to have enough change that it is worth including flashbacks about each. why don't you write about the ACTUAL present? do you think nothing has changed since 2014?

>>9315819

Ah true, didn't even think of that. Fuck I keep thinking it's only 2016. Thank you.

>>9315804
Not all flips are brown.

>>9315819
>do you think nothing has changed since 2014?
My sister was still alive.

I sometimes wonder if my personality is too fake, like I'm very aware that if I truly act like myself most people won't like me. I wonder if I'm the only one.

>>9314672
I'm more worried about Birmingham in 2 weeks over Atl. In atl you can see where the good parts of town in. In bham it's everwhere like gas seeping up from the sewers.

>>9315807
Amazon learns what you like and offers you more of it.
My amazon knows that when I search lolita i'm talking historical bloomers, not the book.

>>9315657
>tfw never gonna see the age of golden shower collection

>>9315846
you are not. it keeps me from retaining friends or cross-pollinating them.

>>9315846
>hasn't taking psychology yet
Go to college take it, you're welcome now you understand you and youself more and why you act differently around other people.
>tfw when to intellectual to have friends
>tfw when lonely robot

>In Tokyo for comiket
>Browsing Don Quijote in Akihabara before the first day of comiket
>Find a Shimakaze costume set for 5000 yen, which is awesome since the dollar is stronger
>Don't buy it because I'm not sure if I want to cosplay as Shimakaze
>Come back to that store after comiket
>All shimakaze costumes are sold out

damn people buying costumes before the con

>Just got broken up with
>Drowning my sorrows in weeb stuff
>0 friends
>being a weeb I feel dirty about and try to hide it no matter what
I want to go to a con, but I feel really embarrassed about being a weeb. I had a plan to go with the person that broke up to me and we'd to a couple cosplay that hides my face so im not too autistic but that fell though the cracks now. Now i just am throwing money at my hobbies hoping to make myself feel better.

>>9315895
pick up a project, nothing takes your mind off of a bad breakup like doing something you enjoy. You could try working on a new costume?

How do I get a bf?

>>9315927
Put yourself out there, and actually try to meet people.
>>>/adv/

>>9315807
It's all taobao just go on aliex

>>9315881
>tfw I'm working on my PhD
>tfw have no problem making friends at all
>tfw people act like they're an enlightened god because they took a college course once

>>9315994
>PhD in woman studies
>praise kek because I haven't laugh this much in years
>tfw to intellectual to belive a person that has friends and is working on a PhD visits a autistic site like this

>>9315994
>no problem making friends
>be woman
A woman specialy during con week can never feel the loneliness a neckbeard can feel

>>9316006
It doesn't matter how ugly you are, if you put enough effort into a costume and it looks good, women will come up to you and talk. Conventions are one of the few places where you can be someone other than yourself, so be good looking.
>t. neckbeard

>>9315846
Actually a problem for me. I spent way too long hopping between social groups and throwing up personas to fit in so now I'm basically a shallow little man with no concrete identity.

Feels bad.

>>9316006
>none of my guy friends educated at this level have any issues making friends either
>many of them are otaku ass neckbeards
>we all party at cons like the rest of the crowd
dude, you're just an uppity cunt. stop acting like you are ~so alone~ because you've ~seen the light~ and someone might want to talk to you

>>9316004
>to intellectual>>9316006

Econ actually, but thanks for playing

>>9316004
>to intellectual
Econ actually, but thanks for playing

>>9316071
are you a socialist

There is nothing that makes you want to lose 10 more pounds like getting new dresses in the mail.

>>9316311
here, here. except typically I want to loose ten pounds plus relocate my arms, shrink two inches and completely remove my boobs

Dildo anon here with an update.

I got it, but it had a couple of black flecks on it so I asked what it was, and apparently it was a mistake in manufacturing and they're sending me another one.

Suddenly a refunded blouse for two dildos doesn't seem so bad. One dildo still had me feeling shameful though.

>>9316015
>tfw look like a normie
>tfw horrible at being social and dont like being in large groups
>tfw no gf because socially incompetent

>>9316420
You'll have more fun with two dildos than with one blouse. You did good anon.

>>9316098

wtf most econ majors are hardcore capitalists.

Or maybe I've been hanging out too much with my UoC boyfriend.

This "intellectual" talk reminds me of the time I used to be a total asshole and believed my intelligence made me a superior human being.

Then I realized my life sucked because I refused to interact with people based on their vocabulary, life experiences, etc. Was a grump, a killjoy and a judgemental bitch 99% of the time.

Started being less of a cunt and actually engaging with and listening to everyone. Realized that intelligence isn't defined by your GPA/IQ. Now have a shitload of awesome, loyal friends. Some of them are dumb as fuck, but they're beautiful people.

Life is so much better now.

>spent literally thousands of hours in the gym getting fit
>all so I can wear a skirt and slutty costumes to show off aesthetics
Is there a batch of cgl meetup pictures? I feel like I'm probably still ugly and want to see if I'm passable by cgl standard.

>>9315458
Is cunt wizard spoony?

>>9316597
I'm a dumbass, please be my friend

>>9316602
This isn't a charity :P

Pointing it out because people who claim they're "too intelligent" to make friends remind me of the way I used to be. Who knows, maybe someone on par with Stephen Hawking might have different experiences, but most of the time I find that people who complain of being "too clever" to make friends struggle not because their intellect alienates them from others, but because they are an egotistical asshole.

>>9316603

Let me point out however that Stephen Hawking is very easy to get along with and has had not one, but three wives.

You don't get three wives being a paraplegic asshole.

Being 'too intelligent' for people is kind of a dumb excuse for someone's low EQ, in my opinion.

>>9316609

Ah shit, that was kind of a stupid statement. Let me revise it: you don't get three wives by being an awkward paraplegic.

>>9316609
> Being 'too intelligent' for people is kind of a dumb excuse for someone's low EQ, in my opinion.

This is the point I'm trying to express - I completely agree with you here. Being clever doesn't make you inherently superior, and doesn't mean you're a great friend. If you can't make friends, it's probably got nothing to do with you being "smarter" than they are, and more to do with your inability or refusal to communicate. Your emotional intelligence may be lacking, you might just be unpleasant af to be around (like me), etc.

I'm sure Stephen Hawking is a rad dude, but what I was trying to imply is that I don't think I compare to his degree of intellect and for all I know it might be different for someone who does.

>>9316609
What happened to the first and second?

>>9316619
He ran them over in his giant wheelchair

So I have an apology to make to anyone on CoF

>At my job my computer is sometimes used for employees
>I made a separate login on it specifically for work.
>Never login on my personal at work
>One day I leave it there by accident
>next day is my day off
>I come in to pick it up
>Person on shift tells me another employee took it to the back to work on inventory
>Go in the back and employee just went in the bathroom
>Go to my laptop and notice my facebook is pulled up on my computer profile.
>Specifically on the CoF page
>Notice the employee's phone is plugged into the computer and had been downloading things.
>Employee had been downloading girls pictures on his phone
>Went through and deleted all the photos and fired that Creep!
>Who knows what else he creeped through on my computer!
>Told my boss to suck it and spend $200 on a computer

Never bringing my personal things to work T-T

The only thing I can say to people with a "high IQ" is to be careful about what you type. If you are prone to "writing books" that can make it hard to socialize as far as texting and messaging. It may take you a second to read that long post, but for another person... they may not want to spend 5 minutes reading what you typed out. Worse, they may interpret what you though was a simple answer as being a know-it-all, even if that was not your intention.

Keep comments and text messages short, simple, and to the point. You may have better interactions.

>>9316654
This too. It can be really overbearing.

The only thing I can say to people with a "high IQ" is to be careful about what you type. If you are prone to "writing books" that can make it hard to socialize as far as texting and messaging. It may take you a second to read that long post, but for another person... they may not want to spend 5 minutes reading what you typed out. Worse, they may interpret what you thought was a simple answer as being a know-it-all, even if that was not your intention.

Keep comments and text messages short, simple, and to the point. You may have better interactions.

>>9316655
I deleted that post because I put 'though' instead of 'thought' and it bothered me. Sorry about that. It's below your post now.

>>9316656
>they may interpret what you thought was a simple answer as being a know-it-all, even if that was not your intention
>tfw have this problem
>tfw when I shorten answers, it's always misinterpreted
>tfw try to rectify this by explaining my intention/being honest
>tfw it cycles back to sounding like a know-it-all
>bonus: grew up in a traditional family so I also sound overly polite/formal
>thisisfine.jpg

>>9316653
groooosss

Just quit my job to be a professional convention dude.

What the fuck do I do now?

>tfw have dreamed of my own style
>tfw finally piecing together aspects of it
>tfw mix of business casual and weeb
>tfw nervous I'll look like a total unfashionable idiot

My bento box and bottle came in recently. My backpack is coming in tomorrow. I guess I'll fake it until I make it.

Really, I want to bitch about how hard it is to find cute spiral notebooks that are useful.

>>9316609
You don't have two divorces by being great with people..

>soon 30 years old
>over 10 years active as cosplayer
>interest in cosplay lost
>strong interest in drawing and want to become a artist
>think about to delete cosplay.com account and other cosplay profiles
>want to sell all the costumes (some I want to keep it)

>>9316739
>soon 30 years old
>over 10 years active as artist
>interest in art lost
>strong interest in cosplay and want to become a model

Let's trade lives.

>>9316726
Suck Dick

>>9316653
Did you actually have like lewds on your PC? Just wondering for extra ick factor.

>>9316760
WTF? Drawing is so much better! Cosplay was a mistake!
I am really sad why I spend all the years not in drawing. I'm just a beginner at drawing and want to become good. Feels bad when younger people are already so fucking good at drawing.

>>9316656
I write really long comments and try my best not to overdo it. I tend to second guess if I'm making my friends annoyed with how much I type, but I have such a hard time conveying messages without my typing style.

I feel so weird trying to type something in shorthand or with improperly formatted English. I'll use cutesy abbreviations at times, but for the most part I type walls. I don't know how to stop it, honestly. It isn't a problem of me feeling like an idiot if I don't type things out as if I was writing am essay or something, it's just I feel it comes off with entirely different connotations than intended.

>>9316774
I'm okay at drawing. I tried for ten years to do it professionally, but never got more than the occasional gig.

Meanwhile, cosplay gets me bitches.

>>9316775
>TFW I can combat this by being in voice call because my language is so much less embellished when communicating vocally
>TFW never get a chance to voice call my friends

>>9316775
Jesus Christ you sound terrible to talk with.
Just kys. No wonder you have no friends.

I would tab out of your chat window and leave you hanging a fucking week.

>>9316775
this was a painful read

>>9316768
Reread OP's post. He was downloading pics from CoF.

>>9316784
Hello, yes? I'd like to report some bait.

>>9316777
I want to become a good artist. I do it for me, money is not important. I want to do also ecchi/hentai art and doujin stuff. How I can good at drawing fast as possible? I wasted all the years with cosplayshit... I regret it. "Cosplay was a mistake" is my personal description about cosplay. lel

>tfw into mori and lolita
>wide as hell hips
>equally but more noticeably wide shoulders
>minimail waist
>can't wear long straight skirts in more because then man shoulders and potato waist
>lolita balances out shoulders but cant wear often
>mfw boulder shoulders will never be small
>mfw i'll never be physically able to have a waist smaller than 27"

>>9316822
To me, art was a mistake.

I don't even know what I want to do with my life anymore. It's fucking horrifying.

Just got back from being away from home for half a year. I feel overwhelmed by the amout of THINGS i own, such as random cosplay supplies, clothes that arent jfashion, boxes for shipping things out. Just so much, im finding myself trying to declutter by throwing out so much stuff that could be sold or given to friends but i just want this shit GONE. anyone else ever faced with this? Especially since a lot of us collect figures and anime shit it seems easy to be over cluttered.

I just got a 3ds so I can play the Fire Emblem games, because it seems like there's a lot of good cosplay inspo in them.
Playing games is fun.
Small happy feel.

>>9316794
I did, and OP also said this:
>Who knows what else he creeped through on my computer!

>>9316775
it's okay anon i think it's cool

>>9316828
You are really the opposite. Why you see art as mistake? Maybe you failed and become not good in your view? Then maybe I can understand this. About me, I was pretty good in cosplay and my cosplay props amazed many people on conventions and many people take pictures. I won some cosplay contests too.

Oh, damn... I really want to trade your life with my life. If you are really pretty good at drawing then I am more than happy with your drawing skills! ;_;

>>9316828
>art was a mistake.
Maybe if you got a degree in it. been trying to learn how to draw for months now and I'm just getting past stick figures, I'll keep trying for awhile but I somewhat envy those with an eye for it.

>Had a month break to sew lots of shit
>Did jack shit
>Only have 4 more days until class starts again
What the fuck is my problem?

>>9316871
Autism.

>>9316876
Wouldn't autism make me obsess over it though?

>>9316871
depression? lack of intrinsic motivation? family members who constantly made you feel like shit so you perpetually fail to take action due to never making the right "action->desirable consequence" neural connections while your brain was growing?

>>9316830
yes, but trashing makes me feel guilty so i give goods to Goodwill so they can trash it all on my behalf.

>>9316601
Spoony?

>>9316834
>Playing games is fun.
I'm trapped in only doing that for fun, neglecting other hobbies and things i should do in order to play some more. I just never feel like getting up now.

>>9316887
Hmm good suggestions, but I think "laziness" is to blame

>>9316601
dont call her name she'll come in here and go full retard
>>9315458
>golden age
>half of those posted are insufferable cunts

>>9316735
time for your to hit up taobao for some cute stationary.

and I completely understand the fear of looking like an unfashionable idiot. I'm slowly breaking out of my jeans/tee habit but with a limited budget I'm worried that it won't have come together as nicely as I though it would.

>>9316888
Even donating, i just feel like im throwing my money to the flames so i feel horrible but i have a horrid need to de-clutter my life and idk if thats good or bad

>>9316871
You just can't figure out how to work without a time pressure applied to any given task.

I'm the same with assignments, I have weeks to do them and yet a few days till due I don't start. Some anon pasted this is in a rare fitness thread, I found it useful and maybe you will too.

>>9316888
I did this just recently. I donated it in the name of a local battered women's shelter. They take the value of the items and match the shelter with a gift card for abuse and rape victims to go get new clothes. It was a good feel.

>>9316917
>You just can't figure out how to work without a time pressure applied to any given task.
True

>>9314861
Link?

>>9316923
>https://www.flickr.com/photos/48779471@N04/
They got a twitter too. Honestly I just typed in 'Touhou crossdressers', and picked the first image that showed up.

>get picture taken with beloved VA
>text it to my mom
>get reply
>"she fat"
>REEEEEE at the top of my lungs

>>9316958
>Get picture taken with crush in lolita
>"Does she pretend to be a little girl? I'm confused. You wouldn't date someone like that, right?"

Fuck you mom, I totally would. She wouldn't date me though.

Personal salt below:
>Socially-awkward girl in my friend group
>For example: will focus (vocally) on the negative aspects of a situation; is bad at giving criticism to people; ...so she's sometimes not very pleasant to be around, and wasn't very popular in school
>Help her get into cosplaying after she expresses interest in it because I'm the Sewing Friend who people generally go to for advice
>She stays latched on to me because I'm well-travelled in the local convention circuit and somewhat have a community presence
>okay.jpg
>Over the course of this last year, she's made three average cosplays from flavor-of-the-moment media (Pokemon, Steven Universe), with a lot of help from myself (she'll text-bomb me when she's at the fabric store so I can walk her through picking fabrics; if she runs into pattern troubles, she'll immediately send me pictures instead of trying to figure it out herself, etc)
>Let's step away from that for a second
>One of my cosplay friends is really pretty, well-established, and has a popular online presence
>I sometimes hang out with her at cons but now Leech Friend has been using my association as a way to connect with her
>Am I jealous?
>A little
>But mostly really fucking irritated at how obnoxious she's being about it
>Refers to the group as "my friends" on every single on of her recent posts
>oohs and ahhs when someone follows her back on Instagram
>Talks nonstop about her "upcoming plans," which -surprise- feature more trendy content
>If she wasn't getting her ego so inflated by the novelty of fame, then I wouldn't care half as much.

Sage for getting this off my chest

>have money but nothing interests me
>or if it does it's out of my price range
>or not in the good color/cut
>last dress i received two months ago arrived in awful condition,i couldnt even sell it for 20$ despite it being a burando print dress
>doesnt help it was a dress that had a speshul meaning to me
>not even motivated to buy anything or wear it
What's happening to me?

>Mother refused to take me to the dentist growing up no matter how much pain I was in.
>Ended up in the ER twice as a child from tooth infections and fevers of 104+.
>Felt super embarrassed about my teeth as a teenager and was severely depressed.
>Turned 18, worked two jobs, and eventually moved half way across the country from my house.

I did it everyone! I just had my last root canal! I just need to pay for the crown! I'm finally done with all my dental work that I've been getting done the past three years. I've had five root canals, and countless fillings, but I can finally smile without feeling ugly. It probably cost me around 9k in total, but it was worth it!

Now I can focus more on my lolita wardrobe and not feel like a disgusting piece of shit! I always saw posts on CGL about other lolitas with bad teeth and it made me feel super self-conscious about being in the fashion.However, now I finally feel cute! On top of it, my diet is going well! Lost 25 pounds. Just 25 left till I hit my goal!

>>9316973
If she's irritating just cut her off. I've made the mistake (more than once) of maintaining contact with people I didn't even like, and it was just draining.

>>9316827
I know this feel anon.
Well, the broad hips and shoulders feel, in any case. My waist is pretty small, but it's rarely noticeable in mori and lolita. Most jsks and ops are too high-waisted to be flattering and I look like a potato in mori.

>>9316977
congrats anon, keep fighting for yourself.

>>9316974
What dress was it?

>>9316990
Bunny Milk Snow Strawberry JSK ribbon version in sax.
It was a dress I really liked when I was just a poor ita teen so I decided to get it for nostalgia's sake. Seeing it in such poor condition really made me feel angry and depressed as silly as it sounds.

>caught a head cold and have to do my first artist alley this weekend.

Looks like I need to pick up some hand sanitizer and face masks before this weekend.

>>9316997
Aw mang, hope things work out for you, take care.

>>9316977
I'm really happy for you anon!!

>>9316827
sauce

>>9316988
>>9317009

Thanks! I used to be in a super bad place. From when I was seven I was counting the days until I was an adult and could get away.

I also think I finally found the right antidepressant after switching about six times which has been helpful! Everything is one step at a time I realized.

My life used to feel like a deep dark hole that I could never crawl out of. I don't know when I started feeling like I wanted to die, but I was probably around eight years old. I didn't think it was weird, honestly. I thought everyone in the world secretly wanted to die so no one talked about it. I didn't realize I had an illness until I was twelve.

But I can tell you it was there was a way out of the depression and anxiety. I did hit rock bottom when I was fifteen. I had panic attacks over the idea of going to high school since I was bullied. The guidance counselor called my mom to get me because she wanted me to get a mental evaluation at the ER. My mother was super pissed and berated me the drive to the hospital.

After that incident I dropped out of High School. Half because going was painful and the other half was my mother guilt tripped me into doing it. I didn't leave my house for two years after that. I just stayed in my room only leaving to get food and water. I also picked up sleep habits of staying up all night to avoid my mother.

It took a lot of struggling, but I started with baby steps. Taking a walk around the neighborhood, going to the grocery store... Little things outside the house. If I had a panic attack and ended back to hiding in my room, I just tried again.

It took 12 years, but I found a way out of the dark hole I was stuck in. Sometimes I fall back in, but all I have to do is wait until I have the strength to crawl out again. However, there really is a way out! It'll be hard to find and painful, but it's there. You just might need a little help to get there from medication, therapy, or support from someone.

>>9316827
Anon, what are your proportions? I have a 27" waist and 42" thighs and don't have an issue wearing mori. I find layering a top that cuts in at the waist with layered with longer, open cardigans looks flattering.

Happy feels ok? I recently joined/formed an odottemita group of awesome people and every time we hold a practice or hang out, I literally feel the happiness swelling in my chest. I didn't even learn about odottemita until about a year and a half ago, at a maid cafe at a convention, when suddenly a few of them excused themselves from their tables and held a DANCE PERFORMANCE. I don't know, it blew my fucking mind because I'd been wanting to do something like that, learn and perform the dances to my favorite weeb songs, but for some reason it didn't occur to me that as a pasty Midwestern chick i actually could, and that people at conventions liked that shit. it took almost a year after that for me to summon the courage to try doing that sort of thing myself, joining hallway dance meetups, even trying singing competitions at conventions (holy shit that went poorly), and meeting people from the other dance groups in the area. And although it was fun, I felt envious of the girls who had big supportive dance groups, because by this point I was already a couple years older than most of them and with several years less experience, and I knew I couldn't try out for their groups because I'm too different.

Finally I said "fuck it, I need motivation" and asked around to see if anyone local just wanted to get together and practice. And it went well enough that I finally felt confident enough to ask if we wanted to turn it into a real group and try performing at conventions, and I was shocked that they all wanted to as well! I have always had the mentality that I'm not worth hanging out with, my ideas are bad, and no one would want to do something like that with me. But instead we're all having a lot of fun, and I finally feel inspired to keep improving myself, on my own, so that our weekly practices become even better. That got rambly so I'm sorry, but I really finally feel like some people want me around and that's a big deal to me.

> buy thing on LM
> keep getting error messages while trying to pay invoice
> paypal says it's the credit card's fault
> credit card company says it's paypal's fault
> meanwhile, use credit card and paypal for other stuff
> everything works perfectly fine except that one invoice
> seller sends new invoice
> still doesn't work

kill me fampais

i asked her if i can send her a gift payment or bank transfer, i hope she says yes. i just wanna throw my money at her.

>>9317310
Ask her if you can send a money order if you both live in the states. I mean, that's a bit extreme, but certainly nothing could go wrong. You could do money gram, western union, or walmart2walmart if she's willing.

>>9316726
Ayy, i wanna be a professional convention dude too. Lets join forces, anon.

>>9317312
Thanks anon, but we're eurofags. A regular bank transfer should work fine for us. (Never even heard of your payment options)
I'm mostly worried about getting bad feedback or her picking a different buyer desu.

>>9316768
No just personal ones of family and my own lolita photos (which were also on his phone)

>>9317324
Oh, I see. I tried. I hope there is no repercussions, that would suck. I hope she's understanding about it.

>>9315716
Definitely LJ.
Kingdom Hearts cosplay
Yaoi paddles

>>9316958
Savage mom.

>mfw I'm making a white version of Miku's costume for my friend's wedding

>bad smell follows me all day at con
>finally realize I stepped in poops

>tfw you just paid fuck $30 in shipping for a $10 weeb crochet kit
>tfw you could have just bought it IRL at the local Japanese book store for $20

mistakes were made.

>want to cosplay Lillie
>can't find her bag for under $130
>fuck

>>9316958
Fucking kek.

>>9317068
i-it's a pretty brutal femdom h manga

>curled up in bed watching TV
>feeling pretty good
>sudden sadness hits

I'M SORRY TO ALL THE LOLITAS WHO HAVE MEAN FAMILIES.

>>9317786
You can't just leave us hanging like that. Come on, I'm ready to girl-boner.

>>9314641
A friend of a mutual that I happen to follow is arguing about copic markers vs cheap markers, saying that she liked the "richness" of the color of the shit markers even though you can see the paper getting ruined. Good fucking luck selling those prints, had to mute her stupidity and will probably going to keep it that way for a few days.

After I thought about it, I realize now that I guess it's good that cancerously bad tutorials and "life hacks" exist so stupid people don't use up any good resources being idiots.

I've been wasting my time getting pissed off at others for not demonstrating the better way to do things but now I understand it's better that they sit in their own drool and don't advance because it gives others the opportunity to step up and move forward.

It sounds horrible but at this point I feel like I've reached maximum bitterness and I'm tired of from dealing with people who never improve or change, or think that they can cut corners without it blatantly showing.

>>9317753
What kind of crochet kit was it? Or did you mean needle felting?

>>9316973
As long as you aren't actually making anything for her and you don't let her try to pull a fast one on you then hopefully you should be able to break the friendship off cleanly before things get messy and abusive. Those types tend to try to push their limit because it turns out they aren't so helpless after all.

I also hope that your pretty friend sees right through that girl's nonsense.

>>9316911
Thanks, m8. My backpack arrived and it looks pretty damn good with my bento box and bottle. I bought four composition notebooks, stickers from Micheals, and decorated them to make them less ugly.

>>9317832
As an artist who uses microns and Sharpie, I can't believe anyone would argue cheap markers over Copic. I do suck it up to buy Copic markers for my skintones. I wouldn't be using Sharpie if I could use something better.

If she can't afford real art markers, there's no shame in her game but she should not be claiming cheap markers are better. I mean, I wouldn't bash on anyone for using Prismacolor or Letraset. If that's the case, you are just being an elitist.

>>9317836
Not that anon but going to guess it was an amigurumi kit.

>fw male

>>9318009
me too

>tfw fixing makeup in men's room at the mirror beside the urinal

>>9317810
>girls liking femdom

>>9318040
how sheltered are you, gull

>>9317836
If I said crochet it's crochet anon. It's a Rilakuma kit.

>>9318042
extremely

>>9318040
>tfw no qt3.14 sub gf to be gay with
>tfw can't go to cons together
>tfw can't make fun of awful cosplay together
>tfw can't have bdsm orgies at cons with her

What's the point.

>>9316678
> I also sound overly polite/formal
This is actually fine! It's so refreshing to speak with people who don't put like and you know and shit/fuck/literally after every second word. More formality and less swearing are welcome.

>>9316915
Decluttering is always good unless you're planning to open a private museum and charge for entry.
Start with whatever you have created the least memories on or least emotional attachment.

>>9316958
Shoulda picked a japanese VA lol.

Why is drawing not so easy like cosplaying?
I want to be good at drawing... but this is so hard! Make a good costume is easy but draw a good drawing is hard as fuck.

>>9315927
Assuming you're a woman, have you tried existing?

>>9318094
....Go practice drawing and get better? Literally any form of art has a learning curve and takes practice. I doubt you were able to make a beautifully crafted, boned corset the first time you tried.

>>9317786
where do you think we are

>>9315612
Except for the fact that she is.

Akko is Japanese, Sucy is Filipino, Lotte is Finnish, Diana is British, Amanda is American, Constanze is German, and Jasminka is Russian

>>9318094
basically >>9318120, but I do believe talent is a factor. I come from a family of artists so drawin came sure easy to me, but it took me years to figure out how to sew a straight line. if you want it, you can always work for it though. good luck to!

>>9318151
>drawing*
>don't even know where that "sure" came from*
fuck mobile

>>9315927
Seconded

>>9318099
It doesn't work

>>9318220
*have you tried existing in a way that men approve of?

>>9318231
>implying anyone cares what men approve of

>>9318153
It makes you sound old timey southern.
It was a fun read.

>>9317677
This is why i always have my eyes on the ground when I walk, stepped in shit way to many times.

>>9318232
>how get bf?
>be approved by men
>no
So you're saying anon should kidnap a guy and keep him in her basement?

>>9318082
i wanna be ur gf

>before I got a job and improved my social skills every time someone wanted to talk to me/complimented me at a con I got so nervous I could barely engage in normal conversation

I'm now very determined to talk to people more at cons,make some cosplay friends, and pump out more costumes!

>>9316997
I hope you feel better anon! Good luck with the AA

>>9318253
I'm saying anon shouldn't change herself to appeal to anyone.

>>9315927
>>9318220
Write a list of obstacles that keeps you from getting a bf.
Remove the most crucial ones or work yourself around those that you cant remove.

Determine what kind of relationship you want and imagine what types of guy that would fit in with that.

Go to places where you think your future bf would be at. Start out by making casual friends to see who they are.

Accept that nothing and no one is perfect, people never change, and that compatibility is more important than a perfect match. And dont waste your time!

>>9318268
You know, that sentiment may seem positive and good intentioned, but at a certain point it becomes kind of stupid, selfish and immature.

For one thing, everyone has to change themselves to conform to the law. If "yourself" is a thieving murderer you're gonna get punished and nobodies gonna care if "but someone on the internet told me not to change myself for anyone!".

And on a less extreme level, if yourself has a lot of traits that people generally find unappealing, you can't complain if people don't want to interact or spend time with you (or be your boyfriend).

A happy functional life generally requires both some degree of being an independent individual, but also compromising certain things for the sake of others. Everyone can't just think exclusively about themselves at all times.

>>9318351
This. The whole "dump them" or "just break up lol" as an answer to every relationship problem annoys me. Yeah, if your SO is abusive you've got to get out, but often it it's stuff like "they complain about my hobby."
Not really entirely related to the original point, sorry.

>>9318257
I'm alright with people talking to me, but when people compliment me I turn into a retard. I get real flustered, embarrassed, and usually just meekly say, 'Thank you,' then quickly run away.

Girl or guy. I get real awkward when put on the spot like that.

>>9318151
I have no talent and I hate it...

>>9315927
>>9318220
Uh, I can't say I ever 'got' one. I dunno' man. I guess any guys I've dated just made the effort to get me.

Uh, hang out alone a lot in public.

>>9318232
Lots of people do. Just as lots of people care what women think. It's called "society".

>>9315927
WTF? Very easy because you are a girl!

>Fall for someone in my comm
>I'm a popular and confident ouji who has a couple of girls in the comm crushing on me but they aren't my type
>My crush only dates hoodlum street thug pants-hanging backwards cap thug lyfe guys
>She brings it up in conversation the other day
>"I just like how wild they are compared to me being sweet and proper."

Feels bad, man. Consistently only fall for those who don't go for guys like me but have girls after me that I don't go for. Why is romance so hard?

>>9318377
Just wait until she's a single mother on welfare and laugh at her.

>>9317263
You go, girl.

>>9318374
You have to account for quality. Remember there are plenty of men out there seeking one thing. You also got to weed out the type of men who just want you barefoot in the kitchen.

>>9318377
I know somebody who, last I heard, was having this exact problem. I don't know what to tell you other then show her you can drink, party, and be bad too.

>>9318380
>>9318220
>>9315927
Ah of course, the fine print detail that women never include when they complain about not being able to get a boyfriend. What they're actually complaining about is "not being able to get a perfect fantasy boyfriend that fulfills all my dreams and is completely flawless".

Always and without fail.

>>9318425
Women date for reasons other then wanting sex.

>mid 20s
>see photos of old hs acquaintances on fb
>they all look like they're in their late 20s/early 30s
>look at photos of myself and my kawaii friends
> we don't look a day over 20
>feels good

>>9318364
I mean, it depends on how they complain about your hobby. If they just quietly don't like it, and maybe mention they don't like it casually once or twice, fine.

But if they huff, whine, make rude comments, and generally make your hobby a constant point of contention in your relationship which inevitably leads to said hobby no longer being any fun for you? Reason enough to dump a guy in my opinion.

Especially when there are plenty of guys out there who will either like my hobbies, or just ignore them if they don't like them instead of chucking a tantrum over it.

>>9318432
Most men are aware they have to put on a show and trick the woman into thinking he actually cares about her or any of her stupid bullshit before before getting the sex. You've gotta just get over yourself.

>>9318439
I'm not the anon with dating issues. However, many women are scared to find a man who promises her the world, and then turns out it was a facade to get in her pants. There are a lot of men out there who don't do that sort of show, and truly care about their partners which makes having sex worth it for a girl.

>>9318435
Probably because they dress their age.

>tfw looking at bags for my bento

I'm having such a good time. What's your favorite bento bag brands? I'm looking for something to match a blue Kotoritachi bento box.

>>9318441
Stop perpetuating the myth that girls just "put up" with sex for the guy they're with. Women enjoy good sex too.
>>9318439
Stop perpetuating this myth too. Yeah, some guys only want to bang you, but to say that no man has ever genuinely cared about a woman is laughable.

Having sex with someone you love and care about is the best feeling in the world.

>>9318441
If there truly are "a lot" of men out there who don't do that then why can't these girls complaining find one.

Cause they're probably pretty undesirable themselves. They need to get over themselves and accept they're only going to get a guy as good as themselves, and should be grateful they at least have the option of someone who only or mostly just cares about sex.

>>9318453
It's more likely because they aren't looking in the right places, or making the effort to pursue a guy themselves. No matter how undesirable they are, they can find a guy (who is perhaps equally undesirable) who will actually love them.

Just because you're incapable of human emotion doesn't mean all men are. Even unappealing men.

>>9318451
You should be happy to have been lucky enough to find a guy like that. Ono who's such a good actor he can fully trick you for life.

>>9318468
>that picture
kek

Damn. You know a girl's fat af when her only profile pictures are furries, Kingdom Hearts characters, and a 9/11 tribute.

>>9318435
I am soon (next month) 30 and many people think I am early 20s. lel
Strange feel when you meet people they looking older than you but they are many years younger than you.

>>9318535
I never find myself focusing on how old people look in that situation. Instead, I get a strange feel thinking about the fact I'm likely going to die before they do.

>>9318468
Are you the anon who lulls around while shit posting lies about getting laid with mass numbers of con chicks on /cgl/ or do I have you confused with someone else?

>tfw used to be 34DDD
>tfw now 36G

I need to lose weight.

>>9318220
Clarification, you have to exist in a location or method that men can at least be aware of the fact that you exist.

In video game terms, even if you're playing on easy mode you still have to at least push start to enter the game.

>>9315927
Also how much do both of you weigh?

>>9318544
Unless I have an alternate personality I'm not aware of, no.

>no friends and no one to plan cosplays with despite having been in cosplay for a long time
>big chance of loneliness at cons
>many big ideas for cosplay things that I can never do because no one to do them with
>no motivation because alone

>getting fat
>can never, ever get the body type to cosplay the characters I really want, feels pointless to try to change
>no point even trying, lack motivation

>still stuck living at home, super tiny room
>no space to work on cosplays
>family is home every hour, every day, every week, never ever get opportunity to use common areas for working on cosplay

I just lack motivation in general. Can't do anything.

>>9317810
>>9318136
https://hitomi.la/galleries/698682.html
here ya go, hope you enjoy

>>9317810
>>9318136
https://hitomi.la/galleries/692639.html enjoy, it's one of my favorites. clover is a pretty good artist

>>9318365
same. or i play it down.

i am so awkward with compliments i do not even give direct ones and i have no idea how people take that

>>9318448
No it's because they dress like boring old people, smoke, drink, and cake on their makeup and contour like drag queens.

Also lolita is an adult fashion.

>>9318377
>Consistently only fall for those who don't go for guys like me but have girls after me that I don't go for.
some people get into the habit of longing for the unavailable while rejecting the attainable because it feels more romantic to yearn than to have.

>>9318460
>Just because you're incapable of human emotion doesn't mean all men are
this

also the anon you guys are replying to is obviously intractible, save your energy for something else and don't derail too far over bait.

>>9318554
>>still stuck living at home, super tiny room
>>no space to work on cosplays
>>family is home every hour, every day, every week, never ever get opportunity to use common areas for working on cosplay
DUMP THEM
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>tfw only got into cosplay relatively recently
>tfw missed out on fads and trends throughout the years
Any cosplay/convention historians want to take me to a trip down memory lane? I'd love to learn about all the major fads and trends and whatever series dominated the cosplay/convention scene for each year and stuff.

>>9318603
Every hour was a bit of an exaggeration, I have maybe a few hours every week that I'm alone. There's also the problem of motivation.
I can't dump them without a job.

If I don't get away by summer, I'm really considering going to cosplay school next year.

>>9317457
it's impolite to wear white at a wedding if you're not the bride, anon

>>9318554
>>no friends and no one to plan cosplays with
>>still stuck living at home, super tiny room
>I just lack motivation in general. Can't do anything.

I know this feel. I can barely drag my ass out of bed to go to the gym, and even when I get there I rather halfassedly do exercise or cut reps. Planned to go to a con this summer with someone but that fell out. Good luck anon, you can always try what i do and force yourself to go and then hate it everyday.

>>9318590
I like him too. This is my favorite: https://exhentai.org/g/823063/bf4dd9c99f/

>>9317457
You sound tacky af

>>9318697
arigatou anon
that gave me a little bit of motivation, maybe I will try one day
never gone to the gym, though, if i'm gonna be less fat it'll be by eating less, and what i want to workout for is actual abilities in cosplay, for example, getting good enough to join a love live dance group
which will never happen, but still
there are those cosplays i just want to do, to work towards, but they require crazy skills, like Sora from Kaleido Star, that'd be something I'd like to have as a goal. But it can't happen, so i just feel like there is no point in trying, even though actually being able to do it would be awesome

> Millennia ago someone listed a rare dream dress of mine, in the exact colourway I want, on LM.

> At the time I could afford it, so I send the seller a message with an offer to end the auction early and wait.

> Later that day shit goes downhill fast and I end up at the local animal ER with my dog.

> Bye-bye spare cash.

> Check LM a few days later and see the seller messaged me saying they're willing to accept the offer.

> Totally ghost on her and never reply because I'm a temporary poorfag and embarassed af.

> On LM months later, notice same seller has listed a bunch of items. Go to have a look to see how she's doing.

> Notice that she now has a profile picture.

> She is... large. And kinda masculine. Legit thought she was a sissy at first until I found more photos of her and saw she had the pear going on. In one of her auctions she had a worn photo of the dress and looks like she weighs at least 200lbs.

> tfw dodged a bullet.

Petite anon here, that brand would have arrived stretched as all fuck. I would have dropped nearly a grand on a dress that I doubt would have fitted me when it arrived. I'm genuinely baffled she didn't have to modify it to fit in the first place. The description was pretty vague, only said it was in used and VG condition.

Makes me feel better about being a flaky poorfag asshole.

>>9318708
>just feel like there is no point in trying, even though actually being able to do it would be awesome
One thing that helps me is the 5/25 rules. Pick 25 things that you want to accomplish in order of how much they mean to you, the top 5 are things you should actually try and the bottom 20 are the ones you should not waste your effort on until the top 5 are done. It keeps me on track to what my real goals are.

>>9318715
It sounds interesting, but I'd probably just end up doing nothing
I'd have to include getting a job, and making friends and having a social life. But social life is just impossible for me,I have no idea how to accomplish that. Getting a job would straight up make my life worse in terms of social interaction, and is aslo difficult. My lack of friends would just lock up everything, and then I wouldn't even get to work on cosplay ever.
the top 5 would simply be too big to finish,and I couldn't have any hobbies at all even theoretically

>>9315927
I'll be your bf. What do you like to do.

>>9318715
thank you, though. I will consider it. I've been stuck in life for years, and something needs to change

if only i were able to make friends. that's what stops everything

>>9318082
>bdsm orgies

I don't know man, I personally couldn't play with more than one person. I imagine it would be either way too intense, or disorganized/too distracted so it doesn't end up being enjoyable at all.

you'll find your special gf though, I'm sure of it.
people with weird hobbies tend to be more open-minded, more exposed to alternative living.
are you a con-goer already? have you tried looking there?

>>9318590
Thanks anon, the art is what attracted me to it.

>>9318735
Shopping and eating quaaludes.

>>9317245

You do not have 42 inch thighs

>>9318088
>unless you're planning to open a private museum and charge for entry.
Hahah thanks for making me laugh anon, i'll start thinking about it that way

>>9318351
diff anon, but I still think it's good advice so that anon avoids taking on pressure to look like Jenna Haze or a Kardashian when all she wants is a nice relationship.

>>9318738
Good luck anon! I'll be honest I dont have any IRL friends but I get online everyday and sometimes I do meetups with the ones online, easier to keep and talk to after a skullgrind of a work day! I Believe in u anon!

>tfw your con crush starts messaging you

>>9318806
When I say orgies, I would settle for threesomes. And I can get in a con a year, so, not very. Not enough time, or money, at my disposal.

>>9318841
Ask him/her out for coffee, casually.

>>9318822
Well I think it's terrible advice of a person who doesn't know what a "nice relationship" is and probably demands a guy bend over backwards and change anything about himself she demands while absolutely never compromising anything for his sake.

>>9318731
Break up making friends/having a social life into smaller, more specific tasks.
- Go to X public events
- Use voice chat with x people in online game
- Find a free sample counter at supermarket/mall and engage the seller to learn about the product (don't try to make a friendship here, keep it )

>tfw a LM seller still hasnt seen the message you sent 4 days ago because the site doesnt seem to believe in properly notifying anyone when they get a message or sell a listing anymore

>>9318253
>tfw you will never be kidnapped, kept in the basement and forced to be a femanons bf

>want to cosplay something with short shorts
>self harm scars everywhere

Fuck

>>9319008
l-london

>Do gender bent cosplay with minor success
>Want to step it up and do a more revealing gender bent cosplay
>Mfw i get the costume and The bote skirt is so short my balls risk making a run for it

Fuck

>>9319030
Just make your balls a key element of the costume, chuck some LEDs or some shit on them and that minor success will become major.

>>9319044
Lord no, im already shaving my stomach hair into a heart, i dont need my junk lit up like a parlot

>friend makes joke about having a penis
>laugh it off
>later thinking about if its gay if i want her (with dick) to rape me

>>9315129
better than having them in the women's

let them take upskirt shots of each other instead

>>9318468
having daddy issues must really fuck with your ability to hold a relationship huh

>>9318995
iktf

>>9318620
>I can't dump them without a job.

You're a girl, you can just get a guy to take care of you.

There's countless thousands of financially stable guys who own a house that would let you move in with them and provide you money, especially since you seem to have zero or low past sexual partners and not be ruined by feminism yet, your value to men like this is much higher, if you're a virgin you're priceless. You just have to have sex with them regularly of course.

This is the true concept of "marriage" that has existed for thousands of years.

This should be incredibly easy with the help of the internet, just don't show a single trace of feminist ideals or arrogance.

>>9319090
this but also don't have sex with the guy for at least about half a year after starting a serious relationship if this is your plan

>>9319090
If she can then accept having that man dictate the majority of her life choices and limiting her freedoms, then that's fine. Being a kept woman, as such, is a legitimate choice. But don't go into that shit naively or you'll end up alone and without an income all over again.

>>9319106
>get offered free ride through life,

"but muh freedom to be a party slut"

>>9318844
She lives 20 hours away.

>find mirror sote of old forum i used to use
>can't remember when i stopped posting
>try to track down my posts from around when i left
>end up realizing how fucked up that community was
>think, "it surely was for the best i left that dysfunction junction"
>tab over to /cgl/
>trolls, bait, flame wars galore

even with all of this blatant shitposting and offensive content, /cgl/ isn't that bad. it can be easy to react to the negative content here, but having spent years on a toxic "self-help" forum with a bitterly incestuous userbase... the salt is so inconsequential.

even Dickface McGee here >>9319116 isn't so bad

we're all gonna make it, cgl

>>9319116
lel, who said anything about being a slut?

Career, education, travel, family-planning, socializing, etc.

If somebody is going to have total financial domination over your life, you need to be prepared to accept the possibility that they will limit all of the above in one way or another.

Speaking as someone who had this and didn't enjoy it.

>>9319129
Meet halfway.

>>9318448
HAHAHAHAHAHA

>>9319129

And?

Is she your crush or not!?

come share a feel or a shitpost with us https://discord.gg/DbqhC7R

>>9318377
*tips fedora*

>>9318448
>fucking owned.

cosplay was a mistake