/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>sad because I spilled my lonely lolita heart out only for the thread to get deleted not an hour later due to faggotry
I'm going to go angrily eat girl scout cookies and curse at video games now.

To the anon who replied to me last thread
>If they ever find out, you could just say you were going with a niece/nephew or some young family member. It'd be hard for them to judge you if you say that you were bonding with a family member.
>I'm curious, have you ever thrown around your authority in a convention?

That could work, considering that my niece likes to cosplay and we usually go together. Though, I can still never invite them over to my house. Anime figurines, anime posters, body pillows. I even have my alarm set to say "Welcome home onisama" whenever I disable it. It's embarrassing now that I am typing it out actually.

To answer your question, not really. It's hard for anyone to believe me when I'm cosplaying, even if I whip out the badge. They just think I'm roleplaying. It also doesn't help that I like to cosplay as law keepers from my favorite animes/vidya. I don't go to cons to do my job, I go to enjoy myself. Though I've stopped a party before because it was filled with under age girls (only girls, like 15 years old) drinking with guys who were 25+

>>9392337
Abuse your power, anon. Like a good american cop.

>>9392370
ok
be my /cgl/gf or else

>>9392317
>>9392317
Same feel.
Other feels. I almost think I will never have a lolita friends or cosplay friends who are actually interested in being friends. It's a two way street and I am starting to feel like no one in my life seems to care as much about me. I put so much into a friendship and don't get nearly as much love in return. I guess I will continue being lonely while still kind of being around people

>>9392432
I always find this hard, but usually it's with people of the opposite gender. I'm fine with being friends with my male friends, but when it comes to genuinely wanting female cosplay friends there is always ALWAYS feelings that pop up. If I befriend someone I'm not particularly attracted to, they end up having feelings for me, and if I befriend someone who I find cute I will develop sexual feelings for them.

I can get over myself having feelings for them, though it's just sexual. I don't like being friends with people who I have no interest in, because I feel that it's cruel.

I don't really have a lot of friends of the opposite gender, so I don't really know what is normal. I don't think I can truly be friends with girls I find to be cute because in the back of my mind I want to fuck them. It feels like I'm not being genuine.

>>9392432
What are your expectations of friendship? I don't feel like any of my friendships require effort to maintain.

Ive been hanging out with people a lot lately and I'm finally starting to feel like I'm getting over my social anxiety, and I definitely can attribute a large part of that to my comm. I can be myself around them and they still like me, so it taught me I can I do that with other people too. Plus just having practice being around people is nice. I feel so happy.

God, it makes me feel like a badass to fart in the dealer room.

>>9392466
This, it already smells so bad that no one will even know if I let one loose

>tfw no cosplay/lolita gf

>>9392423
Okay

Anon with the obnoxious horny friend
>Wake up to go to work
>Phone vibrating alot , finally decide to check what's going on
>ohgodno
>It's the group chat
>Read 100+ messages of an argument that one of the group finally told horny friend they had enough
>They told her politely the group doesn't want randos in our room and to shut up about sex already
>Horny friend gets upset because she said she isn't that bad
>Another person in the group agrees with the person that no one's comfortable
>She starts freaking out saying we can't handle her mental illness
>Person in group said that there are way to handle this and not to embarrass everyone and herself
>She gets more offended and rants more
>Leaves the chat
>No one feels bad and they just greet me like nothing happened when I finally speak in the chat

I kind of feel bad and probably will talk to her later on tonight but I honestly think she had it coming to her. I want to help her though, I just need her to understand that sometimes you need a filter.

>used to be a lifestyle lolita, wearing casual lolita daily no OTT
>left the fashion to start wearing nerd shirts and more normal stuff
>people in my classes expressed disappointment, said they miss me walking in looking like a doll
>go to a friend's birthday party, he doesn't even acknowledge that I'm there and when I'm there he says that he's sad that I showed up looking normal instead of like his birthday clown
>guy I'm seeing breaks up with me and admits he only wanted to date me because of the novelty of dating "the town barbie" (honestly a rebound so i didnt give a shit)

I cut off a lot of people. I'm not even surprised to learn that I was more of a walking freakshow to people than a person.

>>9392465
That's great! Always good to see people moving forward with bettering their lives.

>used to be a lifestyle lolita, wearing casual lolita daily no OTT
>left the fashion to start wearing nerd shirts and more normal stuff
>people in my classes expressed disappointment, said they miss me walking in looking like a doll
>go to a friend's birthday party, he doesn't even acknowledge that I'm there and when he does he says that he's sad that I showed up looking normal instead of like his birthday clown
>guy I'm seeing breaks up with me and admits he only wanted to date me because of the novelty of dating "the town barbie" (honestly a rebound so i didnt give a shit)

I cut off a lot of people. I'm not even surprised to learn that I was more of a walking freakshow to people than a person.

>>9392553
Well at least you didn't have to be the one to do it, though it could've probably been handled better if you were the one. That being said, she'll probably see the whole situation as her vs you guys. Try not to take sides when talking to her, she might just think you're on her side if you're trying to be reasonable.

>>9392553
I've been following this. Don't feel bad. It's not like you're asking very much at all of her to not fuck strangers in your group's room. Seriously.

>>9392561
Situations like the one you're in show who's really your friend and who was just using you as a prop piece to further their own self interests. It's all for the better.

>>9392553
Don't feel about it, she's asking for something that is pretty selfish and unreasonable.

>>9392569
basically what this anon said..

>tfw no /a/ or /cgl/ gf
>tfw awkward chubby guy who is too much of a shit person to change and get fitter and make better cosplay
>tfw I deserve this but still feel bad

>barely getting into lolita after stalking the fashion since 2007
>after all these years i've learned you need a petticoat first and foremost
>dream dress shows up on lacemarket
>mfw i can only afford one of the other
i was considering getting a melikestea petti since they seem to be pretty good quality but the shipping to the states makes it horribly expensive for a petticoat. $89 seems insane for a petti. i dunno what do.
my gut says get my dream dress.

>>9392588
But thats not fair. Gull's panties explode for a chubby tripfag, but he's not a shitty human. Can't help you there..

>>9392590
get dress first
dress might never turn up again

>>9392590
Hunt around in thrift stores near you for a petti. I've gotten lucky dozens of times, even if you might have to do a bit of alterations/sewing to get an a-line or cupcake shape.

>>9392591
I say shitty because I acknowledge that all my problems could be solved by doing stuff rather than sittin on my ass
cosplay improves with effort
fitness improves with self control

but here we are again

im a nice enough guy, I just dont deserve a qt

>>9392590
Get the dress first

>>9392573
>>9392553

Gonna state the obvious, and you probably assumed this but as a dude that would manwhore at cons I never really gave a shit about where my spunk was going and would use pillows to help with sex positions. All surfaces were fair game and it's not like you can expect someone to have sanitary concerns about this stuff. Do you really think your friend would have the courtesy to say something to her partners like "Don't rub your dick on the pillows?" or "We can only use this bed/chair because my friends said so."...Nope, if she had a history of doing it, one of you probably put your face indirectly up against some dude's ballsweat or manspunk that hadn't even showered in days. Don't feel bad anon, get mad and just accept she was being a bitch to all of you by behaving like that.

>>9392553
Why didn't you hook me up with her.

>>9392590
You don't have to blow $90 on a petti, you can get used ones on Lacemarket. I think its fine if you don't have a crazy poof monster for your first one.

>>9392315
>Last one got deleted because you guys like replying to trolls.

Is this a general 4chan trait? Doesn't seem to happen elsewhere.

>>9392626
No, unless the thread doesn't belong on the board the mod/janitor will delete the offtopic posts, and ban the off topic posters. This is the only board that just deletes the thread instead.

t. someone who browses 10 other boards

feeling lonely gulls

is being a slut at cons bad?

>>9392659
I always felt 10x worse after doing that.
It's a temporary relief at best.

ordered a cheap cosplay online thinking it was gonna be thin, flimsy and like the usual "cheap" cosplays

came in a couple days ago, was thick, well-constructed material with a lot of attention to detail. i'm pissed because it's not what i wanted. i just wanted a thin polyester blend skirt with shirring to wear for a cosplay this summer. instead i got this beautiful thicc skirt that holds shape so well it doesn't even need a petti, with hidden pockets and a buckle-system to close.

which is like great, but i tried it on in moderate winter weather and almost died of heat. i can't imagine how horrible it will be in the summer.

so i've learned my lesson and i'll just make the damn thing this time. it sucks because its a nice skirt, maybe i'll get use out of it in normie-wear.

>>9392659
If you're clean, safe and both you and your partners enjoy it, whats wrong with having sex?

You do you, gull. Or rather, you do whoever you want.

My dad is screaming at me because he's convinced that the fumes from my spray paint in the garage will cause the upstairs fireplace to explode.

Foolishness.

>>9392666
I... don't see what your issue is

Tell me, anons.
What's the point of trying if you have nothing to look forward to?

I haven't had real friends since the 8th grade. I contemplated killing myself every day all throughout my senior year. I would walk by the highway and think about running into traffic (stupid method, I know, but I didn't want my family to know what was going on and wanted it to look like an accident.)

I knew I would end up screwing myself over in whatever college I got into. But than my edgelord little brother started becoming open about how suicidal he was, so I kept powering through because I knew that if I killed myself he would too. Low and behold I've already failed a class in the first semester of my sophomore year and I'm on my way to failing another.

Anyway, I still don't have any friends. I don't have any motivation to keep up with classwork, I don't have any hope for the distant future, the future next semester, or the future a week from now.

I've distanced myself from Lolita to keep from getting distracted, but end up obsessively checking Facebook for no particular reason (no friends, remember?) My comm is all older than me and married. I don't seem to have much in common with them. A lot of them are borderline ita, but they all seem to be friends with eachother so I guess I'm the real loser here. I gain absolutely nothing from attending meetups since most of them are at people's houses and I barely know anyone.
I wore lolita on campus a few times, but I felt nothing. I still like how it looks, but I have a hard time feeling motivated to wear makeup let alone wear lolita.

If only my brother were mentally stable. I could've killed myself by now. But then I guess I'd ruin my family's lives? I don't know. Science needs to get working on technology that can erase people from existence.

A girl in my comm got in deep shit for calling Yaya Han "Papa Jon"

>>9392715
I want to be her best friend.

>>9392567
>>9392569
>>9392573
>>9392602
Did anon's post get deleted? What happened?

>>9392730
Maybe her whore friend saw it and sperged out.

>>9392715
i dont get how thats even offensive?

>>9392741
She slurred their god's name.

>>9392710
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nr9bVe68OZM

second half of this probably would connect with you, but I recommend listening to it all

>>9392710
get medical help anon. go see a psychiatrist and a psychologist.
jesus fuck im tired of all these depressed fags thinking they're beyond getting help. you need medication for the chemical imbalance in your brain that makes you think everything is pointless.
while getting treated you should also be seeing a psychologist to talk to and get to bottom of your sad fag issues and also see how the medication is treating you so the psychiatrist can tweak it if necessary.
it might take awhile to find the medication thats right for you or maybe you'll be lucky and get it on the first try.
look buddy i've been diagnosed with a laundry list of mental illnesses, i tried and failed to commit suicide and i was committed for it (mental hospitals fucking suck) but finding the right pill combination helped so much.
it took about two years trying to find the right combination of pills but it was worth it in the end.
please stop wasting your time on the internet being an edgelord and save yourself damnit.
all the tools are out there you just have to use them.

>>9392451
It's a question that may get asked by many. What do you want out of a friendship? You're asking a valid question anon and you're pretty lucky having easy relations with others.
I feel like I have arrived too late in people's lives. They don't engage with me as much as I engage with them. I kind of kept to myself in both college and high school so I have missed those moments to make long lasting friendships. I had some friends in college but they became very sjw and expressed a lot of toxic views masked behind good intentions.
Long story short with what people I do have in my life ,I usually start conversations , and attempt to make plans. I just wish I could have someone who would occasionally call me/text me, make plans with me ,or see how I am? I don't want or ask for much. I just want friends who care about me too. I want to have a close friend who is interested in listening to my feelings and willing to be shoulder.
I just am not as fortunate as you are because I haven't had the opportunity to make those long lasting connections

>>9392802
Think I read something like this in the last thread, or maybe you used the same .gif
Friend finder not working well for you?

>>9392715
I got bitched at once because I thought Jessica Nigri's last name was pronounced "niggery."

>>9392818
Literacy is important, anon.

>>9392818
Well she steals attention away from more deserving cosplayers so you werent completely wrong

>see qt at Home Depot
>hmmm she looks like she would like cosplaying and anime
>maybe I should ask her, and if I'm right and things go well, maybe ask her out
>walk past
>say nothing

I'm such a fucking pussy.

>>9392850
It's a good thing you didn't. From the story you'd probably come off as an autist.

>>9392818
>that tweet

>>9392857
Worth a shot.

Do you think it'd be better that I shitpost about tfw no gf every feels thread?

Even receiving a "no" is better than not asking at all. For experience if nothing else.

>>9392818
>>9392863
I just googled this to see if the tweet was real, and found some dude's J-Nig fanfiction. What the absolute fuck.

http://iloveskyrim1.deviantart.com/art/Farting-Diaries-Jessica-Nigri-612852845

>>9392870
NOOOOOOOOOOOOO

>>9392850
home depot is not the place you go to meet ladies.
theres a time and place for everything man.
please stop thinking with your dick in your hand.

>>9392867
It's better to become the main character in Final Spaghetti 2 than the walking incarnate of r9k later in life.

>>9392814
Yes that was probably me.
No one messaged me in the friend finder and I am not sure if people would be a bothered by me sending messages to them. I don't like to bother others if I can avoid it.

>>9392873
>home depot is not the place you go to meet ladies

I didn't go there to meet ladies. I needed some screws to fix the damn garage door opener that some idiot halfassedly set up. So difficult to screw in the God damn boards with two 6" screws. Took like 5 damn minutes, I want to know who was too busy with their time to spend 5 minutes to do it. But anyways...

I just went there for the screws and saw her there. Considering I might not see her again and she was standing around doing fuck all, why not talk to her then?

I honestly want to know why you believe that a public location is not a place to ask someone out. There are very few places I can think of where it's inappropriate to talk to someone and potentially ask them out, as long as they're not busy.

>>9392878
This, I respect guys who at least try far more than the pussies sitting in the corner whining and being passive aggressive because they can't get a gf but they never even try.

>>9392880
Anon think of it this way, the people in that thread are resorting to a thread on 4chan to find friends. Do you think they're all that different from you? They're waiting for you to send them a message because you'd be bothered by them sending you a message.

>>9392885
Don't women hate being asked out when they're out doing shit? Have I been wrong all this time?

>>9392880
That's a shame. Would you be willing to post which post is yours in that thread? Or would you prefer not having what you've been saying in this thread be linked to yourself?

>>9392904
I can't speak for everyone obviously but I wouldn't mind being approached if it looks like Im not busy or on my phone or something AND in what seems like a safe space for both parties, like a grocery store or the home depot would have been fine. But I don't know I guess it annoys others so hard to say.

>japanese secondhand clothes shop has store on eBay and rakuten
>same item costs 500 yen on rakuten and $48 on eBay
So much for trying to find clothes without using a shopping service to buy them!

>>9392904
no youre right anon.
its creepy, because you're completely unguarded minding your own business minding your business and some thirsty neckbeard is watching you and plotting to make his move getting ready to pounce on you.
it's happened to me countless time and i hate it.
because if you say no you dont how the fuck this fuck is gonna react, i've had autists not get the clue when you let them down easy, i've had others get really butthurt and mad cause i was too direct.
there's no clearcut solution.
there are actual times and places for this kind of shit.
in bars, cons, cafes, school, dating websites and other social settings which involve mingling.
from the girl's point of view it's not safe to interact with complete strangers. there's got to be some connection. friend of friend, colleague, classmate, son of mother's friend and even fucking dating sites.
these guys think that theres no other way to meet people so they feel entitled to accost strangers who most likely arent aware of your existence or even care to interact with others.

>>9392900
>>9392909
>>I hear people talk about how awful cgl is and how gulls are insufferable cunts and I immediately think that it is bs because I know there are amazingly good hearted gulls like yourselves.
>>Sure we like to drink salt water sometimes but who doesn't. We are only human.
I guess what I'm saying is thankyou for listening to me whine a bit. It's a bit embarrassing but I'm bramblecandle@gmail if anyone is interested in messaging I'm kind of just around. I may not always be free but I will message back.

Also rando feel anyone else tired of constantly being perma banned because their cellphone occasionally gets a fucked it address?

>>9392904
Surprise, everyone is different. Some people are okay with it, some aren't. You should be able to tell really fast if they're not okay with it.

>>9392933
>Now that the internet exists you can no longer make connections in real life, the post.

>>9392870
Is this a true story?

>>9392904

When the women have shit to do and some pickup guy is in their way, yea, he's going to get shot down pretty fast. Definitely don't approach women who walk around looking stressed or like they're on some critical mission, you're just getting in their way and they won't be relaxed enough to entertain your poor social skills.

If she looks relaxed and is browsing slowly, by all means drop a hello, see if she's willing to talk. If she doesn't brush you off, then go ahead and ask her out.

You gotta learn to read the situation, bro.

>>9392961
no it's a fanfiction. Someones fantasy fetish written down.

>>9392870
>Google "Jessica Nigri fanfiction"
>mfw

I don't know what I expected. The best one was a "Borderlands fanfic" about the narrator fucking Nigg in the con bathroom while she's dressed as Moxxi.

I'm a part of a local comm that used to be pretty big and a few years back and I eventually was made an admin of by a friend. Not longer after said friend dropped out and I pretty much was left to take care of it all as our activity slowed down. We were recently at a con and said friend boasted about how they were the last admin of the comm. It didn't really hit be until later how much bullshit that is because it still exists and they are in no way still an admin for it. Thinking about it, I might of been with some well known friends at the time.

>eagerly awaiting Wondercon badge, which is being shipped to me for the first year ever
>watching other people post pics of their badges on IG
>get confirmation that its shipped!
>....to an address I haven't lived at for three years
>mfw

Really hoping my old landlord/the tenant will be cool about this, because they didn't provide a tracking number so there's no real way I can intercept this package through USPS. I think even mail fowarding wouldn't work this long after I've moved.

>>9393013
Contact Wondercon or whoever is responsible for mailing out the badges and tell them what happened right away, they may tell you tough shit bit in my experience they're usually pretty cool and can suggest what might could be done if you can't get it from the old address.

>>9393022
Emailed both my old landlord and Wondercon tonight. Best case scenario, my old landlord lets me come pick it up (I work close to my old house).

Thanks for the advice. Crossing my fingers and hoping for mercy from everyone involved.

>>9392904
Let me ask you a question.

If you wanted to learn how to catch a fish, who would you ask? A fisherman, or a fish?

If the answer to that seems obvious (which it should be), you should also know why you never trust a woman's advice on how to pick up women. Doing anything a woman tells you to do is an active impairment of your ability to succeed. The saying of "women don't know what they want" is more true than you could ever realize.

Oh you better look like a Chad though. Everything you do is automatically creepy if you don't look like that. So yeah, look like Chad, ignore what women say, just go up to them and take what you want.

I lost my binder at Katsucon. I have another one coming but it's a cheap Amazon one so I'm expecting it to be the worst quality ever. I just don't see the point in shelling out money on another high quality one when I only have 2 crossplays planned for the rest of the year.

I've been out of the hobby since eleventh grade but I've been stalking /cgl/ for years. I can't afford the time, and I can't make myself care anymore to put in the effort.
I don't really feel anything like I used to. Even if I get mad at someone or something, I'm not actually that upset in any deep capacity, it's all for show. Even if I'm crying in a ball in the corner, I'm clearly thinking and my mind isn't really involved in what my body is doing.
No matter what I'm doing, the only way to get through it is to push the goalposts further and further down the road; first they were to graduate high school-then, life would get better. But it hasn't. I didn't feel any pride or accomplishment or even relief. The distant struggle on the horizon had simply come to my doorstep.
I'm burning out. I can't do anything other than school and work, and I've come to realize that my way of thinking that "everything will be better once I get through this-And that too, and then the next thing" isn't realistic.
I'm just vaguely unhappy, I guess.

>>9393032
>ignore what women say, just go up to them and take what you want
Anon this is how you get your shit slapped or security called on you; not good advice to offer your poor fellow robots.

>tfw too ugly and too stubby to cosplay as my favorite bishonen characters

>>9393080
I feel your pain.

>tfw perpetual ugly butterface despite dieting and getting in great shape

...I guess I can just do masked characters.

>>9393092
>tfw girls compliment my handsome face but it heats up my spaghetti so much that I just do masked cosplays now

>>9393046
That advice was less literal and more to do with mindset. Chad never once thinks to himself "I wonder if I should do this, I wonder if I'm bothering her, I wonder if she'll say yes", he just goes up and does it never even considering he might fail, and that confident alphaness is what gets girls knees weak. If you think you might fail you already have.

But as I already said, all this advice is moot if you aren't already tall buff handsome and well dressed, which since you're here acting confused I have a feeling you aren't.

>>9392882
I think that anon's main issue is that you were gonna ask some girl if she cosplays because she "looks like someone who would"???? What does a cosplayer look like? You were literally about to go up to some random girl and, with no context, ask if she engaged in some niche hobby?

>be me
>at Home Depot to get some PVC pipe for plumbing repairs
>weird looking guy comes up to me
>"h-hi ma'am. do you c-c-cosplay"
>I ask him what the hell that is
>"oh, n-never mind then. you just look like a cosplayer"
>he walks out quickly while looking down
>still don't know what cosplay is

I'm not trying to bully you or anything, just point out what a poor idea you had.

>>9392961
Yes. It happened a few years back.

>tfw following a /cgl/ cosplayer for years
>started up an instagram last year
>one of the first to start liking the pics
>clearly shes getting enthusiastic for the attention
>starts up a facebook page and twitter
>starts getting more and more likes/shares
>celebrated her first 1000 like'd photo last year
>now getting multiple thousands
>getting stingy with photos, used to crosspost to different spots but now you have to go to all of them to see new stuff

then the worst feel happens
>she announces she started a patreon

now all the good shit is going to be behind a paywall. she already has 20 autists paying her. i feel bad for supporting her now. patreon is a sign that things are about to take a nosedive and I refuse to pay to see some lewd lingerie pics.

lobi you've really sold out.

>>9393121
>Always just assume you're going to fail, because you could fail and stuff and be spaghetti.
This is a loser/defeatist r9k attitude.

>>9393133
If you don't think approaching random girls in a store and asking them if they partake in a niche hobby is an awful idea, then I think we all know who the real robot is.

I want a /cgl/ gf, but I'm a black dude in Georgia who's a bad driver, none of you share this feel

>>9393136
Sometimes I swear that r9k pretends to be girls in these threads as some form of advanced trolling. What's literally the worst thats going to happen if you start a conversation with a stranger in public?

Actual repercussions look more like...
>"Some guy asked me if I was a cosplay."
>"What's a cosplay?"
>"I don't even know."
>"That's strange."
>"Yeah."

You're acting like by just asking someone a single innocuous question its going to send them to therapy for months or something. That it's some type of tragic event that should be avoided at all costs. You know what's actually tragic? All the "Why am i so lonely?" posts from both genders on 4chan because they're only comfortable with talking to people on the internet.

There's literally nothing awful about it because the worst thing that could happen is you become a minor inconvenience for someone. Then you're gone the next minute.

>>9393145
Bruh I've already got a bald spot in my mid 20's. You've still got more of a chance than me.

>>9392315
I've been browsing 4fun since 2012 and I never knew how to spoiler until today.

>>9393220
Spoke a bit too soon there eh buddy.

>>9392878
Agreed. Any time a guy is brave enough to approach me and ask me out I typically say yes because I know it's not easy. I admire that. Of course, they also need to be polite, clean and well dressed.

>On the note of dating

Why do I attract a lot of otakus? I know I don't look like an otaku myself. Can anyone tell me what they're looking for? I don't go to anime conventions. I don't play video games. I rarely watch or read manga. I do wear lolita, but It doesn't matter what I'm wearing, because otaku still feel confident enough to flirt or ask me out. What is it you guys are attracted to?

>>9393169

nayrt, but let’s be real though, the results for the guy usually tend to be bad either way:

scenario A, not a cosplayer:
>”what is cosplay?”
>”what a weird question”
>”what a weird guy”

scenario B, a cosplayer:
>why is he asking me this?
>do I look like his waifu?
>oh god, is cosplay his fetish kink?
>what kind of socially awkward do you have to be to open with this line???
>lie, “what is cosplay”
>go home and bitch about it on cgl

Neither is going to result in PTSD, but I don’t see either one working out well either.

Though I should point out, the guy above never said he would approach the cute girl to ask if she cosplays, I prefer to think he’s just going to say hello and ask what she’s making out of her supplies.

And the one in the cringe story made the mistake of walking away when she said she didn’t know what cosplay is instead of explaining that she looks like someone famous he saw on Facebook. The floor-staring, disappointed exit just about cements the whole cosplay-kink thing, because it looks like he lost interest once she wasn’t into cosplay. You have to keep in mind cgl has weekly bitching sessions about cos sluts and how they changed the cosplay scene, so only showing interest in someone if they cosplay sends up red flags for a fair number of cosplayer gulls, which is why asking a random stranger in a random shop if they cosplay isn't really the best idea.

>>9392878
exactly. I feel bad every time since I just spaghetti back.

>>9392561
Damn, I'm sorry anon. I had stuff like this happen in high school so I feel you. But it really does show you who is worth being around and who isn't. Please continue to be yourself <3

>>9392432
>>9392317
>tfw you share no interests with the girls in your comm other than lolita
>tfw people who do share your non-lolita interests are either men and/or think lolita is weird
I just want to meet other girls who dress in lolita who have the same interests I do.

I just went home for spring break and only had room for one shirt, a pair of leggings, and two skirts in my suitcase because my Korean skincare routine took up all the room.
I guess it's fine because I do have some clothes here but it's fucking freezing and I left my heavy coat at college

>>9393434
What are these other interests? I have this same problem...

I'm into lolita, but I also enjoy fantasy and classical literature, Video Games, RPG and comics (manly indie, not much manga anymore), but in my comm is SO hard to find someone who shares the same interests!

It's quite common to find manga or anime fans, though...

>>9392962
^^^^^^this so much. I feel like it also depends on what you say/ask. Its fine to be like "hey I just wanted to say hi" or like, drop a compliment but it solely depends on your delivery. Just have confidence and above all don't sound like a douche looking for a cheap fuck or a creeper looking for someone to worship the ground they walk on.

>>9393445
I have a lot of typically "male" interests; classic FPS, metal music, sci-fi, 3D modeling
I also am not a fan of anime/manga anymore so it makes it even harder to connect with my comm

>>9392710
Only advice I can give you is to delete facebook if you're not using it. Gonna guess you're a fattychan based on what you've said here, so also recommend using your uni's gym.

Good luck.

>>9392850
>>9392857
>>9392873
Whether or not you look/sound like a creeper is entirely dependent on what you look like. If you're close to the right, then feel free to ask anyone anything at all. If you're towards the left, approaching qts is probably going to end badly.

>>9393497
>if you look good feel free to ask anyone anything at all
Have you ever in your entire life interacted with another human being?

>>9393501
Please stop replying to him to virtue signal your beliefs. I'd rather not this thread get deleted as well

>>9393497
If either of these men approached me to ask me if I liked cosplay I'd run away actually

>>9392710
Killing yourself will only bring grief and suffering for those who know you, specially your family.

I also struggled with no friends issue, so I started to search for volunteers activities around my city.

I ended up joining a reading group that makes visits to children hospitals so we can read for them and play a little, so that they don't feel lonely.

I also joined a local religious group and there I found comfort and a lot of people to talk with about my disbeliefs and problems, and everyone seem very kind and supportive.

Try finding something that you can do for the others, try different activities, try seeing a doctor too, as it can surely helps, and drag your brother with you.

He being this suicidal could be your chance to save yourself and him.

>Open application to get to work in Japan for few months
>Sent my portfolio
>Receive message that they got it
>They got few dozen of them and are already going through them
>Haven't heard from then after that

It's already been few weeks, I think they just trashed my application

>>9393497 No no no
If you go up to some person and act like a creep theyll think you are one no matter what you look,
BUT!!! what you look like can and will influence their first impression, if you look normal they wont except you to be a creep even if you are one, but they will see it sooner or later, but if you look like a neckbeard and stuff, surely people will avoid you because you look like a creep, but if they get to know you and you are non, they surely wont treat you like one later on, if they are willing to get to know you atleast, if not, whatevs your problem not mine

>>9393583
Nice grammar and spelling you got there anon.

>>9393573
Send them a follow up email and ask when they are hoping to shortlist by. It might just be taking a long time because of the high volume of applications. If they say you didn't get in, ask for feedback on your portfolio.

>>9393242
Different anon, but this sort of scenario has actually happened to me twice at Home Depot. Of course, I can't speak for how non-cosplayers would react but being a cosplayer, scenario B definitely didn't apply to my thoughts.

The first time was when a girl in Home Depot so it's a different situation for sure. Second time, while I was checking out, the male cashier asked if I was a cosplayer after he saw what I was buying. We just chatted about conventions and I think he mentioned that he didn't cosplay but his friends did or something. It was a brief meeting but I thought it was fun to meet someone else that knew about cosplays outside of conventions. But I'm usually always happy to meet people with similar interests, so maybe someone else would think those sorts of approaches are creepy.

>>9393501
Yes, many!
>>9393522
Autist or liar.

>>9393445
I don't think your interests are too uncommon anon, you might just have better luck in the friend finder thread than your comm.

I enjoy classical literature, vidya, RPG and comics too (mostly marvel). So you're not alone.

>>9393462
You should also try the friend finder thread if you haven't already.

>>9393120
If a guy comes to me feeling all alpha I feel some pride in dumping him. No regrets.

>when some guys at the con are twerking as a joke, but they've got you aroused for real

>con on Saturday
>95% I'm putting my cat down tomorrow.
This weekend is going to be a lot.

>>9392561
>the town barbie
>clown dress

The shit

>>9393891
I have a serious fetish for masculine-looking guys doing slutty girl shit. Pic oh so related.

Not gonna lie, I wish male equivalents of slutty boob cosplayers were more of a thing. This dude is the only good one I know. Anyone else into slutty male cosplayers and got more to share?

>>9393924
Welp I have a new fetish, thanks anon.

>>9393931
you're welcome dear sister

Currently working at the restaurant where I had my first date with my ex-sister.

It sucks, but I need that money for cons.

>>9393964
What?

>>9393964
>date
>ex-sister

>>9393980
>>9393992
Assuming he/she means his/her ex-stepsister. As in, his/her parent's ex's sister who is not a blood relation

Otherwise, cringe.

>>9393037
It sounds like you're suffering from arrival fallacy, anon. The only way to get out of it is to take action now, evaluate what actually would make you happy and do it. It gets much harder the more you settle down, though.

>>9393980
>>9393992
>>9394001
I called my ex-gf my "sister" because she liked siscon hentai.

>>9394033
>siscon hentai

>>9394033
does she have a sister? this will really tell us about the type of person she is.

Speaking of girly man sluts im training up for a kancolle cosplay, Shimkazi. Having a fit trying to find socks that can fit me

>>9394033
That's... actually kind of cute if you look past the incest bit.

>>9394042
>girly man slut Shimakaze
Not exactly the most original choice, but I can't deny that I'm also considering it. That or Shuten Doji or Suzuka-hime.

>>9394047
I know its not terribly original but its the easiest to find stuff for. I would love to do one of the german destroyers

>>9394040
Yes, but she only liked bro/sis shit.

Recently I've lost all motivation to make a new cosplays. I finished one this past fall and wore it to a con/got some photos, but now I just have no new ideas on what I want to do. I want to wear that previous cosplay out more because I've only worn it once, but I have no drive to start something new...every time I think of a new character that Ive had in the back of my mind, I just think "Nah, I wont look good/it's to expensive/I'm lazy, etc..."

feels bad man

I think its time for me to stop posting my coords online. I always want to share and ask critic but I just cant handle the inevitable "lol fatty chan" remarks. It starts eating (hah) away at me even though I try to lose weight. For some roundabout reason it makes me sorta want to stop trying instead of keep trying.

That being said I am losing weight, and im not obese or anything like that either.

Just sucks because it doesnt matter how well the coord is, and I must not be doing too bad if the only insult people can throw at me is that im fat, as if I didnt already know that.

I will just have to ask for coord help strictly through collages or floordinates so I can lolita in peace.

>tfw no Sengoku Nadeko cosplay to go with your faceless old man cosplay

>>9393924
>>9393946
dont do this to me anon Im still at work

>>9394092
How close to your goal weight are you anon?

>>9394092
I often wonder why people feel the need to be cruel on the interwebs, but such is life. Hope you can lolita in peace and reach your goal weight. Whatever makes you feel happy, anon.

>>9394092
Maybe you could try coording in a way that valorizes your body better and accentuates your waist. Agnes is a good example of not-so-thin girl that knows how to dress herself so that she looks pretty.

>Loved lolita since I was a young teen, bought a few pieces here and there but always ended up selling them
>Lately been buying a lot, building up an actual wardrobe
>Always daydream about wearing it, planning coords, never go anywhere or actually wear it
>Everytime I have an oppertunity I panic about people's possible reactions and decide against it
>Realize I would be a lot better off just wearing hime gyaru or whatever lizlisa type shit is
>Also realize I'm not going to do that because I've been dreaming about this for too long to give up now
>Mfw

>>9392317
mind re-sharing your feel anon? ill listen

>>9392590
bunny house. bunny house forever

>>9394218
Noooo don't give up because of what other people will think. If you are this afraid you could always try joining a local comm and ask for advice, but don't give it up because of that.

>tfw lolita gf left me a year ago this month

I just had a job interview and I'm nervous waiting for the results. I need a lolita to cuddle up with.

>>9392561
When I wear normal clothing, everybody starts asking if I'm sick. So much that if I fail to wear my hair up in some type of pig tail style, people ask if I'm sick. I'm like, "No man, I just wore my hair down today." Apparently I look like I'm 'sad' with my hair down.

Even when I had short hair in a poof, people would ask if I'm sick if I didn't poof it sky high. I guess I look sick without silly hair.

>>9392882
youre like a fucking aspergers case study. you should donate yourself to science so we can find a cure for this kind of retardation

>>9392818
>pronounced 'niggery'.

Well damn, that's how I pronounce(d) it too. Good thing I've never actually had to speak her last name to someone. That would have been embarrassing.

You are not the only one who thought that without even thinking about what you were actually saying.

>>9394177
I always try to go for waist flattering dress since I my waist is the most defined part of my body and I always felt I dressed well for my body type, but well fat doesnt look good no matter how you dress it really.

>>9394171
Ugh not close, I really just started after finally getting depression under control and having an awesome fiance that helped me make a meal plan :)

>>9394174
I just try to remind myself that if the worst they can tell me is something I already know then I cant be doing too badly, never been posted in the ita thread yet, so I got that going for me!

>>9392882
I went there to get a driveway marker to put in my foam sword, but I soon discovered I'd rather have my daddy whip my bare ass with.

>>9393924
tfw my boyfriend is tall, muscular, and has a big faaaaaaat ass

>>9394304
ponytail face lift anon

>>9394218
Gyaru isn't a backup for failed lolitas, we will roast the shit out of you too if you don't bring your A game.

t.gyaru

All of my com bring their boyfriends/gf's to meetups, to say hello and show them off. I want to do the same, because he's incredibly handsome and super fun to be around. Though the issue is that he's pretty /pol/ like..

He doesn't spout the stuff he believe's. He knows it's social suicide. The problem is that there is a few trans members in my community. He tries his best to be respectful because they are my friends. His problems with transexuals was that he had to take care of his schizo mother for 10 years before she committed suicide, so whenever he sees people cheering on mental illnesses like it's a badge of honor I know that he gets disgusted. Though, he remains respectful.

I also think another reason why I may be hesitating from bringing him is because I sort of feel embarrassed hanging around people he hates. He has not once given off the impression of being mad about this though. In the end he supports my hobby, and has been the best thing in my life.

I don't know exactly where I'm going with all this. I want to bring him along to show the guy who supports me so much because others in my com do it, but I don't want to force him to do something I think he wouldn't like. I know for a fact that if he did come along he'd be completely respectful of everyone, despite his views but it'd just be a mask. Would it be wrong to ask him to come with me?

>>9394595
If hes as /pol/ as you say, no, don't bring him along. It's great he can be respectful but in the long run it doesn't sound like it will be good for your relationship.

>>9394595
Basically tell him exactly what you posted but let him know what "a few trans members" actually is and how many other members there are and he'll save you the effort of wondering if it'd be ok by telling you whether he wants to go or not.

Non cosplay or lolita feel, but I'm almost crying at work right now because I lost my friends because one of them is shitty and the others would defend him even if he's shitty so I can't trust any of them. I feel so depressed. Why are guys so horrible, gulls?

>>9394092
>tfw thin, average face, okay coordinates, but i know this feel
minus the being called fat part obviously, but jsyk it happens to everyone. they will find anything to nitpick, even when there isn't anything "wrong." and if they can't find anything wrong with your coordinate, they'll try to find something wrong with YOU. be it personality, body, face, whatever. it really fucking sucks and i'm sorry people can be such dicks, but i guess i'm just trying to say that i feel for you because these out-of-left-field insults happen to me too. godspeed, anon

>>9394699
Don't feel like this, take this chance to change your friends and make new and better ones!

>>9394595

He probably won't say anything unless politics are brought up. Just bring him.

>>9392590
It isn't that expensive so make sure you are doing conversion properly.

>>9394595
At some point you have to deal with the fact that your bf is a shitty person. If he can stfu you can have him meet people but you will always have to make sure he only kinda knows your friends.

>>9394746
>Not supporting a tranny's delusions makes you a shitty person.

>>9394746

>people who don't share my opinions are shitty people

OK senpai

>>9394699
Care to elaborate?

>>9394739
>>9394754
One of them said a really horrible thing to my boyfriend, who can be a douche himself and there's a long complicated history behind all of this, but what was said was the last straw, honestly I want to dump him and block all of them and leave this job.

>>9394777
But I mean tomorrow I have a lolita meet so I'm just going to dress up in frills and forget the fact boys even exist.

>>9394779
Until I show up in a frilly dress as a disguise and kidnap you.

Also, wait a minute.
>someone says something mean to your bf
>as a response, you're dumping your bf

huh.

>>9394789
We don't have a very happy relationship, it's been borderline abusive at times, so naturally I turned to other people for help and support. One of the friends may have liked me (but what did it matter?) so bf kept involving everyone in our dysfunctional relationship. I'm so done with all of it and everyone.

>>9394823
That makes sense. I was in a pretty unhappy relationship myself, and it took me a long time before I could give up on it. Bittersweet feeling.

But now I can go to conventions and cosplay and dress up and I don't have to worry about jealous, explosive girlfriends.

Feels really damn good.

Go you!

>>9394823
Hah I still have to get out so congratulations may be premature, but thanks anon! I'm glad everything worked out well for you, it gives me hope!

>>9394830
Oops, dropped spaghetti, was meant to reply to you, not me with >>9394837

>>9393176
I started dating my boyfriend when he'd already lost a 1/4 of his hair. There's always hope.

>>9394837
Just.... don't let the aftershock bait you into bad habits.

I cared for my ex, a lot. And while it was a really strained and painful several months before I broke it off, I still got stuck with feelings of loss. And it's very difficult to try not to compensate for that hole with food, alcohol, or other people (rebounds). "Time heals all wounds" or whatever, but fuck me, time needs to move faster.

These years are our prime years, and being stuck in an emotional rut... really blows.

I really like wearing lolita in day to day life, but my family is super against it.
They see it as "one of my cosplays" or "too dressy" or just simply "too different".
It's frustrating because mother is a jeans and a t-shirt kind of a person and my sister just wears normie basic bitch things.
Even in middle/high school I was super out there with my fashion choices (extreme cyber goth).
But they were more ok with that than they are with lolita. My mom just frowns and sighs and my sister will make some snarky remark. Or else they don't even want to be seen with me in it.
I really don't know how I can change their mind, but it's affecting me going out in lolita on my own because now it's torn down my confidence in it.
Lolita is my outlet for depression and is one of the only fashions that suits my body type. (Thin and short)

>>9394918
Introduce them to functional and well-adjusted members of society who also like lolita.

If you can find any.

>>9394892
Honestly, my life is crazy uncertain and such a mess right now, I have crazy self-destructive behaviors and I can see myself regressing again, if I have no one to turn to I don't know what to do. But I'll see what happens, que sera sera.

>>9394918
I don't think there's much you can do to change their mind, to be honest. It sucks but some people just don't like it. Maybe they'll get used to it as time goes by, maybe they won't, either way the best thing you can do for yourself is accept their opinions as they are and try not to let them affect you.
Confidence can be rebuilt; tone down your outfits when you go out with your family and gradually go back to wearing your coords how you like when you're out on your own, until you feel more comfortable again.

>>9394921
Honestly they'd still just call it weird and be the same way. They'd consider the person not functional or well adjusted just for wearing an alternative fashion.

>>9394931
They don't have to wear it, just like it.

>>9394922
There is always someone to turn to, anon. Always someone ready to help.
As long as you're ready to put aside your pride and accept their help.

Please don't let your self-destructive behaviors consume you.

The same is true for me, but I'm too proud to accept people's advice and help. I need to change myself first.

>been waiting forever for EpicCosplay to have a flash sale
>"Flash Sale! Green wigs only!"
kill me, senpai

>got my period on the first morning of the con

Guess I'll have to duct tape it shut.

>>9394595
here

He ended up talking to me about it last night, since I remarked on how other members of the meet are bringing their SO's and he picked up on it. I told him everything I wrote, but in a more jumbled mess but he understood what I meant. He called me a dumdum for thinking that he wouldn't want to go to something that was important to me, and that he would be on his best behavior. He also asked me to show him who the trans people are before the meet so he wouldn't misgender them.

Woke up this morning to him baking cookies in an SS uniform, saying how these cookies wont be the only things that will be baked at the meetup. Then started joking with me that he'd be wearing it to the tea party. I had to suffer through his puns for the rest of the morning, but I got to pick his clothes for the meetup which he doesn't normally let me do. Good feels gulls.

>>9394952
No, they don't have to like it. Maybe they will once they grow used to it but the most you can expect in this situation is that they'll accept it and respect your decision to wear it.

> get a harness custom-made
> arrives 1 month later
> I lost 8 lbs since then
> also may have mismeasured

It's falling off me, I want to die. Adding an extra snap can't be too hard for a cobbler right?

>>9395451
>Adding an extra snap can't be too hard for a cobbler right?

Yeah that'll be easy peasy.

>>9394539
Let me rephrase.
>Afraid of normie reaction to lolita, realize I would be better off with a more toned-down look

>>9395477
Gyaru isn't really toned down though, maybe compared to sweet lolita but it still stands out in the crowd, especially with the hair and makeup styles. You'll still get attention for it. Why not just wear whatever makes you happy regardless of normie reactions?

>>9395484
I'm probably using the wrong term here, I think there's something more accurate than hime gyaru- but things like pic related seem a lot more normie-friendly than my pastel-pink knee-length, blouse-required, poofy dresses.
I have terrible self esteem and am living in a town where I don't have any friends besides my bf and his family/friends, so I already feel like an outsider.

>>9395495
Good lord half of those make me cringe.

>ayyy, so you lookin for that Jap summer look? Want a weird western twist with it?
>Just fuck my shit up, senpai.

I want to go back to 2003.

I want to go back to the days when cons were full of outcasts and we were all bonded by the shared experience. When everybody was welcoming and friendly by default because we were all weird and we looked past weirdness to find things we liked about people. When a shy and awkward person like me back then could make great friends and even get relationships at cons.

Now it's just like high school over again. People are always actively looking for reasons to exclude other people. Hostility is the default attitude. Cliques are the standard. Somebody like me now, with 15 years of social practice and who's totally adept in the normal world suddenly becomes a gigantic loser again at a con.

It really makes me sad. They were the one place I could go and take the mask off, where I had a fair chance at having fun and meeting cool people. It's all gone now and there's nowhere to go anymore.

>>9395495
No I understand what you mean, like I said it is toned down if you compare it to sweet lolita but compared to everyday normie fashion it does stand out. You might not get the common "It's not Halloween!" calls that lolitas do but you'll still attract attention because that's just the nature of alternative fashion.
Personally I feel that if you wear what you like - Whatever that may be - It can help your self esteem a lot, especially if you feel beautiful and comfortable in what you choose to wear.

>>9395511
Not sure what cons you're going to, but my local cons are full of friendly people like you described in the first paragraph. I never notice hostility or people trying to exclude others. You can walk up to almost any other cosplayer, start a conversation, and become friends.

Maybe it's just your personality that's causing people to be rude? Do you come off as friendly or as a depressed wreck?

>>9395540
Mostly big West Coast cons. The smaller ones are overrun with screaming teenagers, so I don't go.

I dunno, it's not really a "rude" thing. It's like, in the old days I'd spend my cons randomly getting into conversations with people, and we'd very quickly find common ground. Pretty much all of my friends today came from meetings like that in the old days.

Nowadays when I talk to people at cons, that kind of thing is very rare. It becomes obvious pretty quickly that we're there for different reasons and have different kinds of attitudes toward the scene and hobby in general.

I feel like there's an ever-widening gulf between fans of different franchises or styles of anime, too - in the old days we all kind of watched the same stuff, now there's a good chance you'll have no fandoms in common with people you meet, especially because so many people at cons these days are barely into anime at all and are mostly /co/ kind of people that just go there for the chance to wear costumes and for the parties.

>tons of stuff I want being posted to LM and Y!Auctions
>wunderwelt and closet child have matching headbows to two dresses I own
>poorfag with forty dollars in the bank right now
I really need a second job...

Whenever I see an asian girl I am reminded of my ex gf who I have couple cosplayed with for 8 years straight

I posted a while back in one of these threads about having a crush on my female best friend, her being the first girl I've ever liked.

And now I can officially say I have my first girlfriend. I'm so excited. She's 6 inches taller than me and is an edgy weeb fujoshit like me (albeit I'm sans the edgy part) who wears all black who I pray to one day convince to wear/buy aristo for because she'd love it and I can wear sweet lolita next to and go to anime conventions and hold hands and oh god, gulls, I'm so happy and ecstatic.

I could just ramble on and on about this for hours, although I have nobody to ramble about it to..

>>9395651
are u the one who we told to do it and then update us?

>>9395651
Adorable. Good luck, tiny lesbian. /cgl/ is rooting for you.

>>9395651
That's wonderful, anon! Congratulations!

>>9395362
SS uniform?

>>9395655
Maybe, it was a few weeks back...I remember replying to somebody that I'd throw back in an update once shit went down.

>>9395659
>>9395661
Thanks so much, gulls, I really like her a lot, we're almost nearly the same person, our birthdays are even only a week apart. It's pretty long distance, unfortunately, but it's a gap we're both willing to completely close one day.

>sell a bunch of cheap brand
>attract bad buyers left and right
>or people who waste their and my time asking questions but never reply or buy anything
Make it stop, please. I just want some free space in my closet.

>>9392337
U sound adorable I'll be your gf onisama :3c

>>9395667
He was dressed up as a Nazi while he was baking cookies.

>>9395706
>a nazi using an oven
the cookies weren't shaped like people were they

>>9395708
No, he was doing something just as evil. Making cookies with no chocolate in them.

>>9395718
what a monster

>going out for a jog
>stop at a park to take a break
>see a bunch of lolita having a meet and walking around the park
>go to sit on a bench to relax for a bit
>have my water bottle on some railing in front of me
>one of the lolitas poof knocks it over
>they panic and start apologizing to me
>I, a 6'2" 230 pound hairy man put on my most feminine voice
>say"Most embarrassing behavior"
>the lolita who knocked it over laughs loudly, she can't help it while a few others start giggling and the rest don't understand
>just pick up the water bottle and say goodbye and run off before they question me and spaghetti comes out of my fanny-pack

Perfect timing as well, I never got around to seeing the behavior clips until a few days ago.

>>9395372
I was referring to the people she should introduce her family to.

>tfw all the hottest girls from your comm have either died in car crashes or moved to other hobbies

>>9395825
Anon... this is adorable. You're adorable.

>sister gets ignored at tea party
>comes home whining that she got "cuck'ed again"

Wtf.

>>9395495
>>9395511
>>9395540
You still get attention wearing gyaru, just a different kind of attention. Unless you are confident and good at dealing with frequent sexual harassment, it's not for you.

>>9395825
You probably made their day, it would have made mine!

>>9395919
What? How many girls in your comm have died in car crashes?

>>9395608
Post what it is so I can buy it

>Tfw cashed in my life insurance policy (since I didn't want to pay the premiums) and spending all the money on lolita

Wtf

>>9395608
Would you be my qt lolita gf if I got them for you?

>>9394918
This anon again
On to a cousins baby shower. I wore an otome like coord today. A simple lace dress with a browb belt, otks, brown boots, and a brown bucket hat.
The second my sister saw me she crinkled her nose.

>>9395362
>wearing an SS uniform
Wew, does he actually own one or was that a meme?

From my own experience most /pol/acks are pretty tame people in public, and the ones who have partners are pretty considerate of them

>>9396135
>wear good looking, appropriate outfit
>crinkles nose

>>9396142
Yeah, so imagine what reactions she'd give if I was wearing lolita.
Pic related pic taken on potato phone on the shaky af road

>>9395718
Dump him.

>>9395362
>He also asked me to show him who the trans people are before the meet so he wouldn't misgender them.
Are you sure he's /pol/?

>>9396147
Alright, well she sounds fucking silly

>>9395825
you're hilarious

this is the way to do it

>>9396147
Hat looks kinda stupid, maybe that's why?

>>9396167
Possibly. But i really like it. Its not as bad as it looks in the picture. Hard to take a pic buckled into a car thats bouncing down the turnpike.
NJ roads are all shit.

>>9396147
What the fug. That looks fashionable as fuck.
I need to step up my coord game.
I've been surrounded all my life by people who can't coord even basic normie wear and people who seem color blind.

>>9396167
>hat looks kinda stupid
YOU LOOK KINDA STUPID.

>>9396167
I was thinking the same, but it's hard to say without seeing the whole outfit.

>>9396201
It matches my belt, boots, and purse the dress comes with a dark brown belt.
Also a wierd angle to take a picture.

>>9396147
it just looks like normie fashion

>>9396232
Exactly. So i dont know what my sister's problem is. Its not outrageous. Its really normie.

>>9396234
so, why even care? i'm not trying to be mean or anything, but you're an adult. she can't stop you from wearing whatever the hell you want and neither can your folks really

the only person hindering you is yourself by taking their opinions to heart. it's not like they're going to stop loving you or anything. buck up and do what you want?

>>9396142
Yes, he owns one. Though it's /mostly/ because I have a fetish for military attire, and it's hard to get any better than the SS uniform. The fact that it's taboo just makes it hotter to me. He has quite a few others he has bought for me as well, but the nazi one was perfect for the situation.

>>9396157
Yes I'm 1000% percent sure. I've just mentioned before how easy drama starts so he's only being considerate for my sake.

>>9396248
Lmao, I've gotten shit for my ww1 German stuff so I can only imagine.

>Lolita/SS officer intercourse
What a world

>>9395362
>Woke up this morning to him baking cookies in an SS uniform

Marry this guy, he seems awesome

>>9396147
Maybe your sister and mom just hate you? youre dressed like my mom here and shes the most normie person i can think of

>>9396465
No theyre just very boring people fashion wise.

>tfw still waiting to hear if my staff application for my favorite convention is approved
>love this con and its staff, love being on staff, have been moved to tears by the fellowship among staff members in the past
>have never been disciplined or reprimanded, have always gotten good feedback from supervisors, have never been involved in drama in the community
>believe in the con and its mission and eager to help in any capacity
>meanwhile, friends are already approved while my application remains up in the air
>worried i did something wrong last year and they don't want me anymore
>worried i did nothing wrong but maybe some arbitrary decision might cause me to be overlooked or rejected
>worried my hard work and loyalty has not been enough
>worried i will not be part of the community anymore

abandonment anxiety is embarrassing

>>9396476
and you were dressed normie af and still got those reactions. admit it anon, this issue runs deeper than just fashion

>>9396563
But they dont? And if anything else, they're just two judgemental people in general.
Dont try and arm chair psych over a stupid rant on 4chan.

>>9396581
it's funny how you ignored the good advice that was given to you so that you could complain more. it's hard to sympathize with somebody who won't help themselves.

>>9396623
Er, I only got advice from one anon and that was to not take it too serously, which I'm trying to work on anyway.
You're taking this more seriously than I am, senpai.

>Buy a ticket for Omnia Vanitas
>Nobody go but is in a PIGS nation so it would be cheap
>Shitty guests
>Shitty event
>Shitty costume-y itas

Kill me

>>9395939
How old is sissy-anon, and who taught her to talk like this?

>>9396256
>I've gotten shit for my ww1 German stuff
Why? Do they know it's WWI?

>>9396486
Hang in there, anon, it doesn't mean anything! I'm sure you'll get in, you sound like a serious asset.

>>9394595
>sees people cheering on mental illnesses like it's a badge of honor I know that he gets disgusted.
He sounds like the worst type of people in mental health. He is judging others based off his own victim complex.

>>9396627
ok then keep complaining about your sad sad experience. im so glad you posted your face so people can avoid you.

>>9396053
Three.

And then five others just got tired of lolita.

>>9396167
Hat looks cute

>friend comes to visit for local con
>acts super excited to see me
>happy that they're making the trip
>con weekend rolls around
>friend and bf spend most of the time playing Pokemon Go
>awkward relationship issues since they're a new couple
>hope things will get better by the time we leave for the con
>Only stay at con for 4 hours
>Friend complains about virtually everything
>bf spends the whole time not talking/playing Pokemon Go, or going out to smoke
>'Anon, my bf isn't really having fun so we're just gonna go hang out at the room. I think he's upset about not getting to spend any time with me'.
>literally see each other every single day
>okay.jpg

I wouldn't have been so pissed off if they didn't make a huge deal about spending time with me. My original plan was just to meet them at the con (so they could hang out doing whatever they wanted) but they insisted that I stay with them and we all hang out together. I'm very salty because I spent money on the ticket just to walk around for a few hours while listening to complaints or being ignored. This is why I usually end up going to events solo

>>9396801
what is your gender

>>9396803
it's /cgl/, what do you think?

>>9396811
It'd be easier to explain why everything was going on if you were a male.
Though since you're a girl i'm at a complete loss.
Just bad friends, and the bf probably has social anxiety. It'd explain his silence around someone new and constant need to smoke. Not that it makes up for your shitty experience. I tend to go to events alone as well for the same reasons.

>>9396248
>fetish for military attire
Oh god me too anon. My husband loves modern day Russian military stuff so he has a bunch of uniforms and gear that I love seeing him wear. I should try to talk him into getting an SS uniform that sounds hot. He's Asian not white though so it would be a little weird maybe?

>>9396848
Even if it is weird, it's really hard to find a better looking uniforms. They were definitely fashionable.

>>9396627
and yet you're still whining

glad you posted face so you can embarrass yourself more

>>9396871
Geeze anon, calm down.

>>9396875
perfectly calm, she's just an idiot. i don't get worked up over idiots.

Have some feels.

>>9396879
>kid focused on the flash.

Dont blame him, wonderwoman is a poop tier

My bf just found out that too many carrots turn your skin yellow. Now he's trying to feed me carrots so he can pretend I'm Japanese.

Wtf man.

>>9396992
I ate a lot of carrots in HS and it actually turned me more orange than yellow. But everyone complimented my "glowy" my skin looked!

>he's trying to feed me carrots so he can pretend I'm Japanese.
k ur bf is racist? cool

My husband took a picture of his wiener, ran it through Meitu, and sent it to me.

Kawaii.

>>9397046
Did he use the watery eyes filter?

>>9397046
>tfw my dick is too veiny to kawaiify for the gf

>>9397122

dont need a filter to make a benis cry

>>9397125
make it a tiny coord and put a bow on top, it'll be cute as fuck

>>9397184
>tiny

>>9397046
10/10 anon he's a keeper

>>9397223

Went to a cosplay event one time and saw a group of four that were cosplaying the FFXV gang of Noctis and company. All dudes, and pretty friendly. Got to talking with them, enjoyed it quite a bit. Hung out with them and followed them around the con, even acted out some scenes. I was dressed as the Mysterious Stranger. At dinner time, the dude who was Ignis goes to his fucking car and pulls out a Coleman cooking grill and makes his buddies and me some tasty as fuck burgers. Turns out dude worked at a restaurant. The feels part is I never saw them again afterwards. I truly felt like I had some neat friends. I wanted to sing Stand By Me for them.

>>9392870
why
>>9392818
That like count though. Jesus.

Yesterday I ordered something from Japonica with a small time frame.
Thoough, they responded quickly and invoiced me as well. When I paid there were still 2 hours left on the auction.
They forgot to make my bid. Just like that. I'm really angry. They already refunded me, but paypal will keep my refund for 10 days which is the most annoying part.
Lately they haven't been as reliable, because they take more orders than they can handle.

>>9397361
How the hell did you get them to make an order for you? They're supposed to be closed right now due to excessive orders, it's right on their site.

>>9396817
Yeah, it was just really odd. The bf was nice when he did talk but it's off-putting when someone is constantly on their phone or only talks about one thing all day. I tried to cut him some slack because it was his first con but he barely looked at anything and it felt like we were dragging him around even though he said he was having fun.

Things would be alright for awhile and then my friend would get weird when the bf left or even just did/said one little thing that wasn't 100% excitement. They argued about almost everything but always passive aggressively which got incredibly awkward for me.

I feel like I could've saved my money for stuff I actually need but lesson learned

>>9397358
It's not even her highest-liked post about farting.

>>9397380
orz

>>9395655
If you're thinking of the one where we were doing couple cosplay and a photoshoot with it that was me! Con we're going to is next month

>Finally gonna start prop
>Get sick every fucking weekend
Goddamnit, just when I feel motivated as fuck.

>apply to be a butler in a maid cafe
>have experience from some higher end restaurants when I was in college
>despite this, I get denied "we have enough butlers"
>Don't mind much, just figure oh well
>Show up to the cafe first day of the con
>All the butlers are fakeboys not even trying to hide their bust
>They look like they are having trouble carrying two plates at a time
>Not even ONE actual guy,

me mad. The maids were cute though

>>9397767
OMG THEYRE JUST LIKE SEBA-KUN! XD!
I guarantee more than half of them are fujoshits trying to become one with the yaois.

>plan to do a cosplay with another girl, thought pics would turn out cool
>never met her but we like the same show so why not
>her friend irl decides to do my character so girl ditches me
>feel like shit for a while
>her friend finishes the cosplay
>it looks like shit
>her friend is an uggo obeast
>suddenly feel a lot better going solo

>>9392432
>iktf
I'm always the one who has to initiate contact, who has to come up with new things to do, who's trying to organise get-togethers. At best my friends will hang out with me for an hour or two before going on to someone else's party without me, at worst they tell me they're "super busy with work :-(" only to later post on social media about the great time they had with other people that day. I'm introverted as fuck so this is completely exhausting to me and I often can't keep it up and end up losing contact completely. At this point the only real friends I have are my fiancé and my parents.

I don't understand why. Am I not fun to be around? Am I annoying? People at lolita meetups have told me that despite being quiet at first, I'm surprisingly interesting and funny once I get to talking. I don't overshare or bother people with my problems. I care about other people and try to be a good friend. Yet I've seen others, who act rude and uncaring and selfish and even take advantage of the people around them, have strong longstanding friendships. What do they have that I don't? I don't understand what's wrong with me.

>tfw no qt lolita friends
>or normie friends
>or any friends

>really want to cosplay DOAX3
>Have the same measurements as Marie Rose (same height and weight, too)
>eating at wendy's
>People behind me talk shit about me being skinny, laugh at me for eating fast food
>friend yells at me later for talking about it and mentioning "all bout that bass" and criticizing it slamming skinny women
>friend refuses to see it from my prespective
>Friend hasn't talked to me since
>Depressed, hating myself, want to throw away nearly completed cosplay
I'm probably going to avoid the beach again this year...

>>9397790
>caring what fat people think
They don't care about bettering themselves, anon. They'd sooner bring down everyone around them than accept that they are disgusting and bitter.

>>9397801
>that picture

dear lord

>>9397790
I mean, it's annoying but I don't let that shit really bother me. At the end of the day, I'm still happy with how I look and they're the ones that have an issue with it

>>9397801
It took me too long to realize you're supposed to read that up-and-down. then left-to-right.

>mfw

>>9397380
I actually tried this because of her. It was a good idea.

>>9397801
>>9397790
Fat people are animals who's denial and mental inability to change will prevent them from ever being kawaii

I'm sure you're lovely

>>9397369
Only for new customers. If they couldn't make it this would be fine, but why invoice me then.

>>9397790
>not wearing the scorn of fat people like a badge of honor

>>9397790
>going to avoid the beach because some land whales might roll their way there and bray incoherently in their sea lion dialect at you

Top fucking kek. And here I thought I was a pussy.

Just respond "Sorry, bitch, my name's not Dory; I don't speak Whale. Nor Walrus or Sea Lion or whatever the hell you massive creatures gargle out half coherently in between Big Macs."

STOP RIPPING ON FATTY CHANS

>>9398086
Fatty chans more like chunky hams

>>9397801
Even when people have a disease, like hormone problems, can they lose weight? I have some fat friends and they all have problems with thyroid and they usually claim it's not their fault for being fat.

>>9398133
They're lying lazy shits.

>>9398086
Are you trying to imply Luka is fat?

>>9398148
yeah she has a fat ass

>>9398133
The guy is oversimplifying when he says energy in, energy out because there are other factors that come into play, but yes... that is true for everyone. People with thyroid issues are going to have more difficulty losing weight, but it's definitely not technically impossible. Plus problems with thyroid are quite rare (not saying your friends are lying, but maybe keep a grain of salt), and it's most commonly eating/exercise habits that make people fat.

>>9398154
big butt =/= fat

You still need wide hips and a narrow waist to pull it off like Luka.

I really, really love old school lolita.
In a practical sense, it's awful. It's so costume-y, vaguely tacky, and out dated.
But I love it in photos. I love the tartan, simplicity, the oversize lace, generous amount of ruffles, attention to small details to bring pieces together. I love the lack of care about it, heart-shaped anything, looking as ridiculous as an old porcelain doll.
I get so emotional looking at old school lolita, reminiscing about being in middle school and spending endless hours searching through google images to see anything new, finding a copy of GLB at my local comic book store. Those were the days.

>>9398182
>costume-y
Is it? I'd say today's trends are a lot more costumey, but I guess it's relative and depends on personal tastes. I know this feel though.
Do you also wear old school or just admire it?

>>9398221
I think OTT classic today is pretty costume-y, but man.. some real old school pieces just scream "school theatre" to me.
I wear vaguely old school sweet (2005-2010 era stuff) but my favorite stuff predates that. My favorite pieces are those Anne of Green Gables looking outfits, and old velvet OPs.

>watching the Twitch Power Rangers steam
>Lightspeed Rescue villain looks distractingly like Yaya, wearing a super Yaya-esque costume

Christ. I don't understand how Yaya hasn't done this cosplay yet.

>>9398158
Yea, Luka is thicc. But not fat.

>>9392936
did anyone ever message you?

>>9392936
I'd message you but I share an email account with my nine sisters :C

>>9398674
E-mail expensive where you live?

>>9398086
I will, but can't vouch for others.

>>9398086
When one puts out, I will.

Til then, hambeasts in lol-elite-a are gonna get ripped to shreds.
As are ones in cosuprayo.

>>9398699
Why do you want to fuck a fat?

>>9398710
Sex is the best exercise, mang.
With a pretty face, some motivation, and lots of exercise, any fatty boomalatty can become a pretty, athletic girl.

You should be happy; it ends up meaning less complaining about lolita sizes and tumblresque hugbox communities centered around poor habits, as long as I get my way.

>>9398133
Hi! Anon here who had thyroid problems severe enough that my whole thyroid gland had to be surgically removed a month ago! It caused me severe medical problems and now I take medication to replace the hormones I would normally get from my thyroid.

One thing I learned during the course of my disease is that while it's been getting a lot of coverage in the media, is that it's not a common condition, though it mostly happens in women (or if you have a family history of diagnosed thyroid problems). It's an amazing "coincidence" that your fat friends all have the same problem. Another thing is that weight problems are highly manageable during the course of your condition. If they haven't been taking medication/treatments or special dietary precautions, then they either have no access to medical professionals to help them, or they themselves are to blame for their state. It may be difficult for them to maintain a healthy weight but if they don't try, then it's their own fault for being that way. If your friends have no other hormone related problems (irregular periods, emotional and mental problems, temperature sensitivity etc.) then it's probably not a hormone related problem!

I myself had suffered with my condition for the better part of three years before my medication stopped working and my health deteriorated enough that surgery was one of my remaining options (or radiation). If you have questions, feel free to ask!

>>9392802
Hey anon, drop your contact deets and I'll message you!

>>9392666
what