/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

I was going to wear lolita to Disney World, but I chickened out at the last minute. I figured it'd be too hot, or some other misfortune would ruin my burando.

After our first day at the park, I dreamed that I was wearing my nicest coord outside of Cinderella's castle, and I looked so cute that people were crowding around to take my picture.

Then, without warning, some screaming kid sprinted toward me and head-butted me really hard in the vagina. I dropped like a sack of potatoes. A bunch of other kids pinned me to the ground and started beating me with souvenir drinking cups, and I distinctly remember one of those giant Disney turkey legs staining my dress. It was horrifying.

When I woke up, I found out that my mom took a "cute" picture of me sleeping. So now our Disney Fb album has a photo of me dreaming about getting beaten by children.

I went to a comm meeting under-dressed, like super under-dressed. It was over a hundred degrees, closer to 110f that day. The meet was at a historic location, a very very old building, so I planned for the worst and wore my "not-as-lolita-as-it-could-be-wont-die-from-heat" coord that I've worn before in other situations with that weather...

Then I get there and there's AC blasting in the building; it's nearly 75f inside. Everyone is in brand coords with long-sleeve blouses and complicated wings.
It made me feel so stupid; I have so many nice outfits ready to go, I could have looked much better, but I was more concerned with ending up looking like a hot mess then a potentially sweaty kawaii princess.

>>9535681
I laughed. Seriously though, wear lolita to Disney. I wore cutesy Jfashion and got a lot of compliments from the park staff and other attendees didn't even bother me so it was really nice. I mean they're used to seeing people in Disneybound and brides-to-be in giant Minnie ear veils and dresses so really it's not that odd.

I feel like putting that you like anime or cosplay in a dating profile, even as a casual mention is like dating kryptonite. Since I did it, I have run out of people to swipe on tinder and bumble multiple times and my message rate on OKC dropped like a rock.
For how mainstream people are complaining nerd culture has become, seems like Anime/Cosplay/nerd culture still is not very well received by the average person, or by most people.

>>9535731
Yeah it's an instant ignore. Like where do I go to meet other losers? Only place I've had success is here.

>>9535731
This is why you only date your own kind.

>>9535770
That's why I originally put it in there, I got sick of hiding my hobbies to impress someone. I guess even OKC, which is marketed as dating for quirky nerdy people is full of normal people who hate anime and nerdy stuff

>>9535731
OKC is trash anyway. joined that shit site when negging was popular so my inbox was full of dumbass dudes who didn't read my profile and were just insulting me with an ulterior motive of trying to get laid. why did negging ever become a thing.
>>9535758
/soc/ is helpful. the ideal mate threads. met my fiance there. unfortunate thing is that they probably live really far.
The guy who made cookie clicker was going through /soc/ trying to find a "pure lolita gf"

>>9535731
Guessing you're a guy then?

>tfw all the cute girls you meet at the con are taken or underage

>>9535731
i've been on okc for two years and never got a message from someone I didn't already know.

Luckily I've made friends by going to anime cons.

>>9535731
I don't know anon, I have a few pics of my mediocre ouji coords on mine and I keep getting normies. I had one normie aggressively (started spamming my inbox) to get me to go to lunch with her.
I'm a dude btw.

I want to take sad lolitas into my bed and comfart them. Some of these stories break my heart.

>>9535968
I'm taking a shit right now, where's my 65 quadrillion dollars?

>tfw breastfeeding a baby
>None of my favorite dresses fit because I'm constantly engorged and even when not, my boobs are huge and gross
>Not supposed to wear tight bras or you'll lose your supply so I definitely can't boobs

Just fuck my shit up man. If formula weren't so expensive and more work I'd switch. Hopefully when she switches to baby food my boobs go back to C's, this is terrible for lolita and I hate how my body looks.

>>9535991
Jfc I meant to say I can't bind, not that I can't boobs

>>9535681
>When I woke up, I found out that my mom took a "cute" picture of me sleeping.
somehow, I wanna see that now

>>9535844
I know that feel

>>9535968
I doubt that they would be happy then

>>9535968
>comfart them
>comFART

>Have really quiet jfashion tumblr blog
>Every post get only one or two likes
>Some time ago one post got somewhat noticed, suddenly hundred notes
>Go to tumblr today
>Some fujoshifag reblogged the pic
>It's spreading again, this time outside jfashion circles
>Be little worried some ddlg blog will find me

>>9535681
I skimmed to the third paragraph and didn't realize you were describing a dream.

>>9536023
I know that feel. My tumblr was dead quiet. Now I never post on it because two shitty things happened.

Incident one: I put up a candid photo from a meet where a friend and I are holding hands and laughing together. Thought it was cute. Someone thought it meant we were a couple and it got shared through a bunch of LGBTQ pages. No big deal. Whatever. After a day or two, the notes died down.

Then, a few weeks later, incident two happened: the photo got a fuckload of notes all of a sudden for a second time because it was shared to one of those creepy blogs that writes scenarios on your photos. We are now lovers and she bullied me (apparently previously male) into drinking a magic potion that would turn me into a subservient sex doll. Lovely lurid details about the shrivelling sensation of a dick turning into a clit and all. I'd seen screencaps of that shit in cgl threads before, but I never figured I'd encounter it directly.

I feel so depressed with the lolita situation in my country rn. We are a small European country and our body count in my city is 5 people per meetup, out of which you can expect only 3 to have decent coords each time (including me and my best friend)

I've been in this fashion for 8 years now, and I long for a decent sized, decently dressed community so much. I wouldn't need something gigantic like the UK comm either, just 10 people, wearing actual lolita coords.

We used to have that when i first joined, but then people moved on, and new people can't seem to commit to even the most basic coord.
There is this one girl that only has 2 BL dresses that she can't coord to save her life, and this other one that even has moitie, but pairs it with the most horrible shitty blouses, cheap wigs and makeup that is melting on her face. And another 1-2 that show up in casual clothes.

I am the mod of my community and I've tried numerous things, from going to nicely decorated cafes that don't require a reservation, so that people don't feel obliged to pay a lot, lolita secret santas, to even hosting a swap meet where I made sure to include older brand pieces, accessories and mooks for dirt cheap to entice people, to no avail. I am talking BTSSB jsks in good condition for 30 euros.

Occasionally, we will get an infulx of weeaboos, that think ero cosplay lolita is a thing, try to join, and we are basically polite and try to encourage them, but they never commit once they find out they have to either splurge some money or do some basic research to get good deals, and that their Misa Misa cosplay is not an acceptable coord.

Shit, I know that my country is relatively poor by European standards, but we have a considerable BJD community, which is a much more expensive hobby, so this shit is not an excuse.

>>9536050
Holy shit anon, that's horrifying

>>9536050
I'd be so upset

I want weeb friends with similar interests to go to cons/cosplay with

Everyone I meet its like

>likes anime
>is not a horrible person
>has a job
pick two. if someone has all three they're a goddamn unicorn or live at least 4+ hours away

why are weebs always so broke and/or awful?

I feel ridiculous because I have a con coming up and Im literally putting all my money on meeting new people and netting myself a cute cosplay bf. Question is do i wear lolita or cosplay?

>>9536085
Because anime fuels escapism, which breeds an inability to cope with society. I outwardly cringe when any of my friends mention that I like anime to their friends. Like, please... please don't... I'm not like THEM... Don't make anime be the first thing that your friends associate me with...

>be me, average grill
>wear lolita every blue moon, do very simple comfortable cosplays just for shits, goes to a few cons a year
>meet qt boy on the internet and start dating
>he's perf in every way, sweet and nerdy and funny and I'm probably in love with him or something
>he mentions his ex and how she was helping him build armor for a cosplay once
>have to look her up later because I'm a nosey sob
>recognize her immediately, literally fuck my life
>local mildly well-known tiddy cosplayer
>she's stupid pretty and has all these elaborate cosplays that she makes herself, sewing and armor and props and everything
>posts a bunch of "WIPs" and personal photos with Very Little Clothing and her stupid unsubtle nerd tattoos
>kind of trashy but far from a bad cosplayer and definitely better and prettier and fitter and more impressive than me in every way
>he barely talks about her but we exchanged ex stories and he had nothing nice to say
>she has a lot of attention and insecurity problems but I'm still over here comparing myself because I just don't match up

I can admit I'm jealous and insecure as all fuck idk. I'm sure he's not comparing the two of us, but I can't help it. She's got a goddamn Patreon account and going to all these cons and I'm here doing fuck all. I can't help but feel like I'm a silver medal and worry that he's gonna realize that, too.

Why is the trans/non-binary/gq/etc community that goes to cons so hard to get along with? I'm a heavily reformed former fundie who was really shitty to that community in particular a long time ago, and has tried my absolute best to show that I've changed my tune and want to support them and be inclusive, but holy shit, I'm like 1-6 on meeting people in these communities who I can tolerate at all. They tend to turn out to be incredibly judgmental themselves, get super pissed when you disagree with them on the littlest unrelated thing, or, in one particular example, feel they have a right to define and tell me how to fulfill *my* gender role (I guess because they figured I'm an easy person to kick down the masculinity ladder and boost themselves up?).

I'm trying to atone for being a shitty bigot for years, and yet every opportunity I get to try and make things right and feel like I've done my part to balance my karma, the people I get are just fucking awful people in general. I'm getting a negative reflex to meeting people like that at this point because of all these bad experiences and I *know* that's bad, so it just makes me feel worse.

Fuck, why can't they just accept my support?

>start cosplaying again after a break
>my country's cosplay community is divided into small groups and making new friends is impossible
>tfw destined to cosplay alone

I'm also at that age where I'm too old to hang out with half of the con-goers but too young for the other half.

>Receive money for the first time in 10 months in 2 days
>Was gonna treat myself to a $5 jfashion dress from Mercari that I've been eyeing for months to celebrate, on top of paying off debt
>SUDDENLY
>Phone breaks, charged the double of what I paid for it in repair fees so will have to buy a new one
>Sewing machine breaks, for good, got a convention in 30 days and a ton of unfinished costumes I was gonna wear for it

This is first world adult problems as fuck but I'm just really sad that my first paycheck in ages is going towards this shit. I was really looking forward to buying that dress and getting something nice for myself to celebrate getting out of this hole that I've been stuck in.

>>9536100
More likely than not she has some problem like being a total psycho or a narcissist or borderline personality or just a cheat. Why else would he have nothing nice to say instead of pining about her and talking up her cosplay skills? Either that or he has problems you haven't noticed/ are ignoring.

>>9536088
I would recommend cosplay

>>9536100
don't worry, I guess he couldn't stand anymore, that she was craving for attention (maybe, she even cheated on him)

>>9536108
forget them

>>9536138
well, I guess you could still buy that dress for 5 bucks

>>9536153
>well, I guess you could still buy that dress for 5 bucks

Sadly not, the only proxy I know of that can use Mercari only ships with EMS to my country. + Proxy fees on top of it, it'll end up a much bigger amount. I can't really justify it this month, no big deal I'm just pretty sad about it.

>>9536157
ok, didn't know that
either way, that's life after all...

>>9536065
>>9536069
At first, I was really embarrassed. Like, humiliated beyond belief that I had gotten caught up with this, and dragged a friend along with me. I remember feeling really sick and my face and ears just burning red with shame. Then I got really angry. Scream-and-beat-someone-up angry, but you can't beat someone up through a computer, so I started looking into how to take it down.

Unfortunately, because they reblogged and didn't re-upload, my reports didn't do shit. The blog was marked 18+, and they didn't "steal" my intellectual property in reblogging with a new caption, so I found nothing but FAQs saying "just block them". Honestly, recounting all of this again is making me feel vaguely angry-queasy all over.

Now I don't post on Tumblr at all, because it's happening more and more with ddlg blogs coopting lolita coord posts as well. And that blow-up with the lesbian lolitas blog last year was kind of an awkward reminder of the whole thing.

Hilariously, I remember when that unseelie bitch was using photos on dollification sites, and thinking what a shame it was that that happened to those girls. I never thought that I'd have someone reblogging my stuff to a fantasy transformation fetish blog.

>>9536100
Don't worry about that shit. He's with you because he loves you and he knows he doesn't want that crazy ass shit even with a tight body. He's probably happier knowing he's not being cucked left and right, and his gf's not naked and selling her ass to greasy nerds for $25 prints.

>>9535731
I post intentionally cringe stuff to OKC and still get an absurd amount of responses. You'd be surprised what you can get away with on there.

>>9536085
I got two and a half? Im not super into anime, but I will watch it with friends.
Where you live at senpai?

>>9535227
Disregard that feel, I'll be good for Otakon

I don't like myself

>buy a bunch of lolita stuff, super excited
>go broke
>don't get paid for a few days
>FJ is waiting on my shipping payment
>never paid them past 24 hours before
>waiting anxiously for old order refund or to sell a couple more cosplay things to pay off last $15 of bill

I shouldn't have made that other FJ order but it was an old OP lacemonster for $10 but the seller never replied so I'm just sitting here waiting for the refund to show in my bank account so I can pay my shipping costs.

>>9536108
its just the people that make being lgbt their entire identity. The people who don't obsess over being lgbt are just fine, but the ones who cover themselves in lgbt appearal are obnoxious. But that is the same with any community really.

>>9536268
then change.

>>9536050
Oh i would spam them with anon hate if i were you. Or delete the pic.
>>9536054
Eurolita here. I feel you deeply.
>>9536085
0/3
>>9536108
>Nonbinary
Yeah i identify as burando. My pronouns are baby/moi.

>Moved across the country for work
>few normie friends from work out here but no one I'm actually close with or comfortable showing my tru weeb colors to
>"Are you going to comic con?" No, I don't like comics that much
>"You should take X to comic con with you, he likes that stuff" No, X is a fucking casual and has terrible taste
>Was trying to get up the nerve to be active in my lolita comm before I got the news I had to move; didn't get to attend a single meet
>No cosplay/con friends, no comm, no regular friends, just me, my SO, my cat and the internet
A-at least I can catch up on some new anime now... since I've got nothing else going on...

>Moved across the country for work
>few normie friends from work out here but no one I'm actually close with or comfortable showing my tru weeb colors to
>"Are you going to comic con?" No, I don't like comics that much
>"You should take X to comic con with you, he likes that stuff" No, X is a fucking casual and has terrible taste
>Was trying to get up the nerve to be active in my lolita comm before I got the news I had to move; didn't get to attend a single meet
>No cosplay/con friends, no comm, no regular friends, just me, my SO, my cat and the internet
A-at least I can catch up on some new anime now... since I've got nothing else going on...1
>sage for accidental double post

I fucked up my feet last year at Otakon wearing high heeled boots for ~18 hours straight, causing my big toenails to bruise and eventually split and have to be ripped off. Now that they're growing back, they've both become ingrown and one of them is super severe and I'm actually going today to see if I need to have surgery done to it. The other one isn't as bad but looks like how the first one looked a few weeks ago. I'm super worried about the cost, and I already feel self-conscious about my feet, I don't want to have to wait another year or so for my toes to look normal again.

>worked my hardest to improve my skin so I look better in cosplay and jfash
>get a new job to make cosplay and jfash hobbies easier
>manager is terrible
>the new stress from the job is ruining my skin
One step forward and two steps back.

>>9536363
>tfw this is me exactly

I don't even have normie friends. The only people I socialize with are retirees that know my family, I've got no one my own age.

>joined local lolita comm
>they all meet nearly two hours away
>got no transportation for self since really bad anxiety behind the wheel
>all cosplay/con friends are across the state or out of state
>only see them in person at cons 1-3 times a year

At least you got a SO that can do stuff with you?

>>9535731
Are you a guy or girl? If anything, it made the yellow fever and thirst a lot more intense when I still had my online profiles up, especially since I'm an Asian girl in a predominantly white area.

I always drink a cherry slushie on the way to tea so my tongue will be a sexy pink for photos.

This weekend I spilled it on my tights, and I still haven't gotten around to washing it out.

>>9536054
The UK comm isn't gigantic for most of the country desu, most meets are still only ten or so people. I get the impression that it's America that has huge turnouts for regular meets (i.e. not cons/events). I hear a lot about Aus and US comms having meets with a turnout of 50 and I've never been to a non-TPC meet in the UK that was over 25 attendees.

>>9536085
People who work don't have the time to keep up with weebshit unless they're realllllly dedicated to it (i.e. it's their main hobby). NEETs who are even slightly into anime end up watching a lot of it because of their boundless free time.

When I was in high school I watched quite a bit of anime - I never considered myself super into it but I watched enough for people to always call me a weeb. Once I got past my first year of uni I stopped keeping up with it because I was working/studying/cooking/cleaning/outside/whatever. I could have watched 2-3 hours a week if I'd been really dedicated but I liked other hobbies more so I just stopped watching anime. Nowadays I only watch 1-2 series a year, usually because they've been recommended to me as the best of the season by weeb friends, and have basically become a filthy casual.

>>9536108
I kind of feel this. I'm either nonbinary or trans but rarely talk about it because holy shit, pretty much literally every nonbinary person I've met except one has been awful and I don't want to be associated with it. However, I think how much you're struggling to cope with this probably shows you're not 100% over your fundie ways - you've gotta take people as individual shitty people rather than expecting them to be there to prove that either all [group] are shitty/nice like them.

>>9536594
I dunno. It's not my main hobby but every season once it ends I binge at least the top 4-5 series. Don't follow currently airing, THATS difficult as a wage cuck.

>>9536580
Gdi, stop doing ahegao at tea.

>>9536597
>Nonbinary
Like kleinfelters or fakeboi?

>>9536615
It's probably doable for the average person if you have a regular 40-hour week job, but these past couple of years I've been working like 60 hrs/wk shift work during the summer and 20/hours a week while doing exams, so I mostly just collapse at the end of the day.

>>9535669

Every single time I save up the right amount of money to make a Taobao order or buy Liz Lisa, my parents struggle with bills and I have to step in to pay them. Family comes first to me of course, but I feel like I'm not trying hard enough to make my dreams happen.

I just wish I could get a raise at work so I could save up for these dreams easier...

In other news, dude at my local con shat his costume.

>>9536108
Inspired a tangent; sage for off topic.

There is a mtf trans woman in my life who started transitioning in her late 30s and is built like a linebacker with a beer belly. I don't care about her build and she is working on this via exercise and diet; as you can imagine--but the problem is that she does care as priority one...it seems her definition of being an ~actual~ woman is incredibly contingent on having a "pornstar body". This is problematic not only because it's insulting and vapid; but also because it's a gap too far for her to cross without incresiously extensive major plastic surgery; so it's just not gonna happen for her. I dont know how to comfort her as a friend when she breaks out the waterworks over not being Nigiri.

>>9536054
There are literally no meetups near me within affordable train travel. I live in the north of england. I was in york recently on a trip away and saw a bunch of super beautifully dressed lolitas walk past me and i was so sad.

>>9536658
For what it's worth anon, I think it's really respectable that you put your family's needs first. I hope good fortune comes your way soon!

>>9535991
I feel your pain. My boobs are humongous. But I still have a few more months of nursing the baby left. I look forward to the shrinkage. Because my brand will fit so much better. I miss fitting in my OP's. But my boobs make it so difficult. Fortunately it won't last forever. I look forward to my bloused being comfortable on my chest. Anything I can button up now is way too loose on my waist.

>>9536023
oh, this was me a few months ago. my blog isn't quiet anymore and things get a lot of notes but it doesn't make me happy because i'm reblogged by a lot of anorexia blogs... it makes me really sad. i'm reblogged by a lot of ddlg and "nonsexual littles" too. i die inside.

one blog was run by some kind of dominatrix lady whose fetish is to turn men into little girls or something? and she reblogged my photo. people can do what they want but i'm still grossed out.

>>9536658
>Have to
No you don't. Fuck their lazy, worthless asses. Parents are legally required to take care of kids until they reach the age of majority, generally not the other way around. Your parents need to learn to live within their means

If anyone says that some noncoherent nearly-ita coord reminds them of "old street snaps" I lose my shit. I think my rage is pretty unreasonable, but this makes all of old school look bad. If some random girl(bonus points if she's asian) can't dress herself but is cute enough and her dress isn't apparentely milanoo, there is always someone saying that they like it, and it could pass as an "old street snap".

>>9536711
Thank you very much!

>>9536765
I guess I should have worded it differently, I say "have to" because that's why I got my job in the first place. I do agree with you in some way though, I wish things were different and I could actually save my money for a larger portion of time. At least long enough to make an order.

>tfw still disputing cosplay shipping with seller
>keeps telling me to be patient
>charged me an extra fee when I asked where my shit was so they could "expedite" it
>past all promised dates and they've been "working" on my shit for over a month and a half
>con is in a week and if it doesn't ship in literally 5 hours, it won't get here in time even though I contacted them two months beforehand
>have to start long process of Paypal dispute to get my money back
it feels like shit to have everything hanging on someone who can't get their shit together. The funny thing is I was recommended to buy from them by a friend so I thought it would all be ok.

Down 16lbs in one month

>>9535731
Wait a minute. Are you saying it's easy pickings online for a reasonably well adjusted and good looking man who likes anime?

>>9536836
no, I'm saying that for reasonably well-adjusted, decent looking guys, putting that you like anime or anything nerdy in your dating profile will take you from ok luck to bare minimum scraping the bottom of the barrel for girls. I did decent when I had a normal basic as fuck profile, but the minute I added that, everything dried up

>>9536663
Who tf brags about having to shit at a con??

>>9536085
I have all 3 qualities but no weeb friends lol

Seeing the AX thread makes me sad. I mean, I'm happy for the people who get to go, but sad knowing that none of my friends would ever want to travel to a con and cosplay with me.

I don't even like anime all that much, but I'm chaperoning my sister and her friend at AX this year.

It just makes me happy seeing how much she geniunely enjoys these things.

>>9536994
Same, I find out that my friends would only invite me if they where low on funds, maybe you could make new friends?

>>9536834
Congrats! Keep loving yourself :)

>>9536663
>shitting yourself at the con "happens to the best of us"
No, it doesn't.

>hardly watch any anime these days
>still continue to go to anime expo
its weird that i can still enjoy going to anime expo but the fact that I dont really keep up with current animes kinda makes it hard to meet other people because I wont really understand most of the shit they talk about.

like today after work, i was hanging with some of my weeb co-workers and they kept going on and on talking about anime. didnt even know what they were talking about. when i left, i looked up what they were talking about and i guess they were talking about some idol shit and that dragon anime with the tits.
Ive seen those characters before but dont even know their names or even what series they were from.

Reposting because I'm retarded and didn't notice the last one was saging fml

>bf just recently dumped me
>has itabag of my husbando who has a similar personality to him
>itabag husbando was husbando before my ex-boyfriend, but now I realize he would probably dump me for similar reasons.

Itabag is a new type of pain now.

I also now keep on having thoughts of just selling my collection of lolita and perhaps said itabag. Other than above, my ex-bf had little to do with either but my mind keeps on going," you know what better than hobby possessions? Money. Money is all important in life now. Fuck everything else. Money. It's what you need to become a better adult. This shit won't get you ahead in life" As well as other... things

I hope it passes.

>>9536085
>or live at least 4+ hours away
FUCKING THIS

>>9537072
Hobbies don't get you ahead in life, but they do keep you sane. As long as you're not pouring your savings into these hobbies and have a healthy nest egg for the future, I think you're fine.

Also, the beautiful thing about fictional characters is that they can't judge. So don't worry about what he would or might or could think if he was a real character, and just go on enjoying your merch-y crush.

Cheer up, anon. You'll be ok.

My boyfriend and I are moving in together really soon. We're both so excited and have all these plans and ideas set up and ready for the new place, including both of us getting new jobs and changing our whole wardrobes (hello daily lolita!) but it's still a month and a half away... and it's so draining and soul-sucking knowing it's going to get better and being so determined for change but having to sit through the shittiness and waiting for the change to come to me when I'm so used to just jumping up and making things better around me to improve my life instantly.
I know this is over dramatic but it feels like I'm sitting in a river of mud and gunk and being so close to the shore line, but all that's left to do is sit in the shit and wait until I drift towards the shore because struggling to make it move faster only makes me sink deeper.

Ok, which of you bitches lives in Michigan??

I was just in a Skype chat with my comm and somebody made a joke about thong diapers.

Last year I joined a cosplay comm that already had established friendships and whatnot, but I slowly started to find myself talking to more people and making acquaintances with everyone there and ended up actually meeting a guy that I'm now dating. I was going through a really great period of "Wow, I'm dating this amazing guy, we all have the same friend group and we do stuff together, this is great!" Well, now it's summer (it's a pretty college student-centric comm) and while my bf and I are among the ones that have stayed in the area over the summer, I work 2+ jobs (waiting to hear back from one in the field I've actually studied for, but it's parttime so it would be a third job, that it's own long story) and my bf works a full time job during the day, and I work usually at night so there's few times I get to see him. That's cool, but now he's starting to hang out with our friends without me. Now, I can't say "our friends" in confidence because he's known them longer, but for example the other day they all hung out when I wasn't at work and when I mentioned how "Yeah, I was free" he just said "Yeah, you probably shouldn't have come." And like, they all talk and plan stuff behind my back and my bf MIGHT casually say "I'm doing this with these people if you wanna do that", but I'm never actually invited. It's either I'm hanging out with my boyfriend, or they've made plans with my boyfriend and I'm just sort of...there. It makes me feel weird because we have a friend and her boyfriend that we sort of make jokes about for having that same dynamic and I'm worried that these "friends" actually dislike me, and that my bf might be planning to break up with me. Obviously I'm overthinking and can't bring this up with him because I don't wanna scare him away, but I'm really scared. I love him and I don't want to break up because our friends hate me.

>>9537140
Why are you letting these thoughts eat at you? Just talk to him. This might sound harsh but if you can't talk to him about things like this then I'm not sure what your relationship is worth.

>>9537140
Are you high?? No, it's NOT normal to wear his sister's underpants.

>>9537148
>>9537157

>>9537093

Thank you anon. For the most part I am fine, money wise. I think the sudden obsession with money is a coping mechanism that came up. Or something. I obviously cared before but not to this degree. Thankfully the sane part of me tells me to hold off all selling until I know that I'm better. Thank god selling takes effort, because deep down I know I'll regret it a lot. I didn't see this break up coming and I was hoping that we would spend our lives together, so it came down pretty hard and fast.

Also that's true! Honestly, I know for a fact that I am not mentally stable at the moment yet, but hopefully in a few weeks, I can enjoy my husbando, painful reminder free! It's the first time I thought about this sort of hogwash. Break ups have brought me down almost to the level of tumblr kin-circle skum. Lovely.

Thank you for your kind words anon. I'm trying to take it one day at a time

>>9535792
I met my current boyfriend through soc - although it was kind of an accident and neither of us were looking for relationships at the time. He's turned out to be the most compatible person I've been with yet and both of us see a future together, he also loves lolita and wants to dress up with me and everything about him makes me fuzzy, sage for OT lovey rambling.

>Currently on day 2 of 3 of exams
>Yesterday had 2 3h papers, wanted to die
>Today Chemystery was exactly how it sounds like
>Go home angsty
>Sees package at door
>It's my dream dress that I ordered
>Open the box, it's breathtaking
>Mood instantly improved.

Today's test is a lost cause, but I'll do my best for tomorrow!

>>9537113
Where did the "thong diaper" meme even come from?

>>9536090
Your image sums up my feelings about the matter precisely.

>>9537226
that's how my fiance is. I just gave up on boys and wanted a friend, and he just wanted a friend to keep him company through his insomnia. I hope everything works out. you two sounds cute!
a week after moving in with him, he helped pick out one of my lolita outfits, which ended up getting fairly popular- even got posted in "best of" threads. I'm really lucky.

>>9536100
I wouldn't worry about her. In fact, I wouldn't try bringing her up if he barely talks about her in the first place. Somebody's looks are not everything.

Plus, you likely are just as beautiful to him because you are different. Men find differences in women beautiful most the time. A trashy, tall blond with sharp features has its appeal, but so does a petite brunette with cute facial features. I guess what I'm saying is don't compare your features to someone else because they'll never add up. She's hot, sure. However, remember that he finds your own features cute despite being the exact opposite in your view. Men find all sorts of things beautiful.

>>9537340
Oldest instance I can recall.

>>9535951
>>9536230
as a decently good looking girl and insanely hot dude you can get away with everything in online dating
thirst > cringe/red flags

>get an expensive smartpen for christmas to work on uploading cosplay design ideas and taking notes
>a month later contstruction comes over to fix something in the apt
>hide smartpen in "super good place" so it doesn't get stolen
>haven't found it since

I'm a retard

>been in lolita nearly five years
>never twinned
>really want to host a twinning meet but this year's wardrobe isn't posted publicly anywhere
>didn't do a wardrobe post this year because I moved house in January and had no access to my wardrobe for ages
>can't use last year's because I changed my style and most of the items aren't the same
>it'd seem extra to make an LJ wardrobe post this late even if I put it on my personal journal and not EGL
>it'd probably look least weird to make a stock photo wardrobe on Facebook and set the privacy so only lolitas can see it
>can't find stock photos for half my wardrobe
>scared people will think I'm trying to brag anyway

>tfw going to Canada for gaming convention with friend
>tfw no idea what the game is about
>tfw all the images of attendees from past convention are 90% male

any seagulls going to Tennocon?

>tfw

>>9537478
warframe is a pretty fun game. I've been a (filthy) casual player of it for about two years now. if you dig space, aliens, and fps games it's worth playing. also the devs pay pretty close attention to the fanbase, which is pretty nice.

all that having been said, no, sadly I'm not going to Tennocon. I'm not surprised about the attendees though, lol

>find honey cake seller
>accepts offer
>all set to pay!!!
>invoice gets cancelled
>ask whats up
>apparently someone else was trying to buy the dress
>wench wasnt payin up
>seller told her she was cancelling because she wasnt paying
>shitty buyer throws a shit fit
>seller is now afraid of being named and shamed so is giving shitty buyer more time
Seller is too nice. I would have given shitty buyer 2 weeks to cough up.
Im hoping shitty buyer remains shitty and her time runs out.
Even though i wanted to wear a full honeycake set to a meet up at a con in august and feel like a god damned queen.

>have to file paypal claim on item I bought last month
>package hasn't even made it to my country yet according to tracking so assuming it's gone
>tried to contact seller but they didn't respond
>still feel kind of bad because it's probably not their fault, just post being shit as always

a-at least they'll be able to get the money back through postal insurance...

>bought my outfit for a brand tea party this summer
>have two pairs of shoes that would match and already indecisive about which to wear
>see third pair of burando shoes that would be perfect with it
>wouldn't match any of the rest of my wardrobe apart from that one outfit
>cheap tho
>indecision intensifies

>>9537695
If you click on the top right, it looks like maidenclothing has a couple of honeycake cuts. I cant read japanese, so I dont know how to purchase them though

>>9537737
You're looking at the section of items they'd like people to sell to them.

I don't have to work to pay my burando and other spendings (holidays etc), because i have 500 euros/months of alimony and live with my parents.
The thing is, i feel bad and retarded because i don't need to work and haven't earned my money. I don't even need more money, but i feel like this way to live just isn't right, especially since most of my friends are poor.
Should i just find a wageslave summer job to pretend to be a dynamic student and not a lazy piece of shit?

>>9537920
>500 euros/months of alimony and live with my parents
>i feel like this way to live just isn't right
You should probably at least be trying to do something with yourself.

>>9536108
>Why is the trans/non-binary/gq/etc community that goes to cons so hard to get along with?

because they ruin everything they come into contact with, and have become spinster crazy ca ladies by age 17, by and large.

Kind of like asking why nobody wants to interact with homestuck cosplayers

>>9536385
>they've both become ingrown and one of them is super severe
as one with chronic ingrown toenails that have occasionally gotten out of hand, I'll tell you you can skip the doctor and get a nice xacto blade, 15 minutes, and some gauze to fix that issue

>>9536108
> incredibly judgmental
>get super pissed when you disagree with them on the littlest unrelated thing

This is the crux. They never practice what they preach. I'm sure if they were stuck in a room with someone with severe mental handicaps they would not be able to handle it. They have no tolerance.

>>9537936
Well i'm a student but i just don't do shit during summer break

I finally found a doctor that actually did his fucking job!

I have been having a lot of trouble losing weight for a while now and I am tired all the time so I thought I should get my thyroid checked. I ran a lab and eventually they let me know that everything was ok so I thought maybe Im just going crazy.

Then later I got another blood test done because im getting set up to get my tubes tied, came in for my checkup and the new doctor let me know that I was right, my thyroid levels (T3) are low, and I am also low on B12 and Vitamin D! He set me up with medication and I am so happy.

He not only didnt dismiss me (unlike my women doctors) when I said I wanted a tubal ligation, he also is helping my thyroid out which is going to help my weight out! FINALLY

How do you ask a cos-girl who lives five hours away to be your gf?

>>9535993
Having read your post, I would say that you can definitely boobs.

>>9538042
You don't, LDRs are tortuous
Or you can, and then arrive at the same conclusion the hard way

>>9537766
Sorry then, I thought wrong. Thanks for explaining what it was, though!

>>9538051
But she has a crush on me and she's beautiful, and her toy collection is nice.

>all my friends live one town over that is 1 hour away
>move to that town
>half of them move and the other half stop being friends with me
>make new friends
>they live in the next town over, an hour away

why am I not allowed to have friends who live in the same town as me?

>decide to finally deal with my shit
>wait 6 months for a shrink appointment
>put off con plans to save for co-pays
>have 3 good sessions
>4th session
>"Oh anon, I don't think you need medication. What you need is the guiding light of our Lord and Savior!"

>>9537998
You were probably just eating too much tubby.

>>9538085

I know I shouldnt respond to bait but bitch please, Im eating 1200 calories and working out.

Some friends of mine did a photo shoot with a cosplay photog about nine months ago and paid her for, I think, five images. So far, they've only gotten back two, and when they showed me the most recent one, I was so pissed for them. It looked like the photog had just put them through a bad meitu or snapchat filter. Their eyes looked so fucking bad. I encouraged them to say something about it, especially considering that looking at this photog's work on photos of her friends, she clearly did a much sloppier job on my friends' photos than she is capable of, but my friends are too nice to say anything. It's so bad that I wish I could message her on their behalf. Like, to wait almost a year and shit out one decent image and then a terrible one out of five promised during that whole time? Why are some photogs such shit?

Sorry, I'm just incredibly anger on their behalf but can't do anything about it and needed to put my impotent rage somewhere.

>>9538128
Sure you are.

My little dance group had its first practice today, and I have never been so excited to perform before! There are a lot of kinks, but I'm sure we'll work them out in no time. All the members are perfectly ok with critique, and are such a joy to work with.

I'm seeing my little sister for the first time in years! She's coming to town in a few months so we can watch the My Little Penis Movie, and I'm going to show her all the cosplay shit I've been working on.

>>9538221
>My Little Penis

Nothing makes me truly happy anymore, not even new brand. I have no goals and all my dreams are highly delusional. The biggest amount of joy I get is when I see other people succeed and be passionate about the things they love but at the same time I feel horrible. No matter how optimistic I try to look at it, considering all my possible opportunities, my future looks unfulfilling, dull and desperate.
I'd sudoku but I don't even have the ambition for that kek.

>>9538264
>sudoku
I too want to off myself with math puzzles

In all seriousness you sound like you have depression and should seek out therapy asap instead of venting to a chinese cartoon board

>>9535731
I'm a girl, and when I posted a picture of one of my cosplays, I actually got a lot more people who had similar interests messaging me on OKC. I had posted my Sakura from Tsubasa Chronicles because I looked bomb as hell lol.

>>9538311
Yeah because you're a girl. It's pretty ez for girls on dating websites.

>>9538264
Sounds like depression, anon. I'd try to find a therapist if you can, or confide in family and friends you trust so they can help you get a professional. In the meanwhile, no dream is delusional-just gotta look at this way: you're taking an unconventional route to your goal. You got this anon, don't give up, watch motivational anime that gives you good feelings and keep on fighting!

>>9538138
Blast the photog to be honest. If they don't respond well, blast 'em on public. You guys paid for it, so you're well within your bounds for the photog on following through. Also, I wouldn't want to give money to such a flakey and shitty photog.

>>9538311
if you're a girl that's not fat or physically deformed you could put that you eat babies for breakfast on your profile and still get people trying to give you dick

my friend group all aligned because we were all weebs and liked to cosplay and shit. over the last three years, they all have either taken the next step in their dating lives (two are engaged) or have found SOs. i'm the only single friend now and our friend group has expanded from new SOs and stuff and i cant help but wish the good days when it was just like the four of us having a good time. im sure they still all are, but any con crunch hangouts or con weekends is literally me like....eleventh wheeling. im pretty happy in my singledom and know with my dating history, im just not ready for that kind of partnership, but now i feel like i gotta find a SO to fit in. all my friends lowkey also bother me about if i finding anyone cute or something and im kind of considering drifting from this group and finding another one.

>>9538083
whoaaaaa

More general weeb than cgl related, but:

>always wanted to drive an itasha
>every vehicle I've owned has either been an suv or beat up old truck, stuff that would look weird weebed up
>decide to get a new car because of long commute for new job
>find a 2000 Civic coupe for $1400
>literally in "driven by old lady once a week to go to church on Sundays" condition
>going to pick it up tomorrow

I am gonna weeb the fuck out of this thing

>>9538365
Put a waifu pillow in the passenger seat.

>>9538055
Do you have a car? 5 hours is an easy drive, and only like 30-40 in gas. I've done weekly commutes from Nashville to Cincinnati for a long time.

>>9538083
Oh. Wow. Not cool, doc.

>>9537998
I've had the opposite experience with doctors. First male doctor told me that it was "all in my head" and that I would be fine. Tried to prescribe me anti-psychotics for physical symptoms because he didn't want to look for a source of the problems. Enter female RN who directed me to a (young, female) specialist who found the autoimmune issue in question. I then moved.

Second male doctor asked me if I'd considered stopping my (vital to keeping my autoimmune condition in check) medication to see if I could go without it when I first saw him. Then ignored my calls for over a week when I tried to ask if I could start them again, because I was close to going into the hospital. Third male doctor told me that I didn't need birth control at all, because I was in a monogamous relationship and it was a good "anchor" for that relationship, and grudgingly agreed to prescribe the pill after I argued that I didn't want kids repeatedly, and neither does my partner.

New female GP has always listened to my concerns and doesn't dismiss me outright, agreed to getting me the BC implant when the pill failed me. New female specialist suggests things (and has been right both times something was awry) before I ask about them, based on symptoms when I see her every six months.

I thought that age might be a factor as well, because two of the male doctors are in their 60s, the first was in his late 30s, but the new GP is in her early 60s, while the two female specialists were in their mid 30s when I saw them. So maybe not so much.

I dunno, ymmv as usual, but I've had better luck with women not telling me "it's in your head, take this happy pill".

>>9535770
>saying that like it's possible/easy

How many times would I have to flush my big sister's head down the toilet to get all of the stupid out?

>tfw all your con-going has given you the reputation of "that 27-year-old guy who hangs out with high school girls"

>>9538507
im 30 and the youngest person I know is 22 but i feel like im kinda in the same boat.
theres only like 3 guys i know who are roughly around my age but all the females I know are young.

I have a baby face and cant really grow facial hair so most people i meet at cons through friends think that im in my early 20s.

>>9538083
>being a heathen

>Trying to be more active and talk to new people with similar interests.
>Hoping to make new friends to one day go to cons again.
>Maybe find a partner who can cheer me on with my weight loss so I can finally make my first coord
>Get bombarded with messages
>Introvert
>Have to recharge constantly
>Afraid people think I'm being standoffish, ghosting, or ignoring them
>Remember this is why social interaction is difficult for me

I just want to interact with people, why is it so exhausting.

Also sort of non-related:
>Everyone at work already has s/o's or is married
>Including the younger people
>Except me

>>9538519
>being so incompetent you can't read the Gospel yourself and need someone to read it to you

Organized religion is a trick to take your money and get tax exemption while doing so.

>>9535844
>actually managing to meet people at cons

You're ahead of a lot of people anon

>>9538532
Only if you're a sucker. Otherwise, it's a nice way to sing songs, pass the peace, and stuff

>>9538519
R8 my coord

>>9538321
mine are like this except instead of bothering me to find someone they always make some weird off hand comment about the person I'm talking to.
It's a small town so everyone knows everyone and they usually say something like "well I heard they were x or y"

>>9538051
Just because you don't know how to keep your relationship alive doesn't mean other people can't.

I was about to buy my first brand dress, was in the process of paying, but the seller didn't reply for three days and sold it to someone else. I will never find brand for so cheap somewhere else.

my bf is a con photographer and talks to what seems like every single female cosplayer in the country. I know in my heart that he wouldn't anything but I'm smart and I know that statistically some slut is gonna hit on him sooner or later

>Scored a job last month and just got my first paycheck in ages
>Convention season is coming up, just bought all badges and cosplay materials
>First paycheck is almost gone already
>Feeling extreme buyers guilt already

>>9538365
I admire your dedication to slapping every member of the general public in the face with your power level.

Just venting frustration - my fortnightly pay didn't come through due to a payroll error, I already made a CC order and my credit card is due before next pay will come through and they apparently can't pay me until then because of some shit with the automated system they use. I have savings, but the bank charges fees to transfer money out of that account so I either get credit card interest/fees or bank fees. It's not a lot, but annoying because I wouldn't have made the order otherwise

>>9537478
>>9537680
I'd really want to go and make a warframe cosplay but canada is just too far for me

My life is a total and complete mess, I have very few attainable goals and not a lot to look forward, and honestly wish I was dead most of the time. But I've lost around 15 pounds in hopes of reducing my bust and I just measure and I'm finally a good 2 cm under AP's average non-shirred OP bust measurements. So I guess maybe i'll keep living. idk

>>9538599
Byzantine as fuck/10
I like it

>>9538712
How much was it? And was it a big print or something?

>>9538519
Tell Jesus to deliver me some xanax.

>get paid on 1st July
>was being good and not buying Neo Gothic Arch until payday
>it sold out on the last day of June

I'm so sad. I sold my dream dress, even though I knew I would regret it, because I needed money and I never wore it. I even sold it for slightly less than I asked for. I feel horrible when I think about it. If only I had good coord pictures in this colourway to look at.. Even if I got the dress back now I wouldn't wear it because it looked bad on me, but I want to hunt it down just so I can make someone else wear it and take coord pictures before selling it again.

>want to find a sub girl to play with
>most of the girls I like come from cons
>don't want to get a reputation for trying to pick up sub girls at cons
it's an abstract kind of feel
i'm attractive enough to kind of get away with it without being seen as a creep, but being a woman who does that is still kinda controversial.

>>9537920
Jobs teach you a lot about the world, anon. It helps with social skills, critical thinking, responsibility, maybe even a sense of purpose. Money isn't everything when it comes to jobs. Also, if youre a student, literally anything on your resume is a huge plus.

>That feel when no tall girlfriend

>>9539119
>that feel when wizard

Silly anon and your specific standards

>>9539028
I weep for you anon. I have a dress in my closet that has a lot of attachment to it but it doesn't look good on me. But I don't think I'd ever be able to sell it.

At least you were being responsible!

>>9538850
as long as you already spent it on the stuff you need, you should be fine.
I usually blow my entire paycheck on cosplay stuff and then not really spend a dime (excluding bills) on the next couple of paychecks.

>>9539005
thats why you pay with credit then as soon as you get the money, pay off your credit.
I do this all the time when I dont have the money for something but I know I can pay it off in the next paycheck.

>work retail for years, hating every second of it
>finally got a job in my field
>seems like a dream come true (more $, great benefits, etc)
>"hey we're putting you on second shift, but don't worry, you'll be out before midnight and get paid more"
>umokay.jpg
>don't get out until at least 2am (almost 12 hour shifts with mandatory overtime)
>lack of sleep + time to work out = crippling self-esteem with current depression and anxiety skyrocketing
>buy dream dresses to feel better
>feel pretty in them, helps
>new dress is a S which I normally fit
>it's tight
>ofuck
>found dream skirt, size M
>desperately look for sizing chart
>can't find one anywhere to make sure it'd work first
Goddamn it I really want it but I feel like I'm developing a complex already and if I find it doesn't fit me or fits too well I'll have even lower self-esteem

I really feel like cosplay has filled some sort of a void in my life that I didnt even know I had. Its great but its also scary as heck as I used to be weirded out by those hardcore cosplayers whose life revolves around cosplay, but now im definitely becoming one myself. I work at a shitty dead end job so my hobbies are definitely important to me but i never thought i was going to be one of those people who look forward to their next paycheck only to buy more cosplay supplies.
Even at work all i can think of is cosplay when what i should be thinking about is stuff like what do i want to do with my life, what should i study or what kind of job should i apply for. You know, adult things, because im turning 24 soon and i have no aim in life aside from hobbies. Its so pathetic but cosplay gives me a really strong sense of purpose that i dont get anywhere else in life.

>>9539154
Under normal circumstances I would, since I have access to an overdraft, but it's a bit more complicated than that right now - tl;dr work are laying people off left, right and centre and payday is also the day when I get to find out if my contract's being renewed. I didn't want to buy anything on credit until I knew whether or not I was going to be unemployed..

>>9537920
You can do charitable things with your money

>>9539176
What's pathetic about that? There's nothing mature or respectable about living for your job.

>>9539126
Is it wrong to want a nice 6' girl to marry and reproduce with?

>>9539176
get a job involving cosplay. You probably won't make that much money, but you can probably make enough to live.

make and sell cosplay related stuff on etsy, model and sell your prints and make a patreon, make cosplay tutorials or host cosplay classes or something.

idk, surely you can do SOMETHING like that. Many people do.

>>9539214
>>9537920
I agree with >>9539116 that a job would probably benefit you, but, depending on where you live, there might be so few jobs to go round that you're almost taking the opportunity away from someone who actually needs the money. If you want to feel better about your income, spend more of it within the local economy instead of sending it all abroad to Japan, e.g. having days out at local cafés. You could also do some sort of charity work that would require a high enough time-investment to keep you busy, and look good on your CV as well as helping you meet new people and learn workplace skills.

>>9539156
>don't get out until at least 2am (almost 12 hour shifts with mandatory overtime)
Do you work for a japanese company?
Seriously though, unless you live in the US, pratices like this aren't legal per se in a good part of the first world.
You might want to check on that. Money is nice, but it's not worth being exploited.

>>9538839
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7BzxudVzF5E
You're not wrong.

Find his kink and feed it, because that's not something he can get anywhere else. Otherwise, just let the years pass since his dick won't blow endless loads around 30-35.

>>9538905
Grats anon. You keep going.

I'm so jelly of fat chicks with pretty faces, I've been losing weight and am almost on my goalweight but I'll never be kawaii damnit!

One girl in my comm is PISSED that Momokun broke "the ravioli rule" with her lewd Kanna cosplays. It's kind of funny.

>>9539474
>ravioli rule
???

>>9539476
nayrt but

Ravioli Ravioli Don't Lewd The Dragon Loli

>caring about flavor of the month attentionwhoring shit

Some people gotta chill my man. Chill is probably the most important trait anyone can have.

>meetup tomorrow
>go downtown to shop a little
>find the PERFECT pair of gloves to match to my coord
>willtheyfit.png
>THEY FUCKING FIT

>AX this weekend
>can't go cause I live in the Midwest and I don't have that kind of cash to throw
>Trigger and idoru waifus will be there
>holy shit kill me
At least I have a con next weekend to look forward to?

>>9539547
Trigger is going to be at AMW too next week

>tfw had a horrible week
>severe anxiety
>work full time
>had to get an MRI yesterday, not doing so well at my job, feel extremely overwhelmed
>wants to buy lolita bc want to feel better
>can't bc bills
>husband doesn't make a whole lot of money and i am constantly jelly of girls who married guys with good careers

I feel like a bad wife sometimes. My husband works so hard, but he doesn't make any effort to advance in his career and I wish he would. I'm sick of this life of working full time and really having nothing to show for it. I just want to be spoiled.

>>9539550
Advance your own career and spoil yourself.

>bought my dream dress from IW a couple of weeks ago
>when it arrived the bust was too small and it didn't fit
>mention this to my family once before leaving on a trip for two weeks
>come back to find out that my grandma altered the dress herself to try and make the bust bigger
>puckered seams, bad quality lace used that she had lying around
>resale value down the gutter, mangled dress
>still doesn't fit around the bust

My granny is the sweetest lady and I took her out to lunch to thank her for altering my dress as a surprise, but on the inside I am crying.

>>9539549
I saw and that's the reason why I'm going to AMW at all desu. Hopefully they have merch there as well.

>wanna go to Hascon to meet Stan Lee and cool VAs
>mfw the guests of honor include Dude Perfect and Chewbacca Mom

>>9539550
Sorry about the horrible week and the anxiety.

Life is usually full of small ups and downs and people tend who are in the "grind" tend to get stuck in it. Lolita is a fun escape from reality, but if you're chasing a bunch of material goods in lieu of truly evaluating why your life is unsatisfying and why you feel you should spend money for fulfillment, maybe you should take a breather and have some inner dialogue.

If you truly feel like burando is the way to happiness, maybe you should leave your husband and find a sugar daddy, IF you think that will fulfill you. It's your life, you can do what you want with it, just know:

・It's hard to truly accept that you are not what you buy and comparing your life to others will only make you more pessimistic, especially if you can not or will not change it.
・You should communicate these things with your husband, too. Hopefully you consider him a friend and an ear you can vent to. Open communication in your relationship can possibly begin to remedy some of these issues.

>>9539550
why do reduce your husband to just an ATM? Why would you marry someone in the first place like that?
This is probably a troll, but if this is true, you sound like a scumbag and he doesn't deserve you

>buy skirt and blouse from same release
>blacks still don't match

>>9539637
Did they give any description beyond "black" for the item?
If not, make a pic comparing them then post it on their Facebook page. Ez way to get high visibility for a problem, far moreso than Twitter.

>>9539637
>>9539647
Oh, and don't phrase it to sound angered, merely amused. I just want to make that explicit. I'm always amazed when some gull ignores this and inserts emotions into their prose.

>friend takes a "Which broadway musical are you?" Facebook quiz
>gets RENT
>comment "Sorry about the AIDS"
>the rest of her comm descends upon me like a flock of seagulls to tell me how distasteful I am

>cosplay
>started getting noticed for my costumes
>friends get some really cute fanart of them
>reblog something on tumblr saying that I'd accept any fanart
>the worst artists I've ever seen step forward
>not just bad, but the type to choose "ugly" as a stylistic choice
>they tell me they're working on drawings of me

I don't want to be the dick that tells them they can't because their art is ugly as fuck and sucks when they've been so nice to me in the past. One of the artists is actually well known... for being "moon over june" level awful

be careful what you wish for, I guess

>>9539452
Same, anon....same. There's always plastic surgery for uggos like us.

>>9539716
Please be sure to share whatever "art" tomatomagica makes of you.

planned to mess around with clothes/accessories tonight to prepare for an upcoming meetup. instead my NEET bf gets mad at me for telling him he has to take on more responsibilities around the house, and locks himself in the bedroom where all my clothes are so im stuck on the couch pissed off

>>9539885
Dump his ass, seriously

>>9538264
Nihilist here too anon :hugs:
>>9538370
Pewdiepie did it first
>>9538226
Chuckles

>>9539864
>tomatomagica
I actually wish.

http://bananacreamcake.the-comic.org/comics/835
that's one of them

>>9539885
>NEET SO
>not doing all the chores
>throwing a tantrum like a child when asked to take responsibility
Trash. I'm currently a NEET as well but I do 100% of the cooking/cleaning/groceries and still have plenty of time left over to sit on my ass and play vidya. Is your bf a great conversationalist or something, like why are you with him?

>>9539926
What kind of stuff are you cosplaying that you get crappy porn artists wanting to draw fanart of you?

>>9539242
when you haven't felt the touch of ANY woman for decades, yes, it seems rather silly

But you do you man

>>9539716
>fanart of cosplayers
wtf?
why wouldn't they just do fanart of the series?

>>9538599
Underrated

>>9538839
just accompany on cons

>>9539474
lol, I doubt she was the first one

>post to my school's Facebook page about fall semester
>girl I've never met replies
>"Omg! Are you a loli??"
>sends me a friend request

Help.

>>9539474
>lewd Kanna
>instant Google
>huge fat lard in something that vaguely resembles Kanna cosplay

Never post again please

>>9540124
Just cancel the request, ignore the reply, and get along, try again.

Be sure to update us if she shows up to campus, and starts stalking you next semester, though.

>tfw beautiful autist
Should I just live my live removed from others?

>>9538923
50 bucks shipped, and no, it was a non print piece, in very good condition.

Had a small bump in my car yesterday on the way to work, cosmetic damage only. Was my fault, wasn't looking at a junction, and moved the car forwards hitting the guy in front.

On the plus side the guy wasn't a dick, but wants 200 for repairs... which, is fine. sets me back a tiny bit, but could have been a lot worse.

But it just made me feel so shitty, so stupid, so worthless. The fact i'm normally depressed probably docent help.

Also, sorry, off topic, non cosplay related feels.

>>9540184
>Tfw Asian but no yellow fever gf
Should I just live my live removed from love?

>>9539959
cosplayers wear stuff other than cosplay, so usually involves other outfits. anzu has fan art, and even moomoo.
>>9539928
this may shock you, but perverts can jerk off to anything.

>>9536054
I feel like I know you, I'm in a tiny Euro comm who fits all of your description very well.
I wish I was more active in my own comm but I feel like my wardrobe is too small and limited at the moment and I'm scared to be that one really bland lolita who wears almost always the same. I don't doubt there are a lot more people who think the same and end up not joining or not actively participating because of that. I've also had the chance to join an UK comm while living there and never attended a single meet because I was terrified of being an awkward mess and looking like trash next to some of the really good lolitas there. They also seemed to know almost all of eachother really well so I was intimidated to join (joined the fb comm, talked myself into attending a meet several times and then always gave up last minute out of fear).
For my home country's comm, I've attended a single meet at a con (which made it less intimidating), mostly because living abroad made it very hard to be back home while meets happened.
I think many people have these same fears, either of looking bad next to more experienced members or feeling like they're butting in a group of people who are already friends and being awkward/anxious when meeting new people.
I understand your frustrations anon but I also understand why sometimes people don't join. I'm sure you're doing a great job as a mod, some people just can't deal with their own insecurities unfortunately.
I wish you and your comm the best!

>>9536108
I got kicked out of an LGTBA group because I admitted I was asexual/aromantic. Even though I am trans. the only thing the leader of the group said to me before blocking me was that I still benefit from 'straight privilege' whatever that means. They tend to be super exclusionary, if your identity isn't 200% of who you are. I just wanted to make friends, and all they talked about was 'oppression this oppression that'

>>9536054
I wish I had someone like you in my local comm, you seem to be very nice and kind to new lolitas.

>>9540290
still seems like a weird situation
cosplay is basically fan art. So it'd be like someone doing fan art of another fan artist in their casual clothes.

>>9538876
If you're in the US they are legally obligated to pay you before next pay period. I would contact the labor board and speak with HR directly.

>>9539382
No, I'm in the States but I work in medicine so they decide 'hey, we'll give you an extra $1/hr after 7 so that's fine right?'. It's pretty bullshit

>>9535669
I left my local comm & dress Lolita by myself because It's full of awful snobs and people obsessed with not looking like ageplayers to a ridiculous degree.

One girl in particular always dresses in boring full sets & has a perma scowl. I think they're convinced I'm horribly ita because a lot of my wardrobe is from 2005-2010ish. Heaven forbid I wear a JD op to a con (not as a Lolita.)

It sucks a little to not have a group to hang with but overall I'm happier without their crap.

>>9539547
I feel you anon, I too wanna go to AX but am trapped in the corn hell that is Illinois. I'll be at AMW though. If you wanna talk my discord is @lieselfogel#2494. I'd love to make cosplay/lolita/weeb friends who live in the Midwest!

>>9539661
kek
i like your humor and wish i were your friend

i have two very different social circles being lolitas and NEET degenerates and sometimes worry that if the lolitas saw half the shit my NEET degenerates and i joke about, I'd get the boot

>>9540184
Please continue to interact with society.

>>9540295
No-one's going to judge you IRL for wearing the same thing a lot as long as you don't look awful. Looking bland and boring is not a problem as long as you're not ita.

And trust me, there are plenty of itas and mediocre lolitas in the UK comm, it's just some girls well-known online and internationally who are really-well dressed. You wouldn't have stuck out that much being bland.

>>9540599
Hey I'm in illinois and going to AMW too!
>I've lived next to corn my entire life
I'll be adding you! Let's suffer together.

>normie gf
>wants marriage, kids
>Were 27 and 24, respectively
>Dont think I want that
>Conflicted between breaking up for freedom or staying with it because I dunno if I would find anyone else

On the other hand I got a new dremel making modding nerf guns for cosplay significantly easier.

>invite this girl I've been flirting with to come to a con with me
>make cosplay plans with her, pretty excited about them
>realize our lifestyles at cons are completely different
>realize that she's going to want to hang out with me the whole time
>working for a company there and will likely even have to do a lot of after hours things
>suddenly feeling really terrible about inviting her
>also had a sudden realization I don't really want to be actively flirting with anyone right now
>friends are pressuring me into asking her out.

I keep telling her that I'm going to be busy, but she seems really into it and I don't know how to tell her that it'll probably be a big disappointment if she's relying on me for entertainment, especially since she doesn't have a badge.

>>9540889
Why aren't you inseminating her birth canal right now?

>mfw I think of sad girls who can't afford lolita

Life isn't fair.

>made a seagull friendo today
>good feels all around

>>9541123
Shes got a summer cold

>see a cute 12yo cosplaying Rin Kagamine
>ask her for a pic
>mfw she does ahegao

>>9538318
I don't want to start a bunch of drama that they might get sucked into since, again, it's their photos and they're too nice to say "hey can you maybe do less of a shit job, especially if you're going to take the better part of a year to get less than half of what we paid for to us", buuuut...yeah.

I know people have complained about this photog's terrible turn around time before, too. But that's all I'm going to say and just hope that it gets back to them somehow. If you're a photog in northern North America and are guilty of this shit, stop.

>wanting to make 6 costumes
>classes start back up in august
>con in September, half are being worn there
>another con in November, other half being worn
>tfw barely started on them

I-I can do it, I believe I can! They're a little out of my comfort zone, but I think I can do it gulls!

also:
>tfw not at AX

>>9541279
This is very typical. Don't freak out.

>>9541279
How new are you?

>>9541279

>>9541127
>mfw I find out that girls are paying too much for their lolita

>>9541279
It's just a face. I see girls her age dressed as Shimakaze with their ass butts out. Wtf!!

>>9540032
I can't since I am the one who works fulltime

I keep seeing references to people faking having illnesses. How do they do it? I'm not diagnosed with anything and I feel like shit constantly:
> Sleep 10+ hours daily or feel ill, dozey, or braindead
> Constant overall body ache
> Ache like "growing pains" in my thighs
> Vomitronic: can't keep 50% of popular foods down anymore
> Ulcer
> Concussion
How do people fake feeling like this? Why would they want to?

>>9541851
Attention, built in excuses for anything.

>>9541804
Glad I'm not the only one.

>dream that I went shopping at Moitie and their one-size only shoes were on sale for £35
>super excited because I am 23.5cm, tried them on and bought them even though they were slightly loose for whatever reason
>fully believed I'd bought a pair when I woke up
>five minutes later, remember Moitie doesn't even have physical stores any more and they haven't had shoes on the webshop in years, cry

>>9541851
excuse for anything
please execute

>>9541851
Might be lupus, anon

I recently introduced a friend to /cgl/
did I do a bad?

last year I met a cosplayer that gets shipped with me because our characters have very similar theme.
This year I was supposed to meet her again for a proper photo shooting with lots of pictures and different poses.

I meet her and wait for her to finish talking there are multiple photographers in the area
while I wait I rearrange my armour.
She then tells her BF "can you take my cell phone and take a few pictures of me and that weird guy ?"
"he's some *action* guy and I'm a *action* girl so it kinda fits" what are you again?
I couldn't fucking believe that I had to tell her what my character was "I'm an *action* Warrior!!!"
Her BF takes a few pictures on 2 poses
"I'll send you the pictures on FB"
I actually had more ideas for poses n stuff but I noticed that my presence was no longer desired so I left very confused and disappointed.

Why would she treat me like I was nobody? , yesterday we were very friendly to each other and she was looking forward for the photo shoot tomorrow as well since we waited for a year to meet up again. She knew exactly who I was Cosplaying as and we talked about it a lot. I knew she had a boyfriend form the very start.
I looked up to her, she was my first and so far only Cosplay friend, she was my Cosplay senpai with lots of experience.
I want just want more friends that Cosplay but just friends would be great too, I really tough I could find some friends at cons, but they walk away so fast every time or live at the opposite side of the world.

It doesn't matter how they insult you but who insults you and it hits me hard that she pretended to not know me or my character anymore.
I wasn't just some weird guy yesterday.

Am I overreacting like a little bitch? This makes me quite sad.

Cheap ugly jsks. If the gods are with me, I'll be able to get my cow tits in them. Oh please...

>>9542845
Make friends who cosplay, not cosplay friends.
Someone who is trying to become a famous cosplayer will always put their image first. You fit the scheme, you're set dressing for a better photo and more likes.

You aren't wrong to feel hurt. Naive, but not wrong.

>>9542845
I wouldn't take it too hard anon, you don't know what's going on behind the scenes. She could have been underplaying your connection because her bf is a violently jealous guy, just forget about it and move on.

>>9540813
I'm too self conscious to let myself be ita, I'm always careful with what I wear but it's still hard not to worry about being judged or looked down upon in a fashion related hobby, especially when I see everyone in the comms with far bigger/better wardrobes. I don't doubt most of these insecurities might be pointless/stupid but it's not like I do it on purpose. I'm in a cosplay community with shitloads of drama and badmouthing, which doesn't help either.
My plan is to distance myself from all that crap and just focus on building my wardrobe and doing my thing for a while, I really need some time to build my self-esteem as well. I want to attend a couple meets of my home country's comm, since I know a couple people from it and language is less of an issue, to get started. Maybe one day I'll take a step into the UK comm.

>practicing lolita squats
>accidentally smell my ads
>realize I haven't bathed in a week

I'll never be lifestyle

My style has changed over the past few years. I feel like I'm cosplaying as my past self every time I wear something I feel ehh about but I know I would have loved when I was younger. It's a really weird feeling and it makes me feel sad for some reason. I looked through some old photos and my 2014 style was actually pretty cute and I still own a lot of the same pieces, but I'd feel so weird in it now.

There's a con in less than a week, and I have prepared super cute outfits for it, but I feel so depressed/suicidal these days that I probably won't enjoy the con even though I was so excited about it months ago.

What do I do to get rid of this wave of depression that hits me out of nowhere ?

Nothing I wear makes me feel myself any more. I wish I could put on an outfit that makes me feel "This is it! This is who I really am!" but everything makes me feel like I'm playing dress-up or in drag, even casual normie clothes. I'm not usually a self-conscious person so I don't know why I feel so uncomfortable with everything I try right now.

>tried to send my crush a funny pic
>accidentally sent this

Fug.

met who I thought was cool at AX until

>"Um I actually go by they/them pronouns so if you could just-"

>>9542832
Probably. /cgl/ is kind of a shit introduction to 4chan.

>>9543028
I won't meme at you about finding your motivation too hard. Have you tried thinking back into what got you into cosplay? Good friends who had, who moved away or changed interest? The novelty of the events and the shine it had to a younger you, before you saw all the shit buried underneath?

I can't tell you why you're feeling down. You've got to figure that out, then look for ways to recapture the feeling or accept that the feeling is gone, never to return, and there's nothing to do about it. Maybe there's another feeling or positive emotion you want to try bringing about instead of whatever you had in the past.

Thinking of quitting cosplay lately. Just zero motivation to work on stuff, feeling like it's a huge waste of money. I dont know when it started, but I really just want to dump all my old wigs and costumes and fabrics into a trash bin and be done with it. I thought seeing AX stuff would make me jealous and seeing CMVs would motivate me again, but I honestly forgot until my friends messaged me if I wanted anything from AA. I actually feel not bothered and even relieved im not living through AX hell this year. It kind of bums me out because I met some of my best friends through cosplay, but I'm just not into that or going to cons anymore.

>>9540295
OP here. Form your descpription, I don't think you match anyone I've met, but I wish I did know you anon, you seem genuinely interested in the fashion at the very least.

I think may lolitas love improving together, so don;t be shy, go meet your comm and see what comes out of it. I'd rather have more people that at least tried and were halfway there, and ask for advice, rather than being alone.

>>9540313
Thanks, I am not that nice at all really, but I try to be extra helpful for the sake of keeping the community alive in my country

I feel like social skills waxes and wanes. My first day at AX, I was kind of dreading having to socialize. The next, I can socialize just fine.

>>9535792
>why did negging ever become a thing.

when dudes hit age 12 and realized that complimenting (remotely pretty) girls makes them immediately stop talking to you
women are not capable of admitting that douche bag game works much better than nice guy game for young women in America in the current year

>>9541127
>some guy went out and consensually paid hundreds/thousands of dollars on a rock for a woman that fat

holy shit

>>9544079
It is easier for a dude to differentiate himself by being a douche than by being pleasant. A pleasant dude is boring, which is awful for dating and even worse for online dating.

>>9544079
>douche bag game works better than nice guy game
>AKA manipulation works better than trying to form a real bond

I mean I guess this is true if you're an average/below average guy trying to get with a super hot hottie but why be a scumbag

>>9544079
>>9544108
wow men are sure retarded

>>9544117
>AKA Manipulation
I agree. 'Nice guy game' is transparent, so a dude can't realistically date anyone out of his league.

>Trying to form a real bond
>First impressions on an online dating website

The goal for dudes is to be interesting enough for a cute girl to continue the conversation. Generally speaking, it is easier for a dude to be interesting by being a asshole than by being wholesome.

I'm not saying this is a good thing, I'm just adding context to the original question of "Why did negging ever become a thing?". It's like how clickbait titles suck and everyone hates them, but they do get attention.

>friend has birthday coming up
>dunno what to get her
>decide to sew her a little pouch shaped like her favourite weeb character
>made it entirely out of scrap cosplay fabric and a leftover zipper, cost me nothing
>its so fucking cute shes going to love it
Cosplay turned out to be a surprisingly useful hobby!

>>9543435
So what?

>>9543872
Has anything else been going on in your life? You're free to choose what hobbies to partake but perhaps you just needed a break. At the very least, sell your stuff so you can give it to someone who's interested and you get something in return.

>getting older early 30s
>heavy influenced by besti who is a minimalist
>love my lolita stuff
>but each time now i think of it as something useless
>i tried to incorporate and wore it at work but just a few pieces actually work well
>i didn't buy something the last 3 months
>just stuff that is so borderline normie
>at meet ups i just wore really casual and more otome like stuff

Is it me or summer ?
I love lolita but if i don't wear it why keeping it?

>>9542847
And they're probably gone. I wasn't quick enough.

>>9544261
I am the same anon. Same age too. It just seems more attractive to play with the colors, than pop 100x accessories, a wig, lenses, an all these layers. My coords are not even CoF worthy anymore. I am dissapointed in myself

>>9544079
/r/incels

>>9535844
>why must i feel such things

>>9535844
>tfw all the cute guys you meet at the con are of age and youre not

>started buying lolita 4 years ago after lurking and learning for about 2
>have bought all my original dream dresses
>own a standing wardrobe dedicated to my frills
>only 4 of my closest friends know I'm into lolita
>have never worn it to a meet or a con
>terrified of someone recognizing me from somewhere and judging me for crossdressing
I just... love frills, man

>>9544600
Oh man anon, that's sad.

>>9544600
>terrified of someone recognizing me from somewhere and judging me for crossdressing

Eh, whats going to happen? Stop thinking about all the people who will judge your negatively and just focus on thinking about the people who will love you for it.

I found a cute brooch in a parking lot! It has teeth marks on it, but I can still wear it.

>>9544600
Are you future me, senpai?
I've been lurking for years and I finally was about to pull the trigger, but had a dream I was in the same postion you're going through and have been apprehensive since.

>>9544600
What country are you in? Is judging the only thread here, or are you somewhere where you'd have no recourse if you lost your job?

>>9544643
FWIW I don't regret it. I love owning the dresses, and getting dressed up at home to take photos is fun, even if it doesn't go anywhere. I want to wear it to a con, but I need to arrange to go to a con that isn't near where I live.
>>9544673
I'm in the US, and I certainly wouldn't lose my job, but it would make my coworkers unbearable - I already get enough shit for casual things like playing video games. In my job, there are only maybe 4 out of 50 people I see on a daily basis who are within 15 years of my age, and only 1 is younger. They're mostly gossipy people in their late 50s who believe that sports and drinking are the only acceptable hobbies for men.
>>9544615
I'll try to keep that in mind.

>waiting on wig
>2 day delivery
>day 3
>"out for delivery"
>mail man came
>no wig
> r u fukkin kitten mi
>call post office
>"uhhh im workin window im not s supervisor. call back inahalf an hour, they should be backthen>
>mfw its 4pm
>mfw post office closes at 5pm
>mfw im not getting my package today
>mfw im not getting my package tomorrow
>mfw im getting my package on Wednesday
>mfw i ordered it all LAST Wednesday

>>9544700
Maybe you could make an instagram and just cover your face with a sticker or something? Idk your post just gave me feels something awful and now I just wish I could be your friend and help you find a con to go to.

>>9544700
>sports and drinking are the only acceptable hobbies for men.
I'm a manager and I'm pretty sure all my employees know I dress weird (Ouji,EGA,Cosplay), but I still get invited out after work which I never attended because anime.
So you're not alone bro.

>>9544763
Thanks, senpai, that means a lot. I had thought about setting up an IG, maybe I will do that!

>>9544774
I appreciate the solidarity

>>9544735
Wig arrived ~1 hour after post. Tried wig on. Style it.
Rebrushed it with fabric softer and water. Put it back in bag w/dryer sheets.
I feel better now.

>>9542865
>>9542868
thank you for your replies

do you think its a good idea to just ask her about it ?
if she wants to disown me she could atleast tell me so I don't waste my time thinking about it anymore

>>9542932
>lolita squats
Wut da hecky??

>added up all my bookmarked summer wishlist
>$2000 of stuff that seemed like a good deal in burando sales
welp, guess I have to cut down. I can go long periods without buying but when I do buy I become impulsive as shit, which is bad now I've lost the fear of buying full-priced brand

corollary
>actually got a pretty good-paying summer job for once so I will actually get to spend $1000 before September
>friends pressuring me to go on holiday with them, probably going to lose half of it to that when I really want to spend it on clothes
I know I shouldn't be such a fucking materialistic person but I still feel disappointed, even though I know I'll value the memories with my friends more.

>>9544866
Nice job, I'm always too lazy to do the fabric softener and water method because I'm somehow scared of fucking up and damaging the wig. The tutorials I've seen for it have been for lower-end cosplay wigs and seem to have completely changed the colour and texture of the wig as well as removing the shine, so I'm worried that if I tried it on a fairly good-quality lolita wig that just has a tiny bit of shine it'd end up wrecking the colour or making it unnaturally matte or something.

>>9538576
nope but nice try

>>9543571
pray tell, what is a good one??

>>9536663
WHY

Ban the bastard.

>>9540259
>tfw small white girl who caught a bit of yellow fever
i hope you have a cute face anon

pic related, joji has really turned me to the yellow side (...and he's half japanese half white)

>>9536692
In what bumfuck area of the North do you live in that you can't even book advance tickets to cut costs for meets? Are you in fucking Cumbria or something? Liverpool, Manchester, Leeds, Sheffield, York, Newcastle, Hull - all have fairly regular meets.

I know the struggle because I used to live in a rural area myself, but desu if you can't afford £10 for a train ticket every couple of months you can't really afford lolita.

>been out of cosplay con scene for a few years
>went to school for art, gained lots of useful skills for potential cosplays
>want badly to start again buuut
>currently a fat piece of shit, refuse to shame myself like that
>going to the gym 3-5x a week but weight loss just takes so effing long

I just want a hot bod so I can go to cons and feel good in cosplay again. I'll get there but its probably going to be like, next year aghhhh

>>9538365
>>9538370
Nice dude!
I have a few slaps on my Viper.

>>9545217
Aren't there any characters with your body type you can cosplay before then/

Well, I gained 50 pounds. Goodbye for now, burando.

>>9545191
Girls haven't find me cute since high school
>Tfw you peak at high school
>But was very picky now you ugly, fat, and alone

Are the feels threads dying out? This one's been slow as hell.

Just finished painting my shoes for Panty!

>>9545372
pics?

>>9545444
My phone fell in the toilet. :(

>>9545540
that's appropriate

>>9545372
Not enough /r9k/ to fuel the feels

>>9545718
>tfw no gf

>>9544363
I just think we are more sustainable and there are things that matters more than having a huge closet full of not-worn clothes. I think I will always love Lolita but now I need to move on. Living with my husband and having less space and getting older maybe otome is the more flattering thing for me?

>>9541279
post it

>finally get wig in the mail after Fedex fucking around for a week with it
>2 days before the con
>the wig looks all ratty and tangled
>have 2 days to teach myself how to style a wig and make this not look like shit

>>9545193
I'm in county durham, so even more bumfuck than cumbria. i've just had some luck looking up facebook groups but I cant find many groups at all based in the north. I can afford tickets to most areas around here, they're usually 20-30 pounds but when I start wanting to go down south tickets are more like 70+. how do I find these groups that do regular meetups in the cities you mention?