/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>Find a somewhat uncommon bag for super cheap
>BIN no less
>I'm now the proud owner of yet another bag
>happy feels

It's ~10 years old and in slightly rough condition, but desu that just makes it easier to use.

I love my comm. I really do. But I've had it up to HERE with these monthly butthole inspections.

I put a lot of thought into my coords. I wear them well. There's no reason I should have to endure the humiliation of going before the comm mother and her elders, dropping my thong diaper, bending over, and spreading wide for a full anal analysis.

According to the chart, my b-hole is a "Cheerio" type, the smallest allowable size in our comm. I get bitched at for this every time, but I honestly don't know how to fix it? Comm Mom herself claims to have a "Fruit Loop" which is the "statistically perfect lolita anus."

This system never really bothered me until last week, when I saw a really lovely OTT sweet lolita banished from our comm for sporting a "bagel" anus, which is three sizes too big. (Our comm only goes from "Cheerio" to "mini-doughnut," although exceptions can be made based on the shape of the hole and level of pinkness.)

It's also unfair how the girls with the best assholes get to sit near the head of the table at every meet. I contribute more to our comm than anyone in Comm Mom's inner circle, but get rejected from their clique because I was born with a "less impressive" anus. By the way, I have seen the holes of every girl in the top 10, and they're hardly majestic.

On top of this, there's the obvious problem of not being able to eat the morning of the tea party or the night before, for fear of accidentally passing gas during the inspection. That's a worse crime than excessive hair, or even failing to thoroughly wipe yourself. The one and only girl I've ever seen play the butt trumpet during her inspection was blacklisted from every comm in the state. I'm not going to lie though, if I ever wanted to quit lolita, I'd do so by deliberately ripping a toot right in the head inspector's smug face.

Sorry for the rant. I just feel like the normalization of anal inspections has cheapened my once-noble, cute hobby. But I understand if you disagree.

I wish I weighed less.
I've been losing weight but it feels like I'm not going fast enough and I know that going any faster than I am wouldn't be very healthy. I'm really sad. I just want to be pretty.

>pic related it's my fat ass

>>9629333
I know he ate a cheese.

>>9629327
I relate too much. Stay strong.

>>9629333
Same here. I'm at a healthy weight for my height, but it doesn't feel like I'm in my own body anymore. I don't feel pretty in lolita anymore. I don't understand why everyone has to be a "healthy" weight. Who cares if my weight is healthy on a chart when I want to die every time I see myself? Honestly I bet a lot of bigger girls have this issue too. Maybe they like being fat!

>>9629333
You probably do know this, but reminder that eating healthy is more important for weight loss than exercise. Exercise is for making you fit and toned, not thin.

>>9629327
>tfw super pale hides weird Spanish heritage, so your butt and underarms are inexplicably brown.

A-anon you just gave me a real feel you monster.

>>9629335
Help him

>>9629337
It really sucks. My bmi has been in the "healthy" range even before I lost like 15 lbs but I don't feel healthy. I feel gross and disgusting. I know I'm not but I just want to lose enough weight to fit into unshirred/smaller brand and until I reach that goal I'll always look in the mirror and feel like a fat fuck. I'm just worried that reaching that goal won't change things and I'll always feel like this.

>>9629338
I know already, but thanks anyways anon. I do need to get better at cutting sugary stuff out of my diet.

I really wish I had more friends in my cringey weeb hobby (parapara). I run panels at cons and they get really good attendance and participation, but none of those people try it at home after. I'd love to arrange meetups, but at this rate it'd just be me dancing in the park by myself. Feels bad man

>>9629327
im screencapping this for posterior posterity.

>>9629333
too relatable. im small enough for unshirred AP but i have a soft tummy and it makes me want to fucking k i l l myself

>>9629351
It might not ever be enough. When I first became a lolita and didnt own any brand yet i feared id never fit like all the other western girls who cried over not fitting. I starved myself down to 70lbs and realized even at my healthy weight id still fit brand - if youre already at risk for an eating disorder please seek help. your brain will continue to lie to you over and over and youll never believe you really fit it right even if you have to take in everything you own and even if the two sides of your corset lacing overlap. Dont believe any fucked up thoughts you have and stick to hard facts, 5cm-10cm under the items measure is the best fit, smaller looks just as bad as too big. I'm rooting for you.

>>9629384

I used to be around 120 pounds and quite buxom so I had a really good figure. But I thought I was too big for both lolita and cosplay and stopped myself from doing it because I didn't want to think of myself as a land whale cosplayer.

Now I'm at 200 lb's and WISH I were as small as I was, and I can't see myself realistically ever being that small again without an ED.
absolutely hate my body.

At least I don't have thin skin anymore i guess?

>>9629327
what the ever loving fuck

>at con
>fucking about in group cosplay
>person is picking up another person in-character in their arms
>suddenly gets passed to me and he runs off
>she's light, manage to lift her but just barely
>run to another guy and pass her back
>realise how out of shape I am
If that isn't motivation to hit the gym then I don't know what else is

>>9629509
had the same thing when I picked up a 70-80kg and could bearly hold for a 2 min shoot.

> Tfw hemorrhaging money this week
> rent due
> finally got the bill from the dentist from getting a cavity filled last month
> Glasses broke and had to buy new and get my prescription updated
> Amazon prime membership due
> Barnes and Nobel membership due
> Phone bill due
> Tfw have been building wardrobe slowly, one piece a pay check and probably won't be able to buy anything for a while with the holidays coming up and the safety cushion in my bank account so small
> Tfw I still keep going to the BST thread, LM, etc., and looking for stuff I want but can't let myself buy
> Tfw I just know a Dream/have-to-have tier item is going to appear now while I don't have money and will be gone by the time I do
> Tfw I don't know if it is better to have looked and lost then never to have looked at all

Oh my god, what asshole deleted the anus story?? I hope someone screencapped it.

I really want to cosplay Noodle from gorillaz but I'm a tall white girl with no flat chest....

>>9629559
check one of the archives

>trying to make lolita friends
>ghosted by each one of them
Fuck, I just want someone to talk about dresses with.
I've made better friends with cosplayers and I'm barely even into cosplay.

>>9629559
>what asshole deleted the asshole story
ftfy

>work months on cosplay for convention out of country
>mainly made from EVA, never used it so much in one costume
>convention time woo
>only manage 4 hours of con wear and tear
>foam tearing, glue letting go, elastic flying off
>never had cosplay failures this bad
>stuff pieces in car trunk
>come home
>throw costume in corner of garage in a rage
>feel disheartened over fucking up and not forseeing material failures

it's been almost a month and it's the first time I could bear to even look at the fucking mess

I'll try to fix it for the next con but fucking hell, bad feels man

I put off making a costume for a con in 2 weeks and I got a little fat in the arms so the sleeves barely fit anymore.

I hope to lose the weight I gained so I can fit into it because it's for a group cosplay!

>>9629559

>>9629318
Wtf I never noticed the extra toe in this pic.

>>9629337
It's probably a fat vs muscle thing. Muscle is denser (? not sure how to describe it) than fat, so a girl with a bit of muscle can weigh as much as a chubby girl. I recommend ballet exercise cause unlike other exercise it gives you long and leas and doesn't bulk you up

>Be me
>Never have a body issue, actually most people comment on how skinny I am and how my long my legs are for my height
>Start watching fashion shows
>Now all I want is that 5'11 skinny goddess life

Everyone always comments about how I'm cute and petite, but I just wanna be taaaallll

>>9629594
Calling bs. No comm would allow this.

>ask friends for roomspace for con
>be told is okay with it
>weeks before con be told there's no room to fit in
>couldn't make it to the con cause hotel costs are too much for one person.
>friends tweeting pics of their large suite.
I need new friends.

>>9629584
The fear of ghosting has stopped me even trying to make friends even when I see people in the friend finder who seem great.

Making connections is hard.

>>9629616
True, I mean, blacklisting a girl from every comm in a state just for accidentally farting in the ass inspector's face is just too harsh.

>>9629484
Same feels, anon. Same feels. I know I don't look bad now at 170 because I'm really tall and have a lot of muscle in my legs but I still wish I was as small as I was when I was 125 =\

Working on the mental part as well as the physical right now, or trying to at least. I hope you find a place where you're comfortable!!

>go to con with friends
>decide it would be great to do a group cosplay
>fuck yeah haven't stretched costuming muscles for a while
>spitballing ideas over lunch
>don't decide on anything as we can't fit something for our group makeup
>while the rest of them are hanging out afterwards somewhere else, they settle on teen titans
>[nospoileroncgl]It's something I haven't seen much of and haven't got around to[/nospoileroncgl]
>too late, everyone's decided on their characters even
>no main character that I could do
>can't do genderswap shit because nobody else is and it would look awkward
>not even going to think about cyborg blackface
>mfw I continue being a side character in own life

>>9629618
Are you a lolita? I'll talk to you.
If not, I'll still talk to you but can't guarantee we'll have similar interests or really click.

I'm actually guilty of ghosting several people myself, so I suppose it's just karma for what I've done. Continuing the cycle. I don't really blame people when they ghost because I can only assume they got bored of talking to me/we didn't really click. Still feels bad, though.

>>9629623
Ah I wish I were tall. I don't mind being petit and cute, and realistically I could be very happy with being "thicc" (which I am, my waist is about 12 inches smaller than my bust/hips) but its hard not to look at thick stretch marks on my stomach and think theyre bad.

Ultimately, now, I just wanna be healthy, and I think that's the best mental place to be. I hope you can be healthy as well, friend, both physically and mentally!

>>9629594
Im laughing so hard.
This has to be copy pasta.

>be me
>wear new tea parties to work at Target
>kid comes up and tells me he has a question
>say I can help
>kid points to my feet and screams "WHAT ARE THOOOOOOSE??"
>mfw he dabs on me

>>9629318
she's not gonna attract a good man with those hideous feet

Bought all of my ex-friend's dreamdresses. I don't feel bad, curse me to hell if you want.

>>9629690
but are you going to wear them and post pics publicly or are you going to wimp out

show us how strong you are

>just hit the 64 kgs
>ate one small chocolate
>see OP pic
>the feels

I'm too scared to try on my burando until I'm at least 59 kgs and now I'm worried about this one small chocolate

>>9629710
Anon it's ok. Go for a walk or something and that choco will go away.

>>9629645
Idk I'm getting pretty turned on by that snaggletoe

>>9629616
You're just jelly cause you've a bagel arse

>>9629594
Who has the time to sit down and write these? I am envy you.

>still no lolita gf to tie bows for, to hold hands with or to send cute messages to

>be 26
>have admired lolita and more generally alternative fashion for almost 10 years
>low self esteem & not very confident so just dressed like a bank clerk at the age of 19
>start feeling very self conscious about my attractiveness so never wore anything that I didn't think a man would find sexy
>finally get supportive bf
>he finds me attractive in cute things I feel at ease in, the fuck is this
>what the hell
>just bought an oldschool velvet op
>s-so excited

I'm not gonna lie, I'm feeling self conscious about my age, but hopefully I'll be able to wear it regardless even though I'm starting work again soon.

>>9629792
I'm turning 27 next month, have worn lolita for nearly ten years and have been a daily lolita for about five and have exactly no intention to stop anytime soon. Your age doesn't mean shit, looking good is all that matters in fashion. Keep that in mind and have fun! Oldschool velvet is stunning, I hope you love your OP when you get it.

>>9629790
L O N D O N?

>>9629616
Sounds like we've got a jelly bundt cake asshole. My comm is so great, we maintain a strict mini-donut standard and even a couple have achieved skittles.

>>9629808
Yes

>>9629641
It is now.

>>9629594
>Cheerio sized anus
>Fruit Loop sized anus
How do you even poop?

>>9629828
Real lolitas don't poop. That's why we wear thong diapers as a status symbol. To prove that there's nothing coming out of there.

>>9629333
>You are the best version that you are.

In order for you to do what you want in life you need to believe in yourself. Believe that no matter what happens, no matter how dire your circumstance becomes, that you will be ok.

You can wallow in self-pity, but what did that ever do but get you comfortable with your self-loathing. I used to feel this way and I feel like a lot of Anons on this forum feel the same way.

My BMI for years has been 25 and now it's 21.6. I fit into smaller sizes but I think I still look the exact same. It's weird.

>>9629341
Do you show your bara butt at comm meetings tho?

>>9629863
I didn't notice a significant difference till I lost about 60lbs.

How do I become Ig famous??

>>9630050
Be attractive
Be female
Learn how to take pictures

As a male:
Be top 5% attractive with lots of money
Have a personality that you're already famous for like fitness eceleb

THERE IS THIS ONE LOLITA WHO KEEPS BUYING THE EXACT SAME THING I WANTED TO BUY OR OUTBIDS ME IT KEEPS HAPPENING STOP IT AAAAAAHHHH

>>9629813
canada or england

>>9629863
perhaps your adult body has a different fat distribution than youre used to? or youve lost weight of muscle so your body still looks like a 25 bmi? fat doesnt weigh much for the space it takes up

>>9630089
England

>>9629594
Fuck lmao

>>9629594
What kind of monster would delete this?

>>9629594
Are we not allowed to speak out about the inspections or something? I don't get why it was deleted

This crazy chick I used to go to cons with spread some nasty rumors about me and some other cosplay friends. Obviously we aren't friends anymore, but she keeps stalking me online. Part of me just wants to end this crap by blocking her and all of her cronies, but the petty part of me wants to let her keep looking. The thing is, my life is on the upswing and I know that the more she sees me being happy, the more her mental health will decline.

Got three dresses in the mail and none of them fit WHY CAN'T I LOSE WEIGHT FASTER RRRRRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

On my honeymoon in Japan and bought my first lolita item ever. I've always been a fan of the fashion, but never could justify spending the money/have nowhere to wear it. Went to Closet Child and bought a IW standing collar margaret in black that I am in love with. I am happy.

>>9629318
Dude fuck you OP, we need to talk about that little mutant toe
Why the fuck did she paint its nail
The fuck is that

I got invited to a December con.

Should I make a new Christmas cosplay, or just add a Santa hat to an existing cosplay?

>>9630109
Itas aren't aware plus men lurk. I don't want itas trying to cheat the inspection, especially the first.

Every time I buy a new dress or blouse or whatever I get really happy. I get happy wearing them too. I love lolita so much.

>>9630157

She wanted to feel pretty anon, just like any of us. Don't be rude.

>>9630059
if that were remotely true at all your parents wouldn't have produced you.

>>9629619
My sister farted during her first inspection, and they let her off with two hours in the spanking machine.

>>9630235
IG famous, not how to get laid dummy

>>9630235

Anon, what if I told you you did not have to be any of those things to get laid?

>>9630095
fuck

>>9630104
cgl isnt what it used to be. its the pussy tumblr board of 4chan

>>9629594

I laughed so fucking hard. Bravo to this anon, wherever they are. please god let this be real

>>9630251

You're actually thinking of /co/. Literally been subverted by SJW babbys.

>inb4 some gull calls me a poltard

>>9630235
I'm not sure how any of those are related anon. IG didn't exist when I was born.

>>9629594
Is girlyhoot posting here now?

I don’t have any real friends. I get along with many people across multiple comms and I have a well off life. My closest friend has died. But I don’t feel like I have a right to feel sad when I am privileged.

>>9630315

Honestly? Commit suicide.

You are right. White people, and particularly affluent, rich white people, have too much privilege in today's society. The parents suck the lifeblood from previously cultural areas by gentrifying them, and then they pass along that disgusting, coagulated blood onto their children. The children get picked over other potential students or employees entirely because they are white.

Stop the cycle. The sooner whiteness itself is scrubbed from America, the sooner we can return to our roots as an open, diverse society that welcomes all and denies none.

>>9630300
girlyhoot, girlytoot, girlypoot

>>9630322
is this a copypasta? lol

>going to NYC for a concert in October
>at the Bowery Ballroom
>its right around the block from Tokyo Rebel

Bless my soul, i couldn't be more happy.

I cant justify driving all that way just to shop, but since I'm in the city already anyway, its the perfect excuse to stop in.

>>9629690
>>9630086
lol

>>9629802
That's really heartening to hear. Thanks anon!

>Ugly landwhale white girl
>27
>want to be cute so bad
>been trying to un-fat since she was 12
>been to fat-camp as a teen
>done starvation diets, whole 30
>too depressed to stick to sane methods
Life's tough.

>>9629792
lmao since when is 26 old
most of the efamous lolitas are around that age or older

>>9630507
look how much kcal you eat a day, use my fitness pal.
check for the food you can change for sugarless products.
eat aroun 2000 kcal a day.
been doing that for a half a year lost 50 pounds

>>9630511
2000 is too much for most women, especially women who lead a mostly sedentary lifestyle. try 1500. sugarless products are ok to a point but often the sugar substitutes make people's bodies want real sugar or trick your body into thinking it has had real sugar so if you want sweets eat some fruit in yogurt, or some dark chocolate. blended fruit with yogurt/kefir are good smoothies which feel like desserts also.

>Birthday around the corner
>Part of me wants to be moody and try to hide it
>Another part of me wants to treat myself and actually enjoy my own company and not try to twist people wishing me Happy Birthday as some pitiful act on their end because Facebook told them
>Would love for them to initiate a birthday dinner or party but friendship is not at that level yet
>I wanna throw parties for them in the future though
I guess this is a good feeling? Normally I'd be moody I'm alone on Birthdays but I want to actually enjoy the day...

>>9630507
stop buying food that's bad for you

self-improvement is all about making small goals and starting habits

Been three months since I started dating my two boyfriends. They make me so happy and we are almost done with a new trio cosplay. They've also been helping me lose weight. One is a nutritionist and chef and the other is fantastic moral support so they both know how to help me stay healthy. I've lost nearly ten pounds thanks to them.

>>9630574
Have they DP'd you yet?

>>9630095
>>9630100
Well London, England here- would be rude not to step in

>>9630605
Well drop that contact info gurl

>>9629338
>>9629351
I will also say that both exercise and a diet of good, fresh, healthy foods can go a long way to keep you from feeling like a fat fuck.

I used to exercise 3x a week but because I didn't change my diet, my weight didn't budge and I felt no different physically. Then I did the opposite - cut out junk food and focused on healthier cooking with little exercise and I only felt marginally better.

It wasn't until this summer than my husband and I started keeping each other accountable, and I finally feel like I'm starting to come alive.

I will also say that I sympathize with you, because I don't think I'll ever completely like my body just because of my shape. I'm a rectangle with thick thighs, not a good combo imo. I wish I could have a really tiny waist, but it'll only get so small. I look at hourglass girls and I get really jealous. My upper half (minus shoulders and arms) is kinda petite but then I get below my belly button and it's like body wtf r u doin. IW sleeves are too short, and I'll never fit my arms and shoulders into most brand OPs and blouses. But the only way to fix is to come to terms with the fact that this is the body I have. It may not look like I want it to but it's not a bad body. It's pretty strong and it's decently healthy, it's walked me through nice vacations, carried textbooks for decades of school and still survived, and now here I am so I should just take care of it properly.

>>9630574

So do they spitroast you or how does the sexy times work with y'all?

>>9630644
I wish I had a girlfriend to spitroast with another dude

that sounds great

Anon raped in Milky Planet from last thread here. Kinda good follow up but I still feel like shit and hate Milky Planet now.

They were caught. They were hanging out a few blocks away from where they got me and tried attacking someone else right as a cop just happened to patrol by. I just got back from the station, and while I still feel like shit it kinda helps that they were caught but not really. Also I feel disgusted still and wish I could meet them again to stab them over and over with a salt covered knife.

I still am wishing for test results and scared I may have something and am just looking up random STD symptoms on webmd. If I caught something I'll legit just kill myself.

Sorry for unrelated feels. I am planning to trade milky planet to a friend but need to pick something I like from her. She doesn't know what happened, there are no stains or anything on the dress, but would it be bad of me to not tell her before the trade? I had my sister bring it to the cleaners for me so I could be sure there wasn't anything on it, but I would be lying if I said I inspected the dress much.

>>9630511
>suggesting a woman eat 2000cal a day

This is sabotage unless she's active...

>>9630659
HIV needs 4 weeks minimum to detect, 3+ months for the most accurate. Just a heads up even though I thought your story was full of shit.

>>9630659
I still don't believe anyone who was gangraped would call it a gangbang and then post about it on 4chan less than a week later

>>9629318
My dad was just admitted to the hospital.
I put on my dream dress to make me feel better and now I'm just taking my stress out on stupid people online.
I want to cry and call out of my second job because I'll be too worried about my dad all night to focus.

>>9629594
I look forward to seeing this copypasta everywhere.

>>9629616
>t. bagel anus

>>9630661
If she's a fatty thats probably bellow her current intake

>>9630661
I get more than 2000 cal a day just from the gallon of whole milk I drink daily.

I usually have cream chicken pasta, veggies, soup, grilled cheese, bacon, eggs, and hash browns to eat throughout the day too

it's kind of a weird balance because it's hard to not be active when eating that many calories. you just have so much energy all the time

>>9630729
>gallon of whole milk per day
Jesus Christ

>>9630729
Wtf. Are you an athlete? How do you burn all those calories?

>Cleaning out closet
>Needed this so bad
>Have held on to so many ugly pieces
>Never cleaned out my highschool phases
>Out with it all
>HealingSoul.webm
>Have so much space now
>Feels good

But naturally this state of happiness wasn't meant to last.

>Start thinking of buying new clothes
>Try to formulate a vision and a style
>What is "my style"?
>Who am I?
>Enter existential dread
>Start staring at myself in the mirror more
>This only means staring at my flaws
>Absolutely hate my jawline
>Don't know if my current hairstyle distracts/flatters me the most
>It looks its worst when I smile
>Dear friends all say I have a pretty smile
>Have started crying about it in solitude
>Still don't know what clothes I want
>Just want to be pretty
>Torn between mature and cute
>Don't know who to talk to since all dear friends and bf might try to hugbox my problems away
>You can't convince me I'm pretty if I don't believe you

>>9630738
i take my falcon for a walk daily
i'm like two miles away from my mailbox and it's a wonderful walk during the cool mornings here

>>9629318
>actually paints the mutant toe

>>9630752
Anon are you living my dream?

>>9630740
Time to experiment. What sort of budget do you have? What colors do you like, and look good on you? What sort of "defined" style (goth, lolita, gyaru, etc.) speaks do you? Do you have any direction at all? Take it, try things, don't worry too much about making mistakes and just go for it. Just don't make too high jumps before you find your niche, you know? Don't go for the gothiest/pinkest/frilliest most OTT look right off the bat, start easy and you'll find your way. Be brave, anon, you can do it.

>>9630149
You'll never going to make it, sell them. Sell them all.

>>9630778
You'll have to pry my little dresses out of my cold fat dead hands

>>9630511
MFP isn't sustainable for me, I've only managed to keep it up for about a 1-2 months at a time. My recommended intake is 1400 cal, and I don't actually have a hard time staying under that when I manage to track. 90% of my intake is coffee and water.
>>9630562
Trying to do this, but flour is really cheap... and easy to cook with, so I end up eating a lot of carbs. Anyone have a better way to avoid binge eating that isn't telling me, "Don't binge eat"?

>>9630752
>falcon
I remember you

>When you have gf doing cosplay
>want to encourage you also to cosplay
>but you have ass big as some instagram negro slut
>try to burn some fat , get diet
>but in fact your to lazy even to last for one month with your goal
Why i must be such dissapointment fml

THIS THREAD IS UNCLEAN
I BLAME OP'S CURSED IMAGE

>>9630869
Shockwave, please.

>>9630873

>>9630877

>>9630884

>>9630556
Get over yourself

>>9629792
I'm 30. A lot of us are in our late 20's to early 30's.

>>9630752

do....do you have any picture of your pet falcon?

>>9630583
>>9630644

Honestly we haven't done anything very sexual yet. Don't really know what we'll be doing.

>>9629863
I used to weigh more. And I still think I look like chubbier girls. But I don't. It's just this sort of mind trip. Your brain hasn't caught up with your body yet.

>>9630834
Eat real foods anon, things your great grandmother would recognise as food. fake food i.e processed foods only have calories with very little nutrients, thats why you binge eat your body is crying out for real nourishment

I love wearing leather jackets and goth boots with casually-coordinated burando, but I'm scared that someday someone will take a photo of me in one and it'll end up on here. I know it's a weird look, but those outfits aren't meant to be lolita and I'd never tag them as such. Still, I don't want a photo of me to be taken out of context and I don't want to be ostracised for my stupid casual clothing choices.

>>9630834
kinda random, but to avoid binge eating, i usually drink about a gallon of unsweetened tea per day, it keeps me full on something without calories, and the low dose of caffeine helps with cravings. also flavored chapstick/lip balm, a lot of times when i crave sweets i'll just put some chapstick on and having the smell/taste makes me stop feeling hungry.

>Be a cute girl.
>Boyfriend breaks up with me for being too autistic and not outgoing/talkative enough.
>B-but /a/dv/ said this couldn't happen.

For real though I want to die.

>>9630682
He's gonna make it Anon. You're gonna make it. We're all rooting for him.

>>9631001
Clearly not cute enough.

>tfw no gf to do couples cosplay with

A few threads ago I posted about how I was worried a dress coming in the mail would be too small for me, it fits me perfectly fine so it all worked out!

>tfw too many dresses and not enough time to wear all of them out immediately

>>9631001
sounds like a douche
you'll find someone with a similar pace of life and interests and you'll be way happier

>I'm bisexual, leaning more towards women
>have a boyfriend, but we would like a poly relationship with another girl
>I'm too scared to approach anyone about it because people would think its some degenerate thing when we totally just want a loving beneficial relationship of 3 people
>meet several girls in the lolita, cosplay, and convention artist community
>ALL of them go out of their way to tell me they like women, are bisexual, flirt with me often
>ALL of them are in commited relationships

I just want a gf into the same hobby as me to move in with me and all three of us can play videogames, go on dates, participate in our dork hobbies and travel the world together. I'm too much of a scaredy bitch to make a move though.

>>9631074
One man and multiple women is the only poly-type relationship that can last. Good luck.

>>9631074

Any romantic relationship that is not two people is degenerate. Poly relationships do not work long term.

I see a lot of stuff on here about being overweight. As a cosplayer who once weighed 290 lbs and cut back down to my current 220, looking at hitting 200 by next con season, mostly muscle at that point, I've been thinking about doing a web series about how fat out of shape slobs should go about creating a diet plan/menu. Most of the existing stuff on the web is just what people who are already fit eat and that isn't helpful at all.

The biggest keys on dieting is that you have to like your food, or you won't stick to your diet plan. Your food also has to be filling, so pick things that aren't calorie dense. You do have to indulge your sweet tooth from time to time as well. Things like pudding cups work well for me. Cut soda and juice completely and replace with various teas. Reading labels helps a lot, as the same things in different brands have wildly different calorie counts.

Some staples of my diet still come out of boxes and cans. For instance, a family size Rice and Beans with a chopped up turkey sausage and a can of collared greens creates 4 calorie controlled meals easily put in meal prep containers for later. Also you can do lean beef hot dogs and turkey chili on wheat buns with mustard, chopped onion and covered with some shredded cheese and you have coneys at under 200 calories each. Pair 2 with a side of baked beans or a bag of potato chips and you still have a meal under 600 calories.

If you learn to cook, your food doesn't look like diet food and looks just like, well, food. Most people at work don't believe the food I eat is diet food at all and the portions are enough that I tend not to finish everything every day.

>will be in China for a couple weeks
>biggest Taobao order(s) ever inc
>honestly more excited for lolita shopping than Disneyland Shanghai

>>9631074
that sounds lovely

My comm insisted on eating lunch at the Steak N Shake where my gf dumped me in 2014.

>>9630850
why is this in second person?

>Dresses I want to buy on sale
>Very little money due to just paying tuition
>Put stuff on LM but no one is biting, sales are ded
Someone please buy my things...

>>9630834
>>9630834
You need to work out why you binge and what the triggers are and work on dealing with those - for me, stress and frustration. Sometimes if you restrict your intake too quickly you can snap and binge out from that too - I also make sure that I have actual meals, still have filling foods that are less energy dense, and try not to get hungry even with lower calories. Obviously you can't completely avoid emotional triggers, so the second part is minimising the fallout. Don't buy whatever you binge on, buy something else. If it's not in the house it's an effort to go out and get stuff. My vices are chocolate and icecream and I only ever buy small bars/single tubs so that even if I decide I want more, there's only a small amount for me to eat. Healthy substitutes for the times you want to eat something and work out what it is about the food you want that you like - e.g. I like the salt/fat/crunch of crisps, but I can manage with popcorn that I salt myself and put a small amount of butter on. I love pizza but rarely buy it because I will just keep eating it even when I'm full, so I'll make my own with a really thin base and use heaps of veges and minimal cheese. I love chocolate, but can often satisfy that craving with a low calorie hot chocolate sachet for 1/4 of the calories.

Basically, you need to make binge eating unhealthy food the harder option for you

>>9629318
>145lbs

wow that is one fat bitch

>>9629570
you can always bind

>>9631195
sent :)

>>9631074
Stop unicorn hunting. Other bisexuals will smell it from a mile away.

>be me, 160lbs
>lose weight
>112lbs
Now my arms and legs are long and skinny, and my waist is smaller than before, but my stomach is still fat and so are my hips/thighs. It just looks so nasty and disproportionate. I can wear my weeb clothes a little more feasibly now, but I'm scared to stop dressing like I did when I was fat because I need to hide my disgusting stomach and hips and just iaohbjklnaebnajfdhjkbvsjh. Fuck this life.

>>9631261
did you read what I said?
I'm NOT unicorn hunting.
Just because its something I desire doesn't mean I'm actively looking for it.

That being said it puts me in an awkward situation when other girls are very forward in saying they find me attractive.

I've lost about 35 lbs in the last few months just to wear skimpy cosplay and look good. I'm 120lbs now (height 5' 5") and my BMI is 20. I still don't like what I look like even though I'm considered very skin by my friends and family. Not sure if this is the start of an eating disorder or if my slightly pudgy appearance is because of a bit of loose skin. Either way, I'm disappointed in myself.

>>9631268
You're a het couple looking for a relationship with a bi woman. You're unicorn hunting.

>>9631266
its called shit genetics, shit diet and no exercise.

guess you shouldnt have crash dieted while sitting on your ass doing jack shit

>>9631277
Who shat in your cereal, anon? Are you fat and salty about it or something?

>>9631275
forgot pic: i have no boobs

>>9631266

The stomach fat sounds really weird to me. Maybe try going on a fruit diet cleanse (or you could do a detoxing programme, though that's basically another way of saying "laxatives in prettier packaging") and see if it makes a difference. I'm not American and these things just give me a horrible time, but there's a number of American bloggers who rave about how flat their stomach looks after doing something like going fruitarian for a week. Something about typical American diet being super high in processed foods that makes their stomach bloat or something.

>>9631282
That's a terrible suggestion. First of all she will only lose water weight and muscle if she loses any weight at all. Water weight comes back immediately and after you lost muscle you'l be more flabby. Secondly, fruit has a lot of sugar and most fruit juices like orange juice or apple juice have even more sugar added to make it less sour. Even if you make your own the amount of fruit you need to fill you up is a lot and you will be hungry the entire time.


>>9631266
>>9631275
Did you exercise or just diet? Try out some weightlifting workouts like Strong Curves for example. You always lose muscle by losing weight but having a bit of muscle looks a lot better. After I lost weight I still had some fat I anted to get rid of which I could never lose by dieting, the only solution is to build muscle while dieting so that fat will burn. You get a flat stomach by working out. Losing weight by dieting doesn't give you abs, only exercise does.

>>9631276
alright, lets talk in terms you understand.

I want a my dream dress.
I am making no effort in any way shape or form to look for my dream dress.
but by what you said I would be "hunting for a dream dress"

that's retarded.

>>9631287

Oyvey. I just realised I hit the wrong comment to reply to.

>>9631282 was meant for >>9631266, who says she lost weight but her stomach is still fat. Could be a stomach bloating problem, there's no harm in doing on weekend detoxing and then moving out if it doesn't help.

>>9631290

*one weekend detoxing
*moving on if it doesn't help

......I'll get off the internet now, sorry for the typos and the confusion.

>>9631287
Mostly diet. I eat about 1200 calories a day and do cardio three or four times a week for about an hour which is usually running or DDR on expert difficulty.

>>9631305
Sounds like you need to go read the sticky on /fit/. Lifting or other muscle-building exercises are necessary to get rid of fat. Cardio burns calories. Lifting builds muscle. The more muscle you have, the more calories you burn during cardio. You'll look better at higher weights. You get to increase you calorie count while reducing your waistline. There's no substitution for it.

>>9631074

I know someone who wanted this so badly and eventually got it.
Then their partner fucked off with the new girl, kicked them out and wouldnt speak to them after being in a relationship for 8 years.

Dont do it.

>>9631074
>Bisexual
>Says they prefer women
>Already in a relationship
>Still looking for a woman to date
That guy must be retarded to not see you're playing him and going to end up either leaving him for the girl or cheating

And from your other posts it sounds like you get more dates than he does, which is almost guaranteed to ruin any poly relationship if one person has a much easier time than the other.
Spare the poor boy and break up if you really want to be a dyke and munch carpet, don't string him along

>pre-order a bunch of circle lenses two months ago and forget about it
>wake up this morning and remember that i ordered them
>hm i want to check on the order status
>can't remember log-in information for the site
Oh well. Guess it'll be a surprise. I don't even remember exactly which lenses I ordered

A girl in my comm got punched at tea and nobody will tell me why.

>>9631130
it does, but impossible so hence why I'm not really trying. its something I want for sure though.

>>9631375
>still looking for women to date

woah, slow down their partner. I'm trying to make some female friends, not looking for dates. I think you're assuming I'm more promiscuous than I actually am because I said I simply desired a poly relationship.

>96 lbs 5'4"
>still feel fat
i'm not dieting or anything. still feels bad because i know i'm skinny but i keep seeing "fat" parts of myself

>>9631593
Are you in the Atlanta comm?

Seeing dragon con their showcase video pisses me off, too many shitty genderbends, original designs and inaccuracy (original skin mercy with her tits out, really?) for the sake of sticking their tits out. Sexappeal over cosplay I guess.

>>9629318
aww that mini toe is the cutest thing. wish she painted a face on the nail. I actually really love it, but it might just be my hormones making me feel super motherly/affectionate right now.

>>9631669
Affectionate enough to be my lolita gf?

>>9630907
give your personal boundaries good serious thought. it's very important that you know what your 'hard no's are so you don't get yourself in a pressured situation.
you may be poly, but are you the point connecting the bfs or are they also into each other? also, are all 3 of you poly, or just you?

always talk everything out before you start physical things. it also isn't a crime to pause sexytime that's in motion to talk things out. I've been in some bad situations and learned some hard lessons so just be careful and make sure your fun is well-informed.

super depressed and trying my hardest to get out of this place I live and be happy. I literally have nothing in this area keeping me here, no friends, nothing. lolita and the small hope that I can finally get out of here and be happy somewhere is the only thing keeping me going. i'm so lonely though, it's been a really long time since I've had a partner and I am kinda giving up hope in that department. I should really just dive into research/school and just give up on having a partner but I feel so much happier when I can help someone else and be affectionate and make someone feel special. :( at least I have lolita... it's really the only thing I that makes me feel more than neutral anymore.

>>9631375
this is laced with an insaaane amount of projection and bitterness.

>being more gay than straight on the spectrum doesn't imply anon isn't attracted to her bf
>monogamy isn't the one true choice?
>bf also wants a 2nd partner
>conveniently overlooked bfs intentions just to spew anti-woman/anti-les vitriol and paint bf as weak victim?

get therapy anon.

>>9631677
m-maybe?
I'm really shy and unconventional. don't let me get your hopes up...

>>9631713
Where are you from?

>>9629531
You are the pinnacle of the capitalist dream. Never change.

>>9629630
Go as a villain and make them eat their own asses. Or just be batman and make really sarcastic jokes about how "great" the teen titans are. I bereve in you.

>>9629318
What the fuck is wrong with that toe?

>>9631716
U.S. northeast

>>9629318
when a 5 out of 10 thinks she's hot shit because she dresses up as gook cartoons

>>9629318
when a 3 out of 10 complains about average girls with confidence

>>9631801
country cartoons?
are you talking about Hetalia?

>when you're a 2/10

Please help me

>>9631822
well what exactly is making you think you're a 2/10? Is it looks? weight? personality?

>>9629792
I'm 25. I was only able to afford nice fashion starting about a year ago or so. There's plenty of adults within alternative fashion. It'll be a lot of fun to have nice stuff to wear the days you aren't working.

>>9631704
The bfs were dating before I joined in, they actually approached me about it. We're all poly. And we do plan on further discussing what each one of us is comfortable with doing so nobody gets uncomfortable.

>>9631220
M-misfire?

Why hasn't anyone killed me yet? I don't deserve this life given to me. Someone else should have what I do

>>9631950
Unfortunately we can't just give our lives to someone else who "deserves" it more. The only way you can do that is to dedicate your life to helping other people and give back to the world, and there are plenty of ways to do that.
If you feel suicidal then you should speak to someone about it, please get help.

>>9631950
devote your pathetic life to serving daddy xD

>>9631950
i feel this way a lot

on the surface i have everything to live for and everything material that i want but i have no friends and i'm sad all the time. constantly think about bestowing all of my lolita/jfash/other desirable shit onto someone else and offing myself

Are good feels okay?

>Go back to college after dropping out
>Course load is so have I can't make or create anything
>Hate myself for not being able to do what I love, while also studying something I'm eh about just to finish a BA
>Graduate in May and totally hate myself for not trying harder to find a better job
>Decide to blow all my money on materials so I can start learning new methods and mediums
>Friends/coworkers think what I'm making aer super cool and compliment
>Super shallow, but it makes me feel good/proud
>Don't hate myself so much because I get lost in what I love again

Self-loathing is a hell of a drug

Just another lonely gull weighing in, Lonelita, I'd love some friends in the fashion but my family are all narcissists so trusting someone & taking them at face value is like nuclear physics to me. I'm only now understanding that I never learned to be a person in my own right & since coming out from under the thumb I have for years only been performing normality in tne way an autistic person learns it, after processing/grieving the death of the only non N in my family, it still feels like I've a lot of work to do. I guess I'm lucky I have a loving supportive partner. I had so much energy & motivation, so many friends, I was busy every night, but my empathic nature & inclination to be a fixer & a people pleaser just got me used to the detriment of my health.

In more cgl related feels I am treating myself to all the cheap older releases I loved back in the day & at least I'l be cute, right?

i just deleted a really important art file with no chance of recovery

>18, living with parents
>starving half to death because between working and school and only one day to myself i can't go grocery shopping
>parents are never home either so nobody goes food shopping
>coworkers notice im losing weight and tell me I look prettier now
I'm suffering but it's worth it I think. I dropped from 138 to 129. I wish I could hit under 115 but that's impossible considering my ribs are touching at a 28' waist and I have thick toned thighs and wide muscular arms. I just want to be cute and feminine. At least my tits are still there.

>>9629792
I am turning 37 this year and I was 34 when I first started lolita fashion. I understand that age insecurity but it will go away very soon. This fashion is much more appropriate for adults than kids because dresses are pricey. If you like how you look in lolita, it is all that matters.

>>9632057
>tfw no christmas cake lolita gf

>finally hit 180kg deadlift
>still haven't got a gf

>want to be a sexy widdle wowita
>addicted to Taco Bell
I'm eating it in my car right now.

I've recently returned to my extremely rural hometown after 7 years away. I returned because I couldn't find a decent job after uni, and even though my mum has left here, some of my family and my friends' family remain.
It's hard to deal with the realities of being abnormal here, and also there are no young people. I wish I could make friends, even weeaboos, but the only young people are way too young (like high schoolers, and I'm 25).
I'm going to try to make the room I rent as cozy and cute as possible, and try to enjoy life as much as I can (berry picking, natural adventures, etc.) but at the same time, I feel so completely isolated.

I feel for all of the anons living in the rural US. Life is hard.

>>9630740
suck a dick

>>9632132
>Not even 5 plates

Kek, not gonna make it breh

>>9632203
Man now I want some tacobell.
Good thing I'm a skinny bitch.

>be in a failing relationship. Very little in common. Financially supporting her. Help her with her cosplays.
>cheated on me multiple times in past. Used to just deal with it by being insecure and begging her not to leave. Then was treated with contempt. ( I.E, watching guys get totally uncomfortably close and then at the last second, have to step in and go .."uhh, i'm her boyfriend..yeah, we can't go further." wouldn't actually admit i'm her bf.)
>get my future on track, have a decent salary career..try to win her back with making incredible memories.
>it seems to work..but i'm still thinking she only wants me for money only / things I can do for her.
>maintain the relationship because I don't want to be alone and fear being alone more than anything in the world.
>consistently feel used and worthless because of all of this.
>majority of hobbies involve alone-ness. ( video games, anime, cosplay, workout, learning guitar )
>super weeb. would have great challenges being involved in a relationship who didn't have some interest in the abnormal stuff i'm into.
>she's making an effort to try to convince me she's changed...but does little small things to constantly make me think otherwise. It's like one of those situations where you show someone only what you want to them to see.
>dream of seeing every large convention in the world. planning on going on worldwide vacations later this year ...and basically paying for her.

I don't want to be alone. I know we shouldn't be, but it's so easy to say "get rid of her"...but I can't. I don't want to be alone. I would rather have some sort of fake love than nothing so I can pretend. I'm genuinely thinking of living the rest of my life as a lie because I don't want to be alone. I can just love her again and make everything be okay, right?

I don't want to be alone.

>>9632259
>being this much of a fucking cuck

You need to man the fuck up, bro. Have some fucking dignity and dump her ass

>>9632259
start dating dudes
you will be much happier

>>9632262
I can't. I spent most of my young life alone because I was in an awful home situation. I didn't get the chance to start forming relationships until I started college. This made me feel pretty worthless in general.

Besides, she seems to genuinely want to try to improve things.

All of my hobbies involve a lot of alone-ness, or really only one other person / tiny group and the only chance that I could really possibly meet someone is at anime conventions, usually. I'd go into hermit mode because i've been filling the void with materialism to try to distract myself.

>>9632267
I wish I could, mate. Unfortunately, not physically attracted to them.

>tfw lolita-loving bf wants to steam my dress for me before I wear it
>dress is fine, hardly wrinkled, maybe a bit on the sleeves but it's barely noticeable
>he absolutely insists on doing it
I am so lucky

>>9632274
it's not really about being physically attracted to dudes, it's about being attracted to their charisma and charm
spoiler, women feel that way too about their men, so maybe something to reflect on about the situation you've got on-hand

my boyfriend's an ugly motherfucker but he's the coolest dude i know and he's just so fun to be around all the time

>>9632259
Jesus, dude, I know that feel all too well. No matter what choice you make, it's guaranteed pain.

>>9632298
I think maybe you're just a lesbian if you're not actually attracted to guys

>>9632259
This feels like my last relationship (which was 10 years ago this halloween lol) but I am a girl and it was my boyfriend being shitty. THANKFULLY (and I can say this now after a lot of healing) he cheated on me and disappeared one day. it hurt so bad and I fell into a very deep depression because I didn't want to be alone, but I am better off now, despite having been alone for all this time. I'm pretty sure I will never have the opportunity to be in a relationship ever again (come on now, I haven't been in one for a decade lmao), but I guess that is better than feeling used all the time. Now I just focus on what makes me happy: lolita. Also going to start dumping all of my time into a career and making bank for myself. sad truth, but I guess I have no other options.

>>9632308
Pls let me make you happy on top of the lolita

>>9632302
I'm a dude though
I guess I can't speak for the girls even though I just did

>>9632312
oh if you're gay then that kind of sounds like a prison gay situation

>>9632311
I think the part that sucks the most is that I am a very affectionate and loving and loyal person. when I love someone I thrive so much. I love taking care of my partner and making them feel happy and loved and special, and sadly always end up being used.

sometimes people give me hope but I don't know anymore. being vulnerable sucks when people just want to take advantage of it.

>>9632316
I don't want to use you. I want to hold your hand, help you pick out lovely coords and take you on cute dates.

>>9632308
Depression vocaloids aside, can we talk? You seem to have the same sort of like..aura I do.

Maybe you can help me sort out my thoughts.

Throwaway mail:

name5thingsnotjackiechan@gmail.com

>>9632323
>>9632321
>>9632311
jesus christ how thirsty are the guys here?

>>9632324
If I was thirsty I'd go to /soc/

>>9632324
wanting human affection isn't thirsty. it really hurts being alone sometimes, especially for extended periods of time. maybe I am biased though, being alone for a decade is pretty drastic.

>>9632324
Very.

My con crush accidentally shared his porn on Facebook, and he's one of those freaks who jerks off to non-cartoons.

>>9632332
>please be my lolita gf
>please let me make you happy I swear I'll buy you anything
>please, here's my email, please respond
this is thirsty as fuck anon

>>9632365
>porn sites that have a million different social media buttons for sharing to Facebook. Twitter, Google+ and everything else

I'll never understand this

>>9632321
This makes me sad because this is exactly the kind of thing I want. Someone who loves me and loves being with me (and loves being loved and affectionate) and just wants to share special interests (lolita and other interests, and not just mine). ;3;

I think the new girl at my work likes me. She keeps quoting SpongeBob and asking me what I'm doing.

Should I ask her to cosplay with me??

>>9632388
It doesn't have to make you sad. We can make it happen

>>9632368
These are not all the same person.

I'm >>9632259.

I just sent out a throwaway email as a "Hey, let's talk. You and I are in the same situation sort of thing."

I'm not the other two people.

>>9632324
in the desert my whole life

>>9632388
waifu material

>>9632404
Yeah you're just as thirsty as the other two. Just more discreet.

>>9632455
Do you even know what thirsty means?

>>9632466
Desperate. Like your pathetic attempt to hold a failed relationship together.

>>9632474
Thirsty is wanting to get your dick wet, princess. I'm not even one of the people you're referring to, you're just an idiot

>>9632479
it really comes off as you just wanting to get your dick wet, swooping in on an anon venting, and dropping info
>we just like have the same aura or something
kek

>>9632479
Thirsty is being desperate my dude. Or overly eager to get something.
Please learn slang if you're going to try and defend it.

I'm pretty jealous of have cute people look in lolita and kinda want to get into it, but I'm a tall poorfag with man-shoulders and would probably look like shit no matter what.

>>9632482
>why hang around boards like /soc/ built around swapping dick pics, meeting up and fucking when I could just trawl a single /cgl/ thread for a few weeks and maybe be in with a 1/100 chance to get my dick wet with some random gull by pretending to be interested in a relationship with her for months until I get what I /really/ want
Yes, completely makes sense

>comes off as you just wanting to get your dick wet
I already told you I'm not that anon, which is why you're still an idiot

>>9632491
Thirsty isn't a constant state of mind, it can be in the moment. Calm the fuck down retard.

>>9632494
>the idiot is still posting
Go back to something you're good at like licking windows

>>9632499
>I don't understand simple concepts and have no actual argument but want to defend my thirsty self on the internet
Stop posting any time.

>>9632491
>I'm not that anon
then why butt in and defend them so fucking hard?

>>9632500
The irony of you saying someone else has no argument when all you've done is say I'm a different poster

Stop breathing any time
>>9632502
I think that anon's desperate too, I just never pass up the opportunity to call somebody an idiot when they're clearly being one

>>9632504
What are you even fucking talking about
If you think they're desperate why are you even replying? You're not making any sense.

>>9632506
Anon's desperate for companionship, not desperate to get his dick wet.

>>9632507
Being thirsty is not strictly used for someone trying to get laid you dumb fuck.

>>9632479
thirsty is desperate, princess
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Thirsty
not even the anon you replied to, you're just an idiot. have some sauce too.

>>9632508
Try reading
>>9632482
>it really comes off as you just wanting to get your dick wet

You tried

>>9632512
But that isn't me.
I'm
>>9632485

>>9632511
>that wasn't me, that was the person you were talking to who thought the anon just wanted to get his dick wet which prompted the entire discussion in the first place before I irrelevantly chimed in
Wowie! You don't say?
>>9632511
Thanks for this delicious sauce

>>9632515
Especially doesn't mean exclusively. Also desperate is literally right below that.

>>9632518
But wanting to get fucked is the most agreed upon usage of the term, and >>9632482 already clarified that's what they were referring to. Do you honestly want to keep going?

>>9632523
Doesn't mean saying their thirsty is incorrect. Because they still are.

Anon with the dad in the hospital
He's still in the hospital.
Really depressed now.
Kind of just lying about and being worried and stressed and at a loss what to do.
Keep offering to help my parents but they don't need anything.
So Im sitting around waiting for news and whether or not he's feeling well enough for visitors.
I want to play some vidya but I dont have the energy.
I did my make up and hair and am wearing my dream dress again.
Still depressed.

>>9632324
I swear, if they knew how fucked up Lolitas can be; they wouldn't be so eager to jump in to a relationship with one. I've meet a bunch that had the personality of 16 year old in a 26 year old body. Also the sweeter and brighter the aesthetic the colder and blacker the heart.

>>9632542
>the sweeter and brighter the aesthetic the colder and blacker the heart.
Classic master race. Sweet looks like pastel vomit to me most of the time

>>9632542
So with this logic Gothic is superior.
>tfw no gothic lolita gf with heart of gold

>>9632550

>>9632542
>implying having a cold and black heart is not superior

Which girl should I ask to cos prom?

One loves everything. The other complains too much, but speaks better english.

They are both cosplaying Mako from Kill la Kill Yourself.

>>9632697
You can learn better English, but you can't learn to have a better attitude. Plus, lost in translation stuff can make for cute, awkward conversation.

>>9630620
>didn't expect a positive response
Y-you first

>>9632259
Your situation sounds bad, but I think when you feel ready you should move on from her. It'll hurt, but you will feel better in the long run. I'd move on from her before you start traveling. Traveling will help distract you initially and you can use meet-ups to make more friends as you travel so you won't be lonely.

Just focus on you. It seems like you have a lot of good things going for you. It'll be easier to meet someone when you're happy and confident about who you are. And at this point, can you really do any worse? Do you want to wait it out, be miserable traveling with her, and when you finally leave her have all these bad travel photos and sad travel stories of your ex?

>>9632259
Please break up with her. It's not good for you. Giving her everything while she gives nothing back is no way to live. My now boyfriend was in the same situation as you and he says while he lived like that his life was miserable.
You seem like a good person. You'll find someone who truly loves you back, I'm sure of it.

>>9629337
>>9629351
There's more to healthy weight than BMI and weight:height ratio. Even if you don't wanna lift; and trust me, you dont 'accidentally' end up looking like a bodybuilder - at the very least I think people should do exercises to improve their cardiovascular health.

My friend was a no-cardio bodybuilder, got injured and put on a bunch of weight. He did low-impact cardio to get it off, then when he was ready to lift again he kept the cardio/isometrics aspect and cut down the weightlifting.

>>9632259
Your first two points sound eerily similar to my relationship. I'm a girl dealing with this with my boyfriend.

I don't feel like I'd have problems finding someone else, but I just am scared to leave and look like an idiot since I gave up so much for this person. It's so stupid being in relationships.

>>9632789
A relationship, like any other investment, can go bad, at which point any prior history and emotional attachment should be considered invalid.

Easy to say, hard to do, i understand. But that time and effort has already been spent - suffering through it isn't gonna get any of it back.

>>9631723

Capitalism built everything you love in life anon. Never forget that

>>9632223

I know that feel. Been out of college a year and a half now and no job. Honestly starting to think suicide is the answer.

>tfw you might have just found your soulmate within the con community

I'm so happy. I had given up on ever finding a special someone but now I feel complete for the first time in my life.

>fat & ugly
>love jfashion but too embarassed by looks to wear anything but jeans and a sweatshirt
>meanwhile, been dieting for six months
>but don't feel any different.
>make new friend on internet
>friend is beautiful
>friend cosplays and wears fashion
>friend invites me to con
>anxious for months about how shit I'm going to look
>almost fake being sick and cancel
>go anyway
>attempt to wear nice clothes
>have fun with friend
>later, look at pictures... wtf who is that girl next to friend?
>she looks .... decent???
>realize I have a shit attitude and wasted literally years feeling sorry for myself
>thanks, friend?

Body image issues aren't cute.

>tfw eating disorder

>>9632722
Seagullfeels@gmail.com

>>9632813
Wow I thought this was me for a moment. I've had the exact same experience. I'll agree with you body image issues aren't cute or fun at all. I've strugged with the same thing for awhile even after losing 25 pounds. I'm glad you were able to overcome some of your issues and I hope to overcome mine eventually as well :)

I've never felt beautiful but cosplay made me always feel better about myself. I'm average looking and petite but I wasn't used to get compliments before but cosplay changed that. I got tons of compliments at cons and it really improved my self esteem. Now after many years I'm thinking of finally quitting cosplay.

I've started to feel that looking average is not enough. And I feel bad for saying this but looking better than others is easier at cons than in normal life since many nerds/weebs are chubby or don't use makeup or don't know which clothes look good on them. Now that I'm leaving cons and all that, I've became really depressed and obsessed about beauty. First it was only about my looks but right now I'm in a place where I look at other average people and think "how can they even smile when they look like that?". Same goes for me, I feel like failure just because I'm not pretty enough.

I used to have friends and cosplay icons that I admired before but now I only worship supermodels and any of the real people doesn't look good anymore. I have never been shallow person before and I feel awful for thinking like this! I used to be just the opposite, I always tried to find beauty in everyone and I hated fashion culture. I'm so desperate and I can't open up about this to anyone because this makes me sound like horrible person. Help, what is wrong with me??

>>9632259
Dear Anon,
Reading your whole story seems like you have some form of Borderline. Please get professional help to get out of this poisonous situation and feel good about yourself again. There is no reason for you to feel this way at all. If you would like to talk more I can drop you my email if you'd like.

>>9632527
Hope your dad is okay.

>>9633075

Stop armchair diagnosing. It's obnoxious and unhelpful at best, harmful at worst.

Anon should get professional help though, whatever they may have.

>>9633075
what is with these faggots spamming contact info in these threads?
I thought that was like one of the basic tenets of 4chan, leave contactfagging to /soc/

>>9633083
I found my wife on /ck/ though.

>>9633086
why should we care though?
what does all this stupid contactfagging even accomplish besides attracting more idiots from /fit/ and /r9k/?

>>9633092
Contactfagging isn't board exclusive.

How do you anons deal with an emotionally needy and manipulative mother when you just want to have a life?

>On west coast
>Mom on east coast
>Already spent big money flying out to be with her during a surgery and a week after
>Every phone call is non stop omg I'm in pain anon I wish I could see you anon it's so hard for me anon
>Will def see them for a long time over xmas
>Flying to east coast next weekend for brother-in-laws surprise 40th birthday party
>Haven't even told mom because she'll lay on the guilt that I'm not seeing her while on east coasts even though it's an 8 hour distance between mom and brother-in-law
>Haven't even told them I'm going to Japan at end of October and with NK missiles flying she'll freak out even more
>Actually considered paying $700-800 for a Thanksgiving flight just to placate her for the Japan news.
>Don't want to tell her to get a grip because she has had a major hip replacement and does have a long way to recover and if she doesn't get back to work in 8 weeks she losses her job

Only recently as an adult have I realized how much my mom's emotional guilt trips have shaped me. I'm glad I can at least recognize them for what they are but I'm not at a point where I can do anything about them. Oddly one of the few things that helps is if I can just think of her as one of those old ladies that has just lost their marbles.

>>9633094
a pretty good site to get context for a situation like yours is actually the raisedbynarcissists subreddit

>>9633075
Lol this doesn't sound like borderline at all, piss off Doctor Asperger.

>>9633122

>>9633094
if you have enough money for multiple cross-country and international vacations and your mom is old enough for a hip replacement, I'd imagine you're in your late 20s to mid 30s, which is pretty sad that you let your parents still have that much of a say in your life at that age, guilt trip or not.

>>9633125
No u. I have several close friends with BPD and it really doesn't sound like that at all, i researched it extensively to learn how best to get on with them and I dated one of them in the past. Anon sounds more like he has low self esteem and so accepts bad treatment from people who are important to him, possibly because he subconsciously values himself as someone who doesn't deserve better, or someone who attracts that treatment and therefore 'deserves' it.

Don't go throwing the word borderline around at anything you see as unhealthy, that's a huge contributor to the stigma around BPD. People with it won't thank you for doing that.

>>9633134
sounds like youre jelly you dont have the money for any of that

>>9633138
not really jealous, I'll have that kind of money in 5-10 years when my career gets to the stage when I can make that much
but for right now I at least don't have an obsessive mother controlling my actions and trying to guilt trip me

i want to stop being so spiteful and angry.
I feel like such a toxic person and i avoid being part of any comm because im catty af

>>9633145
Sounds like you need a good hatefucking girl

>>9633147
Ironically i hate rough sex to death lmao

>>9633148
Even better

>>9633154
Whaaat the fuck

>>9633163
You need to be taken down a peg and put in your place, princess.

>>9633105
>raisedbynarcissists subreddit
Thank you anon, this is exactly what I needed.

>>9633165
Seems like you do too lmao

>>9633165
Honestly

If not

WHY AM I SUCH A CREEP MAGNET

>>9633172
Maybe so ;^)

>>9633178
Anon where do you live so i can physically punch you?

>>9633186
That only turns me on more. Are you sure you want to go through with this?

>>9633188
Only if you get me some atelier boz shit
Im an expensive princess

>>9633177
because you posted for advice in a thread full of thirsty crossboarders
idk what people expect posting relationship or personal issues in here when it's usually full of /fit/ wannabes and r9k frogposters

>>9633195
Looks to be in my price range. Ntayrt but let's do this.

>>9633197
Yeah i was dumb and naive
Wont make the same mistake twice

>>9633197
You forgot to add /pol/ to your list of scapegoats and boogeymen. Do you even seagull?

>>9633147
>>9633154
>>9633165
>>9633178
>>9633188
Fucking hell

>>9633206
Give some contact info jerk

>>9633216
cgl@pokemail.net

>>9633212
It's not a Boogeyman if they're here contactfagging in every feels thread

>>9633231
It's a boogeyman when you have no discernible proof that the people contactfagging are from those boards in particular or even another board to begin with. There's an entire thread on /cgl/ dedicated to swapping contact info, it's not a phenomenon

>>9633254

New thread

>>9633214

>cant even find a guy to fuck me
>let alone hatefuck me

Good for them, I guess.

>>9633263
Drop a throwaway email

>>9633216
hlgr@nezzart.com
prepare to drain my wallet

>>9631137
get over it faggot (could've had a new gf by then)

>>9632813
wholesome content

>>9632369
It's hilarious, I guess?

I mean, for the developers who put them there and probably monitor them as well.

>>9633135
People with BPD are a cancer regardless. Nothing good comes from them.

>>9633742
I got some fucking good pussy from one this weekend senpai

>been lifting for a year while losing weight for most of it
>still don't feel worthy to wear any male cosplays that involve any sort of muscle
>still feel very DYEL
>only seem to have a 4 pack
>lifting doesn't currently autism despite people seemingly giving me more positive initial reactions to me approaching them, still don't know how to converse with people
God damnit

>>9634576

>>9630136
Whenever I see posts like this, I always wonder who the actual villain is.