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9703607 No.9703607 [Reply] [Original]

Why do I feel more confident in my underwear than in cosplay? Edition

>> No.9703632

Because you're a slut

>> No.9703635

>>9703607
Because you’re secretly worried your coworkers will find out about your lolita clothes

>> No.9703651

Do you wear underwear in public

>> No.9703653

>>9703651
I don't like going commando so yes

>> No.9703658

>>9703607
I thought I was the only one

>> No.9703721

>>9703607
Mind posting pictures?

>> No.9703794
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9703794

Who worked on Thanksgiving?
10 hour shift today.

at least I made like $700 for sweet cosplay mats and avoided awkward family meetings

>> No.9703852

clothes are currently the only thing that make me truly happy, and everything i do is in pursuit of clothes. coordinating outfits and styling myself is one of the only things i'm truly good at. i have other hobbies, but they're just distractions until i can buy more stuff or put together a coordinate. it makes me kind of sad.

>> No.9703856

>>9703651
That's lewd

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>>9703852
I feel this, but then I consider the fact that my brand will never decide one day that it hates me, it'll never abandon me, unlike people eventually do. I'm okay with it to some degree.

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>>9703866
preach. it doesn't help that people keep fucking me over, while my clothes are always there being all cute and comforting and stuff.

everybody leaves, but clothes stay forever if you treat them nicely.

>> No.9703877

Cons and cosplay will never feel the same to me as they did 15+ years ago. Even if I could go back to AX2001 I think I wouldn't enjoy it because I'm too different of a person now.

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9703881

Bought a rack because my wardrobe is now too big for my closet! however I read reviews and some were very negative and I'm kind of scared the rack will break

>> No.9703891
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9703891

I just got an interview for my DREAM job which will coincide perfectly with my studies as it's a trainee position! Best of all it's 5 minutes away from my house!!!!

Pray for me gulls! If this goes well i'll be swimming in burando as well as general life satisfaction

>> No.9703898

I’m a mess. I literally just bought about $5000+ worth of lolita clothes on my credit card despite my fiance saying that I need to conserve money in case of emergencies. I have a really bad shopping addiction and I’m really sucking at curbing it. I started hiding my purchases because I get the urge that I need to have it. I ended up with so much guilt and confessed to him earlier. He’s very disappointed in me and I said that I want to break up with him because I keep doing this and he doesn’t deserve this. He wants me to sell the new clothes I just bought the moment they arrive in the mail. I know I need to do it but inside I really don’t want to. When I think about selling it I feel like if I end up selling the clothes I’ll end up using the money to buy more to fill the void. I really don’t know what to do with myself. I’m in therapy for it at least

>> No.9703906

>>9703898
I have the opposite problem. I can't convince myself to spend anything on entertainment other than booze and food. I just throw my money in investments and live like a peasant.

Truthfully I wish we could both find a happy healthy medium between the two.

>> No.9703933

>>9703898
i have a really bad spending habit too, and lace markets black friday sale isn't helping!

>> No.9703937
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9703937

>STILL no Stocking gf
Why did you have to remind me, OP?

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>>9703937
>tfw no ghost bf

>> No.9703988

>>9703852
>>9703866
>>9703873
Reading this makes me really sad.
I mean, nothing wrong with being passionate about lolita, I love the fashion as well, but that doesn't have to stop you from enjoying other stuff.

>> No.9703991

>>9703794
Happy Thanksgiving anon, good job avoiding family and earning.

>> No.9703993

>>9703891
GANBARE!

>> No.9703994

>>9703988
Can't speak for the original anon who posted this >>9703852 but personally it's not my love of lolita that's stopping me from enjoying anything else, that's a combination of depression and complete and utter distrust of people who aren't my postman who delivers my brand every other week.

>> No.9703996

>>9703898
Leave him for his own good, he deserves better

>> No.9703998
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9703998

>>9703983
I can be your ghost

>> No.9704000

>>9703898
Well, I guess I'll have to stop before I end up like you.

>> No.9704003

>>9703898
I cannot fucking believe we're handing over control of the world to the sex that thinks pretty colours and clothing are the most important thing in their lives

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>>9704003
>women
>controlling anything

>> No.9704006
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>new boyfriend is a gym rat
>he flat out admits I'm just a rebound
I don't know what I got myself into but I don't think I'm gonna like it

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>>9704006
Run

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>>9703998
please just don't disappear if you ever fall in love with me

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>>9704014
You have to let me love you first

>> No.9704017

>>9703898
Couple tips:
>Sell the clothes
>Talk to the therapist about it (obv)
>Take your credit cards, put them in water and put them in the freezer so you can't touch them unless it's literally an emergency
>If you have the numbers memorized call the company and ask if you can have them changed. Lie and say that you lost them if you have to. Then do the freezer thing.
>Budget cash-only, with the specific amount of money you have budgeted for each paycheck withdrawn at the beginning of two weeks.
>Get rid of your ATM card so you have to physically go into a branch to get more cash.

Things will get better!!

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9704019

My boyfriend told me that he enjoys the thought of seeing me get fucked by other guys, does that mean he's a cuck?

>> No.9704021

>>9704019
Yes. Are you going to indulge his fetish?

>> No.9704023

>>9704021
I don't really know how to feel about it to be honest.

>> No.9704024

>>9704019
>>9704021
>tfw two robots rp with each other

>> No.9704025

>>9704024
I'm sorry, I just don't really know where else to share this.
I don't care about sleeping with other guys but my bf seems to really enjoy it for some reason, I'd like to make him happy but I don't know if I could get myself to do that.

>> No.9704026

>>9704025
>I don't know where else to share this
perhaps not a fashion and costume forum?

>> No.9704029

>>9704026
Fair enough. I'm sorry anon.

>> No.9704031

>>9704025
>I don't care about sleeping with other guys
Definitely a keeper

>> No.9704045

>>9704006
You deserve whatever emotional hurt happens if you haven't left at this point

>> No.9704048
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9704048

>tfw your stepmom has been giving guests your expensive tea

>> No.9704055

>>9704048
the actual worst. I caught my dad making peanut butter sandwiches with my favorite honey that I got overseas

>> No.9704059

>>9704048
fuck that bitch
>>9704055
be nice to your dad tho

>> No.9704070

>>9704059
I went and bought him really nice local honey to make sandwiches with instead and quietly hid my favorite far back behind my tea

>> No.9704071

>>9704048
You know you have to fuck your dad to get back at her now, right?

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9704093

>get paycheck
>it seems to be about five hours short

Oh shit, I need that money for cosplay. Should I tell my boss? Is there anything he can even do??

>> No.9704108

>>9704093
Yeah, double check it and tell your boss. Unless they're an ass and trying to short you (which you would probably know if they are like that), then it's an accounting error and they'll get that corrected.

>> No.9704140

>>9704025
There's an h-manga for that

>> No.9704146
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9704146

Trying to finish cosplay and a squirrel crashed through the window.

>> No.9704148

>>9703852
Anon, I'm sure there's more to you than clothes; it's just hard to get a grasp on what other things you're really good at because we all think so lowly of ourselves. Whether it be having a unique sense of humor, or being creative (which you probably are considering you're good at coording), or whatever.

You sound like you've had someone abandon you lately. Don't take it personal, please. Your value isn't defined by that person!

Stay cute, Anon.

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9704159

>order 3 items online from some taobo reseller store
>they don't send me any confirmation or tracking number for weeks
>check their IG and see comments complaining about the same thing, start to realize they're probably scamming people
>wait another week
>end up getting sick of it and asking them for a refund (this was 3 days ago)
>2 hours ago, they email me back saying "Okay, we'll give you a refund as soon as possible"
>at the same time, I get a confirmation email that one of my items was shipped, with tracking number
>what the fuck
What do I do now? Will I have to send it back and cover the shipping costs? Can I just tell them to refund me for the other two things I ordered, but that they can keep the money for the one that actually shipped?

>> No.9704162

>>9704140
>this nerd

>> No.9704167
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9704167

>sweet potato pie for breakfast

>> No.9704169

>>9704167
>not eating sweet potato pie for every meal
Fucking pleb

>> No.9704172

>>9704169
>sacrificing your figure for sweet potato pie
Weak

>> No.9704173

>>9703994
You too! Depression is hard and trusting people is difficult but I'm sure there's more to you than just lolita; there's nothing wrong with indulging in what you have the most confidence in though. I just hope that you don't value yourself solely on lolita and undermine your other positive traits. I'm sure they're in there.

Stay cute, Anon!

>> No.9704174

>>9704172
>not being able to eat whatever you want without getting fat
weak

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9704178

Any gulls watching Net-juu no Susume?
Did it hit close to home for any of you?

>> No.9704179

>>9704173
Thank you, anon. I hope that many wonderful happy things come your way.

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9704183

>visiting boyfriend's family
>getting to see this "thanksgiving" thing firsthand for the first time
>absolutely love it
[desire to give him babies intesifies]

>> No.9704197

>>9704174
>falling for the "muh metabolism" meme and not realizing you either eat less than you think or move more
weak

>> No.9704199

>>9704169
If I don't consume enough blue crabs, rockfish, and pork, I'll keel over

>> No.9704200

>>9704199
I exclusively eat rocks

>> No.9704203

>>9704197
metabolism is a thing though? i'm extremely sedentary (meaning i'm in bed most of the time and only get up to walk around the house 4-5 times a day) but i eat around 1700 calories a day. i'm short and thin, too.

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>>9704159
Keep all your money and let them refund you even if you receive the item.

>> No.9704208

>>9704203
Do you count calories?
And that kind of sounds like a boring existence

>> No.9704210

>>9704159
Just refuse the delivery if it actually shows up, otherwise get dat refund

>> No.9704211

>>9704203
If you're actually thin, then you're breaking the laws of thermodynamics. Congrats.
You're either overestimating your caloric intake or you have the occasional day once or twice a week where you do get enough exercise to burn off the excess.

>> No.9704219

>>9704200
Crack rocks?

>> No.9704223

>>9704203
Metabolism at most is just +/- 100-300 calories. How tall are you and how much do you weigh?

>> No.9704224

>>9704219
Yeah

>> No.9704229
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9704229

>been lurking lolita for 7 years at this point
>only within the past 2 years have I been able to afford actually buying pieces
>could never shake the entry level obsession with Holy Lantern
>lusting after it all this time later
>was finally financially sound to put the money down on the last pre-order
>tfw it came in the mail today and I cried because it's my first brand I haven't bought second hand and it's been a Dream Dress for so long

The dream is happening gulls. It's finally here

>> No.9704230

>>9704208
yes and yes. i'm ill.
>>9704211
but muh metabolism. my parents are the same way.
>>9704223
5'2 95 lbs.

>> No.9704234

>>9704230
Hello Mr. Skellington

>> No.9704236

>>9704234
it's Ms. Skeltal to you

>> No.9704241

>>9704203
are you me
but same, i'm 5'4" and 97 lbs, while doing nothing and eating around 1800 calories a day

>> No.9704242

>>9704230
You probably eat 1200 calories at most. Or one day at 1700 and another at 800.

Or you're 10 years old.

>> No.9704243

>>9704230
your parents are skellies too? Imagining a skelly family rn

>> No.9704244

>>9704242
i'm pretty sure i know how much i eat anon. i don't get why it's so hard for you to wrap your head around the idea of a snacking skelly.
>>9704241
hi skelly
>>9704243
we're all skellies here

>> No.9704248

>>9704244
You're literally just as delusional as fatties who say they can't lose weight. It's pathetic, sorry.

>> No.9704249

>>9704230
>>9704241
Maybe you have intestinal parasites.

I hope my cosplay partner doesn’t read this. She’s one of those people who eats >3000 calories a day, goes for a 30min jog once a month and then blames her being fat on her metabolism. Reading your posts would make her feel so validated in her delusion and I’d never hear the end of it.

>> No.9704250

>>9704230
>but muh metabolism.
Yeah, nah. You and your parents are either medical marvels and need to be shown to a biologist right away, or you're grossly overestimating how much you eat.

>> No.9704253

>>9704248
>being this mad that you can't eat snacks and stay the same weight
yowch!

>> No.9704257

>>9704248
>>9704249
>>9704250
All this projection lol
Must suck not to have good genes

>> No.9704259

>>9704248
I really think people who go on about how they eat *so much* but are still skinny are just doing it because it makes them feel like they lucked out with genetics.
Meanwhile, fatties go on about how their metabolism is super slow so they can feel like the world has wronged them (not that the 34,000 calories they eat in a day may be what's doing them in, lmao)
It's an ego thing, I guess.

>> No.9704260

>>9704203
arent you that anon who said she ate less than 700 calories a day?

>> No.9704262

>>9704257
Okay but anon, have you considered talking to a scientist? This is big news. You broke the laws of thermodynamics.
You can change lives with this information. Maybe your whole family line can. This is history in the making.

>> No.9704263

>>9704259
the only reason i brought it up was because >>9704197 said it's not possible. the rest of it is people getting mad.
>>9704260
no, 1700.

>> No.9704264

>>9704259
Nayrt or anything but I had to eat less to lose weight and I'm still losing weight but even though I eat far less than I used to (and people comment on it) it still feels like a lot. I don't count calories though I just eyeball it.

>> No.9704267

>>9704253
I play sports so I'm eating 3000-4000 calories a day.

>>9704259
Totally agree. While I hate the fatties more it's just as silly when skellies do literally the same exact shit and spout "muh genetics"

>> No.9704268

>>9704262
stay mad sweetie, maybe all that anger will help you work off some of that weight

>> No.9704269

>>9704268
I don't think that anon sounds angry. Some other posts do. You chose a weird post to reply to.

>> No.9704272

>>9704269
uh, are you a little autistic anon? because that was definitely a passive aggressive/angry post
the other posts aren't replying to me so why would i bother replying to them

>> No.9704275

>>9704272
Yeah I am

>> No.9704279

>>9704259
This. Given that it's literally impossible not to lose weight by eating less and vice versa for skinny people it's retarded when anybody says that it's just down to genetics. I think the main issue is people not counting exact calories and instead just guessing how much they eat, because you can form a completely wrong perception with just that. I've always been thin but that's because I started keeping an eye on calorie count since I was pretty young to stay at a low weight. So it always triggers me a bit when people act like I just 'lucked out with genetics' when I have to try really hard and literally anybody else can be at a good weight if they just tried.

>> No.9704281

>>9704268
I'm not mad, though. If what you're saying is true, you should have no problem going to get it checked out. After you've been verified by medical professionals and biologists and BTFO all that they've studied about the human body, feel free to come to the next feel thread and call us all angry hamplanets.
Until then, any sensible person will be skeptical about your claims and tell you to lrn2countcalories.

>> No.9704282

>>9704279
Even counting people usually count inaccurately too.

>> No.9704283

>all of these mad fatties
/cgl/ is too damn easy

>> No.9704285

Found a video of a girl unboxing my dream skirt, I'm a little sad but I'm happy to watch? live? vicariously through her. It was also from a year ago, so it gives me hope that I'll definitely be able to find it one day!

>> No.9704288

>>9704283
>this mad "muh genetic" poster
/cgl/ just has people who aren't gullible. If they were fat, they wouldn't fit into the fashions here.

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9704290

>tfw no yuro waifu to cook Thanksgiving dinner with my father for and listen to my drawl come out after a few drinks

>> No.9704291

>>9704285
What is it, anon?

>> No.9704292

>>9704288
you're new/you know nothing about the jfashion community if you think that's true. /cgl/ is full of fats. selfpost threads are proof of it.

>> No.9704293 [DELETED] 

>>9703898
>credit card
Jewish usury. If you actually worked your back off for that $5000 you wouldn't have this guilty attitude. I'll bet you've never had hunger in your stomach, ever. You're in the top 1% of the 1% of the people who have ever lived on this earth.

>> No.9704295

>>9704288
Fatties fit into Angelic Pretty just fine, it’s the skinnies who are bitter that they’re now swimming in their dresses.

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>>9704291
This! Meta's March of the Duck. All the other cuts are ok but the skirt version with the belt is just too cute.

>> No.9704299

>>9704297
This looks like a nursery room curtain.

>> No.9704300

>>9704292
Weren't there pictures of a /cgl/ meetup at a con and pretty much no one there was fat except for the guys (who were probably /tg/ crossboarders anyway)? There's only like two fat people in the draw thread, too. /cgl/ isn't a fat board.

>> No.9704301

>>9704297
Oh! Keep an eye out for it, I'm sure you'll find it one day!

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9704303

>>9704300
>/cgl/ isn't a fat board
dear god you're dumber than i thought

>> No.9704306

>>9704301
There are several up for sale in different cuts and colorways so I'm considering getting one of those for the time being. Thank you anon!

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>>9704300
Hey fuck you, don'y throw us under the bus to cover your whale asses

>> No.9704310

>>9704300
Anon there are like 12 people posted in the draw thread and like 5 of those people are fat, that's like half. That's a lot.

>> No.9704313

>>9704303
Whatever helps you sleep at night, I guess.

>> No.9704314

>>9704308
chubby LARPer

>> No.9704315

>>9704310
Which ones? I only see three fat people in that thread.

>> No.9704323

>>9704303
/cgl/ probably has more anorexics and bullimics than fatties. It's harder to have this as a serious hobby if you are too fat to fit into most things.

>> No.9704326

>>9704323
Shirring and not giving a fuck even if you're busting out of your seams do wonders

>> No.9704330

>>9704326
/cgl/ tears apart people who pull that shit, though. This is probably the most anti-fat board.

>> No.9704333

>>9704259
I went to a programming based highschool.
We had skeletons eating pizza and burgers everyday and finished 300g bags of cookies by themself nearly every single day and chugged that down with 0,5L of energy drinks.
Fast metabloisms certainly aren't a myth.

>> No.9704337

>>9704333
i'm the first skellyposter and i'm also a programmer... coincidence? (i've noticed this phenomenon in STEM-based programs too)

>> No.9704341

>>9704333
You're seriously delusional.

>> No.9704343

>>9704341
you're seriously fat

>> No.9704344

>>9704333
I pulled that shit constantly in HS. People kept going on about how they wish they had genetics like that, but the truth is, I ate little to nothing at home.
The same is probably true of the people at your school, or they burned most of it in their daily life (ie walking to get to/from school, after school activities ranging from hanging out to partying, or even deliberate exercise like sports if they weren't lazy).
Think about these things a little more. You don't just magically forego calories because metabolism.

>> No.9704349

>>9704344
>sports
>partying
>working out
>programmers
Doubtful

>> No.9704351

>>9704343
But I'm not. I eat a lot too although it's because I'm active and have outgoing hobbies.
You're literally no different than a fatfuck complaining they can't lose weight because of their metabolism, thyroid, or genetics. Those people eating burgers and pizza every day probably don't eat much else, or balance it out by not eating as much another day. You are so fucking deluded. The reason America has such a high obesity rate isn't because every has a shitty metabolism you dumb cunt.

God damn you are stupid.

>>9704349
I do all of those and have a career programming. This isn't 1990 dude.

>> No.9704352

>>9704349
You forgot the part about walking, hanging out, not eating as much when they get home, etc.
Bottom line, it's not genetics that stops people from being fat. It's lifestyle and intake.

>> No.9704353

Man I just really love lolita.

>> No.9704354

>>9704349
If you include cross country as a sport, plenty of nerds do sports

>> No.9704356

>>9704333
I was one of those skinny girls eating chocolate chip cookies for lunch each day, but I never ate breakfast and rarely ate a full dinner.

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9704360

>the delusional anon who can't count calories getting blown the fuck out by multiple people ITT and only being able to retort with "y-you must be fat"
Fun to watch.

>> No.9704368

I’ve been looking into camming/selling pictures of myself to fund my weeb hobbies. Does anyone have any tips?

>> No.9704373

>>9704360
>being this fat that your arteries are clogged and your brain can't function enough to perceive the possibility of a skinny person who eats a lot
i wonder what it's like

>> No.9704384

>>9704373
>y-y-y-you must be fat! science isn't real! only fatties!! MUH GENETICS
Lmao

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9704396

See this is why men like to lurk this board
It's hilarious when you crazy bitches are at each other's throats

>> No.9704397

>>9704396
t. "tfw no gf" poster

>> No.9704401

>>9704396
>I'm a guy btw, please notice me
post dick or GTFO

>> No.9704402

>>9704397
>>9704401
And just like that I unified the whales and the catrinas against a common enemy
>/cgl/ is just /r9k/ with frills
lol

>> No.9704409

>>9704402
>he thinks those replies weren't from the same person

>> No.9704415

>>9704360
>having people going full ad hominem is them BTFOing somebody
Come on now.

>> No.9704420

>>9704397
There's nothing wrong with wanting a gf.

>> No.9704447

>>9704415
I don't think you now what "ad hominem" means. Everyone's given her reasons as to why what she's saying does make any sense and is wrong unless she's some sort of biological anomaly, and all she's done is call them fat. If anything, she's the one who's gone full ad hominem.

>> No.9704450

>>9704447
>this is my experience
>YOU'RE LYING YOU'RE STUPID YOU'RE A LIAR!!!!!!!!!!
>lol k fatty
ah yes, very scientific very not ad hominem

>> No.9704451

>>9704315
Most of them are fat by non american standards anon...
And think about it, only people who are confident enough will be posting in selfpost threads. The fattest whales will never post themselves because they know they'll be made fun of.

>> No.9704453

>>9704450
>strawmanning this hard
No one called her a liar, and "stupid" didn't come until she first started insulting them (and displaying that she's pretty ignorant). I'm sorry you don't know how to count calories or how thermodynamics work, but you can consult Google for more information.

>> No.9704454

>>9704450
>anecdotal evidence which breaks the law of thermodynamics
Yeah in my experience I can eat 100 pizzas and not gain weight because of my superior genetics.
Got any actual articles backing your law defying metabolism?

>> No.9704455

>>9704451
I'm not American, and I don't consider most of them fat.
Why do you think they'll be made fun of? Pro-tip: It's because this really isn't a fat or fat-friendly board.

>> No.9704456

>>9704453
>>9704454
>samefagging this hard because you're fat and insecure

>> No.9704458

>>9704456
Why would a fat person be advocating calories in calories out?
Fat people are just as stupid and use the same argument that their metabolism sucks and that's why they're fat.

>> No.9704459

>>9704458
everybody seems to be forgetting that there are outside factors that can affect a persons BMR, like medications and illnesses.

but skinny people don't exist on the internet so who cares, right : ^ )

>> No.9704460

>>9704456
Those posts were made 2 minutes apart, or almost simultaneously. 4chan's cooldown/timer after a single post means no one can actually make consecutive posts that fast. Nice try, though.
More than one person ITT understands that genetics don't circumvent biology, sorry.

>> No.9704461

>>9704459
The entire time original anon was bragging about how their metabolism was amazing and let them eat a lot and not gain weight, they said nothing about outside factors?

>> No.9704462

>>9704459
Medications typically increase or decrease hunger or water retention, causing weight gain or loss. But that wasn't what we were discussing.

>> No.9704463

>>9704459
So, you're saying anon has IBS, a tapeworm, an amphetamine habit and/or a certain medication that she's taking that she's been bullshitting as her "genetics" all thread?
Because if so, that's 100% on her tbqh.

>> No.9704468

>>9704461
>>9704462
>>9704463
did you even read
>>9704230
keep being mad about your flab tho

>> No.9704470

>>9704468
>i'm ill
>muh metabolism
Pick one

>> No.9704471

>>9704468
What the fuck are you talking about
Did you even read
>>9704459

>> No.9704472

>>9704471
fuck off fatty

>> No.9704474

>>9704468
metabolism
>>9704203

>> No.9704475

>>9704470
Leave her alone, she's ill. She's probably ill in the brain too which is why she spends her time lying to make herself look better on Chinese cartoon boards.

>> No.9704476

>>9704474
Lmao she's trying so hard to save face by changing her story to "N-No, I have an illness".

>> No.9704479

>>9704476
>changing story when it was in the original post
fat AND stupid

>> No.9704480 [DELETED] 

>meet some girl that looks perfect for me on /cgl/ a while ago
>we chat,talk about lolita,...
>delighted, think there might be a chance of me finally finding love or something
>tells me she's trans (MtF)
>fuck fuck fuck
>couldn't even notice AT ALL in her face,voice,...
>just can't settle for a peen,being lesbian
>w-well at least we can be friends! right?
>"i have a pretty bad past,no parents,dysphoria,no girls that want to date me back,..."
>also am transphobic aka think it's a mental illness (they deserve help and respect though)
>but she's nice
What do I do now? I promised myself not to get friendly with another person that could affect my mental health (i'm very sensitive and absorb other people's feelings like a sponge and if they feel bad i do too)

Befriending people on 4chan is a terrible idea. I either got catfished,harassed and stalked and now this. I'm just depressed,I wanted to think there was a chance for me.

>> No.9704484

>>9704479
You said in the same post that it was your metabolism. You even mentioned being ill as an explanation to being told your life sounded boring, not in regards to not gaining weight.
....A-Are you projecting? If it turns out you've actually been a fat girl RPing as "skinny bc genetics!!!" all this time, everything would suddenly make sense.

>> No.9704485

>>9704479
original post saying it was metabolism
>>9704203
second post mentioning illness but not relating it to metabolism at all
>>9704230
illness getting to you, huh?

>> No.9704487

>a pack of legbeards ganging up against the one lone skinny girl
This is the board that thinks Jessica Nigri is the anti-christ alright

>> No.9704489
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9704489

>when the illness makes you forget your own lies

>> No.9704490

>>9704487
You're not fooling anyone, anon. You should just go to bed, the illness might get worse.

>> No.9704491

>>9704487
How new are you? Nobody gives a fuck about jnig here right now. It's hip to hate on momokun, and she's fat as a truck

>> No.9704493

This is what happens the moment someone says that they're skinny. Good job, fatties.

>> No.9704496

>she's skinny therefore she's anorexic and crazy
Holy fuck this is like tumblr, you crazy whales actually buy into thin priviledge and HAES don't you?

>> No.9704498

>>9704496
>>9704493
>>9704487
This is just pathetic. What kind of illness pushes someone to these lengths?

>> No.9704503

>>9704496
she said she was ill

>>9704489
>>9704498
maybe her mind is deteriorating

>> No.9704504
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9704504

ITT

>> No.9704505

>>9703607
Cunts be crazy. That's all I can say...

>> No.9704506

>>9704496
??? No one called you anorexic or crazy. I mean, I wouldn't be surprised if the latter was true, since you don't even seem to remember your own statements.
I think you're actually fat, but got pissy because actual skinny/fit anons wouldn't let you get away with RPing as skinny.
Keep wolfing down those 1700 calories and hoping the genetics kick in, though. Hope your illness clears up.

>> No.9704508

>>9704493
>>9704496
Being skinny is great.
Claiming you're skinny because of genetics is delusion. It's because you don't overeat, which is also a good thing mind you.

>> No.9704509

I think the obvious solution to this predicament is posting midsections with timestamps

>> No.9704510

>>9704480
That sounds shitty, I'm pretty similar to you in that I'm a lesbian and not attracted to trans people in the slightest. I'd say just continue being friends since she's nice but if she asks you out then tell her the truth, that you can't be physically attracted to her. If she's a good friend she'll understand that much, if she starts freaking out at you then she's got more mental issues than being trans and it might be best to break off contact.

There are still chances for you though anon, I hope you find someone great someday! The problem with 4chan is you're either gonna meet amazing people or really shitty ones on here.

>> No.9704538
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9704538

>when the cute girl in your little sister's comm farts during tea as if it's appropriate

>> No.9704563
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9704563

I wish my city had more than one comm that wasn't strictly lolita and that mine wasn't filled with so many...weird people. My options are to be a lone jfash wearer, move to another place, or just never communicate with 7 out of 10 of the comm (which I kind of already do).

>Go to fall picnic with comm one day
>1 girl starts talking about how she wishes she could find a jfashion girlfriend
>I agree, *current location* is terrible for that though.
>She starts getting more excited and listing all the things she could do with her potential gf together
>"I love yuri so much! I would love to have a kawaii kanojo and shop together omg!"
>6 other girls join in on the dreaming
>I'm getting kind of excited and I'm happy we feel the same wa--
>"Oh but I wouldn't actually date a girl. Lesbians are weird lol"
>"Yeah, it's only fun in tv and anime. I'd only be with a girl if my boyfriend could join in."
>"Right? Like, talking to other women is fine and all but how would you even properly sleep together?"
>"Don't you agree, anon?"
>Share wtf glance with other lesbian in group
>They loudly continue on about the perks of threesomes for the rest of the picnic and their favorite yuri pairing while the 3 other girls and I quietly feed the rest of the sandwiches to the ducks

This one wasn't the worst, but seriously most of the things they have to talk about is just dumb and uninformed for a bunch of mid-20s to mid-30s girls. Nothing like trying to enjoy simple group-ups and having the older women ruin it by talking about politics or the "crazy things" them gay peoples are up to at every opportunity.
I always wanted to be in a small comm because I felt that they would be close knit and fun and thought I hit gold when I found one, but midwestern mindsets will invade any grouping it seems.

>> No.9704565

>>9704183
You do realize the entire holiday is based on the rape and genocide of native american indians right?

>> No.9704566

>>9704565
turkey yummy in my tummy

>> No.9704567

>tfw you're looking to buy brand for your cgl ss and you see last year's giftee selling everything you gave them

>> No.9704568

>>9704565
>You do realize the entire holiday is based on the rape and genocide of native american indians right?
Imagine getting rekt so hard that your descendants are still complaining about "genocide" hundreds of years later. Just let people enjoy their food.

>> No.9704569

>>9704183
You don't do thanksgiving in Mexico?

>> No.9704570

>>9704509
And with that the whales finally closed their pie holes
Thanks, anon

>> No.9704572

>>9704570
>implying everyone didn't just get bored of humoring your mental illness
>implying that anon wasn't mocking you

>> No.9704574

>>9704570
I'm a guy and don't want my shitty zipper abs judged. I'm not fat but definitely ugly.

>> No.9704575
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9704575

Ever have something happen and you try to smooth it over in the moment and then eats at you for fucking months? Do you just bring it back up, months later, like a fucking crazy person? Or do you let it eat away at you? It's not a constant gnawing but when it rears its ugly head it makes me feel like shit.

>> No.9704581

>>9704575
something similar happened to me and my friend, where we had an issue and we just kind of let it go on for months. then i addressed it and cut contact after it couldn't be resolved and i feel way better.

don't let things eat away at you, nobody is worth that. if something in your life is giving you grief, remove it at your discretion.

>> No.9704583

>>9704572
whatever helps you sleep at night through the apnea, whale-sama

>> No.9704588

>>9704565
No it's the commeration of the first sucessful harvest by the Separatists at Plymouth.

>> No.9704604

>>9704575
you talk to a professional. don't try to act strong, don't try to stuff it in like nothing happened, don't reject help others provide you, and just go to seek professional help.

you owe it to yourself. best of luck.

>> No.9704615

>>9704581
>>9704604
Thank you two. I'll bring it up and go from there. I'm not expecting a resolution, but I need to move past it.

>> No.9704623

>>9704583
>projecting

>> No.9704624

>>9704048
I would hide my tea if I were you. I have a whole shelf in my pantry for tea and everybody at my house know not to fuck with it.

>> No.9704625

>Want to go to cons outside of my immediate living area
>Have no idea how to book hotels, when to book them, how to find sane people to share hotel rooms with, etc.

I feel like I'm at the edge of a precipice looking in.

>> No.9704630

>>9703891
good luck anon :)

>> No.9704643

>>9704575
Is this about a breakup?
I'm sorry Rachel. You need to work on yourself and I need to work on myself. Text me, I unblocked you.

>> No.9704653

>>9704566
>>9704568
>>9704588
I want /pol/ to leave.

>> No.9704654

>>9704653
lol relax
I just like turkey chill out I'm a lolita you see sugary carnival melty animals

>> No.9704657

>>9704653
I want people who force their own narrative onto history to leave

>> No.9704659

>>9704653
>call a beloved holiday evil and genocidal
>get upset when people call you out on it

>> No.9704668

>>9703898
Buying stuff, then regretting it while knowing better - signs of Bipolar aka Manic Depression. Get Help for this.

>> No.9704676

>>9704460
Uh anon are you retarded? the cooldown on posts is 1 min, you can definitely samefag 2 posts.

>> No.9704677

>>9704668
That isn’t even a good arm chair diagnosis. I hope you feel bad about this post.

>> No.9704678

>>9704455
Sorry, "western" standards, not just americans are fat now. Just because people don't condone being fat on this board doesn't mean that there aren't fatties on this board; where 's the logic? That's why the whale defense squad always comes out.

>> No.9704681
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9704681

Today I’m sad because I went to the /fa/ diy thread and saw this monstrosity.

>> No.9704682
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9704682

>issues with my gf.
>decide to move back in with my parents and help sort my dad and stepmom out issues
>Dad is a lifelong alcoholic.
>He does things that brings out the absolute worst in me I end up saying things I don't really mean out of anger.
>Most of the time I can just shrug off his drunkenness but sometimes it just spills over and I explode with expletives and basically mirror him.
>stepmom sad for both of us.
>contemplating not going to a convention because I just feel like shit.
>stepmom thinks its because of muh gf.
>Truthfully I'm afraid of ending up like my father and I'm sad and angry that I can't fix him so I just have to sit back and watch as he slowly kills himself with booze.
>If I do end up going to the convention I'm probably going to seek out a bar and try to drink away the pain.
>my own worst self-fulfilling prophecy.

Just...


what's a good drink to help you forget everything for a little while?

>> No.9704687

>>9704682
bleach

jk don't do it sorry you're having a hard time

>> No.9704691
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9704691

>>9704687


I won't make the same mistake my dad did. If I become an alcoholic I'll save everyone the trouble and blow my brains out.

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9704694

>>9704691
i would offer you someone to talk to but i'm also a suicidal fuck so just know that a real person is wishing you the best

>> No.9704695

There's a mentally challenged guy in my community college animation class who regularly harasses me by breathing down my neck because he's pretending to be a dinosaur and "prank" me. He gives me crayon drawings of dinosaurs and Digimon. I try to be patient with him but as soon as I seem irritated with him he starts talking about how the dinosaurs are going to jump out of hte page and Illl get scared and they'll eat me. Apparently he tells other people in the class that the dinosaurs are going to get me. His nickname for me is "Scrap heap." During class breaks he waits in a strategic spot so that no matter what direction I return from the classroom he can spot me and give me whatever clever insult he has come up with. He, of course, doesn't do this when the instructor is around.

I think I'm going to talk to the instructor at his next office hours, but I don't really know what he can do at this point in the semester.

Allegedly the department head has talked to him, but nothing has really changed since the beginning of the semester. I'm not the first girl he's done this too and I'm sure I won't be the last. Occasionally he brings up previous "victims" and tells me he's going to end their miserable little lives. Problem is it's impossible to gauge whether he's serious or "playing pranks" as he puts it. One of my friends tried to talk to campus security and the department head but they said they can't actually do anything unless he actually does something.

I'm already stressed out as it is and don't have the mental capacity to humor this guy who may or may not be a dinosaur themed serial killer.

>> No.9704708

>>9704031
Read quite a bit of stories regarding guys being into this and then being absolutely disgusted with themselves like 10 seconds after they cum
It's like they don't consider how de-masculating it is to let some guy nut in your GF until it's too late

>> No.9704725

>>9703906
I feel like out of the two evils, not spending is probably better. In case of emergencies you are good to go. But I think buying booze is treating yourself out. If you’re a foodie, maybe you can try indulging in some fancy stuff once in a while?

>>9703933
IKR? I’m avoiding looking at lace market and any lolita stores right now.

>>9703996
I will most likely. Prior to reading this post I expressed this concern with him. Let’s see how it goes..

>>9704000
Please do. You do not want to end up like me, even if you have a fantastic paying job.

>>9704017
Thank you for these tips, I appreciate this. My fiance is willing to help me with this and I’ll suggest these to him.

>>9704668
Even though an anon is shaming you, I’ll try discussing this possibilty with my therapist anyway.

>> No.9704756

>>9704643
You've got the wrong person, this isn't about a break up. It does involve one of my close friends, which is why I tried to smooth the whole situation over and act like it was ok. It was a major breach of my privacy, and hurt me a lot more than I initially thought. She never brought it up after this, and I've avoided the topic. I don't think she realizes how hurt I was.

Sorry for the vague comments, but yeah this isn't Rachel.

>> No.9704782

>>9704695
First of all it's not your job to babysit this mentally ill guy. Tell him off, maybe have prof there to mediate. If he continues, phone in pocket, record him threatening to kill you, everything you can get. Report it to law enforcement/school so you can start a paper trail and have it on record. Protect yourself. I know too many women who let shit like that go because they've been conditioned to acquiesce men.

>> No.9704787
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9704787

>live in shithole nowhere
>order thing from closet child 8 days ago
>pay for EMS despite the fact that i will, without fail, be hit with taxes
>any other shipping method takes two months MINIMUM to arrive, but usually 3.5-4 months
>btw taxes are 60% of what i paid total, incl shipping, not just the value of the items purchased
>whatever, i just want my shit to arrive before christmas
>been a week since it was shipped now
>it hasn't even ARRIVED IN MY COUNTRY yet
>will sure as hell be held by customs for at least two weeks considering the increased amount of packages because christmas
>postal service can't speed it up, gotta tax 'em all
>will take who knows how long to get from customs to the nearest post office
>probably won't arrive before january
>all this despite EMS


>come to /cgl/
>see people bitching about SAL taking "omg almost 20 days!"

FUCK THIS
Yes, I'm salty and jelly as hell. Just... fuck this. I hate this place.

>> No.9704790

>>9704787
That sucks anon, what country are you in?

>> No.9704796

>>9704563
Just wear Jfash on your own, it's not worth forcing yourself into a comm with idiots like this. Make friends with just a few people in this comm and just see them on occasion if you like, otherwise just do you own thing.

>> No.9704800

>>9704178
I feel like its an anime about my life specifically and im only keeping up with it to see how she (might) recover.
But at the same time as long as shes happy and can fund her hobby its okay r-right?

>> No.9704833

>>9704178
It's another one of those "they made her too cute" anime, solid idea tho

>> No.9704838

>>9704790
Brazil, hopefully getting the fuck out of here in less than a year.

Just a few months ago I posted here about a package with a dream dress that was declared lost as well. It eventually arrived, but it took over five months and the post office had no idea of its whereabouts until it arrived at my door.
It's unbelievable how shit they are, and the fact that they have no competition (DHL prices are... not feasible) to pressure them into being less shitty is even more unbelievable.

>> No.9704840
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9704840

>>9704838
At least Brazil is big and somewhat organized and you can buy neat stuff through Paraguay, try living in
>congolombia

>> No.9704841

Sometimes I think about how if I sold part of my wardrobe I could buy Cat's Tea Party or Puppet Circus or something. I like my dresses too much to do that but I just think about it

>> No.9704856

>>9704681
I'm throwing up right now. Thanks anon-chan.

>> No.9704872

I lightly cyberstalk a lolita. She's younger than me, has more brand than me, and has more followers than me. I don't know if I want to be her or if I hate her. It just doesn't feel fair. Do any other gulls do this?

>> No.9704877

>>9704872
There's no reason to hate her, there are a lot of young lolitas who have a lot of brand and followers. I can see why you would want to be her or be jealous though, but I would focus on your own collection and raising your own follower count.

>> No.9704887
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9704887

It's kind of silly, but since I started regularly posting on /cgl/ and really immersed myself in lolita I've neglected my online social media and friends.
I take too much time browsing auctions, checking fril, and planning coords or dressing up when I used to use that time to be productive or talk to people. It's been several months, and I know I could easily go back to my old routine and some of my friends miss me but I feel like it's been too long and just going back would be too awkward.
I just really need to stop coming on here. I don't think it's good for me. Here's to hoping I can do that and muster up the courage to go back.

>> No.9704895

>>9704678
>implying I'm western
You can harp on about these amazing invisible whales for life, I guess. Won't make it true.
There's also no whale defense squad, though there was one anon with weird "muh genetics - i mean muh illness - no muh metabolism - keeps me thin, calories don't real" logic that sounded pretty fat.

>> No.9704896

>>9704887
It's not awkward, if they're your friends they'll understand

>> No.9704898

>>9704447
Both sides have gone full retard, assuming the skeletal glutton is even the same person that is calling everybody fat.

>> No.9704900

>>9704800
Neat.
>But at the same time as long as shes happy and can fund her hobby its okay r-right?
Well, you should keep watching, you sound like you aren't up to date with the recent episodes.

>>9704833
Eh, elite neeto MoriMori was probably a real mess.
You just have to imagine how long, greasy, unkempt hair, giant dark circles under your eyes look in real life. Anime does make everything look cute.

>> No.9704921

How many of you gulls have tattoos?

>> No.9704922
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9704922

I'm upset with my parents for having me.
My wardrobe is full to bursting point in brand, my comm likes me, the few close friends I have are wonderful people, but I'm not happy. I'm miserable, actually, and see little to no point in life. In a way I wish no one cared about me so I could off myself without breaking anyone's heart.

>> No.9704946

>>9704921
Quite a few. Why? are you looking for ways to cover yours?

>>9704922
Please find someone to talk to about these feelings, anon. Even with support, depression is hard to manage so don't suffer alone if you have people around you that wouldn't want to exist like this.

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9705058

>>9704787
>>9704838
Where in Hueland do you live? I know that feel.

>> No.9705080

>>9704921
got a small one on my back, why?

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9705106

I think my fatty-chan friend is bummed. Every time we cosplay, people assume she's our mom.

>>9704921
I want Miku's 01 on my shoulder.

>> No.9705146

>>9704922
y tho

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9705158

>>9704840
>buying from paraguay
Only if you're close to the border... but yeah, I think Brazil is one of the best places to live in latin america, second only to Argentina. Argentina is GOAT, I don't get why normie brs dislike it so much.

>>9705058
Rio de Janeiro. Could be a lot worse, I guess, at least it's still a somewhat big city... What about you, anon?

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9705160

>>9705158
Salvador. Not worst place to live, but the con scene here isn't at its best anymore.

>> No.9705172

>Wear new coord to go out shopping
>On my way back home the sole of my shoe came loose
>Can't walk normally on shoe anymore
>I'm still around 45 minutes away from home
>End up buying cheap fleece slippers so I can walk normally, coord is ruined though

I made myself look even more ridiculous wearing those slippers but it was either that or walking back with no footwear and getting my stockings ripped. My shoes are now being fixed though.

>> No.9705184

>>9705172
ooooph that sucks. What kind of shoes were they?

>> No.9705254

>middle aged mother in comm wanting to come to ILD meet not in lolita

Help.

>> No.9705299
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>husband gets holiday bonus
>for an early Christmas present he lets me pick out some things from lace market
I'm so happy

>> No.9705302

>>9705160
Is it anywhere though? AFAIK the only place that still has a decent comm scene is SP. I don't know if it's just me being autistic or what but after orkut died it seems like every marginally alternative scene went to shit and became extremely fragmented.

>> No.9705308

>>9703898
Honestly I was in a similar situation recently and what helped me was setting a goal and going for it. If I didn't have something to keep me focused, I'd buy like crazy and would end up with $10 to my name by the time each new check would come around.

So, I decided I wanted a new car. Having that goal in mine allowed me to say no to purchases because I felt like I was already spending the money. After a two months I had a good downpayment, and now I have a $200 car payment each month that makes me focused. I know the payment is coming, so I budget better. Without that push to be more responsible I would spend everything as soon as I'd get it.

I'm not saying buy something to keep yourself on track, but make a really ambitious goal and put your heart and soul into it; it helped me break the "what else do I have going on? may as well spend" mindset real fast.

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I'm still crying like an idiot as I type this.
I met a wonderful girl at a con a few months ago and I was about to confess my feelings to her once I knew she was lesbian too and that she had a crush on me (a friend told me).
But right before she sent me a message where she told me she hasn't been honest with me and needed to come clean.
She's trans.
I couldn't tell shit,"he" looked like a "she",sounded like one,... i couldn't suspect a damn thing AT ALL.
But there's no way it would work,because one day or another,lewd time might happen and I just can't deal with "down there".
She was perfect for me,she even loved me back apparently,and she loved cosplay,...
I just want to die right now. I had so much hope gulls, it hurts so much.

>> No.9705370

>>9705369
Is she planning on getting surgery?

>> No.9705371

>>9705369
At least she did the right thing by being honest with you. I have one trans friend who has gone as far as giving oral sex to people without informing them that not everything down below is what it seems so it could've gone worse.

At least she was honest with you so you didn't end up in a situation such as that I have mentioned. Sorry to hear that. I hope you two can still be friends, and she did the right thing showing she does respect you.

>> No.9705377

>>9705370
>>9705371
Yeah,she is planning on it. But it just won't be the same.
I'm in a lesbian discord,and they all told me
i was a bishit if i went for it,that it would be disgusting even with surgery,... and no matter how i want to believe they're just bitter,they're right.

It's funny,because just a day before meeting her,I was ragging on MtFs being creepy. She's the kindest soul I've ever met and I loved her so much. I rarely ever fall in love. I hope we can still be friends indeed, i'm afraid it'll hurt her.
The worst thing is,we were cosplaying as characters that are together the first time we met. And that's why we began talking.
Sorry for my dumb rant,but i'm feeling awful about it and also because it'll hurt her.

>> No.9705378

>>9705370
I'm curious too how they'd feel if that happened, but honestly there's a lot who won't go for the surgery since it's honestly kind of dangerous. There's a lot of complications that can arise from such a procedure. It's no walk in the park. I don't see anyone as less a woman just because they don't want to go through that.

I'm rambling because one day I decided to read about the procedure and, holy fucking shit, that's intense.

>> No.9705379

>>9705377
Well, maybe the meaning of meeting her was to show you that they aren't all creepy. I just hope you both can still be friends. I'm sure she only told you because she was likely aware you liked her, and knew it was the right thing to let you know. She does respect you.

>> No.9705380

>>9705379
I know she does and am very thankful for that.
But I know it'll hurt her. She was rejected in the past for that and while she said she completely understood why lesbians would get mad at her, she said it hurted her pretty bad,but that it was understandable.

Do I use my rope for my next cosplay or to end my life right now, gulls?

>> No.9705381

>>9705380
Anon, don't blame yourself. Neither of you are at fault and neither of you can change how you were born or what your preferences are. The best thing you can do is be there for her as a friend and to provide her with support even if your other lesbian friends don't like her.

>> No.9705383

>>9705369
Get over your fear of the penis, if you actually cared for her you would try to be with her regardless. Tbh trans females typically aren’t into penis stuff if they plan on removing it so you likely would be doing other stuff like her giving you oral, making out, etc.

If you still can’t even try, you did not actually like her.

>> No.9705384

>>9705381
Thanks anon. My head is a bit cleared up at least now.
I'll do that! And hope she doesn't have a mad crush on me or that it wears off.

>> No.9705385

>>9705380
You just need to take some time to yourself to recollect your thoughts. It'll hurt, sure, but it is like you said, she's been rejected for it in the past. She'll pick up and keep looking. What'll hurt her more is if you started avoiding her or something because that'd just be dehumanizing. (I don't think you are going to do that.) However, she's likely had plenty of people actually get mad at her and stop talking to her entirely so don't doubt how other people have reacted. After all, she likely used the word 'mad at her' for good reason.

Keep working on that next cosplay.

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>>9705383

>> No.9705389

>>9705383
We aren't going to go into this because it's easy for pan or some bi people to say, 'get over the fear of the penis.' I wouldn't tell a straight boy, 'get over the fear of the penis', nor am I going to tell a lesbian the same thing.

I can't personally related to the situation since I don't mind what you got going underneath there, but I can imagine it's discomforting for straight men or lesbian women to deal with that. They just aren't attracted to that. I can't explain something I don't know about.

>> No.9705391

>>9705383
If she's not sexually attracted to a trans MtF she'll never be and that's bad for a romantic intimate relationship. She can still deeply care for them but in the end, it will never work romantically.
exactly what >>9705389 said as well.

>> No.9705399

>>9705385
Will do! Thanks,you're a kind soul anon. I needed that.

>> No.9705400

>>9705399
No problem at all! Hope your night goes better.

>> No.9705436

>>9705383
If she's not attracted to a mtf then she can't fix that.

>> No.9705442

>>9705370
>>9705383
Trans who remove their dick are disgusting are they're usually constantly in dialysis because their hole festers.

Absolutely rancid. I'm not against trans but mutilation is gross.

>> No.9705447

>>9705299
He's a keeper! What all did you get?

>> No.9705484

>>9705383
>Tbh trans females typically aren’t into penis stuff
Jesus. That's so disappointing.

>> No.9705497

>>9705146
Depression, among other things.

>>9704946
I've suffered this for so long that I'm tired of fighting, but you're right, I'll try to seek help. Thanks, anon.

>> No.9705499

>>9705254
Tell her there's a dress code for meetups and don't budge.

>> No.9705534

>>9705497
>Depression, among other things.
I recommend therapy. I've been depressed for a decade (or even more), but recently came out of it after 3 years of therapy.

Your life sounds decent at least, which should make it a lot easier to fix.

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>that feel when you catch /r9k/ trying to shitpost a thread on /co/ about /cgl/

>>>/co/97065438

>> No.9705556

I need advice on a complex issue that I don't feel comfortable asking my (few) friends about. I also don't feel comfortable asking /adv/. Can I ask it here? Should I wait until next thread, as it may require some back and forth?

>> No.9705562

>>9705556
Ask or don't loser.

>> No.9705572

I finally wore lolita out for the first time in my home country and i have to say i'm just kind of disappointed with the experience. I was hoping for at least one obvious smile or compliment, but i got nothing (boyfriend doesn't count). Maybe i didn't look hard enough, because I felt at ease and confident quite quickly and stopped thinking about people looking at me, but I thought i looked pretty cute and had a decent first coord that wasn't such an acquired taste as some parts of the fashion.

>> No.9705577

>>9705562
Ok but I'd like to repost next thread if I'm unable to clear this up or at least get some advice. I apologize if this is not really /cgl/ related, as I said I don't feel comfortable asking /adv/, but I'll leave if I'm not welcome.

A few months ago I got an online girlfriend. It's my first time having one, online or otherwise, and hence also is the first time I'm spending Christmas/New years with someone like this. Needless to say we're both firmly infatuated with each other. Now, here is my problem; she lives alone and has a bad relationship with her family, and has no real-life friends to spend Christmas/New years with. I live with my parents and have always done. I'm close with them, and normally I would spend Christmas with the rest of my extended family, which is just my aunt and cousins. That's not so much the issue as New Years. My family wants to travel out of town elsewhere in my country and spend New Years with some family friends at a holiday house, which has already been booked - flights have not. Internet would be limited probably to just my cell phone. This would take place from a few days after Christmas until the 10th or so of January. My girlfriend says she doesn't particularly care for holidays, but I feel weird about not being around for things like this, moreso because she has noone else other than online friends to spend it with. I would just tell my family no especially as I don't usually enjoy this type of vacation, but there have been some issues recently with my parents complaining that I don't socialize enough in person with other people and that I do nothing but use my computer (I'm in college). I'm concerned that asking to spend New Years at home would receive a very... negative response. What should I do?

tl;dr - Want to spend New Years with online girlfriend, but small 2 week holiday that has been in planning for some time has potential to cause issues with parents.

>> No.9705598

>>9705577
Im guessing you cant tell your parents about the gf for some reason? You are in quite a pickle there, I know the type your parents seem to be.
Honestly I would recommend you flat out tell them about her and if required show them her picture so they believe you and see if they'd be willing to let you stay.

>> No.9705599

>>9705577
Just tell them about your gf and say you're socializing with her, that you're growing older and that they can't always expect you around the entire holiday season, and as time progresses they need to realize you have your own social connections.

>> No.9705600

>>9705572
I'd rather be ignored than have people staring at me with a disgusted face or laughting at me.
If you dress like that is for yourself, you don't have to please anyone.

>> No.9705604

>>9705184
I was wearing a pair of victorian style shoes! Really cute ones, with a low heel and a ribbon to tie them. I found them cheap at a vintage store. Still sad, but I'm also happy they can be fixed.

>> No.9705606

>>9705598
I let it slip once at an inopportune time, but they didn't really seem to notice or care. They also seem to have forgotten about it, but I'm not exactly sure if they have. But yeah more or less, I don't really feel so comfortable talking to them about her and your assessment of their type is probably accurate.

>>9705599
I'll try, thanks you two. Seems quite hard to come out with something like that for a first time.

>>9704681
/fa/ has been a bad board for about 5 years. Look in the archives pre 2013 if you want anything remotely decent. Look for posts by or about poet and knoch.

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>>9705606
I wish we could offer you better advice anon but I cant see a way past if besides telling them or staging some elaborate reason to stay home...which almost always backfires.
Either way I wish you the best and I hope it works out ok somehow.

>> No.9705612

>>9705608
Heh. Thanks

>> No.9705618

On a more positive note, this weekend I did the first cosplay photoshoot I've done in 6 months and the pics came out so nice and I'm so excited to get them back ^-^

But I really feel like I frogot how to pose, so anyone know general posing tips?

>> No.9705633

>>9705369
As a transgirl, it's something we have to accept and deal with. Don't feel bad about rejecting her because of this.
But try to not treat her as trans, treat her as the girl you have met, befriended, and feel in love in.

Take the following advice very lightly, but if I can suggest something, ask yourself if you care more about her, or about what she has down there.
Her being dysphoric, she probably will be very anxious about showing herself naked and letting you touch anything down there, so don't be afraid of being forced into some play with parts that make you uncomfortable. But if it's a no-no for you, then don't force yourself, just tell her how you feel about that, and see if you can stay friends.
Even if you hurt her, as her friend, you will be able to soothe her feelings.

>>9705377
>they all told me i was a bishit if i went for it
Don't let labels define you. It will only hurt you.
She's a transbian, and you can stay a lesbian, even if you were together. No one even needs to know she's trans. Only you have to be comfortable about her.

>>9705377 >>9705442
That's true, post-srs things down there are kinda disgusting. It's a wound after all, that wants to close itself, and needs to be kept open.

>>9705378
That's really nice of you to say that.
Yes, the procedure is dangerous, and the effects are not that satisfying. I do not plan on ever getting it, at least not in the form it functions in right now.
And while being trans doesn't always make someone worse than other women (there are cases of creeps and fetishists, fuck them), the intimate part of life is not as straightforward.

>>9705380
Please don't think ill of yourself. You might be hurt more than her because of that. It's definitely no reason to die.

>>9705383
It doesn't work like that. It's not that easy to overcome such feelings. Not that it's not doable, but it's really difficult and will not work for everyone.

>> No.9705637

>>9705577
Invite her over for Christmas and stay together at home for New Year.

>> No.9705647

>>9705637
I appreciate the idea but she is a NEET and I don't have the money to pay for flights.

>> No.9705652

obviously, you are a little bitch.

>> No.9705668

>>9705633
Thank you anon. May you find happiness in your life

>> No.9705670

>>9705383
>get over your sexuality
Shit like this is why I’ve ever only respected one trans person in my life. The rest spew garbage like this.

>> No.9705671

>>9705600
I mean, some people looked a little disgusted. Of course i wear the fashion for myself and for people i know who thinks its cute but at least a smile or compliment would've really boosted my confidence.

>> No.9705671,1 [INTERNAL] 

Transwomen are men

Trans "lesbians" are straight men

You cannot identify into womanhood

>> No.9705692

Be careful of predatory transbians, gulls

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>>9705692
>associating with trannies in the first place

>> No.9705697

>>9705695
>not associating with trannies for the sole purpose of mocking them

>> No.9705699

>fiance that supports my lolita suddenly dumps me
>couldnt even give me a real reason why

Fucking sucks since my last bf hated Lolita and most men I know do too, he actually thought it was cute.

Oh and he was my fiance and im fucking devastated, fuck

>> No.9705701

>>9705699
He found his Stacy

>> No.9705702

>>9705701
Actually yeah I think so, he talked about some whore he fucked (before we got together thankfully) that he still thinks about.

Guess I needed to slut it up more.

CGL related feel #2
>tfw I will never have a cute ouji prince

>> No.9705704

>>9705702
>tfw no lolita gf
I think this is fate, anon

>> No.9705705

>>9705704
Its not, im a fattychan still losing weight.

Im unlovable as I am now

>> No.9705708

>>9705572
>bf doesn’t count
Come on, yes he does and arguably counts more than others.

>> No.9705710

>>9705705
How heavy are you?

>> No.9705724

>>9705705
no you're not

>> No.9705760

>tfw male seamstress

>> No.9705764

>>9705760
I think the word you're looking for is "tailor". That's pretty cool though, what kind of things do you sew?

>> No.9705767

>>9705764
tailor is for clothing though.

>> No.9705770

>>9705767
Pray tell what do you think a seamstress does?

>> No.9705817

>>9705710
Oh no I'm not stepping into that mine field, I don't think I could handle the banter right now. I'll just say I can still fit in some brand, but that doesn't mean much for some dresses

>>9705724
Hey thanks

To keep on topic:
>Tfw wanted dresses but ex fiance really wanted a switch so I sold some stuff and bought him one, and he said he'd get me a dress for Christmas
>TFW he's leaving, taking his switch, and now I have no new dress

>> No.9705833

>>9705817
Uh, don't let him take the switch, wtf? Take that shit back

>> No.9705836

>>9703607
Kneesocks a shit
Scanty a best

>> No.9705991

>>9705618
Point your toes, arch your back, breathe in, kick one hip out, do 'graceful hands' with fingers together and a slight curve, wrists bent to 'break' the straight line of the arm, try and make an S curve with your body.

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>>9705302
Yeah, you're mostly right. SP is the only place with big cons.

I say 'mostly' because I saw small cities (<50k people) having cons lately (albeit small ones), a thing that was just impossible in the last decade.

I don't know how its going to look like in the next few years, I hope shit gets on track again.

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>tfw want to do a Felix cosplay but scared of being recognised

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>no spoilers

>> No.9707474

>>9703607
cause wearing underwear is more social acceptet

>> No.9708074

>>9705606
I'm actually in a similar situation but, I'm the girl who has lack of friends, family is gone, his first gf etc. if you can, take her to meet your parents and maybe you can convince them to let her spend the holidays with you and your family. (Granted, this works better over a longer time frame but, you can try..) That's pretty much what my bf did .
I know it's not much but, I hope it helps anon

>> No.9710621

>tfw no friends irl since moving to college
>haven't been out of my dorm more than once to be social since being here