/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>tfw you don't make your cosplay because your ultra-normie conservative stepmom is extremely judgmental and verbally picks and jabs at you to tear you down when you show any interest in things that deviate from the norm
Eat my entire ass, bitch.

>>9726869
Show her who the dominant one is by having sex with your dad

>>9726875
This

I wanted to make the new feels thread
Even had a funny pic ready to go ;-;

>>9726869
You know what the best thing to do is, right? Doing what you want despite what she says. Who cares what she thinks? As long as she isn't funding your hobby, do what makes you happy, it's your life.
Remember that the best revenge is living at all.

Gulls, what do if your friend's boyfriend is complete garbage?

>Manipulates
>Talks down to people
>Picks at people's insecurities
>Horrible human being in general

He doesn't even wanna cosplay but my friend wants to convince him to. We're going to a con soon and I really don't know what to do. I booked the hotel room and she told me she wants to bring him. I didn't want to cause drama so I said sure. But the other people we're rooming with have the same idea and want him gone too. I don't know how this is going to work out and don't want it to ruin the con experience.

>>9726886
Have you ever talked to your friend about her boyfriend's behavior before? Depending on what she's like, she might think you have something against him for no reason (or because you're "jealous") if you do it now, but I think it's better late than never. It's best to be honest about it imo, just try to do it tactfully.

>>9726886
"Hey, X. After speaking to the people in our group, I've found that it would make many people unhappy if [boyfriend] is brought along. I think it would be best if he didn't come with us."

There will be drama regardless. It's better to get it over with at the beginning than have to live with an asshole ruining EVERYONE's trip during the entire weekend. You're the leader here, so you'll have to take care of this.

>>9726889
Myself and our other friends have many times because he fucked over multiple people in past (lying, spreading rumors, pocketing people's money...) and she always defends him or tries to separate herself saying "B-But he's good with me!" So I feel like I'm talking to a wall. I will tell her though.

>>9726893
True that's probably the best way to put it. I just don't want the boyfriend to go ape shit or something or loosing my friend. But I probably will message her about it later on today.

I fucking hate younger cosplayers. They are all fucking insane. I usually don’t follow underage cosplayers but I was in a group with one. I just watched their Instagram story and this is word for word what they said:
“When someone styles their wig the same way you did for a character u no longer cos. Fuck u 2”

I just don’t get it. It’s a fucking wig. For the same character. What do you expect every other fan of the character to do? Make up a new hairstyle?

>>9726909
I know this feel. The only fandom I've ever been in (and quickly exited) is the Animal Crossing fandom. It's full of children/young teens. Every time drama popped up, it was about so-and-so ""stealing"" a shirt design or a town/furniture arrangement. I don't remember being that much of a little shit at their age.

>>9726896
Good luck getting through to her. I've seen relationships like this turn into abusive relationships all too often.
>>9726909
I can't stand younger cosplayers either desu. Too often they are just so damn easily excited and they get furious over tiny little things or they make rude/inconsiderate comments out of no where.

>>9726863im in love with every female I see.

>tfw not attracted to my con-crush

>tfw I will never be a no sleeves wearing, v8 driving, gunslinging post-apocalyptic rock n roll tough guy jet jockey
>tfw dressing up like one reminds you of thins

>>9726896
>>9726886
I don't know what kind of relation you have with your friend, but I'd talk about it in person, preferably also with someone else from the group. Just to avoid the misunderstanding that you want her bf or anything.

From what you said, it seems everyone else doesn't like his presence, so you should be able to get some help. As the other anon said, don't let one person ruin your con.

>>9726909
That's so ridiculous, do you know what character they were referencing to?

>>9726961
Every female?

>>9726923
Thanks, I'm sure it's gonna be a shit storm though

>>9726980
That's what I want to do but the worst part is that I'm pretty much the only person who's okay with confrontations. They usually avoid it at all costs so I'm not sure how I can recruit someone to do it with me since when we were all talking about it the others we're rooming with keep saying just I do it since I'm closest with her.

I want group cosplay. Every time my friends and I attempt to do so it's always me doing 90% of the work. My friends are afraid of spending money on something and failing at the final product. I'm no professional... I research how to do something before l attempt it. For example:
Last con we went to my friend brought her completely not even worked on wig and a cosplay that was missing a key component.
I had asked her if she wanted to get together over and over again prior to the con so I could help her do her wig (not do it FOR her) and got no response.
She ended up not wearing the outfit because she was missing a big piece but I know...I know for a FACT she was going to ask me to style her wig at 6:00 pm Friday of that con when she got there.
Friend is amazing, the best I could ever ask for. Crafting, sewing, and planning ahead is NOT her forte.

>>9726896
If she ends up dropping your friendship when you tactfully share a legitimate concern, that's on her. Sounds like she's enabling his shitty behaviour. I don't wish her ill but if he goes apeshit on her you can't exactly control that.

Also it's way better to have drama because you told the jerk not to come than to have drama because he came and ruined everyone's weekend in the process.

>the your friends do group cosplays with each other and end up getting way more appreciation than the cosplays you come up with
Its not even that I don't try, for some reason AliExpress bought crossplays get a ton of attention at cons

I really wish I wasn't a lonelita. I wish I had just one other lolita friend who I could talk with about dresses, share Taobao finds, dress up with, and just hang around with.

living in arkansas is pain

>>9727018
same. though i live in texas which has a lot of lolitas, i haven't clicked with anybody nearby and there isn't anybody i like who doesn't live ~5 hours away.

>>9726909
>"When someone styles their wig the same way you did for a character u no longer cos. Fuck u 2”

A worse is feel having an acquaintance who still acts like this but they're in their mid 20s

>>9727017
Same, anon, though to be fair I usually pick pretty obscure shit whereas they pick relatively mainstream stuff. Still, it feels like there's no one interested in the same shit I'm into and it sucks.

More feels:
>found out my bf's into the same thing I'm into via asking him to cosplay it with me
>he agreed
Also:
>joining a cosplay group with friends for the first time
>super excited for it

>>9727011
She is and that's what annoys everyone. She claims she would talk to him but nothing changes. I don't know how he is with her besides being ridiculously clingy and would tell her not to show even the littlest amount of skin in her cosplays. It makes everyone uncomfortable especially when the one time he didn't go to a con with us he blew up our phones to watch her like a hawk and constantly checking out snapchat stories.

Pretty much, I really wanna just have a good time.

>>9727018
Are there no comms where you live?

>tfw you would love to cosplay your fav chara (pic related) if it didn't require a wig
Having a large sensitive head overturns most of my want-to-cosplay list.

>>9727006
Fuck, that's not very fair. Good luck anyway.

>>9727041
Look at the arkansas comm and you'll understand why I'm a lonelita, anon.

>>9727045
Arda's wigs are really big. You can also cut some slits in the cap to lessen the pressure, although it will make the wig loose. I sometimes have a sensitive head as well but I find it worth the headache to look cute and have fun as my favorite character.

>>9727045
Why don't you learn how to alter wigs?

>move cross country
>meet up with some friends i know from twitter, hit it off great in person
>they want me and my gf to join their cosplay group for ALA
>awesome!
>ask me to be the one character i kinda hate

i'm doing it anyway because i feel like this is a good way for me to get over my salt because it's mostly over how popular he is and now i'll get to exploit that, but i'm still like "you fuckers couldn't have asked me to be the frog girl? really?"

>admired and wanted to wear lolita since 2010
>only really got into it, started wearing it regularly a little over a year ago
>feel like i missed out on when lolita was in its "prime"
>lately i've been looking at old street snaps and egl livejournal posts, old fandom wank drama in wayback archive, etc
>just feel really lonely and regretful that i got into lolita too late to really experience all these things

Does anyone else feel like this? Is it possible to feel "nostalgic" for something you never experienced? I just feel so alone, like we're not all as connected as we used to be on egl livejournal and we never will be again.

>>9727070
Ugh, you and everyone else with this mindset are so annoying.

Drama still happens plenty today. Comms are more active and connected through the use of an actually popular and active social media that can easily be used and understood, unlike lj. Street snaps are still a thing, people still post plenty of shit, and lolita is not as dead as people like to try and make it out to be.

>>9727069
Theyre making you either be IcyHot or Bakugo? I hope it's Bakugo I would love to see him at ALA!

I have various feels going on:
>finally having the money to afford a decent lolita wardrobe
>despite having a decent wardrobe I don't have time to attend any meetups or even meet friends, because I work 6 days a week

>>9727074
This. People way overhype lj, it was fine, but it was nothing great. I don't miss it much with all the things that replaced it. Lolita may be fading in Japan (don't live there, so idk, that's just what people say), but in other countries it seems to be doing fine still.

>>9727070
>i just feel so alone
that's on you. if you put in effort to make lolita friends, you'll find plenty. Besides, at the end of the day it's just fucking fashion. Not sure why it's such an issue that every lolita around the world isn't "connected".

>>9727074
It's not that I think lolita is dying, sorry if my post makes it sound like that. I just feel sad that I didn't get to experience livejournal and all that stuff because I got into lolita too late. Looking at it from wayback archive etc, it looks like everyone had so much fun and I just feel like I missed out. Reading through the Victoria Bitter drama or "my hed iz pastede on yay" is fun but lonely, if that makes sense.

>>9727079
are you me

also now that i actually have money, everything seems slightly less appealing now and i'm just waiting for my most coveted dresses to show up. meanwhile before i would be happy if i could splurge on cute but cheaper pieces because i had the opportunity.

>>9727085
No, it doesn't. Once again, drama still exists, and there's plenty of it, especially right now with the whole ScarfingScarves and Cathy Cat.

Trust me, LJ sucked. The design of the website made it annoying and hard to keep up with. Talking to people through it was frustrating.

People love to shit on FB groups, but the overall design of FB is easy to understand and keep up with, not to mention that being an active member and interacting with others is way easier and far more fun than it ever was on LJ.

This is just the lolita alt of people "i wish i lived in te 90s so i coudl wear skirts too!!" when they can still wear shitty vintage fashion and go to dinners to have overpriced milkshakes.

>>9726981
No clue. They’ve got a decent number of cosplays and about a million costests/closet cosplays

>>9727026
I am sorry

>>9727076
lucky you, anon! don't get too hyped, i'm just going in the uniform because i just don't have the time to make those fucking grenade gauntlets, but if you see a super short bakugo, feel free to come say hi

>>9727018
Same it sucks. All comms are dead where I live.

>>9727038
It seems like she's a very compliant victim

>>9726982
Not him, but I want to fuck EVERY single white or asian female I see irl between the ages of puberty to 30.

Doesn't matter if they're ugly, fat, have acne, doesn't matter what they're wearing, if I see them, I will automatically imagine having sex with them.

Doesn't mean I would actually have sex with them, because STDs and other possible bullshit, but thinking about sex with them is something I just do automatically.

However I'm not attracted to any other races at all, I have never felt sexual attraction to ANY black female ever, not even objectively the most attractive ones, it's like looking at a different species to me, similar to how I feel zero sexual attraction to animals.

How do I balance wanting to be a cute boy with also wanting to be a pretty girl?
I don't think I have any form of actual gender dysphoria, but I really don't like having a "womanly" body with big tits/hips, and I wish I was androgynous.

>>9727102
so 11 year olds? arrest yourself

>>9727102
What a big loss for black girls, you sound like a chad

>>9727115
cosplay. I really want to be more androgynous, so i'm starting to cosplay more, and also getting into lolita. I'm male and there are definitely some boystyle outfits that are androgynous.
There is also androgynous forums like on reddit /r/androgynoushotties and /r/swordorsheath. Also crossplaying topics here, of course.

>>9727115
kys and pray to be reborn more androgynous looking

>>9726869
That would be my actual mother. I'm just going to finish university and cut ties. I'm guaranteed to earn 3-times as much as her as a junior anyway.

I recommend doing the same.

>>9727102
>However I'm not attracted to any other races at all, I have never felt sexual attraction to ANY black female ever, not even objectively the most attractive ones, it's like looking at a different species to me, similar to how I feel zero sexual attraction to animals.
All that shit just to say you're normal, we get it, calm down.

>>9727138
Calm down, Hitler-chan

I have haven't had any close friends since high school and i am in my mid-late twenties now.

I have been in my lolita community for years, but I am not actually friends with any of them.
other people seem to be able to enter the community and become close with girls I've know for years instantly.
I don't know what is wrong with me.
It is depressing me.

>>9727087
Totally get what you mean. So instead of buying things I just invest my money instead.
60% of my income is saved now every month.

>>9727009
I'm in a similar situation anon

I just want a nice group of vidya/anime fans that are willing to put in some effort for cosplaying.

All my college friends are great and all, but nobody is really into anime/vidya. All my hometown friends are into anime/some vidya, but none of them want to put in effort to cosplay.

I live in Boston, a large college town. I should be able to find people similar to me that are also big into cosplaying, sewing, anime/vidya. But where would I look? The anime club is a fucking mess (as presumed). And just by going off the club, most of the people there are honestly not good-looking enough for most group cosplays I want to do (this is really petty of me and I don't like that I think this, but it still gnaws on my mind)

It honestly really blows.

I need some help figuring out whether this is normal behavior aka im exagerating in my head or if its bad? I'm in my first relationship ever (at least a real one) and my partner is beginning to shift into someone who i dont fucking know? Some examples would be:

> we both cosplay, she never starts her projects soon enough and when she realizes she wont finish it she gets angry and blame other people
> making me feel guilty for having my own stuff done in time
> talking like shit to me when something goes wrong on her side, if I say anything she cries and make me feel guilty
> they recently got into kpop, literally wont talk about anything else and she is fully aware i dont really enjoy it and still shoves it down my throat every single day + whenever i dont show interest i am told "i dont care about her"
> plus, whenever i talk about something i enjoy she gets angry and say im only pretending to enjoy it to fit in with my friends
> during a fight she said something nasty and hurtful to me, later confessed it was just to make me feel bad and that she didnt think it was true at all
>during said fight guilt tripped me into thinking i was exagerating my feelings and made me apologize
>i feel like im not allowed to have feelings or opinions unless they are positive, its draining me
>she never helps around the house, i do everything and then she calls me lazy when i am tired
>im not exagerating this one, she made dinner once and praised themselves for a whole week and said now it was my turn. except its always my turn
>our sexual relationship is super onesided as well, she is never tired when its them getting pleased but whenever its my turn she's suddenly super tired and cant do anything
>makes me feel guilty and bad about having more money than her, makes me lend her money and stuff and then when i ask her for the money back she cries that she doesnt have any money and that i dont understand what its like to be poor, etc etc
i love ths girl to death but im drained

>>9727178
This sounds very onesided and unhealthy to me.

>>9727178
Dykes are mentally ill and unstable, water is wet, more news at 9.

>>9727174
>instead of buying things I just invest my money instead.
>60% of my income is saved now every month.
so do you save it or do you invest it?

>>9727178
Consider getting the D instead

i want TO KILL MYSELF

(((in lolita))))

>>9727181
I was afraid of that

I have nearly broken up with her once and I'm on the verge of doing it again but I am not sure if I should give her another chance? I'm always thinking that maybe she will change and she does... for a few weeks. I'm mentally and emotionally exhausted, I'm afraid that I will be alone forever if I leave her, I don't know how to break up with someone, I'm just lost.
Plus, we live together and I can't move out until September even if we break up

>>9727188
this

>our sexual relationship is super onesided as well, she is never tired when its them getting pleased but whenever its my turn she's suddenly super tired and cant do anything
at least the sex problem will disappear

>>9727186
It's the same thing desu.
But mostly invest my saved cash.

>>9727191
>can't move out until September even if we break up
that would be nasty to live together after breaking up
i think she'll still expect you to keep the house clean and make dinner

>>9727191
As someone that lived with their emotionally unstable ex for 10 months due to shared tenancy agreement I sympathise. He broke up with me right after we signed the contract so we were stuck there...
You need to start saving a 'fuck off fund' so that you are in a position to leave early if you absolutely cannot cope any longer, or if you have no leeway to save, maybe see if you can call in any favours for a short-term place to crash.
I went to sleep on an air mattress on the floor in my dad's spare room whilst still paying my rent on the shared house for about 7 weeks before the contract ended as I couldn't stand another day.

>>9726886
This is usually the case. Either the BF is a real prick or he is too nice and you also fall for him. There is always drama.

The only solution is to ban all men.

>>9727213
That's mean :(

>>9727213
>le smug hole meme
stale

>>9727223
nice guys finish last eh?

>>9727235
That's what one of my peewee football coaches said every practice. I still believe being mean is bad

tfw boyfriend is embarrassed to be seen with you in lolita. this honestly might be a dealbreaker for me, since he throws a tantrum even when i just want to go to a comm meet.

why can i never find a supportive so

>>9727255
Cant you go to meets without him?

>be me, tall gay cosplay boy
>crush is fairly popular cosplayer
>invites me to his apartment right before a con
>we kiss
>isthisrealhappiness.jpg
>immediately after we break apart he looks me in the eye
>”so no homo, right anon?”
>”ye-yeah, totally”
i want to die

>>9727267
of all the stories that never happened I can't tell if this never happened or not

>>9727267
>be straight
>have faggot friend
>doing nofap
>day 3
>somehow end up getting a bj from gay friend
>after cumming, inmediate shame and disgust
>he fucking swallows
>look at him straight in the eyes
>say "no homo"
>he nods
>nobody will ever know and it was no homo, so everything it's ok
Dodget a bullet there. Never do nofap no matter what memers say.

>>9727259
i meant he gets mad when I go to meets without him. i would never bring him to a meet.

>skinny fat with face fat
will excerising get rid of it quickly?

>>9727282
imo the face fat is the hardest thing to get rid of. some people are naturally just born with chubby faces, and don't lose it even when they become super skinny (look at yumi king). people who are obese with 5 chins can lose their chins and thin their massive faces when they drop all the weight, but if you're already somewhat skinny there's a high chance your face is just fat naturally and won't be too drastic of a change. you should work out regardless, though.

>>9727282
You may just have a round face type and will have to just deal with it for the rest of your life no matter what your weight is. Both my older sister and I have round faces despite being within 10 lbs of underweight BMIs.

>>9727280
Why the fuck would he want to go to a meet if he's embarassed to be seen with you in lolita ?

>>9727295
idk why i'm so bad at explaining things. he just doesn't like me going to meets regardless of the fact that he won't be there. i can't tell you why, as i don't know myself. but every time i go to a meet he gets pissy and annoyed. not because i'm going without him though.

>>9727299
Can you talk to him about why he doesn't want you going?

>>9727299
sounds like a solid relationship

>tfw you have caught feelings for a girl who cosplays and are scared of getting them angry at me when texting
>scared of losing them in general because of some stupid mistake

I wish i can see when they read my texts, I cant stand texting android phones

everything seems like it's falling apart
>crying for almost a week straight every day
>fighting with bf constantly
>my presents for family got stolen while traveling from my bag
>grades are shit
>mom called me on birthday and told me she's surprised i lived this long

l o l fucking kill me

>>9727286
>>9727291
well shit

>just under 20k credit card debt thanks to shopping addiction
>haven't had a job in nearly 2 years
>doesn't matter cause I can't keep jobs for more than a few weeks for various reasons
>still a year away from graduating with useless degree, online classes are so easy for me I consider myself NEET
>parents hate me
>too nervous to talk to any of my friends except the rare reply once a month so they probably hate me too

also
>why is rent a million dollars literally everywhere
>why does affordable housing not fucking exist
>I'm gonna be homeless when my parents die aren't I

>>9727299
That seems.. toxic

>>9727312
That sounds really rough anon.
Living to spite the world might seem stupid, but it's a hell of a motivator.
It's the way I cope, not sure if it'll help you, but the suggestion is there.

>>9727318

>>9727312
Would you like a nice big, warm hug? I bet you could use a nice big, warm hug

>>9727318
>graduating with useless degree
I never got this. Why go to college then?

>>9727328
I'm a guilty, bitter version of momoko

>>9727339
It was easy and I used my excess scholarship money to fuel my shopping addiction to an extent

>>9727339
If your grades are decent and you're not completely useless, consider working for the CIA

>>9727356
>large amount of debt
>no specifics about type of degree
>working for the CIA
don't count on that. Even if it was a relevant degree, being in a lot of debt is a pretty big red flag when working for agencies. I applied at the DoD and was told that even my student loans made me look kind of risky.

>>9727267
how is the fact that you're tall relevant to the story?

>tfw no friends in stockholm cause everyone is a normie in this country

>>9727255
get a ouji, we're out here; unless you're an ITA.

>>9727360
Why are you so rude?

One of my lolita friends is really pretty and I keep seeing clothes that remind me of her. I wish I could buy them all and gift them to her. I'm not rich or stupid enough to actually do that and I know it would come off super creepy if I did. I don't have any ulterior motives or bad intentions, I wouldn't want anything in return. It's just that she suits the style better than anyone I know and I love seeing her coords.

>>9726879
don't worry, you can maybe make the next one
and you can still post your picture

>>9727278
it was still homo

>>9727371
I'm applying to an internship there, don't say this I wanted to cosplay and go to cons ;-;

>>9726869
>>9727045
>>9727115
Dumb roasties.

I miss having a legit girl/friend who I can sperg about husbandous with and have fun irl as in going to cute bubble tea places, explore at cute malls and go shopping, and just do baking and cute things...

I had an ex-best friend but she prioritised dick over me and had the gall to sleep with my ex and chase him for petty revenge and even lied to her mom about staying at my place when she was sleeping at random mens houses at the tender age of 24.

Anyways, I don't want to be the stereotypical hurrdurr Im not like the other girls xD but I guess it's due to my neuroticism and my clinginess that drives potential girl/friends away. It's frustrating because I feel like I'm putting in 110 percent in friendships and it's so hard to reciprocate when the other party isn't receptive. I love my boyfriend but I wish I had more female friends in my life, let alone reliable and trustworthy ones who are into the same hobbies/interest I'm into.

>>9726886
If your still college age just say the parents of one of the girls is ultra conservative and doesn't want men in the room.

>>9727310
>I wish i can see when they read my texts, I cant stand texting android phones

so this meme does exist IRL
I always thought the "girls hate Android" was just propaganda pushed by Apple shills

>>9727478
I don't get the "s/he slept with my ex! betrayal!" i mean, you're not together anymore, what's the matter?
I guess I never felt love to someone, that's why I can't understand.

>visit Japan
>go to a Jfashion store- Galaxxxy
>they had giant (3-4 feet tall) cake displays that have been up for over a year (2 years maybe?) to take pictures with
>I'm left to my own devices, no one is around since I'm in the dressing room
>go up to the decorations and break a very small peice off
>taste it

its real. real icing. real cookies.
why. (pic related)

>>9727511
Congrats. You just tasted two year old dehydrated food sealed with a specialty varnish, likely aerosol, made specifically for preparing such a thing for long-term display in a cool, dry place.

I'm glad you didn't eat it, but tasting it was still pretty gross. Why would you do that? The reason why is it was prepared for display, not to eat.

>>9727511
Who would ever think breaking however big or small a piece off a display of any kind is okay? If you can't behave yourself please stay at home.

>>9727511
Tbat's mildly interesting.
I'm guessing you picked off a piece of the lipstick on the bottom. That, one of the exclamation marks on the "OMG" cookie, or a piece of the yellow/white pill.
Either way, at least you didn't pinch off an entire cookie or bite directly into the cakes or something. That would've been fucking savage.

>>9727191
>moving in so soon before tasting the real side of your partner
not to be condescending, but there's your biggest mistake - and lots of people make it, myself on the verge of doing so once as well.
I mean, if perhaps you've been together for a long time (6+ months?) and have spent many consecutive days together before then i would understand feeling lost and not understanding what's gotten into your partner. however if you haven't, then i'm afraid to say you're just seeing your partners true self, and if something you cant stand you have to break up with her.

>>9727524
Yeah im not retarded enough to try to destroy an display but from a crafters perspective it just seems lazy/gross that they used real sweets and left them out for years. Reminded me of the old cgl story where someone bought a biscuit necklace that just turned out to be an actual biscuit dipped in resin.

>>9727517
Cute implications, but there was no varnish or sealant. Just real cookies glued to a false cake base.
>>9727524

Yeah im not retarded enough to try to destroy a display (took a tiny crumb and licked it so i suppose im dumb enough to do that) but from a crafters perspective it just seems lazy/gross that they used real sweets and left them out for years. Reminded me of the old cgl story where someone bought a biscuit necklace that just turned out to be an actual biscuit dipped in resin. I can tell you that story is exactly why I did it.

>security check at airport
>wearing lolita
>all those stares
Feels good.
On a bad note I lost my glasses and was looking everywhere for them like a retard. Almost missed my flight.

If I die at least it'll be in pretty clothes!

>tfw NEET
>have become socially isolated since graduating, old friends are all apparently too busy to reply to any of my messages
>only social contacts are from lolita comm
>slowly on my way to becoming friends with a few girls
>after taking a hard look at my savings I realise I need to downgrade my lolita spending from 2-3 pieces a year to 0 pieces a year
>all the girls I’ve been talking to in the comm do a lolita haul at least once a month
>don’t think they’ll dump me just because I can’t keep up, but it still stings and makes things awkward sometimes
>will probably need to sell a chunk of my wardrobe
>considering dropping out of the comm for a while to avoid spending temptations until I get a job and have my shit together
>but then I’ll have absolutely nobody to talk to in the meantime and will become even more isolated and spiral further into depression
>the only hobby I have that has a social aspect is also the most materialistic one
>why do I do this to myself

>>9727560
Just take up new hobbies then

>>9727478
I feel you on this. I am also super clingy and a bit neurotic and in trying to curb it, I overcompensate and end up seeming really distant and cold. I wish I didn't have to worry about scaring others away, I just like spending time with people and doing nice things for my friends! And I completely agree, boyfriends are in no way a substitute for fulfilling friendships. Where in the world are you, maybe we can be friends?

>>9727509
That's fine. If you needed extra clarification he cheated on me with her when we were still dating. Not that it matters anymore, anyways. But it's kind of an unspoken rule that your girls don't chase after your current or former partners. Communication is kind of essential.

Like I don't give a shit if she did that but at least be honest about your intentions, you know? Don't be shady as fuck lol.

>>9727571
>But it's kind of an unspoken rule that your girls don't chase after your current or former partners.
This, it's true for guys as well.

t. a guy

>>9727178
Get out now, she’s a manipulative bitch that tricked you into dating. Bail ASAP

>>9727567
I'm from southern California, if that's not too far for you. If not that's fine! I hope we'll manage to find cool friends in our respective areas. I'm not opposed to having online penpals though, if you wanted to do that. Is there an e-mail or discord you want to share so I can add you please?

>>9727415
When is her birthday, anon? Just buy her one of the things you think she'd like if they're main pieces or a couple of accessories, and tell her you found whatever it is cheap during a yahoo japan/closet child/fril binge.

Or if you're loaded and really convinced she'd love all the things you've seen, buy them and then tell her you went on a secondhand shopping binge and now have buyer's regret. Because she's your friend, would she like any of these things for super cheap before you put them on LM? Like 10 dollars per JSK cheap? That way she'll probably take them and will feel like she got a great deal as well as nice clothes, and she will never know you actually bought them for her.

>TL;DR - Buy her things, blame it on your horrible shopping habits.

>>9727525
I had been with her for two years before moving in with her, and I was spending most of my days with her (we were in the same school for 3 years, same class for two, we were friends long before we dated). Its like she's a different person now? Maybe we just grew apart and there's no helping it

>>9727511
You're really disgusting. I am honestly taken aback by how gross and rude you are.

>>9727565
I already have tons of hobbies, they're just not at all social or mostly involve a demographic I don't fit in with.
>tfw that that one time I went to a local crafting get-together but everyone was at least 20 years older than me and totally ignored my attempts to make conversation
that was fun

I'm having a hard time meeting people my own age in general. It's like everyone 25-30 is too busy with their job or family to do anything outside of those spheres, so I end up with either early college-aged kids who think I'm old and boring or middle-aged housewives who think I'm too young to have anything of substance to say. The cheap hobbies in particular are full of teenagers, and while I have nothing against teenagers it's difficult to have a meaningful relationship with someone at such a different stage in life.

>>9727339
Parents and schools pressure kids into going to college even if they don’t want to/aren’t cut out for it/would thrive in trade, at least in the US.

>>9727580
Sorry anon, that's rough. What country are you NEETing it up in? I'm in the same boat

>>9727511
I mean you could have just asked lol. Not really cool to be breaking artwork like that, though, as funny as it is.

>>9727326
that's been a main one, and to dress in lolita. a taobao order is the only thing putting me off from killing myself at this point lmaoo

I have an irrational fear of my boyfriend waking up one day, deeming me old and busted, and trading me in for a new model

>>9727593
>irrational
Idk anon this happens enough for me to say it's not irrational of you to be worried

>>9727580
You sound like me but I have a full time job. No family/kids. Just working and enjoying my hobbies.
You seem like an interesting person, it's a shame you're probably 1000 miles away.

I can help you with your resume/finding work if you'd like, it's probably the only thing I'm good at.
slxs@furusato.tokyo
Will email back with a non-throwaway if you're interested.

>>9727431
>explicity say "no homo" while looking at his eyes
>he agrees and nobody else knows
>still homo

No, fuck you, it was because of nofap and it was no homo. How can it even be homo if you aren't attracted to men?

>>9727593
Maybe you should either make an effort to keep him happy or date someone you don't have to worry about leaving you

>guys wanting to leave a woman for a girl
>tfw all you want is a cake gf

>>9727543
Why the fuck would you wear lolita on an airplane?

>>9727609
If it's only a short distance, I don't see why not

>>9727606
You're into femdom and you want a substitute mommy, we get it
Stop spamming worst girl to remind us.

>>9727609
Because I want to look pretty everywhere.

>>9727616
>worst girl
Shit taste

>>9727616
>you want a substitute mommy
This is specially funny comming from Daddy Issues Central also known as the lolita community.

>>9727616
No, I want a second big sister

>>9727621
Did you mean the cosplay community? The lolita community is also full of crazies, sure, but I don't see any lolitas thotting it up for male validation and Patreonbux.

>>9727624
No, they just engage in literal prostitution with sugar daddies in exchange for brand

>>9727624
To some extent, lolitas are less in-your-face whorish, but >>9727627

>>9726863
>Be me
>Have to delay getting into lolita for 6 years because hurr durr poor fag
>Spends 6 years hating everything in m wardrobe, I hate showing my figure
>Finally able to get lolita money, has almost a grand saved up for it
>Soon after, my dream that I've been for the past 8 years for has come true
>Excited,jpg
>Realizes that all my saved up lolita bucks will have to go towards that
>I'm still going to be a poorfag for the next 6 years to fund it
>No fashion for me still
I'm not sure if this is a sad or happy feel, but I don't think I can hold off lolita for another 6 years without dying

>>9727627
>>9727629
That's a cgl meme. Do you also believe we wear thong diapers?

>>9727633
>women wanting sugar daddies to fund expensive shopping habits is a meme
lmao

>>9727633
>That's a cgl meme.
Nope.
>Do you also believe we wear thong diapers?
You all do though, to get that cute "puffy vulva" look.

>>9727576
that solves the creepy aspect of the problem, but not the fact that she doesn't have that much money

>>9727639
>to get that cute "puffy vulva" look.
I'm unironically considering this now.

>Wanna cosplay cute girls
>Born a guy
>Can't even trap it up cause of jaw and wide shoulders
It hurts my dudes.

>>9727659
>implying strong female characters can’t be cute

>>9727659
>jaw and wide shoulders
>low enough T to want to cosplay as female
Larpers should be shot.

>>9727659
Just dress up cute.
I'm 6'2 and lift. Strong jaw. Facial hair. But being able to dress cutely at cons is the best.

>>9727661
Never said that my dude, just the ones I would wanna do I dont think I'd be able to pull off.
>>9727664
>Just dress up cute
I'll probably try it eventually, just more a case of getting over the butterflies at first I guess.

>>9727178
I'm pretty sure I know you and just want to send love and strenght in dealing with this. Do take some time apart to figure what is best for you because this isn't doing your mental health any good and no relationship will last Remember to take care of yourself and
that you have friends who really care for you and will continue to be there whenever you need!

>>9727045
What is your head circumference?

>>9727675
Yes the first time was way difficult. I got shitfaced. Then I got my first picture. Then I got tons of pictures.

It was tons of fun.

>>9727688
T-that's lewd anon...

>>9727686
*will last like that.
Sorry, erased part of what I wrong without noticing.

>>9727686
Thank you so much, you really don't know how much I needed to vent... I'm a little worried that you might know who I am since I came here specially because it was anonymous and I needed an opinion outside of everyone I know but I guess that back fired a bit
Just know that I'm gonna try and get help soon and I have talked to her, I am hurt but I'm going to give her another shot, I love this girl to death and I don't wanna lose her, I just want her to return to what she was, if possible

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXXjpih0AZM

>tfw you will never be this attractive
>tfw you will never look like a JRPG character
>get over a billion views just because you're so attractive
>she's not even wearing makeup
>putting makeup on her would actually make her uglier and average looking
>she also doesn't have fake unnatural hair, fake body parts, fake eyebrows, a tan, whore clothes, gaudy metal piercings, or other stuff most women consider to increase their beauty, even though it does the exact opposite
>tfw guys don't even like this shit on attractive women, with average or ugly women it's like a pig with makeup, dressed like a prostitute, so now you're not attractive AND guys don't want anything to do with you long-term because you look like an unstable whore

>>9727718
b-but /cgl/ and tumblr told me genetics don't matter and race dont real and everyone's beautiful ;_; f-fuck you, go back to /pol/ you incel!

>>9727716
It's understandable, sometimes we really need to vent to someone completely unbiased, who has no clue who we are, and that is perfectly okay. Don't worry tho, I personally very rarely come here, just happened to read this thread and your post reminded me of a friend. But then again, I know other people who have been in very similar situations so it's probably just a sad coincidence. I'm really sorry you're going through something like that.
I'm glad you've talked and you want to seek help, with some time and patience things can fall into place. Just remember to prioritize yourself and your wellbeing.

>>9727718
Anon are you okay? She’s pretty, but she looks like a pretty typical college girl. I think you should go talk to someone, you have some unhealthy shit going on.

>>9727697
let me help you damn it

>>9727718
you have depression. It has literally nothing to do with anything you are talking about, you are just trying to justify your feelings and ignore the real problem which is mental illness.

>>9727718
>she's not even wearing makeup
Don't you see the eyeliner?

>>9727718
She reminds me of a certain someone

>>9727718
Sometimes I wonder why people treat me as if I'm an actual angel among men. Then I see what the average person considers to be an attractive girl, and I'm reminded that it's because I'm literally the cutest thing currently gracing this planet.

>>9727751
Fuck, you can just see she's going to cheat on you just by looking at her face.

>>9727753
What series is this fanfic from?

>>9727751
>married to some millionaire chad now
>has kids
>probably titfucks him to sleep every night

Why did it have to be this way, Hannah

>>9727753
>>9727737
>she looks like a pretty typical college girl
This is literally you.

>>9727744
Stop projecting your own depression and assuming things, I'm not depressed or mentally ill.

>>9727718
She's not super attractive and I wouldn't say she looks like a JRPG character. Chinese men are just thirsty as all fuck.
She does look like Max from Life is Strange, which I'm pretty jelly of, so more power to her, though.

Also, anon, men really have no standards. As long as you're not obese or deformed (and even then you'll get someone with a fetish), you're fine. Stop basing your opinions on what they like, because they like pretty much everything. Momokun makes a shitload of money, for fuck's sake. The only guy whose opinions matter is the one you love and want to spend your life with, or the one(s) throwing money at you.
Unless your audience was the 30-60 year old Chinese male demographic on YouTube all along, I'm sure you will be okay.

>>9727769
>She's not super attractive
Refer to pic: >>9727768

>>9727768
I like how most of the people commenting are either old, fat or ugly, or all of the above

>>9727768
If you say so, have fun hating yourself because average girls make you insecure.

>>9727769
>Also, anon, men really have no standards. As long as you're not obese or deformed (and even then you'll get someone with a fetish), you're fine.
Man here. This is only true if you want to be used as a cumdumpster. We do have standards for women we invest time in, we call them marriage material.

>She's not super attractive
>>9727774
>average girls
>>9727753
>Sometimes I wonder why people treat me as if I'm an actual angel among men. Then I see what the average person considers to be an attractive girl, and I'm reminded that it's because I'm literally the cutest thing currently gracing this planet.
>>9727744
>you have depression.
>>9727737
>she looks like a pretty typical college girl.

I'd bet $50 every one of you who posted these comments look 3 tiers worse even with your face full of cake toppings.

>>9727768
Oh look it’s white female Americans being jealous of an asian girl. Can anyone confirm if water is still indeed wet?

>>9727776
>man here
And nobody cares.

>>9727191
you will not be alone forever. you need to take cae of yourself. break it off, find a friend or friends to live with so you can heal. you can love her but she doesn't deserve this relationship. you could put on your big girl pants and tell her how you really feel, how much she hurts you. not in a resentful, revenge way tho. be careful not to explode. in the long run you are only contributing to her selfishness and depression by not telling her the truth.
there will be another girl out there to rock your world and make you happy. trust.
it's tough, but there is always a way out. if you give up and stay there, you are only hurting yourself. right now, you are the only person who can truly take care of you and you've gotta get it together and cut the damage before it gets worse.

>>9727778
Will whites ever recover?

>>9727771
She isn't, though. I'm not a retard who will dare to call her ugly (and those middle-aged white women definitely have sour grapes going on lmao), but she's not amazing-looking by any standards.
Do you live in a place where people look like ogres or something?
I checked out the video, and people commented that she doesn't try to push her culture on Chinese people, and actually goes out of her way to learn the language.
That sort of humbleness and open-mindedness put together with the power of collective "othering" by the dominant culture (the same way white guys are fascinated by petite "submissive" Asian girls) is probably what got the video so popular. Chalking it up to her looks alone is pretty superficial and fucked up. Having a lovable, low-key personality makes people like you, big shocker.

>>9727782
I guess that answers that lol

>>9727783
>That sort of humbleness and open-mindedness put together with the power of collective "othering" by the dominant culture (the same way white guys are fascinated by petite "submissive" Asian girls) is probably what got the video so popular
You're so retarded and naive, best of luck getting through life being this dumb.

>>9727776
Thanks for trying, but I pretty much already said the only man whose opinion matters is the one I love and want to spend my life with (aka my bf) (or, if I ever get into that sort of thing, the ones who may throw money at me), so your opinion isn't so important.

>>9727787
lol what’s your damage? are you really this salty about a pretty girl being better looking than you?

>>9727789
>opinion
But I'm stating a fact. If men had no standards at all, natural selection wouldn't work.

>>9727278
>he fucking swallows
wow, what a king of lewd. he deserves much better
>>9727598
I almost want to say WELL, YOU CAME but I realize the body and mind aren't always on the same page. like, say, if it was non-consensual.
it's normal for humans to have sexual encounters. doesn't matter what you may think your sexuality is, you're just stubbornly pigeon-holing yourself because you're weak and can't handle the irrational thought of emasculation and/or being "othered"
you could consider freeing yourself of labels and not being an asshole. don't be that guy who commits violent crimes just because you find you enjoy another man's mouth and affection.

>>9727787
Uh, okay. Enjoy the "intelligence" that comes with crying because you can't hold a candle to a girl who takes showers, cares for her skin and is below 160lbs (all traits that you seem to inflate to JRPG beauty levels for whatever reason), and not having a likable personality.
Actually, I'm starting to think you're one of those r/lookism or incel posters trying to impersonate a woman. It worked at first and I thought you were just sick or something, but this kind of hostility over something so small could really only come from a bitter man trying to demoralize women to his own level.
Whether or not I'm right, I think you'll find a home on >>>/r9k/

>>9727790
It's a robot who's trying (and failing) to make women insecure and get (You)s. The issue is that his can't dial back their misogyny long enough to be convincing when replying to women. They come off as supremely salty, every time.
The only thing keeping them here at this point is the (You)s, so we should stop giving them that.

>>9727776
>tfw make bank based off my looks
>tfw say I'm 4 years younger than I am and people still act shocked and said they thought I was younger than fake age
>tfw too adhd to stand putting more than a couple minutes of makeup on

also lol I love that you said man here like that's supposed to make anyone take you more seriously

>>9727790
>are you really this salty about a pretty girl being better looking than you?
Obviously not as much as you, you're the one in denial over how attractive she is.

She's literally in the top 1% of looks, and you're saying stuff like

>but she's not amazing-looking by any standards.

If some 4/10 girl put a ton of effort into her hair and makeup and clothes, you would say she looks "amazing". The only reason you say this girl doesn't look amazing is because she's completely natural. Your concept of beauty, like most women's, is completely detached from what men actually want.

What you fail to understand is that men don't even like these conventional beauty standards, women themselves created them and perpetuated them. Men don't like makeup on a pig, and men don't like makeup on attractive girls because it makes them uglier.

Maybe because you're too stupid to understand, or maybe because you're not a guy, so you don't understand what they see.

>>9727793
>I almost want to say WELL, YOU CAME but I realize the body and mind aren't always on the same page. like, say, if it was non-consensual.
Do you realize that we men go long enough without sex, we'd fuck goats, watermelons, you name it? Hands are a life saver.
>it's normal for humans to have sexual encounters. doesn't matter what you may think your sexuality is, you're just stubbornly pigeon-holing yourself because you're weak and can't handle the irrational thought of emasculation and/or being "othered"
you could consider freeing yourself of labels and not being an asshole. don't be that guy who commits violent crimes just because you find you enjoy another man's mouth and affection.
What the fuck did I just read? Why do you talk about crimes out of the blue?
>If you don't want to get assfucked, you're weak
This thinking pattern always gets me.

Anyway, it was no homo, I said it was no homo, he nodded, never happened again, we are still friends. Everything is ok. I'm Straight.

As an anecdote I'll say I unironically drink pineapple juice as people drink coffee, and he said my cum tasted the best he's ever had.

>>9727807
>Everything is ok. I'm Straight.
Keep telling yourself that, faggotron

Where’s a janitor when you need one.

>>9727810
>mad he/she didn't say "no homo" in time
Sucks to be you, fag.

>>9727812
I'd never have another man come anywhere near my penis no matter how horny I was because I'm not a faggot

Not sure if this is the right place or not but I'm just gonna post it .
I crossplay/dress a lot and ever time I do It just feel so good. Kinda like if you just got your pay check or something like that. I dont do it to satisfy a fetish or something like that. It just makes me feel super good anyone know why this is or is this what its like to wear pretty stuff(I'm kinda new to this whole thing)?

>the derailment

It was actually nice while it lasted.

>tfw lose some weight feels good
>cosplays feel bigger and are no longer form fitting, have to sew them down again

There is no winning

>>9727813
Try doing nofap and having a feminine boy around you willing to give you a bj. Resist and then come back to me.

>>9727818
>feminine boy
Twinks are fucking disgusting though. You're still a faggot

>>9727575
NAYRT, but I'm also a lonely Southern California lolita who wants to have more girl friends. Drop contact info?

>>9727819
I'm straight no matter what you say, you cuck. That was a once in a lifetime thing.

>>9727822
Unfortunately being straight is a whole of a lifetime thing, and you failed. Whatever you have to tell yourself to keep up the denial though, faggot

>>9727824
I have more testosterone than you'll be able to have in your entire lifetime. I'm literally a /fit/ celebrity, ask them about Crusader and they'll tell you. Now fuck off soyboy.

How the fuck can something still be gay if you fucking specifically say NO HOMO? Are you legally retarded?

>>9727822
Once a fag always a fag gayboi.

>>9727828
Can you please shut up and stop derailing

>tfw your body looks wrong to cosplay literally any character from your favourite series

>>9727828
Said no one ever.

>tfw you find out your con-crush is in a perfect, long-lasting relationship with their soulmate

>>9727536
You realize icing and cookies would mold after two years without dehydration and sealant right? The aerosol sealants are unnoticeable.

>>9727828
The tissue inside of the human mouth is similar to the tissue in the vagina. That's why it's not gay to ride your throbbing cock into his mouth hole. It's literally his vagina. Keep getting blow jobs from twinks, Crusader. Nothing gay about it.

>>9727844
So this is even less gay than I thought.

>>9727834
Homo detected. It's ok to be gay dude.

>>9727855
Nope, see >>9727844

>>9727819
twink just means young. it doesn't mean femme.
y'all don't know shit.
>>9727844
super OT but this is a huge component of my oral fixation. especially how all the saliva reminds me of extreme arousal. I wish everyone had a vag, but I'll settle with mouths.

anyway, there's also nothing wrong with being gay. people will be involved in literal all-male gangbangs but refuse to call themselves anything but straight as a board
>there's a curve in that board, friendo
I personally am more attracted to a guy if he isn't 1000% straight

>>9727858
>people will be involved in literal all-male gangbangs but refuse to call themselves anything but straight
It's literally straight if you don't "receive". If you only "give", you're alright.

>>9727718
She's beautiful but she is wearing makeup. Foundation, concealer, pencilled eyebrows, and winged eyeliner.

>>9727856
Stop being so homophobic.

>>9727863
>these faggot mental gymnastics

>>9727866
I scoffed at the no makup line but I didn't want to cause a scene. Thank you for pointing it out though.

>>9727870
Picture this. You're buttfucking a man, you close your eyes, and it makes literally no difference if you were fucking a woman, it's the same. It's not gay.

Only receiving dick is gay.

>fujos and fuccbois swearing up and down they aren't fujos and fuckbois
>also r9k
Thread ruined, time to wait for the next one

>>9727873
It's still gay dude. There isn't anything wrong with it being gay.
Just makes you a top.

>>9727873
Picture this. You're asked to fuck a man's ass but you physically can't get the erection required to do so because you're not a faggot and the thought of it disgusts you

>>9727875
Gay -> being attracted to men

If you are not attracted to men and buttfuck/mouthfuck one, it's not gay.
>>9727876
>You're asked to fuck a man's ass but you physically can't get the erection required to do so because you're not a faggot and the thought of it disgusts you
Lies, what about a trap or a femenine boy?

Of course you wouldn't fuck a hairy grandma, same thing for some hairy fag's ass.

>>9727876
>not getting erections for literally anything, even lifeless objects
Spotted the low test cuck.

>>9727877
Seek help, faggot

>>9727877
Gay is two men having sex as well my friend.

>>9727871
I think a lot of people think if someone's not wearing OTT bright eyeshadow, overlined lips, and dark lipstick then someone's not wearing lipstick. Natural-looking makeup is a thing too.

why do guys hate each other so much?

>>9727888
We only hate the faggots in denial

>>9727888
Primitive instinct. i wish they would just fuck already.

>>9727891
>>9727882
>everything i dont like is faggot
Nice meme

Both men and women have mouth and ass. Penetrating those areas result in no gayness.

>>9727888
Potential competitors regarding succesful mating.

>>9727894
>I'm still here desperately trying to justify being a faggot to strangers

>>9727885
*makeup not lipstick

>>9727894
This. Also just because you get fucked in this as doesn't mean it's gay.
It's not gay unless you identify as a homo.

>>9727360
it’s not, i don’t know why i wrote that. i guess i was just being super retarded.

>>9727888
We don't tho, at worst we're cordial and at best we're closer than brothers.
r9k is not representative of all men

>>9727900
Well, you could say that if you larped as a woman just for an hour, and then stopped larping afterwards, it couldn't ever possibly be gay since larping is not real, it's just roleplay, so it would be perfectly reasonable to get fucked in the ass in a larping session and still be straight.

>>9727904
Stop reading so much yaoi fanfic.

>>9727901
It's all right. I knew what you meant. You're definitely right. A lot of guys don't notice it at all unless it's night out make up.

>>9727905
This is usually what I do with my bros. Get buttfucked (as a woman) and swallow for them (not gay) while I fondle their balls (100% straight).

I wish people would stop calling it gay when it's totally not.

>>9727905
Fuck, this makes too much sense, to deny this would mean larping is real, which if it was, it wouldn't be larping. Basically undeniable.
>>9727909
As long as you do it larping, it's ok, do it ironically aswell just as an extra layer of protection.

>>9727906
You should stop browsing r9k, it's not good for you
Maybe hit the gym too

>>9727911
I'm from /fit/ you retard. Men literally kill each other for petty shit, go fuck yourself with your inane pacifist drivel.

>>9727915
You may post there but you're not really from there, I can smell the r9k on you.
Grow up, bro.

>>9727904
ty
sometimes I forget and worry that every guy is in danger of adopting that mentality. there's a lot of illness involved with these robot guys.
my first love was basically a robot and, though it was many, many years ago, I guess I'm still trying to understand and help him by talking to others??
women aren't some huge conspiracy. I'm a person with feelings and value...it's crazy how all those verbal thrashings from his fucked up ideology have stayed with me this long. all I want to do is burn the gaps between guys and ladies. whatever.
someone give me hope...

>>9727922
It's just extremes. There are plenty of people that may adopt a few of those extreme ideas and perpetuate it but most people are generally normal. Go have a conversation with a random stranger about the weather a few times and you realize that everyone has some crazy ideas but most people aren't about that all of the time. Unless they're on the internet seeking their confirmation bias in their echo chambers most people are pretty normal. It's just when you get them worked up about those one or two things that they turn into well what's derailing the thread.Take solace in the fact that most people are pretty normal and pay no mind to the asses being asses.

>>9727922
The scary thing with robots is just how close and relatable they are to you (speaking as a guy), in a different timeline you are one.
That's why while we find them irritating we don't entirely despise them. Because they are us, they are our best friends, our big brothers, our sons. We want to reach out and help.

>>9727089
i don’t think u understand what anon meant

>>9727844
>sticks finger in mouth
>sticks finger in vagina
hmmmm... These textures are vaguely similar but not really a replacement for one another. The most important aspect is that vaginas do not (usually) have teeth where mouths (usually) do. Vagina walls feel much more plush and warm. Mouth walls are elastic but thin with some hard spots like the roof of the mouth. The vagina is also deeper.

>>9727944
>finger in mouth, then finger in vagina
You did it the wrong way around.

>>9727152
>the more of an effort I make to make actual friends the more isolated I feel
Why is it like this?
What am I doing differently now than when I was 13?

>Applying braid to a cosplay
>Symmetrical parts
>Do one side, looks good
>Do the other, looks good
>Put the whole piece together
>Noticeably lopsided at the tops
>Trimmed the seam allowances, can't take it apart now
>No material/braid left even if I could

>>9727843
Shittly done then if i simply touch it and crumbs fall off

>>9727978
thinking too much. most people just did whatever as a kid and hung out with people just because, instead of overthinking it

>let myself get excited every con I go to that maybe I'll meet someone
>I never do
>end up feeling way worse the next few weeks
I don't know why I do this to myself

>>9728043
There's this weird myth between nerds, both male and female, that conventions are magical wonderlands where unlike every other moment of their lives they'll finally feel welcome and maybe even find their soulmate.
Then it turns out it's just overcrowded, overpriced and poorly ventilated.

>>9728059
idk, cons seem like the place where I'll find people who won't think my body pillow and figure are creepy

>>9727255
>tfw no lolita gf to show off
Hope he stops being such a faggot, would suck to have to leave someone because they won’t accept your hobby

>>9727282
Lift weights and go on a diet, also important to drink a lot of water and make sure you’re diet includes eating properly

t. /fit/

>tfw you'll never be this much of a chad

>>9727178
yikes....... drop her immediately

>>9728074
>raiders cap
Of course

>>9727944
If only my vagina had a tongue. I could marry a billionaire and dress pretty whenever I wanted,

>>9727505

I mean like its not that I hate androids themselves, its just that I cant tell if someone has read or seen my text with android texters on iPhones so it puts some doubt in me if they're ignoring me or if they just didnt see my text or whatever

>>9728095
>women in a nutshell
>proving /r9k/ right since ever

>>9728111
Calm down, manlet. I wouldn't marry you even if you had a billion dollars.

>>9728112
>she thinks she can choose who she marries with having that whoreface of hers
Go munch your period or something, hole.

>>9728118
Go get fucked in the ass faggot. That's where your mgtow lifestyle is leading anyways since you're not good enough for a woman. I know girls that will pay to watch you get emasculated as long as they can take pictures. So find one of your neckbeard arcanine buddies to settle for your 3 inch penis and prolapsed asshole. No woman ever will so give up now.

I'm the one who had the shitty haircut and was complaining here. Thanks guys, it does look better after two days, I guess it was just extra limp from overcombing and overshampooing. Now that I have an idea of how to fix it, just need to wait for it to grow out. I bought better shampoo and conditioner and some hair-growing supplement pills that have biotin and keratin. Thanks for the help. I think it will look great when it grows out a bit.

>>9728074
The way this thread's been going, I genuinely expected him to try and stick that up his bum.

>tfw no one cares about make cosplay unless they're ripped and shirtless, have insanely detailed armor, or are wearing a skirt

>>9728142
Any cosplay can get attention so long as it's well-done. Cosplaying a popular character helps.

>>9728145
I really don't think so anon. Look at the threads here, even bnha and other serrlies with tons of male characters are mostly done by young girls. People here basically only care about giving credit to women who cosplay unless they're one if those three sets of guys.

The fact that people just won't appreciate or care at all about my cosplays, but will flock to some 13 year old who bought an AliExpress cosplay or a tranny who out in a skirt and bad makeup makes me feel like shit and like trying won't even matter.

>>9728147
Most of the other cosplayers I know would love to see more actual dudes cosplaying the male characters from shows they like.

And girls/women really don't get as much attention as you think. Male GWCs might ask them for photos more but is that the kind of attention you want? Same with the threads on here. It's mostly girls saying horrible things about the way those women look.

Why do you think people like the massive armour builds? It's because they take a lot of skill and hard work. People admire skill.

>>9728153
Yeah but it'd be nice to have some appreciation for something other than massive builds that take 10 years to build up the skill for.

>>9728156
So learn how to build or sew simpler things. If you do them well people will compliment you and ask how you made them.

>>9728159
Hasn't happened from the ones I've made or sewn so far. It's a pretty noticable problem in cosplay that guys get passed over in shit like masqs and halls. It sucks, idk why you're trying to defend it

>>9728165
I'm not trying to defend it, I was trying to give you advice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B70sVtzfkqg

Do girls know when they upload videos like this, that men on the internet are going to jack off to it? The dance scene in the beginning of course.

Would they be more insulted that I jacked off to them, or more insulted if they were one of the ones I ignored because they're too ugly?

Maybe they'd be flattered? I'm kind of a semi-Chad, basically Brad.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B70sVtzfkqg

Do girls know when they upload videos like this, that men on the internet are going to jack off to it? The dance scene in the beginning of course.

Would they be more insulted that I jacked off to them, or more insulted if they were one of the ones I ignored because they're too ugly?

Maybe they'd be flattered? I'm kind of a semi-Chad, basically Brad.

>>9728187
Dude, those girls look very underage.

>>9728189
They could all easily be in their 20s.

Not like I care if they are underage anyway.

>>9728190
You sound like a winner.

>>9728187
You jack off to that? Your bar is on the floor, dude.

>>9728187
Goddamn that video is awful.
The costumes are mediocre and the dance is incredibly unsynchronized.

>>9728167
advice for what? I'm, just venting like the thread is for. It just pisses me off that I have to keep a way higher standard to even get asked for hall pics when girls like >>9728187 literally just buy aliexpress outfits.

>>9728187
You are right, they shouldn't partake in anything they enjoy for fear some man is going to sling his love juice all over the screen in response to it.

You could try just not being such a horny bastard.

>>9728223
I'm not telling them to stop, I want more girls dancing for me in Love Live cosplay.

>be me, an shy introvert with only a couple friends
>friend texts me asking to come over and help her make her cosplay before she leaves tomorrow
>was gone all day and didn't see it bc phone was in purse
>she's pissed and doesn't want to talk to me anymore
idk what to do, i feel like such a shit person

>>9728187

“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”

― Margaret Atwood

That feel when you kinda what to hook up with a fit nerd guy, but you're not the petite loli-type that he likes.
T_T curse these boobs!

>tfw your gf is an extremely popular cosplayer on Instagram and you are constantly scared or insecure that she will find someone more attractive due to her reach

It's not even like I'm unattractive she just gets so much attention man

>>9727768
>>9727718 looks slightly above average but not beautiful. I live in a big city and most girls look like her. The girl you posted is cute, definitely more attractive than the girl in the video, who is wearing makeup.

>>9728283
Don't respond. He'll scream at you and call you a jealous whore or something.

>>9728278
Pretty much just be aware that the second anything gets rough in your life, lose your job, fail college, whatever, she's gone, hopped onto the next cock and financial investment.

Getting a lot of attention on social media is a huge red-flag for females. Even if they don't though, it's not like you can ever expect a woman to stay with you if you have a misstep in life.

if you're out of school, you have to be capable of living fully financially independent at all times, including your own place, a car, a cell phone, and stable income. Otherwise it doesn't matter how good you look, doesn't matter if you're a genius, your personality certainly doesn't matter, good luck getting a girlfriend, or keeping one around much longer, you probably won't. It's just women's nature and how the dating market works, I try not to be salty about it, but it's hard because everyone knows this is how things work, but they try to lie about it.

Basically, you have to be a man that is fully independent and in control at all times, and never, ever, drop that status, or else 99% of females will drop you.

>>9728288
Hey friendo, I think you may be self inserting a tad too much. We have a reasonably healthy relationship and my insecurities are more to do with me just being insecure in general, she's never given me a reason to believe she'd ever be interested in anyone else, in fact she usually does the opposite. I've known her for 2 years now and she's really not that type of person. I think you might have just taken the black pill anon, but I'd love to help you out, that mindset is not healthy, and won't foster any healthy relationships.

>>9728290
Reality will hit you soon enough.

The faster you accept it and work with it, the better. Denial of it won't end well for you.

>>9728292
Hey anon would you do me a solid and post a photo of yourself? I'm extremely curious as to whether you look like what I expect you to.

>>9728248
say sorry and tell her about it

>>9728292
>>9728293
I guess that answers that. Anon confirmed incel

>>9728293
>>9728293
http://what-ch.mooo.com/image.png

>>9728301
Anyone can get buff, although body type is definitely important, we all know facial features and bone structure are key.

>>9728302
Don't care, not trying to say I'm physically perfect, you wanted to know what I look like, getting sick of "hurr durr every misogynist troll on /cgl/ must be an obese slob"

>>9728305
I just think your physical appearance has a large correlation with how you view women. If you are traditionally unattractive to women, you will most likely have a worse experience with them. Who hurt you anon? What happened to you to make you this way?

>>9728308
Never had a girlfriend. Proof you should heed my warnings or you will end up like me.

>>9728311
I've had several girlfriends and many successful relationships. Do you not think your ancedotal evidence is not representative of all relationships? I would suggest some introspection, and then try again. The dating pool is vast, I'm sure you can find someone who makes you happy and someone who you can make happy. Recognize no one owes anyone a relationship, no matter how nice you are to women. You're in good shape so I don't think you'd have many issues in all honesty.

>>9728312
>I'm sure you can find someone who makes you happy and someone who you can make happy.
My financial status is a deal-breaker for literally over 99% of women, not a chance.

>You're in good shape so I don't think you'd have many issues in all honesty.
Doesn't matter, women don't care. I'd have to hop on steroids to get the kind of muscle mass at such a low bodyfat that actually impresses people.

>You're in good shape so I don't think you'd have many issues in all honesty.
I'm trying to warn you. You had successful relationships because you were in school, or had a job. Outside of schools, if you aren't bringing in money, don't expect to ever get a girlfriend, or keep any current one around much longer.

Especially not a cosplayer with a huge social media following.

Don't ever fuck up, and you could stay in a relationship for life. Don't ever get too attached to any girl though, don't ever forget your position, and the money/sex transaction that makes the relationship work, because one bad financial move, and I guarantee you she's leaving.

>>9728315
Neither of us have any real desire for anything more than "being content" with our financial situation. That isn't to say we aren't materialistic but she definitely isn't greedy and doesn't value money that much. I'm in school and have a reasonably good job lined up and she's starting school next year. What is your financial situation that hurts your situation so much anon?

>>9728308
>tfw your mom's problems with men and her aspie father are probably why you're so shit with wmoen

>>9728319
Social cues can be learned, charm too. I got lucky because I find social situations extremely easy to navigate and I don't look awful, but you can only get so much out of social situations if you don't put anything into them.

>>9728317
> she definitely isn't greedy and doesn't value money that much
She values it more than you, because she would dump you over money. Want proof? Drop out and tell her you're never getting a job.

Don't take it personally, it's just how female nature works in a modern capitalist world.

>What is your financial situation that hurts your situation so much anon?
If I had decent stable income, I could easily go get a girlfriend. I wouldn't for a second believe that she'd stick around if I stopped making money though.

I'm okay with that too, I understand how it works. People tend to say "all women are whores" in a figurative sense, it's really true in a literal sense.

>>9728321
I don't think I would blame her if I told her I was going to drop out and quit my job. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone who has goals, they're a completely healthy thing and I wouldn't want to be with someone who says they don't have any future for themselves. I think you're confusing a HUMAN issue with a FEMALE issue. Wanting a partner with a future isn't exclusive to women, it just happens to be that men are generally expected to be breadwinners, and while that's not fair, to accuse all women of simply valuing money over everything is simply not true.

>>9728323
>There is nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone who has goals,
This is a euphemism for money, or working towards money.

> I think you're confusing a HUMAN issue with a FEMALE issue. Wanting a partner with a future isn't exclusive to women,
Wrong, an extremely large portion of the male population specifically wants an unemployed girlfriend or wife, they used to be very popular, they were called housewives.

Most men do not care if a female makes $0, there is a never-ending supply of men who will actually PAY them money for sex/companionship.

If I was a female, do you think I'd be single you retard? I could just make an ad online and get 100s of offers to be a housewife or live-in girlfriend.

How many women want an unemployed boyfriend or husband, or would enter into a relationship with one? Close to zero, literally less than 1%.

How many men want an unemployed girlfriend or wife, or don't care? I'd easily say over 90% of men.

>>9728324
Calm down anon, quite literally all I'm trying to do is help you. If you're satisfied being an incel and spending the rest of your life alone, that's cool. You do you anon. I'm happy and content 99% of the time with my current relationship.

>>9728320
As you might've guessed, social ineptitude runs in the family, but it's kind of a separate issue. Basically my whole life, really even now still, I thought women hated men, expressing my sexuality was something to be ashamed of, and I had nothing to offer any woman ever. The connection to my mother and grandfather did not occur to me until literally yesterday.

>finally get a gf who actually cosplays
>she's older than me by a few years( she's in late 20s)
>wants me to call her "mom" during sex now
I like her but jesus I can't tell if she's a crazy or just bored of sex with me.

>>9728325
I actually got $40,000, but I live like I have $0, no car, no cell phone, live at my mom's, don't spend money on anything. With the way my investments and trading skills are going (stocks, never touched crypto), I might have over a million dollars in 10 years, and enough free cash flow to actually start spending money in maybe 5 years.

Maybe then I will get a girlfriend. But I will never forget that it's only because women are whores and won't date you without money.

>I'm happy and content 99% of the time with my current relationship.
I really hope you get that job you have "lined up".

If you get out of college, and can't find a job with that degree... You won't have a relationship.

You'll also probably be in $50,000+ of debt if you're America, and no girl will want you. I might have 6-digits in my account, and a girlfriend by then. You might swap places with me in the future, I am trying to warn you.

Best of luck.

>>9728324
Yeah, having a housewife is about having a submissive babymaker 90% of the time. There is such thing as a sugar momma' if you are wanting a women to take care of your expenses. Also, most younger men these days will break up with a woman who doesn't make any income. The world's changing.

>>9728333
>There is such thing as a sugar momma' if you are wanting a women to take care of your expenses.
Literally less than 1% of women.

I don't think I have any chance.

>>9728330
>You might swap places with me in the future

Never going to happen. With the experiences I have now I would never become as disillusioned as you currently are. Well done. You might have 7 figures to your name in 10 years, but what did you trade in exchange for it? The entirety of the first half of your life and any chances to become somewhat decent at social situations. Just like "No woman wants a man without money" your idea of a relationship with money isn't one. You'd quite literally just be paying for sex. Sorry anon, you're already lost. Maybe one day you can come back to reality and stop this unhealthy frame of mind.

>>9728334
Usually you'll have to go for a significantly older women because that is when they have a stable income that can support another man.

If you want children, most women are going to want a man who can support themselves because there will easily be a 6 month period near the end of the pregnancy and right after birth that they cannot work. That time might be longer is you plan of breast feeding your infant. So, you generally need to look for a woman who doesn't want a child, or who has already had all the children they want. There is good reason some here call children "parasites"...

Otherwise, a lot of young people, what you might call 'normal', expects both partners in a relationship to work unless they are either high class or trailer trash. The wish for a housewife is rather archaic now, or limited to certain social classes.

>>9728336
Typos, it's late, I just woke up in the middle of the night. Thread is saging, I think, so I'll respond to bait. You might get some typos though.

>>9728335
You can also go for traveling hippie women, but they're kind of dirty, you'll have to live out of a car, and be okay with the fact she panhandles strangers for money. She likely doesn't make the best life choices either. She will, however, date a man with no steady income, direction in life, and means to support himself. You'll have to throw away Babylon though, and realize any accidental babies are likely getting aborted since she knows she cannot support one.

>>9728335
> what did you trade in exchange for it? The entirety of the first half of your life
What the fuck do you think I'm so mad about? Telling me about my situation like I don't know.

>You'd quite literally just be paying for sex
Outside of schools, EVERY guy has to pay for sex, including your future self. This payment comes in many forms, direct and indirect, but at the end of the day, your relationship with your girlfriend/wife wouldn't exist if it wasn't for your money.

It's obvious that this is going to upset you, and a lot of guys are in denial about. If you were in the matrix you're the guy who would take the bluepill, you want to ignore uncomfortable truths.

>>9728336
>Usually you'll have to go for a significantly older women because that is when they have a stable income that can support another man
Talking about less than 1% of women, and there's a lot of competition. I got no chance.

>Otherwise, a lot of young people, what you might call 'normal', expects both partners in a relationship to work unless they are either high class or trailer trash. The wish for a housewife is rather archaic now, or limited to certain social classes.
I can tell you're a female by the way you type and what you say. Your entire mind is based off herd mentality.

The wish for a housewife isn't archaic, it never went away, it's just that women collectively destroyed themselves, made themselves very bad candidates for being a wife/mother, and made the laws extremely hostile to men that want to marry or have kids.

>>9728338
This was meant for >>9728339.

>>9728339
Yeah, most regular posters on /cgl/ are females. You are a real Sherlock Holmes. Yes, I speak from experience. Women who don't work and can't support themselves are seen as lazy, mentally ill, or mooches by most anyone, including men, under the age of 30. The social norms are changing. That's now seen as a really unattractive trait in a woman.

>>9728339
And I'm a U.S. anon to avoid confusion based on cultural differences related to country.

>>9728343
>Yes, I speak from experience. Women who don't work and can't support themselves are seen as lazy, mentally ill, or mooches by

This would have been correct, if you finished by saying "by only other women".

Because men don't care. There's a countless, practically infinite, never-ending supply of men who would GLADLY fully support these females financially in exchange for sex/companionship.

I'm not just talking about "real" prostitution either, I'm talking about long-term monogamous relationships.

>>9728345
Are you >>9728335 or >>9728339?

>>9728347
Nah. I'm the post I attached that to.

>>9728348
Okay, just wanted to clarify.

>>9728346
Yes, and I've had a long term relationship of almost 7 years end when I lost my job due to an occupational illness, and they got frustrated at my lack of income. I've known other female friends to go through the same thing, and plenty of male friends to agree that a woman who can't pull her own is unattractive. The only time I haven't heard that is from people starting at 30 or older. It is a generational thing.

>>9728346
All that being said, you aren't wrong for wanting a housewife or wanting a sugar momma'. Different strokes for different folks, but you are picking something that's not the norm if you want either of those two, and it's going to make dating among young people harder.

Mind you when I said older women earlier, I didn't mean 25-30. I mean 30's into 40's. That's where you find sugar momma' ladies.

>>9728352
You can thank feminist/leftist brainwashing for this.

Your "male friends" are no doubt complete emasculated soyboys.

If I had money, I would specifically be looking for NEET women who want to be housewives. A college-educated feminist woman is pretty much the exact opposite of what I would want.

>>9728355
I don't 'thank' anything other then bad luck pertaining to my health. It is just the way the world is, and the only thing I can do is just keep on trucking. There's no point blaming anything else.

You can find a housewife, but that goes back to all this stuff you've been spewing earlier, I stated perfectly good reasons a housewife type lady might need someone who can show they support themselves and their children.

You have to afford your entire family's food, transportation, your children's school costs, clothing, underwear, and all that, cleaning supplies, amenities for household operations, expenses to create an inviting living space, laundry expenses whether at the laundromat or at home, doctor's appointments, medicine when they get sick, power bill, and water bill. You have to have money for emergencies which can be countless, and after that comes the needless things such as gifts, entertainment, vacations, and anything past the bare minimum.

It's very pricey to take on a housewife and the subsequent family. Be understanding why they worry, and you might find a housewife girl.

>>9728360
I know you're right. You're being too nice to me.

It's partially because I'm tried, but this post just makes me sad.

>>9728368
You should go to bed. I tried to go to bed and failed. Don't be like me.

>>9728107
Meant to write "girls hate green bubbles"
I've only seen this behavior online since people don't use SMS at all here and it's fascinating.

>>9728288
>>9728292
>>9728308
>>9728339
Go back to /r9k/

>tfw I found out my bf watches porn
>pornhub is 3rd place in the top sites thingy when you make a new tab

>>9728383
>Go back to /r9k/
And no argument was seen that day.
To this day, great minds such as Plato and Stalin haven't been able to figure out if there even was an argument there to begin with.

>>9728386
>Stalin
Can we at least give Karl Marx and Vladimir Lenin some credit where credit is due?

>>9728387
Sure.

>>9728385
You should one day politely inform him that most browses offer an incognito option for browsing. Don't put any context around it, just be like, "Babe, I found out this cool thing about browsers. There's an incognito option." Even without context, he should get the picture.

>>9728389
browsers* Fuck.

>>9727577
hmm then yeah that's really strange, and i'm really sorry anon - it would be heartbreaking for me to find my partner becoming someone i couldn't stand being around. has anything changed in her life?

>>9728385
what's the problem?

NEW THREAD

>>9728307

>>9728339
>It's obvious that this is going to upset you, and a lot of guys are in denial about. If you were in the matrix you're the guy who would take the bluepill, you want to ignore uncomfortable truths.
Jesus christ it's like that teenage kid who just discovered God might not be real and now he thinks he's the smartest man on the planet.

Motherfucker nobody is in denial about anything, everyone knows the score and they choose to live with that, some get smooth sailing and some crash and burn but they all know what they're getting into and they go for it anyway. You're not smarter than the rest, or ahead of the curve, or enlightened, you're just fucking scared and came up with an excuse that makes you pass (badly) for an intellectual.

Grow up, bro.

>>9726970
I feel it dude. But the best thing you can do is be your own man. You can still buy muscle cars, thank god.

Also you should cosplay JP from Redline

>>9728124
>assuming I'm mgtow
>all that butt disruption
LMAO
You dumb hole piece of shit, the fact that I'm not into public toilets such as you or damaged daddy issues cumpdumpsters doesn't mean I'm mgtow.
>le emasculation
>le small penor
>le no woman will allow u le holes
Pffff hahahahahhaa, are you done munching your stinky period? You pathetic butterface camwhore.

>>9728667
Look at how very seething you are about the truth. I take it back. You won't even make it as a faggot. Might as well find a life exit strategy in your position.

>>9728679
You just had a mental breakdown because I told you to go munch on your period, and you say I'm seething? Smelly, dumb, hole scum.

>>9728339
I just want to say that I've read all of your posts, and yeah, you're right. I've realized it already before reading what you wrote. It's been a slow awakening. The thing is that it has really broken me. Before this I always hoped and thought females could really be in love, and love you for who you were no matter how much money you had. I thought it was like in anime or romance stories/movies, honestly. Then this bubble was slowly torn apart by facts, statistics, logic, psychology and reason. This has really fucked me up, it warped my whole sense of direction. I hate materialistic people and people whose only sense of self-improvement is finding a new place to slave himself away for a few more coins, and then, suddenly, females are literally this. What the fuck should I do now? Why did the movies, the books and anime lie? Why couldn't this have been known since you were a kid? Why did nobody told me before? This is absolutely saddening and maddening. And the last nail in the coffin too, now, there's probably a 99% chance I end up alone, whether by choice or by inability because I hate golddiggers with a passion, and that's what women are on the inside.

>>9728692
Become gay.

>>9728325
Matey, this is the same dude who I gave a list of charities that specifically help men and men only too. He threatened to rape and murder (lulz) me in response. He's either a very consistent troll or a lost cause.

>>9728962
>tfw you'll never be raped by a cute r9k boy while wearing your burando
Life is suffering.

>>9728966
this isn't the LARP thread

>>9728974
t. Angry Lesbian

>>9728966
>>9728977
epic

>>9729051
>>9729049
epic

>>9728692

That's just the thing. You were raised on Disney movies and cheesy, unrealistic romance comedies and as a result, you developed unrealistic expectations. When you discovered that things weren't exactly glistening and bright like you thought they were, a large part of your worldview crumbled and it was probably fairly disturbing.

Me, personally? I've seen what nasty divorces look like and how they end for the man of the relationship. A couple cases I've been able to pass off as the man deserving it because he was a true scumbag (alcohol problem, abusive to spouse, etc). However, that's far outnumbered by the amount of times I've seen good men have their lives turned upside down and their finances ruined because their wives found that they didn't have the "spark" that they used to. It's sickening, but I've seen it happen so many times that I never really fell for the falling in love meme.

That being said, it is possible to have a healthy relationship even with that knowledge. I've had my fair share and the only thing that was different for me was that I exercised a little caution and didn't let my emotions dictate the dynamic of a relationship that I was in.

>>9729301
tl;dr Do what makes you happy and pursue what relationships you wish to pursue. Just exercise caution and don't fall for the blackpill meme.

Now marriage is a whole different story, but don't get me started on that.

>>9729301
>>9729304
I had mental breakdowns over this stuff, imagine being told something all your life, building your future on it, and then suddenly, it was a lie all along. And the mgtow meme isn't fulfilling to me.
What's the blackpill on this? I don't think I'd be able to enjoy a relationship knowing I'm just a social trophy or a wallet for the other person. I think I've passed the point of no return. What's left now?

>>9729312

There's more to life than sex and romance. Indulge in it when you wish and be aware of the risks that you're taking, but don't let it affect who you are at your core. That's how you turn into an incel and everyone knows how that ends up.

You probably placed a very high value on falling in love when you were younger and to be honest, there's nothing wrong with that. Now you know that love itself is very conditional and that you're going to have to deal with the ramifications that that brings. So what? Fuck it, man.

If you want to get into a relationship with the cute girl you met at the bookstore the other day, go for it. Yeah, she probably has high expectations and is liable to leave you at any moment over some stupid shit, but are you really going to let that stop you from pursuing her in the first place?

You're trying to plan ahead for something that you can't plan ahead for. The good thing is that you have a better understanding of how things work now. Make the best of things and live it up a little instead of being depressed about societal changes that you have absolutely no control over.

If you don't want to date or hookup because you're not satisfied, then don't. Read a book. Learn to play the guitar. Learn another language. Get to Diamond in League if that's what you want to do. Learn how to code. Go to the gym and get jacked as fuck. You get the point. For your sake, though, don't mope around and emulate some teenage "sad boi". Jesus.

>>9729337

And if you browse /r9k/, visit wizchan or any other place where the "blackpill" people like to congregate, stop that shit. It's not going to help anything and you're sure as hell not going to make good company there.

>>9729337
You're probably right, something good might come out of reading your posts, thanks man, I'm going to sleep now, it's 5:40 am here. Also, no, I don't go to r9k or wiz, I mostly stick to my hobbies or interests regarding boards.

>>9729346

Anytime. I normally wouldn't be posting here at all, but something about the whole exchange that took place above irked me and I felt the need to clear up a few things. Have a nice morning and get some sleep, man.

>>9727255
>why can i never find a supportive so
because its embarrassing to be with a girl into lolita