/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>9781454
jesus fucking christ let it die
this continues to be unrelated and irrelevant

>>9781506
Sorry that you're a whore and it got leaked?

>>9781506
yup, i thought this thread can't be more canceric, but here we are

>>9781506
personally I'm glad A got banned?
She started getting really active in the comm again after she willingly deleted all her friends from shame.

Like A, YOU gotta stop making yourself relevant.

>>9781521
She was clearly only attending events to make the people she wronged feel uncomfortable. She made a big post about how she doesn't feel welcome at events and then proceeded to keep attending.

>>9781529
She made a big wah no one likes me post every 6 months. Here is one from late 2016 where she was more self aware and hadn’t yet ruined all of her friendships.

>>9781529
Oooor maybe she attended events to hang out and be with her friends? You seem to be under the impression that everyone dislikes her just because you dislike her.

>>9781717
>her friends
NAYRT She literally betrayed & back-stabbed all of her friends in the comm. I'm talking girls who have supported her through thick & thin, people who would do a lot for her and treated her as a really precious friend.
Even if she's not going to meets to piss people off specifically, it's just really pitiful that she's trying to be the first to "claim the support" of whatever neutral members are left.

>just because you dislike her.
Anon if you're actually in SOL and assume it's just one or two people who dislike her, you've got to be completely delusional.

>>9781717
Yeah but she basically didn't have any friends in the comm by then.

>>9781664
Anyone still friends with her on facebook? Any screenshots?

>>9781664
Lmfao that post. “Why is it that when I sleep with peoples exes and treat my friends like shit people don’t want to invite me to things?”

Could someone post the discord links again? I was trying to find them in different threads but haven't yet.

>>9782019
https://discord.gg/b6kqr78

>>9782029
What the fuck is this abomination of a server

Can someone explain me what's wrong with sleeping with people's exes? They're fucking exes! It's not even home wrecking, when you steal current partner, wtf

>>9782111
They were abusive exes (plural, yep. This happened twice) that really destroyed her close friends. THAT's the big deal in all this.

>>9782111
It’s called being respectful to your friend and considering how it would make them feel. I know it’s hard to believe, but some of us actually like having friends and want to keep them.

Was the plus size Lolita amino deleted? I don't think I was banned considering I never posted. But its suddenly off my feed

>>9782029

>>9781454
>>9781521
I missed the drama. Who is A? Is it Alana?

>>9782838
don't use specific names, a great way to kill a thread

>>9782836

So much for vetting.

>>9782410

Nah, Amino's just been deleting a lot of shit lately for no reason.

>>9782838
Check archives.

>>9781878
>sleep with peoples exes
Please tell me it's just one person's ex

>>9782848
The only thing they really vet for is if you actually have a coord, and to see if you're a huge drama whore.

>>9782863
Nope it was two people's exes. They were both abusive exes, at that. >>9782336

https://discord.gg/dJWEd6

Vetting discord

Undeniable proof

>>9783164
he's cringey and so so socially unaware.

>>9783164
Which discord is this?

>>9782933
Well, got kicked out because I slept for ~10 hours.

>>9783914
Did you bother filling out the form before sleeping?

>>9783914
just rejoin and fill out the form

>>9783962
>>9783963
That's the thing.. I did fill out the form, and they accepted me in. So it's not like I didn't go through the process to be accepted.

>>9783988
you probably got purged on accident because you didn't post anything after being accepted, just rejoin
or alternatively, you're one of the very few drama mongers not welcome

>>9784006
I can't rejoin now because the link expired.
I don't think I'm a drama monger at all because I hardly post online anyways and avoid drama at all costs
When the link pops up again I guess I'll join again, but who knows when that'll be and I catch it on time.

>>9784064
What does your discord tag end in? Don't need to post the full tag but the #xxxx is enough. I'll send you an invite.

>>9784109
#3528
I'm wondering if it's because of the username I had. But then again I assume they would've kicked me out right away or told me to change it if that was the case.
Oh well, thank you anon if you can invite me back! I'd at least like to know why i was kicked out

https://discord.gg/fKAeeG
vetting server

https://discord.gg/9Jz9rVj
not vetting server

>>9784138
Yeah I wish they would send a messsge before I was purged for inactivity. Sorry I’m a lurker?

>>9784190
Discord purges for total inactivity. Lurking counts as activity.

>>9784190
why should they remind you to talk? Not there but it makes no sense to me

>>9784138
Hey, it's because of your username, FH.

>>9784151
where am I supposed to attach a coord photo for the vetting server? I think that’s the reason I got kicked last time I tried

>>9785042

Just provide a link to social media or something. Otherwise you can click the + button next to the textbox.

What is with all the people crying lately that Taobao is just too hard to figure out? Are these people really too dumb to use google translate?

>>9786885
It’s always been like that. The reason resellers survive is because there is always dumb ppl too lazy to google. Hell there are even ppl defending those sites in cgl sometimes.

>>9786888
People called two girls on RC rude for recommending the OP, who has complained about having no money before, use a shopping service instead. OP blatantly said she didn't care she was wasting money and knew that that was the case. That chick has children, has said she can't save money because she lives in a low income household and yet is willing to waste hundreds buying from resellers.
>surejan.gif

>posts 50s pinup style dresses
> says she wants to modify them to make them more lolita
> comes in and corrects herself by saying “ I just wanted to share cute dresses” in a very sarcastic way.

This girl won’t last long if she keeps acting like that. But then her last post was also about where to buy fabric to make dresses.

Can we make it a rule that newbie lolitas are absolutely not allowed to see dresses till they can get a grasp on the fashion? Because this question is annoying hearing it over and over.

Mana give me strength..

I'm posting this to the online comm thread since Batty seems to piss off lolitas far and wide

Is she the new L*nda

>>9787734
She didn't say anything wrong?
How is this even close to Linda status? Please keep reaching SJWs.

>>9787750
>>9787734
There's nothing really to hate there? Honestly I'm looking at the shit that's going in the States with the shootings and I feel like I'd have a similar opinion - like okay, let people have guns to feel safer in their homes, fine, but maybe don't make fucking assault rifles available to any phycho or retarded teenager??

>>9787734
Yeah no, you're in the wrong on this one anon. She's not saying she thinks every American should be hoarding their guns for when The War Comes and that anyone who supports stricter gun regulation should be euthanized. This is in no way anywhere near Lynda's level of crazy.

>>9787734
I don't even like Batty and I think she's in the right here. Guns for home defense =/= guns to go shoot up a school. If I had any depth perception at all, I would go buy a pistol to keep under my nightstand, but my eyes are so bad that me owning a gun would be a bad idea.
The world can be a scary place, especially if you're female, petite, and living in a large city or high crime area. I do think the gov't needs to do a better job at regulating guns though - a lot of people who shouldn't buy guns fall through the cracks in the system and end up owning who knows what.

>>9787734
No, anon, get current with what's going on here. She didn't even say anything wrong. What's crazy about self defense?

>>9787734
I plan on packing in my petticoat when I go out to meets alone and am walking alone. You gonna shit a brick?

>>9787734
all the americans commenting that this is acceptable while in my country we're laughing at how stupid you people are to even think guns are acceptable at any level.

>>9787734
Nothing wrong with her post. She's just expressing her views on an issue.

I think people get triggered when someone has a gun and you can see it. The 2nd Amendment gives the right to bear arms. You can exercise that right or not. I don't, but others do.

>>9787804
Guns are part of the problem but everyone's ignoring how America has a much higher concentration of entitled ill white males

>>9787848
>Guns are part of the problem but everyone's ignoring how America has a much higher concentration of entitled ill white males

Tumblr pls go

>>9787734

I'm a soft liberal but my god do you guys try to villainize people. What she's saying is completely reasonable.

kek. There are so many triggered Amerifats in this thread. You need to carry a gun to feel safe? So do you shoot someone if youre in any form of altercation or catch them committing burglary?

>>9787734
I hate Batty like most do, but here’s she’s actually not going full on SJW for once. She’s got a very valid point about guns. It’s fine in self defense but regulating how someone gets them needs to be stricter. >>9787804 obviously lives in a part of the world that doesn’t have a high amount of crime that guns sound dumb. You really don’t understand how the new world has an issue with guns and the cartel. People will get them illegally reguardless, but the crimes happening in amarica are because the country chooses to ignore the obvious lax in mental heath care. Most psyche hospitals have shut down because of the idea of medicines keeping people in line. It has nothing to do with gun control or even banning them outright. It’s has everything to do with how people are getting them and their mental state when they do. Right now, in many states, you can walk into a gun store at 18, show and ID, put fat stacks on the table and walk out with what ever you want. No background check and no nothing. Where Batty is, they can have concealed carry weapons without a license. I lived in the same state as her and guns are pretty prominent in their culture. Not saying everyone has one, but there are many who do. If there was some form of regulation to how people got a gun, like a drivers test type of thing, then the violence involving legally obtained weapons would be reduced.

>>9787872
Your ignorance is astounding.

>>9787872

if you think a country full of gun owners can solve the situation of too many guns by blanket banning guns, you're an idiot.

>>9787872
Someone’s jelly.

>>9787889
I'm so jelly of all your gun violence and mass murders, you got me. Go back to /k/ dumbshit

>>9787734
Fuck off sjw

>>9787734
Most burglars don’t bring a gun when they break into houses. Having a gun in the house makes it significantly more likely you’ll get shot by your own gun and makes it easier for criminals who can’t legally buy guns to get their hands on one anyway.

>>9787877
That’s what Australia did and it worked very well for them.

What I have learned from this thread: America’s want to keep their guns but regulate them by making people get a license type of thing. And the rest of the world thinks they are superior because they don’t have guns and the same issues as the americas.

You all have a horrible superiority complex becuase your countries issues are different but you think they are the same. Get off your soap boxes and stop shit slinging. Let America have their guns. Arguing this will get you nothing. It’s an impasse. No ones right and no ones wrong.

>>9787873
Spot on

>>9787938
Australia is where you go when you want to die and be forgotten. Lolita dresses go there to die and they are totally forgotten when it comes to world affairs. No one remembers you Australia. The rest of the world forgets you exist and probably would have forgotten if it where not for Steve Irwin.

>>9788002
ok

>>9788002
Show us on the doll where Australia hurt you.

>>9787857
Sorry you're triggered by statistics, anon
http://www.newsweek.com/white-men-have-committed-more-mass-shootings-any-other-group-675602

>>9787938
Australia didn't ban all guns. Most farmers and ranchers in Australia have at least one rifle.

>>9787873
Preach

>>9787873
The state where I’m from has open carry no permit needed and they just stopped funding for outpatient mental care. We are beyond fucked here.

>>9788058
Srsly, stop blaming white men for gun violence. I'm sick and tired of white people being blamed for everything. White people ruined lolita fashion such as K8 and Choke.

>>9788126
...???????
cry harder

>>9787936
Who would of thought having a gun, makes you more likely to be shot with it, amazing!

>>9788134
>would of
>unnecessary comma

Idiots? On my anonymous Indonesian shadow puppet forum?

most people keep their guns locked up, or in a bedside drawer.
I'm not yet a gun owner, but I'm definitely going to get one eventually. I don't want to be on the wrong side of the river Styx when the U.S. becomes a tyrannical military state (but that's just me).
All citizens should have access to some kind of firearm. Gun safety and education should be way more prevalent here.
Put metal detectors at schools, not just court houses, town halls, and other gov't facilities.
Schools are being targeted for a reason. It's a horrible and not so clever conspiracy to get us to voluntarily give away our right to protect ourselves from an ever-growing government.

Don't get too comfortable, and don't be too trusting of our system.

>>9788188
This

>ugh customs charges on burando suck, I almost wish I lived somewhere we didn’t have to deal with this like the US...
>read this thread
>haha okay nvm

>>9788002
So an Aussie outbid you on your dream dress huh?

>>9786885
You can't use Google translate or any translate when the text is part of an image instead of in the webpage. A bunch of Taobao shops have done this so I totally guessed on what size to buy, they should have posted sizes in the description, not the images

>>9788464
You can use google translate on images, anon.

>>9788469
I have tried but can't get the cursor on my phone to select the text in the image. Do you have to be on desktop or what? I am using chrome with a translate extension, it not only won't translate the image text but I can't copy and paste it either

>>9788476
Use the app.

>>9788126
preeeeeeetty sure everyone still wanks over those two girls. If you want to bring race into it, black/south american girls get the worst crit due to their race. Or if you're talking about people who get the most crit in lolita regardless, fat people do.
Your point is extremely misguided.

>>9787097
>Can we make it a rule that newbie lolitas are absolutely not allowed to see dresses till they can get a grasp on the fashion?
Nooooooo let them see the dresses! I used to dress rockabilly and was also guilty of thinking that any normie dress with a full or circle skirt was ok for lolita. It wasn't until I actually got real lolita dresses to look at and try on that I realized they're different. They're cut different, they sit different, and you really do need a different shape petticoat for them as opposed to vintage/rockabilly styles. Being able to see dresses in person opened my eyes and made me a better lolita.

>>9788565
I think anon meant "sew" rather than "see"

>>9787872
Yes. If someone tries to rob my house, I'm blowing them away.

>>9788565
> when you read the typo as a litteral meaning
> let me blow up about how ita I am

You made me laugh anon. That was obviously supposed to be “sew” and not “see”.
P.s. rockabilly fashion is tacky and you should be ashamed that you even consider it fashion. Only fat girls like it like you do.

>>9788782
I knew a fat girl who said she liked rockabilly more than lolita because she couldn't fit into lolita, so..true

Maybe if you didn't go into a fashion looking to break all the rules, you wouldn't look like snail shit every time

>>9790907
Pic very related

>>9790907
You don’t break lolita rules, you bend them. And it takes skill at the original rules to learn how to bend them.

>>9790907
>>9790914
>what rule do you just HAVE to break
>proceeds to break all of them
Holy shit

>>9787304
Yeah bitch it’s called Lolibrary

>>9788504
South American lolitas get tons of crit because they’re usually ita as fuck and buy replicas. I can only think of one or two South American lolitas (one might be Mexican, I forgot) who can dress themselves, and the rest are notoriously ita. It has nothing to do with race (“South American” isn’t a race).

>>9788803
A friend of mine once tried to get me into rockabilly but we literally could not find a single dress that wasn’t like 10cm too big for me in the waist. I’m super average.

>>9791058
Mexican/South American women like tacky clothing in general (I know because I am Mexican)
So when they try to dress up in lolita it looks awful

>>9790907
One of the biggest itas in my comm commented that she breaks rules often because she wears lolita every day.
>every coord / photo I’ve ever seen her in was OTT and she’s said before that she doesn’t do toned down styles
>she always does really heavy clownish “creepy doll” makeup
>she often talks about how much her elementary school-aged son hates it when she wears lolita
Ay dios mío

I sometimes get the feeling that people lie about being daily lolitas because they think it gives them street cred and it’s not like we can really verify it, and in this case I really hope she’s exaggerating. I mean if you wear it every day surely you’d improve over time? Right?
It’s like those people who claim to have been a lolita from birth but still dress like shit. If you have that much experience but still can’t coord it’s not something to brag about?

>>9788782
>>9788803
>>9791058
I see people dressed in rockabilly sort of stuff around my neighborhood pretty often (I live by a bunch of bars and restaurants in East Nashville), every single girl is the same size and shape as my refrigerator and is covered with tattoos.

>>9791100
Are you in the TN comm?

>>9791101
Haha no I am a vile crossboarder and a man. There’s a few threads on here that I find super entertaining, but I generally try not to post. I couldn’t help myself in this instance though. I try not to rag on peoples’ style, my own could probably best be described as “I’ve given up” -core, but I have an extreme distaste for all the phony Americana shit that is so prevalent here, of which I’d consider rockabilly to be a part.

I’ve never seen any lolitas or jfashion enthusiasts around town actually, although I don’t frequent tea shops or gardens or any of the places I would assume y’all conduct meets. I would be happy if I did, it’s really cute.

I won’t shit up your thread any longer, though. Happy gossiping!

There was a post on instagram I saw earlier but forgot to cap it and I forgot the girl's page, but she made some long post about why she's not allowed in the sydney comm anymore because she trusted some girl.
Deets? Sorry for not being able to provide any, I'm just curious and I forgot to cap.

>>9791166
A crossboarder thats here to not shit up the board and derail threads? What is this? Am I dreaming?

>>9791100

>mfw my friend is getting into rockabilly and everything is so fucking massive on her 130 lb 5'10 self

I want to take everything, burn it, and dress her in some nice VM instead.

Hell, I even do vintage fashion myself, but rockabilly is the vile ita cousin of actual vintage.

>>9791166
You have good taste for a crossboarder.

>>9787304
I particularly appreciate her complete lack of understanding of what databases are

>>9791100
In California we used to joke that rockabilly is where fat goths go to die. I do love me some rockabilly music though

>>9791265
I mean, *technically* I'm a crossboarder since cgl got me into both jfash and cosplay for real (knew what it is but didn't have the balls) after I started hanging out on /b/ like all the edgy kids, and these days I still watch 1 or 2 other boards
there's probably plenty of crossboarders around who are perfectly sane and rational, the trolls/raiders are a different story

>>9791840
she's actually fucking making it though and it infuriates me that nobody told her not to

>>9791923
I don’t think it’s the fact that there’s other crossboarders here. But it’s the fact that you say you’re a crossboarder and are not doing it to get a rise from people like the raiders and trolls. They make it painfully obvious that they are not frequenters of this board and often share they are from another board by how “ easy it is to troll this board”

>>9791923
>she's actually fucking making it though and it infuriates me that nobody told her not to
A lolibrary admin commented on that thread pretty quickly, and asked if she wanted exported data grouped by year and she said "no"... It's fascinating

>>9787971
That’s exactly right, except that we already have gun licenses in place. There just needs to be more thorough background checks and important people (parents, doctors) giving the person the OK to buy one.

>>9787804
You must not have to worry about the cartel invading your area.

>>9788188
god damn this thread is /x/ as fuck.

can't believe there hasn't been mention of mk ultra yet considering a school shooting just happened again.

How you FL lolitas feeling these days? Pretty safe?

>>9792985
I mean /cgl/ is full of paranoid schizophrenics, so it's not really that shocking

>>9792266
People keep mentioning licenses like it's the answer to our prayers - but people get drivers licences all the time who should NOT have them. So many car accidents from people who had to pass TWO tests and a vision test.

You can't stop bad things from happening. Just accept your fate.

>>9792986
>schizophrenics
and much like /x/, you don't seem to grasp the meaning of what that is.

or is that your joke?
succubus too obvious for you?

>>9792989
it's a joke anon, jesus christ what is up with /cgl/ these days

anyone else here struggling by being the only one who can actually afford shit within their friends group/comm?

When people suggest meets just to smoke marijuana....,

No thanks. I prefer my clothes to not smell like shit.........

>>9793092
I’d prefer if they kept it to separate meets actually. Cigarettes too. It always disgusts me when someone just lights up in the middle of the group and gets pissy when she’s asked to move downwind. Sorry we don’t want our expensive clothes to smell like lung cancer?

>>9792209
I mean, in the four years I've been here, it's definitely gotten a lot younger and dumber here - shit is shut down way slower, people are so easily triggered (see >>9792999 for an example in action), mods/jans are slowly getting worse and worse, and persistent namefags and trolls are allowed to run loose. it is annoying me a lot and I would jokingly say the board is dying if it didn't make me feel sad saying it

>>9792218
why do things the simple and accurate way if you can go about them as stupid as possible

>>9793129
What? I just genuinely wanted to know why this board has gotten so bad, I've been having way too many weird interactions here than usual. RIP all the threads that have gotten derailed to death these past months

>>9793092
>smoking green in lolita
That's the only thing that smells. I do dabs all the time and it's very faint and goes away pretty fast.

Vape pens also don't smell as much and don't smell anything like regular flower does.

t.someone who does it legally

>>9792999
Oh my god. Can you not read?
I even mentioned succubus. That's the joke. Do you even go on /x/?? If you did you'd get the joke.

>>9793129
Not triggered by anything other than most gulls seem to be shut inside of cgl and don't go to other boards and then act like morons when confronted with typical board culture.

What are you doing on 4chan if you don't know the lingo?

Perhaps it's all the fucking normie lolitas from FB dropping in here lately. You can tell they don't know what the fuck is going on around here.

>>9793172
I really don’t care about the legality (it’s legal in the area). I just think smoking of any kind is gross. Particularly in lolita

>>9793176
>I just think smoking of any kind is gross
Then don't go to those meets?

I seriously don't get people like you.
I don't like beans but you don't see me standing in front of taco trucks shaming people or telling them they're gonna have atrocious farts so everyone should steer clear.

>>9793197
I don’t go to those meets. I’m just being a salty bitch on a meme board. Isn’t that what we’re here for?

>>9793203
I'm sorry you only had one other anon who you had this hatred in common with.

Also, you went straight for the "idc if it's legal" shit when I explained that there are forms of smoking that don't reek.
I only mentioned its legal where I live cause that is the reason I know of all the different forms.

Would you go to a meet where everyone did edibles?

>>9793092
Is this really a thing?

>>9793211
It is. I've only been to one but I smoke in my brand all the time. The smell of weed doesn't linger like cigarette smoke does.

I seriously doubt there are cig meets. Or any other kind of drug meets. Weed is just commonly known for being a social drug like booze.

>>9793167
>>9793174
nevermind that was a bad example lol

I just don't get why people are intentionally stirring up really pointless nitpicky shit under the guise of joking
I miss when every thread didn't get derailed with completely irrelevant /pol/ talk or /tumblr/ wordpolicing shit or obviously trolling namefags
4chan used to be the place to come to for laughing at that type of people, but it seems most everyone here is an absolute snowflake now

>>9793228
Me too. It's especially bad the last year or so, I don't know what the problem is.

>>9793210
NAYRT, but I would totally go to an edible meet.

>>9793210
>>9793231
I've been to a private meet where someone brought edibles. It was a pretty good time and nothing smelled like weed afterwards.

>>9793174
>do you even go on x??

Lmao last time I visited that board was when slender man was barely becoming popular, relax anon

>>9793228
I just think that's how more and more people are becoming. You should probably get used to it.

>>9793211
I didn't know it was but now I want to go to one

From the old school group on FB.

kek

>>9794905
? What's wrong with this?

>>9794919
Someone's making a video about how to wear old school lolita, and asked people to submit pictures so she can use to show both how to and how NOT to coord old school lolita. Apparently, too many people submitting their pictures were asking to only be used as good examples UwU

>>9794920
Oh. I was going to say that I get not wanting to be shown as a "wrong" example but I'd expect people in this fashion to be a little more thick skinned; and then I remembered the community is widely littered with whiny pissbabies crying about mean elitist bullies uwu
I'm curious about this video but I'd hate to see the shit flinging that will ensue when one of the "wrong" examples starts crying about it.

I'm sure this was innocent, but oh my god

>>9796106
Everyone knows that bloomers are worn over your thong diapers.

So is anyone else skeeved the fuck out by that Harumi chick in the RC twin thread or is it just me?

>>9796106
>absolutely no sign of logical thinking
>"undies"
Was this posted by an adult?

>>9796137
lmao

>>9796158
Probably just another autist, she seems harmless enough.

I think the real highlight of the thread has gotta be the comment from VR. Most of us are already bothered enough that just one of you exists lmao

>>9796197
>when non-lolitas comment on lolita-related posts, not knowing a damn thing about the fashion nor the subculture

>>9796174
I think it’s a commonwealth thing. I’ve heard plenty of non-American adults use “undies”.

I've been setting this up for some time as a pet project. reddit.com/r/lolitafashion

It has automatically scheduled daily, weekly, monthly posts (ootd, discussion, questions, free for all). Posts can be flaired (tagged) and searched by tag. Tag suggestions welcome. Users can set their own flair so you can write a little meme about brand next to your username or advertise your social media. Of course leddit has anonymity, upvoting, and downvoting. Beginner spam questions will be deleted as well as anything remotely suspicious like that sissy post on r/lolita. Reddit has a built-in wiki system, which will be set up someday as an FAQ/resource guide. If you think the theme looks like shit then when you log in go to preferences, uncheck custom themes. Next thing I wanted to do was fix colors for tags and add a schedule on the sidebar showing upcoming events for brands.

Should I set up auto-scheduled dream dress/BST threads? I wasn't sure how much was too much.

>>9796197
Maybe it’s because I have a twin but her comments feel very fetishistic to me. Like she’s one step away from asking people in that thread if they sleep in the same bed and ‘cuddle’ with their twin like they do in her lewd~ mangas uwu
>tfw we’ve actually been asked this before by creepy older men

BMT is on the CoF thread trying to get sympathy

>>9796332
Fuck that sounds like a dream come true. I hope you do it and people actually come.

>>9796106
No, they are going commando, silly. /s
But on serious matter, of course lolitas wear underwear under the bloomers/pettycoats/skirts etc. A lolita would sacrifice their limb rather than have their coord tarnished.

>>9796332
This sounds great anon. Maybe do more auto threads once the community has grown a bit? Then you can ask active users if its something they want.

>>9796876

>>9796332
Yes please. The existing Lolita sub is absolute trash and I'm not even sure if the mods of that sub are active on Reddit or give a shit.

>>9796197
Is it just me or does Rufflechat seem to have a huge influx of non lolitas with babies recently butting into every discussion?

Also people who post dumb ass replies to threads that have nothing to do with the question, or just to post a counter to it? For example if someone asks about a gothic lolita thing they will take the actual time an effort to comment "well I'm a sweet lolita so I don't know anything about that because I only like Angelic Pretty."

>>9796876

>>9797152
Who even is she? Why do these people not realize that posting about this will only draw more fire their way? Just shut up about it and people will forget about you in a day's time.

>>9797152
Loves how she came in to WK herself in the cof thread while trying to convince everyone that she's ""not bothered"", but then pulls this pity party crap. Not surprised that she didn't actually comprehend any of the advice she was given, but yikes.

>>9797152
Is this the confetti club as in Jillian's confetti club? That's still a thing?

>>9797178
Unfortunately, very much so, there's even a thread on lolcow dedicated to the Confetti Club themselves

>>9797152
Whomever screenshot this, thank you.

>>9797178
Not even the main cc but the "clinic". So confetti club x munchausens.

>>9796887
>>9797122
Sorry if my post was confusing, but it's already done - up and running! It just needs users, and I'm hesitant to spam it around and attract non-lolitas. I'm hoping it will organically grow.

>>9796950
Good call. I'll wait for the userbase to grow before having the automod flood it with empty threads.

>>9793128
I hate that too
I don't mind too much if someone smokes near me usually, it's a bit annoying, but it's whatever. But when I'm having a conversation with another lolita and they just start smoking I feel super gross. Don't ash near me!

>>9796332
I think the ootd thread may be too frequent. Maybe have the post once a week so it doesn't clog up the page?
But following and will try to be active!

>>9797186

>>9797254
Wine mom-chan

>>9793172
Even then the weed smell dissipates after a few hours.
But yeah dabbing in lolita doesn't smell like anything usually. Depending on what you're dabbing it could smell like flowers or fruit. Wooo legal states!

>>9797254
That BMT girl is trouble, I could smell it from the first time I saw her post somewhere.

>>9796174
im from australia and undies is the default word for underwear here so it's not that weird, like nobody says panties or anything else really

>>9793092
DESU if it's a meet just for that, who gives a shit? The smell fades quickly (max an hour if you aren't hotboxing somewhere) and obviously people who aren't into it wouldn't be there.

>>9787783
The system is more crack than system at this point.

>>9800271
Not really. It’s just the NRA making things difficult to regulate the issues with guns. They fight for the right of people to have them, but turn a blind eye to the problems that come up reguarding them. They do not want to admit that stricter laws or even a bg check would help prevent mentally unstable people of getting them. As far as they are concerned, mentally unstable people have a right to owning a semi auto assault rifle as any one else. They don’t see the issue with a guy not taking his lithium for a week owning a gun. It’s the doctors fault for not making sure he took his meds. Not the non existent regulations of obtaining a weapon.

>>9797280
Whine mom-chan

>>9800669
She’s still whining on every comment section, go away!

>>9800683
Just ignore it. that way it won’t bother you so much.

Is it too much to hope they'll stay gone

>>9801241
It's really shitty that lolitas sent threats to Simplicity that they bailed out as a sponsor. Simplicity sponsored Rufflecon and helped fund it. Then everyone got their bloomers in a bunch when you accused Simplicity of "theft".

Lolitas killed Rufflecon.

>>9800709
Why do you want it to stay gone?

>>9801241
Fuck you.
I really enjoyed Rufflecon, even with the hiccups. NA sucks for lolita events.

>>9801417
Why wasn't that drama handled privately? Simplicity should have been given the opportunity to do right before being dragged.

>>9801470
I think you replied to the wrong comment Anon

>>9801502
Wow I certainly did.

>>9801489
I think it was handled as privately as it could have been. Lolitas were all buy calling for blood when they found out.

>>9801241
Why do lolitas kill everything?

>>9801516
Low effort meme, bc I'm at work but you get the idea.

>>9801241
I'm not sorry to see the con gone, but deleting all the photos and videos instead of just archiving their sm is a punch in the face to the vendors and guests.

>>9801588
Even Frill which ended in a drama implosion and fight between the organizers didn't delete their FB

Soooo is someone gonna call out age play chan posting in that Lolita Humor post or nah?

>>9801752

>>9801758
Hope she crawls back into whatever swamp she came from

>>9801762
Can someone remove her? She’s generally rude, even minus the age playin crap

>>9801765
>>9801758
Bless you all.

>>9792981
I live in a border town, so yeah, im keeping my guns. It must be nice to not have to worry about our troubbled southern neighboors...

>>9801765
I'm gonna message a mod and ask if she can be taken out of the group but its unlikely with how weak most groups are at keeping kinksters away

>>9801758
>>9801765
Thank god we're more open on calling out age players now.

>>9801758
>>9801765
can we just, as a community, shun people like this publicly? This girl think she's acceptable because "muh disclaimers" but seriously any form of public/lifestyle kink is vile. lolita involved or not.

>>9801780
L also claimed that shes stopped using lolita tags on her posts but she still does, hope her diaper thong ass gets booted

>>9801794

>>9801799
Uhhh

>>9801800
""Not 18+""

>>9801802
Wow they’re ugly

>>9801799
Somebody gotta dumb this shit down for her toddler brain?

>>9801802
>those disgusting socks

>>9801802
Why the FUCK would someone post this. DO they have jobs...? Does their family know?

Final caps before she bawwleted lmao (1/2)

Sadly shes still in the group

>>9801838
(2/2)

>>9801752
>can't even get 100% cotton or a good polyester blend baka
>she thinks wool, cotton, and acrylic blends are somehow bad for cardigans
i knit and her retardation triggers me. not only is she an age player, but she talks out of her ass to pretend she has high standards lmao

>>9801842
Her socks probably "don't last more than 3 wears" because of daddies cummies ruining them

So the other local comm thread got deleted. So update to syd comm drama. All mods stepped down (finally) and now the last remaining mod is taking ‘suggestions’ to improve the comm. When will they realise we want out of their control not a stupid suggestion box.

>>9801879

Sounds like you got the step down you wanted. Now to elect new mods?

>>9801881
I can only think of one or two people that might be able to run the comm but the rest.. I'm not quite sure.

>>9801879
Is Australia just on fire right now?

>>9801890

Gets rid of the spiders don't you know.

>>9801894
And the snakes.

>>9801901
>>>>because these things are totally the same

>>9801902
and the age players

>>9801901
Why are cross dressing and age play kink suddenly on the same level?

>>9801890
Probably. I like when someone throws bait to hating Australia and they come out with their pitchforks and boomerangs to defend themselves. I’m guilty of posting such bait purely for my own amusement. They always bite without fail.

>>9801901
The real highlight is Dev acting as if she isn't an age player herself, nobodys forgotten those caps lmao

>>9801879
So the suggestion box has some bullshit options to choose from. None of them about electing new mods. Wtf is raise morale???? Btw the second question is ‘what is your suggestion’ what a laugh.

>>9802034
> Prevent future accidents
Teehee, it was an accident *insert cute pose* doesn’t cut it in the real world. Is it really an “accident” if a mod chooses to ignore you?

Can someone update me on the Sydney comm drama. I know mods stepped down but why?!?!

>>9781664
To be fair, the SOL comm is trash anyway.

>>9801901

Made your own thread so you stop shitting up other threads making it impossible to talk about other things.

>>9802183
>>9802183
>>9802183

>>9802100
Not sure if they all "stepped down" but they are currently removed as admins and the whole group is frozen by the creator of the group

>>9781514
It got more cancerous. The Aussies invaded it.

>>9801802
Fucking pedos need to be shot

>>9801952
Dammit toni.

>>9801799
she's still in the group, has anyone messaged the admins?

>>9801908
Maybe she was thinking of sissies

>>9802466
I did, no response. I stg if they don't kick her out

>>9801758
>>9801765
>>9801838
>>9801839
I'm so proud of the people that called her out. We, as in the general lolita community, need to start shaming these fuckers out of our fashion again.
Is she a part of any comm? If she is, I hope she's kicked out of there too.

>>9802767
She's in Australia iirc, hopefully she's not in any of the comms there

>>9802238
take a nice big deep breath in. hold...2..3. and out.

>>9801952
I wanna see them desu

>>9803324
Merry capmas

>>9787734
You’re an idiot, there’s nothing wrong here. This was also on her wall, it’s not like it has anything to do with comm shit.

>>9791166
You’re just lovely.

>>9793214
Meth meets

>>9803332
Thanks lovely

>>9802100
A mod announced on her personal FB page that she got removed as a mod and the other mods told her that this was not negotiable and they wouldn't tell her the reason why.

Then a series of posts happened:

Mod 1 posts on Sydney lolita FB page claiming that they asked the removedmod to take a break from modding considering that she was recently hospitalised from mental health issues, and there was miscommunication and removedmod thought it was permanent and freaked out at them then blocked them. A bitchfest ensues in the comments line where friend of removedmod says Mod1 harrassed removedmod by constantly messaging her until removedmod was told to block them.

Mod 2 posts on the sydney lolita fb page saying she was the one who told removedmod to step down, and it wasn't just the mental health issues thing, removedmod knows exactly why this is happening, the decision was unanimous by the mod team, removedmod is being selfish and manipulative, and is making a scene pretending to elicit sympathy. Another fight ensues in comments, Mod 2 is accused of triggering an episode that caused removedmod to check into hospital by calling removedmod selfish and immature. Further down the thread it turns out the decision wasn't unanimous - Mod3 was absent or excluded.

A member asks if the comm can hold an election to replace the mods. Mod3, who hadn't posted anything till this point, says this option was discussed and was rejected. Mod2 says a popularity competition was exactly what caused this situation to occur in the first place, and replies were frozen.

Mod 2 announces in her personal FB page she is stepping down because she cannot deal with all the childish people.

Mod 1 does a short update to the pinned events post and then steps down as mod.

Mod 4 deletes all the other postings, and has put up that suggestions box post.

>>9803396
We still don’t have receipts on removedmods manipulative behaviour

>>9803396

You're forgetting master manipulator mod 5 pulling the strings behind the scenes.

>>9803405
Well, reading up on what both parties are saying privately, it seems the "manipulative behaviour" basically is referring to the process that led to the removedmod's being removed.

As far as I can tell, some group that may or may not involve the majority of the rest of the mod team already ganged up on removedmod before, and removedmod's reaction was to announce on her fb that she checked herself into hospital and that she's not going to receive any messages for a while.

It seems basically the rest of the modteam's attitude is "well if she can't even handle an issue being raised to the point she checks herself into hospital and blocks our messages/calls, how can we work with her as a mod".

>>9803427
her reaction really depends on how the group that 'may or may be the rest of the mods' conducted themselves then.

>>9803425
If by Mod5 you are referring to L, it seems that both she and removedmod were either warned/ganged up on at the same time or over the same issue, and L shut up but removedmod reacted very badly to it.

Knowing most of the parties involved personally, I can say this: Mod2 is/was actually the one who did the down and dirty work of running the comm because she is one of the few people actually involved in most of the comm's cliques. She was also the person to go to if you had a complaint about a mod.

This is also why I hate the way the comm is being run by cliques and exclusive meets. People are obviously discussing things and making decisions about things that should not have been made in that setting.

The long-brewing move to ouster removedmod that Mod3 was not part of, because Mod3 is not part of that clique, the fact that Mod L (who is part of both cliques) was given a chance/confronted under less aggressive circumstances compared to removedmod - I mean seriously how fucked up would the confrontation have to be to send someone to hospital ._.

Also, reference to popularity contest - Mod3 (who was removed from the decision to ouster removedmod) and removedmod were the only mods who were elected by popular vote into the comm, and that might be what Mod2 is referring to.

>>9803425
>>9803436
Also to add to that, for whatever reason, Mod L seems to now have cut ties with removedmod and gone over to the other group. Mod L was curiously absent from removedmod's prolific postings of her meeting up with friends etc.

>>9803436
Mental health and ousting drama aside, was removedmod actually a good mod? Benign but useless? To me it seems like there were too many mods. Do you actually need that many? Three seems good enough. Burn it all and start over again, whoever actually ran (decent) events should be on top. They only need one or two helpers.

>>9803443

Wasn't removedmod perceived to be the more active of the 5 mods? Including Mod2, who nobody knew and she had to reintroduce herself to her own comm. Not sure what dirty work >>9803436 is referring to unless she's doing some Russian-esque behind the scenes work, since no one really fucking knows who she is before she flounced.

>>9803443
The problem isn't so much 'too many mods' the problem was more like every mod had to bring in the opinions of their friendship groups and cliques? IDK how other comms run, but basically being a mod in Syd comm just means "this person is the one to throw money at/ask stupid questions about the next meet".

Mod 3 is very organised and ran a lot of meets. Mod L, for all her flaws, did organise and run several meets, and even if you cynically believe "yeah that's just so she could deliver her SS business orders personally" it's still better than no meet at all.

Removedmod is a lovely girl, but ultimately she didn't fit into the ruling body at all? The fact that removedmod is Japanese really helped set the stage for and I understand she did a lot of the legwork with the RinRin Doll/Takuya Angel high tea meet. But she did a lot of dumb things as well.

>>9803445
I think saying "nobody knew" Mod2 is stretching the words by a fair bit. Mod2 is probably one of the oldest/founding members of the comm. She does attend the exclusive meets. The reaction happening on /cgl/ isn't to be believed.

>>9803449
That actually sounds like it's a really nuanced situation and it's sad that it devolved into character assassination. I'm in a big city comm, the few mods just do the few big ticketed, logistically difficult events and don't really worry about anything else. The members themselves host all of the other "easy" meetups which are usually things like museum, restaurant, garden outing. Not sure how other comms do it. I hope you guys sort it out, the crux of the issue seemingly being mods not working in tandem but acting independently. The whole point of a mod team is for it to be a TEAM.

>>9803454

This isn't /cgl/ twisting words. She literally said herself she no longer attends meets.

I don't care if she only attends private meets with her friends, but at that point it seems weird that she represents a comm she does not know very personally.

>>9803458
In sydney comm no regular member would host a meet because it would be boycotted by private/exclusive meets. Sometimes someone well established in a certain circle or clique might 'open' their meet up to the comm after having planned everything down with their social circle.

>>9803464
I guess as one of the oldest members she felt a responsibility to the comm? She actively communicates with a lot of comm members even if she does not physically turn up to a lot of meets.

>>9803464
>>9803454
can we all agree "exclusive meets" are stupid and people need to learn to just call it hanging out with your friends

>>9803475
... but that's kind of the thing, it's obviously just not hanging out with your friends. Do you dress in full lolita and take dozens of outfit shots to post on instagram if it's just hanging out with your friends? It's people purposely scheduling their own gatherings to clash with a public meet day.

>>9803473
>no regular member would host a meet because it would be boycotted

It just sounds like they weren't brave enough to just fucking do it. There will always be cliques and lolitas hanging out without you. I'm the big city comm-anon and sometimes I just want to go to the cafe with a couple other girlfriends and not attract a spectacle. To be quite honest the cliqueless members just need to grow a spine and start hosting cool events at cool places and grow their own little cliques from there.

>>9803478
>Do you dress in full lolita and take dozens of outfit shots to post on instagram if it's just hanging out with your friends

And I have to add, yes...yes I do...that's what you do if you're a lifestyle lolita.

>>9803478
>... but that's kind of the thing, it's obviously just not hanging out with your friends. Do you dress in full lolita and take dozens of outfit shots to post on instagram if it's just hanging out with your friends? It's people purposely scheduling their own gatherings to clash with a public meet day.

Yeah, if you have lolita friends.

>>9803480
It has been done it the past many times where regular members organise casual meetups. Only a handful of people ever show up and often there will be "exclusive meets" coincidentally on the same day.

>>9803480
>and not attract a spectacle
There were girls driven out of the comm in the past where the cliques would initially say "yes" to the meet, then from a few days before would duck out saying they were sick or had work conflicts or whatever, then post instas of their group outfit shots posing together and talking about the awesome event they all attended.

Like yeah sometimes I want to go to the cafe with a couple other friends. I don't post all about how that was more awesome than the meet held at the same time that I said no to though.

>>9803484
What's wrong with hanging out with those handful of people? Are you so obsessed with this clique that you desperately want their validation? Go to the public meet, dress as cute as you can, take lots of pictures and fucking enjoy yourself.

You will never be able to force anyone to like you. However you can attract other newbies that could be potential amazing lolita buddies if you stopped your desperation and focusing on others. Do you think you can ban people from hanging out together, seriously? You're taking the wrong approach here.

>>9803481
>>9803482
And you and your lolita friends, they have to coincidentally just meet up at the SAME day your comm members announce a meet?

>>9803478
>do you dress in full lolita and take dozens of photos to post on Instagram?

Uh yeah? My instagram isn’t controlled by my comms group. I’m in a larger comm myself and people do this all the time. It’s not a weird occurrence that a group of friends go out to tea together and hang out. It’s what friends do. You look cute? Take a picture. Like the picture? Post it to Instagram because no matter what you tell yourself, you love the attention of random people liking your shit on the internet.

Even if you plan a meet outside of a public meet, it’s okay. Some people don’t like the venue, the food, don’t get along with someone attending, or simply don’t like large crowds because it draws a lot of attention. You don’t HAVE to go to the public meets if you don’t want. You CAN make a meet for your friends on the side becaue you would rather be more relaxed around those you are comfortable with then worried how to handle yourself around people you don’t know too well.

>>9803487

I'm >>9803482 and no, I wouldn't. I'm currently not in a comm due to location circumstances, but I love meeting new lolitas. It sucks Sydney has to be that way. I hope you guys sort your problems soon enough.

>>9803487
No, and they're intentionally being dicks.

Why do you want to be friends with dicks? Go to the public meet and present yourself well so you can make your own clique. Be the change that you want to be.

I repeat, do you think you can force them to stop? Ban people from flaking on meets? Ban people from hanging out together on days that meets are held? Please answer this question. Cliques will ALWAYS EXIST. You can't defeat them by shading them online. You can only find your own happiness and live better than them.

>>9803486
Yes, generally when you are involved in a lolita community, you do want the validation and support of its admins and mods. That doesn't make the other anon or me "desperate".

>>9803495
They clearly don't want to hang out with you, though. How do you propose they stop thinking this way?

>>9803497

Then they need to fucking step down as mods. Why the fuck be a leader of a group you don't respect?

>>9803500
Okay, let's say they step down. The next group of mods comes along. They gain power and friends. Oh look, now they've started making cliques. Now what?

Make your own clique. Stop worrying about others. It seems like sydney already imploded and the mods stepped down so I'm not sure what you're complaining about exactly.

>>9803487
nayrt but my comm is large and plans meets in the middle of the day. I work nights and know many girls only have free time in the evenings. This is the group of Lolitas I hang out with and we plan meets that go along the same day as the large public ones. Ones in the day, and ones in the evening becuase those attending the public meet have expressed they do not want to meet after 4 pm. That’s good for them, but we are not going to miss out on a time out with eachother because we couldn’t attend a meet that happened at noon. We just plan a smaller one we know we will enjoy and attend later in the evening. It’s nothing bad. We only invite those we know would enjoy the meet. It’s not exclusion of memebers. It’s making sure members can all enjoy the fashion while doing things they enjoy with people they enjoy being around.

>>9803486
I'm not sure what your point is, anon said people are too spineless to hold their own public meets. I'm just saying thats clearly not the case. Which part of this is obsessively needing their validation?

>>9803500
So you’re saying mods can’t have friends and hang out with their friends? Man you must be lonely if you think this is why they have their own meets.

>>9803502
>>9803500
>>9803497
I think you guys are just arguing amongst each other now.
>>9803506
Mods can have friends. Mods can't have friends they hang out with and discuss moderation policy about ousting other mods while boycotting the meets of the comm they're supposed to be moderating.

>>9803502
The problem here is that if you're going to be a mod, the whole point is to organise events?
If you want to constantly organise exclusive meets with your friends, why did you even take on the mod role? I have no issue with individual members hanging out with their friends but as a mod you have a certain level of responsibility. Its hard to form any kind of community culture when it seems like your supposed comm 'leaders' are concerned with boosting their own popularity and not the greater wellbeing and bonding of the community.

>>9803504
The way they were posting implied they wanted to force the cliques to stop the behavior and come join them instead. I rescind my assumptions about them wanting validation, it genuinely seemed like that but clearly they were just upset at the sabotage.

The sabotage was a dick move, but I still believe that doesn't stop anyone from hosting a neat little event somewhere without huge expectations. Even if only one other girl comes that's a potential new lolita best friend.

Arguing aside the mods have stepped down, haven't they? The people that are upset at the situation should put themselves in for running at this point. If they don't, nothing will change.

>>9803510
I do agree with you. The mods seemed like dicks - dicks that seemingly put in the work though. It's up to you to make sure that more competent people can take up the reins now.

>>9803509
What happened to Sydney comm was a mod shit fest. That I’ll give you. But a mod isn’t required to attend public meets. The mod is only required to be a third party to help in conflict. Or be the representative of a group without the whole group being present aka the voice. A mod isn’t required to attend s open meet if they planned it. The group wanted the meet, and the mod made it happen for them. A mod is not paid to do such things, so they are not under any binding contract to attend meets they planned for the whole group of they don’t want to. If they couldn’t attend because of their life getting in the way you wouldn’t think of it, but they don’t attend and attend a private meet with their closest friends and you come screaming about how bad a mod they are? You sound more jelly then concerned.

>>9803537
Mods should not be discussing moderation topics with their "closest friends" who are not mods themselves. Mods are supposed to be impartial third parties.

And no, mods should not boycott meets held by other members of the comm because - guess what - they should be impartial third parties. Have your private meets! Just don't hold them at the same time as public meets and don't discuss modding stuff in them! Why is this such a difficult concept to understand?

If you don't like that idea and want to continue on about how jelly I am to deflect off what a shit mod you are, feel free to continue to do so.

>>9803572
I’m not a mod, and I’m not in your comm. I did say what happened in Sydney is a shit fest and never said talking about mod stuff with non mods was okay. Your putting words where they never existed. There is no rule saying you can’t hve a meet at the same time as another meet. It obviously ruffles your bloomers that people would rather have another meet and not invite you. I mean, yeah you have a right to be. But it’s also not your place to tell people they can’t do something because you where not invited.

But please keep cherry picking what I say to fit your triggered rant. It’s amusing none the less how mad you are that you’re not invited to every single meet your comm has.

>>9803572
How do you know they’re talking about mod topics at these meets?

I also don’t think it’s boycotting if they simply don’t want to attend some meets. They aren’t actively encouraging other people to not attend (ie. an actual boycott)

>>9803572
There's no contract to keep mod stuff strictly to mods only either. You're only a shit mod if you use the position to influence your friendships and boost your own popularity. But sure, attend private meets with your friends only; why not chill without modding duties getting in the way for once?
There's always going to be cliques and shit; you don't have to be friends with everyone as a mod or member.

New Thread for Kawaii international contest results?

I guess Lolita Updates sort of counts as an online comm?
Why do people feel the need to post this kind of stuff on LU posts? Like sure 3F's designs can be odd, but surely there's another way to question a weird design without sounding like you're 12?

>>9803618
I wonder what private meetups are being referred to here. The old clique hasn't actively met in lolita for years aside from various weddings. Removedmods clique is the more active clique group and associated with businesses that play some role in the dramafest.
My choice to avoid public meets in Sydney is centred around how elaborate they tend to be. This is consistent with others with chronic pain. It's always a tea party/photo shoot/raffle/trekking across the city, or a picnic/powerpoint presentation/scavenger hunt, or it's in the middle of a crowded con.

Proof that money can’t buy a good coordinate

>>9809134
Money can't buy style or taste.

>>9782111
Girl code, anon. Exes are off-limits.

>>9809134
but what coord is it

>>9809182
Her parents bought her all her brand at AP paris, so the dress itself probably cost £700.

>>9782111
Most people don't want to see their ex with someone else for a while after they break up. Having your friend be the 'new person' in your ex's life would make you feel like shit.
Maybe you don't have morals, idk. That's how I see it.

>>9782848
How did I get vetted and kicked from the group a week later, but she managed to stay? I didn't really post, but a week? C'mon.
Damn.

>>9801952
'interesting information'
What, she's been running psychology experiments on the ageplay community as well as being a dog whelper, EMT and a waitress? All while being a man who gets mistaken for a 16 year old girl?
Wowee

>>9809197
Nayrt. But there’s some girls in my community I would die laughing if they got with my ex. That why I’ll never have to see their face again.

>>9809269
I thought for sure my ex was going to get with a girl in my comm cause they were friends from cosplay but it didn't happen.
I wanted to see if tho cause she's fucking tall and he's a manlet. Would have been hilarious.

>>9809204
Don't forget martial arts expert

>>9803510
The point of being a mod isnt to organize events, its to keep an eye on comm pages and deal with problems (ex. People who shouldnt be in the comm page, scalpers, general ne'er-do-wells). Their job is not event organization. If you want an event, fucking plan it. Don't leave it for someone else to do. Their job is to step in if there's an issue between two people in the group and be a mediator.

If youre sad because other people keep making their own events and not inviting you, but maybe look internally to why that might be. Step up and stop whining, make yourself a more interesting person, and plan your own interesting meet so maybe you can make some friends too.

>>9782029
link expired

>>9809918
>Their job is not event organization
Says who? They better say that themselves otherwise- it might be expected of them.

>>9810341
Says literally anyone in a comm that's sane. I've seen some anons posting in past comm threads and claiming that only mods can host meetups in their comms, which is absurd; >>9809918 is right, that's basically the gist of the mods' "job", hosting meetups isn't commonly a part of it.

>>9810553
Nayrt but I do not know where this notion of “mods plan the meetups” came from. The definition of mod is to MODerate a group of people and provide a point of help when help is needed to answer some concerns. Mods are there to stop arguments ifnone arises and make sure the group is staying on topic to what the group is about. There isn’t many comms out there that I know of that doesn’t allow the regular members of the community to plan meets. Expecting someone else to make a meet is like looking at the ingredients to make a sandwich and expecting them to assemble themselves because you want to eat. If you want something, make it yourself and not depend on others to make it for you. Don’t know how? Ask for help from someone else. It’s basic knowledge you learn when your in kindergarten. You want something, you got to do something to get it.

>>9803478
Peeps in my comm do this too. I don't care what /cgl/ says it's really transparent and rude. The clique group even asked someone to change their meet once so they could meet separately without running into the normal group that made plans first. That wasn't the reason they gave ofc

>>9811092

Honestly, I think the people getting defensive over this are the same people who purposely flake on meets. It's one thing if you have a disability, or you genuinely cannot make it, but there are plenty of people who can make it and flake to well, flake. It happens in every social group, but it doesn't make it less rude. Technically, it isn't against rules either, but I don't think I'd want mods who don't even want to associate with people they 'MODerate.' I think /cgl/, particularly the mods of cgl, are just sensitive that they're being called out.

>>9811092
Are you implying friends can't go out wearing lolita together? Not everyone wears lolita/only ever see their lolita friends exclusively at comm meetups. There's nothing "rude" about it.

>>9811125
Moving someone else's meet so you can"just hang out with friends" in Lolita and do the exact activities the other group planned is weird af or are you too autistic and can't see that? Lol
Sometimes the just hanging out groups even give out coordinate prizes. Do you usually give out prizes to your friends for hanging out?
Nothing wrong with friends hanging out but thas not it.

>>9811119
I've noticed the group I know doing it showing up here to defend themselves for other things. I wouldn't be surprised if they white knight this kind of behavior here too.

>>9811092
Making people change their plans to accommodate your private plans is rude. I will give you that. But you don’t HAVE to have the whole come involved when you have an outing with your friends in lolita. It’s not a requirement to involve your whole comm every time you feel you want to get frilly and enjoy a time out. Some people make friends in their comm. it’s how you socialize. When you make friends you go out with friends. You don’t HAVE to be friends with your whole comm.

Why is this so hard to understand? Do you not have friends? Do you not know how to go out of your house and have fun with friends without inviting your whole comm? Do you think having a love of lolita fashion means everyone in your vicinity with the same love has to hang out with eachother despite not knowing one another? I understand being upset you where not invited, but if it’s a group of friends are going out together in the fashion. You do not have the right to sit here and whine about how you where not invited when you are not their friend. It’s simple. Just get to know them, stop crying in cgl and make actual friends in the fashion so you get invited to the “ private” meets you’re bitching about.

>>9811152
My friends and I give eachother stuff at out “private meets” if you call them that. It’s often stuff we know eachother will like and we have the means to afford to gift nice things to them. Sorry you’re not in the cool kids club. Maybe you shouldn’t be posting to cgl and being insufferable at the public meets and you will be included in the “ clique”

>>9811154
Who is saying any of this shit? Lol calm down.

>>9811169
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>>9809918
>>9810904

>>9811356
>using the Sydney comm as an example for anything

>>9811159
That's totally different from organising a coord contest and giving a price to the best one

>>9803475
When people are just hanging out with their lolita friends, it is called just hanging out/meeting up. When people say private/exclusive meet, it's basically an invite-only comm meet. My comm used to have a lot of that, and the reason given was that there's one member that has mental health issues that people didn't want to sit next to. So instead of posting the meet to the main Facebook group, they'd invite every lolita they knew of (which left newbies feel excluded). I've heard of similar things happening in other comms, where they only invite well-dressed lolitas because they don't want to be around newbies/itas. You can't call it "just meeting up with lolita friends" if you invite strangers that happen to be well-dressed.

>>9811374
The problem is whenever anyone brings up private meets here, a bunch of people lose their shit and accuse everyone of being salty that they're not in the cool kids club while at the same time denying private meets exist.
I mean.... they obviously do, I've been to do them. It's not just friends hanging out when you are giving prizes and some of the people going aren't really friends.

>>9801758
Whoever you are, bless you.
I'm so glad someone told that gross little gremlin off

>>9811374
Man, I agree with this to an extent but it still feels so wrong to do.

I personally hate having anyone feel excluded because of silly reasons, I want everyone to have fun and just be civil to each other. No one is forcing anyone to be friends with or whatever to newbies/itas but what’s so wrong about just being decent to others around you? You can’t maintain a decent job without exercising this on a daily basis (and if you do, congrats I guess?) and I don’t see what’s so hard about just baring with it so long as it avoids shitfits about exclusivity or dividing up the community?
I also don’t see the harm in befriending newbies/itas as I sometimes feel like if you’re well-dressed and well-liked, maybe they look up to you or maybe they want to improve but aren’t all that style savvy, etc. Some just need to be taken under another’s wing and helped.

I also see why some would want to avoid it all together and sometimes feel the same way as well. I sometimes feel like an overwhelming groups of newbies/itas making the group looking disproportionate can make it look completely like a costume and overall just bad, especially to outsiders of the fashion. Tackiness does seem to outshine effort and good-taste fairly often. I also feel a lot of second-hand embarrassment when one says something cringe worthy, especially out loud.

But I really love this fashion and it breaks my heart how so many communities end up divided or just dissolving. Maybe people would be more desiring if staying in the fashion of it were just less hateful to it own members. But then what would I do to entertain my salt loving ass in the middle of the night if I couldn’t watch frilly bitches rip into eachother all night?

>>9801592
Can somebody finally speak up about what happened at Frill damn it!? We obviously wanna know.

>>9812143
>Some just need to be taken under another’s wing and helped
I sincerely wish this was true. There's some people where you can clearly see potential but then there's others where it's obvious they are not and were not ever into "fashion", they just don't have an eye for it or any sense of what aesthetics look pleasing and are just there to join an alternative community and feel accepted somewhere. Like if I was born earlier I would not be a scene kid, but those people would be. You seem like a bleeding heart type but I don't have it in me personally to coddle these fucking children.

>>9811356
maybe you should keep scrolling before you post?