/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>9846406
God damn Jahr just sell your shit already and use that money for things that actually benefit you.
There are always places to seek professional help, but cgl isn't one of them.

>>9846410
I'm not Jahr, but I should have known someone would think I was her. Funnily enough we do have similar tastes. I don't have an online presence in the lolita community though aside from having posted to daily_lolita like twice in a decade.

>>9846406
I sort of feel this, I've been buying lolita for years now since I started in 2007 but suddenly started buying a lot in the past two years, and I now realize I'm running out of space. I'm not really going to stop through because I do wear this every day so it's not like I have wardrobes full of frills that go unworn.

I rarely wear lolita besides maybe once or twice a year. I used to have a much larger wardrobe but I've downsized to like 10-15 main pieces. I definitely consider this a collector's hobby.

As long as you like the clothes and can afford it, who cares?

I've been having problems with VM. Knowing they will be gone soon and things won't be produced is making me want to buy anything of theirs left and right.

>>9846406
God damn, 70 pieces?
I just counted mine recently- 32 brand pieces. I wear lolita 2-3 times a month and find that 32 is still a bit much for me. When I had more I used to forget I owned certain things or had matching blouses/accessories/bags because they were crammed in my closet. Moving houses was a nightmare. At 70 pieces, I wouldn't even be able to look at my collection without getting stressed.

My recommendation? KonMari it. Hold each piece in your hand and see if it brings you joy. If not, acknowledge the happiness it used to bring you and then let it go. You said that you have a strong emotional attachment but honestly, it is rare to be strongly attached to almost 70 pieces of clothing you haven't worn in a long time. I can tell they aren't making you happy if you're posting this here.

You will find that at the end, you are left with maybe 10-20 pieces that you like the most (that number is just an estimate). You will be able to display them openly and enjoy them every time you look at them. There is no shame in keeping them even if you don't wear them, as long as they make you happy.
I haven't fully adopted her method, but it did introduce me to a new way of looking at my things and enjoying them anew.

>>9846406
You don't have a problem, OP. Just look at this closet room.

>>9846529
>comparing op to Misako
Didn't she say she's got an entire floor full of her clothes?

>>9846535
Holy shit, that's... Kind of gross.

>>9846406
This is not uncommon. It happens with lots of collector's goods. You get it with designer handbags, you get it with BJDs, action figures, baseball cards, whatever it is. There is having a large collection because the collection makes you happy, but then there are people who continue to collect to the point of hoarding despite whatever they're collecting no longer bringing them that joy it used to. You are no longer collecting at that point. You are hoarding.

>>9846889
i think they mean an entire floor of her house

>>9846406
I've a spare master bedroom full, treat it as a closet coming up on 200 main pieces & no signs of stopping. Its been pure love since 2004. Fuck it anon. 70's not a problem its actually pretty conservative considering the length of time you've been in the fashion.

Konmari is weird. I love my clothes but I dont think my socks need to be folded in a drawer because they spent all day being squished between my feet & my shoes. Neither toilet brush nor the sqyeegee i use to mop the floor doesnt spark joy but it doesnt have to. It just needs to do its job. Not bashing anon who posted on the method. Its all a bit too puritanical/protestant for me. Do you think she's actually had a good life or a mental illness & an unhealthy obsession with material things. Am all for streamlining processes to save time & maximising the space you use but holy fuck this is a decadent fashion its no place for puritan minimalism.

>>9846406
I'm in a similar boat as you, anon. It was my dream to have a big, beautiful wardrobe about 10~ years ago. Now that I am freshly into my 30s with a job, I have that wardrobe I always dreamed of.

But, due to working full time and also some health issues, I barely wear it. I also feel like my face looks too old now in the dream prints I always coveted (sweet). I am now starting to show deep rooted hoarder tendencies that I always had as a kid, due to growing up lower class. It's hard for me to sell.

Since the second hand market dropped a lot, the folder I had with photos of dream items of my computer is now mostly empty, with nearly everything sitting in my closet. It feels satisfying finally owning things I wanted so badly, but I am starting to see that with the quantity of what I own... it is starting to make me feel bad instead of good. But, I think acknowledging this is the first step.

Even though I don't get to wear lolita often, I do see my things every day. (I display my dresses, out of sunlight.) They make me genuinely happy. I appreciate them like art. I am nearing 30 dresses now and actually plan to sell a few that don't make me quite as happy anymore, but there are a solid 20ish dresses I own that make me so happy my heart feels like it will burst with joy when I look at them, since it took so long to find them.

I guess what I am trying to say is, similar to >>9846462, try to keep what you really love and then find another home for the rest. Even if you don't wear lolita anymore, if these things still make you happy then they are serving a purpose in your possession. I try to go through my things each spring and fall and decide if I want to keep them. This helps me feel less overwhelmed about what I own but also less pressure to purge a bunch of things at once. You need to find a balance for what makes you content, but definitely don't feel forced to sell a dress if it brings you happiness, even if you hardly wear it.

>>9846902
>holy fuck this is a decadent fashion its no place for puritan minimalism.

Lol, I feel the same way. The Konmari process just doesn't work for lolita but culling my normie wardrobe sure freed up a lot of closet space... for more lolita clothes/accessories.

>>9846406
Wow we’re the same, I also have around 70-80 main pieces. I haven’t counted them for a while, but i started collecting around 5 years ago, and it’s hard for me to sell, though i force myself to every once in a while.
>>9846462
I read this same advice last year on here and it’s still really valuable and helpful. Though I have no clue what konmari is though.
>>9846535
Please tell me this isn’t hers.. my image of her is destroyed if it is...
>>9846529
At least this is all hung up.

>>9847004
>Please tell me this isn’t hers.. my image of her is destroyed if it is...
That's kind of a wild reaction. It looks like the pieces were laid out specifically for this shot, plus look at the actual pieces - This shot is quite old, I doubt it was taken after 2005.

I’m having the same issue with my 20 some odd pieces. Every day I look and say “I’ll wear this tomorrow” but all that happens is I keep buying dresses that don’t bring the spark they used to, just so I can tick off my dream wardrobe list and hope I’ll want to wear them again. I wish I got a rush when I bought the new things, but it’s just mindless consumerism at this point. I miss the joy lolita brought me. Sometimes I’ll put on a dress and stand in front of the mirror and play dress ups and I feel some happiness but it’s nothing like when I was a babby 14 year old with one bodyline dress and I’d see a lolita walking down the street and my heart would literally jump in my chest. I don’t feel that happiness anymore and idk where I’ll ever find it again. I didn’t even look at any of the egl wardrobe posts this year.
Want that spark back, any ideas?

How do all you hoarder chans even store your stuff? I have a room all to myself, and only about 75 main pieces, but I already took up an entire wall, as well as the closet, hanging up my brand. Now, that clothes rack is getting crowded and I want to free up a little space. Should I start by folding my chiffon pieces on a shelf?

>>9847036
The spark comes and goes. I'm probably a baby compared to a lot of people in this thread (I'm going on my 5th year in the fashion), but I've had my ups and downs. In university, I went through a really bad mental health phase and didn't really care about being alive, much less wearing lolita. Once I recovered, I was able to go outside, make friends, and get back into the fashion. For me, making lolita friends and going to meetups and events brought that joy back. I still have days when I have to force myself to get dressed up, but once I have a coordinate on, I never regret it. I feel good when I'm dressed up, and that's enough for me to keep wearing the fashion. I think what I feel about the fashion now is more of a comfortable familiarity than a spark. It'll never be new and exciting again, but that's okay. Wearing lolita is part of my routine now, and that's a different kind of enjoyment.

>>9847036
What inspires you? What do you typically wear these days? Have you strayed from whatever style caught your eye when you were a beginner?
For me, going back to my "roots" helped a lot; I stopped looking at things that looked cute but wouldn't be comfortable for me to actually wear, and started focusing on things I genuinely like; this includes the media I consume too. I allow myself the "treat" of submersing myself in the image of lolita that I fell in love with, regardless of what the general community is doing, and that helps a lot with preserving the charm the fashion once had.
You might have to take some time to really think about it to figure it out, but it's an idea worth considering imo.

>>9846435
Fuck yeah I'm right there with you and I have absolutely no regrets about what I'm about to do with buying and hoarding VM until I hit everything I've always wanted. I also accept and recognize that my interest in lolita as a whole is probably going to dwindle once they close up shop, so that's offsetting any remote guilt I may be feeling for abusing the shit out of my wallet this year and beyond.

>>9846902
Konmari is absolutely her coping mechanism that she figured out how to monetize. I love using it when I want to and I also recognize that it's a technique developed by someone with an unhealthy relationship with material goods.

Regarding OP, I don't nearly wear lolita "enough"/regularly but I love seeing it in my wardrobe and love having it as a resource for when I do feel like wearing it. fwiw, I'm at 40 mains with 2 more in the mail and 30+ on the wishlist.

>>9847004
>>9847013

This is funny. >>9846529 is a recent photo of her wardrobe. Hope anon feels better about that.

>>9847036
For me, the spark is being cute and comfortable in something that suits my style. I like very simple coords with one big Alice bow, a cute blouse, a couple pieces of jewelry, socks, shoes, bag and a main piece. I never wear peignoirs, veils, rectangle headdress, canotiers, bonnets, over skirts, underskirts, or any of that stuff. I feel ridiculous and overdressed in it. I like the comments I get more when I wear simple coords

>>9846406
Wow, you're basically a lolita dragon

>>9846535
That's not even that much stuff, it's spread out alot

>>9846889
>>9847004
>>9847013
>>9847057
>>9847130
Picture is from a photo book called Happy Victims by Kyoichi Tsuzuki, where the photographer asked the subjects to lay out all their clothes from their favourite brand. Pic related are the Baby and h.Naoto pictures reused in Japan Fashion Now

>>9847166
Oh wow that’s actually really interesting.

>>9847069
I love this post

>>9847166
>no natural light
I don't get wardrobe rooms. Closets are vastly superior. I'd be scared of mold desu

/cgl/ - Hoarders & Shopping Addicts

>>9847388

What is there to not get? Just think of a wardrobe room as a room-sized closet. If the rooms in your house are prone to mold problems then there's no guarantee they'll stay out of your closets as well. You'll want dehumidifiers and moisture absorbers in your closets or your wardrobe rooms either way.

I confess I've bought a few items over the years and never have or will wear them. I'm not into cross dressing, I just love cute and pretty things and couldn't resist.

>>9847069
>>9847223

>>9848503
Well this is bloody great.

I'm just salty knowing there are 2 hoarders who have my dream dress. One of them definitely does not fit it and never will. I'm unsure about the other one but she has no intention of wearing it. She said it's not her style at all, she just bought it because it's rare. I wish they would at least make coords with it or something. I'm 99% sure my SS bid on the same dress, but her SS was quicker.

I'm just salty knowing there are 2 hoarders who have my dream dress. One of them definitely does not fit it. I'm unsure about the other one but she has no intention of wearing it. She said it's not her style at all, she just bought it because it's rare. I wish they would at least make coords with it or something. I'm 99% sure my SS bid on the same dress, but her SS was quicker.

I feel you OP.
Been hoarding brand for years now, and if I didn't sell so many of my pieces (cause buyers remorse is a thing) my collection would be much bigger now.
I almost never wear it, I just feel too old and too uncute to wear my pieces but gosh do I love them.
But I still hunt all of my wishlist and dd items, it's like an addiction, I want all of it.
I have no other hobbies, I wouldn't know what to do with myself if I'd quit desu, I treat this like a collecting hobby rather than fashion I suppose.

>>9846529
>>9846535
Just wondering, does anyone know if Misako gets some of her dresses for free? I know she works mostly for baby so I'd imagine they give er A LOT of dresses, maybe the ones she wears in shoots + many more. I'd think it would be a nice investment for them since she has a lot of fans. Or am I being naive?

>>9848503

saved and thank you, this is goshdarned adorbs

I buy things to wear but also to have in my collection. I just like to surround myself with cute&beautiful things. I have a whole room dedicated to my lolita stuff and it makes me so happy, it's like a museum. Trying not to buy any more mains unless they are DDs though because I have enough for now...but it's hard to say no if I come across old school pieces that look bomb.

luckily brands aren't really releasing things that I like and can also wear properly, so it's easy for me to not spend right now.

If I had three times the disposable income I'd do a haul every 2 months lol

>>9848819
Dedicating an entire room for lolita is a dream of mine. How do you arrange your room?

Also, that pic is amazing. Source?

>>9848577
Iktf too well
>She said it's not her style at all, she just bought it because it's rare.
triggered

I'm nearing 70 main pieces too. Around 20 blouses and cutsews. Everything is Japanese brand.
Three more dresses in the mail.
Not bragging. But I do feel disgusted. It feels gross to have a closet full of Lolita and one small drawer in which I have to navigate for normal clothes. Small flat.

Most of my new dresses and blouses have never been worn or tried.
Trying to sell stuff but many of my pieces I want to wear one day. To be honest, whenever someone says "keep your favorite pieces only", I just feel paralyzed. I got both daily wear Lolita and crazy prints I wouldn't wear to work. I just feel I would end up without anything to wear if I sell. But then again some days I just wear whatever normie stuff for long periods, so I may just be in denial.
I have no need to sell for cheap, so it is taking long time.
I feel guilty every time I buy, but I do it anyway.
Soon moving out, and that is going to be a bad reality check.