/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

Man I just really love cosplay

>>9881785
I am the distressed coworker

>>9881792
Man I just really love lolita

Tfw no local lolita bff

>>9881792
Man I just don't love cosplay anymore. I want to love it again, I remember the good times but I just can't.

I greatly fear for the future of cosplay. There were some normies in an AskReddit thread saying how cosplay nowadays is all sexy patreon girls trying to get famous. While there are definitely more of those now than there used to be, we all know that the majority of cosplayers are still just hobbyists having fun. It's starting to become clear that the general public doesn't see that though, they only see the JNigs of the world. Such a sad misrepresentation of what this hobby really is.

I shared that I was moving in some thread or two ago, looks like this week I'll hear back from maybe one or two places and it's looking positive finally. I have cosplay and AA stuff to pack and such, and I better do something about my fabric stash if it's something I'm not using.

>>9881785

>>9881800
>tfw you have a local lolita bff but you're moving away soon

>>9881802
cosplay is just a fetish, lolita is just a fetish, fursuits are just a fetish.
Normies think literally everything is a fetish.

>>9881846
They're obsessed with sex so it does not occur that anyone can have fun in any other way than leading up to or including sex.

>>9881846
Why do normies assume any fashion or lifestyle they don't understand is sexual? Why are they so gross?

>>9881846
Who cares what they think. You do you

>>9881846
>tfw normies are the real degenerates

>friend's little sister is writing an article about lolita for her school paper
>tell her to look at /cgl/ for material
>she now thinks the fashion is all about spanking and diapers

>tfw you’re depressed to the point where all you hear is your conscience telling you to kill yourself

I’m afraid that I might not even go to Fanime due to how horrible I feel

>>9881936
Anime cons of the only things that chase those voices away for me

>>9881936
Are you currently getting any help for that anon? I struggled with depression and anxiety for so many years before just recently getting professional help late last year. I've been where you are, I know how much it sucks to feel like there's no point in anything, and not finding joy in your hobbies. Try reaching out to a local counseling center or therapy group?

Don't give up anon <3

>>9881802
>saying how cosplay nowadays is all sexy patreon girls trying to get famous
this perception holds true for any hobby that attracts a lot of women

I have interviews coming up, like what even is good interview businessy type clothes?

I thought I'd be cool dating a cos thot, but her thot levels are really off the scale. She's nice though. Should I keep going?

>>9881967
I stupidly stopped taking my meds because I felt I could face my depression head on without them. I’m taking them again so hopefully I’ll feel better within a week or two. And looking at my lolita wardrobe sort of helps. I just don’t want to be such a downer at a con lol

Thank you for your kind words anon

>>9882084
Oh god, I went off my meds once (involuntarily, follow up appointment was cancelled and I ran out) and I had the worst week of my life. I hope you start feeling better soon, and you should definitely go to the con, even if you don't feel like it right now. It could end up being a great distraction :)

>>9882016
I re-read this and realized that it sounds very misleading, I'm saying that the perception exists for any hobby like that.

>>9882053
Black slacks, button up bluse.

Or just any dress you could pull off wearing to a church basically.

Or a pant suit.

Depends on the job really.

>>9881895
>tell her to look at /cgl/ for material
You did this to yourself.

>>9882075
>thot levels are really off the scale
this is your only chance to get off this ride, anything that happens after now is your fault.

>gf might be canceling trip to come visit me for con
>she had been making a bunch of stuff for my cosplay and I had made some props for hers
If she doesn't come I'm going to be literally fucked. All 3 of my cosplays had a major portion or wig that she was helping to style.

>>9882206
You can definitely learn to style wigs yourself anon. Might take some practice but you don’t necessarily NEED her.

>>9882206
>If she doesn't come I'm going to be literally fucked.
>be literally fucked.

Do you mean missing on your costume or cheating on her out of despair?

I took on some extra wig work for a friend so he can join our cosplay group at momocon, but i've hit such a major depressive downswing. I'll get it done before the con in a couple of weeks, but I wish I could get the energy together to just *do it* while I have time off work. It's so fucking frustrating.

>>9882300
ugh i know your pain. good luck..

>rent house with friends and one friends gf
>extra room used as a cosplay workshop
>having a good time going through con crunch with friend in said room
>friends gf who allegedly also cosplay will just come in and start bitching about whatever's on her mind, which can be pretty dark, and seriously kill the fun mood
>can't tell her to fuck off because we have to live with her

>>9882327
Forgot to add that she's always bitching about getting stuff done but I rarely see her work on stuff even though I know she has a lot of free time

I don't want to be the token predatory lesbian but
>tfw no gf at all
I'd even be happy with a non-lolita gf though a lolita gf to share my clothes with would be ideal

>finally have stable income to buy AP prints I wanted in 2010 and coording ability to not look like shit
>still afraid of looking like shit

It's so stupid that I get flustered trying to coord things, it's why my wardrobe right now is mostly black and most things match. I've always loved sweet lolita though, I want to wear pastel blues and lavenders and bright reds, but the amount of stuff I'd need to buy new shoes, new accessories, new bag, new legwear, to go with a sweet main piece and I'm afraid of going through all that and ending up not liking how I look.

>mfw my dad and I argued about how much I'm going to cons and other cosplay events because he thinks I'm spending too much money by going to them, plus how I'm making a hobby a priority in my life
>Mfw he's right about it

God knows cosplaying is what made me more normal and actually made me have a social life, making me able to train my social skills.

>mfw my dad and I argued about how much I'm going to cons and other cosplay events because he thinks I'm spending too much money by going to them, plus how I'm making a hobby a priority in my life
>Mfw he's right about it

God knows cosplaying is what made me more normal and actually made me have a social life, making me able to train my social skills.

I also forgot the pic, ugh.

>>9881857
>tfw Midori and Akira never officially became a thing
There even were a few pages dedicated to Akira in Midori's book.
[spoiler]Do you think they held hands at some point?[/therearenospoilersoncgl]

I asked my mom for a milkshake and she said it's too many calories.

I haven't eaten much today and thought I deserved a treat after my car burst into flames.

>>9882479
Maybe don’t let your mommy lead your life?

>tfw going with a special guy friend to a big con soon
>tfw actually cosplaying, and my guy is cosplaying too
>tfw going to have a lot of fun taking pics, hanging out with each other and other people we meet at the con, eating Jap food together, doing touristy things
>and being ~*~romantic~*~

Feels good m8. Nice to have something to look forward to (and to live for desu, even if it sounds silly)

>>9882440
Shipping real people isn't cute, anon. And those two especially were uncomfortably queerbaity.

>>9882504
But anon they look cute together~

>>9882504
It's not like I'm writing fanfiction or some shit. I just think they look pretty together and their interactions are cute.

>>9882495
Living for cosplay - I know how that feel.

>>9881832
>mfw thinking of you leaving

>>9881895
Don't forget butthole inspection day.
Man, I sure hope I pass this month. I got lucky last month: my butthole wasn't up to its usual standard and I think I was at risk of getting kicked out but just as the comm mom was about to inspect me, a wild ita started stealing the sandwiches on our afternoon tea platter, so the comm mom had to fight her.
When she had finished banishing the ita to the milanoo realm from whence she came, she was too tired to inspect my butthole properly and let me pass.

>>9881802
It’s the online community vs IRL friend. Just go outside, the world will be ok.
>tfw the farther up north you go, the less costhots per capita

>>9881936
>>9881956
Try video game therapy? Childsplay has a game list to help with different ailments; I play Animal Crossing and it greatly helps with my anxiety/sensory issues(in addition to meds) so looking at their depression section might be worth it at least as a stopgap?

>>9881832
Granted I haven’t had the full local bff experience, but my lolita friends are semi-LD and it’s still super rewarding!
>Friend’s birthday was back in April
>We have similar taste in burando
>Impulse send her a VM dress as a birthday present
>She finally opened it the other day
>Proceeded to flip a shit
I’m the lolita senpai because I’m older and have a semi-decent career. It feels good.

Unrelated feels
>Con season is coming soon
>Boyfriend/cosplay partner growing out hair
>Boyfriend/cosplay partner growing out beard
>refuses to wear a wig
>Would have to trim his beard to cosplay the new long-haired character he picked out
I guess I’m not getting cute couples cosplay this year gulls. At least I got cute pictures from last year

>>9882410
I know this feel too well
>he tells me it's too much, yet I budget like crazy and I am able to pay for my classes out of pocket
>asks me when will I get a normal hobby, normal friends, and stop acting like a child and grow up and be normal like the other people he knows

Stay strong anon

>>9882549
I h-hope you'll find/you've found other things to live for, anon.
>can't kill self because my partner would be utterly devastated and broken

>>9882573
REeee tell him to shove whatever hobby he has up his tight asshole

Tfw you had a baby, have lost enough in the waist to fit into lolita again but
>nursing boobers
Someday...

>>9882573
Dump that asshole.

>going to super fancy tea party
>getting coord all sorted
>oh it looks nice
>nice
>just.... nice
>I know everyone else there is going to be looking 110% better than me
>sudden feelings of crushing insecurity
>no time to go out and buy a better dress/coord

yoikes

>>9882053
Dress one step nicer than what you would normally wear to the job. If you're interviewing for starbucks or a factory, a suit is probably unnecessary, business casual would be fine. If it's an office and they already dress business casual, then do business formal. etc.

One of the points of the interview is to see how well you fit in with the company. If you show up in business formal to a very casual workplace, they might think you're not going to be a good fit with the laid back atmosphere. Or maybe they will be impressed with how hard you're trying, it's hard to say, depends on who's hiring. But the safest best is to do what I said above.

If you're not sure what different degrees of business wear look like, google it.

>>9882582
If It counts Star Wars is something I live for. I'm not depressed or anything but my life is basically eating, lazily doing college and obtaining wealth for my cosplays.

A nice girl companion would help to but hey, time will eventually put someone in my way.

>>9882573
I'm strong. He likes going with me to provide companionship (and because I can potato hard, so he watches out for me).

>>9882606
HEY. STAR WARS GUY. MATHEUS. PLS STOP TFWNOGF-ING IN EVERY THREAD. THX
Also maybe invest in a diary, it's more constructive than posting your life story in every feels thread

>>9882606

>has close friends
>has hobbies he can afford
>still whines every day he didn't lose his virginity

Some people don't have the comfort you have son.

>tfw your cosplay is almost complete

it really is a nice feeling. con is in 2 weeks I think and all I need is some sandals, the inner shirt for it and some fabric

>>9882594
Looking nice is better than looking ita

>>9882571
Different anon, where is this lost of games? Googling it is confusing and brings up unrelated stuff and movies.

>>9882606
Fuck off you said you'd stop posting

>tfw gf won't kiss you in sweet Lolita because "you look like you're 10"
Feels bad man

>>9882659
I get this from my partner too. Maybe we should hook them up and go kiss each other instead.

>>9882639
Got u
http://childsplaycharity.org/assets/downloads/booklet.pdf

Just burst a pimple on my butt.

I will save the juices and poison the tea of the girl who hates on me in my comm

I like cosplay but don't know anyone else who does :(

>tfw thought a GF was marriage material when she was just a friend who I do fun stuff with and am sexually attracted to
>tfw realize not only no lolita gf but no lolita gf who wants to help build up a family with lots of hard work and mutual struggle

Shoot me

>>9882689
You don't actually want a family, you've been tricked by /pol/.

>>9882694
>Wanting a family is something that only Nazis want now
I just want to accumulate a lot of money, and be surrounded by happy people enjoying all of the happiness I have to share, in a deeply meaningful way.

>>9882643
>>9882610
But I didn't even. Dammit. I don't have any other subjects to say that are /cgl/ related.

>>9882619
Read my previous posts. I said that with time I'll have it. I'm not complaining now.

Relax y'all. I'm not here to stir up drama.

>>9882694
>randomly bring up /pol/
>attack families
You are cancer.

Since we're talking about families now...

>be me
>very childfree (don't dislike kids, but don't want any)
>finally make lolita friend, go to events together, generally have a good time
>friend mentions how she can't wait to have kids
>guess our friendship has a time limit

I get that parenting takes a lot of time and energy, but it sucks having people disappear from my life. I hope that when she does eventually have kids, we can still find the time to hang out.

>>9882716
Alot of people think this way but its not true. You just need to have kids too. Then you get to do things together with the kids and they become friends too.

>>9882718
Not sure if troll, but this is the one reply you'll get. I don't want children. I know myself well enough to know that parenting isn't for me. I have a variety of reasons for my decision, and I'll happily explain in detail if someone is genuinely interested in my thought process, but Internet randoms tend to go about demanding justifications, and I'm not about to indulge your thinking that I've made a "wrong" choice. I will say this, however. Children are human beings with free will and bodily autonomy. They deserve parents who are enthusiastic and involved in their upbringing. They are not tools to maintain a social life and they are not clay to be molded into a mini-me. People who think otherwise are doing their children a disservice.

>>9882718
Nayrt but I'm so tired of people trying to shove children down others' throats. Children are not for everyone and should not be for everyone. Piss off.

>>9882665
>wants a lolita gf
>also wants metal/math rock gf

Gulls here's the predicament now

>>9882091
I hope so too. And I will. I do need a distraction badly.

>>9882733
>lolita
>metalhead

I’m both of these things

>>9882725
The thought of raising a family with my gf someday gives me the fuzzy. Not anytime soon though since we have a lot of places we wanna travel to still, but once we have one and he/she is old enough I'll introduce her/him to /cgl/.

>>9882610
By the way, legitimately. How does a diary work and how should I do it?

>>9882737
Bitch ME TOOOOOOO drop me a throwaway pls I wanna talk I need me some more lolitacore lolitas in my life

>tfw n beastie boys fan lolita gf to reproduce with

>>9882750
Eek it’s so nice to meet other lolita metalheads!

Metal a shit

TFW no lolita GF into soft indie music.

>tfw no loita gf who likes rock n roll, dixieland, and the blues

>tfw no lolita gf who enjoys asmr and makes her own

There was a grasshopper/some kind of other insect's mummy in my wig's package
Eww

>tfw balding at 25
>tfw probably will start needing wigs just for regular short-haired characters

How to end lolita addiction? I used to draw, play games and watch anime but now all I do is think about lolita. It’ has gotten so bad that I would actually love to grow out of this fashion soon so I could do other things. I wear it daily but I wish it could be just something that I wear, not obligated to browse sales, cgl, insta and facebook all day.

>>9882671
Thanks so much!

>>9882784
Try taking a break from lolita online. You can view anything but cgl, comms, sales, or pics of lolita

>>9882208
Yeah I can style a wig, it just is way too close to the con to order a wig and style it.

>>9882215
#1

>>9882356
Start off with a sweet main piece in black so it's easier to match with what you have now; buy a few colorful accessories to match it and gradually introduce new pieces to your wardrobe i.e. shoes, purse, etc. until you have enough to buy a main piece in an entirely new color.
It'll take time but you can do it!

>>9882594
What >>9882624 said. Fancy tea parties are an opportunity for girls to bust out their OTT coords but it isn't a requirement, not even for brand tea parties. You'll be fine.

This is how it feels being a butch lolita

>>9882716
Maybe she won't disappear from your life, you can't be sure about this. Having said that, I will admit that my lolita bff recently became a mother, I'm super happy for her but I do have this concern that our friendship is going to dwindle and die; so I understand you.

>>9882479
Do it by yourself? It's not a rocket science.

>>9882694
>anyone who wants a family is a nazi
Unironically kys

>>9881846
b-but fursuits are a gross fetish, anon

>>9881895
>telling a child to go to 4chan
are you fucking retarded?

>>9882353
Take refuge in the fact that Lesbianism is at worst a coping mechanism for unfuckable women and at best an attention-seeking one for moderate to highly attractive women, and enjoy solitude or find a boyfriend

>>9882849
Nyart imagine being this retarded

>>9882858

It's not a bad thing, it's liberating to accept.

>>9882860
Take ur crackpot queer therioes to /lgbt/

Should I where bloomers?

>>9882861
>crackpot

The behavior is hilariously transparent

I've fucked three "lesbians" at this point; it's supposed to be safe signaling behavior but is way too easy to see through

>>9882865
Right right because you supposdly sticking your cock in three bisluts is supposed to be some grand proof that lesbianism is some spook. Save it for /tttt/ werido.

>>9882862
No, you shouldn't where bloomers. Wearing bloomers is recommended, or at the very least some sort of safety shorts.

>>9882862
No. And don't where panties either.

>>9882862
I dont think bloomers are that common in lolita anyways

>tfw convinced girl to let me take her to a con
>She'll only go if she gets a job and time off by then
It's a possibility!

>>9882900
Only if you're a dumbass newfag. Bloomers have always and still are a thing, and honestly I don't understand why some people hate them; they make coords more complete.

>tfw getting a little more attention on insta lately and the small handful of normie irl friends following me flat out never like any of my posts

Not liking every post is one thing, but it's just kind of weird and conspicuous when I see that they're active every day and yet have never liked a single one of my coords, ever. For the record, when these people ask for my account, I warn them that it's alt shit and tell them they don't need to follow me, but then they give me the "omg but it's so cool! I love it!" and follow me anyway. Sorry, I know it's silly to get worked up over this but I just need to vent. It sucks knowing that people I thought were good friends don't support me the way I thought they did. I just want a space I can dedicate to my interests, and having them be part of it makes me feel uncomfortable now.

Related happy feel: this situation is partially because my bf, bless his heart, is so proud of me that he can't stop giving my IG out to everyone.

>>9882932
Your boyfriend sounds adorable. And hey, if they don't react to any of your posts after specifically asking for your social media, it's on them. I can see why it's irritating though.
Having said that, you should count your blessings: An acquaintance of mine asked to add me on sm, and afterwards proceeded to like all my ootds and commented on several of them like "You should wear higher heels with this" and "this is so hot". Blocked him immediately and now feel awkward interacting with him irl.

I have an intense jealousy towards chesty girls.
How can i convince myself that being flat is fine?

>>9882951
>I'm totally a girl you guise
Get into jfash, everything will fit you perfectly.

>>9882951
Is it wrong that I'd prefer Becky? Stacey looks like someone I'd flip off for driving like a retard.

>>9882947
Thanks, anon. You're right, things could be so much worse. And in a way, it's good knowing who my real friends are (even if it's kind of a superficial way to find out). Just wish I could block them or ask them to unfollow me now without making things weird lol.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. You were totally justified in blocking him and if he has any common sense, he should understand why and feel embarrassed.

>tfw your LDR boyfriend ghosts you right before you were supposed to visit but you're too prideful to admit it to anyone so you plan on taking the trip even though you'd rather just kill yourself

Buying frilly dresses will help me drown my sorrows, right?

>>9882951
get a tiddy job

You guys cosplay simply to escape your shitty reality.
You cosplay specific characters who have qualities you want,or a specific lifestyle.
ok I'm back to fit.
This just shows you are men,dressing as tiny women.
And that's a fact.

>>9882980
Where we gettin all these werido guys from geez

>>9882997
I am not weird.
I am from fit!

>>9883005
Didn't you say you were leaving?

>>9883013
>ok I'm back to fit.
I did't say I was gonna leave permanently.
I am just fishing for angry men dressed in skirts to rage at me.
cgl is men dressing as anime characters.
Right?

>>9883021
You're free to believe that if it makes you feel better.

>>9883024
Prove me wrong.
There are no women on 4chan.
The only women who are here are ugly as all fucking hell.
>>9882951
This guy is shitposting just like me.
No one is that retarded to think this is true.

>>9883027
If you expect me to selfpost like a retard to "prove you wrong" you've got another thing coming, anon-kun.
Enjoy your delusions.

>>9883028
Thanks!
Have a nice day,pal.
And have a (you).

>out wearing lolita
>some guy approaches me and asks "Seen any seagulls lately?"
>mfw

>>9882968
This is me right now too

>>9883032
Related: I’m a cosplayer not a lolita, but I once asked a couple lolitas at a con if they browse /cgl/. One didn’t know what it was and the other explained that it was “worse than Behind the Bow.” Thought that was kinda funny.

/endblogpost

>>9883032
lmao that’s creepy af

>>9883067
why? His only mistake was to use 4chan lingo outside of 4chan.

>>9883067
>a guy i don't like says something
>woooow so creepy lmao

>>9883069
Probably wanted to sound clever without outright asking me if I browse 4chan. I can understand that, but it caught me off guard.

>>9882968
Me too gull, though with the genders reversed. I feel like an idiot for hyping it up and telling other people about her. Less than 3 weeks to go and I haven't heard from her in weeks. I really don't want to go now

>>9882968
>>9883091
Don't go blindly meeting someone who's ghosting you. If you booked tickets and can't cancel now, at least make a backup plan for something to do/someplace to stay in your destination, in case you can't meet your s/o for any reason.

>>9883095
I arranged the trip months ago when they weren't ghosting me and thought they could be trusted, that's the problem. I can't really afford to stay anywhere at my destination that isn't some shitty hostel for the amount of time I'm staying for so I'm probably just going to not go.

>>9883079
>a guy i don't like
More like a complete stranger. I agree it's not creepy, just a bit strange.

> shit on guys for their disgusting 2D waifu is better than real girls bullshit

> realizes that 2D boys have ruined her perception of real men

> needs an intervention

>>9883112
2D boys can't fuck you.

>>9883095
Nah I'm not planning on going to meet my SO, I'm just going to stay in a hotel or some shit.
I just want to pretend that we actually met but didn't get along and broke up or something, I'm really ashamed of telling anyone that I was ghosted...

>>9883134
I think we should start a support group for this shit. I didn't think it was that common ;_;

>con coming up soon
>going with three friends
>someone new cosplaying the same fandom asks to share a room with us
>we don't know him well but agree
>just found out that he's been shit talking our costumes behind our backs in a discord and sending hypercritical messages to another cosplayer's tumblr
>his costume is a piece of shit he bought off aliexpress
I'm mad about this and wish we could kick him out of the room but he's already paid and my friends think we should give him a chance. I'm not good at hiding when I'm pissed off though, he's going to notice that something's wrong. How can I tell him that he's being an asshole and should stop stirring the pot without making the situation worse?

>>9882951
Flat is justice
>>9882979
Blot ons are heresy

>>9882951
lol someone is using my edit

>>9883191
This is sweet. I should play Dragon's Crown again

>>9883170
You should fight him. Screenshot everything and show him.

>>9883191
tiddies bigger than her head stopped me from tearing up

>>9882947
Whats wrong with
"You should wear higher heels with this" ?

>>9881801
I feel this way about Lolita, anon. Let's cry.

I browse /cgl/ every day. I am a gull, but I would not call myself a lolita if I don't wear my clothes or attend any functions whatsoever. I moved to a town with virtually no nerd presence besides card games, so I've latched onto that. However I don't even feel like I fit in there, I think people just see me as "the chick." I've come to realize I think I just want a hobby to spend money and time on. I don't know why spending brings me comfort, I think something to do with no matter how shitty I am or how ugly I think I am or whatever eating problems or anything I might have, money can always buy me the prettiest dress. The most meta deck. I don't know.

>>9882867
Think about this exchange the next time you have to stow the lesbo shit to go from vying for a man's attention to vying for his cock

Hi /cgl/ i want to play game. You see my gf left me recently because she 'couldn't manage her feels' which is a code word for 'I like to cheat you with another girl (she' s bi) and can't foresee that my actions have emotional impact on other people beside me', i was always there for her, even in her three suicide attempts that left me emotional tired as fuck (it was before the cheating) and here's the matter: she's a Lolita, an ultra fanatic Lolita to the point that her dresses are like part of her soul or something, and when she left, she leave all his lolita wardrobe in my house. And well, I'm in a really anger state of mind, why i should always be the rational, the emotional stable guy of the couple, i didn't even fight her for fear she would made another suicide attempt. But now she's gone and I'm with a lot of emotional anger it came to my mind, what if i burn all her lolita clothes? Turn them to ashes, satisfy my anger. But that wouldn't be the action of a good man doesn't it? And i want to be a good man because self judgement is what kill us inside, is what corrupt our memories and our soul, so i think, I'm a man who likes to think, i think about /cgl/ and how she spend hours and hours of her life showing me the lolita community, smiling at those precious dresses, skirts, cardigans, classic, sweet, Gothic every small detail she could spend hours and hours talking about it with a smile on her face. So i decide /cgl/ would have a chance to save the wardrobe of my ex lolita, if you can convince me why is so important that i do not burn them all to hell to satisfy my anger of a broken heart

>>9883305
Don't burn them. Sell them instead

>>9883305
It might sound tempting to burn them, but you could make some nice cash money off of it. But maybe that's bad advice too.

>>9883305
You can use all arguments you want to save these delicate pieces of soul. If you fail well, you'll see the spectacle of burning soul of fashion. Here's the entire wardrobe

>>9883310
Just do it but make sure to film it/create a webm for us.

>>9883305
Some outfits and accessories can be somewhat rare, so I'd sell them to someone who wants them.

>>9882951
>the Becky...wants to fuck chad
see, and that's why women are shit...

>>9883305
>she left, she leave all his lolita wardrobe in my house
Trap. Not even once.

>>9883306
>>9883307
Ahh money, the wheel of the world, yes i could make a good buck out of these, but that wouldn't satisfy me, I'm a hunger beast in search of satisfaction. Do you know what is hunger like anon? A burning desire of wanting to be filled just to survive, hunger strip the dignity of every single man it touch, turn them to breast, savages with no other purpose than be filled, and money doesn't fill me up right now

>>9883067
>>9883079
jesus christ, you people need to get out more if you think human interactions in public are "creepy" or "strange"

>>9882951
Left > right all day every day

>>9883191
never played Dragon's Crown
is that canon?

>>9883310
>>9883305
>bodyline
>taobao?
>axes femme tier shit
>one Aatp and old baby skirt?
Yeah no, go ahead. Tell your ex her excuse of a wardrobe is pathetic.

>>9883032
I would have called him a Plebbitor dumpster baby in response

>>9883321
You want her back. You also want to hurt her like she's hurt you. You recognize the irrationality of this and know that if you do this you're not going to make yourself feel any better. Just sell it.

>>9883321
Dude ease up on the dramatics. You sound like a 'nice guy'

>>9883310
I mean, you can burn some of those, but I'd pay you for the Alice and the Pirates and Baby pieces, and that beautiful green skirt.

>>9883305
>that sad excuse for a wardrobe

>>9882818
Me irl but a tranny instead.

>>9883305
>>9883310
>>9883321
>>9883321
Jesus, you're such a whiny pissbaby. Pull yourself together, put her dresses in a trash bag, and dump them outside where she's living with a note saying "CGL says your wardrobe is trash".

>>9883378
Is a good idea, i like it actually. Will think about it

>>9883371
Seconding to only burn some of it!
I also appreciate the thought of having another gull take in the good pieces. Then they will essentially steal all the joy which the gf had felt. It's like having your child taken by social services, but also knowing that their new family is giving them a better life than you ever could... Just imagine watching them laughing and smiling at a playground while you watch from the bushes because of your restraining order.

>>9883134
>>9883151
You guys shouldn't be ashamed, the ones ghosting you should! That's really shitty of them and if a friend of mine told me it happened to them, I'd want to take the flight there myself to beat the crap out of them for you.

>>9883387
God damn anon, that's evil.

>>9883005
>I am not weird.
>I am from fit!

pick one

>>9883392
Thank you, that's really sweet of you to say. ;_;

>>9883263
He meant fetish heels specifically, he posted pic related as an example of a pair I should wear instead of my own.

>>9883404
I'll never understand those kind of heels. You're basically walking on your toes. Who thinks that looks good?

>>9883118
Nayrt but they can't wake up one day and decide they don't love us anymore, either. Sort of a win-win situation since dicks are gross.

>>9883413
I don't think aesthetic matters so much with these, more the fact they're difficult to walk in. They're meant to restrict/disable your movement afaik.

>>9883438
Nier: Automata would be right up your alley

>>9883464
How so? The only thing I know about it is that one lady that everyone and her sister cosplays.

>>9883478
Play it till the second boss fight, I promise you'll get really into it

>>9883480
Now now, I know better than to buy and play a game just because anon teased me into it. Spill the beans, buddy.

>>9883170
just square up like what >>9883254 said

>>9883305
Have fun in small claims court.

>>9883480
Wait, you mean this guy? The fact he's build like a Ken doll is hilarious more than anything.

>>9883301
>implying im a lesbian because i do beileve in your crazy bullshit.

>>9883507
*dont

>>9883507
No one is a lesbian, that's what I mean

>>9883516
I know thats what you mean dipshit and im telling you youtr wrong.

>>9883506
he shows up later all dressed up and he's got a brother to boot
come on, give it a shot

>>9883403
Seriously they need to grow a spine and own up to it not working out, not just ditch and pretend it never happened. You guys deserve better! <3

>>9883553
Maybe I will anon, just for you.

>friend lost room and wants to stay in my room for Acen
>tfw want room empty so I can fuck qt cosplayer from last year
Also he's obnoxious af but has been helpful so I feel bad fuck

>>9883606
Tell him he needs to be out during fuq time.

>>9883611
Friend hates the person I'm fucking, if he finds out about it there will be big dramu

>>9883606
>placing more importance on sex than on your friend
you don't get laid often do you?

>permanently suspended from reddit because I posted a link to a lolcow thread
Why is reddit so god awful? lolcow links aren''t even against the rules there.

This might be a little off topic and vafue, but I don't know who else to vent to.

I have an ED, but have been in that limbo state of recovery-but-not for about 5 years. I had to go to the hospital and an inpatient clinic at one point, but for the last 5 years I've been basically eating the same things every day, so my weight has been stable.

I got out on to a new medication recently and its completely wiped out my appetite. I've been doing my best to eat what I'm supposed to, and I've mostly succeeded, but I did lose a bit of weight. I think part of that was that the previous antidepressants were slowing my metabolism artificially, because I really have been trying to eat the same. Anyway, I'm at about a BMI of 18, which is a little underweight, but I don't think its concerning...

However, I have what I believe to be unrelated health problems. I'm extremely sensitive to external factors like the temperature temperature and the sun, I'm fatigued all the time, poor circulation, sick most of the time, pain...I want to get checked out because a lot of these problems interfere with my quality of life, but doctors dismiss my problems saying it's due to depression or anxiety. I live at home, and when I try to talk to my parents, they dismiss me, saying it's because of my eating disorder.

I guess my feel is that I'm tired of being dismissed and being seen as JUST being depressed. Or being seen as an only an eating disorder. I feel like my doctors and parents only see my diagnoses and when I try to bring up other concerns, I'm only seen as the anorexia.

It annoys me especially since I've since stopped losing after the initial few pounds, and my antidepressants have actually helped with some of my food anxieties. Also, I desperately don't want to gain weight. I'm actually feeling the most at peace with my weight than I can ever remember, even if I still wish I could lose fat

>>9883641
It is because of your ED. You can't recover from a ED just by eating. You also have to go through a lot of therapy (spoiler, your mother was a cunt toward when you where a baby) no matter how much you eat if the feeling of not wanting to gain weight is still there you will continue to feel tired.

Gulls I know this is more of a feels thread than a help thread but I'm having a rough time. I suffer from bipolar, ADHD and borderline personality disorder. I'm a lolita, albeit not the best at it, and my cleanliness factor outside of it can be really lack luster. It's not that I'm gross I'm just cluttered, I forget to put stuff away. When I go to do anything I sit and think about doing it, but get overwhelming bouts of anxiety that cause me to not want to do anything. I pretty much shut down. I want to die looking at my clutter, and I try very hard when I'm able to bring myself to do stuff to clean and take care of stuff but it keeps getting worse and worse. I'm in therapy, on 4 different meds and I'm still having troubles. I need tips and help for keeping my mind focused on stuff I need to do.

>>9883650
Different anon; I have the same issues. I developed IBS, gastrointestinal issues, a low body temp, and I now have an insane appetite flux. It's all because I was an ana-chan for years growing up. I think you should press onto your doctor that you need help with those things otherwise get a new doctor

>9883658
have you tried to-do lists/planner journals/calendars? i know it sounds obvious but i also have mental illnesses and writing shit down and checking it religiously was the only thing that helped me. i have a blackboard calendar and write out my schedule on it and then stick to do lists on a cork board above my bed and check it every morning and when i come home from work. i also keep a little journal so when im on public transit i can write what i need to do when i get home.
apart from that, find a day every month at least, better twice a month or more, to dedicate an entire day or afternoon just to cleaning. giving yourself a big boost can help you prevent yourself from falling back into the same patterns. sorry if youve already tried all of this, this is just how i ended up helping myself with the exact same problem

>>9883658
have you tried to-do lists/planner journals/calendars? i know it sounds obvious but i also have mental illnesses and writing shit down and checking it religiously was the only thing that helped me. i have a blackboard calendar and write out my schedule on it and then stick to do lists on a cork board above my bed and check it every morning and when i come home from work. i also keep a little journal so when im on public transit i can write what i need to do when i get home.
apart from that, find a day every month at least, better twice a month or more, to dedicate an entire day or afternoon just to cleaning. giving yourself a big boost can help you prevent yourself from falling back into the same patterns. sorry if youve already tried all of this, this is just how i ended up helping myself with the exact same problem

>>9883641
> I'm extremely sensitive to external factors like the temperature temperature and the sun, I'm fatigued all the time, poor circulation, sick most of the time, pain

All symptoms of being underweight and undernourished. Take it from a former ana-chan. 18 BMI is very low for a normal female. Do some women naturally have this low of a BMI? Sure, but most do not.

I wish you the best of luck anon. I have absolute confidence that you'll heal your body and mind in time.

>>9883255
Same , I was initially wondering if it was some sort of hex and they were going to get bigger in every frame

>>9882703
>dude just stop posting. Like, in the whole board.

>>9883658
>>9883672
Having a set schedule really helped me too. Down to planning very little things like when I'm going to have a snack or something everyday. I have a set time everyday when I do a little bit of cleaning now.
Also if you don't already, start working out, even if you just go out for a walk or something. When I work out I feel more like getting off my ass to do all kinds of other stuff too (the endorphins I guess)

>>9883650
>your mother was a cunt to you when you were a baby
What do you mean?

>tfw lost meta lace topped OTK in another state
I can buy another pair but then I'll have 3 socks and that's kind of annoying.

>brazilian star wars virgin is still around
visiting /fit/ would do him some good

Last year has been rough.
>Worked 50+ hours a week, salary. Retail management. (65 hours was average)
>Made good money. Bought dream wardrobe.
>Paid off debt, including elusive student loan.
>Regularly miss my days off.
>No time to enjoy things. Cancel plans constantly. Can't see family, do things with friends. Make doctor's appointments, always on call.
>Stress directly effects my weight. Was getting physical anxiety issues.
>Gained everything I worked to lose last year and then some.
>Can't wear any brand now. 3/40 is what I can actually physically put on my body and somehow wear decently.

Bright side.
>Quit said job due to above.
>Worried about money.
>Two jobs I can do from home fell into my lap doing what I love and in the field I studied.
>Making about half of what I made before, but now have a ton of free time and greater control over my stress levels.
>Situations that encouraged my return to bad habits are eliminated and on my way to losing again.

>>9883682
da
often people develop mental issues because of bad parenting

>>9881785
OK, is it just me or is Fenneko basically cgl embodied in a cute Sanrio character?

>>9883684
Oh no! Meta's lacy otks are the best too... Sad times. You have my condolences, anon.

>>9883679
>>9883672
I kept a planner when I was a graphic designer for a bit, but I would forget to check it. I've set countless annoying timers, kept journals, made lists in places I normally go (fridge, bathroom wall next to my mirror, next to my bed, bedroom door) and it'll work for like a *month* before I start slipping back into it again. My partner is frustrated but understands it's a mental illness thing, and does some to help remind me of my responsibilities, but my roommate (her brother) keeps making it worse by passive aggressively doing things to get back at me for not remembering (he keeps eating food of mine, leaving LITERAL SHIT in the toilet like a fucking heathen, and acting like a total man baby about stuff when I'm about to get out of my head and actually do the things I was going to do) it's not helping me because the reason I don't do stuff is purely out of anxiety and sheer forgetfulness, but I don't want to be more of a burden and just want something, ANYTHING, to make me better.

On a side note: does this mean it's time for me to kms out of sheer uselessness

>>9883321
the absolute state of betas in the current year

>>9883694
>Not Tsunoda

Yo how do you hate yourself less?

>>9883709
Meaningful work. Whether that be in a hobby or an actual job.

>>9883682
Many cases of ED have a strong correlating with mother (because they are the ones who feed the babies with her breast) that do not feed their babies well because 1) lack of milk in breast 2) lack of empathy toward the baby 3) others
Therefore the first impression of the world of those babies is that food represents a "danger" instead of a pleasure and sane act.

>>9883710
Yeah not having a job I care about is kinda killing me.

>>9883714
Different anon; I had an ed because I had a boy tell me I looked fat when I was 13 and my grandmother pushed diets on all the women in the family. My mom wasn't correlated at all there and most eating disorders come from body dysphoria issues not... how your mom fed you as a baby

>>9883709
This >>9883710. It doesn't have to be a useful hobby, even. Meaningful isn't the same as useful, and only when I realised that, I managed to seriously enjoy myself doing my silly anime/game/art hobbies.
Earlier I had told myself it was useless and I was better off trying to find something ""better"" to do, and I would half-ass everything. I half-assed my hobbies because they were not to be taken seriously, and since I never felt I had proper fun I half-assed work and school. Then I stopped caring so much since I wasn't meeting anyone's expectations anyway, started drawing more and focused on improving my skills, and I started improving it felt my the rest of my life was improving too.

>>9883694
really? the deer or the snake boss seem like better fits

>>9883700
if there was any small thing that worked for you, just keep trying until you finally succeed. i know it sucks but it took me years of constantly reorganizing my life until i finally got my shit together and no longer want to kms. also not to be like muh big pharma or anything but on top of regular meds, natural medicine (i dont mean weed) helped me get over the last minor issues in my life. a naturopath recommended me a bunch of shit that stimulates endorphins and boosts concentration so maybe that could help you too. best of luck to you anon

>>9883723
Is great that your mother wasn't the main source. But you have to understand that the process of a negligent mother is involve in many cases, not ALL cases like your (but think about your grandma, as a matriarch figure with a negative influence and may see what I'm talking about)
Body disphoria is also a common denominator, but last investigations tend to not seen it as the initial cause. And also you have to add a little percentage of genetics into every mental disease

>>9883706
>>9883729
Tsunoda is who we think we are, but we're actually just like Fenneko: bored salty bitches who Internet stalk and then gossp about people more interesting than ourselves.

>>9883700
you should take your meds and move on

>>9883310
I'd probably buy the top right skirt. Don't burn them, I don't know what country you're in, but if she filed a police claim about this, your posts would be very easily identifiable since you posted photo evidence. It's really not worth it.

>>9883321
No one here respects you or thinks this is anything less than pathetic. So you got dumped, everyone does. If this is what you're like, I can see why.
Hope your ex gets a qt lolita gf :^)

>>9883305
>>9883310
it'd be bad for the environment
do it

>>9883730
I would appreciate something that can help my ADHD concentration desu, I think that's my biggest problem. My insurance doesn't cover adderall and it's the only "big pharma" ADHD med that actually works on me without giving me insane anxiety from overstimulation. I very much believe in natural meds too so it's not like I only take that stuff. I'll look into it thank u anon

>>9883741
Wow I'm cured thx anon

>>9882862
>wearing lolita at Walgreens
>some old bitch flips up the back of my dress
>"What are you wearing under there? Haha!"
Thank god I was wearing bloomers.

>>9883674
>>9883650
The thing is, I've had these problems for as long as I can remember. I'm sick of being brushed off just becaus I have an eating disorder.

And even when I was a child and mostly unconcerned over my eating, the doctors had to watch my weight. Even after weight restoration after inpatient my bmi was 19, and the highest it had ever been.

>>9883822
She was just doing butt inspection.

>>9883849
Different anon here.
Our condition seems pretty similar. As a kid, I always had low weight and my doctor was concerned my parents were neglecting me. (They were) But I didn't have an ED and didn't care about my weight until I got landed in the hospital after passing out for a little too long when I was 17. They check my blood and are shocked, ask me if I have an ED, to which I said no. Then I got on a weight gaining diet and suddenly there it is, I start obsessing over my weight and haven't risen above BMI of 18 until I got real help. I'm constantly sick and fatigued which makes my depression worse.
BMI of 18 is unhealthy. It's concerning and not normal. No one is brushing you off because you have an ED, they're brushing you off because they're ignorant. If they cared then they'd intervene and help. Those symptoms are what happens when you're malnourished, it's just scientific fact. I know it's frustrating to hear.
I find that exagerrating or having a breakdown in front of a doctor convinces them to help more at least, in my experience. No one listened when I kept asking until I exagerated

I’ve been working the same shitty retail job since I was 17 and this year I decided I was going to try and find a “real job”. I’ve been applying to a bunch of stuff for months with no responses until recently. I had a phone interview today and I think it went well, and they’d want to bring me in for $48k a year which I still can’t get my head around considering that I work part time and make minimum wage. But I’m so nervous and conflicted, I’m so comfortable at my job and I like most of my coworkers a lot, but I’m part time because of mental health reasons and I’m just afraid I won’t be good enough for something like this. I’m 26 and my family always makes snide remarks about me working part time and not a real job but they don’t know I’ve recently been taking antidepressants which have been helping me so much. I’m trying so hard to turn my life around but I’m just not used to good things happening to me, or even being good at anything.

>tfw no yandere lolita gf to hurt me for being too friendly with a female cashier

Fucking hell I just want a cute girl to tie me up, punch me in the face, lick up my blood and tell me she loves me.
Is that just too much?

>>9883915
Take the opportunity anon. You've made great steps already, you should definitely take that job. Keep going!

>>9883519

Nah, I'm definitely right. They'll suck a dick if you treat em right

>>9882951
Can I get a Becky that also has a Gucci bag?
I like preppy nerd girls.

tfw you wanna lose a few pounds for an event coming up & you trigger yourself & go full ana and lose 11lbs in 2 weeks

>>9883936

So you're training for ColossalCon too, huh? lol

I want to have fun at parties at the nearest con with my gf, but I'm scared if you're I let her out of my sight for a second she'll get drugged or something.

>>9883923
U don't want that I promise

>>9883976
Don't tell me what to do.

Personal experiences?

>is the crazy yandere lolita gf

I'm having a momentary lapse of sanity

>>9883987
Yeah but are you cute?

>>9882590
Dump her dad?

>>9883987
>yandere girl
>"lol that's cute"

>yandere boy
>"I'm calling the police"

Why does it have to be this way anons?why doesn't it work like that movie about the shades and shit?

>>9883990
I'm a lesbian anon

>>9884006
I like yanderes because I think it's cute, I'm slightly masochistic and I like being obsessed over because I like obsessing over others. One thing though is, I can overpower her at any time I choose if I feel it's going to far. I have my own physical safety net.

Most women don't have that.

>>9884008
Hmm. Well I hope you find love.

>>9884008

I'm sure

>when ya taobao order comes to 90$ shipping and fees

I am full of regret

>>9884008
Ok, but will you beat the shit out of me?

>>9884055
I want to now and that's for personal reasons kek

>tfw the bar Kokusyoku Sumire ran in Golden Gai long closed before old enough to drink/travel to Japan

>tfw will never go to a tiny lolita bar to be serenaded while Sachi serves you her homemade cakes

Oh well. At least I've got to visit the area. There are a lot of tourists checking it (golden gai) out, but not really going inside, and I kinda like that Japanese/local patrons seem to get first dibs (or maybe they just know when to show up) because Tokyo is especially overrun with tourists that the city feels more like a movie set than an actual city.

>tfw Harajuku/Takeshita dori is thickly crowded and littered
>saw a fucking rat too
(Japan is otherwise generally clean)
>completely missed/overlooked what's left of certain shops and cafes because Western brands/businesses (like a gd gold's gym) have taken over

Pretty concerned on the state of things leading up to the Olympics. I knew from visiting here and from friends visiting/living there that gentrification is getting bad, but it's surreal seeing it for myself, and disappointing that I couldn't do things my young, babbylita self dreamed of doing because some places are gone or overrun by rude tourists that it's not worth the time anymore.

That being said, I'm surprised to manage to find spaces that still cater to that kawaii-centric aesthetic whose patrons mainly speak Japanese. I hope they'll continue to do well.

>>9882733
not metalhead, but I love math rock. Kinda stupid for me to reply since I'm taken, but happy to see that someone knows about the fashion AND listens to underground music.

>tfw no ouji or lolita SO to makeout during a shoegaze concert with

no, I'm kidding that shit's obnoxious, but I imagine that the kids at old MBV concert tapings had a time

>>9884069
oh yeah

>once again, not thrilled about gentrification/over run of rude tourists
>want to return as volunteer for Olympics
>that hot & humid summer tho

Probably not worth the hassle of paperwork and shit, but I'd like to imagine it looking good on my resume.

/polite sage

>>9883305
I find it downright hilarious that this dude was expecting replies like "Oh, no! Not those valuable dresses what a waste! Give them back to her, her SOUL!" when in reality everyone is like, "dude you'd be stupid to not just sell it, btw its trash"

I'd even bargain she took what she could hold and this is what was left behind, given the quality.

>>9884088
Honestly if a girl was dumb enough to leave her passion behind over a breakup she doesn't deserve them anyways but I totally agree that's what happened anon

>>9884084
Oh yah me too, but it's fun to fantasize about other relationships desu

Especially with other math rock nerds cuz we're just the superior race

>>9884088
>>9884096
I kinda think that was her least favorite things that she left to release some space in her current place. She might never remember about them, even if anon burns it lol.

>>9884102
1000% she'll just be salty about it desu

>>9884084
>>9882733
>mfw i am the lolita who makes out to shoegaze and math rock

it's a great feel, man. i wish i had other gullfriends who were into the same music though. going to shows with each other would be so fun.

>>9883694
Yeah, I'm pretty bummed that I was so negligent with them. But at least when I buy another pair I will have a spare.

was feeling really depressed.
parents were guilt tripping me, could feel happy whole weekend.
manage to get a part of my cosplay done.
not happy about it.
This week i manage to put finishing touches on 2 cosplays feel a lot better. going to finish it as much as I can today and be ready for this weekend.

>>9884155
aw.. don’t let your parents get to you. what they’re doing is really not good. hope you can get some nice progress

>>9884155
>fucked up my post
was feeling really depressed.
parents were guilt tripping me, couldn't feel happy whole weekend, was getting angry at people closed to me because they were making progress.
manage to get a part of my cosplay done.
not happy about it.
This week i manage to put finishing touches on 2 cosplays feel a lot better. going to finish it as much as I can today and be ready for this weekend.

>>9884157
thank you. worst it that they manage to get some family members against me.
for no reason they were angry at me for not doing mothers day even after explaining I wasn't feeling well.

>>9883359
He's so fucking edgy it's making me uncomfortable.

>>9884164
this. feels like the whole heartbreak episode gave him a lot of self pity joy.

i finally have good feels for the feels thread

>going to a meet for the first time in a long time, wearing a coord that fits the theme
>con coming up, get to meet my favorite lolita gullfriends i've talked to for over a year
>plan on wearing my holy grail dress out for the first time
>also got a super cute part-time job with a super cute uniform where i get to make kids happy

yay!

>>9884204
>hinthint
Are you working as a Disney princess?

>>9884216
hah, i wish. nah, i'm working at build-a-bear now. their dress code is pretty loose so i got to buy some really cute, girly things that suit their standards.

>fun fact tho, my aunt was a Mulan. i'd try for it if i wasn't hafu

>>9884220
>build-a-bear
Where do you eat lunch? Do they have their own cafeteria buffet?

Or you bring your own bento box + milk?

Been cosplaying for ages but never really got much recognition because I’m shy and generally cosplay obscure characters. Some people I know only recently started and get sk much love and ass pats because they cosplay Overwatch or present their tits on a platter.

I’m losing faith, gulls. I want to care less but I’m really booty bothered by this.

>>9884250
Where and when do you post on social media? Do you use tags appropriately? Tumblr for example only counts the first 5 tags.
If you cosplay obscure things, pay attention to the tags the fandoms of said obscure things uses often so you can reach them, and try to post at a time of day when there's traffic.
I hope you get the appreciation and recognition you deserve, anon. It sucks being invisible in fandom spaces.

>>9884131
Ahhh! This gives me nostalgic feels I never had. I never got into v-kei, but I've always wanted to have experiences of going to rock shows with my Lolita friends, which is weird for me because I'd prefer to be careful with my brand and be comfortable (and safe) at concerts.

>>9884168
Update. My heartbreak episode ended, she came to take her dresses and we talk about the fact that the separation was more because college problems and self care than because of love, at least made me more comfortable, realize that i miss more the old herself than the new herself that she's trying to be because of good memoriesi wasn't gonna burn them anyway, just wanna to see /cgl/ reaction

>>9884131
>>9884422
Math/metal gullfriend---Here's a throwaway, email me cuz I wanna talk about more music (on a side note is anyone near Chicago/going to go see that Chon show?)

>>9881785
30 fucking dollars for a normie no-name headband. I'm never complaining about brand accessories again.

>>9884454
Yikes

>>9884446
Pussy

>>9884164
Why Marlon Brandon can be edgy as fuck and I don't

www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-mgdUdOjhs

>>9884446
I still think >>9883378 was a good idea. Did you tell her that we think her wardrobe is shit?

>>9884446
Should have burned it while you had the chance pussy

>>9884470
Yes she knows it, that's why she want to spend d all his money on Lolita, or maybe poison all the tea of the Lolita meetup so she can take all the Burando of the dead lolitas

>>9884473
Honestly this anon was the one that convinced me of do not >>9883352

For the first time, I gave up on finishing a cosplay in time for a con. I was out of town for a long while leading up to the con and couldn't work on it. The stress of trying to finish was driving me crazy, and I knew it wouldn't look as perfect as I wanted it to be. Now that I've given myself more time to finish, I feel loads better. Sure, it's disappointing to not be able to wear it to the con, but I have tons of other costumes I can wear. More importantly, I wasn't having fun scrambling to get it together, and I already knew it would look sloppy by the end. It's just really nice to look forward to a con without massive anxiety and be able to focus on having fun with my friends.

>>9884446
You're both a jerk and a faggot. Congratulations

>>9884533
fagojerk or jerkaggot?

Not related but

>Tfw you get to see that in your boss's phone your name is "Anon Crazy"

I don't know what to feel but I'm pretty ok with this.

>>9884525
I had to learn this lesson many times, I think I've finally internalized it. I'm giving myself many months to get things done now instead of trying to drop everything weeks before the con to bust out something I'll just be disappointed in.

I'm glad you're not stressed anymore!

>tfw so autistic with resting bitch face/school shooter vibes that only a few people try to strike a conversation because I'm wearing lolita, unlike everything cgl usually experiences
feels pretty good gulls

>>9884204
That's wonderful anon! What's your holy grail dress?

>>9884570
God I'm jealous. I'm pretty and I can't help smiling in lolita. Normies won't leave me the fuck alone. I can't go anywhere without having someone "oh just have to ask..." what I'm doing, where I'm going and of course "why the costume?" multiple times throughout the day.

Like it's not the end of the world but I'm not really the alt fashion ambassador type.

>>9883972
>tfw can't go to con parties any more since gf started coming with me to cons

>>9882968
If you're coming to Anime Expo, you can come hang out with my friend and I, and get schnookered.

>>9884446
>Hurt Durr it was all a social experiment
You're such a tool. As the proclaimed evil "like children taken by social services" anon I am really disappointed. I got into that thought and thoroughly enjoyed it. Your ex has shit taste in both men and dresses.

>>9884596
>tfw usually wear solids so nobody ever asks me what I'm dressed up for or if I'm wearing a costume
>they just tell me I look pretty or I have a nice dress
Good feel

>>9884658
Seconded. Blessed classic/gothic master race.

>friends are either too busy with other responsibilities or too poor to attend the con with me

>tfw no friends who like retro anime

>Close friend
>Really pretty petite girl
>Heart shaped face and doe eyes
>Struggling with mental health, serious ana-chan history
>Still there for her
>Connection is sparse but deep
>She comes out as asexual
>Ok cool that makes sense
>Goes genderfluid
>That's a statement, but yeah
>Trans now
>I'm actually okay, you'll make a pretty boy, fake or not
>Start hanging out in transseparatist "fuck the cis-tem" groups
>Actually worried about the echo chamber deafening him now
>Talk about it
>Be convinced everything's fine
>Met recently
>Thought it was just going to be us
>Awkwardly introduced to latest poly transboyfriend who slept over night before
>Need to listen to them dreaming of having full beards
>Get disproportionately and secretly upset over it
>To this day thinking about it and feeling like shit
>I want my fucking girl back
>I hate the thought of her pretty face being corrupted by a fuzzy testosterone attempt of a beard
>That shit won't be full, healthy and good looking
>It will be patchy and ugly
>Not even my cis-boyfriend can grow a full beard!
>I fucking hate beards
>This transseparatist crowd isn't helping
>Mentally unstable shits pulling each other down
>I feel so mean for just having these feels

If you're wondering about the asexual polyamorous they're apparently just holding hands and kissing. I'm beat.

>tl;dr Boohoo, pretty girl friend goes past being just a fakeboy and I wish I could stop it

>tfw suspicious stain on brand
Thanks Y!JA

>>9884700
It's her choice to fuck up her life. It might hurt you, but you're not her.

>>9884725

>tfw want chicken nuggies and bbq sauce but don't want to drop it on my burando

>>9884700
You're adjusting, do your best to support them. It's obvious that you care and have genuine concerns over them being hurt. Right now it feels like you are losing a friend because of all the changes and you want that old comfort back. It's going to take time but if the connection and friendship was honest it can come back. Give yourself time and space to reconcile your feelings. Take care Anon.

>>9884658
>>9884682
>tfw maximum petti pastel hime sweet life

>>9884682
Actually I wear pastel pink sweet.

>>9884875
I also usually wear a big petit- no bonnets or anything ever though.

>>9884700
I'm sorry your cute female crush is turning into a fucking mutant

Man. I just love cutting my thighs

>>9884700
At this point you just have to hope she snaps out of it herself. But judging from your story that seems kind of unlikely. I know a few people who have gone through the "Im gay, I'm bi, I'm genderfluid, I'm trans, nah wait, I'm just normal" thing. Hopefully she doesn't do anything rash like try to go on HRT before she's completely sure. I'd say talk to her, but I honestly have no idea what I would do in your situation, sorry anon.

Tfw Lolita gf clogs up shower drain with her hair and let's you flex your plumber muscles as you snake up a years worth of hair engulfed in putrid gag inducing filth that's been thriving and festering upon her beautiful dead skin cells all this time.

>>9883641
It's the ED & being underweight.

>source: 2 years remission-chan currently in a lapse, as soon as you're eating even a tiny amount under optimal bodyweight maintenance your body goes into 'welp better make life unbearable' mode