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>disregard bait
>post cgl feels

>> No.10131442

I'm trying to style a wig into buns and I'm just so bad at it, wigs are hard :( I wish I had local cosplayer friends who could help me out but I live in the middle of nowhere

>> No.10131451

I love possums they are s o cute

>> No.10131473
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I want to be the elegant BlueXblack lady I know I can be, but my I always end up in redXblack colorways.The Vampire look is so overdone and the real elegance is with the Dark Noble Lady look. Everytime I find something in Navy It always turns out looking more Classic than Goth. Maybe I'm styling incorrectly or something.

>> No.10131478 [DELETED] 

What's the best way to divvy up your figure and cosplay collection before death? How can I withdraw all my money from my checking account to give cash away to people before going? I don't really have friends to give my stuff away to but I feel bad knowing I have rare stuff that may end up in the trash when I'm gone. I know someone out there wants some of this stuff.

>> No.10131497 [DELETED] 

Try AnimeMarket, it's also on circlly. And hell, you can do a random giveaway to anons here or people at cons if you're going.
As for moeny, just withdraw it all and close the accounts. Try to save some for funeral expenses though. 6k and up for burial and caskets.

>> No.10131498 [DELETED] 

Are you sick?

>> No.10131503

I looked at the twitter of a minor online celebrity and I really want her life, it looks awesome, living in Japan, doing cool stuff all the time, trying interesting cooking recipes.

Also, got one week to finish a cosplay and got most of it left to do, but I go to bed too late every day and am too tired to work on the cosplay when I'm awake

>> No.10131508

Me too anon, that's why I posted that image. Glad someone else appreciates too

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Should it bother me that it seems like a lot of women like to cosplay as Toga Himiko?

>> No.10131515

Man I just really love cosplay

>> No.10131523

Her character design essentially attracts all the edgelords who cosplay yandere characters like yuno gasai etc etc.

That whole
>uwu im so broken and edgy uwu

>> No.10131528

So they're just being edgy? Well I guess that's okay.

>> No.10131533

She's the new Harley Quinn

>> No.10131537

Bad behavior, you say? A few years ago I was going to tea with my husband down town, and a couple girls drove by us while we crossed the street. One of them rolled down the window and yelled "fatty-chan" at me. It didn't hurt my feelings, but made me curious as to which one of you it was...

Seriously bitch step up, let's hang out or something.

>> No.10131544 [DELETED] 

Can you really withdraw large sums? I'm thinkin like $30k, dunno if bank will stop me. It's all in checking.


>> No.10131545 [DELETED] 

Withdraw less than 10k at a time, otherwise it raises suspicion and the IRS are alerted and you get questioned.

>> No.10131547

I don’t want to hang out with a fatty-chan though.

>> No.10131549

I'm extremely lightly frustrated because I usually hate characters like her, but found her interesting enough to consider it. But it's not worth the effort with the reputation she's got now, and I am annoyed for the same reasons over Dabi and everyone shitting themselves over his 'relationship' to Todoroki (it's all just speculation and people wanting their incest) and it's making me hate the character. I bought materials to make his coat and they've been sitting there for 6 months untouched.

>> No.10131551 [DELETED] 

I'm sick of these "what do I do with my belongings before I die" posts. There's at least one every thread. Google or go to a professional for help.

>> No.10131554 [DELETED] 

Can't you just write them checks?

>> No.10131557

Idk if this fits in this thread since it’s a broad topic but

What do you gulls think about spray tanning for cosplays? There seems to be a huge disconnect with people claiming that spray tanning (or tanning in general) is race-baiting or even blackface. This ends with people sending their followers off to a witch-hunt to whoever tanned themselves.

Personally, I don’t give a shit. If you’re not going for super dark to where it’s obvious that you’re blackfacing, I don’t see a problem.

There’s too many cosplayers with the mindset that tanning=blackface

>> No.10131559 [DELETED] 

Don't want paper trails and want to protect people from getting harassed by family members who feel they're entitled to crap.


>> No.10131563 [DELETED] 

Anon, if you’re thinking of hurting yourself please don’t. It’s not worth it. Please go seek help

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I appreciate the concern.

>> No.10131575
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>have 27" waist and wide ribcage
>be a woman
>there are men with more womanly bodies than me

why live

>> No.10131588

this is so retarded. people have been spraytanning for ages outside of cosplay. White people can tan naturally. Some can even get pretty dark. I fail to see how spray tanning is even close to black face. are blacks really such whiny babies that a white person having a tan makes them feel threatened?

>> No.10131591 [DELETED] 

I’m a lolita, I post to cof pretty often

I plan on killing my self tonight, I’ve already chosen the outfit I want to be buried in, I’m just done with everything, all I’ve ever done is be a burden, so I’m ending it,

Does sleeping in a running car with the garage door closed really work

>> No.10131592

Same anon. and I am 5'11". but I don't give a fuck. Stop feeling like a sorry little bitch for retarded stuff and be thankful for what you do have. You could be a paraplegic or have painful debilitating illnesses. Learn to love yourself and enjoy your life and what little time you have here.

>> No.10131596

thats a normal waist size for your height. im 5'2 and built like a linebacker. i look gross and i want to die

>> No.10131602

my ribcage, not even my bust, is 39 inches. my bust is 44. It is ridiculous.

>> No.10131611

The people who think tanning = blackface are literally retarded and no grown adult who isn’t either insane or also retarded would take them seriously. White people can tan. I’m white and I get to Rihanna levels of dark when I tan because of my Mediterranean ancestry.

Do not listen to or let that SJW policing bullshit bother you.

>> No.10131612

>finish out cosplay that was supposed to be due for Anime Boston
>start working on another one for PAX
>character's vest has two absolutely retarded fasteners, like the artists have no idea how fasteners work on vests
>easiest method is to just not have any fasteners since it's never closed, but I also kind of want it to be closeable in case I want to wear it in public, but this would go against the official art

why am I this autistic about being true to concept art

I did a cosplay of an extremely tanned character a while back (who was initially Japanese), and I used this cream I picked up in Japan that's basically meant for getting that chocolate skin color that's prevalent in a lot of ouji. It made my skin roughly that. Looking back on it, I didn't get any insults or anything (in fact a lot of black people complimented the fuck out of my cosplay), and the only person who said was this white girl who put a really snide comment about how people shouldn't alter their appearances for cosplay on her story, and how she wouldn't be posting any photos with people who did that (ergo, me). Then again, I don't think she knows the backstory of the character I did. Every single person I talked to from every race had no problem with me doing that. I DO think that it looked weird, that the shading of the paint was way too brown for what I was going for

Real shame, too, because going as white for that character doesn't look good IMO, and I'd like to get at least one more wear out of that cosplay.

tl;dr the people that care are usually retarded, and it usually isn't a problem if the character is only tan (ie. not black)

>> No.10131613 [DELETED] 

if you want to take your whole family out with you, then it will. do you have any pets? what will you do with all your brand? what will your brand do without you?

>> No.10131614 [DELETED] 

>I post to cof pretty often

I’d want to kms too.

>> No.10131617

I am not sure what kind of buns you need to make but lovely lor has a great tutorial on youtube of how to make space buns that I have used on wigs :)

>> No.10131619 [DELETED] 

You wont do it. Seek help if you want it, anon can't do much.

>> No.10131625 [DELETED] 

Nah, I am not going to give you stupid platitudes but there are two reasons:
1.If it's the garage itself your basically wasting gas and time, average America garage are big and has too many openings
2. The gas nowadays has been mixed d so that you need to burn it/have a shit ton to actually get enough carbon monoxide to actually kill your self. All that will happen is that you will get high and have long term headaches

>> No.10131627 [DELETED] 

I’m giving my brand to my best friend, and my lizards to my other best friend (she loves lizards), I’ve already planned everything, written my note and all. Idk how I’m going to do it but I just, I hate myself more than I’ve ever hated anything, the person I love the most thinks I’m an annoying piece of shit(I am), I don’t have any motivation anymore so there’s no point, I just don’t want to have to feel anymore

>> No.10131628
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Cmon now let's not do that anon

>> No.10131632

arent you preachy, lol

>> No.10131634 [DELETED] 

Have you tried not being an annoying piece of shit?

>> No.10131638 [DELETED] 

That’s literally all I’ve tried to do for the past three years it doesn’t work, all I do is fucking cry all the time and he hates it, every little thing sets me off, and I’m tired of being a burden on him, all of my stupid coping mechanisms are fucking atrocious I mean Jesus Christ the last 5 years of my life has been spent either starving or self harming (I know it’s stupid so you don’t have to tell me), so seriously what’s the point, all I do is hurt myself and others

>> No.10131641


there’s a popular cosplayer on Instagram who’s black and he always bitches about people tanning for cosplays and about white people in general. He annoys the fuck out of me and I want to call him out on his SJW bullshit but whenever someone disagrees with him he sends a witch hunt after them

>> No.10131644 [DELETED] 

Maybe stop being such an edgelord, realize that everyone has issues, and get over it? I remember going through this stupid melodramatic horse shit at age 13, It’s a wonder you haven’t gotten over it. Go to a therapist and grow up.

>> No.10131646 [DELETED] 

It sounds like you need better, more supportive people in your life.

>> No.10131647

Someday you'll understand.

>> No.10131648 [DELETED] 

If I hadn’t already gone to therapy I wouldn’t be saying any of this right now

>> No.10131650 [DELETED] 

Go to someone else then. You’re just here for attention. People that actually kill themselves don’t do stuff like post about it on cgl for (you)s, because they’re too busy killing themselves. Instead you could be getting help to fix your mental shit

>> No.10131651 [DELETED] 

Why not try running away and starting a new life instead? Sounds like you've got some savings, go backpack across Europe for 6 months.

>> No.10131653 [DELETED] 

Wow you solved depression

>> No.10131656 [DELETED] 

what is your fucking problem? do you feel bigger now? fucking piece of shit
nayrt, by the way

>> No.10131657 [DELETED] 

Meh, really depends on the person. There’s no suicidal checklist, people do things like this because there’s literally nothing left for them.

Not that going on 4chan will offer them anything, but it’s just something.

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Without meaning to sound like a pedo
How old are you? (Could just be hormones)
When was the last time you had sex? (Could just be hormones)
Male or female (")
Hows your vitamine D intake?
Are you working?
Are you feeling unfulfilled?

>> No.10131659 [DELETED] 

>you’re just here for attention

You realize people don’t talk about suicidal feelings because of people that say that shit right? You’re feeding into the stigma

>> No.10131660 [DELETED] 

Maybe I’m here cause I’m trying to decide if it’s worth it or not, okay? No I’m not standing here with a shot gun to my head while typing this, cause I have until I get home tonight to decide, but I’ve gone to therapy (for multiple years I might add) and it didn’t help I’ve tried improving my lifestyle and that didn’t help either, maybe I’m just here cause I need someone to talk to cause no I can’t just tell my friends and family that I want to end it

>> No.10131661

Remember her face and then find her and wreck her shit

>> No.10131662 [DELETED] 

Stop cutting yourself for attention.

How many times have you heard about a lolita killing themselves that happened around the time of someone posting one of these sob posts here? None? Right.

If they told it to people irl id believe they were reaching out for help. But this is an anonymous website where all people can do is give them attention. Retard.

>> No.10131663 [DELETED] 

:( I’m sorry anon.

>> No.10131664 [DELETED] 

Yeah, because an obituary is going to have their internet posting history on it.


>> No.10131665 [DELETED] 

There are suicide hotlines literally made for this where you can be helped and directed to resources(some even free.) Posting about it here would only get you attention, not help. You have to actually WANT help though, and it sounds like you don’t.

>> No.10131667 [DELETED] 

>implying people wouldn’t hear and post about it

Are you stupid? There are posts about lolita’s that have died here all the time.

>> No.10131668 [DELETED] 

Nayrt but your arguments are kind of retarded

>> No.10131669 [DELETED] 


Sick of newfags tacking this on when it’s not needed.

>> No.10131670 [DELETED] 

Just take a long holiday instead my guy.

>> No.10131671 [DELETED] 

You literally have no idea who all is on 4chan at any time. There could be some random ass person posting here and you’d have no idea who it was.

Say they killed themselves and their online presence went away, you wouldn’t know they killed themselves unless you actively searched for it, or there was some huge post about it.

Stop acting like you know everything retard.

>> No.10131672


>> No.10131674 [DELETED] 

Yeah that’s why you hear about lolitas that die here shortly after when it happens. Maybe you should follow in anons footsteps and kys

>> No.10131675 [DELETED] 

You’re literally implying that you would know immediately everyone who’s posted here, if they committed suicide

That’s the dumbest argument

>> No.10131676 [DELETED] 

>You’re literally implying that you would know immediately everyone who’s posted here, if they committed suicide

I’m not at all but okay dumbass. You’re really trying hard to twist it.

>> No.10131678 [DELETED] 

Wow someone’s bitter

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Was I wrong to wear burando to my colonoscopy?

>> No.10131682 [DELETED] 

This thread is going to shit, you’re both retarded

>> No.10131683 [DELETED] 

You’re also telling people to kill themselves but go off I guess

>> No.10131684 [DELETED] 

People are allowed to have emotions not everyone does shit for attention. Like who the fuck goes on 4chan saying they’ll kill themselves just for attention from anons. Your age is coming out anon.

>> No.10131685 [DELETED] 

>being upset over someone telling another person to become an hero on 4chan

Go back to fb

>. Like who the fuck goes on 4chan saying they’ll kill themselves just for attention from anons

This happens literally all the time, especially in these threads.

>> No.10131686 [DELETED] 

Why are you so mad

>> No.10131687 [DELETED] 

> anon posts about killing themselves
> anon releases the negativity they were hoarding
> anon feels better
> anon doesn't want to kill themselves anymore

this is what anonymous imageboards were made for wtf

>> No.10131689 [DELETED] 

Where did anon say they felt better after posting?

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>> No.10131692 [DELETED] 

Anon, don’t listen to that old bitter hag. Suicide is a big thing and isn’t something you should do impulsively. I’m going to assume you’re young, and even if you’re not, there’s tons of things in life you have yet to experience. The people around you may not be the most supportive and that’s okay, because later on you’ll meet new people and new friends. Maybe you’ll start a new relationship and have kids. You’ll never know if you get your happy ending if you end it now. You don’t know yet if things will get better. If you can, take a bath tonight and reflect on your life. Think of all the things you love that you’re leaving behind. And think of all the things you’d like to leave behind. Relax and really think about this. There’s plenty to live for in life. Nice food, pretty brand, comfy blankets, fun hobbies and whatever else you enjoy. Life isn’t always easy but that doesn’t mean you need to end things. :) hope you feel better soon anon.

>> No.10131695 [DELETED] 

That’s not at all what anonymous image boards were made for but okay.

>> No.10131696 [DELETED] 

>don’t listen to that person who told you to get help from professionals instead of festering in your suicidal thoughts and posting about them online in a toxic environment


>> No.10131698 [DELETED] 

The only toxicity in this thread is coming from one person

>> No.10131699 [DELETED] 

Look man I can’t talk to anyone irl about this, I just came here to get this off my chest, because honestly suicide hotlines don’t fucking work, this is my home board and I felt comfortable saying it here, I’m not asking anyone to try to stop me, idek if I’ll end up doing it but that’s my plan and if you think I’m here for attention that’s okay, but I’m just trying to get some weight of my shoulders, I’ve been contemplating for a couple years and I’m serious about this right now, but I wanted a peaceful death, that’s why I thought of carbon monoxide poisoning, idk how I’d do it now

>> No.10131701 [DELETED] 

>some huge post about it.
Where do you think we are?

>> No.10131703 [DELETED] 

I think they were trying to say a huge post on Instagram or Facebook or something maybe

>> No.10131704 [DELETED] 

It’s alright anon a lot of people, including me feel the same way.

>> No.10131705 [DELETED] 

I mentioned this earlier, but I think maybe surrounding yourself with different (mentally healthy) people would help a lot.

Being surrounded by friends who are just as depressed as you doesn’t really help you grow. Not saying you can’t be friends with them, but I noticed that when I started hanging out with more positive people I started feeling better myself. Maybe it’s a placebo effect, but it helped.

>> No.10131707 [DELETED] 

>Suicide hotlines don’t work

They work in the sense you can vent to them. It’d be better for you then coming here. I still don’t think you’re going to do it because you sound like a coward looking for attention.

>> No.10131709 [DELETED] 

>they work in the sense you can vent to them

That’s exactly what they’re doing dumbass. You sound like a lonely bitter bitch. Grow up.

>> No.10131711 [DELETED] 

Instead of venting on fucking 4chan where the possibility of being told to go through with it is sky high they should do it somewhere designed for them to vent and get help if needed. Kys dumbass

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agree, >>10131672 is just jealous of the cute.

>> No.10131713 [DELETED] 

I mean, then times when I was suicidal I didn’t have the best rational thinking, just saying

>> No.10131715 [DELETED] 

The only possibility of being told that is because some retard has their bloomers in a twist and that’s you

>> No.10131717 [DELETED] 

You really must be new if you think that’s true.

>> No.10131718 [DELETED] 

You do realize that the clothes they bury you in are open up the back for ease of dressing the corpse, right? Think about them cutting your burando straight up the back with a pair of scissors for a minute...
of course if you're dead it probably won't bother you, but just the thought of butchering brand disturbs me.

>> No.10131719 [DELETED] 

I know that already, but I’d rather look like me when I’m dead than be put in something I’d never realistically wear, I’m a daily Lolita so it just feels wrong to me to not decompose with the only thing that made me happy

>> No.10131720 [DELETED] 

Sounds like you've never worked in a funeral home.

>> No.10131723 [DELETED] 
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hey now, simmer down

>> No.10131724 [DELETED] 

actually, I did work in a funeral home, that's how I know the clothes are open up the back.

>> No.10131734 [DELETED] 

They probably came from LJ or Dw. I keep having to stop myself from adding that, too.

>> No.10131743 [DELETED] 

Thank you anon, I appreciate how kind you are, of course I can’t make any promises and even if I did there’s nothing holding me to them, but I will try to relax a little before I do anything, I guess I’m just so tired lately, everyday seems to end with a mental breakdown and I just can’t handle it, I mean it’s built up for so long, not just mental pain but ever since I started restricting calories about 3 years ago I just get sick all the time and I never get my period anymore even though I’ve been eating normally for probably six months now, (I used to dream of having kids one day), and just being so weak in general it feels like there’s no hope for me anymore

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Man, I hate when you cosplay breaks and you gotta fix it midway through the con. Right? RIGHT?

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>be college loser with no friends
>find out there's a cosplay club
>don't really cosplay anymore but decide to go anyway because I need friends
>I've been here for more than a semester and a half and I've been to almost every meeting and I've still barely made friends with anyone
>literally all I've done is talk to a few girls about fire emblem and this other girl about FF who I talk to on snapchat sometimes
>after the meetings everyone just hangs around and socializes
>I usually just find the largest group of people talking and very rarely chime in

Why am I such an anti-social faggot? They're all great people and I'd love to be closer friends with them and hang out with them at cons. Why am I like this?

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>Don't do a thing
>Join group specifically made for thing
>Rarely get to talk about not thing
Gee no idea chief

>> No.10131896 [DELETED] 

is this man supposed to be attractive? he honestly looks terrifying.

>> No.10131900 [DELETED] 

Haha, have you ever tried to call one? Sure, you can vent to them, but it’s rather ineffective since you’re most likely to connect with some normie who regurgitates lines like a robot. At least if anon is venting here, people can at least relate to her.

>> No.10131901 [DELETED] 

His girlfriend photoshops the fuck out of him and he's become a big me me because of it

>> No.10131902 [DELETED] 

No because I’m not pathetic and mentally ill.

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Well for one I'm trying to get back into it I just don't really have the time anymore, and also when people are just talking after meetings it's usually more about anime and vidya than cosplay itself. It's really just because I'm retarded and bad at talking to people. I'm also the only new person who just joined this year so everyone else already knows each other and have pre-established groups which makes it harder, but most of the blame us still just me being an antisocial retard.

>> No.10131912 [DELETED] 

There is no way to commit suicide peacefully. All methods are either very painful and long, ineffective, or inaccessible. Learn how to cope better. You have to want to recover.

>> No.10131913 [DELETED] 

This anon speaks full truth.

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What about some kind of bizarre Rube Goldberg machine that ends with you being decapatated?
Don't do it anon!

>> No.10131920 [DELETED] 

Anon I'm not one of the people you've been talking to here so far, I was just going to read everything in this thread silence. But I got to bed and it's been over half an hour and I can't stop thinking of you. I don't have anything to say that I know would be helpful or any advice, but just know that I've been where you are, four years ago and then again recently, so I get how it feels. I have a will ready too and most days I have to make an active choice to stay alive. I'm holding on as best as I can though, and I just hope that you're holding on too. If you want to talk to someone I've dropped my email, I don't check it often but I will several times for the next few days. Best wishes, anon.

>> No.10131923 [DELETED] 

Oh jesus that is a cursed image, please tell me that's not a real person

>> No.10131924 [DELETED] 

Anon I'm not one of the people you've been talking to here so far, I was just going to read everything in this thread in silence. But I got to bed and it's been over half an hour and I can't stop thinking of you. I don't have anything to say that I know would be helpful or any advice, but just know that I've been where you are, four years ago and then again recently, so I get how it feels. I have a will ready too and most days I have to make an active choice to stay alive. I'm holding on as best as I can though, and I just hope that you're holding on too. If you want to talk to someone I've dropped my email, I don't check it often but I will several times for the next few days. Best wishes, anon.

>> No.10131927 [DELETED] 

Sorry to hear that things haven’t been too good for you lately, anon. There was a period in my life where I wanted to end it all too, and even now I still have the list I wrote of who gets my worldly possessions after I’m gone. I know that everyone has individual experiences, but really? It’s not hopeless. Everything might seem bleak at the moment, but life goes on, and things change. And you have the power to make them change too.

Plus think about your burando. Which brand is your favourite? What would you like to see them release one day? Is your best coord perfect yet? Maybe the piece you’re seeking to complete it might show up on Y!auctions tomorrow? Are you following any series? Aren’t you curious what happens at the end?

And well, I’m not trying to convince you that everything will be sunshine and daisies if you persevere. Negative feelings still linger and who knows if I’ll relapse one day. But I was just really happy that I got to see the sun rise the day after I was supposedly going to end it. And was really happy when someone complimented my coord at the next meet. And in retrospect, if I was dead then I wouldn’t have those small moments.

And to the anons saying you’re doing this for attention. Okay, maybe, but so what? I think you’re strong for keeping yourself alive up until today, and I’m proud of you for it. Just hang in there for a little while longer.

>> No.10131934

I have a better life than that, maybe my coolness would have rubbed off on her...

>> No.10131939
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>mfw wrote a long ass post in another thread and then accidentally refreshed the page like an asshole before posting

>> No.10131953 [DELETED] 

You guys are right, and I know that, but I’ll feel guilty if I don’t do it, it would make so many people’s life’s easier, and I’m so close, I even wrote my note and set out what I want to be buried in for whoever finds it. I love lolita and it makes me happy, but a lot of the time I just don’t feel anything at all, but I’m not going to do anything tonight

>> No.10131954

I don't think it's really edgelords, her character design's got a very… what do you call it, byouki-kei? feel about it, which seems to be fairly popular at least in nipland.

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This is the 3rd alt right trap/cross dresser I have seen this month. Whats going on.

>> No.10131972 [DELETED] 

It's >>10131924 here, very glad to know you're not going to do it tonight at least! Your relationship with guilt is interesting, for me often the only thing that keeps me alive is guilt. Things like knowing that if I died, other people would have to carry out my funeral, deal with my possessions and especially my brand, and take care of all the legal stuff that comes from a death... The person who found me would probably be shocked or traumatised even if they hated me before, some people might even blame themselves. As inconvenient as I can be to the people in my life, I feel too guilty to dump that extra shit on their laps, so that's part of why I try to stay alive. Idk why I'm telling you this haha, just... Please know I'm happy you're not doing it tonight.

>> No.10131973

booked hotel room for con coming up in a few months, things are going as planned and i feel less worried and much more secured now. planning ahead and responsibly feels gud

>> No.10131974

Disgusting. And they like to call other people degenerates too

>> No.10131978 [DELETED] 

That you’re not doing anything tonight is already a step. If you manage to push off it off until the weekend, that’s another big step. Just take it one step at a time. There’s no way I can make you feel unguilty, but I hope my words can help you endure it at least.

>> No.10131979
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>that feeling of relief that i'm not the only person who has done this

>> No.10131981
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Goddamn that's a cute otter

>> No.10131989
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what are you so scared of babe?

>> No.10131990

I legit thought that was a video game screencap or something

>> No.10132019 [DELETED] 

Anon, today is the third anniversary of the day I tried to commit suicide and I came to cgl because I was feeling shitty and wanted to browse the board. I felt like I was a piece of shit that could never improve and that there was nothing left worth living for. However, my attempt failed and I have done so many more cool things since then. I've met my favourite band, I got my dream dress, I got out of a toxic relationship. There is so much more out there for you to experience and I want you to know that you are loved and that all sorts of awesome things are out there waiting for you. Sometimes it gets hard but making it through this hard period will make you stronger. It may feel like a lot but as long as you take baby steps, any sort of progress is progress. If you need someone to talk to, you can send me an email. [email protected]

>> No.10132032 [DELETED] 

what if i get the circular saw from out in the shed and press it against my throat?

>> No.10132037 [DELETED] 

It really doesn't any better does it?

>> No.10132049 [DELETED] 
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How Vile.

Part of me wants to be a negative piece of trash but I'll be real with you. It does actually get better. Not Super great, but better. In two years things went from F to a solid C.

For real get a shrink and you'll do LOADS better if you're anything like i was. Just give them time.

>> No.10132053 [DELETED] 

I've seen mine once in the past month and I'm coming apart at the seams. I feel like I'm getting weaker and more dependent on the therapy

>> No.10132105

fuckin yikes

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tongue tied I see, shhh no need for words babe

>> No.10132120

This is normal.

>> No.10132127 [DELETED] 

It's ok to feel that way, it's common. Things like this take time; maybe months, maybe a year. Acknowledge the feelings and take ownership of them. Next time you speak to your counselor you may want to bring up these concepts. You aren't dependent, you made an active choice to improve your quality of life. For now try let yourself accept the help, therapy is a tool to pull those seams together.

>> No.10132184 [DELETED] 

I recently found out that I'm pregnant and my bf wants to force me to have an abortion and dump me afterwards. He was the love of my life and I thought he loved me too. All of my beliefs are shattered. I can't handle this any longer. I just deleted all of my lolita social media as a first step preperation for my suicide. Farewell cgl, I had some precious times on here but I'll have to leave you as well.

>> No.10132191 [DELETED] 

don't. please

>> No.10132198 [DELETED] 

>Australian gull
>Download vpn in order to get back to my mongolian basket weaving forum
>Finally here
>Finally I can go back to browsing lolita
>Let's check in on the feels thread
>At least 2 people saying they want to kill themselves
>Some asshat getting pissy about someone wanting to kill themselves and calling them out on attention whoring
God I missed this hellhole. But really though, anons who are contemplating suicide don't do it, things can genuinely get better.

>> No.10132200 [DELETED] 

Just nuke this fucking thread already. All the whiny borderliners will crawl out of their holes now.

>> No.10132202 [DELETED] 

What is causing the mass seagull death?

>> No.10132203 [DELETED] 

The decline of major brands and the eise of newfags.

>> No.10132208

It's a troll, and that left picture is lefty commie attire.

>> No.10132217

Welcome back mate!

>> No.10132247 [DELETED] 

Dehydration. Too much salt.

>> No.10132254
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>posting in the wrong thread
>checking digits
>on /cgl/
Newfags need to lrn 2 integrate.

>> No.10132259 [DELETED] 

I understand the abortion but why the breakup? He clearly must have been wanting to do it for a while now, and used this as an excuse. Don’t live your life for men anon, find another.

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Opossums have hairless tails, possums hair hairy tails. The difference can save your life!

>> No.10132291 [DELETED] 

>the person I love the most thinks I’m an annoying piece of shit

Here, I'll help you out. Things won't go well with him, you'll seek out more professional help and think you'll get better somehow or be able to get over him. You won't. You'll keep contact with them and try to keep your cool but ruin it every other week with the same shit. You'll feel like absolutely ending it all when they take a (much needed) break from talking to you after some heavy emotional offload you throw on him. When he's not talking to you you'll be at your worse, but when he finally does talk to you again and you two sort everything out you'll feel the best you've ever felt in your life.

He'll be seeing other girls, sometimes telling you stories about his sex life because you're too much of a curious bitch and need to know against your own mental health. You'll self harm while reading stories about what he does with other girls and wish it was you. Maybe you'll try getting over it by sleeping around with people you have no interest in, but you'll feel like garbage the morning after and stay in all day crying. You'll develop a kink for being blindfolded and have your ears plugged because it gives you more room to imagine him, but you won't enjoy it when you know it isn't. You'll meet some interesting guys that normally would be who you go for, but ultimately compare them against him every time.

You'll try extra hard to re-invent yourself. You'll crack down extra hard on makeup tutorials, learn better skin and hair care, actually put effort into painting your nails with intricate designs, etc. You'll ask him to go to the movies with you or dinner, and he'll always hesitate to respond.

And after years of this, you'll just accept it. You're obsessed with him and there's no breaking it. So you just deal with it. Or kill yourself, maybe, but the hope of finding someone else you fall just as hard for will (maybe) keep you going.

Don't be like me.

>> No.10132295 [DELETED] 

Congrats pseudo-suicude fags, you attracted the pedo poster with his abuse fetish.

>> No.10132296 [DELETED] 

Is pedo poster actually still a thing? I haven't seen him in a while. I thought he got tired of this place.

>> No.10132299 [DELETED] 

Hey, OP here. I'm giving her a scenario to avoid. With her current line of thinking, she'll go down that path. So she should re-evaluate things a little. I don't want her to follow my mistakes so telling her what to avoid. I have no advice for how to actually avoid them but hopefully she's smarter than I was when I was young.

>> No.10132358 [DELETED] 


Don't do it. Think about yourself and what you actually want, think about the people who will be crushed to find you've been taken too soon - the ones who will be there to help you get through this if you just ask for it.

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Post the non shopped one please anon.
How could it save a life anon? Tell us more about the dangers of Opossums
What about sick reaction images?

>> No.10132382
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I always worry about going to cons because despite trying to tone it down I'm a cringy person. I am trying to get better but I always worry that people think badly of me in the community.
I just want friends and to have a good time!

>> No.10132384

Because you're a guy who is only attempting to socialize with girls who are specifically in that club to make cosplays, not get male orbiters.

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>trying to be "friends" with girls
girls have nothing of value to offer in terms of friendship, they are boring people. I mean just listen to the inane shit women talk about, it's enough to make you rip your own ears off. Women are only worthwhile in the context of a relationship.

But I'm sure you know that already, we all know the real reason you're going to heavily female cosplay clubs. Because you're a beta male who is creepily trying to cozy up to females through their hobbies


>> No.10132389
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But I want frens not pussy, theres just more girls than guys in the club and I don't really have that many common interestssith the other guys.
Don't project your incel-ness onto me subhuman.

>> No.10132397

I feel everyone with woes about their skeleton.
>tfw I used to be a fatty-chan with huge tits and a nice hourglass silhoutte to offset what seemed like wide shoulders
>lost all the weight, discovered that my ribcage is huge for my size and now I'm completely rectangular
Even the bone structure in my face is bad. My face used to be round and now it's an upside down trapezoid. I'm glad I have a healthy body now, but fuck

>> No.10132400

>posting on 4chan
>so alpha

>> No.10132411

what's interesting to you, dude? video games? wwII?

>> No.10132414

Bruh, don't act like you go bungee jumping ever day lmao. Men are are just as boring as women with their fortnite and shitposting.

>> No.10132419

you should post some coord tries as collages in a coord help thread. mention your style intention and see what kind of help other gulls can offer.

>> No.10132423

My biggest fear. :( But I'm a fatty with a flat chest, wide shoulders, thick hands/feet/head and huge ass. I'm afraid when I lose the hips and cheeks (on my face and my butt) that I'm just going to be an ugly hobbit.

Congrats on your weightloss, though.

>> No.10132444

As if this is the reason you aren’t losing weight and not laziness.
I’m sure big ribcage anon looks better at a healthy weight, like literally everyone does, and so will you.

>> No.10132447


People are boring. I'd wager you're boring too with how much you're autistically going on about how women are all boring.

>> No.10132451

I snorted

>> No.10132452

>listening to other people's conversations that don't involve you whatsoever
>reeeeeeeeeeee everything they talk about is so boring

does it hurt being this retarded?

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I wish I had a comm...

>depressed and lonely, socially anxious to boot
>town I live in is so fucking boring
>last of my real friend group to still be living here
>also, it's really cold out
>can't wear lolita to work
>try to think of outdoor activities I can do so I can wear lolita out
>imagining treating myself to brunch or going to the cinema this weekend
>remember I'm just going to be by myself so
>might as well stay home in bed then
>not at all interested in getting all dressed up in lolita just to sit around my house and play vidya, watch movies, or touch myself all weekend
>as much as I want to FINALLY wear lolita this weekend I probably won't

depression and being offbeat is why I haven't tried to make new friends. I get so self-conscious worrying I'll have to explain my hobbies and my depression/anxiety, both are a part of me.
Job searching so I can move to a larger city and hopefully have the community aspect of the fashion for once. Been a happy lonelita for 4 years but my current situation is beginning to affect my wearing of lolita. I'm ashamed...might also be seasonal disorder...

>> No.10132470

I never said it was why I'm not losing weight? I just lost 2 lbs this week... But ok.

Obviously I'll look better smaller, and that's not stopping me. But that was my feel, so IDK what to tell you.

A dress I really wanted but bought a size smaller than I thought I could fit (motivation) came in over the weekend and fit me, which is a surprise because I haven't gone down to my goal measurements at all, but that's not about to stop me from continuing or having my own idea of what I would prefer to fit. Even if I lose 40 more lbs I am not sure I will fit the brands I want to.

>> No.10132522

2 lbs a week is a great rate and within the healthy range, good job! You’ll be the size you want before you know it if you stick to it. Same anon btw.

>> No.10132525

Oh my god I love both of them

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>> No.10132575

>Finally finish a cosplay I've slowly been working on since August last year
>Put it all on and am not happy about it
>All the colors, the design, everything is correct based on all my pictures from the show
>But it just doesn't look right
>Probably because its me in the outfit
>Remember this is why I hate clothes shopping and looking at myself in mirrors

Cosplay is not for the ugly. God damn it.

>> No.10132589

>hanging out on the only female-dominated board on 4chan
>"women only talk about dumb shit"

This level of cognitive dissonance is wild.

You clearly don't have much in common with the girls, either, since they don't want to be your friend.

>> No.10132655

I’m sure you guys look fine, most fatties think they look gaunt after weight loss when they just look normal. It’s just a big change

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>You clearly don't have much in common with the girls, either, since they don't want to be your friend.
I wouldn't say this is necessarily the case, they'll go out of their way to initiate conversation with me and sometimes they ask if I want to do group cosplays with them, it's really just me being retarded and being bad at opening up to people.

>> No.10132687

Why do I gotta have a big ass fucking nose? It’s not like a big beak looking one it’s just very wide. At least there’s something to cosplay when you have a long nose.

>> No.10132690

>I wouldn't say this is necessarily the case

I would.

>> No.10132700

I went on vacation for a week and gained back the 5 lbs I lost... gotta work on that again

>> No.10132702
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Are you okay anon? Did somebody hurt you?

>> No.10132706

No. I'm just sick of guys bawwing on this board about why girls don't like them and being too clueless to put 2 and 2 together to make 4.

>> No.10132707
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That's not even what this is about though. Anon, I think you should take a nap.

>> No.10132750

take that uncute pepe-postin somewhere else. at least put a bow on these shitty images.

>> No.10132758

It is what it is about. These girls are giving you hints that they aren't interested in talking with you. They aren't bothering to communicate with you outside of this club, most likely because you don't really want to be there for the club reasons, you want to be there to talk with them. They don't want what you're giving. You're either too clueless or too careless to realize.

>> No.10132780
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I don’t know how to make friends.
I’m 22 and I’ve always been a pretty social person, I can talk to almost anybody but I recently moved from Florida to Las Vegas and I don’t know how to meet people.
I’m married so I can’t go to bars, (plus I HATE alcohol) and I’m not in school and I don’t work a regular job (I make my money as an artist)
It’s getting pretty lonely and I just want some friends that have the same interests as me but I don’t know how to go about doing so.. I only leave the house to go to the gym (one minute drive) and go grocery shopping.
I just feel so isolated from the world.
How do artists make friends???

>> No.10132781

Anon, do you even realize how many assumptions your making?

>> No.10132782



>> No.10132786

I make enough money that my husband doesn’t need to work and he says the same thing, that we really need friends.
Two people that no each other very well isn’t a whole lot of fun.

>> No.10132830

Most lolitas seem to be either very monogamous or asexual, and I was the former until breaking up with a long term boyfriend about a year ago. He was only the 2nd person I’d slept with, but since becoming single I’ve discovered that I really enjoy promiscuity. I’ve managed to make some good friends through what might have been one night stands, maybe because I tend to meet men in settings where we share interests and I’m really only attracted to people who I vibe with intellectually. I’ve had so many awesome experiences with cool guys in interesting settings around the world in the past year. But I guess I’ve spent too much time here in the years before that — I don’t know how to describe my dating status to my monogamous lolita friends, and I don’t know how to talk about the experiences I’ve had in a way that isn’t self aggrandizing or coy. Based on how people react to “polyamory” (which is not how I’d describe myself) or “thots” here I feel like they might feel less connected to me if I talked about this part of my life.

>> No.10132846 [DELETED] 

Shut up whore

>> No.10132856
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Reactions like >>10132846 are mostly just the incels who larp here because it’s the closest they can get to touching a girl, and maybe some jealous women. Do what makes you happy, if it isn’t hurting anyone. That’s what lolita’s about, right?

>> No.10132861

I'd feel disconnected to anyone who talked about how much sex they're having. Men respect you less if you fuck them right away and I'm personally not into that but if you're happy then it doesn't matter. But most people don't give a shit and don't want to hear it.

>> No.10132864

my boyfriend and i have some fucking crazy sex but i dont talk about it to my friends because that's weird

>> No.10132868 [DELETED] 

>Just be a whore and spread STDs sis, you’re not hurting anyone

>> No.10132879

If you’re not into it and you’ve never done it, how do you know the men won’t respect you? Maybe because you read it on 4chan?

>> No.10132881 [DELETED] 

Nayrt but probably because it’s common sense. Other girls look down on whores too. It’s human nature

>> No.10132882

>>10132881 this, I look down on guys who sleep around a lot too. I'm not going to shun anyone for it but I'll silently judge them

>> No.10132883

I wanna cosplay one of the 4chan mascot submissions at a con but I'm anxious that one of you gulls will recognize it

>> No.10132886

I never want to know about any ones sex life.

>> No.10132888

don't worry about having to make conversation, it's a cosplay club. Just start making shit, lend a hand here and there.

>> No.10132904
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I’m missing one expensive piece for my kamen rider cosplay but soon it shall be complete

>> No.10132949

I don't know how to explain to most of my friends getting too much attention or touched in the wrong way makes me want to lie down and die on the spot, so I don't talk about it.

>> No.10132952

Most seagulls at cons are chill. Maybe you'll make some friends if someone recognize you.

>> No.10132958

You don't have to talk to your lolita friends about it, you can talk to other friends? I'm not sure why people always expect their lolita friends to want to talk to them about everything. You're not entitled to talk to them about everything just because you're their friend. It's fine to do what you want with your body, but it's not okay to expect people to be okay with hearing about your sexual encounters.

Basically make non lolita friends who want to talk about this. I have lolita friends and vidya friends and I cherish both equally. I know my lolita friends don't wanna talk about vidya and vice versa and I don't make them listen to my banter about it.

>> No.10132984
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>Very first time dropping off my dream dress at the dry cleaner
>Lady folds it over her arm and starts walking to the back
>my heart as I walk away

I know the dry cleaner knows what she's doing but I feel like I just dropped off one of my children with a stranger...

>> No.10133067

Can confirm it is difficult as a married woman to make friends. Female friends while saying they love and care for you never keep in touch. Plus when you say you feel hurt they say Oh I just assumed you were busy. Like nothing has changed except your status in your relationship.
My advice is join local meetup groups for activities that you enjoy. Example fishing IDK

>> No.10133071
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If the subject of partners come up do not mention having sex with multiple people. Truthfully no one is serious when they ask . It doesn't matter unless they outright ask if you are single. It's like when someone asks how you're doing? No one wants a tragic backstory . Polygamy is not something I personally find a problematic as another lolita with a boyfriend and husband. I just never mention the relationship I have as it is extremely taboo in the current climate and it is fine because no one gives a shit.

>> No.10133172

"I'm not looking for anything serious right now" is the socially acceptable away to say you're sleeping around, if that helps at all.

Also, hope you're having fun, anon. I'm glad you discovered a part of yourself.

>> No.10133181

>(I make my money as an artist)
Go to first fridays

>> No.10133208

Anyone feel shitty sometimes when it comes to their personal opinions concerning lolita? Or somehow feel like it doesn't correlate with their opinions outside of the fashion?

For instance: I think past a certain amount of chubby, it's always a little bit ita, no matter how well it's coorded. On the flip side, I think you can be plus-size and be really cute/fashionable in regular clothing.

>> No.10133235

same boat, recently moved states away and while spending time with my partner is nice but it would be cool to have other friends. idk if youre a lolita but maybe join the comm if they don't suck? i joined some discords lately to atleast try to make some online friends. i second >>10133181 most art communities have open exhibits first friday of the month. also check out other gallery openings or if there's a community maker's space

>> No.10133241


Basically what >>10132958 said. A lot of the hardcore and lifestyle lolitas are either people who dress too abnormally to get laid often with anyone who isn't a fetishist, or someone who really doesn't want lolita associated with immodesty. Plus a lot of lolitas are ex-weebs or fats who want to feel pretty. I'd just talk about it to another normie who understands rather than bring up sex at a meet. They don't give a shit as much.

>> No.10133289

I think that's because lolita comes with a pretty clear cut aesthetic and silhouette that most people look for, and it starts getting more and more difficult to achieve as you reach larger sizes. Speaking as a fatty who has struggled with finding things I like how I look in, with lolita in particular, for example getting a good bell shape to a petticoat doesn't work when you become so large around that the base of the dress is the same width your waistband stretches out to. So it becomes a matter of balancing proportions but even then there is only so much you can do. Bigger footwear to balance out the legs/feet being smaller compared to how big the skirt gets. Then your head might look small if you don't balance your headwear, etc. Normie clothes are a lot more forgiving because there is so much variety that can focus on minimizing unflattering features. With lolita you are just trying to get that certain shape and it's not easy with every body type.

>> No.10133294


I mean I’m a lolita and I’m monogamous but I don’t shit on promiscuous people. As long as you aren’t breaking anyone’s trust and keeping up healthwise I really don’t give a shit. Plus it’s fun to see a different point of view. People are people. I would be pretty close with them though before knowing what to bring up with them, but I think that applies to anyone. I just really like discussing sex and seeing different takes on it and from what I see not even al lot of normies are into that.

>> No.10133295

I recommend just going to a salon or beauty school (if you're trying to save $) if you're in that much trouble

>> No.10133298

It's because of the lack of silhouette. I mean also it's really not abhorrent to think obesity is unattractive. That's like a normal human biological response.

>> No.10133321

I think silhouette is a big part of it too, I particularly notice it in classic. Some sweet brands are more forgiving but as soon as bigger girls try and squeeze into MM or VM you can tell that it's just not made for that body type and it doesn't look good. When someone is so big that it's their dominating feature (the first thing you notice when you look at them rather than their hair,coord, etc.) it becomes ita by default in my opinion.

I remember when VM announced they were shutting and all the cunts on LU were complaining that they didn't do enough catering to bigger sizes because the pieces with 100+ bust measurement didn't make them look the same as the thin models with the pretty A line skirts that flare out at the waist and look actually flattering. Of course it's not going to look the same, when the waist is the biggest part of your body it's going to look bad, no matter how well it's coorded or what you do to balance it out you're never going to get that silhouette.

It's the same as when really tall girls wear dresses that don't even hit mid thigh. It looks weird and wrong, like someone who those clothes were clearly not cut to fit is trying to wear them. Because lolita is so specific it's glaringly obvious when the silhouette is bad, even when it looks fine by normie standards. At least if you're smaller you can alter things or just have a longer skirt but bigger body types are just really hard to achieve the shape and often just look bad to the eye even if they otherwise look fine in non lolita clothing.

>> No.10133328


Inb4 someone cries "fat shaming", the same goes for tall and short girls too. You just can't stuff your body into clothing that does not fit you and expect to look good. But most of them would rather wear burando to fit in and stretch the shirring to its physical limit than actually try to look good in the fashion.

>> No.10133329

I hate Australians so god damn much.

>> No.10133332

>hyped all week for an auction i must win
>mentally preparing for a bidwar
>cant trust sniper bidding, stay up all night
>literally nobody else gives af, win with the only bid
feelsgoodman but also tired and like i overreacted

>> No.10133342

Congrats! What did you win?

>> No.10133344


Happens to me all the time. The good thing is that all you lost was sleep and not a prized item!

>> No.10133350

Her outfit design is literally the only non-hideous one outside a couple of the medieval ones.

>> No.10133351

Hope it was worth it though? Every time I let autobid take over, someone decides to finally fight me for the item and I lose it;;

>> No.10133356
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>go to con for three days
>constantly run into people from same series as my cosplays on the wrong days
every damn time

>> No.10133413

Corset training. Show those ribs who's boss

>> No.10133419

I can’t believe how horny some Lolitas are it’s sorta gross

>> No.10133423

>lolitas are people and some people are degenerates

>> No.10133426

Let me guess you’re a degenerate?

>> No.10133428

low quality b8

>> No.10133429

Eh? I guess so, my gull I’m just hear for banter

>> No.10133430


So is there any specific juicy drama you're going to spill about a dipshit being horny in public or are you just gonna leave it as shitty bait

>> No.10133431

I genuinely feel like bigger people would have a better time learning how to sew and make their own dresses rather than trying to get a brand or store to cater to them in sizing. A brand will most likely not consider the silhouette, they’re just trying to make sure it just fits.

Meetup horror story: girl in my comm once cut one of the seams on a holy lantern jsk and covered it with red marker ON the white blouse that shows through.

>> No.10133432

Was hoping one of you other idiots would open that can of worms

>> No.10133434

I agree with all that, plus the amount of fatties who destroy such beautiful and limited expensive clothing disturbs me. It just feels disrespectful to the dresses. I couldn't imagine stretching my dresses out to their limit like that and still being able to feel like I was taking pride in my appearance..

>> No.10133435

obvious crossboarder looking for lolita sex stories is obvious

>> No.10133437

lolita here who loves sex, obviously as two very separate things that I enjoy.
I was in a long term relationship with little sexual payoff, and I felt so ugly all the time. He was my first boyfriend and the first person I'd slept with. I loved him dearly and we are still friends, but after that relationship I slept with two more people (briefly dating one of them) and I had never felt more confident. Im in a long term relationship now, but I love hearing about what others are doing (not in a voyeuristic way)and sharing my experiences whether they are recent or not because when I was having sex all my friends were virgins and often made me feel like shit because I had a boyfriend or a fling. And not one of them is a lolita, they just are like that. My advice, talk to people who love and support you, lolita or not, some people are just gonna hate that you have that self confidence and power. Be self aggrandizing you're probably super hot! and umm dont listen to what salty anons say on 4chan.... get it!

>> No.10133439


they said >>10133429 but all i could see was "how do you do fellow kids"

>> No.10133441

it's pretty obvious you're a crossboarder degenerate freak do everyone a favor and fuck off

>> No.10133468
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>years ago
>excited to do a cosplay of a somewhat not-so-popular version of a (at the time) side character that was released very recently
>spend all my money, time and effort on it
>it's obviously far from the best, but im happy, it's my first cosplay
>character has strings sewn on their skin
>I experiment sewing some string onto the most surface layer of a small patch of skin of my palm, doesn't even hurt nor bleed
>find it amusing, post it online showing my experiment (was a dumb edgy kid)
>the rest of the string parts, i glue it on for my cosplay
>post cosplay
>a few days later
>popular e-girl i follow subtweets about me
>saying how disgusting it is and freaky and preaching how it's promoting self-harm and suicide(?)
>i know it's directed at me despite me being unpopular at all, there's screenshots of my pictures as examples with my name blurred out
>her friends i follow jump on it as well, making fun of it and "how stupid do you have to be", "that's absolutely disgusting"
>i delete everything
>she makes/wears a cosplay of the character a few weeks later as well
>it instantly gains super popularity and praise, she's on a whole another level i will never reach
>feel like absolute shit
>all my money, time, effort, and inspiration, gone
>all my excitement for cosplay ever again, gone
>never cosplay again

>> No.10133469

How old were/are you?

>> No.10133477

Almost Shakespearean how it took you to figure that out

>> No.10133485

I've never seen that anime but I like her design. Twin buns are cute.

>> No.10133505

i don't remember how old i was, maybe 14? 15?
im 19 going on 20 soon now

>> No.10133511

it's because she's cute and her costume is easy to make. Also this>>10131523
A lot of weebs like the crazy girl shtick for fun, but unfortunately she attracts a lot of genuinely crazy people too

>> No.10133552
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Polish cosplay scums are discussing how idiotic whole „blackface” thing is and it’s not “real” problem. No one is racist, BUT it’s soooo idiotic to talk about “blackface”. Bunch of morons.

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>Starting outpatient program for ED
>5 days a week from 9-6 p.m. for approx. 6-8 weeks
>promised I'd be at a con for friend whom I haven't seen in years
>Potentially will miss out on con since I've been particularly difficult with pre-admission appointments (substance abuse especially), that will possibly extend my stay


>> No.10133664
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fuck I'm so sad with the jojo community on insta, like damn their bullying a girl for tanning, tagging her and a japanese cosplayer on a post with cringy in character death threat ( saying their going to untagg her when they will delete the post) and people are preaching this . Americain reaally like to push their standard on everybody . Like jojo is love, why

>> No.10133675

>bullying a girl for tanning
Do they think that tanning = blackface? Are they not aware that people can and do naturally tan? Even if it's fake tan, at worst the person in question would look orange rather than like a caricature of black people. Why is this a problem?

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It would suck if you were to miss out on the con anon, but your health and wellbeing come first! My girlfriend went through the same a few months back, I wish you all the best

>> No.10133705

to be clear the 2 cosplayer did it with makeup or shoop, some said it was offensive toward poc ( and a lot of them are bashed because they are too dark for some characters). And it was not even as dark as the character is

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Much appreciated anon, thanks.

>> No.10133751

I do wear a waist trainer or corset almost every day, but its a myth that itll change your waistline permanently.

>> No.10133811

Honestly, that was pretty edgy of you and she did nothing wrong in calling it out.

>> No.10133844

old school meta makes my heart flutter and my head light

>> No.10133849


>> No.10133869

Same here

>> No.10133872

I am so nervous about my first meet. I've played it safe with winexblack so I know my coord isn't eye burningly bad and it's a pretty large comm so I'll probably meet at least one person but I guess I just can't kick the jitters :/

>> No.10133892

>Really into lolita fashion
>Really short (5'0")
>The times I've crossplayed as female characters I genuinely get shocked expressions when I talk and reveal a deep man voice
>Feel I may want to try being a brolita a shot
>But I also really love my manfashion sense
>And my look just doesn't fit without my beard
>Okay with shaving it off for cosplay since it's just one weekend and will be back within a month
>But if I go lolita I'd have to shave it off pretty regularly and it will almost never get a chance to grow back fully

Fuck my life. It'd probably be easier if I was one of those faggy ass sissies, but I really like how I look with my beard AND really like how I look without it but only when I'm covered in makeup and a wig. My beard makes such a big difference in my appearance. I guess it's not that big of a deal considering I'm not DYING to get into the fashion but feels bad cause I feel like I can really pull it off well.

For the record I'm not trans or LGBT or whatever the fuck made up gender name tumblr would want to label me as. I'm just a short hairy asian dude who makes a good girl if I try.

>> No.10133898

>his beard takes a month to regrow

>> No.10133925

>have a large wardrobe in which I own multiple cuts and colors of prints
>torn between the autism to have everything sorted by color and the autism to keep prints from the same series together

It irks me either way and I’ve never found a way to be completely happy with how I store my clothing. It wouldn’t bother me so much if I only had a few repeats but I have a lot of my favorite prints repeated.

>> No.10133937

I've been coming here for the larp thread for at least a year, and now I am liking this board the most. However, I don't really post or understand what all this other shit even is or get any of the board culture

>> No.10133942

My comm is taking a field trip to the Dora the explorer movie by Michael Bay wtf

>> No.10133948

I'm a lolita who participates in the larp thread now and then. The larp thread is its own microculture within the larger board, it's kinda cute. It doesn't really overlap with the cosplayers or lolitas that often (other than Gropey when he's around) so it makes sense that it would develop its own personalities and in-jokes. Don't worry about understanding everything, if you're having fun and not being annoying or newfaggy enough to get called out then you're doing fine.

>> No.10133957

I hang by print release date, maybe that could work for you?

>> No.10133964

That's too bad anon. But on days like these, scratch your beard and enjoy your own body as best you can. It's a good starting point to like who you are without clothes, which you obviously do. Other's in your situation might take the sissy pill, or worse end up chiming in to the trans echo-chamber. You seem right in the head, and I applaud that.

My suggestion might be a bit controversial around here, but you could potentially aim to be a conlita unless your cosplay plans cover up all the event days. If you plan one really specific coord, splurge and buy everything you need, you'd probably make a great brolita at a con you'd shave for either way. It's also a way to test the waters. If wearing a petticoat makes your manly fashion sense weak in the knees, maybe it's worth shaving more often. If not you'll basically have another costume, albeit quite expensive, to enjoy for another con if you feel like it.

Or just grit your teeth and don't take the plunge. Either way I wish you the best of luck!

>> No.10133992

i love you guys thanks for constantly inspiring me to improve with your coordinates. I fucking love lolita and i love lolitas, even the catty bitches

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>> No.10134071

Talk less. Most cringey ppl are cringey because they wont stfu and cant/refuse to read a room before opening their mouths.

>> No.10134077

I split my wardrobe up into the different themes and then make it go in color order

>> No.10134104

Maybe sort by brand and then within those groups by year? I usually sort by colour myself but my wardrobe isn't that big, about 35 main pieces.

>> No.10134178

I dreamed last night that Mana dropped in to a tea party I was attending and whispered literal nonsense in my ear to demonstrate that he had chosen me to model for him.
I’ve never had a lolita-related dream before and don’t even own any mmm. I guess I’m more obsessed than I thought...

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>see the new zealand shooter video
>have nightmare it happens at a con I'm at
H-how long until we see a video and its bad naruto cosplayers, lolitas. and flavor of the months getting shot up while pretending to play dead

>> No.10134226

After that shooting at that gaming tournament I had so many nightmares it would happen at my locals. A skinny white dude in a trenchcoat walked into my work a few weeks ago and I had to go into the bathroom to hide because I actually felt really afraid. It's irrational as fuck but I'm so fucking scared of a shooting happening. I don't think it will be long before it's at a con either. Cons harbour exactly the types who do these shootings. Fame hungry outcasted (typically) white dudes who love guns. Fuck.

>> No.10134236


>skinny white dude in trench coat
>but it's racist to distrust blacks despite significantly more crime

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>> No.10134246
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sjws ~woke asf~ tumblrinas ruin jojo like they ruin everything else.

>> No.10134248

can you please post a SS of the post/victim in question? i HATE this type of shit and witch hunting and want to at least give them my support.

>> No.10134256

Just eat your damn food. If you quit your shit you could go.

>> No.10134260

Why do yts like you insert yourself into my community's issues? It's annoying. Stay in your lane.

>> No.10134269

Just get a handgun for self defense if you're so scared all the time

>> No.10134278

not gonna reply after this because I don't wanna destroy this thread but black people commit significantly less mass shootings than white men.
Don't live in america, handguns are not allowed here, even then i wouldn't want a gun as I also fear a gun related accident would occur. I live somewhere which has not had a mass shooting...ever...and very little violence occurs that isn't gang related so the paranoia is unwarranted.
Gonna drop this topic since I don't wanna shit up the thread but thanks for the advice.

>> No.10134297

This is great anon. I want to second this, I think it's really important for women friends to talk about sex whenever it's appropriate and everyone is comfortable sharing/listening.
Until we're out of the dark about our bodies, likes/dislikes, and how to successfully reach orgasm when wanted, it's important for ladies to share. so many of my friends growing up dealt with so much shame and imposed ignorance regarding their bodies.

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well, I can see you having a hard time being a daily lolita, but you could just wear it once a month like you do with cosplay. or twice a month.
give it a try, your love of the fashion may actually trump the full-beard need.

>> No.10134359

Thanks anon, I really appreciate this and agree.

>> No.10134436

Well, the alt right is "diverse"

>> No.10134439

Not anymore if they see me

>> No.10134443

Which character

>> No.10134448

Why, are there many muslims at your con

>> No.10134451

NAYRT but there was also that shooting at the esports event. Gun toting crazies come in all shapes and sizes.

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the girl who got tagged/shit on ( too lazy to go on my phone for the SS sorry)

>> No.10134465

Holy shit this looks bad. I'd dunk on her too.

>> No.10134512

That’s one of my irrational fears and I’ve had it for years. Honestly surprised I haven’t heard of it happening yet

>> No.10134608

This has given me some inspiration to finally wrest control over my sexuality. There us absolutely no reason I need to continue trying to bury it. Flashbacks might be scary, but I can't keep letting them have this much power over me. I need to take command of my own life.

>> No.10134631
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>long day at work
>everything is shit
>stress and anxiety through the roof
>come home
>cat sits in lap
>browse LM and /cgl/ to see all the pretty dresses
>a small moment that I can take for myself
Life's not so bad.

>> No.10134651

It is not a myth, but you do have to keep it up. If you leave off for too long it'll be like you never did it at all.

>> No.10134678

>wanted to buy from AB since i was 13 but was a sweet lolita and never had anything that would match
>finally make the switch to gothic, got the perfect dress to match their velveteen headdress but broke
>sold a bunch of stuff on circlly suddenly and have enough money to buy it
>they close the day I can buy something
How long will I be waiting??? I wanna die

>> No.10134706

>finish playing 999
>want to cosplay Junpei, start making plans
>spent the entire weekend making his vest from scratch, busted my ass a stupid amount to get it done
>planning to go to PAX on Thursday if I fully finished everything, only gotta do the watch
>sit down ~2 hours ago to start the watch
>the foam I brought with me from home is too thin to make the watch
>I have very little sandpaper

pretty salty to be honest, going to have to hit up the local hardware shop and see what they got. on top of that, I have almost no experience with props, so here goes

>> No.10134714

I think we'll see one in western europe in coming years.

>> No.10134724

>gay and lonely af cosplayer
>live in medium sized city in Wisconsin
>no gay cosplay or Lolita girls in my city
I probably won’t meet anyone unless I move but it would be really dumb for me to move before I graduate from college so I feel stuck. Honestly at this point I would take a straight cosplayer or Lolita just to have a friend in the hobby I could see on a regular basis

>> No.10134729

they open once a month, sign up for their emails and then turn your email notifs on.

>> No.10134737

Why do you want to befriend lolitas if you're a cosplayer? You don't share a hobby with them, unless they happen to also cosplay.

>> No.10134742

I’ve been interested in Lolita for awhile and I tried to get my first dress several times, but I would always get outbid at the last minute. Because I don’t actually own any main pieces I don’t feel comfortable calling myself a lolita, but I’m still interested in the fashion and it would be nice to talk to someone about it

>> No.10134746

once a month? I thought it was once every two months, so that's good. It's actually a bit of a good thing i failed to buy it this time, since in a month i can buy much more. thanks anon.

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Why are Harley Quinn cosplayers always such thotties?

>> No.10134756

I'm the opposite. multiple main dresses but really struggling to find shoes that make me happy enough. Seems like everything I want is sold out or not what I'm looking for.

>> No.10134761

Yeah it’s really frustrating when you can’t find the pieces you want. I don’t like settling for things either. If I can’t get the thing I want, I’d rather wait until another one gets listed than settle for something else.
I’ll have my fingers crossed for you anon

>> No.10134764

>thot attracts thots
wow, call me surprised

>> No.10134778

brooooooooooooo 999 is so good holy shit and nobody's into it anymore so good luck senpai!! Just started my Aoi cosplay myself

>> No.10134779

wow I forgot that f a m changes to senpai lol I promise I wasn't tryna sound weird

>> No.10134783

I cc at every con and laugh at prop check in

>> No.10134836
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Trannies are violently mentally ill, it is known.

>> No.10134847

Bad does not mean racist. Tubblr sjws are cancer.

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>have nice job, make money
>finally able to get into lolita
>health deteriorates
>lose everything
>medical bills eat all savings
25 won't be too old to get into lolita, r-right?

>> No.10134902

No. I’m 25 too. Who gives a shit. Misako is in her 30s ffs.

>> No.10134903


A lot of lolitas are in their 30s. You'll be fine.

>> No.10134908

I started when I was in my late 30s.

>> No.10134933

Don't play the rest of the series. Trust me.

>> No.10134944

Don't be stupid. I started in my 30s too, and I'm almost 40.

>> No.10134967

You won’t be too old
I hope your health improves anon

>> No.10135003

nayrt but why? I just ordered VLR........

>> No.10135010

>order my first petticoat in January to make sure it arrives in time for the only local con, seller says they take ~1 month plus shipping time
>con is now two weeks away and it still hasn't shipped

>> No.10135018

I sincerely hope you can make good memories and have only good experiences moving forward!
If you haven't already, take some time to find where all of your boundaries lie and what your "hard no's" are, so that you have a solid foundation to help you communicate before and during steamy situations.

I personally just got over a severe kissing aversion I developed because my first kiss was a full-on open-mouthed surprise abomination that I did not consent to. I was hanging out with my crush and turned my head and suddenly he descended upon me and it was...not okay.
I had to look away from kissing scenes in movies because I'd have this visceral cringe reaction. 10 years later, I'm a lot more comfortable with kissing and I've gained a lot more experience maintaining my boundaries and keeping myself as safe as possible.

You are valuable and determined! Best of luck to you, anon. you deserve a healthy sex life.

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>I think I have a shopping addiction
>Mfw I don’t even have a very impressive wardrobe to show for it

>> No.10135042

VLR is pretty good, it's the third game that feels poor. A ton of loose ends, a hilarious plot point and characters that have absolute personality shifts.
People think the writing quality is not good because he had to finish Punchline and had a small window to release the game

>> No.10135091

Same, Anon. I've noticed that I cope with anxiety by shopping and since I'm being taken off one of my anxiety meds my purchases have gone from manageable to insane. Feels bad.

>> No.10135093

i think i have a shopping addiction too. i swear I cant go a day without buying something online. i have addiction issues so i feel like lolita is just feeding into that

>> No.10135180

Anon you replied to, and I finished ZTD yesterday. I found VLR to be a more developed version of the ideas in 999, but the villain was too damn obvious. Also, ZTD was interesting up until the villain came out, which is when it went to shit IMO, and some characters are insufferable

>> No.10135187

same bro, same. But don't let /cgl/ corrupt what's impressive and whats not. I have about 20 dresses and many here would call it average, but a lot of other lolitas i know think that's massive (I'm also picky about what i buy though, so i own a lot of really nice pieces)
I bet your wardrobe is perfect anon

>> No.10135196

The thing is unless you’ve only been in the fashion for a year that’s not impressive and the only people who tell you otherwise are new or poor. You’re way too sensitive if you get upset over people calling 20 mainpieces “average”, because it is. 15-30 pieces is average.

>> No.10135197

Is there a particular reason why you want to make the watch instead of using one of the official watches?

>> No.10135253

Nayrt but those watches, if you can even find one, are collectors items and expensive as hell

>> No.10135258


Why are you upset that your quantity is considered 'average'? Concentrate on quality, and you'll find more happiness there.

>> No.10135261

Personally I didn't enjoy VLR at all, it felt like there was a lot less substance to it than 999. The characters felt shallower, there was too much going on with the plot for the length of the game, and each route felt abruptly short due to cramming in like 10 pretty much required endings vs 999's 5 endings. I feel like it would have been a great game if it had been more focused. By the time I was finishing it up I wasn't even curious how the plot wrapped up, I just wanted to be done with it. But, I enjoyed 999 mostly for the mystery and horror aspects and I'm a big reader, so you may like VLR more than I did.

I did enjoy ZTD for the novelty factor, but I probably wouldn't replay it. 999, on the other hand, is one of my top 5 games.

The watches for 999 aren't color accurate either, and won't have the correct number on the face.

>> No.10135303

You are an incredibly weak individual. Being traumatized from a nasty kiss is pathetic.

>> No.10135312

Having someone force their tongue down your throat at a young age seems like a pretty reasonable thing to have bother you for a while.

>> No.10135318

Bother you for a few days? Sure. 10 years? Pathetic.

>> No.10135350

Everyone is different. Everyone deals with things differently.

I don't think it's unreasonable that what was probably their first ever intimate moment with someone that was unwanted and invasive then messed them up for a while.

>> No.10135353

You being so weirdly aggressively judgmental over something that doesn’t affect you in the slightest is more pathetic, anon.

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My mail arrived!

>> No.10135385

nayrt, but this makes me feel a lot better about my own insane shopping habits. I still kind of doubt it though, considering how many kids and poors there are who like lolita.

>> No.10135391

wtf I love lolitas now?

>> No.10135430

I feel like I'm too ugly and have too shitty craftsmanship to cosplay. I would love to find a group to cosplag with, but between how I am too autistic to make friends and how I would probably drag everyone else down, I doubt that would ever happen

>> No.10135431
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Are you the type who likes to wring every second from a con? Or do you take it easy, maybe nap in the room or step out for a bite to eat?

>> No.10135444
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I miss my comm and friends so much, I legit spent an hour crying over how much I miss them. I wish I had never moved so far.

>> No.10135446

Howdy Katie

>> No.10135449
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>tfw the two friends who normally go to cons with you both decided they want to go with someone else for this upcoming con.
>Don't want to be alone for 4 days, especially at the hotel where i'll be completely alone

I don't know what to do :/

>> No.10135450

(sorry wasnt trying to be spooky, hoping for the best for you!)

>> No.10135451

I feel the same. There’s actually a bigger comm in the city I moved to but they’re almost all so ita. My tiny comm in my college town was so cool, well dressed and generally interesting people.

>> No.10135453

My fear of losing pieces of lolita history and obsessively hoarding, downloading and archieving information reached a new high in the past 48 hours

>> No.10135454

This sound like a mental illness

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>> No.10135460

The companies do that themselves. I wouldn't worry about it.

>> No.10135472

>The companies do that themselves.

>> No.10135473

Companies that haven’t been irrelevant for over a decade

>> No.10135475

So not livejournal. That sounds like a reason for worry to me.

>> No.10135477

Go to your therapist and ask for a refill of the meds you ran out of ya loon

>> No.10135497

If something bothers you and you repress it too hard for one reason or another, it can take 10 years to get over, especially if you don't take it seriously. Trust me, I would know.

>> No.10135507

That's other people's uploaded music, not their own company's physical product and designs, you retard.

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My close friend told me she wanted to buy /commission her first cosplay but wouldn't tell me what character. After months of wondering, it finally came today. It's beautiful, it looks so good and she's happy. I'm happy for her.

I'm just feeling a little hurt and jealous because she knew I was planning to cosplay that same character to the same convention, in the same outfit, and mine won't look as professional. She knew I was planning it and that's why she didn't tell me. She needs advice now on wigs and such and I just feel a little sad. I don't want to tell her this because I know it's immature and stupid to be sad about it, and I don't want to drag her down, but I just feel like there's no point in trying to make my own now. Guess I'll pick a different character from the series

>> No.10135544

Was she trying to one-up you or thought she'd make you happy by twinning? Does she have a pattern of trying to constantly be better than you?

>> No.10135593

Sorry Anon, not a Katie!

I'd happily take an ita comm over no comm right now, but I get what you mean.

>> No.10135597

See you after the purge

>> No.10135618

I have two lolita GFs who don't know about each other, but the lonelita one just joined the comm that my other GF is in. Sad times, my friends. I've kept the secret up for a year but I'm pretty sure I can't stop the cat from getting out if the bag when they communicate more.

>> No.10135622

I hope they both dump you

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They most likely will. Thats why I'm sad and don't really care if one of them stumbles onto my post and puts two and two together...my days are numbered.

>> No.10135633

> go with someone else
why can't all of you go together? it sounds like they're avoiding you. "i'm going with someone else" is usually what i say to say to people when i mean "i don't want to go with you" desu (aimed at men usually)

>> No.10135657

The official watches are collector's items and expensive as hell, and literally nobody sells replicas/prop version of them for some odd reason. Only option is to make it

>> No.10135658

>tfw had a con dream
Please, not now.

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>two lolita GFs

>> No.10135679

I appreciate you anon. it's not all on your shoulders though so do what you can but give yourself good breaks because there are other lolita archivists out there. Thank you for your work, you're amazing!

>> No.10135681

>thinking only of Brand publications and material as part of lolita history
>completely disregarding the content of actual lolitas that is in danger
you're the walnut here, dog.

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>Also, ZTD was interesting up until the villain came out, which is when it went to shit IMO, and some characters are insufferable

You just don't understand his COMPLEX MOTIVES.


>> No.10135690

No don't quit, anon. Do it better! If it means taking your time so you can enjoy it, then go all out for your own sake. Have fun. I would never do this to a friend without actually discussing it with them first, that's just awful and the fact that they kept it from you AND are asking you for advice is downright rude. I'm upset for you.

>> No.10135697

I hate to break it to you anon, but that's not something a friend would do. Maybe you should rethink your relationship, or at least cease to tell her any future plans in case she makes a habit of this.

Points to you because you went to the effort of making the outfit yourself (or at least planned to). Choosing to invest so much time into a costume is a testament to your love of that character. Don't change on account of her stupid actions, take your cosplay and rock it!

If I know people I know have done a costume before that I then decide to do or if it's a commonly done one which just blends into the masses I look at what people have done before me, pick it apart and find the things they did that I don't like. I also take note of the things I do like and incorporate them if possible.
Also you can add gimmicks! If they have a prop or a quriky element, go ham and use them to get the upper hand and make you stand out.

>> No.10135698

Not very difficult so long as you show an interest in the fashion and aren't an ugly sperg. Friend finder thread was really helpful.

>> No.10135699

Baby don't even have records of what they made THEMSELVES in the 90s. There was a Lolita history exhibit a while back in Tokyo (I think it was posted on FB in the Oldschool group) and it was all fan-sourced. It's such a shame.

I'm rooting for you anon! This is a great cause given how the fashion is largely undocumented before the early noughties outside of magazines. Keep it up, just make sure not to let yourself stress over it too much. Your work is greatly appreciated but don't let it take over your life.

>> No.10135700

Where did I say I was upset? I don't really care.

>> No.10135702

Where did I say I was upset? Can anyone on this site read?

>> No.10135715

they are both going with people who I don't like and who don't like me. It didn't work out last time we tried that.

>> No.10135738
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Mother pulled me to the side to discuss something "serious"

>I found out the dresses you wear are called lolita dresses...did something happen in your childhood you never told me? I knew Frank was a snake but good god if he touched you...

That's very sweet, mom...but no...

>Are you sure?!? Why are you wearing these dresses if they're called that? I found that there are even grown men who wear these dresses online doing sex work!

My mother is messaging me like every week with stuff like this. We end each conversation on a good note that makes it seem like she understands she was overthinking and then she finds some new stuff to ask.

>> No.10135740

Her intentions are definitely pure but it's pretty obvious she's misunderstanding the basic reason of why people enjoy lolita. Your mom seems nice and supportive though.

>> No.10135741

Stay strong anon! It's sweet that she's coming from a place of genuine concern but it's a shame that the explanations aren't getting through to her.

Maybe show her a few docs like the Refinery29 video on Lolita, or show her some classic stuff and explain historical influences. I don't know why, but bringing historical fashion into it makes it click for a lot of people who wouldn't be familiar with any alternative fashions.

>> No.10135742

Yea, her heart is in the right place and she doesn't mean harm. It's just really uncomfortable for me, especially when she started really talking terribly about my step father whom I've never had any issues with. Their breakup was all their drama, but he was never a bad role model to me.

Thanks for the suggestion, I'll do this!

>> No.10135743

>jannies deleting topical posts I make here and replies
>leave up absolute drivel, petty drama, and other bullshit

this place is really going to shit huh

any reccs for sewing/cosplay forums? actually, just sewing would be enough

>> No.10135769

sux 2 b u, dingus

>> No.10135770

Just don't pay your medical bills. It's that easy.

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>> No.10135807

just have one lolitafu
or it will destroy your leifu

>> No.10135826

A former friend is being a Bitter Betty and is going around telling people I stopped being friends with her because she quit lolita when really it's because I wouldn't quit with her. She even lectured me to not to even bring up the fashion anymore in front of her. She gets pissed of when I organize something lolita related because she thinks she is being excluded even though she is absolutely welcome without lolita. And she doesn't even want to come when I try to meet up outside of lolita. I stopped being friends with her because clearly the kind of friendship she wants us to have would mean I'd have to give up my hobby and everything related including friends just so I can see her every blue moon without guarantee she will stop being shitty to me..

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>Bought an used OP online
>OP smells really strong with perfume and now my whole house smells really bad

People please stop using strong fragrances while wearing lolita.

>> No.10135848

That's not how it works here.

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I gave a ride to a Harley and she tried to suck my winky, I had to t-pose on that thot until she fled.

>> No.10135865

Lolita attracts the worst kind of women. Every single one I have ever met irl has some sort of serious mental issue that revealed itself within several minutes of casual conversation. It's almost a prerequisite these days.

>> No.10135877


I also hope they both dump you, you (I'm assuming man) whore. Like the lolita community is pretty small, it's downright rarted that you didn't think they'd eventually meet. I know lolitas just because we've spoken on RC threads or in comm sales groups.

>> No.10135929

That’s why I’ve been a lonelita so far. I don’t want to screech in public about anime with a bunch of autistic weebs who have sOcIaL aNxIeTy and are genderspeshul fat fucks or “queer” hetero chicks with danger hair and piercings. All my friends are supportive normies and I prefer it that way.

>> No.10135937


none of my lolita friends are like this. you sound like your local comm is ita as fuck, or maybe you found the furry community by accident.

>> No.10135940

I don’t have experience with other comm’s personalities obviously, so in that regard I can only talk about my local one. But it seems like every comm I see in pics on here is half heifers stretching out brand. Ugh no thanks

>> No.10135960

>I found that there are even grown men who wear these dresses online doing sex work!
I hear this a lot about a variety of things. They don't seem to understand that literally everything is a "sex thing" to someone out there.

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I love wearing lolita but I’m a pretty masculine girl at heart, it’s is wrong for me to ‘show’ this side of me when wearing lolita? Like I’m kinda the classic “take -no- shit from anyone” kind of person and acting dainty is very hard for me in general since it doesn’t feel like me at all.
So is it wrong to show my aggressive side while wearing lolita? Arms crossed, hands on my hips, leaning my parisol like this crow bar in this pic, ect

>> No.10135980

Are you trying to LARP an anime character? Just act natural anon

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>I’m a pretty masculine girl at heart, it’s is wrong for me to ‘show’ this side of me when wearing lolita?

Its the opposite of wrong

>> No.10135988

This sounds really cringe. Not you not being a uwu lovely in lolita, but the way you described your personality. No normal person acts that way, only people who are mentally deficient

>> No.10135991

holding your parasol like that is cumbersome for no reason and will poke people in the eye.

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Tfw you're ready to leave but your group thot is in the toilets, getting railed face-down in a puddle of pee-pee

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>> No.10136011

In short paraphrase it does sound silly but this is just how I am.
I was in the military for a long enough time that that’s just how I hold myself /act now, whoops
I also go the the gym on a daily basis if that gives you any more indicator of what type of person I am if that’s any less ‘cringy’

>> No.10136014

It’s not any less cringe. How do those things correlate to you acting like an autistic retard?

>> No.10136022

So if I’m an autistic retard like you say, where do we go from here anon?
Please shed light on what I’m supposed to do now.

>> No.10136028

>No normal person acts that way
Are you unaware of the existence of tomboys?

>> No.10136034

Can I have a /cgl/ birthday party?

>> No.10136036

Most people, normies included, have some kind of dumb schitick that's a part of their identity.

>> No.10136038

Ignore bait and be you.
Fuck murder kill in burando as you were meant.

>> No.10136039

I opened a hair clip I got from a girl off lm, fucking 3x3 inches of hair spray and pure hate. Some fuckin people man.

>> No.10136040

Rip your mental health.
You in any archivers discords?
Could be nice not being alone/ in touch with the archiver behind rebeccablacktech.

>> No.10136043

>arms crossed
That's fine.
>hands on my hips
...You can do that but it'll look very unflattering with your flared skirt. Up to you though.
>leaning my parasol like pic related
Like >>10135991 said, not really recommended.
You don't have to fake a personality or force any behavior while wearing lolita since it's a fashion, not a costume, but it does depend on what you otherwise mean by "aggressive side". If you're not unnecessarily loud in public and know how to sit in a dress, there should be no issue.

>> No.10136047

Do you really want a bunch of ita, hamplanets singing you happy birthday?

>> No.10136048

I once had a nightmare I put on a cosplay and it was way too tight and I had huge puffy nipples that you could see through the dress but I wore it the con anyways.

>> No.10136049

LEWD. This is a Christian server thot.

>> No.10136086

If you get into an actual fist fight no one will want to buy your brand because they assume any blood stains are period stains. So don't punch anyone in Lolita, other than that do whatever you want. Lolita is only clothes and a fun community, it doesn't have to be an identity or lifestyle

>> No.10136111

Yes, it's ok.

>> No.10136113

Being fake edgy isn't a good personality trait. Do whatever you want, no one really cares

>> No.10136133

>not letting her suck it

>> No.10136151
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Thank you guys for the support.... I felt stupid being so sad about it. I genuinely feel like she has no idea why this would be kind of a shitty thing to do. She's never tried to one-up me before so I don't really know why she chose to do it on my favorite character out of one of my favorite series. I've even been practicing being in-character and she knew that... I dunno. Ugh. I decided I'll just use the materials I gathered to be a different character that would complement her cosplay; at least we wouldn't look so silly at the con. Making the cosplay I wanted and trying to make it good or better than hers just feels even more petty somehow even if it was my original plan. Oh well. Just won't tell anyone my cosplans anymore lol

>> No.10136153

It's just clothes. Just don't be obnoxious at meets and you're fine. I feel like I'm reading my own posts in middle school though when I was trying to be my own cool anime heroine. Just be yourself anon, I'm sure people will like you if you're being authentic. No point acting "dainty uwu" if it's not you cause it'll just come off as fake. Instead of protraying a personality just show your own

>> No.10136187

>I genuinely feel like she has no idea why this would be kind of a shitty thing to do
If she didn't know that it was a shitty thing to do, she would have told you about her costume when it came up. That she hid it means she knew this was not right but did it anyway... why? This cosplay is obviously important to you, why choose this of all the cosplays in the world, at that exact time she knows you pour your soul into yours?

I don't know what you are otherwise like together, but thinking you are in the wrong for being upset about your supposed friend being a cunt to you, thinking you're petty for wanting to do have at least a little bit revenge, her thinking so lowly of you that she thinks she can steal your cosplay, throw more money at it to one up you, and then STILL ask you for help makes me wonder whether your relationship isn't generally toxic. I hope she doesn't use you as a punching bag/doormat/servant while your self worth drops both because people tend to adjust their self image according to how people treat them and because you maybe realize that you *allow* her to treat you like this and think lowly of yourself because of that.

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This exchange alone has brought so many emotions. I can't hold all these feels

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Nevermind, there's no need to hold the feels. I'll just die.

>> No.10136307

Plot twist: she wanted to surprise you with your favourite character, because she wants you to fall in love in her and to bang you.

>> No.10136816

It's just odd because she's never treated me poorly. Usually we do lots of equal favors for each other and are considerate to the others' feelings, so I'm just extra confused and hurt. If it happened all the time I wouldn't be making cosplans with this person.

Jokes on her I used to have a crush on her and she's really pretty

>> No.10137035


You know you could just ask her why and explain how you feel in a non-confrontational way? I don't think rolling over and being a doormat about this is the best way to go about the situation because it than becomes a habit in other areas, not just life. I'm speaking from experience and it's better to nip this kind of behavior in the bud.

>> No.10137136

I'm a diagnosed compulsive hoarder and I second everybody saying you should probably talk to a therapist about this. I also hoard-save websites, images etc. because I'm scared of losing them and want to keep them "just in case", and my therapist is helping me slowly ease off.

>> No.10137881

Then later you find your picture on 4Chan and you realize it wasn't a dream.

>> No.10140744

do you ever feel like a lot of people in your comm don't care about actually hanging out and only care about taking the perfect coord shot? Like they only come to get that aesthetic picture and not to be friends?

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you are literally me. got my FK the exact way. but it wasn’t even my crush, just my guy friend who was bitter because I didn’t want to offer my body to him, and he wanted take something from me and leave his mark on me forever. I don’t have an aversion to intimacy now, but I do feel anxious and uncomfortable when I see those types of scenes in movies (like I literally can’t watch anything with teenagers in it because of that). i also have had a lot of people laugh upon hearing about my experience and tell me to “get over it”, especially the day after it happened.. you are not a weak person at all, and I’m glad we can relate. if you haven’t talked to anyone about this yet I really hope you do. in the mean time, focus on your hobbies and getting dolled up to keep you distracted and remind you that you’re a strong, wonderful person who deserves to be surrounded by pleasant things that you want. best regards.

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