/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

[Anonymous No.10143566]

/cgl/ edition

[Anonymous No.10143569]

>>10143566
We juuuuust had one of these threads...

[Anonymous No.10143596]

I am so sick of ordering things online only for them to not match the advertised color. I hate being perfectionist like this but I just can't settle for "good enough". I have so much shit laying around that I'm only going to throw out because its the wrong color by a few shades.

[Anonymous No.10143632]

>>10143569
last thread was ran by a girl who wasnt allowed to join a comm because she didnt own any pieces and continued to call them cunts
that comm came here and told her she was allowed if she just bought bodyline and she got butthurt and now im sure she wont ever be allowed in the comm

[Anonymous No.10143642]

I used to wear a lot of Liz Lisa and learned how to use SS/mercari/etc as a teenager. I thought I was too fat and ugly to wear lolita, even though that was the fashion I discovered first and loved (and turns out I fit it just fine). Got back into lolita in my 20s, and I can only imagine how many DDs and wishlist items I missed out on because of my low self esteem

also recently bought some liz lisa, after buying burando almost exclusively the past 1.5 years himekaji is affordable as fuck

[Anonymous No.10143645]

>>10143596
Exactly. I'm sick of AP lavenders not matching. And then one time I got posted and everyone was going on about how the undertone of my shoes didn't match my blouse (fucking pinks, am I right?) but really I can't keep buying and buying pair of tea parties after tea parties just to get the right exact undertone when they're advertised online as looking like they'll match.

[Anonymous No.10143649]

People who complain about people in the CoF thread having wrong undertones or nitpick to the umpteenth degree about stuff that looks fine are probably teenage roleplayers or think their coording skills are more superior than they actually are and you can't change my mind.

[Anonymous No.10143656]

>>10143632
Jesus Christ we all know, it’s been brought up to death now. I don’t think that was even the comm.
>>10143566
This board has been getting hurt over cunt, whore, fag, autistic, etc. lately. Where did all these newfags come from?

[Anonymous No.10143657]

more than half of my wardrobe is bought with dirty money

[Anonymous No.10143679]

There is nothing wrong with big conventions

[Anonymous No.10143682]

>>10143679
Big con > small con

[Anonymous No.10143683]

>>10143645
People complaining about colors not matching 100% are Larpers

[Anonymous No.10143695]

>>10143656
i dont think so either but you gotta admit it was hilarious

[Anonymous No.10143697]

>>10143657
What like you're dealing drugs to pay for brand?

[Anonymous No.10143705]

>>10143656
I only get "offended" by autist since I noticed people started using it irl and it has real consequences for people with autism

[Anonymous No.10143707]

>>10143697
probably sells their nudes

[Anonymous No.10143713]

>>10143705
Saying “that’s retarded” and calling people retards has been common practice for at least the past thirty years. There’s wayyy more backlash irl these days then there used to be. If you’re hanging out with people who think saying autist in public is acceptable, it’s mostly just embarrassing for them. That would never fly in any of my irl social circles.

[Anonymous No.10143722]

>>10143713
I've heard people say it at work and in my family and nobody batted an eyelid besides me

[Anonymous No.10143728]

>>10143705
I'm autistic and I honestly don't give a shit.
They'll look like an asshole though.
Sometimes I call people a retard, downie or kankerlijer so I'd be a real hypocrit if I got bothered with people using autist as an insult.
And yes, thst makes me just as much of an asshole as they are.
Best thing to do is to not let it get to you, it's not like they'll change and stop using it cause someone got offended.

[Anonymous No.10143786]

>>10143695
It was exhale-from-nose funny for half a thread. not the multiple anons keep bringing it to. Beating a dead horse I guess you’d say.

[Anonymous No.10143793]

I feel shameful suspiciously rolling for Comic Con tickets in the middle of the working day (failed anyway)

[Anonymous No.10143806]

>>10143728
Nayrt but you don't speak for all autistic people. Getting that diagnosis as a child can be a huge blow to your self worth, and other people using it as an insult will only make it more difficult for them.

[Anonymous No.10143807]

I wish I had a cosplay friend or someone to sew with.


>>10143642
I noticed brands have gotten bigger in the last 10 years, like the measurements are now a few centimeters bigger on average than back then.

[Anonymous No.10143835]

It's a silly thing, but I just wish I were better at this. I make my props and shit, feel proud of what I build, but then go to cons and feel like I've made complete shit compared to 99% of the cosplayers there. I enjoy what I do and know I get better with each successive project, but man do I feel mediocre and like I'm building crap that people would mock.

[Anonymous No.10143905]

Sooo I fell in love with this girl I met on the internet, and got into cosplaying just so we could cosplay as pairs. I ended up moving in with her, she’s my best friend, and at this point I’m totally in love with her. She makes me feel....not lonely. I confessed my feelings yesterday after like, 5 years of build up and she just says “I was worried about that. What, am I supposed to be moved? People confess to me all the time.” Oof. I knew she was that kinda person but it still hurts. She tells everyone I’m like her little sister. There doesn’t seem to be much left I can do about it.

[Anonymous No.10143959]

>hear horror stories about Anime Expo
>hear people complaining about Anime Expo these days
>meanwhile I’m just going to AX for the vacay away from life (and maybe to see the new Studio Trigger movie)

[Anonymous No.10143961]

>going to Sakura-Con, Anime Expo and Otakon this year
>if the Animegate shenanigans in regards to Vic Migderpaderp (both sides) bleed to any of the cons that I’m going to (especially at Anime Expo) and ruin everything, I’m just gonna skip Otakon to avoid that bullshit

[Anonymous No.10143965]

>>10143806
IDK man, I'm another austistic anon and I think it's something we all just have to learn to get over. If we can't learn to ignore this stuff and freak out over it, it just sort of drives home the autistic label even more. People are judgmental, news at 11, it's one of the biggest lessons I had to learn in order to function closer to neurotypicals and it's not doing us any favors to be coddled, because then we don't learn how to cope with more difficult things.

[Anonymous No.10143975]

>>10143905
Wow she sounds like a huge bitch

[Anonymous No.10143988]

I want to buy a bunch of replica items, green holy lantern and an atelier coat, because I only want it for a Harry Potter themed outfit I'll wear whenever the movie comes out. I'm normally a sweet lolita but the play came to my city recently and with the next two movies I love matching my outfit to a midnight premier.

I know it's wrong to want replicas but the green dress is like $500 and the coat is $400 and I'll likely never wear them to an actual meet. While the replica outfit would be maybe $200 for the dress and the coat and I'd wear it with normie friends who dgaf.

Is one replica my comm will never know about really that bad?

[Anonymous No.10143989]

>>10143988
Yes

[Anonymous No.10144006]

>>10143988
Yes you're supporting the cancer that creates it. Buy a costume if you want a costume.

[Anonymous No.10144007]

>>10143905
I also turn people down like that, only because being nice about it always seems to make them think they could still have a chance.
She’s probably hoping you’ll go “wow I can’t believe I liked a bitch like her” and move on more easily.

[Anonymous No.10144009]

>>10143988
>is theft okay because it’ll only be once?

You’re trash for even considering it.

[Anonymous No.10144058]

>>10144006
Not denying it's more costume than anything, but I want a lolita/Harry Potter inspired costume. Not just a HP costume - which is all that's on sale. I've seriously considered hand making something and, prior to the green HL release, would never have considered buying a replica.

Just for the argument's sake as well. I don't actually intend to go through with this purchase. I'm here to vent - which is why I'm in a "get it off your chest" thread.

I don't support replicas, I don't own any print/design replicas ( shoes and bags are a different kettle of fish ). Sometimes I do wish that having Morales wasn't so expensive though. You get what you pay for in the end of course.

>>10144009
This is a vent thread so I'm not sure why you're here to just condemn people for getting shit off their chest, when that's the point of the thread. I haven't bought anything or harmed anyone so idk how that makes me a trash human being. Sounds like you just want to be offended.

[Anonymous No.10144059]

>>10144058
Nayrt but she asked a question and anons answered

[Anonymous No.10144060]

>>10144058
>ask question
>get mad when question is answered

[Anonymous No.10144064]

>>10144058
cgl is legitimately the densest board I browse. Among the gullibility and meme illiteracy we have a problem with telling the difference between feels and vents.

[Anonymous No.10144065]

>>10144064
Just because it’s a vent thread doesn’t mean people aren’t allowed to shit on you

[Anonymous No.10144069]

>>10143988
>>10144058

Just mentioning this for your interest.

There was an actual Harry Potter La Foret collab sometime last year, Metamorphose and Atelier Pierrot both had green Slytherin dresses. I think Atelier Pierrot dress might still be around (though, since it didn't sell out I wonder if it's bad?), Meta dress seems to have disappeared into the void, but I guess it might pop up on the secondhand market. Or we could hope that La Foret does another collab when FB3 comes out.

These are the official collab dresses legit done by lolita brands and come with Hogwarts school emblem embroidered patch, so I'd say it's a decently done HP outfit and not a HP costume, probably closer to what you want rather than a bootleg HL.

I have no issues if some stranger on the internet decides they want to quietly buy a couple of replicas and never wear it to a lolita meetup, it just seems a little sad to have something you might be ashamed of associated with your fandom, especially when Slytherin is second in popularity and has an okay amount of stuff made for it (now, if you're Hufflepuff.... )

[Anonymous No.10144105]

I’m trying to sell off a bunch of my old lolita stuff for cheap but nobody’s willing to pay for shipping from my shitty country, so I’m seriously considering just donating it all to the local charity shop.

>>10143722
They say it at my place of work too. I wouldn’t even care if they said it in reference to actual autistic behaviour because I could joke along with something like that, but they use it interchangeably with retarded and mong. I honestly don’t know if telling them I have ASD would make them feel bad and stop or double down harder behind my back.

[Anonymous No.10144123]

>>10143965
Or maybe people could just use other words? Why is that hard or "being coddled"? Pretending nothing affects you is coddling yourself, and not speaking up for other kids with autism is taking the easy road. You do realise if normies start using autism as an insult, it will also become harder for people with autism at work and school?

[Anonymous No.10144126]

>>10144123
With this current political climate? Where everything is reportable? No fucking way. They’ll be a protected class like gays and racial minorities.

[Anonymous No.10144128]

>>10144126
What political climate? My country has had the same politicians in power since before I was born

[Anonymous No.10144133]

>>10144128
Whoops sorry that’s my burger centrism slipping out. What country? Do gays not get hired because word gets out that they’re gay there?

[Anonymous No.10144137]

>>10144133
Wait you consider minorities a protected class in the country with an orange president who wants to build a wall around the country to keep brown people out? Lmao Americans are something else

[Anonymous No.10144139]

I feel like my gothic coords look too try-hard. I don't know why. I feel way comfier in gothic but in photos I look somehow wrong. Classic is the opposite though. It looks very natural on me but I don't feel as good in it.

[Anonymous No.10144141]

>>10144137
Bait and retardpilled

[Anonymous No.10144144]

>>10144137
Have you ever heard of a hate crime and have you ever seen American media and social media surround it whenever it happens even though a majority of the reports are fucking hoaxes because people don’t hate people as much as more homogenous countries think they do

[Anonymous No.10144145]

>>10144137
Non Americans always love to throw their opinion in on what is going down in this country like they actually know, but then say stupid shit like this making it obvious that they don’t know at all.

[Anonymous No.10144146]

>>10144144
You have got to be kidding, when I lived in the midwest, I constantly heard hateful shit towards blacks and now that I’m in canada, it’s hateful shit towards natives. Yes racism and hate actually exist in north america, it’s not a hoax

[Anonymous No.10144151]

>>10143566
i wish i was an anime girl

[Anonymous No.10144179]

>>10144137
They are according to the law, but that doesn't mean it's effective

[Anonymous No.10144181]

>>10144151
I wish I was an anime boy

[Anonymous No.10144255]

>>10144069
>Slytherin is second in popularity
Slytherin is easily the most popular house in my comm, with Gryffindor being the least popular. I've always found it secretly hilarious that all the biggest SJWs in my comm identify so strongly with what is basically the metaphorical white supremacist house for the entirety of the main series.

[Anonymous No.10144288]

>>10143679
I have way more fun at big cons than small cons. There’s more people to meet, more cosplayers/lolitas to interact with, more stuff to do, usually there’s better photoshoot locations, bigger vendor room/artist alley which means there’s a better chance of finding interesting booths with niche items

Small cons have some positive things too, but from personal experience I just like bigger cons more

[Anonymous No.10144292]

>>10144105
Just incorporate the price of shipping into the dress and say free shipping. People are more likely to buy stuff that way because they see the price of an item and think “oh that’s reasonable” and then when they see the shipping later it comes as more of a surprise added expense. If you add it on upfront, there are no surprises

[Anonymous No.10144306]

>>10144139
I feel you anon, i wear a lot of goth fashion outside of lolita but I always felt a little silly in gothic lolita and I look great in classic. Classic makes up 80% of my lolita wardrobe now.

I'm not sure how you're styling things already, but what worked for me is approaching a gothic lolita co-ord similar to how I approached classic. While heavy makeup, dark hair, corsets and lace all look great on me with regular goth fashion, they felt too try-hard in lolita. I also hate all the tacky halloween prints that are around lately, and even other gothic prints with all their edgy crosses and whatnot felt silly on me.
Try out the more classic leaning gothic brands like Sheglit, their solid colored victorian inspired OP's are basically a goth dream already. Instead of heavy makeup and dark hair, try light makeup and blonde or silver hair for contrast. Try hats instead of bows, wide brim ones or vintage ones with veils look fantastic too.

[Anonymous No.10144307]

>>10144255
They don't identify with it lmao people like Slytherin because it's more alternative/gothy and their house colours are the most flattering on white people

[Anonymous No.10144330]

>>10144307
They talk about doing quizzes and insist that they would totally have been sorted there.

[Anonymous No.10144358]

>>10144007
Mmmh yeah she’s definitely super blunt. She doesn’t exactly care for others feelings so she’ll say exactly what she’s thinking- but I even like that about her.

It’s just complicated because she’s my best friend, and I’m hers. She’s literally told me “if it wasn’t for you I wouldn’t think true friendship exists.” So I think she was actually a bit hurt I confessed to her, like I broke that trust.

We’re definitely fine and still roommates and best friends but I don’t think she even slightly took me seriously. And it’s really hard knowing she’s going to be dating other people. But it all boils down to my ability to handle my emotions to be able to maintain our friendship. She’s very important to me so even if it hurts it’s fine.

We know each other better than we know anyone else so.... I don’t think she was trying to make me see her for something else. I think she was just being herself. The difficult part is I like her for herself, calloused and mean and all.

[Anonymous No.10144360]

>>10144330
And what do you say you that? You must nod and smile like a coward pretending you like harry potter too

[Anonymous No.10144366]

>>10144330
It’s fiction, anon. They’re just enjoying a fictional thing.

[Anonymous No.10144369]

I wanna switch substyles to gothic but thinking about how much money i've spent on sweet and how much money i won't be able to get back makes me not wanna do it. I'm strictly buying gothic now but i keep thinking about how i should just sell off all my old sweet stuff and start over.

>>10144146
fuck canada for real. The "nice" stereotype we like to enforce is so fake. People here hate immigrants just as much as americans do.

[Anonymous No.10144372]

>>10144330
I did the official quiz and if you choose vampires as something you want to study you get sorted into Slytherin.

[Anonymous No.10144374]

>>10143649
>and you can't change my mind
okay, but remember this if/when you finally git gud and start wondering about why certain wigs or colourways look like shit on you, or why your colors aren't working.

but keep ignoring the visual aspect to the fashion like details don't matter in lolita...

[Anonymous No.10144376]

>>10144369
You should try trading it or bringing it to a swap meet

[Anonymous No.10144405]

My favourite brands are ETC and JM, but I hate when people call my coords otome because I associate it with dating sims and bad anime. It's been used internationally for that for years already, so please come up with something new or just call it girly style like they do in Japan. At least don't push your embarrassing otome kei label on others.

[Anonymous No.10144419]

>>10144405
Otome and girly basically mean the same thing in a literal sense, at least. “Girly” I think is more embarrassing sounding in English, “otome” or “otome kei” sounds a little less so. And then in Japanese the opposite is true, ha.

[Anonymous No.10144422]

>>10144374
You keep forgetting that it's all subjective.

[Anonymous No.10144428]

>>10144419
Maybe it sounds less embarrassing to you to say otome because you're not familiar with weebs and Japan in general? For me otome definitely sounds worse but I have a few friends who watch anime so that's probably why.

[Anonymous No.10144431]

>>10144369
If you're not wearing sweet at all anymore, just sell it off anon.
You won't get all your money back, but you'll at least get a lot more money to fund the gothic pieces you want and there's no point in hanging on to clothing you no longer wear.
Its good that you're not in a rush to sell things off either, so you can price your items reasonably and wait until they sell, it's not like you have to price them dirt cheap and get rid of them right away.

[Anonymous No.10144435]

>>10144428
I’m familiar with weebs and Japan, but you’re right in that I don’t have any weeb friends. The people I know enjoy anime but not to an embarrassing degree.

I guess it also helps distinguish the style for people who speak English natively, since you could call a lot of female fashion “girly” just as a descriptor. Personally I use both interchangeably depending on who I’m talking to about what I’m wearing.

[Anonymous No.10144438]

>>10144435
I get what you're saying but it'd be awkward if you use otome to a native English speaker who is familiar with otome already. Perphaps without saying anything to you they associate it with dating sims (that people also cosplay from). Though I guess it depends on how awkward you think it is if someone assumes you are cosplaying a dating sim or build your style around that.
I don't live in an English-speaking country, so when I say ''girly style'' they don't think I'm literally saying I dress like a girl or something vague like that. Maybe you could do something inbetween like saying girly kei or just say it's a Japanese/Harajuku fashion.

[Anonymous No.10144442]

>>10144146
Imagine thinking words are crimes

[Anonymous No.10144447]

>>10144376
there are no swap meets in my area, but trying to trade it is not a bad idea. I'll consider it.
>>10144431
Thanks for the advice, I'll think about selling it more.

[Anonymous No.10144453]

>>10144144
>people don’t hate people as much as more homogenous countries think they do
I live in the US here and I'm only half asian and I grew up getting bullied for my race and being abused by teachers because I wasn't like the other kids.

You sound gullible as fuck.

[Anonymous No.10144471]

>>10144442
Those are the people who vote so yes, it matters.

[Anonymous No.10144475]

Politics make me want to kill myself

[Anonymous No.10144526]

keep /pol/ out of cgl

[Anonymous No.10144529]

>>10144255

No, I meant there's more merch for gryffindor, it had the most dresses including an ap set. Slytherin second with a couple of dresses. Not your comm, that doesn't provide merch or dresses.

[Anonymous No.10144539]

>>10144453
Try being a kid and a teacher tries that shit now in 2019, I guarantee you would get money and a story out of it
>>10144471
Imagine thinking there will be any bill or policy stating it’s legal to physically hurt black people or that it’s illegal to hire hispanics based on their race
ya poor fuckin doomers, baited away from realizing politicians have been telling minorities they’re helpless victims for decades in order to separate them into secured voting blocks. Don’t fall for the identitarian equal outcome meme

[Anonymous No.10144550]

>>10144539
>Try being a kid and a teacher tries that shit now in 2019, I guarantee you would get money and a story out of it
Depends on location. I saw some serious shit go down in Redding, CA a few years back.
Child molesters are all over the place there and there are never blogs or newstories about it.

You read too much online.

[Anonymous No.10144551]

>>10144539
>Imagine thinking there will be any bill or policy stating it’s legal to physically hurt black people
Not specifically but loopholes exist. Just take a look at who is most likely to be killed by police violence.
>pro tip: it's not black people

[Anonymous No.10144555]

>>10144422
>color theory is subjective
imagine if AP amateurishly mixed tones in imbalanced amounts in prints.

[Anonymous No.10144565]

Honestly, I'm not a fan of the "cosplay is everyone, no matter what body type, skin, gender, x" mentality everyone says. I think it should be okay to say "No, you shouldn't cosplay FFX-2 Yuna, you're a morbidly obese hispanic college kid with three missing front teeth".

"It's not a fashion show"
ME: Actually, it kinda is.

"You should cosplay anything. You're just being hateful."
ME: Only if you can make it a moderate stretch. Regardless of what you and others think, you think you're not being judged but really...you are.

[Anonymous No.10144572]

>>10144550
Dude California and Hollywood are full of pedos. Its so sick. It’s not race based though.

[Anonymous No.10144583]

>>10143566
I've been wanting to break up with my SO for almost 3 years but can't find the courage to do it because, in their current state, they'll shut down without me - drop out of school and get a shitty minimum wage job. I don't want to run into them years later, only to find them at fucking old Navy or something.

[Anonymous No.10144589]

>>10144583
How is this /cgl/ related???

[Anonymous No.10144590]

>>10144589
It's just a confession, Anon, leave me be.

[Anonymous No.10144596]

>>10144589
Just report, jannies will take care of it.

[Anonymous No.10144597]

>>10144590
Go to /r9k/ or somewhere else where there isn’t a specific topic.

[Anonymous No.10144599]

>>10144555
Imagine seeing coords irl instead of having to rely on the CoF thread and social media. You'd see a lot of the things that get nitpicked in pictures don't look so bad irl. Colours can look really different because of the light, camera and your screen.

[Anonymous No.10144602]

>>10144597
I want to die.

[Anonymous No.10144603]

>>10144602
Go for it.

[Anonymous No.10144620]

>>10144589
How is this /cgl/ related???

[Anonymous No.10144652]

>>10144565
I just internally tear people apart since publicly people can go cosplay whatever they want and saying otherwise is social suicide.

[Anonymous No.10144682]

>>10144620
This is legitimately the worst meme I have ever seen facebook normies make. You suck for necromancing it

[Anonymous No.10144685]

I hate sweet lolitas with a fundamental misunderstanding of classic and will call any solid color coordinate 'classic' or any solid black coordinate 'gothic.'

I also hate sweet lolitas who tag spam said categories.

I feel that they're a lot of the issue with people lately who cannot differentiate the three substyles. Ultimately, the lolita community is a shitshow anyways and I'm likely just describing a symptom rather than the true issue.

[Anonymous No.10144697]

>>10144358
I've had a guy do the same shit to me and honestly dude, it's inconsiderate as fuck. Especially if she has never given you evidence to even imagine she likes you back.

I have a friend who pulled the "oh i've liked you for all these years" and wrote me a letter, sending it to my new address when my bf and i moved in. he did not admit to writing the letter till almost 3 years after the fact and only while my bf was gone.

i got really mad because 1) he acted really douchey about his unrequited love and 2) i never gave him even the slightest hint that i liked him because i didn't, i thought of him as a great friend that i could confide to and i thought that my listening to his rants and giving him advice about his own gf at the time was enough.

I would hope that you will eventually drop this whole liking her thing and be happy that she is still cool with you being there despite your confession. the guy who confessed to me even tried to room with us at some point. imagine how awkward it would have been for me to have a close friend who likes me and doesn't respect my disinterest living there and trying to find opportunities to hang out with me alone?

i'm all for guys and girls being friends, but if you can't separate your feelings from your friendship, you're doing yourself and your friend a huge disservice. find a girl that actually likes you back

[Anonymous No.10144700]

>>10144123
ayrt, and I don't think we'll ever stop it fully, so learning to accept what the world is like has helped me ignore and not overreact to a lot of things. I mean, maybe I am the one just not getting it still, but I firmly believe that we hold people's hands too much and then nobody learns to have a backbone. Normal kids get told to ignore bullies or find a diplomatic way to disengage and report them, and it's far less likely to result in a meltdown if you give an autistic person the means to grow some self esteem of their own independent of what names people call them. But also, this is an anon bulletin board, people are gonna be dicks so you can't apply everyday logic here. It's the same idea of moving on if you don't like what a troll says.

[Anonymous No.10144703]

>>10144685
Many of them can't even tell the difference between trad, old school, and really, any substyle before 2010 sweet.

[Anonymous No.10144707]

>>10144685
>>10144703
That's an issue of uneducated newbies, not sweet lolitas specifically.

[Anonymous No.10144753]

>>10144703
>trad
Stop trying to make trad a thing, Ophelia.

[Anonymous No.10144763]

Gatekeeping is cringe

[Anonymous No.10144810]

>>10143905
I mean that definitely sucks but you kind of had it coming, doing all that shit for five years instead of just being upfront and getting your feelings out of the way so you could either get a girlfriend or get rejected and move on. Instead you lead her on, making her think she'd actually found a good friend, when in reality you were just waiting to make a move on her like every other guy. I feel more bad for her than you, no wonder she reacted with such coldness.

[Anonymous No.10144873]

>>10144652
I've been doing it for years and there's so much internal buildup a brain can take. Sometimes you gotta let it and just tell people to stop being idiots and face reality.

Social suicide isn't that bad, I've gone through it and recovered.

[Anonymous No.10144874]

>>10144753
Trad is just the same thing as Baby's classical series without the confusion of classical lolita vs classic lolita. It wasn't just Ophelia who started saying it.

[Anonymous No.10144880]

>>10144707

Seasoned lolitas spamming tags is not helping the situation.

Between them and the instathots I can barely look at the classic lolita tag anymore. I mostly rely on looking at brand names.

I'm sort of resigned to the fact that lolita is about likes, and the thing that gets the most likes are taobao froth monsters and BTSSB's ridiculous chiffon loofahs, but get off my grandma couch (patterns) kids.

[Anonymous No.10144952]

>>10144700
I don't have autism so I can't really relate. I've just seen how bad it can be for people who do have autism at school and at work when normies are grossly misinformed about what it is. I think you are holding their hands too much by accepting their shitty, ignorant behaviour. They should grow a backbone and try to be better people. It's not like using it as an insult is unstoppable now, you can nip it in the bud before even more normies start using it. That doesn't mean you have to shout at them or something, I usually just correct them calmly, which is easy to do when they call someone autistic for bad behaviour that has nothing to do with autism.

[Anonymous No.10144953]

>>10143988
you're not evil

cgl is full of sjw tier mentality

buy it and enjoy it

[Anonymous No.10144954]

>>10144952
Oof, that better be your friends and not random normies you “correct”, the poor guys

[Anonymous No.10144956]

>>10144954
Poor, defenseless normies

[Anonymous No.10144957]

>>10144952
>It's not like using it as an insult is unstoppable now, you can nip it in the bud before even more normies start using it.
This. People are using the N word less now because others corrected them. If nobody says anything about them using autism they will start using it in replacement of retarded and it'll be super embarrassing when colleagues find out you have autism, it might even influence your chances at promotion or a long-term contract because they'll think you're basically retarded.

[Anonymous No.10144961]

>>10144954
It's time those poor people stop being oversensitive

[Anonymous No.10144975]

>>10144956
>>10144961
I feel sorry for people who have wet blanket acquaintances policing their speech, yeah
>>10144957
People say nigger now more than I’ve ever seen in my lifetime because of the retarded media backlashes whenever it’s shown a public figure said it either currently or especially years ago when they were young. Look at the I’m gonna say the n-word meme and n-word passes. It’s a joke to teens but when I was their age it was avoided like the plague. Words only have power if you give it to them.
I know autism is different because theres no systemic oppression in the history of autists, but people will not be so stupid to think autism = downs and not hire because of that. you should stop thinking everyone is so much dumber than you.

[Anonymous No.10144980]

I find it super cringy when people write "RARE ITEM!!1!" in their lacemarket listings. I used to only see moitié ita doing it, which was fine because she doesn't seem to be all there, but I feel like I've seen it a lot from seemingly normal people lately.
It's especially bad if the item in question isn't even that rare, but even when it is it makes me think less of the seller.

[Anonymous No.10144985]

>>10144975
People already don't hire people with autism lol how can you be so extremely naive and misguided?

[Anonymous No.10144996]

>>10144952
Well I think at this point I'm gonna agree to disagree, I can see this is going downhill already with other replies. Don't wanna shit up the board.

[Anonymous No.10144999]

>>10144975
There’s fucktons of anti autism and Asperger’s discrimination and oppression. The fact that it gets slung about as an insult and that there are delusional fools that think having a child be dead from measles or the like than be autistic is proof alone of that.

[Anonymous No.10145017]

>>10144685
Or when they call any sugary sweet AP print classic just because it comes in brown or jewel tones. Half the "classic lolitas" in my comm are really sweet lolitas who think that every other chocolate print as well as prints like CDC, Mercator Antique Shop, Cameo Window and Elisabeth Unicorn are classic. I know it's petty but it annoys me that we can't even have classic lolita group pictures without someone in an AP set being front and center.

[Anonymous No.10145092]

>>10144985
Maybe because their interviews show they can’t do the job well? Why would you put “I’m autistic” on your resume?

[Anonymous No.10145093]

>>10144999
Anti-vaxxers are such a meme. There are faaaar less around than the anti-anti-vax memes and news will have you think.

[Anonymous No.10145096]

>>10145093

They’re not. The large outbreaks of recent clearly illustrate this.

People who say this sort of thing live in a very sheltered setting and I envy you.

[Anonymous No.10145097]

>>10145092
If you live in a village, everyone knows

[Anonymous No.10145122]

>>10145093
it only takes a few antivaxxers to cause an epidemic

[Anonymous No.10145124]

>>10145122
And a couple thousand illegal immigrants who aren’t vaxxed and, being illegal, aren’t checked for it.

[Anonymous No.10145127]

>>10145093
I know they're real because two family friends turned out to be anti-vaxx. I feel bad for their kids, one even said her doctor gave her fake certificates of vaccination for her daughter.

[Anonymous No.10145129]

>>10145127

Report the doctor. Doctors who cover for this shit should not be practicing.

[Anonymous No.10145130]

>>10145127
Ok but think about the shitton of people you know who ARENT anti vaxx. I personally don’t know a single anti. But this is where I’ll stop because it’s shitting up the thread.

[Anonymous No.10145131]

>>10145127
Where do you live?

[Anonymous No.10145148]

>>10145124
In my county less than 95% of citizens is vaccinated for measles, obviously not counting illegal immigrants. That's already too little to prevent outbreaks. In the past few years it's happened only at schools and daycares, and none of the white children that got sick were vaccinated, so I don't think it's caused by illegal immigrants. Vaccines get a lot of bad press here. Just last week my bf was watching an interview on television of crying parents because they felt "bullied" when other parents told them to get their kids vaccinated. They were mainly worried about making their child autistic.

[Anonymous No.10145174]

Getting this off my chest because its useless to tell her or to complain in the YT thread but, LOVELY LOR YOU NEED A NOSE JOB NOW.

[Anonymous No.10145211]

>>10145092
Nayrt but I’m always torn between mentioning or not mentioning my aspergers during job interviews. When I don’t mention it I get feedback about not being assertive enough or not making enough eye contact, but if I do mention it they get all nervous about not having the “facilities” for someone like me, whatever that even means. And these are all STEM positions where I’d never have to interact with clients or patients or even coworkers half the time.

[Anonymous No.10145242]

>>10145092
>>10145211
I've been taught to mention it at interviews, exaggerate the positive sides of autism though. Because if you don't mention it, they are bound to find out one day and they will think you "lied" by not telling them.

[Anonymous No.10145390]

>>10145211
>>10145211
>blaming socializing struggles like eye contact and lack of aggression that a shit ton of people have, especially during interviews, on muh aspergers
Christ dude you sound like a baby. No wonder they won’t hire you.

[Anonymous No.10145396]

>>10145174
She doesn’t “need” a nose job, she’d just look better with one. What she NEEDS is to lose 50-60lbs for her health, she gained it super quickly. Can’t be good for her.

[Anonymous No.10145438]

>>10144565
I hard agree to be honest.

I also tear apart people that brand themselves as professional cosplayers/people that have patreons when they don't make their cosplays.

I also hate the amount of weebs that idolize battle shonens and do nothing to improve their body. The amount of MHA fans that like to meme the "DEKU WORKED SO HARD AND IS SO FIT, HE'S WORKED HARD FOR THIS" but are fat, lazy fucking slobs is INSANE.

I think I'm just a big hater

[Anonymous No.10145453]

>>10145438
Nah they’re just like Deku before the plot. Wants to be a hero so baaaaaad but don’t do shit about it. Don’t work out, don’t train. Just meander around ignoring the job of firefighters and rescue squads that save people from the chaos and danger caused by quirk-people fighting eachother.

[Anonymous No.10145507]

>>10145130

probably because you don't leave your house and have no one to vent this unhappiness to except a kazakh saddle making board.

to make this relevant my confession is that ever since i got into lolita i've been really judgy of normies. the other day my boss came in a literal all denim outfit including a denim jacket and denim shirt and i could not stop staring.

[Anonymous No.10145514]

>>10145507
Nice projection. You sound like a pleasant person - you let cgl bitterness affect your opinion of normies in Canadian Tuxedos? Who cares about what anyone else is wearing.

[Anonymous No.10145522]

I love all of the friends that I have made while finding lolita and other types of jfashion.

They are one of the only reasons why I'm still here and haven't offed myself yet.

[Anonymous No.10145571]

>>10145453
Yeah you rite.

I dunno why, I'm a turbo autist about it, like my 90% of my motivation to hit the gym is based upon fictional characters and thinking "would I survive in this situation?", which sounds retarded, but it gets me going and working out.

Weebs literally should not be fat given all the pro-fitness propaganda they get spoonfed and all the ironic jojo memers that don't put in a single grain of effort to at least try to look more like their heroes. It boggles my mind so hard.

[Anonymous No.10145572]

>>10145514

We're also supposed to dress professionally, so I was marveling how old white men get away with this shit while women get questioned on anything out of the norm. I see you're nicely offended though, don't you have a denim coord to get back to completing?

[Anonymous No.10145579]

>>10145572
He’s your boss, no shit no ones going to question it. Who goes around verbally “questioning” other people’s fashion choices at work? Unless you’re wearing fucking lolita at work then you’re retarded.
>le old white men meme
Yeah opinions discarded. Try walking on the street in jfashion and see who says stuff about it. It sucks.

[Anonymous No.10145586]

>>10145579

Chill the fuck out, no one is actually going to say shit about your denim suit to your face.

[Anonymous No.10145592]

>>10145586
What did a male coworker say to you about your clothes?

[Anonymous No.10145610]

>>10143988
honestly, just do it. People on here love to act all nice, like it's a moral outrage when people do something wrong, while also going onto the ita thread and making fun of fat people
just do what you think is right, make sure to account for their quality

[Anonymous No.10145611]

>>10144697
Ah yeah, I’m definitely not trying to act douchey about it. I understand she doesn’t owe me anything, and it’s something I have to work through myself now, balancing heartbreak and friendship. I think things are a bit more complicated because we’re both girls, and have a deep and complex emotional relationship. I just developed feelings with her.

There’s a small part of me that’s just relieved she rejected me. Now I can move on eventually and find someone who actually likes me for me. It’s just going to be a long path ahead of me, as I try to move back to just being a friend and stop being so...painfully in love with her.

I feel like space would help but we literally live together and share a room and spend every day together. I feel like I just keep...kidding myself. I’m trying to move past it and I’m sure I will eventually. But I don’t want to lose my best friend and cosplay partner because I can’t handle my own feelings.

But I can’t help feeling sad and hurt. I’m a little heartbroken right now. It’s gojng to take some time. So far we’re just acting like I never said anything. It’s something that’s so important to me but we’re ignoring it. Her friendship is more important though so, I guess it can’t be helped.

[Anonymous No.10145613]

>>10144105
what dresses are you looking to sell anon?

[Anonymous No.10145616]

>>10144810
Well...we definitely are good friends. Best friends even!!! I have her back and she has mine. Her friendship has always been the number one most important thing to me. And it always will be. I’ve just gotta get over my heartbreak now. It’s hard because we’re so emotionally co-dependent but, I’ll get over it. I definitely should have confessed earlier but, it was my first time liking a girl (being a girl myself!!) and I was sorta hoping those feelings would go away. There was a lot going into it, but I’m trying my best not to be a pathetic person. Her friendship is the most important thing, and I probably never would have confessed if I didn’t think our friendship couldn’t handle it. She’s way too important in my life to lose!

[Anonymous No.10145618]

>>10143988
https://www.etsy.com/listing/629420072/wizards-school-dress-green-colourway

[Anonymous No.10145624]

>>10145610
Have you ever thought that it's not the same people?

No, I didn't think so.

[Anonymous No.10145625]

I haven't worn lolita in over a year and all of my dresses are just sitting there. I don't find pictures of the fashion inspiring anymore at all and I do want to wear my pieces but I just feel like crap when I put anything on and always have to go change.

[Anonymous No.10145630]

I hate generally ranting about this to other people since it always leads to someone saying "youre just mad because youre jealous!" but it always triggers me when I go to a con and see photographers taking picture of girls who are just wearing those generic printed body suits.
but then you see other cosplayers with much more intricate cosplays (i.e. suits of armor or cosplay revolving around big props) and they hardly get attention, excluding those passer bys taking pictures with their phone.

[Anonymous No.10145683]

I wish people would man the fuck up and tell someone they look bad in CoF.
Especially if someone is asking for concrit.

Having to find it here is annoying and makes me think they aren't a lolita.

[Anonymous No.10145686]

>>10145683
Lots of girls here are ita but don’t think it. Also batshit. So yeah I agree.

[Anonymous No.10145690]

>>10145625
are you me, sis? feels bad

[Anonymous No.10145692]

>>10145390
It’s a literal disorder that affects a persons ability to socialize you cunt.

[Anonymous No.10145699]

>>10145686
I can't stand that. Especially when I see a pretty decent or boring coord being ripped apart....
Where is all this energy in CoF??
Fucking itas....

[Anonymous No.10145702]

>>10145699

riding off of this i can't stand when a coord is called 'boring.' if it's an everyday coord most are not looking to wow people with a fucking sceptre, but to provide ways of coording on a daily basis.

not targetting you per se but the reception to everyday coords here irks me.

[Anonymous No.10145716]

>>10145692
Did you know that neurotypical people aren’t perfect either? That people other than autists are bad at socializing under pressure? Like holy shit if everyone who had trouble with eye contact was autistic there’d be a lot more of them. Aggressiveness is a personality trait that fewer people have than more. These things are not mutually exclusive with autism. Sounds like a blame it on the autism CWC excuse.

[Anonymous No.10145831]

>>10145683
>>10145683
telling someone they look bad isn't concrit though. it's better to tell people the specific things they're doing wrong and the specific things they're doing correctly than to make a blanket statement. like

"you've got a good color balance going on here but there's not enough volume in your petti to really fit the silhouette of the dress, so it looks deflated. you'll need to add some volume to your hair to complement your large headpiece, and this'll be even more important when you've got more volume on the bottom, to balance out its visual weight"

like the subtext of this is essentially "this is not a good look" but instead of saying it that way it just lists off ways that it can be fixed as well as what doesn't need to/shouldn't change

[Anonymous No.10145834]

>>10145831
Pretty sure that was implied.

[Anonymous No.10145863]

>>10145831
Giving someone a shit sandwich is still giving them a shit sandwich.

[Anonymous No.10145886]

>>10145692
> Doesn't know how to socialize because they don't have friends
> Doesn't have friends because no one likes them or they don't even bother going out and making friends
> iTs AsSbeRgErS

[Anonymous No.10145887]

>>10145092
>Why would you put “I’m autistic” on your resume?
Are you fucking stupid
There is a section in job applications for disabilities for a reason.
Every job I've worked, there's been a mentally disabled person. Probably because they can't be discriminated based on their disabilities

[Anonymous No.10145893]

>>10145093
theres currently outbreaks of measles and tuberculosis. you must be sheltered or retarded

[Anonymous No.10145894]

>>10145863
Why do you think concrit is shit? Do you take it as a personal attack? Because it's meant to help you improve and look better, and if you don't like it you don't have to follow it.

[Anonymous No.10145900]

>>10145630
tfw that's me

i wish more people made their cosplays, and I miss those days. almost wish they had a "DIY cosplay only" con or something like that, would at least cut the lowskill patreon thots out.

[Anonymous No.10145901]

>>10145124
most of these “illegal” immigrant are probably upto date with their vaccination than white americans

[Anonymous No.10145931]

>>10145624
hahaha, that "no, i didn't think so" was just such a pathetic attempt to be a generic bitchy lolita
It might not all be the same people but i'm sure 99% of you engage in self serving hypocritical behaviour

[Anonymous No.10145975]

>>10145124
Most illegal immigrants enter countries legally just so you know.

[Anonymous No.10145997]

>>10145975
“Only takes a few to cause an epidemic”
>>10145901
Good joke.

[Anonymous No.10146051]

>>10145997
The epidemics are caused by white people both in Europe and in the US

[Anonymous No.10146052]

>>10145592

It's really apparent you don't work and/or you're trying to get a rise out of me. In any case it's off topic because I don't wear jfashion to work.

[Anonymous No.10146080]

>>10145124
Haha oh god do you really believe that?

[Anonymous No.10146083]

>>10145579
>>10145514
spotted the butthurt normie

[Anonymous No.10146114]

>>10146051
*Jews. A big part of the 2018-2019 jump in measles is literally from a Jewish community in NYC travelling to Israel and bringing it back and spreading it amongst other orthodox unvaccinated jews.
>>10146052
>>10146083
So you’ve got nothing, then. Keep pretending you’re so held down by the man!
>”you disagree so you must be one of them!!”
Classic

[Anonymous No.10146116]

>>10146114
Not in Europe

[Anonymous No.10146122]

>>10146114
bye american normie

[Anonymous No.10146162]

>>10145894
That's not what I said at all. Maybe you're unfamiliar with the term "shit sandwich" when it comes to giving someone constructive criticism. But mentioning something positive and then something negative is not a great way to give concrit.

[Anonymous No.10146201]

>>10145438
>>10145571
Holy shit, this 100%

I feel like an asshole, but I hate seeing fat people cosplaying more fit characters. I see this all the time in the MHA fandom and sports fandoms in general.

I love battle shonen and sports series, and they're my top motivator for getting fit. Literally holding off on my Bakugo cosplay until I'm more satisfied with my physique. I just wish other cosplayers had the same mindset.