Feels Thread: Concrunch Edition

[Anonymous No.10168968]

Old thread >>10163716

[Anonymous No.10169052]

>>10168968
I booked an airbnb for my next con and the host just decided to cancel, it took like an hour to figure out how to cancel without losing my service fee =_= at least it's done and I was able to book a different one but it was more expensive so I'm miffed

[Anonymous No.10169065]

Will know in just a week if I can attend ColossalCon

My partner will be on vacation with family and I'll have shit all to do if I can't

[Anonymous No.10169097]

>>10168968
I'm in a really rough spot right now, gulls. I started dealing with some nasty health issues earlier this year, and even though I'm mostly out of the woods now, I am still working to lose the almost 40 pounds I gained as a side effect. I feel like nothing I do will shed it, no matter how much or how little I eat, what I eat, or how much I exercise. It just lingers. I know it's coming off very slowly, but these certainly aren't the results I wanted. And to make it worse, I have to attend a lolita convention at the end of the month. I would almost certainly bail if I wasn't a volunteer out of sheer guilt and shame that I've turned into a fucking ham planet. I don't even want to see myself in my lolita clothes because I just know how horrid I am going to look.

[Anonymous No.10169099]

traced and cut out fabric for a cosplay dress using another dress I had but didn’t account for the stretch in the dress I traced that the fabric doesn’t have and now I gotta go buy more fabric and get the dress done by friday shit fuck goddamnit cocks ass damn

[Anonymous No.10169102]

>>10169097
Fuuuuuck I know how you feel. Going through pretty much the exact same thing. We’ll make it eventually, just gotta forgive ourselves. Stress only makes it harder.

[Anonymous No.10169114]

>>10169097
That sucks, but weight loss isn't linear, keep at it and you'll see results eventually! I believe in you!

[Anonymous No.10169115]

>flying tomorrow for con
>my first con ever, my first cosplay ever
>cosplay of something recent that's currently airing, too, so people might recognize it more
>super excited and ecstatic
>unfortunately dumbass me left the cosplay too much last minute
>rushing to finish it
>after stressed work and loads of cash, there's only a few things left
>even been working out just for this, reaching my goal weight

>put something at a seamstress place 5 days ago, 2 simple pieces of fabric to sew together, they said it'd be ready by today
>go to pick it up
>"sorry no ready"
>what???
>"the sew lady no here today" in a "are you retarded?" tone
>demand refund
>heavy-accented worker gives me scowling look, can't tell if in a "are you retarded" way again or if she can't understand what I'm saying
>no refund
>can't you really get it done by today?
>she sighs, rolls her eyes and looks at the fabric anyway
>"what is this anyway?"
>looks me up and down
>"will it even fit you?... are you sure you want to wear this? this is so badly made"
>for
>fuck's
>sake
>ok bye see you tomorrow
>leave
>come home
>sit down
>try not to cry
>cry a lot

I can't have anything nice in my life.
Everytime I get excited about something, it's always like this. always. and it's all my fucking fault.

[Anonymous No.10169117]

>>10169115
You kinda did it to yourself though by putting it off. Nobody forced you to procrastinate

[Anonymous No.10169118]

>>10169117
I know.

[Anonymous No.10169120]

>>10169115
damn bitch just learn to sew

[Anonymous No.10169187]

>comm member comes back from first trip to japan
>spends a month there
>now officially has "correct" opinions about everything related to japan
>contradicts every opinion I have about the country
>but still constantly asks me what's the best brand of japanese products to buy
>won't stop telling me how cheap everything in tokyo is compared to the us
>politely try to explain most commodities aren't cheaper
>completely ignores my comments and resumes ranting
>her sister starts picking up same habits
>now being told the same nonsense while we're at work together
Am I being a cunt for thinking 1 month hardly tells you anything about a country? I lived in Tokyo for 5 years, have friends and family there, and I don't even feel comfortable speaking as if I'm a "native". I wouldn't even care if they'd just stop telling me about it. Wake me up from this fucking nightmare.

[Anonymous No.10169210]

>>10169187
I hate people who merely get a taste of something and suddenly think they're experts in the subject. And you're right, a month tells you nothing about living in a country. Especially if she was there just for a leisure trip and didn't work or rent an actual flat.

[Anonymous No.10169227]

I bought a dress off of LM that has been stretched by the previous owner. They wrote every other defect down but failed to mention that the fabric has been stretched and looks baggy. It was cheap so I am not super mad about it just disappointed.

[Anonymous No.10169235]

>>10169187
>>10169210
There are several girls in my comm who studied Japanese for a year or two and visited the Tokyo area on holiday once and think all that makes them experts on everything Japanese. I often see them in RC replying to posts with
>well ackchually IN JAPAN...
and they’re even worse in real life. It’s so annoying.

[Anonymous No.10169489]

>tfw no bf to dress up as Soldier 76 and choke me until I finish

[Anonymous No.10169507]

>>10169210
>I hate people who merely get a taste of something and suddenly think they're experts in the subject.
>tfw so afraid of shouting from mt. stupid that you second-guess everything you know

[Anonymous No.10169533]

>>10169489
>tfw event coming up in 3 months
>no 2b to compliment my 9s

[Anonymous No.10169535]

>>10169533
i'm sure there will be plenty of solo 2bs
9s it up and you might find one there

[Anonymous No.10169542]

>>10169535
oof idk if i'll go through with it solo desu, there's a group of us going mostly for the gaming stuff (event's doubling as a lan event) and i'd be the only one actually cosplaying since one of the girls in our group can't make it (she was the only one that cosplayed too)

[Anonymous No.10169594]

>>10169489
>tfw no wife to dress up in a tiger stripe bikini and shock the bejeezus out of me

[Anonymous No.10169914]

>tracking dress order
>Gets to California from japan
>Hits my state's distribution center
>Excited
>Check the next day
>Package is back in California again
>Wat

Why do you do this to me USPS

[Anonymous No.10169928]

I often forget how spoiled I am with ems but I'm painfully reminded when it costs 20$ to ship an untracked light package to anywhere in canada that will arrive a week late 99.9% of the time

[Anonymous No.10169972]

>love lolita, love my amazing partner
>Nothing is going wrong at all, life is perfect
>Partner doesn't really like lolita, thinks it's silly but doesn't really mind that I do it
>Suddenly getting feelings for a friend
>Friend loves lolita, thinks it's inspirational and cool
>Friend has feelings for me too
>But also I love my partner

Should I just...die?

[Anonymous No.10170072]

>>10169972
>love my amazing partner
>Suddenly getting feelings for a friend
thank god i'm a khv

[Anonymous No.10170097]

Got into a fight and the other person ripped out a good chunk of my hair. Now I have to find a wig for Paradiso.

[Anonymous No.10170105]

>>10169972
No, you shouldn't just die. Catching feelings is ok, it happens, as long as you don't act on them. Remember that it's also okay for your partner to dislike lolita as long as they respect your love for it and don't actively insult, degrade, or make fun of it or you, and if you're happy with them then it's absolutely not a reason to break up with them, not to mention cheat.

[Anonymous No.10170116]

My mom called me up awhile ago and asked if she could borrow some money for an emergency. I'm in school right now and not working currently, but I had saved up some money from my last job to hold me over for a while comfortably while I finish my last semester. She ended up borrowing a few grand, said she would pay me back but I'm kinda doubting she will (she never really does). I love my mom, and I would honestly kill for her, but I'm just a little disappointed. Was putting a good amount aside for my next cosplay & con, but now I barely have enough to cover my bills for the rest of the year. Not even sure I'll be able to go to the con, let alone buy supplies for my cosplay. Was really excited about making this cosplay, but I might just re-wear one of my old ones and visit the con for a day instead.

Just a bit sad. Cons and cosplaying are the only things I look forward to anymore. But I'm also really worried about my mom constantly needing to borrow money from me. Gonna start applying for jobs now and hopefully I'll be able to find something soon to help my mom out without putting too much of a strain on my bank account now. There will be more cons next year.

[Anonymous No.10170145]

>>10170097
holy shit dude, i'm sorry. could you style your hair to hide it? how big of a chunk is it?
>unrelated but do you happen to have the sauce on that dress

[Anonymous No.10170148]

>>10170116
Is this something that happens a lot? Does she have an illness or something that keeps her from working?

[Anonymous No.10170153]

>>10170145
she ripped out 8 braids from the top. My hair isn't that long or pretty to start with, so now it's double bad and i have no recourse but to find a wig. for reference, each braid is about a square half inch of head space with no hair.
>dress
No sauce, but let me know if you find it, cause its cute as heck

[Anonymous No.10170171]

>>10170148
Throughout my undergrad, whenever I received my FAFSA/Scholarship refund, she would ask to borrow it (usually around 1~1.5k/semester). Thankfully I had a work-study job then and could mostly afford to pay my rent with it if I cut some corners.

>Does she have an illness or something that keeps her from working?
That's what confuses me the most- she's working full time. But she says she needs help paying bills. I've talked with my siblings, and apparently she hasn't asked them for any money recently, and they're also not sure why she would need to borrow so much when she also has an income. Ngl my mom acts kinda shady sometimes, and even though we're pretty close as a family, everyone likes to keep their private stuff private, so I never really pushed her for a real answer. I think I'm gonna talk with my siblings and maybe we'll plan to have a sit down with her to talk about it soon. We're just all really baffled.

[Anonymous No.10170179]

>on a fitness journey so I can fit lolita better
>the normie clothes I used to wear feel and look baggy
>my smallest VM dress fits comfortably
>I still weigh 55kg and have since January
>look the same in the mirror as I did at 60kg
BDD is a bitch but my measurements have dropped an inch since I started exercising and eating less carbs. I just wish I could see it. I can't tell if I'm doing well at this.

[Anonymous No.10170186]

>>10170145
I own this dress and it's just as adorable irl! It's from taobao:
https://item.taobao.com/item.htm?id=558503952312

[Anonymous No.10170192]

>>10170171
your mum's a drug addict

[Anonymous No.10170198]

>>10170153
what was the fight over tho

[Anonymous No.10170200]

>>10170171
your mom sounds like an asshole and you sound like a pushover

[Anonymous No.10170215]

>>10170192
I'm very certain it isn't drugs- honestly probably just very poor money management or something like that. Although it would be a bit of a shocker to see a traditional azn mom addicted to hard drugs lmao

>>10170200
She used to be a bit of a tiger mom when we were really young, but she's definitely mellowed out a lot more as we got older. I'm definitely a huge pushover when it comes to my mom, though. I have such a huge guilt complex about being a piece of shit brat growing up and I somehow feel like I still owe her for everything.
I feel guilty so easily over the dumbest shit- ate the last biscuit? oh my god what if my brother wanted it later, he's gonna starve now, what have I done

At this point, I just wanna find a job, move away from my family and hopefully settle down in a nice state with some decent local conventions and just bury myself in cosplay projects for eternity.

[Anonymous No.10170220]

>>10170198
It wasn't even my fight. She was gunning for a relative and i tried to step between them and got creamed for it. Never break up a fight if your hair is down.

[Anonymous No.10170227]

Would be nice if I, a man, could enjoy wearing and talking about lolita without constantly having to worry about getting shunned from lolita groups for no reason other than being male :/

[Anonymous No.10170236]

>>10170105
>Catching feelings is ok
What the hell is wrong with you people

[Anonymous No.10170243]

>>10170227
You can participate in lolita groups as long as you're involved in the fashion yourself. If not lolita, ouji or aristo, then some sort of jfash at the very least. You likely won't be banned solely for being a guy, but you might not be accepted to groups in the first place if there's no clear interest in the subject on your (I'm assuming FB) profile. Lolita comms typically don't accept non-lolitas.

[Anonymous No.10170246]

>>10170236
You can't control your feelings, but you can control your actions, which is what matters, and is the point being made.

[Anonymous No.10170250]

Made a new cosplay friend finally, we will be going together next week to a con together with her boyfriend.

... today while driving though I accidentally said "she" instead of "he" (trans boyfriend) I think they realized and it's eating me alive.

[Anonymous No.10170253]

>>10170243
>You likely won't be banned solely for being a guy
Someone from my friend's com doesn't want me to join simply for that reason and apparently the com leader hasn't decided to let me in or not yet because of it.

[Anonymous No.10170257]

>>10170253
Do you wear or want to wear jfash? Are you involved in this subculture at all, besides having some sort of interest in it? Being interested in the fashion as an outsider typically doesn't qualify you to join a comm.

[Anonymous No.10170259]

>>10170257
>Do you wear or want to wear jfash? Are you involved in this subculture at all, besides having some sort of interest in it?
yes, and the com leader is aware.

[Anonymous No.10170272]

I get the whole con crunch thing, but when people make such a big deal about it, it annoys the shit out of me. You’re telling me you knew you would be at this con for months and you somehow managed to procrastinate until the last second and now you’re complaining about running on 2 hours of sleep??

Idk, like I said, I understand that things come up, but for some people there isn’t an excuse. Surely you have ten, twenty minutes in your entire day to work on something. Even if it’s just a little bit, it’s more progress than before.

[Anonymous No.10170276]

>>10170250
Apologize. Come clean and just politely say that you think you may have misgendered them and it was unintentional. Promise to try and pay more attention in the future. There, you fixed it.

[Anonymous No.10170286]

Con in one week and have not started costume. Should I do it?

[Anonymous No.10170308]

>>10170276
I still feel so embarrassed and dumb

[Anonymous No.10170320]

>>10170308
Well, consider this situation as if you've dropped your pants. Right now you're embarrassed that your pants are down, but you're not doing anything about it. You're walking along with your pants down, wishing you could ignore it, and praying that they will ignore it. This is why you feel embarrassed and dumb.
You need to accept, literally say "oh shit, I dropped my pants" and make an effort to pull them up. Go apologize. If it's over message you should do it directly to the trans partner. It will be over in a matter of minutes, and they will like you better for it. It shows that you care and are willing to make an effort. Shit happens, but you'd better clean up afterwards.

[Anonymous No.10170321]

>>10170308
you're definitely dumb but not for feeling bad about confusing some freak's God-given sex

[Anonymous No.10170326]

>>10170097
>getting into physical altercations
are you 13?

[Anonymous No.10170332]

>>10169210
>>10169507
Dunning-Kreuger at it's best.

[Anonymous No.10170343]

>enter visual kei thread thinking "boy oh boy i love visual kei fashion :) we reliving the greatness of long-gone brands and gothic collabs with bands??"
>it's all discussion about actual music and gossip about musicians
I mean, I can dig it. I'm pleasantly surprised it hasn't been shunted off to /mu/. I just wish the fandom's spirit was alive in J-fashion, too. I feel like the darker, more gritty recent revival of old school Lolita is a collective of people slowly dipping their toes into that and channeling back to it, but I wish it'd happen faster.

[Anonymous No.10170344]

>>10170227
Have you tried saying you’re a tranny? Lolitas are notorious libfems so they let in every creepy fucker as long as they identify as a ~uwu catgirl~

I wish this was a joke

[Anonymous No.10170347]

>>10170326
Seems she was trying to protect her relative >>10170220, anon. Best not to judge before knowing the full story.

[Anonymous No.10170358]

>>10169097
OMAD is love! OMAD is life! You can do it anon and keep working towards that goal!
I've had a big weight gain due to anxiety medication and have an lolita event in 1 month so I'm working hard and working out what to wear to help flatter my body.

[Anonymous No.10170378]

>>10170343
I disagree, I think the revival of old school is wholly aesthetic and that most old school bandwagoners, and even most old schoolers don't actually care about the music.

[Anonymous No.10170395]

>>10170326
Anon, I was trying to step in and end a fight before it started and it just didn't end well for me. Funnily enough, this ended my perfect streak of fight prevention by dragging me into it.
The real kicker is once i found out why she was mad at my relative I've since totally joined her side in the argument. I still feel like a fool for fighting with her. If I see her again I'll apologize. No way she's gonna forgive, but to not extend the hand of repentance and understanding is petty and stupid.

Pic related for irony

[Anonymous No.10170401]

I finally have my dream dress! The dress I've wanted since I started wearing Lolita as a little bby ita!!

[Anonymous No.10170404]

Went to get my mail today. I went to a farther collection point because the collection point nearest to me was shut down. I thought it wasn't going to be very big. Lo and behold it was a 60x40x25 box.

I had a choice between taking the bus or walking about 1 km home. I really hate it how people stare when someone is carrying comedically large items but I didn't want to get in the way on the bus. I had just barely missed the bus anyway so I walked. Honestly, I thought a lot more people would be staring but it seems like many thought I was delivering goods to the nearby shops. Because everyone had their own transport, most only got to see me struggling with the box for a few seconds before going on their merry way and they probably assumed I was dropped off nearby or something. As we have increasingly quicker ways to get around, do we also overlook things more? Is there anything I've overlooked while gunning for better grades and a better paying job?

But I digress. I opened the package and there was only a blouse, a coat and an OP inside. The actual items were bound together and had decent amount of room around it in the box. Something like a yolk in a sunny side up. What the fuck FJ, get some smaller boxes, get your shit together.

>>10170401
Post pics!

[Anonymous No.10170413]

>>10170358
>Just stop eating bra! Its healthy!
>Its not anorexia because we call it fasting now tehe.

Fat people, seriously.

[Anonymous No.10170424]

Remember boys and girls, the time you save by rushing and cutting corners can never make up for the time you lose redoing things from scratch. Do it right or do it again! (All my actual progress on this costume down the fucking tubes why oh why couldn't I have been patient the first time)

[Anonymous No.10170425]

>>10170413
I went from 160lbs to 110lbs that way. I've also had an ED. Fasting and having an eating disorder are not the same.
When you fast, you know when to stop. When you are anorexic or bulimic, you don't, and you mentally punish yourself for not meeting your increasingly high self-demands.
Know the difference.

[Anonymous No.10170427]

>>10170424
I've learned that recently too. I bought a coat and modified it for a cosplay, but just making one from scratch while challenging to sew is giving me such better results.

[Anonymous No.10170430]

>>10170425
Fasting or any kind of a timed diet don't work in the long run, anon. You may lose a lot of weight but it's gonna come back. If not immediately, some time later. Changing your eating habits for good and regular excersise is what makes you lose weight for good. Don't lie to yourself.

[Anonymous No.10170432]

>>10170430
Fasting with specific eating windows/schedules is a sustained lifestyle change, though. When I said "stop", I meant "Let yourself breathe". The fasting easily just becomes part of your life, and you don't get as hungry for full meals after your one meal a day.

[Anonymous No.10170438]

>>10170430
Said the person who has never done long-term shift work

[Anonymous No.10170443]

>>10169227
This happened to me too. I think perhaps they just don't realize or forget it is stretched from wearing it so much.

[Anonymous No.10170493]

>be genetic/chromosomal fuckup
>tfw too ugly for anything

[Anonymous No.10170494]

>>10170493
Define "anything"? What are you interested in? I can't tell you much about cosplay but in jfash it's pretty much whatever. You may not be popular online but most people aren't, and that doesn't mean you can't wear the clothes you love regardless.

[Anonymous No.10170500]

>>10170494
NTA but bless your heart anon

[Anonymous No.10170517]

>>10170430
If that were actually true, anas would not die.

[Anonymous No.10170518]

>>10169102
>>10169114
>>10170358
Thank you for the support anons! I do admit that while I don't feel any smaller and I'm still constantly bloated, I have been getting so much better at running and doing minimal weight lifting! So I know there are definitely positive shifts going on in my body, it's just a matter of playing the waiting game until I can see some physical results.

[Anonymous No.10170532]

>tfw get super horny looking at husbando threads
>Not sure if want to cosplay as husbando or have bf dress as husbando

hmm

[Anonymous No.10170556]

>>10170532
fuck off fujo

[Anonymous No.10170562]

>>10170532
Por que no los dos?

[Anonymous No.10170605]

>>10170556
Kek do you know where you are

[Anonymous No.10170649]

>>10170493
you're never too ugly to cosplay, anon.

[Anonymous No.10170650]

>>10169115
You're setting yourself up for failure and then falling into the trap of believing that it was always going to be that way. This isn't a failure, it's a mismanagement of time. Anyone on this thread will tell you that it's better to set down an unfinished project than to rush it in time for a con. You will be so much happier with the results, with your time leading up to the con, and be able to actually enjoy the con if you do wait it out. Yes, it's a pain in the ass and it stinks not to have a costume to wear, but it's better to wear something you're confidant about than to wear something that not only makes you self-conscious, but is held together by a string. Build a better strategy plan for next year anon. Go to the con, let the inspiration guide you, and get it done early. Don't let a set back get you down. You have all the time in the world.

[Anonymous No.10170659]

>>10169097
If you eat less you'll lose weight. Of course, you will have to endure hunger, but it's possible to distance yourself from it so it just feels like a vague feeling.

[Anonymous No.10170661]

>>10170215
Your guilt complex worries me the most. You call your mom a tiger mom, and that she acts kind of shady, but that sounds abusive/manipulative to me. Even if she isn't spending it on drugs, you are your own person and only responsible for yourself.

[Anonymous No.10170715]

>>10170532
Become your own favorite action hero

[Anonymous No.10170721]

>tfw you want to post this picture from h.Naoto's webshop but it isn't relevant to any thread

[Anonymous No.10170722]

>>10170358
>the cut isn't going that great and I might not have abs by June
I know slow weightloss is the right way to maintain muscle but watching the number go down so slowly is torture when I know I could just not eat for a week and probably hit my goal

[Anonymous No.10170736]

>>10170721
They look like bad actor tumblrites and one has an underbite

[Anonymous No.10170739]

>>10170721
Brb going to buy that jacket

[Anonymous No.10170741]

>>10170721
I feel the same about pic related

[Anonymous No.10170752]

Is anyone here a pro-life lolita? I’m really scared of saying anything on social media atm.

I hope there are pro-life lolitas out there that share my same feelings.

[Anonymous No.10170755]

>>10170752
No because most lolitas are young women

[Anonymous No.10170767]

>>10170752
Kek wtf does Lolita have to do with abortions and why is it so important to you exactly?

[Anonymous No.10170773]

>>10170752
I don't see how being ok with having an unplanned child with a man who probably doesn't want the baby, dooming you to a life of being a single mother and potentially raising a criminal son, then forcing other women to live a shitty fate is relevant to lolita. But ok.

[Anonymous No.10170774]

>>10170752

Is there a lolita who won’t shove politics into conversation while I’m trying to get a fucking break drinking my tea? Fuck off, you sound as equally obnoxious as the transtrender SJWs

[Anonymous No.10170776]

>>10170752
I’m sure vanilla bear is, try chatting with her

[Anonymous No.10170787]

>>10170752
Silly anon, everyone knows that BABY > babies

[Anonymous No.10170790]

>>10170776

She’s not. I don’t even like her but try to say factual things about her. She just retweeted a bunch of things like this, look up her public twitter because I’m not about to be banned again for “doxxing”

[Anonymous No.10170795]

>tfw your favorite artist likes Jamel’s Jamil’s posts

I’ve been trying to avoid this drama like the plague because I support neither side, come the FUCK on.

[Anonymous No.10170833]

>Own 3 closets full of jfash
>Buying more crap few times a week
>Nowhere to wear clothes
>Leaving House twice a week for food
>No job/Uni - cant work for another year cuz work permit
>Bored all day, no friends/new city, bf working
>Getting older and fatter everyday
>Gained 25lbs

I just want a place to go where I can wear all my cute clothes

[Anonymous No.10170842]

>>10170833
Go outside and walk around. You have all the time in the world to wear the clothes you just lazy

[Anonymous No.10170845]

>>10170833
Please do something better with your money holy shit

[Anonymous No.10170847]

>>10170842
Going outside alone is pretty hard for me, already too troubled to even grab the mail or open the door for delivery. Just no confidence/insecure/depressive af

>>10170845
Like what?
My home is paid off, got all living essentials, travel when possible, gifting family members shit left and right and supporting local cat shelter

[Anonymous No.10170908]

>>10170847
Go to a tea house, visit the gardens
You know people can go do things by themselves and still have fun right

[Anonymous No.10170942]

Bought my first lolita blouse secondhand to try the sizing.
>mfw it arrives from Asia in less than a week
>mfw it fits
>mfw there are no signs of wear
>mfw I got out of my Magic: the Gathering match early enough to pick up the package by winning 2-0

Guys, I'm suspicious that this day is going too well.

[Anonymous No.10170947]

>>10170833
I'm actually in the same boat, except not gaining weight. I just don't really have many friends and my workplace isn't really an environment conducive to making them. I'd like to leave the house but I'm busy studying at home for an exam (which isn't even one which requires classes so I'm not around any fellow students). It sucks but I'm holding out until this exam ends and my time frees up.

[Anonymous No.10170949]

>>10170847
Get a therapist. Also walking around and exploring on your own is fun. Even just wearing jfash on your own to clean or do stuff indoors is good and it’s how I built confidence to regularly wear jfash out. Good luck anon!

[Anonymous No.10170965]

>two dresses, same brand, same bust measurement
>one is roomy, the other gives boob gap

[Anonymous No.10170975]

>>10170430
Actually, it does work, and that's why they use fasting in emergency situations where one has to lose weight for, say, a surgical procedure. It's only going to come back if you go back to eating the way you did to gain weight in the first place. Don't lie to yourself. Weight isn't some scary critter laying around the corner seeking to jump back soon as you stop fasting. It's more or less that bag of chips you devour in one setting.

[Anonymous No.10170980]

>>10170975
That being said, it is important one stays in good health. If you really stuck to a regular fasting routine, and the weight really does come back that quick from just a regular calorie intake... you really need a doctor. That's what happens to people with low thyroid. Often times, those people will find they can lose weight easily by simply not eating at all, but then eating one meal the next day causes all those pounds to come back instantly if not more. That's a medical condition and a shitty one at that. Goes without saying if one has never been checked then it's beneficial to before any diet regimen. That's all I have to say on fasting...

[Anonymous No.10170985]

>>10170975
you retard, you don't fast before surgery to lose weight. you do it so you don't choke on your own vomit during anesthesia

[Anonymous No.10170986]

>>10170985
...
I'm talking about when people are too fat to even safely have a procedure done. Such people go through extreme dieting procedures which include fasting because it's a race against the clock. They have to lose the weight.

I'm not talking about the general fasting before one gets put under. The one that's generally between 24-48 hours depending on the procedure? No, not that one.

[Anonymous No.10170989]

>>10170985
And, yes, I'm American. We have situations where people are too big for surgery and extreme measures are undergone to get them ready. It includes fasting and liquid diets. Mind you, you have to be really, really big for this to happen, but it does.

If this isn't an occurrence in your locality, that's a good thing.

[Anonymous No.10171014]

>>10170752
ew, lolitas aren't fit parents, and parents make for shitty comm members

[Anonymous No.10171163]

>Second hand shopping in Japan
>Find dress I've never seen before
>Fall in love
>Kelly Eden the damn price
>Thought it was super cheap
>One zero makes quite the difference
>Notice my mistake at check out
>Leave it out of my purchase
>Keep thinking about it
>Read up on the release
>Mfw retail price was lower than 2nd hand value
>Similar patterns in the western market
>Mfw it's super popular
>Mfw I solemnly write it up on my dream dress list

Why does it have to be like that?

[Anonymous No.10171205]

>>10170847
How did someone like you get so much money?

[Anonymous No.10171214]

>>10170752
I'm conservative (but actually pretty pro-abortion), so I know the feel of being afraid to speak out, anon. Just know there's a lot of right leaning lolitas out there.

[Anonymous No.10171232]

>arrive at con Thursday with bf, start making plans for what to do tomorrow
>event happening Friday morning at 10am bf wants to go to
>"hey bf that's a little early for me, I'm doing a new cosplay and I want to give myself extra time to get ready, I don't want to be in a rush or keep you back so maybe you should go without me?"
>"it's fine anon, we'll just wake up at 7am, that should be plenty of time for you"
>already 2am, proceeds to keep me up until 4
>what feels like no sleep later, alarm goes off
>laying and thinking about all the shit I have to do for this cosplay, tired as all shit
>"bf I really don't think I'll have enough time, you should go without me and I can meet up with you afterwards!"
>bf refuses because he doesn't want to go alone
>mfw bf is too clingy to handle doing anything on his own at a con
>feel shitty and guilty because he's missing out
>still can't go back to sleep

[Anonymous No.10171233]

>>10170752
>>10171214
Don't most of us have a right-wing/conservative government? What are you so afraid of?

[Anonymous No.10171235]

>>10171233

That their fee fees are hurt during tea.

If they feel that they’re being oppressed at a lolita meet maybe they should join a church instead. Literally >40% of people voted for Trump, it’s fucking easy to find Republicans.

[Anonymous No.10171237]

I’m commissioning someone for a cosplay and they came back to me with six fabric choices and I hate all of them. Obviously I know I should say something, but I don’t know how to phrase it without feeling like I’m being a dick.

[Anonymous No.10171246]

A buyer of mine on LM messaged me saying it had been a lot over my shipping time quote when it’s still within and I’m physically ill I’m so anxious about it

[Anonymous No.10171248]

>>10170752
>boo hoo, I'm an oppressed conservative!

Fuck off with that.

[Anonymous No.10171249]

>>10171237
Just say "I'm not really a fan of any of these, do you think you could find something else?" If you have pointers on what exactly is wrong with each fabric it would probably help them find something that's right. Commissioners want their clients to be happy with the result, I'm sure they don't want to make the entire thing out of a fabric you hate. Just be prepared to wait a bit longer, and possibly pay a bit more for materials.

[Anonymous No.10171255]

>>10171249
You’re absolutely right, I think I just needed to hear it from someone else. Thank you so much Anon, I appreciate it!

[Anonymous No.10171260]

>>10170116
Stop giving her money. Next time she asks say you don't have any to give. I have a mother like this. She will never stop unless you say no.

[Anonymous No.10171272]

>>10170343
If you make posts about fashion I will reply to you. I don't know how to find out about collabs and cool photoshoots since I don't buy magazines and don't know where to find recent scans.

[Anonymous No.10171279]

>>10171163
Couldn't you go back to the shop in the next day? Or was it gone?

[Anonymous No.10171281]

>>10170833
Literally the whole world is open to you anon. What a fucking waste.

[Anonymous No.10171288]

>>10170413
>>10170425
>>10170430
>>10170980
There's so much misinformation on this thread, and I don't want to turn it into a /fit/ conversation, but that's only half-right and it's because people don't understand how fasting and water retention works and what the difference between a few lbs of water weight you gain back after eating the next day (when you've used up all your glucose stores) or ACTUAL weight gain when you eat the next day.

It's the reason that people who abuse fasting can develop an eating disorder, by having an unhealthy relationship with the fear of becoming fat. All fasting does for you is uses your body's natural means of using up its stores. The reason anorexia hurts people is because they're constantly bouncing their insulin level up and down by fasting improperly or not long enough, NOT eating the right proper nutrients between fasts or not enough of them or just fasting too long, period, beyond the weight loss. You can fast a long time and it's healthy as long as you've got fat stored - you can't fast if you have no fat at all because your body starts using up ITSELF for nutrients.

And anybody fasting more than a few days ought to do it under doctor care anyway, that's getting into the extreme and not an actual lifestyle.

I eat once a day, I make sure that meal is healthy and has all my calories/nutrition/protein to not lose muscle, I'm losing weight, and a donut once in a while won't kill me either (to shut up all those 'everything in moderation people. duh?). I finally one of my dream dresses and soon enough I'm going to be able to finally fit ouji clothing.

Y'all have a real toxic view on food and lifestyle changes outside of the 'norm' too, for a group of people that dresses outside of the norm. Just because there's years of misinfo out there doesn't mean that everything you hear otherwise is wrong. Do your own research and let's get back to talking about feels.

[Anonymous No.10171289]

>>10170790
I'm pretty sure she's also *~super queer,~* according to her, so she definitely presents as left leaning-even if just for the aesthetic

[Anonymous No.10171290]

>>10171288
Finally FIT. Ugh.

[Anonymous No.10171293]

>>10170343
>>10170378
I'm only into the fashion. Music's alright, I don't give a shit about bandwagoning, it's just the look that attracted me. I'm new though, I don't have any content to post, sorry. :(

[Anonymous No.10171294]

>>10171288
Fasted for a week and a half once
I stopped because my colleagues at work all said I looked like a dead man walking. Also my lifts went down :/

[Anonymous No.10171300]

>>10170787
Underrated comment

[Anonymous No.10171303]

>>10171290
Then shutup calling people anorexic when they're not.

[Anonymous No.10171304]

>>10171294
That's too long, and obviously that's going to happen. God you guys are stupid, research before you do shit like this.

[Anonymous No.10171329]

>>10171304
I did research, the snake juice, etc.
I might've mixed it wrong, and to be fair I lost 10 lbs (a lot of it came back fast though) I just got so tired and cold

[Anonymous No.10171408]

recently found that on /v/

>>462496286
>This is why, if you EVER see an "Overwatch cosplayer", they are actually a free prostitute in disguise. This woman has knowingly presented herself as a whore, and knowingly accepts that it is now her job to have sex with as many men as possible.
You cannot rape an Overwatch cosplayer because she was LITERALLY ASKING FOR IT. The simple act of dressing up as "Hot Mommy Mercy" or "The Chinese Titcow" is literally the act of giving men consent to have sex with you.

>Thanks Blizzard, for making this possible.
I love this video game.

[Anonymous No.10171442]

>>10171408
It's just a part of the game, why didn't we realize it before?
What great design by Blizzard. Thanks Jeff.

[Anonymous No.10171553]

>>10171279
I hopped to the next city already. But even if I could go back I'm not willing to pay THAT much for the dress. I'm going to let my infatuation brew and hope for a better price in the future. It's not an old release, so I have hope.

[Anonymous No.10171644]

I want a smaller chest

[Anonymous No.10171655]

>>10168968
So I sold quite a few dresses over the past couple of weeks finally clearing and making space in my home.
>I feel happy

Then I receive a message from one of the people I sold to notifying me that there were holes and other damages that were definitely not there before I wrapped up the dress and sold it to her.
I thought I was fair in offering a small discount on top of the already extremely discounted price that she paid since whatever I don't feel like a fight and I said I would try to be more observant next time but I couldn't believe the snark she left in her neutral review... If you didn't like the offer you could have said no thankyou and shipped it back for a refund. Some people just put a bad taste in your mouth. TLDR someone on lacemarket with many dozens more reviews than me is kind of rude and may put off other girls wanting to sell things in the future .

[Anonymous No.10171843]

>>10171655
While I do agree that if you handled it politely on your end and offered a discount or the option for a refund the buyer should definitely treat you with the same amount of respect, but to be fair from the buyers point of view you probably just seem like any other seller who doesn't list the actual condition of the dress and sells it as way better condition than it actually is. Even if this isn't what actually happened, it seems to be really common so it wouldn't be surprising if she just thought that's what happened with you.
Anyway, some people are just really quick to leave neutral or even negative reviews even if any possible problems weren't the sellers fault and were handled properly once they came to light, nothing you can do about it but move on and be extra nice to those buyers who treat you nicely too.

[Anonymous No.10171896]

>meet with my local com this week
>already posts in the fb group about the pro life bills that went through
>already fights
Pls leave politics at the door skanks I just want to have fun

[Anonymous No.10171902]

>>10171896
>politics
It is a bit weird people post about human rights issues on the comm page, which comm are you in? Do you have caps?

[Anonymous No.10171961]

I finally snagged one of my dream dresses on LM and for a good price too

[Anonymous No.10171995]

Just going to vent here for a second because I am absolutely livid

I've been waiting to try and get my hands on the AP USA Sugar Sky OP in yellow for literal weeks
I was on my computer refreshing for a half hour prior to release, hoping that since everyone wouldn't shut up about how fucking "ugly" it is that it'd be left alone and they'd all go for Magical Horoscope or whatever the fuck

>release hits
>get it in my cart
>go to checkout
>fucking gone

it sold out in ten seconds
but every other color that people said they genuinely liked is available
as is the Fruity Lemon yukata as of rn
and all of Magical Horoscope
I'm calling fucking bullshit
either AP USA only got three fucking dresses or someone grabbed all of them to scalp them on Lacemarket bc of how popular that color and cut was in other countries

I fucking hate western lolitas
I GENUINELY LOVE THIS DRESS
now I have to wait and find the fucker secondhand at a price that isn't three times as much meanwhile some asshole is just gonna get it, say 'meh' when they open it and turn around and upsell it and I don't fucking get it. I don't understand.

At least I got the JSK and headbow in yellow. So someday I'll get the OP. But I'm genuinely furious when people couldn't stop shitting on this dress a month ago. /endrant

[Anonymous No.10172196]

>>10171843
I think that was my initial fear because I only just recently started selling a lot of dresses. I didnt want to seem like I wasn't listing a full condition. I mentioned all defects I was aware of. I had no idea there were neck strap things but I will look up dresses from now on. Most if not all the dresses I sold were secondhand and pretty much in the shape that I always knew them as. Either way water under the bridge but I hope in the future people understand not everyone is out to RIP them off. And people are always welcome to counter offer things too. Hell, I have done just that.
Also if you don't see an item in the photos posted definitely message the sellers about it because odds are high that they may not know it is even part of a dress. I know about waist ties and some dresses gave removable bows or clips but if they aren't there in the images the seller may have no idea they are forgetting them.

[Anonymous No.10172375]

I feel so ugly all the time, I feel guilty and shame when I think about wearing Lolita. I'm not fat (thought I could stand to lose 5-10 lbs), so it isn't like I can just work out harder and things will improve. I think I have a fairly unattractive face and have no clue about hair or makeup, so whenever I see a candid of myself I think "dear God no way I'm that bad," but it can't possibly be that ever single candid is lying. I want to balance my love of Lolita with my "girls shouldn't have to constantly worry about being pretty" mentality, but the only way I can see getting to the point where I'm not ashamed of myself is to constantly practice doing my hair and makeup. The prospect of that sounds so horrible... I wish I could just poof all my facial flaws away and upload a microchip into my brain giving me the skills to make my hair and makeup look not utterly horrifying. It totally kills my confidence, and Lolita is all about confidence

[Anonymous No.10172380]

>>10172375
do you practice hair and makeup at all? starting is the hard part

[Anonymous No.10172382]

>>10171995
I know a lolita who got the yellow OP, she's not a scalper so maybe there was just 1 and it went to her. idk if that helps but just know it's going to a good home!

[Anonymous No.10172385]

>>10172380
Yeah, sometimes. I feel like a little girl playing with her mommy's makeup set and it is so unpleasant and the results so bad I give up. I was a really religious, nerdy kid so I never really learned

[Anonymous No.10172419]

Its this anon
>>10170227
They didn't ban me and the woman who had a problem with letting men in the com is moving to another state, so its cool.
I had so much fun at the meet today and everyone was welcoming towards me. I see so many posts like pic related that I just felt like i'd be an outcast and not wanted. I've been into lolita for years but never got any ouji coords or joined any coms because I was terrified i'd be judged extremely heavily and essentially kicked out because i'm male and don't have the best sense of fashion. But at the local meetup everyone loved me and my coord and made sure I was included in everything. It was so great.

I guess discovering lolita through /cgl/ skewed my perception.

[Anonymous No.10172447]

Mfw a fatty snipes my DD by a few minutes on Lacemarket.
Bitch you're not going to fit in it anyways.
Yes I'm bitter about it, I probably would be less angry if someone who could fit the dress got it instead of some hamplanet.

[Anonymous No.10172543]

>>10172385
Practice more, I never ever did my hair or makeup until I turned 19. It felt pretty bad because every other girl my age had years of experience but I practiced a lot and I’m much better now. Just try with cheaper products, maybe before you shower so you can wash it off after

[Anonymous No.10172691]

>first con ever (not underage, just live in midfuck nowhere and broke), a local small-ish con
>expecting it to be awful
>my cosplay is sloppy and abhorrent
>soon as i exit public restrooms after changing into cos
>"OMG (CHARACTER NAME)!!!"
>already found people of my series, take pic
>soon as i arrive into con
>literally the best cosplay of another character of a series (both costume and personality wise) greets me, offers me to join their group
>stick with that group for the rest of the day
>they're fucking amazing, funny, talented, and so kind and open minded (didn't mind me being a queer and tarded either, were super nice and understanding about it)
>lots of memes and laughing and blabbering passionately about our characters' series
>sad i couldn't join the cosplay contest and my feet hurt but don't even care about it anymore because how much fun i had with people (and best cosplayer i mentioned won anyway)
>sad i have to go home and won't see these people again/for a long time though
>tfw have the best con experience ever
Holy fuck, now i understand why people do this...

[Anonymous No.10172749]

>>10171995
Part of me is glad AP is slowly returning to the constant bloodbaths so I can see newfags ree about it like it’s somehow a new phenomenon that nobody has ever experienced before

[Anonymous No.10172769]

>>10168968
>Go to ACEN
>Friends leave early second day
>Other friend I was meeting gets in a fender bender and has to cancel
>Get myself near black out drunk to cope with anxiety
>Wander around with nothing I actually want to do
>Continue drinking at the bar with some other solo dudes
>Realize I've got con plague and go back to my hotel at like 10pm

Not sure how I feel about my first con, it was a pretty mixed bag. Worst part is I actually finally lost the extra weight and am in decent shape now, looked good... but my fucking terminal autistic anxiety is still there. Hopefully Anime Midwest is better, I'll actually cosplay for that.

[Anonymous No.10172902]

>>10170532
dress your bf as one
(and you dress as his waifu in return)

[Anonymous No.10172906]

>>10171232
Be happy about it, that he doesn't want to go without it

[Anonymous No.10172921]

I feel bad now. I have noticeable laugh lines. I can't tell if it's from aging or face fat(I'm skinny fat).

[Anonymous No.10172951]

So exhausted by the multiple ita weebs in my comm who show up to meets and complain about bully elitist brandwhores and try to give inspirational speeches on how “lolita is for everyone, fuck the rules! Do what you want as long as you feel cute! uwu”
It’s honestly draining and you can tell the members who are actually experienced and dressed well are sick of it too and are just trying to be nice at this point.

[Anonymous No.10172993]

>>10170721
Thank you for sharing anon I appreciate this

[Anonymous No.10173003]

>>10171289
I assumed she was conservative and vaguely sub wife-y because she’s 23 and engaged to a military chad. Glad to see she doesn’t identify that way, at least. Though I do find it annoying when people who live and present as straight identify with the queer community as if that’s going to help them at all. (I’m a woman who has dated women but is now in an ltr with a man and don’t feel right calling myself queer, because it doesn’t affect my life or how people see me.)

[Anonymous No.10173094]

>>10172951
>“lolita is for everyone, fuck the rules! Do what you want as long as you feel cute! uwu”
Whats wrong with that

[Anonymous No.10173108]

>>10173094
Gr8 b8 m8

[Anonymous No.10173109]

>>10173094
Because lolita isn't actually for everyone, and you can't really "do what you want as long as you feel cute"; well, you can, but that doesn't mean that your cute outfit will be lolita, and if you're an ita weeb, it's really not your place to preach against the rules/guidelines of a fashion you wear terribly and don't truly understand.

[Anonymous No.10173183]

>>10173109
>but that doesn't mean that your cute outfit will be lolita
ah, ok, I see what you mean now. I agree then, I'm pro-gatekeeping. Do whatever and be cute, but don't call something lolita if it isn't lolita.

[Anonymous No.10173195]

>>10170752
>found the person who's never been sexually assaulted
must be nice!

[Anonymous No.10173199]

>>10173195
Nayrt but I am pro life with a few extreme exceptions. Sexual assault being one, the others being incest and a high risk of severe injury/disability or death to the mom. You should be able to scrape it out in those instances, but being a slut isn’t an excuse.

[Anonymous No.10173202]

>>10173199
>but being a slut isn’t an excuse.
why not?

[Anonymous No.10173204]

>>10173195
Why ya gotta do this to me anon?

[Anonymous No.10173205]

>>10173202
It was your choice to whore it up and you knew full well a baby was a potential consequence. Your shitty impulse control shouldn’t condem another life to death.

[Anonymous No.10173207]

>>10173205
>Your shitty impulse control shouldn’t condem another life to death.
If you feel that way, then don't get an abortion. No reason to control what other people do with their body. I don't like tattoos, but i'm not trying to outlaw tattoos, I just don't get one myself.

[Anonymous No.10173210]

>>10173207
I’m sorry I have a problem with whores murdering babies because they don’t like the consequences of being a whore, but trying to equate murder to getting a tatto is just retarded.

[Anonymous No.10173212]

>>10173210
not your body, so its not your choice ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Nothing more to say desu.

[Anonymous No.10173216]

>>10173212
And the body of an unborn fetus isn’t the same body as the slut scraping it out. But whores will take insane leaps in logic to justify murdering babies if it’ll let them continue to be responsibility shirking skanks.

[Anonymous No.10173220]

>>10173216
nayrt, but I only respect pro-lifers if they're willing to pay to rehome children in foster care or adopt children themselves. otherwise everything they say is meaningless

[Anonymous No.10173223]

>>10173220
>REEEE LET ME KILL BABIES OR PAY UP REEEE

Typical pro-babykilling scum

[Anonymous No.10173229]

Don't eat bait, folks.

[Anonymous No.10173234]

>>10173199
>>10173205
>>10173210
>>10173223
Jump off a bridge, scrote

[Anonymous No.10173235]

>>10173205
>>10173210
Reminder that 100% of abortions are caused by promiscuous men, not promiscuous women. Irresponsible male orgasm is what causes unwanted pregnancies, not female orgasms. If men cared about saving babies, they would stop being slutty and choose to sleep with women who actually want a baby. I think we should attack the root of the issue by giving mandatory vasectomies to men who aren’t willing to wait. Abortions won’t be an issue if there are no more undesired pregnancies, right?

[Anonymous No.10173240]

God I hate white people, specifically white women, yall got issues

[Anonymous No.10173319]

>>10173229
You want to think it's bait but most conservatives talk like this irl

[Anonymous No.10173336]

>tfw I'll probably die in the next few months but still can't stop buying lolita
yolo my lads

[Anonymous No.10173340]

>>10173336
Live large and die happy, friend.

[Anonymous No.10173346]

>>10173210
I don't really want to take the bait, but god, ever heard of rape? The same people who say they're pro-life scorn single mothers like some plague on society. Fuck off.

[Anonymous No.10173351]

>spend weeks putting together huge TB order for ACen and Colossal
>place it April 17th, a month before I need it
>finally gets shipped out on the 29th, ok that's fine plenty of time my TB packages usually get here in a week
>sits unmoving in Chinese customs for days, finally get notice May 8th
>being returned to sender
>definitely not going to be here for ACen
>sucks but okay that's fine, only ordered one ACen cosplay anyway, I can rewear other stuff
>three other cosplays in there for Colossal
>radio silence, finally reach out to SS again, get reply today Mat 20th
>yeah we still haven't gotten your package back yet sorry
>definitely not getting package by Colossal

I'm fucking gutted. I might eventually get this order but it's gonna be filled with swimsuits I no longer need. Feels like a stupid amount of money down the drain and I don't think there's any way I can get a refund. I'm 11 days out from the con and all my plans fuckt. Not sure what to do, cross my fingers this thing shows up? Accept my fate and put more money down on some last minute plans from Amazon? I'm so fucking bummed gulls, I've always had good luck with packages. Shoulda known my time was coming.

[Anonymous No.10173353]

>>10173346
I hate this narrative that you only "deserve" an abortion if something terrible happened to you desu. Abortions are for anyone who doesn't want to be a parent or go through pregnancy. People who think aborting an embryo is the same as stabbing a living person to death are deluded, probably the same people who don't believe in climate change and think jesus was a white person who existed.

[Anonymous No.10173355]

>>10173353
Agreed. Abortions save lives and help people have healthy, planned families. Incel ITT just likes being anti-choice because it makes him feel good about shaming women, which is his real priority. If incel-kun wants to prevent abortions he should look into legislature that gives free access to health care for all, better anti-abuse networks, anti-poverty policies, etc.

[Anonymous No.10173356]

>>10171235
You are absolutely stupid if you think people are scared to speak out because of "their fee fees" being hurt. You talk childish and have a childish understanding of the adult world.
>>10171233
Left and right, people fear losing their jobs being too vocal over an issue in America these days. Both sides have extremists who absolutely love ripping each other apart for people they think are "wrong" in views and stances and will do anything to undermine their political enemy.

[Anonymous No.10173358]

>>10173351
>one month
That was your main mistake, always give yourself at least 6 weeks when ordering from China for an event.

[Anonymous No.10173363]

>>10173351
Only thing that can save you now is if your SS gets your package within the week and mail it out via DHL.

[Anonymous No.10173365]

>>10173353
Anon you replied to and I agree. What if someone isn't ready? An unplanned pregnancy can ruin anyone's life, even a couple that's married and well-off. The rest of their living days they must suddenly become "responsible parents" at a drop of a hat. They act like it's a goldfish.

[Anonymous No.10173370]

tfw running a vpn and changing dns ports just to post on 4chan. Fuck the Australian government

[Anonymous No.10173386]

>>10173370
just change your dns lmao

[Anonymous No.10173387]

>>10173365
The funniest part is going off about "whores" when banning abortion creates more whores

Look at how many unwanted kids end up in the foster care system in states with no abortion

Look at the hundreds every year that age out of the foster care system without being adopted

Look at the 50% of those hundreds that end up involved in prostitution

[Anonymous No.10173391]

>>10173370
>using a vpn to change dns
you can't be this retarded

[Anonymous No.10173455]

>MtF in friend group recently had a "sexual awakening"
>Goes from Lesbian to bi
>Every word she says is now in someway sexual and beyond inappropriate for whatever situation we're in
>Picks the staple trap cosplays (Felix, Shimikaze, Alfonso) and complains when people call her a trap
Example
>Sat in local bar with said friend group
>Friend A isn't there, Friend B is
>She starts talking about wanting to suck Friend A's dick and how hard she'd "cuck" Friend B by doing it
>tell her she's being inappropriate
>"Oh shut up, hun. I'll cuck you next"
>Only one who's calling her out on her shit

Please lend me strength.

[Anonymous No.10173459]

>>10173455
you're all cucks. im on team tranny uwu

[Anonymous No.10173461]

>>10173455
Sounds like she's acting like a teenager and will probably calm down in a few years when her hormones actually settle. It sounds annoying though, just try to avoid her.

[Anonymous No.10173493]

>>10173351
There's always colossal east but thats just spending more money to make up for shipping issues.

[Anonymous No.10173499]

>>10173455
>tolerating trannies
You're doing this to yourself

[Anonymous No.10173514]

>>10173455
>Cuck jokes
>Openly thirsting for friends
>No feelings involved

Absolutely degenerate. You need to make them understand that this isn't funny. They're allowed to guzzle as much cum as they want, but stay away from friends and taken people. My move would to be to take this way too seriously and start questioning if this 'cucking' obsession us an edgy horny joke or a fetish of theirs. I would attack their morals if it's the latter. If someone is dreaming about becoming that much of a piece of shit they're not worth sticking around. They've charted their own route to absolute demise. So far my advice has been one on one, but at some point you've got to stir drama to ally the rest of your friends for an intervention or something equally as dramatic. That friend A and B sound like they would be disgusted if they knew what she said behind their back. Tell them if you want to bring in the big guns.

I don't know if I'm giving you strenght, but best of luck anon.

[Anonymous No.10173576]

I LOVE GOTHIC LOLITA HOLY FUCK
It seems like there aren't a lot tho, maybe it's just me..

[Anonymous No.10173588]

>>10173455
It's second puberty my friend

[Anonymous No.10173597]

>>10173351
Try posting on the colossal group to see if anyone's planning on selling swim cosplays at the flea market. if someone has something you want you could arrange to meet them to buy it at the start of the con instead.

[Anonymous No.10173600]

>>10173455
>All the replies calling her a peice of shit removed
But why

[Anonymous No.10173617]

>>10173363
Just got an email from my SS, they said the package should reach them in a day or two and they'll reship it, but I don't think I can change my shipping method (EMS). They're shipping the item that caused the holdup seperately, so fingers crossed it'll reach here in time? Guhhh.

[Anonymous No.10173622]

>>10173576
its just you, there are plenty of gothic lolitas.
>>10173588
nayrt but second puberty or not its not an excuse to be disgusting to your friends. at least with first puberty you don't know what you're doing because its a totally new experience and are too young to know when you're being a walking cringefest. there's no excuse by choosing to go through it again as an adult knowing full-well what behaviors are unacceptable. i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that telling your friend you'll "cuck them too" after they politely ask you to stop saying gross shit about another friend is just scumbag behavior and has nothing to do with their dysmorphic fetish.

[Anonymous No.10173626]

>>10173576
It's not as popular as sweet or whatever modern classic is, so it's not as visible, but the gothic lolitas that are around are gorgeous.

[Anonymous No.10173628]

>>10173576
its just you, there are plenty of gothic lolitas.
>>10173588
nayrt but at least with first puberty you don't know what you're doing because its a totally new experience and are too young to know when you're being extra cringey. this is a full grown adult. i'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that telling a friend you'll "cuck them too" after saying a bunch of gross shit about another friend after they politely ask you to stop has little to do with the second puberty they willingly chose to go through, and more to do with them being a disgusting person who cant accept personal boundaries and has no respect for their friends.

[Anonymous No.10173632]

>>10173336
What's wrong gull?

[Anonymous No.10173635]

>plan to enter big competition with friend
>had some uncertainty whether they'd be able to do it but they agree with several months left til con
>come up with something doable in that time, agree to assist friend with costume as long as I do everything else to prep
>state in no uncertain terms that I refuse to con crunch the week of
>friend agrees
>I write the skit, record all the audio, come up with the blocking, all on top of making my own costume and props and patterning my friend's stuff
>friend is slow to work but is confident they'll finish in time
>believe them like a fool

>week before con
>on track to have all of my stuff done on time
>friend is BARELY halfway done
>I'm annoyed but already spent so much time on getting everything else ready for the comp that I refuse to drop out
>spend entire weekend helping them instead of working on my own costume
>fuck, we're con crunching

>two days out
>check in with friend to see what they have left to do since I plan to drop out of competing if it's a lot
>"not much, just a little bit of painting and some hand sewing"
>believe them like a fool

>leaving for con
>my shit is done barring some hand sewing
>friend's costume still has significant sewing left to do on it
>their prop is HALF PAINTED
>they've brought their sewing machine and spray paint to finish at the hotel
>f u c k
>end up staying up way too late the night before the competition to help them finish
>spend rest of con too tired to enjoy it
>obviously didn't place

Mostly I'm annoyed at myself for not foreseeing this happening since I should have known better, but still feelsbadman.

[Anonymous No.10173639]

I keep trying to explore the basics and beginner products and procedures for doing makeup, but I find it all so damn overwhelming. I get stressed out from the thought of buying a bunch of products that aren't the right color or weight or formula, and the thought of causing acne or other trauma to my skin with the wrong products. Anxiety and laziness are going to keep me ugly forever.

[Anonymous No.10173651]

>>10173588

[Anonymous No.10173658]

Lately I've been thinking I look ok in the mirror when I'm getting dressed, but then I see myself in photos later and I look absolutely hideously ugly. Why is it like this? Should I just avoid having my picture taken?

[Anonymous No.10173672]

>>10173658
It's normal to find that you look different in photos than in person. I can be looking in a mirror and holding up a photo of a selfie I just took and the photo looks so much worse. It's just the nature of photos.

[Anonymous No.10173740]

Not bait but
>am in a BDSM relationship
>keeping it out of the public eye and obviously out of my fashion
>all is cool
>once out of the house,collars become "fashion accessories" and that's it,not a peep about our lifestyle
>SO says she'd like to escalate things further and have me calling her mistress in front of her new friends (i have yet to meet),in public,...
>tell her i would feel uncomfortable doing so especially when wearing lolita or any other jfashion
>also tell her again i don't want to wear a collar in lolita,was very adament about keeping those two things separate
>"you care too much about what people say just tell them it has nothing to do with it and that's what you like"
>tell her i don't want to impose my kink on anyone unwilling
>"anon you care too much it's fine it's not like i'm gonna walk you on a leash either"

it's a tricky situation especially given i'm the kind to shit hardcore on ddlg and the likes of it who are more "vocal" about their kink .
before you say "dump her" besides that issue she's really great as a partner and person.

tl;dr me and SO have kink dynamic,it stays in the house,SO wants to take it to another level but i don't, i think she cares too little and she thinks i care too much about what people will think

[Anonymous No.10173744]

>>10173740
She shouldn't push you when you say no.

[Anonymous No.10173745]

>>10173744
She won't push me til the end but I know she will feel probably disappointed in me and i just feel bad about it but also feel bad about even thinking of the poor random person cringing into a black hole when hearing me call her that in public

[Anonymous No.10173748]

>>10173740
>>10173744
I agree with that anon a healthy relationship especially Kink should never have anyone feeling pressure to do something they are not comfortable doing.

[Anonymous No.10173758]

>>10173748
I know, you're right and she always told me to tell her if there was something i was uncomfortable with but i'm too pussy and feel like i would disappoint in both cases

[Anonymous No.10173769]

>>10173740
What's tricky about it? Don't talk about your fetish when it's inappropriate, which is nearly all situations. Don't involve other people in your sex life without their consent, that includes calling someone master or mistress in front of people.

[Anonymous No.10173775]

>>10173758
then have fun being a laughingstock with both your lolita community and your friends

[Anonymous No.10173815]

>>10173769
Because she won't understand that i don't want to involve people in my sex life

>>10173775
i obviously said i didn't want to disappoint her but also i don't want people to hear my say that shit and thus be disappointed in me
not even in a comm anyway,too anxious

[Anonymous No.10173817]

>>10173815
also may i add we both are from different communities,she's in the rave and kink scene which is super "open" about those things

[Anonymous No.10173824]

>deleted fb months ago because I never used it and cuckerberg's trial made me paranoid about the shady shit fb does with data tracking/selling
>after con realize most of the groups I want to be in (animegao. cosplay, EGL, etc) are pretty much only or mainly on FB)
>want to redownload FB again
do I stick to my paranoid conspiracy theorist guns or do I give in and download it, gulls?

[Anonymous No.10173827]

>>10173824
Don’t do it.

[Anonymous No.10173872]

>first year going to a con with bf
>very excited to finally not go to a con alone
>bf brings alcohol and dab pen, even though I made it clear he absolutely was not allowed to because we were rooming with other people and I didn't want to be a shitty roommate or get us in trouble/anyone kicked out
>went to go vape every 20 min-half hour, even after asking him not to constantly because it was shady as hell to do
>got weird and jealous when friend lifted me up for a pic, even though she did that with every other person cosplaying as the same character I was cosplaying as
>didn't shower unless I made him
>said wants a room next year with just the two of us, which would be cool if it didn't mean paying $200+ each
might not invite him next year... besides this stuff it was really fun, but I think I prefer going solo at cons

[Anonymous No.10173874]

>>10173815
it's not even only about what you don't want, she shouldn't involve other people in her sex life unless she asked them if they want to be.

[Anonymous No.10173875]

>>10173872
>didn't shower unless I made him
Where do gulls pick up these fucking omega males?

[Anonymous No.10173876]

>>10173872
He sounds like a disrespectful shit that's not worth having even outside of cons.

[Anonymous No.10173880]

>see cosplayers complain about barely able to pay rent/are homeless
>they're still planning to go to multiple cons this year

Why does financial irresponsibility seem so prevalent in cosplayers? That's just one kinda extreme example I know of people with no money management skills.

[Anonymous No.10173886]

>>10173876
he's a sweetheart but the alcohol/dab pen shit and vaping a ton really made me upset, pic related

[Anonymous No.10173890]

>>10173872

>dating a caper

Literally how did you not see this coming

[Anonymous No.10173895]

>>10173890
*vaper goddamnit autocorrect

[Anonymous No.10173906]

>>10173890
>tfw dating a caper
pic related, it's my bf

[Anonymous No.10173917]

>>10173874
I tried to tell her that,but she just won't understand and say she's disappointed about me not taking this as a part of my life like her. Sigh. I don't fucking want people to know i'm a degen jfc

[Anonymous No.10173918]

>>10173917
tell her you don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand consent, wtf

[Anonymous No.10173921]

>>10173906
A N O N

[Anonymous No.10173941]

>>10170250
>>10170276
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA

HAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHHAHAHAAGAHHAHA

HAHAHAHHAHAAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAGAGA

[Anonymous No.10173942]

>>10173918
She does but for some fucking reason won't understand this? I love her but this is definitely an issue, she keeps saying i just shouldn't care but bitch wtf i care

[Anonymous No.10173943]

>I was 110 pounds all throughout my teen years
>get put on 3 different medications at 19
>slowly gain weight until i'm 150
>i'm 20 now
>scared to dress how i like because i feel like a whale

I know I just need to work out, but I have anxiety and my boyfriend works an office job, so we can only really go to the gym together on weekends. I can't run because I have asthma ;_; I just want to be able to wear cute clothes again and not feel like I'm embarrassing myself.

[Anonymous No.10173948]

>>10170215
>anxiety ridden azn with overbearing mom
Have fun marrying whatever most emotionally abusive woman you end up meeting in college.

[Anonymous No.10173964]

>>10173948
This pretty much. I have over the last ten years met and tried to help out in the past friends who are exactly like anon. It never ends well. :( I wish people had self respect and determination to rise above shitty emotional abusive parents and break the cycle but Asian kids seem to think it's like a badge of honor

[Anonymous No.10173968]

>>10171163
I feel ya, I went to japan recently and at a thrift store found tons of nice secondhand burando but didn't get any because of one reason or another. I really regret it, but at least i'll be back next summer... until then I gotta save up to blow tons on jfash and food

[Anonymous No.10174046]

>want to cosplay girls frontline
>not a girl
>cant pass for a girl

Why live
I have 3 options total, of only two that would be recognized.

[Anonymous No.10174053]

>>10173824
Don't do it. I have moral issues against facebook too. The lolita comm I joined wants me to make one <.<
They need to all move over to discord like the rest of us.

[Anonymous No.10174094]

>>10173658
>take a photo of myself
>I'm ugly
>look in mirror
>I'm ugly
>have photo taken of me
>I'm ugly
>see photo of myself when I was a child
>I'm ugly
>cut my face open with a razor
>I'm ugly
>get face stitched up at the hospital
>im ugly
>Get thrown in psych ward
>I'm ugly
>get out of psych ward
>I'm still ugly
Really makes you think

[Anonymous No.10174107]

>mfw seeing all these weebs at the con with OMOcat merch

Kek when will Omofat releasing her shitty game?

[Anonymous No.10174112]

>>10173455
The real question is why you and your friend group haven't gone full TERF yet. I guess it's a matter of not if, but when.

[Anonymous No.10174115]

>>10173824
It's not paranoid at all. The shadiness of fb is well known in my country but most people just think "I have nothing to hide~" and don't understand the downsides.

[Anonymous No.10174121]

>>10174094
Dw so much, we got filters now.

[Anonymous No.10174124]

>>10173824
Download? I hope not your phone. That app is a massive privacy invasion.

Just make a fake name and learn how to keep your privacy on Facebook with various tools, if you absolutely have to. Maybe obscure your face or don't post it at all, since they do keep all photos and are doing facial recognition harvesting. Don't really post anything meaningful ever either. I just use my fakebook to watch events and lolita updates.

I really feel you with wanting to be off it, though. I wish both cosplayers and lolitas would return to older forums that still exist but are ghost towns.

[Anonymous No.10174125]

>>10174107
i'm so fuckign sick of omocat shit. hard decora too, she's a sweet girl but her designs are so shit

[Anonymous No.10174134]

>>10174124
So do you guys also not post coord comparisons from when you started out until now?

[Anonymous No.10174198]

currently discovered my boyfriend watches zoo porn, incest porn and gets off to the thought of erect horse dongs or kissing a hot step sister.
i don't know how to dump him and bring it all up but what i know is that he planned on making me his fiancée soon (one of the coworkers in the secret let it slip in a convo we had). He loves me immensely and is a hard worker,a kind respectful guy,he accepts having me dressed in lolita every day and will compliment me and cheer me up whenever...but i just don't know what to do now gulls.
I thought i finally found the perfect cosplay bf and we were going to get married after three years of being together
>inb4 alabama
he's from the south and so am i

[Anonymous No.10174200]

>>10174124

I wish I could quit it but my friends still message me through FB. I try not to use it but it's sort of a useless endeavor since I use their now bought out IG. Fuck me.

[Anonymous No.10174209]

>>10174198
>zoo porn
>incest porn
drop him, that stuff goes deeper than just a fetish, especially incest fetishists. It'll be hard of course, but holy shit anon. there's a surprising amount of good looking decent guys into cosplay and animu that aren't incest loving dogfuckers, too. Out of curiosity, how did you find out?

[Anonymous No.10174217]

>>10174209
>that stuff goes deeper than just a fetish
>especially incest fetishists
are you sure? incest porn is pretty hot, but irl it's gross
some fetishes only really work as porn, i.e. when you're not directly involved

[Anonymous No.10174218]

>>10174209
Incest is like the #1 search on pornhub. It's not that weird, just a fantasy. Animal fuckers are red flags tho. I feel like those people are more likely to actually act upon that shit.

[Anonymous No.10174220]

>>10174209

you seem to be knowledgeable. why are there so much fucking incest porn? is degeneracy something that the general population just embraces? i feel like it's even more accepted than bdsm or something from a cursory overview of most porn websites.

[Anonymous No.10174222]

>>10174217
>>10174218
the fact that anon said he thought it would be hto to kiss a step sister makes me think he's one of those guys who would go beyond the fantasy.

[Anonymous No.10174223]

>>10173740
>vocal about being anti-DDLG
>is actually a degenerate into kink

make me wonder how many other hypocrites are on /cgl/. are the radfems who hate all transwomen secretly into dollification themselves??

[Anonymous No.10174228]

>>10174107
>>10174125
I love omocat. why the hate

[Anonymous No.10174232]

>>10174209
God I wish people like you were thrown in prison.

Who cares what people do in their own bedrooms, incel?

[Anonymous No.10174233]

>>10174223

Just because you’re into kink doesn’t mean you’re into DDLG which is a specific subset. DDLGers tend to be notorious for being really into public kink, which most people don’t like because of involving people without their consent in public.

[Anonymous No.10174234]

>>10174198
My rule is if he's on a porn site that doesn't have tag moderation like pornhub (and even some of their normal tags are terrible), he's got to go. They don't allow tags like "rape", "snuff", "zoophilia", "lolita", and "underage" there. There is shitty stuff like "step-sister", but you can see them dodging with that "step" part. It's also all pretty tame, terrible porn actors for the most part, no matter what the scenario tag is because it's a mainstream site.

What I'm trying to say is your man had to go off main porn sites to find that degeneracy. He was very much seeking it. Dump him.

[Anonymous No.10174235]

>>10174232
>getting this defensive over zoo porn
ok donkeyfucker

[Anonymous No.10174239]

>>10174223
As a terf, we hate transwomen because putting lipstick on a pig makes it a pig with lipstick on, incel.

[Anonymous No.10174240]

>>10174233
I'm anti public kink as well, but I get the feeling a lot of people who are vocally against certain subsets of kink (excluding the incest/bestiality talk going on ITT atm) are doing so only to make themselves feel better about being into nasty shit themselves. Anon said they wear collars out of the house. Where does your cognitive dissonance draw the line? It's just bandwagon bullshit also. It's popular to hate on this thing, so everyone jumps onto the hate train to feel morally superior and get asspats.

[Anonymous No.10174244]

>>10174239
I'm a woman. The fact you identify with that label so casually is sad. I bet you're projecting with that last line also...just cos you have been genetically determined to be unfuckable means no one else is allowed to feel cute, right? I wanna say your view are archaic but in the past, it was totally acceptable for men to wear makeup and strict gender roles are a relatively modern invention.

[Anonymous No.10174245]

>>10174232
>defending an animal fucker
I forget there are furries on this board


>>10174198
>he's from the south
LMAO no wonder

[Anonymous No.10174247]

>>10174198
just ask yourself this: would you really, truly want to be married to a fan of Oriemo?

[Anonymous No.10174248]

>>10174232
who cares about what other people think so much that they want them thrown in prison?

[Anonymous No.10174249]

>>10174240

I think it might partially be because of what you said, but the greater reason would be we're really into certain things and really not into other things. Sort of like how some people really love snakes and rats but are really not into other spiders. And because of the way our brain works, I do think that plays a role as well into how we view our sexuality and what does and doesn't tickle it. For me, it's the combination of daddy issues and public kink that just makes me not into it (not to mention that being a lolita, I now have to fend myself from mainstream who think I'm into this shit by association, which is getting really annoying to the point I might just take down my IG due to my job).

>wearing collars outdoors

I find that interesting espeically with recent discussion about how collars were fashion accessories long before DDLGers came into the fashion. So for some people, it may be part extension of fashion, part kinky roleplay that's 'undercover' because most public viewers will not take the visual cue since it's so mainstream. I do agree there is quite a bit of cognitive dissonance there however.

[Anonymous No.10174254]

>>10174249
yeah I get your point. I just don't understand why, if you don't like something, you have to become so bitter about anyone who does get some joy out of it. I can't imagine being such a jealous pissbaby.

That said, I think the DDLG and lolita comparison is more widespread online than IRL. Crossboarders come on /cgl/ and try to rile us up by conflating the two. Normies are gonna think you're weird regardless. I haven't encountered any creeps on IG but blocking people isn't hard. I recognise it's a real thing, but letting it control your perception of a fashion you really love is only damaging. If you do have the misfortune of encountering someone who suggests you're a pervert cos you like frilly fashion, that says more about them than you.

[Anonymous No.10174260]

>>10174254

It would be nice if it was that simple in the real world, but I do like my job so i may just make my IG private in the near future. None of this affects how much I love lolita, but it does affect how much I want to share with the community, which may be less in the future.

I used to think that as well regarding online vs real life, but with the recent Jameela kerfuffle and google warning me my fashion is perverted, I feel a bit more wary these days.

[Anonymous No.10174292]

>>10174244
terfs hate transwomen not men. men can wear lipstick and i've never seen a terf have issues with that. but a tranny wearing lipstick is still a man in lipstick. saying "oh I like lipstick and girly things guess that makes me a transwoman" is enforcing gender roles

[Anonymous No.10174304]

>>10174292
so you admit transwomen are not men? Silly terf, you played yourself. nice strawman also

[Anonymous No.10174318]

>>10174304
They're trying to clarify because you were too stupid to understand the idiom the first time, you dumb troon. Fucking literalist moron.

[Anonymous No.10174320]

>>10174304
>a tranny wearing lipstick is still a man in lipstick
and it's not a strawman. nice enforcement of gender role also

[Anonymous No.10174322]

>>10174304
They're trying to clarify because you were too stupid to understand the idiom the first time, you dumb troon.

[Anonymous No.10174325]

>>10174322
>says I'm too literal
>reduced the extent of being trans to the application of lipstick

you gotta fight autism with autism my friend

[Anonymous No.10174328]

>>10174325
>reduced the extent of being trans to the application of lipstick
that is literally what they do they reduce being female to wearing makeup and liking clothes

[Anonymous No.10174334]

>>10174328
Except...that doesn't support your incredibly narrow-minded narrative at all, they're saying how "anyone" can feel like they'd look good in an item of clothing. Your idiot goggles seem to be distorting your perception... but radfem ideology isn't logical or factual at all, no matter how many gossip magazines you quote, it's all based on fear and sensationalism. I interpreted the DNA part to mean the inheritance of genetic traits from women, which isn't untrue. Why do you think all transwomen are this one very specific example, an almost vaudeville characteaur? I doubt you've ever sat down and chat with a real transgender person.

[Anonymous No.10174339]

Listening to women discuss political issues is like listening to children fight over which crayon color the sky should be for their drawing.

[Anonymous No.10174343]

>>10174339
pink!!!!!!!!! >:o

[Anonymous No.10174346]

>>10174334
personally i do think trans people exist but the majority of trannies online are autogynephiles who love bimbofication and anime. there are tons of freaks who embrace the trans label to get close to little girls and abused women as well, and they're openly accepted by the trans community. too bad just by saying this i'd be written off as a terf so i've decided to just embrace the label

[Anonymous No.10174347]

Welp since I feel like summoning the janny after reading some of these posts I'm going to throw this out there.

The dreams I've been having, responses to sexual stimuli I've been noticing, intense emotions, and tiny little fragments of memory that have come up the past two weeks all seem to point to a repressed memory of being raped two(?) women when I was little.

[Anonymous No.10174352]

>too broke to afford hobbies at the moment
>couldn't get a job last year in school because the workload was too huge
>now can't get a seasonal job in hometown because lots of places don't want seasonal workers
>can't get a job in one of the largest US cities
>even if I did land a job I wouldn't be able to get to the job easily since my car broke and there's no public transport out where I live
>mfw

[Anonymous No.10174353]

>>10174346
nah you shouldn't. all your posts seem rational and I agree with you on most points, just because you recognise that and aren't some koolaid drinking SJW, doesn't mean you have to go full radfem. it's like getting redpilled but for a girl..soon enough you'll be believing their diatribes about all sex workers perpetuating the abuse of women and reducing women down to having vaginas in the same way that misogynist men do.

[Anonymous No.10174355]

>>10174353
the thing is that all of the women who share my beliefs have also embraced the terf/radfem label

[Anonymous No.10174358]

>>10174339
it's the same with men

[Anonymous No.10174365]

>>10174347
>I was raped by two (?) women when I was little
What the fuck are you talking about, you disgusting, incel. Nobody wants to hear about your sex dreams. Summon janny on yourself next time.

[Anonymous No.10174369]

>>10174365
sometimes I wonder why people feel the to post this shit in a feels board on cosplay/jfash board. like, it should be easy to connect the dots that the feels should be cosplay/jfash related. Still a sad feel, but really not the board for it

[Anonymous No.10174370]

>>10174334
The only true trannies are HSTSs that aren’t deluded about their natal sex and don’t try to invade sex segregated spaces. HSTSs are caricatures of womanhood but they aren’t trying to pressure lesbians into sleeping with them like the mass majority of agp “transbians”

[Anonymous No.10174373]

>>10174355
not all of them, probs just the most vocal online. most people IRL are reasonable, and all of my friends who are trans talk about the issues within the community and usually feel very strongly about fetishists. it's not dissimilar from lolitas not wanting the name of their fashion associated with DDLG. Do you really wanna end up like >>10174370 spouting drivel and believing whatever bait post on reddit validates their delusions that all transwomen undergo surgery and become societal outcasts just so that they can rape lesbians?

[Anonymous No.10174375]

>>10174365
>sex dreams
They're more about what sure feels like genuine mortal terror and complete despair
>>10174369
Yeah, it's time to sleep

[Anonymous No.10174385]

>>10174373
Are you fucking retarded or something? The vast majority of trannies keep their dicks intact because they know they won’t feel any sort of pleasure if they mutilate themselves. Oh yeah, the one thing that causes so much distress and dysphoria and they don’t have the balls to cut them off. I wonder why? Could it be because they are afraid of losing their erections? But I thought erections were dysphoric and icky?

The trannies that lop off their dicks and are exclusively attracted to men are cool in my book. Transbians can choke on their beloved girldick.

[Anonymous No.10174387]

>>10174385
do you think the only surgery transgender people get is genital reconstruction? I suppose it's no surprise you're massively misinformed on what being trans actually is. And it seems your mind can only work in absolutes, almost as if your eccentric beliefs stem from strong emotions and not facts or reality.

[Anonymous No.10174391]

>>10174387
>thinking trans rhetoric is fact and reality
Wew lass

I’m very much aware of the various surgeries trannies get. Doesn’t change the fact that transbians are afraid of losing their erections, their manhood. They want to ejaculate. They want to stick it into a vagina and totes pretend it’s a strap on. Pray tell, what’s the reasoning behind 99% of transbians keeping their dicks? I can assure you a sizeable chunk of them have the funds to afford SRS but opt out of it.

[Anonymous No.10174393]

>>10174391
you're so obsessed with explicitly detailing the function of trans penises it's leading me to believe you desperately wanna be fucked by one

[Anonymous No.10174395]

tfw spent 40$ on a puppet of a falcon for my cosplay and forgot it at home like a dumbass

[Anonymous No.10174428]

>>10174353
You sound extremely biased about the sex workers argument, almost like you're choosing to misunderstand it.

[Anonymous No.10174429]

Reminder that decriminalisation of sex work killed women in the Netherlands, and legalisation increased human trafficking and made some streets into a human zoo for tourists. Don't listen to cam girls trying to convince you decriminalisation is the answer, just because it'd be easier for them to use paypal and advertise.

[Anonymous No.10174431]

>>10174223

[Anonymous No.10174436]

>>10174429
>isn't replying to any post because they pulled that out of their asshole

[Anonymous No.10174437]

>>10174436
there is a post about it right above her post

[Anonymous No.10174438]

>>10174437
I don't see anybody mentioning anything about decriminalisation or camgirls.

[Anonymous No.10174440]

>>10174438
you've been living under a rock if you've missed the american sjw push for decriminalisation

[Anonymous No.10174442]

>>10174440
No I just don't live in america, nor think the world revolves around it. I'm sensing a trend of selecting a very specific scenario and ignoring the majority of opinions and experiences in order to confirm your own bias

[Anonymous No.10174446]

>>10174442
i don't live in america either, >>10174428 is my post btw, not >>10174429

[Anonymous No.10174451]

>>10174429
The reason decriminalization """""increases""""" sex trafficking is because in countries where prostitution is illegal, victims of sex trafficking are considered criminals and thus do not go to the police, while in countries where prostitution is legal, they can safely go to the police. It's purely statistical bullshit.

[Anonymous No.10174452]

>>10174451
that comment says legalisation increased it, they had decriminalisation before that.

[Anonymous No.10174831]

>>10174209
>there's a surprising amount of good looking decent guys into cosplay and animu that aren't incest loving dogfuckers, too.
kek

[Anonymous No.10174839]

>>10174429
you can't stop the oldest industry in the world

[Anonymous No.10174843]

>get invited to cos group
>they say im literally the best (character) ever down to a T
>so excited
>worked so hard and planning everything
>suddenly someone more beautiful, more talented and cooler wants to cosplay my character
>everyone agrees they get the spot
>"sorry anon! maybe you'd do a good (another character)"
it's fine

[Anonymous No.10174847]

>>10174843
Congrats on being a trendsetter anon

[Anonymous No.10174853]

>>10174839
that's not the oldest industry in the world at all lol. did you think people used to get paid for sex? the oldest professions are collecting, hunting, building etc.

[Anonymous No.10174856]

>>10174198
Anon either he needs to get help or you need to get out. I dated a guy who was into zoo porn and at first I thought he was kidding but over time he tried to push me to watch stuff that was absolutely illegal and eventually do stuff that was illegal. In the end I didn’t even feel comfortable having him around my pet cat because I didn’t know where the line was for him.

[Anonymous No.10174870]

>>10174839
It's not the oldest industry, not by far lol. Do you think people used to get paid for sex? The oldest professions are collecting, building, hunting, cooking, midwifery etc. And the fact that there are far more prostitutes in Amsterdam compared to the rest of Europe should tell you something too. Even if you can't stop it completely, you can do things that decrease it instead of increase it on a massive scale.

>>10174843
I thought cosplayers made one costume and then just wear it again and again until they cosplay something from a different show/game, instead of making new ones of the same show/game/whatever...

>>10174856
At that point I would have told his family and done an intervention. Imagine reading about his crimes in the paper years later and thinking why nobody stopped him, wtf.

[Anonymous No.10174883]

>>10174870
Perhaps I should have but a lot of it was just enough where people would have said, “anon you’re crazy! He’s just making an edgy joke!”. It was also an incredibly abusive situation overall where he isolated me from a lot of people who would have done something. He also was deep into porn/art communities that co-signed this kind of shit. It’s now that I’m out of that relationship that I’m having to tell myself that this kind of shit isn’t normal. He’s completely cut me off so there’s not too much I can do now.

Anyway lesson is don’t be a dumbass like me and don’t date even potential zoophiles.

[Anonymous No.10174886]

>>10174883
Sounds horrible, glad you got out

[Anonymous No.10174922]

>really looking forward to getting some specific shots of a new cosplay at upcoming con
>laying down for some photos
>photographer says we got the shot
>see photos later
>part of my wig moved when I was laying down
>not in a small way either, it’s really in your face obvious
>it’s like that for almost all the photos in that position
>the photos where my is wig fine aren’t even useable either
>I had props I was interacting with and the photographer decided to frame the photos so the props weren’t in the shot

I’m having major post con depression but it’s not the usual post con depression

[Anonymous No.10175023]

>>10174240
>>10173740
>Others wear collars outside for kind
>wear collars because i just really love five inch spikes
>confused for kink
It's not your fault that I had bad situational awareness back in highschool, but I', also a little pissed that someone out there is giving the misgivings some weight,

>trans talk itt
Leave transfolks alone. Shitty trans folks isn't like nazis. This isn't a "One guillotine fits all" situation. The one gross transgril is just gross and should be treated like a gross person. Because they are. But non gross non-asshole transfolk who mind their business should just be left alone.

In actual CGL related news, this will be my first time around other lolitas. And I know i'm poor and fat and will likely get posted. But I'm looking forward to Paradiso. If nothing else it'll be a good chance to learn by example and do better.

[Anonymous No.10175036]

>6 feet tall
>spend all my time and a shit ton of money on getting a lolita wardrobe suitable for my tall self
>spend a legitimate 10+ years researching what clothing works on tall girls
>suddenly hate wearing lolita
>want to get into other fashions
>interested in korean mens fashion
>interested in boystyle lolita
>still 6 foot tall
>desperately want to wear these but god am I tired of researching shit that would work on my body
why cant I just like basic american clothes? I wish I had a professional stylist that would just help me out and hook me up

[Anonymous No.10175049]

being a TERF is literally ok, white guys with a victim complex realize they don't get brownie points in society so they want some.

wow almost like the reason why the increase in trans people the last few years has increased for this exact reason.

[Anonymous No.10175079]

I'm sad, gulls. I've been in a deep depressive episode for an entire year, if not longer, and I miss wearing my dresses and feeling beautiful.
Whether you're a lolita, into other jfash, or a cosplayer, please cherish your passions and happiness. You never know when you might end up in an emotional ditch with no way out.

[Anonymous No.10175130]

i just think if you want to be a girl, then power to you. you're not bothering anybody, and if people are jerks to you, then you have the right to defend yourself. i don't get why this is an argument. can't we just be nice?

[Anonymous No.10175141]

>>10174393
>implying troons are desirable for dick when there's cis men

[Anonymous No.10175145]

>>10175049
unironically based and redpilled

[Anonymous No.10175181]

>>10174228
She took the money for the game she was "making" and used it to buy a house lmao.
Her patrons are frustrated because it's literally been years and no sign of a game anywhere (except for a shit demo). Fucking Undertale was made and finished in a shorter time frame with a smaller team.
There have also been some accounts of her not sending out orders.
Basically, her and her brand is trash.

[Anonymous No.10175185]

>>10175181
meh, I still like her designs. I did have a bad experience with ordering once though. My order was delayed by 2 weeks without getting any notice (I had to email them asking why my order hadn't shipped after a week), and then when it got here, it was the wrong shirt.....
I eventually got the right shirt though.

[Anonymous No.10175196]

>>10175185
Damn her fans really are all idiot weebs

[Anonymous No.10175205]

>>10175079
I'm scared of the chance that even if I had money to pay down every debt I have. To buy every dress that I desire. To travel to every place on earth that I even dared to dream about . That in the end I would not be truly happy
So yeah big mood

[Anonymous No.10175210]

I am getting so weary after hitting so many road blocks while making my costume. It's my first time ever making a full garment and I'm not grilling myself for making mistakes, but it's getting hard not to get demotivated when it feels like I'm hitting them at every turn. I finally finished making both layers of the bodice and excitedly stitched them together and under stitched. I put it on and.... the shit was lopsided and really low on my body. Okay, fine. I redo the understitching, this time by hand because it's hard to get a clean finish on the unusual anime proportions. It looks a million times better. Some faith has returned. I baste the ends together and try it on with a temporary zipper: It's too loose and the fucking layers don't match up somehow despite multiple fittings. Fuck, whatever. I decide to move onto the skirt in the meantime to build up my desire to sew again and hey! The more professional tutu I order arrived recently so I decide to try it on to get an estimate of how I long the skirt needs to be.When I put it on it doesn't fucking fit past my thighs. I'm not a big woman, somewhere between 130-40 pounds (possibly on the latter end of that spectrum since I recently gained weight which has been hitting hard on my self-esteem), but nonetheless the large adult size I ordered doesn't fit. Fucking end my painful existence.

This semester of school has been really hard on me in addition to other difficult life stuff going on and I've been really looking to turn to costume-making as a stress reliever and creative outlet but it's just making me feel incompetent right now. I have time to seek other solutions, but I'm boy does sudoku sound like a prime-A solution right now.

[Anonymous No.10175213]

>>10175205
I also have that fear, anon. I hope that we both find something in this world that makes us truly happy in the end.

[Anonymous No.10175262]

I’m too trashy for lifestyle lolita

I love the idea of wearing lolita everyday but I’m too lazy to dress up daily. I consider myself ”social lolita” because I wear lolita for comm meets and when I’m seeing friends in tea house.

Last weekend I decided to dress up for visiting my friend. We ended up drinking and smoking pot. I threw up in public train. My hat got serious damage because it was raining.
I almost burnt hole to my favourite dress with cigarette. My clothes reek of pot, cigarettes and vomit.

I don’t deserve lolita.

[Anonymous No.10175310]

>>10174451
Morons
just legalize fucking instead of making it to where we all have to be rapists
because criminilizing makes it so fucking epxensive in nevada

have you seen how ugly the whores are in nevada?

And they can't legally bareback either

I guess pornstars technically aren't allowed but I've seen too much creampie porn for it to be heavily enforced.

Why does /cgl/ hate poor guys?

You're all fucking *WEEBS* ffs.

[Anonymous No.10175311]

>>10175210
130-140 lbs
female

*obese lard*
You'd need to be six foot one not to be fat. Sorry.

And big tits are saggy tits :(

[Anonymous No.10175313]

I get sick of seeing less attractive cosplayers complain about equality and diversity 24/7. Photogs don’t want to take hall photos of you? They don’t have to. You get less likes than the hot girls? Duh. Cons won’t invite you as a guest? You’re ugly and have less than 5k followers. Either try to be less ugly or shut up.

[Anonymous No.10175320]

>>10175313
AMEN

OH MY GOD

Do you know I've never been to an anime con
or con
or ren faire

because... of feminism?
I've never ever been able to ask a cute girl to be more than friends.

And i'll never get to

I'm middle aged.

And will die having seen one vagina in my life and not even remembering what it looks like anymore.

Thank you feminism. Thank you diversity. Thank you equality.

Not.

[Anonymous No.10175323]

>>10175320
I'm going to get this tattooed onto the bottom of my foot so it can stomp it into the heads of all dumbass men

[Anonymous No.10175325]

>>10175323
there is no hell.
"dumbass men"
if you're not a tranny you're a feminist and that's just as bad.

Save my 'excuses"?

What's the alternative? *Rape*?

We have no advice/wing people.
Bars/clubs are a 70% male - 30% female ratio. They're a nightmare for the socially agile.

God forbid a high functioning autistic older male with a 1000 yard stare that looks like his neck threw up from a bad case of food poisoning. :(

[Anonymous No.10175330]

>>10175320
i don't think it's womens fault you're such a pathetic loser

[Anonymous No.10175332]

>>10175262
I think this could easily be solved if you stop considering lolita as always having to be dressed up. Throwing on a cutsew dress is easier than putting on trousers and a sweater.

[Anonymous No.10175334]

>>10175320
The reason you're a 40 year old virgin isn't because you're ugly or because of feminism, it's because your personality is repulsive and you radiate misogyny so hard everyone in a mile radius can sense it

[Anonymous No.10175348]

>10175320
Women don't go for obvious fags like (You)

[Anonymous No.10175364]

>>10175320
The world doesn't owe you a waifu, you pathetic sadboi

[Anonymous No.10175365]

>>10175310
>>10175311
>>10175320
>>10175325

[Anonymous No.10175368]

>tfw bought a purple DD only to realise I don't have enough purple stuff to coord it.
I'm a fucking idiot

>>10175310
Hahahaha the scrote is back for more. This is why no one wants to fuck you, asshat. Not because you're poor or disabled but because you have no personality beyond "incoherent little testicle"

[Anonymous No.10175394]

>>10174373
>most people IRL are reasonable
>and all of my friends who are trans
Clown world.

[Anonymous No.10175400]

>>10175323
>>10175330
>>10175334
>>10175364
>falling for such obvious bait

[Anonymous No.10175408]

>>10170847
Adopt me and pay for my expenses

[Anonymous No.10175414]

>>10173094
Lolicommunism is lolidegeneracy

[Anonymous No.10175416]

>>10174451
>Sex trafficking victims are considered criminals
This is false though

[Anonymous No.10175440]

>>10175210
I'm sorry it's not working out. Though that... really sounds like a difficult project for a beginner. I've been sewing for 20 years and still dread lining up fitted pieces with a zipper. They take many fittings if you're figuring out a tight fit yourself. Tutus are a nightmare and also ballet sizes are small because the dancers need to be small and light. It's not necessarily a fault on you, but it is a hurdle.
Be realistic with your first cosplay. You're going to struggle a lot with it, and it may not turn out how you envisioned it. But you will learn a lot. Don't rush each step, do fits at the patterning stage, remember that some fabrics have more give than your draft might anyway, and still may have to be fitted another time. When you piece it all together if it's not lining up right, do it by hand with large basted stitches and adjust it bit by bit until it sits how you want. Sometimes it takes that much tweaking, and you're still gonna have to pull those stitches out once you machine sew it.

I believe in you. I wish I had the guts to try something so ambitious as my first project, but it was a shirt made out of pajama flannel and looked awful. Don't give up, you're on the beginning of a great path where the pain will eventually pay off some day even if there's always going to be something new you learn with each project.

[Anonymous No.10175455]

>>10175368
What shade of purple is it? Is it printed or solid? You can probably make it work with another color.

[Anonymous No.10175539]

>period is scheduled to come on weekend of con
>all my roommates in the hotel are guys
>all my coords involve wearing light colored dresses
>no easy access to bathrooms without either waiting forever or walking back to hotel

[Anonymous No.10175551]

>>10175539
Stock up on supplies, double up tampon+pad, and wear a pair of shorts

[Anonymous No.10175554]

>>10175539
just stop having a working female reproductive system

[Anonymous No.10175555]

>>10175554
Man, if I could just get rid of it easily and safely I think I would. I'm ace and I don't want kids so I have no use for it anyway.

[Anonymous No.10175573]

>>10175555
You can

[Anonymous No.10175601]

>>10175440
Thanks for the kind words anon. I thought I was taking on a medium level project, but the amount of things I've had to learn along the way really make me think I went into this way underprepared. I still want to see it to completion, but I think I have a better understanding of what I can and can't do. And thank you for the suggestion, I just picked all the stitches between the two layers last night and I will definitely try hand basting this time.

I wanna tattoo your final sentence on my forehead, that's so sweet. Thank you. I hope all of your future endeavors work out in your favor as well.

[Anonymous No.10175602]

>>10175539
>>10175551 Agreed. Be mindful of when you need to change and always have some on you. If you're afraid of someone accidentally seeing them, carry around supplies in a zipper pouch. It's inconspicuous for traveling to the bathroom too.

[Anonymous No.10175617]

A cosplay feel and a Lolita feel:

Cosplay:
> Finally working on a new cosplay for the first time in 5 years
> Go really hard back in March/April
> Think Im safe because I'm super ahead of schedule
>Realize it's June next week and I only have 1 month until the con
> Nothing else has gotten done since
I played myself

A Lolita feel
>Wear Lolita pretty much daily
>Made it a goal to collect as much MM as I can afford
> Casually browsing y!a
> Pic related shows up
> Only stock photo that exists is on a model from 2004
> It's going to be home in a little under a week
I love this stupid fashion

[Anonymous No.10175623]

>>10175573
Yeah but no doctor would agree to performing it, plus surgery is risky, and after that either they leave your ovaries in which puts you at elevated risk of things like ovarian cysts, or they remove them and you have to take estrogen for years or get early menopause. At this point I'd rather take the hassle of periods.

[Anonymous No.10175627]

>>10175617

i have this dress. It's amazing. I like it better than the later version actually. I'm sure you'll love it too!

[Anonymous No.10175646]

>>10175623

Look up doctors who are generally more sympathetic to people wanting these surgeries. Also, most women gets cysts no matter what. They're usually not an issue unless you have too many of them or unless in the very small chance they rupture. I do agree that taking estrogen for the rest of your life would suck.

Alternatively you can look into maybe trying birth control extended cycling or other forms of BC.

I'd personally look into a hysterectomy if I was more sure about myself, but I guess I could always change my mind, You seem pretty set though. My friend is in a similar situation and I wish there were more people out there who understand this.

[Anonymous No.10175652]

>>10175646
Did an XY write this? A woman can't possibly be this out of touch

[Anonymous No.10175663]

>>10175539
Get a menstrual cup, you will love it and it makes your life so much easier. Only need to empty it every morning and evenning you're fine

[Anonymous No.10175667]

>>10175601
I've done that more times than I can count. The frustration is killer, but I'm glad I could give you some encouragement! Hang in there, and thank you so much for the well wishes back! You will acquire all this sewing XP and it'll make your future projects that much better!

[Anonymous No.10175671]

>tfw was going to pretend I was sick on Friday so I could go to Momocon because I just took a week off for Acen but boss just sent out email saying we have it off for the holiday

[Anonymous No.10175682]

>>10170215
Stop complaining. You obviously are happy with where you are if you keep letting this happen to you. I don't get why you're even bothering with posting.

>>10175617
I love that dress. Congrats anon!

[Anonymous No.10175689]

>>10175663
this, or a menstrual disk

[Anonymous No.10175720]

>>10175627
>>10175682
Thank you anons! I'm over the moon. Also later version? Do you mean Madeline or did they do a rerelease

[Anonymous No.10175792]

>>10175671
>tfw called off sick to go to con too but then actually got sick after the con

[Anonymous No.10175796]

>>10175792
Con plague is real anon, come prepared next time.

[Anonymous No.10175819]

>>10175720

Yeah sorry. I'm down with a cold and couldn't think of the name. I think they pay more attention to the detail in this dress than Madeleine which is why I love it so much.

[Anonymous No.10175820]

>tfw liver pain and stool is light brown and watery
i'm dying...

[Anonymous No.10175821]

>>10175820
Wow real fucking /cgl/ related

[Anonymous No.10175823]

>>10175821
>Not realizing anon's talking about con plague

[Anonymous No.10175824]

>>10175823
If that was the case anon should have said so, but as it stands it’s literally just a post talking about the consistency of his shit.

[Anonymous No.10175859]

nothing i bought online fits

[Anonymous No.10175943]

Despite continuously sewing I feel like my quality isn't really improving. Finding good patterns is incredibly hard for me, since guy patterns are practically just variations of a button down shirt, and that's about the only place where I would be forced to learn new techniques, which is what I want to do.

On top of that, I wanted to make normal clothes, and then quickly realized it's not worth the price of fabric. Also, the stores near me all have retardedly expensive fabric due to the many fashion schools in the city, and I'm spoiled by extremely cheap fabric in my college town.

I'm on break right now so I have a fuckload of free time, and I'm seriously in such a slump right now. Don't even know what cosplays to make since no recent characters really interest me.

also, what's the consensus on serging the inside of a jacket if you're going to line it? I'm finishing up a bomber and I didn't do it, but thinking about it now, I'm pretty sure it's going to fall apart on the inside over time.

[Anonymous No.10175961]

>>10175943
instead of making normal boring guy shirt patterns, try to challenge yourself with some dumb but more elaborate and challenging halloween pattern. simplicity even has some shitty EGL pattern ripoffs you could get.
imo, serging is nice to clean up any edge for me. If I still had one i'd use it all the time

[Anonymous No.10175965]

>>10175859
is it because you're a fatty-chan or just have weird measurements?

[Anonymous No.10175984]

>>10175539
>not just exclaiming loudly that you're bleeding out your asshole and for all men to move the fuck out of your way

>>10175602
are you 12? who the fuck is ashamed of a natural bodily function like your period other than preteens

[Anonymous No.10175985]

>>10175984
Nayrt but most civilized people don’t announce when they have to shit, why should she announce she’s on her period?

[Anonymous No.10175997]

>>10175985
People say they have to go to the bathroom all the time.

[Anonymous No.10176015]

I have to wake up for work at 9AM, it's currently almost 1AM here and I've got a con coming up in 2 days (Anime North)

I've been working on my first hand-made cosplay ever, specifically of V from Devil May Cry 5. friend is doing a cosplay of him, I offered to make the coat. I think it's coming along nicely (for my first attempt at making a coat) but jesus fuck the stress of getting this thing done has really worn me down.

made my own pattern and everything. I hope I'll get quicker at getting this kind of stuff done in the future, I've been working on this coat consistently for like a month and a bit now.

[Anonymous No.10176037]

Wow I really hate women.

[Anonymous No.10176044]

>>10176015
Looking forward to seeing your hard work in person, anon!

[Anonymous No.10176067]

>>10175984
Some people are - especially around men, some of which still view it as nasty. It's great that you aren't, but you shouldn't mock others for wishing to have some privacy in their bathroom endeavors.

[Anonymous No.10176289]

>>10175819
I agree, the gathers in the bodice are more ornate than what they did with Madeleine. It also seems (probably deceptively) comfier than Madeleine. Get well soon Anon!

Tangentially related feel I really wish I had the confidence to post my coordinates online. I have a fairly decent wardrobe and a nice sized group of Lolita friends, but sometimes it feels like I'm missing out because I really don't have much of an online presence. Going down that rabbit hole makes me anxious though.

[Anonymous No.10176296]

>>10175997
I don’t know a single civilized person that goes around announcing that they have to “take a shit.”

[Anonymous No.10176371]

>order shoes new from BTSSB SF
>when they get in they have a scratch

Cri

[Anonymous No.10176389]

>>10176296
>don’t know a single civilized person
That’s to be expected when you never leave your parents’ basement.

[Anonymous No.10176869]

Why can’t people list pit stains if there are pit stains??? I’ve gotten tons of items with them lately.

[Anonymous No.10176884]

>>10176869
Ask for photos before buying secondhand from westerners.

[Anonymous No.10176885]

>>10176884
There were photos, and it wasn’t visible in the photos each time. I don’t want to have to go out of my way to ask for pictures of the armpits every time I buy

[Anonymous No.10176905]

Tfw fell out of love with Lolita because of lack of anywhere to wear it and am now selling my closet to buy figures, cause at least I can enjoy looking at those when I'm not at work

[Anonymous No.10176927]

How long should I wait before contacting a seller about not receiving my item? It's been 17 days, my dress still isn't here, and the tracking hasn't updated since that first day stating it's left the office of exchange.
I've contacted my post office, and they said to reach out to the seller. Should I wait a bit more, or just ask the seller if they can file some kind of missing item report now?

[Anonymous No.10176941]

>>10176927
It costs nothing to ask, but no need to panic until 3 or 4 full weeks from when it was posted, and add an extra day for every national/bank holiday

[Anonymous No.10177040]

>>10176905
selling platform?

[Anonymous No.10177054]

recently started trying to meet people after 4 years of being single.
I'm flabbergasted by the amount of people who casually drop a "good girl" on me during light flirting...like is the whole world infested with DDLGers? why is this normal now?
I'm a grown fucking woman, just don't.

I'm not smol and I don't even mention my fashion to the people I'm talking to so this really is a trend.
how do I screen for this??

[Anonymous No.10177056]

>>10177054
The whole “good girl” thing was around wayyyyy before DDLG. Literally decades.

[Anonymous No.10177058]

>>10177054
Seconding >>10177056. “Good girl” was popular way before DDLG, and has been featured in main stream media for ages. There’s even cartoons back from the 50’s or 60’s that have the phrase. Here’s a link of a song that has “good girl” in the title and talks about Christina Aguilera being one. Absolutely no part of the song has anything to do with DDLG.

https://youtu.be/YDPR5EoYqOs

I’d link the old cartoons if I remembered what the title was but that Christina Aguilera song is the most popular off the top of my head reference I can think of.

Stop being a prude.

[Anonymous No.10177063]

>>10177058
not caring for a term doesn't make me a prude, anon.
the inherent power play is super presumptuous and I'm not into it. doesn't negate my sexuality in the least.

[Anonymous No.10177066]

>>10177063
Acting like it stems from DDLG and being “flabbergasted” by a flirting phrase older than my 50 year old mother makes you a prude.

[Anonymous No.10177067]

>>10177063
It’s not even “daddy” which again predates DDLG, but you’d have more of an argument if that was what you were offended by. Someone flirting with you by pinning you as a good girl rather than a bad girl is massivey inoffensive and you clutching your pearls to turn it into some age play fetish shit is ridiculous.

[Anonymous No.10177069]

>>10177063
you’re going to have a lot of difficulty dating if you keep getting triggered by tumblr tier shit

[Anonymous No.10177073]

>>10177069
I bet she breaks down at “cutie” or “baby” too.

[Anonymous No.10177077]

>>10175555
i'd recommend you get an IUD or take some form of birth control; while you being ace means you don't run pregnancy risks, having the birth control will reduce your period woes and also regulate your body so you don't have unpredictable situations.

i've been on the pill for 8 years and even at my heaviest i only need a light pad/liner. highly recommend you look into it

to stay on-topic for the thread, i'm pretty sad that i missed paradiso. i had been planning it out since february but life happened in between and i had to sell my pass. i'm trying to not fall into the depression hole for missing an event but it's difficult.

[Anonymous No.10177106]

>>10175652
man here, but I wouldn't doubt that there are some women like this out there

[Anonymous No.10177110]

>>10176927
more or less unrelated, but...
>be me at work, postman
>have to deliver a package without streetname and housenumber
>name is at least there
>couldn't find the person tough
>in the end I just send it pack anyway
not really my fault, if they can't write the full adress

[Anonymous No.10177132]

>>10177054
You're not being a prude at all, you're just being careful lmao.
Try not to let the mentally ill weebs on this site get to you

[Anonymous No.10177136]

>>10177132
>mentally ill for telling someone to get over someone they were flirting with calling you a good girl

Stop projecting

[Anonymous No.10177137]

>>10177136
stop being mentally ill
it's not that hard anon

[Anonymous No.10177139]

>>10177137
I can’t tell if you’re serious or not because some people are unironically this stupid on /cgl/. But again in case you’re really this dumb, telling someone to get over innocent flirting =/= mental illness.

[Anonymous No.10177142]

Anyway I was surprised to see some artists that participate in the AA thread can't draw for shit.

[Anonymous No.10177144]

>>10177139
FOUND THE DDLG

[Anonymous No.10177145]

>>10177144
Thanks for confirming the stupid thing

[Anonymous No.10177146]

When are idiots going to realize to vent shit on a private twitter and not on a public one?
If you have problems with mods either message them, become a mod yourself, or fuck off

[Anonymous No.10177147]

>>10177145
Just to make you feel better about yourself :)
Lots of gulls have really low self esteem, it's fucking sad

[Anonymous No.10177148]

>>10177147
>more projecting

That’s a YIKES from me.

[Anonymous No.10177150]

>>10177148
>being this pressed

idk man

[Anonymous No.10177152]

>>10177146
You’re telling me.
I’ve caught a couple on twitter, and of course when they’re caught and messaged they private that shit up real quick. All this drama for some ugly anime merch bags. It’s insane.

[Anonymous No.10177165]

>>10176885
>I'm too lazy to protect myself from frustration, I'd rather just be fucked over and bitch about it here
Okay.

[Anonymous No.10177167]

I got invited to attend MagWest but I’m really nervous about spending the money on plane tickets/asking off work for something so small.
It doesn’t help that my bf doesn’t see it as much of something to bother with either so I just....wish I wouldn’t have said anything about it now LOL

[Anonymous No.10177168]

>>10177165
Buyers should not have to ask for more proof photos if there are already photos. That’s the whole fucking point of having photos, to show the state of the item.

[Anonymous No.10177172]

>>10177168
I agree that buyers should not have to ask for more photos, but sadly, if they want to make sure that a shitty seller isn't purposely hiding pit-stains on their ad, they have to.

[Anonymous No.10177174]

>>10177172
That’s retarded, and no, a buyer doesn’t “have to.” They can just file a PayPal claim when the item shows up not as described.

[Anonymous No.10177177]

>>10177172
That’s not how it works, it is not the buyers responsibility to ask for detailed shots of every inch of an item that’s advertised as like new/NWT/NWOT/no flaws or stains.

[Anonymous No.10177191]

>>10168968
>tfw Whores (or women as some call them) live life on easy mode

[Anonymous No.10177203]

>>10177191
summer really is here huh

[Anonymous No.10177361]

>>10177191
>poor little incel didn't get the response he wanted on the first thread he posted this, so he posted it in a few more threads
that's not really working out for you, is it pedo chan?

[Anonymous No.10177526]

>>10177167
Invited by the con or just by friends?

[Anonymous No.10177576]

>>10171260
Seconding. My mother also used to ask me for money but not my sibling. I finally told her no, and she hasn't asked once since. Wish I'd said it before she racked up at least five grand from me.

[Anonymous No.10177623]

I just love lolita so god damn much. Everything. My dresses. The dresses I don't have. Blouses, socks, headwear, rings... I love it all so much it takes my breath away.

[Anonymous No.10177655]

CATS TEA PARTY IS ON THE WAY TO ME AND I COULDNT BE HAPPIER
it's been my dream dress ever since I joined the fashion, I might cry when it arrives

[Anonymous No.10177675]

>mfw anons think mentally stable people browse this website

[Anonymous No.10177889]

Somehow both my parasol and my friend's broke today on our excursion. Thankfully it wasn't a brand parasol but it was still super cute, now I have to buy another one.

[Anonymous No.10178038]

Bough a dress off mercari and it arrived reeling of piss, soaked it in a mixture of oxiclean and detergent and the water turned brown. How the fuck do you pee on your dress

[Anonymous No.10178064]

>>10178038
Maybe they had a pet that peed on their dress?

[Anonymous No.10178206]

AP sweet is not at all my thing but I'm feeling this huge rush of secondhand joy and excitement right now watching everyone get their Unbirthday and CTP dresses. Reminds me of why I got into this fashion.

[Anonymous No.10178208]

>>10178038
Please name the seller so we know not to buy from them. Disgusting.

[Anonymous No.10178225]

>>10172691
this is so wholesome. I'm going to a con for the first time in literally a year and a half and I'm terrified my friends will back out like they tend to at the last minute but I need to remember that I'm a fucking adult and can make new friends there as well. I appreciate this story tyyy

[Anonymous No.10178244]

>>10178225
ntayrt but don't be afraid to go to cons yourself, sometimes you have the most fun that way, you can do things at your own pace and you get more opportunity to talk to new people.

If your friends have a habit of backing out at the last minute they are shitty friends. Have fun and meet new people that are better.

[Anonymous No.10178458]

>>10169097
One meal a day. I lost 5 kgs in a month or so through that.

[Anonymous No.10178482]

>>10170736
>and one has an underbite
How the fuck do women notice shit like this?

[Anonymous No.10178485]

>>10177675
They do, they're just on none of the boards I frequent. /trv/ is pretty normie tier.

[Anonymous No.10178657]

>tfw no cosplay gf to go to cons with

[Anonymous No.10178663]

>>10173588
I know, but that sounds like a person who doesn't know boundaries. It's really hard to live with people like that.

[Anonymous No.10178665]

>>10173824
Don't do it. You're not being paranoid at all, Facebook is as shady as a software company can be.
If you have to do it, keep it out of your phone. Only browse it on your PC with Firefox with uBlock Origin and Facebook Container installed.
Though, you really shouldn't do it. The more people outside of Facebook (and its companies like WhatsApp and Instagram), the social network effect gets weaker.

[Anonymous No.10178666]

>>10173872
>didn't shower unless I made him
Where do you people even meet? How was this a no-go sign from the start

[Anonymous No.10178699]

>>10178244
I never seem to have much fun on my own but on the other hand I've met some of the most entertaining and fun people I know at cons so you're totally right. thanks for the support ; ;

[Anonymous No.10178716]

>go to bigger cons
>teens and children being obnoxious everywhere
>go on social media
>underages acting entitled and treating everyone over 18 like a predator while simultaneously expecting them to babysit every brat they encounter
>go to the fucking store
>kids running around with no parents paying attention getting into shit and yelling at each other
>go to work
>"Anon when are you going to let go of your childish hobbies and have some kids of your own. Don't be so selfish."

I would rather fucking die
Maybe I was just born with sociopathy or autism but I can't stand being around them despite most of my costumes and enjoyment coming from media directed at younger people. Sorry bout it.

[Anonymous No.10178726]

>want big chunky goth boots
>they're all $80+ and I'm a cheapass who would never willingly spend that much unless it's a Lolita dress (or particularly coveted accessory), or the combined total of several items at once
>check out Dolls Kill on a whim
>they're having a sale
>decide to look at what they're selling, not expecting much
>find some chunky black platform boots that used to be $92 going for $38.64
>mfw
One of my dreams came true today!!!

[Anonymous No.10178727]

>>10170833
Me too, anon. Not 25lbs, just 10 so far, but depression is a bitch.

[Anonymous No.10178728]

>tfw I'm slowly turning back into a fujo
Help

[Anonymous No.10178733]

>>10178728
>fujo
what does this mean?

[Anonymous No.10178735]

>>10178733
straight woman with a fetish for gays, usually asians

[Anonymous No.10178740]

>>10178735
so a female who is straight but enjoys yaoi?

[Anonymous No.10178743]

>>10178740
yes, it's a fetish for homosexuals but with a weeby name

[Anonymous No.10178744]

>>10178733
How new could you possibly be?

[Anonymous No.10178750]

Something I need to complete a set is available on Wunderwelt, it's not coveted but it's kind of old so it rarely shows up on the secondhand market. However, because Wunderwelt is overcharging so much lately, I don't want to buy it out of spite.

[Anonymous No.10178752]

>>10178728
I doubt you ever stopped being one

[Anonymous No.10178754]

>>10178743
ok thank you
>>10178744
>if you dont know all the japanese names for everything your a newfag
fuck off

[Anonymous No.10178756]

>>10178716
I quite like children
Today I had quite some fun with two younger cousins of mine (ok they are actually teenagers), and the daughter of my oldest cousin
But yeah, I must admit that they can be exhausting

[Anonymous No.10178757]

>>10178752
For about six years I read nothing but normie shit and yuri. But this week I read I Hear the Sunspot because a friend recommended it and now I can't stop.

>>10178733
Female yaoi or slash fan. Short for fujoshi. Not necessarily straight though

[Anonymous No.10178772]

This isn’t /cgl/ related but I need to post it somewhere.

I just saw a dead body when driving, it was a guy who was on a motorcycle. I’m not bothered by death but the way people crowded around him like he was a spectacle put me into shock. It was disgusting to see them in a semi circle around him just laying there.

Rest In Peace motorcycle man. You don’t deserve to have your death be like that.

[Anonymous No.10178834]

>>10178716
This is such a mood.

[Anonymous No.10178839]

>>10178728
>>10178757
>tfw hiding im a massive fujo from my whole comm
at least youre reading wholesome things. ill be in my corner with my uncensored honey qp scanlations

[Anonymous No.10178856]

sorry for the essay, this ones kind of a ride
about a year ago I had to completely quit cosplay. I got trapped in a loop of always feeling pressure to be the best cosplayer, everything be handmade or else it's trash, have the best pics for instagram, keep up with my more popular friend, etc. I didn't have a superiority complex, I just thought that if I wasn't 'cos famous' then I wasn't doing the hobby right. I don't know if it was my friend at the time, or just the pressure of the community that gave me this mind set but it really fucked with my mental health. I managed to be a guest for a super small con with my friend. I really wanted to prove I was worthy to be with the other guests. They were all super talented people, but I fucked up everything and put myself under so much pressure that I rushed everything. I looked bad. Friday was hell, I didn't even want to get out of bed on saturday because I was so ashamed of myself. No one spoke to me the whole weekend, my friend pretended not to know me. I quit after that out of shame and guilt. All of my cosplay friends stopped talking to me, I threw away all of my cosplays because I couldn't bear to look at them. I deleted my instagram because just seeing other people in cosplay made me want to die. It was bad.
After spending some time with doctors and therapists, getting medications figured out, and just taking a year to myself I finally feel ready to go to a con again. My boyfriend has been begging me to try and cosplay with him just for one day but I've been scared that if I do I'll feel the pressure of the community and fall back into the hole. I feel better about it as time passes, and I finally started looking at cosplay websites again.
But then I remember all my cosplay friends left me. I can't do any groups I want without fear of being trapped with people just wanting likes and follows, who will control and manipulate like all my friends in the past... I just want to have fun again. Why is cosplay so fucked up?

[Anonymous No.10178864]

>>10178856
Get better cosplay friends. It’s that simple. Not every cosplayer cares about the numbers game. You could even go out of your way to only befriend cosplayers under 1000 followers or something like that

[Anonymous No.10178873]

i feel like all i do is annoy my cosplay friends when trying to plan stuff. i like getting details nailed down as soon as we can because we're all extreme procrastinators, and i also genuinely like figuring things out together and looking into photoshoot locations and whatnot, but i feel like i come across as a pushy nag or something. i'm just hyped! and i want to feel the hype back!

[Anonymous No.10178888]

I just went to a con where a girl had her mother with passing out business cards so you could “send her the photo” (follow her). Kind of like how photographers often give their card so you can get their photo, but the other way around. It seems like a good idea, but I feel way to coward to do it myself. Isn’t it kind of embarassing? I wish I had the condfience she has.

[Anonymous No.10178920]

>>10178888
I'm a hairstylist and had to get over this anxiety in order to get people to sit in my chair. I promise everyone feels awkward the first few times, you're not a coward. Business cards are common enough that no one will think you weird for doing it, so you just gotta build up the confidence to hand someone that first card. You can do it anon!

[Anonymous No.10178993]

>>10178657
this picture seems oddly specific

[Anonymous No.10179000]

>>10178666
>Where do you people even meet?
that's a really good question

[Anonymous No.10179057]

>>10179000
Is this Venus?

[Anonymous No.10179059]

>>10179057
Yes

[Anonymous No.10179060]

>>10179057
>>10179059
it's a girl who got so sick of her boyfriend being a professional manwhore that she cut open his stomach in an apartment lobby

[Anonymous No.10179103]

>>10179060
dating a manwhore makes a lot more sense then dating a guy who doesn't shower

[Anonymous No.10179124]

Did anyloli else go to Momocon? I went but my bf had diarrhea all weekend so I had to keep going back to the room to bring him bread and cheese.

[Anonymous No.10179137]

>>10179060
>manwhore
Sooo, were they dating? Whats the deal here

[Anonymous No.10179148]

Did that girl who nearly got murdered by chair guy at Dragoncon ever cum back?

[Anonymous No.10179165]

>>10179137
no he was literally a prostitute, or at least if third-hand nipponese news can be trusted

[Anonymous No.10179270]

>>10178772
My local news has reported that there have been several instances lately where people will crowd around accidents to take pictures of the carnage, even to the point where they're an impediment for firemen/police/ambulance. It's fucking disgusting.

[Anonymous No.10179359]

i have a shoplifting addiction and use my petti and hidden pockets if i have some to smuggle items i don't know how to handle it before it's too late and i get caught.

it's entitled of me and i know it, i had such a shitty life i think "fuck society and everything,i DESERVE those things" when i obviously do not "deserve" anything.
I daydream a lot about stealing things,expensive luxury items,... too

>inb4 i hope you get caught11!
i want to stop before something happen, i know it's bad and it'll only lead to trouble later
>inb4 hurr get a job
it's not as easy as you think especially where i live and you got 20 people applying to the same thing, i'm tired of this world and the way it works, and having to "sell" myself to be able to "live" if you call eating,sleeping and paying bills a life. Fuck this whole thing i'm tired of this shit

[Anonymous No.10179360]

>>10179359
What part of the country are you in?

Cause Boomers and the media keep telling us that jobs are readily available, and it's all the fault of us millennial for not just walking in and giving them a firm handshake and getting a decent paying job.

[Anonymous No.10179364]

>>10179359
klepto? i used to be too. it takes a lot of self control to stop. I haven’t done it years but the thought occasionally comes back. Try having your hands full while you shop

[Anonymous No.10179387]

>>10179124
I went for Friday and had a great time! I've never been because it didn't seem as anime oriented so not as worth it to me as AWA but I now live close enough to just drive and decided to try it. I'll probably go the whole weekend next year I had such a good time.

[Anonymous No.10179402]

>>10178716
People who try to pressure others to have kids are so obnoxious and they never stop. I have a kid, I love kids, but FUCK babies I'm never having another I don't think I could even handle another but now that my kid is getting a little older and less hellish I'm starting to get "you need another baaaaaby your kid won't have any siblings they need a brother/sisteeeerrrr" how about no fuck off. Also you don't need to give up your hobbies if you have kids idk why people have that mindset it's really unhealthy to make your life constantly revolve around your kids to the point that you're not your own person anymore.

[Anonymous No.10179416]

>buying weeb shirts at con
>ask for a small
>both the cashier and the friend with me ask if i'm sure
>i-know-what-i'm-about-son.png on the outside, already crying on the inside

I have slim-average measurements but am a little tall, and shit like this just confirms that I look huge to other people. That small fit perfectly, but despite that, I'm still upset that I'm never going to be petite and cute and will always feel like some bulk of mass tromping around no matter what the tape measure says and know that's what everyone sees, too.

[Anonymous No.10179420]

>>10178716
>Don't be so selfish
tfw your radical leftist friends say it's selfish to have children in this day and age

[Anonymous No.10179425]

>>10179402
As an only child, you are so right. Fuck siblings, I just made friends instead including younger ones who looked up to me and older ones whom I looked up to. I never felt like I had to compete with anyone for my parents affection and I was neither bullied nor did I bully anyone at home. They say only children are greedy, but I went out of my way to share my stuff with other people to make friends, and I've been told I'm a generous person now. Plus, it was less of a financial drain on mom and dad to only have one kid. Now I'm an adult my parents are living it up, not caring for another one. Nothing wrong with having more than one kid, but only children don't have to end up damaged or lonely. I really think it's all down to parenting. And I'd say that kids benefit from having chill but kind parents who have their own hobbies and interests rather than obsessive helicopter parents. You sound like really good mom to me.

[Anonymous No.10179428]

>>10179420
My friends are like this too but I still want to have a kid... I only want one though. And possibly adopted.

[Anonymous No.10179441]

>>10178993
how so?

[Anonymous No.10179443]

>>10179360
>>10179364
thank you kind anons, i was getting ready for the backlash (deserved,honestly) but you remained kind to me.
I'm not going to say where i'm from as to stay completely anonymous but yes, and it's one of the things that's making me so so mad and feel like "boohoo the world is unfair".
i might have some klepto i remember even as a child or teen i would sometimes steal little things from the homes i went to play to or babysat (ranged from cute little toys to actual money,coins especially,once stole a whole 50 bill and then couldnt bring myself to look at said friends in the eyes anymore,said i was a horrible friend and to not talk to me again,transferred school shortly after and never talked to her again)

[Anonymous No.10179445]

>>10179420
as a leftist who thinks it's "selfish" to have children in this day and age bc of how we're fucked and we're too many on earth i think it's perfectly fine to have your own children,it's your decision,if people can't force us to have babies we shouldn't force other people to NOT have babies either.

[Anonymous No.10179510]

>>10178756
>>10179402
It's not like I hate them, but I am irrationally repulsed by even the sight of babies. I'm a lesbian so having a kid would have to be intentional, and I live in the fucking south and my abnormalities or problems with my life get attributed to not going to church, having a husband and having kids, which repels me even more.

I think people who know how to approach dealing with or raising another human being are admirable, especially while juggling your own interests

>>10179420
>>10179445
I think it's situational. For me personally, my family history is shit and I don't have confidence that I could raise a kid to not be totally fucked up like me and everyone I know. Plus my patience is like a rubber band.

[Anonymous No.10179511]

>buy a black light to check my dresses
>oddly shaped splatter residue on all the most age play magnet prints

Having second thoughts about the second hand market....

[Anonymous No.10179519]

>>10175539
Are you going to ask all of them to gangbang you while on your period? Period sex is the best.

[Anonymous No.10179536]

>>10179511
wash your secondhand shit before wearing it you filthy heathen

[Anonymous No.10179554]

>>10179536
Cum stains don't come out from normal washing usually. Like blood stains, they leave residue usually that's invisible to the naked eye. Proba ly something to do with the proteins? Can't be assed go look it up now.

[Anonymous No.10179816]

>>10179441
it feels like it was drawn with someone specific in mind
also why not just a plain tshirt
idk

[Anonymous No.10179961]

I'm super broke and wish I was hot enough to sell nudes or lewds. I see these girls making bank and all going to Japan and living off of it and it makes me so jealous. I know in the future it will be better because I wont have a bunch of nudes attached to my name when getting a job but it's depressing to work my ass off to be broke while these people get money for being hot.
Is there any way to sell nudes without showing face?

[Anonymous No.10180494]

>>10179816
the more specific it is the more i can feel that feel

[Anonymous No.10180513]

>>10179961
Selling nudes doesn't make much money, unless you spend lots of time on marketing yourself, and even then that time is probably better spend on something else.

[Anonymous No.10181989]

Good feel this time! I’ve ordered my first dress + some shoes!! I’m so excited to finally be wearing the fashion I’ve admired for so long! its been years anons I’m so excited to wear the fashion I love.

[Anonymous No.10181995]

>get shamed for being a weeb and trying to practice japanese around my friends (usually gave them warning first to not be cringy)
>get shamed for my anime boy collection
>detach myself from weeb shit
>go to japan, dressed ultra normie
>get told I'm kawaii, didn't want to look like a weeb so my dumbass was too shy to say a simple "arigato" back which pissed locals off
>used no japanese in japan because of dumbass fear of friends shaming me for being a weeb
>see otaku in akihabara with itabags, talking about cute anime boys with friends
>see otaku taking little acrylic stands of their husbandos out to eat and placing them behind their food to make it look like they are eating with their husband
>come back 20x as much as a weeb as I was before

[Anonymous No.10183269]

What is it like having a bf, gulls?

[Anonymous No.10183606]

>>10183269
suffering. acquire a puppy instead.

[Anonymous No.10184962]

Seeing how eugenia finally got treatment made me cry and get mascara on my burando.

[Anonymous No.10185028]

>>10183269
Kinda like having a dick in your ass.