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Homemade bloomers edition

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Imagine the smell.

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I love my friends. You know who you are, you frilly fucks.
Also I love any nice anon who doesn't contribute to the salt. The world doesn't need any more lolitas who think that cgl is for meanies. I'm bored of playing this game of pretending that none of us go on here.

>> No.10263788

I just recently got involved in my local comm after putting it off for so long and despite usually being an antisocial recluse on a typical day, it was refreshing to be around people who are passionate about the same things you are for once.

And let's be real, if you are serious about lolita, why would you not go to cgl? For all the bullshit that goes on in here, I've learnt a lot of useful things being here and have a nice inspiration folder.

>> No.10263792

i wish i never saw this

>> No.10263795

Exactly! When drama that's only been on cgl comes up in convo, and someone asks 'omg where was this from?', people get all shifty and kind of skirt around it. I always find it so fucking weird, like man, I go on here, you go on here, if someone has been in lolita for more than 2 minutes they probably go on here. Tyler goes on here and half the community loves her and believes her every word when she says 4chan is full of scum. Lady, you're on here too! We're all bloody on here! That's not an inherently bad thing.

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>tfw you realise there is a new generation of lolitas who have never seen deerstalker vids before
>Much that once was is lost; for none now live who remember it

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I'm a lonelita, have almost no friends in general, and I'm pretty sure the comm in my city disintegrated before I could even join it, because the Facebook groups were deleted.

>> No.10263844

I'm not really involved in my local comm since they're not very active, but I've recognised some girls who I've sold/bought from locally in wardrobe threads and the like. I don't see what the point is skirting around it. I don't post on social media so I don't care about being posted, nor do I care about posting other people. Yes 4chan will always be 4chan but there are still many of us just here for the discussion threads.

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My own little sister just told me that, as soon as she turns 18, she's going to switch from safety shorts to thongs for her cosplays, and I'm worried she'll get Thot Patrolled.

>> No.10263880

As someone who was around back then, I don't necessarily consider that a bad thing.

>> No.10263882

What you got against homemade bloomers? It's a great way to use fabric too crazy to make a dress with.

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>> No.10263897

Thank you, this cheered me up!

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>sewing machine busted
>repair appointment not till mid november
>need to alter dress for autumn
>in paper making class, always stay to clean up after class ends because all the freshman never help and leave right after
>notice old sewing machines in back of room
>ask teacher about it
>teacher tells me she appreciates me helping out
>lets me use it and tells me she had a better one I can use too
Always help out when you can I guess. It's nice to do

>> No.10263946

I’m happy for you anon!

This is really good life advice in general too. I cannot tell you how many times a professor has looked out for me, given me free things, gone out of their way to help me, etc. all because I was friendly and helped them with things here and there

>> No.10263957

My friend's underage sister is also a cos-thot. I'm almost 30 and have to fend off her thirst.

>> No.10263986
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>met cosplay crush at uni cosplay club
>tfw she's perfect at sewing, EVA, Wig styling, everything
>tfw I'm shit at everything despite cosplaying for two more years than her
>tfw she's always nice to me and goes out of her way to talk to me even though I'm an antisocial retard
>she's too nice of a person, I'll never be good enough to be with someone like her
>even if she did like me I'm too retarded to sustain a relationship
>tfw she smiled at me today
Why are we still here? Just to suffer?

>> No.10263990

sounds like she likes you
or she wants you to be her handler
u should find out!
ganbatte anon kun!

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>mfw you guys are talking about the same little sister

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>mfw found a cosplayer who pretty much fucked me in her suicide squad harley quinn costume
>mfw she wants to give me a blowjob in an event

I never thought this would happen. Fuck, i'm going to look at cosplayer girls in a different way now.
I never though i'd fuck a cosplayer. I did. Believe in yourselves, anons.

>> No.10264016 [DELETED] 

i'm sure your future wife will be happy to hear what a nasty slut you were

>> No.10264064

Well anons got a month til my big con and I haven’t tailored my jacket, fuck me amirite

>> No.10264066 [DELETED] 

>tfw all girls are terrible whores

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>tfw post-Disney World depression is worse than post-con depression

I miss Goofy.

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>meet a gf who is sort of normie but told me they had interest in trying more toned down outfits especially otome
>she's insanely picky when it comes to fashion, no solid fashion choices but only likes certain items
>pick her out a nice little otome outfit for her that me and my seagull friends worked on based on what things she likes, characters she made in dressup games, general fashion info i've gotten from her
>set it out for her and tell her we should go out.
"you expect me to wear this shit? why would you think I like any of these things"
>tears apart everything she hates about it even though these were items she said she likes
>ends up leaving the house in uggs, jeggings and an oversized sweater in 2019
>apologized later and told me she thinks all jfashion is clownish and apologized for not telling me sooner, she was just trying to be nice

remind me never to date a fucking normie again

>> No.10264073

I really, really wish my uni had a cosplay club :( Met a few people who go to cons here but never someone serious about cosplay. It’d be nice to have a cosplay friend I see outside conventions.

>> No.10264074

I feel you. I left disneyland in within the same day I made plans to go back.

>> No.10264090

>wearing Lolita for the first time ever tomorrow

Kinda silly but I've been wanting to do this for such a long time. I'm really excited!

>> No.10264095

What a bitch. She ripped up the things you got for her? Even if she didn't like it she didn't have to destroy them. Sounds like you dodged a bullet, Anon.

>> No.10264101

somewhat related feel: I hate when newfags think that /cgl is only about the salt because that's all they ever hear about it. Then when they come here they're extra salty with a side of sodium because they're trying to fit in.

>> No.10264102

could the names of the groups have just been changed? failbook doesn't take too kindly to the lolita word, a lot of groups have either changed their name to something more innocuous or have set their groups to private.

>> No.10264103

She didn't literally tear it apart, just gave it heavy criticism for not being normie enough

>> No.10264104

It's an expression

>> No.10264111

My friend know because I post to the draw thread both giving and receiving. I can give a passionate TEDtalk about all the good that can be found here.
cgl is the reason I never had and ita phase at the beginning, I learned what not to do first before buying my first item.

>> No.10264135

I want to get going on my cosplay but I'm still not lean enough :(

>> No.10264138

Start on the stuff that's not strictly form fitting or can be adjusted. Footwear, gloves, accessories, that sort of thing.

>> No.10264242

I clicked on a direct link someone had posted and it gave me a "no group" message. There's also no mention on the internet about the comm after about 2015 or so.

>> No.10264286

I may make bloomers from Super Mario fabric in case someone tries to look up me dress.

>> No.10264295

Fuck, that's genius.
Get a faceful of Mario

>> No.10264318

That's such an exciting feeling anon, I wish I could go back and experience it for the first time again. Have fun tomorrow!

>> No.10264320

With all that work you put into finding her an outfit you thought she would like, you certainly deserve to be with someone fashionable. Drop that bitch.

>> No.10264326


Meanwhile my bf is always trying to get me to wear normie ho outfits. I guess we can't win.

I will say it is incredibly annoying for a man to be always suggesting me outfits, so I sort of get her reaction, even if I'm viscerally offended that she doesn't get the appeal of jfashion. Just find another girl into jfashion and both of you will be happier.

>> No.10264329

>dating someone for their fashion choices
>attempting to dress them up even though they are an adult who can dress themselves
>get mad when they don't appreciate your gifts even though they never asked for any gifts
>complain they're a "normie"

you really think you're the good guy here?

>> No.10264333

>ex hated lolita
>"wear something more normal!"
>wear normie clothes when it gets too hot
>"you look like a slut, what would my parents think!"

men are trash

>> No.10264336

>"told me they had interest in trying more toned down outfits especially otome"
Can you not read? She lied to anon and said that she had an interest in wearing otome.

If I were a normie and my first introduction to jfashion was through my SO and they surprised me with an entire outfit that they hand-picked to be something they thought I would like, I would be elated, even if I didn't necessarily love all the pieces. It's the thought that counts. Anon's gf blew up because she was caught in her lies.

>> No.10264348

quit dating normalfags
especially ones that try to have a say in what you wear, what the fuck are you doing

>> No.10264349

might wanna get your eyes checked

>> No.10264382

>want to be friends with cosplayers in my local area
>only cosplayers are depressed suicidal teens cosplaying My Hero Academia AUs and wannabe patreon lewd cosplayers

Why is my area so shit

>> No.10264398

>all the cheap long-sleeved IW ops popping up
Well just fuck my wallet up, senpai

>> No.10264481

I was also around back then and I absolutely adore their older content. It's very of it's time. I don't know if it translates well now, but their vids are fun. When MF left their quality declined, but maybe that's just because they didn't have access to the resources she did back then. I didn't find her more funny than the rest of them, but she brought something to it.

>> No.10264482

Hard agree! Sure my early coords weren't great because I was limited in what I could buy, but I learned what NOT to do. Without a place to say 'no, this is wrong', no one would wear actual lolita, they'd just be piecing together ita coords.

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My mom says that my Miku costume is slutty.

>> No.10264501

Miku is a sex symbol for sure, not the sluttiest there is but still.

>> No.10264505

Don't lewd Miku nigga.

>> No.10264509

I don't think she was made with any other intention 2bh. Every Miku male fan has faped to her at least once.

>> No.10264511

Dude Miku is even officially lewded with shit like Sweet Devil

>> No.10264514

You should see my Grinch bloomers (yes, they're real)

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I would like to.

>> No.10264526

>be me, 19 in college, average looking asian girl
>no friends, terrible social anxiety
>find campus anime club
>gain the courage to attend a meeting
>a bunch of fat and smelly dudes who have already graduated stare at my nonexistent chest the entire time
i just wanted some nice friends, and possibly some people to spend weekends watching anime with

>> No.10264534

lmao go look up "the gun show anime club" you'll like it
Also what were you expecting.

>> No.10264548 [DELETED] 

>tfw all women are whores

>> No.10264552 [DELETED] 


All women are whores

>> No.10264553 [DELETED] 

Your whore mother should have aborted you

>> No.10264554 [DELETED] 

I only hate women older than 16.

They're disgusting with their hideous roast beef vagina.

>> No.10264555


Why is this board so infested right now?

>> No.10264556 [DELETED] 

Roast beef

Roast beef

Roast beef

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>> No.10264565

I had a miku costume in 2010 and my mom made me sell it because the skirt was too short. then she wouldn't let me cosplay as male characters instead, not even crossdressing ones.

>> No.10264566

That stupid consent thread. Men are the absolute scum of the earth.

>> No.10264569

>feign interest in something that someone I find attractive is into to try to fake my way into a relationship
>when they try to cater towards my fake interest blow up in their face and tell them their interest is clownish
you sure you're not the gf? you sound mad

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>tfw just bought a DSLR camera with one of the main objectives being to take nice pics of cosplay at cons but scared I'll sperg out and be too shy to ask for pics
I'm really bad with people

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The con is tomorrow and I have period farts.

>> No.10264606

Flex those abdominal muscles, anon, work it out

>> No.10264636

Hey I met my 2 best friends who are cute weeb grils in college anime club. Not all anime clubs are equal.

>> No.10264647

Retarded jannies not doing their job again

>> No.10264649

I feel like my relationship is falling apart. I love my bf but I don't feel like he loves me. He buys me brand and stuff which is nice but it's only if/when I ask for it. I'd prefer him to buy Milanoo instead of AP if he thought it himself for once. I'm ready to trade all my brand to make him love me but sadly relationships don't like that.

>> No.10264651

Your perception of whether your boyfriend loves you is based on whether or not he spontaneously buys you expensive clothing?

>> No.10264652

Is there any other reason why you think he doesn't love you? That kind of stuff doesn't come naturally to some guys. That's not a reason to believe he doesn't love you. Especially if he does what you ask him to.

>> No.10264659

>Hello me, meet the real me.
I did the exact some thing a couple years ago. I've taken maybe 20 pictures with it and charged the battery once. Best $600 I've ever spent.

>> No.10264661

It's like he forgets I exist when we are not in the same room. Well, sometimes even when we are in the same room.

>> No.10264697
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>be me
>22 solid looking black guy
>new friend group invites me to AX next year
>say yes because it sounds like fun and I can possibly get good drinks
>they ask me to come in cosplay of their choosing cus group meme
>I am to be a super ghetto black Tyrone character who sags to his ankles and wears a Durag
>”don’t worry anon we can provide you with the Glock”
>I leave

I guess it doesn’t matter anymore but ya know I’m just a simple black nerd, I enjoy my self deprecating memes like all the others and play my video games til unhealthy hours in the night. I just wish people didn’t suck.

>> No.10264719 [DELETED] 

>milanoo over ap
You took the bait

>> No.10264721 [DELETED] 

It is only the man whose intellect is clouded by his sexual instinct that could give that stunted, narrow-shouldered, broad-hipped, and short-legged race the name of the fair sex; for the entire beauty of the sex is based on this instinct. One would be more justified in calling them the unaesthetic sex than the beautiful. Neither for music, nor for poetry, nor for fine art have they any real or true sense and susceptibility, and it is mere mockery on their part, in their desire to please, if they affect any such thing.

This makes them incapable of taking a purely objective interest in anything, and the reason for it is, I fancy, as follows. A man strives to get direct mastery over things either by understanding them or by compulsion. But a woman is always and everywhere driven to indirect mastery, namely through a man; all her direct mastery being limited to him alone. Therefore it lies in woman’s nature to look upon everything only as a means for winning man, and her interest in anything else is always a simulated one, a mere roundabout way to gain her ends, consisting of coquetry and pretence. Hence Rousseau said, Les femmes, en général, n’aiment aucun art, ne se connoissent à aucun et n’ont aucun génie (Lettre à d’Alembert, note xx.). Every one who can see through a sham must have found this to be the case. One need only watch the way they behave at a concert, the opera, or the play; the childish simplicity, for instance, with which they keep on chattering during the finest passages in the greatest masterpieces. If it is true that the Greeks forbade women to go to the play, they acted in a right way; for they would at any rate be able to hear something. In our day it would be more appropriate to substitute taceat mulier in theatro for taceat mulier in ecclesia; and this might perhaps be put up in big letters on the curtain.

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"Hi, I really like your cosplay, can I take your picture?"
Just stick to this line and don't fuck up
>"H-hi, I really like how you look, I mean, how your cosplay looks and I was wondering if I could, yknow, take your picture or something? I-It's fine if you don't and all but..."
Do not do this

>> No.10264726

True, but we're shitposters, so I figured most of us would still find it funny

>> No.10264749

I get you fellow blackanon. I keep having that problem with weebs too. I want friends but not if theyre gonna use me as the token black friend

>> No.10264762


Write coherently, monkey.

>> No.10264789

It’s getting harder to even wanna be apart of these communities anymore because of this. Cosplay can even be embarrassing because of how many randoms just want you be be “black” instead of a person

TLDR, group of ex friends try to make me cosplay a stereotype cus I’m black.
Don’t know what’s so hard to understand anon

>> No.10264797

Getting really frustrated with a seller. They took almost a week to invoice me after saying they’d do it the next day, made excuses that didn’t add up, and finally sent an invoice over without any message before or after apologizing for taking an eternity even though all my messages were read really short after sending them.

I paid it but now I’m starting to feel I should have just asked to cancel with how terrible it’s going. I’m worried they’re going to fuck me over with undisclosed damage or just go MIA

>> No.10264798

There was nothing hard to understand. Anon was just being racist. Learn to not respond to people like that.

>> No.10264818

That sucks. I hope this doesn't scare you away from cosplay. You might have to start out just cosplaying whatever you want without a group. In fact if you cosplay a light-skinned character you like and see who gives you crap for it it might be a good way to weed out the bullshit people.
Did they apologize after you walked out on them? Did they even realize what they did?

>> No.10264829

imagine sniffing sweet lolitas butts and pussies like that... living the dream

>> No.10264830

Are you me?
I keep meeting people in my classes who either go to cons or have an interest in cosplaying but I have yet to successfully convince any of them to make an actual cosplay. I’ve even offered to help them make it. I just want cosplay friends who live by me

>> No.10264846
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Last year I met a lolita that soon became my bff, We were so into each other, we liked similar things in and out of the fashion, we hang out a lot and we cared for each other a lot. We had amazing chemistry.We were planning on lolita trips to other countries, we talked every day. It was a solid and wholesome experience. But then at some point last month, she back stabbed me, for reasons I won't get into, and we stopped talking all together. What she did was inexcusable and I will never forgive her, but I miss her very much every day. I don't think I will meet another girl friend I will ever be so in sync with and it hurts very much that this got ruined.

>> No.10264847

What did she do? Or would it be too obvious to post about

>> No.10264880

Damn it, gull. Don't leave us curious like that.

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I posted in the last thread about wanting my crush to come to a con but expenses being in the way, but in the end it worked out! He's coming after all. I want to tell him how I feel when I see him, wish me luck gulls.

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>been going to cons regularly for two years at this point
>still have not made any truly close friends that I speak to often via texting/discord/Facebook
>have made quite a lot of acquaintances though

Is it time to give up?

>> No.10264964

Good luck and I'll keep in touch about the art stuff it just ended up being a lot more expensive than I expected.
I didn't mean to ghost you and stuff I've just been trying to figure out how to best use those other samples you sent for what I'm doing.

>> No.10264965

This is absolutely a mood. Our comm discusses this board all the time. It's not some taboo topic; we talk about what/who gets posted and which threads are beneficial. Even the ita thread has its uses, when it's not being shit up by vendetta chans or rpers. I love those gals. Best comm.

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Hey no worries, I still hope we can make it work someday.

>> No.10264988

I wish I were in your comm

>> No.10265049

I'm so, so, sorry in advance for what is about to happen. Trolls are going to come into the thread and they will be saying some very hurtful things about you. They will call you some very hurtful names. But none of those things are true. How could they possibly know? How could they possibly know how beautiful you really are? How sweet and compassionate you are? I'm so sorry about them, please do not let them hurt you.

>mfw thinking about you hurting

I just want to see you shine and flourish. You are so precious to me. I want to write poetry and sing songs about my love and adoration for you and all of your perfections. My name is Brian, by the way. I know that you're tired of all the assholes and jerks. I know how you feel baby doll. I know. I am different. I am the nicest guy you will ever meet, and if anything I'll be the one in the kitchen. I live in London. Please be in London.

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The convention I was going to started today.
On the way there, a gentleman said to me "You're the best looking girl I've seen in costume today."
I was in my ghirahim costume.
I am a guy. :(

>> No.10265053

well.. uhh... take solace in the fact you're a very attractive guy?

>> No.10265054

Does it even count? I feel so embarrassed. Im not attractive for the reasons a guy should be attractive.

>> No.10265057

Feminine boys are in anon

>> No.10265059

I wish I had a gf to cosplay with but I guess I’ll die

>> No.10265061

I'd suck your dick, anon. No homo.

Okay, yes homo.

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>my mom's cat has to be put down
>find out my older brother has cancer, he has to go to chemo for the next 6+ months
>get a job (in addition to volunteer work) to try to put some financial pressure off my family
>one of my best friends moves 1000 miles away
>struggling to get through school anyway, this just makes it harder
>to top it off, I'm an idiot with rocks for brains and tried to give myself bangs and ended up looking like a toddler who had a run in with a pair of craft scissors
>currently crying alone at 2am

Luckily hair grows back, but I'm so mad at myself for trying to cut my own hair. It's just kind of the straw that broke the camel's back after everything that's happening.

>> No.10265082

So sorry to read that, anon.
Best of luck to your brother, I hope he gets better soon! It’s really amazing of you to get a job although you’re still in school to help your family. I hope it goes well.
Until your bangs grow back in, maybe go to a hairdresser and see if they can at least make them look decent?

>> No.10265108

>Car needed a repair (new timiing and auxiliary belts)
>Figured I'd have some money left over after paying it and start window-shopping for the prop I want to buy for a costume
>Repair ends up being more than the garage told me it would be due to labour costs
>Car still needs another repair to make it right (new radiator, coolant is leaky)
>New radiator is expensive, but nowhere near as much as a blown head gasket would be.
>Won't be buying that prop yet until my essential outgoings settle down a bit

I drive a pretty old car (2005 Fiesta) but damn, this will be the fifth time in 4 months I've had that car into the garage for something. I just want to use my money for other things (savings, cosplay, ANYTHING really) that isn't more fucking car repairs.

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>been going to the gym for 2-2 1/2 months
>getting more toned over time, starting to have some more noticeable muscle
>feel like in a few months I'll be comfortable enough to wear spandex
My dreams of doing proper Kamen Rider cosplay are finally gonna come true.

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>failed a uni exam for the second time, possibly gonna take a year longer to finish now
>was already gonna finish when I'm 28 and being done even later terrifies me
>close friend of the family died before I could mend things with him
>last thing I knew he said about me was that he "was basically done" with me
>wife left me after 7 years of relationship and 3 years of marriage
>feels like there's just a massive hole in every part of my life
>before she left, she told me that according to her therapist I'm "emotionally abusive, emotionally manipulative and re-traumatizing"
>never knew I did/was any of those things and knowing that I did all of that to her makes me hate myself even more
My life has been in a constant downwards spiral for months and it's not stopping.

>> No.10265142

None of this is /cgl/ related.

>> No.10265146 [DELETED] 

re analize yourself, find out if those things you're getting the blame for are really your fault, and of those that are try to improve on them, also focus on your studying religiously

>> No.10265147 [DELETED] 

Lol grow a back bone anon.
>believing everything a woman exaggerates against her “therapist”

>> No.10265156

Aw, I love the contemporary art trend of over-exaggerating color undertones to the point where everything looks bruised

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sounds suuuper stressful and i'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. The bangs even tho seem so trivial.. seems like just the last straw that breaks the camel's back. I've done bangs wrong a couple times and it's not a difficult fix. Just sweep to the side and pin it into place. It seems like a rough spot and so many ppl in your life need you rn. So it time to roll up them lacy princess sleeves (and pin 'em bangs to the side.)

>> No.10265206 [DELETED] 

If his friend AND his wife left him, he probably does have an issue.

>> No.10265264
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>Also I love any nice anon who doesn't contribute to the salt.

I feel this
Salt gets old real quick, it's the same reason I stopped going on lolcow because that place is depressing

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I physically cringe when people use being salty as a substitute for a personality, it’s immature and boring desu

>> No.10265277

You need to go older, anon. 21st-century cars are made to break. Your radiator is failing because it's made of plastic. Granted, radiators have had plastic tanks since the mid-90s but the plastic used back then was higher quality.
Sell your Fiesta and get into some shitbox '90s Corolla. Parts are dirt cheap and never break, anyway. Even if something does go wrong, you can fix it yourself with a basic set of tools and youtube. It won't be convenient but it'll save you a shitload of money.
t. Mechanic whose newest car was made in 1990

>> No.10265279

That’s how I feel about people that talk shit on purpose and when they get called out it’s the same old “but tHats just How I AM” excuse. Being a shitty bitch is not a personality

>> No.10265354 [DELETED] 

Thank you both so much. I was a little afraid of the responses I might get, but you both were so kind and helped to lift my spirits.

I think I will just try to take my bad bangs in stride and try to remember that 1) hair grows back, and 2) there are much worse things that can happen in the world.

Have a lovely rest of your Sunday, anons. <3

>> No.10265357

Thank you both so much. I was a little afraid of the responses I might get, but you both were so kind and helped to lift my spirits.

I think I will just try to take my bad bangs in stride and try to remember that 1) hair grows back, and 2) there are much worse things that can happen in the world.

Have a lovely rest of your Sunday, anons. <3

>> No.10265363

My family is making me go to inpatient treatment at an ED clinic starting tomorrow and I’m really upset because I have a con I’m supposed to be going to soon. I’ve been really bad lately so I understand why it has to be done but it’s not fair, this will be the only con I’m going to all year and even if I’m out I’m going to be way fatter than I planned...

>> No.10265364

I know it’s frustrating, but cons will always be there. Do it now and do it right, without rushing, so this ED doesn’t take more from you. Be mad at the ED for ruining this for you and use that anger to beat it. Good luck, anon.

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I feel empty because cof is full of itas nowadays and I'm not quiet sure where to find inspiration, good photos and coords....
Is instagram the only option? Since the ban on the lolita fashion # it's so hard to find new accounts to follow

>> No.10265380

I know how you feel, anon.
Once a friend did something inexcusable to me. I cut off the friendship right away, despite them saying sorry.
Without going into details, I guarantee my reaction was mild at the very least; however, after losing contact, I realized that person was the best friend I ever had. Still miss the chittalk, almost 10 years later.

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>Salt gets old real quick, it's the same reason I stopped going on lolcow because that place is depressing
someone tried to make me a lolcow because they confused me with a really notorious ita (only got one thread and they realized the mistake), and I ended up getting an essay of an email from a 40 something year old woman who was convinced tormenting me on the internet was good for my personal well being and growth "its for your own good sweetie"
after that day lolcow stopped being fun and I am now absolutely convinced that most frequent posters on lolcow are cows themselves who obsessively go out of their way to make fun of people on the internet to try to make themselves feel better about being a failure themselves

>> No.10265471

Dude, maybe you think that, but I think you're a very attractive guy and you cosplay bishounens well. This is the look that many of us girls go for. I don't really care for Ghirahim, but if you dressed as any of my faves I'd zero in on you in a crowd with heart eyes for sure.

>> No.10265472

He was right though.

>> No.10265482

Yeah, I definitely enjoy my look a lot. But it is troublesome if people confuse me for a girl.

If I may ask, what are some of your favorite bishounen? I'm always looking for more ideas

>> No.10265488

She fell in love with my boyfriend and tried to seduce him and take him away from me. Now, of course I know that falling in love with someone is out of your control, but acting on it is completely a matter of choice and our relationship was apparently not good enough for her to not attempt to make me completely miserable.

I am sorry to hear about this anon. It kinda makes you sad about the lost potential, doesn't it?

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>tfw born in Brazil
>will always be confined to being a poorlita
>climate isn't lolita friendly
>too pussy to go outside in full lolita
suicide is a preferable alternative to being a third worlder, but i think for now I'll save some money to buy something nice from wunderwelt...

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>Gothic/Lolitas I spoke with virulently denied any connection to maids, however, claiming that the crucial difference (beyond that of the maid’s vastly inferior clothing style and quality) was that maids "served" people, whereas Gothic/Lolitas "were served" (because they are princesses).
Whoever these girls are, I love you

>> No.10265938

>crazy bad insomnia
>do laundry
>accidentally turn the dial to heated dry instead of regular dry
>my clothes are warped, shrunken and ruined
>my gf's clothes are just shrunken

She's been crying all day and I have no idea how to make it better. I offered to buy her new ones but she made a display of trying on each shrunken item, crying and throwing it at me. She went into full wailing crying and told me about how those clothes held special memories. My clothes on the other hand were over $200 in jfashion items that can't be replaced and I'm somehow calm about it. Any suggestions as to how I can make her feel better?

>> No.10265941

The cost to repair a sewing machine can sometimes cost more than the amount for the sewing machine itself

>> No.10265943 [DELETED] 

>in school library aide
>second librarian left so the work was pushed onto our original librarian
>one kid per class period
>everyone refused to do anything and just used the librarian computer because it could go on any website
>i shelved all my books like good noodle
>i shelved the other kids books too
>i even “read” the books by reading the title of every book to make sure they were in the right place
>heard my librarian sobbing to the assistant principal in her office
>gets nervous but continues my job
>AP is about to leave
>”hows anon doing?”
>”anon is the best student in my class”
>cries a little
>come to class one day
>”anon please come to the break room”
>follows librarian
>there’s bananas, ice cream, and every banana split sundae you can think of
>”I wanted to thank you for your help this semester”
>makes myself a banana split
>jams out to 90s rock with my librarian because it was empty

>> No.10265944

Two of my Brazilian friends have escaped by getting a good education and noping the fuck out of there with work visas working towards never going back.
Good luck.

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>Tfw genetically cursed with my mothers thin, shitty hair.
>Don't even have a lot of it to compensate
>21st birthday tomorrow, want to go out with my friends tonight in lolita
>Want to do a cute sock bun, never done one before because shitty hair means I literally can't do anything with it.
>Cut sock, make donut
>Try to do hair like in tutorials
>Hair too short to roll down sock
>Look up tutorials for short hair
>Try tutorials
>Not enough hair to cover the sock
>Cut up another, smaller sock
>Make donut
>Try again
>Substitute in scrunchies for extra poof instead of hair ties at base
>Carefully spread hair over donut...
>Actually looks okay
>Check with mirror
>Still can see sock through hair
>Now dizzy from spending too much time with my head tilted forward
Fuck my shitty hair genetics. Why me? If I'm just gonna vent here for a moment, christ, literally what can I do with such shitty hair? I've been trying to take care of it better, I just never have enough fucking hair. I just want to live my life nicely with hairstyles that go with my outfits. For once. Sock buns aren't even supposed to be hard! What can I even do to solve this. I don't want to wear wigs for the rest of my life. Hair extensions, maybe? Pills? Tablets? Vitamins? God, this is just so disappointing.

>> No.10265971

You are sexy af anon. Own being a beautiful boy and girls will eat it up.
I'd doki doki around you and I know a lot of other girls would too

>> No.10265982

Why do I gotta be in lonely-ass alaska >:C
you all sound really sweet, thank you.

>> No.10265993

You got such a shitty family.
I feel so sorry for you.

>> No.10265995

You could always use extensions or wear a wig anon- don't give up hope!

>> No.10265997

There's a girl in one of my college classes who dresses egl. I went and spoke to her but I sperged out a lot. Hah. Oh well.

>> No.10266004
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I cant get over my cosplayer ex gf. I don't know how. We did long distance for 10 years and are both massive spergs and we really got along well when we would meet up at conventions once or twice a year to cosplay together. Outside of those times though it felt like she'd forget I exist for days on end, not replying at all until she found some meme she needed to repost. It got really frustrating trying to connect with someone long distance that wouldn't reciprocate anything emotional. She would just send me stuff in the mail instead of actually spending time talking to me or playing video games with me. I don't know how I fucked everything up so bad asking for some genuine attention from my partner but she dumped me for it saying I'm emotionally abusive. It's been almost 2 months now and I don't know how to stop thinking about trying to fix this. I wish I could but I'm pretty sure it's not possible. She doesn't want anything to do with me anymore, and if I contact her it's just going to make everything worse. I have this cosplay mostly finished but I'm so depressed and I don't know if I can deal with cosplaying by myself. And I don't know if i can deal with seeing her there. Realistically it's my best opportunity to make some new friends though. I just can't decide anything right now.

>> No.10266015

Pinterest has lolita coords, it comes up a lot when I'm researching things I find on secondhand sites. I like to search for coords before buying

>> No.10266018 [DELETED] 

I have a coworker who plays up their "I'm so miserable, today is terrible, everything sucks" attitude and it gets old and banal very fast. Hilariously, he got fired though.

I mean, I post about raping women on the internet and I'm mostly suicidal but I at least act as friendly as possible around people.

>> No.10266022

Has growing out your hair worked all? Have you tried it? It's annoying to manage for sure but I've seen it solve the "thinning hair" problem.

>> No.10266023

Don't look back. Look after your emotional needs.

>> No.10266024

What loser of a 40-something cares about lolcows?

>> No.10266036

I mean, you made a mistake. it could happen to anyone. You apologized, you offered to replace her wardrobe. There is not much else you can do anon. Even if some of these clothes hold memories, they are just clothes and you are willing to rectify. Sorry but your gf sounds like a fucking brat.

Last year, my boyfriend dropped my favorite tea port by mistake. It had been a gift from my father, who passed away sortly afterwards, and it was very important to me. I saw the horror in his face when it smashed on the ground. But, like, what was I supposed to do? Be angry at him for having an accident?
Lets choose people over things.

>> No.10266037

Your "friend" sounds like a massive cunt that approached you just to get to your boyfriend desu. Be glad you dont have to deal with her anymore

>> No.10266040

that's the kind of shit that would get me desperate to get revenge 2bh

>> No.10266041

How would you get revenge anon? Cut up her wigs? Burn her wardrobe?

>> No.10266042

I was thinking about geting her bf to trick her into thinking he is giving in and then epic trololol her in some way, but what you said is good as well

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sperg incoming
>trying to top up my Zenmarket account
>card gets declined, even though I have money
>try using my other card, it also gets declined
>contact customer service
>they say to ask my bank or the payment service company
>bank says there's nothing up with my card(s) and that it must be a mistake on the website's end
>contact ZM again telling them all this, and asking them very politely to try and investigate things on their end (my country could've been blocked by accident or something)
>also send an email to the payment service company (Stripe) asking if they could've auto-blocked my country, just in case
>mfw hours later, they send me back the SAME "ask your bank or the payment service company" message as before, almost verbatim
>mfw seeing people talk about how great ZenMarket's customer service supposedly is
I don't know if I'm just being a Karen, but this honestly strikes me as incredibly rude. I hate asking customer service for help and having them just give the same canned responses, as if they don't actually care about assisting you and just want you to piss off.
I know your job isn't fun. I'm being as polite as I can, so can you at least do the same, or maybe direct me to someone who actually might be able to help me with my problem? IIRC, with Stripe, declined transactions are supposed to be logged on some sort of dashboard and come with an error code that only the merchant can see. Don't you think it'd be helpful to tell me what the code is so I have some inkling of an idea of what went wrong and touch ground with Stripe or my bank about it? If you personally can't check it, why wouldn't you find someone who can and let me know?
I mean, Jesus christ. Anything but this useless reply.
I'm waiting on Stripe to respond, but I'm not so hopeful about them either. If they think my cards are fraudulent, I have no idea how I'm going to convince them I'm legit. It makes me so fucking upset because everything was just fine before this.

>> No.10266089

Wait, how is that at all related to what I said? Miserable =/= salty, they’re entirely different things and they’re both aggravating for different reasons.

>> No.10266093 [DELETED] 

It's actually making me paranoid, because on the list of decline error codes, the "solution" for the code that's generated because Stripe thinks the person's card is "fraudulent" is "Do not report more detailed information to your customer. Instead, present as you would the generic_decline described below."
The "next step" for the generic_decline code is just "The customer needs to contact their card issuer for more information."
I contacted my card issuer. They said I'm fine. What am I supposed to do? If it's proof you want, why not ask for that? Why deliberately make things difficult and be as obstinate as possible? Are you trying to lose customers or something?
Sorry for autism, I'm just stressed and don't want to dump all of this on people I'm close to

>> No.10266094

It's actually making me paranoid, because on the list of decline error codes, the "solution" for the code that's generated because Stripe thinks the person's card is "fraudulent" is "Do not report more detailed information to your customer. Instead, present as you would the generic_decline described below."
The "next step" for the generic_decline code is just "The customer needs to contact their card issuer for more information."
I contacted my card issuer. They said I'm fine. What am I supposed to do? If it's proof you want, why not ask for that? Why deliberately make things difficult and be as obstinate as possible? Are you trying to lose customers or something?
Sorry for autism, I'm just stressed and don't want to dump all of this on people I'm close to.

>> No.10266105

Maybe if you went out of your way to replace the clothes yourself it would help? Like find the pieces and buy them without her and then surprise her with them one day. My husband broke a Madoka glass I had that my sister bought for me while she was in japan and I was pretty upset but eventually got over it. He recently surprised me with an exact replacement and it made me really happy even if it wasn't the one my sister got me because he went to all the effort of finding it himself!

>> No.10266112

At this point, just use a different proxy service. I hate to say give up, but this sounds frustrating thanks to their customer service.

>> No.10266123

You need someone who will actually give you attention and affection. I know it is hard to accept but if she couldn't give you that, she was not the one for you anyways and you need to move on.

>> No.10266124

I remember your post! Congrats!!

>> No.10266126

Just kys

>> No.10266129

Yeah, you're probably right. I'm just hoping Stripe as a whole hasn't blocked me, because other sites I use are powered by it (or will switch to it). Still waiting for them to respond to my e-mail.

>> No.10266141

It's really tough not to look back when after 10 years practically everything I own that I enjoy came at least in part through her gifts. The computer I play, the posters on my wall, the blanket I sleep with... I can't look anywhere right now without seeing her and feeling like shit about fucking everything up.

>> No.10266142

I follow a couple of brazilian lolitas that I admire! Most specifically the girl from cotton candy feet and the photographer, and others. I think it is possible to be a lolita over there, you may just need to work towards a better education to get a better paying job, or ultimately move to a bigger city if you are not in one?.
About going out in full lolita, try small steps first, like going out in casual lolita. No petticoat, skirt, normie shoes -- just dont post it online lol . Find a comm that you can go out with, consider traveling to other nearby cities for meets. Don't try to be a full blown brandwhore if you can't afford it, instead find things you can wear more casually.
Follow your dreams, anon!

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I saw not one, but two DDs slip out of my grasp today. Godddamnit, why do you have to show sold items Mercari.

>> No.10266162

Mandarake does the same thing by default and I swear it's just to create that response.

>> No.10266185

It's so hilarious the things used goods likes to tell themselves.

>> No.10266207

I'm so sorry that happened to you, anon. I was in a relationship (poly, but still was supposed to be equal) that basically left me being an emotional/financial/cosplay crutch half the time, and forgotten the rest of it, and it really fucked me up. I thankfully still have (some of)my trust in people, but it leaves you asking what the fuck you did wrong and why does anyone think it's ok to only talk to you when it's convenient for them if you're supposed to be a thing. Get out there and make better friendships/relationships/anything. There is more out there waiting for you, and if you can power through the hurt, it will eventually fade away. And cosplay for what YOU want, never for groups or other people. It's fine to plan with others, but if it's hinging on the other person's participation, it will almost always have some element of disappointment in it if it falls through.

>> No.10266287

Hey, don't call him that, I'm sure he's a perfectly nice guy.

>> No.10266312

>poly, but still was supposed to be equal
you're an idiot lmao

>> No.10266315

tfw gf wont step on me in yosuke platforms

>> No.10266327

I try to be nice but they're right, I am used goods desu I'm 30 with no dating experience at all and I'm still not over her

>> No.10266331

my lesbian lolita ass thought you were talking about tiddies for a second

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>tfw it's your turn to change the DDLG's diaper

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I used my savings i had for a lolita con to save my cat from a horrible illness. She's back and healthy and honestly i dont even care about the money. I'll figure something out to go anyway. I'm just happy she's with me.

>> No.10266503

How are you used goods when you don't have any dating experience?

>> No.10266504

I didn't get any dating experience after dating for a decade and putting everything into it.

>> No.10266505 [DELETED] 

Why are all women whores?

It's so depressing.

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>> No.10266545 [DELETED] 

You should go to a therapist yourself to help figure that out

>> No.10266549

You’re disgusting

>> No.10266552 [DELETED] 


I'm actually really friendly if you got to know me. I do well at work. I go out of my.way to help otbers. I'm a good student. I'm a dean's scholar.

But then I'm honest when I'm anonymous.

>> No.10266553 [DELETED] 

Why are men all biologically wired to be horny sluts? It's depressing.

>> No.10266555

I don’t know if anyone hurt you, but life will be better when you make peace with yourself and stop taking your frustrations out on woman.

>> No.10266558 [DELETED] 

Women don't care if men sleep around. Women prefer it. You can squeal about it all you want but this is how women think (i use that term very loosely)

>> No.10266564 [DELETED] 

I'd get offended, but the male sex chromosome is slowly disappearing as humans evolve, and I know that must be hard for men to deal with; y'know, with their fragile egos and whatnot. It's okay anon, you just need to be stong. Come to terms with your uselessness in a healthy way.

>> No.10266569 [DELETED] 

I don't even know how to reply to this. A female's view is worthless. Females have no actual capacity for logical thought so nothing you could say is something I would ever take seriously.

But, it is comical to me how the most pathetic of females call mem fragile as men don't know how truly pathetic and histrionic and selfish and jealous and spiteful you are.

If holes were more intelligent, they could understand the irony in how they surround themselves with friends and support groups and organizations to reinforce their views that it's not them who have such frail, weak and fragile emotions.

I could literally beat you death in less than 10 seconds. I could pin you down and rape you brutally without straining a muscle. You're utterly weak and no words you put together, nothing you do will ever change that. Sorry.

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Friendly reminder to all seagulls to ignore attention whoring males from /r9k/. Don't give them what they're desperate for, just report their off-topic shitposts and blogs.
They are alone and miserable for a reason. Let them rot so they have no excuse to fill our threads with even more stupidity.

>> No.10266582 [DELETED] 

Agreed. Male sexuality is a plague to humanity and civilsation. The only way to combat it is to ignore their needs and let them rape each other in frustration.

>> No.10266592

There's few better feelings than getting the clothes that don't suit you and you don't like anymore out of your closet and into someone else's hands. They get a dress they'll love and wear, I get money to buy dresses that suit me better.
Good feels gulls.

>> No.10266597

thank you for caring anon! We are all they have.
I'm paying a lot for my elderly dog, and my family is giving me shit because they say he is going to die soon and I shouldn't spend my money on him. I tell them "why would I have a dog if I don't take care of him? "

>> No.10266602

I’m so disappointed at my comm. Some girls seems to be so nice and they are all feminists and post a lot of progressive stuff online, but then a guy who wears ouji sexually harassed one of the girls who wears lolita and even if they all know the kind of shitty person he is they act as if nothing had happened ‘cause they don’t like the girl very much. He is one of those guys who won’t respect girls when they say no to him and keeps on pushing, he even did it with a bunch of the girls who keep talking to him, I don’t why he hasn’t been banned from our comm yet.

>> No.10266626

I’m in bidding war for my friend’s dream dress. Her birthday is soon and I want to give it to her as a birthday present.

I don’t want to say how much I’m willing to pay because the other bidder can be lurking but... how much is too much to pay for friends birthday?
I’m not secretly in love with her.

I’m very generous what comes to gifts and I love to spoil my loved ones. Should I try to get our mutual friends to participate?

Would you feel uncomfortable?

>> No.10266655

If it were me, I'd love to be able to pitch in on my friend's dream dress. Though some people are on budgets and can't afford a big lump of cash towards a dress (I don't know how much it is. If it's £300+ I wouldn't be able to do a large chunk, but if it were, say, £150 I might pitch in a third), so maybe you could ask them to donate what they can in terms of money? I'd rather get a group present that she'd really like than a few smaller things that are lovely, but not a dream item.

>> No.10266656

Just make sure she's not the other bidder.

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> mfw I just found out I'll have to pay 110$ in custom fees for my 167$ second hand dress

ffs I was so happy I finally got my hands on this dress and now all I feel is regret because I didn't expect to be hit THAT hard. Living in Europe sucks.

>> No.10266712

I got dinged $150 on a dress and coat the other day. The poor postman fully expected me to flip out on him.

>> No.10266755

Echoing what >>10266655 said. If the price rings up to the level when you wince at the numbers, get more warriors onboard your war. The bidding feels less strenuous when you've got more people backing you up, even if they just take 20% or something of the price. Ask more friends what they'd be willing to pitch in on a flat rate and keep bidding!

I pray you may not get sniped.

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So sad I missed out buying a rare dress. I have money and there's nothing to buy for lolita.

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I wanna to split a room at con, but the bed wetting is back. Always comes back in October.

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im a government employee and the inner politics of my job make it nearly impossible to do what I’m supposed to do, and everyone is over worked and underpaid.

I think I’m going to go back to school to pursue a fashion degree. I love to sew my own clothing as it is, so I’d like to pick up more formal sewing classes to improve my technique. Maybe start selling some clothes on consignment.

I won’t be able to buy anything else for a long while if I do this, but I have a large mostly brand wardrobe anyways. My job has me so discouraged I no longer feel joy even though it use to be a dream job of mine. I want to find satisfaction in my occupation. Even if it means living meagerly. I don’t know if I’ll sell Lolita or jfash stuff. I just want to be happy and die satisfied with my life, not thinking about how I wasted it in a job that feasts on my joy until there was nothing left.

Should I just go for it? Any advice?

>> No.10266899

Which convention? I won't judge.

>> No.10266921

>Be me, male
>Order some makeup for cosplay
>Have no experience
>Only have a few weeks until Youmacon
I think I may have posted this here, but still.

>> No.10266923

>woke up several times last night, couldn't sleep
>happened to glance at pile of impulse shopping all over chair and table, haven't cleared it yet after squeeing over it
>just feel annoyed bcos I can't bloody sleep
>find out in the morning gran passed

I know it's my imagination, but I can't shake the feeling like she came to say goodbye, saw the pile of things all over the chairs and floors and now she's gonna go into the afterlife and tell all the ghosts what a slob I am (I mean, it's accurate anyway, but you always read the stories about people feeling something when they wake up in the middle of the night and someone close to them has passed and here I am just going "whoops woulda cleaned my room if I knew you were popping in")

It's the feels thread man, these are my legit feels.

>> No.10266924

No, it wasn't your grandma.
It was me.

I snuck into your room last night, and
gently stroked your hair, then
tiptoed out.

Didn't mean to disturb your sleep, anon.

>> No.10266925

Haha it would be funny if we shared a room and you pissed on me while we slept haha

>> No.10266939

Don't do it if you're looking for job satisfaction. The fashion industry is gruelling and I've yet to meet anyone who's happy doing it. It's hard enough to get a design job, if that's what you're going for, but even if you land a decent salary you'll be overworked and have no work life balance. If you work for someone else, you also probably won't have very much creative freedom. If you enjoy sewing clothes and want to sell it, I'd suggest doing it on your own time, especially since you already know how to sew. Or pick up a couple classes if you're just looking to improve. But I wouldn't look towards a fashion degree or fashion industry job to bring about satisfaction or happiness.

Source: I'm 4 years out of fashion school, working in fabric development and making very little (but with a relatively high amount of free time). My friends who succeeded in getting salaried jobs are overworked and stressed out and my friends who ended up like I did, working development or contract work are struggling to get by. No one is happy. Also...fashion school is already hard, and quite expensive. I just don't think it's worth it if you're looking to escape the situation you're already in.

>> No.10266941

To be entirely honest, I know a lot of people who have done a fashion degree, and most of them it hasn't done any good. If you can get into a really excellent school the connections might be helpful, but otherwise I think you'd be just as well drawing up a plan to accumulate the skills you need independently and setting up an online shop when you feel like your stuff is sellable.

>> No.10266944

I agree with >>10266939 Don't do it anon.
I'm in my second year of a fashion degree and I want to kill myself. My physical and mental health have suffered so much, I had to have eye surgery this year because the stress has ruined me. I pretty much spend all of my extra money on lolita to keep me sane. I'm probably going to have to get another degree after I finish this one, because all I've learnt from studying fashion is that I don't want to do this for a living, unless I do something very loosely related.

People say that if you're passionate about something you should pursue it to be your job, but unless you really are prepared to have the fun sucked out of everything you love, don't do it.
I started my degree straight out of high school and looking back, I honestly wish I had someone to talk me out of doing it and make me pick something that's less cutthroat and taxing to pay the bills while I enjoy my life. I guess that I've just had my Momoko moment where I realise I would rather wear nice clothes than make them.

I think you're better off taking a few classes like the other anon said to hone your skills and then pursue fashion and sewing as a side hobby. You could open a side business or even get into something like cosplay if it's the sewing you enjoy. Fashion school is really just not worth it.

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>be you
>wearing full lolita
>share bed with other lolita from 4chan
>she wets the bed AND your coord
>"hehe... sorry." :3
>she leaves the room
>you never see her again for the rest of the con
>you have to pay for the room

REAL funny. >_>

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>> No.10266950

>>>/make-up general/
Seriously, everyone here is pretty helpful

>> No.10266968

If this isn't a larp I'm an actual male bedwetter going to Youmacon. I don't know how to prove this isn't a larp other than to say to you should just wear protection (Northshore products are good).

>> No.10266970


Ask your doctor to prescribe you some desmopressin or some amitriptyline - both are effective in preventing poor bladder control overnight.

t. 3rd year medical student

>> No.10266974

>some desmopressin or some amitriptyline
can't I just sleep with you, instead?

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Thank you anon! Its been a long time since I've been this happy!

>> No.10267025

I'm nearly 23 and still have yet to get into kawaii fashion and cosplay and learning how to draw and Lolita and on top of being old I also just have an unfortunate face and body type lol rip fuck me

>> No.10267028

First replier here! I'm so sorry, anon, I feel for you so much! School was pretty taumatic for me and each year is more and more stressful. But if you do plan on finishing your degree, maybe consider production! Less stressful than design and still some creative freedom, as long as you're organized. I'd suggest getting good at using Excel and learning pivot tables/v-lookups because those are really relevant skills if you have them on a resume!

>> No.10267037

If you starve yourself and die then no cons for you at all.
Glad that your family is sane enough. Your health is the first priority. There will be more cons you to attend when you are feeling better.
I hope you win your battle.

>> No.10267045


It's probably why. I find it interesting some secondhand sites do that and others don't have that option. My FOMO goes out of control if I see a DD out of my reach though so good marketing on their part.


I prefer my tiddies to be small but perky but that's another conversation for another day.

>> No.10267048

Don't listen to your fat boomer family anon
Do you want to get fat and ugly?

>> No.10267051

Well, I have good news for you. You're not old, but you are stupid.

>> No.10267096

>kawaii at 23
explain how being kawaii is mature at all

>> No.10267111

23 is the kawaiiest age, save maturity for when you're a gramma

>> No.10267114

What's a cool legwear to wear at home I could offer to my girlfriend for the coming winter?

>> No.10267115

Stop being a piece of shit.

>> No.10267120

I believe this was in reference to thinking 23 is old.

23 is not old.

>> No.10267140

All western indie lolita brands that are sold at Atelier Pierrot now started out by making ita clothing without a fashion degree. Jsyk.

>> No.10267143

I stopped obsessing over brand names and Lolita actually became fun again.

I feel embarrassed that I got so sucked into the brand-worshipping, especially when I scoff at people doing that with normie labels. I started to feel like I wasn't "good enough" if I wasn't wearing a piece from a Japanese brand. I know, it's silly to even read back on it now.

Brand is nice, very nice, and I'm not going to act like my bodyline or handmade jsk is in any way better quality because it's obviously not. But man, I have a lot more of that sort of stuff now and I'm actually wearing the fashion more.

Maybe someday when I'm not a poorfag I'll replace it all with solid-colour brand pieces, but I feel good about my wardrobe for now.

>> No.10267180

obsessing over maturity is childish in and of itself
you know how kids always like the act older than they are and keep saying how they can't wait to grow up? yeah that's you

>> No.10267185

Dude that's honestly p racist of them. I'm asian so not the worst racism in the world but I hope you watch your back with those friends. something that actually matters is gonna happen to you thats related to your ethnic group one day and they're gonna be really shitty about it. thats how it was for me too, one day they think of me as a stereotype and it doesn't matter, but the next day something bigger would happen and then it does. :/

>> No.10267187

this is sweet. you did the right thing

>> No.10267190

is it your diet? I don't wet the bed, but if I eat/drink a lot of sugar in the afternoon, I will usually wake up in the middle of the night having to go pee.

>> No.10267402


Yeah, it's about that level of silliness. Thanks, anon.

>> No.10267413

It's not me because I'm just ashamed of how old and immature I am I even get called a baby in real life which doesn't feel good but thanks for the insults regardless

>> No.10267423

Juvanixx Project are a white guy and two ambiguously brown girls, not three pasty white asians. They deleted or untagged themselves from all pictures they didn’t take themselves to hide this. I still have the pics. Stop white washing yourselves.

>> No.10267430

Well you kind of do sound like a baby from this comment but it's nothing to do with your clothes or interests

>> No.10267439

Right and you think it's okay to insult people and hurt them like that? I don't know why so many of you "adults" act horrible for no reason.

>> No.10267440

Nobody has said anything very harsh to you.

>> No.10267443

Calling people names can be hurtful. Have you ever heard of trauma or depression or suicide from bullying? Either you don't understand that bullying like that causes serious damage or you don't give a shit and need a therapist

>> No.10267444

Please take a break from 4chan.

>> No.10267446

You know what, I have felt the way you feel before (not in a long time granted) and I genuinely feel bad for you so I am going to add to this.

You were the one initially beating yourself up for being immature due to your interest in kawaii shit. However, from your behaviour here, I am pretty sure that this is not why your peers call you a baby (if it is then they're dicks and you don't need them anyway). This is actually good news, because it means you can pursue your interests: there is nothing inherently wrong or bad about them.

I understand that mental health issues are tough and I definitely have struggled with oversensitivity in the past, but you are ultimately being your own worst enemy here. Stop caring about what other people think and focus on being cute af regardless. I am sorry that I hurt your feelings and I hope you have a nice rest of your day.

>> No.10267467

lmao kys you have to be 18+ to post here

>> No.10267468

I had that realization recently too! It's so freeing isn't it? I find I stress a lot less about fitting things now too. I fit about half the brand that's out there it's mostly older stuff that doesn't fit me but it still bugged me when I couldn't fit everything. Now i find myself stressing about it a lot less because Bodyline and most indie brands have several sizes and I can pick one that truly fits!

>> No.10267470 [DELETED] 

I hope you get raped to death because you're a worthless object, a pathetic hole like all women.

>> No.10267511
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Go back to your containment board

>> No.10267530

Every time someone posts something like this I always assume it’s a troll

>> No.10267536

I'd think it were a troll if I were literally anywhere on 4chan other than /cgl/ but we sure do get some special cases over here

>> No.10267553

It's bait. I've made posts like that one and it really riles gulls like you up. Doesn't work on other boards though, men are less sensitive and whiny.

>> No.10267555

I'm not saying it doesn't happen but I also personally know retards who have made posts like that in all seriousness

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The last few years I've "lost" friends due to them letting social media get to their heads and turning them into real assholes. Maybe I just don't get social media that well, but seeing friends that used to be levelheaded turn into real opportunists and claim themselves to be "influencers" the moment they get a huge number of followers is kinda sad. I don't want having to distance myself from someone I used to be good friends with simply because they start treating me and others like we are used rags.

I understand that getting a lot of attention helps your self-esteem a lot, and having people sucking up to you simply for basically existing online gives you a sense of worth. But maybe it's time to hit the breaks when you start burning bridges with friends simply because your ego grew to the size of jupiter.

This summer I had a disagreement with one of my friends that is "big" on social media, she's been acting very entitled about a situation and I thought we had talked it out when I called her out on her behavior and set aside our differences in said situation. But she apparently still calls around to our friends in common and tries to paint me like I'm the bad guy because I didn't give her what she wanted, however most of them have contacted me about it and said they think she's being childish and have apparently been taking some distance from her because of how she's been acting even prior to this. I don't want anything to do with it, but it makes me sad and disappointed in her. I don't feel like defending her anymore.

People change all the time, it just... sucks literally watching them turn into the thing some of them hated. Again, maybe I just don't understand the deal with social media and hype for followers.

>> No.10267580

Stop encouraging whales to exist.

>> No.10267587

>I’m not secretly in love with her.
In a similar spot, am I a creep for having a HUGE crush on my friend?

>> No.10267589

kill yourself anon

>> No.10267590

You can't help how you feel, depends on how you act. You should definitely try not to get too wrapped up in it though because unrequited love is cringe and messy in real life.

>> No.10267593

I guess I just act like I normally would. I just can't shake the feeling of extreme excitement when I see her. Sometimes I'll be doing nothing and the thought of her makes me smile. The issue is, I'm so scared of even saying anything about it, let alone being rejected, or even worse rejected and she doesn't want to be friends anymore.

I don't know what the fuck to do.

>> No.10267596

I would keep a lid on it unless you get some reasonable to strong indications that she reciprocates. Failed love confessions will almost always make things awkward no matter how much the parties want to stay friends imo.

>> No.10267597

Repress your feelings and let it traumatize you into adulthood.

>> No.10267598

Nothing traumatic about saving yourself life-ruining humiliation anon

>> No.10267601

Wise advice anon, what do you mean by strong indications(Short of asking me out herself) ?

>> No.10267606 [DELETED] 

I have not had dick in 4 years.

>> No.10267607

That's not a very /cgl/ feel.

>> No.10267609 [DELETED] 

Well then get fucked you fucking topic nazi

>> No.10267610

Wow you're stressed

>> No.10267612

The only thing social media did to them was allow their true shallowness to come to the surface. If it wasn't social media, it would have been something else. And maybe it would have taken longer to become apparent, but consider yourself saved the trouble a bit earlier by discovering their immaturity.

I'm sorry for your loss. I've had friendships fall apart in the same way when they find shiny new friends, and it's not fun, but it's the same old song and dance.

>> No.10267613

I'm stuck in the "only brand is good" mentality and I hate it but I can't rid myself of it

>> No.10267617

>be female
>recieve dick
should be easy enough

>> No.10267619
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my old cat had to be put down. It was so fucking hard. The next day my dream dress showed up and I had so many conflicting feelings. I ended up crying while holding it.
I miss him so much, and my dress the Jetj moon phase op.
I love you buddy.
I'll be looking at the moon
But I'll be seeing you.

>> No.10267656

I'm so sorry for your loss. *Hugs*

>> No.10267689
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I got my first jsk today its a normal length one, just above the knees but im 4’10 and it’s like calf length....

>> No.10267692


>> No.10267707

Make sure you wear a petticoat that fills the skirt properly. Im 5' tall and it helps if the petticoat is big enough. It'll bring the skirt up a bit.

>> No.10267711

I’m 5ft and I learned pretty quickly not to buy anything longer than like 92 cm long, the golden length range imo is like 83-89 cm

You might also be able to have it tailored anon! Sometimes an experienced tailor can shorten the length of the skirt where it meets the bodice

>> No.10267714

Fuck off

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In an attempt to find the OTP (one true panty), could you rate these in terms of comfiness?

>> No.10267829

This is the most obvious maleposter I've ever seen

>> No.10267830
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all men are shit

>> No.10267831

>jsk I've been watching on CC for months
>It's pretty but no excuse to buy it as I'm saving my money for DDs
>Hmm, maybe I should buy it, no dream dress has come up for months
>Go to CC, click on dress
>They've increased the price by ¥5000
Closet child what the fuck? It's been sitting there since December.

>> No.10267833

You should seek therapy for your autogynephilia before you end up trooning out mate

>> No.10267837 [DELETED] 

Isn't it a fact that if you date a girl who isn't a virgin then you are stating to the world "yes, my girlfriend has fucked other guys and I'm okay with that.”

>> No.10267838


>> No.10267845

Thanks. It's feels like a strange dream that he's gone and I have a dress I have been wanting for a long time. I hope after the hurt fades more I'll be able to wear the dress without crying.
At the same time, I would totally burn this dress to get him back and healthy.

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I won the Dream Dress for my friend! I ended up paying $215. It feels like a lot right now but It’s only money.

I can’t wait to see her face!!

>> No.10267865

215 isn't bad for a dream dress, anon! Congrats, I hope she loves it.

>> No.10268122
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You two should room together. You won't know which one of you pissed the bed, and nobody will be embarrassed.

>> No.10268125

The Japanese tax increased from 8% to 10% on October 1st, everything has gone up.

>> No.10268136

At one point the male shitposting got so bad (in 2013 or so) i had 5 variations of this image (all with different text) to use on the board to skirt the dualposting rule

>> No.10268138

its really difficult being male on this board and only wanting to better your cosplay skills. At times I feel i'm judged or ignored.
I agree that even a majority of males on this board can be shitty, but theres still some of us that really appreciate and enjoy cosplay.

>> No.10268141

I'm a dude making a post targeted at a specific type of dude but you responded like this.
In 2013 half the threads were from /fit/izens showing off their muscles to cgl. I dont miss it.

>> No.10268146




You're such a nice guy. I bet you would date all the girls who "just got out of an abusive relationship"

>> No.10268149

Why would you say something like this?

>> No.10268156


>> No.10268159

Yep and i'd make sure to be a worse abuser than whoever she was with since she's guaranteed to tell me about what he did to her. That's the only way to make girls like that wisen up

>> No.10268160

jesus christ man i just tried to be serious in my post.
the fuck is wrong with you people?

>> No.10268173

If you aren't shitposting you shouldn't feel bad because you're not the problem

>> No.10268182

>so tired from work i forgot to place a sniper bid and fell asleep before an auction for an item i really wanted ended
>someone else got it with only one bid
>two/three days later, seller puts the same item up again. its an old item noone cares about so not a scam, i guess the other buyer didnt pay or was a suspicious account
>put in a sniper bid and stay up this time to make sure i get it
>get it with only one bid
>v grateful for weird second chance

>> No.10268183


I once got a girl to tell me all about how she self harms and open up to me. Then she tried to hint that we should hang out and I said something like "I would never, ever want to be around you".

Next time I saw her she had more burn marks all over her arms. I laughed at her.

>> No.10268188

do you have a version that deals with toxic (males)

>> No.10268189

of course im not shitposting, I visit /cgl/ all the time to improve and look for ideas.

>> No.10268196

Genuine question: what's it like being a sociopath? Seems like a pretty shit genetic defect

>> No.10268202

I'm not sociopathic. I'm actually incredibly empathetic.

I just don't extend that empathy to all people, similar to you, and I enjoy seeing some people suffer.

>> No.10268203

I don't get it though. Was she a bad person? Did you find her pathetic? All we have to go on here is that you crushed and laughed at a mentally ill person.

>> No.10268208

Fat and ugly girl who puts out for any guy to feel valuable

>> No.10268227

See, if you were actually "incredibly empathetic", I feel like your thought process would go like:
1. Poor her, she must feel terrible about herself/had a bad home life to act that way, it must be very distressing to have so much self hatred
2. I don't really enjoy spending time around her but I'll let her down nicely so she doesn't have to suffer more

Instead you were just a dick.

>> No.10268228

>”incredibly empathetic”
>laughs at girl for self harm
what’s it like being a narcissist?

>> No.10268231

Good call. Narcis often boast about their high empathy but are callous in practice.
Not a sociopath, but would definitely believe NPD.

>> No.10268232

Have you ever in your life thought that someone was not justified in their feelings about something or their response to those feelings?

Does this mean you have no empathy?

>> No.10268233

You can always try to find new gullfriends

>> No.10268234

You look like a guy to me, fem boys ftw

>> No.10268235

I hope everything gets settled :/ life always throws everything at once. Take a moment sometime soon to relax a bit maybe and clear your head so you dont over do it.

>> No.10268236

You can think someone is not justified in their feelings without legitimately hurting them, wtf.

>> No.10268239


>> No.10268240

Gulls I want to know what you like in a guy

>> No.10268242

Why? It's funny and I don't value them. Humans don't inherently have value.

Think about the literal billions of people or animals you don't have any concern for. You just don't care unless it's explictly shown to you. You're not a better person, you're just an idiot.

>> No.10268243

.. thigh highs? I got some from sock dreams. Comfy, warm and cute, specially for around the house and/or bed. These are what i bought, unfortunately my hubby likes to keep it at 62 most of the year, im always cold, these saved me. They have tons of other styles ect. https://www.sockdreams.com/extraordinary-organic-faceted-thigh-high.html

>> No.10268245

Sorry for your loss. What i did when my dog of 18 years passed, i got his face on a pillow with his name on it. You could maybe do something like that.

>> No.10268247

To be able to actually have deep convos at 3am, but also have a good time without needing alcohol to do it for him. Not against alcohol, just know some guys that can only have a good time or fun if they are drunk.

>> No.10268248

Some people cry often when they think about all the suffering people and animals in the world.
N-not me though I'm tough

>> No.10268251

Thanks gull I hope you can find your deep talking bf. I actually want someone who just enjoys peace and quiet along with some chill hobbies. I can be hella hyper all the time but I have some real mellow moments

>> No.10268254

>keep it at 62 most of the year
Jesus, and I thought I was cold natured keeping my place at 67

>> No.10268277

Where were you two years ago when my sleep schedule was wrecked?

>> No.10268367

I hate when I finally finish getting all dressed up with my petticoat and everything and then I gotta poop. Why couldn't I just have to poop before?

>> No.10268432

this picture does not give me good feels

>> No.10268433

Yea same. Ult tough *pout face with hands on hips*

>> No.10268435

I know you will find someone. I helped a fellow coworker out and now hes got a gf as of 8 months. Im so proud of him. It can be done but you have to actually try, ie you cant stay inside your house all day hoping she will move next door or deliver your mail.

>> No.10268436

Ive only recently got back to being able to stay up late. Work all day so got to find time to play my videogames somehow.

>> No.10268437

..yea its awful. But sometimes he turns up the thermostat for me. It isnt really that big of a deal.

>> No.10268439

Same gull, i found him about 7 years ago. But we never stay up late together always on different past 10pm bedtimes. Maybe one day.

>> No.10268450

I finally can afford lolita since I got a job, but I hate going to work. It's a normal 45 hour week, but I'm so tired every evening I don't even cook nice meals for myself anymore. Lolita is the only thing that's keeping me from quitting my job, and poverty would suck too I guess.

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Patience, understanding, trust, bonuses include having similar hobbies and being cute as shit.

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Sometimes I don’t know what to do my friend, I try to get out there it just seems like every girl is in a committed relationship and I waited too long.

Don’t worry you will we guys do anything for love surprisingly

>> No.10268477


You could always go for fat (not morbidly obese but just overweight) girls. Most of them are single. And probably want to lose weight anyway. So you could potentially get a nice girl who later becomes hotter if the two of you try to get fit together.

>> No.10268481

I am gonna be lowering my standards hard but maybe just a chubbier girl. It’s something I’ve thought about but even so I need to find a girl who is chubby and Cute enough for me to not be a shallow cunt about her weight

>> No.10268489

Tbh I get the feeling most guys would have an easier time dating if they had as low or as complex standards for attractiveness as women do (caring less about physical if the personality is there).

Eventually you will both be old and ugly. You may as well find someone who looks "good enough" but is the sort of person you can be best friends with for the rest of your life.

Also, though I doubt this is an issue these days, don't be afraid to date outside your race. I have friends who meet awesome people but because they're a different race (especially my female minority friends with white guys because of social justice and junk) they turn them down or don't see them as an option which is silly if they have the other qualities they like and the race part isn't affecting how physically attractive you find them.

>> No.10268532

I would try to go to places you would want to find someone who also enjoys going there. Like if you love sweets, keep going to bakerys. If you love gardening go to garden stores and or garden festivals. If your typical hot weeb trash, go to cons and try to make friends then make them into something more if the feelings mutual.

>> No.10268542

i personally wouldn't date a right-winger regardless of race, but unfortunately most white guys seem to hold really disturbing right-wing views

>> No.10268560

>most white guys
doubt, 50% at best

>> No.10268575

They turn down white guys purely on race alone. We're all uni students in an extremely liberal city where white people are more excited about social justice than the minorities are. They will purely just reject white men based on the assumption of racism or thinking they can't work out purely based on race. Which is silly. As is white people letting other peoples' opinions stop them from dating another race as well. If it is a physical attraction thing I understand or if they have actually expressed ideas that are incompatible with your own, but an assumption of political opinions or just depriving yourself of the opportunity to find a partner because their skin is different is kinda weird and limits your options.

>> No.10268578

I think it highly depends on where you live. I live on a farm. I'd say 30% has extremist views about race and the rest is center-right. I have literally never met a left-wing guy in my area (as far as I'm aware).

>> No.10268607

Thats why some lolitas wear diapers
I think

>> No.10268632

I wore lolita out in public for the first time and everything went better than expected. I got some very enthusiastic compliments, a few stares, and nobody called me a weirdo to my face!

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>tfw followed friends made in the AA of the last con I went to on social meda
>find out that they're constantly policing people about gay rights
>Thinking yaoi is about lgbt rights

What the fuck are these people on

>> No.10268685

>most white guys seem to hold really disturbing right-wing views
You must live in the fucking boonies or something.

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>> No.10268701

I used to be like you until I lost the weight myself

>> No.10268774

Point those people to Japanese gay activists who hate yaoi and BL

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Sorry for the late reply anons, busy with work. Thank you for your kind and informative words. I am a black anon and I have no problem with dating out of race I just don't really know where to start, everytime I've dated it's more or less been by accident so now Im in this weird situation where I feel no one really wants me cus I haven't sought anyone in years but maybe thats just my insecurities talking. Nevertheless I very my appreciate what you guys are saying

Have a cute picture

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The shipping option I chose turned out to be untracked...

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I'm going to ask my cosplay crush out on a date when I see her again next thursday. Wish me luck bros and gulls alike.

>> No.10268881

Good luck buddy, and remember, we're all gonna make it

>> No.10268909

Which site you bought with your lotsa money?
Some chinese reseller?

>> No.10268942

I succumb to the feeling of helplessness. Not even lolita was enough to motivate me. Here's to softly crying myself to sleep because I postponed my responsibilities yet another day forward. I've been wanting to take time to dress up for weeks, but me myself and my dumb ass keeps stopping that from happening. I'm a weak ass bitch.

Why do I always make it a point to appear so strong?

>> No.10268943

Stop with the self loathing and put on a dress right now you walnut. It's not that hard.

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how do I convince that qt cosplayer I'm not a creep?

>> No.10269150

You can't because you are a creep

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>> No.10269253

I failed. I'm still a walnut.

I put on a full face of makeup, messed up the eyeliner, washed it all off and left the house in normie clothes. Should have put on the dress first.

>> No.10271015

What if you have no hope that you'll make it due to critically low self-worth?

>> No.10271162

Well one day we're all going to die and it won't matter if we made it or not so that's something nice to look forward to.

>> No.10271608

>tfw too of a pronounced browline to cosplay half of my favorite characters
feels bad only being allowed to cosplay guys

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>> No.10272931

Lose weight

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>implying that someone who doesn't like men is fat
typical male logic

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