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[Anonymous No.10328110]

[Anonymous No.10328120]

A dress I've been looking for for a while popped up and sold as soon as I went to bed last night, for a really good price. Bummed. It usually pops up for at least 1/3 more.

[Anonymous No.10328147]

I got one of my dream dresses and I don't even like it.

[Anonymous No.10328167]

>>10328147
So sorry, Anon. What a hear breaking disappointment. What was the dress? Did you already buy accessories for it?

[Anonymous No.10328171]

>>10328167
It's the Melty Sky JSK in the white colorway and it came with the matching hair clip. I love the print and colors, but high waisted dress just aren't very flattering. Hopefully it will grow on me.

[Anonymous No.10328179]

>>10328171
So sorry. Why not sell it and get a more flattering fitted dress? AATP has excellent low waisted dresses that really give a better shape if your medium and up bustline. Otherwise it just might take up space in your closet and the disappointment will always be there when you see it.

[Anonymous No.10328181]

>>10328171
Maybe you could get the skirt instead, or hide the cut with a cardigan on top

[Anonymous No.10328184]

>>10328179
Thank you for the advice! I'm probably going to try it on a few more times first so I don't regret selling it. I do love the cuts of AATP and BTSSB a lot more than APs new stuff. It's just that 80% of my wish list is things with a similar cut so I have to rethink a lot.

[Anonymous No.10328185]

>>10328181
That's very true. After this purchase I'm definitely going to be looking a lot more into skirts.

[Anonymous No.10328187]

Loosing weight, and my Brando dresses I just got 2 months ago are either to big or going to be when I hit my goal. My wardrobe is in chaos. Selling pile, will have to sell, then left with nothing. Not sure if I want to buy entire new wardrobe. Change fashion all together, or just have a few pieces and not wear the fashion as a lifestyle anymore. Depressed actually about it all. Will keep loosing weight as I am close to my goal. But I have to spend money on other things like new bras and such. My normie stuff is in the same situation. Chaos, completely. I don't want to even open my closet door.

[Anonymous No.10328189]

i was about to buy a dress on lacemarket but wanted to see better photos so i spend like an hour on lolibrary looking for it as it had no name on the listing and it was really old
the moment I found it and went to buy it someone had already gotten it
guess it was not meant to be...

[Anonymous No.10328197]

>>10328189
Just a suggestion, you can find out who bought it easy with the feedback listings. You can ask if they are happy with it, if they aren't make an offer.

[Anonymous No.10328198]

>>10328187
Why are you trying to lose so much weight that brand will be huge on you? That can't be healthy.

[Anonymous No.10328199]

>>10328197
Don't do this it's rude as fuck especially if it's right after they bought it

[Anonymous No.10328207]

The CoF thread was so bad that I wish I could start another one but I don't have Facebook. Which is a disappointing, cgl related feel.

[Anonymous No.10328214]

>>10328199
>especially
I don't think it is but I respect your opinion for what you want in your shopping experience. However, for me I would be delighted if I knew I could immediately sell something that I bought that didn't fit me or I just didn't like.

[Anonymous No.10328219]

>>10328198
Thank you, Anon. But some brand dresses will go to 96-100 cm in bustline. It is just too big and does not fit right. Gapping under the arms and when I tighten up the back there is so much material it bunches. I just now have to look at measurements and make sure it won't be too big.

[Anonymous No.10328228]

I watched a documentary about gambling addiction the other day and a lot of things clicked into place for me regarding my shopping addiction. It wasn’t new information per se, just presented in a way that made me think about my own behavior. Basically they were talking about how unpredictable rewards are more rewarding to the brain than predictable ones, which is the mechanism by which slot machines get people hooked - it’s also the exact same thing that happens when you browse secondhand sites. Those deals don’t pop up every day, but when they do it’s such a thrill and it’s easy to get carried away. I’m trying to do better this year, and I think being aware of what’s actually happening to me in terms of brain chemistry helps a little.

[Anonymous No.10328233]

>>10328219
Ah, I get you. Please take care of yourself as you lose weight though, you don't ever want to feel weak or light-headed.

[Anonymous No.10328234]

>>10328214
Lor did a really great video on this recently about how lolita dresses aren't public property. I suggest you watch it. Messaging someone that you want to buy something of theirs when it isn't up for sale is rude.

[Anonymous No.10328236]

>>10328219
Why not keep your ride or die pieces and alter them?

[Anonymous No.10328239]

>>10328207
Honest question, what's keeping you from making a profile that's just for lolita?

[Anonymous No.10328246]

>>10328234
I don't watch Lor. I find her material as offensive as you find my suggestion. So it's a wash. Once again I would be thrilled to know if an item I just bought could be immediately sold if I had regrets. I wouldn't mind a message like that at all. Parish the thought that not everyone thinks the same and not everyone listens to someone who is tolerant of non invited sexual exposure at meets.

[Anonymous No.10328247]

>>10328228
Wow, Anon. That's interesting. Thank you. Do you have a link to the documentary?

[Anonymous No.10328249]

>>10328236
I am thinking about it Anon. I have just a few I would love to keep. Alterations start at $50. So it would just be few dresses.

[Anonymous No.10328252]

>>10328233
Oh gosh I learned that lesson. I was really pushing myself to get over a plateau, and went too far. I was a size 14 at the beginning of summer 2019 now I am a size 5. I want to be a size 3. So close now.

[Anonymous No.10328261]

>>10328246
I picked the Lor video because it's convenient and recent. It doesn't really matter who's presenting the message.

You're the odd one out here. Most people agree that it's rude and unwanted. Imagine buying something in person, and as you walk out the door, people rush up to you and ask you to sell what you just bought. It's ridiculous and invasive, and it makes assumptions about dresses being a shared commodity when they aren't.

[Anonymous No.10328268]

>>10328261
I did say to ask them if they are happy. If not, then you can make an offer. Once again I would not mind people messaging me about a something I bought. I am not talking about an in store purchase but a second hand online site. Once again & again I would be absolutely happy to know I had instant buyers should I not like the item or if it didn't fit. Instant resell, that would be incredible!!!

[Anonymous No.10328272]

>>10328261

it's not really rude, anon. and it's not like she's contacting them days later lmao.

[Anonymous No.10328282]

>>10328268
Your own 'justification' does not match up with the fact that outright saying that it's absolutely wrong and rude to turn round to a stranger and ask them if they'd sell something to you. As the other anon says it's not on, and while Lor is annoying she does have a point. One of the things I hate most about the Lolita community as a whole is this overwhelming sense of entitlement that so many Lolitas have, that something belongs to the community and not an individual. It feels like there is a pressure to sell pieces rather than be allowed to keep things, and even altering a piece a little that you fully intend to keep is still frowned upon.

[Anonymous No.10328301]

>>10328282
A person's idea of "absolutely wrong and rude" may be another person's delight at having such a quick solution to a item that will not work for them. I did say as I have mentioned before, "ask them if they are happy." Ask first. If they are not make an offer. Once again, I would be thrilled to have an instant resell of a newly acquired unwanted item.

[Anonymous No.10328320]

>>10328268
Do you know how strange it is to get a message from a complete stranger asking if you're happy with a purchase that had nothing to do with them? Like that alone is weird behaviour. To push it past that and ask for them to sell you an item they just recently purchased is just another level of that. It's so nosy and prying, and like >>10328282 said, it's reinforcing the idea that no individual person owns an item in lolita, that it all belongs to the community, which isn't true.

You keep defending yourself by saying "well I'd like it," and we're telling you that you being the one in a million person who would be okay with these messages means you should think about how the people on the receiving end feel, and how most of them don't want this.

[Anonymous No.10328321]

>>10328320
>we
you're the only person who's posting.

>anon asks hey i was looking for x dress and saw an expired auction that you won, lmk if you're looking to sell it
>girl responds "nah i'm good" or "yeah i do"

sorry your anxiety is so crippling you can't navigate a yes or no question.

[Anonymous No.10328322]

>>10328320
Different anon here. It doesn’t seem too rude to me. I see it as totally different to message someone out of the blue asking to buy a dress when they post a coord pic than to send someone a msg along the lines of “hey congrats on winning the auction, you beat me to it by a second, great job! I hope you like the dress but if it doesn’t work out I’d love it if you would consider selling directly to me” yada yada

[Anonymous No.10328323]

>>10328320
>>10328320
>we
you're the only person who's posting about it. hell, people used to do this on coord photos on egl.


>anon asks hey i was looking for x dress and saw an expired auction that you won, lmk if you're looking to sell it
>girl responds "nah i'm good" or "yeah i do"

sorry your anxiety is so crippling you can't navigate a yes or no question.

[Anonymous No.10328327]

>>10328214
Ehh maybe. I might just be touchy because I have a lot of people messaging me asking to buy my stuff out of the blue and it bugs me. It does seem better if it's right after

[Anonymous No.10328329]

>>10328323
Doesn't stop this being rude. It's an example if the sense of entitlement that's so rampant in the community. It's like a feeding frenzy of scrabbling to buy an item from another person as soon as they've taken a photo. As though you can only wear something once or twice before feeling pushed to sell it and then buy the next popular thing. Sheesh. Some of the replies saying that this behaviour is ok is exactly what I was on about earlier. I haven't seen this kind if behaviour anywhere else outside of Lolita.

[Anonymous No.10328341]

>>10328322
Love this!!

[Anonymous No.10328344]

>>10328320
If a buyer is with it, then there is no selling question. There is one question implied, "I saw you beat me to an item. Letting you know if you aren't happy with it, I would like to discuss options with you. If you're happy enjoy it, it is an awesome item." Where in that is a pushy selling question? There isn't one. It dies not exist. If one reads what I typed, they will not see what is being insisted exist. A pushy demand to sell does not exist.

[Anonymous No.10328348]

How did you lose the weight so quickly? whatd you eat?

[Anonymous No.10328350]

>>10328348
Anon cut sugar out of your diet completely. Eat one big meal a day. Don't eat after 5pm

[Anonymous No.10328357]

>>10328322
>>10328344
This is still feeling entitled to a dress that has absolutely nothing to do with you. Someone else got it, not you. It's invasive and annoying to send someone a message about it, and as >>10328329 has pointed out a few times, these replies are the exact issue. People who wear lolita act as if the items are in some sort of community pool that we'll all get a turn with eventually, and that isn't how it works or should be done.

>>10328323
I'm not the only person, but okay. It has nothing to do with my anxiety. It's about entitlement and nosiness from strangers along with straight up rudeness.

[Anonymous No.10328365]

>>10328187
...or you could find a tailor in your area and take your dresses in?

[Anonymous No.10328370]

>>10328228
It’s the same reason why social media is all about the news feed of random things. They know it’s more addictive

[Anonymous No.10328374]

>>10328344
Why not just keep a distance, keep an eye on their sales posts if they have them, and wait to see if they, or someone else, sells that item? Rather than jumping on them and making the first move? Especially if they’re a stranger.

[Anonymous No.10328385]

>>10328189
Sorry, anon. I'm curious though, what dress was it?

[Anonymous No.10328387]

>>10328197
I would find it really creepy if someone messaged me and asked that

[Anonymous No.10328392]

>>10328110
I’m finally losing cm after ditching a scale and resuming exercise and I’m so happy I could cry. My mind wants me to resort to an ED again and I refuse so here’s hoping I do this the healthy way!

I want to be at an 80cm waist max when I’m done (alternatively when I weigh myself eventually, 30 lbs missing would be lovely)

[Anonymous No.10328393]

I decided that from now on...I'm only gonna buy dresses that really hit my heart in a special way and are unique to my typical 2010 sweet nonsense.
I love my sweet lolita wardrobe, but I need to tone down the amounts iconic Angelic Pretty prints and focus more on the weird dresses I find from Baby and Meta that I really want but couldn't justify getting at the time. I think about the times I missed a dress I thought was interesting and different...But then opted out and bought a more iconic AP print because I'm afraid that I'll never see the dress again at a good price. I'm a fool. One day I'll see you again bubblebath jsk. One day...

[Anonymous No.10328401]

>>10328370
Yeah, once you start thinking about it you realize how pervasive it is that big companies are essentially constantly applying dog training principles to us.

>>10328247
It was an Australian documentary called Ka-Ching!: Pokie nation, and it looks like it’s on YouTube:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bny1qgKO46A

[Anonymous No.10328405]

>>10328147
Omg F for condolence

[Anonymous No.10328406]

>>10328393
Good goal Anon. Seriously do any of us need to see one more Honey Cake coord done in white & red accessories? Go get what your heart wants and be f'ng happy.

[Anonymous No.10328407]

>>10328197
I’d block you for that, I won’t lie....

[Anonymous No.10328412]

>>10328392
Good luck OP. You can do it. You know with an ED, it's not one day at a time but sometimes one minute of making the right choice, then the next minute. Then after all those hours you can go to sleep knowing you won the day. Please take care, be alert to your triggers. You can win this!

[Anonymous No.10328421]

>>10328407
Ok. Am I supposed to shudder in horror or something?

[Anonymous No.10328425]

>join school's rugby team, because friends are nice and I was good at football
>lose fitness and speed
>gain weight
And here I was thinking I was going to basically finalize my journey of becoming my own favorite 1980s tough guy freedom cowboy

[Anonymous No.10328428]

>>10328406
Let people enjoy things, anon. There’s nothing innovative about it, but it’s not bad looking either.

[Anonymous No.10328434]

Relapsing anorexia slowly. Was 43kg at the height of it, which isn’t too bad for a 5’4” frame, but Christ everything fit so well. Went on medication for chronic OCD and ballooned up to 74.8. Hubby likes it because I’m more thicc with a tiny waist, giant tits, and ass...but I can’t fit into anything cute without looking like a lardass. Recent health issues forced me off my meds and I’m relapsing into ED because of anxiety, and on one hand I’m glad because I can wear brand again without looking like I’ve got boobloaf for days, but I’m scared my husband won’t be attracted to me if I’m tiny. This is on top of waiting for test results after recovering from a life threatening illness.

I don’t know where to go from here gulls. Sliding up on thirty as well, wish it had been different.

[Anonymous No.10328435]

I got fat and now nothing fits and I feel like shit about myself. It's not like my original weight was super healthy and good but at least I could fit my skirts over my fat ass thighs and now I can't and I'm having a breakdown. I need to stop using food as a cope but with my own mental state it's so hard. I feel horrible, gonna go exercise now.

[Anonymous No.10328436]

>>10328435
Hang in there anon, stick to healthy goals. I know how hard it is to break bad habits, but I have faith in you.

[Anonymous No.10328441]

The only con I care about anymore a couple weeks away, but none of my friends are going this year, and the few people I know that are going used to be my friends until someone (who barely knew me outside of being friends on facebook) in their friend circle started making up some crazy lies about me. Despite knowing me for 10+ years they believe him over me.
I don't really know what I'd do even if I did go, I usually take pictures of people and post on tumblr, but tumblr is pretty much dead now.
Being a shutin NEET between contracts for years has somehow fucked up the few social skills I had, I can't talk for long periods of time without fucking up words, like saying two synonyms at once or stuttering, so the last time I went to a con to make friends it didn't work out well.

[Anonymous No.10328442]

>>10328434
Time to see a therapist

[Anonymous No.10328444]

>>10328442
I have for over a decade, it’s how I got my meds obviously.

[Anonymous No.10328447]

>>10328444
>I have for over a decade
Damn.. dude must suck

[Anonymous No.10328448]

>>10328110
Another seller and I agreed to trade dresses on Facebook and someone reported my account. It’s gone and for some reason I can’t join or even find Plus Size Lolita Sales in English which is where she listed it. It’s been a few days already and I’ve been dealing uni problems and working very late nights at work lately. I’m really heartbroken this happened to a dream dress of all dresses

[Anonymous No.10328449]

>>10328447
Yeah, but that’s life, some of us get dealt a crummy hand. Best I can do is work to keep my ED from taking over and maybe get back into my favorite dresses without alienating my husband too much. Just going to take it day by day I guess.

Anyway, take care out there anon.

[Anonymous No.10328451]

>>10328197
I had a couple popular dresses in my wardrobe album and people kept asking me if it was for sale. It’s really rude to do that unless it’s a sales album. I ended up deleting some of my dresses from it because of 15+ people asking me for my stuff

[Anonymous No.10328467]

>>10328412
Thanks anon! It’s a battle but I know I’ll feel better if I do this the right way.

[Anonymous No.10328471]

>>10328434
Anon you and I are about the same size currently.
Scarily enough, we’re also the same height and seem to be having the same struggle.
It’s not worth it.
Your ED is only gonna make you feel miserable. And you’ll hate yourself more. You know you will.

If you’re gonna lose the weight, but wanna keep the thickness for you and not him, do muscle building and toning. I’m really rooting for you. Take it one minute at a time if you have to, but don’t let your ED take control again.

[Anonymous No.10328475]

>>10328441
You don’t need those people. You know that right? If they’re willing to dump a 10 year friendship for some random person, you don’t need them.

As for socializing, think of it this way: this is now a good chance to just go out and try again.

[Anonymous No.10328478]

I’ve just graduated university. During the course of my study, I really lost myself. I wouldn’t go home for days at a time because I lived far away, and could be in my university studio for 14+ hours regularly. Due to this I needed clothes people wouldn’t notice if I wore for days at a time, and toned down items that wouldn’t take up too much room in my backpack. So I’ve been dressing like shit for years, and just doing whatever and focusing solely on my uni work.
I’ve felt myself getting more and more lost for years, but I always figured that I could sort it out over the summer breaks, and when that didn’t work out, once I had graduated.
Now that I’ve graduated, I still am lost, but with the added stress of knowing that I need to sort myself out. I have some hoarding issues and at the moment have been trying to clean up the huge amount of clothing I don’t wear. This means having to sort out my lolita clothes. I always thought I’d start wearing it when I was able to, but now I look at it and do not want to wear it. Over the years I kept picking up good deals and dream dresses on auction. So now I have a large amount of clothes I’ve never worn and don’t want to wear, but don’t want to part with because it’s cute.
Leaving lolita feels terrifying to me even though I haven’t worn it in at least a year now. I don’t really have any sense of self anymore, sometimes I feel like I don’t recognise myself at all. And my only identifier was once being a lolita, I had nothing else. Then I started clinging to uni, but now I don’t have uni, and I don’t like to wear lolita so I don’t really have anything now.
I’m so scared.

[Anonymous No.10328480]

>>10328478
It's okay anon. You'll figure it out eventually. It's hard, and it probably won't come instantly (it took me a decade to get back to myself finally... sad, but glad it finally happened again) and still I find new things too! It is scary, but you can do it

[Anonymous No.10328483]

>>10328480
How did you do it? I do lots of things, but I don’t feel connection to them. Like I spend hours knitting, gardening, etc. But it doesn’t feel like it means anything, I’m just going through motions. Doesn’t feel like I’m doing anything real or worthwhile. Even when I go to work it’s just whatever, there’s no prospect there, I’m just another body.

[Anonymous No.10328484]

>>10328478
What did you study at university? Is it something that makes you happy? I know it’s cliche, but if you’re going to start decluttering I really recommend Marie Kondo’s book, and doing it properly (actually read the book, not just some online summary of it, and follow the steps thoroughly). I thought I had lost my passion for things, but it was just that there was so much clutter both in my physical space and in my head. Whatever you decide to do I wish you good luck anon, I’ve been there and it sucks.

[Anonymous No.10328494]

>>10328110
>mfw too insecure about my weight to post myself in >>10259576
>my face being the little one on the left
>>10328478
It's tough, stay strong

[Anonymous No.10328503]

>>10328320
It's not strange when you are part of a buying and selling site. You are strange fearing saying no to a random message so much

[Anonymous No.10328516]

>>10328503
You say that as though that automatically means signing up to effectively having a communal wardrobe pool. Just no. Use some actual common sense and get some manners.

[Anonymous No.10328524]

>>10328478
This sounds like university related depression and post uni burnout potentially. If you can get in to see a doctor about mental health support and see if it helps. I would advise trying to get some help first, such as counselling or other forms of talking therapy or antidepressants. Depression after graduating is a very common thing. I wouldn’t get rid of your lolita wardrobe just yet just in case it makes you feel worse through the parting with things, and in case you change your mind once in a better place mentally, which is the better point to actually make a decision.

I had depression after uni severely. I didn’t touch my jfash wardrobe for a long time, and now at last I am feeling better a few years down the line I’m glad I kept hold of things, and am starting to return to having an interest in the fashion again.

[Anonymous No.10328565]

>>10328421
you should care about not being a pest is the point. no good bragging about how youre a proud ass

[Anonymous No.10328571]

>>10328348
Losing weight quickly increases your chance of rebound because the methods to do so leave you feeling hungry which risks bingeing. It’s better to slowly reduce how much you eat while cutting out or reducing unhealthy vices, like candy and soda, and saving deserts for special occasions. I personally recommend downloading a calorie counting app and just recording everything you eat at first, then work on reducing the amount by 100 every week or two until you reach a calorie deficit. If you’re pretty large the small reductions will show weight loss, too, but otherwise you won’t see change until you reach a deficit.
Some other quick tips:
-increase vegetable consumption
-decrease or limit bread, pasta, rice, etc.
-pay attention to serving sizes and learn how to measure food (buy a food scale and measuring cups)
-reduce eating out and learn to cook
-drink water and avoid sugary drinks as often as you can

[Anonymous No.10328574]

>>10328483
It sounds like you have depression, please try to see a therapist anon

[Anonymous No.10328580]

With the coronavirus spreading, I'm worried the "little extras" in my taobao haul won't just be the usual extra ribbons and charms.

[Anonymous No.10328588]

>>10328214
If I just bought something (and on LM of all places) then chances are I've already checked to see if it fit me AND I really wanted it.

[Anonymous No.10328590]

>>10328323
>>10328341
>>10328301
Same fag btw

[Anonymous No.10328592]

>>10328425
You gained muscle tho

[Anonymous No.10328596]

>>10328580
It's unlikely, the virus only lives outside the body for about a day

[Anonymous No.10328597]

>>10328350
cool tip, this is how you develop gastrointestinal issues and gain all the weight back at some point in the future

[Anonymous No.10328605]

>>10328580
it's surface mail's time to shine

[Anonymous No.10328609]

>>10328597
I’ve never looked into OMAD (one meal a day for those reading in who don’t know) but I always thought that would cause stomachs problems and energy issues at the start of the day. It’s also probably no coincidence that the people I’ve seen who try it are super fat food addicts who love to binge, it’s the next best alternative they have to stuffing themselves when they want to avoid bloating into whales.

[Anonymous No.10328627]

>>10328580
No new shoes for me I guess. At least until they make a note it’s all over.

[Anonymous No.10328636]

>>10328471
Thanks anon, I really needed to hear this...honestly, thank you. It’s a real struggle, but I’m going to really try to keep my head above water this time.

Blessings to you in your journey as well, I hope you can also find that happy medium and the peace that comes with it. Take care.

[Anonymous No.10328689]

>>10328484
I’ve tried to follow the konmari method, issue is most of the items bring me joy individually. It’s when they are all brought together that it gets insane.
>>10328524
Yeah lots of people have been saying I have burnout, but I can’t find anything online that will help me to fix it. I don’t really want to go to a doctor.

[Anonymous No.10328697]

>>10328689
To be frank, anon, from your previous comments it sounds like you need a therapist. This isn’t typically something you can solve on your own with online resources. Take care of yourself.

[Anonymous No.10328716]

>>10328689
Unfortunately self help guides for a case as serious as what it sounds like yours is, there is no other way. Self help will help only gets so far, sadly, which I say from experience. A lot of online guides are usually meant for lower level situations or are complete rubbish sadly. It doesn't help that everyone responds differently to specific things that might help. Is there a reason why you're against going to see a doctor or seeking other professional help?

Trying to find even small things that you gain pleasure from can help, as treats. Self care is important, and it isn't just spoiling yourself to new things. It can be doing jobs you've put off as they take effort. That said, finding something that stimulates your brain that you enjoy can also help. I went to two theatre live screenings in the space of about a week when I hit rock bottom. I saw Swan Lake and Amadeus. I can't out of Amadeus bouncing in a way I hadn't felt in over a year. It's not easy, but it is manageable to get over this. Even if Lolita fashion isn't appealing at present, maybe try dressing up a bit more than how you have been, in something you like atm, while still comfy. Sometimes exercise can be really good for the endorphins, even if it's just going for a gentle, peaceful walk somewhere. It sounds cheesy, but sometimes it does help. Hang in there anon, even if it takes a fair while. You can climb out of this place you're in.

[Anonymous No.10328901]

i'm really interested in old school, but i'm like 172cm and my waist is roughly 70cm. most of my old school dream dresses are <65cm in the waist. i'm nearly underweight as is and small-busted, i'm just wide in the torso. i can't lose much more weight at this point without being unhealthy (already have a budding ED apparently)
how much of a difference does shapewear tend to make? :(

[Anonymous No.10328906]

>>10328580
With the sheer amount of goods from China that you probably don't think about when you buy them, I wouldn't worry

[Anonymous No.10328929]

>>10328901
Regular modern shapewear is just meant to smooth your form, it doesn’t typically take your measurements down unless you have very soft flab causing the higher number. A real corset would probably be able to shave off those extra 5 or so centimeters. It’s up to you if you’d be willing to wear one, though. I want to give them a try myself but I want to do more research on them first. >>10328716
Just gonna second the part about taking walks here. I was not okay after my brother died, but I kept taking a walk every day and it honestly helped my mood a lot in that time. I’m general I always find them refreshing, especially if I wasn’t feeling well emotionally before.

[Anonymous No.10328930]

>>10328228
>Those deals don’t pop up every day, but when they do it’s such a thrill and it’s easy to get carried away.

This is a heavy burden of mine

[Anonymous No.10328938]

>>10328929
Corsets arent a magical thing either, people forget that they are bulky on its own so unless you actually wear it you wont get any real help. The issue I see is that most people want an instant fix and corsetry requires a ton of time wearing the corset to get used to it/break it in, and then more time wearing it to get a reduction. If you are squishy you will get a reduction faster at first, so if you have low body fat it is a struggle.

When I was actually into it I would wear a corset everyday for 8 hours to get down to what I wanted, and even then it worked only until I took it off.

>>10328901
Because you are already small, you would likely need to do a lot of wearing the corset to reduce. Imo you should learn to accept your body as is and get clothes that fit you. There are old school stuff that is not 65 cm.

[Anonymous No.10328950]

>go to Japan for a month
>really admire the popular Japanese fashion over there, how toned down and feminine it is, especially love how busts/shoulders are covered and the longer skirt trend right now
>try posting about it or asking for advice about it in /cgl/
>REEE YOUR FASHION TASTE IS TOO NORMIE IT CANT BE JFASHION
>if I say I like alternate jfashion no one bats an eye
>if I like casual jfashion the thread
practically boos me out
Pic related, an example of fashion I like for reference

[Anonymous No.10328972]

>>10328950
It's the equivalent of pacsun and forever 21, anon

[Anonymous No.10328991]

I really appreciate to have my PayPal wallet separate from my other money. It means the money I gain from LM sales stay there as a "fun-fund". I'm hoping to reinvest it into the fashion. That is if I find something before Animal Crossing comes out... March seems simultaneously aeons away and approaching fast.

[Anonymous No.10329000]

>>10328950
That’s literally just normie shit?

[Anonymous No.10329003]

>>10328972
I wish it was, because then id be able to find stuff like this in person, nope, a Japanese fashion brand twitter posted this.
>>10329000
Yes, but it IS jfashion by definition same with pic related.

[Anonymous No.10329004]

>>10329003
Then make a thread for your normie shit? Next to nobody else will post in there but if it’ll stop your bitching I’m all for it

[Anonymous No.10329006]

>>10329003
Soooo uniqlo?

[Anonymous No.10329007]

>>10329004
Im posting in the feels thread how I think its retarded people will screech "REEEE ITS NOT JFASHION" if it isnt ALTERNATIVE jfashion.
Imagine the opposite. Like some japanese people on 2chan or whatever talking about american fashion on an american fashion board, and someone posts a white girl wearing scarves and holding a starbucks latte. The thread erupts into them freaking out that its not true american fashion since there's not enough tits showing for it to be "truly american"
Its weird, its just fucking weird.

[Anonymous No.10329008]

>>10329007
Sounds like you’re mentally retarded and just want to bitch. Maybe lurking will help you understand what kind of jfash gets posted here

[Anonymous No.10329009]

>>10329006
That specific one was the brand MAGESTIC LEGON. And yeah, uniqlo would fall under jfashion too. Just because they are basic doesnt make it any less japanese.

[Anonymous No.10329014]

>>10329008
Sweetheart, I've been here for over 10 years. Not everything has to look like a costume to fall under "jfashion" and if you think it does I think you might be a newfag thats just fallen prey to thinking if it doesnt look like a costume its not really jfashion. Maybe visit japan, realize the average person there doesnt dress according to western weeaboo tumblr standards, and realize its ok to dress a bit more toned down.>>10329008

[Anonymous No.10329017]

>>10329014
>larping as an old fag to cover up your newfag sperging retardation

Honestly it would be even more embarrassing if you really have been here that long that you can’t put on your big girl pants and deal.

[Anonymous No.10329018]

>>10329017
>a true oldfag would sit and take newfag retardation without complaint
whatever helps you sleep at night. by definition, even normie japanese shit is jfashion. just because you got dropped as a baby doesn't change that.

[Anonymous No.10329019]

>>10328448
Something similar happened- I had a friend message the other person but idk if my friend is stupid or what because it didn’t pan out well.

[Anonymous No.10329025]

>>10329019
Maybe she purposely ruined it for you. That sucks. I actually don’t know the sellers name because shes Swiss and her name was confusing and long. I gave up on it though

[Anonymous No.10329040]

>>10328950
this is standard normie work wear for women in professional settings. it's not some japanese invented/exclusive thing. go to macys and jcpenney sometime.

[Anonymous No.10329042]

>>10328901
honestly if it's just generic solid oldschool stuff that you like, there's tons of lookalikes and replicas available in various sizes

[Anonymous No.10329043]

>>10329018
This is the hardest deflection I’ve seen in a while. You need to calm down and lurk

[Anonymous No.10329049]

>>10329014
then start a thread? I'd rather see your normie fashion thread than another thinly veiled fap thread

[Anonymous No.10329050]

>>10328516
It’s not a communal wardrobe but it is a collector’s hobby and in niche collector communities people make connections and trade back and forth. Small niche hobbies are all about personal connections and inside deals, etc. Lace Market isn’t eBay and lolita isn’t that big of a community. Making personal connections and reaching out is the way most people build their collections in niche hobbies. If you want an anonymous, strictly business atmosphere go buy normie shit on poshmark or something

[Anonymous No.10329053]

>>10329043
Not even her but damn you're a fucking idiot. Yes it absolutely is Jfashion and unless you can give me a rundown on JJ drama right now in vivid detail then shut the fuck up about what you think an oldfag is.

Newfaggots calling other people newfaggots is the funniest shit i have seen in a long time.

[Anonymous No.10329056]

>>10329053
Don't bother, this retard probably doesn't even know who moot is

[Anonymous No.10329058]

>>10329056
>moot
literally who lol

[Anonymous No.10329060]

>>10329056
Moot is pleb tier, I bet you faggots don’t know about snacks.

[Anonymous No.10329061]

>>10329056
>moot
Who?

[Anonymous No.10329063]

>>10329060
>snacks
snacks is for babies, I bet you fuckers don't know shit about OrangeCitrus

[Anonymous No.10329073]

>>10329063
95% of 4chan now doesn’t know about snacks but OK you fat retard

[Anonymous No.10329075]

>>10329060
but hes a pedo

[Anonymous No.10329077]

>>10329053
japanese people wearing basic western office clothes =/= jfashion

[Anonymous No.10329080]

>>10329075
And? Madlad avoided the partyvan

[Anonymous No.10329081]

>>10329077
>Japanese people wearing basic roccoco dresses shortened =/= Jfashion
>Japanese people wearing basic american fashion but with whore makeup =/= Jfashion

unless it originated FROM JAPAN I will not accept it as Jfashion. period outfits are acceptable only, all is just bastardized versions of western normie shit

[Anonymous No.10329082]

>>10329081
gyaru and lolita have a lot of specific elements that make them japanese and they are not styles that you see normie americans wearing. unlike these basic ass office clothes.

[Anonymous No.10329084]

>>10329082
>a lot of specific elements that make them japanese
Elaborate.

[Anonymous No.10329086]

>>10329082
The fashions I posted all have Japanese elements, but it just sounds to me like you are a nitpicky weeaboo

[Anonymous No.10329088]

>>10329086
>>10329084
Nta but you can’t be serious. Seriously summer isn’t supposed to start for several months.

[Anonymous No.10329089]

>>10329088
If anyone is going to bitch and cry about certain fashions "not being Japanese enough" I'd love an explanation.

[Anonymous No.10329090]

>>10329089
You should lurk more if you’re serious about needing that to be explained to you

[Anonymous No.10329091]

>>10329089
*certain JAPANESE fashions not being Japanese enough.

[Anonymous No.10329093]

>>10329090
I see the other anon explaining while you are just whining out "lurk more" either explain your bias or stop posting.

[Anonymous No.10329094]

>>10329090
I've lurked enough to remember when people were whining about Larme and Otome not being weeaboo enough for this board, so please, do explain.

[Anonymous No.10329096]

>>10329086
nta but japanese normie fashion isn't a jfashion style. normie japanese clothes look different than normie clothes in other countries, which are all have distinct differences based on that particular countries view of femininity.

>america has low cut tops
>japan has covered shoulders
>UK has a lot more pants suits

it's not that your pic is a fashion style it's just got japanese clothing. the shirt isn't even japanese jsyk.

[Anonymous No.10329097]

>>10329093
>thinking everyone who shares an opinion is the same person

Calm down newfag.

>>10329094
If you really have and you’re not just role playing you would know. Or maybe you’re literally medically mentally handicapped? In which case your caretakers shouldn’t let you on this site

[Anonymous No.10329099]

>>10329097
all I see is you dodging an explanation and calling out retard, sure makes your points look reasonable.

[Anonymous No.10329101]

bruh americans wear clothes made in china and taiwan
does not make it any less american fashion

the sperging in this thread is astounding

[Anonymous No.10329102]

>>10329089
by your logic, basic western black suits that japanese men wear to work everyday are "jfashion"

[Anonymous No.10329104]

>>10329101
...and japanese people wearing the exact same style office clothes as american women does not make it jfashion. it's basic af

[Anonymous No.10329106]

>>10329099
You’re being told how to get the information you ask, but you’re refusing to because you’re an entitled newfag, or a sped who doesn’t know any better and is too dense to understand. In which case, PLEASE alert your caretakers,

[Anonymous No.10329110]

>>10329102
>>10329104
B-but anons! They’re japanese!!!! Must be jfash!!!!

[Anonymous No.10329111]

Ugg Australia is an Austra-
>Manufactured in Vietnam
What? No! They are a Vietnamese company! Anyone who disagrees is by definition a newfag!

>>10329104
Your opinion.

[Anonymous No.10329112]

>>10329111
no, it's a fact. jfash are styles that were invented and popular in japan specifically. not borrowed normie western clothes.

[Anonymous No.10329115]

>>10329112
Bro just hide the thread. Not even a 5-year-old gets this worked up over dumb shit like this. It's one fucking thread, are you retarded?

[Anonymous No.10329117]

>>10329102
not all office fashion is Japanese fashion.
stuff styled to fit japanese fashion standards specifically is jfashion.
this can include suits, but not always. blowing off fashion that fits japanese fashion standards worn commonly by japanese people (not for business, but for leisure) as suddenly "not japanese fashion" does not make sense to me.
I do not see westeners commonly wearing stuff like pic related.

if you would argue that my original examples were not the best, I'd rather you ask me for more examples than cling to "HURR DURR IT LOOKS LIKE BUSINESS WEAR" which I will gladly do.
in return for my elaboration, I'd prefer if you were to also post examples of what you personally consider "casual jfashion" so I can see where exactly your bias lies.

[Anonymous No.10329118]

>>10329117
you don't see normies wearing basic ass leggings with a basic sweater? or a basic office blouse with a basic solid skirt? really? jfc you really are retarded

[Anonymous No.10329120]

>>10329117
Anon your doctor called, your diagnosis of Mega Autism is confirmed :(

[Anonymous No.10329124]

>>10329118
I dont see normies wearing stuff like the first picture out of the three ever no. nor do I see young women wearing stuff like in the second picture just for leisure either, usually just business. so tell me, how is the first picture not japanese enough?

[Anonymous No.10329125]

>>10329118
When's the last time you saw some adult over the age of 5 wearing frilly socks and lace on her skirt over the age of 6 you bumbling ape?

[Anonymous No.10329126]

>>10329125
I'm tired as shit and fucked up this post bear with me lol

[Anonymous No.10329129]

>>10329081
Lolita fashion literally came from Japan tho? Early lolita didn't have that much rococo unless it was the big fancy pieces (think OTT)

It was more Rococo in spirit than actual french design

[Anonymous No.10329131]

>>10329129
Lolita is inspired by victorian and edwardian's childrens wear, as well as rococco fashion. It occassionally takes inspiration from 1950's fashion as well.

[Anonymous No.10329132]

>>10329129
Lolita fashion was inspired by western wear but has a Japanese spin on it.
Gyaru is usually western clothes or western inspired clothes but with a Japanese spin on it.

[Anonymous No.10329133]

>>10329117
I don't know why the other anons have their panties in a twist but I also like casual/normie jfash. Arguing with them isn't worth it. It's not like they'll suddenly change their minds.

[Anonymous No.10329139]

>>10329133
fair enough. I do find it interesting when I bring up casual/normie fashion everyone loses their minds. I think I might start a thread on more casual fashions later and see what happens.
It is interesting watching /cgl/ go from anti OTT clothing to anti casual clothing

[Anonymous No.10329140]

>>10329133
They are most likely newfriends who haven't gotten past their weird gatekeeping phase yet. Most likely because they were heavily gatekept themselves, as per the norm on /cgl/

[Anonymous No.10329141]

>>10329140
>maybe if I call others newfags who called others newfags it’ll prevent them from thinking I’m a newfag

Can you stop?

[Anonymous No.10329143]

>>10329125
Forever21 sells frilly socks. Lace on skirts is normal. Outfits 2 and 3 are normie clothes. Outfit 1 at least has the slip dress over a turtleneck, which is not commonly found in western fashion.

[Anonymous No.10329149]

>>10329141
anon, I'm begging you to shut the fuck up so I can post feels in the feels thread. all I'm feeling right now is you got a stick up your ass.

[Anonymous No.10329150]

>>10329141
All you've done is call out retard and scream newfag rather than post examples. Either post or shut the fuck up, its getting annoying

[Anonymous No.10329153]

>>10329149
>>10329150
Believe it or not, other people are allowed to post things that you don’t like. Newfags

[Anonymous No.10329154]

>>10329153
>maybe if I call others newfags who called others newfags it’ll prevent them from thinking I’m a newfag

Can you stop?

[Anonymous No.10329155]

>>10329154
Somebody missed the joke

[Anonymous No.10329157]

>>10329150
how about you stfu and just go make a normie fashion thread that will quickly die because it's not jfash?

[Anonymous No.10329158]

>>10329155
>someone missed the joke
I'm responding to it

[Anonymous No.10329159]

>>10329158
You responding to it in the way you did sure does make it seem like you missed the joke anon.

>>10329157
That won’t get her the attention she wants anon.

[Anonymous No.10329165]

Legitimately, I'm tired of "waahh its too normie"
"wahhh its too OTT"
"YOU are retarded because I said so"
"no YOU are retarded because you wont post examples and are just calling me retarded!"

Either you both post examples, or you both shut the fuck up so we can have a regular feels thread.

[Anonymous No.10329166]

>>10329165
This kind of back and forth IS a regular feels thread

[Anonymous No.10329171]

>>10328592
Less than you'd think. I was actually working out more before

[Anonymous No.10329240]

You females make me laugh with your silly effeminate bitchy arguments. We truly are the superior sex
*laughs in male*

[Anonymous No.10329241]

>>10328382 is me, working on this suitcase reminds me how bad i am at any form of art, but here's my progress after about three hours of working on it and spilling my paint all over my carpet like a loony.

[Anonymous No.10329242]

>>10329240
Yeah men don't bother with drama, they just immediately beat or murder each other. Scary shit.

[Anonymous No.10329243]

>>10329242
No we don't
Keep quiet

[Anonymous No.10329244]

>>10329243
Yeah you do commit over 90% of violent crimes. Psychos.

[Anonymous No.10329245]

>>10329243
>>10329244
Now kiss!

[Anonymous No.10329248]

>>10328588
This

[Anonymous No.10329249]

>>10329245
Only if she wants to xx

[Anonymous No.10329291]

What's with those lesbian cosplayers that look like truck drivers but go all out when cosplaying?

[Anonymous No.10329294]

>>10329241
If you could get hold of a projector, you could project the image onto the suitcase and trace it from there.

[Anonymous No.10329302]

>>10328636
You can do it anon!

If I may, try using the app 8fit. I used it before my tendonitis ruined my knees for a good 6 months. Before I stopped, I lost about 10lbs and 3cm at my waist in almost a month.
Now I'm back on, and have lost a cm so far in about a week and a half.
10-15 minutes a day of high intensity, high impact exercises tailored to your needs will help make things seem much less overwhelming. Couple it with a good diet that has lots of protein, and before you know it, you'll have healthily lost weight and feel good about it!
I'm rooting for you!

[Anonymous No.10329323]

I have such a naturally round face and lately I've started to feel self conscious about it.
Thank you mom and dad for making me ugly

[Anonymous No.10329330]

>>10329291
We too like to look cute every once in a while.

>tfw my coworkers seeing my cosplay pics thought I was my own sister

[Anonymous No.10329332]

>>10329243
Bullshit y'all don't.

[Anonymous No.10329395]

>>10329241
Ugh, I have a lot of print close ups, too bad I just saw your original post, anon.

[Anonymous No.10329396]

>>10329323
Buy face tape for photo occassions

[Anonymous No.10329398]

>>10328348
Go read the sticky on /fit/ and the OP on /fit/'s /fat/. That's how I learned how to lose weight and proceeded to drop a third of my body weight.

[Anonymous No.10329410]

>>10328901
One word - Metamorphose. But seriously, just go for less fitted (think babydoll, empire, frumpy a-line, high waist if your ribs aren’t too wide) or longer pieces, I would advise short sleeves as well. I’m 168 and sleeve length is an issue sometimes. Separates are also a blessing. For skirts, look for fully or partially shirred ones, plus you can always alter your stuff. You can wear the fashion, it’s just going to be a little more challenging finding pieces that fit well and compliment your body type, but don’t give up on it! You can always resell the stuff that didn’t fit, there’s definitely a market for old school pieces these days. Don’t be afraid to request measurements through your SS if time permits or ask the seller directly. Good luck!

[Anonymous No.10329420]

It's spring again, so I hope Kato-san makes more kimono printed dresses

[Anonymous No.10329447]

I got my dream dress and it looks terrible on me. Its my first AP piece and it hits barely below my crotch, (180 cm with a long torso and short af legs) I can get another pretty easily and make a new longer bodice out of the skirt portion and likely will, but I'm just frustrated I didn't get the experience of getting my DD and loving it right away. It's going to take so much work and money to make it work for me and I'm nervous it wont even turn out well, or that there are no tailors in my area who will understand what I want/need them to do.I spent years waiting for this dress and I'm so frustrated!!

[Anonymous No.10329452]

Getting grinched is the worst
Even more so when you put in effort to make the gift you sent out, cute and thoughtful.

[Anonymous No.10329456]

>>10329447
what dress was that, anon?

[Anonymous No.10329459]

>>10329456
Ribbon Berry Bunny yellow jsk

[Anonymous No.10329470]

>>10328357
>>10328329
>>10328234
Property-chan at it again. Learn to accept different opinions you autist.

[Anonymous No.10329517]

I'm kind of bummed because I can't wear jfashion on the daily, I'm still a student and my school doesn't care if we wear platform heels or have bright pink hair. But the stupid reason why I can't do it is that I have to go to school by bycicle, between strong wind, viscious rain, only having to wear shoes with small heels ( but no heels is a big no no too), and the worst, the helmet that obliterate any attempt at an hairstyle.

Like damn I used to go to middle school with circle lens, dark makeup and okobo platforms.
now I'm scared to slip an ruin cute high socks.

[Anonymous No.10329526]

>>10329470
These posts are by multiple people though.

[Anonymous No.10329529]

>>10329470
Yet you seem to be have great difficulty accepting their opinion, hypocrite.

[Anonymous No.10329536]

>>10329529

It also doesn't stop their 'different' opinion being rude either.

[Anonymous No.10329538]

>>10329447
You're that tall and you didn't think to check the measurements on an AP dress? It's knee length on Risa, and she's 160cm.

[Anonymous No.10329540]

>>10329063
>snacks fucks babies
fixed that for you, hun

[Anonymous No.10329543]

>>10329526
>>10329529
>>10329536
Samefag

[Anonymous No.10329547]

>>10329543
>>10329470
Samefag

[Anonymous No.10329551]

My depression is worsening right as some cons I’ve been wanting to go to are coming up so I physically don’t have any energy to finish getting ready for them

[Anonymous No.10329553]

>>10329459
sorry that it didn't work out anon. That print is one of my favorites as well, I have the red OP but I still wish for the jsk

[Anonymous No.10329556]

>>10329517
Change at school? Kinda dumb but I change clothes at school if the weather is bad

[Anonymous No.10329587]

why does it feel so good to stay home for days at a time and never leave

[Anonymous No.10329596]

One of my top 5 cropped up on LM, as a sample even. I'm a good two to three sizes too big for it in mid depressive ditch with no funds or stability with quietly disposing of me in every meaningful way.

In other news my poor wardrobe has only been touched to be raided for the odd night I decide to go out to the club, and I can't feel much of anything about it. It's been so long I can hardly call myself a lolita anymore.

[Anonymous No.10329598]

>>10329587
It's a false sense of security
All of your basic needs are met
No one can expect or demand anything from you

[Anonymous No.10329607]

>>10329447
this happened to me with a VM dress before.

[Anonymous No.10329655]

>>10329294
Yeah but I don't need a projector for anything else and I'm not about to spend money I could save for a real iron gate.

[Anonymous No.10329659]

>>10329655
dropped pic

[Anonymous No.10329665]

>>10329598
Y I K E S

I need to go out more

[Anonymous No.10329671]

>>10329543
You really think everyone that doesn't agree with you is an autist & samefag. Nice logic, pal.

[Anonymous No.10329674]

>>10329587
Usually a sign of depression

[Anonymous No.10329678]

>>10328590
Uhhh nope.

[Anonymous No.10329681]

>>10329665

As someone with anxiety and depression, it really doesn't get better with going outside and meeting people.

>t. in a socially intensive job

[Anonymous No.10329694]

>>10329587
Sounds like depression and you’re socially exhausted. I used to stay indoors after meets for a week but I work almost everyday and go to school too so it’s harder but it does force me to not cave dwell

[Anonymous No.10329695]

>>10329681
jobs aren't the same as leisurely activity outside of your house. of course a job is going to be stressful af.

[Anonymous No.10329696]

I heard an mahou momo was doing ddlg fetish work and I can never see her the same way again

[Anonymous No.10329699]

>>10329003
anon, a friend of mine once called this 'normie jfashion' "mode" not sure if that will help. It's featured a lot in the magazine Used Mix

[Anonymous No.10329711]

>>10329695

Honestly, meets are the same as work to me. Bunch of strangers in a large setting. I use the same general principles as at work and while I do enjoy the company I'm just not very extroverted and it exhausts me.

[Anonymous No.10329712]

I’m going to die soon. I have a lot of popular pieces and a large collection of old school, particularly velveteens and appliqué types, but I don’t have the energy to list it all. I’m scared I’m going to be another goodwill-chan, or that my family will throw away my 10 years worth of lolita, but I don’t know what else I could really do.

[[e-mail] No.10329720]

>>10329712
Send it to me.
Yes that's a real email. I'll take whatever you need off your hand and pay for shipping.

[Anonymous No.10329733]

>>10329712
Enjoy them to your last breath and write in your will once you made up your mind about what to do with them. I'd figure since it's easy to sell, it would quickly cover any costs that burden your family once you've moved on.

>>10329720
>that choice of email
>that choice of pic
>that reply
There's a lot to unpack here.

[Anonymous No.10329739]

>>10329733
I have over 100 dresses alone, and tons of jewelry, accessories, etc. I don’t think my family would be able to list it all properly. I have enough in the bank to cover a funeral anyway, so I’m just worried about what will happen to all my lolita. I had a friend who I had hoped maybe I could entrust it to, but she kinda noped out as my health has deteriorated.

[Anonymous No.10329741]

>>10329671
Seems like I hit a nerve. Also don't call me autist when you're googling and posting shitty 8 year old memes like a nerd.

[Anonymous No.10329750]

>>10329739
Then why not pay someone to list them for you or make drafts before you go? I'm sure your notary will be able to give you some help with things like that. Or you could sell your stuff in lots so it's much less work.

[Anonymous No.10329754]

>>10329739
Why not sort it into big bundles, take photos, prepackage it, and put suggested auction starting prices? It's a lot easier to sell 5-10 huge bundles than 100+ individual items. It might go to scalpers at first due to the high cost but eventually will get into the hands of real fans rather than goodwill.

[Anonymous No.10329757]

>>10329750
>>10329754
I’ll be really honest here, part of it is I’m too depressed on top of physical exhaustion to make listings. I’d be open to hiring someone but I have no idea who to go to for that? And leaving it to my family after I’m gone to sell seems cruel. “Here’s a bunch of stuff that your daughter loved, sell it because she’s dead” or something like that would probably be upsetting. As far as I can tell there’s no real active comm in my city to join and post about it there, and I’m not sure normies will know what kind of details to look for as far as condition for listings even if I lay out prices

[Anonymous No.10329760]

>>10329757
If i was a lolita near you i would love to help you make listings
your closet is clearly something you have taken time and care loved a lot and want it to not end up in some thrift store where no other lolita would find and appreciate it

Im really sorry also for whatever you are going through

[Anonymous No.10329766]

>>10328950
It is different and I see you, anon. There are people who dress like that in the west but the popular basics are different there.

[Anonymous No.10329767]

>>10329757
What area do you live in? Someone might be willing to list them for you if they turn out to be in the area.

[Anonymous No.10329785]

>>10329760
>>10329767
Stop replying to that idiot who posts about dying literally every feels thread. It's the same scenario every time.

[Anonymous No.10329825]

>>10329517
>helmet
Get a load of this fag

[Anonymous No.10329828]

I am in a constant state of fucking hypervigilence and its driving me fucking insane. Every second of every day is just such an intense panic I feel like I'm about to be hit by a semi but all the time nonstop. The andreniline will sometimes get me motivated to work on cosplay but otherwise its horrible. I try to sleep and I stay up for hours and hours until my body gets so tired I pass out. I take sleeping medicine and it does jack shit. I don't want to get addicted to anti anxiety medication and thats the only route I have left. Fuck.

[Anonymous No.10329918]

Eeeffffing mad. Day before yesterday, I just washed, dry, put the metal hoops back in & starched my best petticoats. Went out yesterday and this eeeffffing bitch comes up to me grabs the bottom of my petticoat like she is trying to yank the thing off. She happens to grab it where the hoop ends meet and Yanks it out through the fabric. Bitch ripped the hoop seams that hold it in place. Eeeeeffffimg outrageously mad. I yelled at her. "WTF, you just go around grabbing women's clothes off them and destroying them?". Effffffff fuck. Mad. She looked so horrified. WTF bitch, she's the one who attacked me. Her eeeeeffffimg reply, "I just wanted to see what made it so round and puffy." Eeeeeffffimg mad.

[Anonymous No.10329946]

Just ended a 3-year relationship and I’m actually doing pretty alright in the post-breakup emotional department, but was supposed to room with my ex and their mutuals at Katsu and ex has now pulled out of the con entirely. Now I’M having to scramble to offer my best friend as a new potential roommate to people that I’ve never met IRL and be the one that looks unorganized b/c my ex washed their hands of it and didn’t say a thing in the room group chat when the con is... in two weeks.

[Anonymous No.10329948]

>>10329757
Why are you depressed? It's just death. Take it easy, gull.

[Anonymous No.10329951]

>>10329712
Why are you going to die soon?

[Anonymous No.10329960]

>>10329757
Do you have any friends familiar with using lacemarket and PayPal transactions? If so, I’m sure they’d be willing to help out especially considering you’re circumstances, anon. I’m not sure about other countries but I do know that in the US you can make an account on USPS and have them bring what you need for packaging (for free, too, I think?) and just do the “schedule pickup” option for anything sold.

[Anonymous No.10329963]

>>10328110
>when your daughter asks you why Elsa is in the courtyard showing her thonged ass to a photographer

"But why does her underwears look like that?"

[[e-mail] No.10329970]

>>10329757
I'll be really honest here.
I'll keep what I want and sell what I don't. You can rest (in peace) assured that I'll find a home for your wardrobe if you work something out with me. No need to pay me to sell. I don't need the money, I just need the frills.

[Anonymous No.10329983]

>>10329757
hey anon its >>10329760 if you want help even if im not near you i could help you type out all the listing and get stock photos for them if you would like
so you would just have to copy paste it and be done easily
just figure I would throw my email in case you wanted help

[[e-mail] No.10329984]

>>10329757
hey anon its >>10329760 if you want help even if im not near you i could help you type out all the listing and get stock photos for them if you would like
so you would just have to copy paste it and be done easily
just figure I would throw my email in case you wanted help

[Anonymous No.10329993]

>>10329918

Did she make you so mad you got a stroke?

[Anonymous No.10330006]

>>10329970
>oh you're dying? Give me, an anonymous stranger, your whole wardrobe for free then. Don't worry, I'm not only going to hoard it but also profit from it. Is that not nice? You don't even have to pay me to give me all your belongings.
Even if it's just shitposting, you should die instead of anon desu.

[Anonymous No.10330007]

>>10329963
Do you let your daughter in locker rooms? Seeing another female butt is fine.

[Anonymous No.10330009]

>>10329757
Unironically just pull everything out of your closet, throw it in piles(minus the things you want to keep until death and/or after), take 1-3 pictures of it and upload the pics to an auction or listing. You don't even need a description or photo editing, people will bid on it regardless and to ship it out you can just throw everything in a carton and glue it shut. I'm sure your family will be open to help too.

[Anonymous No.10330010]

>>10329970
y’all fucked n greedy but u already know

what anon should do is just make a bst post of everything she wants to sell w price n email and ask family to help ship if needed. or ebay. if i was dying and asked my family to sell my shit off, as long as they had the prices im sure they’d be willing to.

[Anonymous No.10330013]

>>10329960
>>10329970
>>10330010
>>10330009
>>10329984
lol all of you only care about forcing her to sell her clothes

[Anonymous No.10330015]

>>10329757
Honestly, you have no obligation to do anything with the dresses, especially if it's causing you distress. Spending time doing what actually matters is more important right now. Treat yourself gently.

[Anonymous No.10330016]

>>10330013
No one is forcing her, they made suggestions based on what she posted and several anons suggested to keep them until the end. Last wills and after-death planning are a real thing can help your relatives and friends a lot.

[Anonymous No.10330021]

>>10319700
>Shantung op in white
Pics or this is terrible bait made from that one list an anon made of rarest dresses

[Anonymous No.10330026]

>>10330016
all of you just want to sell her clothes like a group of hungry vultures, better?

[Anonymous No.10330030]

>>10330016

You say it like she hasn't planned anything but she literally has plans she talked about. Lolita clothes are not really a priority when you're dying so please stop hiding behind that uwu concern.

[Anonymous No.10330035]

>>10330007
Wtf. This guy shouldn't have to explain to a child why her favorite character is showing her buttocks or why her panties have no back.

[Anonymous No.10330041]

>>10330021
I didnt even know it came in white, is there pictures of it? Only photo i seen is the one in black with thay one girl
Also link to that list?

[Anonymous No.10330042]

>>10330013
nigga she's DYING. she won't need that shit. fuck out of here with your virtue signaling. if she didnt wanna sell it she shouldnt have said she was selling it. but she wants to by her own admission. this is /cgl/ not reddit, our primary concern is obviously going to be for the clothes. if she posted to seek pity she should go elsewhere.

[Anonymous No.10330048]

>>10330041
Please read the quote and the actual post again.

[Anonymous No.10330049]

>>10328434
Please, do as >>10328471 said. See a therapist if you can, and hit the gym to get thicc in a much healthier way.

[Anonymous No.10330052]

>Friends ditch me at con
>Sitting alone at Starbux near it in cosplay just to recharge
>Cute dude recognizes my cosplay and hits it off well with me
>We walk around the con together
>Have lots of fun
>Too spaghetti to ask him for contact info
>"It's alright, it'll be natural to ask as we're about to finish for the night so we can meet tomorrow!"
>He gets a phone call
>Suddenly frantic, asking worried questions on the phone
>"Sorry anon, bro lost our dog on a walk and I'm going to help them look for her. Hope you enjoy the con!"
>He puts the phone back up to his ear and runs off looking like he's about to break down in tears
>Frozen in place trying to process what happened, feel like it'd be selfish of me to ask for his info now even if I caught him
>Sad tinder browse months later
>Actually fucking see him there

IS THIS FUCKING FATE? His dog is fine, some restaurant owner found her and lured her in with chicken. He remembered me and said he was bummed out about not getting my number either but his dog means so much to him that he went into full adrenaline mode.

We're going on a date this weekend. I'm so fucking excited. I've never had a con crush and thought there was no way someone could make a connection in such a short amount of time. I hope it turns out well, he seems like such a sweet guy and honestly I find it a plus how he cares for his dog so much.

[Anonymous No.10330056]

>>10330026
Read before you reply

>>10330030
No, I'm saying she had things in mind and asked questions and second opinions about it which anons answered.
>belongings are not really a priority when you're dying
t. doesn't have a family, never witnessed relatives dying and/or never had to sit through inheritance discussions
No one says it's the priority but it's important unless you literally don't give a fuck about your loved ones.

[Anonymous No.10330058]

>>10330056
keep trying to justify your selfishness anon

[Anonymous No.10330064]

>>10330042
it's fine if you admit it >>10330056 is virtue signaling hard though

[Anonymous No.10330077]

>>10330058
>>10330064
>p-please stop replying with logic, everyone must have the same motives as me! Advice is virtue signaling!
Whatever helps you to feel better. Just say that you have no experience with situations like that and call it a day instead of demented shitposting.

[Anonymous No.10330107]

>>10330052
I'm happy for you anon

[Anonymous No.10330109]

>>10330077
im not the one begging a dying woman to sell her clothing

[Anonymous No.10330122]

>>10330109
And neither are anons itt unless you're projecting your own motives.

[Anonymous No.10330139]

>>10329712
obvious bait for attention is obvious

[Anonymous No.10330158]

>>10330052
Congrats, anon! I hope it goes well.

[Anonymous No.10330160]

>>10330139
You’re a fucking moron.

[Anonymous No.10330198]

>>10330160
For believing the token "I'm going to die soon and have no place for my frills :(" post that appears at least once every other thread?

[Anonymous No.10330200]

>>10330052
Scritch the pooch for me pls

[Anonymous No.10330228]

>>10329741
nayrt, but just because it's an old picture doesn't make the point any less valid.

[Anonymous No.10330272]

>>10329659
Fucking done. I was a fool to attempt this. But I feel enlightened. I know why it's so difficult for replica makers to do even a passable job, much less a good job. Makes me respect the original artist of Iron Gate even more.
Not adding the words below until I get a better reference that's not for ants.

[Anonymous No.10330288]

>>10330272
I mean... replica makers aren't painting it. I'm pretty sure most of them take scans of some sort. Why didn't you try to make a vector and turn it into a vinyl sticker?

[Anonymous No.10330313]

>>10330288
Didn't think of it. Also. No idea how to make a vector.

[Anonymous No.10330317]

>>10330272
Did you not even have a ruler at least to make the bars straight

[Anonymous No.10330320]

>be me
>male
>took an anime class because it looked cool
>have cosplay section
>decide to cosplay as a character that we talked about in class
>we watched Kimi No Na Wa
>decide to cosplay as Mitsuha
>spend hours getting clothes, hair, makeup all looking good
>love how I look and go to class confidently
>prof laughs at me
>asks if I'm going for a scruffy Mitsuha look
>I awkwardly laugh it off and wait until the end of class when I rush to my room to take off costume

I haven't been able to get myself to cosplay ever since. Please remind me why I loved this.

[Anonymous No.10330321]

>>10330320
wtf is "an anime class"
is it in community college

[Anonymous No.10330322]

>>10330321
It's a private college. It's a class about anime, the philosophy behind it, and even how it's made and the history of it

[Anonymous No.10330325]

>>10330322
yikes

[Anonymous No.10330333]

>>10330317
Nope. Just free handed it.
This isn't winning any awards but it was mostly for fun.

[Anonymous No.10330357]

>>10328475
>If they’re willing to dump a 10 year friendship for some random person, you don’t need them
I know that, but now I got no friends

[Anonymous No.10330370]

>>10328110
I used to be a shut-in NEET who would basically only leave the house for conventions to cosplay.
Three years ago, I decided to try and fix my life, got a job wiith a great company, and even got a raise a few months ago.
I found out yesterday that my job is trying to fire me or lay me off without anyone telling me anything about performance. I don't even know what the fuck I did and nobody will tell me.
I'm afraid of going back to being a NEET but I was actually happier that way. Don't turn your back on your hobbies, friends

[Anonymous No.10330453]

>>10330370
I'm sorry your workplace sucks. Starting putting your name out there that you're looking for work. It's easier to find a job when you already have one.

[Anonymous No.10330454]

>>10330370
Ask your boss
Fuck it, if they’re trying to fire you, might as well ask.

[Anonymous No.10330476]

I hope this Coronovirus fuckery ends before i attend a con in April

[Anonymous No.10330652]

>bad luck missing a few wishlist items the past few months
>see CC post a wishlist item on their twitter
>message my SS but they cant go to cc these days
>o well its probably already sold but i will stalk the website just in case
>weeks later have given up, casually checking cc site and its listed as a new upload
>getttttttttttt

[Anonymous No.10330684]

I hate that I feel like I cant be a true gothic lolita unless I own moitie and feel like all the other gothic lolitas I have met at meets and cons look down on me because of it

[Anonymous No.10330691]

>>10330684
There are more brands that cater to gothic lolita than Moitie. Moitie is just particularly iconic. I wasn’t a fan of Moitie for a long time until recently, and even then it’s their non print, EGA pieces. I honestly find their prints overrated, and prefer other brands for gothic stuff.

[Anonymous No.10330699]

>>10330684

Just do Boz/Lapin Agill, Sheglit, AtePie (selectively), add a touch of Millefleur/Millenoir, some selective h.Naoto (they've shuffled their subbrands around throughout the years), Meta's platform shoes and then practice looking back down at them from your taller viewpoint. Or do Antique Beast and tell them you're too small now that Moitie dresses are getting bigger.

I don't think the gothics roll their eyes at someone claiming "gothic lolita" cachet simply because they don't own Moitie. It's mostly of shenanigans like if they start insisting AatP is a gothic brand or is trying to pass some frilly AP dress with hearts and bows and teaparty shoes off as "gothic".

[Anonymous No.10330707]

>Dress up really cute, new dress and all, to watch a play
>Wait for boyfriend to arrive home so we can have dinner and walk to the theatre
>He arrives at the hour the play is starting

Oh well, guess now I'm looking cute and I'm going to have a beer.

[Anonymous No.10330711]

>about to buy the materials I need to make some hidden-powerlevel cosplay clothes for daily wear
>suddenly realize that I'm way past the age where it's socially acceptable to dress like a middle school girl
I'll wonder how much longer I'm going still going to be fourteen at heart.

[Anonymous No.10330723]

>>10330711
Had a moment like that where I realized I haven't worn anything other than a button down white shirt or polo in years, but I still buy a t shirt when I go to cons

[Anonymous No.10330783]

>>10330707
Why didn’t you just...go by yourself instead of waiting for him until it was too late to go

[Anonymous No.10330789]

>On Monday (in 3 days) I'll find out if I need to have a craniotomy.
>So, naturally, I ordered $150-a-piece Shiseido conditioner and steam treatments out of 100% COPE.jpg.

Because of where it will be done (Lateral temporal lobe) they might be able to just shave a thin strip of hair from my ear to the middle of my hairline.

I finally looked pretty, anons. It finally happened and now this.

[Anonymous No.10330824]

>>10330783
probably loves spending time with him more than watching plays. makes sense to me.

[Anonymous No.10330825]

>>10330789
I bet you'll look great bald anon, you're more than just your hair

[Anonymous No.10330884]

A couple weeks ago I finally decided to try buying from taobao via SpreeNow for the first time rather than buying from a reseller for the sole purpose of buying the sweater from the Sibyl Heisei denim JSK release. I threw in some other things into my cart but I just wanted that sweater more than anything. Well, everything else from my order was purchased by them a while ago but I just got the notification that the sweater is sold out now. I'd blame it on CNY going on, but they bought everything else pretty quickly so...I don't know. Shit sucks man.

[Anonymous No.10330932]

>>10330684
Only very few gothic lolitas wore mostly moitie until about 2 years ago when it became a trend, you'll be fine.

[Anonymous No.10330936]

I lost my only lolita dress in a house fire. Sugary Carnival OP in pink with matching headbow. Feelsbadman

[Anonymous No.10331075]

>Decided to remove hairy legs, arms and body with a hair removal body
>Almost all my fingers are fucked up because I used hands.
>Some white powder spots doesn't go away when I wash.
What I am doing?
What should I do?

[Anonymous No.10331078]

>Decided to remove hairy legs, arms and body with a hair removal body
>Almost all my fingers are fucked up because I used hands.
>Some white powder spots doesn't go away when I wash.
What I am doing?
What should I do?

[Anonymous No.10331079]

>Decided to remove hairy legs, arms and body with a hair removal powder
>Almost all my fingers are fucked up because I used hands
>Some white powder spots doesn't go away when I wash
What I am doing?
What should I do? I need some help!

[Anonymous No.10331097]

>need to lose at least 10lbs in a con 2 weeks away

Its over brosisters, theres no hope left in me and I will be forever shamed on the most amazing event of the year for me.

[Anonymous No.10331099]

>>10331097
What's with the unnecessary drama of yours?
Just eat lesser trash food and do some excercise!
There's still hope!

[Anonymous No.10331100]

>>10331079
Did you read the instructions? Were you supposed to wear gloves? If it’s that bad you should visit a heath center. If it doesn’t hurt it should go away by itself naturally.

[Anonymous No.10331102]

>>10331097
>>10331099
This
Two weeks is a long time if you only need to lose 10 pounds for one event. Everyday will be hell but you can really do it if you /really/ wanted to. Exercising and only eating certain foods everyday. No junk food / fast food / processed foods. Don’t be a little bitch and just do it.

[Anonymous No.10331107]

Does anyone here have any experience with alcoholism? I have consumed 10 drinks per day for about 4 weeks, and i've heard that withdrawal from alcohol is the most dangerous withdrawal of any drug, is it possible that I will die from quitting cold turkey?

I have read that it takes much more than this to get seizures, and there is no history of epilepsy in my family so I think i'd be ok??

[Anonymous No.10331109]

>>10331102
Hey so how do you lose 2500 calories a day for 14 days? Can you explain?

[Anonymous No.10331114]

>>10331097
Water diet until then. I’m doing keto and water dieting and my waist is getting smaller every day

[Anonymous No.10331119]

>>10328147
I had the same thing happening to me 2 years ago (i also posted about it in the feels thread desu). It was dreamy planetarium jsk.
What happened is that i got disappointed by the print quality, it was my second AP dress, and the print was a bit blurry compared to the first. So yeah I was hyped as fuck and got disappointed.
I think i was depressed at the time aswell, i was thinking about kms everyday, lol. Now i feel fine, and getting more experienced in lolita made me stop being hyped like crazy for dresses, so I'm usually satisfied when i receive them.

[Anonymous No.10331172]

>>10331102
>>10331114
That sounds really hard but I think I will have to do my best.

I'm gonna meet my dear friends who live far away and the con itself and accom/travel will cost me more than a grand, so I guess I should just go full out so I dont have any regrets.

[Anonymous No.10331176]

>>10331107
I don’t have experience with alcoholism specifically, but I would recommend cutting down your daily intake by one or two drinks each day over the course of the next month or two. It’s also important to examine the reason you’re drinking so much and address it, doing so should lower your chance of relapse. There are lots of resources both on and offline for breaking alcohol addiction, so try googling around for things in your area as well.

[Anonymous No.10331193]

>>10331109
If you’re starting from a normal weight? You starve. It’s impossible to lose ten pounds in two weeks unless you’re retaining a shit ton of water. Obese people can lose that much in two weeks cuz they typically have super salty diets that cause water retention that adds to their weight, so when they eat healthy, this reducing that salt intake, they will quickly drop pounds as their body releases the water.
>>10331172
Definitely try your best Anon but don’t fret if you can’t lose all ten pounds. Unless you’re massive (either very tall or very fat), losing ten pounds in two weeks is practically physically impossible. Weight loss is a matter of simple thermodynamics, if you eat less than you do now then you’ll lose weight, but there are limits: A pound of fat is equivalent to 3500 calories, multiply this by ten pounds and you need to avoid consuming 35000 calories over the next 14 days. Anon. That is 2500 calories a day that you cannot consume. Two thousand five hundred calories every day for two weeks that you must burn. Unless you are already eating 3000 or more calories a day you will have to starve yourself for two weeks to reach that goal, and even then you may not make it if you’re sedentary and have a low BMR.
You should still try to lose weight, maybe you can make 2-5lbs go away if you keep a consistent and healthy deficit of 500cal/day, but I strongly advise against starving yourself for two weeks for the sake of a con. If you do that you won’t have any energy to have fun at the con anyway and it won’t have been worth it.

[Anonymous No.10331590]

do you ever think about some of the old dresses how some probably get thrown out or just cut up
like sometimes I wonder how many old velvet dresses are surviving the passing of time

sometimes I see people looking for really old dresses that I never see anywhere go up for sale or never seen anyone even wearing it and wonder if any even exist anymore

[Anonymous No.10332896]

I kinda want to cosplay Ishuzoku Reviewers but I'm afraid people might go overboard when making jokes.

[Anonymous No.10339290]

>>10328588
Well then, because no one ever bought an item on LM only to find out the color tone was off, it really wasn't a good fit, it didn't look right, it wasn't an impulse buy and so forth. Because that fucking never happens. What ideal perfect world are you in? JFC

[Anonymous No.10339295]

>>10329993
She ripped my petticoat Anon. I had to resew the damn thing. No stroke but she fucking ripped my clothes.