Feels thread

[Anonymous No.10386586]

Lockdown continuation edition

[Anonymous No.10386588]

Rufflechat is so ~politically correct~ it feels like really a lot of hassle to interact with people. How did lj comm survive all the way long? Were we just overly privileged bitches making some exclusive bubble comm?

[Anonymous No.10386591]

>>10386588
The issue is the medium. Forums require more investment and saying things like “search the archive first” to newbs was possible. Now every lolita at heart can participate with a like or quick comment and the most engagements (read: dumb newb questions and drama) get pushed to the top

[Anonymous No.10386592]

>>10386586
I miss milkyfawn =(

[Anonymous No.10386594]

>has lolita best friend since 2015ish
>we always would hang out and talk daily
>best of friends
>friend got too busy to hang out and kept forgetting to reply to messages but understandable around 2018
>less and less time together
>but still consider her my bff
>suddenly last year, replies were only once every one or two months
>kept checking in almost daily or weekly but no replies sometimes
>last full convo was in august
>ask friend how she is still almost biweekly but still no replies
>say happy holidays, her bday passes and no reply back
>all of the sudden in feb, her accounts seemed to have been deleted
>contact her through phone number and no reply
>gets worried and sent letters
>sadly lockdown happens and cant go to her house to see what is up
>time passes and I made a new insta for hobbies and general fashion
>sees her insta being suggested to me
>she's active, has a new bf suddenly that I never heard of
>realized that she has blocked me all over SM and my phone number
>sad
>contacted her over the weekend on new fb and insta accounts
>sees her active but no reply back to messages
>even more sadder

What makes it even worst to me is that we have told each other everything and anything and all of the sudden I am blocked all over the place. I want to say it might be influenced from her new current boyfriend but I can't say.

I do not know if to even continue trying to contact her but she was my first actual friend and thought we would be friends forever as silly as it sounds. I just want a friend.

[Anonymous No.10386608]

I decided to be cheap and pay €2 less for a cheaper shipping method than the recommended one. It has been three weeks and it hasn’t even left the country of origin yet. The worse part is yet to come, as I just checked the reviews for this method and besides the fact that it apparently takes over two months, the chance for it to get lost are really high. I wish I had just paid €2 more, I would have had it now. (According to the website of my Shopping Service it was only a week longer than the recommended one.)

[Anonymous No.10386612]

>>10386594
I had that happen to me and it’s hard. But you need to stop and move on. you have to understand that she doesn’t want to talk to you for whatever reason. Constantly contacting her will make her hate you and it will stop you from healing. Delete her number, unfollow her everywhere. Move on.

[Anonymous No.10386615]

>>10386594
Are you Autistic? If someone is not replying, they don’t want to talk to you. Continuing sending messages even after the other person stopped replying is really creepy, I would also block you if you kept sending me messages.

[Anonymous No.10386616]

The good: I'm down to a 68cm waist! I was 75/76 back in November, slowly but surely getting down to my goal measurements.

The bad: I'm really overspent the past 2 months on lolita and I feel really awful about it. It's easy to keep seeing things you want at good prices and just pressing 'buy' once or twice a week... but seeing how much it all is added up is sobering. I'm going to be better.

[Anonymous No.10386617]

>>10386586
There are no pink OTKs on lacemarket so I had to resort to taobao reseller because I'm too stupid to do anything else. Plus, I had many pairs of pint OTKs but I think I lost them in a move or something. Those things are expensive second hand still for dirty sole having ass stretched out pattern looking fall down your knee type shit.

[Anonymous No.10386621]

>>10386588
>How did lj comm survive all the way long

Spirit of the times, people were a lot edgier back then and there was a lot more you could get away with saying. Around 2012/2013 it was honestly like a fucking switch was flipped and suddenly getoffegl's rudest bitches were sworn guardians of political correctness.

[Anonymous No.10386622]

>>10386594
She sounds like a coward. She could at least have told you she doesn't want to be friends with you any more. A decent person would do that.

[Anonymous No.10386623]

>>10386622
It’s true. I’m >>10386612 and when it happened to me, I was pissed because it’s ridiculously immature. But continuing to contact her is also immature, especially when you know she’s a crap friend now. Just giving yourself a minute to cry about it, shit talk about her behavior to a couple of people and moving the fuck on is the best thing you can do

[Anonymous No.10386626]

>>10386594
This made me really sad anon. You deserve better.

[Anonymous No.10386627]

>>10386612
>>10386623
Thanks for the advice, I honestly wish she would have told me to fuck off or something instead of ghosting me while knowing our history together.

And I knew continuing to contact her is immature and kinda autistic like how >>10386615 put it but I was desperate to keep the friendship and wanted some closure but I guess I will never get it.

I will just go cry about it for a bit then pull myself back together after and try to make new friends in time.

Thanks anons.

[Anonymous No.10386637]

>>10386627
She doesn't deserve you.

[Anonymous No.10386641]

>>10386622
I've ghosted people, and it's because of being a coward. Usually something about them bothers me and I don't want to be friends anymore and also feel uncomfortable telling them.
However I've never had someone aggressively check in or ask why, I'd answer if they did that. It's more like slowly ignoring until they got the hint.

[Anonymous No.10386643]

>>10386621
The same thing happened with other rude bitch lj comms like stupid_free and sf_drama. The reason is that these people join social justice because it gives them a whole movement behind them to bully people and act like shit while at the same time feeling morally superior. Not because they actually care about social justice issues.

[Anonymous No.10386645]

>>10386627
Dont cry for her.
Block any memory and wipe her past from your head. Dont let any thought.
Dont block her tho. Always leave a door open

[Anonymous No.10386648]

>>10386641
Tell them anon. Whatever bad it is, ghosting it way worse. Please dont do.
Also try to explicitly tell people what you dont like on them. It is simple and avoids a lot of problems. Nobody will kill you or something.

[Anonymous No.10386649]

>>10386648
What if it hurts their feelings more?
If you don't tell them at least they can think you're just a shit or their boyfriend is influencing them.

[Anonymous No.10386650]

>>10386645
>Always leave a door open
That makes no sense. Don't open yourself up for manipulation by someone who didn't simply ghost but went through all the effort to block you.

[Anonymous No.10386651]

>>10386648
Your advice is really tactless, please stop.

[Anonymous No.10386657]

>>10386648
I’m >>10386623 and this is terrible advice. People often drift a part so for the average acquaintance or friend-ish person simply not contacting them is plenty and is way less rude than saying you don’t like them.

The difference between that and what the OP and I went through is that we were very close and talked regularly, and to expect that to go away without explanation is childish and immature. Sometimes you need to say something, but honestly a lot of times you don’t. There is nuance here. Regardless, OP needs to take the hint and stop reaching out for their own sake

[Anonymous No.10386658]

>>10386621
It wasn't even about being edgy, back then people were allowed to mind their own busines without taking this responsibility of strangers.

I run into this discussion on whether older members should protect younger lolitas from predators. Most of people were like totally yes, but there also was this post saying people should not treat people of bigger height/size as human shield. All of these sounded almost equally woke, so I kinda got stuck.

[Anonymous No.10386659]

>>10386658
I don’t want to sound rude, but can you rephrase that? It doesn’t make any sense.

[Anonymous No.10386662]

>>10386659
What part exactly?

[Anonymous No.10386676]

>>10386659
>I run into this discussion on whether older members should protect younger lolitas from predators. Most of people were like totally yes, but there also was this post saying people should not treat people of bigger height/size as human shield. All of these sounded almost equally woke, so I kinda got stuck.

Do you mean that people are saying that physically larger humans should protect lolitas from predators?

I hope not. That’s not “woke” it’s just weird

[Anonymous No.10386687]

>>10386586
>chipmunk mouth
>lunatic glare
Not cute but I feel it

[Anonymous No.10386689]

>>10386687
Jesus if there was ever a larger/crossboarder post

[Anonymous No.10386693]

>>10386616
Girl, I've hit "buy" almost every other day. I already have at least $1k sitting in Japan because of shipping suspensions. Last night I bought a pair of socks from CC, that I already have, just to feel something. Don't be ashamed.

[Anonymous No.10386695]

>>10386621
>>10386643
fucking this. that's when sf_drama and the other communities stopped being funny as well. Myself and a lot of others moved to smaller groups without the sjws, but it was never the same.

[Anonymous No.10386710]

>>10386658
I guess I messed up the human shield part. Some person said that taller people are sometimes expected to be a protection for those who's smaller in height or size. They described how they were getting home from a meetup at night and got approached by drank guy, so some lolita stepped behind them. That comment got some support, but not as much as "women should look out for women" ones tho.

[Anonymous No.10386711]

>>10386649
Believe me, it doesn't.
I myself would prefer this 1000x more than ghosting.
By ghosting you can risk make people suffer forever just like >>10386594, instead of one big punch.
At least this way you have a chance to make things right with that person. Some people change you know.
i've been ghosted before, and for something that could easily be fixed if said person didn't ghost me and told me what is wrong. Good people exist there, anon.

>>10386651
>>10386657
Believe me, it is not tactiless at all. That is the right thing to do.
By ghosting you let the person suffering, and not just that, you also prevent that person from evolving. It will happen to her again and again and she will have no idea why.
Just break the cicle. Have the guts to say to her what is wrong. Explain her what is wrong and if she wont change her behavior you will cut ties with her. Just dont be agressive at all. Be assertive, just like a conversation with your son. Also leave the door open for that person.

[Anonymous No.10386712]

>>10386621
>>10386643
>>10386695
i remember this too. wf was a huge perpetrator of this. she would chime in against other minorities about wa and kilts and everything else.

[Anonymous No.10386716]

>>10386657
>saying you don’t like them
You dont say you dont like them, but explicitly what in their behaviour you dont like in them

[Anonymous No.10386719]

>>10386710
As an ex-admin of a lolita comm, i say that one should look after another, but one has to learn how to walk with their own legs also

[Anonymous No.10386720]

>>10386695
I wish there was something moderately sjw, dealing with trads ain't fun either.
At another hand, does it really necessary to mix lolita and feminism together. I might take yes as answer if that's really needed tho, but idk what's common between fucking clothes and politics?

[Anonymous No.10386723]

>>10386720
i don't think it's necessary at all. tumblr young sjws just mix their politics with every fucking thing and they are the ones attracted to jfash.

[Anonymous No.10386724]

>>10386720
True.

[Anonymous No.10386729]

>>10386711
Not calling people to hang out isn’t traumatic for 90% of relationships. This happens with people I really *would* enjoy spending time with. How is it bad when I just don’t want to hang out with them. Again, if they are a close friend you should talk with them. But you really don’t owe that one person you hung out with a couple of times a long paragraph about how they aren’t vibing with you. You sound exhausting. Also lay off the enter bar.

[Anonymous No.10386739]

>>10386729
>Not calling people to hang out isn’t traumatic for 90% of relationships.

You sure about that? After all, you didn't talk to even 10% of the people you ghosted. How do you know?

Believe me: It sucks.

>How is it bad when I just don’t want to hang out with them

You have all the right to not hang out with anybody if you dont want to, but is not difficult to just say to said person: "Anon, i dont wanna hangout with you anymore because of [xxxx]"
Give the next one a chance, you will not regret.

[Anonymous No.10386745]

>>10386711
Whyd you get ghosted?

[Anonymous No.10386758]

>>10386739
lol you sound really clingy anon. also if you approach people like you're suggesting there's often drama.

[Anonymous No.10386787]

>>10386649
it might help them grow as a person?

[Anonymous No.10386788]

>>10386693
>Last night I bought a pair of socks from CC, that I already have, just to feel something. Don't be ashamed.
you should not be giving people advice

[Anonymous No.10386789]

>>10386788
Nayrt, but that is clearly not advice.

[Anonymous No.10386792]

>>10386617
Jesus I read this and it sounded like me lol. I am in the same boat anon, but Ive resorted to buying tights off amazon

[Anonymous No.10386891]

quarantine has made me withdraw from everyone in my life and my anxiety has been really unmanageable. having suicidal thoughts for the first time in a while and it just fucking sucks.

[Anonymous No.10386893]

>>10386891
Same Anon. I was doing really well for a couple of years and even at the start of this thing I thought I'd be OK. But it's wearing on me. All the anxiety I thought was gone was suddenly back.

I've been feeling better the last couple of days though so there is hope.

[Anonymous No.10386912]

>>10386891
It's kind of interesting to see how differently people react to this lockdown. I feel like I got my long awaited break from everything. My job, school, everything was stressing me out.
Now I'm kind of doing better in a wierd way. I'm still stressed and depressed, and scared as hell, but at least I don't have to listen to my boss yelling at me.

[Anonymous No.10386914]

>>10386912
Jelly. My job got harder, because now i have to answer phones, do curbside pick up and run packages from the back to the front of the store and vice versa. If I could give up the income for the next month I would with no hesitation.

[Anonymous No.10386915]

>>10386586
I remember when I was trying to take a dump when some bitch dressed as Snow White stood outside the stall and started reading Mystic Messenger aloud in a high pitched voice.

I miss cons.

[Anonymous No.10386938]

I wear fairy kei/retro fancy style and am scared of the notion that some small indie brands and artists won't be around after this virus passes. Kiki2 and all related stores closed because they couldn't pay employees and rent. A couple of my other favorite stores haven't posted updates in weeks

[Anonymous No.10386978]

>>10386914
The lockdown isn't fucking me up, it's my professors who CLEARLY never done anything online who are.


I can't even enjoy the break because I'm stuck in front of a computer 10 days doing school work because most of my professor think more paper assignments= valid online work

[Anonymous No.10387007]

I was really excited to get back into using watercolors with the free time I have in quarantine, so btssb's contest was the perfect platform for me to work something up.
well, I slaved over it, worked really hard and...it wasn't quite what I wanted, but hey, I worked hard, I'll post it.

no sooner do I post it, I click on the hashtag. everyone's art is so so much better than mine. they've got better concepts and cleaner art.

I deleted my tweet. I don't even want to look at the picture I drew. it looks so amateur. I'm so ashamed, I really hope no one saw it. I've been crying on-off all night, I'm really insecure about my artwork and this made me realise there's no point.

[Anonymous No.10387016]

>>10387007
I'm sure you've heard this a million times, but you're always your own worst critic.

[Anonymous No.10387035]

>>10387007
So what if you think it’s bad? You still spent the time to make something, which is more than what most people are doing in quarantine. With each new piece that you make, you learn something new, even if you don’t realize it right away. Post the picture again. Keep making art and keep posting even when you think they suck. Keep making things and a year or two down the road, you’ll be able to look back and see how you’ve improved

[Anonymous No.10387036]

>>10387007
why do you have to be better than everyone else? that seems like a stuck-up way to live.

[Anonymous No.10387037]

>>10387007
aw fuck, I wish I knew about this contest sooner. I would've drawn something. And I'm seconding >>10387016 but if anything, just keep working on your art and you will definitely get better

[Anonymous No.10387063]

Thinking of selling my sweet dresses. They’re mostly pastel pink and I feel like I’ve grown out of that, except I also feel like I would regret it since I already regret selling one of them... It’s not like I wear them anymore. I usually reach for my classic pieces more. Think I have a problem.

[Anonymous No.10387092]

>>10387036
wow way to be a cunt. anon wasn't upset other people had good art she was insecure that hers wasn't on the same level. have some tea and calm down.

[Anonymous No.10387102]

I'm 31 (tall and thin though) and I'm starting to lose my love for this fashion because of the stupid Itas and all the people who want to turn it into drag/clown/cosplay inspo/and whatever the fuck else people want to do in order to push the "limits" of this already out there fashion.

Oh well. I'm just butt hurt and hate fun I guess.

[Anonymous No.10387108]

My fucking package is 4+ months delayed
Like seriously?? You can't make it any less??

[Anonymous No.10387111]

>>10387108
there is a pandemic happening. maybe pull your head out of your ass

[Anonymous No.10387112]

>>10387102
>31 (tall and thin though)
is there a reason you felt the need to state that

[Anonymous No.10387116]

>>10387112
Honestly when I see people over 27 says they lose interest in the fashion are 5'2 300 lbs moms. Thought I would state that I (IMHO) still look nice in all my coords and that's the reason I'm feeling so bummed out about the state the fashion is in.

Why can't I be like Fanny Rose. She's so happy and lovely and is a lonelita and likes it.

[Anonymous No.10387129]

>>10387116
Why do you even give a fuck what other people do? If you love the fashion it should be because you love wearing it, not because of what other people do with it??? Maybe it's because I'm a lonelita and have always been (since 2003) but seriously? Wear what you want to wear because you like wearing the clothes?

[Anonymous No.10387153]

today I learned a (kind of semi famuos) lolita I admire is trans and I don't know how to feel about it

[Anonymous No.10387157]

>>10387116
Fanny complains about everything and doesn't seem happy at all. Don't compare with what people appear to be on social media, just do what you want and be happy.

[Anonymous No.10387161]

>>10386912
I feel the same and I'm terrified of going back to the office. I get all my work done in a matter of hours because I don't have to help anyone else with their pointless busy work. Going back to not feeling like my time is my own makes me want to fucking die.

[Anonymous No.10387162]

>>10387102
Can't you just do you and ignore the losers? Personally, it kind of gives me a sick sense of satisfaction to know that most people in this fashion look like shit and I look pretty alright.

[Anonymous No.10387163]

>>10387116
Fanny is miserable and not aspiring any more. Her coords arent so impressive now and as >>10387157 says she complains about everything and I think regrets a lot of her choices in life. A little bit sad.

[Anonymous No.10387170]

>>10387007
Practice makes perfect, anon.
Any job will look like shit in the 1st time, and the 2nd, and the 3rd...
But if you keep practicing you will get a point where you don't suck anymore.

[Anonymous No.10387191]

I ordered some socks from a seller in China 2 months ago through Lacemarket and they still haven't got here...is it safe to assume they are now gone forever?

[Anonymous No.10387192]

>>10386788
ok but I have literally spent like $500 on closetchild during this lock down.

[Anonymous No.10387206]

>>10386720
Same, I'd rather enjoy a community where everyone isn't walking on eggshells constantly but I don't care for edgelords either. Asking people that dress like this to act normal though seems like a tall order, the fashion attracts attention seekers.

[Anonymous No.10387240]

>>10387192
fucking same and it sucks theyre not shipping. but at least theyre willing to hold my stuff.

[Anonymous No.10387246]

>parcel marked "returned to sender" in the middle of April
>SS still has not received it
plus
>SS allows storage for up to 45 days
>had to ship some things today
>missed out the item that has 20 days left
I really hope my parcels don't all arrive at the same time and I get hit by customs.

[Anonymous No.10387269]

>>10387153
if she looks good/dresses well enough to warrant admiration who cares

[Anonymous No.10387293]

>>10387007
I am extremely self conscious about my art and I have started playing a game with other people’s art to show myself that it is mostly my issues. When I see something I like I have myself pretend I drew it. Instantly my eye goes to all the things wrong with it. If it’s true lay professional I might not find problems, but most people’s art has mistakes that would bother you if it were your own. It’s okay to make mistakes while learning. We all need to to improve

[Anonymous No.10387299]

>>10387153
who lol

[Anonymous No.10387301]

>>10387153
What does it matter unless you're getting in bed with her

[Anonymous No.10387308]

>>10387063
Same boat. Keep them until you get sick of having them, even if that’s 10 years

[Anonymous No.10387358]

>>10386643
>these people join social justice because it gives them a whole movement behind them to bully people and act like shit while at the same time feeling morally superior

This honestly just helped me have a personal revelation about a former friend and why they became an sjw. Back around 2013 I had a cosplay friend who was always a bit of a bully, but was just nice enough to keep people around. Then suddenly overnight she became a holier-than-thou sjw. She had anger issues and borderline personality disorder and she would use social justice issues as an excuse to fly off the handle and scream at strangers.

Over the next few years she did some really fucked up stuff and tried to use her personality disorder as an excuse to get away with it. Luckily everyone we were friends with in the cosplay scene had been getting sick of her shit too. We all had pretty big falling outs with her. She then showed up to the biggest con in our area hoping to make a big scene and either come off as an sjw hero or an uwu I’m a victim give me pity/attention. But everyone just ignored her the entire weekend and we haven’t seen her at another con since then, so I’m glad we didn’t sink to her level and engage her in any form.

[Anonymous No.10387371]

>>10387153
What kind of trans? Like mtf and passes really well, or "trans"ing into nonbinary or ftm with zero effort?

[Anonymous No.10387372]

>>10387358
Tumblr BPD attitudes really did a number on a lot of things. I won’t lie, I’m actually really invested in some IRL social justice causes, but internet SJW tumblrinas aren’t worth the time of day

[Anonymous No.10387374]

>>10387358
It's sad to lose friends but it's kind of nice you all mutually ousted her. Instead of them infiltrating the group and ruining it because nobody wants to say anything.

[Anonymous No.10387375]

>>10387007
There's always going to be someone better than you. But there are also always those who are worse than you. I'll bet there's at least one person who admires your art if you think about it.

I find that art prompts and "draw one thing a day" challenges are good for getting you back into the art groove. Last year I drew one piece a day for the month of October and it got me more interested in doing digital art after not having done it for several years.

[Anonymous No.10387379]

>>10387358
Wait same actually. I knew a girl who always bragged/joked that she was top bitch in elementary school and like got a bunch of people to stop talking to a girl for apparently a year. I knew her in high school and she used the "x is abusive/racist/whatever" to get everyone to drop some poor victim of hers every 6 months or so

[Anonymous No.10387626]

>>10387163
>Fanny is miserable and not aspiring any more.

Aww, how come?

[Anonymous No.10387650]

Im looking at this thread and im genuinely surprised. How do girls even find 4chan?
The only girl i've ever known to use 4chan was my sister and she hated it lol. How did you all discover this place [spoiler]and how do you tolerate it?[spoiler/]

[Anonymous No.10387663]

>finally stable enough financially to go to a convention in years
>figure out a cosplay to do and start doing research
>quarantine happens
>lose job

[Anonymous No.10387669]

>>10387650

>>be 16 in 2015?
>>be oppossed with Transformers and mecha porn.
>>internet leads me to find /m/
>> /m/ used to be clank clank red board for TFs and Gundams
>>anons ports >>refpost to something on /co/ about Transformer getting a live action movie whaaaaaaat?

I've been here ever since.
>>

[Anonymous No.10387671]

>>10387650
There’s no spoilers on this board and we found 4chan through the lolita and cosplay community... which this board is for. 4chan isn’t a super secret bunker

[Anonymous No.10387672]

>>10387650
Be batshit crazy

[Anonymous No.10387674]

>>10387650
lolcats > b > d > vg > cgl

[Anonymous No.10387676]

>>10387650
magic and also the fact that the internet isn't a secret club

[Anonymous No.10387677]

>>10387650
Fuck off retard

[Anonymous No.10387682]

>>10387671
Yeah of course 4chan isn't super secret, but it's got a heavy filter to it that makes many normies find it disgusting/repulsive, confusing and hard to navigate or enjoy. Not as many girls are """cultured""" enough in terrible internet tomfoolery to enjoy 4chan.

That's why I was surprised is all. The fashion is cute btw and dare I say attractive and more girls should do it

[Anonymous No.10387688]

>>10387157
What does she complain about? And where, on her insta?

[Anonymous No.10387691]

>>10387650
>how the girls even find 4chan
The same way you scrotes do. Women don't live in another dimension you know. However I would never go beyond this board because 4chan fucking sucks.

[Anonymous No.10387694]

>>10387691
"4chan fucking sucks" you're missing out.

[Anonymous No.10387696]

>>10387650
i love how a new retarded scrote posts about how surprised he is girls use the internet to this board once a week

[Anonymous No.10387697]

>>10387682
holy shit you fucking cringelord shut up you sound like a fucking white knight. I bet you owned a fucking fedora

[Anonymous No.10387698]

>>10387682
don't dare to say it, we're all lesbians and nobody cares

[Anonymous No.10387699]

>>10387682
Jesus fucking christ you are embarrassing. At least you have your secret 4chins to take care of you at night.

[Anonymous No.10387700]

>>10387694
Ah yeah, if there are more of you then I really gotta get off board and become “””cultured”””

[Anonymous No.10387710]

>>10387698
>>10387699
>>10387700

[Anonymous No.10387712]

>>10387694
Even if I was retared enough to venture beyond this board, it's clear my kind aren't welcome there so no thanks.

[Anonymous No.10387713]

>>10387710
samefag, but you're probably going to save your edgy gifs for what ever board you came from.

[Anonymous No.10387715]

>>10387682
no one gives a fuck what you think is attractive

[Anonymous No.10387761]

>>10387712
>>>/wsr/ is a reasonable board. Makes me feel good when I can actually help people.

[Anonymous No.10387781]

>>10387102
Listen here you old fuck, you should quit. You obviously care more about what other (younger) lolitas are doing. You have no passion left for your own lolita. Graduate.

[Anonymous No.10387782]

Has anyone here worn anything revealing or sexually teasing as a costume to a convention?
Anything to look out for, or should know before doing this?

[Anonymous No.10387788]

>>10387782
Are you autistic

[Anonymous No.10387792]

>>10387788
Its a fairly straight forward question, anon.

[Anonymous No.10387796]

>>10387782
My question is, what does your question have to do with Alphinaud, Alisaie and Krile?

[Anonymous No.10387807]

>>10386586
Why does every OnlyFans thot have a "daddy" who looks like his name should be Cletus?

[Anonymous No.10387808]

>>10387807
I dont much get it either, I want to be an onlyfans thot but only with another cute boy

[Anonymous No.10387820]

I had three dresses that arrived a few weeks before shit hit the fan in my country. I got really busy and felt kinda down about lolita cause I was gaining weight so I put them away and didn’t try them on. Now I’m home all the time I exercise every day and eat better, and just tried on two of those dresses and I love them. They fit fine and look beautiful and it has really cheered me up. I’m saving trying on the third dress for when staying home is driving me really crazy now.

[Anonymous No.10387828]

>>10387820
this is the inspo i needed right now, good for you anon!

[Anonymous No.10387833]

>>10387807
because only sad ugly dudes with no self-resect date an ethot.

[Anonymous No.10387839]

>get rid of toxic male in my life that only wanted me as a sex object with none of my feelings or an actual relationship
>he had kept flirting around with the idea of me being his girlfriend and for a while I essentially was and that's why I stayed so long
>mom gets diagnosed with stage 4 cancer
>grandma gets diagnosed with stage 2 cancer
>really missing toxic male because it'd be nice to have someone to talk to that would feign interest even if it was only for nudes
>trying to convince myself I don't need anyone and I'm fine
>dad tests positive for COVID-19 and I can't work because I work at a restaurant
Life is literally always giving me such a big FU and I want to be positive for everybody but it's so hard and I don't know how to keep my head up right now
I've been debating trying to add him back because I'm kinda pathetic and just need somebody to be able to cry to

[Anonymous No.10387840]

>>10387839
Please don’t go back to that person. Do you have any friends or a blog you can use to vent your feelings?

[Anonymous No.10387843]

>>10387840
98% of my friends are online because it's hard for me to socialize in person due to previous experiences. I've been talking to them about my dad and some people know about my mom. Convinced now more than ever I need a therapist because I keep a lot of stuff in and it keeps building up. I try to drown it in video games and funny videos but that only lasts for so long

[Anonymous No.10387845]

I'm so irritated
>friends with boyfriends friends
>one of them gets a gf
>I guess they thought we could be besties because now I'm being dragged to all these double dates
>I just ignore her and vice versa, she makes no attempt to talk to us
>tell bf I dont care about her and he calls me mean
I have had like 2 friends since childhood and his friends and I'm comfortable with that. I dont know if I'm autistic or what but I genuinely have no interest in socializing with anyone else. I'll be friendly but for some reason I dont like her.

[Anonymous No.10387857]

>>10387839
apply for unemployment and get some help anon, therapists are doing online sessions.

[Anonymous No.10387860]

>>10386586
I have trouble deciding on what clothes to buy, its like I want to try out several different styles but I don't know if i'll wear it more than once. I really wish I could try on lolita clothes anywhere but of course that's not possible. Sometimes I draw in my sketchbook what I think I'd look like in things as a compromise.

[Anonymous No.10387874]

>>10387845
It's pretty shitty of them to just assume you'll be friends.

[Anonymous No.10387920]

>>10387874
thanks for validating my irritation lmfao

[Anonymous No.10387921]

>>10387191
No, but it is safe to assume that there's a global pandemic happening and your socks are a pretty low priority for postal workers.

[Anonymous No.10387922]

Anyone else kinda weirdly content but disgusted at themselves at the moment? Being stuck inside most of the time by myself I've just kinda given up on taking care of myself that much, hardly dressing, not shaving, awful hair... But at the same time it's weirdly liberating.

[Anonymous No.10387946]

>>10387191 dude chill

[Anonymous No.10387947]

>>10387688
Usually it’s either about her social media engagement or how difficult it is to have randos messaging her that she’s pretty. Or whining about how she’s poor when she only does par time freelance work

[Anonymous No.10387948]

>>10387153
Is it Connie? LUL I’m a boy with no bewbs now but I still only wear dresses and wigs here is a 5 minutes video of me mouth breathing and tilting my head and 10 pictures but I’m so ugly and awkward and hate how I look boohoo

[Anonymous No.10387950]

>>10387922
take care of yourself, you're on the road to depression. I know its hard when you have no one to go out and meet and so no real motivation to look nice, but it will help you in the long run to feel better about yourself if you keep up your hygiene.

[Anonymous No.10387988]

>>10387820
Bless you. I’ve been depressed lately but I should try working out and dressing up more. I have no excuse... I am literally a personal trainer and am making workouts I can just cop for myself. I’m going to work out before I logon today and maybe put on a comfy coord. Thanks.

[Anonymous No.10387994]

>>10387782
Yes, a few times. It was okay, no issues regarding it being sexually teasing itself.
I got harassed once (by a unrelated reason).
The person thought it would be fun to slap me on the neck due to a joke from the anime. Fucking teenagers.
But overall had a great time.

[Anonymous No.10387995]

I’ve been fine during most of this lock down but within the last week I’ve started getting depressed. Not even sure why, nothing has changed from previous weeks.

[Anonymous No.10387997]

>>10387845
Are you me? I hate when people force me to be friends with others when I have a small amount of people I'm truly interested. Don't worry, your feelings are valid

Just make it clear to your bf that the other girl clearly doesn't give a shit either so why should you?

[Anonymous No.10388004]

>>10387995
I feel this. I can't focus anymore, not sure if I'm getting depressed or it's undiagnosed ADHD I managed to suppress until now.

[Anonymous No.10388007]

>>10388004
Could be both. My adhd gets horrific when I am depressed but I can skate by under the radar when my emotions are in check

[Anonymous No.10388008]

Meta coming through with their stellar customer service.
I sent an email after the GW Special Set Sold Out over night to see if more would be in stock.
Lo and behold, they email me this morning with a reserved listing for me.
Now I have way too much in the mail but who cares, it's all burando.

[Anonymous No.10388014]

>>10388008
Meta is the best brand and I will fight people on that

[Anonymous No.10388019]

>>10387995

Same anon. I'm essential so I still have to go to work but on the weekends i can't even unwind properly.

[Anonymous No.10388026]

I've been so thirsty to get lolita shit that I've been buying off of taobao. This is a new low.

[Anonymous No.10388029]

>>10388026
Let me know if it ever arrives. I’m between buying shoes off amazon or finally trying some taobao blouses. I am a broken women.

Someone tell me if CD Japan is shipping so I can try MAM instead

[Anonymous No.10388030]

>>10388014
AYRT
Same. It gets bullied for the meme on this site but I honestly love it to pieces.

[Anonymous No.10388037]

>>10388029

CDJapan is shipping right now. For some reason they didn't let me choose DHL at checkout this time like usual so I picked EMS, but when I emailed them and requested it be shipped with DHL they refunded me the difference (a little over 800 yen, apparently the DHL shipping was cheaper? I only ordered one JSK though)

So if DHL ships to your country and you're not on the completely banned countries list you should be good to order from them.

[Anonymous No.10388038]

>>10388030
What can I say? I like solids and their basics line is a direct shot into my taste. Plus they are the easiest to order from and have the best customer service I’ve experienced.

[Anonymous No.10388039]

>>10388037
Thanks. I am American do DHL is fine. I think I’ll pick up something then. I’ve been meaning to try them for years

[Anonymous No.10388043]

I wish when Japan Post's suspension to the US was announced, our packages were just returned to sender.

I'm worried my EMS package that's been sitting around since the first week of April is literally going to mildew. It's just clothes, but I don't know what kind of conditions it's being kept/stored in while in the post offices. I rather it get lost so I can claim my money, than recieve moldy brand.

[Anonymous No.10388044]

>>10388043
I emailed wunderwelt about the exact same problem and this was their reply. I’m not in love with what’s happening but it does help to have a confirmation of what’s going on

[Anonymous No.10388049]

>>10388044
I had heard that CC, WW, etc can't get the packages back, which really sucks. According to my tracking, basically all my packages are sitting in the same post office they were collected in. Nothing has any movement. All I can do is hope they are being stored in dry conditions and my box isn't next to a package with expiring food.

RIP my Milky Planet and Vanilla-Chan JSK. I think I need to just forgot about them so the pain becomes less real.

[Anonymous No.10388058]

>>10388049
Oof. All I have ordered are purses and one hat so it hurts less. There is always thorough dry cleaning I guess

[Anonymous No.10388087]

>>10387674
shit taste desu

[Anonymous No.10388105]

>>10387997
yesssssssss i love you anon. im so glad another girl feels this way
I did. i told him she doesn't talk to us only her boyfriend when we go out and doesn't seem to care about us and he agreed.
it pisses me off too when he says the things she does for her boyfriend are adorable and he never says that about the 100000000 things i do for him. not to be a bitter cunt or egomaniac but i try really hard to be the best gf and do as much as i can for him and he never gives me that validation.

[Anonymous No.10388108]

>>10387922
My sleep schedule has gone to complete shit and I am close to being kicked out of uni if the don't bang it out for the retake period since i haven't been bothered to study once.

[Anonymous No.10388128]

I love that lacy white Edwardian style blouses are trendy in mainstream fashion right now but all the ones I like are as expensive as new burando. I guess I’ll be patient and pray to the thriftstore gods for good deals in the future.

[Anonymous No.10388135]

>>10388128
One of my normie friends texted me when F21 did a run of knockoff gunne style blouses a few years ago and I ran out and bought a bunch. They are perfect for casual days. Hopefully it will trickle down to cheaper stores and we will both get a shot soon

[Anonymous No.10388142]

>>10388105
Have you tried asking him to stop comparing you to his friend’s girlfriend?
Communication goes a long way in relationships and if he gets mad at you for explaining that you and his friend’s girlfriend have no chemistry... just say you don’t want to go on double dates anymore, I guess. Him and his friend can hang out by themselves. No need to tote you two along.

[Anonymous No.10388151]

>>10387372
>I’m actually really invested in some IRL social justice causes

Me too, I’m just glad I know how to be a normal person about it

>>10387374
Yeah and honestly that experience actually brought all of us a lot closer together and now those people are my best friends. There isn’t a day that goes by where I’m not grateful to have them in my life as cheesy as that may sound haha

>>10387379
>she used the "x is abusive/racist/whatever" to get everyone to drop some poor victim of hers every 6 months or so

That is exactly what my former friend would do too! Every time she was about to get exposed, she would try to flip on the victim.

At a certain point I started to gain some confidence to stand up to her. I didn’t even have the confidence to stand up for myself when she was being abusive, but I couldn’t keep watching her do this stuff to other people, so I started calling her out on her actions. The second I did that for the first time I swear I could see a switch flip in her. She was agreeing with everything I said, but her facial expression changed, her voice changed, and the way she normally spoke changed. She didn’t outwardly show anger, but I could see it in her eyes that I was dead to her from that moment on. Within a few months, she had spread a bunch of nasty rumors about me and literally went to every mutual friend of ours to try and convince them that they shouldn’t be friends with me. I’m just grateful that all my cosplay friends knew me well enough to find this shit suspicious and gave me the benefit of the doubt.

[Anonymous No.10388153]

>>10387782
Wear it at home several times beforehand and walk around, climb stairs, sit down, etc. This will give you an idea of any potential wardrobe malfunctions. Other than that you’ll probably be fine, especially if you’re with at least one other person

[Anonymous No.10388154]

>>10388151
>At a certain point I started to gain some confidence to stand up to her. I didn’t even have the confidence to stand up for myself when she was being abusive, but I couldn’t keep watching her do this stuff to other people, so I started calling her out on her actions. The second I did that for the first time I swear I could see a switch flip in her. She was agreeing with everything I said, but her facial expression changed, her voice changed, and the way she normally spoke changed. She didn’t outwardly show anger, but I could see it in her eyes that I was dead to her from that moment on. Within a few months, she had spread a bunch of nasty rumors about me and literally went to every mutual friend of ours to try and convince them that they shouldn’t be friends with me. I’m just grateful that all my cosplay friends knew me well enough to find this shit suspicious and gave me the benefit of the doubt.

There’s some very cult-y behavior in fandom and post-fandom spaces that uses vague social justice terms to mask their abusive tendencies. What you just described is exactly how it works. Often the things they complain about are moving goal posts that don’t make a hell of a lot of sense and don’t apply outside of fandom areas. The goal isn’t to make any real positive progress IRL but to use “social justice” as an excuse for bullying, harassment and anti social behaviors that get them online clout. You are really lucky you dropped her because that culture is a mindfuck

[Anonymous No.10388163]

>>10388154
Yep and the moving goal posts are just a shit test to make sure people are keeping up with the cult. Like the ever-changing LGBTQIA2P acronyms and other politically correct language that changes monthly.

[Anonymous No.10388176]

>>10388142
I will the next time he brings it up. I turn into a huge pussy when it comes to confrontation because bad childhood ofcourse. I dont know why he would even do it in the first place? I'm already struggling to be feminine and dainty bc natural tomboy and her being all 4"9 kneesocks and skirts uwu doesnt help

[Anonymous No.10388186]

>>10387839
>get rid of toxic male in my life that only wanted me as a sex object with none of my feelings or an actual relationship

Isn't sex a good thing though, as well as emotional and romantic? I don't see how being a "sex object" is a bad thing or how it can mean he doesn't have feelings or care about yours. Are you asexual?

[Anonymous No.10388207]

>>10388186
Shut up scrote, the adults are talking.

[Anonymous No.10388212]

>>10388186
>Isn't sex a good thing
Guess how I know you have a penis.

[Anonymous No.10388216]

Before I started coming to /cgl I was an uwu nice person and almost sjw-y but now I'm just so jaded and bitter. The very existence of itas and attention-seekers annoy me to high hell and now I'm just a judgy bitch.
What happened to that sweet girl I was two years ago who wanted to be kind and gave everyone the benefit of the doubt?

[Anonymous No.10388217]

>>10388212
Is sex not a good thing to women though?

[Anonymous No.10388224]

>>10388176
I understand wanting to change some for your partner, it's natural to make sure you look your best for the person you care for. And you should put in the effort to do so.

But if you're struggling to be a different person for this guy and he's attracted to an opposite personality, is it worth it?

[Anonymous No.10388233]

>>10388224
he really loves me and i understand where he's coming from. i had my femininity repressed as a child and i do want to wear skirts and kneesocks. even though im 5"3 and skinny i still feel like a disgusting brute.
i appreciate your insight though and for replying to me. this is therapeutic in a way
i dont think hes attracted to her either. he seems disgusted and goes "thats my bros gf!" he's probably just a dumbass when it comes to ~fragile women~

[Anonymous No.10388236]

>>10388217
Is being treated like a living fleshlight with no sense of humanity not a good thing?

[Anonymous No.10388237]

>>10388216
thank fuck you wised up and stopped being naive.

[Anonymous No.10388246]

>>10388217
If men as a whole would actually get us off we would probably hate the entire male sex just a bit less.

[Anonymous No.10388263]

>>10388049
I mean Japan is one of the most organised and safe countries so it could be worse, your packages are in relatively good hands

[Anonymous No.10388268]

>mfw a girl in my comm starts talking about r/femaledatingstrategy and spouting their incel/TERF rhetoric after going crazy in quarantine

[Anonymous No.10388271]

>>10388268
Trannies are insufferable so good for her

[Anonymous No.10388272]

>>10388271
You will kill yourself in 5 years and free your family from the burden, and I will rest easy. Tick tock.

[Anonymous No.10388273]

>>10388263
You're right and this is the only thing that gives me hope. I respect Japan Post a lot and they know they'll be out some serious money if they lose or damage all these packages. Fingers crossed.

[Anonymous No.10388277]

>>10388272
Raise that 41% statistic up to 100% bro

[Anonymous No.10388278]

>>10387948
you're a bit nasty and jealous aren't you

[Anonymous No.10388279]

>>10388268
Good for her

[Anonymous No.10388283]

>>10388279
Kill yourself. Do it.

[Anonymous No.10388285]

>>10388283
You are statistically more likely to commit suicide than the rest of the population.

[Anonymous No.10388286]

>>10388283
"People who don't agree with me should kill themselves"
Very normal very cool

[Anonymous No.10388287]

>>10387007
this broke my heart, anon. I really want to support you- do you have a instagram? Don't worry about it, anon. I think you should put your artwork back up. And you can always make more art

[Anonymous No.10388289]

>>10388285
>y-you're a tranny if you disagree with me!
Low IQ, too. Just do yourself a favor and kill yourself. It never began for you.

>>10388286
Yes, they should. There's too many worthless people clogging up the world for me.

[Anonymous No.10388290]

>>10386586
I will ruin this thread by male posting and there is nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous No.10388299]

>>10388289
It's definitely a safe assumption bro, and only you men are this unhinged lol

[Anonymous No.10388300]

>>10388268
ewww i hope one of you guys can talk some sense into her

[Anonymous No.10388303]

>>10388268
Uh, good?? There's nothing wrong with believing men should actually have to invest a proper amount of effort before receiving sex.

[Anonymous No.10388304]

>>10388303
>Uh, good??
Kill yourself.

[Anonymous No.10388305]

>>10388304
You first troon

[Anonymous No.10388308]

>>10388186
The only real time he would acknowledge me was while I was doing sexual things.
Outside of sex, I was annoying and "clingy". It was manipulative and borderline abuse.
There's nothing wrong with sex or anything but that's all he used me for.
I'm not about to argue about the purpose and impact sex has on a relationship so maybe next time you should consider accepting that someone has labeled someone else as toxic for a reason and stop being such an idiot.

[Anonymous No.10388309]

>>10388303
There's a healthy way to go about it.

[Anonymous No.10388310]

>>10388289
We know you're a tranny because you're losing your mind and threatening death at people disagreeing with you.

[Anonymous No.10388313]

>>10388308
Does sex have any purpose on a relationship?

[Anonymous No.10388318]

>>10388309
Yeah, it's called making XYs work for it like the rest of the damn animal kingdom

[Anonymous No.10388320]

>>10388318
Suit yourself, then. Die alone.

[Anonymous No.10388323]

You people's sperging at each other has been working wonders for my confidence

[Anonymous No.10388327]

>>10388323
Same. I can absolutely say that I'm a better person than 99% of this board.

[Anonymous No.10388340]

>>10388320
I already made my Nigel work for it so I'm good bro

[Anonymous No.10388346]

>>10388318
>the rest of the damn animal kingdom
that's not how that works, anon.

[Anonymous No.10388363]

>>10388346
Male animals/insects dance like retards, bribe with food or pretty stones, risk getting eaten by female animals/insects or fight other males for the chance to procreate. It's exactly how it works anon. It would certainly be entertaining for me to watch men fight to the death for pussy.

[Anonymous No.10388364]

>>10388363
It's a good thing I'm gay. Christ, imagine putting up with a meme gender that thinks like this.

[Anonymous No.10388366]

>>10388153
>>10387994
Thats good to know, I'm typically pretty shy but this year I'm being a lot more open and experimental with a costume of mine, and I hope people like it. Thank you

[Anonymous No.10388372]

> still have to go to work at a rough job
> money is okay but no hazard pay
> can't hang out with lolitas and people my age
> boyfriend lives in a different state
> phone broke completely and hard to get another one
> can't park in my own apartment complex due to dmv being closed and unable to register car have to park in the street a mile away

it's a rough thursday my friends

[Anonymous No.10388373]

>>10388186
god you are literally retarded

[Anonymous No.10388374]

>>10387650
started in /b/, saw a lot of.....questionable things, got into egl, now mostly browse here

[Anonymous No.10388375]

>>10387682
you sound conceited.
Go get a gf or bf to give you the attention you seek and go study to become a better person.

[Anonymous No.10388376]

I wish I could wear all these outfits and costumes day to day, normal fashion is so boring how everyone follows the same trends and we can't have our own unique outfits without being judged or looked at strangely.

[Anonymous No.10388383]

>>10388373
I go to Caltech so I'm smarter than everyone on this board, especially women

[Anonymous No.10388384]

>>10388383

Care to share some proof?

[Anonymous No.10388385]

>>10388383
That's nice, but I'll have you know that I watch Rick and Morty and find it hilarious. Checkmate atheist.

[Anonymous No.10388386]

>>10388384
No

[Anonymous No.10388387]

>>10388383
>I go to Caltech
so you're a kid.

[Anonymous No.10388389]

Jfc stop responding to the incel

[Anonymous No.10388395]

>>10388387
Yes, I'm 20, AKA the peak age for a male. Men are worthless after 25+. Neuroplasticity drops to zilch, all important components of fluid intelligence drop significantly, hairlines recede, weaker erections, wrinkles and cataracts develop, Etc.

Any man who posts on an imageboard past the age of 25 is a fucking loser who should off themselves.

[Anonymous No.10388398]

>>10388389
i'm 6'3"ish
i couldn't be an incel even if I tried, but I haven't had sex for months thanks to the quarantine

[Anonymous No.10388410]

Thirty years later he could not come to any other conclusion: women were indisputably better than men. They were gentler, more affectionate, more loving and more compassionate, they were rarely violent, selfish, cruel or self-centred. Moreover, they were more rational, more intelligent and more hardworking.
What on earth were men for? Michael wondered as he watched sunlight play across the closed curtains. In earlier times, when bears were more common, perhaps masculinity served a particular function, but for centuries now, men served no useful purpose. For the most part, they assuaged their boredom playing squash, which was a lesser evil; but from time to time they felt the need to change history - which expressed itself in leading a revolution or starting a war somewhere. Aside from the senseless suffering they caused, revolutions and war destroyed the achievements of the past, forcing societies to build again. Without the notion of continuous progress, human evolution took random, irregular and violent turns for which men (with their predilection for risk and danger, their repulsive egotism, their volatile nature and their violent tendencies) were directly to blame. A society of women would be immeasurably superior, tracing a slow, unwavering progression, with no U-turns and no chaotic insecurity, towards a general happiness.

[Anonymous No.10388412]

every dumbass american lolita posing with pink flowering trees calling them kawaii sakura trees desu needs to be kicked in the arse. they are pink dogwood and you just look stupid.

[Anonymous No.10388419]

>>10388412
this. we have some sakura trees but most of them are apple trees, pear trees, dogwood all sort of things.

[Anonymous No.10388420]

>>10388383
>>10388395
>>10388398
>I'm tall, young, AND smart
Wow. Panties are getting absolutely soaked. Get some fucking modesty and stop be a chad on a EGL post.

[Anonymous No.10388421]

>>10388412
>>10388419
they can still be kawaii trees

[Anonymous No.10388424]

>>10388420
i didn't give you permission to reply to me

[Anonymous No.10388426]

>>10388424
Good thing I don't need it.