/CGL/ Feels Thread

[Anonymous No.7619770]

Old thread just hit sage.

Continue to feel.

[Anonymous No.7619811]

The dog JUST chewed up the only pair of sandals I have that go well with jfash. I didn't want this dumbass dog in the first place, I hate dogs for this exact reason among them being disgusting, but half of the household pushed getting a puppy so we did. I still had to clean up the shit and puke despite letting it be known I didn't ask for this and adamantly being against getting a freaking dog, I can't lay my fabrics and patterns for cosplay on the floor anymore without dog hair getting all over it, can't leave anything laying around below 4 feet off the ground, and have to always keep my room door closed now or else she'll come in and chew up everything.

She's not mean at all, just a big dumb lab, and I don't want to see her get hit by a car or anything...
But why would anyone want one of these fuckin animals.

[Anonymous No.7619836]

>>7619811
Invest in a dog gate for a hallway of your house to keep the dog locked off from access.

[Anonymous No.7619847]

>>7619811
Seriously, what >>7619836 said.

We got two dogs in the last 6 months, and we just bought baby gates to keep them in the main living areas. They aren't allowed in any bedrooms or bathrooms, or in the laundry room, or in the hallway where my sisters' and my rooms are.

I love them when they're not being shitheads, though, you have to take the bad with the good. We have a lab mix and a total mutt, but they're the sweetest things, despite being a little too energetic since they're both still rather young.

They make gates with doors, so you can just open and close it as you go instead of going over it, just get one tall enough so that she won't be able to jump over it when she gets bigger.

[Anonymous No.7619870]

>>7619836
>>7619847
We had a gate when she was little, and today I suppose she's still a puppy (1 yr old) but is most likely full-grown and is pretty huge. We keep her in the garage when no one's home, but it doesn't seem fair to keep her blocked off with the gates this late in. I mean I guess with all dogs sacrifices have to be made in order to teach them what not to do, and my sandals were one of them. Just one slip-up of leaving my poor little shoes on a chair...

I never liked dogs and she is really frustrating, I just hope in another year she's mellowed out more. My cats may steal my faux fur and would love to get a hold of my wigs but I still prefer them far more. Plus they smell so good.

[Anonymous No.7619888]

>Have the money to buy Hoozuki's kimono from Ebay.
>I'll use it for photos and giggles, no for masquerades/contest so it should be fine.
>Wondering if is way cheaper or faster to make the kimono on my own.

[Anonymous No.7619897]

>Always really enthusiastic to cosplay from series with costumes that are a bit more on the complex side
>Simple Armor, Detailed Clothes, Prop Weapons nothing super hard and extravagant
>Work your ass off learning new ways to make these costumes and props
>Try to convince friends to cosplay with you
>Friends who have the skills to do the costumes don't care about the series
>Friends who kind of care about the series have no costuming experience
>The majority of them aren't talented enough, too lazy to learn, and above all just don't give a fuck.
>End up never cosplaying from series and finishing because foreveralone

Feels bad man.

[Anonymous No.7619923]

>>7619870
>cats smell so good

I'm glad I'm not the only wierdo who thinks this.

I love to cuddle with my cats, because I love the cat smell. Dog smell makes me gag. I hate when my dogs get near my clothes, and then I wear it and smell it on myself all day.

[Anonymous No.7619935]

>Ordered wig weeks ago
>Wig hasn't come in yet tomorrow is last estimated delivery day
>Worried about having to get a refund and no wig
>con is in two weeks
>wig probably won't come in time
>wig/cosplay was a group thing
>tfw letting your group down

[Anonymous No.7619943]

>>7619923
Fuck I'm like this too but the opposite
I love dogs but if I'm around a cat my nose just swells up shut in pic related disgust I'm not allergic to cats I just can't stand the smell

And I actually like cats but man I'm afraid of them clawing at me

[Anonymous No.7619981]

>tfw I wake up to a knock on the door
>got my commissioned cosplay in the mail
>everything was far better than I could of expected, lining is tops, material looks even better in person
>comfy as heck
>wear cosplay all morning
>only one person has done this cosplay before and it was closet cosplay shit

Imma look good and feel comfy comf

[Anonymous No.7619987]

>>7619935
I felt the same way anon, I was worried! but I just got my stuff today at the same time! don't worry about it!
you sound like my cosplay partner.
it'll come on time,

don't worry about letting your group down, if they are like me, they're probably just really happy to have you there!

[Anonymous No.7620003]

>>7619935
I'd just go and buy one from a stand the day of if you're desperate

[Anonymous No.7620017]

why can't I get a gf?

I am an MRA from /a/ and I think women should be obliged to have sex with us

women are all 3DPD sluts

[Anonymous No.7620022]

Why can't I get a 3DPD trap boyfriend?

[Anonymous No.7620023]

Sort of unrelated, but it's seriously harshing my petti vibe

>very sensitive tummy area
>too much activity or pressure causes me to have horrible gas and runs
>pettis bother my tummy
>high waist skirts bother my tummy
>certain foods bother my tummy
>everything bother my tummy
>have to carry around pepto and midol everywhere just in case
>still can't into petti

Not to mention I have to go have my heart checked out soon, and my breast has been hurting a lot lately so I should get that looked at too.

I'm fucking 20 years old, what is this shit.

[Anonymous No.7620026]

>>7620023
>midol

I meant immodium.

But it seriously blows, and my doctors won't even look at me for it.

"Oh anon you must be lactose intolerant, that's all."

Even though I can ear ice cream but not some pizzas, and I can drink chocolate milk, but pasta destroys my insides?

Totally lactose.

[Anonymous No.7620030]

>>7619987
Ty anon this means a lot... ;_;
I hope you have tons of fun with your group!

>>7620003
I hadn't thought of that! but man I'd feel like I'm letting them down when they see me unprepared getting the wig at the con sobs I hope everything goes well ty too anon

[Anonymous No.7620032]

>>7620022
Because you're a slut.

[Anonymous No.7620035]

>>7620026
Not to jump on the bandwagon, but...
>sensitive to pizza and pasta
>not sensitive to dairy

Have you considered that this might be a gluten issue?

[Anonymous No.7620041]

>>7620022
Holy shit is that mika?

[Anonymous No.7620043]

>>7620035
It's not, I eat other gluteny foods just fine. Bake my own breads a lot.

And it's only *some* pizza. Not even any specific like shitty pizza, sometimes its shitty, sometimes it's high-end. Usually it's just things with tomato sauce, but only some of them, so it must be something specific that some people put in that others don't, which I haven't been able to figure out.

Other types of food also bother me, I can never tell until I take a bite. Once I have that one bite, I can tell right away. If it's going to cause issues, it causes issues IMMEDIATELY after it hits my stomach.

For example, frozen yogurt from Rita's is a no-no, but other frozen yogurts I can eat fine.

[Anonymous No.7620050]

>>7619943
Really depends on the cats temperament. My cat was great about not scratching. She just didn't like her stomach petted. I could even get her to let me clip her nails.

Had dogs and cats. I had the same issue like the other anon, my parents didn't train the dogs well enough and didn't let them out enough, constantly had to be on guard or stuff got ruined. Also had cat problems, six cats, only two litter boxes and they didn't clean them daily. Once I moved out and took my cat and dog with me, no more problems, no more stuff getting peed on, no more chewed up walls, no more dog shit everywhere. My parent's house was nasty as fuck.

[Anonymous No.7620052]

>>7620050
Sorry anon, but I fucking hate pet owners like your parents. I'm glad your pets are in a better home now at least.

The rule of thumb is one box per cat, plus an extra for good measure, two boxes for six cats is terrible.

[Anonymous No.7620061]

>>7620023
Have you looked at getting a petti with a ribbon tie instead of the elastic?

The snowfield has some and taobao as well.

[Anonymous No.7620062]

>>7620043
Ah, and sometimes it'll just flare up for no reason.

I suspect it may be IBS linked to a genetic disorder I have (which is also the cause for my heart problems, coincidentally) in which case there's nothing to do but take steroids every time it gets bad.

For example, right now I feel like I'm dying, and I haven't eaten anything in hours.

[Anonymous No.7620068]

>>7620061
It's just anything sitting on and rubbing at my stomach, unfortunately. I have two pettis that I stack from dance that sit on my hips, which are fine, but anything higher than hip level will irritate me. I've been wearing otome to compensate, but I've got my eye on a dress that NEEDS poof.

The only thing that hasn't been problematic was some high-waisted jeans I bought, but they aren't tight around my stomach at all, only at the hips.

[Anonymous No.7620080]

>>7620050
Ugh your parents remind me of my old roommate. Except her dog would shit everywhere and she'd try to blame it on my cat so she wouldn't have to clean it. I tried explaining to her that my cat cannot possibly be shitting out the size of half her fucking body. It got to the point where I kept my cat in my room and I'd come home to shit everywhere and she'd make excuses about how she totally let my cat out and it was totally her.

Which was kind of ridiculous considering she'd leave her dog locked up for 8+ hours a day most days so why she'd bother to let my cat out...

Luckily that dog is now with some kind lonely old man, and in the year it's been since I lived with her my cat has never shit on my floor.

[Anonymous No.7620086]

>>7619811
Beat her and shove the sandals in her face so she knows not to do it anymore. It sounds harsh, but that's how I was taught to train dogs.

[Anonymous No.7620089]

>>7619923
>cat has medium fur that's like all soft underfur
>the hairs aren't hard enough to stick into clothing, so no shedding
>he loves his belly rubbed
>mfw I pick him up and take a huge whiff of his cloudlike-belly fur

He also fetches. Best cat ever. Minus the faux-fur and ribbon stealing and the time he chewed on my Balthier action figure leaving a permanent bulletwound in his forehead.

[Anonymous No.7620090]

>>7620052
Yeah and I had to argue with them to even get a second box. Their solution was to turn a 50 gallon tote into a litter box. Like put the lid on it, and cut a hole in it. Add in that it wasn't cleaned daily, and their dogs liked to eat cat shit. Six cats and four dogs(two of their dogs were 50+ pounds each.) oh and they had another tote dedicated to towels used for cleaning up after the dogs. If a dog peed on the floor, they'd throw a towel down and leave it there. So the dogs would keep shitting and pissing on the towel.

Oh and the best part was my parents left my poor grandma to do all the cleaning and when she died. They tried making me do all the cleaning. I noped the fuck out and left them to their filth. They lost the house last year to the bank and left so much garbage for whoever bought it from the bank to deal with. I recently stopped by and checked it out, it's actually pretty nice now. When I told my dad, he said they could have had it that nice but he didn't have the skills. Yeah fucking right.

[Anonymous No.7620100]

>>7620017
Elliot, I...

[Anonymous No.7620101]

>I watched a couple of episodes of Mysterious Girlfriend X today
>It made me sad because I never got to walk or hang out with my long-term boyfriend and now we're broken up until things get better and he kept promising that things would get fixed really soon and that we could be like a normal couple and I waited almost 3 years before I told him I couldn't keep waiting for it to happen
>anyone else interesting who I meet lives an hour or more away
>I probably won't get the chance to have a boyfriend and go out on dates and such like a normal couple until I'm a lot older because I used up so much time waiting for my ex to change things so we could be happy together
>I never even was able to just go on walks together like the main characters do, even something that simple in a relationship would make me happy
>I think I may have developed a slight drool fetish from watching this anime
I have too many feels right now. I hope I can find a good guy for me who I can see regularly soon. Most of my friends who have boyfriends and girlfriends get to visit eachother daily and go out a lot and I never got to have that and I know that I'm missing out on it and this anime is just reminding me that even though I'm looking hard, I probably won't get to have anything like that for a while... Things really suck sometimes.

[Anonymous No.7620106]

>>7620086
You were taught to train dogs like a fucking retard. That doesn't work, that just makes them fear whatever it was caused the issue. I don't know about you, but I don't want my dog to be afraid of sandals. Fear causes biting, which is obviously bad. You have to scold the dog when you catch them in the act. They won;t connect the shoe with what they did later on. Otherwise, you reward good behavior. If the dog is just chillin' out and being nice, tell it "good dog" and pet it or give it a treat. If it gets rowdy, just ignore it and walk away.

[Anonymous No.7620107]

>>7620101
Did he get to rip your hymen tho? If yes, then I'm sure he's satisfied with the relationship.

[Anonymous No.7620110]

>>7620107
>rip your hymen
haven't you learned anything about the female sexual anatomy aside from what porn has taught you

[Anonymous No.7620112]

>>7620101
>Mysterious Girlfriend X

UUUGGHGGHHHH

i

can't

handle

these

feels.

damn it, now i have to go to sleep tonight rememering that beautiful story. thanks alot anon (with good taste).

[Anonymous No.7620114]

>>7620110
>WHAT METAPHOR IS

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7620115]

>Want to enter Otakon's hall costume contest just for fun
>Really scared that I'll just be sad when everyone looks better than me
>Know I'd regret not entering but at the same time, don't want to think something I worked hard on looks like shit
>Might enter talent show as well
>tfw I really want to participate in a lot of stuff but I'm really shy irl
UGH

[Anonymous No.7620119]

>>7620115
Me too, anon, me too.

I can act, and been told I can sing, but I'm too shy to ever get up on stage and even walk around in my cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7620143]

>live in the outskirts of Orlando
>can't afford a car, can't get a decent job, skip Megacon because I can't afford that either
>move up to Michigan
>everything I need is finally in my price range, get a decent job, finally have my own space
>can't sew because I fuck it up too easilly
>too prideful to buy a costume
>nearest city is 100 miles away, and staying for even a weekend during a con would break me financially because I'm still only working for shit money
>literally the only kind of people I enjoy hanging out with live in the parts of the world I don't have the money to live in
>cursed to live in this cow town until I get a decent job or education
>by then I'll be too old for cons
Yeah, fuck me.

>>7620101
Same thing happened with me. Significant other peddled away two and a half years before they finally broke it off because we weren't even close to compatible.

[Laika !!JaER7LR/jsE No.7620151]

>>7620041
Yessszzz

[Anonymous No.7620164]

>>7618352
to this anon. I asked him, he got flustered that my "friend" would find him desirable to talk to, seemed happy that someone would want to be his friend.. then dissapeared.
just drop an email so I can send it to him when he's ready

[Anonymous No.7620167]

>>7620143
I was in the dating scene for a while and got sick of it. The last boyfriend was a decent guy but we just weren't that compatible. We mutually broke it off and kept in contact but had no interest in getting back together, mostly just ran into each other at events. Once I decided to quit worrying about dating, I end up finding a new boyfriend(thanks to some friends getting a confession out of him after they realized we liked each other). Years later I'm now married to him and our first child is due in September, and my ex recently got married too.

[Anonymous No.7620169]

>>7620115
Oh I just looked at the guidelines and stuff for that last night, but it looks more intense than I'd hoped, being someone never been in masquerade and will just have schoolgirl cosplays (albeit well-constructed ones)

But you feel reminds me, good feels for me are Otakon's Art Show. Never sold at artist alley before, have digital and traditional paintings to show, am hype.

But also
>get free space in hentai section with purchase of regular lot
>will have to make that one paints or markers since too embarassed to get cartoon porn printed

[Anonymous No.7620172]

>>7620167
Glad you're doing alright. I really wish I knew what it took to talk to people at cons, but even if I did, I live in the middle of nowhere. Hope things keep going your way.

[Anonymous No.7620198]

>>7620107
He wouldn't have waited a year like I made him wait if it was just for that, there's much easier pussy than me. And he's trying to get out of his situation and says he wants to get back together once it's all settled. I just didn't know weather he will ever actually get out of the situation he is in that was ruining our relationship.
I don't think he'd be working on everything and trying to come back and persevering to get back together if he was done with me. If he was satisfied and just wanted my virginity, he would just not talk to me anymore. 7/10 for making me respond.
>>7620112
Yeah I've only watched the first couple episodes and I can tell already that this is a really good anime! It's sad that it's only 13 episodes though, I know that watching it will go by fast.
>>7620143
Oh that sucks, me and my ex still would like to be dating and would like to get back together, but every time he said things will be better by a certain time and I would wait, they never did get better and I kept waiting and waiting and I finally realized that I couldn't just keep waiting and that it had almost been 3 years that I had waited and believed him when he promised that things would be different by certain times but everything was the same.
The next chance of things getting fixed would be in 3 more years once he's out of college, and if it didn't work out then in total I would have used up 6 whole years of my life just waiting for a chance of a normal relationship with him. It sucked but I had to realize that even though I loved him that I had to go. If I stayed I might have ended up waiting for years and never gotten to have a normal happy relationship if things didn’t go as planned once again. It sucks when things like what happened with you and me happen.

[Anonymous No.7620203]

>>7620198
I recently just got out of a long term relationship, and it feels kinda similar to your situation. Like saying this would happen at this point, length of time we would have had to wait for things to be normal etc. I was upset when it happened and I felt like I'd given up so much of my life for this one person, but now I just feel.. free? Like I can do things for me rather than do things that will benefit me in the short run so I can be with some boy in the long run. (Which now thinking about it, probably wouldn't have been that long, we were distancing from each other a lot)

I'm sure you'll have a super cute relationship one day, and I bet you're a super cutie too!

[Anonymous No.7620206]

>>7620198
Yeah. That really isn't fair or healthy to sit around and wait for six years or more years on a MAYBE things will get better. There's a point you realize it's not worth trying to force yourself to try to fix a broken relationship. You deserve better and really you'll probably both find people you're more compatible with.

I've ended up washing my hands of family and friends who weren't worth the stress anymore.

[Anonymous No.7620246]

>>7620022

Lmao

I'm a 99% pass asian trap crossplayer and I can't find a gf to save my life, only bfs

[Anonymous No.7620271]

>>7620246

[Anonymous No.7620272]

>>7620246
Where do you live? I'm a girl and would love a qt trap bf but it's impossible to find one.

[Anonymous No.7620277]

>>7620272

Vancouver, WA

Pic is me aye, everyday clothes. I'm at my friend's house so I don't have my crossplay photos on me, but I can pull off a girl quite well

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7620281]

>>7620277
well shit, you're really adorable

[Anonymous No.7620285]

>>7620277
Oh wow cool! Too bad I live in NJ, good luck getting a gf anon.

[Anonymous No.7620406]

>tfw you look like utter shit on pics.

Every time I take a pic of myself, it's a fucking disaster... (except that one pic from years ago, I lost).

Oh God, I prolly have face dysmorphia (well eumorphia), as I feel way better looking when I look at myself in my mirror.

Anyway, tips on how to cheat when taking pics without needing intensive shooping ?
For posterity.

[Anonymous No.7620411]

>>7620406
Are you me anon? Every time i take a picture i think i look like a potato, and god forbid i smile because that shit is awkward as fuck. I just want to take cute outfit photos!

[Anonymous No.7620412]

>>7620406

Your pictures might not be as bad as you think. A pictures harshest judge is yourself, a lot people look way better in pictures than they think they do

[Anonymous No.7620447]

>have male roommate, friends with my bf
>bend over backwards doing chores/housewife shit for him because I want to befriend him
>roommate pokes fun of me for having internet friends "hurhur get some real friends"
>roommate pokes fun of my clothes constantly yet is nice to other
>friend comes to visit
>he's nice to my friend while treating me like shit
>watch TV shows with him
>every time a girl fucks up he blames it on the entire female gender
>says comments like "I can't get a girlfriend because I'm not trying"
>pokes fun at me because I don't leave my room to hang out (because I don't want to deal with him)
>bf says its because the roommate isn't attracted to me that he treats me like trash

>give up trying to befriend him.
>shit talk this roommate because he just eats our food, leaves the bathroom a mess and treats me like shit
>I am genuinely upset about how his roomate treats me and have cried over it

>bf says "that's your and his problem, he's a cool guy"
>bf insists that its normal for guys to treat girls they aren't attracted to like this
>bf pokes fun of roomate saying he knows he's horrible but I should stop overthinking it

am I in the wrong? how can I approach my roomate on this issue? (lets face it, he's probably going to blow it off, he has before.)

[Anonymous No.7620448]

>Be in long distance relationship for almost a year
>Boyfriend set to visit me this August
>Happy because he's coming here, sad because it's only for two weeks.
>Not sure how I'll react once he leaves.

Why does he have to live in another country thousands of miles away?
Also, if he does end up moving to my country, it will be a long process in order to get citizenship (unless, of course, he marries me for a visa).

[Anonymous No.7620451]

>be me, have crippling aocial anxiety and low self esteem
>moved in with boyfriend, gained a little bit of weight because of depression associated with my dad being arrested, missing my little brother, and feeling homesick
>feeling like shit lately
>often times bf and I do our own thing during the day
>totally fine. Don't need to do everything with him
>usually show each other things online to keep us talking, I like to talk about cosplay dramu and cute lolita things
>he mostly brushes it off
>makes the ocassional comment on "wow that chick is fucking smoking hot."
>has told me that he doesnt think I'm hot or sexy. Only cute. I'll only ever be cute
>I'm a grown fucking woman, not a puppy or something

>trying really hard to not be jealous, but secretly I just want him to find me attractive and tell me I'm beautiful or sexy

[Anonymous No.7620454]

>>7620448
Really sorry to hear that anon.

I'm bringing my bf to the states on a fiance visa, so I know your feels

[Anonymous No.7620455]

>>7620447
All I see is you trying to be the victim. Grow some balls and flame him, cunt.

[Anonymous No.7620458]

>>7620454
How difficult is the fiance visa process?
I might look into doing it 2-3 years from now.

[Anonymous No.7620461]

>>7620447
>bf insists that its normal for guys to treat girls they aren't attracted to like this

anon your boyfriend sounds like a total asshole. It's kind of silly of him to try and justify it that way, since most people treat others normally and not based on how they look like.
Does your boyfriend only treat you well because of your looks too then?

I'm not trying to make you doubt your boyfriend, but imo he should be standing up for you if your roomie treats you like shit.
You should probably talk with the roomie about it but as you said yourself, it's not even certain that he's gonna listen.

[Anonymous No.7620462]

>>7620451
Then tell him that

[Anonymous No.7620465]

>>7620447
It's definitely possible he's treating you like that because he's not attracted to you- and if he was, maybe he'd be trying to get in your pants all the time, they certainly seem like the type. The alternative explanation is that he treats you like shit because you annoy him or have done something to annoy him. Whether the upset is because he is a self-absorbed manbaby or because you're a naggy bitch is something you'll have to figure out yourself, though I'm leaning towards the former. Personally, I think you need to stand up for yourself, and find a serious moment to calmly tell him you're not going to put up with his shit anymore. Eat out and use the laundromat for a week or something and see how he likes having to do everything himself. Be really super mean to him back and see how he likes it. If it doesn't work, maybe try to find a way to ditch him. And your boyfriend.

also
>that filename
perfect

[Anonymous No.7620466]

>>7620458
It's not too bad. You do paperwork, he goes to an interview at a consulate. He either gets rejected or granted permission.
He travels to the states, you marry within 90 days, and then you submit paperwork for adjustment of status and shit.
In about 6 months, he can start working or going to school. In 3 years, he is a full US citizen.
Only shitty part is the 90 day thing. You can't really plan a wedding. Booking venues is risky because he can get denied. Even at the border after he's given the go ahead.

We're opting to have a small courthouse wedding until we can do a big ceremony

[Anonymous No.7620467]

>>7620466
Thanks for the advice!
Good luck on your wedding plans.

[Anonymous No.7620469]

>tfw you underestimated the amount for fabric needed for a child's cape
> need to go get more but booked for the next weekend

> need to contact bridesmaid about getting her dress
> despise texting/calling/generally unconvincing people

[Anonymous No.7620470]

>>7620462
I have. He doesn't understand why it upsets me that he doesn't think I'm sexy. It's an exercise in frustration for the both of us so I just keep it to myself now.

[Anonymous No.7620471]

>>7620467
Thanks anon. Goodluck with your ldr. Hope things get easier for you!

[Anonymous No.7620481]

>>7620465
As a guy, I can say I most likely wouldn't care. If I'm not going to respect you then that's just it.

Dude sounds like a man child if he is at all serious.

[Anonymous No.7620484]

>>7620447
It sounds like he's the kind of guy that's only nice to girls he wants to fuck and rude as shit to any others. Like it's black and white to him. Hell maybe he's this bad because he knows you have a boyfriend and his chances are shot.
You shouldn't want to be friends with guys like that. Give him a fedora for Christmas if he doesn't have a collection already.

Anyway, I'd just try to interact with him as little as possible. Don't even be polite to him, just neutral or slightly cold. There's not much of a point reasoning with him.
And your boyfriend is a dick for justifying it. Maybe he's the same way, if he doesn't see what's wrong with this. You can try bringing up to him that he's shitty for not doing anything about it, as your boyfriend he should at least be sympathetic toward your feelings.

I wouldn't say you're overthinking this, you're just putting too much hope into it. They're assholes.

[Anonymous No.7620493]

>>7620447
No. I roomed with my bf and his friend before and he was very good about not inconveniencing us. And if there was a problem we dealt with it quick and easy. Your roommate's an asshole and your bf sounds like a shit in this story.

[Anonymous No.7620495]

>>7620470
But being cute is in a way sexy. Its hard to describe but cute is usually something in a different category.

He is obviously attracted to you so don't worry about it. Not sweating small stuff is what makes you confident and confidence is sexy.

As someone recovering from several years of depression I can understand how confidence and self image is often distorted and destroyed over the years. Just keep working on being a better, much happier you and I think it will come with time.

Just don't give up hope. You might find his opinion may change as you do.

[Anonymous No.7620497]

>>7620495
Thank you anon. I really needed to hear that

[Anonymous No.7620501]

>>7620448
I have a friend who's significant other is in Indonesia. It just sucks all around.

[Anonymous No.7620517]

>>7620497
No problem. He might have a hard time expressing how he feels but just remember that he loves you as you are and maybe that's all he wants.

If you want to be sexy or improve that aspect of yourself then personally I don't see why you wouldn't be able to.

[Anonymous No.7620518]

>>7620447
Just ignore your roommate except to remind him to clean his mess.

Also invite your cutest GF and make sure to humiliate him in front of her making comment on how his feet stink for example or how much of a disgusting slob he is.

Then enjoy your revenge.

[Anonymous No.7620523]

>>7620461
>>7620465
>>7620484
>>7620493


I should of clarified that my boyfriend himself doesn't treat girls this way. but he believes its normal to do? I have told him his friend group is kinda shit before but no one likes being told that.

I should also mention that my roomate is the leiseowner, and he is very touchy. one guy made a joke saying "man, you gotta get laid, maybe you'd treat nicer" when we were looking for people to rent to and he downright refused him the room right then and there.

I have stood up to him before, many times.
and now I just blow off his shit but when he says stuff I bite my toungue and am occasionally a passive aggressive dick

he owns a fedora AND a shirt that says "nice guy on it"
my bf's friends are shit. so shit. but luckily he has multiple friend groups.

>>7620518

fuck yes

[Anonymous No.7620526]

>>7620466
As someone who did the visa process, it's super fucking easy. My husband is from a low risk country though.

>he came here with a student visa
>can't work using that, so we decided to get married
>just went to city hall
>contact a company to help us with the paperwork (not at all necessary, but for most people that would have been the biggest pain in the ass to make sure we didn't miss any forms because there are a ton)
>sign things, pay for forms, don't need to do much else
>go to our first meeting at USCIS for his temporary greencard
>need to provide bank statements, rental agreements, proof of insurance, and other things that show we're together
>he was asked absolutely none of the questions we thought we'd have to deal with (you know, "what color toothbrush does your spouse have" and things like that)
>we're both only asked our birthdays (of ourselves, not even of each other) and other personal info like social security and such
>two years later, go in again
>this time we need to provide lots of photos of us, plane tickets, anything that can show we are a legitimate couple. No big deal if you keep up with it
>again, we weren't grilled
>greencard came in the mail a little while after

If you're both young and your spouse is from a country that won't raise suspicion you'll have a very easy time. This sounds obvious, but I also recommend just being yourselves and taking natural or goofy photos. I think a lot of people try to only show what they think immigration wants to see and spend a lot of time making fancy albums and other bullshit to show how legitimate they are. USCIS doesn't care about packaging, they care about the content. Pictures are the most important things, so many sure you're taking as many as you can so you have a lot to show. They look at every single one. If you have nothing to fake then there's no reason to worry.
I mean, we fucking winged it and just believed in the power of love and came out fine.

[Anonymous No.7620537]

>>7620447
>bf insists that its normal for guys to treat girls they aren't attracted to like this
Holy shit, if he's not attracted to you then you must be really ugly or (most likely) FAT AS FUCK.

Bitch, you better suck it up, you are fucking lucky you even have a bf.

[Anonymous No.7620540]

>>7620023
It sounds like you might have ibs, anon. I wasn't able to wear tights or tight pants when I was younger. I use fennel tea for the bloating and I know some people have had good luck with peppermint tea

[Anonymous No.7620586]

>>7620062
Sounds like it could be IBS definitely. But you should really talk to your doctor, or find one who doesn't just dismiss it as a lactose issue (unless you've had tests that show a lactose issue). I have celiac and IBS and it took forever for doctors to take me seriously and one refused to send me for a colonoscopy because I was only 15, never mind the fact that I had lost 20 pounds in a month.

Seriously though, find a good GP/gastro and do some real investigating. Keep a food diary to find your trigger foods and it could be worth investigating the low FODMAP diet if only some foods cause issues, at least to try and find some safe foods for you. Reddit's IBS community is really helpful if you need advice or just to vent!

[Anonymous No.7620588]

>>7620406
I hate how I look in pictures too anon. I feel okay when I look in the mirror (except for the massive dark circles under my eyes I can't get rid of) but something about cameras just makes everything look awful. I've started trying to take a lot of selfies to try and find good angles and looks for me. One of my problems is that for some reason my eyes look lopsided in photos, the right one always looks smaller than the left and I've no idea why. They're fine in the mirror!

[Anonymous No.7620591]

>>7620411
When I smile my lips go AWOL and I look like an oversized manbaby.

[Anonymous No.7620600]

>>7620198

Or he could have just been feigning interest after he banged you to keep you open on the side while he chased some other tail

Mysterious Girlfriend X is a good animu though

[Anonymous No.7620602]

>>7620277

Damn, nice PC setup

I've been wanting to get more monitors but I'm poor as fuck.

Also fuck hearthstone, I suck at that game

[Anonymous No.7620603]

>have absolutely zero sex drive but LDR boyfriend is the opposite
>tfw aware I'm a complete mood killer by literally dozing off whenever he starts doing lewd things during voice calls

This is why we now just get off Skype while he does his thing and I go get food.

[Anonymous No.7620609]

>tfw the Bodyline yen-trick doesn't work anymore and you just wanted to buy 4 pairs of shoes.

[Anonymous No.7620612]

>>7620609
mr yan is a jeeeewww
why does he have to overcharge his foreign customers?

[Anonymous No.7620613]

>>7620609
>That can't be tr-- oh
Why you do this, Yan? That was the only way I'd actually buy anything!

[Anonymous No.7620620]

>bleach and wax my upper lip like a mother fucker for years because no matter what I do, I still have a "shadow"
>MFW it's because of freckles and there's nothing I can do about them
>forever mustache shadow ;_;

>related note: do makeup in mirror without glasses
>up close, foundation is awesome and near flawless. Far away, it's blurred but again, no glaring flaws.
>put glasses on, "Jesus Christ where did all these freckles come from?! Oh FFS I thought I covered my upper lip! I give up..."
>turn makeup mirror off In defeat, look at face in direct sunlight; wtf?! No freckles?! I look good?! My face is even?!!?
Everytime. Fuck you, makeup and lighting gods.

[Anonymous No.7620625]

>>7620620
I don'tknow it it's freckles, but for some reason my skin is slightly darker around my jaw and mouth.

Maybe the same problem as you ?

[Anonymous No.7620636]

>>7620246
Well it's annoying when people consider all crossdressers gay, they don't understand some are not interested in boys at all.
I'm a girl who like crossplayers so much and won't mind a bf like this, but i'm too socially freaky to approach anyone, especially if i have to find a bf.
>>7620277
You look sooo cute!!Well i like also your posters, especially that Reimu one
>touhou girl fan here

[Anonymous No.7620638]

>no friends from cons anymore
> girl I really liked stopped talking to me
>no new cosplays
>don't want to go to any local cons this year, don't want to be seen by her or anybody else.

[Anonymous No.7620642]

>>7620203
Oh that sucks that that happened at least you're out of it now. And thank you!! I hope so, I'll probably get one eventually, I've just got to keep trying.
>>7620206
Yeah that's what I thought, it was just a chance that maybe things will get fixed but since he had let me down 3 times before, I knew that there was not a big chance that things would even change after college.
And thank you, the problem was that we were ultra compatible though, which is why I tried to wait for him to change things for so long... We have almost everything in common and had only gotten in 3 arguments in our entire relationship, I just couldn't keep waiting forever though and couldn't keep being be chained down to him if things would stay the same.
I hope I can find someone just as compatible with me though, that's what I'm trying to do at the moment. Sometimes it's just best to try and move on.
>>7620600
Except that in his situation he literally can't meet up and see other girls and can hardly even hang out with guy friends?
Why do you even go here spouting all this negative shit? What do you gain from it at all?

[Anonymous No.7620647]

Not so much a feel, just confused really.

>friend is fat (and white, that matters a little later)
>I mean really fucking fat, she's got to be at least 5X
>of course she cosplays mostly skinny cute girls, what else is there
>currently planning to do Sakura Oogami, though
>a friend of hers told her to do it and there's no way they weren't joking
>I don't think she realizes this

[Anonymous No.7620649]

>>7620586
Thank you, anon.

I guess I'm self-destructive in a way, because sometimes I'll eat things that I KNOW will make me sick, because I'm weak and I love food too much. I just take medicine before eating and escape relatively unharmed.

I guess I'll tru calling up a few gastros directly rather than trying to go through my family doctor, because she doesn't take anything seriously. I went to her for asthma after having two attacks in a week, and she just sent me to another place which took a month to set up my appointment (I'm going in next week finally) despite the fact that I kept having attacks and couldn't breathe. She didn't try to get me in as an urgent case, nothing. I had two more attacks, each getting progressively worse, so I called her back up to see if she could prescribe a rescue inhaler because I can NOT afford a trip to the emergency room, and she basically told me, "Lol sorry nothing I can do for you until you see that specialist."

My friend saw her allergist about allergy-induced asthma and they gave her a rescue inhaler immediately with no questions asked. Better safe than have a fucking dead patient.

Sorry, I sort of got off-topic there. I really need a new doctor. Mine is junk.

>>7620612
The prices on the japanese site have also gone up, though, so I think he's charging more flat prices for most things. People probably bitched about it on his trip.

[Anonymous No.7620657]

> tfw everyone you know is able to get a job not matter how much of an antisocial dick they are
> tfw the same goes for boyfriends/girlfriends

why does it feel like some of the most rudest people seem to get the most lovely things in life handed to them.

[Anonymous No.7620660]

>>7620657
I don't get this.
I know a girl who's 29, absolute deadbeat, can't keep a job for more than a month because she keeps fucking up and getting fired, yet she gets another job within a week.
How the fuck does that work.

[Anonymous No.7620662]

>>7620609

>mr yan's around the world trip
"I'm not that bad, lets promote bodyline and gain new fans!"
>jacks up prices and removes yen option
>>7620649
Explain this then

[Anonymous No.7620664]

>>7620657
are you saying that getting a job in general is hard?lol

[Anonymous No.7620668]

>>7620664
not that anon but for you:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXnifPfxK0Q

[Anonymous No.7620704]

>>7620668
>for you
Get this hothead out of here!

[Anonymous No.7620710]

>>7619870
>one of my cats thinks he is a dog
>Loves all people, all people must pet cat
>Likes fluffy belly rubs
>Sleeps like a dog
>Cuddles me at all times when I am home
>Will chew on purses and shoes
I mean..its not like dog chewing it just leaves a few dimples or holes in shit (Especially lolita shit with bows) but man cat common my other cat is a cat stop being a dog.
He has gotten better about chewing on my shit or I have gotten better about keeping my closet closed, but, I had to throw out some tea parties and I just pretend not to notice the holes in my favorite AP purse...He also bites my quilt and towels randomly but that is kind of cute. I think he likes the texture and is just a weirdo.

[Anonymous No.7620751]

>>7620710
>lets have more feels about this cat
>Got a job that meant I would be out of the house more when I basically worked from home before
>Decided to get another cat so my current cat would not be lonely alone in my apartment all day
>Find the perfect kitten online from the same shelter we got first cat
>Go to see kitten, shelter lady is walking us past the cages the other cats are in to the cat get to know you room
>Hear purring
>Look over at cages, an orange cat rubbing against his bars and purring
>Wat
>Go over to pet cat through bars
>Cat is so fucking malnourished you could see his bones, his whiskers are breaking as he rubs against his bars
>Still literally the happiest fucking thing because I am petting him with one finger
>Sobbing
>Boyfriend did not notice that I had left the meet the kitten party.
>"Hay anon why don't you come see the kitten....." He comes back to me sobbing like a child and petting a cat
>So you found a cat then anon

I have never adopted an older cat before but it has been the best thing besides him eating my shoes. He did turn out to be a few months younger then my other cat (who was 2 at the time)
And the fact that he is a really fucking picky eater.
He will eat my wilderness blue dry food. But the wet? noo. NO. I have tried every brand and flavor and he will only eat meow mix.
And now my other cat will only eat meow mix wet too.
I could scream. I had her eating newmans before.

[Anonymous No.7620792]

>>7620751
My BFs cat likes to lick reusable canvas shopping bags. I definitely think it's the texture.

That's really sweet how you rescued him, though. We rescued a cat who'd been returned to the shelter like 4 times. She was like, in line for euthanasia. I can fucking tell why she'd been sent back, she's gross and fat and might be slightly retarded, but we adopted her so we kept her. She's almost 10 now anyway. I just like to give these poor animals the best in their last few years.

[Anonymous No.7620821]

>>7620169
>too embarassed to get cartoon porn printed
I feel this so bad, god. Sometimes I wish I could just be a shameless douche.

[Anonymous No.7620822]

>tfw no bf

[Anonymous No.7620826]

>>7620086
You should not be allowed within 50 feet of dogs. Would you like to train a fearful, anxious dog that bites? Do that. Dumbass.

It's all about redirection and praising good behavior. Negative reinforcement does not work.

[Anonymous No.7620833]

Sometimes I wonder if I subconsciously surround myself with ugly people so that I can feel like the pretty one or something.

A lot of the cosplay friends I regularly talk to are terrible/unattractive cosplayers, not that I'm too pro myself, but I at least know how to groom myself fairly well and am pretty cute. The thing is, I'm rather socially awkward and shy so talking to them is comfortable, like I don't have to try hard to impress them or anything.

But like as soon as someone that's really pretty or attractive starts talking to me, I start spilling all my spaghetti like "Oh god why is this gorgeous girl talking to a pleb like me" sort of thing, even though I know they're just, y'know, people too. I know I'm gotten better at presenting myself well but like this inferiority complex is so ingrained that I have to resort to shallow means to feel good about myself or something and it feels kinda bad

[Anonymous No.7620844]

>>7620826
That's technically positive punishment btw.
In psychology, negative= "taking away" (not "bad") and reinforcement=continuing the behavior.

In this case it's positive punishment because you're adding something in (the beating) to stop a behavior (biting).

polite sage for useless psychology lesson

[Anonymous No.7620848]

>>7620043
my sister has gastroparesis and has similar issues that you have, especially with the pizza. You should go get that checked out!

[Anonymous No.7620850]

>>7620143
Where in Michigan do you live, anon?

[Anonymous No.7620855]

>>7620026
At least you can eat some stuff. I am thinning a lot from vitamin malnutrition, I can't eat 90% of food in general.

Do you ever get people who say stuff like "you are a hypochondriac" or it's all in your mind?
It's annoying.

[Anonymous No.7620859]

>>7620086
Honestly all that does is make dogs scared of things. That's not training, that's abuse.

>>7619811
Just keep her out of your room, that should help. Sorry about the sandals though, I hope you can find new ones.

[Anonymous No.7620889]

>cosplay as character x
>every single vendor tries to sell you item related to character x

[Anonymous No.7620895]

>tfw you'll never be a cute little magical girl
>tfw you look even older than your age and will never be able to cosplay cute anime girls
>tfw you'll never be someones kawaii waifu

[Anonymous No.7620896]

>>7620660
I have no idea either, like I always wonder if those people somehow switch around completely and look like the perfect employee when trying to get a job, and only at that moment.

[Anonymous No.7620901]

>>7620895
in addition
>tfw you use the wrong mugi gif

[Anonymous No.7620909]

>>7620855
Always.

I always have people say that.

I have a lot of different problems that popped up all of a sudden, and people seem to think I'm faking it for attention? I don't know.

I have asthma, my stomach issues, chronic migraine, joint issues, and trich. Everything but the trich is very much physical with very physically visible effects on me, so I don't know how anyone thinks I'm faking.

[Anonymous No.7620951]

>>7620889
>Cosplay from X series
>No merchandise ever found at con

[Anonymous No.7621093]

>>7620603
>he does his thing
Fucks someone else?

[Anonymous No.7621095]

>>7619811
Learn to fucking train your dog, jesus christ.

[Anonymous No.7621152]

> tfw getting rejected for entry level part time jobs because 'too old"

mind you with that I mean 18+ because they'll just hire a 16 year old who's cheaper
I just want to be able to buy shit

[Anonymous No.7621164]

>>7620451
Anon, you might want to rethink your relationship...and if you're afraid to tell him mundane things that hurt your feelings you may not be as connected as you might think you guys are.

[Anonymous No.7621177]

>in NYC
>meet really nice and funny guy at bookstore
>talk for an hour
>we clicked hardcore
>tfw when I probably won't see him again because I go back to Sweden in 2 days

[Anonymous No.7621183]

>>7621177

Fuck him before you go. Fuck him and enjoy it and don't live with regret.

[Anonymous No.7621194]

>>7620526
He's from Canada. I'm pretty sure that's low risk?

We don't have a ton of recent pics, but we have a few. And a lot from when we were in California together. beach pics and such. Most on my old phone.

We have every single one of our old boarding passes from every visit. I think we'll be alright. We're working on paperwork right now. there's just a lot of it.


But I guess we dont really have a lot of us together. I took pictures of him he took pictures of me and we took some selfies.

[Anonymous No.7621196]

>>7621152
why have you not worked before so that you don't need entry level positions? scrub

[Anonymous No.7621300]

>>7620143
I'm moving to Michigan in a couple months (Dexter, next to Ann Arbor). I have a lot of friends out there who go to cons, and I'm likely going to be hitting up Daisho in Nov (In WI). Where do you live?

>>7620406
> I feel way better looking when I look at myself in my mirror.
There's a theory on that. You always think you look better in the mirror because you're used to seeing your features "reversed". There is no one on the planet whose face is 100% symmetrical so when you see yourself in photos you're seeing a you that you're not used to.

>>7620602
>tfw you have a somewhat decent gaming computer but are still using a 1024x768 HP monitor from a decade ago
>tfw your housemate was given a free large 3d monitor by his brother who accidentally got 2 and gave it back because he only uses laptops.

>>7620657
At most places it has less to do with personality and more to do with how hard you try. Plus its possible they change their behaviour in a job environment. Cashiers don't really need to be the nicest people. It's really only customer service, waitressing, or commission sales jobs where you need to have a sense of decency.

>>7620889
>>7620951
I avoid most of the recent stuff because I don't want to be bothered with FotM fandoms. Most everything on my list is a decade old, so there's unfortunately never any merch, but at the same time I don't get harassed by dealers or zerg rushed.

>>7621152
Right now it may be an issue because school is letting out. Did you try looking back in the fall and winter? A lot of positions open up when kids go back to school and people are needed for winter holiday shifts.

>>7621196
Not that Anon, but I was working entry level in my mid 20s because I lost my only parent and my home right before I graduated and couldn't hold a job because I was moving every 3 months or less. In high school my bus ride to and from school was almost 2 hours each way, so getting a part time job didn't happen. I did a lot of volunteer work though.

[Anonymous No.7621314]

>>7621183
I have never fucked anyone before. I've been spending too much time on the internet

[Anonymous No.7621319]

On friday I managed to reserve a navy CDC jsk from Angelic Pretty.

Problem is, my bank thought that someone charging me from Tokyo was fraudulent and so they stopped/froze my account. And I found that out because my card was declining for no reason at all, and when I went to my ATM it would say 'unable to access account.'
I tried to clear it up with a bank teller a day or so ago (I had originally thought a check bounced or something) and she assured me everything was fine. She didn't say anything about waiting a few days, she told me everything was fine then.

Well, no, because my card declined AGAIN when I tried to make a purchase today! And I got the same ATM message as before when I went to do a balance inquiry. I'm so fucking pissed. Unfortunately I got out of work too late to call them, but this is insanely ridiculous and I'm so nervous that the payment won't process and I'll find an email from AP saying they canceled my order.

I could scream right now. I just want this shit taken care of.

[Anonymous No.7621340]

How do I keep the spaghetti in my pockets at a con? I can keep it in there for the most part; but sometimes it bursts out.

[Anonymous No.7621344]

>>7621095
Ya know I've said she's not my dog and that she's still a puppy but I guess I'm the one who should keep an impossibly constant eye on her, huh shithead

[Anonymous No.7621349]

>>7621314
Did you get his contact information?! If you did call him up and spend time with him before you go!

[Anonymous No.7621365]

>>7621349
I gave him my Facebook name and he works really close to the apartment I'm staying at so I might go lurk around the bookstore and make him talk to me

[Anonymous No.7621386]

>>7621365
If you have his facebook, I'd message him. I missed my chance with a girl who went back to her own country before; you'll regret it for a long, long time.

Let him know when you're leaving, find a time to hang out.

Good luck Anon, please succeed where I did not.

[Anonymous No.7621450]

As a white girl, I feel as though people judge me for having a Chinese boyfriend. My immediate family are all fine with it but some of my friends and extended family are really awkward/sometimes rude about it. On occasion, people talk to him really slowly or even talk to me about him as if he's not there, despite the fact that he's been living here for over 2 years and has really good English.

Someone I used to be friends with was really condescending towards him and acted as though she couldn't understand a word he said and told me she couldn't understand why I am with him. This stuff happens with randoms too, like when we go shopping and with our realtor. I really hate it and it makes me really mad for him. Even when he first got here his English was excellent and he's improved heaps since being with me. He has a slight accent, but that's normal. Aside from that it's like talking to anyone else.

I don't know why people act like he's a lesser person because English isn't his first language. He speaks 3 languages including English so I think he's actually really talented. I decided to be his Visa sponsor too and I'm scared people will judge me for that too, damn it.

Despite this, it's really interesting being able to share our cultures and he teaches me Chinese which is fun. We're going to China this year and he'll probably get the same treatment from some people once we're there which will be interesting.

[Anonymous No.7621519]

>>7619981
Which cosplay? Pics? I'm happy it turned out so well for you anon!

[Anonymous No.7621525]

>>7621450
Fuck all those people. They can judge all they want, they're not the one dating him. Don't give a shit what anyone thinks of your relationship but you, and don't let anyone get in your head.

[Anonymous No.7621528]

>>7621095
this is bull shit
why should he have to be the one to train the fucking thing if she doesnt even want it

[Anonymous No.7621545]

>>7621528
To be fair

I was also stuck with a dog I didn't want

And nobody else would train it and it kept wrecking my shit, so I trained it.

It's not difficult to train a dog, especially a lab.

[Anonymous No.7621577]

they sure are sucking chloe's dad's dick this episode

[Anonymous No.7621617]

>>7621450

Wow. That behavior really sucks, anon. It sounds like it makes the people you're around show their true colors, though. How does your boyfriend react when it happens?

I have a Korean/Chinese boyfriend, though he was born in the states, so he doesn't have an accent or anything. He says that people sometimes give us side-eye when we're walking together, though I usually don't notice it (white privilege, I guess?). I refuse to introduce him to some of my extended family because I'm terrified of the super rude things they might say to him.

[Anonymous No.7621682]

>Have been trying to get a room for AM for about a month
>offered to stay at an exec suite
>$150 to sleep on the couch or sleeping bag? Sorry, mang.
>Someone in comm said to have had an open spot
>Waited for 2-3 weeks for an official response (because they were waiting one someone who wasn't sure about going)
>Same person said that she's staying with someone else and they're looking for a fourth person
>Hostess turns me down because she doesn't know me well enough
>Ask friend if she has a spot
>She and boyfriend have already gotten a place for themselves

Godfuckingdammitpeople

I might just have to shell out $200 to stay in a room by myself which sounds like a comparatively nicer deal than sleeping on the floor for that much. Usually I'm fine with going solo to most places, but flying solo at a 4000+ con sounds kind of horrible. I have friends who are interested in anime and often go to cons, but they're not planning on going to this one and/or they're too poor to go.

I don't even fucking know anymore. If I could, I'd get my badge refund back, but they're getting shipped out really soon.

Is anyone going to Anime Midwest and looking for a roommate? I promise that I'm good at keeping neat and can even pay in advance! Heck, anyone looking for a con-buddy, too?

[Anonymous No.7621787]

>>7621545
>tfw I cry regularly because I don't have a dog
>just want to be loved unconditionally

Even worse

>had a dog.. dad sold it for meth
>I miss him more than anything else in the world
>he slept with me every night
>refuse to speak to my father ever again

[Anonymous No.7621826]

>>7621787
I know this feeling. My parents robbed me blind when I was young to fund their meth. I barely had clothes until I could earn money to buy my own. They left me with a crippling fear of addictive substances altogether.

>tfw now they are coming to me begging for money for beer and cigarettes

[Anonymous No.7621835]

>>7620657
If you're complaining like this it sounds like you're the one who is expecting to have things handed to you.

[Anonymous No.7622058]

>>7620895
>>7620901
There's always the option of a sex change operation, manon.

[Anonymous No.7622141]

>>7620636
>>7620285
>>7620281

Idk if any of you are still there but for the record this is what I look like as a girl

[Anonymous No.7622144]

>>7622141
You already looked like a girl in your original photo. All my jelly.
>tfw look like less of a pretty girl than a dude

[Anonymous No.7622161]

>>7621682
Also going to AM and have no con buddies to go with. Everyone I know either moved or can't afford to go. I live a little over an hour away and couldn't afford to room by myself so I'm just driving there every day as much as that's going to suck.

[Anonymous No.7622171]

>tfw there are cosplayers out there who act like everything is an act of war against them when they're not being praised
>tfw this just makes me not want to talk to people even more

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7622175]

>>7622141
cutieee~

[Anonymous No.7622180]

>>7622141
You're really pretty and I wouldn't date you, because I think I'll end up being jealous because you're prettier than me.

[Anonymous No.7622196]

>>7622171
A girl I used to follow threw an all-out tantrum because no one called her their "headcanon" cosplayer for whatever retarded dangan ronpa character she cosplayed. She saw other people getting their pictures taken and not her and fucking lost it saying she was in tears and everyone else was trash. I don't even understand how people get this way.

[Anonymous No.7622204]

>>7622196
There was a post like this on the pet peeve thread,
but cosplayers who act like they're the be all end all of a character for cosplay piss me off

especially when they do nothing but talk shit about other people that cosplay the same character

There's a girl whose a friend of a friend of mine, and she does it all the time.

[Anonymous No.7622228]

Sort of non-cgl related

I have a great boyfriend that I have been with for a little under a year but he's been wonderful to me. He's been extremely supportive in what I want to do, listens, and just makes me feel wonderful every time I think about him or see him. He's an extreme upgrade from my ex(who was my first) who was not approving of my cosplaying, didn't really trust me, telling his best friends some of my secrets, puts me down, ignoring me often, and overall not the best boyfriend overall.

So i get really insecure because I feel like I don't deserve him and one day he might come to his senses and find someone who was better; someone who's better looking than me (I'm pretty average), hotter body, better personality, someone not so hard to deal with (I've been not feeling myself and just been going through some stuff. I'm not sure if I need to see a therapist or not yet). I really want to stop feeling this insecurity because I know if he found someone better, he would have left by now but I still get this feeling and it just stays. I don't know how to gain more confidence in myself that I'm a good catch for him.

[Anonymous No.7622232]

>>7622228
Keep reminding yourself of that. If he found someone better, he would have left by now. He's with you for some reason.

[Anonymous No.7622236]

>>7622228
Just think this:
There's a reason he wanted to date you in the first place

also, it'd be a good idea to discuss this with him since your feelings on your relationship probably need to be shared, and he can reassure you that he won't up and leave

And maybe take a day for yourself afterwards and do what makes you feel happy to try and boost your self confidence a bit

[Anonymous No.7622245]

mfw
> top tier cosplayer black faces
> no one gives a shit
> realising most of my fellow country people are racist
> Totally STRYA CUNT attititude

[Anonymous No.7622250]

>>7620451
girl I feel you, i have anxiety, horribly low self esteem and very negative self image.

THAT SAID, about your bf, my husband explained to me once that guys put girls into different categories and they aren't all attracted to just one category or whatever. The category you are in is based on how you generally look day to day.
my husband says I'm cute with a dash of pretty. If I'm dressed sexy or if he thinks I'm sexy he'll tell me that, but thats not how I generally look.
some examples of categories are:

cute
sexy
hot
pretty
beautiful

seems like your bf is attracted to cute girls, which is what he thinks you fit into. I wouldn't worry about it. Cute is just his type.

[Anonymous No.7622263]

>>7622228
I still feel this way about my fiance sometimes and we've been together for 5 years. It's a normal way to feel (especially after coming out of a bad relationship), but if you're being yourself and you're doing your best that should be good enough for whoever you're with. I think you should definitely let him know you feel this way, so that he doesn't misinterpret anything you may say or do out of insecurity. Don't beat around the bush about it, okay? That won't do anyone any good. You've gotta be straightforward and honest with him, and if he's worth keeping around he'll appreciate that.

[Anonymous No.7622268]

>>7622228
I used to get like this too. I saw a therapist and got better. Turns out I'm not such a piece of shit compared to other people after all. If he's with you, you aren't less amazing than he is, you just think you are and should find someone to talk to.

[Anonymous No.7622270]

>>7620114
Are you some kind of retarded John Green fan?
what they said was as stupid as posting "girls pee out of their vaginas", no one cares it it was supposed to be ironic or something, anon was dumb as fuck.

[Anonymous No.7622276]

>>7622228
This is really common after being in a bad relationship. I was in a series of bad relationships, each where I was either physically or mentally abused and after that it was really hard to act normal in relationships. I always thought the other person was better than me, or that they were going to hurt me because I deserved it. It's been years, and I'm married now, but at the beginning of our relationship I still had those feelings. He was very patient with me and basically after a while I realized that I wasn't undeserving, I was just abused into believing that. Sorry, I know this probably doesn't relate to your situation, just wanted to share.

[Anonymous No.7622288]

>>7622245
you're australian? yeah I guess some of you had to have voted for that prime sinister guy after all, there must be racists afoot. I thought it was mostly your old people tho, not cosplayers and stuff

[Anonymous No.7622290]

>>7622228
Boyfriend of girl in same situation here, Just tell him how you feel if you haven't already. If a guy cares about you he'll do his best to make you feel like you deserve the best and to be happy.

[Anonymous No.7622292]

>Screaming internally
>leaving to get on a plane in about an hour
>boyfriends mom is supposed to pick us up at the airport
>OH LOL anon, I won't be able to head there till 3+ hours after you land. tehe sorry
>Oh sorry you won't be able to get in the house anon, you can just chill in the terminal.
>are checking a bag so we will have to leave the part with the food and the shops
>6 hour flight fallowed by 3 hours of sitting in a terminal doing nothing
>screaming externally
I fucking hate travel and she has found every way she can to make this trip insufferable.
Oh well, convention soon.

[Anonymous No.7622310]

>>7622288
It wasn't just old people. Basically anyone who is an ignorant shit (climate change denier, racist, anti-immigration etc) voted for that butt plug for PM.

I'm so ashamed of my country right now.

[Anonymous No.7622340]

>>7622310
It's the same in most countries.
Far right is on the rise in Yurop and I think India currently have a fascist government.

Backlash of globalization and financial crisis, I guess.

[Anonymous No.7622383]

>talking to boyfriend
>states he /really/ hates it when people cosplay
>says he thinks it's terrible
>tells me to stop sending snaps of myself in cosplay when i'm at cons
>mfw
>mfw i don't even have a face
>just extremely sad

[Anonymous No.7622399]

>>7622383
how long have you been with him?

if he doesn't respect your hobbies he's a shit.
I'm roomate problem anon and my bf researced for 8 hours to find me cosplay boots.

[Anonymous No.7622402]

>single and lonely
>has been for a while
>doesn't want to be
>has actual social anxiety, when i try to talk to new people in person it feels like my heart is racing and throat is closing up, sometimes ill be physically unable to make myself talk

i just want to not be lonely anymore
:(

[Anonymous No.7622403]

>>7622383

Whats his reasoning?

[Anonymous No.7622419]

>>7622399
Not that long. After he said that, he said something along the lines of, "but it's what you like doing, so whatever". Even then though, why diss something I like so harshly right in front of me?

>>7622403
He says it makes me look like a completely different than I normally do.

[Hanari !Cts0f2i03c No.7622423]

>>7622419
Isn't....isn't that the entire point of cosplay though? Why would he get mad at what was clearly stated in the job description. That's incredibly stupid.

[Anonymous No.7622427]

>>7622383

Is it just for you? or cosplay in general, your post sounded like he just hates cosplay

[Anonymous No.7622584]

>>7619770
I have no friends, no cons bigger than literally made by local high-school anime clubs in my forgotten European place. No cosplaying for me in real life.

[Anonymous No.7622585]

>>7622402
Once again >>7622058

[Anonymous No.7622781]

>>7621787
Anon, I'm so sorry. I wasn't really on board for getting our dogs, but now that I have them I love them to pieces. I don't know what I'd do if they were gone. I hope you move somewhere you can get a dog, and I hope it's the most loving dog in the world.

[Anonymous No.7622783]

>>7622419
>boy howdy, when you put on a costume you don't look like you!

Your boyfriend sounds kind of stupid, anon. Sorry about that.

My boyfriend doesn't get why I like it so much, but he's super supportive of whatever I want to do. Except when I wear wigs with lolita, he hates that shit.

[Anonymous No.7622830]

>>7622232
>>7622236
>>7622263
>>7622268
>>7622276
>>7622290
I have told him how I have felt before and he reassured me that he wasn't going to leave me. I trust him that he won't be going with another girl because it's just doesn't seem like he would do that kind of thing. But I know that I'm not his "ideal' girl. I'm not the complete opposite but pretty far off. And watching his interactions with his friends is so different from with me. But that might not say anything because that's so common. But i can't help but be jealous and start feeling insecure again.

I don't want to ruin a great relationship because I feel so shit about myself but when I try to convince myself these things, sometimes it works for a little bit, sometimes it doesn't. I've spoke to him a few times already but noting much have changed

[Anonymous No.7622876]

>tfw when the kawaii lolita weekend got canceled. don't know if I should feel sad or glad to be able to spend 85 euros on something else.

[Anonymous No.7623010]

>>7622161
Throw me a message. Someone near my hometown has opened up two spots. They plan on staying from Thursday through Monday though and I think it's because of O'Hare's weekday only fares.

[Anonymous No.7623033]

Anyone else try losing weight, but then when the gain some, they get sad and eat more?
I've been going through that, and now I've been forcing myself not to eat. I ate about 400 calories yesterday. I'm a fatty and I hate myself.

[Anonymous No.7623035]

>>7623033
you're not alone, I'm a huge emotional eater so it's a vicious circle of being fat, feeling like shit about it, eating because you feel shit, still fat.
Losing weight is difficult as fuck because I have zero self control and I have no idea how to 'just' get better at that.

[Anonymous No.7623042]

>>7622830
This sounds scarily familiar. For us guys when we really love a girl our ideal becomes her. We want her specifically even if "better" options come along. I had to reassure her of that a lot and eventually she felt better.

>>7623033
Yes

[Anonymous No.7623080]

>plan to get together with members of comm for ILD
>girls drop like flies
>okay, down to meeting with one girl
>she cancels too

>plan get together with older lolitas in comm
>cancels too

Is it just me? Am I really that horrid of a person to hang out with?

[Anonymous No.7623131]

>>7620844
Positive punishment isnt a psych term, dont make up bullshit and that isnt how it works. Violence is always negative, and has shown to not work because we just get used to the punishment. Plus dogs wont be able to connect the behaviour to the punishment that way so you are just beating the shit out of a dog.Instead you should be reinforcing good behaviour, and light punishments only right after the incident to connect the two. Never physical violence though.

>>7621344
Honestly its a puppy thing. Put your shoes in a place she cant get too and in 6 months or whatever they grow out of it. It sucks but its like a teething thing.

>>7623080
Lolitas are flaky as fuck. Its probably not a personal thing, so dont let it get to you.

[Anonymous No.7623154]

>>7623131
>positive punishment isn't a pysch term
Feel free to use google at any time.

[Anonymous No.7623299]

> tfw my lolita idol reblogs a picture of me
> tfw I didn't post the picture
> tfw I was credited with my real name, not linked to my tumblr
> tfw she will never know who I am

[Anonymous No.7623312]

>>7623299
reblog it from her being like 'ooh that's me!!'

[Anonymous No.7623481]

>>7622584
Where you live, anon? Where i live there are few important cons like one time a year maybe two but still far from my place. I live in southern Italy, so it's a pain in the ass.
>>7622402
I feel the same. I can talk better online except if i have to talk with a new friend in webcam, i feel spaghetti a lot and get really nervous.
>>7622141
As a average looking girl and doesn't care having a bf prettier than me, well i would date you totally. I also thought how you would look with a Reimu cosplay before, i granted this wish of mine haha!
>now i notice a poster of Madoka and Homura
>also me is a fan of them

[Anonymous No.7623508]

I'm completely broke, and all of the money I'm making working a full time job goes towards college that I will be attending in the fall. Of course I can spend a little here and there, but otherwise, I'm trying to keep it to a minimum. However, I ran into an older man today that wants to be my "caregiver daddy dom" and while this completely goes against my morals and everything I stand for, he is requesting no sexual favors, and just a friendship with me and to spend time with me doing "little things" such as shopping, coloring, things of that nature. Should I do it, is it worth it? I'm a sweet lolita in nature, so his "childish" requests aren't far fetched, and he's offering to give me an allowance with lolita gifts thrown in. He's completely accepting of what boundaries I have and the fact that I have a girlfriend. Help, please.

[Anonymous No.7623516]

>>7623508
How much older is this man? Sounds creepy, so I'd keep on my toes.

[Anonymous No.7623520]

>>7623516
That's how I'm feeling. He's 20 years older than what I am right now, my mother's age to be exact. It's something I'm concerned about, but he's offered to put me in contact with the other woman that is under his "care" so that I could see that he isn't threatening. I'm confused, but the money is well needed and certainly appreciated. And I'm expecting it to remain online only, but like you said, I'm keeping on my toes.

[Anonymous No.7623527]

>>7623520
>but he's offered to put me in contact with the other woman that is under his "care"
Be sure to look up their pics and possibly contact the people they belong to, to make sure he's not making up fake people.

[Anonymous No.7623550]

>>7623520
>>7623508
I really hope he isn't faking a good "daddy" non sexual identity to get better in your pants and take advantage of you in future, be sexual or not. At times there are some men who pretend to be "nice guys" to gain a woman's love or ... sexual favors too. I don't want to sound harsh, but be really careful with this man.

[Anonymous No.7623551]

>>7623527
This is a good idea. What are the precautions I should take, even if this is online only?

[Anonymous No.7623571]

>>7623508
What exactly does he mean by dom if it's non sexual?

[Anonymous No.7623584]

>>7623571
>>7623550
>>7623527
>>7623516
Update; I asked for the girl's contact information and all of sudden I got "well, she says she doesn't like me talking to you, so I'm going to go now." Well, that was easy. I got a good laugh and didn't have to compromise my morals for some weird old dude.

[Anonymous No.7623620]

>>7623584
That is good you don't have to compromise to an old creep!! Because i think all of these daddy doms are the same and in search to some girls to dominate and manipulate too.

[Anonymous No.7623636]

>sewing a dress
>first big sewing project
>all is going well
>sudden bout of depression hits
>feel totally worthless
>rip dres right down the middle

I need it for Friday. I managed to salvage it kinda but from one side it looks like total shit. I put a zipper in where the rip was since I had to put one in anyways but now I've got a weird diagonal zipper going across my butt

[Anonymous No.7623675]

>>7623636

Hang in there Anon!! You'll fix it and I bet it will look great. Have a snack or something and then see what you can do about the parts that don't look good.

[Anonymous No.7623678]

I have no respect for people who ask for donations to fund their cosplays and conventions. I'm okay with cosplayers selling things and doing commissions to fund their hobby, but flat out asking for donations ("so I can go to conventions I wouldn't be able to attend/collaborate with other cosplayers!") is stupid af. Go get a job and save up like the rest of us.

I don't want to name names on here, but a cosplayer I'm pretty fond of just started some sort kickstarter-like donation pool with that above reasoning and I'm extremely disappointed. Exploiting your fanbase to fund your hobby while you don't have a job doesn't sit well with me at all. Especially since there are fans just eating it up.

[Anonymous No.7623684]

>>7622310
Fellow Ausfag here, and I'm sharing your feels.
>pic related is only solution

[Anonymous No.7623692]

>tfw I wear a size 12 jean now apparently
>last year i was a size 4
how is that even possible? i've gained 40 lbs but there's not way i tripled in size

[Anonymous No.7623697]

>go to conventions
>no girls talk to me
I mean, it's the same thing on the streets, but at least guys will come up and compliment my taste in anime from what I'm wearing or what I bought and talk to me about it for a bit.

This shouldn't make me feel, but it does because if girls that have the same interests as me don't even talk to me then what do I even do?

[Anonymous No.7623699]

>>7623692
That's not how sizes work, dipshit.

[Anonymous No.7623704]

>>7623699
i meant triple in jean size not body size retard
>l2context

[Anonymous No.7623708]

>>7620909
Oh, wow anon! I was the same way for a really long time, I'd always have a bunch of really weird health problems (low blod pressure, joint issues, cluster headaches, anxiety) pop up all at once every few years. It turned out I had a MTHFR mutation and I wasn't processing nutrients properly.
TLDR; go get some genetic testing done.

[Anonymous No.7623711]

>>7620447
>>7620523

Your boyfriend sounds like a beta for putting up with his shit and not standing up for you. I would put my roommate in his fucking place if he were blatantly disrespecting my girlfriend, even if I was friends with him long before you came around. You should seriously re-evaluate your relationship.

[Anonymous No.7623718]

>>7623692
Slightly different but
>two years ago
>bored from being unemployed and summer
>workout and extreme diet hardcore for a couple months
>only lose around 15-20 pounds but went down three pant sizes

>regained all the weight back within 4 months anyway and then some

>be a year ago and start more permanent diet
>up until now I've lose close to 50 pounds
>despite losing more weight I've only gone down two pant sizes
Holy shitttttttttt the frustration I feel.

[Anonymous No.7623731]

>>7623697
Well, are you approaching these girls or waiting for them to approach you first to talk?

[Anonymous No.7623760]

>>7623718
Muscle weighs more than fat, didn't you learn that in biology?

[Anonymous No.7623780]

>read some weeks ago some threads with guys talking on how most of the pictures they take of female cosplayers at cons are for their fap folder
>tfw thinking about that makes me too uncomfortable to cosplay again

[Anonymous No.7623787]

>>7623731
How does one approach a girl? They're very intimidating.

[Anonymous No.7623790]

>>7623787
Realize they are just people and treat them normally

[Anonymous No.7623795]

>>7623711
I agree with you, that shit isn't normal or ok.

[Anonymous No.7623809]

>>7623790
No, they're not just people. They're cute and soft and smell good and they also have vaginas.

Now, I'll tell you, I've gotten into many fights both in and out of the ring. I've scuba dived, climbed shit, and probably should have died about five times on my motorcycle and still, the most intimidating thing that makes me the most nervous out of all of those is approaching and talking to a girl.

[Anonymous No.7623817]

>>7623809
They are cosplaying, they are literally wearing a conversation starter.

>"That's a well made cosplay, how long did it take you to make it?"
>"How long have you been cosplaying?"
>"I really enjoyed ________ as a series."

[Anonymous No.7623831]

>>7623817
Sure, it sounds easy on paper until I start sweating and getting butterflies in my stomach.

[Anonymous No.7623834]

>>7623817
Thanks for the pointers. I have approach anxiety when it comes to con grills. It helps if I'm a qt patootie right?

[Anonymous No.7623839]

>>7623831
If you mess up, then you mess up. Move on. Cons are so fickle; you usually only meet these people once a year so they won't remember that awkward dude who tried to talk to them in 2010. As long as you don't do something dramu worthy, that is.

Just keep going at it until you get a hang of it.

[Anonymous No.7623840]

>Have been interested in LARP for a while, finally get into small local games with a larger game planned a few months from now.
>Make a character I enjoy, get gear together, really immerse in roleplay, enjoy combat but it's not a necessity.
>Good friend also LARPs plan to go to larger game together.
>I ask what kind of character she's RP'ing "Oh I don't put much effort into my character, I prefer to play serious shock squad PVP tactics"
>Ask around, she goes flailing into battle like a retard, makes minimal effort with her character and look for reasons to pick fights just so she can combat.

[Anonymous No.7623841]

>>7623840
I don't know why but I just imagine a completely reasonable and sane person walking into the battle field and then just going "Whoooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo" while running around flailing sticks at anyone and everyone around her.

Then I had a good chuckle.

[Anonymous No.7623843]

>>7623841
You're not that far off unfortunately.

[Anonymous No.7623869]

>>7623834
Do you cosplay yourself? If so you've got instant evidence that you share a hobby, just think of them as fellow enthusiasts rather than potential gfs/fwbs. Have low expectations like "Well if we exchange contact details great, but if not there are plenty of other people" if you place massive significance on the conversations it'll increase your nerves and show in your behaviour.

[Anonymous No.7623890]

>>7623869
I don't cosplay myself, yet. Moved to a new city; no friends to cosplay with atm. Not thinking about potential gfs/fwbs, but potential friends if they are locals. Great advice nevertheless.

[Anonymous No.7623900]

>>7623890
I found it a lot easier to speak to guys when I stopped thinking of them as potential partners, actually made it easier for me to meet my current bf because we made a friendship through a mutual interest before starting a relationship.

[Anonymous No.7623913]

>2 of my slightly lower priority dream dresses are up
>I also really want that Elegy jsk
>They'd be about $700 together
>I already spent $700 this month on frivilous shit, eating out, and lolita stuff
>have no more money to spend and I'd feel really guilty spending more since I'm only earning $400 a month now

[Anonymous No.7623942]

>>7623900
This anon understands.

>>7623839
Unless you're completely hideous the moment you stop trying so hard is the moment it comes to you.

Learn to not fear losing the person so much before you even have them (not that people can be owned) Having a girlfriend or boyfriend isn't the most important thing. So relax no pressure.

[Anonymous No.7623943]

>>7623942
So if you're not beautiful, you're fucked?

[Anonymous No.7623946]

>>7623942

sorry anon at
>>7623839

meant to reply to >>7623831

[Anonymous No.7623949]

>>7623943
No i meant unless you're horribly disfigured or something

[Anonymous No.7623953]

>>7623949
Horribly disfigured guys still get more pussy than I do.

Also
>>7623913
Holy shit, $700 for cloth? What the hell? You could make yourself a nice computer for $700, using cutting edge parts that are the pinnacle of human technology. There's nothing that makes two dresses worth $700 other than a price tag that puts them there.

[Anonymous No.7623956]

>>7623953
Well it would be 3, but yes that's why it's painful and I probably won't be getting them
Elegy: $220+shipping
BTSSB Baroque: $308+shipping
IW Dollhouse: $160+shipping

[Anonymous No.7623968]

>>7623956
Good taste anon, it really sucks when all the dream dresses come are available at once. I hate trying to figure out which will be least difficult to acquire later and having to prioritise.

[Anonymous No.7623972]

>be /fit/ male
>tfw no qt 3.14 seagull gf to cosplay with

;_;

[Anonymous No.7623982]

>>7623953
Not that anon but
>boyfriend works at computer store with coke addict thief who steals shit all the time.
>they won't fire him for some stupid reason because they stupidly think they're gonna get everything he owes out of him.
>boyfriend takes parts and blames it on that guy if anyone asks.
>built my computer for me and keeps me up to date on shit, fixes any issues for me.
>pic related.

[Anonymous No.7623991]

>>7623968
It's even worse that they're my ideal cut and colour as well.

[Anonymous No.7623997]

>one of my bf's best friends is getting married
>their manwhore friends are throwing a bachelor party for him
>I'm sure there'll be prostitutes
>don't want my bf going
Am I being a bad person here?

[Anonymous No.7623998]

>don't have time to make costumes
>not enough money to hire a decent commissioner/seamstress

The struggle

[Anonymous No.7624004]

>>7623997
Give him condoms.
And warn him about herpes.

[Anonymous No.7624024]

>>7623997
no, but have a talk with him about it if you want reassurance. let him know you trust him and that puts the pressure on him not to fuck it up with you.

[Anonymous No.7624028]

>>7623953
>$700 for cloth? What the hell?
Yeah, you are not gonna get very far with most cosplay girls.

[Anonymous No.7624037]

I never do cosplay and I don't frequent this board (I only come here when I see an interesting picture on the front page) and I gotta say it's impressive how this board's always on topic and 0 shitpost. You guys and girls are pretty cool really.

>>7620406
What's dysmorphia/eumorphia?

[Anonymous No.7624045]

>>7623997
What? You don't want your BF to cheat on you with a prostitute? Are you for real? Get in with the times, you dumb cunt, it's polygamy time.

[Anonymous No.7624113]

I've lost 10kg since the start of the year and hit 78kg. I've just had to alter some old costumes to take them in because they were too big.

[Anonymous No.7624116]

>>7624045

[Anonymous No.7624131]

>>7623131
Yeah thanks for not reading a single word I said except for the first line
That shit is stuff you'd learn even in the most basic psychology classes, jfc.

[Anonymous No.7624137]

>>7624116
It's not b8 if I were Canadian though

[Anonymous No.7624218]

I used to know Firemiko-kagomechan IRL.

[Anonymous No.7624234]

>>7623997
my worst nightmare
i'm sure my bf would never cheat but i dont even want him being around that kind of stuff. do you have a guy friend? maybe you can ask him to tag along to make sure theres no funny business. if not just talk it out with him, he probably wont do anything

[Anonymous No.7624243]

>>7623997
Well, honestly, if your boyfriend would cheat on you with a cheap slut then you really ain't worth all that much.

[Anonymous No.7624275]

>>7624037
Thinking you look worse/better than you really do.

[Anonymous No.7624282]

>>7624243
Well in a party full of alcohol and other guys pushing him to do something who knows what could happen?

>come on man just let her give you a blowjob!

[Anonymous No.7624301]

>have a nice body, nice face, crippling anxiety
>feel more confident "hiding" behind cosplay
>really want to feel attractive and wear a feminine cosplay that compliments me well but stays modest
>no media I currently like has cosplays like that
>knows I would be called a whore for wanting to feel pretty for once

It hurts, /cgl/, and I know I'll get shit from people here too

[Anonymous No.7624326]

>>7620447
I've had men treat me similarly to then find out they don't actually dislike me but have a huge raging crush on me....so there you go.

Anyway, I guess you can just try speak honestly with him and explain how he's making you feel like shit when all you were trying to do was genuinely make friends with him. Not everyone is going to befriend you or like you anon, and it's nothing to take personally.

[Anonymous No.7624345]

>>7623760
the point
------------
your head

[Anonymous No.7624348]

>>7623997
Am I the only one here who don't see a problem with it?
I mean, what if he actually do it with a prostitute in a bachelor party? Is he suddenly not going to love you anymore?
Will he suddenly realize that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you and dump you? Will he fall in love with the prostitute?
I don't think so.
So what's the big deal?

[Anonymous No.7624409]

>>7624234

>guy friend
>code for white knight/beta orbiter

Just let the guy have some fun. If he really cares for you he won't do anything.

Could you objectively say the same about yourself if the roles were reversed?

[Anonymous No.7624411]

>>7624348
Sexual jealousy.

That's also something I don't understand, I wouldn't care if my husband were to see protitutes from time to time, as long as it's only fucking and no feelings.

[Anonymous No.7624421]

>>7624409
>implying women and men can't be just friends
here we go again

[Anonymous No.7624501]

>Recently decided to leave Lolita community
>Strongly debating on leaving Lolita entirely
>Also debating on taking a break from conventions

>Would rather be covered in tattoos and go to punk shows
>Sewing themed tattoos
>Fuck yes

Recently went to Warped Tour and had far more fun/purchased more there than I have at a convention in a very long time.

[Anonymous No.7624533]

>>7624501
why do you have to "leave" ? If you like lolita clothes, just keep them and wear them whenever you feel like?

I never understood leaving a fashion. I have so many random bits from fashion that I dabbled in and still use them in every day wear. I can understand not wanting to be so active in lolita communities, but i always found it weird when people were like IM LEAVING LOLITA FOREVERR

[Anonymous No.7624546]

>>7624533
Lolita has just lost it's luster for me, honestly. I have a handful of pieces I'll more than likely just keep rather than selling them, but I'm not going to continue to expand my closet.

[Anonymous No.7624554]

>>7624533
Lolita has just lost it's luster for me, honestly. I have a handful of pieces I'll more than likely just keep rather than selling them, but I'm not going to continue to expand my closet. My lolita wardrobe is very much so it's own thing and does not work with the rest of my normalfag clothes.

[Anonymous No.7624566]

Not /cgl/ related, but I'm really pissed right now.

>let sister borrow the Hunger Games
>first book out of my box set, I haven't read them since I read them before
>brand new book
>two days later I look at it, the front cover is bent, the corner is fraying, and it's scratched up

My fucking brand new book and she ruined it in two fucking days. She can check her shit out of the library from now on, what the fuck.

[Anonymous No.7624584]

>>7624566
Oh man, I hate it when I lend people something and they give it back all fucked up. I've had the same thing happen to me with manga.

[Anonymous No.7624614]

>hair growing longer
>holds curls/crimps really well
>almost to my goal of long, mori hair

Praise biotin!

[Anonymous No.7624619]

>>7624501
Just think long about tattoos and do lots of things in the community before you start permanently marking yourself for it, please.

I mean it's your body but I've been there and the punk community is not all it's cracked up to be. I was lucky enough to get out with no tattoos, but all my piercing scars still bother me.

Just... Tread carefully...

[Anonymous No.7624644]

>>7624619
I'm currently working as a secretary and I am fully aware of the consequences being tatted up come with. Whatever I do intend to get I will be able to hide comfortably under my work clothes. My job is is priority.

[Anonymous No.7624657]

>>7623997
Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. This is nightmare fuel for me.
I definitely wouldn't want my bf going.

[Anonymous No.7624701]

>>7624421

'Friends' to a point. But just beneath the surface every guy wants to fuck his female friends. Barring them being hideously deformed/fat/etc.

And it colors all their interactions with them.

[Anonymous No.7624713]

>>7624701
>>>/r9k/

[Anonymous No.7624848]

>tfw waiting for dream set won from Y!J auctions to get to FromJapan
>tfw only a week has passed
>tfw feels like an eternity

And then
>tfw waiting for reserved dress from Taobao
>tfw month passes and there isn't even a a general time of year when the dresses will be made and sent out
>tfw the longer I wait the less I want the dress
>tfw thinking about just trying to cancel
>tfw don't want to drop the extra cash to send everything separately
>tfw just want the rest of my order already

I'm so impatient.

[Anonymous No.7624865]

why do so many people at least on this board seem to be having so many (healt/mental) issues and talk about having no friends but always have a boyfriend.
How.

To keep this cgl related, what do you guys do when you end up going to a con alone? I ended up wandering around alone and that was rather boring, so maybe some other people know better ways.

[Anonymous No.7624870]

>order shoes from bodyline because I seriously need some dark pink shoes
>got hit by customes because of fucking 3€
>sent them everything they need to caculate custom fee
>customs screwed it up, package was sent back to sender
>mfw when tracking says that the package arrived at ist destination in Portugal

at least I was still able to fill a paypal claim to get my money back. Though I'd like to know why the package is now in portugal...

[Anonymous No.7624878]

>>7624865
My boyfriend is the only person I feel I can talk to. Every other friend I've ever had is tiring to deal with because I'm not myself around them.

It's only logical that the only person I can connect to ends up being my love interest. My SO is the only person I feel this strongly towards. I don't like dealing with anyone else.

Don't worry, I'm getting therapy, you don't need to tell me that I need it because I know I do. I'm answering your question, not venting.

[Anonymous No.7624882]

>>7624865
Because it's easy as hell to get a boyfriend as a woman. Even easier than making friends.

[Anonymous No.7624886]

>>7624878
Oh no I didn't mean to tell you anything like that, I was geniunly curious (I know the post kinda feels bait-ish), and I don't think your explanation is weird at all or anything, and thank you for replying at all.

>>7624882
so what I just need to fuck a guy or a something

[Anonymous No.7624900]

>>7624865
I don't have any mental or major health issues, but as for the friend thing, for me personally, I don't have any friends simply because I don't go out anymore, unless it's with my boyfriend, because I've just become so much less accustomed to social interaction since I met my boyfriend. Basically, I did a dumb thing when I was younger and invested too much of my social interaction experience with a single person.
I had friends in high school- the same ones all throughout pretty much- which is when I met my boyfriend. Even then, I never went out most of the time unless I was with him, but I had forced interaction with my friends because of school and all.

And then when I graduated, I stopped talking to my friends as much because we didn't have to speak. Since I'd never made much of an effort to make new friends in high school, I'm really awkward with making new ones now. It makes me so nervous that I just avoid it altogether- I literally have no friends at my college, unless you count my boyfriend. And to top that off, my boyfriend know how speaking to strangers makes me feel uncomfortable, so when I'm with him, he basically speaks for me. Like for example, he'll always order for me when we go to restaurants. I've acknowledged that this is a problem, have talked with him about it, and am working on it.

I can't speak for everything else, but maybe some other anons just got boyfriends when they were more social and then became less social later on.

[Anonymous No.7624909]

>>7624900
are you me.

Literally everything you said is my life, even the part where my boyfriend has to speak to strangers for me and order for me.

[Anonymous No.7624914]

>>7624900
>>7624909
Triplets.

[Anonymous No.7624918]

>>7624900
>>7624909
>>7624914
Same minus the ordering for me and whatnot. I used to hate ordering for stuff or talking on the phone, so I forced myself to get over it in high school. Other than that, though, I pretty much only talk to my boyfriend, who I met my first year of uni and have now been with for over 2 years. I have a one or two friends here, but they're all rather busy and have their own girlfriends/boyfriends, and I'm awful at keeping in touch. My only high school friends went to different schools, and I only really talk to one of them.
It mostly sucks because I find it difficult to make friends in my comm. I want to go to meets but end up skipping them because I'm anxious or they're far away, and when I do go, I feel like I can't get past chit chat and small talk.

[Anonymous No.7624920]

>>7624886
>so what I just need to fuck a guy or a something
Not really, some guys are happy enough to have any female companionship.

[Anonymous No.7624922]

>>7620043
It could still be a sensitivity, I can handle certain gluten products better than others. And tomatoes are acidic so they could be making the problem you already have worse. And if it does turn out to be gluten, semolina (pasta) has the highest gluten content of commercially available wheats.

Eat super bland, gluten free, no acidic stuff, etc and see if you improve at all. Add foods in gradually one at a time to see what bothers you. IE don't make your new food spaghetti and sauce, just try the spaghetti by itself to see if it bugs you.

This is really the best thing you can do at this point. I had a lot of the same symptoms (plus crippling nausea and heartburn) and I was stubborn about it being directly food related until I ate completely bland and it went away.

Also, you can have a sensitivity/intolerance and still have certain foods not bother you at certain times. Sometimes icecream doesn't bother me, sometimes the exact same kind will give me crippling intestinal cramps. It can be a number of factors, but the first thing any reputable doctor will tell you to do is to eat completely bland and gradually add foods back in one by one. Keep a food diary, with times you ate what food and when you experienced trouble.

[Anonymous No.7624925]

>>7624878
you don't need therapy. you are just realizing that most people are absolute shit and it requires some serious mental effort to deal with them.

after 8 years of marriage, me and my lady only have like 4 other people we truly call friends. IE other humans we can be ourselves around and don't have to exert emotional energy in interacting.

that transition period when you figure out what friendship really is can be lonely, but don't worry because the few friends you do make you will keep for a lifetime.

[Anonymous No.7624935]

>>7624918
I always end up skipping out on meets out of anxiety too. I'd probably be OK if my boyfriend could tag along, because he is my best friend and has a slight interest in the fashion, but not enough to talk about it with the other comm members. He likes that I like it and it's cute on me and that's all, so I wouldn't want to bother the other comm members with him just sitting there on his phone the majority of the time, especially since I'd be sitting next to him silently.

I know for sure he'd find something to talk about with them, though, because he's absolutely the most social of butterflies, but it wouldn't be lolita.

[Anonymous No.7624940]

>>7621300
>really want to do Masayoshi when I lose weight
>won't have that FotM problem
>mfw

[Anonymous No.7624959]

>>7621545
Needed to move in with another family member who kept adding animals after I moved in. Got mad at her for getting a fourth dog when she could barely take care of/afford the three she already had. None of which are house-trained outside the new one. She's great about cleaning up after them, but I still clean up a lot of piss and shit when she's at work, and she still has the nerve to get mad at me for having a cluttered room.

Surprise, the person she got dog four from didn't tell her she was pregnant, she had six puppies last month.

>one of them takes to me immediately
>holding her reminds me of the only dog I ever had, died years ago
>burst into tears

On the bright side, I get to take her with me when I move again and even at four weeks she's good about peeing when I set her on a pad.

>want to name her something HxH related since me catching up with the anime is when we do the most bonding
>tfw those names

[Anonymous No.7624977]

>>7624920
This. The amount of guys in their teens - 21 that are still virgins is damn high, even good looking guys. Hell, most don't even talk to girls on the regular.

[Anonymous No.7624981]

>>7624977
I wouldn't want to date a virgin though.

[Anonymous No.7624993]

>Be white girl
>Want to cosplay as Senbonzakura Miku
>(white)Friends have all become SJW in recent time
>Friends will probably tell me I'm culturally appropriative scum.

I love my friends, but I feel like this shit is getting a bit out of hand.

[Anonymous No.7625228]

>>7624501
Why not try punk lolita?
>>7624701
I don't want to reinforce clichès but it's partly true, well if you are lucky enough you can have an awesome guyfriend, but it's hard to find. For this i don't have many male friends.
>>7624865
I noticed also i this thing, anon. So i'm not the only one! I asked myself this question because i'm a girl who has few friends and also some far from my place, so usually i don't have a big social life and i struggle a lot if i have to find a bf. I admit i don't get attracted easily so my bf quest is hard as fuck and i would never accept a boy i'm not attracted or a boy fishy about his personality.
Well i don't have severe mental or physical issues, maybe i'm supposed to be aspie and somewhat sane but at times i fear to get major mental issues.
About goin at a con alone, i wanted to go alone because my few friends won't to come but university stuff prevented me to go. Maybe going alone would be so sad and depressing.

[Anonymous No.7625252]

>>7624701
The graph is pretty objectively retarded but your statement is true. However it only matters to a certain extent, if you are wildly attractive you may have some problems finding real guy friends. If you are only moderately attractive, your guy friends will probably still want to fuck you but that's just guys, the majority of them want to fuck everything, it's just how they are. If you can get over that and realize it's just a different perspective and doesn't necessarily mean anything, you'll realize it doesn't really matter, you just have to take it case by case and look for guy friends who like you as a friend and also happen to want to fuck you vs. guy friends who try to be your friend just so maybe they can fuck you later. It's a subtle but extremely important difference.

[Anonymous No.7625284]

>>7624993
Your friends have become shit. Purge and become your Miku.

[Anonymous No.7625320]

>>7619770
>you will never be a little girl
Why even live

[Anonymous No.7625326]

>>7624993

I saw a thread about cultural appropriation, I tthought it was a joke

[Anonymous No.7625339]

>>7622141
Aw, so adorable. I wish I was your friend. :<

[Soto No.7625348]

>>7622141
>>7620277
Kami-sama have mercy on my dick

[Anonymous No.7625438]

>>7622228
>hotter body

Start working out. That's one thing you can check off the list

[Anonymous No.7625444]

My boobs have inflated heaps since going on the pill a couple of months ago (up at least 2") and my boyfriend is happy but lots of my blouses and dresses don't fit properly anymore. I tried on a blouse yesterday and the buttons at the bust kept popping open.

[Anonymous No.7625659]

>>7624348
>>7624411
youre ok with your s.o cheating on you
with prostitutes no less? have fun with aids

[Anonymous No.7625725]

>>7622228
Well, you are right that you don't deserve him. He's only with you because all the cute girls rejected him; so I guess you should be happy for that - he has no other options, because if he had some, he sure as fuck wouldn't be with you.

Now stop whining. You don't deserve him, no question about that.

[Anonymous No.7625868]

>>7625228
Is going to a con alone really sad and depressing? I haven't gone to one yet cause I know of no one that is into it and have had thoughts of going alone to enjoy it and branch out but idk now.

Also, you forgot about gay guys

[Anonymous No.7626034]

>>7625868

I go to cons alone all the time! Its not my inability of having friends to go with, I stay in a hotel with them and If I wanted to I could easily hang out with a bunch of people I already know

Rather, I see my friends every week, sometimes more. When I'm at a con I like to talk to random people, meet people from my favorite fandoms, and take pictures of almost every cosplayer I see. Spending time with people you already know when there are mountains of strangers with similar interests around you just seems so wasteful to me

Conning alone is also nicer because you don't have to adhere to anyones preferences, do what you want - when you want. I will sometimes linger with a group for a short period, but I think spending too much time with certain people is a waste of a con trip, sometimes I'll take a random female cosplayer back to my hotel room, but only for sex.

I also pre-game and spend the majority of the con tipsy, leaning torwards drunk towards the night but this is completely optional

I also cosplay, which helps my social interactions (at least I think so) and am attractive (in relation to an anime convention, anyway)

Its really fun! not sad and depressing at all, I make new friends every con I go to

[Anonymous No.7626087]

>Found a dream dress being sold at a way too high price.
>Contact the seller with reasonable offer but open to other ideas from her.
>Seller says she needs to think about it, will contact me in maximal 2 days.
>The days pass with no message from her. I suppose she wants to check out if someone will buy the LM auction at that price.
>Message her again, telling her we could talk if the price is too low. Still no response.
>Yesterday another DD of mine gets sold at a ridiculous price but I didn't try bc it's not as rare and I am still hoping for the other one.
>Today I get the message she sold/traded it to someone else. I don't even know the price it went for...

She could have talked to me on the day she planned. I told her we could do something if my offer was too low for her, but she didn't even send me the tiniest message, even though posting a personal entry at the same time.

I am just beyond sad that it's gone...I don't know when I'll see it again.

[Anonymous No.7626272]

new thread. >>7626271

[Anonymous No.7627190]

>>7624981

Why?

[Anonymous No.7627198]

>>7627190
It's unattractive.

[Oedipa !tdTJ5jN3oc No.7627235]

>>7620090
i'm so sorry you have to endure that kind of household anon :(

[Anonymous No.7627488]

>>7625348
Love that sweater, lol. Where you got it?? There is a Flandre version too?
>>7625868
Yes, sorry if i didn't mentioned them but you are right!! At least it's a sure thing they would be your guyfriend forever.
>>7626034
You are more outgoing and i'd like to be more like you, when i was in a con i still didn't talk to strangers, too spaghetti to interact.

[Anonymous No.7628958]

>>7623780
A super creepy guy was following me and taking pictures of me and stuff and even was when I was just looking at merchandise or walking.
I'm certain he's going to fap to them later, he was really weird about it all.