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feels thread Anonymous Thu May 28 17:55:08 2015 No.8361648 [Reply] [Original]

stay on topic. my feels:
>go on normalfag resell website
>want to resell some of my old 'fandom' clothes
>look up lolita brands for keks
>holy shit
>find goldmine of brand new/near new dresses going for ~$60
>so many melissa heels
>so many bags
>tfw i got twinkle mermaid new for $60 shipped
>tfw i bought 6 dresses for $450
>tfw i got melissa heels in gold and pink
>bless the oblivious normalfags that can't do price research

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 18:15:35 2015 No.8361713 >tfw someone tells you you're rude >for telling them they should call the store to see if they have an item

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 18:16:36 2015 No.8361718 >>8361648 Where?

Anonymous Thu May 28 18:21:04 2015 No.8361735

>>8361648
but that doesn't make sense?
a lolita would've bought those clothes in the first place and would know how much they are supposed to cost (especially if they know that the dress is brand and can label the listing as such) and would overprice them like every other lolita in the secondhand market

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 18:26:55 2015 No.8361755 >>8361718 don't hold out on us, OP.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 18:44:21 2015 No.8361815 >>8361735 Could be parents, or kids who were spoiled and whose parents bought them everything to begin with. Or even, though it makes me so nervous to think about, a bad ex or a thief or something.

Anonymous Thu May 28 20:56:53 2015 No.8362134
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>homeschooled as kid
>shitty parents neglect us unless we're in their way
>not allowed outside without an adult so we never really go outside
>thus interact only with siblings
>play dolls and dressup with older sister, board games with brother a lot
>half our toys are old as fuck and broken or missing parts
>get creative, use Polly Pockets as game pieces, etc.
>i start inventing games about dressing up as different characters
>shit's cash, my siblings like it
>decide i want to be a fashion designer when i grow up
>then family starts going to church again
>sister won't play dressup with me anymore
>get pressured to be more tough and manly because Christian Fundamentalism
>shamed into shyness thru teen years
>never outgrow the desire to be a fashion designer, though
>when family gets internet, i stay up late not to look at porn but to search eBay for cheap interesting clothes
>find lacemonster lolita dress
>fall in love
>spend years lurking lolita sites on and off
>realize my isolated childhood gave me a weird view of gender
>clothes and dressing up don't feel connected to sex or sexuality to me at all
>most gender-based shit people do makes 0 sense to me
>spend too much time on /cgl/ responding to male threads just to tell them to fuck off, as if i'm not male myself
>may never fit into a predominantly female fashion without people inside and outside it suspecting i am a pervert
>don't care anymore, teaching myself to sew so i can make my childhood dream come true
>tfw independent adult, no contact with shitty family, box full of fabric and burando on the way

Pic related, I tried to do a "report" on animal gender variance to show my sister once and was told scientists were telling lies to make me gay. Paranoia about lolita fetishists feels similarly dumb to me.

Anonymous Thu May 28 21:04:59 2015 No.8362150

>>8361735
>>8361718
Not OP but just try looking at various websites. Looking at these is how I got most of my wardrobe- you wouldn't believe how many dresses people will sell! But usually the dresses will be stay unpurchased on the website for a long time, so by the time one lolita finds out about it, they'll buy all of the good dresses. After that it'll take months or years for a large amount of nice dresses/etc to accumulate again.

Anonymous Thu May 28 21:33:16 2015 No.8362205
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> person who thinks they have any sort of control over what I do with money I earn from my own job: "You need to stop buying $100 dresses, anon!"

I need to buy lolita fundamentals. Like blouses. And a bonnet. And a new petticoat. And a headdress. And wrist cuffs.

Shit.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 21:49:41 2015 No.8362236 >>8361648 I fucking hate you, anon. >where the fuck do you even find deals like that >tfw i feel like i've searched fucking everywhere and all i can find are the shitty replicas

Anonymous Thu May 28 21:58:49 2015 No.8362253
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>haven't bought any new dresses for a couple of months, haven't really seen anything that really grabbed me
>husband gets laid off
>suddenly all my dream dresses and wishlist items are for sale for extremely reasonable prices
>know I shouldn't because we need the money for bills more, but buy stuff anyways
>immediately have immense buyer's remorse even though I love the item, but too afraid of bad feedback to cancel the order and too sick of dealing with the sales comms to resell

Whelp. At least when we're homeless I can still wear AP

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:00:14 2015 No.8362255 >came out to my mormon parents as gay >did not go well >mom cried >apparently you're never too old for your dad to slap you in the face On the bright side, I live on my own so I don't have to deal with being kicked out.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:01:56 2015 No.8362259 >>8362255 Also, on topic feels because I hit enter too soon. >got my first brand dress >fits perfect >looks really nice >the perfect thing to cheer me up after my shitty ass week

handbook anon !!OIFSn1YYnmh Thu May 28 22:13:47 2015 No.8362281

>professor i really admire posts a listing for an archival/research position
>applies for the hell of it, despite not having any experience in the field
>gets called in for interview
>super nervous
>"so anon, do you have any other relevant experiences you want to talk about?"
>spaghettiexplosion.gif
>mentions lolita guidebook
>pulls shit out of ass about the guidebook as a collaborative archival project that i made a small contribution to
>goes on five minute rant about /cgl/ lolitas and tumblr lolitas' shitty relationship
>actually pulls up google docs and guidebook tumblr to show him
>miraculously prof seems impressed
>two days later phone call
>"anon you're hired!"
>i start next monday

Even though it's just a student research position in my university's work study program, I am still incredibly grateful for being offered the position and I couldn't have done it without you gulls. Thank you so much.

Also I'm sorry for abandoning the project midway through, and thank you guidebook anon for picking up the slack and actually finishing it.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:20:58 2015 No.8362290 >>8362259 Condolences for your shitty family situation and congratulations on your brand dress! I bet it was much deserved.

Anonymous Thu May 28 22:38:52 2015 No.8362327

>haven't had the motivation or money to cosplay in forever
>have recently felt the itch to cosplay again so i've been lurking /cgl/ like a mad woman
>posted something on my blog about lurking /cgl/
>sister has been studying abroad for a year
>she replies to the post "let's go to an anime con when I get back"
>pretty sure she's joking
>but
fuck i want to.
fuck i'm poor
fuck

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:46:08 2015 No.8362340 >>8362327 what's your home area con anon?

Anonymous Thu May 28 22:46:48 2015 No.8362342

>friend of friend who I know but am not close with wants to come to meet up but isn't sure her first dress will arrive in time
>I'll lend her some of my clothes!
>remember why we aren't friends
>she is sweet but really annoying and loud
>can't back out because that would be mean
>afraid that she'll be like that at the meet up

what do, cgl?

Anonymous Thu May 28 22:51:19 2015 No.8362355
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This pisses me the fuck off. No one gives a shit about your special snowflake grab for attention. Fuck off. Being genderfluid or whatever the fuck has nothing to do with lolita. So don't post it on every goddamn group!

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:53:24 2015 No.8362363 File: 61 KB, 506x675, 3 Tsubasa Hanekawa - by Super Leo.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8361648 >tfw no qt cosplay asian girl to beat me to death with a baseball bat

Anonymous Thu May 28 22:56:56 2015 No.8362373

>go to convention
>wearing dream cosplay finally
>get asked for a photo
>girl asking me questions as she takes out her phone
>me answering them
>she puts phone away
>"Did you already take the photo?"
>"Yep!"
>walk away thinking girl is a huge bitch for not letting me pose first

PLEASE don't just snap a photo of a cosplayer. Let them get in a pose. Especially if they are in the middle of doing something like answering questions you just asked. ...Dream cosplay and I am sure that photo turned out like shit with my mouth open and everything. There were so many shitty, scummy people at Fanime this year who were taking photos. It really pisses me off and Im not the only cosplay who had a bad experience with anyone taking photos this year. That includes professional, hobby, or just cell phone photo takers.

Anonymous Thu May 28 22:58:11 2015 No.8362378

>>8362342
Call her a couple days in advance "I'm so sorry I accidentally spilled spaghetti sauce on the jsk I was going to lend you. It's at the dry cleaner's right now and I might not get it back in time." And pray she's too big/tall to wear anything else you own.

For future reference though, don't lend out your clothes to people you aren't super close with and trust.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:58:54 2015 No.8362380 >>8362373 I actually prefer to take more candid photos this way, it represents more what the cosplayer actually looks like walking around

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 22:59:56 2015 No.8362385 >>8362363 I'm a qt cosplay Jewish girl and I will happily beat you to death with a baseball bat

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:00:32 2015 No.8362387 File: 5 KB, 500x333, grab it while you can, lads.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >tfw got a check for $600 today Such a sudden unexpected surge of wealth Oh the possibilities

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:04:25 2015 No.8362395 >>8362355 I never understood why people felt the need to blast their identity publicly or whatever unless someone asks. I'm genderfluid and I wouldn't ever tell somebody that shit, maybe not even if they asked me.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:04:42 2015 No.8362396 >>8362380 you sound like an asshole and your reasoning is dumb as fuck

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:05:31 2015 No.8362398 File: 130 KB, 1312x508, BEST GALIL DAKI.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8362385 >Jewish How well could you do pic related?

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:07:35 2015 No.8362404 >>8362387 Thats the best feeling anon. My tax return showed up today too. My saving account gets a nice boost and I get tons of new stuff. I manged to pick up three wishlist items tonight. I'm so happy.

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:07:38 2015 No.8362405

>>8362396
what makes me an asshole in this? honest question
I can understand your point of view as a cosplayer, not saying you're wrong either
but I don't post these pictures up for people online on a blog or on facebook, they're just for my own memories from con

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:08:35 2015 No.8362409 >tfw wants to buy dream dresses >tfw none of them are around to buy I really hate waiting.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:09:04 2015 No.8362411 File: 335 KB, 700x1200, Galil-chan 2qt4me.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8362385 >>8362398

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:18:07 2015 No.8362428 >>8362281 whoa awesome, grats!

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:24:06 2015 No.8362441

>Started new job
>Was excited about it, close to house and pays a couple dollars more than the minimum wage job I had
>But... training consists of a couple safety quizzes
>Job requires some technical knowledge or at least knowledge of how to use online system to assist customers
>Was supposed to get floor training but the guy sucks ass, wanders off and leaves me completely alone everyday
>Not given password for online system at first
>Customers get mad that I can't access it, don't care when I apologize and tell them I'm new
>Dread going every day

I was putting up with it for the sake of making some summer cash for burando but then
>Tomorrow is first payday
>Excitedly view online check
>mfw they completely screwed me out of the 3-4 days I wasn't given a system id to punch in
>Was assured in orientation that the hours were documented

I was planning to place a Taobao order and buy a Lockshop wig before a con so I'm pissed. Gotta go through all the motions to prove I was screwed over. I may have gotten the internship I was hoping for anyway, so I'm leaving this place asap. I was planning to stay if I liked it but not anymore.

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:25:09 2015 No.8362445
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>buy a dress I've wanted on a whim
>happen to be mutual friend with seller on fb
>said she'd ship the dress today two days ago
>no word and no update
>tfw
I hate to complain, but being a buyer myself I have no difficulty keeping my own word when it comes to shipping things. It baffles me why people can't just tell the truth about when they're actually able to ship, instead of feeding the buyer a bunch of unkept deadlines.
I'm not offended if a buyer explains that they'll need 4-5 days to ship, or even update me if they can't. I will be put on edge, however, if I get no communication at all. And as a buyer, I don't feel it's my need to pester for that information, especially when it was promised.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:26:22 2015 No.8362448 >>8362445 >buyer Er, clearly I meant to say seller a few times in that post but I'm sure you get the point. I'm tired and irritated.

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:27:02 2015 No.8362451

>>8362405
Because cosplayers work hard to look good in their cosplays. Not to have some asshole take candid bad shots instead of asking "Can I take a photo"? Also, you SHOULD as a cosplay if you can take a photo anyway. Not just snap shots of them at possible bad angels. Doesn't matter if you don't post them anywhere. Its about being respective of them.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:29:15 2015 No.8362460 >>8362281 Holy shit, that's awesome! Congrats!

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:32:29 2015 No.8362472 >>8362441 You better confront your supervisor and tell them what is going on and seriously nark the fuck out of the guy who was supposed to train you. He should be fired for not doing his damn job as a trainer.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:41:51 2015 No.8362501 >>8362355 she looks like the exact embodiment I always imagined for tumblr

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:42:09 2015 No.8362503

>>8362472
I'm definitely going to tell them about my missing pay, but I'm hesitant to report the guy. He has been there for almost 10 years as a specialist (they can't afford to lose the only guy who knows what's up with the equipment) and is buddies with management. He always says he's really "busy" unfortunately. Even if he really is, I wish that they'd schedule someone else with me so I'm not alone. I pity the next new hire to take my place.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:43:25 2015 No.8362506 >>8362409 tell me about it, anon. my dream dress is elizabeth the bride of death. i was all set to preorder when my car broke down. i'll probably have to wait another 10 years for the price to drop. it's been 3 already and the price just keeps rising.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:44:31 2015 No.8362509 >>8362355 no wonder shes genderfluid. she looks like a total reject.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:47:15 2015 No.8362519 >>8362509 I always wonder what Tumblrites like her plan to do once they have to enter the workforce and real world. I bet in interviews they talk about their gender identity.

Anonymous Thu May 28 23:49:55 2015 No.8362524

>>8362503
Thats no excuse. Doesn't matter if he is buddy buddy with management. He isn't doing his job at the time which is making sure you are trained correctly and instead you are being held accountable for it which in turn could very likely get you fired instead. You need to stand up for yourself and explain the situation.

>>	Anonymous Thu May 28 23:50:13 2015 No.8362528 >>8362355 I see the trend of genderfluid girl are all just awkward teens/young adults who haven't quite accepted who they are or feel the need to prove that they are strong independent women without the social trappings of being a woman

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:09:53 2015 No.8362579

>finally moving the hell out of my dad's house after five months of neetdom on Saturday
>able to buy and sew what I want without his judgement towards my use of money
>right next to a fabric store
>able to diet again without him getting in my business
>no more comments about wanting to send me to a home for retarded people because of my autism
>starting cosmetology school next month

I'm really scared I'll slip back into a deep depression but at least I get to have my cat this time. I just need to feel out the VA mental health system because I'm pretty messed up from having no health care for my time as a neet and the toxic parenting. I can't leave for another four months for treatment because I want to go to school. I'm also excited to lose the weight so I can wear brand again.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:13:57 2015 No.8362591

>be visiting aunt and uncle
>wear lolita
>aunt's friends stop by
>they see me in lolita
>give compliments
>immediately followed by: "is she single/can she meet my son? you don't see young girls dressed so modestly nowadays!"
>like i'm not even there
>protest politely, "i'm working on my masters, actually, so i don't have time for a relationship. and i'm a grown woman, not a girl."
>bitch snaps, "well you're dressed like one."
>can't even with their logic, leave room to go study
>all my aunt's friends turn passive-aggressive to me from then on

hate visiting my religious family members, even if they treat me fine their friends are shitty and smallminded.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:16:53 2015 No.8362600
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>see pic related
>oh god so cute I want
>ONLY $9.63?!?!
>give me this shit take my money hell yea
>12.00 shipping from fucking taiwan

the more I look at it the more I think, nah, I don't need that gay furry shit.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:24:01 2015 No.8362634

>>8362355
I am tired of people asking to be referred to as they/them. I was raised on he's/she's. It's already tough for me to call female to males He and males to females She, but I try my hardest. But fuck this they/them bs, just fucking pick a dominant one and stop needing so many labels to cling on to for your identity.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 00:37:52 2015 No.8362662 >>8362591 that's so fucking bizarre, anon.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:40:00 2015 No.8362669

>>8362451
Different Anon here
I understand what your saying but appreciate the fact people are taking pictures whether they give you a chance to pose or just take it on fly. They still like your cosplay enough to take a picture of it and honestly asking anymore is ungrateful. Point being they still like your cosplay.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 00:41:02 2015 No.8362672 >>8362634 Did you grow up not using "they" when referring to a person of unknown gender? I find it a lot easier to use they/them than calling an obviously masculine person "she" or vice versa.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:41:22 2015 No.8362676

>>8362591
>bitch snaps, "well you're dressed like one."
Lol, gotta hand it to her, that was a good one.

Idk anon. I think it would have been better to just confront them for being rude and talking as if you weren't in the room. I just graduated with my master's and I've had a boyfriend for pretty much the entire time, it would seem like a snooty cop-out to an older person, hence the attitude.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:44:07 2015 No.8362684

>>8362672
Before the whole gender explosion that happened a few years ago... I referred to someone as they when I was trying to not mention them by name. Gossip always seemed less bad if you just didn't name the person you were bad mouthing - cause then it could be anybody.

Anonymous Fri May 29 00:45:34 2015 No.8362689

>>8362669
Another anon, but from experience, people who don't ask tend to have shady motives. Not always, normalfags who thinks you look weird and want a pic to show to their family or creepers usually aren't among those who ask before snapping (or even after). I mean, it won't ruin my day, but I do think it's rude.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:20:29 2015 No.8362752 >>8362387 Do you know how many fucking gumballs you can buy with that money?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:25:31 2015 No.8362766 >>8361648 OP are you the one who just listed the pink JSK from another thread?

Anonymous Fri May 29 01:30:37 2015 No.8362776

>today last day at internship
>feel really at home there
>summer is soon, so I actually want to get a parttime job to earn some extra money for lolita
>bf suggests intern place

I want to, but I'm worried it's rude to ask for work when I just got an internship there. also, they're a small business and even though summer is a busy time for them, I worry they don't have the budget to pay me.

Anonymous Fri May 29 01:35:55 2015 No.8362786

My best friend and cosplay partner, someone I used to have strong romantic feelings for and who claimed to reciprocate them, has pretty much replaced me with her girlfriend over the past year. She uses the same affectionate names for the gf, plans cosplays and stuff with her and flakes on me, hell even events where I was heavily involved they retell like it was a special thing between just the two of them. I've tried talking about it with bf only to essentially be blown off and have since been slowly distancing myself, but today I saw bf call her gf by something that was practically an in-joke with me before, and I'm a mixture of sad, salty, and just sort of disappointed to realize it was probably the same with me, I was the recipient of someone else's nickname at one point, not really special at all. Oh well. I am happy for them, though.

Anonymous Fri May 29 01:49:54 2015 No.8362813

>Be 25
>Go to every con hoping to meet qt3.14 introverted cosplay boyfriend
>Zero success
>Be at local con
>Meet qt3.14 cosplay guy
>Hang out all con
>'How old are you, anon?'
>16
>nope.jpg

My dreams of meeting a cute manlet who likes cosplay, video games, animu, sitting around doing nothing, and being moderately offensive are never going to come true.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:54:48 2015 No.8362822 >>8362813 You need to be 18+ to post on this board.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:55:10 2015 No.8362824 >>8362786 ...location?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:56:10 2015 No.8362826 >>8362822 wow my apologies. I'm so sorry, I clearly need to not be on the computer when I'm not half asleep.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:56:11 2015 No.8362827 >>8362822 they said they're 25, lrn2read

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 01:57:54 2015 No.8362830 >>8362824 East coast. It's highly unlikely you know me but it makes me sad to think other people are going through the same.

Anonymous Fri May 29 02:03:12 2015 No.8362845

>>8362752
For some reason, this is exactly what I do in my mind with every paycheck I get
>this week I would be able to buy over 800!
Is how mind works apparently

But I'm also feeling kinda guilty but happy
>bestie who goes too different school brings up possibly going to Disney world together
>welp if I save up all my summer job money I could go
>really want to go, but then no Lolita or cosplay money
>friend and I work it out and our breaks our conpletely different weeks
>sad because can't go
>happy because can buy brando
Also just really pumped up about my summer job though.

Anonymous Fri May 29 02:20:03 2015 No.8362884

>Befriended the bitchy girl at work
>Turns out she's really nice to people with similar interests to her
>Another co-worker sees me looking at BTSSB dresses
>"THAT MUCH for ONE DRESS?"
>Starts trying to lecture me on how I should be spending my money, being pretty rude actually
>New friend casually interrupts co-worker talking and goes "Maybe you should buy some nice dresses so your boyfriend stops cheating on you!"
>Mortified, but also thankful
>Co-worker walks away without a word
>tfw kind of afraid, kind of attracted to my new friend

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 02:56:16 2015 No.8362948 >>8362776 Having an internship is the perfect way to get into work; hell it's half of what internships are for. You already know them, fit in, know basically what the fuck is up, and presumably like them. Go for it anon!

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 02:59:46 2015 No.8362958 >>8362813 what's with the ageism anon?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 03:09:27 2015 No.8362982 >>8362958 Legality.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 03:12:16 2015 No.8362997 >>8362982 You might wanna check the laws in your state 16/17 is actually OK in quite a few, also get the exact date, they might be 16 turning 17 very soon, which means they're pretty much 18 the next con

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 03:14:39 2015 No.8363006 >>8362340 I live in FL, so my sis suggested metro. I'd rather do Super since its closer maybe

Anonymous Fri May 29 03:20:27 2015 No.8363018

>>8362776
Daw maybe ask them if they know any similar places that are hiring ? Or lry them know you're looking for a job? I'm interning at a nonprofit and they've frequently said they would hire me if I wasn't in school and able to work full time, and also that they're willing to be a reference for me.

Anonymous Fri May 29 03:21:11 2015 No.8363021

>>8362134
Take it with a grain of salt. Christians got to be the dominant religion by force and that's all I'm going to say about religion.
I do think that you should be true to yourself. People's opinions are always going to be there and I'm glad to hear that your shame hasn't kept you from what you really want to do.

As for myself:
>spending a lot of time sewing last minute cosplays for friends because I need the money to go to my best friends weddings.
>working 3 jobs but none are really that demanding, just time consuming.
>Fat checks
>No time to finish beading lace for handmade lolita.
>fabric arrives and is damn cute, better quality than expected. gold glitter included which looks flat on computer image.
>... no time to make cute things for me.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 03:23:34 2015 No.8363026 >>8362997 It's 18 in California and I don't want them for a quick fuck. The 10 year age difference is too much.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 03:23:45 2015 No.8363027 >>8362958 >ageism really anon

Anonymous Fri May 29 03:29:19 2015 No.8363039

>Cranked out 2 cosplays for a big con a few weeks back, turned out decent.
>Another con coming up in about a month, want to rewear new cosplays b/c so much cash dropped on them, but making at least 1 new cosplay for a con is always nice
>tfw your bf doesn't really watch the same shows as you but all you really want is a cute couple cosplay b/c your other cosplays are obscure as shit and kinda lonely
>out of the blue bf suggests a cosplay that he'll probably do, says it might be fun to make
>ohshitcouldthisbeit
>cosplay isn't really a couple cosplay (more just partner cosplay) and is going to probably be overdone at summer con's b/c of simplicity. Not really attached to the designs either for the amount of money I'll spend.
>singletear.png

The two of its have been so stressed and in yucky moods lately and when we couple cosplayed last year it was so much fun... But I'm not sure if its worth spending a bunch of money on a cosplay I don't really care about.. Why can't something magically work out ;_;

Anonymous Fri May 29 03:30:45 2015 No.8363045

>>8362503

Report him. Management probably doesn't realise he's the reason they can't seem to hire anyone worth their salt. Some of these senior senpais can be douchebags who purposely don't teach you anything, hoping that you quit so that they can hang on to their jobs for another ten years while asking for pay raises, telling management that they're the only people who can do the job.

For your part, since you're leaving anyway, there's no reason for you to be kissing up to this senior's ass, his being buddy-buddy with management doesn't open new doors for you in the future, and his success in kicking you out only enhances his opinion that he can shit on you all he likes, so he's not likely to recommend you for anything worth doing anyway.

On the other hand, if you _diplomaticaly_ told management that you really looked forward to working for them but had to quit because your senior lied to you and didn't give you proper guidance, one, they'll be grateful to you for outing the douchebag in their midst, and two, they won't get the impression that you're just another Gen Y flake who quit because holding down a job was "too hard". So further down the track if someone comes across your name they'll likely have a better opinion of you than someone who quit just one month into their job.

Emphasis on diplomatic. Don't write a tumblr-style emo whinge list of workplaces annoyances. Word it matter-of-factly, look at things from their point of view, not yours, and point out that it's in their best interest to look into things because otherwise they'll keep losing new recruits because of this guy.

Anonymous Fri May 29 03:40:32 2015 No.8363069

>>8363045
I did this to a newly appointment manager today at work and holy fuck it was so nice to see their tart ass get spoken to about not doing their job properly and treating everyone working like it was a fucking concentration camp into of a damn team.

The talk they got was sooooooo nice to hear off in the distance.

Seriously, you gotta speak up about people not doing their job or using their position to fuck with you.

Anonymous Fri May 29 11:51:55 2015 No.8363319

>work has always sucked because my scheduling manager was stingy as balls
>she deemed cons too unimportant to get time off for
>ask off 6 months in advance
>request for friday and saturday accepted
>sunday denied
>running a panel on sunday, I TOLD manager that day was of the most importance
>call in sick with the fakest cough ever because fuck you people
>"oh anon, did you have fun with your dress up thing?"
Sure did bitches

>finally quit that shitty job
>got new one a few months ago
>new manager is my age (early/mid twenties) and actually really nice, helpful
>request off for just friday of upcoming con
>"oh anon, you're going to [con]? Great I'm going just friday too! We should meet up!"
>going in lolita coord I've been planning for months
>was feeling confident but now I'm suddenly worried it'll suck
>and he'll come back and laugh about how dumb I looked to my coworkers
>that mix of excitement and mortification

Anonymous Fri May 29 13:26:02 2015 No.8363449

>grandma gives me $200 for high school graduation
>super excited because its a larger sum of money I can spend on brand without feeling guilty because I should be saving for college
>mom then proceeds to tell me about how I should be saving it for school
I know I really shouldn't be complaining but its kinda disappointing to think you have money to spend on something nice for yourself and then be told you should be saving it instead.

Anonymous Fri May 29 15:03:59 2015 No.8363635

>Horrible insomnia most of my life.
>Power level hidden through education, most nights consist of three hours or less because of school.
>Naps in math and science so its all good.
>Learning disability but up all night so shit gets done.
>Same shit at community college, but I choose later courses so I can excell.
>Graduate with honors.... art degree but minor in anthropology.
>cant afford uni or have that many classes at a time without crash and burn.
>Start small cosplay making business for friends who dont sew.
>Schedual perfect for completing normal caregiving job and then up at night sewing.
>Parents on my case for sleep schedule regardless of the fact that its the first time in my life I've been able to sleep for seven hours at a time.
>Say I'll never lose weight by sleeping in, losing weight anyway because I dont have to eat as much when fully rested.
>Worked my ass off in school to please them, didnt want to go to college in the first place.
>said I had to go if I wanted to stay with them, work for them and they needed me so had to stay.
>now they lord the debt of college over me like its my fault.
So done with my life right now...

Anonymous Fri May 29 15:15:34 2015 No.8363661

>>8362528
that's exactly it, I was toying with the idea of possibly being genderfluid in highschool but I realised that what I wanted 'twas the ability to be both "girly" and independent (like a dude)
so now I'm just a femenist lol
and related feels,
>worked all Memorial Day weekend
>get that holiday pay rate
>next check is gonna be a lot
>I'm gonna be able to finally buy some burando after holding off for half a year due to school expenses

Anonymous Fri May 29 15:20:12 2015 No.8363675

>>8363449

$200 is nothing when it comes to college fees, books, living expenses, etc. If you're smart about it, you can rack up grants and scholarships to cover anywhere from books to a large portion of your fees each semester. I know you probably decided already what you want to do, but go spend that birthday money, you deserve it.

Anonymous Fri May 29 15:25:39 2015 No.8363686

>tfw have an amazing bf who showers gifts on me
>literally I'll point at something and he'll buy it
>learned the hard way that he'll do it even if I'm just like "lol this looks pretty"
>temptation to show him lolita shit is too damn high

I've been resisting showing him some dream dresses which have now slipped past my fingers. I'm pretty relieved that I've only felt satisfaction I didn't resort to using him rather than 'shit i didn't get it' regret.

It's simultaneously the best and worst thing that's happened to me. I can't wait to start my new job so I can start doing the same for him.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 15:52:39 2015 No.8363773 >>8362579 >to send me to a home for retarded people because of my autism Oh fuck that sounds horrible,I have aspergers myself but I can't imagine my parents telling me to go to a home for retarted people.

Anonymous Fri May 29 16:01:08 2015 No.8363793

>>8362672
Nope, I always called them by their name and avoided using he's/she's if I wasn't certain. "They" works /sometimes/ but not as a permanent identity. Like, you will live if you pick a dominant pronoun, I promise. Asking the world to cater to you about something that can be really difficult to remember for people not used to it is rude. I can understand for close friends/family, but not the entire internet.

>I have been seeing this kind of thing everywhere online lately which is why it's really pissing me off

Anonymous Fri May 29 16:07:26 2015 No.8363804

>>8362528
>>8363661

I'm >>8362395 and maybe that's why they do it, It does makes sense they're trying to figure out who they are and trying on labels, but that seems kinda weird and dumb to me. I've never felt compelled to label myself like that.

I dunno I don't like to admit to being genderfluid but sometimes I suddenly wake up and just don't feel right in my own body and feel like I should have been a dude. Usually it last a couple days and I end up being okay again being a girl. I don't know, the shit is weird and really uncomfortable and it took me quite some time to be okay with it and not let it make me feel crazy.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 16:07:46 2015 No.8363805 >>8363449 >Save $200 for school So one text book vs one lolita dress Your mom should stfu honestly, it is present money, not "for yo future billz" money.

Anonymous Fri May 29 16:11:25 2015 No.8363810

>>8363793
I agree with this so much, I've been saying this for years. If your "gernderfluid" use the pronoun you were born with and accept that some days you will feel out of place. If your trans, use the pronoun you feel comfortable with. If your neither of those things, again, use what you were born with. It literally does not change who you are as a person and it's so much easier all around for both you and other people.

I understand that sometimes you may not want to reveal your gender but then just don't talk about it or mention it.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 16:22:22 2015 No.8363827 >>8362373 Sigh... the one year I decide to start cosplaying instead of taking photos and Fanime photogs get lit up. I'm by no means some photography god but reading stories like this makes me cringe.

Anonymous Fri May 29 16:24:22 2015 No.8363833
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>Tfw buying fabric on the internet for the first time
>No swatch option
>order anyway bc it's hard to find and the picture looks alright
>receive unworkable piece of weird textured tissue paper
>Feel like a tit

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:09:08 2015 No.8363905

>tfw underweight
>tfw will never have a sexy cosplay body
>tfw food repulses me, eating is a chore
>i have to force myself to eat to just stay alive but it literally disgusts me, everything tastes dry and terrible no matter how well prepared it is
>why can't I just enjoy food and get a nice body

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:14:56 2015 No.8363920

>>8363319
If hes going to a con hes likely a pleb , so dont worry. I saw one of my coworkers at con in a terrible cosplay and when my friend saw him she said "oh that guys weird, he asked me to just hangout or something but when he picked me up we went on a legit date at a fancy restaurant." He was also like late 20s early 30s

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:15:43 2015 No.8363923

>>8363905
Sorry you have trouble eating, anon. I sometimes have trouble eating food too and I often actually forget to eat if I'm busy with other things. I get bored with food easily and can go from liking something to suddenly finding it unappetizing within 24 hours, and if I can't find something that appeals to me I just won't want to eat. I hate that so much and I don't know anyone else who has a problem like that. On top of that I have digestion issues quite a lot.

I find that it helps for me to always have soup on hand, either home made or from a can. Even if I'm not really hungry for soup I can usually find one I can eat because there's so many different kinds, and depending on the kind it's more gentle on my stomach than other foods can be.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 17:22:38 2015 No.8363937 >>8363905 where do you live anon? what kinda foods have you tried? are you ok with drinking liquids?

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:27:10 2015 No.8363946
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>selling shit on lacemarket
>have wonderful chats with buyer
>she pays immediately
>promise her I'll send it out the next day
>everything going smoothly the next day
>get package to post office
>go on lacemarket to message her tracking
>lol this comes up

Fuck lacemarket really.

I realize this isn't the first time this has happened. Just, fuck you lacemarket and the shitty founder who won't do shit for it.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 17:31:15 2015 No.8363956 >>8363946 why not make a new lacemarket if the current one is so shit?

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:33:45 2015 No.8363968
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>Still at shitty minimum wage job after graduating
>Student loans don't kick in until mid July
>Falling into a stress spell; life keeping me from affording a well-deserved vacation
>visited the comm sales for the first time in ages
>woah, cute shit for cheap
>telling myself I can afford it, but I shouldn't spend my money
>mfw

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:38:16 2015 No.8363980

>>8363956

Because I have the site design skills of a neanderthal?

There's been talk of revamping the website but apparently the founder didn't bother even contacting the anons who offered their time and skills to improve on the site, which is just wtf.

I'm super salty about the situation and even saltier I can't do much about it.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 17:40:41 2015 No.8363989 >>8363980 /g/ would be down for it

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 17:41:16 2015 No.8363993 >>8363956 I wish I could. And a new tumblr too. With less censorship. I didn't learn how to do that really though so...

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:43:41 2015 No.8363999

>>8363923
diff anon, but are you me.
this really hits home to me especially since i have such a busy schedule where I am working in my studio 7-12 hours 6 days a week to crank out my portfolio for art school.

I am constantly forgetting to eat, and when i do have food in front of me I suddenly lose all my appetite. Having a reoccurring stomach uclers does not help my case at all.

I've lost so much weight despite being already very underweight and I've had EDs in the past. (anorexia/bulimia)

I mean, at least I have a tiny af waist for lolita... not that I have the time for it anymore.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 17:44:43 2015 No.8364001 >>8363946 Just send it to her paypal email. Man, genetics fucked you up.

Anonymous Fri May 29 17:51:10 2015 No.8364025
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/cgl, i have an online shopping addiction
i work a lot at a shitty retail job, to the point where it's driving me into depression, and to cope with it i shop online a lot buying cosplay and lolita stuff. i didnt realise how excessive my spending was until today when my card got rejected for a 5 dollar purchase. i need to stop spending so much but whenever i get really angry or upset with work i do retail therapy.

Anonymous Fri May 29 18:12:24 2015 No.8364098

>>8362405

Part of cosplay is playing the part, and some accoutrements of the costume aye awkward to have on constantly.

People who put hard work into a costume aren't going to want to be remembered in a picture of them walking around out of character with a bag in hand and none of their props out.

It's like taking a picture of a half decorated cake and posting it online, it's not indicative of the complete work, and is rude and disrespectful to the constructor, because you're representing them with their unfinished work, making them look bad.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 18:19:32 2015 No.8364122 >>8364025 >my card got rejected for a 5 dollar purchase I live in fear of this happening to me, I can't imagine how embarrassing it would be.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 18:21:16 2015 No.8364128 >>8364001 To be fair, not everyone checks their Paypal email (I don't, it's not my primary one).

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 18:25:23 2015 No.8364141 >>8362150 any examples of how to look? i dont live in the us here man but for cheap burando im more than willing to even get a shopping service

Anonymous Fri May 29 18:28:59 2015 No.8364155
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>Move halfway across the country for a job 4 months ago
>Just got let go from my job today
>Looking for work elsewhere
>Don't meet the requirements everywhere I look
>Realize I'm talentless

Damn.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 18:31:13 2015 No.8364160 >>8362813 pfft >likes cosplay, animu, sitting around doing nothing >cute PICK ONE

Anonymous Fri May 29 18:46:17 2015 No.8364205

ok so like, the most boring of feels, but I'm reall happy nonetheless

>been lurking on the side of lolita for about 2 years consistently, 4 years inconsistently
>never bought anything lolita before as have never had a credit card/paypal and too embarrassed to ask parents to use theirs (I'm 17 currently, been wanting to wear lolita since I was 15)
>decides to get credit card after getting substantial money from a few modelling jobs
>just bought 2 petticoats and a few basics
>lolita journey begins here! Couldn't be happier!

Also I'm 200% sure I won't be an ita, I think I've got pretty good coording skills as it is from everyday wear (I'm really picky with my outfits, like extremely so)
Only downsides is I've gained a bit of weight after getting really sick (hospital thought I had ebola, lmao) and I'm tall so I have larger measurements than average anyway, I'm worried I won't be able to fit into my first few brand pieces. Being 5"11 is hard sometimes.

(USER WAS BANNED FOR THIS POST)

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 18:55:05 2015 No.8364238 >>8364205 *currently 18 kill me I forgot about the rules

Anonymous Fri May 29 19:28:03 2015 No.8364320
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purchases in the past week and a half:
>$80 worth of tshirts
>$40 on skincare stuff
>~$150 on figures
>$60 on replica gun
>$120 for a new computer monitor
>$400 for permanent fangs

and now i want to get into lolita...

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 19:32:17 2015 No.8364330 >>8362373 and telling her that you want to do a pose or explaining why is somehow hard as well?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 19:41:43 2015 No.8364364 >>8364205 >>8364238 >I'm 17 currently >oops i mean 18 (i forgot to lie pls don't ban me!!) slick

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 19:49:36 2015 No.8364394 >>8362600 Is that a bad H. Naoto knockoff?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:01:04 2015 No.8364448 >>8363827 They probably mean all the normies that were there. Like fat old Asian guy outside the Marriott going down San Carlos who just snapped people walking his way. The usual photographers who are at every California event did their jobs

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:02:57 2015 No.8364452 >>8364320 >$400 for permanent fangs What?

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:04:14 2015 No.8364454 >>8362236 I found a VM dress for about $50 on eBay once but it was too small :(

Anonymous Fri May 29 20:05:41 2015 No.8364458 [DELETED]

I"m just fucking depressed anons.

>got pretty fucked up in a work accident, out for 3 months. Not going to be able to walk without a brace any time in the foreseeable future.

>Got engaged a month or two ago to my boyfriend of 8 years.
>Bombarded by fake friends fishing for invites and bullshit. Wish I was bombarded with this much support when I fucking needed rides to the doctor but nope, the promise of free booze draws a crowd, taking the buss with crutches was fun.

>try to make a dinner date with parents to discuss wedding shit a few weeks after by giving dad a gift certificate to a restaurant he likes for his bday
>Mom's response is "You better be getting three jobs to pay for this shit, why do you want to get married so soon"
>I-I want to get married a year from now? But planning and shit needs to start now so I can budget myself?
>I just wanted to talk about who the fuck I needed to invite to this I have never asked you for money IN MY LIFE I am not asking now what the fuck?
>She keeps passive aggressively asking me about my plans with side comments? think "well isn't that nice?" "Good for you" in a fucking Cinderella's stepmothers voice to the answers for questions she fucking asked.

>Months after the fact parents get me an 'engagement gift' (probably out of guilt since my sister got me cute personalized mugs)
>It is a mini bottle of ?champagne? I think?
>I don't drink?
>I know you so well too, thanks?

>Very close to cutting all ties, moving cross country and getting married in a courthouse like I fucking wanted but she always threw a fit over that idea and now I am dealing with THIS bull crap when I am trying to put something together to appease her???

Anonymous Fri May 29 20:07:40 2015 No.8364462 [DELETED]

>>8364458
>Back to work, finally
>Job sucks, I forgot how much it sucks.
>Nitpicking has gotten 3x worse then when I left. >If my DM could control the way I wipe my ass she would have me write a report on it.
>Constant "You have not been preforming well since you got back" comments about everything I do.
>You used to be a rock star what happened?
>No shit Sherlock I almost died in your back room for some stupid deadline and I am never going to be the fucking same could you fucking chill the fuck out?
>try to get time off for a bunch of different personal stuff, 1 weekend for a wedding I would have to travel cross country for, a day hear and there to look at wedding venues with my mom for, a Saturday or two for lolita shit
>got a no every single time.
>Working 6+ day weeks, 12 hour days, 9-10 days between days off while dealing with crazy deadlines and bull crap still keeping under 40 hours because overtime is a sin
>all while being bullied that my fucking work is not up to par
I fucking quote from an e-mail after I sent an e-mail detailing that I finished everything on her list for me for the day
>I expect more than that to be accomplished in an 8hr shift by a Manager
>Ktx I'm an asm? also fuck off.

>future husband has been doing nothing but sleeping lately? barley see him when I am home
>Get home from work today, early shift for once, 6pm
>he is sleeping on the couch
>he wakes up and the first word out of his mouth is "It is to late to call for my refills"
>Um why did you not remind me, or respond when I txted you? Or give me the number to call, or enable me in any way to do that for you?
>I was sleeping all day why are you making this out to be my fault?!
>say he is being mean and unfair
>starts screaming at me "YOU WANT ME TO BE MEAN THIS IS ME BEING MEAN"
>Just kind of stare at him, move to the other side of couch and bury into my computer because I just don't know how to deal
>and then he storms off to bed

I-I think I'm going to go see a movie by myself

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:17:41 2015 No.8364483 >>8364458 BLOGGING L O G G I N G

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:23:00 2015 No.8364508 >>8363686 I have the bizarro world version of your bf, assumes I want everything I say is nice but gets mad at me for wanting it.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:29:19 2015 No.8364523 >>8364483 truefacts anon, sorry.

Anonymous Fri May 29 20:33:54 2015 No.8364533

Recently I realized there are quite a few dresses I haven't or have barely worn since I got them and now that I suddenly feel inspired to wear them, it's too warm to do so. I got a little sad because quite a few of the ones in question are/were dream dresses for me and to realize I've barely worn them makes me feel like they're wasting away in my wardrobe, but I also don't want to let go of them.

Add onto that feeling like I don't get to wear lolita enough, even though recently I've started trying to go out at least once a week in lolita, but now it's getting too warm for that too.

>don't worry my babies, I'll try to wear you when the cold comes again

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:34:57 2015 No.8364536 >>8362672 It's actually correct to use he when you don't know, or when speaking hypothetically in English.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 20:55:12 2015 No.8364578 >>8364483 This needs to stop, it's in every fucking thread. Enough.

Anonymous Fri May 29 21:13:19 2015 No.8364619

>>8364523
It ok bby I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I hope everthing works out. You sound like a capable person.
>>8364578
The blogging or the pointing out of blogging? Sorry if it seemed dickish but these threads have been under serious fire lately for going too far off topic. Thankfully der janitor only deleted the post and not the entire thread this time.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:14:24 2015 No.8364623 >>8364394 idk, I was just looking through cute semi normal fag shit and it popped up. I think it was called something like kawaii cat and whatever other weeb words they could fit in the title.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:15:38 2015 No.8364627 >>8364619 yay, the janitor is learning.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:17:05 2015 No.8364632 >>8364205 Enjoy your vacation to focus on your coords!

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:19:49 2015 No.8364643 >>8364619 >>8364627 not to rain on your parade but the OP deleted that post.

Anonymous Fri May 29 21:21:06 2015 No.8364646
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>>8364452
i got my teeth cosmetically lengthened to look more like fangs. they aren't incredibly long, but just long enough to look unnatural. this is the best picture i could find on google that's similar to what i had done. mine are a little shorter though, i think.

it's permanent, but they can be sanded off if i hate them. they caused no damage to my teeth (my dentist hated doing these and only agreed because they cause no damage)

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:35:09 2015 No.8364675 >tfw fucking hyped to get an Innocent World oddments pack this year (so long as they still have it) (and the larger one, which will most likely double my wardrobe) >tfw WAITING why can't the time pass more quickly

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:38:02 2015 No.8364681 >>8364205 >>8364238 This is the highlight of my day, holy shit. Good luck on your coord though! I would say post pics when it arrives, but... u ded, so...

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:39:44 2015 No.8364684 >>8364646 >cause no damage to my teeth lmao bitch probably wanted your money. they can definitely cause nerve endings to be more susceptible to discomfort from temperature.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 21:43:07 2015 No.8364690 >>8364619 No, THIS T H I S

Anonymous Fri May 29 21:48:56 2015 No.8364698

>>8364684
he used cosmetic bonding which is resin just bonded onto your teeth... it's what people get when they have chipped teeth or want to fill in a gap without veneers. my uncle is a cosmetic dentist and recommended this over veneers as that does damage your teeth.

my boyfriend had the same procedure done for his tooth when it chipped back in middle school, and it hasn't caused any sensitivity.

the first dentist i went to actually wanted my money. she charged over twice the price, said i needed xrays, and claimed i needed 13+ fillings before she would do the fangs when i had just come from my family dentist with no cavities.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 22:18:52 2015 No.8364747 >>8364643 Smart on their part then. >>8364646 That shit is only 400? cool.

Anonymous Fri May 29 22:45:29 2015 No.8364794
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My boyfriend can't hold a job down for shit, and once he loses one he won't look for a new one.

I just got my first job after finishing up school and I was so excited to be able to afford all the nerdy things I like (cosplay, figures, cons) but him not having a job means I have to hold back and make sure he's taken care of too and it stresses me the fuck out. If I suggest he looks for a new job he gets incredibly whiny and acts like I'm some villain for suggesting he be a real adult instead of just sitting around all day.

>inb4: don't worry about him/dump him
It's never that simple and ya'll know that.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 22:59:15 2015 No.8364824 >>8364794 >It's never that simple and ya'll know that. ...and yet it is It's always worth the sadness for finding that awesome partner, who can be just that, a PARTNER

Anonymous Fri May 29 23:08:59 2015 No.8364843

>>8364794
From the way your post is phrased he has lost multiple jobs and becomes a useless money sponge. Now, what's keeping you with him? Just the fact you don't want to be alone? What benefits does he offer? What benefits are there to staying with him? How long have you been together? If he's like this now how will he be done the line when it really matters? You already sound annoyed with him.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 23:13:48 2015 No.8364849 >>8364122 It scared me a lot when it happened, but I have money in my savings so it was easily fixed but dang.

Anonymous Fri May 29 23:15:59 2015 No.8364856
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>>8364824
>>8364843
I'm incredibly codependent (pathetic, I know) and for lack of a better word, invested in him. We've been together for years and he's been my first long term partner, I don't have many other friends.

I'm at the age where we should be getting a place together, starting our lives together, but he seems to be happy living at home and not having a job. It's incredibly frustrating that I want to move forward in life and he's happy sitting in the same place.
>sage for off topic

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 23:22:32 2015 No.8364866 >>8364794 >guilts you for trying to get him to do something necessary for both of you That's kind of abusive of him, Anon... Also, you probably know this, but he should be in therapy.

Anonymous Fri May 29 23:25:33 2015 No.8364869

>used to be the biggest fan of certain anime in my teens
>lots of bad memories linked to that time: at least three times heart broken (one of them was seriously painful), trip to con with friends gone awful, more heart breaking experiences etc etc.
>most people who know me from then still call me by related anime nickname, and it stings.
>recently got into same anime after being +15 without wanting to hear about it again
>I actually enjoy dem feels
>but can't take bad memories out of my mind

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 23:29:28 2015 No.8364874 >>8364869 that's me with detective conan right now, i feel you so hard anon.

Anonymous Fri May 29 23:44:18 2015 No.8364894

>>8364856
You honestly don't sound compatible, lifestyle/goal wise, which is way more important than most people realize.
I think you need to have a serious talk with him about how he needs to get his shit together if he wants the relationship to work.
Agreeing with the other anon that it's usually worth the heartbreak/temporary loneliness to find the right person. There are a lot of nice fish in the sea.

Anonymous Fri May 29 23:52:24 2015 No.8364920

>>8364856
You aren't even living together and you're financially taking care of him? Anon... he's a damn loser. You deserve better, please. You earned your money and you should be spending it on yourself, not on your lazy boyfriend who refuses to look for a job because he knows you'll keep supporting him.

>>	Anonymous Fri May 29 23:58:17 2015 No.8364936 >>8364536 If singular they was good enough for Shakespeare, it's good enough for you.

Anonymous Sat May 30 00:02:44 2015 No.8364943

>>8364856
I was in the same position (though he was my 2nd), together 5 years, not a lot of friends or just not in contact with old high school friends anymore, felt indebted to him for various reasons, but had to eventually accept that we weren't that compatible and were going different directions. It really, really, really sucks, but trust me, it's for the best.

Anonymous Sat May 30 00:08:17 2015 No.8364960

>>8364856
Seconding this anon >>8364894 He is holding you back from things you want to do. There are other guys out there, better guys who have jobs and will be thrilled to have a girlfriend who has her shit together and is a nerd too. It sounds like he is just not right for you. If he can't do something as simple as be an adult about employment, then how can he be expected to have a real relationship with you?

Anonymous Sat May 30 00:22:13 2015 No.8364980

>>8364856
Just consider if you can continue on like this for another year, for two years, for ten years... What will your life be like when you're in your 30s if things stay as they are? (Assuming you're female) what if you become pregnant? Are you ready to be the only responsible parent and have to work to support both of you and your child alone? (Can't count on his parents to support and raise their grandkids, too.)

Anonymous Sat May 30 00:25:50 2015 No.8364984

>>8364141
I honestly check eBay regularly. Most of the time it's not worth it, but I feel like it's not uncommon to find the sales of people who were in Lolita and then left it and held onto items and are just now getting around to selling them (without knowing about LM or LSE). Because of that, I got a 2002 VM bustle coat for $70 and MMM Holy Stained Glass for $150; not to mention the oldschool goldmines that show up.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 01:18:52 2015 No.8365082 >sent a request to the Facebook lolita sales group over a week ago >still not added I am new to lolita so I don't have pics in it. Am I not going to get in?

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 01:26:59 2015 No.8365096 >>8364936 fuck off SJW

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 01:42:07 2015 No.8365120 >>8365096 Lmao it's usually the SJW who argue against the use if they're. Something about it not catering to their special snowflake status.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 01:43:21 2015 No.8365121 >>8365120 >argue against the use of they Fucking autocorrect

Anonymous Sat May 30 02:40:54 2015 No.8365199

>tfw i'm finally doing a bunch of my dream cosplays for an upcoming con
>but also tfw im super broke and will go even more broke making these outfits
>and they're all super obscure things
>and i'm doing them to a major convention
>so really, tfw i fear it's not going to pay off in the end for me even though i adore these characters

Anonymous Sat May 30 03:03:28 2015 No.8365231

>go to big con
>lots of cosplayers
>great lighting
>great scenery
>take lots of pictures
>feel like I've improved since a year ago
>happy with a lot of the pictures
>go to a smaller con a few months later
>significantly less cosplayers
>their costumes weren't anything special
>lighting is awful
>lose any will to take pictures
>take some anyway
>see some of them could have been framed better
>no will to tell cosplayers to hold on so I can retake them
>get home and look through photos
>yup, definitely worse than my last con
I don't even know what I'm doing anymore

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 04:42:56 2015 No.8365383 >>8365199 how long till your con anon? time always helps to make cheaper cosplays if you have the time available to work on them, it allows you to search through laundromats/lost and founds/trashbins for cloth and old clothes and materials

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 04:44:04 2015 No.8365384 >get into lolita >check out local comms >tfw nothing but basic bodyline bitches and handmade shitty lace cuffs

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 07:28:58 2015 No.8365507 >>8362134 Stay true to yourself, you are cute. Make your dream come true.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 07:37:56 2015 No.8365516 File: 200 KB, 364x411, Pigeon.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8362134 You sound like an awesome person, good luck to you on your endeavors anon.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 07:40:40 2015 No.8365519 >>8362355 >coord

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 08:00:09 2015 No.8365542 >>8365082 I'm new as well, have no lolita pics and got in. They just took a while

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 08:20:52 2015 No.8365550 >>8364122 Don't feel bad. This happened to me and it turned out my card had been blocked because someone stole my details and tried to spend $500 on Nike shoes. If they were trying to blow it on brand I'd be more understanding.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 13:17:54 2015 No.8365895 >>8365550 Nike is like muh burando for normies.

Anonymous Sat May 30 13:34:13 2015 No.8365912

>one of my closest friends is a normie
>gets pissed if I don't invite her to everything I go to (except she never invites me to things she goes to)
>take her to nerdy/weeb shit because if not she'll throw a bitch fit about how I'm ignoring her
>"Anon this is so stupid" "Anon can we go?" "Anon your friends are weird"

I hate it. I don't like stupid drama in my life which is why I just let her tag along, but I know she doesn't like any of it, and she doesn't like my 'nerd' friends so it's just awkward whenever they're together. BUT SHE STILL INSISTS ON BEING INVITED AND GOING.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 13:35:15 2015 No.8365913 >>8365895 It really is. I always regret asking my coworkers what shoes they're losing their shit over, because it's almost always nikes

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 14:30:28 2015 No.8365986 >see dream dress on LM for super cheap >excited as shit >outbid the snipers, win auction >seller messages me to say it's already been sold and shipped out >feels bad man

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 14:37:04 2015 No.8365994 >>8365986 Why did they still keep the auction up on LM then?

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:25:53 2015 No.8366063 >>8364646 Damn I'm so jealous I'm too much of a sheep pussy to get these.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:28:59 2015 No.8366071 >>8364869 I had the same thing with certain bands, I associated them with bad memories even though I loved the music. Took me years to shake the bad memories off and enjoy them again.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:31:33 2015 No.8366075 >>8364646 but why

Anonymous Sat May 30 15:41:25 2015 No.8366092

>>8366075
People like me think it looks cool. My canines are a bit sharp and every now and then someone will comment on them saying they look awesome. The only reason mine are so visable is cause my teeth aren't aligned properly. I'd take a pic as proof but I'm on a train... it's not anything special in my opinion but other people like it.
I'd prefer if mine were aligned and then sharpened a little more.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:45:02 2015 No.8366096 >>8362509 I could've sworn that was a dude who realised he was ugly and wanted to pretend to be a girl

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:46:43 2015 No.8366100 >>8362363 girl-anons, what would you estimate her cup size as? Those look close to perfect

Anonymous Sat May 30 15:49:43 2015 No.8366103

>I'm a noob to cosplay
>my friend is pretty damn good at cosplay and she asks me to be her cosplay partner
>hellsyeah making a semi complex (way out of my skill level) cosplay with someone talented is exactly the kind of thing I need in life since I never ever do anything exciting
>all I wanna do is gush about cosplay to said friend all day erry day
>but I'm afraid of coming off as an annoying noob since I constantly have about a million questions I wanna ask, I just really want to learn a lot of things from her since I've always wanted to cosplay
>trying to stay cool despite feeling like an overexcited child

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:53:44 2015 No.8366111 >>8366092 I agree, they do look pretty cool

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 15:55:45 2015 No.8366114 >>8365912 have you told her as much?

Anonymous Sat May 30 15:59:18 2015 No.8366120

>>8365912
Please stop letting your friend walk all over you. You need to tell her that she's being a shit. This is what you enjoy, if she doesn't like it then she doesn't need to go, but she shouldn't be ruining your good time. Stand up for yourself, anon.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 16:41:29 2015 No.8366177 File: 875 KB, 500x281, tumblr_mx9uvgodM91qejwiio1_500.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8362355 Genderfluid or not, lazy shitty coord is lazy and shitty.

Anonymous Sat May 30 16:46:38 2015 No.8366183

>Order Meta dress in medium length thinking mini length is too short for me
>Get dress in, its beautiful
>Ends up being really long and the dress is a bit big.
>I'm working on losing weight so the dress will swamp me
>Who was this made for!?

I'll get it altered when I lose a few pounds but damn. I'm pretty chubby and I barely stretch the shirring. I can't imagine how huge it will be when I lose 50 pounds.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 16:48:49 2015 No.8366187 >girl in my comm has started posting YT videos >can't stop watching them over and over and over and over >scared that I'm being creepy and I'm gonna be creepy when I see her but I want to tell her I like them even though we're not really friends yet

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 17:16:15 2015 No.8366233 File: 855 KB, 497x239, Happy-Loki-GIF.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] Start college in sept and managed to snag one of my dream dresses! pic related is how I feel

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 17:27:21 2015 No.8366247 >>8366096 well damn, i was assuming the reverse...

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 17:34:23 2015 No.8366253 >>8362395 >I'm genderfluid no you're not.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 18:15:54 2015 No.8366322 >>8366183 Same thing happened to me with a Meta dress, the medium length is huge on me and the material is so thick, which would be nice except I feel like I'm drowning in it. Thing's gonna be a pain in the ass to sell.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 18:35:02 2015 No.8366348 >>8366253 Thank you for your opinion.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 19:00:17 2015 No.8366401 >>8366322 What dress is it?

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:00:44 2015 No.8366488 >short weeb guy in my morning class >me tall ween grill >we'd be perfect for Houkago Play cosplay. HOW TO ASK HIM TO BE PRETEND BOYFRIEND FOR COSPLAY PURPOSES?! I'd make everything for him, I just really really really want to do this.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:02:54 2015 No.8366494 >>8366183 >>8366322 Didn't Meta used to be known as the fat girl brand? I remember that being a thing.

Anonymous Sat May 30 20:11:12 2015 No.8366509

>working on a cosplay for next weekend feverishly
>save the easy parts for last
>sleeveless shirt is ultra easy
>measure twice cut once
>on the dress form looking fab
>try it on while pinned
>oh
>doesn't fit the way I wanted. No idea where to put the zipper. No zipper foot.
>BUTTONS??????
>buttons.
I've hit a new "fuck it" level.
I'm just peeved all the hard stuff came out looking so clean and then this is a frumpy mess.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:16:13 2015 No.8366516 >>8366488 Would you become real girlfriend with him?

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:19:12 2015 No.8366519 >>8365986 you shoudl give them bad feedback! thats not acceptable!

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:22:03 2015 No.8366526 >>8366187 Anon a newish girl in my com has a blog and does YT videos and i read and watch all of it. I really like her as person whenever i see her at meets and shes super friendly but im terrible at making friends.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:28:04 2015 No.8366539 >>8362395 I have to ask because I really can't wrap my head around it. What the fuck does genderfluid even mean? Saging for offtopic, but I need to understand.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:33:11 2015 No.8366555 >>8365912 Abandon ship.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:35:09 2015 No.8366558 >>8366100 B or C depending on how thick her push up bra is.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:42:15 2015 No.8366580 >>8366494 I wouldn't be suprised. Their not shirred pieces fit me at my highest weight.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 20:53:13 2015 No.8366602 >>8366539 Not that anon, but it means your gender changes (hence the fluid part) frequently, or moving between genders. If you need more clarification I can explain further.

Anonymous Sat May 30 21:00:18 2015 No.8366608

>>8366539
AYRT. Basically, it means you sometimes feel like you should be the opposite gender, like a trans person would, and then sometimes you feel like you identify with the gender you're born with. I don't know about the people on Tumblr who claim to be genderfluid, but from personal experience with it, It's fucking stupid and it can be so frustraiting at times. I had no idea what the hell was wrong with me until I confided with a friend one day and they were like "oh so you mean you're, like, genderfluid?" Never heard of it before until then so I hope it wasn't something tumblr just made up. I've learned how to deal with it though and just accept that some day's I'm gonna feel weird and confused and have to deal with it. Honestly wonder if it's some kind of hormonal imbalance that causes it.

Anonymous Sat May 30 21:05:31 2015 No.8366615

>>8366608
I have the same issue and I wonder the same thing. I look very feminine and confident in my femininity but it's something I've carefully cultivated over the years. There are a lot of days where I wish I had a male body. But that's not realistic for me and the feeling comes and goes so I've just learned to suppress it.

Wouldn't it be great if we could switch back and forth at will though? I would cosplay everything.

Anonymous Sat May 30 21:09:14 2015 No.8366623

>>8366615
>>8366608
To me it's always seemed like something that there's no point in labeling. I feel like a lot of people frequently feel androgynous or like they'd be better as the opposite gender. It's part of being a human, not some medical condition.
Also, it's totally pointless to state this wrt to your coord like some people have been doing lately

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 21:12:32 2015 No.8366628 >>8366623 Yeah, I think it's really something that should be private/personal. I wouldn't share it with my username attached with people I'm not close with. I don't understand the people who just tell it to anyone who will listen. It's TMI.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 21:16:16 2015 No.8366629 >>8362600 honestly that's ugly as fuck, anon...

Anonymous Sat May 30 21:22:34 2015 No.8366638

>>8366615
I wish I was a guy a lot. Dressing more masculine helps with it, but then I see a guy that I would love to look/act/be and it sucks because I know it'll never happen.

That all said I really like how I look and my body, so it's all very confusing. I don't exactly think of myself as genderfluid though, because someone calling me a girl doesn't ever bother me.

>cosplay related
My body's pretty androgynous which is great for cosplay. I remember the first one I did was a crossplay, and I fooled nearly everyone in our group.

Anonymous Sat May 30 21:23:46 2015 No.8366642

>>8366628
>>8366623
That's what I was trying to say earlier. It's just inappropriate to mention publicly unless you have some reason for doing so, and I could never understand why people mention it in everything they say or do. It's like they feel insecure about not knowing who they are as a person and cling to any label they can. I hope those people do learn eventually that labels really don't matter for the most part and it's a lot easier to just be yourself without worrying about stuff like that.

>>8366615
Being able to switch genders would not only make life less confusing for people who have this kin of issue but it would def be great for cosplay purposes ha ha ha.
I'm also pretty feminine and I totally am comfortable with it but when I have one of those freaky Friday day's it's just UGH.

>>	Anonymous Sat May 30 21:24:43 2015 No.8366646 >>8366638 I am so jealous anon! I'm skinny with large breasts so crossplay is a pipe dream for me unless I get a reduction. Binders are either insanely uncomfortable or hilarious-looking on me or both.

Anonymous Sun May 31 00:12:08 2015 No.8366881

>>8366075
because i like them? why else does anyone elect to do something like this?

>>8366092
>>8366111
thanks, anons. coincidentally, i've been getting way better tips at my job since i've gotten them. i hope it continues. maybe you can get them straightened then lengthen them? i had braces when i was younger, thankfully. otherwise, i think i would've gotten them straightened before lengthening them. tbqh the crowding was so bad when i was young.

>>8366063
aw, well... it is something that people that know you might notice. my canines were always a little sharp, and my first molars are actually quite sharp according to my family dentist (i don't have the teeth between my canines and first molars), so they only add to the look.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:20:50 2015 No.8366895 >>8363905 Two words: Medical marijuana. Or just smoke weed anyway. Seriously cancer patients and some anorexics are prescribed it to boost appetite.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:32:56 2015 No.8366908 >>8366516 If he doesn't have a IRL girlfriend, yeah. But I'm awkward with him when I try to initiate contact. Fuck so mad I've been thinking about this cosplay for like weeks and how I've wanted to do it with him.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:46:09 2015 No.8366939 My dream dress came in the mail today. But I can't enjoy it all. My cat I just adopted disappeared today. We can't find him anywhere in the apt and have no clue how he would have gotten out. I am at a loss.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:48:13 2015 No.8366943 >>8366908 you can do it, anon. Be the Kanojo. Dominate him with your impossibly long legs and pantyhose.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:52:13 2015 No.8366949 >>8366401 Princess Wardrobe. The print's adorable but the high-waist and medium-length is incredibly unflattering on me, I'm so bummed.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 00:55:52 2015 No.8366953 >>8366949 Aw man, I'm sorry. Mine is Mermaid Princess. I'm trying to see if shortening the straps (they are adjustable) would help some but I might just have to have the skirt portion shortened professionally. I'm just not sure where to have that done.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 01:06:43 2015 No.8366969 File: 69 KB, 500x843, tumblr_m2nigop75t1r8633ho1_1280-1.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8366939

Anonymous Sun May 31 01:10:20 2015 No.8366975

> mfw when I find out other friend is dating someone
> backpeddle. gf and I finally exchanged the i love yous.
> next morning shes completely ignoring me, few hours later she dumps me
> mfw when she said she just stopped caring about me that morning
> today other friend says they are now dating

feels shitty as hell.

Anonymous Sun May 31 01:14:24 2015 No.8366982

>Finally find something I want to cosplay after like two years of not being interested in anything
>tfw I realize I don't have any weeby friends to go with to the con anyways so there really isn't a point in making it

I'm so sick of being so hyped to go to a con and I go.. and I just end up saying hi to a couple of people and then just people watch for four days. Why is it so hard to live out my weeb dream of going to a con with close friends who are into cosplay as much as I am?

>>8366939
I'm sorry to hear that anon. I hope your cat is just exploring a little and will come back soon! :(

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 01:16:28 2015 No.8366985 >>8366943 Omg, seriously. I would love to. Since we both have a high collection of consoles and game, it would be great for a photoshoot. I'm >this< close to offering money for it. I want to do TTRPG uniform and casual uniform as well.

Anonymous Sun May 31 01:18:50 2015 No.8366989
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Today I went out with a friend and I just felt so completely frumpy and gross. Lately I've been trying to put more effort into my look but all I seem to be accomplishing is making myself feel bad. My skin looked dull so I started taking better care of it and once it started looking nice I immediately noticed how shit my hair is. Now I'm currently working on fixing that. But there is still so much I need to improve on and it's just depressing. I suppose it doesn't help that while I was out I saw someone I used to know and she looked absolutely stunning. She really came into her own and even my friend who didn't know her commented 'such a cute girl'. I felt like a sack of potatoes in comparison. How will I ever be confident enough for J fashion? It's been a big driving factor behind all my self improvement. I want to be cute and frilly and feel like a princess for once in my life. I think I'm just going to be stuck as the ugly step sister though.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 01:23:13 2015 No.8366993 >>8366969 >>8366982 JESUS IN ALL HELL HE WAS HIDING IN A CUBBARD ...which we looked in twice. He was behind some bowls. Fuck me. But really relived

Anonymous Sun May 31 01:32:40 2015 No.8367008

>working more hours
>more money
>bought first piece of lolita in months

Non-cgl related
>cut my hair super short for cosplay
>dress more masculine
>starting to question my gender
>friends don't really understand except for a
>too shy and nervous to ask for help

Anonymous Sun May 31 01:38:06 2015 No.8367018

>>8366993
Something similar happened to my friend. They thought their cat git lost in their moving trip somehow, like they git settled into the new house and just got everything where they wanted only to not find the cat.

Turns out after they give up looking and ask their new neighbors to look as well, they hear faint meowing sounds, and the cat had gotten inside part of the wall and then got stuck. They didn't realize there was a hole in that part of their garage until they found the cat and now they don't let her in there anymore.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 03:13:28 2015 No.8367122 >>8366985 You sound like a dream waifu. He'd be a fool not to go along with it. Good luck, Anon.

Anonymous Sun May 31 03:20:59 2015 No.8367129

>tfw worthless. disabled, can't work
>tfw living off ssi and personal savings from sales
>tfw can actually buy lolita with savings but always feels guilty for doing so
>tfw it's what makes me happy though
>tfw i will probably never have a huge wardrobe or if i do it will take me about 6 years to build at my current spending rate
>tfw i will be in my late 30s by then
>tfw i want to enjoy it while i'm still "young" but...
>tfw ssi will only support my other needs so much

i just want to buy tons of lolita, wear it all the time, and be a fucking happy loser without having to constantly justify the costs to myself

Anonymous Sun May 31 03:41:00 2015 No.8367142

>>8367129
are you sure you can actually afford to buy lolita with your savings though? couldn't the money be invested in something more useful, especially if you're disabled? i don't mean to sound condescending, but at least the rest of us can work if we run out of savings, while the situation probably won't be as easy to fix if you ran out of savings

how big of a wardrobe do you want, and what do you want to fill it with? popular brand prints will obviously cost more than unpopular / old brand and taobao, so make your decision around quality and quantity

you should really try to justify the costs though, otherwise you'll end up spending lots of money and not being satisfied when you receive things

sorry if this was really preachy

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 03:50:08 2015 No.8367149 >>8364856 >>8364943 Was also in a very similar position last year, please seriously consider breaking up. It was the best decision I made.

Anonymous Sun May 31 03:50:46 2015 No.8367150

>>8367142
i can afford it, yeah. (i have 20k+ in savings.) i just find it hard to justify the costs to myself really considering my disability(s) (actually two of them)

i know i should be putting the money towards something more useful to my future but this is all that's making me happy right now, so there's that too. i fell out of love with video games lately, recent anime, movies and books have been boring me or i have no interest in finding new ones to get into, cons and cosplay are even more expensive and a money drain and i'd rather spend that money on lolita, etc. my hobbies are pretty limited and i love collecting so there's that too.

i just know i want at least a decently large wardrobe (50+ main pieces at least). i'm sure my savings can cover that and then i could calm down on the spending and save again after that, but yeah, justifying the costs and guilt makes it hard to really start.

it's ok, thanks for taking the time to respond too

Anonymous Sun May 31 04:33:10 2015 No.8367184

>>8364794
I fucking feel you.

My boyfriend though won't even try to get a job. I'm always trying to make him follow his dreams to not be stuck in a shitty job, but since those are things that will take a while (and he isn't even working on those, which frustrates me a lot) he could get a random job for his needs and well... To learn to be an adult.
I think that what makes it even worse for me is that I'm banned from trying to take a job, so we can't even try to move together and are stuck in my house. I'm working on my goals but the fact that he never thinks about getting a job and I can't get one for a while makes me hate my life sometimes.

Anonymous Sun May 31 04:39:52 2015 No.8367200

>>8367150
Without a job and in an emergency, $20k is next to nothing. You will burn through it in no time if something goes wrong. I speak from experience.

IMO just start simple. Get a couple dresses and figure out coords. It sounds a little worrying that you don't own as much as a single skirt or JSK (from your post anyway) and yet want at least 50 main pieces. I don't think you'll be able to tell what wardrobe size you'll feel comfortable with until you actually start buying and coording.

Anonymous Sun May 31 06:10:22 2015 No.8367285

I always feel so weird whenever I see people saying they're quitting lolita because they "feel too old to dress like giant babies", I never get a proper reply either when I ask if they're aware of any other substyle than sweet if that is how they feel?

People are free to quit for whatever reason they like, I just think that is such a weird thing to say when there are so many more mature styles in lolita that are so easy to find within their own comms.

Anonymous Sun May 31 06:21:04 2015 No.8367298

>>8367285
they probably already know, because who gets into lolita and buys dresses without knowing about gothic lolita ever?
it sounds like you're a little too nosy, why would you ask them, do you know them?

in any case, if someone chooses to say that they're leaving because sweet doesn't suit them any more, just leave it as is because i think they'll have given enough thought to quitting

Anonymous Sun May 31 07:11:33 2015 No.8367362

I made a post on yikyak about not getting something in time for ILD knowing that basically no one would understand but I was banned from 5chin for a few days and couldn't boohoo about it. And a lolita who lives in my town contacted me. I was really excited at first but now I'm worried. What if she's a SJW tumblrina? What if she's a 14 y/o? Or the opposite. What if she's insanely good and looks down on me? For now I'm feigning being really new so she doesn't have high expectations. I haven't given her my facebook or anything yet, I'm still trying to gauge some more about her personality.

I've never been around other lolitas besides a few cons because our state's comm is almost 5 hours away. And I was always in cosplay when that happened so all I did was compliment them. I'm so inept about shit like this. I'm treading carefully because I don't want to fuck this up if she's a cool person.

Something else that makes me nervous. Last year on craigslist I saw someone selling a lace monster dress with an ugly lacy blouse to match and I'm wondering what that could mean if its the same girl. I contacted them through it and sent them a link to Bodyline. If that is the same person they might recognize my name because of my email and have negative feelings towards me. I'm probably overthinking this too much

Anonymous Sun May 31 07:22:56 2015 No.8367376

>>8366993
My cat went missing and I couldn't find her for almost two days. She never meowed or anything. I finally found her up in my dresser. She'd had a stroke and crawled up in there. She wasn't dead btw! But she was really weak and had to be rushed to the vet. She's fine now even if she does tend to lean a bit to the side it happened on. but I keep my dresser drawers completely closed when I'm done grabbing clothes out.

Job hunt is going badly. Running out of gas. No meetup for me. No new frills for me. Thank God I'm staying with my parents and don't pay rent. It's been so long since I've bought myself anything. Just applied to Chuck E Cheese as a last resort. My brother knows the manager. Please let me wear the giant mouse costume so I can get that glorious green and buy frivolous things.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 08:29:09 2015 No.8367424 >>8363905 You should try nutrition shakes made for refeeding - perhaps even protein or bulk up shakes?

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 08:57:40 2015 No.8367447 >>8361648 I never spent more than $40 shipped on unworn or worn once Vivienne Westwood or Melissa shoes

Anonymous Sun May 31 09:13:23 2015 No.8367459

>tfw overweight landwhale
>tfw years of attempting to lose weight never worked out
>tfw seeking professional help at this point
>tfw putting my hopes onto that

I can't live like this anymore, I've hated my weight since I was a preteen and it's only gotten way worse since then. I wish instead of eating when stress I'd forget to eat. I wish my ritalin (different reason I have it) would have helped calm down my insane appetite a bit but I didn't.

I just want to cosplay before it's too late, I'm 20 and I feel like I missed so many things in life because I feel disgusted with my body and can't bring myself to buy cute clothes because I feel like I don't deserve it.

Anonymous Sun May 31 09:29:52 2015 No.8367470

>>8367459
I feel this so much. I'm obese and I try to cosplay and I know I look like shit. I'm trying a new thing to lose weight and it's working but it's so freakin slow. I want this weight off of me now. Some days I just want to take scissors to my fat and cut it away.

Right now I'm doing the 5:2 fast and when nothing else has worked this is working for me. I've lost 15 lbs in like 3 months. And while that may seem small, I always drink nothing but water so I don't lose a huge amount in the beginning when I try new diets like most fatties.

Anonymous Sun May 31 09:50:01 2015 No.8367493

I fucking hate it when people ask me for cosplay advice, especially when they are rude or demanding about it and feel entitled to long answers, getting all pissed at me for not replying or replying in less detail than they wanted to. Go figure it out yourselves for fuck's sake, that's what everyone else does.

>But it's about sharing things and helping each other out! You NEED to contribute to the community! You're an asshole, anon!

Fuck off.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 10:05:30 2015 No.8367502 >>8367470 15 lbs in 3 months is actually really good, and still at a healthy rate. >>8366985 That sounds adorable. You should really just ask him.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 10:10:09 2015 No.8367508 >>8367008 >except for a what? except for a what??

Anonymous Sun May 31 10:11:24 2015 No.8367510
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>tfw started reading Witch Doctor
>tfw fell in love with Penny Dreadful (pic related) as a character
>tfw want to cosplay her and do justice to the source material
>tfw no one seems to know what Witch Doctor even is

I know cosplay shouldn't be for attention-whoring and all but it's still disheartening when no one can tell what the fuck you're supposed to be.

Anonymous Sun May 31 10:57:26 2015 No.8367567
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>desperately want to start wearing lolita, only into casual jfashion atm
>however, i live at home and my mother's entire impression of lolita is from that TLC special
>she tolerates my weeaboo habits but i get the impression she wants me to abandon them ASAP so I can become normalfag adult (because did you know that there are people who still cosplay when they're 30?? how embarassing!)

it's mostly just funny because she'll dismiss shows I like as "but they're just cartoons, anon!" but she literally owns the most Doctor Who merch of anyone I know

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 12:35:45 2015 No.8367725 >>8367150 >(50+ main pieces at least). That's a TON of clothes I don't think I have that many main normal clothes

Anonymous Sun May 31 12:49:23 2015 No.8367747

>>8361648
>Did my research and joined a local lolita comm on FB
>Everyone was nice and welcoming
>Everyone was engaging and gave me the time of day
>Few years have passed, my coords ticks all the boxes & my wardrobe is large
>No one in my comm talks to me anymore (apart from 1), not sure what I did wrong, I'm nice, always polite and kind to newcomers. I'm proactive and contributed a lot to the comm.
>Not e-fame hungry, too much bullshit there. I just love wearing Lolita and being photographed for blogs, just another face in the crowd.
>Not after asspats or praises. Just a hi how are you would be nice?
>I shouldn't care but idk. Maybe I need to pull back.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 13:03:10 2015 No.8367762 >>8363804 that sounds like regular GID gender dysphoria, which tends to come and go in cycles - have you ever spoken to a psychiatrist about it?

Anonymous Sun May 31 13:09:47 2015 No.8367771

>>8367285
Probably because younger girls shit on older women in the hobby all the time. There was a thread here some time ago where a few anons started complaining about older women who still wore lolita. While it's easy to say "just ignore them" it's hard to do in practice when everyone else (family/husband etc) is urging them to quit, too, and so much value is placed on a woman's youth. With the stress from judgmental people only getting worse as you age and the stresses from real life on top of that, I can't say I blame people for quitting.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 13:39:24 2015 No.8367813 >>8367747 >my wardrobe is large maybe they're jealous

Anonymous Sun May 31 13:54:22 2015 No.8367840

>>8367762
No, I've never mentioned it before to anybody. For the last year or two I've done a really good job coping with it on my own, I found certain things that help, but if I ever start to get where I'm having trouble again I will probably ask my doctor to be referred to someone for it.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 13:58:57 2015 No.8367847 >>8362134 Congrats anon, I'm glad you're out of your family situation.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 14:15:38 2015 No.8367872 >>8362385 >inglourious basterds reference

Anonymous Sun May 31 14:19:13 2015 No.8367877

>>8367813
That would suck, I really do hope they're not because insecurities can manifest into ugly things (Lolita fashion emotions are super charged as it is). Did thought that as a possibility but didn't want to flatter myself by jumping to conclusion.

Could they just be 'intimidated' and think that good coords & large collection =/= Elitist? Because I'm not. If any newbies wanted me to steer them in the right direction, I'd be more than happy to help.

Anonymous Sun May 31 14:22:42 2015 No.8367889

>>8367771
Yeah, I understand this. Like I said, there are numerous of reasons to quit and I don't see any reason why not to. But I've just seen people literally say "I feel too old to dress up like babies/little girls", and THAT is what sometimes kind of befuddles me when most lolita styles I see are quite mature? I just don't see the baby-reference when we're talking about like classic or gothic

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 14:29:23 2015 No.8367905 >>8362134 Cute drawing, good luck anon!

Anonymous Sun May 31 14:31:11 2015 No.8367909
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>want to switch to wearing more mature-looking styles like otome
>closet is currently filled with gyaru-type things, many of which I bought this year
>tfw most of my clothes probably wouldn't sell unless I lost a shitload of money

Anonymous Sun May 31 14:37:20 2015 No.8367918

not quite feels because it's old but
>be 17
>decieded it was a good idea to wear lolita to my senior prom
>wearing sax non print IW OP with matching headbow and RHS
>dj looks right at me, points, and says into his mic "are you supposed to be Alice in wonderland?"
>everyone turns to look at me
>mortified
this was the first time i ever wore lolita as well (and also the first alice comment too)
my date came up to me afterwards and she told me that she liked the way i looked and a couple other normie girls came up to me to say that it was a douchey move and i dressed very unique or some shit like that

Anonymous Sun May 31 16:05:43 2015 No.8368072 [DELETED]

>>8366939
My sister's cats do this all the time, they vanish for days and then randomly reappear out from random furniture or corners of the house. If your cat's tiny, it's possible he's just found himself a little nook. Keep your ears peeled for any random sounds.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 16:18:51 2015 No.8368101 File: 451 KB, 700x1024, the_ruff_bird_by_humon-d4y4fca.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>8367905 source is humon @ DeviantArt

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 16:27:08 2015 No.8368122 >>8367184 >banned from trying to take a job Huh?

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 16:29:02 2015 No.8368129 not AYRT but they might have a health problem or something that makes them unable or not allowed to work.

Anonymous Sun May 31 16:40:34 2015 No.8368159

>tfw finally convincing my mom about the good points of investing in lolita fashion and building a wardrobe (good reselling value etc.)
>tfw don't really need to convince her of anything, it's my money, but I'm glad she's understanding me and my interest in this hobby at least
>.....I think

Anonymous Sun May 31 19:19:31 2015 No.8368496

>>8367362
Same anon. That lolita posted her picture in Whisper and she's so much cuter than me. Fuck. I look like an ugly troll compared to her. She's got great coording skills too. She's so much better than me I'm now afraid to keep talking to her. I also found out she's actually one town over which is why I've never seen her.

Why am I such an inept idiot!

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 19:21:32 2015 No.8368501 >>8367747 They might feel threatened by you. I feel threatened by people who are better than me

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 19:22:17 2015 No.8368502 >>8368101 Didn't that artist turn out to be a huge asshole or something?

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 19:23:56 2015 No.8368508 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fzy34GlM78 I never had much an opinion on Rin Rin, but this vid always makes me a bit teary every time.

Anonymous Sun May 31 19:27:14 2015 No.8368515

>>8368502
I don't know but she looks like a furry and made a comic laughing about Americans then got torn a new arsehole for saying Irish isn't a real language, to which she only responded 'well it didn't say Irish Gaelic xD' or whatever.

Anyway she's not funny and has a load of creepy fetishes she displays publicly

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 20:50:04 2015 No.8368677 >>8368122 Couldn't find a better word, sorry. I'm very sick, so my family won't allow me to even try a freelancer job.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 21:00:24 2015 No.8368698 >>8368677 Oh, sorry. The wording threw me off. Hope you get better soon

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 22:37:38 2015 No.8368857 >>8368698 It's ok. And thanks for the wishes!

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 22:50:49 2015 No.8368878 >>8368515 >leaving out the comic where she drew pedophilia for the XDD and then took that down only when there was outrage over it Although I left when she started spamming my feed with her fucking crappy femdom 'original' fanfics.

Anonymous Sun May 31 23:03:26 2015 No.8368904

I'm really tired of this undercurrent of progressivism and tumblrism in cons. And I don't just mean shit like cosplay is not consent. I mean shit like panel guests greeting people with things like "laides and gentlemen and unspecified genders," and people unironically saying fat-shaming.

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 23:25:08 2015 No.8368943 >>8364160 Nah they exist they are just rare and always taken.

Anonymous Sun May 31 23:26:43 2015 No.8368949

>suppose to wear 3 different but matching cosplays for 3 separate days of the con with the same friend
>she pulls out of one due to wig issues
>i pull out of one due to time constraints plus she was suppose to make parts of that one for me for the matching props but she made hers without doing mine so I didn't know where her head was at for that
>all is good and we wore one matching outfit and our other cosplays alone on the other days
>not sure if I'm thinking too much but I do feel that she might have been a little mad about the one I decided to not do

Here's the thing, I don't know if I should still go ahead and make the one that I pulled out of for a possible future photoshoot with her or if she has something in mind. She ended up really rushing that one and it wasn't really well received at the con so I'm not even sure if she wants to rewear it ever. I haven't started on mine and only bought very little materials for it so far but there's a lot of components to it and I don't really want to make it if she never plans for us to do anything with it. I feel like if I ask her then she'll give me one of those "yah go make it" without much thought but I really don't want to invest the time and money into a cosplay that i don't really care for although I'm willing to do it for her. So...should I make it?

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 23:31:27 2015 No.8368958 >>8368949 not until she asks you. if you can't trust her to commit, let her initiate. also: >suppose to *supposed to

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 23:41:12 2015 No.8368986 >>8368904 >ladies and gentlemen and unspecified genders For real?

>>	Anonymous Sun May 31 23:50:32 2015 No.8369016 >>8368508 I liked her until i followed her on snapchat/found out she was american AFter seeing this video it makes me realize her english voice is fake cutesy in her snapchats. She has a normal voice.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 00:13:38 2015 No.8369064 >>8367510 I know that feel A lot of times I want to cosplay from manga that aren't that well know but if no one knows where it's from, it's kind of a big deterrent

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 00:26:32 2015 No.8369090

>>8368986
Yes.

I know that as a nerd community we are susceptible to this everybody's feelings shit because most of us have at one point been discriminated against but fuck we should be encouraging fat people to lose weight, not just telling them it's alright and that it's perfectly fine to cosplay characters with open-shirts and six-packs 'cause everyone wants to see your nasty-ass belly.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 01:52:31 2015 No.8369210

>>8368904
>people unironically saying fat-shaming.

A friend of mine removed somebody from her friends list. She was trying to help her and sent her links to some patterns. Tried to say the skirt pattern was fat shaming even thought it was based off of going "x" times a waist circumference and not actual inches.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 02:21:53 2015 No.8369250

>>8368515
>>8368502
I always hated humon's comics. She just rode on Hetalia's coattails and made a bunch of shittily drawn cartoons with generic country jokes we've seen a million times before. I'm glad people don't give a shit about her anymore, I've hated her comics right from the beginning.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 02:24:40 2015 No.8369257

>Three years ago dating this guy
>He doesen't like that i'm into lolita and cosplay, so never helps/goes with me anywhere related to it
>He has such high standards on girls, so makes me feel insecure about my body and this makes me stop cosplaying for a while
>One year later I finally break up beacuse the relationship wasn't doing any good to any of us
>He gets super depressed and begs me to get back together, also promises he'll be more accepting with my stuff
>Nothing changes, soon we break up this time for good
>Just saw a pic with his new gf, who is way fatter than me

I don't want to sound mean or anything and actually hope they are happy as I am now with my bf, but makes me feel like al those insecurities where stupid and only regret steping away from things I liked for him

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 02:28:03 2015 No.8369263 >>8366063 This. Now I'm thinking about a comment anon once posted: ' what? In North Korea the government decides how you should look? That's outrageous! In a civilisation your employer decides that.' Now I'm sad for myself but happy for fang anon.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 02:38:20 2015 No.8369283

>>8364794
And yet I broke up with someone I dated for five years for this reason and am now with an amazing, driven hard working person who deserves to be spoiled and spoils me back. It is that easy, this is nothing you can change and you can not make a life with someone like that. Do it, tell yourself every day you deserve better and break up with him.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 02:56:09 2015 No.8369299
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> trying to look for pictures of me from recent con
> failing so far
> mfw

I know for sure that people have taken pictures of me. Hell, I've gotten more creepshots than people actually coming up to me and asking for permission, and I was wearing a fucking kigurumi.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:01:00 2015 No.8369303

>>8369299
the way I help myself when I do this it to find a group of people and work together, you find pictures of them while you look for yourself and they look for pics of you while they look for themselves

everyone wins

but in reality you cosplay types are all self-absorbed and couldn't give 2 shits about helping another cosplayer

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:02:46 2015 No.8369308 >>8362634 Or maybe don't invalidate someone's identity because you're to lazy to learn a new word.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:08:32 2015 No.8369318 >>8369303 > you cosplay types I don't even cosplay? I was there mainly to participate in the fashion show.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:10:25 2015 No.8369322 >person sends me an ask >"Oh I got a pic of you at the con!" >doesn't post the pic what kind of person does this

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:29:41 2015 No.8369346 >>8369322 Is this tumblr? Because tumblr is shit at trying to reach people.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:34:23 2015 No.8369356

Literally everybody mentioning their "preferred pronouns".

No, fuck you. If you want to be called a he make sure you look/dress/act like a man, if you want to be called a she make sure you look/dress/act like a woman.

Also, none of that they/them shit. You're a he or a she. Fuck you for making everyone want to treat you special and make sure to give you extra special thought and consideration before mentioning you in anything. Goddamn special snowflakes

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 03:51:25 2015 No.8369375 > saving up for Japan trip > comm announces fancy tea party > we never have more high class events, so it's almost completely sold out > fuck, clearly it's not gonna happen for me

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 04:09:30 2015 No.8369401 >>8366985 This is really adorable >tfw no houkago play gf

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 04:26:30 2015 No.8369420 >>8369356 as a man, this doesn't bother me

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 04:35:32 2015 No.8369426 >>8369420 Suck a dick gobshite

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 04:35:34 2015 No.8369427 >>8369420 Second

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 07:46:20 2015 No.8369584

>Getting paid on Wed more than enough to cover my order
>Realize I've prepaid a lot to my Credit Card to have enough for hotel con room. cause you should never trust a hotel with your debit card. EVER
>Realize I could buy lolita today and use my instant banking to pay it back when I get my check Wed. I'm good enough this and really doing it
>Can't wait
>Go to place order
>Credit Card is Expired

I'm dying, hold me.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 07:48:19 2015 No.8369589 >>8369584 >Good enough about this

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 09:45:25 2015 No.8369726 >>8366558 That means nothing without band size.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 09:48:16 2015 No.8369728

>>8369356
I never get why you people get so emotional about this shit like. It takes 2 seconds to say they, why are you so angry over stuff that ultimately doesn't effect you in any way? Why waste energy over something you hate so much? I doubt anyone who uses 'they' pronouns would want to spend any time with you.

>>	Tripsk !!NfEoAU6E/r3 Mon Jun 1 10:50:09 2015 No.8369821 >>8366100 Looks like a 28D or DD to me.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 11:39:57 2015 No.8369895
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feels here we go
>recently turn 18
>friend INSISTS on me doing something special
>thinks it a good idea to hit up random girls who look like they wear lolita on my facebook to come hang with me

thank god i dodged it and got dinner instead

also got the issue of boobloaf now!
>buy goregous btssb oldschool op
>put on a sports bra and try it on
>fucking boobloaf to the max
>not too sure how since im on the lower end of a c cup
>get fitted again, end up a 30 E
>waist and everything is the same (bit smaller than before)
>on one hand my boobs look great
>on the other im stuck for trying to find nice brand dresses that FIT

this ones not really cgl related but i dont know many girls irl so im asking what you ladies think
>bf has been trying to hang out with his old 4chanish group again
>so far no good because they havent found a time to meet up
>talk to him tell him im getting jealous ect
>he says its ok she just approached him and asked for coffee
>think ok nnice
>few days later and his facebooks left open while im home
>looks like he deleted messages with her

does this mean something?
i trust him or atleast want to but this is really upsetting me

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 11:57:07 2015 No.8369923

>>8363804
>>8367762
>>8367840
Thread's saging now, but if it helps anons, I've felt the same. I eventually concluded I wasn't trans, because if I transitioned to male there'd be times when I wanted to be female again, but I think genderfluid is probably an accurate label for this condition. It's a pain in the ass because I know that as either gender, there'd be times when I'd feel unhappy in my body. I've told two people I was very close to but otherwise I don't mention it, ever, and just go by female pronouns.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 12:40:32 2015 No.8369992

>>8369728

Most actual trans people I've met don't really care much about pronouns, they prefer being called whatever they're changing to, but understand when people call a spade a spade.

Most of the people who make a big deal about pronouns are people who aren't actually trans at all, but are "totally trans because I say so, even though I'm not doing anything to transition and the only way I seem trans is by not adhering to stereotypes of the absolute must polarized idea of gender", or even this "genderfluid" bullshit, which is a real thing but misdiagnosed more than aspergers is.

It's a bunch of teens and young adults on the Internet hijacking the legitimate struggle of people with a crippling mental disorder that makes them dissatisfied with their identity at once of the most basic levels.

They want to be unique and special, so they make up retarded pronouns and say they're trans because they're a girl who likes to wear pants and doesn't like shaving, etc.

Even with this bullshit, it wouldn't be an issue except that pronouns are used constantly and often subconsciously, and if you use the "wrong one" with a tumblrite, they'll take that as an opportunity to stop the conversation to rant about how special they are.

Imagine your vegan friend who is always ready to lecture people about how superior veganism is. Imagine they do this nearly any time an opportunity to segue comes up.

Now imagine that they have such a potential opportunity in literally every sentence you say.

That's why people hate this "my pronouns are..." shit.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 13:27:35 2015 No.8370066 BF broke up with me on Thursday. We've got a con this weekend in the same room and 2 of our 3 planned cosplay are with each other (a big group and a couple cosplay). Now I'm just sad and looking less forward to one of my favorite cons.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 16:56:52 2015 No.8370481

>>8369992
FUCKING THANK YOU

I respect trans people and gay people and want them to have all the rights I have, etc., but the Tumblr special snowflake-ism is just really annoying little attention whoring bitches trying to take the spotlight away from actual LGBT folks with actual issues

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 18:22:06 2015 No.8370696 When your post-con depression mixes with your real depression. At con I felt on top and like I could lead my friend group. Now I remember that everyone I know hates me and I'm not funny at all and I'm going to die alone.

Anonymous Mon Jun 1 21:53:04 2015 No.8371131
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>tfw active airsofter
>tfw hobby cosplay armorer
>tfw access to gear and weaponary a cosplayer could only dream of
>tfw no gf
>tfw most girls just want to abuse me for that

feels bad man...

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 23:18:18 2015 No.8371324 >TFW MISTY SKY RE-RELEASE >TFW IT INCLUDES PINK >TFW YOU HAVE MONEY >TFW FUCKING AMAZING FEELS

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 1 23:19:27 2015 No.8371327 >>8369584 doesn't... your card... have an expiration date on it?

Anonymous Tue Jun 2 06:28:06 2015 No.8371935

>make friends IRL with a nerdy guy I see every so often
>mentions a con he wants to go to and says I should look into it
>cool I go to a lot of cons
>exchange FBs
>he immediately starts making comments about ~other girls~ being stuck up and preppy
>shut him down every time saying he's just looking in the wrong avenues
>gives me a weird nickname and calls me a queen
>says he wants to "spend time with [me]" rather than saying we should hang out or something normal
>casually slip that I'm engaged into conversation and my FB status is engaged so ???
>asks me to talk to call him on the phone to talk
>I say I don't like talking on the phone and just text, which is true
>don't talk to him for one day
>asks if I'm ignoring him
>No, I just spend most of my day at work and when I come home I sleep.
>"Sure, you work a lot..." ?
>asks if he can buy me lunch
>Don't want to be alone with him
Why are nerdy men like this? Why can't people just be normal to me? I don't know how to deal with this I try to be nice to people but dude is being too clingy.

Anonymous Tue Jun 2 11:15:45 2015 No.8372270

>>8371935
That guy sounds cringe as fuck

I could understand him trying once if you were single and then taking a hint

But a) not leaving it be and b) doing even after you say you have a relationship (which is well publicised) is grade a fedora wearing cringe

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