Feels Thread 2: Don't Fuck It Up Edition

[Anonymous No.8609270]

Old thread: >>8602010


It's almost at 300, just let it die.

[Anonymous No.8609280]

>>8609270

Posting on behalf of the anon that was overrun:

>fall in love with lolita at age 14
>start buying it
>too scared to wear anything out because severe social anxiety
>sell everything while feeling like shit because i've never felt this compatible with a fashion style before
>move on
>a couple months later
>see or do something that reminds me of lolita
>cue desperate longing for all the moitié
>don't know what to do
>give in eventually and start collecting pieces again
>too scared to wear anything out etc etc
>rinse, repeat

This has been going on for eight years now and I've lost thousands of dollars on it. I wish I lived in a larger city so I would be confident enough to wear lolita in public, but unfortunately my town has a population of 100k and I'm in no position to move. I do enjoy normalfag fashion but gothic lolita has always been my one true love, and fuck, I miss it so much.

[Anonymous No.8609283]

>>8609270

> dump thousands on lolita
> shamed every time I wear it out
> shitty comm didn't help
> never wear it again

Such a waste of time and money...

[Anonymous No.8609288]

>offer to buy a print a Lolita was banging on about
>She freaks out and flakes telling me its too much money
>mfw im sitting here with my wallet in my hand

Allllllright then.

[Anonymous No.8609306]

>>8609270

> helping gf get a semi-obscure cosplay done
> worried that no one will recognize her and she'll do the thing where she's sad but tries to cover it because she doesn't want to bring us down

She doesn't even want recognition, she's in it for the fun, but I'm still worried.

[Anonymous No.8609307]

>>8609280
>>8609283
can you blog/vlog about it? it is not the same as being able to enjoy the fashion out in public, but you could find ways to share your passion online.

[Anonymous No.8609310]

>>8609288
buy me shit instead anon

[Anonymous No.8609315]

>>8609307

That seems a little too much for me. I don't have anything interesting to talk about, and honestly I'm not much to look at either.

[Anonymous No.8609316]

>planned out cosplay from a sort of non-mainstream cosplay (king of fighters, anyone?)
>got friends together and planned out team
>we all got supplies ready and all
>one friend drops out
>other friend says he doesn't do it unless we have the whole team
>mfw will never get the damn team together

for anyone wondering, it's k' team in XIII (Kula, K', Maxima)

[Anonymous No.8609320]

>>8609310
>>8609310
Man i cant get anyone to let me buy them girly shit. I went ahead and bought my wife a massage and her comic book hero shirts but i still got money for accessories and stuff.

[Anonymous No.8609325]

>husband recently started working as a corrections officer
>he can't have a cell phone at work because its a goddamn prison
>therefore, super clingy when we have mutual time off
>hasn't happened before now, but sometimes things happen that cause CO's to have to stay past their intended shift. riots, medical escort, public emergencies, etc
>today is my day off work--not his but we'd still get about 3 hours together
>get a phone call from him last night
>he says he has to do a medical run
>"i have to stay at least 2 hrs after my shift normally ends, maybe more if my relief is late"
>nothing can be done about it anyway, hes not asking permission, he's telling me he has to do this
>"at least i can buy you that jsk you showed me now"
>...
>4 hours after his shift ends
>crickets
>now he won't even get 8 hours of sleep before his next shift instead of a morning with me

[Anonymous No.8609341]

>>8609270

>Get laid for first time in forever with qt con boy
>He's really sweet and seems interested in more
>Forgot to pee after sex, get a UTI
>Straining on the toilet combined with stomach problems give me my first hemorrhoid at the age of 22
>It's the size of a fucking grape and incredibly painful
>Pretty much the worst week in a long, long time
>Feel constantly dirty and sore, and ashamed of myself for getting a condition that tends to only affect pregnant women and middle aged people
>Watch porn wistfully, knowing I'll never have a pristine tight beautiful butthole again

[Anonymous No.8609350]

> costume is going to obscure my face
> con entrance is at the top of a huge flight of stairs
> refuse to use elevator as it's for handicapped patrons only

>NO LOWER VISION
>NO PERIPHERAL VISION
>FEELING ONLY
>FINAL DESTINATION

[Anonymous No.8609353]

>>8609341
Dumb virgin here, why do you have to pee after sex?

[Anonymous No.8609359]

>>8609353
to prevent UTI.

[Anonymous No.8609360]

>>8609350
Get a handler to help.

[Anonymous No.8609368]

>>8609353

When you have sex with a guy, and ESPECIALLY if you're using condoms/lube, you introduce a lot of foreign bacteria into your lady bits.
You should pee within ten minutes of having sex, to flush out that bacteria. Otherwise there's a pretty big chance it'll get into your urinary tract and you'll be awake at five A.M. with acidic piss.

[Anonymous No.8609369]

>>8609360

I've got one, but I think I'm just going to dehead until I'm safely past the stairs.

[Anonymous No.8609377]

>>8609368
>>8609359
Holy shit. Ok, thanks guys. I had no idea about that. I wish they would go over important shit like this in health ed back when I was in school.

[Anonymous No.8609378]

>>8609341
>>8609353
>>8609359
>mfw this entire tale

You got to be shitting me. My wife takes anal like a champ and you get a grape sized hemorrhoid from poop strain?

[Anonymous No.8609380]

Got stuck working during the only showing of the Love Live movie in my state because some bitch stopped showing up at work.

[Anonymous No.8609383]

>>8609369
practice denying pics now so you don't get caught trying to be polite as some idiot snaps a shot of you halfway out of costume.

or wear clown makeup underneath so the pictures at least look interesting

[Anonymous No.8609385]

>>8609380

[Anonymous No.8609386]

>>8609377
Another fun fact. Us males pee after sex too, if we dont, later on our pee hole can cause piss to spray out in random directions

[Anonymous No.8609387]

>>8609378
Don't know if you know this, anon, but different people, are different. Crazy, right? OP also said they have stomach problems anyway.

[Anonymous No.8609394]

>>8609383

> wear clown makeup underneath

[Anonymous No.8609401]

>>8609378

how am i going to sleep at night knowing i cant have anal now

[Anonymous No.8609431]

>go out to garden
>ants are farming aphids on the grapevine
>no lacewings or ladybugs because California fires and heat wave

[Anonymous No.8609434]

>>8609431
Whoops, thought this was /an/

[Anonymous No.8609446]

>>8609341
>that tends to only affect pregnant women and middle aged people
That's not true at all, anon.
In fact, UTIs are becoming so prominent that doctors are having trouble fending them off because of the overprescription of antibiotics to treat them and the antibiotic resistance of strains. It can get very serious very quickly, especially if the infection reaches your kidneys.

[Anonymous No.8609449]

>>8609378
>Everyone's body is just like my wife's, I'm so smart!

[Anonymous No.8609451]

>>8609446
Not the UTI, the ass grape.

[Anonymous No.8609456]

>>8609378

Your wife most likely does have hemorrhoids, btw.
Especially if you do anal. She's just been lucky enough to not have any thrombosed ones.

[Anonymous No.8609459]

>>8609451
LOL, oh.

Well if it makes you feel any better, one time I ate Mexican food from this shady ass restaurant in a suburbia. My butt got so clogged that I had to forceshit which took over 30 minutes. Went to go flush and realized that there was coagulated blood everywhere, and the toilet water was blood red. I fucking burst a blood vessel in my butt trying to get that shit out, thought I shat my intestines out for a whole ten minutes. Got my bf to come look at my poo

[Anonymous No.8609462]

>>8609456
>mfw she doesnt because my dick requires a slueth of lube

[Anonymous No.8609467]

>have tiny body, stuck with 70A sized boobs since puberty, on top of that have a birth mark the size of a thumb on the front of my lower leg, don't ever wear anything that doesn't cover it
>lolita covers most of my problems, but still some dresses are too big in bust and wearing long socks in summer isn't always pleasant
>tv show is coming up, searching for people who feel insecure about their bodies and they offer a makeover
>considering signing up

I really don't know if I should though.

[Anonymous No.8609471]

>>8609462

Bro, you know you can't always see them, right?
50% of people have them, both internal (invisible/usually completely unfelt) and the nasty external ones. If you're pregnant/frequently constipated/do anal, you're even more likely.

Your wife has hemorrhoids, bruh.

[Anonymous No.8609473]

>>8609467

>70A
>Tiny

are you using USA sizes?

[Anonymous No.8609474]

>>8609471
Dont count unless they breath open air sonny.

[Anonymous No.8609476]

>>8609473
bro 70A is a 27in bust measurement...

[Anonymous No.8609479]

>>8609476

If you're using regular US sizes, 70A is fucking whale sized.

[Anonymous No.8609480]

>>8609474
Oh jesus christ dude.
Think of it like this: if your wife doesn't have hemorrhoids, she better consider herself extremely lucky.

[Anonymous No.8609481]

>>8609479
It's not USA sizes you fucking twit. Bras don't even go up to 70" band.

[Anonymous No.8609484]

>>8609473
EU sizes

[Anonymous No.8609487]

>>8609431
>>8609434
your mistake was hilarious anon. i spent 30 seconds going like "wait how is this cgl related???" that's pretty sad nonetheless.

>>8609378
>>8609462
>>8609474
>HURHURHUR I HAV ANAL SEX WITH MUH WAIFU AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE HEMORRHOIDS. MY DICK IS HUGE AND NEEDS TONS OF LUBE.
gtfo

[Anonymous No.8609490]

>>8609473
You're a moron

[Anonymous No.8609494]

>>8609481

Have you seen the size of some of the people in this fucking country?

[Anonymous No.8609500]

>>8609494
Honestly I wonder if there hits a point where you get so fat that you just don't bother wearing a bra.

[Anonymous No.8609503]

>took a break from both lolita and cosplaying for a year
>gained weight
>probably weigh over 105 lbs for the first time in 5+ years
>no way I can get back into cosplay or lolita now

I know I'm not really, but I feel so fucking fat and disgusting. My thighs look like whales, and my shorts are getting too small. And I can't wear tight clothes anymore, I look pregnant. I know it's cause I stopped working out, but I can't get myself to start again - I'm living with my family right now, and I feel so uncomfortable at the thought of anybody being able to watch me work out.

I feel like such a horrible person for feeling so jealous and angry at actual fat people who are confident with their bodies - it's like, why the hell do they get to like themselves when I'm skipping meals so my size zero dresses can fit me again? I feel like that's unfair, for some reason, but I know that's horrible of me.

I was going to make dinner but I ended up just crying instead. I barely even go outside because I feel so gross and don't want anybody to see that. I don't know what to do. I'm considering just selling everything I kept to somebody who could enjoy it. I think two out of the three lolita skirts I have left are a little tight on me now anyhow.

[Anonymous No.8609504]

>>8609341
>hemorrhoid
Have you looked at treatment for this anon, your butthole can be pretty again!

[Anonymous No.8609507]

>>8609503
You're a huge drama queen. Unless you're less than 5' you're severely overreacting.

[Anonymous No.8609508]

>>8609459

Anon-chan, I've been with the same guy for 2+ years and sharing poops is a level of intimacy even I don't want to achieve.

And I'm subhuman enough to eat food off the floor.

[Anonymous No.8609511]

>>8609503

Anon, we all know you posted this just so everyone would tell you that you're skinny.

We know because we all do this. We're just more subtle.

[Anonymous No.8609513]

>>8609504

Yup, I've been super diligent in my rectal care for the past weak, it's gone way down.
I just know that they sometimes leave skin tags or marks.

[Anonymous No.8609514]

>>8609474
Just take her to the fucking doctor dude

[Anonymous No.8609516]

>>8609503
You're essentially in my situation (except I don't know where my weight came from).
Unless you put on 20+ pounds and/or are under 5'3", you are definitely overreacting. Just keep your diet in check and don't take drastic measures.

[Anonymous No.8609519]

>>8609508
my bf and i look at eachother poops all the time.
if they're big and impressive we high five and are mutually grossed out and proud at the same time
long term relationships are the bomb diggity

[Anonymous No.8609528]

>have lost ~30lbs in the past few years, 10lbs in the past month or so
>finally around a weight i can fit into jfashion nicely, except for slight boobloaf
>feel pretty after feeling like a ugly blob for years
>have a long term BF
>pet i adore
>doing well in classes
>going to go into a career in which i'm guaranteed to make a shit ton of money

life feels nice right now.

[Anonymous No.8609530]

>>8609462
Are you so put off at the thought of them you can accept the inevitable?

[Anonymous No.8609538]

>>8609508
I admit we're a pretty raunchy pair.

My bf even instinctively tries to pop my face/back zits for me. We see who can fart the hardest on each other.

The only thing he stops at is spit and booger.

[Anonymous No.8609543]

>>8609519
??? Why would you want to look at poops at all? I've been with my partner 10+ years and never have we shared poops.

[Anonymous No.8609551]

>>8609543
In fairness, if I thought I had a medical issue I'd make my partner look at my poop or gross stuff on my body for a second opinion to gauge seriousness. Toilet blood must be kind of alarming.

[Anonymous No.8609554]

> have gf
> she asks me hard questions with no correct answers, but gets angry with my answers

All right, seagulls, please give your answers to the following questions / situations (presented by your gf to you, her bf):

Q: if your mom and I are both drowning, and we're both far apart, who would you save first?

Q: it's Friday night, and we're suppose to have dinner together (which I'm preparing), but your company is experiencing a sudden business emergency and your boss and team absolutely need your time to resolve it. What do you do?

Q: how many other girlfriends have you had before me?

[Anonymous No.8609557]

>>8609554
break up with her

[Anonymous No.8609561]

>>8609554

She's cazy
this is coming from a seagull, dude

the second question is weird, but not too bad
the first is a red flag

[Anonymous No.8609565]

>>8609386
I am learning so many new things today

[Anonymous No.8609568]

>>8609554
Girl reporting.

>Q: if your mom and I are both drowning, and we're both far apart, who would you save first?
Call emergency services first and then try to save you both. Depending on how long we've been dating and how committed I was to you, I'd save you first on the grounds that my mom has lived a longer life. Either way, I have a ten minute period to save the next person and administer resuscitation. You both equally deserve to live.
>Q: it's Friday night, and we're suppose to have dinner together (which I'm preparing), but your company is experiencing a sudden business emergency and your boss and team absolutely need your time to resolve it. What do you do?
Go to my job because it's a priority. We can literally have dinner anytime, if I lose my job or make bad with my boss then we won't be able to afford any more nice dinners together.
>Q: how many other boyfriends have you had before me?
Quite a few. Doesn't affect how I feel about my present relationship.


I personally don't like the last question. I think this is a question that's appropriate to ask once during the initial dating process, but if asked any more times after that it just shows signs of a highly insecure individual.

[Anonymous No.8609570]

>>8609554
Third question I think is something normal that comes up in relationships after a while, but to straight up ask...nope.

Question 2 I'd say work always comes first. In any other situation, whoever you organised plans with first is most important. My ex was planning to cook me dinner, I was really excited because he NEVER cooked dinner, and then he got invited out with his mates to restaurant he knew I hated about 20 minutes beforehand. I was all dressed up and excited. He threw in a "oh, well, you can come if you want" and didn't understand why I was upset.

First question is straight up batshit, run like the wind.

[Anonymous No.8609577]

>>8609551
Yes I suppose I would as well, but it hasn't happened so far and I hope it never will (not because poop but because blood in the toilet would freak me out completely brr).

[Anonymous No.8609581]

/cgl/ is my board but you guys popped into my head when this happened
>go to university and see some gothic chick wearing a dr.who's dress
>compliment her
Hope i made someone's day a little better

[Anonymous No.8609582]

>>8609554

lol this is hilarious. my bf likes asking me hypotheticals but not crazy ones like these.

>Q: if your mom and I are both drowning, and we're both far apart, who would you save first?
my mom's already dead, but i'm close to my dad, so let's use him. it would probably depend on how long we've been dating. i'd try to save my dad first because he's older, unfit, and would need more help. sorry not sorry bae.

>Q: it's Friday night, and we're suppose to have dinner together (which I'm preparing), but your company is experiencing a sudden business emergency and your boss and team absolutely need your time to resolve it. What do you do?
my job is important to me and i need to live/make money. we can eat dinner later that night, and i'd try to make it up to you with my SEXUAL PROWESS (or idk, take you out or something). this sort of thing happened a lot in my last relationship. it's normal for working adults, i feel.

>Q: how many other SOs have you had before me?
i'm open about this but it's only two.

[Anonymous No.8609584]

>>8609551
My partner has some medical training, I get him to check out anything in/on/with/involving my body that's not quite right, because unlike Google and my brain, he'll actually help and not make me panic and become convinced I have some terminal illness.

[Anonymous No.8609588]

>>8609528
enjoy the reprieve, anon!

[Anonymous No.8609590]

>>8609554
>gets angry with my answers

red flag.

dump her.

[Anonymous No.8609593]

>>8609528
I feel this anon it's wonderful
>lost 25 lbs dropping dead weight abusive/manipulative friends
>best bosses ever, most understanding and accommodating place I've ever worked
>not making a terrible amount, but bf lands job making up to 70k a year
>can afford to move to better neighborhood, start crazy dream cosplays, go to out of state cons AND still save money for emergencies
it took a while but I made it fam. I get to live all the nerdy dreams I like of being mega collector and travel for fun with my amazing guy.

[Anonymous No.8609595]

>>8609551
Different anon but welcome to the world of one partner having IBS and the other having acid reflux. We stare at our poop a lot to make sure we aren't dying, so sometimes it's funny.

[Anonymous No.8609605]

>>8609341
But I'm 23 and had a case of the roids just a few months back

[Anonymous No.8609610]

>>8609593
we're all gonna make it sis

[Anonymous No.8609623]

>>8609588
thanks, gull.

>>8609593
huzzah for accomplishments! i've also finally learned to drive/got my own car after dealing with crippling driving anxiety.

i'm just now finally starting to feel like an accomplished adult with a promising future.

[Anonymous No.8609628]

>>8609554
These questions are strange (especially the first one) and seem to be the kind of questions that would just instigate an argument/bad feelings. They all seem to point out that she wants ALL of your care and attention. It's fair to want some care and attention but she also needs to learn to compromise. It seems she's slightly immature and controlling and won't be happy unless you devote everything to her. You can't live like that, it's not realistic.

You can't and shouldn't ever ask anyone to choose between a SO and their parents. That question is just inappropriate to ask.

If you had a work emergency, she needs to understand that you may need to handle it. If it happens constantly, I could see her being upset and maybe she's not the right girl for you or you need to find another job. I don't know, that's something for you two to figure out.

The "how many gfs" question is one of those things where she should be sure she wants to open that Pandora's Box. Many people can't handle finding out their SO has dated, or especially has had sex with, however many other people. I think this is only appropriate if she has some suspicions about you having an STD or something.

But yeah, tl;dr I agree with the other replies. She seems mentally unstable. Dump her or proceed with extreme caution. I don't think she's worth it.

[Anonymous No.8609647]

>>8609610
I'll have a drink in honor of you all
and maybe a game or two
It's just nice since my personal life has been an absolute mess since I left my abusive parents. It felt so chaotic and I'm a very stable person who enjoys simple comforts so I was constantly on edge. I worked hard and it's paying off. I can even get a second kitty to keep our anxious one company.

[Anonymous No.8609650]

>>8609623
Dude adulting is hard. Give yourself some props, pat yourself on the back for any risks you take, and keep moving forward. You'll make it eventually and be so proud of yourself for it too. Driving is definitely nerve wracking so, yes take pride in that accomplishment no matter how dumb it seems to others.

[Anonymous No.8609752]

>>8609554

Answer the third one honestly.
When I'm in a relationship, I like to know how many other people the person I'm committing to has been with.

10+ women? The guy is either a playboy with no serious intentions towards me, or is emotionally/mentally incapable of being in a relationship. Also, there's a bigger chance of them having STDs.

But why does she get mad at you if you answer? I mean, if you answer honestly, does she just get a little disheartened, or is she actually raging?

[Anonymous No.8609769]

>>8609554
Fuck I hate that last question. My most recent ex asked me what when we were watching a movie and I responded with all of the people I'd dated since I'd started dating, even only week or month long middle school and high school flings. He got pissed that I'd dated "so many people" (I think in total it was 10? 12? people in a span of 7 years). Even though I told him I'd only had sex with one of the guys I'd dated after a year of being together, he still hinted that I was a whore. I asked him the same question and his number was the same as mine. Fucking hypocritical bullshit man.

[Anonymous No.8609783]

>>8609503
>over 105

YUCK, EW, FAT PIGGABOO I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY YOU WOULD POST SUCH AN OBSCENE WEIGHT
(But seriously, you better be a midget or twelve to think that's some sort of big deal).

[Anonymous No.8609794]

>>8609554
Bruh she's crazy. What kind of question is the first one anyway? Why would she ask something like that? WHY YOUR MOTHER?

And for #2, she should understand that the job that puts food on the table has to come first, otherwise you wouldn't even be cooking dinner in the first place.

[Anonymous No.8609820]

>>8609554
>my mum because you seem like a cunt
>dump your ass
>40 because I'm a big STD-ridden manslut
>get the fuck out
there, I fixed your relationship

[Anonymous No.8609833]

It's not entirely cgl related but anyway:

>university started this monday
>fucked up schedule
>too much work since the first day because teachers are giving us more hours of lectures to compensate for the lectures that will be canceled in several months
>will have a doctor appointement and a lecture or mandatory tutorial class at the same timead probably many more appointement after that
>don't know if I'll still be able to go to Yaoi Yuri Con (small con in France)

At least I'm sure I'll go to Japan Touch which right at the beginning of the next holidays. College is fucking me up, can't wait to get my degree and get out of here.

[Anonymous No.8609839]

>>8609554

That's blatant manipulation. She's trying to guilt you, and you don't need to let her have that control over you.

You're right, there are no right or wrong answers, and her getting mad is a huge red flag. It'll be more than just questions if you don't nip it in the bud.

[Anonymous No.8609856]

>tfw most of my social interaction is online
>tfw only talk a lot with an amount of people you can count on one hand
>tfw contact diminishes kind of because of irl everyone being busy

Now that on it's own is already kind of shitty because I can end up feeling really fucking shit and down if it goes on for too long. But then.

>one of those friends says something that feels off
>feel like you suddenly start seeing how much of a hypocrite they can be
>can't talk about it to the other close friends because they all know him and one of the things he said was about one of them

I don't know if I should just start talking less to him until our friendship just kind of dissolves on my own, or if I'm being too paranoid and just talk to him because I'm craving interaction.
At the same time I want to vent to one of the other friends about him and just to see if I'm being paranoid or not but I don't want to be that person that backstabs friends while acting all nice.

[Anonymous No.8609918]

>>8609833
Hi there fellow French gull. Good luck with your degree, I hope you can make it to YYC !

>been working on repairing and repainting a sword for the past few days
>doing language studies to be a translator
>mom tells me she and my dad were struck by the idea that maybe I should consider a job where I can use both language skills and the things I've started to learn through cosplay
>like going to an art restoration school next
>look it up because why not
>fuckton of different courses around the country
>one close to my town
>small school, offers a course in woordworking and restoration and conservation of furniture
>look at the prices
>10k/year
>Well, not happening

I'm still not totally sure of what I want to do in the future anyway

[Anonymous No.8609924]

>have been really depressed/lonely for years
>about to sell off all my dresses/jfashion since I don't have passion for anything anymore

>start dating a boy who's got a 10/10 personality
>on top of that his mom's also a seamstress who's offered to help me make things- and he's learning himself

went from depressed to living the dream real fast.

[Anonymous No.8610062]

>made a friend in lolita comm
>super awesome girl, my age and everything
>her brithday arrives
>get her a really nice gift
>invite her over to my house for tea, will give her the gift then
>she accepts kind of last minute
>all good, I just start cleaning up really fast
>my family helps me
>she tells me when her bus comes, tells me when approximately she'll arrive
>wait
>wait more
>text her asking if she's close
>call her, it goes straight to voicemail
>time she was supposed to arrive passes
>still no word
>an hour passes
>family asks "where is your friend, anon?"
>all I can say is I guess she isn't coming
>family pities me

I'm totally pissed, of course, but I can't help but wonder if something happened to her. Because if it didn't, why would she tell me she's all ready to go and leaving if she's not even going to show up?

[Anonymous No.8610082]

>boyfriend suddenly on this huge money saving kick
>says we have to start saving for a house, etc
>promise to put some money away every month
>we are still pretty young btw
>suddenly starts making me feel bad every time I want to buy Lolita
>Lolita/jfashion is my major creative outlet and it makes me really happy... job is very technical
>wish he wouldn't make me feel terrible for wanting to spend some money on the thing I love
>he used to like looking at lolita with me and suggest items for me. feels shitty to have lost that...

[Anonymous No.8610407]

>>8610062
I'm a mixture of pissed/worried too after reading that.
I hope she's ok and apologizes for that crap she pulled

[Anonymous No.8610424]

>>8610407
That was this morning, now it's midnight and still nothing. I'm actually quite worried, but I have no way of reaching her that would be more effective than calling or texting...

[Anonymous No.8610434]

>>8609554
Those are breakup questions anon

[Anonymous No.8610438]

>>8610424
Post to your comm's facebook? Maybe check hers out?

[Anonymous No.8610443]

>>8609918
Thank you, good luck to you too! Also it looks like we're both studying to become translators, what a coincidence

[Anonymous No.8610474]

>>8610438
She hasn't posted to the comm page, and I don't know why she would have considering it was just between us. I could message her on facebook but honestly I doubt that would be more effective than a text. But I swear if this turns out to be all because of some silly reason I'm going to be salty as hell

[Anonymous No.8610488]

>this costume is completely sold out and Halloween is only a month away

Feels bad, man.

[Anonymous No.8610553]

Shit. I just missed a dream dress for a good price because I checked Closet Child thirty minutes late.

[Anonymous No.8610559]

>>8609467
dermablend is your friend anon (not that there's anything wrong with birthmarks anyway)

[Anonymous No.8610565]

>gained a lot of weight over the last year thanks to medication to manage chronic illness
>six months of watching what i eat and seeing a dietician, no improvement. illness makes it impossible to do more than very low impact exercise a few times a week
>seeing the doctor tomorrow to try and work something out because i'm so fucking depressed, can't fit into any of my nice dresses (lolita or otherwise)
>have been so flooded with uni work that i haven't had any time to work on cosplay projects
>feeling so fucking miserable, this year's been such a write off.

[Anonymous No.8610625]

>Make $10.50 order for dumb necklace as a gift.
>Paypal decides to charge to my 'bank account' account instead of my 'credit card' account without telling me.
>It's empty.
>Get a $9 overdraw fee from bank, $10.50 transaction is overdrawn on Paypal.
>Put the $10.50 into my 'bank account', Paypal then automatically re-charges it.
>Still have the $10.50 transaction overdrawn on Paypal.
>Contacted them asking what the hell is going on.
>At this point, I've asked the store for a refund on the order since it hasn't shipped yet.
>They say "Sure, the order has been cancelled and won't be shipped."
>Okay that's great, can I get my money back too?
>No reply from store OR Paypal after 3 days.

So I've effectively paid $30 for FUCKING NOTHING - The next time that I get a payment via Paypal, they'll deduct the $10.50 because it's 'overdrawn.'

Fuckers.

[Anonymous No.8610626]

>>8610488
Don't be sad it's clearly complete trash. You might be able to get one custom made in China in time,

[Anonymous No.8610649]

>>8609288
My husband buying me Misty Sky, oh yeah

[Anonymous No.8610683]

>short and thin so small boobs, also baby-faced
>last dream cosplay is a 18yo character but she looks mature so brother said I won't be able to pull it off
>gets into love live recently
>fell in love with Rin and we're the exact same height
>tfw love live is mainstream so I'm too nervous and feel like it's for super pretty cosplayers only

[Anonymous No.8610695]

>be able to join friends in cute girly cosplay group
>would be blowing a fair amount of money on the con and costume
>really excited
>find out in a group of six, the other three cosplayers I don't know are all men
>complete joke group instead of cute girl group
>mfw I'm 21, I have a limited number of years to be in a group with other cute girls, why
>wouldn't even care, but couldn't do favourite character because someone else had reserved them, do second favourite
>mfw that's some hairy dude with a beard buying a costume off taobao
>well, I'll look cute as balls anyway

[Anonymous No.8610709]

>>8610474
Keep us updated, anon. I am curious.

[Anonymous No.8610731]

>been wanting to get started in lolita and ouji for a while
>girlfriend hates it and thinks it makes people look super fat, it's a waste of money and it's "ugly and tacky"
>disheartened because even though I dress for myself, it feels bad knowing my SO dislikes so much what I wear and because we'll never be a kawaii lolita/ouji couple
>attempt to show her more casual lolita and ouji
>specially ouji, since it's what I'm trying to get into the most
>"well, that's actually cute.."
>PRAISE THE LORD

She still wouldn't wear it but agreed on a possible photoshoot someday. It's already enough to make me happy.

[Anonymous No.8610739]

>Feel disjointed because while being a fan of anime and anime related things, no one takes you seriously

Dont know where the hell i sit in this damned fandom. Always assuming im just playing around or just attention seeking. Fucking kills me

>At least my figs are coming off Pre-Order this month

[Anonymous No.8610740]

I'm in the middle of moving and I dropped off one of my cats at the new place in a closed off room with nothing in it besides her carrier and some food and water. I go in the room to check on her and she is gone. No where to be found and I am freaking out. I know this isn't cgl related but I'm really upset and my family isn't helping.

[Anonymous No.8610742]

>>8610739
Girls und Panzer?

[Anonymous No.8610743]

>>8610740
I found one of my barn cats in my vents once. Had to snake a cat toy down there and drag him back up. They can also crawl under doors

[Anonymous No.8610744]

>>8609918
>10k yr
>tfw my uni is 60k/yr, no financial aid because parents make too much money
being an amerifag is suffering
I hope you can look into other programs though, that sounds like a really interesting and relaxing profession! Maybe you could work and save up to go back to school someday?

[Anonymous No.8610745]

>>8610742
What about it? The figs are just the cute little non-lewd destroyers i think Bandai is doing. Im really keen to get Little Witch Academia if they ever put any out, which is probably never.

[Anonymous No.8610750]

>>8610683
Do it anon.

[Anonymous No.8610752]

>>8609306
Maybe post on the con's fb group before hand asking for other ppl who might be cosplaying the same thing?

[Anonymous No.8610754]

>>8610743
No way she can get under the door. I don't even know where there is a vent in that room but I'll check. I'm worried because it's an apartment building.

[Anonymous No.8610756]

>>8610745
Because of the image you posted I thought the whole fandom and figs part was about GuP.

[Anonymous No.8610769]

>cgl related
got this message from an aliexpress seller.
pretty disappointing but at least they're sending it out again free of charge
also realizing how poor i am now that i'm in college and unable to work like i was over the summer. i can afford a piece of brand maybe every 2 months. before i was able to get a piece every month
>4chan related but not cgl related
i had a sex dream about moot last night

[Anonymous No.8610777]

>>8609288
Buy me things pls anon

[Anonymous No.8610780]

>>8610756
No, just the fandom in general. Like in the figs thread in /a/ i mentioned my wife playfully gave me shit for pre-ordering, in an attempt at humor, and someone said "lol retweeted". I mean really. I will admit that GuP's manga has better story outlining than the Anime, but the manga is behind and it annoys me.

[Anonymous No.8610788]

>>8610754
Youre aware apartment builing walls are hallow, right? If anything one of your dumbass family units let the cat out and are avoiding you getting mad at them

[Anonymous No.8610829]

>>8610788
I've never lived in a building before so I wouldn't know. I was also the only one in the apartment. I put her in one of the bedrooms and closed the door. Before I left to go back to the old place, I went to check on her and she was gone. The only thing I can think is that when I went to go to the car to get more stuff, someone went in looking to steal something and let her out by accident.

[Anonymous No.8610838]

>>8610829
>Dindu finds house empty of pawnshop valuables
>Lets cat out in retaliation

Thad be a dick move. Unfortunately its hard to lure cats back where as dogs you can leave s t-shirt out and theyll lay on it. Cats immediately seek territory and saunter out on an adventure.

[Anonymous No.8610847]

>>8610838
Everything is in bags and boxes so nothing looks valuable straight out of the gate. It might've been an accident if that is what happened but if that is the case and I catch who did there will be hell to pay. I'm sorry I trusted this building of little old ladies enough to leave my door unlocked for 5 minutes. That cat is probably gone forever.

[Anonymous No.8610854]

If its one thing being an MP taught me, is that the only person you can trust is your spouse, if you're lucky. I personally dont trust a single damn person, even my best friends. My wife and father proved other wise by key life events, but even my own mother i dont trust.

>Mfw your mother tried to sell all of your shit when you went to go live on your own

I left the house to go grab more fuel, span of maybe 20min. When i got back i had to wrangle my stuff from a couple red necks trying to make off with my computer and desk for free.

>Trust. No. Onnnnneeeee.

[Anonymous No.8610880]

>>8609500
I'm just imaging this whale of a human being who has fat EVERYWHERE except in their boobs.

Even fat men have bigger tits than an A Cup, especially if they reach a 70 inch underbust.

[Anonymous No.8610885]

>>8610880
Ive seen a few of these specimens

[Anonymous No.8610894]

>>8610553
which one?

[Anonymous No.8610897]

>>8610683
Do it anonnnn!

[Anonymous No.8610902]

>>8610740
Cats can definitely open doors, especially in apartments where the latches may not be very good. My cat gets out of my room into the main area all the time because of that (and the door opens INWARD from that side); when I absolutely need him to stay in because of maintenance or something I block the door so even if he opens it there's something else in the way.

[Anonymous No.8610952]

>>8610474
Honestly, I'd post something like "I'm really worried about anon, she was supposed to come over yesterday, but I haven't been able to contact her. Can someone make sure she's okay?"

If she was BS-ing you, then you've effectively called her out while looking genuinely worried. If she isn't, then you've done something that could help.

[Anonymous No.8610961]

>>8610880
you mean PT?

[Anonymous No.8610972]

>>8610902
My cats have never been able to do that. They generally stay put when in a closed room. The rest of this move is going so poorly too. I give up.

[Anonymous No.8610974]

>>8610972
sorry anon. make flyers and put them up around the area. check in with local shelters too.

[Anonymous No.8611208]

>feel really positive
>feel confident in myself
>cosplays look bomb af in my opinion
>photographers are contacting me
>planning next cosplay
>come back from a vacation
>mom has cancer
>dad is going 3 hours away for work training
>grandpa is in the ICU after trying to break into his own house
>grandpa now in psych ward due to threatening to commit suicide
>e-everything is fine
>friend offers to commission me to write her sappy otp things
>still feel like shit

[Anonymous No.8611209]

>finally make cosplaying friends after a good few years of spaghetti
>really good friends, have been for 3 years, never managed to organised a group together
>mention I'd like to do group x
>"anon, we're doing group x, y variant, for this con! want to join in?"
>over the moon, but not sure if I can afford the con & new cosplay, tell them I'll let them know
>get new job, can afford it
>tell them, massively excited
>"oh, cool, anon"
>essentially whatever
>do not want to discuss group, or poses, or a shoot, or anything, at all
>feel very unwanted and like I'm invading
>b-but they invited me

[Anonymous No.8611229]

>>8610952
that's some good thinking anon, but I don't think I will because she's only been to like 2 comm meets ever, due to anxiety, so most of the time I see her is just personal hangouts, so I strongly doubt that anyone in the comm would be able to get in touch with her. I will try facebook messaging her though because who knows, maybe her phone broke or something?

[Anonymous No.8611233]

>>8611229
holy shit. same anon here.
I went to facebook message her and her facebook is gone. I can't find her anywhere. I even checked the comm page and all her activity is gone. Did she block me...? What the hell is happening?

[Anonymous No.8611243]

>paranoia's been acting up recently
>convinced myself I'm going to die in my sleep
>can't sleep as result
>every time I feel myself drifting off I panic
>feelsbadman.jpg

[Anonymous No.8611252]

>>8611233
Maybe she had the wrong number, wrong address or wrong bus, and from her point of view, thought you had intentionally given her wrong info, or stood her up etc.

[Anonymous No.8611258]

>>8611233
It sounds like she may have blocked you, if she had deactivated her empty profile would still show up. That's the strangest shit, I'm sorry anon. Does she have a tumblr or something similar you could see? Do you have any mutual friends you could possibly ask to talk to her for you? Maybe send her a text saying you don't understand why she's removed you from facebook, ask if you've done anything wrong, that sort of thing.

[Anonymous No.8611260]

>>8609924
Same, except that I'm in the "sold all my dresses" stage and haven't found anyone so still depressed lol

At least i'm trying to get new hobbies to get distracted

[Anonymous No.8611269]

>>8611243
Just remembered this isn't /cgl/ related, sorry guys

[Anonymous No.8611286]

>>8609528
I have had a wonderful day today too.
>Finally got the courage to stand up to my bitch of a boss and quit my shit job after almost 8 years of hell.
>Going back to school to finish final year
>Got an email back for a job interview in 3 days
>Its closer to school, and its one of my favorite places to hang out with friends.

Life is worth living again, gulls.

[Anonymous No.8611299]

>>8611252
No, she had my number since she texted me that morning, and I was going to pick her up from the train station. And I texted her asking if she was there when she said she would be.

>>8611258
It seems like it. I'm so confused... I messaged a girl who went to high school with her, maybe she has some way in getting in contact with her. I went to her tumblr and sent her an ask. But she unfollowed me and I had to go there by going to the actual web address of her url. This is so weird, and what am I supposed to do with her gift now? It was custom made so I can't really do much with it...

[Anonymous No.8611331]

>>8611299
Honestly, it sounds as though she might just be really anxious and is worried you're going to be mad at her. I used to do this stuff all the time until I was able to get a grip on it. I say just let her be and talk to her if she ever decides to come back.

[Anonymous No.8611338]

>>8611331
call me insensitive but that's really annoying. If she does come back I'll probably still be pissed for putting me through all this worry without so much as a word. If you don't mind me asking, why did you used to do this? Could you provide some insight?

[Anonymous No.8611356]

>>8611338
Yeah, it's pretty annoying and you definitely have a right to be mad. I just wanted to suggest a reason as to why she might be acting like this, especially since she can hardly attend a meet, I don't think she would be able to go to someone's house. At least at a meet you can step out of a conversation and just listen, whereas one-on-one you can't really do that. Granted, I don't know this girl, so it's just speculation.

For me it was mostly because I didn't want people to get mad at me. There was always the "oh god, what if I say/do something terribly wrong and I get yelled at for it?", as well as the fact that I couldn't hold a conversation for shit which drove the anxiety through the roof ("what if they get mad because I can't say anything?" sort of thing).

[Anonymous No.8611358]

>male and thick
>constantly get told I fit really well cosplaying thick male characters
>all the characters I want to do are cute female ones

I'm at dangerous anorexia levels of bodyfat already, but my skeletal structure still makes me look like a 5'8'' barrel
Can you buy cuteness somewhere or should I just give up on the hobby for good
I don't really get any enjoyment out being constantly called for groups just because of my cursed build

[Anonymous No.8611369]

>>8611356
that's very helpful, thank you. She doesn't come to meets because she can't shake the feeling that lolitas are catty and nasty behind each other's backs. We've been friends for about a year now and we've done things together multiple times, so I don't know why this would be any different. But who knows, really. I guess there's nothing much I can do besides be bitter.

[Anonymous No.8611765]

>>8611209
they might just be unorganized as fuck, suggest making a group for them all? Set down some ground rules to help keep things moving smoothly.

[Anonymous No.8611766]

Can't wait until Halloween is over so get some real prints released.

[Anonymous No.8611775]

Time for heavy feels

>always had interest in girls clothes as a kid
>dressing as a girl when I was 11
>close, older male family member caught me, then proceeded to dress me up and rape me over the next few years
>pretty heavily messed up over it
>always wanted to get into lolita fashion but can't because feels
>been talking to therapist about this
>they suggested that maybe I should plunge into it and use the hobby to 'conquer' the feels and retake my interest in girls clothing
>want to but too scared to do it on my own
>don't want people to think its some creepy fetish and not something meaningful to me

[Anonymous No.8611844]

>>8611775
thats so sad, anon. I agree with your therapist. though. You don't have to tell anyone why you're wearing it. Just don't be one of those creepy greasy brolitas, which if you care enough you won't be.

[Anonymous No.8611845]

>>8611775
That sucks and I'm sorry for your feels. You can do this. It's going to be scary, but you've got it.
1. Buy yourself cheap bodyline co-ord(dress, socks, petticoat, socks, shoes).
2. Put on in private.
3. See if you enjoy.

[Anonymous No.8611854]

>summer quarter for college drawing to a close
>project due dates, homework, and tests are all piling up
>can't keep up with work
>deadbeat project partners refuse to communicate and professors are less than sympathetic about partners not doing their work
>"well your partner isn't doing work because you don't communicate well enough with them, anon"
>mom screams at me for something that no one could control
>ex-best friend told me that I ain't shit compared to her trash boyfriend
>unable to find job to pay for my own food
>feel like a complete failure, seriously contemplating about killing myself

>inb4 "anon it gets better"
i know it will
>inb4 "then why did you post this"
i just wanted to write out my thoughts and tell someone that i don't know. i don't want to stress my friends out by telling them stuff like this.

[Anonymous No.8611927]

>>8610854
Holy fuck, your computer? As in, with all your personal stuff still on it? That is terrifying. I would absolutely chimp out in that situation. I'm glad those rednecks didn't get your shit anon, sorry your mom is a turbo hag.

[Anonymous No.8611938]

>>8611845
>>8611844
Thanks for the kind words femanons. Can I ask how you two got started in lolita?

[Anonymous No.8611960]

>>8611938
not one of the previous femanons, but step 1 is really to do your research. bodyline is a good start since you can get a whole outfit for $150 shipped or something like that. there's also taobao indie brands which are fairly cheap too. pick out a couple of main pieces you like, a white or black blouse, a nice petti (I like Classical Puppets but I heard their quality has gone down lately), and base your accessories and shoes off of your main piece.

If you have any questions, feel free to ask in the coord help thread, anon! I'd love to help you as much as possible. :D

[Anonymous No.8611962]

>>8611960
I'm going to check it out. My email is [e-mail] , would you consider messaging me? I dont want to bog up lolita threads with beginner questions and you seem helpful and friendly

[Anonymous No.8612073]

Be me, really getting into cosplay and cons - coming out of shell (making cos friends, even get gf at one point, the good shit.)

Then day of con, your at con havin good time, you go to toilet - you shit blood.
>> inflammatory bowel disease has a flare up

Missed a con and got acne from medication given to me so face looks really unappealing.
>> illness dies down,good stuff
>> go to con couple months later
Your at train station, go to toilet, have to bite down on my arm because pain of going to the toilet hurts so much, throws up in public bathroom, have pretty good time at con then afterwards but was still pretty upset.

[Anonymous No.8612118]

I've been watching random videos from dragoncon looking for glimpses of the few videographers who caught me in cosplay. Youtube was on autoplay and started up with someone's vlog from the event. I decided to watch it. Just a girl with a few friends, doing group cosplays and fun things in atlanta.

I was busy sewing something and the laptop was across the room, so I didn't bother getting up and righting course when it continued to show more of her vlogs. Finally it got to a Dear younger me, and she talked about being an outcast and how that would change because she would discover cosplay and friends who were into cosplay.

This little seed has been in my head for three days now. I recently moved and I have no friends here besides my sisters, and even then they're both busy with school and work and don't have interest in cosplay.

I just want that. I want a group of friends who are close, and hang out and talk every day. I want a group of friends who will cosplay do silly group cosplays and take a whole bunch of photos with each other. Right now my cosplay group is myself, my boyfriend and a friend of ours. And the two of them are like cats, always wanting to do their own thing. Almost all my group ideas have been shot down because "you'll have to find someone else to fill in, because I don't want to do that"

And I feel bad for asking for more, because my bf is awesome and I love doing cosplays with him, but sometimes I just want other friends in this hobby who I can hangout with on a weekly basis.

Sorry for the rant gulls, this is the only place where I can say anything like this, and it sucks. Have a bad cosplay of a bad cosplay for listening.

[Anonymous No.8612223]

>someone on tumblr asks for advice on their first dress
>I'll be a good samaritan today
>communicate over a few messages, trying to help out
>I figure it's just a weeby girl based on how they're talking
>sends me links of milanoo-tier dresses they like
>"mah dressy needs to be perfect and pink! with bunnies! So cuuueeettt =^3^="
>tags me and one other girl in a post with "TEH DRESSY I WANT :3"
>"also I'm poor so if either of you want to buy it for me I'll suck your dick"
>wat
>go look at blog finally
>piss porn and anti-sjw rants with girls wearing AP scattered in between
>it's a fucking sissy, I was trying to help a fucking sissy

It was kind of funny, but I also feel really... Gross. Like I was a part of something I didn't agree to. Like i finally get why lolitas hate gettng reblogges by sissies. I wish they wouldn't fucking reach out to us. It makes me so uncomfortable. I have nothing against actual male lolitas, but how am I supposed to tell them apart from fetishists? Uch.

[Anonymous No.8612226]

>>8612223
Same
I've had my coords reblogged to a few sissy blogs or photos of my accessories go onto ddlg blogs with 'daddy buy me this! It'll make me sooooooo~ squishy!!!' and shit like that

[Anonymous No.8612241]

>Be male anon
>always love anime and video games
>be actually decent looking and get complimented at cons all the time
>tfw all I want is a nerdy gf
>get hit on by underage girls
>tfw it is way too risky to talk to anyone on the grounds that I will be instantly labeled as a pedo
>if that were to happen life would pretty much be screwed.
>go to cons shoot down girls, don't get numbers and just generally pretend to not give a fuck, but I kind of do.

What do /cgl/? I'm like 80% certain that anime conventions are the places were I could find girls that are actually interesting and not shallow/want to be nerds.

[Anonymous No.8612250]

>>8612241
Anon, I have the mkst incredible idea
>ask their ages
You're welcome.

Seriously though, it's not a weird thing to do. Since the age range of congoers is so wide, it's understandable that you want to be safe. Just ask, even in polite conversation it's not strange, and especially not if you get close enough to get their number.

[Anonymous No.8612262]

>>8612241
Typically you can look at their badges, most of them will say 'YOUTH' or 'MINOR'

[Anonymous No.8612263]

>>8612241
as other anon mentioned, you can ask their age outright, or ask in a more subtle manner with any of the following questions

>what do you do for a living?
>what industry do you work in?
>what university do you go to?
>what degree are you doing?

if they think too long about any of those, it might be an indication of someone who's underage (or they could just be very private, idk how you want to read that)

[Anonymous No.8612673]

>>8609270
>wake up in morning
>late for class
>decide to take it easy and eat slowly then come a bit late
>finish eating, decide to get HYPE and start moving
>smash my shin into bed frame so hard that my skin tore and there's blood
>hit it right on the fuckign bone
>it hurts so much and I can barely walk right now and I'm just shitposting on /cgl/ waiting for it to stop hurting so I can shower then go to class

[Anonymous No.8612700]

>buy a bunch of shoes in Bodyline sale on the 3rd
>still haven't mailed out
>come the fuck on
>bought first ever piece from Lace Market
>"Since your payment cleared I'll send it out tomorrow (the 9th)"
>"Sorry anon, I'll ship it out tomorrow(the 11th), I haven't had a chance"
>haven't heard from her since
>please don't do this
I have no idea what the etiquette is on LM about asking for shipping details I don't want to be pushy but I'm starting to get a little anxious.

[Anonymous No.8612781]

> accidentally hurt the feelings of a girl in my community
> she tells me months later
> I'm horrified and apologize, we work it out
> I still feel awful about it

[Anonymous No.8612902]

>tfw no cosplay bf to couple cosplay and be generally cute with
>tfw every guy I fall for is straight

[Anonymous No.8612992]

>>8612781
At least you're a decent person about it. So many here would just go 'ah well' and step over that person.

[Anonymous No.8613037]

>plenty of cash for months
>not a dress on my list in sight
>couple random emergencies happen
>not much spending money at the moment
>four dresses I've been searching for for months pop up at the same time

Everyone knows this feel, I am sure, but it hurts so much. Life, so cruel, doushite~

[Anonymous No.8613043]

>>8612992
thanks anon, I know it's stupid to be crucifying myself over this, but the thought that she was holding this in while I derped along for months is killing me. I feel like I should do more to make up for it, but I don't want to oversell, you know?

[Anonymous No.8613056]

>>8611369
Keep us updated, please, anon.

[Anonymous No.8613058]

>>8611358
There are ways, anon. Post your body type, we can help.

[Anonymous No.8613253]

>have bad acne on back/parts of thighs, moderate acne on face
>never was able to wear dresses that had an open back and never cosplayed because of acne (even though I really wanted to)
>dermatologist suggests I go on accutane
>agree to it, but due to history of depression I have to go to a psychiatrist for an evaluation
>clinic I go to is a mess organization wise
>end up getting called in to a physician
>he tells me I might have PCOS because I'm overweight and that I need to get that ruled out
>next I get called in to see a psychiatrist
>says she will only agree to clear my evaluation if I go to therapy
>agree
>text friend that I need to see a therapist
>he knows about my depression, I was diagnosed a few years ago with clinical depression
>texts back "you want to be diagnosed so bad lol"
>what the actual fuck, I am diagnosed
>he's being passive aggressive and pretty sure he thinks I'm faking everything

Some fucking friend he is. I have a lot of suicidal thoughts and sometimes I say shit like "I wish I cut myself" etc.

Guess that means I'm faking everything since I only talk about and don't actually do it.

[Anonymous No.8613404]

>>order jsk, cape, and 2 blouses from surfacespell
>>already have a million coords planned for the blouses
>>pickup slip and parcel locker key in mailbox a few weeks later
>>parcel locker key is for wrong locker, not my stuff
>go to use pickup slip
>>"sorry anon, it's not here. We'll investigate."
>>mailman calls me "yeah I switched your keys, oops!"
>>whoever had my package hadn't returned it or sent it back to surfacespell or anything
>>one of the blouses isn't available through surfacespell anymore

Thank God it's insured. Suck my dick, USPS.

[Anonymous No.8613406]

>>8613253
What a douche. Your health is none of his fucking concern. I can't tell you how much I understand this though, diagnosed with C-PTSD and anxiety. I just flat out don't tell people any more because others are so rude about it. It's like they think that me having an issue is an attack on them or something. Take care of yourself first okay?

[Anonymous No.8613407]

>>8613253
take a step back from him, friends like that won't help with the depression.

good luck with the bureaucratic runaround

[Anonymous No.8613439]

>>8611260
I tried to get new hobbies too. didn't work.
I'm glad I didn't sell my dresses though, because I'm happy enough to wear them again.
I did plan to keep one or two though.

I hope things look up for you anon. shit sucks

[Anonymous No.8613469]

>tfw finding some great deals for brand lately
>but sitting in anticipation hoping the purchases go through
why is the waiting always the hardest part

[Anonymous No.8613477]

I really want to do better at school. I want to be the person I wished to be as a child. getting the highest grades and studying something respectable.

Yet now I'm here, studying something I only have a slight interest in, nothing to write home about, barely getting through.
I just don't have the motivation, and the only reason I can think of why is because I just don't know what I want with my life.

Sorry for the rant, I just really needed to get it off my shoulders.

[Anonymous No.8613481]

>>8613253
I would cut that friend out of your life. Don't share personal details/problems with them anymore, they're not a friend.

[Anonymous No.8613484]

>tfw no qt ouji to dominate

I just want a prince to wait on me hand and foot while I reward him/her with burando or punish him/her with light flogging or humiliation. No sex, just a D/s relationship with frills added.

>ouji feeds me sweets
>stalks auctions for me
>helps me get dressed
>makes me feel like a queen
>matches my coords
>escorts me to fancy events
>carries my bags, takes my pictures
>has intelligent conversation
>well-groomed with refined tastes
>obeys my every command and enjoys doing so
>can take a slap if he/she gets cheeky
>will wear embarrassing outfits or selfpost in creatively cruel ways to BtB as pubishment for misbehavior

I know "ouji accessory" is a joke but I legit want an ouji slave/sub. Fuck this DD/lg bullshit, I want to feel like a queen with a well-bred but subservient consort.

[Anonymous No.8613495]

>>8612781
curious, how were her feelings hurt?
from the sounds of it so far she may just be overly sensitive

[Anonymous No.8613500]

>tfw seriously considering starting up a small reselling business for lolita, except with decent pricing and not super jacked up scalped pricing like most other resellers
>mostly because reselling is the only thing i'm good at lately and only have high interest in lolita
>savings are low
fuck it, i just want to start this already, but i can't blow my savings until i have more in there
>tfw reselling could help that but nope can't risk it
gdi. someday

[Anonymous No.8613533]

I've been asked out by so many ugly and short guys lately

its so fucking offensive

[Anonymous No.8613557]

Moving anon from yesterday. I found my cats or rather they found me. They came to bother me at 3am. Didn't even mind. At least they are here.

And to be on topic, I am so happy I finally have a closet that can fit all my lolita stuff and my normie clothes.

[Anonymous No.8613560]

>>8613557
glad the cats came home!

[Anonymous No.8613568]

>new non-retail job that pays a living wage and treats me like a human being
>able to wake up in the morning and sleep at night for the first time in years
>energetic enough to get to the gym again
>in the process of getting a house so for once I'll have craft space
>making a big wishlist of cute home shit
For once I feel like I've gotten my life together

[Anonymous No.8613583]

>Different anon that's moving

>Third time moving in just as many years
>Will be moving again in about a year or less.
>just need to finish up at the old place, pick up what didn't fit this load, clean up the place, and will be free of it.

Packing stuff up while moving, dude, all the fabric I found. Time to reorganize all my sewing stuff.

Happy to find all these supplies, but I'll be so tucking glad when I don't have to move for a long time.

[Anonymous No.8613603]

>>8613533
>tfw all these azns assuming you have yellow fever
stahp, please, I just want a tall aryan boyfriend, is this too much to ask?

[Anonymous No.8613606]

>>8613568
Congrats, anon! That's awesome!

[Anonymous No.8613620]

>>8613477
>iktf
There is literally no job I can think of that I want to do in life. Too bad I'm too ugly to marry rich OTL

[Anonymous No.8613626]

>>8613583
>in the middle of a move
>transitioning to smaller room
>too many books, craft supplies, and brand
>get rid of full sized bed in favor of a single

luckily i am single and plan to stay that way. no reason to have a bigger bed when i need the space for nerdy shit.

[Anonymous No.8613628]

>>8613056
I'd like to, but there isn't much left to say. The girl I messaged said that he snapchat story is still active so she's ok. I have her address, but it would be really weird to go to her house and bitch at her, although I'd be lying if I said I wasn't tempted. I won't do it though. Clearly she has no value for our friendship, or my feelings. If you have any further advice, let me have it.

[Anonymous No.8613645]

>>8613477
I know the feeling.

Nothing I want to study will lead to a stable life where I can pay bills. I tried to study something that would let me get a nice office job, but the school screwed me over and I couldn't graduate. I apply to job after job, friends offer to "help" and I get nothing but denied and hassled over and over and over again. I get asked if I'm applying to jobs. I had to take a break because I can't take the disappointment anymore.

Because of this I am completely unmotivated to do anything but create artwork and travel to conventions.

[Anonymous No.8613649]

>>8613404
that's horrific. but even if they give you your money back, you still won't have your items. My question is why didn't the people who got your stuff bring it back...? What do they want with a bunch of lolita stuff?

[Anonymous No.8613651]

>>8609270
Anons i am SO lost right now.
>am a grill,old school lolita
>mainly attracted by girls
>did the hanky panky with another lita
>enjoyed it greatly she was so sweet and kind for my first time
>but sometimes i think about male genitals or a male when i touch myself
>also feel mayybe comfortable having a "daddy/dom/.." kind of relationship with one
>but dont see myself in a real relationship with one
>maybe except from this guy that makes my knees go weak
>but i like girls better and feel more comfortable
>or do i..?
I am so lost what is happening to me...i feel like crying i am just scared lately and lost since i discovered my dom (knew him since three years,but we only began that like beginning of summer) was a psycho fapping to child porn, me and the other "toys" ran away from him. I just feel lost and alone. I feel disgusting and ashamed i cry since days...Cant sleep

[Anonymous No.8613657]

>>8609320
You sound so sweet, caring and giving.
I always love getting stuff but i get really shy like i really want to give something nice back to show how grateful i am but i have no idea and then i feel ashamed.

[Anonymous No.8613665]

>>8609467
>tiny body and tiny boobs
what the fuck are you complaining about
also a THUMB sized mark on your THIGH isnt bad i have a palm sized birthmark on the obvious part of my leg. But behind.

[Anonymous No.8613666]

>>8613651

This... escalated fairly quickly.

[Anonymous No.8613674]

>abusive girlfriend
>break up after a year
>abusive manipulator daddy that made me break up from unhealthy abusive relationship
>"i will always be there and treat you nice anon i love you dearly"
>break up the relationship when i finally realize thanks to friends that he is manipulative af
>realizes he stole the girl i had a crush on and that was a perfectly fine and non abusive girl i knew
>tfw he KNEW i fancied her
>usually not trusting easily but now i can't trust ANYONE
I am such a failure...Everytime i try to get up i just get more punches in the heart i feel like i can't trust anyone anymore by fear to be broken. I feel so alone and lost right now gulls.

[Anonymous No.8613677]

>>8613651
Anon, you're probably bisexual. You can like both girls and guys, that's pretty normal.

[Anonymous No.8613678]

>>8613606
Thank you! I can't wait to have space to sew. In my current apartment all I have is like a 5 foot by 5 foot space on the floor plus half a desk. Plus I have so many decorating ideas. It's exciting!

[Anonymous No.8613681]

>>8613677
yeah right...but i just got told being bi is just being slutty and it's false and stupid but i felt bad. i just love a person and not a gender but i trust males with more difficulty...

[Anonymous No.8613687]

>>8613681

And why is your sexuality of any importance to anyone besides the person you're with?

Even if you were just doing it so you could sleep with more people, so what? The most someone needs to know if they're sleeping with you is if you're clean and what kind of equipment you're working with.

Fuck everyone else.

[Anonymous No.8613696]

>Graduate college
>Go through intense depression because of shit that went down and stress overload in my senior year.
>Decide to take the year off, parents ok it.
>First time since I was 16 that I don't have to work seven days a week for barely minimum wage at horrible job.
>Feels pretty good to chill out and try to sort out myself.
>Suddenly severe acne
>Self esteem is shot, depression is extreme, don't do anything for months but lay in bed and read.
>Friends from college all moving to big cities and getting jobs. Hardly any of them keep in contact with me or go on facebook anymore.
>I am so isolated and alone.
>It is now a year and a half since I graduated
>Trying to scrape my shit together and build up my self confidence again and at least get a part time job, but want to wait until acne is cleared up so I can at least cover it up with makeup.
>I hate myself so much.

Coming on this board and reading books and stuff is all that I've done in over a year, and I feel so isolated because I'm too shy to try to make friends on tumblr or something. I feel like such a failure, and that everyone who's ever told me that was right.

[Anonymous No.8613702]

>>8613681
Who the fuck told you that? That's complete bullshit and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Your sexuality is your own business and if your partner is telling you that you're a slut for liking guys and girls, then they aren't a good partner. You deserve better than that shit, dump his ass.

[Anonymous No.8613705]

>>8613649
To be honest, I have no idea why they didn't give my box back. It was a red jsk and cape, maybe someone was like "hey, free little red riding hood costume" But... people are assholes and they probably threw it out or something.

[Anonymous No.8613710]

>>8610683
>tfw 5"4 so too average/ta
>tfw 116lbs so too chubby/fat
>tfw i just want to be a cute thin shortie
>tfw forever a western piggu
Do it for me anon

[Anonymous No.8613721]

>>8613696
I'm in my senior year of college and I'm so worried about this happening..

Job hunting might help because it'll give you something to do? I can't take huge breaks either because I'll wind up focusing on myself and getting depressed.

I'm here for you, anon.

[Anonymous No.8613730]

>>8612673
I feel you anon i opened my left foot once this way. hurted like hell. got late to class but fuck

[Anonymous No.8613743]

>>8610625
That happened to me, but paypal kept charging the $17 over and over for some reason, saying it hadn't gone through. I got charged $90 in overdraft fees because paypal fucked up. I contacted the seller and confirmed they got the money and then called my back and explained that paypal made an error and still has it registered as overdrawn. If you sound upset enough they should refund you and cancel the overdraw.

[Anonymous No.8613744]

me last year:
>dd/lg is gross as fuck ew why anything nsfw grosses me out tho
aaaand now:
>"Daddy i am happy you take such good care of me you make my heart fuzzy and warm...and my special parts tingle"
I feel absolutely disgusting and shameful sometimes but i am wondering what do YOU guys think of dd/lg?

[Anonymous No.8613749]

>>8613744
You should probably consider suicide.

[Anonymous No.8613757]

>>8613744
lmao i can almost relate. last year i was totes into ddlg and now anything nsfw makes me disgusted tbh. idk what happened.

[Anonymous No.8613762]

>>8613721
Thank you. I went to school for illustration, so I need to update and redo my portfolio before I do any real job hunting. I just need to find it in me to draw again.

I'm sure you'll do fine after school! I'm usually very good about not letting my depression bother me until this last year. For me, it was just so many bad things were happening and overwhelming me at college that I needed to take a step back from life for a while. It's just lasted much longer than I wanted it to...

[Anonymous No.8613817]

>>8609647
What anime is this? It looks super cute!

[Anonymous No.8613852]

>>8613817
>not knowing Sound! Euphonium

[Anonymous No.8613879]

>>8613744
I go back and forth as well. It just depends. I was super into it, got into a DD/lg relationship that ended horribly and made me absolutely disgusted by anything related for about a year. Life is just funny and I try not to question my tastes at this point.

[Anonymous No.8613920]

>>8613710
>5"4'
>116 lbs
>fat
not sure if you're crazy, looking for attention, or a troll.

[Anonymous No.8613966]

>>8613744
I never did any of this until my current relationship (neither did he), a lot of our weird kinks we found by browsing porn together. I think daddy/daughter roleplay is our favorite weird thing.

Bonus points for when we rp dad/daughter characters in bed.

[Anonymous No.8613977]

>lately taking more notice of a fictional character
>save some pics to cycle through as mobile wallpapers
>ended up building a folder of him
>smile when thinking of him
>just dumped a bunch of pics of him on /cm/
>falling in lust
>entered the "he's-not-real" mild depression

I haven't felt this since I was a teenage fangirl.

[Anonymous No.8613979]

>>8610894
AP's French Doll Op

[Anonymous No.8614023]

>be me, 24 y/o
>want to wear real hair with lolita soon so i go to the salon to get a haircut
>"your hair's thinning a bit on the top and the front"
>panic internally because i have noticed clumps of hair falling off in the shower lately but thought nothing of it because i've always had a full head of hair
>get done with haircut, looks like shit because now i can see the balding spot on my head
>go home and try not to have a panic attack because i will probably lose more hair that way

I've been stressed out a lot since I moved to the other side of the world and a lot of other things that have been worrying me. I don't think my current eating habits are helping either so I'm going to try and eat better to see if that helps my hair grow back.

[Anonymous No.8614032]

>tfw I'm a fat ugly girl who just wishes she was pretty!
regards, everyone on this board

[Anonymous No.8614033]

>>8613495
I'm face blind (prosopagnosia) and I told her that I recognize her by the shape of her nose (which I think is cute) without knowing she's self conscious about it.

[Anonymous No.8614108]

>tfw am a brandwhore with a large wardrobe of AP, BTSSB/AATP, etc.
>tfw comm is full of poorly fitted and poorly coorded itas/oojia replica-chans/obvious beginners with tiny af wardrobes/etc.
why this, i just want to hang out with other cute experienced brandwhores
lone lolita forever i guess

[Anonymous No.8614135]

>>8613977
Who's your husbando, anon?

[Anonymous No.8614140]

>>8614135
Handsome Jack from Borderlands 2.

[Anonymous No.8614147]

>>8614140
I saw your /cm/ thread lol

[Anonymous No.8614151]

>>8614147
Get outta here, I didnt make it, but I contributed plenty

[Anonymous No.8614165]

My mom is a god damn saint and I'm pissed i'm the only one who seems to appreciate her.

>always buys my badges for cons and usually buys my roommate's just because
>gives thousands of dollars to family members who need help
>is so loved at work, when she was laid off, almost her entire floor threatened to quit if they didn't rehire her
>is paying for roommate's surgery out of pocket because they don't have insurance and are unemployed
>gives to at least 10 charities
>was supposed to retire 5 years ago but keeps working so she can help support me and my brother

I knew this isn't really cgl related, but she just offered to pay for a con for my friend's birthday, and I just needed to tell someone about her. I love her so much. I wish everyone else did too. She almost never gets a thank you, but she never complains, though I know it hurts her. She almost cried when I thanked her for dinner once. I'm actually trying to get a better job so I can start paying her back for basically everything. Also so I can take her out and treat her. She deserves the best for being so amazing.

[Anonymous No.8614272]

>>8613762
Recovery is important, don't feel too bad!
I wish you luck in your job hunt.

[Anonymous No.8614413]

>>8614165
omg i'm so glad someone else out there has an angel for a mother and is happy to talk about it!!! i see so many posts about absuive/neglectful/shit tier mums and it almost makes me feel guilty for having a good relationship with my mum who is super supportive of me and everything I do. bless their sweet souls.

[Anonymous No.8614592]

>>8610750 >>8610897
back to say thank you, anons. I almost lost motivation since I don't have a lot of people I can talk about cosplay with but your messages brought it back.

right now I'm browsing trying to decide which costume would be good and I'll probably test my makeup this weekend and see how it goes.

>>8613710
I wish i'm at least your height anon and you sound like the perfect weight to me. Being too thin actually don't look that good, you have like 0 curves.

[Anonymous No.8614644]

>finally watch an anime that was popular when it first aired a few years ago
>emotionally devastates me
>become mildly obsessed
>fuck now i have a reason to buy shit at Artist Alleys
>goodbye burando money, need waifu merch

>watch an American live action television series that has had a devoted fanbase for a few years
>reach series finale after a week of bingewatching
>literally sob when it's over
>officially, absolutely obsessed
>can't stop thinking about it and reliving key scenes mentally
>dear god please let the actors come to a convention near me
>please let there be fanart in artist alleys
>please give me more of this crack, i'm not done with it

i have not been a rabid fan in years. feels good and lively tbh.

[Anonymous No.8614653]

I'm a mod of my lolita community on Facebook. I don't go to meetups very often because of my work schedule, and I have a small wardrobe.

I just found out that some people (that I thought I was on good terms with) were spreading lies about me, saying that I was gossiping about and harassing another comm member. After being confronted, they admitted they were "confused" and/or lied. They were basically trying to turn people against me and get me removed as mod for things I blatantly didn't do

Luckily this all stayed on Facebook, but I still feel awful. Why would they do this? I haven't done anything to them ever. I don't even want to wear lolita anymore because who knows who's heard this gossip and now thinks it's true? Not to mention these people are friends of friends, and I know that if they still are friends after this, I'll be upset.

My friends probably know who I am posting this, but I need to anonymously vent because no actions can be taken until this is fully resolved.

[Anonymous No.8614661]

>>8614165
>>8614413

Same here anons, my dad too. It's so refreshing to not feel like the only person that isn't from a shitty home situation. Obviously not something to complain about but I don't like feeling guilty for having great parents.

[Anonymous No.8614683]

>>8614653
That's a shitty situation, anon. Are those people still a part of your comm?

[Anonymous No.8614706]

>>8614683
Tonight we're going to continue discussing it amongst the mods, I'm pushing for some people to be banned for actively trying to spread lies about a mod. One of the other mods is contacting people involved to let them know I'm completely innocent/not involved, thankfully, but I'm afraid it'll be the first thing people think of when they see me.

I wish I could name and shame them, but that would be really irresponsible of me as a mod.

[Anonymous No.8614709]

>>8614644
Oh GOD Anonette! It is the best thing ever!!! My levels of energy has spiked ever since I let myself fall back to the fandom ways.

I don't give a shit, things are so exciting!

[Anonymous No.8614713]

>>8614709
Not that anon, but I realized that indulging myself into full husbando loving and fandom stuff in general, I'm just happier.

It's silly but I finally remember why I loved this stuff so much when I was just a young weeb. It's the sense of community and how easy it can be to connect with people and discuss fandom theories and everything.

[Anonymous No.8614715]

>>8614706
You can't help what people think of you. You could be a total saint and there would still be people out there who would find reasons to think you're shitty.
Just do what's best for you and your comm, and if it makes you feel better to have proof of any wrongdoings, take caps of everything.

[Anonymous No.8614729]

>Tasted cgl salt for the first time
>Nothing too serious, just a very salty gull
>Try to "not bothered", learn and move on
>I agree with the salt, but the salt is still very salty
>Still bothered

How do I cope with this shit? is too simple and dumb, but it keeps bothering.

[Anonymous No.8614733]

>want to cosplay
>con is coming up
>stupid shut happens and I have to change jobs
>finish up last 2 weeks at old job while starting new full time job
>never be home
>rarely see bf
>no time to finish cosplay
>be cranky as fuck
>bf says to just wear lolita or fairy kei
>it's pretty much a horror convention

Ugh. I can't decide. And I can't cosplay. Either be a boring normalfag or be out of place completely. I want to dress up at least one day tho.

[Anonymous No.8614739]

>>8614729
I've been bugged by cgl salt before, but it usually went away after a day. Just browse other threads, or go to a different site for awhile. Just gotta distract your self.

[Anonymous No.8614746]

>Have discussion with father about a hobby
>He tells me to "shut up" and I get pissed and leave him alone at the restaurant
>Go home sobbing
>Get text from father saying I "made him older"
>Try to call back to say I'm sorry
>He does not answer
>Convince myself he had a stroke because of our fight, have panic attack
>In the end everything is ok, but I wasted the whole day crying and anxious, could not do anything useful

And I had a hem to make, a pattern to cut and fabric to serge...

[Anonymous No.8614749]

>new to cosplay
>have to ask a lot of question
>feel like i'm annoying everyone with my endless questions

[Anonymous No.8614758]

>>8614749

Learn to google. As the question in your mind first, then try to imagine what others would answer.
Can you find your answer by deduction?
No? do you need reference?
have you googled enough?

You will become independent and grow faster

>>8614739

thanks, anon.

[Anonymous No.8614807]

>>8614715
It's true, it's just frustrating because they specifically targeted me and one of my friends. My friend is cute, thin, and dresses well so she gets a lot of unwarranted hate as well regardless of what she does. It feels malicious against us personally, and I just want to disappear.

[Anonymous No.8614828]

>receive IW dress with back shiring.
>I own one in polyester satin already so a bit surprised when seeing the ties over the shirring.
>loosen those so I can put it on.
>get entirely trapped
>wtf I'm supposed to fit into the measurements
>try to remove the ties, the jsks straps, etc
>after 10min of battle and unable to put it off, I am able to put it correctly.
>notice zipper
>why.jpg
I hope I didn't damage it in any way. Pic related (top) the dress.

[Anonymous No.8614830]

>>8614644
what anime and what show anon?

somewhat /cgl/ related feel:
>order a cute pink polka dot bow headband off ebay
>it'll be coming sometime before the end of the month
>washing my face and putting make up on will be SO much easier and i am so excited
>back exfoliating brush coming soon too
>excited

[Anonymous No.8614838]

>>8614807
WHen did this happen?

[Anonymous No.8614853]

>>8614653
Something like this happened to me before. It was the worst feeling ever, because I had never done anything but the person had already spread so many lies about me that nothing I did could change anyone's minds. It got to the point where I just had to suck it up and endure all of the shit and accusations that came as a result until I was able to leave (moved out of state for college). I'm really sorry that's happening to you, anon. I understand how horrible and demoralizing your situation is. When it happened to me it caused me to become severely depressed and negatively affected my schoolwork and just my life in general. People do shit like that because they're immature and spiteful with huge egos. It's pretty much a power play thing out of butthurt.

[Anonymous No.8614854]

>>8614653
Something like this happened to me before. It was the worst feeling ever, because I had never done anything but the person had already spread so many lies about me that nothing I did could change anyone's minds. It got to the point where I just had to suck it up and endure all of the shit and accusations that came as a result until I was able to leave (moved out of state for college). I'm really sorry that's happening to you, anon. I understand how horrible and demoralizing your situation is. When it happened to me it caused me to become severely depressed and negatively affected my schoolwork and just my life in general. People do shit like that because they're immature and spiteful with huge egos. It's pretty much a power play thing out of butthurt.

[Anonymous No.8614865]

>Mom ruins my favorite poster
>No I can't just buy another
>Buy brand to dull the pain that family doesn't care about the sentimental value I place on things.

The poster was for a movie my dad watched with me on my 12th birthday. It was one of the last times I ever saw him. I happened to come across the Italian poster thinking ny mother might find it charming because she loves Italy. Ruined it anyway. I'm so salty.

[Anonymous No.8614867]

>commission a prop
>it turns out even more perfect than you hoped
>person who made it "had so much fun making it" they give half the money you paid for it back as long as they can use pics of it for their portfolio

I wish they lived near me so I could hug them.

[Anonymous No.8614881]

>>8614807
You never know, it might actually be personal (it certainly sounds like it). Sadly, there's little you can do once someone decides to hate you relentlessly.

Personally, if I were a mod and I caught someone spreading baseless lies and unwarranted hate, had solid proof of it, and no amount of talking and negotiating would help, I wouldn't hesitate to ban the person in question.
It's toxic as fuck and nobody should have to put up with that.

[Anonymous No.8614917]

my family poisoned me. i've been gone a decade and i still feel sick.

this weekend, i am going to a convention alone. i am still terrified they will find me.

my deepest fear is that the ugly, slimey bond that held me to them as a child will keep drawing them back to me, no matter where i go, no matter how much progress i make becoming a functional adult.

it's like being haunted.

i will be wearing a cosplay with a mask again.

[Anonymous No.8614940]

>>8614729
You can either distract yourself or tough balance.

Sure, they were right about this one part but look at that fucking awesome other part.

Yeah it sucks when people are salty (I've outright retired a cosplay because of it) but if you can, try to think of all the awesome parts instead and fix what ever is wrong. I believe in you anon

[Anonymous No.8614946]

>>8614733
Can you pull together a goru or what ever those creepy Lolita chords are called from what you have?

[Anonymous No.8614950]

>>8614917
I'm sorry anon I wish I could help you, I have a friend with a similar family, she moved across the country and still feels uncomfortable in public settings. Just keep moving forward and doing what you want to do, you know?

[Anonymous No.8614961]

>>8614917
I've moved 500 miles away and it doesn't feel like far enough... god no please don't remind me

[Anonymous No.8614962]

>>8614917
>>8614961

Please tell me both of your are in therapy. Because being constantly afraid like this is just one other way your family still controls you.

[Anonymous No.8614994]

I know I shouldn't be laughing because my roommate just got out of emergency surgery, but when you get the text

>Ehjur ghoul ;; lutv by yt

you kind of can't help it. Still worried as fuck though. He went in for a consultation so he could schedule the surgery for after the con he's working at this weekend. Turns out he had a really bad infection that could have killed him if they waited too long so they had to do it today. I'm glad he's going to be okay, but I don't know how we're going to pay for this haha. His insurance doesn't cover emergencies, so we'll have to pay out of pocket. It's gonna be a fun few weeks.

[Anonymous No.8615121]

>>8614653
Some people like stirring shit up just for the fun of it, it might not even be because of you personally.

[Anonymous No.8615127]

>>8614962
I've been through years of therapy. It's just a lingering thought sometimes, not every day like it used to be.

[Anonymous No.8615129]

>>8614994
>His insurance doesn't cover emergencies

THEN WHAT THE FUCK IS THE POINT OF IT?

[Anonymous No.8615157]

>>8614946
No, I only have one lolita dress so far, the others are still coming to me thru the mail. I only just now started getting into j fashion after lurking for years.

[Anonymous No.8615162]

>>8614917
uh...like...full on slip some rat poison in your oatmeal poisoned?

[Anonymous No.8615163]

>>8614828
i've definitely done that before, both in and out of lolita, kek. sometimes those invisible zippers are just too invisible.

[Anonymous No.8615164]

>>8610082
Set up a mint account, and set up a monthly hobby budget that rolls over, say $100-$200 per month, and categorize lolita purchases and activities with your comm as taking from that budget. You'll get email alerts if you overspend. If you don't spend it all in a month, the remainder rolls over to the next month.

I and my husband created two different hobby budgets on a shared mint account. He uses his own hobby budget on things like outings with friends, or a gaming PC if enough has rolled over. I use mine on outings with friends and lolita. We're saving up for a down payment on a house, but my husband still likes to look at lolita items with me.

Budgeting is good, but budgeting to have zero fun money is neither realistic nor sustainable. Budgeting is not "spending less". Budgeting is "planning one's spending".

[Anonymous No.8615171]

>try to contact seller as soon almost as they list something
>no contact for a while
>finally gets back to me, sold everything already to people irl

Why even list stuff online?
I realize I'm being a whiney bitch, but I jumped on that super quick and was really hoping I'd finally be able to get some of the items I've been searching for for a while.

[Anonymous No.8615212]

>>8615129
Right? I'm so fucking upset. It would have taken up to two weeks for it to clear and the doctor said by then, he could have been dead or at the very least, in a coma.

>fuck you too america

[Anonymous No.8615219]

>>8615171
The seller probably offered the sales to friends but the friends said no, but once those friends realized the seller was listing them online they knew they had to buy or lose out forever.

[Anonymous No.8615308]

>>8614709
>Anonette
>implying

yeah, the energy surge connected to connecting to a story you love is wonderful.

>>8614830
Steins;Gate and Hannibal.

finding merch and art for them shouldn't be too hard

[Anonymous No.8615315]

>been a shut in for most of the past year, just went out once in a while and to get to classes, on weekends I only left my room to pick up snacks from the kitchen
>losing contact with friends, had a bad fall out with ex-best friend, have a hard time trusting anyone
>don't open up about my feelings, decent at lying about them and hiding them when I'm hurt
>it all happened while I was going through a pretty depressive phase
>motivation is nowhere to be found, all the cosplays I had planned to make this year are still 0% done
>spend most days at home either in bed or aimlessly browsing the web
>decide to pick a manga randomly out of my to-read list, to kill time
>Oyasumi Punpun

I didn't know what it was about but now I'm not sure this was the best choice

[Anonymous No.8615374]

>>8615129
#America

But seriously, fuck this country's medical. I once got in an accident where an ambulence came and everything and my knee was all fucked up. They iced it and wrapped it up and I had a shock blanket on and when they said they wanted to take me to the hospital I declined because I couldn't afford the ambulence ride on top of whatever the medical costs were going to be. Also my student health center was garbage so I relied on WebMD and shit to figure out how to deal with PT and stuff on my own. I couldn't even procure a pair of crutches so one of my neighbors would have to carry me down my steps every morning so I could get to class.

[Anonymous No.8615382]

>>8615315
and>>8613696
should be friends. You guys seem like you're in the same boat.

[Anonymous No.8615486]

>>8614746
Reminds me of my dad. He once told me he hoped he died on his way to work when I joked about not wanting to kiss him goodbye. He left before I could respond. worried all night about him purposefully crashing his motorcycle. your dad sounds like a disrespectful asshole.

[Anonymous No.8615489]

>>8614865
That's so sad.

[Anonymous No.8615514]

Missed a dream dress today because LM kept fucking up on me. I was really hoping to finally get my hands on it, and it would have been the only good thing about a truly shit day. Oh well.

[Anonymous No.8615526]

>>8609325
I slightly know how you feel anon. My boyfriend works in sales (not a salesman but can't leave until all sales are finished) and I'm a full time student with a part time job. Sundays are our only days together and I really try to make the most of them. He gets his phone luckily but some nights he won't get home until 8:00 and I'm usually studying by then. I'm grateful he's getting paid well and tells me his money is mine so I can spend it if I want, but I'm too Jewish to buy anything anyway. I usually just piggyback on his Uniqlo or Redbubble orders but I'm still grateful.

Anyway, my point is to cherish the time you do have with him and try to make the most of it. Are there nights that you two can go out to a restaurant? Or even guaranteed nights you can make a nice dinner?

[Anonymous No.8615529]

>>depressive episode today
>>ends up calling suicide hotline
>>gets seen my doctor almost immediately
>>instant prescription for antidepressants

my body already is acting fucked up. i think the dosage is too high. severe nausea, dizziness, spaced out, shaking (like i'm extremely cold). strangely vivid dreams, daydreams and thoughts like if i smoked some crazy weed. weird tingly feeling.

years ago i was on the same drug and didn't have any weird side effects. the dosage was less.

unsure if i should just cut the damn pill in half tomorrow or if my brain will melt.

also freaking out if it will affect my sex drive (it's pretty nonexistent already) as i wasn't in a relationship then. and apparently people have put on 15-100lbs due to SSRIs. i'm terrified.

>>mfw i want to not take medication and become fat and celibate, but i still want to feel like a human being

[Anonymous No.8615570]

>>8615529
you need to get through the first couple weeks on the prescribed dose. the side effects will peter out eventually. if they don't, or if they get worse, then maybe consider asking your doctor for a different prescription.

people who give up early on antidepressants are less likely to find one that works. google "early discontinuation" or something to check up on the studies.

as for weight gain, don't consume more calories than you expend. as for sex drive, i couldn't come for the first couple weeks on an SSRI but that didn't last, thankfully.

also: if you are taking a generic version of a prescription, these side effects can reoccur because the mechanism of action is different depending on manufacturer. i can't take generic Lexapro because the pharmacy can't guarantee they won't switch between different generic versions, and my discontinuation/acclimation symptoms start up again.

can i ask what med and dosage you were given? just 5mg of Lexapro made me sick and weird for a couple days before my body adjusted. if you're on an SSRI or similar meds even low doses can take a physical toll in the first few days (or first 2 weeks).

[Anonymous No.8615651]

>>8615570
mhm, i'm on lexapro. 2 years ago i was given the 20mg but told to cut it in half (they weened me on with a quarter of a pill the first week and half the second week). i stayed at 10mg, they gave me the 20mg because it would save me money by splitting them. i was fine and dandy. i stopped because i was broke and didn't have health insurance.

they had me in and out so fast today and just gave me the 20mg. i did as it said, take 1, without remembering how i split them last time. no consultation about working into them at lower dosages. probably because when i came i was a fucking wreck. i guess it's my fault. now i feel like i'm an alien.

i understand the whole caloric intake bit, but don't they effect your metabolic rate or something? or increase your appetite? i used to not eat when i was depressed but the past few years i'm doing the opposite. logic says food taste better when you're happier so i can see why people would gain weight. but i'm talking about the ones who said they ate and exercised the same amount.

that early discontinuation thing is offputting to say the least. i'm concerned about then switching around. i'm covered under the military but who's to say they won't fuck me over. maybe i should just switch to the celexa?

(and thank you so much anon)

[Anonymous No.8615682]

>>8615651
sorry i was mistaken, i am on 10mg currently. the 5mg is something else lol.

20mg is a lot to start out with! ask if you can do titration (amp up to that dose). lexapro is still weird with side effects, but at 10mg my symptoms only lasted a couple messy days and eased out after a while. however, if i miss a few doses (because Lex isn't cheap even with insurance) the discontinuation symptoms are really weird. so definitely don't be dumb like me and quit cold turkey.

the dreams are a bonus for me. i take lex before sleeping if i have something on my mind i want to try to dream about. otherwise, say if i need to get up early, i will take it in the morning.

people gain weight on antidepressants because their habits change. it is not really about changing your metalobism as much as it is the way SSRIs are notorious for making you lazier than you were before. focus on peer reviewed studies for stuff like this; a lot of what people claim about their personal habits is false. i found a Harvard study that showed people taking the generic version of Celexa (Lexapro's slightly weaker older sister) gained an average of one to two pounds.

i can't link, but look up Crazymeds dot us for some well-researched, patient-oriented psych med info. it was invaluable for me when i first started taking antidepressants. the information is presented really clearly and with humor.

good luck getting things together anon. i hope you will be okay and get a med/dose that works for you.

[Anonymous No.8615698]

>>8615682
>20mg is a lot to start out with!

that's what i fucking said lol. and my dumb ass still took it right before i was going to split it. if i quit i'll definitely do the slow petering off thing.

i'm just so uncomfortable/nauseous and on the verge of throwing up. but havent eaten anything because of that. yet am still hungry. it's miserable, and it's 1AM and i have work in a few hours :(

>a lot of what people claim about their personal habits is false

that's honestly what i figured. unless they were closely being monitored. tbh it'd be impossible for me to be any lazier i'd have to be completely comatose. i will check out the site, your wise advice was really needed!! thanks again!

[Anonymous No.8616034]

>bf and I got engaged this summer
>new, spacious apartment
>all my friends live in the same complex
>we're literally reenacting Friends, it's great
>school started, it's going great
>eating healthier, lost a bit of weight
>thyroid issues mildly improving
>finances are better
My life sounds like everything is going perfectly but then...
>worst bout of depression in years hits
>try really hard to hide it, push through
>finally realize it's really bad, try to go to my fiance
>he doesn't take me seriously for weeks
>had to sell all my lolita, my heart is aching
>we're having tons of issues that he's in denial about
>he's critical, harsh, and angry, I'm despondent and empty
>he literally gets mad at me when I apologize and agree with him about what a lazy bag of crap I am
>I'm so sick of arguing about stupid little shit all the time because everything pisses him off
And then I did something super horrible because I am a piece of shit with a penchant for escapism
>good friend and roommate live across the hall
>spend lots of time with roommate b/c fiance is gone all the time and I like having someone to cook for and help motivate me to clean and shit
>we've become really close, cut from the same cloth, so to speak
>on the same page about most issues set aside religion, dealing with similar problems
>I can be myself around him, he accepts and helps me
>he's totally set financially, student loans paid off, thinks lolita is adorable, would totally buy it for me
>late night, admit we're both really into each other
>millions of moral reasons we shouldn't do this
>but we sleep together
>it's great, haven't had sex in weeks, he's cuddly, tons of compliments
Not only do I hate myself for not having the strength to resist temptation, but I also hate myself because for the first time, I actually considered leaving my fiance, and I hate myself even more because I let something material, like the idea of being able to wear lolita again, be a deciding factor. I am a shit human being.

[Anonymous No.8616067]

>>8616034
You are a worthless whore

[Anonymous No.8616070]

>>8616034
Come clean to your fiance and hope he doesn't leave you. It's not your choice any more, you made the decision to cheat on him. Sounds like you weren't working anyway.

If having lolita is more important than your relationship, you need to stay out of relationships until you are ready for it.

[Anonymous No.8616104]

>>8616034
You're an inhuman piece of shit. Break up with him and let him know what a desperate cheating whore you are that you spread your legs easily for others but him and care more for stupid clothes than the partner you're supposed to love.

[Anonymous No.8616105]

>>8616034
You're such a retarded stupid cunt if you don't realise leaving your bf for the new guy won't work - new guy only wants to fuck and won't want you be a clingy cheating whore of a girlfriend like you were with your last boyfriend. You don't deserve a partner; ever.

[Anonymous No.8616111]

>>8616034
in b4 "it was a mistaaaaake."

[Anonymous No.8616119]

>>8616034
You and your fiance need to talk. No arguing or that weird manipulative shit he seems to be doing. Just talk like the adults you hopefully are.

Yes, come clean about the cheating. Hopefully he'll be willing to help you fix whatever drove you to cheat, but it's more likely that he'll leave. Let him, and learn from it.

You can try getting with the new guy, but be cautious. He might just be friendly and open and you interpreted it as "oh we're perfect for each other since we're not arguing constantly!!"
Although I'd really recommend keeping it an open relationship/FWB at most.

You really need to fix yourself up, though. Don't let problems pile up.

[Anonymous No.8616120]

>>8616067
>>8616070
>>8616104
>>8616105
>>8616111
As much as I don't agree with that anon's behavior, a lot of these seem like samefag.

[Anonymous No.8616129]

>>8616034
It shocks me the amount of people calling you a whore. Men cheat on their spouses and that is "okay" in their minds but one mistake from a woman and it's totally different.
This is all from personal experience and I am no way a professional. but I hope I can help.

Alright. Now onto this; you sound sad. Depression can make you do stupid shit. The fiancé isn't helping (the one who SHOULD be helping you through this) and you became lonely and vonerable.

Yes what you did was wrong. But the guy is also to blaim. It takes two to tango. He shouldn't have been pursuing ANYTHING with you. He took hold of your hard times and rolled with it. And played you like a fool. It could just be infatuation since you don't feel close to your fiancé right now.

What I think you need to do is sit down and think what is best for YOU. is pursuing a life with your fiancé what you really want? Do you not want a relationship? Is this other guy really really worth it? Is going to be best for you? Maybe you need time for YOU? That is
what is best for you. And when you can come to terms with yourself, and figure out what you really want in life. Then you need to sit down with your fiancé and have a talk.

You need to be truthful. He might leave you, that is the reality of the choice you made. or he may want to work past it with you. Tell him what you are feeling. How he has been treating you and why you feel so upset. But remember all the things we do have consequences. But we also make mistakes, we are not perfect. We are only human. I hope you can work things out and move past from this.

[Anonymous No.8616135]

>>8616129
>Men cheat on their spouses and that is "okay" in their minds
Lol, no, cheating is just not okay. Anon fucked up big time, and should feel bad for it. Depression makes you want to do stupid things, but that doesn't mean that doing them are okay. I agree with the rest of the advice though, at this point, they should come clean to their fiance.

[Anonymous No.8616138]

>VW never rereleasing shoes I want
>eBay has been no help
>not even knockoffs
>sleep in eternal chambers of doom.

[Anonymous No.8616161]

>>8616120
I'm >>8616067 and that was my only post in this thread. Alot of people happen to think cheating is a shitty thing to do, shocker.

[Anonymous No.8616164]

>>8616138
>that image

[Anonymous No.8616172]

>>8616135
Anon you are replying to is most likely referring to not the act itself, but the difference between when men and women cheat. Men view relationship stuff differently than women most of the time, and don't really sweat about cheating. Honestly, there's no difference in severity when it's a man or woman that cheats in a relationship, but it's just one of those fucked up way of thinking norms that makes it seem worse when a female does it. Anon was in the wrong though, she cheated.

[Anonymous No.8616219]

>>8616034
Usually i don't like cheating at all, it's very dishonest but your bf is also to blame for being a useless ass in case of need. It was better if you broke up with your bf before getting with that guy, because cheating is often unfair. How you would react if you were the one cheated by your bf? Horrible right?
Both of you did big mistakes. It's better you break up or if you really love your bf talk to him, explain everything and never cheat on. But i believe he isn't really for you since he totally flipped out if you needed some support. Love must be unconditional, especially in moment when you are vulnerable and need help, but that doesn't mean bad or manipulative behaviours from both partners should be accepted, they have to be fixed for the sake of love.

[Anonymous No.8616248]

Last night I dreamed that I was visiting new York and was in an AP store for some reason and Rinrin Doll was there and we hung out and became bffs. It was weird. I'm not even much of a fan of hers not that I don't like her I just don't know too much about her and don't follow her on social media or anything. Idk why I just needed to share this with you cgl

[Anonymous No.8616256]

I'm in my 6th year cosplaying and I'm starting to feel stale?

I don't know how to explain it, like there is nothing that I outright want to cosplay. There is no entertainment media out there that pulls me toward it saying "You need to cosplay this"

And without that draw, the 50+ list of cosplay ideas I have just seems so dull.

And while there are costumes that I would love to tackle for purely for the sake of making something that should not exist in real life, my skill level isn't at that point. And there are no cosplays that are in between that i want to do to help me get there.

I miss being excited by shows, and having a drive to finish a costume because I want to talk with other fans. But it isn't there. My boyfriend is going through the same thing. So we're leaving it to the other two members to pick our group cosplays, because we have no drive to do any couple cosplays either.

Has this happened to anyone else? How did you get unfunked?

[Anonymous No.8616276]

>>8616034
You sound like someone who just makes bad decisions in general. Like it sounds like it was a really bad idea to even get engaged to this guy in the first place, and you fucked up but he sounds like kind of an asshole.

[Anonymous No.8616282]

>>8616276
I agree with you anon. He doesn't seem caring at all. She should've asked him why he was being so apathetic.

[Anonymous No.8616289]

>on vacations with family to NYC
>been wanting to get into lolita so I really wanted to check out Tokyo Rebel and see what burando looked like in person, maybe buy something
>mom says she doesn't know if we'll stop by
>day before we leave NYC, we walk all the way down from Times Square to the 9/11 Museum
>too hot
>halfway to our destination, "anon, the store you want to check out is sort of on the way, we can stop by"
>not wearing anything remotely lolita, sweating as fuck from walking under the sun, ew.jpeg
>we've come this far tho, might as well check it out
>get there
>too hot outside, everyone gets inside with me
>embarassed and nervous, cute lolita stares at us
>attempt to make small talk to be friendly and explain why is a bunch of people inside their store all of a sudden
>spill spaghetti everywhere, english not my mother language, incoherent babbling on how I'm visiting the city with my family and been looking forward to visit their store
>she's very nice but visibly uncomfortable, girl at the counter looks like she's trying not to laugh
>give up and go take a look around
>brought some money with me, maybe I can buy something, a couple items catch my attention but nothing specific screams "WANT"
>mom is looking at the price tags, horrified
>I tell her I warned her, this is brand, japanese designers, good quality, etc, so things aren't exactly cheap
>"sorry anon, this is all too expensive and way too over the top, we should just get going"
>stepdad and brother just checking their phones by the door
>everyone goes quiet, they just want to leave
>uncomfort is over 9000
>don't even bother checking anything else, thank the girls for their time
>girl who had greeted us gives me a couple postcards before I leave
>hey, at least I got cute postcards

I bet they both thought I was autistic as fuck. If they ever read this, I'm sorry girls, I was really nervous and ended up looking like a complete moron? Thank you for the cute postcards anyway

[Anonymous No.8616314]

>>8616289
aw this makes me really sad. the shopgirls are usually nice, your nerves might have altered your perception of them.

so sorry you didn't get to look around and see the new brand in person. use this moment as inspiration to become independant someday you can go where you like without family interference.

[Anonymous No.8616320]

>love lolita and how it makesme feel
>too depressed to go to a meet for months
>can't get the motivation to even follow the hobby
>out of touch
>miss my comm
>comm members reach out and say they miss me
>makes me feel worse
>general apathy toward all the stuff I used to enjoy
>tfw

How do you guys come back from when your favorite things stop being enjoyable?

[Anonymous No.8616343]

>local comm looks really fun
>fairly large and well dressed
>my schedule doesnt match up with their meets at all
>definitely too new to intiate meets
>too anxious to wear lolita outside of meets
>burando just sitting in my closet
A-at least on breaks between semesters I can go... ;_;

In other feels
>tfw my boyfriends parents treat him like a 15 year old (hes 21)
>baby him and dont let him take responsibility for anything
>he decided his going to sell his desktop pc and buy a laptop for school
>"no, we'll just buy you one..."
>gets a job
>"you have to book this date, this date, and this date off for family time... You know, you dont need a job...."
>moves out for school
>"we'll pay your rent, so you don't have to work..."
>his mom literally screams at him to do things like feed to the dog or wash the dishes when i'm over, once every few minutes
>usually hes already done whatever chore is being requested before i came over and his mom hasnt checked yet
I'm so glad he's moved out, even if its only during the school year...

[Anonymous No.8616346]

>>8616320
You just gotta force yourself to dress up and go to a meet. For a while I was too depressed to cosplay or go to conventions but then I sucked it up and went and I had so much fun. I had completely forgotten how exciting it was and it did wonders for my outlook on things.

[Anonymous No.8616349]

>>8616320
>How do you guys come back from when your favorite things stop being enjoyable?
You don't. Welcome to depression.

[Anonymous No.8616352]

>don't usually be so open about what I'm cosplaying on /cgl/
>going to out of state convention I've only been to once
>barely cosplayed last year because no money
>for once feel really good about my costumes because I have the money to spend on them
>can't help but post here in excitement about it
>waiting for it to bite me in the ass and end up being posted and made fun of because con seagulls will know it's me

[Anonymous No.8616390]

>>8609554
1: Neither, I hate both of you
2: Quit my job AND blow you off to go out drinking and fucking bitches way hotter than you
3: The more pressing issue is how many im gonna have AFTER you

[Anonymous No.8616393]

>>8613533
I feel that sister
>do they really think they're in my league?
>am i secretly fat/ugly?

I mean I'm gay anyway but it's still a blow to the ego.

[Anonymous No.8616398]

>>8613696
>I feel like such a failure, and that everyone who's ever told me that was right.
They sure are

[Anonymous No.8616407]

>>8616172
>>8616129
Where the fuck are you getting any of that from.
Sounds like you got cheated on once and have gone full "all men are evil heartless scum!" tumblr mode.

[Anonymous No.8616414]

>>8616129
>Men cheat on their spouses and that is "okay"
must be bait
most people call men pieces of shit if they cheat

[Anonymous No.8616436]

>>8616289
At least you got to go! I really really wanted to visit it this summer when I was in new York and me and my dad and my sister all went out of our way to go visit it and tried to reach it through the subway but some of the subways we're getting worked on and the subway worker lady didn't tell us and we wasted like an hour and in the end couldn't visit it. I was really upset but at least I got to see Wicked which was the main reason I wanted to visit new York.

[Anonymous No.8616455]

> started feeling down since last year
> thought it was just one of those lesser moments everyone has, decided to wait till it passed
> it didn't
> it got worse overtime
> failed lots of classes because I couldn't bring myself to study
> losing friends because I can't bring myself to talk to anyone anymore
> can't bring myself to go to meetups
> can't bring myself to make cosplays
> even cons don't bring me joy anymore
> I care about nothing
> family freaking out because of grades, blames it on cosplay even though it's been months since I worked on one
> nobody gives a fuck about how I feel
> even bf seems to get fed up with me because I'm being more distanced
> don't seek help because I don't want people to find out, parents don't really believe in depressions
> hate myself because I'm letting everyone down
> sent to school counsellor because of my grades
> she says she's worried about me and asks if I've been feeling okay lately
> break down and spill everything
> she listens
> she tells me it's going to be alright
> she tells me how I'm feeling is more important than school or other people's opinion
> tells me my well-being is the only thing that should matters right now
> cry happy tears because I had no idea how much I wanted to hear those words
> she's going to get me the help I so desperately need
> I'm going to be fine...finally

[Anonymous No.8616457]

>>8616034
If you aren't happy with your finance then leave him. He sounds like an ass anyway

[Anonymous No.8616463]

>>8616390
3Edgy4me

[Anonymous No.8616490]

>>8616457
I wasn't happy with my finance either so I left Yahoo for Google's. My stocks have never looked better.

[Anonymous No.8616500]

>>8616314
Don't get me wrong, they were indeed nice! I just think I made them uncomfortable by coming in with my family trailing behind and spilling my spaghetti like that.
I will, maybe one day I can visit again on my own!

>>8616436
I'm so jealous of you right now, haha. I ALMOST saw Wicked but it was nearly full already and the tickets available were ridiculously expensive. Oh well, maybe I can get a better chance in London. I got to see Jim Parsons instead, at least.

[Anonymous No.8616526]

>>8616490
topkek

[Anonymous No.8616535]

>bout of depression killed my creativity.
>see love live movie and all the cosplayers, feel a little better
>see a pic online of my ex (stupid whore cosplayer)
>let themselves go really bad
>friends all looking like stuffed hams or mini landwhales
>suddenly sewing, exercising, writing and drawing again

I should feel bad that seeing how unfortunate they look out of cosplay matches how bad they are in now and motivates me to be my best but I really don't. They wanted to monitor my life after the breakup? May as well give them something good to look at.

[Anonymous No.8616575]

>>8616535
Nah don't feel bad. When I see cosplayers at conventions that look really bad, it just makes me feel better about myself because I think "Well, at least I'm not that bad." I'd never say anything to them, of course, but it's nice to think that no matter how you look, at least you're not that one person.

[Anonymous No.8616583]

>>8616575
Me too. I'm an experienced cosplayer who does a good job and every time I see someone cosplay the same character I'm just happy they make me look better in comparison. Of course I would never say this out loud or admit to it. I'm a douche, but seriously who doesn't do this? I'm glad they're having fun with their cosplay, but I'm also glad they're not better than me.

[Anonymous No.8616615]

>>8616583
This >>8616575 anon here but I don't really feel that way? In my case I have no skills at making things so I have to buy my costumes and just do little details/props myself with my limited abilities so that plus my anxiety makes me think everything I do automatically looks awful so when I see cosplayers in Party City wigs or closet cosplay or something, it just makes me feel better in that way I mentioned before. It just gives me enough confidence to not go change out of my costume out of my own fears of everything thinking I look terrible and only asking for pictures to mock later. I don't mind seeing cosplayers that look better than me.

[Anonymous No.8616635]

>>8616034
I have some advice-some of it pretty weird-but hear me out. My main points are that you probably should leave him (you don't cheat if you're satisfied with a relationship), but here are some tips if you don't want to.

First, if you truly want to stay with your fiancee, it is only fair to tell him you cheated. It sounds like a good talk is waaay overdue anyway. If he didn't care about your depression, that's bullshit. If he is always criticizing you, that's bullshit. If he doesn't let you wear lolita, that's bullshit. Cheating is fucked up on your part, but don't pretend your other issues don't exist. All of these are important to address. Maybe see a relationship counselor if communication is breaking down. Your fiancee might want to leave you, though, so that might not even come up.

Next, here's my weird advice. If you're going to leave him for this other guy, consider not telling him that you cheated.

Maybe explain why you don't want to be with him anymore (perhaps for the same reasons you cheated), but don't tell him you fucked someone.

Here's my reasoning. As someone who was cheated on (one-time drunken mistake), I was destroyed. I had absolutely zero trust, I gave up on my studies, I felt like I couldn't talk to my friends, I had nightmares about being cheated on. I wish he had the decency to end it, but it was just a long shitfest of unhappiness from then on. I'd have preferred we just admitted we weren't satisfied with our relationship and broken up. I could've lived without knowing he had slobbered over some girl at a party.

(Also, HuffPo stated "Although studies vary, research has shown that almost 60 percent of men and over 45 percent of women will cheat at some point in their marriages." That doesn't make it less shitty, but cheating is fairly common.)

[Anonymous No.8616655]

>>8616455
Awww, that's great anon! Hope you get what you need.

[Anonymous No.8616713]

>Good friend is like the butt of a "LOL Tumblr SJW" stereotype joke
>Autistic Jewish transman that votes Green Party and bicycles everywhere
>Everyone that knows him is like "Dude you should read Jojo's Bizarre Adventure you'd probably love it"
>He likes Phantom Blood, but as soon as he gets to Battle Tendency he suddenly starts on a 'tard rage fit
> screaming about how we're all anti-Semites because nobody thought to mention to him that Battle Tendency has Nazis in it
>He's refusing to even read it so when I try to be all "They're only there for the first few chapters and they all get murdered by the Pillar Men anyway" he just flips his shit even harder
>Maybe I just don't get why it's making him THIS mad because I'm an ignorant goyim, and I say as much
>He calls all Jojo's fans fucking Nazi sympathizers because nobody talks about (or condemns) the fact that there are Nazis, basically cuts me out of his life

In retrospect, I think I should have seen it coming.

[Beanie-kun !!haFBv+kEAYe No.8616949]

>>8612902
It's okay anon, I don't like faggots either.

[Anonymous No.8616988]

>>8616034
Good lord, I honestly didn't expect this much of a response.
To >>8616067 >>8616105 >>8616104
Thanks for the reminders.

To >>8616070
>>8616111
>>8616119
>>8616129
>>8616219
>>8616276
>>8616457
>>8616635
I feel like maybe I should explain a little more... First things first, up until a few weeks ago, we were in a sexually non-monogamous relationship for a variety of reasons, among them was that we felt like we needed to get into the mindset of monogamy before getting married. I guess because I've always had trouble with commitment, it's hard to get into the swing of being committed to one person. I'm not using that as an excuse, what I did was really shitty, I'm just saying that might be a reason.
Thank you to everyone who offered advice, I am considering every piece of it sincerely.
I also want to clarify that I have no actual intention of leaving my fiance for this other guy, I know from past experiences with other relationships that it doesn't work. He and I have agreed that we're both a little too messed up to form any sort of decent foundations for a relationship. We've been friends for a long time, it's just only recently that we've spent a lot of alone time together. That's coming to an end. We're still going to be friends, just no more alone time. It's working out well so far.

My fiance and I really, truly love each other. Yes, we have our issues and it's been hard recently, but reading all these comments and thinking it over, I believe we can get through it and come out stronger together on the other side. I think the reason that he hasn't really "got" my need for support is that 1. the sort of depression he deals with in his bipolar disorder is like this little switch that he just flips off after a day. Chronic depression just doesn't click as a thing in his head. 2. I've never had it hit this hard in the time that I've been with him. Maybe he just doesn't know how to handle it.

[Anonymous No.8617016]

>>8616988
Also, on the subject of me telling him. I know a lot of you aren't going to like it, but I'm taking the approach suggested by >>8616635

I know it sounds stupid not to tell him but I'd rather just forget it ever happened and not repeat the mistake. He has such a positive outlook for our relationship right now and I don't want to wreck that. Furthermore, I don't want him to feel like we need to return to non-monogamy. I really want this to work out.

[Anonymous No.8617161]

>>8617016
>>8616988
If you're not going to tell him and you're going to stay with him, you really need to work out what pushed you to cheat in the first place.
Even if he doesn't quite understand depression, you two really need to find ways to work around each other's mental issues. You seem to have his bipolar tendencies down pat, the least he can do is recognize and help you with your depression. That is, if you want this to work out.

Your relationship really needs a lot of work and I get the feeling that neither of you are really trying, honestly. Good luck anyway, though.

[Anonymous No.8617212]

>>8609467
I don't know an adult that cares about birthmarks. I have a mole that is about a centimeter on my upper right breast (32A american) that made me extremely self conscious for years. I was always making sure that it was covered, even in bikinis. When I got in college it stopped bothering me because I realized people didn't care.

[Anonymous No.8617268]

>>8616988
>>8617016
lol im sure this marriage will last long
just wish the poor guy knew what he was in for before dooming himself to get cheated on again, but this time losing half his shit in divorce and getting slapped with an alimony bill

[Anonymous No.8617412]

>>8616988
>>8617016
...you are a disgusting person you know that? For your shitty reading comprehension, the anon said to admit you cheated, but not to tell him if you were going to break up. They were giving you good advice and you twisted it to suit your own purposes. Most people have surprisingly been level headed and you've ignored them all in favor of your own greed. You don't love your boyfriend if you're doing this to him.

Your bf has a right to know - you're taking the option to leave you away from him, so you're forcing him to stay in a relationship with you against his will if he would have chosen to leave you. And that's pure evil and you deserve to be alone for that. You have no emotions and you are the ultimate definition of selfish.

With the path you're taking, you're doomed to failure and that day can't come fast enough, frankly. Don't come running to cgl crying that he found out and broke up. It was long expected. And I hope someone else finds out and tells him too as soon as possible.

I just have no words for how incredibly rotten you're being. You could have fixed this and listened to the anons who tried to help you do the right thing, but no. Your actions have consequences, remember this!

[Anonymous No.8617419]

>>8616635
And how accurate is that figure? How many people did they use for the case study? A lot less people are dirtbags than you think, and less people cheat in marriages than in ordinary relationships, I'd say. Either way, that figure isn't going to be accurate to all the cases of cheating in the world, ever. Cheating is horrible and anyone who does it is a bad person. Yes, even me, even if I try to justify it with the newness of the relationship and issues my bf was aware of that were happening at that time and yes, I told him what I did so he could choose to leave me if he wanted. I'm a bad person, but in a marriage I've promised to be committed and loyal and bound for life. I'd rather take my own life than cheat when married, but I'm also not going to do it ever again anyways. Cheating shouldn't be common - don't be in a relationship if you want to screw other people. That's not a real relationship anyway.

>>8617268
You're right, she's definitely going to cheat on him again. I feel sorry for the poor guy.

[Anonymous No.8617482]

>>8611775
Holy shit that's ... messed up.

[Anonymous No.8617681]

>>8609554
>Q: if your mom and I are both drowning, and we're both far apart, who would you save first?
Mom.
Girlfriends are replaceable. You only get one mom.

>Q: it's Friday night, and we're suppose to have dinner together (which I'm preparing), but your company is experiencing a sudden business emergency and your boss and team absolutely need your time to resolve it. What do you do?
Depends on the terms of my employment contract. If I accepted that I might be called in suddenly at short notice, go to the work. Otherwise, tell them they are overstepping their boundaries and I do not owe them my Friday night. Then attend the dinner meeting.

>Q: how many other girlfriends have you had before me?
Girlfriends Three. Hookups ... probably 80 or so?

[Anonymous No.8617684]

>>8613628
Different anon. I'd go to her house and give her the present. I wouldn't linger though unless she asked. Although at the same time you could be seen as crazy, but showing her the custom gift could show her how much you cared.

[Anonymous No.8617697]

>>8610062
>relying on a female to keep an appointment
>when she isn't getting punished if she fails to keep the appointment
Top lel

[Anonymous No.8617722]

>>8612241
You might want to try a dating site. My best friend met his current gf on plenty of fish. She is big into gaming and anime.

[Anonymous No.8617744]

>>8609554
Lol wtf? She sounds like me when I was insecure in high school. I have grown out of it luckily but thank goodness my boyfriend didn't ditch me. I'm sure she's just insecure and is worried you'll leave her or something. Making you choose between her and your mom is just insane and if she gets mad that you would save your mom first over her (depending on how long you've been dating) then I would be worried.

>>8609568
I like these answers. Especially the first one.

[Anonymous No.8617858]

>>8616500
Oh man wicked was great! Even my dad who isnt really a musical person enjoyed it. I would suggest getting the tickets ahead of time if you go again that's what we did.

[Anonymous No.8618626]

>>8617684
that's a good idea anon. I might as well because at the very least, I literally have no use for this gift and it's too specific to her for me to sell it to anyone else. I guess I'll post in a future feels thread when I do it, and if no one cares anymore by then I'll just join the club.

[Anonymous No.8618724]

>>8615529
Anon, I've had similar situations, anon.

>going through shitty side effect since age 11
>weight gain (~30 lbs)
>chronic fatigue
>insomnia
>excessive sweating
>stomachaches
>mental fog (drunk levels)
>chronic empty feeling
>sexuality? what sexuality?
>suicidal ideation
These were all from taking Paxil.

Wellbutrin, to some extent, worked, but stopped working shortly after I started taking it..
Prozac could have been alfalfa capsules; did 0 good.

On Brintellix right now, and it's the first medication to actually work well. Side effects are nonexsistent, but I'm on a half dose, so.

Wellbutrin and Brintellix don't effect the weight or sex drive as much, though.

[Anonymous No.8618994]

Guys? Guys. I think I won $2,500.

I got sent an envelope by a local car dealership about a sweepstakes they're holding. I have no idea how they got my name and mailing information, so I'm really weirded out, but at the same time, I've never won these before. The grand prize is 25K, but I'm still kind of excited. I just hope that they don't take a lot out in taxes.

I wish 2,500 went a long way. I want to put some of it toward paying off my loan, but I also want to buy lolita.

[Anonymous No.8619139]

>>8609554
LMAO UR PLAYING A DATING SIM AND ASKING /cgl/ FOR ADVICE :DDDDD:DDDD:D:

PLAYING DATING SIM:DD:D:

AND ASKING FOR ADVIC:E:D:D:D:D

LIKE IT'S REAL GIRL YOUR DATING:DDDDD:DD

HAHAHA

[Anonymous No.8619177]

>>8618994

Make sure your actually won it and it's not a scam or an Ad, like "You won 2,500 off of a 30,000 car!"

[Anonymous No.8619509]

>>8618994
Call and ask about it, but it's probably a scam (ie. you get $2500 after you buy these car gadgets or sit through 50 timeshares meetings).

[Anonymous No.8620032]

I know it's NORMIES LEAVE REEEEEE-level, but I miss cosplaying fairly obscure Marvel characters and actually being recognized. Now unless you're Tony Stark with a shitty eyeliner goatee or Yet Another Captain America, no-one's paying attention.

[Anonymous No.8620482]

>have a older sister who is a fucking looser. (Can't hold a job, on welfare, has 3 kids, in her 30's and dose fuck all)
>I hate her but I tolerate her to be around my nieces and nephew.
>My mom had to financially stable her four times in the past 2 years because she kept not paying rent, mom didn't want her homeless because kids. Doesn't give a shit about her at this point.
>Finally my family gets their shit together, mom buys the house of her dreams after years of bullshit, good pension, everything is finally starting to look up! We can finally move forward after all these years (Because older sister ruined all our lives)
>Older sister just messaged me. She just found out she is pregnant with her 4th kid and she can't financially hold herself and her current 3 kids. Let alone a new baby.
>Fucking pissed. No one else knows but my younger sister and I and we are furious.
>With boyfriend whom they have only been together for 3 months, he already have 14 kids.

I am just so angry. I want to have a kid one day and now my family wont give a shit when I finally have one because of this selfish bitch who cant keep her fucking legs closed.
>Gonna go drink my sorrows and frustrations out.

[Anonymous No.8620496]

>>8620482
And I thought my sister was bad. I hope this fourth child doesn't interfere with your mom's new house or anything.

I get you on wanting children too. My older sister already had a child but put him up for adoption because she was 19 (still have contact with him and the family so that's nice). She's now 25 and apparently her and her fiance were trying for a kid even though they are in no way capable of taking care of a child financially or emotionally. I chewed her out on that and she's back on the pill. Meanwhile I'm over here working towards a doctorate and have 5 years of schooling left before I can have kids but I'm sure my sister will have one or even two by then.

[Anonymous No.8620715]

>>8620482
>>have a older sister who is a fucking looser.
I could tell from this sentence alone that you're a male. Leave please.

[Anonymous No.8620717]

>>8620715
dumblr pls go

[Anonymous No.8620929]

>>8620715
>loser . Auto correct.
And I am actually a girl. Thank you very much. Go the fuck back to tumblr.