/lit/ - Literature

[Anonymous No.17733646]

Books about coming to terms with your GF's large sexual past?

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733653]

>>17733646
Become the larger end of it.

[Anonymous No.17733657]

there is no book for that. kill yourself and make the world a better place

[Anonymous No.17733666]

>>17733653
that's not a book

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733702]

>>17733666
I don’t know your girlfriend, anon. Tell us about her. What does she see in you?

[Anonymous No.17733724]

>>17733702
She's a size queen

[Anonymous No.17733730]

I don’t care that she’s a slut

[Anonymous No.17733732]

>whore
>size queen
>making this woman your gf
retard

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733739]

>>17733732
>trusts anonymous

[Anonymous No.17733744]

>>17733646
who the fuck cares about the sexual past u fucking idiot

[Anonymous No.17733763]

Pretend you have larger sexual history, then she will be the worried one.

[Anonymous No.17733764]

>>17733732
if it's retarded to fall in love then yes I am a retard

[Anonymous No.17733769]

>>17733744
everyone in the world pre 1800 who refused to marry a non virgin

>>17733732
nothing wrong with a size queen if you have a big penis

[Anonymous No.17733771]

>>17733744
t. enjoys sucking the cum from other men out of his partner’s pussy

[Anonymous No.17733775]

>>17733702
I wouldn't know honestly. I am a 4chan-type of guy (Home all day, skelly, likes anime and vidya, ect) and she is a hot vapid girl (The netflix and chill type, the Uggs and Starbucks type). She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex, but still satisfying.

[Anonymous No.17733783]

>>17733775
Continue to fuck her while you look for a real partner

[Anonymous No.17733788]

>>17733646
crime and punishment

[Anonymous No.17733801]

>>17733764
Considering this behaviour is an expression of her personality I don't understand how you could get a different perception without actively deluding yourself. Either you accept it as part of the deal or you don't.

[Anonymous No.17733812]

>>17733764
maybe she's slept around a lot because she gets bored easily, maybe she gets bored easily because she slept around a lot. the causation don't matter, but she'll get bored eventually and you'll probably have way more feels for her than she has for you when that happens.

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733820]

>>17733775
If she’s mature enough, all you have to do is be just as mature and be what she needs. Whatever all that may be. Emotionally stable and sensitive. Strong will but certainly not abusive. Love yourself as much as her, and don’t let her push you around. If she’s crazy, don’t worry about dumping her. Just grow from the experience. Hope it works out nicely.
Do quit fourchin

[Anonymous No.17733837]

>>17733775
>she is a hot vapid girl (The netflix and chill type, the Uggs and Starbucks type)
>She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex
Bro I get that slit is maddening but holy fuck you're wasting your time with this girl. >>17733783's advice isn't that bad.
I don't have any books specifically speaking to this, but here's a song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsyKe6sUO7Y
>>17733820
>advice about women from a woman
>single, childless, menopausal
>4chan tripfag
>"just be honest"
OP FUCKING DON'T DO THIS KEK

[Anonymous No.17733840]

>>17733775
How did you get her?

[Anonymous No.17733851]

>>17733775
>>17733837
Wrong song, this is the one. It's completely normal and desirable to feel irked about wifing a whore or "ex-whore". Run away, young man.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IKtb1zjnJYo

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733862]

>>17733837
>DON'T DO THIS
Try to be happy, but not care if it crumbles away?
Why shouldn’t he? Oaf

[Anonymous No.17733874]

>>17733775
Replace thoughts about her past with sexual fantasies about you and her. With the way you describe yourself and her, it doesn’t sound like a recipe for a stable relationship though. Enjoy the fun, treat each other well, and try not to get too attached.
In the long run try not to be a “4chan-type” guy and try to figure out who you’d want to be with.

[Anonymous No.17733884]

>>17733862
>Why shouldn’t he?
Because not only is the advice atrocious, the source is equally alarming. I wouldn't ask a Khoisan tribesman about Kant just like I wouldn't ask you about having successful heterosexual relationships with decent women. You're out of your depth.

[Anonymous No.17733888]

>>17733820
remember OP, don't be abusive

[Anonymous No.17733898]

>>17733788
Based

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17733909]

>>17733884
>You're out of your depth.
HAHAHA. No man, you are. There’s nothing wrong with that advice. It’s plain and measured. We hardly know anything about this person, even if it’s true or not.
All I said was, make the most of it, it might turn out well, but if not, don’t let it bother you. The fucks your problem?

[Anonymous No.17733923]

>>17733769
there’ll always be bigger

[Anonymous No.17733934]

>>17733909
>If she’s mature enough
She's not. OP already explained how she's vapid and blown out. He's in the early stages of pussy infatuation. Lots of guys on here who're just getting their first go at gash wilfully ignore the piles of neatly folded red flags bc 'coom feel good'. I'm no better.
>all you have to do is be just as mature and be what she needs
literally a nothing-statement.
>Strong will but certainly not abusive
"Make sure you don't slam her head in the fridge". Nice advice lmao.
>Love yourself as much as her
another nothing-statement.
>If she’s crazy, don’t worry about dumping her.
Platitude. Of course you should leave crazy people.
>Just grow from the experience
If only it were this easy. Lots of guys "growing from experiences" end up permanently ruining their lives.
>Do quit fourchin
Great advice. Follow it.

[Anonymous No.17733939]

> tfw latched on to my HS sweetheart, been each other's one and only

> my fetish is to turn her into a whore and a size queen

Grass is always greener

[Anonymous No.17733966]

out, cuck

[Anonymous No.17734022]

>>17733840
Picked a gender studies course at my college for the credits and the lulz. She sat next to me, we started talking, I get her number and so on.
>>17733874
Does this even work? The trying to swap the fantasies? Because it sounds like I would get a cuckolding fetish out of that.
>>17733783
Isn't finding a real partner pretty random? I mean, that could take a while. Especially with quarantine and all that.
>>17733837
>>17733851
>>17733820
So it's either man up or kick her out?

[Anonymous No.17734031]

>>17733783
based

[Anonymous No.17734044]

>>17734022
>So it's either man up or kick her out?
If you're asking for my opinion as a guy who (probably) used to be pretty similar to you? Yes. She's completely unsalvageable. "She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex" is a giant Soviet-tier red flag + air siren that she's not a good partner. If you need to get the proverbial monkey off your back then keep fucking her (please use a domer) while you come to terms with the fact that she's only good for a bit of fun and nothing more. I know it's fucking hard to walk away from what seems like a sure-thing source of PUSSYYYYYYYY AAAAAAAAAAARRRRRGHHHHHHHH but it's the best solution for the long run. You could always listen to butters and "be the man she needs you to be and forget her past, oaf" but idk breh. It's your life.

[Anonymous No.17734059]

>>17733934
>If only it were this easy. Lots of guys "growing from experiences" end up permanently ruining their lives.
Not that anon but can you elaborate here

[Anonymous No.17734080]

>>17733646
Not worth it anon

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17734085]

>>17733934
>She's not. I should know. I’m her mother!
>[redacted]
>What? No violence?
>[redacted]
>”Don’t sweat dumping her” PLATITUDE! I SEE PLATITUDE!
Nutter
>Grow? How are you supposed to grow when you should be going crazy and killing people for your emotional torment!!!!
Projectionnnn
My, you are a wreck. Leave fourchin forever.

>>17734022
If you like her, if there’s chemistry, it’s worth a try. Just build your confidence and don’t be played. Everyone expects her to sleep around, but who knows. Don’t live in fear and paranoia. Another reason I’m saying you ought to quit fourchan.

[Anonymous No.17734090]

>>17734022
That’s why you keep her as a fuck Buddy until you find something real

[Anonymous No.17734101]

>>17734059
>hehe nice, finally getting some pussy :)
>she admitted to being a whore but whatever
>GOD I LOVE PUSSY AND ASS AND TITS OH GOOOOOOD SHE SMELLS SO GOOD
>Yea babe, I'll pick you up from work
>Yea babe, I'll help with rent
>Yea babe, I'll let you dump your baggage on me
>I've gotta save her
>Young love is so fun
>Woah she's getting kind of insane
>Still getting to lick her PUSSY AND ANUS AND MILKY TITS AAAAAARRRRGGGHH
>I'll tolerate this mountain of insanity and bullshit because she takes her clothes off for me
>Oh fuck she's pregnant/making accusations/cheating on me
For guys like OP, a few good fucks with low-hanging fruit can quickly morph into life-crushing issues.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-nz5I84Wjwc
>>17734085
Please, keep giving young men advice about healthy relationships with women. You have nice milkies though.

[Anonymous No.17734102]

Is it even possible to find a woman who isn't a whore these days? I have a lot of female friends and they're all whores despite coming from the upper classes, well educated, some of them are even extremely rich. All whores. They treat tinder dick like men treat playing a new video game. It's a completely casual affair, and means nothing about their character to them that they have fucked 30+ guys by age 25. They also lie about their number, they don't count guys they "only blew" and things like that.

I feel like just 10 years ago, 10+ partners would be considered a huge red flag. Now that's nothing for the average 5/10 girl in college.

[Anonymous No.17734109]

>>17734102
Increasingly difficult in Western and Westernized countries.
>"lol return to tradition, amirite"
No, we're just dealing with the consequences of sexual "liberation".

[Anonymous No.17734117]

>>17734022
> Does this even work? The trying to swap the fantasies? Because it sounds like I would get a cuckolding fetish out of that.
I’m talking about crowding out your worries about her past with fantasies about the present with you and her. Nothing cuck-y about that imo, but it will probably make you think of her as a slut. But *your* slut.
This isn’t really a long-term fix for anything. But it might let you feel secure and enjoy some fun together. If you’re looking for true love I don’t know what to tell ya.

[« Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ » No.17734126]

>>17734101
Delete that

[Anonymous No.17734134]

>>17733939
grass is greenest where you water it, dont ruin that retard

[Anonymous No.17734143]

>>17734126
I might when you stop shitting retard juice in every fucking thread. Surely there are SOME things you're actually knowledgeable about. Have a favourite genre or something? You should have done a 180 after seeing a thread about a cerebral /lit/bro asking for advice regarding his whore girlfriend. You don't need to have an opinion about everything, you know. For real though they're really nice.

[Anonymous No.17734152]

Butterfly's big fuckin jugs

[Anonymous No.17734166]

Don't worry OP.
My GF used to be an escort and she's slept with over 300 guys. It's not a big deal if the love is there

[Anonymous No.17734190]

>>17734166

[Anonymous No.17734310]

>>17734101
this guy is completely right and i really hope OP gets that but unfortunately he probably won't. these are lessons that generally have to be learned through experience.

[Anonymous No.17734319]

>>17733702
She thinks I'm real special. She's ending my streak though, not the other way around .
>>17733724
Happy for you.
>>17733775
Lacks confidence. You sound like you lucked into your relationship or maybe she's lying about her history to keep you under her thumb.

[Anonymous No.17734323]

>>17734190
tell us about your gf.

[Anonymous No.17734340]

>>17734319
It's a bitter pill to swallow. Walking away from a source of pussy after getting none for years (or maybe forever) is fucking difficult but definitely the right decision in these kinds of situations.

[Anonymous No.17734379]

>>17734323
Don't have

[Anonymous No.17734384]

>>17734323
>he thinks having a gf regardless of who she is is a badge of honour
This guy puts pussy on a pedestal

[Anonymous No.17734390]

>>17734323
>my gf has fucked several hundred men and will never even come close to pairbonding with me but I'm still better than you
xD

[Anonymous No.17734394]

>>17733775
>She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex,
Honestly, that's pretty rude. If she's going to insult you like that, you might wanna dump her.

[Anonymous No.17734405]

>>17734394
It was a shit test and OP failed.

[Anonymous No.17734413]

>>17733934
>piles of neatly folded red flags
This phrase perfectly summarizes my ex. Jesus fuck what a useless, insane, manipulative, waste of human flesh she was.

[Anonymous No.17734423]

>>17734044
>You could always listen to butters and "be the man she needs you to be and forget her past, oaf" but idk breh. It's your life.
Genuinely doesn't sound like she's worth it.

[Anonymous No.17734434]

>>17733646
Read your GF's diary. You'll be amazed.

[Anonymous No.17734441]

>>17734102
Is it really the bad bros?

[Anonymous No.17734451]

>>17734405
What would a pass look like?

[Anonymous No.17734477]

>>17733646
The French Lieutenant's Woman

[Anonymous No.17734487]

>>17733646
The reason you feel unease about your girlfriends sexual past is because it's an evolutionary advantage to feel such feelings for loose women.

It's vital for a man who is not seeking the maximum amount of sexual partners but rather aims to be monogamous to strive for sexually conservative women.
A woman who is pregnant will, in all natural circumstances, be sure the child is hers, but it might not be her primary partners.
The man has no such assurances and many suckers in history, who did not feel uneasy about their woman's loose past have been removed from the gene pool, one after one.

[Anonymous No.17734504]

>>17734022
How many previous partners has she had?

[Anonymous No.17734515]

I HATE existing bros.

[Anonymous No.17734516]

>>17734451
Ideally? A riposte that made her regret mentioning that (which she only did to belittle him and assert herself)
>my ex was bigger haha
>I guess you’ve sucked a lot of dick, huh? Pretty gross.

[Anonymous No.17734517]

>>17734441
Not really but the breakdown of social controls creates an arms race between females in terms of putting out. Most women you meet will still have more traditional conceptions and think of those types as sluts.

[Anonymous No.17734533]

>>17734102
>>17734441
It's bad but not as bad as some people make it out to be. Younger people are actually having less sex and fewer partners than previous generations. More and more people would rather stay home and watch porn or netflix than go out or hook up. This comes with its own problems of course but most women age 18-25 have only had 2-3 sexual partners. Maybe it's not the ideal, romantic exchanging of each other's virginities (I don't say that in a condescending way, I actually think that's a really sweet and beautiful thing) but a woman with a low partner count can still pair bond and make a good wife and mother.

[Anonymous No.17734540]

>>17734487
R vs K strategists. Despite alllllllll the socialization and propaganda to the contrary you should never ever feel ashamed about not wanting to build a life with a WHORE. A woman who was once happy to be a meat fuck-hole for scores of other men (aka “finding herself and learning about life”) cannot be a good wife or mother.

[Anonymous No.17734559]

>>17733646
you have to end it

[Anonymous No.17734576]

>>17733646
>large sexual
big red flag, might not be a dealbreaker but people, women and men, who have had lots of sexual partners have issues forming lasting relationships. you are better off telling her right away youd like to break up or treat her as a one night stand instead of a gf so when she eventually moves on you arent hurt because of it.

t. have 3 chicks in my friend circle that have had more "boyfriends" than they can remember but never for more than a month or two tops.

[Anonymous No.17734580]

Imagine still concerning yourself with the vaginal jew in 2021.

Unless you’re a natural alpha male who can dominate and control a woman - and there are none of those on 4chan, let alone /lit/ - it’s a game where the only eventual outcome is loss.

[Anonymous No.17734586]

>>17734044
>"She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex" is a giant Soviet-tier red flag + air siren that she's not a good partner.
I agree that OP should break up with her but this isn't necessarily a red flag. It depends on how it came up and what exactly she said. She may have just been honest with him and honesty is a good thing, right?

[Anonymous No.17734604]

>>17734580
This is such a terrible mentality to have. It leads to a lonely life. There are still good women out there and adopting this defeatist mindset hurts the White race. We need babies. FInd yourself a good woman and marry her and have kids.

[Anonymous No.17734616]

>>17734166
Could you tell us more about this, anon? Maybe you're trolling but I'm genuinely curious because that sounds horrible. How does she feel about her past? How do you feel about it?

[Anonymous No.17734630]

>>17734616
I man'd up and made her my bitch.

[Anonymous No.17734636]

>>17733775
>She also said that I am smaller than her previous partners after sex

>he had sex out of wedlock

you get what you deserve

[Anonymous No.17734639]

>>17734604
>There are still good women out there™
Not in my experience. Led extensively social and sexual life in high school and college and everything I've learnt about women and their absurdly slutty ways turned me into long-term volcel with no regrets. Even church girls putting out since they turn 14, or at the very least blow all their male friends.

[Anonymous No.17734643]

>>17734102
>have a lot of female friends and they're all whores despite coming from the upper classes, well educated, some of them are even extremely rich. All whores. They treat tinder dick like men treat playing a new video game.
Have you asked them why they do this? It seems like very self-destructive behavior. Why don't they just get married?

>They also lie about their number, they don't count guys they "only blew" and things like that.
Somebody posted pic related in a thread a week or so ago and I saved it. I hadn't considered the not counting blowjobs thing but it seems like women don't lie as much as you might think.

[Anonymous No.17734650]

>>17734643
what makes women special is that they llie about lying. they even lie to themselves about lying about lying.

the data in that picture has no way of being reliable.

[Anonymous No.17734657]

>>17734630
Man'd up? What is that supposed to mean and how did you make her your bitch? This answer doesn't tell me anything.

>>17734639
It could be that you feel that way because the women you encountered while leading an "extensively social and sexual life" were not the sort of women who would make good wives. Be volcel if you want but I worry you may regret that in the long run. Falling in love and having children is a central part of the human experience.

[Anonymous No.17734666]

>>17734650
How do you even verify something like that? I understand being skeptical of self reported data even when it's anonymous but it shouldn't be completely dismissed. What are we supposed to go off of if not surveys and studies?

[Anonymous No.17734675]

>>17734639
If that girl had been born 200 years earlier she'd be a wife and have at least 1 or 2 kids by now. I bet she'd be happier too. We gotta go back, bros. I don't want to live in modernity anymore.

[Anonymous No.17734676]

>>17734533
>>17734517
>>17734102
I'm twenty-eight. I've never had sex. My only gf was some chick I met online and had a three month relationship with this winter. I've started to become more confident and have started going on irl dates. I genuinely don't want a woman who has had more than three sexual partners max. Any more would be a deal breaker for me. How realistic am I being?
I could sleep around to "even the score" so it doesn't feel so asymmetrical, but I've let myself get memed into the idea that sex before marriage is degenerate (I'm not Christian though). I genuinely want to only have sex with one person, I want that to be true of my wife as well. Honestly, I don't even like dating as a cultural institution. Joining a congregation isn't an option because I genuinely don't believe. I feel like I'm setting myself up for a massive uphill battle.
It doesn't help that I'm also bisexual and have some pretty intense homo lust.

[Anonymous No.17734723]

>>17734676
Hey, anon. I'm in a somewhat similar boat as you so I feel like I might be able to help. 3 max is not unrealistic but there are a lot of women who have had more partners than that and very few are virgins into their mid 20s. I would recommend not trying to even the score. Apparently women care far less than men about their partners having lots of previous sexual partners and some women even dislike it when a guy has a low partner count but if you're looking for someone to spend your life with, you don't want someone who rejects you for reasons like that. I'm not a Christian either but casual sex can cause people emotional damage and the idea of having sex with someone I don't love repulses me. I also share your bisexuality but refuse to date men because if a man is attractive I want him to reproduce. I will never let my lust for blond twinks get in the way of the propogation of the nordic race.

[Anonymous No.17734727]

>>17733653
Every single time, go fuck yourself faggot tranny posting pictures of girls with glasses won't make you any less man

[Anonymous No.17734768]

>>17734675
How do you propose we go back?

[Anonymous No.17734774]

>>17734676
I am an incel (honorary & in spirit since I unfortunately have had several gfs and have a gf now) and I agree with you but don't obsess about it. My metric is this: Has she always been trying to find a solid partner and build a long term relationship, in every relationship she's been in?

Some of the best women I've known in my life, women who have either become fantastic mothers and wives or will hopefully make fantastic mothers and wives in the near future, had 2 or 3 relationships prior to dating me, and only didn't settle down with me because I'm a piece of shit. And then some of them had another relationship that ended entirely because of the man also being a piece of shit after that. So they had 4-5 relationships, in all of which they were seriously trying to build a firm foundation. The first couple can be chalked up to naivete and youth (not being selective enough), and the ones after that can be chalked up to us failing her, and not her failing each of us. That would give them a high number on your radar but they are still great women.

Once it goes past there I would be suspicious though. It's hard to give advice. Half of me wants to say, don't be so quick to apply a schema to people, because life is complicated. But the other half of me wants to say, that's the excuse normies always make to escape judgement, and every man makes excuses for the girl who is currently beguiling his dick anyway. You have to chart a middle course. Look for good women, and use things like their number as a sign but not a guarantee of their internal quality. For me, as long as a girl was always at least TRYING to form stable relationships and lay the foundations for a family and a life together, I don't care if she has a handful of prior partners.

There is something primordially disgusting about a woman who gave it away for free in her youth though. Because pussy is a universal currency, a woman who is a spendthrift with her pussy shows she'll take whatever advantages and opportunities are given her, willy-nilly. It shows she doesn't set her own principles and guidelines in life, she just goes where the "fun" takes her. If it's fun to get some cheap attention for an evening, she'll give up her body. Not a good sign.

[Anonymous No.17734784]

>>17734774
I should clarify, to preempt the reply "they can't have been good women if they were dating pieces of shit like you and those other guys," we were pieces of shit precisely because we were chameleons who tricked them into thinking we had depth or were better long term material than we were.

[Anonymous No.17734785]

>>17733646
>>17733702
>>17733739
>>17733775
>>17734022
>>17734639
NPC's

Come on, don't you see how pretentious they all are? There are really only try hards left ... What happened to the world. It's all just on an emotional level, humans are more than that.

[Anonymous No.17734792]

>>17734774
This is really great advice but, dude, why do you even call yourself an incel when you've had several gfs?

[Anonymous No.17734798]

>>17734792
My soul remains pure and incel even if my body has been defiled by roasties.

[Anonymous No.17734804]

>>17734784
Why were you a piece of shit? No offense but that seems like a pretty shitty thing to be.

[Anonymous No.17734830]

>>17734792
It's a kind of cringe way of a Chad saying he's somewhat woke on the blackpill.

[Anonymous No.17734853]

>>17733939
> my fetish is to turn her into a whore and a size queen
I hope this is bait. This makes me want to beat the shit out of you. Your mind has been corrupted by pornography. Love and cherish your wife.

[Anonymous No.17734854]

>>17733775
Leave her.

[Anonymous No.17734858]

>>17734774
>I am an incel (honorary & in spirit since I unfortunately have had several gfs and have a gf now)
you can be an incel ally but calling yourself an incel is stolen valour

>So they had 4-5 relationships, in all of which they were seriously trying to build a firm foundation.
of fucking the guy they're dating. oh but it's "serious", not serious enough for a lifelong commitment but...

I'm not saying these girls aren't trying to be committed in their relationships but facts are facts and that's a history of 4-5 sinful relationships where they were fornicating

the fact that they were duped by guys who were pretending to be serious doesn't fix that. guys have been tricking women into sleeping with them for as long as guys have been around, every woman knows this and should be on guard against it. four-to-five previous partners leaves a mark

[Anonymous No.17734880]

>>17734858
Do you worry that having expectations that high for modern women is unrealistic? There are some out there who save themselves for marriage but they're rare and if you hold out for one, you could potentially be dooming yourself to singlehood for life. I'm not trying to blackpill. I'm not happy about this situation either. I'm just saying that unless you're still in your teens or maybe very early 20s, it seems to me that it's best to at least be open to a relationship with a woman who has had one or two previous serious relationships.

[Anonymous No.17734891]

>>17733646

American Psycho

[Anonymous No.17734895]

>>17734891
How high of a bodycount is too high for Patrick Bateman?

[Anonymous No.17734900]

My gf just turned 16 when we got together (I was 22 at the time). She was still a virgin and had only even kissed one other guy.
She comes from a pretty bad household and has a lot of problems, but I'm helping her deal with it.
It's not an easy relationship, but at least I can be pretty sure that she'll never leave me.