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Do you sometimes feel that the act of sex is awful? I know that as an angsty teenager, I would constantly tell myself “If only I could have sex with a girl, I would be happy.” Of course it is always that which is withheld from us that is most enticing, but after having multiple relationships, my opinion has changed very much. We desire it as the be-all end-all of a romantic relationship; it is the most intimate that two lovers can get. Most of the time, when my gf and I are having sex, I just cannot divorce myself from the very primitive and base nature of the act. I am only fulfilling my biological imperative. Stick it in, stick it in, stick it in, get it sucked, stick it in, blow your load. I want more, but there is nothing; there is only this. Chimps do it, I do it. Fucking nihilism ruining my sex life.

>> No.3762811

Do you have the same problems with eating, shitting, and sleeping? What about breathing?

>> No.3762818

>>3762811
Yes

>> No.3762822

>>3762811
To piggyback off of this anon's rhetoric, you are merely responding to the fetishism of sex. Sex is fetishized. It's probably due to constant societal enforcing of patriarchy. Getting laid is seen as an accomplishment for men, and that accomplishment creates the fetish. You are merely failing to recognize the fantasy of fetishistic sex. Since this is /lit/, I hope you won't mind if I recommend that you read some Lacan. He's great on this subject.

>> No.3762824

>>3762811
This.

Stop simultaneously romanticizing and being disillusioned about sex. Dicks are like cow udders: the pressure builds up and for humans, sex releases said pressure. Thank your girlfriend and separate love/care from sex in your head.

>> No.3762829

>>3762822
Any specific works you recommend?

>> No.3762833

Sex is only appropriate in the marriage bed, between husband and wife, with the intended and unobstructed purpose of conception.

>> No.3762840

>>3762829
The Seminar of Jacques Lacan

http://www.amazon.com/Seminar-Jacques-Lacan-Sexuality-Knowledge/dp/0393319164/ref=sr_1_6?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1368667014&sr=1-6&keywords=Lacan+Seminar

>> No.3762846

>>3762822
Lmfao. Sex is fetishised? What am I reading? Sex is everything. Everything is biological. If you can't be happy without some superphysical soul then you're not going to be happy. Obviously. Accept what you are, you pathetic piece of shit

>> No.3762851

>>3762824

For most people, yes. I suppose this has to do more with my depression than anything else, but I just don't desire sex very often. My gf has a much more active libido than I, and I often just force myself to perform to try and please her.

>> No.3762855

>>3762846
You've completely misunderstood, I think. Anon is saying that society made sex fetishized, and it shouldn't be.

>> No.3762860

>>3762846
I don't get the part where you implied that I "can't be happy without some superphysical soul."

>> No.3762861

>>3762858
Seriously.

>>3762851
Screw you man, I can't even get a boner.

>> No.3762858

>>3762851
>My gf has a much more active libido than I, and I often just force myself to perform to try and please her.
Tragic

>> No.3762864

OP, you do not yet know what a body can do

>> No.3762865

>>3762846
I must have done a poor job explaining myself.

Sex is marketed. Most people have sex for the first time after being led on for years to view it as one of the most desirable experiences out there. When sex doesn't provide some kind of existential validation, it's quite common that people experience emotional dissonance akin to that of OP

>> No.3762872

Let yourself be an animal. Don't be ashamed. I turn the volume down when I watch you.

>> No.3762873

>>3762864

K

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>>3762861
I can't even get a gf

but in any event being disgusted by your body doesn't make you any more deep, sorry

>> No.3762876

>>3762873
It means stop being a cartesian dualist

>> No.3762877

>>3762872

But... but... what about the nobility of the human spirit?

>> No.3762894

>>3762809
Not the sex act, but it's social and cultural attachments and obligations.

I'm very glad I did the fuck buddy thing, the one night stand thing and the romantic relationship thing. I don't think it would have been as easy to get over it if I had never tasted it, but I feel like now I can calmly leave those behind knowing that I'm not missing very much.

The Diogenean sex life is the best sex life.

>> No.3762898

>>3762833
You are a good gimmick. Keep giving us the calvinist perspective on every subject that comes across /lit/. I hope you're truly well acquainted with Calvinism though so that we may learn.

>> No.3762929

>>3762898
If you ever want to know anything on the subject, ask I'll try to answer it if I can.